A Better Way of Thinking

Just a Question with Realization

2011-06-26T19:25:00.000-04:00

What is a good relationship? So many people have their ideas of what a relationship should be, however I have learned that many people have good relationships on their own terms and not on what other people “professionals” say it should be. As we can look up so many books on how to have a healthy relationship, however I personal believe to have a healthy relationship, YOU have to have a powerful mind, a powerful soul, and a powerful ability to know what you will and will not take from another person.

I have had my share of relationships that did not work out and while I were in those relationships I couldn’t figure out why they didn’t until I took some me time. The time I took to regain my self love, respect and confidence. I took the time to reflect on those relationships and see how and what I can do better to make my next relationship better. What I did wrong? The number one thing I realized I did was not continuing to loving me. I lost myself in those relationships and lost control of who and what I wanted to be. I allowed the people to play on emotions and control of how I felt about myself and my life. I allowed for the relationship to dictate and control my path of self love. In the end, I have learned that loving me comes first and then everything else will follow.

Letter to Self

2011-04-12T14:34:00.001-04:00

Everyone at some point in their lives has written a letter to themselves about their relationship, the good and the bad. How come we never listen to the words that are written in that letter? Instead, we try to justify our thoughts, make excuses for them and just ignore our true feelings. Sometimes "we" are truly afraid of what the outcome will be if we leave, if we stay, if we just trust ourselves and let everyone and everything go that we've worked so hard for. But wait, some say I know who I am, I know what I want, I know where I am going and I ask you REALLY???? Do you really know? You're not convincing me of these facts, you are convincing yourself. I've been there I know, I tried telling my friends that I'm happy I walked around smiling and even encouraging others but I didn't listen to my own advice.

Well, here is a letter that was written by a young lady that was in a relationship that wasn't going anywhere and she knew it but didn't listen to herself right away. She wrote this letter two years prior to the relationship ending and she found herself feeling the same way two years later. Don't be feeling this way two years from now!!!!

Check out the letter on the Articles by Women tab……

Let’s Get Started

2011-03-05T03:27:00.006-05:00

At one point everyone was talking about "The Secret" to success and life in general and everyone was wondering what that secret was and it's the power of the mind. What you think and believe within yourself is what you will execute. You can have everyone around you believing in "YOU" but if you forget to believe in yourself, what's the point?

Being able to know your own qualities and assets that you have to offer you will succeed. Love yourself more than you love anyone else. Have faith in yourself and always remember to stay true to "YOU"! Don't allow the people or circumstances around you change you into someone different. Everyone must grow and learn from life experience but that doesn't mean YOU have to change your belief system in yourself. Think for a minute, how many times have you stopped doing something for yourself to accommodate other people? How did you feel afterwards? Was it worth it? Were you happy? If you answered NO to any of these questions, then STOP right now and get focused back on your life and goals. There comes a time when you will accommodate for others but if you have to lose yourself it is not worth it.

Here is a poem that I always read to myself to build my spirits and I hope it does the same for you:

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Welcome

2011-01-15T13:33:00.006-05:00

Thank you for taking the time to check out my blog site. This site is for encouragement and to inspire you to follow your dreams. We are our biggest down fall when we lose the confidence or have the fear of failing. We all have failed at something but that should not stop us from getting up and trying again. We cannot allow that one failure to stop us from pushing forward. We just stop believing in ourselves before we even try.

You can do whatever it takes to get where you want to be, just keep trying and have faith! The blog name "A better way of thinking" has many meanings and hopefully you can find something that will interest you to keep coming back and telling your friends and family. We will have articles by women who've been through the struggles and now have found themselves. I will have articles of my personal road of healing and going through the motions of finding myself from life experiences. We will have books to help encourage us. I hope you find your experience here enjoyable and helpful.