Blunt Talk About Addictions

You Gotta Have Conviction to Quit

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:36:00 +0000

I'm a big believer that when someone says they're going to do something, they do it. If you tell yourself you're going to do something do you follow through and do it? Or do you usually come up with excuses as to why you can't do it now or the circumstances are such that you can't finish now so you'll put it off...blah, blah, blah.....

I look around and I hate to say it but it seems that we just think we can do something if it's not difficult. Like quitting an addiction. We say we'd like to quit....but it will be too hard! It might be difficult but that doesn't mean you can't do it. Think about that. Instead of these words being depressing for you, let them be uplifting. YOU CAN QUIT YOUR ADDICTION.

Doesn't it feel good to hear the truth? Because you really CAN quit. It's all in the mind, really..

Sticking to Your Goals, No Matter How You Feel

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 19:13:00 +0000

I know I write about this a lot, but I think it's what makes or breaks goals.

If you have a goal---say losing weight---and you wake up on day 1 raring to go, you may even have gotten up early before work to work out. Good, you did it!

Then you wake up the next day and.......well you don't feel like working out so much. You start coming up with reasons to put working out off---I'm tired, I don't feel like working out, I need more sleep (that COULD be a good one actually), I'll work out tomorrow instead. Whatever reason, you have many. Result? You don't work out. One of your reasons won.

I know what a trap this is because I used to do it too. But then I started putting less emphasis on my reasons as to why I couldn't work out or eat the way I knew I needed to in order to lose weight, and just started exercising and eating right because I TOLD MYSELF THAT WAS MY GOAL. What was the outcome? I started losing weight, getting fit and not thinking about food all the time.

It really will save you a lot of time too, not having to think about whether or not you'll go to the gym, eat right, not drink, not smoke---whatever your addiction my be. If you decide your plan ahead of time and follow it several times, then you get used to counting on yourself and every day will be easier and easier.

It's true, try it.

My Book Was On Dr. Laura's Book Giveaway

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:04:00 +0000

I was ecstatic to learn last week that my book "I Quit!" would be featured on Dr. Laura's Book Giveaway. I was delighted a few years ago when she endorsed my book too.

I thought I'd listen to the segment at work with my co-workers, but decided to go home to listen by myself, and to tape it. I knew exactly what time it would be on, since I'm a regular listener to the show.

I put the tape in, and pressed "record" @ 4:05 pm. Dr. Laura first read a few pages of my book---the chapter where I told my dad and his wife that I was going to kill myself because I was upset with them over a money issue. Then she talked a little about my book.

That morning I looked at a picture of my dad (who died 3 years ago) and said "Dad, I hope you can hear Dr. Laura today because you had so much to do with me getting to this place." I thought it was a bit "interesting" that she read that part of the book, mentioning my father. Coincidence? Who knows?

But it sure was cool to hear Dr. Laura talking about my book. I'm so grateful to her.

I Was a Guest on An Internet Radio Show

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 15:24:00 +0000

I was on Blogtalkradio a few days ago and the host was Jackie Foreman. She was fun, had a great personality and was a darn good interviewer.

She asked me questions about my book "I Quit!" One of the questions someone had emailed in was that this person ate a huge ice cream treat every day and how could I help this person.

The first thing I said was "there's no magic here." Then I went on to say that if it were me, I'd tell myself only 1/2 of the treat today---and all week. I would need to prove to myself that when I tell myself what I'm going to eat, I mean it.

Then I would know I could count on myself. The next week I would maybe eat 1/4 of the treat, then give it up. If the goal is to lose weight, then the ice cream probably has to go for now.

Another question was about excercise and how important I thought exercise was to losing weight. My answer was that it's important but in my personal opinion it's more important what you eat. Exercise helps a bit to lose weight, but the food is more important. What exercise does is it makes you feel better and you feel happier in your life.

That was one of the most fun interviews I've had.

A Fat Man's Words

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:58:00 +0000

I was watching something on tv---a show about addictions.

The fat man was asked to really think deeply about why he is heavy and share the reasons:

1) Uses food to treat everything. Food is his friend.

2) Always thinking "what are people thinking about me. I don't deserve to eat."

