Here are some of our latest posts to check out (folks are daydreaming lately!):

I was trying to daydream, but my mind kept wandering.

Daydreaming Along Singing Our Song……..

If you’ve mentioned our ADDer World ADHD Social Network on your blog or website in an article or post, please let me know and I will let our members know where they can read your post. Keath Low has a great blog about A.D.D. and she mentioned ADDer World here. Also another member, Jeff recently mentioned our ADDer World Social network on his always interesting blog here.

Also, I would like to make a very special mention of my Brother-in-Law’s (Joan’s Brother) wonderful book:

 Leonardo da Vinci: The Life and Work of a Genius By Matthew Landrus

(( Matthew Landrus is Associate Lecturer and Internal Examiner for the Open University. He has recently completed his DPhil at Oxford University, where his thesis was entitled Leonardo’s Canons: Standards and Practices of Proportional Design in His Early Work. He holds an MA from the University of Louisville and was awarded the prestigious Oxford University Hulme Fellowship. Landrus has written numerous articles, including One Hundred Years of Powered Flight 1903–2003, Leonardo da Vinci’s Flying Machine with Professor Martin Kemp.))

I will be back to writing new posts in just a couple days!

Brilliant wishes!

Bryan

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We have had some great, helpful books given away by fantastic authors over the last year, Nancy Ratey, Gina Pera, Bryan Robinson, Barbara Sher, Lara Honos-Webb, Nancy Irwin and Kenneth Kay. Thank you very much to each of these authors for offering their autographed books to our ADDer World ADHD Social Network members! There are more to come, but first…

To start off 2010 I am giving away 13 signed copies of my new book Adult ADHD can be Sexy!

I am very, very happy and proud of my new book which will be released this coming summer! This isn’t your usual book about ADHD and it is not designed for beginners to the world of ADHD! However, if you have any interest at all in relationships, love and intimacy in connection with ADHD, this is a book I believe you will enjoy and get something special out of!

Let me be clear, this new book is not about taking this step or that step, it isn’t about paying bills or getting organized, it is about falling and staying in love, losing love, getting over the past and moving on. I write about intimacy, intimately in this book. And, of course, I explain why I believe Adult ADHD can be Sexy! If you like the edge, this is a book clearly on the edge. I also include a special chapter about modern day vampires and ADDers, with more details than I revealed in a recent blog post! No, you probably haven’t read a book like this before, certainly not in connection with ADHD!

Adult ADHD can be Sexy is going to bring smiles to some of your faces, some tears, bring back a few memories too and with a book like this it will perhaps ruffle a few feathers as well. Ultimately though, I believe there are parts we can all relate to by visiting places together we have been and in many cases places we are still at in love, hope and searching for answers. I offer the answers I have found which have helped me and I believe in them. In the same time frame that I wrote Adult ADHD can be Sexy I also wrote 3 e-books, so if you want to get a good idea where my thoughts were at, please feel free to read those e-books as they are freely available here. The  juicy, edgy stuff though – that was reserved for this new book! It’s all about love, readers, all about love!

Okay, so how to win a free autographed copy:

It’s very simple and easy. Get the word out about our ADDer World ADHD Social Network and let folks know to use your name when joining! There is a ‘who referred’ question all new members must answer when joining. Many of you refer new members all the time, so why not have the opportunity to win an autographed book while doing it! The top 12 referrers will automatically receive a signed copy of Adult ADHD can be Sexy!  The 13^th copy will be raffled off to members who have at least referred 1 or 2 new members! I want every member to have the opportunity to win a copy! Contest ends as soon as Adult ADHD can be Sexy is published and I have received the giveaway copies! That will be sometime between May and July. I did announce this contest a few days ago in an email to all members, and whoa, some of you got right to it! Thank you and keep on keeping on!

Only members can participate in this giveaway contest! All new members at any point during the contest can join in on the fun and start referring to be included.

If you are currently a member and would like to invite others that you believe would be interested in participating on our ADDer World Social Network, here is an easy way to invite them: click here to invite new members. If you have a blog, please feel free to blog about this contest and let your readers know they too can join and participate. I only ask that we do not spam, because ultimately we would like to attract members interested in our social network that want to participate by sharing their stories and experiences of life with ADHD or an ADHD family member or partner, professionals are always welcome too.

Feel free to reply with any questions or comments, you can email me too.

Have fun!

