For example, if your husband liked the memory because of the location (it was private, new, whatever), then consider other locations that hold similar appeal.  If he was blessed by the fact that you took time to set up a surprise for him, then thoughtful planning and surprise are the factors.  Let his favorite memories give you clues to what he enjoys.

We do not remember days, we remember moments. Cesare Pavese

This is a sweet love song from a guy to a gal on their 20th anniversary ~ I Do Congrats Jeff & Kathleen!

"J" is at it again ~ Cell Phones During Sex? My sides hurt. (from Hot, Holy and Humorous)

I got to thinking about idiosyncrasies.

idiosyncrasies: a characteristic, habit, mannerism, or the like, that is peculiar to an individual.

You have them. Your husband has them. I have them. My husband probably has more than his fair share, but I digress. We all have things we do, don't do, like, dislike, need, don't want, etc. Most of these things are neither "right" nor "wrong," they just are. They are a reflection of our individuality, our uniqueness.

A word of caution: be careful how you judge these idiosyncrasies. When you judge them as stupid or unnecessary, you are, in a sense, judging your spouse unfavorably. When you value them, you are valuing him. Yes, some of them might seem silly or unnecessary to you, but they make sense to him and are necessary to the balance and comfort of his world.

I figure it's a good thing to offer to your spouse what you would like to have for yourself anyhow. So around our house ... we have two cheese slicers and a few foo-foo pillows. It's all good.

It is our uniqueness that gives freshness and vitality to a relationship. James Dobson

What a creative gift! ~ Guest Blog: Becky Kiser on "A Year’s Worth of Screws"  (on CWives)

Remember to Offer Your Spouse Appreciation & Praise (fromMarriage Works!)

You should put scent where you like to be kissed. Catherine Deneuve

Great post to read and discuss with your hubbie ~ Man Up & Take Me! Alpha Male or Beta Hubby? (from Hot, Holy & Humorous)

I love this gardening analogy ~ Companion or Foe? I gotta get some marigolds! (from The Romantic Vineyard)

He has far more clothes and shoes than I do. I think the color and variety makes him happy. 

The only problem is ... the shoe organizer. It falls apart, gets knocked around and generally makes the closet difficult to navigate. After I finish writing this post, I'm going to go buy a new one and reorganize the closet. It will make life easier for the both of us.

Is there an area of your house that is difficult? What can you do to make it work better? (without complaining about his stuff)

A place for everything and everything in its place. Mrs. Beeton

Great idea from To Love, Honor & Vacuum ~ Swap Baby-Sitting for Cheap Date Night! 

This post appeals to the geek in me ~ Are you sure you encourage? What would your analytics look like? (from Encourage Your Spouse) 

Have a “Me Menu”

Often times when I ask moms what they enjoy doing, they are left speechless.  It seems they have forgotten the things that brought them joy or activities they once enjoyed doing.  Take some time to jot down ideas of what you would like to do if you had 5 minutes, 15 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour and several hours.  Keep this list handy so that if you happen to get 15 minutes of time, you can look at your list and make that time useful for you!

A "Me Menu" is a great idea, but why not create a "We Menu" as well? What could you do with your husband if you had 5 minutes of couple time, 15 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour or several hours. Create a list and keep it handy.

Recently I've started my days with this song shared on The Mommy Calling (a NOBH blogger) ~ GOOD MORNING! 

Alecia (of Marriage Life) shares her perspectives about erotica ~ I Found Sex at the Library (love the title)

       
       
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Respecting your spouses differences ~ Sweep Around Your Own Front Door (from Marriage Works!)

I enjoy crocheting (I'm good at it). I don't enjoy knitting (we're talking ... really bad). 

I know that if I took the time to practice I would get better at knitting and enjoy it, but I tend to fall back onto crocheting (because I do it well and, let's be real, the effort it would take to learn to knit well is a bit daunting).

What does this have to do with marriage (you might ask)?

When you look at your marriage, what do you feel "good" and "bad" about ? Would getting "better" at what you feel "bad" about make it easier and nicer for you? For your husband? What would it take to get "better"? What would you have to learn? What would you have to practice? What kind of motivation do you need?

I would encourage y'all to talk to your husband about these questions. How do you practically work on something that is difficult in your marriage and turn it into a success, something that you can enjoy? 

The best way out of a difficulty is through it. Will Rogers

Nothing is more important than this moment ~ Listening (from (in)courage)

I like this post ~ Living a life with assurance  ~ Confident action applied to your marriage, what would that look like? (from Ferguson Values)