Abstract Advice

Fairwell to All

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:35:00 -0400

Well, it's been a fun few months doing this, but it is time I take my leave. I was considering doing this by myself, I have the equipment to do a vlog, but alas all things must come to an end.

There are several reasons why I am not continuing to make episodes, but I don't really need to get into the nitty gritty stuff here. To the people who stuck by me and encouraged me even as I failed, I thank you.

This isn't an end for me, just a new beginning. I can't say I didn't try, and I will take all that I have learned from this forward into my future!

Dear Abstract - Being a Shoulder

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 10:50:00 -0400

Dear Abstract,

I always try to be there for my friends. Whatever they need when ever they need it. Time and time again this is proving to be a one way street. How do I keep being their shoulder when they never seem to do the same? HELP

From: Help!

Dear Help,

I know this is the number one thing you're "not supposed to say" when giving advice, but I'll say it anyway. I've been there before many times, and the short version of my answer is that it depends on the kind of friendship you have.

When you're a generally helpful person, people begin to rely on you for an ear, or a second opinion more often than other people. This can be great way of getting closer and connecting to friends. Sometimes; however, a friend who only uses you to "be there for them" and never seems to reciprocate or even be a friend outside of that can become a "patient". What people don't realize is that you can't be friends with your patients. A real friend is someone you can rely on, knowing that you'll be there for each other.

When a friendship gets to the point where you feel you can't rely on them, you need to take that as a warning. If they mean a lot to you, talk to them about your feelings. Sometimes we can feel like someone isn't there for us when in reality they are.

No matter what you decide to do, here's something that's helped me when I have felt frustrated like you are now. I try to live by the idea 'act like the person you want to be, not the person you think you are'. What does this mean to me in this type of situation? As frustrating as people can be, and as much as you feel like you're banging your head against the wall sometimes, you are being a good person by being there for them. Regardless of how they act, how you act dictates who you are.

In the long run, it really does make you a better person in general learning to listen, help, or even be there for someone. And remind yourself that in a lot of cases; take the compliment that they trust you enough to come to you. In the end, that tells you a whole lot more about your character than the frustration of feeling used can.

~AA~

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Moving On

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:19:00 -0400

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Abstract Advice - 01x06 - Give & Take

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 12:25:00 -0400

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Abstract Advice - 01x05 - Jealousy & Friendship

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:20:00 -0400

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Nice Guys Finish Last

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:30:00 -0400

This one was more of a rant than a question. I hope you like it, it's a little different than I'm used to!

Special thanks to:

Amy Giofu and Matthew McKenna for guest starring

New2You buy and sell for the use of their front door (http://www.new2you.ca)

And of course, as always, the magnificant Ryan Dunphy for... pretty much everything else!

The Next Video....

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 16:07:00 -0400

So we decided to take a new direction this time, I hope you like it! I'm a little nervous, because I do make a bit of a fool of myself but it is a little lighter than the previous videos, so I hope you all enjoy!

Matt McKenna and Amy Giofu star in this video with me, and Ryan Dunphy will have to yet again take on the challenge of working tirelessly to make me look good on camera, especially as this concept is in a different format than we have done previously!

I have been taken aback by the amount of overwhelming support and encouragement not only from those who have helped me directly with the videos, but those who have subscribed, written in, and told others about them! I have no doubt in my mind that I am one lucky lady for having so many wonderful people in her life!

So cross your fingers, and thanks again for... well... everything!

Abstract Advice - 01x03 - Empathy

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 12:55:00 -0400

So this was just a little blurb in response to a question I had. Hope you enjoy it, I have another video in the works that I am really excited about so cross your fingers!

Anti-Bullying Video Response to "What's Going On"

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 23:20:00 -0400

And here we go!

admin@abstractadvice.ca — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 13:47:00 -0400