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My life is a masterpiece

2011-01-17T15:15:00.001+11:00

This article is <500 words & will take < 2 mins to read and helps you understand how everything you do in your life adds up to the big picture...

I love to paint. I was reading a book on painting outside, in real life, getting the paint to reflect the emotions and fleeting light, capturing a feeling and a moment in paint.
This is a supreme challenge. And the artist said something most profound. He said every daub of paint, had to work. Every miniscule dot of colour, tone, texture, shape, line was meaningful. It could not be accidental, sloppy, haphazard, or thoughtless.
When I next visited a gallery I looked at every work very carefully. Modern, impressionist, traditional, post modern, minimalist. Every part of the painting formed the whole and because I was looking at the best of the best, I could see what he meant.
Every fleck of paint worked, when you stood back, it looked right, like the painter wanted us to see it. When I pressed my face close (or as close as the electronic sensor would let me go without bleeping a warning) the whole painting dissolved into meaningless daubs of paint. I wondered how the artist working close to the surface could possible see how every brush stroke could form together as it did from 20 paces? This is the mystery and beauty of artists and their work, their skill....

They do it by making every miniscule blob of paint work harmoniously in the whole and knowing that every mark matters.

Your life is the same, everything you do, every moment, day, week, month, year and lifetime, will combine into one masterpiece. Your life.

Every action matters. It may be small, but it creates the whole. You cannot escape from the consequences of your actions, they play out in your life.

You must be an artist and develop the skill to see each small mark in it’s entirety.

Start with your thoughts, how you think, feel, dream, plan, aspire, believe. These are the only things within your ultimate control. Master your emotions and the mastery of your brushstrokes and your masterpiece, your life, will surely follow....
For every masterpiece, for every great artist, how many artworks and artists are rejected? Lots and lots! But for all the rejection, there are masterpieces. We should not become despondent when we paint badly, but learn from our mistakes and put another clean board upon the easel. It is a rare and beautiful thing when it all comes together artistically and that is how I want to live my life, with moments of artistic wonderment at the beauty and mystery.

May you be hung in a gallery!

If you want to know an easy way to paint a masterpiece, try 4me2realize. It’s like colour by number and joining the dots!

P.s. The book I refer to is Alla Prima – Everything I know About Painting by Richard Schmid, highly recommended, it is one of my favourite books for both it’s lessons in art and life.

Kindest regards,

Castaly Lombe
Chief of Makin' it HappenBe the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

ANTI-CHAOS SYSTEMS PTY LTDPhone: +61 1 300 344 070
Skype ID: Castaly.Lombe

Heartfelt Thanks and Merry Christmas

2010-12-23T14:57:00.003+11:00

Hi there,

In whatever country, culture, latitude and attitude! :) this letter finds you - I want to personally send you my warm wishes for the holiday season. I am wishing you large amounts of happiness, love, peace and joy amongst family and friends. And I am wishing you small things too, like family tiffs, holiday traffic, credit card balances, waistline and checkout queues. Ho Ho Ho life goes on!

Christmas is a time of rituals, some going back to the dawn of civilisation. One Christmas New Year ritual I love is my annual review. I look both back and forward and take time to count my blessings. I plan, dream, look at lessons learned. It is a gorgeous ritual, made much easier by 4me2realize. As I do this, I realize there are many people who have touched my life in very positive ways this year. You are one of these people. Thank you.

Really, Really, EXTRA Thank you because this year has been one that has tested my resolve, self belief, ability and resourcefulness. It has also asked me to step up repeatedly. Having been in business for 20+ years is no guarantee that starting a new business will be easy! A lot has changed. And so have I. But I have loved every minute because I have not journeyed alone. You have made it worthwhile, reading my letters, your positive comments, your feedback, support and interest. I am writing today because I remember you. You touched me and it has all helped. I am soooo grateful to you and blessed to have your involvement. In the moments that I was tested, you have helped me keep my resolve.

I love my life, I’ve loved sharing with you and I am looking forward to the New Year.

Thank you

And Happy Christmas

P>S> Our Christmas Present

Kindest regards,

Castaly Lombe
Chief of Makin' it HappenBe the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

ANTI-CHAOS SYSTEMS PTY LTDPhone: +61 1 300 344 070
Skype ID: Castaly.Lombe

Accept the Rescue..... What the heck?

2010-12-23T10:23:00.001+11:00

Only 2 more sleeps.... If you could have the life of your dreams, what would it look like? If Santa said you can have whatever you like this Christmas....anything at all, what would you ask for? More health, wealth, happiness, world peace, success, admiration, security, control, respect, fitness, abundance, love, adventure?

If you really think about it, what’s stopping you from having that now? People like Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracey, Stephen Covey say whatever you dream you can realize.

You don’t need Santa, you just need to know how. 4me2realize can show you how.

To help you try it out we’re offering 2 months trial at $45 plus bonuses worth $1300. Go to this link to get more information.

Will you do what it takes? Will you “accept the rescue” to realize your true, awesome, magnificent potential? Unlike Santa, this is not a fairytale. There are scientifically proven methods of success. Used consistently you can create life on your terms. Make 4me2realize your partner and make 2011 your best ever year....

If you would like to realize your potential in this life, plus some amazingly generous bonuses, please click this link.

Please be aware this offer is exclusively only to our on-line followers. And it ends on 25 December. Only 2 more sleeps and it is all over. Go to this link to get more information.

This Christmas, give yourself a gift that will last your whole life and remember this offer ends 25 December at midnight. Ho Ho Ho!

Christmas day I will be having lunch with friends and family here at our farm then heading down to the river for a swim (if it warms up!). Relaxing and sharing. Whatever you are doing, I wish you great joy. Please take care on the roads and have a great holiday.

Kindest regards,

Castaly Lombe
Chief of Makin' it Happen
Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

ANTI-CHAOS SYSTEMS PTY LTD
Phone: +61 1 300 344 070
Skype ID: Castaly.Lombe

What is 4me2realize?

2010-11-17T15:13:00.002+11:00

2010-11-03T09:34:00.001+11:00

Melbourne Cup, How to pick the winner

In Australia, where I live, we have an annual horse race in November, the Melbourne Cup, which stops the country.

You have to experience it to believe it. It is an unofficial holiday, with parties at work, almost everyone bets, women wear hats, and there is a TV propped up on the desk come race time….

To back the winner of the Melbourne Cup is easy. You just choose the winning horse. Thousands of people do it every year. So now you know. Too easy.

In my first real journalism job for the local newspaper, I paid $5 to go in to the office sweep and was absolutely delighted to get the winner and win $35, which was a lot to add to my meager pay check as a cadet! The Managing Editor came to congratulate me, but he was mostly annoyed that he had lost $500!

It’s a gamble. And I’ll have some fun every November for this amazing horse race, but it’s not the way I play my life. I like more calculated risks.

How many people, maybe yourself, pay a lot to win, but accept poor odds by doing nothing more than putting the money down? Paid for gym membership and never showed up, bought the book but never read it, attended the conference and never implemented a single suggestion? I have done this!

