Adopted Jane

Dona Nobis Pacem

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:16:00 +0000

Today November 5th , 2009

PEACE

I wish my friend Mimi Peace in her Heart

xxx

Natalee Holloway....................

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:44:00 +0000

I live in Australia, I only know about Natalee from reading some crime message boards and the Oprah website.
I read the Excerpt online on Oprah by Beth Holloway "Loving Natalee: A Mother's Testament of Hope and Faith"

Do you know what really gets to me ? do you know what really upsets me the most out of all of this ?
Apart from the obvious, that as a Mother I just can not imagine how excruciatingly painful this is for Beth, that I just cant imagine never knowing what happened to your child.
I cant imagine losing a child to death, but I cant imagine how much more painful it must be not knowing if that child is dead or alive.

For me what really upsets me the most, that really defies all I know about being a good person, is that there are some people, right now, somewhere in this world , living their life, KNOWING That they were involved in the disappearance of Natalee Holloway.

How do they carry on day after day ?
How do they eat their breakfast , lunch and dinner every day ?
How do they party with their friends, enjoy a movie , a swim , a holiday ?
How do they lay their head down on their pillow at night and sleep ?

There are people out there right now, who were involved in Natalee's disappearance, and whether that be her death or her kidnapping into some illegal human trafficking arena...these people WERE involved and they KNOW What happened to her.

How can they not come forward ? and be a decent person ? a decent human being ?
Have people become so desensitized that they think that its just "fine" to carry on with their daily life with their family and friends ? while Natalee's family and friends live in despair and pain every single day since she disappeared ?

Where did those people's values and morals go ? that they were taught ? and apart from the genuinely psychotic , mentally disturbed people in this world I do believe most people are decent , good human beings that often get themselves into situations that they feel they can not get out of, situations that are clouded by alcohol, drugs , peer pressure, a moment of insanity....
I do believe that most people in this world given the same circumstances but without that "trigger" would not do what they do..

I have to believe in that, because otherwise I would just want to curl under a bed with my family and never leave...I have to believe that because otherwise it would destroy me.

So if somehow, someway those people involved in Natalee Holloways Disappearance in Aruba on Sunday The 29th of May in 2005 chance upon this blog, or even people who "know" the people involved in Natalee's disappearance chance upon this blog, I put it to you like this : Imagine if it were your Sister or Brother that this happened to ? Or even if you don't have a sister or brother , imagine it happening to your Mother or Father ? Girlfriend/Boyfriend, Wife/Husband, Niece/Nephew..anyone that you love....how would you feel ? the daily loss of that person, never knowing what happened to them...Truly ask yourself how you would feel..how much pain you would be in every single day..

Ask yourself these questions truthfully :

" Am I a decent person ? "

" Do I want to go through life with this on my conscience"

" Do I want to die knowing that I caused torment and heartache to a great deal of people"

Life isn't meant to be about hurting other people.
Anyone that has any knowledge of any kind that was to come forward would be able to stop that.

I would really like to believe that anyone who has any knowledge of any kind would be able to see past their own fears of what may happen to them, be it whether they were directly involved, had knowledge of , or even knowledge of the people involved.
Next May in 2010 it will have been 5 years since Natalee Holloway disappeared, Natalee was just 18 years old when she disappeared with her whole life ahead of her, Work, Marriage, Children, friends, family, good times all to be had...She would be 23 now......

Accidents happen, Mistakes happen, tragedies happen, but it really is a crime to know something about the disappearance of a beautiful young lady and not speak up, but rather say nothing and allow her family to live in torment.

If you know anything about the disappearance of Natalee Holloway, In Aruba May 2005, Please get your inner "decency" courage and present yourself at your nearest police station and tell them what you know.....

This is a link to Real Photos of the Natalee Holloway Case, some of these people here hold the TRUTH to what happened to Natalie. I can see it in their eyes. When we are young or even middle aged, we think we are indestructible and can just blast through life, but when we are struck down by severe illness or old age there are things in our life that has gone before us that will surface to our memories...Many people make confessions at this stage because they want to be free of what they have hidden...but why wait until then , now is the time to act, so that you can live the remainder of your life in peace, knowing that you did the right thing...

Adoption Disruption and People on the Self Publicity Trail

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 23:35:00 +0000

I completely blame Anita Tedaldi.....

You can read about her HERE and HERE and, well just google her name and you will find a lot more because she is very vocal

A little adopted boy who is named only as "angryboy" by his adoptive mother is up for grabs on the internet : you can read the horror story HERE and also my comments which I will also post here

I wrote the following comment there:

Jane says:

October 23, 2009 at 1:01 am

After reading the response to Mirah and other posters from the Adoptive mother – I put it to the readers that the 8 year old adopted boy learnt “anger” from his adoptive mother.
Your tone and attitude to Mirah and other posters was immediate anger.

