tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496Tue, 29 May 2018 05:21:35 +000018 stepsfeelingsemotionsthoughtshappinessproblem solvingconsciousnessfun stuffjokesmindHicksask and it is givenbeliefsjoymoneypositive thoughtsproblemsOsho Zen Tarotsangerappreciationdespairfearsgratitudehappiness for no reasonkidslovelove oneselfmanage negative thoughtsmantrameaningsnegative emotionspositive thinkingsadnesssave timesense of guilttechniqueunconscious minduneasyunhappinessHarv EkerKindnessLefkoe MethodMorty LefkoeNLPPMSPhobiasRainvilleReality transurfingRoy MartinaSecrets of the millionaire mindThe rebelVadim ZelandYouTubeabandonmentaffectionafflictionairplanealonenessanxietybadbeing able to say nobeing alonebeing asocialbeing criticizedbillsblameblog's policybodybooks of positive aspectscelebrationcheer upcleaningclogged emotionscoldcompainingcomparingcompetitioncomplainingconfidenceconvictionscoughcriticsdarknessdecisionsdeclutterdepressiondetachmentdreamsemotional painenjoy lifeenjoy the presentenjoyingeverything passesevilexpectationsfatfaultfeeling goodfirmnessfocusfood problemforgivingfreedomfriendsfriendshipfunny quotesfunny side of lifefutureget rid of negative beliefsgivinggloomgoalsgoodgratefulnessgratidude listgriefhappyhatehomeopathyhousekeepinghowhow things happenshow to be alonehow to copeidentifyidentityindividualinferiority complexirritablejudgingjunk foodkiddinglaughinglifelightloserlovinglowcarbmake a listmeaningmetamedicinemoney tipsmudranegative beliefsno way outnot beneficialnot lovednotebookobesityobligationsovercoming angerovercoming despairovewhelmedparkingpatiencepeacefulnessperfectionpersistenceprejudicepresentproblemrampage of appreciationresolving issuesresponsibilitiesrightrightssacrificeself loveself respectself sabotageshynessslow downsocietysorrowspaghettistruggle.stuffy nosesubconscioussymbolismtendernessthe book of positive aspectstidy hometo avoid thingsto divideto feel downto groupto obtainto say noto tagtoo much things to dotraumastrustunconditional lovevegetarianvibrationsvideoweightwhat am Iwhat is matterwhat others thinkwho's rightwhywinnerwisdomwonderfulworldworryingwrongzucchiniI think that the concepts I understood lately in life, are very important, and everybody should know them, so I decided to post this blog, even if I'm not a teacher, even if I express them in a very basic way, even if English is not my mother tongue, so please pass by my mistakes, thanks!(unless you find them very funny, in this case just laugh!)http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (alessandra)Blogger83125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-1761435762431033337Thu, 13 Jan 2011 22:18:00 +00002011-01-13T14:18:47.643-08:00 You just look around, look into the eyes of a child, or into the eyes of your beloved, your mother, your friend - or just feel a tree. Have you ever hugged a tree? Hug a tree, and one day you will come to know that it is not only that you have hugged the tree but that the tree also responds, the tree also hugs you. Then for the first time you will be able to know that the tree is not just the http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2011/01/experiencing-osho-zen-tarot.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-4208224879502034530Wed, 01 Dec 2010 00:15:00 +00002010-11-30T16:15:13.661-08:00celebrationOsho Zen Tarots Celebration Life is a moment to celebrate, to enjoy. Make it fun, a celebration, and then you will enter the temple. The temple is not for the long-faced, it has never been for them. Look at life--do you see sadness anywhere? Have you ever seen a tree depressed? Have you seen a bird anxiety-ridden? Have you seen an animal neurotic? No, life is not like that, not at all. Only manhttp://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/11/celebration-osho-zen-tarot.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-3279264061533804419Sat, 13 Nov 2010 21:16:00 +00002010-11-13T13:16:09.838-08:00Osho Zen TarotsThe rebel The Rebel People are afraid, very much afraid of those who know themselves. They have a certain power, a certain aura and a certain magnetism, a charisma that can take out alive, young people from the traditional imprisonment.... The enlightened man cannot be enslaved - that is the difficulty - and he cannot be http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/11/rebel-osho-zen-tarot.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-332957816141516317Tue, 21 Sep 2010 06:40:00 +00002010-09-20T23:40:26.094-07:00Do you have some kind of struggle with money and wealth? Is it difficult to change your mindset and feel at ease with this topic? I found this site, and think it's very inspiring and insightful. Enjoy and let me know ;)http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/09/on-wealth.