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        <title>Time Warner - 125th in the Queue? Really?</title>
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        <summary>So, I opened my email today and had the following from Time Warner: Need Help? Let's Chat. You can get the answers you need quickly and easily online. Our Chat service offers: • 24/7 access to live Chat agents •...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>So, I opened my email today and had the following from Time Warner:</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #0000ff;">Need Help? Let's Chat.    <a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc126883401538f5c6b00970b-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;" /> <a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e894fb5ef970d-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;" /><a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e894fb667970d-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;"><img alt="Kitchen phone" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc1268834014e894fb667970d" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e894fb667970d-200wi" style="width: 200px; margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px;" title="Kitchen phone" /></a> </span></strong></p>
<p>You can get the answers you need <em><strong>quickly and easily </strong></em>online. Our <a href="http://kansascity-mail.timewarnercable.com/Portal/view.aspx?uh=3005254348101975875&amp;t=1142129&amp;a=Click&amp;s=273502&amp;m=273503&amp;b=81089&amp;l=18671&amp;w=223" target="_blank" title="Chat"><strong>Chat</strong></a> service offers:<br /><br /><span style="color: #6000bf;">• 24/7 access to live <a href="http://kansascity-mail.timewarnercable.com/Portal/view.aspx?uh=3005254348101975875&amp;t=1142130&amp;a=Click&amp;s=273502&amp;m=273503&amp;b=81089&amp;l=18671&amp;w=223" target="_blank" title="Chat agents"><strong>Chat agents</strong></a></span><br /><span style="color: #6000bf;">• A user friendly format </span><br /><span style="color: #6000bf;">• Easy-to-find links throughout our website </span><br /><span style="color: #6000bf;">• Advanced technology that can provide remote diagnostics for your Road Runner<sup>®</sup> Broadband</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #111111;">As it happened, our phone line, which we run through them, wasn't working, so I thought, "Sure, let's give it a try." (Let's just call that Mistake #57 w/me and Time Warner...<a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/2010/03/you-call-that-customer-service.html" target="_blank" title="You Call That Customer Service?">we have a history</a>).</span></p>
<p>When I got to the Chat screen, I had to give them a bunch of personal data, but presumably, they already have that, along with the rights to my 1st born child, so I gave them what they wanted, and the next screen said this:</p>
<p><span style="color: #0060bf;"><strong>You are waiting for an analyst to assist you. </strong></span></p>
<div id="queuePosition"><span style="color: #0060bf;"><strong>You are currently 125 in the queue.</strong></span></div>
<div><span style="color: #0060bf;"><strong> </strong></span></div>
<div><span style="color: #111111;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><strong>125? </strong></span>Really, Time Warner? How do you even type that with a straight face? How do you maintain any semblance of business integrity when you tell someone that they are 125th in line to CHAT with one of your extremely intelligent customer advisers?</span></div>
<div><span style="color: #111111;"> </span></div>
<div><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><span style="font-size: 13pt;"><strong><span style="color: #111111;">125th in line?</span></strong></span></em></span></div>
<div><span style="color: #111111;"> </span></div>
<div><span style="color: #111111;">Wow, Time Warner, you have taken service to a whole new level. I'm not quite sure how this qualifies for 24/7, other than stringing me along for my whole day off. I get to blog while I'm waiting. I suppose there's that. Um, yeah...</span></div>
<div><span style="color: #111111;"> </span></div>
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        <title>Creeper at the Movies</title>
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        <published>2011-06-15T11:10:03-07:00</published>
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        <summary>OK, is it just me, or is it weird for a guy to go to the movies, by himself, with the intent of picking up women? Creepers. Yuck! So, my High School Daughter (HS Girl) and I went to a...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><span style="color: #482c1b;"><em><strong>OK, is it just me, or is it weird for a guy to go to the movies, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">by himself</span>, with the <span style="text-decoration: underline;">intent </span>of picking up women?</strong></em></span></p>
<p>Creepers. Yuck!</p>