3) When I eat each bite, I block out all thoughts---all I think of is the next bite.

4) It feels bad afterwards, but when eating the food, it just feels great.

He then broke down and cried. Saying the words got to him because he never spoke those words. He felt he could start losing weight now.

I looked in his eyes and agreed that he probably will tackle his problem now. Sometimes getting those deep, dark thoughts we have out in the open---thoughts we may not even be aware of---opens the door to begin facing reality and dealing with what needs to be dealt with.

I Love Being Straight

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:01:00 +0000

I just spoke with my friend. She and her husband are going through difficult times and are separated. They had their last therapy session yesterday and it looks like---for now anyway---that they will continue staying apart.

My friend called me up crying which is highly unusual. The day just took a toll on her. After we hung up she had 2 glasses of wine and a vicadin. We talked today...she called up her husband and just didn't care what she said to him. She said things she couldn't say, or wouldn't say when she's straight. She even called someone she briefly dated several months ago and spoke for an hour.

I remember doing these sorts of things when I drank. It WAS easier to pick up the phone and tell someone what was truly on my mind when I was drinking. It DID make me bolder.

Boy, am I glad I'm straight all the time now......

Does God Play a Part in Quitting Your Addiction?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:29:00 +0000

I was sort of taunted by something I'd written---I wrote that I believed God was instrumental in my quitting my 3 addictions. I wrote that I will believe until the day I die that I didn't do something that HUGE by myself.

Well someone wrote saying that so many "spiritual people" say that the only way to quit their addictions is with God. And what about the people (like himself) who don't believe in God?

I wrote back saying that my story is that I quit 3 addictions and I believe very strongly that God's hand was in it. I was a very weak woman when I was drinking for those 12 years. On the morning I quit drinking forever I was hungover and couldn't think straight, yet that was a morning I'll never forget---many insights came to me in my condition that day and I'll never forget them.

And with my weight: Calling out to God when I was 16 saying if there was a God I needed His help because I couldn't stop eating. I never ate uncontrollably since that night.

I told the man who wrote me that I was just sharing my story with him and that it wouldn't be HIS story. We'll all have our own unique stories to tell as to how we quit our addictions.

And I had my own unique one......and I love my story....

Will You Give Up Your Addiction?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 18:42:00 +0000

I was listening to a radio show (Dr. Laura) and a woman called in saying she was 50 years old and didn't take good care of herself, although she'd quit drinking 15 years ago. She said she still smoked a lot and had some weight to lose, but it was too difficult to stop her addictions. She could do it for awhile, then "she couldn't."

Dr. Laura said that she would have to decide to want the healthy body over her addictions. The woman said that she did. Dr. Laura immediately came back at her with the truth---"No, you don't. You want the immediate satisfaction a cigarette gives you, rather than the long term effects of quitting your addictions."

Dr. Laura suggested she put a picture of herself when she was healthy out where she could see it all the time. She also suggested to this woman that she speaks out loud what her intentions are because we are easily manipulated when we just think about what we want to do.

But if we say it out loud.......I DON'T WANT THAT CIGARETTE! I WANT TO BE HEALTHY AND WILL HAVE AN APPLE INSTEAD." Then go get an apple. Do this many times and it will be easier to not give into your addiction.

I love this idea and think it will help a lot....

What If I Took A Drink After Quitting 22 Years Ago?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:43:00 +0000

I got asked that twice this week. So I answered truthfully.

If I were to take a drink after not having one drink in 22 years I know I could probably have one drink and stop for a day. But I don't want to drink, I told both of them.

BUT...IF I took one drink the next day, I have no idea how that day would end, because I think I'm an alcoholic (even though I don't ever say those words---I just don't drink and say I'm a non-drinker).

I think the more important thought is that I don't want to drink anymore. So contemplating whether or not what would happen to me if I drank again, really doesn't matter. The fact is, I'm done with drinking.

I also said to both of the people asking me this question (one was on a radio interview) is that I wouldn't want to take the chance of stepping into that world again---the world of alcoholism----because it ran my life pretty much for 12 years.

So getting on with my life without alcohol is where I choose to live. I have a good life without alcohol. And the good news is that I never think of alcohol anymore, and I haven't in years. I'm totally free of it.....thank God!