You are full of good intentions, even willing to part with your money, but then the challenge of making changes, taking action, trips you up...

There are two reasons why this might happen;

1. Poor alignment; the plan you had is not right for you.

2. You lack something; help or knowledge or encouragement or understanding or motivation. Something was missing to get you over the finishing line.

If you had everything you needed (no excuses please) then it’s time to look and understand yourself and set more aligned goals.

If you didn’t have everything you needed to achieve, work out what’s missing, and get it!

In both cases, most people miss motivation and understanding themselves. They have the money, they have the good intentions, but they are just gambling and the odds are they’ll lose. I don’t like those odds.

Getting self awareness is a job you choose to do, just like building a business and putting out the garbage. If you do the work, good things flow and bad things get handled (yep – they still happen). With self awareness you will know if you are being tripped up by a lack or poor alignment.

So good luck with the Melbourne Cup, have fun with your flutter, but when it comes to your life, don’t gamble.

Get a system that helps you understand and get alignment.

4me2realize incorporates these principles.

Picture credits http://www.racingweb.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/masteroreilly.jpg

	CASTALY LOMBE Chief of Makin' it Happen
	Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

Live Your Why » Don’t Be Afraid to Jump.

2010-10-21T10:17:00.001+11:00

Don’t Be Afraid to Jump.

Oct 19 2010

by Castaly Lombe

“Be the change you want to see in the world” – Mahatma Ghandi

I clarified why I’m here in 2007. It is to use my unlimited love and boundless creativity and enthusiasm to move, awaken and open people to the possibilities in themselves and in this amazing world and be an agent for positive change.

When I clarified this into words, it was like a chorus of angels started singing. Suddenly I understood how everything that had happened, good and bad, had conspired to bring me to that point. I could also see very clearly where I was going and what I needed to do. I was so inspired.

My husband and I had established a software company in 1989. It is very successful — #1 in its niche. I had learned tons building the business with him and our amazing team. He was very happy, but I was struggling with motivation. We set up Anti-Chaos Systems in 2006 and its first product flopped. It wasn’t aligned with my purpose. Then, in 2009, we released 4me2realize. What followed has been amazing.

Starting a new venture is full of pitfalls. Most businesses fail in the first 5 years. We are no exception; getting traction has been exasperating. But, do you want to know something really weird? Even though we are just starting and experiencing some real challenges, I am having the best time!

The things that would have once sent me sideways or backwards, both personally and professionally, are just blips on a radar that is guiding me towards a greater vision. Motivation is not a problem. I never work. I am playing everyday, discovering and learning more than I ever have before. It might look like work to some, but if you are coming from your heart it’s just pure joy.

4me2realize is perfectly aligned with my purpose. It helps people realize their potential. In building this business I use all of my God-given skills. I get people all of the time telling us how they connect with and love 4me2realize, how it helps them build the life they love and fulfill their purpose.

I am frugal by nature and my husband and I are investing a lot in 4me2realize. I feel like I have jumped off of a cliff because all my fears about money are free falling. I am shit scared a lot! You take a risk to follow your heart. Then, you discover what it takes to have faith in yourself. After a while, instead of being scared and falling, you start to fly. It is exhilarating.

I don’t want to mislead you; this transformation has had some dark, muddy, slippery, cold and fearful moments. The burning light was and is to clearly follow my purpose. It’s like a guarantee. If I am true to myself, then everything will be alright. I cannot go wrong if my burning desire is true. And there is some pain and resistance and self-awareness that must be unlocked. All I can say is… the seeking is worth the reward.

In today’s busy, competitive world, it’s so easy to get distracted and sidetracked. When I get lost, I go back to my purpose. It gives me comfort, strength, guidance, direction, motivation and determination.

What is really weird is that once you get hooked into your Why, it doesn’t really matter what you do, or what other people think. Conventional definitions of success and failure melt away. You have your own yardstick. Your life purpose doesn’t limit you to one thing — it frees you to do what makes your heart sing, whatever that may be.

With heart singing passion, joy, love and enthusiasm,

Castaly Lombe

PS Here’s a poem that sums up everything

One Hundred Possibilities, One Authentic Life

When you think there is only one option
There are walls and limitations.

There are one hundred possibilities
for you to realize your potential.

How do you transform boundaries
into boundless opportunities?

Let your thoughts run free
as they were meant to be: creatively.

When you have one hundred possibilities
pick the one that suits your best. Be true to you.
Know WHY you do what you want to do.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
You have a choice.
Choose who you are, Choose how you will live.
Choose your rules. Choose the meaning.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
you have to decide –
Who do you want to be? What’s important?
When do you let go and move on?
Change. Take responsibility.

When you have one hundred possibilities,
you have to take action.
Action that resonates and motivates.
Action that inspires and frightens you.
Action that ignites the fires of creation and brilliance
that for so long lay dormant within you, softly burning.
Massive action that stuns you from the stupors of mediocrity.

When you have one hundred possibilities
the chains that shackle you break.
Your heart opens.
When you have one hundred possibilities
you can live one, authentic life.

Source: http://liveyourwhy.com/

	CASTALY LOMBE Chief of Makin' it Happen
	Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

You are a lot like a rock, or not?

2010-09-23T13:59:00.007+10:00

Most people think of rocks as ordinary, plentiful, basic, unchangeable, hard and uncompromising, massive, dependable, solid, certain.... maybe?

And maybe not. If you take notice, there are millions of types of rocks. That’s because they are changing ALL the (long) time in response to many variables. For example the rocks in some places of the earth’s crust are plastic, bending, flexing, moving continents, creating tsunamis.

Changing rocks is known as the metamorphic process. It combines the rock’s original state with time, pressure, moisture, temperature and chemicals to produce an endless variety of new rocks that is simply astounding.

You are a lot like a rock; you are a unique combination of pre-existing conditions like genetics, location, social environment, beliefs and experiences, just like a rock is a unique combination of chemicals formed in different environmental conditions.

And just like a rock, you can be metamorphed, over time to something entirely different according to the combination of actions around you and your unique self.

Unlike rock, you have choice. (How ironic, that biblical no-know, free will....) So you are not something that is passively subjected to time, pressure, moisture, temperature and chemicals. Or is that social conditions, genetics, environment, beliefs, experiences, location?

You, unlike a rock, have a choice of what to make of what happens to you. What happens to you is, of course, created by you to facilitate your own growth, even if you are not aware of this.

What you make of this depends on your choices. A rock is a logical and definable entity. We know exactly how much pressure is required to turn carbon into diamonds. Human nature (psychology) is not so logical or definable. No one knows exactly what you will do under pressure. Will you become more determined or give up? The choice is yours. And through your decisions, your destiny is created.

There are times when we all feel like rocks – hardening our resistance to change and growth. But even rocks can and do change. And what they become is quite often miraculous.

Start your own metamorphism. Understand where you are now, visualise your destination. Get clear on your current attributes and the ones you will need to create your desired future. If this all sounds like too much work, you can do 2 things, sit there like a rock and let it all happen to you, OR get 4me2realize and use it to start EASILY creating the future of your dreams.....