<p>So, my High School Daughter (HS Girl) and I went to a movie the other night (Super 8 - which was great, by the way), and we decided to stop in line at the concessions. We were third in line and discussing what to get.</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;"><strong>Balanced Babe:</strong></span> Mmm...I haven't had popcorn in forever. We have to get some.</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e;">HS Girl:</span> I don't like movie popcorn...it's too salty.</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;">BB:</span> How could you not like movie popcorn? It's the best...it's so bad for us...but I don't care. Yum-oh.</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e;">HS Girl:</span> I want something sweet.</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;">BB: </span>(whispering) I have M&amp;M's...</p>
<p>Just then, Creeper (directly in front of us) turns around and <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">grins</span> leers at us. He has to kind of peer up at us - me, 5'11, and HS Girl, towering above him in all of her own teen stretched out glory, complete with braid down to her waist.</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;">BB: </span>Uh...helloo??</p>
<p>Creeper: I like to listen.</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;">BB:</span> Uh, yes...? (expecting him to utter some sort of excuse or apology for eavesdropping)</p>
<p>Creeper: And I've always loved tall women, so I couldn't help myself...</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e;">HS Girl: </span>(eyes wide, smirk on her face, speechless)</p>
<p><span style="color: #482c1b;">BB: </span>OKayyy...</p>
<p>Creeper turns back around.</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e;">HS Girl:</span> (whispering) Flash your wedding ring!!! (explodes into a flood of giggles...)</p>
<p>Can I just say, "Not ok, Creeper Dude. Not ok." And as far as I'm concerned, he wasn't necessarily focused on me. My daughter was oblivious, but she can easily be taken for older than her 16 years. He could have been hitting on either one of us. In the end, her laughter shamed him on his creeper's way.</p>
<p>But, <em><strong>YUCK</strong></em>!</p>
<p>This is why women never, ever, ever, ever want to go to the movies alone...God forbid. Reminds me of the old Mad TV skit... <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTFZyl7hfBw" target="_blank" title="Can I Have Your Number">"Can I Have Your Number?"</a> Hilarious. In that case, the "creeper" was played by a young woman, dressed as a young man. Too funny.</p>
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        <title>Becoming Aware: World MS Day 2011</title>
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        <published>2011-05-30T08:56:15-07:00</published>
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        <summary>And now for a word from Simply C... My modus operandi recently has been, quite frankly, a bit “a day late and a dollar short". My post today is no exception. In addition to being Towel Day, Geek Pride Day,...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><span style="color: #c00000;"><strong><em><span style="font-family: georgia,palatino; font-size: 12pt;">And now for a word from Simply C...</span></em></strong></span></p>
<p>My modus operandi recently has been, quite frankly, a bit “a day late and a dollar short". My post today is no exception. In addition to being Towel Day, Geek Pride Day, National Tap Dance Day, and National Missing Children’s Day, Wednesday, May 25th was also the 2nd Annual <a href="http://worldmsday.org/" style="color: #0000bf;" target="_self">World MS Day</a>.</p>
<p>This year’s worldwide, Multiple Sclerosis (“MS”) awareness-raising event highlighted the issue of <em>MS and Employment</em>.  As a full-time employed SWF in her early 40’s and living with MS, this topic is of significant interest and concern to me, as it is to nearly every person with MS and a member of the work force. At the <a href="http://worldmsday.org/" style="color: #0000bf;" target="_self">World MS Day</a> website, you can provide support by signing the petition and adding your voice to the many who want to bring awareness to employers and policy makers and help to keep those with MS working for as long as possible.</p>
<p>For my awareness-raising effort, I’ll share my introduction to MS.</p>
<p>After abruptly losing vision in my left eye, I was diagnosed with MS three months after my 40th birthday. Hardly a warm welcome into the wonderful world of Forty-Something that I’d heard and read so much about. My diagnosis was a shock. At the time, I had not the slightest clue what MS was and I didn’t know anyone with the disease. That all changed in the Fall of my 40th year. I quickly learned that MS is an auto-immune disease that affects the central nervous system (the brain, optic nerves and spinal cord), particularly the myelin sheath that protects the nerve fibers.  MS affects at least twice as many women than men. Generally, people are diagnosed between the ages of 20 and 40, but sometimes diagnoses are made in individuals much younger than 20 and even in some who are much older than 50. Worldwide, it is believed that over two million people are affected by MS. Symptoms range from numbness to vision loss.  Extreme fatigue to walking difficulties. Depression to bladder dysfunction.  MS symptoms, their severity, and their effects vary greatly from person to person. Currently, there is no cure for MS. MS is every day and you don't always know what it might bring each day. One certainty of MS exists: uncertainty.</p>