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5370147873940674229Mon, 23 Aug 2010 17:25:00 +00002010-08-24T04:37:32.505-07:00ask and it is givenHickspositive thoughtsrampage of appreciationthe book of positive aspects  via The more time you spend thinking positively, less are the probabilities to have negative thoughts. Simple. Consciously directing your thoughts towards the positive, makes you feel better, but it's not always easy. One of the solutions can reside in writing them. Putting your thoughts on paper can be very useful and focusing. One tool for doing that can be The book of positive aspects, to http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/08/consciously-directing-your-thoughts.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5726638932479078561Wed, 11 Aug 2010 19:09:00 +00002010-08-11T12:10:50.225-07:00identifyidentitysave timeto divideto groupto tagwhat am Iwhat is matter I could say I am a 42 years old woman, a wife, a mother, an Italian...what else? To be able to live in our society we are taught from babyhood to tag everything, we divide things and people and animals, all in groups with certain features, but. I am 42 years old, yes, but what is time? Actually time doesn't exist, isn't something real, it's created by men for.... organizing things? The only http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/08/what-am-i-what-are-we.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-4671357083619191499Sun, 08 Aug 2010 11:06:00 +00002010-09-10T07:06:27.454-07:00being aloneenjoyinghappinesshow to be alonelove oneselfI saw this video on this blog, and it inspired me to write this post. In my experience I found that we are raised with the fear of being alone, almost everybody consider family and friends the most important things in the world. Are we social animals? May be yes, in a threatening world, counting on other people's help, love and support is a form of security, something that gives us peace and http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/08/enjoying-being-alone.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5456811156299930055Sun, 18 Jul 2010 19:54:00 +00002010-07-18T13:42:54.730-07:00appreciationask and it is givenbooks of positive aspectsfeeling goodfeelingsHicksnotebookpositive thoughtsviaThis game or exercise, as you prefer, is from the beautiful book, "Ask and it is given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks.I think it's beautiful, because it's full of positive "stuff", tools to help people to live a more joyous life.The purpose of this game, is to view life in a more positive way, which in the end will make you feel better ;)I love to feel good, don't you?So, first you take or buy a http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/07/book-of-positive-aspects.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5621624920551534068Fri, 09 Jul 2010 13:06:00 +00002010-07-09T06:19:03.685-07:00beliefsget rid of negative beliefsLefkoe MethodMorty Lefkoenegative beliefsnegative emotionsYesterday I found on You Tube, this interesting session in which Morty Lefkoe and Joe Vitale, show how negative beliefs unconsciously affect our lives, and how to get rid of them with the Lefkoe Method.Enjoy!http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/07/get-rid-of-your-negative-beliefs.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-7774385755379866490Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:15:00 +00002010-06-15T15:21:59.477-07:00jokesmeaningswisdomToday I read this joke here, and I found it amazingly insightful:A dog thinks: Hey, these people I live with feed me, love me, provide me with a nice warm, dry house, pet me, and take good care of me... They must be gods!A cat thinks: Hey, these people I live with feed me, love me, provide me with a nice warm, dry house, pet me, and take good care of me... I must be a god!It perfectly shows howhttp://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/06/pearls-of-wisdom-in-joke.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-6535879502193871756Fri, 11 Jun 2010 14:57:00 +00002010-06-11T08:55:16.817-07:00competitionindividuallosersocietyunhappinesswinner....but are good for the society.Today I was reading a post over at Terra Del Sole, and I got angry.I was (am) angry at the kind of society we are living in, that makes people unhappy.And we ARE the society, unconsciously we bring forward what are, for me, ugly traditions, and I explain you why.The post was about a child who was sad for never winning an award at school.Let's talk about http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/06/how-competition-and-awards-are.