I came to BC in 2001, from London UK. I had divorced my 1st wife, and bought my three sons with me. My 1st wife gave her consent, we still get along.

I went back to school to became a Nurse, and found a job at Chilliwack Hospital in September 2003.

In March, 2004 I found a new girlfriend, who was also a nurse. We were married in April 2005. By September 2007 we were blessed with our daughter.

We separated in December 2008, and divorced a year later.

As my daughter was young, I let my ex take most of the time. I made the bad mistake of signing sole custody over. I remained joint guardian, with generous access. We lived 2 minutes away from each other in Agassiz.

All was going well, and I was seeing my Daughter most of the time, until my ex met and married again. When she met her new guy, she cut off all access to me, so we entered court.

I have been to court 12 times already, every time I bring a motion, she files a restraining order, which I have to fight, $$$$$$$$ Not one of her restraining orders have been granted, no grounds.

I am no closer to getting any custody of my daughter. We have completed all the court requirements, but WOW, how is this justice?

I would like to start a campaign, and a march in Vancouver.

I am part of the Hospital Employees Union, a Union of 46,000 members. I would like to find a way to raise awareness of problems fathers face in the courts.

The legal system is biased toward my ex, she wields the power of the entire justice system; judges, police, social workers. So when she finds a new husband, with a wave of her little finger she removes the old husband from her life and her child’s life.

What would you expect her to do?

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I just got entered into the unjustifiable system as we speak. I have gone through 4 years of hell, I call it a Mexican prison because of what you see in movies, where they have their own laws and rules inside walls. I commend you for the contempt of court.

I told my ex that I would rather die to spare our children from the corrupt system we have. I too live in Canada. The Alberta legal system,i have read in your statements is similar to all Canadian provincial legal systems. No one cares that a lawyer’s retainer balance can be used for a trip of a lifetime.

People wonder why kids starting as early as 5 years old are on medication for anxiety and depression. People wonder why kids of an older age are addicted to drugs and alcohol. When I was 5 years old I lived in Holland and witnessed 2 people die in front of me, because an estranged husband lost it.

This cruel system will never end. Good fathers like you and I whom step up to the plate should be highly commended and acknowledged. Because women in their 40′s run to their mommies because they have a place to go. I fully understand now a days why in the 60′s they did not want women to have rights.

For my sake they should have attained it to date. But we both know its not the right thing. I call bs. Lol. I am making a YouTube video for fathers like me that are 40 years old and are dealing with this and how hard it is to keep your mental status level. I went to a doctor because i was getting panic attacks. He prescribed my 6 months of Valium and Praxil.

I walked a beach for four months instead and cleared my head. I tore up the prescriptions. I had to leave for four months and go to Victoria and be with family to keep me focused. I am back now in Alberta but the war is starting thus yet. My video will be very inspiring and yet emotional. I’m sure any father that sees it will tear up. I am hoping it will go viral. It should be ready in the next two weeks and i would like to use something from you as well to let other fathers know they are not alone.

I also am putting all of my friends names on a list first names only that are going through this legal hell within a two year span. My list, believe it or not, is at 28. It’s sick and disgusting and too many of us are getting screwed.

Reply from Chris

Thanks for your comment and I commend you for your stand for your fight against a bias justice system against fathers getting access to there children. I look forward to seeing your video. If you send it to me I will put it on my website afathersstory.ca. If we stand and fight the corrupt justice system together maybe we can convince society to implement new laws that will protect our children from these lying legal horror’s that call them selves judges and lawyers. These idiots need to be held accountable for abusing Canadians children across this great country of ours. Unfortunaly nobody cares until it happens to them.

Boys and men are disadvantaged in many ways in these misandric times. But there is one area that causes more existential anguish for men and for children than any other – namely the family law system. It is in our courts’ understanding of the so-called “best interests of the child” that we see the worst effects of feminism, which is the dominant ideology of our cultural era.