<p>By no means is it lost on me that in the vast catalog of human diseases, deadly and debilitating, MS is <em>far</em> from the worst. But, to remain frank, MS has been frustrating, annoying, exhausting, expensive, sometimes depressing, and, well, truly a pain in the… well, right now, my right forearm. MS has been an eye-opener.  Every now and then, it's a plan wrecker. My biggest complaint is that it's an energy robber. In some respects, it's a game changer. It's absolutely a tolerance tester! On a positive note, MS has also been an opportunity maker.  I bet every person with MS would tell you it's a will challenger. (That’s a good thing!) I continue to be deeply moved each time MS reveals my support ralliers. Indeed, MS has been a love and friendship reminder.</p>
<p>The National MS Society uploaded this video to You Tube. Although it is over four years old, I think it educates and delivers a message that’s right on point: despite the challenges, we <em>must</em> keep moving forward. <a href="http://youtu.be/UIBbgWabzUw" style="color: #0000bf;" target="_blank">Join the Movement</a>.</p>
<p>Additional information about MS and World MS Day is available at the National MS Society's website. (<a href="http://www.nationalmssociety.org" style="color: #0000bf;">www.nationalmssociety.org</a>)</p>
<p>I can't remedy being a few days late, but we all can help with the many research dollars short. If interested in providing financial support, the National MS Society encourages you to <a href="www.nationalmssociety.org/get-involved/events/world-ms-day/index.aspx" style="color: #0000bf;" target="_blank">"Think globally and act locally"</a> <a href="http://www.typepad.com/site/blogs/6a00e553bbc126883400e553a06f868833/post/6a00e553bbc1268834014e883b04b1970d/www.nationalmssociety.org/get-involved/events/world-ms-day/index.aspx" target="_self" />by texting <strong>MSAWARE</strong> to <strong>20222</strong> to donate $5 to the National MS Society. For the Facebook savvy, if you go to <a href="http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/officialpureprotein" style="color: #0000bf;" target="_blank" title="Pure Protein's Facebook page">Pure Protein's Facebook</a> page and "Like" them, they will donate $1 to the National MS Society. The goal is to raise $200,000.</p>
<p>Until May 2012, we’ll keep on keeping on and, with each World MS Day and awareness rising, who knows... Along this journey that I hope to freely move for many, many years, one day soon I may become a <em><strong>cured</strong></em> MS sufferer. Together, we continue moving forward and remaining grateful. I thank you for your willingness to become aware. </p>
<p> <span style="font-family: georgia,palatino; color: #c00000; font-size: 13pt;"><em><strong>Simply... </strong></em><em><strong>C</strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/pP3yYHMtj54" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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        <title>Loss of Spouse vs Loss of Hand?</title>
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        <published>2011-05-04T08:14:39-07:00</published>
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        <summary>As I browsed through our local paper this morning, an old ritual that I now cherish when I have the time, I came across a column in our Neighborhood News section. At first, I confess that I found myself becoming...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>As I browsed through our local paper this morning, an old ritual that I now cherish when I have the time, I came across a column in our Neighborhood News section. At first, I confess that I found myself becoming somewhat incensed by what I thought to be the author's audacity of <a href="http://www.kansascity.com/2011/05/03/2846862/therese-park-losing-touch-with.html" target="_blank" title="Losing Touch with a Life Companion">comparing her friend's loss </a>of her husband of over 50 years to the pain she felt after carpal tunnel surgery on her hand.</p>
<p>What the...? How can you possibly liken the loss of a spouse to the temporary loss of the use of one's hand?</p>
<p>But then I read on, and Therese Park's perspective was truly one of empathy. She said that she learned that:</p>
<blockquote>
<p>"the love and trust between man and wife is similar to that of my two hands, and that losing one's spouse is the same tragedy as one hand losing its partner. The only difference between these two cases is that a person can lose a hand and can still live a full life, but the empty space one spouse leaves in another's life will never be filled."</p>
</blockquote>
<p>While I certainly agree with Park's empathetic statement above (regarding the empty space), I still had a little trouble with the first part of it (that "losing one's spouse is the same tragedy as one hand losing its partner"). In any case, I can see the parallels she drew, and the column hit me at a time when a friend of mine has experienced the death of a parent, and the other parent is coping with this very loss - the loss of a spouse of over 50 years. At times like these, I am always taken back to the loss of my own mother, almost 20 years ago -- and how very grief-stricken my father was at that time. Each time a friend goes through this same loss, all of those wounds seem afresh to me.</p>