The anger that is coming from you shows through louder than you obviously can see.

You are the one coming across as angry.

If you do not want the criticism then I will give you the same advice I gave to Anita Tedaldi after her piece on the “Termination of her adopted child” – DON’T WRITE ABOUT IT
Pretty simple really isn’t it.

These are the type of children who go on to be mass murderers, serial rapists , always in trouble with the law and so on because people like YOU and Anita, take a child (thinking you are so wonderful and that *GOD* instructed you to ADOPT) that you fail to realize your own limitations , thus ending in serious problems all round and creating in SOME Cases a complete Monster, because you failed to push through the issues, and thus once again abandoning the child

Let me put it to ALL of the readers out there a different way…one that you can all relate to (probably)

Think back to when you were in a relationship, someone you loved with all your heart , maybe this was the one even and that person ended that relationship……

How did you feel ???

Rejected ? Abandoned ? Low Self Esteem ?

In the majority of cases this is how people who are the dumped one in the relationship feel, some go on binges , drinking , excessive eating/not eating , partying hard, being a recluse – any number of these things can and do happen , because they feel rejected, hurt, unloved , unwanted…

Why then is it SO HARD For people to wrap their head around how an adopted child feels?
And when that adopted child is dumped TWICE how much more damaging that is to them..

People who disrupt adoptions do not deserve the privilege to adopt a child.

I also took my comment over to HERE which is where I first found about this little boy named "angryboy" by his adoptive mother.

Sadly my comment seemed to get lost, and the focus was turned to me saying that this is how some monsters (ie rapists /murderers) are created.

There is no denying it, adoption has created many monsters, and I have added a further comment which I hope will be posted :

I hope that my point is clarified, as I did say in SOME Cases a complete monster is created , and no matter which way you look at it, adopted or non adopted , people who rape and kill are monsters.

These people ARE Monsters and they are adopted

http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/9950/adoption_serialkillers.html

http://www.amfor.net/killers/

People like Anita Tedaldi and this other person who is putting her “angryboy” (UGH) up for adoption on the internet are the type of people who help create the above type monsters.

Its bad enough being given up for adoption once, but twice ? :(

I can only hope that these two little boys abandoned TWICE don’t turn out to be like the above monsters

The point I really wanted the focus on was how I compared a breakup of a relationship to the feelings that adoptees suffer through continuously.

I wanted non adopted people who don't understand adoptees to have something to relate to.

I hope that came through.

Stephanie Nielson and Oprah - 7th October 2009

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:25:00 +0000

YUP

Stephanie is going to be on Oprah (I imagine Christian is too)

If you live in the USA Then turn on Oprah today - According to THIS its going to be on at 4pm channel 2

I have no clue as I am in Australia - so will someone kindly put it up on utube and send me the link please x

You don't want to miss this...I am sure

You can read a bit more about it over HERE and you can read Stephanie's blog HERE

Stephanie Nielson AKA NieNie

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 12:16:00 +0000

I don't want anyone to forget her or Christian....

They are always in my thoughts....

They are amazing...

Stephanie is amazing..Stephanie is someone that I look at and she inspires me to do good, she inspires me to be strong in the face of adversity, she inspires me to be better...

Stephanie is not only amazing she is beautiful, as is her husband, her children and especially her family and Christian's family...

I know that the focus is on Stephanie, she is the one most affected by this tragedy, apart from their good friend Doug and his family..but I think the focus is on Stephanie because its other mothers relating on a "mother level" wondering how they would cope , react, survive....

Christian and Doug are thought about ....too....

But its Stephanie, "the mother" the lifeline...its so important..Motherhood...Stephanie all I can say is that I am so very very glad that your beautiful soul was spared because your 4 beautiful children need you and love you...

I don't know you...and I love you.....

You are just simply...amazing...

xxx

You can read Stephanie's blog here - Be warned though...you will fall in love with the Nielsons :)

Apparently this is a stupid blog !

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 05:06:00 +0000

There is a policy in place here....
But seems people dont mind..because as stated if your comments are abusive I will do a complete post about them..
So Here is one of my most recent comments which was intended for this blog post I did on dimitry Yakolev/Chase Harrison who *died* whilst left / abandoned in a car on a stinking hot day by his adoptive father .....on their way to daycare ! but went to work and forget that Dimitry was in the car and carried on at work .....

Mother of 5 - has decided to let hurl some abuse at me...