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5599450165944987452Thu, 06 May 2010 09:24:00 +00002010-05-06T02:44:11.907-07:00appreciationask and it is givenemotionsfeelingshappinessHicksjoyvibrationsI found a beautiful game in a book I'm reading.The book is "Ask and it's given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks, and the game is called the rampage of appreciation.Actually it's something that I've always done, inconsciously, and it's why I love to surround myself with, and contemplate beauty, it gives me joy.The purpose of it is to feel joyful, to feel well, and when I read it, I smiled and loved it http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/05/oh-this-is-so-nice.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-4429397194785315462Tue, 04 May 2010 19:20:00 +00002010-05-04T12:33:37.409-07:00judgingmeaningmeaningsprejudiceimage from: www.ericweisstein.com/How we see life, how we experience events, how we feel towards something or someone, it depends from the meaning we give to it.And the meaning we give to it, depends from our previous experiences or from what we've been told, from what we believe.Reality is as it is, but we attribute a quality to it, this is good, this is bad, I like this, I don't like that.And http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/05/meaning-makes-difference.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5413935914404001673Fri, 09 Apr 2010 16:26:00 +00002010-04-09T09:32:39.431-07:00beliefsrightthoughtswho's rightwrongphoto:dezeen.comI grew up thinking that if what I believe is right, he who thinks differently is wrong, and that there are right things, and wrong things.Some days ago, someone with whom I had a discussion told me: see, we are both right.It was like a shot, a nice one however.I realized it was true, and the more I reflect over it, the more it makes sense, and the more I understand the world.We http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/04/what-if-all-were-right.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-3037254078977680021Fri, 09 Apr 2010 14:56:00 +00002010-04-09T12:52:47.753-07:00dreamsenjoy the presentgoalshappinessunhappinessIt can happen that we have a dream, a desire, something that we really want to achieve, something that we think will make us happy.But if we give it too much importance, we won't feel at ease unless we reach it, thus preventing ourself from being serene now, from enjoying what we already have.And high chances are, that when we reach our goal, we won't be able to enjoy that moment too, because we http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/04/when-goal-makes-us-unhappy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-1479570444452271743Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:27:00 +00002010-03-24T09:43:59.174-07:00being criticizedcriticsemotionshateinferiority complexnegative emotionsSometimes it happens that, as a child, when we are criticized, scolded, or rejected we can suppose that we are not good enough, or that we are unworthy or that we are less than other people.When we grow, most probably we understand that each individual is unique, and there is no point in making comparisons with others.However, when we receive a critics, it can still hurt in an disproportionate http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/03/when-critics-hurts-and-inferiority.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-5144077606419389089Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:39:00 +00002010-03-11T13:51:55.204-08:00confidenceemotionsfearsself respectsense of guiltthoughtsImage:advancedlifeskills.comAnd it is not a matter of blame, it's a matter of responsibility, and freedom.It often occurred and occurs to me that, when I feel sick or weak, small children become more annoying and intrusive.Or, when I felt guilty, or afraid, or unworthy, people around me tended to treat me in a more aggressive way, and take advantage of me.It is commonly known, that victims of http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/03/how-we-are-treated-it-often-if-not.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-2987317639783327Sat, 27 Feb 2010 09:47:00 +00002010-02-27T02:08:48.784-08:00how things happensReality transurfingVadim ZelandI recently happened to know about a book of Vadim Zeland, Reality transurfing the space of variations, and I found one chapter online.I find it very interesting and illuminating, like I had the pieces of a puzzle, and now somebody is showing me the structure of it.It's about how things happen, and how to take the best out of life.If you want to read the chapter click here.http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/02/reality-transurfing.