Rock on (sorry), Kind regards

Cas – a diamond in the makin’

P.s. This is impressive.... Most natural diamonds are formed at high-pressure high-temperature conditions existing at depths of 140 to 190 kilometers (87 to 120 mi) in the Earth mantle. Carbon-containing minerals provide the carbon source, and the growth occurs over periods from 1 billion to 3.3 billion years (25% to 75% of the age of the Earth). Now I appreciate my diamond ring!

Picture credits http://musingsatapicnic.files.wordpress.com/2008/05/heart-rock.jpg ; http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/6f/Brillanten.jpg

The problem – my life management was a dog’s breakfast!

2010-09-20T16:36:00.001+10:00

I am an avid seeker of my higher self. I have read a tonne of self development books, been to many self development courses, even walked on fire. I have taken hundreds of pages of notes. I meditate daily. Eat my greens. Exercise, visualise and affirm my mantras. I watch DVD’s, listen to CD’s and read and research online.

All of this has been transformational, liberating, enlightening. But I still had a problem.

I had created my life purpose. I had written down my goals. I had a long to do list and a daily journal. I had high standards and ambitious plans. I also had a work and family schedule. Sometimes it seemed I was spending more time organising myself than doing the things I loved or needed to do.

All these “parts” of my life were in different places, even though they were all related to each other. I had to constantly keep referring to them. Amending them became more effort than it was worth. I did as best I could to keep track of it all in my head and with various lists and systems. It was, in short, a dog’s breakfast and frustrating.

I tried a few different systems, including Anthony Robbin’s Rapid Planning Method or Results, Purpose, Massive Action (RPM). I loved the principles in that system, but it was a lot of repetitious, cumbersome, onerous work. I wanted it online, sleek and easy.

Online there were many systems that offered goal setting, life purpose and journaling, but none that tied it all up together. That’s what I wanted. That was my problem. I needed to bring it all together in one place and make it easy and simple to use and refer to, so that my grand plans and little details all got looked after in one place.

I’m so pleased I found 4me2realize. I have goal setting, Life purpose and journaling all in one place, all integrated and sleek. I also have reminders by SMS or email, a place to store all my magic moments and life’s wisdom. I have my life on a page which really helps me get clarity and focus on what’s important. And the behaviour analysis is so subtle and empowering, utilising the best of modern psychology, I get the self awareness to create the life I desire.

If you have had the same problem, don’t settle for a dog’s breakfast, try 4me2realize.

	CASTALY LOMBE Chief of Makin' it Happen
	Be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi

What is more important, your life or your money?

2010-09-08T13:46:00.004+10:00

Do you do business? Involved in the business world in anyway? Have you ever bought or sold something? Then you know that in this world everything revolves around one thing, a financial transaction. Nothing happens until something is sold. (Really?)

And when something is sold, a record is kept, a financial record. Where would the world be without financial systems? Started by the Egyptians more than 3 thousand years ago, and still going strong! They track every transaction, every nuance of buyer behaviour and market favour.

No one would start a business and get very far without a financial system in the background, ticking over, recording every sale, creating balance sheets, profit and loss reports, budgets, monthly and yearly reports. Taking the financial pulse of every artery of business, letting us know those vital statistics, allowing us to make adjustments, chart our course and create wealth and success, and avoid failure and ruin.

Wouldn’t you agree these financial systems are VERY important. But it is ONLY money. There is one thing even more important, YOUR LIFE.

What system do you have for your life?

If your life is worth MORE than MONEY, why wouldn’t you treat it with MORE respect, more importance, time, consideration, priority? Hmm.... thought provoking I hope.

Because my life is more important than anything I own, I have developed a system that tracks my EMOTIONAL transactions. You see - there is more to life than financial transactions.....MUCH MORE.

I get a balance sheet of my Life, assets, liabilities, expenses and income, in terms of who I am and who I want to become, my strengths and weaknesses. What I get and what I give when I contribute my talents to the world.... I have my budget on goals, aspirations and achievements and reports on projects & progress. I can see where I need to make adjustments in spending – emotional energy that is wasted and where there are opportunities for self development.

I record my assets in magic moments and my expenses in wisdom and lessons learned. I live fully. Just like a well run business, I track my transactions to achieve my fullest potential.

If you have a business head, have you ever thought about a system that would help you run your life like you run a business? A life management system?

Since the Egyptians humans have been creating systems, since Aristotle, humans have sought improvement in higher realms, ourselves.

Combine systems with self development and you empower yourself to achieve your fullest potential.

4me2realize combines a life management system, technology and psychology. What’s missing? Only You.

Kindest regards

Cas

Castaly Lombe - Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070 www.4me2realize.com

What do you see in the Mirror?

2010-08-31T14:36:00.002+10:00

There is a great book called the E-myth by Michael Gerber. If you run a business or want to, it is a MUST read, especially for small to medium sized business. If you want to one day be big, then Good to Great by Jim Collins is also an absolute MUST.

In E-myth Michael explains that a business, whatever it is, is an extension of yourself, your own personal beliefs and your own world view. Your business will reflect you.

When I looked at the business my husband and I had built, I could see it was true. A lot of the beliefs, values and characteristics of US, were ingrained into the corporate culture of our business, honesty, hard work, perseverance. Standard stuff, but we also had; daring to be different, fun, commonsense, and caring! These were unique to us and our business.

Our business very much reflected our strengths.... AND our weaknesses. So if our business wasn’t performing, we had no further to look, than ourselves. Sobering stuff. But also liberating....

If there are things around you, in your business, your job, your relationship, your health or wealth that are not proceeding as you would like them, the first place to look for solutions is within yourself.

In most cases, what appears around you, is a reflection of what is inside you. What at first appears external, is in fact very much influenced by your internal reality. The good news means that it can change. That’s liberating.

The hard lesson, is that to change anything in your world, the most effective place to start, is with yourself. For many people, it is easier to blame the economic climate, their partner, their boss, their parents, for their predicament. It is easier, but not effective.

When we try and change we come up against RESISTANCE. At this point most people resign themselves to the “way things are” and do their best to cope. Successful people are different. They use strategies and systems that make changing their internal reality and therefore their external circumstances, easy and effective. Drat them, it’s actually natural for them.

The happy news is, these systems and strategies can be learned, used and implemented by anyone with the will.

Using 4me2realize will guide you everyday to adopt habits, strategies, thinking, behaviour and systems that will make changing your circumstances easier and more fun than a tonne of excuses!

Get into the habits of the highly successful, design your own life and live on your terms.

Let me know what external circumstances you have found that reflect your internal reality and what you did or are doing to change it.

Kindest regards

Cas

Castaly Lombe - Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070 www.4me2realize.com

GOALS IN YOUR GUILT ROOM? WHY WORK AND LIFE GOALS NEED DIFFERENT

2010-08-18T14:10:00.002+10:00

Exuberant public speaker and software system design Company Director Castaly Lombe will give 2 free evening talks in Melbourne in August exposing the critical 3 things people need to achieve life goals.

She said “Most people are exposed to goal setting in the work place, and while there is some overlap, the productivity orientated goal setting style can be a poor model for people’s personal life goals.”