~Bryan

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The other day I came across an interview I did for ADD.about.com in August 2008, not too long after I published my first book. Keath Low conducted the interview; she is the caring and wonderful guide to ADD for About.com. Keath wanted this interview to focus on peer relationships. After re-reading this interview I contacted Keath and asked her if I could re-post it. The reason is because in 2010 I will be publishing my next book Adult ADHD can be Sexy, this new book is about relationships, love, intimacy and ADHD! I have discovered that there is nothing I enjoy writing about more. Relationships have had profound effects on my life and to be clear I have made a lot of mistakes within relationships, heartbreaks that have lived alive and well within me years after relationships ended or went awry.

In my first book One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir I revealed many of my difficulties, frustrations and heartbreaks from my relationships and I also discuss the success I have had within my current relationship with Joan, which is alive and strong as she and I enter our 6th year together. Since publication of One Boy’s Struggle I have continued to write about relationships here on this blog www.ADDerWorld.com and many of those articles have been the most popular. I have received far more emails concerning relationships than any other topic. I have also been asked time and time again to write a book about relationships and that’s what I have finally done.

When it comes to relationships I have read about the steps I can take, help I can received, directions for this conduct and that conduct, but on an emotional level I have always felt left wanting. What’s most interesting about this is that I believe many of us ADDers learn best on an emotional level where we figure things out from using all of our senses with regard to feelings rather than reasonings and step by step processes. Unfortunately, this emotional learning curve takes a long time, trial and error (lots of error in my experience) and is probably the reason not too many writers have taken this approach. I have been fortunate to have had success writing from an emotional, personal level and that’s the perspective I continue to take in Adult ADHD can be Sexy! My new book will be available this coming summer, please stay tuned to ADDer World, our ADHD Social Network as I will soon start contests giving away about a dozen copies!

2010 is going to be the best year ever!

Thanks for reading my thoughts and opinions! Best wishes to you in the new year! I hope you enjoy this interview from ’08:

Keath Low: ADD / ADHD can have a profound effect on peer relationships, even into adulthood. Sometimes the impact can be so great that an individual feels a tremendous sense of isolation. Once feeling isolated or alone, it can be very difficult to connect with others.

Bryan Hutchinson, author of One Boy’s Struggle: A Memoir – Surviving Life With Undiagnosed ADD, shares his experiences and offers some helpful strategies.

Keath Low: What Impact Does ADD Have on Peer Relationships?

Bryan Hutchinson: People with ADHD tend to keep to themselves, we have a hard time understanding those around us and we miss many normal communication cues. We are often confused as to what people really mean, especially at a young age. Maintaining relationships is even harder and requires a great amount of effort on our part; we forget about friends and sometimes stay out of contact for too long, which upsets others and this gives the impression we just don’t care about others. The impression that we don’t care is a false impression; we do care, but we simply do not maintain relationships in the same manner as those without ADHD. We get along best with those who are not judgmental and do not require constant contact.

Keath Low: What Were Your own Personal Experiences as a Child and Now as an Adult?

Hutchinson: As a child I felt I was different and I felt outside everyone else’s world. As a child I did not know why I could not get along with others. I would become distracted and lost during conversations. Other children believed I was a loner or a rebel because I did not associate with them. When I would get hyper and wild other kids were attracted to me and we would catch a lot of attention, especially in school, but this would get me in trouble with serious consequences, and this was another reason to draw into myself and keep to myself. I couldn’t get along and when I did, I got into trouble.

Many ADHD children are born leaders. They are energetic and have great ideas. Their social skills are limited, but because of their drive and ability to understand things quickly without bothering with too many details – this gives them leadership qualities. Unfortunately, this leadership trait can sometimes be squashed by teachers and parents because it is disruptive. I think it is a common mistake of parents and teachers not to recognize that a child may be a leader and go on to do great things, because at the child’s young age it is a distraction and seems a bit chaotic at times. Kids who could otherwise grow to become great leaders instead grow with rejection and stunted aspirations.

As an adult, social engagement challenges followed me and still have an impact. I have become better at maintaining relationships by knowing why I have difficulties and have learned to raise my awareness of others concerns and interests. ADDers can seem self-absorbed with so many distractions and inner thoughts; therefore it is important to purposely become curious of other people’s interests. For example, in relationships with females I used to fail to ask questions about their life and family. This made it seem as though I didn’t care much about who they were. I have learned to purposely increase my interest in others – most people without ADHD have this curiosity of others inherently, whereas we with ADHD must pay attention to it by realizing our differences and make up for it with purpose intent to be better – more sociable.