This is the most stupid blog I've ever read. I know a woman who's just her third baby at the age of 47, Good luck to her. This sanctimonious idiot is right to talk about her "soapbox". I've seen hundreds of incompetent parents who stay at home with their children all day, and many many juvenile delinquents from dysfunctional homes with a stay-at-home mother. Equally I've seen many well-adjusted and loving families who use day care. Emotive biased language such as "dumped" are just there for sensationalism - Being a good parent has everything to do with parenting skills and loving - for all I know this OP could be one of the moronic stay-at-home mothers who has no idea of what she's doing - it's amazing how these people can butter up their own skills and show such judgement and outrage at others.

Oh....and "Jane" is also anonymous, unless, Jane, you'd care to post your REAL name and address in full. Then and only then can you be held up to scrutiny.

What hypocrisy and stupidity.

Hmm well Jane is My REAL Name thank you kindly, and if you had read the rest of my blog you would have noticed that!
Next who in their right mind publishes their address on the ineternet for all the whackjobs to get a hold of - if you do then you are a fruit cake and should definitely not have children !

And um yes I can see that Dimitry's adoptive parents were doing an excellent job, so good in fact that he is DEAD

I must say I feel flattered that this person opened a blogger account just to comment on my blog.
Glad to see that I'm making a impact

Oh and Motherof5 (if thats your real self!) I'll be watching out for comments from Melbourne, Australia, using a Mac with Safari - for future comments ...and they wont be published - or perhaps I will do a seperate post just for you !

:)

Adoptee Rights and Various Parties

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 04:02:00 +0000

I'm in Australia, I'm not really affiliated, associated, buddies or otherwise with any of the varying factions that are fighting out there for adoptee rights and amongst themselves. Whilst I know many, and choose to associate with some doesn't mean I am in league with them.
But what I do see, is movies, tv series, films etc made that potray adoptees as psychos, offbalance, not mentally stable and so forth..
What I have observed over the past year between some of these various factions is beyond my comprehension of how they do understand that is just supporting the view that is out there about adoptees.
I have recently read some blogs, since the Philly Adoptees rights demonstration and the nasty language used from varying people about other people is unbelievable. To actually write such nasty words and to belittle others in a demeaning way, OTHER adoptees, on a public blog for all the people who might be watching and reading various blogs is truly amazing.

No matter what people are about, whether they clash with someone Else's personality, whether they downright despite another person, if there is a common goal, IE getting open records for adoptees in America, then surely the battles can be put down and everyone strive for the common good.
Throwing around vile insults, and gutter language at people , trying to humiliate others , taking others to task, being mean, embellishing the truth, exaggerating what another is doing, and basically just being hurtful, isn't going to make anyone in any position of power , be it legislators, media etc take anyone seriously.
All it's going to do is cement in their mind that ALL Adoptees are stark raving mad....

I feel dismayed that instead of putting a positive spin on whatever was achieved in Philly this year, there are those that take the opportunity to disparage. Whilst I agree that the event needs to be reported from varying sides, perhaps care could be taken to be factual rather than putting personal opinions into it.
I feel even more dismayed to see people then vilely attacking and abusing those that have chosen to present a different side to what they observed happening for all those that did not attend.

I wish that everyone would put aside their insecurities, grow the hell up and join together for the common good of getting adoptees their rights the same as every other person in America and NOT have situations like what happened to this poor lady who wanted to obtain a drivers Licence and was treated like a piece of muck on someones shoe!

Do you think that's possible ?

The Coerced removal Of Elijah

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 11:44:00 +0000

If you have been following my blog you know I have been writing about Forced Adoptions, coercion in adoption, BULLYING in adoption...why is it that we have all kinds of laws about bullying in our school systems and protection in place for those bullied (if its a good school!) but yet we are allowing women to be bullied into giving up their child ?
Does that make sense to you ?

This is a story, another heartbreaking story of a child taken from his mother and lost into a system called adoption. This is where I get angry at adoption. This is where I do scream at those adoptive parents and agency workers and so on that dare to make out that there is NOTHING Wrong with adoption that it is all flowers and hearts...

I'm going to direct you to another Blog that has the full story and the understanding of this story from an American Law POV and also a native Indian which Mary and Elijah are...

If you would kindly go to this fantastic blog post about Mary and her son Elijah - Please Click Here

Mary had intent to file for rescinding of the adoption within the 3 day limit (how anyone thinks that 3 days is fair to ANYONE is beyond me !) after being coerced into adoption in the first place.
But due to more tactics Mary missed the deadline to file - Sound Familiar to my last story about coercion ???