“For example, when a baby is learning to walk, we don’t apply S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, measureable, achievable, realistic and timely). The baby walks when it is ready. There is a right time for every baby and everybody. Life goals are like that,” she said.

Mrs Lombe said this simple understanding would save people tonnes of guilt and reduce the number of people who abandoned goal setting altogether.

“Unlike productivity driven work goals, when people set life goals, we are looking for passion that will drive us through the tough times! People need 3 important support elements. They need a Life Purpose on top and self reflection underneath. Goals are just part of a more complete picture of what the whole person becomes as they make this journey called life,” she said.

Most people do life goals without these support elements, New Year’s Resolutions are a good example, most fail.

Mrs Lombe will talk about tried and true, practical and useful methods people can use to achieve life goals as well as modern tools and systems, like the internet and iphone applications. She says finding your personal goal setting style is really important.

“I show people strategies that work, systems that help, methods available, but at the end of the day, people need to be open minded, curious, inventive and individual in finding what is right for them. I recommend structure and discipline, but I avoid prescription. One size does not fit all.”

As Director of several software publishing companies Mrs Lombe has almost 20 years experience with systems and their design as well as working with people and teams.

Grattan Gardens Community Centre, 40 Grattan Street, Prahran

Wednesday 25 & Thursday 26 7-9pm. Ring 1300 344 070 to register

IMPORTANT NOTICE : Change of Venue

2010-08-06T14:03:00.002+10:00

IMPORTANT NOTICE: Change of Venue for Sydney 4me2realize Presentation Sent Wednesday, August 4, 2010 View as plaintext

4me2realize IMPORTANT Change of Venue Masonic Halls 199 Anzac Parade Kensigngton. Monday 9 August 7pm. Find out how to integrate what you know into what you DO to create a magnificent life. Systems, strategies, practical, pragmatic, helpful, no nonsense. FREE and Fun...

http://www.sydneydreamteam.com /9th-august-intergrating-rpm-i n-your-life/%20%20%20

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Kindest regards

Cas
Castaly Lombe - Chief of Makin' Things Happen
Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi
Phone +61 1 300 344 070 www.4me2realize.com

Upcoming Event – CASTALY LOMBE

2010-07-20T10:49:00.002+10:00

http://www.sydneydreamteam.com/9th-august-intergrating-rpm-in-your-life/

Are you stressing out because you don’t have enough time? Do you constantly live your live day by day and at the end of the week realise that you haven’t actually achieved anything at all? Hows that ‘to do’ list looking? Are there about 50 items on there or are you too scared to even do one?

Are you spending your time doing the things that are important or urgent? Imagine what it would feel like if you could finally decide to take action and STOP. Stop procrastinating and instead choose a life of meaning, passion, joy and ecstacy.

I bet your asking how right about now. How can I start living the life i deserve? Simple, just choose to come along to the dream team event this month and find out not only the mindset of how, but go back with an amazing knowledge of the tools out there to help you make your life amazing

So boys and girls, ladies and gents, aliens and predators, get your phones out and load up your calendar programs and put in the following date and venue right now – August 9th at the Kirribilli Community Centre. 16-18 Fitzroy Street, Kirribilli NSW 2061.

Get together 7pm for socialising and for a 7:30pm start.

We have Castaly Lombe speaking about life / time management. Cataly is the director of 4me2realize software. This software is just like Tony’s RPM planner on steroids, but so much easier to use .. imagine the RPM program, but SUPERSIZED!

Castaly is a robbins Mastery University graduate just like most of you and has realised that the purpose in life is to be purposeful, not doing the things that are just easier to do in the moment.

Castaly is also a black belt in Soo Bahk Do, Korean Chinese traditional martial arts and is also a passionate horse rider

Castaly’s will engage with yourself on the following points in just the span of one evening

Purpose
Build into the big picture of who you are and the beautiful life you create.

Goals
Give people clarity and focus on what they want in their life
Plan
Reminding you to continue using the skills you learnt at Tony Robbins and connect with people in a supportive environment

So get yourself there. You know that this is a must event for yourself no matter where you are in your life! Once again to recap – August 9th at the Kirribilli Community Centre. 16-18 Fitzroy Street, Kirribilli NSW 2061.

Get together 7pm for socialising and for a 7:30pm start.

Stillness, silence and solitude

2010-07-14T10:28:00.001+10:00

Stillness, silence and solitude

"Shut up! I can't hear myself think!" Have you heard, felt or said this? It is so noisy you can't think. You feel bombarded and overwhelmed. You can't concentrate or focus. There is so much clamouring for your attention, you don't know where to start.... sound familiar?

Have you ever wondered why every major religion has a meditative, prayerful, or retreat in solitude component? Why images of meditating monks on mountain tops resonates with us? Or solitary walks on beaches?

(Picture taken this morning from my front veranda.)

Everyone recognises the need for stillness, silence and solitude, but how many of us get it, do it, experience it regularly? If you live in a big city, you never get a moment's silence, even in the depth of night, there is a background roar of traffic, machinery, artificial light dims the magnificence of the stars. You are never alone. Yet in the crowds we can feel the greatest isolation...how happy are you with your own company?

We are busy in a noisy, crowded world. When do you lay back, switch off, take time out? Think. Contemplate, stare. Rebalance to our natural state of serenity and calmness?

For most people in today's world, space for stillness, silence and solitude has to be scheduled and planned. Often it is not a priority against other competing demands.

Yet in the spaces we leave for stillness, silence and solitude, can be our greatest creative moments, insights, brilliant concepts conceived. Light bulb moments, life changing decisions. Without effort they come bidden into the spaces we allow. For humans contemplative time is essential to unwind and de-stress. To organise our thoughts and make sense of our lives.

Recently I visited Sydney for business. I was acutely aware of my senses being overloaded, by sounds and sights. I enjoyed the variety, intensity and excitement of the city. But I felt relieved to be home on the farm where there is not a billboard in sight. The silence is deafening and the stars are brilliant in the night sky. I am blessed to have this space around me all the time. But how do my city cousins cope? They are immune, unaware and unconscious, it has become background noise they ignore. In this way, we cope.

When you turn your senses off to the "hurly burley," it enables you to survive and thrive in a busy crowded environment. You focus on what you need to do and the rest is filtered out. There is a risk that you will filter out some stuff you need to hear, feel and do. That you disconnect from your awareness and consciousness. Good news, easy to fix, just make sure you have time for stillness, silence and solitude; and it doesn't have to be hard, try these;

· Turn the radio/music off sometimes

· Turn off the TV for a day or a week

· Visit a national park for a day and get into the bush

· Meditate, pray or reflect

· Listen more than talk

· Get out of town to star gaze

· Be alone

· Find a place that is still or silent, and be still or silent in it

· Lie on some grass and watch clouds or tree leaves

· Be unoccupied with anything

· Have a day doing nothing but whatever you feel like...

Finding space in your life for stillness, silence and solitude is a precious gift to yourself. You will be surprised at the results as you reconnect with feelings, sensations, feedback from your inner voice, yourself.