Are You Run By Your Addiction?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:18:00 +0000

I was talking to someone @ work the other day who seems to be able to say "no" fairly easily to what he didn't want in his life. Donald had been drinking several sodas each day and decided a few months ago that he'd cut them out completely---and he did.

But last week he picked up a soda and drank it. After he drank it he decided he was going to stop because he didn't want to be run by anything. And he said it would be easy for him to stop now becuase of the reality he had of not wanting his life to be run by anything.

I could relate with Donald because when I gave up each addiction I was very aware how much each addiction had been running my life, and I wanted to be in charge of my life, not the addiction.

Donald also said something to the affect of "just say no."...and how easy that really was. I agreed, but did say to him that so many people find it the most difficult thing to say. "Just say no" to many people is.....well it's just too easy and won't work.

The key here is---and what I believe---is that it IS that easy many time. Just say no and get on with your life.

Are you run by your addiction? Could "just say no" possibly work for you? Just maybe?

Try it.....I'd love to hear what results you have....

Why Is It So Hard to Quit My Addiction?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 16:30:00 +0000

Is this a question you ask yourself a lot? Why can't it just be easy like so many other things I do in my life?

I remember those thoughts too, especially with my weight issue years ago. I couldn't understand how I seemed to be almost overtaken by my thoughts to where I believed I didn't have any say as to whether or not I picked up a Twinkie or candy bar. I really believed I couldn't stop myself from eating that junk.

But looking back I see that I didn't have the will to say "No!" then. I was a kid. I didn't know that I had the ability to run my life. You get wiser with age, they say, and that's a good example of it.

So what is the message here? I think it's that you have to realize that the mind will do what the mind does---go all over the place---telling you you can or can't do things. It's up to you, not your mind, how your life turns out.

So I urge you to watch your thoughts regarding addiction and see what your mind is telling you (lots of lies I would imagine), and start to realize that you don't have to listen to your mind.

You do have control over your life. And the more you start taking control, the easier it will be.

Could It Be Easy Quitting Your Addiction Afterall?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 15:46:00 +0000

If I'd heard someone ask me that years ago I would have said no, of course it's difficult. You have to have a desire to quit, you have to go to self-help groups and pour your heart out.....THEN you have to go to these groups all the time. Then you end up thinking about your addiction every day and talking to people about it. You find yourself reading articles about people just like yourself who are addicted. These people are just like you and you feel an affinity with them.

But then after a few months it starts getting old---going to the meetings, seeing the same people sharing the same stories---you think about your addiction again. The newness is gone. You think about going back to your addiction out of boredom.

What if it were possible to just say, "ENOUGH! I don't want to be addicted anymore!" And what if it took? It happens all the time.

Isn't this LESS difficult than the previous? Not that meetings are bad---they're not, but they're not for everybody. Personally, meetings wouldn't have helped me. But think about the possibility.....of just quitting to get on with your life......

I Had a Great Radio Interview

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 16:18:00 +0000

I was on Blogtalkradio with Don L. Price last week. Don has a very nice, soothing voice which helped keep me very comfortable throughout the interview. We talked about my 3 addictions and how I overcame each one. He also wondered if I agreed that the addiction is always just the symptom of the problem, not the problem.

Yes, I agreed, because that is so true, isn't it? If you lose 100 pounds and your mind doesn't shift at all, you'll surely gain the weight back. It happens all the time. For me personally, the shift happened that night when I cried out to God---if You're there, I need you because I can't stop eating.

A shift happened that night. I never ate non-stop again in my life! What a healing that was, but I still had to deal with the losing weight, which took years. But the eating-until-I-can't-eat-anymore problem left that night. I'll never forget it. And I never get tired of sharing that story.

If anyone wants to listen to my interview go to my website http://www.DovelinPublishing.com
and look under "Press". You'll see the Blogtalkradio widget, click on it and listen. If you have any comments or questions please let me know on this blogsite or email me @ lindajoyallan@aol.com.

I Watched an Overweight Woman Crossing the Street...