Keath Low: How Did You Improve Relationships?

Hutchinson: First, I had to understand I had a problem communicating. I needed help and therapy was the answer to my prayers. However, before therapy I was lucky in gaining the interest of mentors who helped me see where I needed to improve. If I had not been a pool player I think my social development would have taken longer, because in sports one must engage – even in such a sport as pool. Pool also requires a lot of mental conditioning and this helped me learn where I needed to improve and also highlighted my difficulties to focus.

Keath Low: What Strategies Do You Think Would Be Helpful For Children In School?

Hutchinson: First and foremost parents and teachers must understand that kids with ADHD are different and what restrictions and discipline is placed on them will affect them their entire lives. We might not seem like it, but we are very sensitive and take things to heart quickly and we remember things which cause pain very well, because pain and suffering are stimulating, but in a negative manner. All kids need a certain amount of discipline, but for parents with ADHD children, they must be more creative and use a reward system that emphasizes good behavior and decisions.

I suggest parents get their children involved in sports to build social skills. Not necessarily physical sports, but rather sports or activities which require more mental effort. Kids with ADHD are gifted with quick strategic minds and this could help them shine in the leadership skills and if they enjoy the activity enough they will find ways to get along better, rather than lose the activity and friendships it provides. However, drawing from my own childhood experiences, it is important for the child to learn to stick with it – I was always very tentative when introduced to new things and would try to quit before ever starting for fear of rejection, failure and punishment.

Keath Low: What Strategies Are Helpful for Adults?

Hutchinson: To purposely engage, ask questions and become interested in others. Peer relationships, I believe, are part of the cause for adults to abuse substances. A quick drink can help calm the mind and rest the nerves, allowing for the adult with ADHD to become more interested and therefore social, but this isn’t good for obvious reasons. Adults with ADHD need to learn to stop punishing themselves and realize that being different isn’t bad, it just provides some challenges which can be overcome by learning coping skills.

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On our ADDer World ADHD Social Network, I recently re-posted my first Holiday / Christmas message from 2 years ago first posted on this blog, where I started my crusade. It’s hard to believe I have been writing this blog for nearly 3 years! WoW how time flies. With close to 400 blog posts in that time, you may think that I would eventually get tired of writing so much, but no, actually, I have also put together 3 books and 3 free E-books, well, let’s be fair, “The Brilliant Reality of ADHD” is mostly a collection of posts from this blog, so if you would like a souvenir, or want to support my writing or need a great gift idea, there you have it! This leads me to (I enjoy being led from time to time)…

To a recent emailer asking me for tips and suggestions for dealing with the Holiday / Christmas season, I don’t really have that many (5 to be exact). For someone like me with ADHD you would think the Holiday season would be dreadful trying to keep up with presents and sending out cards, but guess what: I don’t really do those things.

The holidays, for me, are a time to enjoy what is going on, to look at the bright, colorful lights and simply take them in. I love this time of year and all the wonderful things being created around me. However, I do not send presents or cards to anyone, at most I send an email or text messages to family and close friends. I do not think of the Holidays as a time of year when I must suddenly purchase things for everyone in my family or my closest friends. To be absolutely honest, if I tried it would be miserable and I do not want to spoil the holidays over such things. I have also made it clear over the years that I do not expect such things delivered to me either. I would prefer family and friends spend that time and money on living the moments the holidays give us and may never come again! 

There are many online posts about tips for the Holidays and Christmas for ADDers such as myself, but I do not read them, or if I do, I do not follow them. Thanks for the wonderful intentions, but, alas, no thanks. If there’s one way to truly ruin my mood during the Holidays it is to try to be perfect, to try to meet expectations of sending this and that to this person or that person, it’s just too much and this is something I proudly gave up on – okay, well, I never really started. Now, on the other hand, anyone in my home on Christmas day will receive a gift and if your name is Joan (my wife), well, she receives many; our Christmas tree is seemingly bursting with colorful wrapped boxes to each other!  

So, to answer the email request, my tips and suggestions are as follows:

1. Don’t miss the holidays trying to meet unattainable expectations of self!
2. Keep everything as simple as possible.
3. Enjoy all that is going on around you, take in the lights, the colors, the carolers and oh, how nice are those Christmas window displays this time of year?! They do tend to shine brightly! Oh… shiny!
4. Say “I love you!” a lot!
5. (((((Hugs))))) for EVERYONE!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

XOXO

~Bryan

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Adult ADHD can be sexy for many reasons, the list is literally endless, and yet the majority of those reasons are not for good behavior. Being generally bad can be sexy too and if there’s one word that is synonymous with ADHD, whether it is spoken or unspoken that word would be: Bad.