So next time you schedule the meeting, the shopping, whatever, plan some time for silence, stillness and solitude. Be amazed at what you discover within your own head space.

4me2realize uses self reflection in the Journey section to help you hear your inner voice, to contemplate your life and make sense of what you do amidst the noise and clutter.

Wishing you stillness, silence and solitude....

Cas

Castaly Lombe - Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Director Anti-Chaos Systems Pty Ltd

"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Phone +61 1 300 344 070 www.4me2realize.com

How to Make it Easy

2010-07-10T15:50:00.001+10:00

Often when we think about improving ourselves and our lives, we put it off, get daunted, overwhelmed and slump exhausted before we even begin!

How can improvement become easy? Well first, stop thinking about it as a fight, struggle, battle, act of iron willed discipline, or whatever you think.... These negative thoughts will undermine your enthusiasm and ultimately deliver what you don't want.

Change is easy when you know what to switch onto. Here's just one thing that will help.

Use you Reticular Activating System or RAS. This part of your brain will actually notice what you need. So when looking for black socks, you don't notice the white ones. When someone calls your name in a crowd, you hear your name, not the background noise.

The RAS will, without any effort on your behalf, point out what you need.... if you're listening and focused. So a business man focused on a growing a business will see opportunities specific to his business. A woman teaching a child will find teaching resources ideal for her child's needs.

It's like your brain organising the information that is bombarding you, and easily selects what it knows you are focusing on. Beware, however, if you focus on bad stuff. It does not discriminate. What you hold in your mind, the RAS will find for you. The RAS developed because to survive we must automatically focus on what we need. A hunter doesn't need to see the trees and bushes, just the shape or movement that signals prey. The brain is exceptional in filtering and finding just what you need. And you can use this quirk of nature to make change in your life easy and accomplishable.

Focus regularly with clear bright visualisation, on what you want. Remind yourself (using 4me2realise is very easy) often to keep it in your consciousness. I am willing to bet that within hours or days, what you need will appear.

This has worked many times for me. I wanted a pony for my kids and a lady gave me one for free! I wanted a very rare sapphire ring, and one day it appeared in a market at the price I wanted to pay. I want to eat good food and that food is always in my life, because I focus on that food and give it my attention. Each week I sit down with recipe books and visualise the beautiful meals I will cook. It is no effort, it is a joy, to find this food on my table each evening. I love cooking and preparing it, because that is what I focus on. When you use your RAS, I have found that the things you create also appear at exactly the right time. Sometimes I think things appear late or early, but when I look back, the timing was perfect. This also works for people and business opportunities.

The trick is finding a way to keep what you want to create, in focus. 4me2realize has an excellent reminder system utilising your phone and email. It can be set to randomly send unexpected reminders, which have much more impact! And the reminders can be sent direct from your goals and projects.

It all helps.

Kindest regards

How heavy is it?

2010-07-07T12:14:00.002+10:00

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Have you ever noticed how bad stuff gets more attention than good stuff? It weighs more somehow. Why is this?

My husband and I were in travelling with a group in Germany when we found ourselves in the midst of a fight, over something silly, yet it absorbed all our attention. We didn't notice the glistening snow, or the beautiful forest or our smoky cold breath hanging in the icy air. We talked and thought all about this problem we had with these people.

When we became aware that we were immersed in this crap, we asked why... the key is asking good questions....and we could see a pattern, that when ever there is a problem it gets more of our attention. More than when there is something good happening.

We put it down to a biological legacy driven by the need to survive. Back in "cave man" days problems had to be solved to ensure the survival of the social group. But the problems we were giving all our emotional attention and energy were not a matter of survival, they were just plain silly. What amazed us is how we had got sucked into this emotional vortex. And we got out. We stopped focusing on this silly problem, decided what we would do, and got on with more enjoyable things.

People are much more motivated by pain than pleasure, sad but true. You get much more attention if you're "clinically depressed,' rather than coping and thriving! You buy newspapers and magazines that relish bad news. It's so intriguing when someone else has cocked up! Media magnets know this so well. They make millions from our inherent interest in bad stuff.

But at the end of the day it is a CHOICE. Your choice. What you invest your emotional energy in defines you. Ask yourself, what are you choosing to focus on and what meaning are you giving it? Are these thoughts dragging you down or building you up? Choose to build. Reject thoughts that destroy. Learn whatever lesson is there for you and then move on. Your emotional energy is just as important as your physical vitality. Are you fat and lazy with your thinking? Are you feeding your brain junk food?

Become aware of what your brain and thinking is consuming and producing. What are you reading and listening to? Is it building or destroying you? What are you thinking, positive or negative?

My son had a bad dream when he was little. He was frightened to go back to sleep again. As I sat with him he visualised the bad dream, then we got a big black imaginary marker and drew a big black imaginary cross right over those bad thoughts. We crossed them right out. He realised he had POWER to CHOOSE what he was thinking about and to turn off destructive frightening thoughts. This was an amazingly simple, powerful life lesson and he uses it all the time.

Personally, I restrict the news I listen to, the people I let into my inner circle, the amount of advertising I see. I have chosen the place I live to give me peace and serenity. I read and view television and internet content selectively and I minimise the time I spend there. I am discerning. I exercise rigorously my right to CHOOSE what my mind consumes. This discipline frees me to create the life I want.

The bad stuff can consume a disproportionate weight of your attention. That's natural as you learn the lesson, but don't get stuck enjoying the dramatic weight of bad stuff. Move on.

4me2realize helps you become aware of the weight and impact of your thinking. Use it regularly to exercise your right to choose, the discipline to create the life you want to realize.

Kindest regards

What is 4me2realize, and how can it help you?

2010-06-25T13:30:00.003+10:00

What story are you buying?

2010-06-16T15:07:00.004+10:00

I recently looked at some face creams and treatments that promised to make me more beautiful and less wrinkly. The asking price was nearly $1000. I was attracted to the promise of a more youthful visage.

It got me thinking what was driving my attraction? If I am more “beautiful” with less wrinkles, what then? Do I get more compliments, more sex, do I feel better? Does it take $1000 worth of wrinkle treatment for me to “feel” better?

You see, I can’t see my face. Unless I look into a mirror, my face is completely hidden to me. BUT everyone else sees my face. So, the premise goes.... how my face looks affects what everyone else sees and thinks about me.

And we all want to be liked right? So there lies the appeal of a youthful visage, to look more beautiful, the assumption is we will be more liked, loved, wanted, accepted, approved of, admired... all in a pot of cream for $1000. No wonder people buy it, but what you are really buying is a story.

I once met a lady heading for 100 years who was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met. She could whistle like an angel and was a fighter for good causes. We sat in the sun and she and told me her philosophy on life. Her eyes twinkled with life and joy. Her inner beauty transcended her stooped figure, wrinkles, grey hair, her shaky hands. She was a delight and a lesson that true beauty is an inner quality that transcends all outer appearances. We all recognise true beauty when we see it, but it is not something that fits a definition, because truth and beauty are uniquely individual.