In gender relations we have seen massive changes in the last 50 years. Just as women have evolved over the course of the last decades to expand their opportunities and commitments, dividing their time between motherhood and careers, so too have men evolved in their dual roles. Fathers today are far more involved in their children’s lives in a micro-practical way. And yet, as many New Men are shocked to learn, all the midnight feedings, bedtime stories and soothing Band-Aid applications to scraped knees count for nothing against gender bias in family court: In more than 80% of litigated custody cases, the mother gains sole custody.

Thus, with mom-friendly courts always the trump card up a mother’s sleeve, even the best of fathers in all custody negotiations must depend on the mother’s good will, rather than justice, for anything approaching equal access to his children.

Article 16(3) of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights states: “The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the state.” But in this country the courts are the “ultimate legal guardians.” We speak of courts “giving” custody. But custody battles in family court are not about giving a child to one parent. That parent already has the child. No, the court is about “taking away” children from another parent. The words we use are important.

It is now settled sociological science that fatherlessness is the single greatest predictor for negative social outcomes like drug use, promiscuity, school dropout and gang membership. There are more than four million single fathers in North America. That’s a pretty big control group. If mothers really are more important than fathers, then by now we should be aware of studies or some reliable evidence that motherlessness is a predictor for worse outcomes than fatherlessness.

Neither sex has a monopoly on moral innocence. Both men and women have the capacity and the free will to act with honour and good will, or dishonour and bad will, in stressful situations.

But when a man or woman’s most cherished relationships are at stake, and when the fate of those relationships are in the hands of strangers sitting in judgment, it strains the bounds of human nature for either a mother or a father to resist the temptations of an unlevel playing field that tilts in her or his direction. In family court the playing field is badly tilted towards women. If they take advantage of that fact, it doesn’t mean that women are intrinsically worse than men; it means they are human. There was a time when courts tilted the other way, which didn’t make men villains, just human as well.

Justice is supposed to be gender-neutral, but gender is still the single biggest predictor of who gets sole custody in disputes, and even though fatherhood has changed a lot since 1970, the statistics for sole custody have not. Nor have attitudes, which goes right to the top of our legal food chain. Two of our nine Supreme Court Justices, when they were Court of Appeal judges, awarded sole custody to women in over 90% of their cases; such an imbalance would never happen in any other branch of law.
What is the purpose of any court, and for what are courts devised? In every kind of court but family, judges decide or guide others to decide what is to be the consequence of harms and wrongs that were done in the past.

Only in family court do we have a system where no harms have been done in the past – or none that have been the state’s business – and where circumstances will be continually changing in the future, but where judges get to decide where harm may happen and judge accordingly. Judges, I might add, that normally have no special training in their backgrounds regarding family dynamics or child psychology. Their understanding of children’s “best interests” comes principally from courses they take in “social context issues,” nebulous words that are fleshed out for judges by ideologues who create these training courses, courses not even lawyers, let alone the press are permitted to access.
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I have a long winded story Chris. Simply put the last time I went through family court I ended up homeless living on the streets of downtown Calgary.

I had no access but also didn’t pay support. How could I? I became an addict, alcoholic drug dealer. I literally went crazy.

I was just served papers again for a 100k owing. Just starting to get my life in order. Going to school. New family. Any suggestions on next step? Thanks, if I can help you let me know.

James

A reply from Chris

Thank you so much for sharing your experience James. Your story is not unusual in today’s society. Many people turn to alcoholl and drugs to ease the pain of having their child taken away by a corrupt and abusive Justice system. I have walked a mile in your shoes as well my friend.

In fact, I was sent to prison for 30 days on a contempt charge. A Calgary court Judge by the name of Justice Sullivan told me to stop fighting for access to my son or it would kill me. I believe he meant the destruction of self medication of alcohol and drugs. People tend to make bad decisions to ease the pain of loosing one’s child to this ruthless Family Justice system. He was right, it did almost kill my spirit.

Fifty years ago the Canadian Government rounded up native children in Canada. bureaucrats and police took these children from their families. Why? To put them into special schools to integrate them into the white culture. The idea was to wipe out native culture and replace it with white culture. The result was a generation of native children who felt no affinity to either white or native culture.