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 15:47:00 +0000

last week on my way to work. It seemed she was carrying some sort of a coffee cake, wrapped in saran wrap, along with a back-pack. She must have been at least 100 pounds overweight. It was a struggle for her to even walk. I sat there at the light wondering what thoughts might be going around in her head.

I felt compassion for this woman. I don't know if she's given up on herself, or maybe the cake she was holding wasn't for her at all! For all I know she could be giving the cake to someone because she's decided to lose her weight this time for good.

So we don't know what people are thinking. I do know she didn't look happy, but how can you when you're carrying around so much extra weight. Sometimes when I bring in my grocery bags which must weigh at least 10-15 pounds, I'm very aware of how that weight would make my life so difficult if it was on me---if I had to lug around an extra 50 pounds (I did years ago) every day.

The memories started to come back to me of me being fat while watching this woman for the 20 seconds I watched her (she didn't see me watching her). I'm just so grateful that I dropped those pounds and can feel a lightness about me all the time. It definitely makes a difference in the way I perceive everything in my life. I've written may times over the years of this fact: I couldn't be happy and joyful if I were still fat. I personally couldn't. But the good news is for overweight people is that they can lose weight, but it takes dedication and committment.

One little shift in someone's mind who is overweight can start the process of losing weight immediately. It happened to me, and I've seen it happen to many over the years.

That's good news....

Why Can't You Just Quit Your Addiction?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 14:51:00 +0000

Blunt enough? Well, my blog is titled "Blunt Talk About Addictions."

I know I will get flack from people reading this. For some people---many people---it may not be easy enough to quit their addiction, but we only live once on this earth I hear and time is being wasted.

If you're reading this and you say you want to quit your addiction, and you've tried several times and "it doesn't work" think about the fact that you've "tried" many times. Trying leaves room for failure. You try once, consider that it didn't work and you can say..."hey, I tried."

Stop playing that game and get real with your life. When you get rid of your addiction, that stress is forever lifted. You feel lighter. You know you did something huge for yourself and you'll never forget that.

Think---this is my one life. Drop the addiction. Can it be that easy? Why not?

Dr. Phil's Thoughts on Addiction

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 15:17:00 +0000

I was sick several days last week and got to just veg out in front of the tv for hours every day. I was channel surfing and came across Dr. Phil's program. I don't see it very much anymore, but when I saw that the show was on addictions I had to tape it. I always learn from listening to people's struggles with addiction and I remember when I was deep in my addictions too.

One of the addicted individuals on the show was a man who couldn't stop spending money he didn't have. Dr. Phil wanted to start getting to the root of the problem. Dr. Phil said:

"Addictions serve a purpose;
Addictions serve a need;
They don't meet the need,
They don't serve the need,
They just hold it off and push it down."

Then Dr. Phil asked the man---"What are you running from? You're using your addictions to avoid getting real about some things. What are they?"

What a great, direct question. Dr. Phil asked the best question to get to the root of the problem. This man had just thought he had a money problem, when in fact, it was that he didn't feel good about his weight and he didn't feel like he was much of a man. So THOSE were the reasons why he was addicted to spending money, not for the sake of just spending money.

I, too, know from my experiences being addicted...it was never about the alcohol, food or cigarettes...it's always something much deeper.

But the good news is, you can quit your addiction no matter what your problems are. You can get stuck in your problems and blame your addictions on your problems, or just decide that you're going to quit your addictions and move on.

I would always choose the latter.....

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:45:00 +0000

I was listening to Joel Osteen this morning and he talked about how so many times we constantly say negative things, and those negative words dictate our lives. He gave the example of "I've had this addiction all my life....I'm never going to be able to quit."

I used to think that years ago when I was fat, when I smoked cigarettes and when I drank. But I quit all 3. What you've done in the past and the thoughts you've thought for years can change forever---and in an instant. How do I know? Because it happened to me.

And looking back I remember that on those 3 days which started my quitting each addiction, my mind changed dramatically. I wasn't negative anymore. I was open to change---I wanted my life to change. I didn't want to be addicted anymore. It was weighing my life down. I wanted freedom.

And I got it....

22 Years Ago I Quit Drinking

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 16:32:00 +0000

This past Friday, July 3, was my 22nd year of quitting drinking. It's also my real birthday, so every year I have 2 birthdays.