We all know “beautiful people” we avoid because of their ugly personalities. So being beautiful on the outside is not automatically going to deliver you happiness and love. And a good thing too, as physical beauty is a fleeting thing!

So pots of creams, the wraps, the clothes, the house, the car, are external things sold on hope and the “unstated” premise that this accessory will win you what you already possess, love, approval, appreciation, recognition, security. It really is a scam of the most outrageous proportions.

We lust after external things because we are seeking feelings, internally. But looking for them in the external world is an unfulfilling quest, because it is never ending.

Could I just feel good about myself even though I have wrinkles, spots and blemishes? Absolutely yes. Will people avoid me, dismiss me, reject me if I look old? Absolutely not. Yet the beauty industry is worth globally thousands of billions of dollars. It trades on our insecurity.

Don’t get me wrong I love my face creams, make up and the way I feel when I dress up. But I don’t buy the story. I am not less if I look my age. I am not fighting my age. I accept my age, embrace it, love it. I earned it!

Have you ever noticed there appear to be two worlds? The one inside you and the one outside you? What I feel about myself, my life, my world, depends on what I think internally. This is an insider’s game. If I think I am beautiful, then I am.

All the things we seek externally, love, admiration, approval, acceptance, security, respect and recognition, are the things we lack internally. Finding a way to them from within is critical to fulfilment and happiness that doesn’t end when the pills or potions do.

When the sales woman asked me what I was worried about, wrinkles? I answered “No, not wrinkles, my wrinkles were being taken care of by my failing eyesight!” What I was really after was something that would make my sensitive aging skin “feel” nice in our very dry and cold climate. If the $1000 cream does that, then I will buy it knowing what I am really buying into.

If you are on a path of finding happiness from your internal world, then 4me2realize can help you on your journey.

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Kind regards
Cas

Castaly Lombe
Chief of Makin' Things Happen

Anti Chaos Systems Director
"Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi
Phone +61 1 300 344 070 www.4me2realize.com

Meet the Director of 4me2realize

2010-06-01T17:24:00.003+10:00

Hello,

I will be in Sydney on the weekend, to talk to life coaches and some other amazing people about 4me2realize.

Living in the country is blissful, but I also love visiting the city, especially Sydney where I was born and grew up.

I don't visit very often but I am really excited about this visit, mostly because I love meeting new people and getting to do the adult version of "show and tell" with 4me2realize and generally sharing with people.

I won't have a lot of spare time, but I would still love to meet anyone who would be interested in finding out more about 4me2realize and how it can help people realize their life.

Let me know if you're intersted ASAP, I fly into town early Friday morning.

P/S If you're not in Sydney don't fret, give me a call and take advantage of our FREE online demo.

Thank you
Cas

What’s wrong with goals and getting stuff?

2010-05-27T19:53:00.007+10:00

For most of us, we’ve been told to write our goals, review them regularly and achieve them happily.

But we don’t do it.

I spoke last week with a lady that taught goal setting but didn’t use any of the strategies she taught!

Why is this? For some of us, it is overwhelm, but underneath, I think many of us find the whole process lacks any real meaning. Failed resolutions make us wary of a process that requires lots of effort and delivers so little.

There’s also an underlying distrust of a system that puts us on a treadmill.... achieve this goal, then you will be happy. Then what? Achieve another goal, suddenly it sounds like a trap, never ending, drudgery. And the happiness, mere illusion.

Inherently, we all understand stuff doesn’t buy happiness. But we are all pretty sold on the concept aren’t we? Who would knock back a nice new car, a big house, a status handbag, diamond ring, racing yacht/fishing charter, or on-snow chalet?

So why would anyone set goals if achieving the goal isn’t the outcome it’s cracked up to be? Exactly. So we don’t.... Yet the self help gurus continue to insist, set those goals. And we continue to resist. Get stuffed, go away, I just want to live my life doing what I love. Exactly. So why set goals?

For the journey.... ah ha. For what you learn along the way. NOT what you get, get it? For the emotions, the feelings, the experiences, the life lived fully. That’s why. And the best goal of all is a Life Purpose that guides you in all your seeking, questing, believing, in your noblest endeavours and the giving of your gifts...

And that’s why its recommend you start at the pointy end with your Life Purpose. Because when you align your goals to your driving, inspiring, motivating, passionate, fulfilling Life Purpose, all the empty drudgery of goal setting, goes away.

It changes from what you get, to what you give. It changes from stuff, to experiences. It changes from a trap to deeply satisfying. It becomes meaningful, because you are on a journey to realize your potential. You know exactly WHERE you are going.

And every challenge and unexpected event is just a bleep on the radar that guides you, effortlessly, consistently, faithfully, to realizing the greatness within you...

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The above quote is widely misattributed on the Web and elsewhere to Nelson Mandela's 1994 inaugural address. The author is Marianne Williamson, from her 1992 book, "Return to Love" (p. 165).

4me2realize can help you set goals that are aligned with your life purpose and journal daily against them, so goal setting becomes meaningful, motivating and achievable. Try it now for free, no credit card required, just go to our web site.

Thank you

Cas

Your DIY Funeral eulogy goes like....

2010-05-17T10:10:00.004+10:00

I’d like to tell you about 4me2realize....

But first imagine you’re on your death bed. Now just stay with me here, imagine you’re sadly near death and planning your own memorial service.

There’s a crowd and everyone is crying. What are they saying about you? Then someone steps confidently forward to summarise your own life... what do they say?

Where you kind, generous, loving, a fantastic family person, a successful business leader, a prodigious artist, a lawmaker, a peace maker, a soup kitchen volunteer? Did you touch hearts or mend fences? Did you change the world or lives?

Could you do it? Are you happy with your life so far? Or are you like most of us, a car without a steering wheel, a traveller without a map, a person without a clear, defining, driving, passionate purpose? Do you know where you are going?

Success psychologists say that 95% - 97% of the people in the world do NOT have written goals and fail, while 3-5% have written goals and succeed. [1]

Mark McCormick in his book What They Don’t Teach You at Harvard Business School tells of a Harvard study conducted between 1979 and 1989.

In 1979, graduates of the MBA program were asked to set clear written goals for their future and their plans to accomplish them. It turned out only 3 percent of the graduates had written goals, 13 percent had goals but they were not in writing and 84 percent had no specific goals at all–aside from getting out of school and enjoying the summer.

Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers again interviewed the members of that same graduating class. They found that the 13 percent who had goals that were not in writing were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent of students who had no goals at all. Most surprisingly, they found that the 3 percent of graduates who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, 10 times more than 97 percent of their graduating class. The only difference between the groups was the clarity of goals they had set (and spelled out) for themselves when they graduated.

Defining your purpose and aligning your goals to WHO you want to be makes goals getting much easier to achieve. 4me2realise is unique because first it asks, “what is your life purpose?” then it gets you to set congruent goals. And it is easy to use everyday so that you can really design the life of your dreams....whatever that may be, an art studio, a successful business, a big red sports car, a happy healthy family, changing the world.

Getting congruence or alignment stops the resistance, the tug of war between what you want and what stops you progressing. Who has kept their New Year’s Resolutions? Who doesn’t even bother anymore? Resolutions without the reasons WHY are doomed. You need a strong emotional WHY to motivate you to achieve and you need congruence.