.When they returned to the reserve, they were devastated to see that there parents had turned to self medication like you and I. In short their parents were a victims of drugs and alcohol whose lives had been ruined by the Canadian Government. That was a bad law and it caused unnecessary pain to thousands of parents.

The family court system contains some of the same flaws as that law, and it needs to be changed to stop the assault on fathers. It’s based on out dated beliefs and prejudices.

I am happy to here that you are starting to get your life back in order. Just remember this James. You have to save yourself before you can save your child from these vultures called judges and lawyers. For profit, they instigate conflict and misery, destroying the lives of men, woman, and children in Canada.

Go back to court James, tell them your story. Do not hire a lawyer, do it yourself. Lawyers just want your money and will create more confusion than what they are worth. Set up a payment schedule so that you can get the American company called Maintanace Enforcement to release your drivers license passport and unfreeze your bank account. if they have not done this already.

Try and stay away from the following Judges in Calgary.They are just a bunch of lying legal horrors that will put you back into the drug world. Chief Justice neil Wittman, Justice Ged Hawco, Justice Clark Justice Hugh`s Justice Coutu. Justice Sullivan Justice Lovecchio, Justice Kenney and Justice Horner. Justice Erb is the best Judge that I ever came accross. She actually cares about people and there children.

Be strong James, my friend. Stay away from the drugs, go back to court, and try to get back into your child’s life. Parents are vital to our children. A parent’s love is unconditional, all children need that love. Please call me if I can help at 604 358 2660 or email me at chrisjjmotorcars@gmail.com

If you have a story that needs to be told, email me, and together we can shine a light on injustice.

In August my ex wife was fired from her family’s business for embezzling 1.3 million dollars she spent on online gambling. She also is a heavy marijuana user, and has been on three anti depressants for the last 10 years.

When she got caught, I did not support her because she had lied to me. She sought support from a man who was convicted on child pornography charges, which she was well aware.

When I caught her with him, I was charged with uttering threats, assault, and theft of under $5000; her cell phone.

I now have full custody of my two girls age two and five, but it has been a constant battle with child family services and the courts. She told the courts as well as family services that she is no longer with this man. The court were ready to give her back the girls. This time I had to hire a private investigator to catch them together on multiple occasions, to keep my girls safe.

My ex now says in addition to the previous assault allegations, that I have beat her in the past. This new lie gained her a free lawyer from a women’s shelter. This after she lost her legal aid lawyer for lying.

Her new lawyer from the woman’s shelter showed up at court with the child pornographer, to fight me in a recent JCC conference.

I now have full custody until trial, but as a father going into a trial, the odds are stacked against me. It’s clear throughout this, that the father, any father, is less of a parent, in the eyes of the court than any mother.

The laws have to change, it’s not just unfair to fathers, it’s unfair and cruel to their children.

A Reply From Chris

Your story sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen. All you can do is go to court and see what happens. You are right. Men have no rights when it comes to the mother unless the mother is a drug attic. Even then the courts will still want to give the children to the mother.

I have no advice but to keep in fighting in this corrupt playing field we call the family justice system of Canada. Keep in touch as I will continue to fight for parents rights to see there children. Be strong and God Bless.

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On March 3/12 is I had enough. I came home about 8:15 pm to find my ex intoxicated again to the point where she fell up the stairs in the house. Again this is a short version. The boys have not been fed supper. So I started to cook supper while the ex was hiding in the bedroom.

Out of the blue she came, into the kitchen yelling, swearing and only God knows what about. The boys were in shock and so was I. When she had finished her ranting she went back in the bedroom and closed the door. I decided then to call the police to remove her from the house to hopefully wake her up to see the seriousness of her actions. The police were on their way. I told her they are coming to talk to her because it is clear I cannot talk to her in this state. So after a couple of minutes she ran down the stairs, grabbed her keys, jumped into her vehicle in the garage. Before I could stop her she had smashed into my truck parked directly behind her.