Mary sent me a email asking me to please tell her story..how could I not, how could anyone not tell Mary and Elijah's story :( It needs to be told, people in media NEED TO TAKE NOTICE of whats going on.. they are the ones with the power, how about a bit of pressure being sent back to all these courts making these horrendous decisions. Mary wasn't deemed a unfit mother, NO , just some technicality upheld the Agency's right to terminate Mary's parental rights and remove Elijah from the only mother he knew and his elder sister.

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING ???

When there are SO MANY babies and children out there of abuse and who are orphans, why are adoptive parents TAKING children that are still wanted by their Biological parents ???

Perhaps they do not know ? I don't know , but if they do not know , then they need to LOBBY and FIGHT for ETHICAL Adoptions and not child stealing via Coercion

My heart breaks for Mary and for Elijah :( and I hope someone somewhere learns of this case and does something RIGHT About it - for a change

God Bless Mary and Elijah, may you be reunited soon...........

Adoption is Like a Pet Fair

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 23:20:00 +0000

YEY !

I have just received this article into my inbox from my google alerts on adoption and I am beyond the pale on this one...

Sex and the City Star Willie Garson Adopts a son.

This is a 8 year old boy and my first thoughts were perhaps this is *ok* perhaps this child was a victim of abuse and being removed from that hell would be better..

BUT No, no such luck, this child was at an adoption fair, unable to be cared for by his biological mother anymore.

Garson says he will certainly allow Nathan's biological mother to visit him, saying, "For many reasons, she couldn't care for him, but I will never let her not see him."
The 45-year-old actor originally wanted to adopt a 3-year-old before meeting Nathan at an adoption fair.
Of the adoption process, Garson says, "It's like a pet fair -- as horrifying as you can imagine. It was really hard. The 16-year-old fat ugly kid, who has probably been to thirty of these, knows he's not going to get adopted. Like everything else, cute wins. I couldn't believe my kid was actually available for adoption. He's so cute and sweet."

What is it with Celebs and Adoption ? Are they just lonely or what ? And this 8 year old boy does he now get a name change ? So for 8 years hes's been known as one name and then gets given another ?

I found the comments in this article to be disparaging, and as much as I agree that for older children it probably is like a pet fair, I think that a actor endorsing that *cute wins* publicly is a real slam in the gut for all those un adopted children left wallowing in orphanages.

Seriously views on adoption need to change and Quick............

Coercion

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 04:50:00 +0000

Definition as per Dictionary Reference.Com

co⋅er⋅cion

noun

1. the act of coercing; use of force or intimidation to obtain compliance.

2. force or the power to use force in gaining compliance, as by a government or police force.

AND

Legal Dictionary

Main Entry: co·er·cion
Pronunciation: kO-'&r-zh&n, -sh&n
Function: noun

: the use of express or implied threats of violence or reprisal (as discharge from employment) or other intimidating behavior that puts a person in immediate fear of the consequences in order to compel that person to act against his or her will; also : the defense that one acted under coercion

—see also DEFENSE, DURESS —compare UNDUE INFLUENCE

Merriam-Webster's Dictionary of Law, © 1996 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
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Sounds awful doesn't it. Not something to be proud of doing, not something that YOU would want to happen to you over something dear to your heart, important to you etc.

Certainly not a predicament you would want to be in if you were young and pregnant, or even older and pregnant but with money troubles, or emotional issues, now would it ?

But yet its continually happening. Still today ! I mean we all know it happened during the *old*days , what was known as the BSE ( Baby Scoop Era) - it was rife during this time with many parents of their daughters actually helping with the coercion of giving up their daughters child, their grandchild, because the *shame* of it was far worse than actually trying to help their daughter to keep her child.

I gave you all a story here PLEASE CLICK THIS LINK about a 25 year old who was tricked and coerced into the surrender of her child, and despite being within the time limit of changing her mind she was deceived into not signing those papers, and now has the fight of her life on her hands to get back her child.

And remember these babies, are a (yep you guessed it) A Gift From God - but not for the coerced Mother - oh NO - the baby was always intended as a gift for someone else, they just lost their way (*rolls eyes*)

How do people live with themselves ? How do people KNOW that a woman wants to keep her child, but yet they continue to coerce, force,manipulate, deceive, lie to get that child away from her. How do they live with themselves knowing that she didn't willingly surrender her child ?

Do you know how they do it ? how they live with themselves ? Because they do not put the importance on family, on heritage, that they should. They only think of themselves and they see that the end justifies the means, BUT The end does NOT justify the means, The end is not justified at all. especially when a woman wants to keep her child, there should be no arguing about it , no discussion about it, if a mother wants to keep her child , that is the END - Period....