<p>To those of you out there who still have your mommies, hug them tight this Mother's Day. They won't always be there. I recognize that parental relationships are not always easy, but when a parent is gone, they are gone forever. My advice? Take the time to honor and cherish your mother this weekend. You'll be glad you did.</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e; font-size: 13pt;"><em><strong>Balanced Babe - Molly Wendland</strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/OLZVUJoebX8" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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        <title>Character...A Most Important Possession</title>
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        <published>2011-05-02T06:36:23-07:00</published>
        <updated>2011-05-02T06:38:38-07:00</updated>
        <summary>In recent weeks, I have found myself bombarded with numerous situations that have caused me to question the values of others and just what on earth they could possibly be thinking. These "others" range from adolescents all the way to...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>In recent weeks, I have found myself bombarded with numerous situations that have caused me to question the values of others and just what on earth they could possibly be thinking. These "others" range from adolescents all the way to older adults, and in spite of trying my very best not to, it tends to make one start to feel a bit superior. I'm not saying that I'm doing the total superiority dance. No, not totally. But geez, what are some of these people thinking?</p>
<p>At the risk of hurting feelings and outing people I care about, I won't go into details here. Rather, I will stick to the point I am at now, which is one of reflection. As parents, we all hope to impart some sort of wisdom upon our children. We hope to ingrain in them the things that we deem important, indeed even necessary, for them to lead a fruitful, fulfilling life. In attempting to impart this wisdom, my husband and I often find ourselves at odds with today's materialistic society.</p>
<p>With the children, I have to think that the apple doesn't fall from the tree. Cheaters, for example, breed cheaters, right? Or, at the very least, overbearing parents with unrealistic standards breed cheating children? Try as I may to convince my kids that <em><strong>"cheaters <span style="text-decoration: underline;">never</span> prosper"</strong></em>,<strong> </strong>it's hard for them to do all the work necessary to achieve the A's the ethical way, yet <em><strong>constantly </strong></em>see others skate by the cheater's way (and yes, sadly, I do mean constantly). We remind them that in the end, the kid who cheats knows inside that she cheated, and God knows that she cheated. This is  especially true with subjects like math; it will truly hurt her in the long run. Still, it's hard for the kids on the straight and narrow.</p>
<p>And the adults who seem to trample over those in their path to get what they want? Naturally, I have even less patience for them. It's all I can do to be in the same room with people like that. As adults, we tell ourselves that "they'll get theirs in the end," "Karma will win out," etc.</p>
<p>But you know what? Outside of my marriage, the single most important possession I have is my character. And that's really all I need to know. And as my kids get older (now 16 and 19), they're really beginning to get that, too. Integrity is central to good character. They go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other.</p>
<p>I leave you with a couple of my favorite quotes on this topic:</p>
<p>The best index to a person’s character is (a) how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can’t fight back. <br />— <em>Abigail van Buren (Pauline Esther Friedman), American newspaper advice columnist (1918-2002)</em></p>
<p>Good character is more to be praised than outstanding talent. Most talents are, to some extent, a gift. Good character, by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it piece by piece -- by thought, choice, courage and determination.</p>
<p>— <em>John Luther</em></p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e; font-size: 13pt;"><strong><em>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</em></strong></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/kfpMSFfhN5M" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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    <entry>
        <title>We Gonna' Pump You Up!</title>
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        <published>2011-04-21T07:00:19-07:00</published>
        <updated>2011-04-21T07:00:19-07:00</updated>
        <summary>My good friend (who has not yet chosen her moniker, so we'll call her "Simply C" for now, but trust me, you are going to love her when she starts writing here soon) found these fabulous examples of the latest...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="Fashion" />