The police arrived about 5 minutes later. The police looked at the damaged vehicles and decided to arrest her for a DUI. (Again this is the short version), Incredibly the DUI charges were dropped because I was still married to her and the only witness. She avoided prosecution even though she failed the breathalyzer and there was ample evidence in the driveway.

I had asked her to get help. She replied “I don’t have a problem and do not need help”. When I heard that I knew now that I have to protect the boys by getting them out and filing for a divorce.

Here is where the legal system has failed me. First, I found out that the courts see fathers as guilty of everything and always lying, so I have to proof everything. In this world you communicate back and forth through affidavits.

The first court appearance only the lawyers are allow to speak, The only matters discussed are the issues of her getting money and a court date for the next meeting. We are both living in the same house at this time as I do not trust her. I have stopped all out of town work. But she is still there for the 8 hours I am at work and I have this constant worry if she is drinking again.

She had tried all the tricks in the book, even going as far as going to the food bank to register herself. Thankfully I was home and noticed the bags. I immediately videotaped the bags, all the food in the fridge, pantry as well as the freezer, I had to clearly show food and hygiene items were not necessary.

The second court date came up in Sept 2012, the judge S.D. Hiller had first came down on my ex’s lawyer for not having all the proper documents in order or in court. The judge started to drill her lawyer about how he can say that she is a good mother. This went on for about 10 minutes or so. Then the judge chatted with my lawyer Peter Spitz but would not give him an inch to respond properly. The judge was then clearly getting pissed off as there was no compromising from the ex on any issue of the children’s custody and matrimonial affairs.

The judge then told the lawyers to step down, go outside and try to get something settled. The only thing the ex would agree to was shared custody.

When we went back into court, and after another couple of hours nothing was really settled. Judge Hiller was turning red with anger, so he decided this matter has to go to trial sometime in the spring. No date was given and no date ever was discussed.

The judge then said his final comments which were I will be responsible to pay all the current bills where I and my ex reside as usual. But I and my ex will alternate staying in the matrimonial home weekly. On the week out I live somewhere else. Then he said I will have to pay child support of $1,382 and spousal support of a $1,000 on top. My lawyer was not able to argue the decision at all; the judge just cut him off.

I am on a salary of $7,000 a month gross pay. About 5,300 take home pay. It isn’t hard to figure out the math on this one.

Mortgage 1,742.00
Utilities 420.00
Truck 741.00
Spousal 1,000.00
Children 1,382.00
Food 350.00
Credit Card 550.00
Total 6,185.00

Note: This does not include gas clothes for the children and any other expenses.

Now add 60% roughly to get another place to stay, paying rent, utilities etc.

So basically what the judge has done is forced me to give in to the ex’s demands or face bankruptcy within 3 months. I guess that is why he did not set a court date. So I am legally being forced into bankruptcy.

Here is the sweet spot of this trial; after court was over, my lawyer and I stepped out of the court room, my lawyer turned to me and said:

“Well that didn’t go well. That must be because the judge and me had an argument in another case a couple of weeks before and he must be still mad. So I guess you can fire me.”

Can you believe that? After he cashed in $15,000.00+.I want to put a complaint in, but to whom and would anything be done about it?

So in recent action is I signed off the children and their safety to the ex. An ex who has a drinking problem, I also turned over the house that has $40,000 in equity and agreed to all other issues. Yes, I did sign this order under duress, even told my lawyer this. I had cave in to keep out of bankruptcy and to save my license.

I have not seen my sons since Dec 3/12. The summer before I was still trying to let the boys enjoy their lives and keep their minds off the issues in the house. Whenever I tried to take them out the ex would start arguing saying that I can’t take them. I cannot go anywhere with them. She would argue until she was red in the face and the kids started to cry. Needless to say we did nothing last summer or fall with my boys. I did talk to the boys Mar 8/13 on my oldest boy’s birthday.

Like I said this is the short version.