I don't think much about my past drinking. I'm just so grateful that I gave it up when I did. I went on to finish college and got a B.S. in Management, I lost the rest of the weight I wanted to lose and I have my connection back with God. That was what I missed the most when I drank for those 12 years---the closeness with God that I put on the back burner during my "drinking years."

Life is still full of challenges---daily. But I never think of drinking again. That would only ADD to my problems. It's a wonderful thing, too, that when you give up a habit you've had for awhile, you realize as the days go on that you're thinking less and less about the addiction you may have once thought you'd NEVER forget. But it does lessen daily. You need to remember that.

I was also addicted to cigarettes and junk food, but those too are long gone---the thoughts about them.

So I hope someone can get help from this post today, especially if you're struggling to quit an addiction. You won't always think about it forever like you think now. You won't. It will fade as you fill your life with other things and distractions.

Not Ready to Quit Yet?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 15:49:00 +0000

I have a friend whose husband is an alcoholic. She told me recently her husband was hoping to speak with me about alcohol, knowing I'd been off alcohol for almost 22 years. I said yes, and he called a few days later.

We talked for about 15 minutes. He said he always had several drinks when he got home from work at night, and said he was afraid that he would miss it terribly. I told him he might in the beginning but that it was important to---right away, day 1---start doing things differently. Come home and immediately take a walk or get on the treadmill. I told him that I thought doing something physical was important.

Before we hung up he asked me if he could call again soon and talk to me. I said yes. A few days later his wife emailed me and said that her husband was drinking and it looked as if he wasn't going to give up alcohol just yet.

I explained that this is typical---someone will reach out, then go back to the addiction. Again, they will reach out to someone who can help them, get some good information on how to help quit the addiction, then go back to the addiction. But many times the 3rd or 4th time is "the time" when he or she absolutely quits for good.

It's just not his time yet. Is it yours?

What? You're Not Motivated?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 15:29:00 +0000

I was listening to Dr. Laura recently. A caller called into the show stating that she was fat (the caller). She didn't like it and she knew how to eat and she had the gym membership but didn't go to the gym. She called in to ask Dr. Laura how to get motivated so she'd want to eath healthy foods and go to the gym.

Dr. Laura told her story to the caller---she gets up early in the morning to work out and isn't necessarily motivated at 5:00 am---in fact, she said she WASN'T motivated ast that time, but she gets up and does it anyway. Why? Because then she's done with it for the day. I hear Dr. Laura talk about working out a lot and the reasons why she works out. She is thin and wants to stay that way. She's strong but it's taken awhile to get there. It's her working out for years that has made her strong today. She also talks about being able to eat the things she wants---even deserts---but she just has a small portion.

For me, I've been working out since I quit drinking, almost 22 years ago. I have to say that I was very motivated in the beginning because I was so pleased to not be a drinker anymore. But as the months, then years passed I wasn't as motivated anymore. But I continued working out because I feel good afterwards. It's not fun to do but I reap the rewards usually later.

So forget being motivated all the time. Do it anyway! You WILL be glad you did.

Memory of My Fat Days

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 17:52:00 +0000

The supervisor in my office brought in donuts last week. She rarely brings in junk food and is good shape herself, but she just said that she felt like a donut that day and brought donuts in for everyone.

I didn't take one, but when I took my break I was feeling really hungry. I went in the breakroom and could smell the sweet smell of glazed donuts. A very vivid memory came back to me. When I was a young teenager my girlfriend and I would be dropped off downtown to "shop." But we were both heavy and all we ever "shopped" for were donuts and candy.

I remember a small donut shop downtown that Sandy and I would get so excited going to. We'd walk in, smell the donut smell then look at all of the donuts available to us. We each pick 3 or 4 donuts---2 to eat there and 1 or 2 to take home. I remember they put the donuts we were to take home in a small white bag.

The thoughts I had at the time were ecstasy on the one hand---I was elated thinking of eating the donuts. But I also felt terrible about myself because I thought at the time I had no self control and that was a terrifying feeling. And the thing is---back then---I really thought I had no control. So I was elated while eating the donuts, but then after we were done the high was immediately gone. Next, we had to figure out the next eating stop.