Bad Manners, Bad Behavior, Bad Morals and Bad Person and on and on…

Bad, Selfish, Narcissistic, Ill-mannered, lazy, unmotivated, and Stupid, Idiotic, Procrastinator and the ever popular Crazy are just a few of the names which have become staples in the depository of names for those of us with ADHD. In Adult ADHD can be Sexy I address a few of them and yet it is impossible to address all of them, not to mention exhausting too. In the end, they all mean the same thing.

And, guess what…

Everyone has a touch of ADHD in them.

Who hasn’t been forgetful from time to time, or late for an appointment? Who hasn’t goofed up in class or failed to meet every expectation or standard? Who hasn’t broken a rule or two? Who hasn’t locked their keys in their car? I am sure there are people who haven’t done one or two of these things yet…, but that doesn’t mean they are not capable of such things, of making mistakes. As separate incidents that happen from time to time, but are not part of one’s normal day to day life, those things I mentioned are no big deal and can be laughed off or forgotten rather quickly. That isn’t necessarily so for someone with full blown ADHD, because these things happen over and over again. It’s the continual repetition of common mistakes, errors in judgment, forgetfulness, restlessness in mind or body, or both, and the unnerving inability to hold to or obey set rules and standards – it’s most of these things, but not limited to, which make up ADHD. And contrary to popular myth, it’s not naturally controllable without intervention and it’s most certainly not on purpose behavior. If those things were true, then there wouldn’t be ADHD.

The behaviors of ADHD are often called unacceptable, offensive and shameful. We are told this time and time again. We must correct our behavior, seek help and receive treatment. We are told this too over and over again. And indeed, I sincerely believe life with proper treatment for ADHD is better, but you know, it does get a bit tiresome to constantly read about and hear about what we need to do in order to be better, to help enhance our lives and, in effect, the lives of those around us. Every now and then it would be nice if someone just looked at me (or perhaps you or the one you love) and said, you know what, I like you just the way you are and you don’t have to change a bit for me! Wouldn’t that be nice?

And yet, Adult ADHD can be Sexy!?

However, why not take it even further…

Are ADDers the new Vampires?

You know, the sexy kind of biting lovers!

I read about vampires as today’s latest fashionable romantic fantasy for movies and books. Vampires are seductive, deadly, romantic, charismatic, dangerous, and the ultimate rebels. Are ADDers the new Vampires? Vampires are now sexy, sexier than just about anything! Ah, what a world we live in. Who wants to be compared to blood suckers and soulless creatures? Is this an apt comparison? You be the judge. Personally, I don’t like it, but it does have its allure… The Vampire is today’s Le Roi! And who knows, perhaps today’s Vampire romance stories are really about people with ADHD and those who fall in love with us? Ah, the mystery, the romance, the shiny shine, shine, shine of our natural tendencies, which are not only charming, but unpredictable and can be dangerous, which seems to be all the rage today. Ah, but let’s not forget that in each Vampire story they are also the villain, in constant danger of being found out, they are perpetually hunted for being what they are… ah the shame, the disgrace, the remorse and the sorrow to be forsaken!

Maybe all we really want is love? The elusive, tender and non-judgmental kind of love…

Love is an incredibly amazing and a very powerful phenomenon. In one way or another, everyone is a seeker of love, romance and companionship. Without it, we may feel lonely, lost and eventually forsaken. With the power of love, it matters not how strong or smart we may be. For many of us with ADHD love is a confusing, complex and eternally frustrating, an ever out of reach dream-scape. It’s a fantasy which doesn’t seem to exist and is made up by some odd storyteller that wants us to suffer in shame and remorse, constantly, forevermore. It’s dreadful, until one actually, finally, finds it within their life, or within their grasp, but the inner belief that it is just a fantasy, illusions of grandeur leads us to underestimate it and squander it. 

I have put my new book Adult ADHD can be Sexy together because love matters and it matters far more than many of us ever want to admit, not simply to others, but rather, to ourselves. With our eyes always on the horizon we fail time and time again to grasp what is at hand, to see, to feel and to enjoy what could be right there in front of us. We habitually squander love by trying to be what we are not, or by trying to meet the expectations others have of us to be what we are not, to be different. And, maybe it’s something else. People come together for certain reasons and it’s important to discover, admit, accept and appreciate whatever those reasons may be. I sincerely believe when two people value the true reasons they are together, their united relationship philosophy, nothing can stop them, nothing can come between them and they too will discover the good each has to offer the other, or maybe not… oh, and let’s not forget intimacy and letting go…

I am going to take you to places in my new book you may have never gone before…

~Bryan

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Thank you all so much for your input so far!