It is pretty sad when the gang wars are now inside our justice system. That would be the Government and lawyers against caring parents / fathers that do care.

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I created and operated Vancouver’s largest and most successful used car dealership for the last 30 months  so I could afford to go to divorce court and try and get reasonable access to my son.

I created CC Motor Car Sales LTD which was located at the corner of Hastings and Clark in Vancouver where 100,000 cars a day would drive past my Fathers 4 justice signs which I had posted above my car lot.

Unfortunatly after thirty months in business , my investor, an Air Canada pilot by the name of Robert Cortens. Soneone who called himself my good friend  decided that he no longer wanted to be my investor and wanted to be my partner. He was no longer satisfied with the $4,000 per month that I paid him for a $160,000 loan. He did not participate in the bussiness that I created. I told him I did not want a partner as I was selling over 100 cars a month.

The bussiness was in Mr Cortens name for his security on the $160,000 loan to me. We had a contract between our selves which stated that the bussiness was mine and that he was the investor.

Mr Cortens then called the police and had me evicted from the car lot that I created and lived at. I was put out on the street with $20 in my pocket.

Mr Cortens essentially stole my bussiness and all my profit that that I reinvested back into the bussiness  CC Motor Car Sales. LTD.

With friends like Robert Cortens who needs enemys. I am now trying to sue Mr Cortens in Court.  After 69 times to Divorce Court on access to my now 11 year old son, I am not looking forward to going to court over a financial matter whith this guy who calls himself my good friend.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. With the help of another investor I have now opened up another car lot which is called Fathers 4 Justice Auto Sales. After 2 months in bussiness it is now the largest and most successful used car dealership in Vancouver.

I will patiently wait for Mr Cortens to run CC Motors Cars into the ground. I will reclaim the Hastings an Clark location where 100,000 cars drive by everyday with my new car lot called Fathers 4 Justice auto Sales. I will continue my fight with Corrupt Divorce Court Judges and Sleazy Divorve court Lawyers for all parents rights to see there children.

The problem isn’t with the family Justice system. The problem is with the Judges and Lawyers that run the system. They need to be held accountable for there blatant lies and manipulation of Canadian Familly’s. They represent the love of our money. We represent the love of our children

Please tell me your opinion of my story at chrisjjmotorcars@gmail.com

Our deal was made on a hand-shake. He would provide $160,000, and the business would operate under his ownership, but under my management. In our agreement, he would not possess a key to the lot.

With Mr Cortens as the investor and myself as the manager, I was to pay him $4,000 per month as compensation for his $160,000 loan. That loan remains unchanged. I was to be paid a monthly salary and any additional profit that was made would stay in the company as my investment, until such time as we terminated our agreement and parted ways.

In the following 30 months, I spent $30,000 upgrading the business location, and I managed to build $70,000 as my equity in CC Motors.

Last week Mr. Cortens stated he no longer wished to be an investor in the business under the previous arrangement.

He further stated he wanted to increase his payment from $4000 per month to 50% of monthly profit, placing himself in the position of operating partner. I told him that I wanted an investor and not a partner. He then told me that he wanted his money back all $160,000.

Mr. Cortens then presented me a contract, which we both signed, that stated that I had 10 days (September 30, 2012) to find another investor or I would have to get off his car lot. The contract also stated that if I cannot find another investor, that I would have to leave CC Motors and that I be compensated by Mr Cortens with a food voucher for 1 week and a hotel room of his choosing.

I signed this contract and found another investor. We have applied to have all the paper work completed to start the business.

Mr. Cortens now says that he will not honour his own contract, and I am to leave the premises of CC Motors.

Robert Cortens is trying to steal my investment, my home, the business I have built, and there appears to be nothing I can do about it.

Robert Cortens makes $250,000 per year flying for Air Canada and he apparently wants to steal my business and $70,000 which I have built as equity in the past 30 months.

Please help me make this story public and stop this Bully.

Here is a link to my Contract with Robert Cortens and sales results for the time I ran the business. Click Here