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p> <a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f568970b-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: left;"><img alt="Anchors Aweigh Pumps" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f568970b" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f568970b-200wi" style="width: 180px; margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px;" title="Anchors Aweigh Pumps" /></a></p>
<p>My good friend (who has not yet chosen her moniker, so we'll call her "Simply C" for now, but trust me, you are going to love her when she starts writing here soon) found these fabulous examples of the latest trends in <em><strong>practical </strong></em>footwear for today's fashion forward gal whose feet are -- ahem -- on the larger side. My own feet are not small - size 10. My daughter's are size 13 to 14 -- yes, really. So, shopping is extremely challenging. Read on for "Simply C's" findings!</p>
<p>I am on the search for mid heel height slingback pump. And this is the shoe that reminded me of all the lovely options out there in size 12 M.  Simply perfect for those summer days on the yacht, don’t you agree?  Ahoy!</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">And now, bring in the Mary Janes…<a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f6c3970b-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;" /> <img alt="Mary Janes" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f6c3970b" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc126883401538e07f6c3970b-200wi" style="width: 180px; margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px;" title="Mary Janes" /></p>
<p>  John Fluevog Women's Zaza Mary Jane Pump<a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb59b8970d-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;" /></p>
<p>Originally $238.95, but on sale for $171.95… and only one pair of size 12 M left in stock. If there was any way the Lakers could make the Championships this year, in this shoe, wouldn’t I be just *the* fan? I believe the word is “zaza”. </p>
<p><strong>Funtasma by Pleaser  Maryjane Pump – 50G<a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5cd0970d-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: right;"><img alt="50G Mary Jane Pumps" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5cd0970d" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5cd0970d-200wi" style="width: 180px; margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px;" title="50G Mary Jane Pumps" /></a> </strong></p>
<p>Don’t let the 50G fool you. They’re only $32.95… and that’s full price! Finally, a sensible platform heel that you can comfortably wear and walk all over town. And then, when you’re ready to call it a day, you may be able to click your heels three times and “there’s no place like home” yourself back to the comforts of your own abode. If that is possible, I’d consider this shoe in every color. Right now, I’ll have to settle for sparkly cotton candy in 12. Actually, for the “Pleaser” brand, this is an awfully tame, mind you, still ugly, shoe.</p>
<p> </p>
<p><a href="http://www.thefind.com/buy-2t645BWlXCJ?result_view_id=1eff00b90ec691d5019e17e0f32e1e88%3A0000&amp;result_impression_id=1eff00b90ec691d5019e17e0f32e1e88%3A0012&amp;srcquery=pleaser+ballet+heels" /></p>
<p><a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5dce970d-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: left;"><img alt="Black Swan Pumps" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5dce970d" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e87fb5dce970d-200wi" style="width: 180px; margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px;" title="Black Swan Pumps" /></a> I just have no words. And they’re $98.69 on Amazon.com.  If that’s not torture, it must be “Black Swan” on training wheels.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>Simply C, you are just too funny! Now, which ones for work today??? Decisions, decisions... ;-)</p>
<p><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif; color: #347d7e; font-size: 13pt;"><em><strong>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/W1QKhBKUbK0" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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    <entry>
        <title>PostSecret Art Project</title>
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        <published>2011-04-08T06:30:41-07:00</published>
        <updated>2011-04-07T06:22:52-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Have you seen this project? I am kind of blown away by it. I found out about PostSecret through my parent connection newsletter from my daughter's college. The creator thought it would be cool for people to have an anonymous...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><img alt="PostSecret" src="http://www.postsecretcommunity.com/misc/blog_logo.gif" />    Have you seen <a href="http://www.postsecret.com/" target="_blank" title="PostSecret">this project</a>? I am kind of blown away by it. I found out about PostSecret through my parent connection newsletter from my daughter's college.</p>