Back to the breakroom....I was hungry and thought about having maybe a half donut. Then I quickly remembered WHY I don't eat sugar anymore. Because I DON'T FEEL GOOD AFTERWARDS!

I finished my break and had a Larabar (natural organic bar). That hit the spot more than a donut ever could.

Is It All About Willingness?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 15:43:00 +0000

I ended up watching a PBS special yesterday with Wayne Dyer. Now I had followed him for years, then one day decided he wasn't for me anymore---I had grown in a different direction, or so I thought.

But I started watching and I found that he was saying some great stuff. Apparently Mr. Dyer used to have an alcohol problem so one day he just gave it up---kind of like what I did. But I love what he said after that.....he was WILLING to give up the alcohol that day. He's been sober for over 20 years.

I thought about how many people struggle with their addiction. It's so common to fight with ourselves, trying to convince ourselves to quit, maybe hoping to talk ourselves into quitting. But what if we just gently said to ourselves "I'm ready and willing to quit now?"

Speaking from experience I not only think this would be miraculous for so many people.....but it would work most of the time. I really believe it would.

Candy Won’t Fix Your Bank Account

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 31 May 2009 15:47:00 +0000

The recent headline in the New York Times was: “When Economy Sours, Tootsie Rolls Soothe Souls.” When the economy goes down, candy sales go up, the newspaper reported. “Sugar is comforting,” one candy buyer told the newspaper.

Candy sales are up 30 percent for Cadbury and more than 10 percent for Nestle's. That’s great news if you’re a candy company, but just another lousy excuse to overeat if you’re a food junkie.

I was addicted to overeating and weighed in at more than 200 pounds. Was a recession my excuse? I didn’t need an excuse. I ate when I was broke, when I had money in the bank, when I was sad and when I was happy.

Candy? I loved the stuff. But here’s what happened. I made the decision that I wanted to lose weight. If you think you’re addicted to overeating, your mirror is your proof.

I threw away the candy with the candy bar wrappers and stopped eating a lot of other unhealthy foods, too. Now I’m no longer fat, and I love it. I’m not afraid of looking in mirrors, and I don’t think up dumb excuses to start overeating again. I quit. You can, too.

Are you a former fatty? Share your story by responding to this blog.

Good Intentions Are Not Enough

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 24 May 2009 16:21:00 +0000

I was talking to someone the other day about their struggle with losing weight. She told me that every day she gets up she intends to eat a certain way, but when she goes to work there are donuts and she "has" to have one. If there is candy on someone's desk, she has to take a small handful. It's just too difficult for her to pass that bowl.....or donut.

Good intentions are wonderful but look at the reality of the situation. You are in charge of whether of not you take the donut or candy. It seems so many times that people don't take any responsibility for eating the crap. But it IS your responsibility.

I remember doing these things too. It was almost as if I had the diet plan in place, then I hoped something wouldn't sabatage my day---like someone offering me cookies---because if they did, it wasn't my fault and I would eat them.

Responsibility! That's the key to quitting your addiction. And the thing is, when you take responsibility and pass the donut, candy, cookies---whatever, you will become stronger and your goal is within reach. You are running your own show!

Good intentions are not enough.

Are You Willing to be Uncomfortable?

misslindajoy@gmail.com (misslja) — Sun, 17 May 2009 16:38:00 +0000

I was at the gym today listening to a great, uplifting tape I had downloaded on my ipod about how anyone can change their life and become who they want to be. The person running the teleseminar was saying you have to be able to get out of your comfort zone in order to move to the next level. I got that right away. And I know she's right.

She went on to say that she thought it would be good for everyone to write down on a piece of paper 5 situations in their life where you achieved something great. After a few moments (since I was at the gym I thought of a few things) she said "didn't each one of the things you listed require you to get out of your comfort zone?" Yes, each one did.

If you don't learn to be uncomfortable you won't be able to accomplish the big things in life. If you're reading my blog I think you are probably dealing with an addiction. I think in knowing you MUST be uncomfortable at times will give you a freedom now. In the past you may have thought that something was WRONG because you were uncomfortable. Now you can consider that it isn't just normal, it's necessary in order to take that leap and do the thing you need to do.