You’ve spoken and I have listened!!! I appreciate it and how! The pink covers will NOT be used; those covers have obviously sent the wrong message. The piece of chocolate stays and the line about the chocolate goes. After reading the book the reason for the piece of chocolate will become clear.

Dr. Nancy Irwin, one of our ADDer World Social Network members, was so kind and sent me a quote for use. If you’ve been reading my relationship, love and yes, even the sex related articles (shhhhhh!), then you have a very good idea of what will be found inside the cover of this book, but also with plenty of surprises! For any of our professionals reading this and would like to provide input, such as in the way of quotes, please send me a message for more information.

Seems the RED cover is on the right track and therefore I have updated the covers by adding the latest idea. Please continue to provide input here or send me a message, I so appreciate your willingness to assist with this wonderful project!

*I know a professional designer would be very helpful, but having you, our ADDer World members, assist in creating the perfect cover is something very special to me and I have wanted to do that. You ALL mean a lot to me!!!

If you are not yet a member of our ADDer World ADHD Social Network yet, you can become one here!

~Bryan

PS: The comments to this post are closed to help keep input about the cover in one location: here.

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I am testing book cover ideas, for my new book! Please let me know which cover you like, or IF YOU have a suggestion for a book cover and can demonstrate your idea in an image, please send it to me at my email address located in right column. Please make sure any images or designs you use are yours to freely use. If I choose a design submitted by a member, I will award the submitter free autographed copies of all my print published books: One Boy’s Struggle, The Brilliant Reality of ADHD and Adult ADHD can be Sexy! A final choice on the book cover will be made 14 Feb 2010

Adult ADHD can be Sexy will be available in 2010!

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New Book in 2010

I think you’re going to enjoy this book!

Please feel free to subscribe to the email updates to be notified when published!

~Bryan

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Have you ever shown brilliance and extraordinary talent and yet less talented peers passed you in the long run?

In any endeavor, sports, dating, work and even tinkering in a hobby with the hopes of accomplishing anything, there is nothing more important than mastering basics and fundamentals. Undoubtedly, you’ve heard this before, but do you really know what this means – especially in the context of ADD and ADHD?

You can have incredible talent mixed with ADHD risk taking and impulsivity and you can do absolutely amazing things which blow the minds of any spectators, but at the end of the day, most times you will fall short of your desired outcome, you will lose! You will fall flat on your face. And, it will hurt! Sorry, I know that is painful to read, but you and me, we know it’s true. Don’t we?

It’s confusing, it is frustrating and it is part of having ADHD!

And, you can do something about it!

However, it requires of us to realize and admit something painfully infuriating:

You may have all the talent in the world, able to do fantastical things others can only dream of, but for some strange and absolutely odd reason, others with not even half of your talent will eventually pass you in actual accomplishments. Yes, your talent is still above and beyond theirs and yes, you can still show sparks of greatness, but ultimately you cannot sustain any type of consistency whereas the person with less talent, who has mastered the basics and fundamentals, can.

Someone with half the talent, or even less, but has mastered the basics and fundamentals will typically win the race.

Tortoise will out-race Hare time and time again.  

But what about successful people with ADHD? You might ask.

Think about them for a moment. What do most successful people with ADHD have that has enabled them to somehow break the mold? Too often certain boring details are skipped over when discussing highly successful people with ADHD and such omissions are NOT helpful. The rest of the story of what enabled them to become successful, despite the odds, with regard to having ADHD, would be helpful and help people like you and me, to stop beating ourselves up for not being more.

Take Michael Phelps for example, he has been in training since childhood! Since youth, Michael has been coached, mentored and trained as an elite athlete. Even with ADHD, he knows and understands the basics and fundamentals of swimming better than most. 

Have you been in intensive training since childhood? Have you been mentored and coached to be a world champion since childhood? I know I wasn’t, and I don’t think there are a whole lot of us that have been. Trying to relate to Michael is nearly impossible for most of us. I am very happy for Michael, but this post is for the rest of us!