<p>The creator thought it would be cool for people to have an anonymous way to share their secrets (fears, hopes, dreams, etc.). So, what you do is send in a postcard (handmade or original ones seem to take preference when getting published) with your "secret" written on the blank side. Or, you can even submit your secret via Twitter <a href="http://twitter.com/secretarchive">http://twitter.com/secretarchive</a> . It's turned into quite the domino effect, with philanthropic events (promoting suicide prevention and the like) happening all over the country and in British Columbia. The project appears to have been going on since January of 2005 and is now drawing to its close, so hurry if you want to "enter" your secret!</p>
<p>Here's a link:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.postsecret.com/" target="_blank" title="PostSecret Project">http://www.postsecret.com/</a></p>
<p>Happy Surfing (and/or posting of your own secrets)!</p>
<p><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif; color: #347d7e;"><em><strong><span style="font-size: 13pt;">Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</span></strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/0RRgxsjeQOI" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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    <entry>
        <title>Dude, It's a Car, Not a Recycling Bin!</title>
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        <published>2011-04-06T11:35:14-07:00</published>
        <updated>2011-04-06T11:35:14-07:00</updated>
        <summary>The picture really says it all here. And I thought I let my car get a little messy now and then. I mean I've heard of hoarders, but this is over the top. I parked next to this car at...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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        <category scheme="http://www.sixapart.com/ns/types#category" term="White Trash Living" />
        
        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="Clutter" />
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        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="Junk" />
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        <category scheme="http://sixapart.com/ns/types#tag" term="White Trash" />
        
<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e606d544a970c-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: left;"><img alt="Newspaper Car" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc1268834014e606d544a970c" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc1268834014e606d544a970c-320wi" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px;" title="Newspaper Car" /></a> The picture really says it all here. And I thought <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>I </strong></em></span>let <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>my </strong></em></span>car get a little messy now and then. I mean I've heard of hoarders, but this is over the top. I parked next to this car at the library last night...the newspapers were all still in their plastic wrappers. The one on top, riding shotgun in the front seat, was from October 20th, 2010...gotta stay up to date on your current events, you know. There were about 50 hardback books in the backseat, as well, and the car was nearly full.</p>
<p>Wow...white trash living at its finest!</p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e; font-size: 13pt;"><em><strong>Balanced Babe - Molly Wendland</strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/uOKIeaXZH_g" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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    <entry>
        <title>Beyaz...a lot of B.S.?</title>
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        <id>tag:typepad.com,2003:post-6a00e553bbc1268834014e86516f39970d</id>
        <published>2011-03-01T11:57:00-08:00</published>
        <updated>2011-04-06T11:57:39-07:00</updated>
        <summary>Have you seen the ads for Beyaz birth control? This campaign is wrong on so many levels...truly, my first reaction was one of irony/humor. Did the gurus in Bayer's mammoth marketing department honestly not realize that the name sounds like...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><strong>Have you seen the ads for <em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Beyaz </span></em>birth control? </strong>This campaign is wrong on so many levels...truly, my first reaction was one of irony/humor. Did the gurus in Bayer's mammoth marketing department honestly not realize that the name sounds like they are saying "B.S" over and over? Seriously?</p>
<p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdSmXKRqFHM">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdSmXKRqFHM</a> </p>
<p><span style="color: #4040ff;"><em><strong>(Note: Apparently this link is no longer functional in the normal sense, but if you copy and paste it into a new browser, it does work...it really is worth it...talk about an inane commercial.) </strong></em></span></p>
<p>But on a much deeper level, the women in this ad are portrayed as if they are a pack of materialistic Stepford wives on a mission to find their next shopping conquest. Will it be:</p>