I'd really like to know how agencies, churches , adoptive parents can even dispute that ? do they think that they know the woman, the mother better than she knows her own feelings ? Do they suddenly get gifted with the ability to see in a crystal ball ?

NO they do not. They only have their own agendas.

To anyone out there who has to coerce another human being into doing something against their wishes, their will, I ask you this do you think that is the right way to treat another human being ? to adopting parents , I ask this of you - do you think that when your adopted child that was coerced away from his/her mother finds out that you had a part of that , that they will thank you for that ? when they know the full story that their mother wanted them and loved them, ad had it not been for your part in coercion that they would have remained with their mother....
(And make no mistake the truth always comes out , they will find out)

I am working on another horrific story of coercion and deceit to remove a little boy from his mother when he was 18months old... Stay tuned - their story coming soon...

I am so Angry and filled with a pain that is so hard to understand

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 14:47:00 +0000

Adoption.

I HATE IT

I HATE Being Adopted. I know I'm not the only one. There are thousands upon thousands who feel the same way.
Tell me if adoption is SO GOOD how come I and all those others Hate being adopted ? and hurt so much ?
Just for point of reference, I do not hate my adopted parents, I am not ungrateful, I am not selfish, I just HATE Being adopted.
Why ?
Why do I hate being adopted ? because it hurts, it hurts like hell, and some days it just comes and slaps you in the face , and knifes you in the heart , when you're not expecting it, and hurts even harder.
Why do I hate being adopted ? because sometimes whilst reading blogs, expanding my horizons , trying to understand all sides of adoption, getting something in on my google reader I come across crap like this .....

ADOPTION DIARIES EXPLORES THE OPEN ADOPTION PROCESS IN AN ALL NEW ORIGINAL SERIES ON WE TV

Now whilst these people reporting about this show did not write it , they are the first point that I came across it.

I then continued on to find this article at Examiner.com who for some reason have messed up their links, leaving me to go directly to WETV and look at their show that's due to air in September.

This has been one of those knife in the heart moments as I read the bullshit of this shows upcoming episodes.

In particular looking at the following episodes below. Because these are the only ones I looked at , frankly I don't think my heart could take anymore.

So first of all when you go to the above link you come to a page that is titled

Adoption Diaries Premieres Saturday, Sept. 12 at 10p|9c
Then you get a intro to the show which states

About the Show

WE tv's new original series, Adoption Diaries, explores the process in which privately held open adoptions take place. The series showcases the matching process between couples who, having struggled with infertility, turn to adoption and the brave, expecting mothers whose difficult and selfless decision to place their children for adoption makes it all possible.

You are then presented with an array of segments including
FAQ : What is Open Adoption,
Ask The Experts ,
Feature Article: All the Love in the World , (read memoirs of an an open adoption family) My personal favourite - well if I want to weep to the point of not only my heart hurting but my head
Talk about it,
Coming soon.

So, I first came across these photo galleries

Adoption Diaries Episode 2 - This one broke my heart piece by piece as I looked at these photos, whilst I'm sure that the adoptive parents are very nice people, the baby doesn't belong with them, the baby belongs with her Mother and her older brother.. Picture 4 and 5 were particularly harrowing to me, as I looked at this woman, this baby girls mother who just gave birth to her , holding her and smiling this massive smile for the cameras , knowing that she was going to be just giving this baby away in the upcoming days if not hours. Tearing her away from not only her one connection HER MOTHER that had just carried her for 9months, soothing her with her voice and everything about her , but also her older brother. There is a grandmother on the scene, in the photo shoot number 5 where the mother Grandmother and the baby's older brother are all around her ... Such a beautiful scene, a family together just after a baby's birth...but clicking on to pictures 1 and 3 shatter that delusion yes I said delusion...because this little baby girls is about to be ripped from her heritage, her destiny (after all she was planted into this woman , sitting in the hospital bed , who just gave birth to her , womb...and not that other fake mummy.

How can ANYONE want to give birth and then just hand that beautiful little girl over to total strangers.When I say that I realise that the mother who gave birth, may have had many conversations and feel she knows them, but they ARE Complete strangers to the baby.

This photo gallery /of this episode was probably particularly hard for me, as I was also removed from my older sister...

And then this one

Adoption Diaries Episode 3 Well I'm still trying to figure this one out because the photo number 3 and 4 are very confusing. Certainly the woman they refer to as the birth mother in photo 3 doesn't look anything like the woman they refer to as birth mother in photo 4.
Photo 5 has the heartbreaking caption :

"and was overjoyed with the gift she gave her family"

This baby isn't a gift. This baby isn't something that you should give away. The definition of GIFT as per Dictionary.com is as follows

1. something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present.
2. the act of giving.
3. something bestowed or acquired without any particular effort by the recipient or without its being earned: Those extra points he got in the game were a total gift.
4. a special ability or capacity; natural endowment; talent: the gift of saying the right thing at the right time.