Knowing how to do this is CRITICAL to success. 4me2realize incorporates the best of modern psychology and technology to make it easy for you to integrate what you do everyday with your Life Purpose and Goals. It is more than just writing an “I want” or “to do” list.

It combines three powerful tools, Life Purpose, Goal setting and Journaling. As you journal against your goals, you slow your thinking down and start to recognise the behaviours that serve you and those that do not. In this way, change is easier. It asks you to analyse what you do, your brakes and your motivators...and in this way, accelerate your progress.

In summary 4me2realize is 3 in 1 software tool, that is integrated, interactive and online. A Virtual Life coach that you can use every day to design the life you want.

The good news is that you’re not dead. The bad news is you are dying. You don’t know when you’re time will be up. Life is not a test run. What is your eulogy? Don’t wait till your dead. Live the life of your dreams now. It is never too late or too soon to start.

With Kind regards....

Cas

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[1] A Study in Goal Setting By Tom Venuto, NSCA-CPT, CSCS https://servere.mycosystems.com.au/exchweb/bin/redir.asp?URL=http://www.busywomensfitness.com/goalsetting.html

Too Busy to be better bullshit

2010-05-13T15:31:00.003+10:00

This is 417 words, will take you less than 2 minutes to read and is about being too busy to improve your life.

Too Busy to be better bullshit

What stops you improving your life, increasing your happiness, creating more loving relationships, advancing your career or education, maintaining optimum health and fitness, carefully crafting abundance and wealth?

Most people tell me they’re too busy! To be blunt, that’s bullshit.

Busyness is a choice. A very popular choice too! It’s almost a national epidemic.

A long time ago I became aware that when I was asked “How are you?” I said without thinking, apologetically and always “I’m Busy!”

I decided to change that. I’m busy by choice, so no more apologising. I like being busy, to me it equates with a full life lived richly! But I didn’t like being stressed so I decided to focus on the things that were important to me. I’m still busy but a lot more fulfilled and a lot less stressed... This took me a few years to work out and a lot of courage to carry out. But really anyone can do it and it doesn’t need a few years to work it out.

Busyness is often a symptom. It’s a story you tell yourself to avoid having a real conversation about what is really meaningful in your life. It’s an excuse to delay some overdue soul-searching. Busyness often is a euphemism for chaos, clutter in our life that overwhelms us. You probably are busy, but busy with WHAT?

Here’s a checklist to try if you have the busyness bug.

Is all this busyness getting me to where I want to go? Do I Know where I am going? Do you have a life purpose?
Do I like and know what I’m doing, or am I on auto pilot?
Do I have a system that helps me get clarity about what I do and don’t do!
Have I got my goals written down?
Do I review them regularly, to keep me on track?
Do I have a good reminder system, to keep me on track?
What do I need to change? What is wasting my time?

The first and last questions are really important and I could write many words on just this! Another day perhaps! After all.... I don’t want to waste your time, you’re so busy! Let me just say, you can use 4me2realize to beat the busyness bug by getting focused on what’s really important in your life.

So now when people ask me “How are you?” I say “Great thanks, busy doing the things I love, how are you?” And then they say..... “Busy!”

Do you have a mental crap cupboard?

2010-05-12T15:20:00.002+10:00

After a lovely breakfast in bed prepared by my teenage son I cleaned up the linen cupboard on Mother’s Day last. Not very glamorous, but revealing.

There’s a huge pile for the church jumble sale. What struck me was the excess; 2 feather quilts, 4 wool blankets, 5 sleeping bags, 10 pillows and cushions, 30 sheets, 16 pillowcases, 15 towels, 3 mattress protectors and a box of toys and clothes. It was a miracle the cupboard didn’t explode! How did this happen? How did I accumulate all this stuff I didn’t need?

I learnt a lot from cleaning the linen cupboard, because I think we all have crappy cupboards.... do you recognise these symptoms?

It’s been building up for years.
But you push it to the background, out of sight out of mind
It annoys you
But you never can manage the motivation to do something about it
It seems bigger than it is
It affects you every day (every time I went to that cupboard it was a nightmare)
It makes your life a misery
You tell yourself you’ll fix it tomorrow
It’s making your life messy
You don’t need it
But you hold onto it out of a false sense of security
You know how to fix it

This cupboard is an analogy for a lot of behaviour we do. Behaviour that doesn’t serve us but we seem incapable of changing.

If you are struggling with a crappy cupboard of your own.... weight loss, bad moods, anger, shyness, poor relationships, financial problems, etc... then it helps if you can understand, the problem isn’t the problem, it’s your behaviour that’s the problem.

The good news is you can change your behaviour. Psychologists have defined the steps of change that occur and you can use these to clean out your own emotional crap cupboards. First you have to believe three things;

This must change NOW; link pain to NOT changing and pleasure to changing to help motivate action.
I must change it now; take ownership /responsibility for the problem within yourself.
I can change it; the past does not = the future, believe you can.

Then you must take action. Again there are 3 steps;
1. Leverage. Get leverage on yourself. Associate massive, immediate and unbearable levels of pain if you don’t change now.
Change is never a matter of ability, it is a matter of motivation.
If you CAN’T then you MUST

“Oh, I can’t do that” – watch out for the power of our words/thoughts.
“Oh, I could try that” - better words, but not fully committed.
“Oh, I could do that” – best effect, empowering and enabling.

2. Interpret the pattern
Be aware of what you are doing. To change a behaviour pattern, first you must recognise it. If you have been doing it for years, it may take doing something radical or ridiculous to jolt your awareness of the pattern. Set up something that you will do every time you start playing the old pattern. I know one person who would simply lie down on the ground! Very hard to take your old excuses seriously when you are horizontal unexpectedly in a public! This might not be for you, but you get the idea.... Before you start something new, recognise the old.

3. Create an empowering alternative, swap the bad habit for a good habit
Replace the old pattern with an empowering, more fulfilling, rewarding alternative. Reinforce, practice, and train yourself to do the new pattern, so you become addicted to it. That way you are not depriving yourself. For example I broke the coffee habit by replacing it with beautiful herbal teas. I didn’t deprive myself, I just replaced one bad habit with a good one. Now I love my green tea pot ritual. Replace don’t deny. It’s too hard to break an old pattern, just replace it with a new more rewarding pattern.

If it doesn’t work – don’t give up. Try again BUT do something different!

Stupidity is doing the same thing that didn’t work, over again.

Change, do again, doesn’t work, change, try something different. The massively successful are those who have had the most failures. Be persistent. Fail faster. Welcome your failures as lessons to be learned, dance with your fear of failure. Experience comes from bad experiences.