<ul>
<li>A trip to Paris</li>
<li>A new dream house</li>
<li>A graduate degree</li>
<li>A dream guy (um, yeah...)</li>
</ul>
<p>All while they coyly wave off the cute little stork carrying a wrapped up bundle of "un-joy".</p>
<p>The commercial is demeaning to women and the committed relationships that we cultivate. Shame on Bayer for promoting their product via this shallow, showy advertising.</p>
<p><span style="background-color: #fdeee0; color: #347d7e; font-size: 13pt;"><em><strong>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</strong></em></span></p>
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        <title>Backpack Texting...Really?</title>
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        <published>2011-02-09T11:16:48-08:00</published>
        <updated>2011-02-09T11:16:48-08:00</updated>
        <summary>So, my daughter told me about a phenomena at her school that seems to be prevalent at high schools (and probably middle schools) everywhere. Backpack texting. Yep. Kids will find a way to text, regardless of the systems in place...</summary>
        <author>
            <name>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</name>
        </author>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/a_mothers_balancing_act/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p><em><strong>So, my daughter told me about a phenomena at her school that seems to be prevalent at high schools (and probably middle schools) everywhere.</strong></em></p>
<p><span style="color: #347d7e;"><strong>Backpack texting.<a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc12688340147e274c903970b-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="display: inline;" /> <br /></strong></span></p>
<p><a href="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc12688340148c87dd00e970c-popup" onclick="window.open( this.href, '_blank', 'width=640,height=480,scrollbars=no,resizable=no,toolbar=no,directories=no,location=no,menubar=no,status=no,left=0,top=0' ); return false" style="float: left;"><img alt="IMG_6313" class="asset  asset-image at-xid-6a00e553bbc12688340148c87dd00e970c" src="http://mothersbalancingact.typepad.com/.a/6a00e553bbc12688340148c87dd00e970c-120wi" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px;" title="IMG_6313" /></a> Yep. Kids will find a way to text, regardless of the systems in place to prevent them from doing so. Technically speaking, our school regulations state:</p>
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<p>"Cell phones and blackberries are not to be used during the school day. Cell phones will be confiscated if students use them during the day and will be returned by the end of the day or the following school day."</p>
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<p>Well, yeah...let's see. We have approximately 560 girls at my daughter's school. I would estimate that 555 of them have a cell phone. Of those 555, I would also estimate that 554 of them have the phone turned on while at school but on vibrate or silent mode. That way, if Mom or Dad needs to send them a text, they can check for messages in between classes or over lunch ("I will be working late." "You left your Lit book @ home. Do you need it?" "Just got your text from this morning. Sorry. Can't bring the Lit book you left @ home. I'm @ work..."). This is not intended as a device to be used all day...like during class!</p>
<p>But apparently, here's what happens with <span style="text-decoration: line-through;">some </span>many of the girls:</p>
<p>The teacher is lecturing. The student reaches into her backpack and inconspicuously (one-handed) types a text to a friend in another class (or sitting across the room!). When I asked my daughter how a girl could possibly do this without looking at her phone, she shrugged me off and said, "It's not that hard, Mom...well, <em><strong>I </strong></em>don't do it, <em><strong>obviously</strong></em>." Obviously...</p>
<p>So, I asked her to send me a backpack text -- right then.</p>
<p>Here's what I got:</p>
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<p>Hello mu mdnr ud 3 =1%)!</p>
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<p>I can't remember what she said she tried to type!</p>
<p>Hmmm...either she:</p>
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<li>Was telling the truth about not being a backpack texter, OR</li>
<li>Sent a complete gobbledegook text to placate me.</li>
</ol>
<p>I'll take # 1, thank you very much!</p>
<p>Here's what I got on my Samsung Captivate when I tried to backpack text:</p>
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<p>Nf czhvbgsf nx,mmm</p>
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<p>In case you somehow couldn't decipher my message, that says:</p>
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<p>My Daugter is Cool</p>
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<p><span style="color: #347d7e; font-size: 15pt;"><em><strong>Balanced Babe (Molly Wendland)</strong></em></span></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMothersBalancingAct/~4/qPmK_izKf3c" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>



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