I don't see *babies* fitting in under this definition of GIFT - do you ? NO that's because human beings are not meant to be traded, sold or GIFTED!!!
Its insulting to hear adoptive parents, social workers, adoption agencies or anyone else referring to a baby as a gift.

The only GIFT that should be used in reference to a baby is that they are a Gift of life - from GOD. They are not exchangeable , refundable , swappable, saleable or GIFTABLE !!!!

And then this brings me to the "Feature Story" where my heart broke a thousand times for that little baby and the biological dad.
Reading what he wrote, looking at his face as he stood with the Adoptive parents and his son, my heart broke for him, this wasn't a young man who was filled with joy at giving up his son, no this was a young man who was prbably guilted into doing so whether by others , or whether by his own thoughts.

All I hear through out this story and many others is how selfless the first mother is. This mother was not selfless...she spelt it out .. she wanted a college degree , to meet a nice boy, to get married and to have a baby...not meet a nice boy and get pregnant before her dreams !!!!

So life throws a curve ball SO WHAT - and in fact the dad states that yes it hurts sometimes but it wouldn't be life if it didn't...and you know what the same goes to not having your dreams run in the order you want.

These young people had parents , the grandparents of this baby, they were not street kids with no where to go. The extended families should have helped this young woman and young man raise their child. They were not 15 year olds , they were 19 year olds.

These young people are so glassy eyed about this whole open adoption business, but I wonder how long that will indeed continue as most open adoptions do not continue that way. I hope for the baby's sake it does.

I'm sure most of my readers are well aware of my feelings of open adoption. I think its a big con to get the baby away from the mother in the first place. And I think its very confusing to the child as they get older.
Does anyone actually engage their brains before they do these things ? do they actually wonder what emotional impact this might have on a child ?

I'll leave you all to read the feature story, as linked above and to come to your own thoughts and conclusions but for me, I don't agree with it being selfless, the most SELFLESS thing to do would have been to keep the baby and raise him with the help of the bio dad (whether they remained together or not is not relevant to that ) and with the help of the extended family.

That would have been selfless...

To all my readers - URGENT - Please read this and HELP - 25 Year old tricked into adoption of her son

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 01:01:00 +0000

I have asked the author of this story if I could tell this on my blog , to reach as many people as possible, becuase hopefully through word of mouth, there may be someone who reads this story that can really help this young woman get her beautiful baby son back, where he belongs..

You see this young woman was co-erced and TRICKED into giving her baby up, by the one person whe thought she could trust , and by an adoption agency (no suprises with that though!)

I URGE You to read this and leave a comment of support and any suggestions that you may have to help this young woman get her son back where he rightfullly belongs.. Her updates on this case can be found here on her my space page

Co-ercion still exists, even in 2009, people are co-ercing young women .........

This is Burning Brights Story

My story begins, about a couple years back. I thought that I had met the man of my dreams. He was cute, funny, knew all the right moves, caring, and understanding...or so I thought. He liked to be out on the water as much as I do, probably even more. We like similar movies, television shows, people, and the same kinds of drinks. He had his own things that he liked to do, and so did I. I thought that it was great. We dated for about 6 months before I thought that we were starting to get serious, and then my birth control failed and we had an unexpected surprise. I was pregnant. I thought it was a beautiful gift that should be celebrated and cherished. He on the other hand thought it was the end of the world. But I loved him, and was blind and willing to work everything out. From the beginning, I was excited to be pregnant. He was ashamed. I didn't realize how bad it was then. Eventually, he seemed to calm down, and I was excited even more. I started picking out items for my nursery, and telling my family what I had wanted them to get me, and was helping my mother and aunt plan a baby shower.

He didn't pay much attention to that, but he started telling me that certain friends were his, and not mine. I didn't understand, and so I asked them, they told me no, but yet they seemed very uneasy around me so I let them go. He started telling me, that he wanted to have control in the relationship, but if there was anything that I ever wanted he wouldn't tell me no. I was okay with that, I wanted him to be happy, and I still felt like I had control because if I wanted it, I could have it, again or so I thought. Then it came time for my ultrasound. At the appointment, he seemed very detached, I originally sluffed it off as he was nervous about seeing the baby growing inside me. However, before we left the office, he asked my doctor if there was a way to get a paternity test, and if he had any information about local adoption agencies. I panicked and told him if that is what he wanted then I was going to leave him, because I wanted our child, and if he didn't want any part of it, it was fine because I could do it on my own. He then told me no, that's not why I wanted that information. I just wanted to be informed. Besides adoption agencies don't just provide information about adoption but they cover other aspects of parenting as well. He dropped the subject.