If somehow, someway, a person with ADHD does master basics and fundamentals, matched with his or her innate talents – I sincerely believe that other person with half the talent or less, won’t ever catch up! Especially when you add on proper ADHD diagnosis and treatment, the sky is the limit! (Unless you’re with NASA or Richard Branson, of course.)

People with ADHD receiving proper treatment for their ADHD have far and away better chances than those untreated. However, if one has been diagnosed late in life, proper treatment might still seem like it is falling short, that something is still missing. Treatment, of any kind, without the knowledge of what has been missed, isn’t usually enough. I think this gives fresh meaning to ‘going back to the drawing board’.

Typically, without proper treatment of ADHD, learning basics and fundamentals is excruciatingly boring for us ADDers! We will want to skip ahead, bounce around, go back and forth and just about anything else. It’s nearly impossible to endure learning the basics and fundamentals without some type of intervention for people with ADHD. Without the best coaching, mentoring and training – do you believe Michael Phelps could have done it?

Here’s a personal example I have used before:

I am a pool player. When I first started playing I showed an abundance of talent, I had few peers as talented as I was. However, as the years passed, playing pool became frustrating, even irritating, and people I knew who clearly didn’t have my talents or abilities crept up, year after year they continued to improve and achieved better results in tournaments than I did. I was stuck and for the life of me, I couldn’t figure out why.

It was only after seeking out a highly qualified mentor that things started to change for me (You can read the details of this story in my first book). It turned out I didn’t stand right, I didn’t hold my cue right and I didn’t take the basic ‘easy’ shots when they were clearly the best choice. I had no clue what the percentages were between different types of shots and I didn’t care. I had a flare for the dramatics and crowd pleasing hard shots which had very low percentages of completion, but high rates of applause when pulled off! (What’s that about instant rewards and ADHD? They don’t pay off in the long run though!)

Because my desire for playing pool and winning was so strong, I eventually did, with help, learn the basics and from then on I began to advance. My ADHD traits became an advantage in my game, such as with hyper focusing.  

I think, (because this post is just my opinion) one of the major frustrations for many of us late diagnosed adult ADDers, is that even with treatment many of us are not accomplishing our goals and fulfilling our heart’s desires.

Proper treatment and management of ADHD is a must, but if we still do not realize, or it hasn’t been pointed out to us, that we have skipped the most important ingredients of success, such as learning basics and fundamentals, we are still going to be stuck and perhaps think treatment isn’t working.

The good news is that with proper treatment and management of ADHD, going back to learn the basics and fundamentals of whatever it is you do, isn’t going to be as boring as it once may have been.

Most of us skip the basics and fundamentals not because we think we can do without (Well, yeah, that’s part of it when talent shines too brightly – ohhh shiny, anyone?), it’s because those tedious little details are boring as heck! The decades will roll by and things will not improve in specific endeavors if the basics and fundamentals are not learned. You can have the most advanced and perfectly conditioned race car in the world, but if it doesn’t have the right tires, it’s not going to make it to the finish line!

This has been a long post, but if you made it this far, maybe you can relate? If you have ever tried and tried again and again, even with diagnosis and treatment, but still could not maintain – perhaps consider the basics and fundamentals of your endeavors. If you have already: did it make a difference? I’d like to know. Have you ever show brilliance and extraordinary talent and yet less talented peers passed you in the long run?

You know, I think it is interesting how negative I was towards myself due to being so inconsistent in pool. One day hot, the next day not, sometimes it would go hour by hour. I would get so frustrated and outright mad at myself, telling myself such devastating things to try and pick my game back up, but isn’t it funny (not really), that just by learning to stand correctly, hold the cue a certain way, which is the most basic of the things I needed to do – you know, the boring stuff, helped bring my consistency up to a level that I had never imagined possible.

Yes, I still struggled with distraction for a long while, but when you realize there are solutions and they are real and workable solutions, it makes no sense beating ourselves up constantly, because doing that of all things will not help. It’s a matter of knowing what those solutions are.

How could I know my foot was pointing too far inward in my stance? Without a mentor, learning the basics and fundamentals, it may well have stayed that way forever. Oh, it wasn’t just my foot, trust me!

It is never too late to learn the basics and fundamentals!

And if you are properly diagnosed with ADHD and receiving treatment, so much the better to help you focus on mastering them!

~Bryan

(*My posts / opinions on this blog or anywhere should absolutely NOT be used to diagnose or treat anyone. If you suspect ADHD or any condition, please do seek a professional diagnosis and/or professional treatment.)

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