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-6067910933608817395Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:40:00 +00002010-02-16T07:40:11.062-08:00compainingpositive thinkingthoughtswhat others thinkI don't care so much.End of the post.No well, I explain better.Once I was always concerned about what people thought of me, and did all the possible to make a good impression.I tried to please, I did my best to make people happy about me, and satisfied of me.Needless to say, I always failed.Now I understand, there is a certain kind of people, who's never satisfied, who's never content, whatever http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/02/what-others-think-of-me.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-559520263102391242Sat, 13 Feb 2010 09:14:00 +00002010-02-13T01:29:04.369-08:00feelingssymbolismunconscious mindI was reflecting about some strange behavior, when I had the inspiration to write this post.All begun when I noted that a peculiar gift a husband gave to his wife, could have had a hidden meaning.Obviously the wife was puzzled and annoyed by the gift, but if she tried to discover and understand what the meaning of the gift was, probably it would have been better.The fact is, that we often, if nothttp://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/02/symbolism.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-3154323339877405763Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:27:00 +00002010-02-09T08:31:02.560-08:00being able to say noexpectationssacrificeto say noSometimes, to say no can be difficult. We are afraid to disappoint other's expectations or to offend them, thus we prefer to renounce at our own good.May be for the fear of not being loved or liked, may be because we believe in the goodness of helping people.I totally understand it, I've been there, and sometimes, for the sake of a relationship, one have to compromise.But there is a limit, when http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/02/being-able-to-say-no.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-6868254031244090839Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:36:00 +00002010-01-25T08:09:38.264-08:00In my experience I found that, when I don't get what I want, it's because I don't want it 100%.Sometimes we think we want something, but deeply, there are aspects of the situation that we don't like.I make some example, may be I would like to have a lot of money, but I have some beliefs that rich people are egoists, that having a lot of money it's unfair, that to have money you have to cheat....http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/01/when-we-dont-get-what-we-want.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-6215361791396002013Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:18:00 +00002010-01-24T07:22:19.890-08:00blog's policyimage:agande.myblog.itI thought it was not necessary to write about it, but I saw and read something that made me change my mind.So may be it's better to express my thoughts about this topic.I, as a blogger, enjoy when people appreciate what I write (obviously), and comment about it, and may be follow me, but only if it is out of a total freedom, hopefully if it's really meant it.I, personally http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/01/my-blogs-policy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-7851139371141428477Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:25:00 +00002010-01-14T14:05:57.089-08:00bodyconsciousnessfatmindobesitysubconsciousweightPhoto:sportingvillage.blogspot.comRecently I had some insights about the connection between body and mind, in relation to body weight, and I would like to express them, seeing if someone can confirm them ( or not :).One day I heard someone saying...oh, that person is so shallow! and I noted that person was so skinny.Is it just a case, or effectively lighthearted people (shallow has a more http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/01/body-mind-connection.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195202363090824496.post-7722648900208376031Mon, 04 Jan 2010 22:12:00 +00002010-01-05T15:10:59.257-08:00angeranxietyfeelingssadnesstechniquethoughtsuneasyToday I met a person I really prefer not to meet, ......'s intrusive, and annoying, and it seems I cannot deal with ..... nor can I avoid ...... "nicely", but I digress...when at home I could not help to think about ......, and feel uneasy, but I used this quick and easy technique to stop the thoughts and feelings.So when there is a person or a situation that makes you anxious or sad, or angry, http://18stepstohappiness.blogspot.com/2010/01/when-we-feel-uneasy-with-person-or.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (alessandra)