About a month later, while driving on our way out to dinner, he told me that he didn't want to live together before we got married, because he thought that, that was a bad idea. I was okay with that, because he told me that we were eventually going to get married. To be honest I was ecstatic about it. It was where I had wanted our relationship to go.

But shortly after that dinner, he started telling me that my best friend was being too pushy and that I should back off from her. I thought that, that was strange for him to comment on that, when he usually told me that he liked her. But he said that at work, she was acting really crabby, and angry and he didn't want me and the baby to be stressed out from her aggressiveness. I thought that was sweet and went along with it. I figured that he worked with her, and she hadn't been very talkative towards me because of the stress at work so she might need her space. (truth be told, he was telling her a bunch of BS about me) So the severity of the isolation began. Now because of that I was feeling very alone. I lived with my parents because I moved back home to save money for the baby, and I suppose I could have talked with them, but I just felt if I did, than my dad wouldn't like the boyfriend, and then the boyfriend would get mad at me for talking about us to my parents. I felt very lost.

My best friend started coming around again, she didn't ever really say why all of a sudden she was coming around again. (I later found out that she knew something fishy was going on, but just couldn't get her finger on it...and that if she stuck her nose in "our" business her job would be on the line.) But because of the slight rift the boyfriend had created between us, I didn't feel as though I could be completely honest with her about how I felt and what was going on.

By my 7th month, my boyfriend had, had me sever ties with almost everyone that I cared about, and could talk to. Including my parents and siblings, even though I lived with them, I felt I couldn't talk to them, that I had no where to go. In addition, in my 7th month I had another ultra sound. At this appointment, the boyfriend was very stand offish, and again he asked about the paternity testing, and adoption options in the area. My doctor called for a social worker to come down and answer his questions. The social worker and him talked for several minutes while all I did was cry. After the appointment he told me again that it was just for informational purposes and that because we weren't married and in an "exclusively monogamous" relationship at the time of my conception he wanted the paternity test just to be sure. I cried, because in my mind set, we had been a serious item since before I was pregnant. About a week or so later, my company let me go. They said it was due to downsizing, but I my doubts, especially when a friend of mine who I was training in to cover my job while I was on maternity leave, she got my position. (I don't blame her for any of this.) At that time I was very depressed and unaware of everything really. I felt like I had no where to go, that the boyfriend was my whole life, and that no one was paying any attention to me. I felt so alone, and scared of what was to come. I was tired of not being able to do anything, because all the things that I enjoyed doing the boyfriend told me not to do them, because I might get hurt. Even though I haven't heard of anyone being hurt while going shopping, or to the zoo, or going to see a movie, that was being careful, and what not, but he said it was for my best interest, so I sat at home more and more. Going out with my best friend here and there just to get what I need. Then one day he called me up an told me that we had an appointment with a woman who was from Lutheran Social Services. (from now on I'm going to refer to that as LSS) and he wanted to go there to talk about our options.

I realize now that I shouldn't have gone with him, but that isn't the case. I felt like if I went it would make him happy, and realize that it was all going to be okay. Within the time span of a week between the boyfriend and the social worker, they had already mapped out the adoption plan, picked out the adoptive parents, and had me sign a bunch of papers that I still don't know what they all are. (I've requested everything from my case, but she won't send me all of the papers or notes that she has.) After that, all I did was cry. I felt like I had no control in my life, and that all those major decisions that he wanted to be in charge of he was making even though it was suppose to be "my body, my baby, my choice" it was all taken away from me. I was blind-sided. The damn social worker would call a few times a week asking me if I knew I was in labor yet. I felt like a baby factory, and that all she wanted was my child. The one time I met with her alone, I told her that I was uncomfortable with the adoption process, and you know what she told me?? She told me that it was ok, because it was all apart of the grieving process. Can you believe that?? But enough about the LSS demon.

Then the adoptive parents would call me, and tell my how happy that they were that I didn't get an abortion and that I choose to give him life. Abortion was NEVER an option. I told them that. Several times. They would also call and make me feel guilty, by telling me that they couldn't have children, and when the boyfriend told them that they were picked they were excited to be able to have a child in their home. And that just me feel even worse, because I wanted to raise my son. How was I not suppose to feel guilty? It also deepened the sense that I had no one to go to. That everyone was against me. On top of that when I mentioned that I wanted to keep my son to my boyfriend, he would tell me that I was being incredibly selfish, and that my son deserved to be with the adoptive parents. What was I to do? I'll tell you what I did. I went numb, I was depressed, and I didn't talk to anyone. All I did was cry, especially every time the baby kicked or moved. It also made me feel very used and unappreciated.