There are 5 elements of change, the chemistry of transformation. Remember addiction is a big scary word for a bad habit. Good news, you can get addicted to good habits

Satiation – You really have had enough. If you haven’t, try overdosing on your bad thing.
Get dissatisfied with the crap you are doing. It doesn’t give you the rewards anymore.
Get to the threshold where change becomes an absolute MUST, don’t look backwards, look forwards.
Get an insight, awareness of your bad habit/problem/issue and realize you can’t blame others , that you can do something yourself and that it will transform your life.
Jump through the opening. Take action. Face your fears, dance with them. Do something, ring someone, pledge someone, break the cycle, replace the habit. Take massive action. People are rewarded in public from what they practice massively in private. Your crap cupboard is very private. You can talk the talk and never walk the walk.

I found an understanding of mastery helped me when I was making changes. There are 3 steps, and often we get stuck on step one!

1.Cognative Mastery. Intellectual understanding. Knowing is not enough. Everyone knows stuff they don’t do, or should do
2. Emotional Mastery. There are emotional consequences to what you know, and what you do.
• Do you remember where you were when 9/11 happened?
• When someone very dear or a loved one died?
The memory is clear because of the emotional intensity attached to the event. The more emotional intensity you can attach - the more you learn.
3. Physical Mastery. It gets into your body and once it gets into your body you can do it easily. Repetition also helps.

If you want to change the crap in your cupboard / behaviours that don’t serve you – write out all the reasons WHY it is a must. The Why comes FIRST. The How comes 2nd. Reasons come first – answers come 2nd. Once you know why you must do it, you work out how you can do it. Add emotions, the more intense the better.

Imagine what life would be like if you don’t change, double, triple and quadruple that feeling…. Imagine life when you do change, double, triple and quadruple that feeling….
Now you have emotional intensity to help motivate you. Emotions give you intensity. Intensity gives you leverage.

Involve other people. Find people who want you to improve and stick with them. You don’t need friends who only feel secure when you are doing bad stuff. Let them deal with their own crap cupboard.

Now I must run, I’m off to the church jumble sale. My linen excess will keep people warm this winter. That’s a great feeling. And I’m loving my new tidy cupboard. Life is so much more fulfilling, easy, rewarding, satisfying and happy, with clean cupboards!

All of these principles are made easy in 4me2realize. If you want to seriously change your life, get a system that makes it easier.

Kind regards

Cas

Bringing Peace to the Life Balance War

2010-03-31T10:55:00.001+11:00

Life Balance is such a trendy term at the moment. We are supposed to be able to balance our work and our life somehow. This dualistic approach tends to turn life and work into competing forces fighting over you. I don’t like this idea and living it is hell!

So how to avoid it? Add another element.

Doesn’t this mean there is more competing interests for you. No, because the third element is YOU!

Adding you, means you devote as much energy to yourself as you would to your work or any other area of your life, like you wife, girlfriend, family, friends, sports or hobbies.

When you devote the appropriate amount of time to developing yourself, everything benefits.

I prefer this more peaceful triology of work, life and self in balance, each complimenting the other in a meaningful and beautiful dance through life. And notice what a balanced life looks like? A peace symbol. Coincidence or not, it has a nice feel about it.

When you find yourself between these three areas the result is a more peaceful, aligned life.

In today’s busy world, it seems the first casualty is our personal peace, time to think, contemplate and be considered. Work and life seem to keep their share, funny that! You can blame the world, or you can step up and take responsibility, at least for yourself, by taking time to develop yourself.

When I imagine a highly evolved person, I think of monks on mountaintops. People who spend a lot of their time on their own, developing their inner self first.

We don’t have to become monks! But just a nudge of more time for yourself can be restorative.

4me2realize creates an environment where you are guided through a process of self analysis and then integrates and encourages contemplation and review. Rather than sending you to mountain tops, it uses modern software. But the result is the same, time for you and peace in your life.

How much time for yourself? Well it just depends, on you. But I know I am better if I take at least an hour for myself every day! And that’s not at the gym or in front of the TV! For some people, just 15 minutes a day is a great start.

Warning, as you start the habit of taking time for yourself, it becomes addictive. As you improve yourself, the world around you also improves. It is a wonderful, self perpetuating spiral. It feels great.

It doesn’t matter how much money you make, how old or young you are, what your job or relationships are, you can start right now, today on improving yourself. You need nothing but time and commitment.

So where do you start once you have found a few minutes and the will? I of course am going to suggest you try 4me2realize.

And right now you can try it for free for 60 days. That’s enough time to start a really good habit and get on the path of self improvement.

Peace be with you

Kind regards

Cas

The Truth Shop a modern fairytale

2010-03-23T10:05:00.001+11:00

I could hardly believe my eyes when I saw the name of the shop: THE TRUTH SHOP.

The salesgirl was very polite: What type of truth did I wish to purchase, partial or whole?

The whole truth, of course. No deceptions for me, no defences, no rationalizations. I wanted my truth plain and unadulterated. She waved me on to another side of the store.

The salesman there pointed to the price tag. "The price is very high, sir," he said. "What is it?" I asked, determined to get the whole truth, no matter what it cost. "Your security, sir," he answered.

I came away with a heavy heart. I still need the safety of my unquestioned beliefs.

And so the story goes.... but what does it all mean? Well, have you tried the truth test?

If something is true, it is true for everyone.

The temperature is 27 degrees is true. But only right here, right now, for me only, give me a minute and it is no longer true!....arg Truth can be a tricky, slippery little customer....

“You have to work hard to get ahead,” is not true. Our heads are full of beliefs that we dress up as truths. Why? These truths (belief systems) give us security! That is why we hold on to them sooooo tightly.

They were given to us before we ever asked for them or knew what they were. They are like unasked for gifts of dubious quality. They come from parents and teachers and childhood experiences. They create our patterns of thinking and behaviour. We have become accustomed, comfortable, dependable and familiar with them because they make us feel safe.
“ A tooth for a tooth, and eye for an eye.”

“Only nice people get good things,”

“ You can never get enough.”

“I am never good enough”

But because they are beliefs, they are just creations in our heads. I can create any truth (belief) in my head. And I can change and choose what to believe.

With this understanding, “The truth,” morphs into something resembling a heat haze on the horizon. It looks substantial, like life giving water, but when you get there, it is nothing!

You can change what is true for you any day you want, but the price is security. To get something new, you must give up the old to make space for the new.

To test the truth of anything ask yourself, “if this is true, is it true for everyone?” This is your “truth-from-belief” filter. A very useful tool!
When something is not true for everyone, you have a belief. Celebrate. You have the freedom to change and choose.

This will work wonders when people start a sentence saying “Honestly.... blah blah blah”
When they dress up their beliefs as absolute truth (no names mentioned)... To throw them off, simply say, “if that was true, it would be true for everyone, and that is not true for me. I appreciate and hear your opinion, (call it what it is) and I understand this is TRUE FOR YOU....but I have another perspective, would you like to listen?”

If the answer is no, move on! Not everyone is ready to pay the full price for getting to the truth on truth ie letting go of their truth (insert belief)!
Hope that helps.

Love always on the journey

Photographic acknowledgment http://lorrainemd.deviantart.com/art/Blinded-by-Truth-19212014

Artist's Comments

we blind ourselves,

when it stands before our eyes,

for it is often easier

to cradle our daily lies

How awesome is that!

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Kind regards
Cas