Then my son was born. I was so happy. He was so beautiful. He had a full head of hair, and big. He was almost 9 pounds. I had him in my room the whole time I was at the hospital. He was so precious. I was hoping that the boyfriend would change his mind after he saw our precious little boy. I couldn't have been farther from the truth. The boyfriend started referring to our son as an it. I told him that I wanted to name the baby a certain name. He told me no. That it would make it too personal. I asked him to sign the voluntary acknowledgement of paternity. He said no, because he doesn't know for sure if the baby was his or not. He filled out the birth certificate while I cried. He then called the LSS social worker and told her the name and told her that he wanted the petition as soon as possible. He then left me alone in my room with our son, while he pranced around and did what he wanted. Later on that day he went to the local court house and called me telling me that he could get a TPR court date as soon as the following week. He also told me that he invited the adoptive parents to come and see the baby later on that evening and that he would be there for that. I called my best friend and asked her to come in at the same time. She did, I don't remember much of that evening, I kind of blacked it out. All I do know is that I was very angry. Angry about everything. The following day the LSS demon came to see me, she asked me how I was, I told her fine, as I am custom to answer when asked that question. She then told me no, I wasn't fine, I was grieving, and that it was okay because it was all apart of the grieving process. She handed over the papers to the boyfriend to read. He read them thoroughly and told me to sign, I did, and she notarized it. She then was telling the boyfriend about how I was feeling and going to be feeling. I got mad and yelled at her and told her that I was sick and tired of her telling me how I was feeling, and that she didn't know how I was feeling, and I was so tired of every fucking thing. She left in a hurry. The boyfriend shortly followed as my mom and sister came to visit me. My mother asked me for the first time if I was alright or if I had wanted to go through with this, I was so upset that all I could do was cry. I cried for the rest of the evening. When the boyfriend came to pick me and the baby up, I told him that I wanted to take our son home, and parent because I had everything there, he told me no, that we were going to take him to the "bridge care" family. And that was to be for the best. I cried from the time he said that till I finally passed out from exhaustion.

I set up the first Dr. appointment and went to that. The boyfriend kept me from otherwise visiting my son at bridge care, because he wouldn't bring me, and I felt like I didn't have the ability to go there on my own. The court date was set for the following week. (only 2 weeks after I had my son.) On the way to the hearing the boyfriend told me what to say and when to say it. We also met up with the lawyer for LSS. (I refuse to call him an attorney because he is only out for himself and he's a ruthless shark.) I was a zombie for the hearing, I didn't know what was going on, I was numb to the world until the judgment was made. Then I started crying. All I could do was cry. We were suppose to have time alone with our son after the hearing but by the time we got there the adoptive parents were already there packing up my son. I never even got to say good bye.

A couple of weeks went by and I called the adoptive parents up to check on my son. They informed me that the boyfriends family never even knew that they were going to be grandparents. They also told me to forget about the boyfriend and move on with my life. A week after that the boyfriend called me and told me that we were done. That he had never loved me and that he never intended to marry me or be with me. I was completely broken hearted. Because of him, I gave up what was most important to me. A week and a half later I filed a motion to reconsider and an intent to appeal. The motion was denied, and at the hearing the boyfriend lied and also had a friend of mine lie. (don't worry I'm not friends with that friend anymore) but I am now working with my appellate attorney. I am grateful to know that I have a case. But this is only the beginning.

This is all true, and this is my story. I just don't want anyone to take off with my story.
(c) 2009 Hellajence

Whats the Latest - Twitter

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 05:16:00 +0000

Tweet Tweet Tweetily Tweet..........

Yup Ive added Twitter, down on the right hand side you will find my twitter bird to follow and of course if you're reading this post you can click right here...

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Adoption of an Embryo

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 23:38:00 +0000

I was going to write this as a comment on Marley's blog post HERE but I ended up writing so much that I thought I had better do it as a blog post here instead...

Well I Continue to just be continually shocked.
I had a vague knowledge that embryo donation went on but embryo adoption
PUHLEEZZE - this is purely another money making , get rich quick quirk off others.

This is from that website about WHY You should use EA - Click Here

Benefits of Donating through E.A.

* It gives your embryo/s a chance for life.

* It relieves you/donor/s of psychological stress of deciding what to do with embryo/s.

* It provides fulfillment in helping other infertile parent/s.

* There is assurance that the adopting parent/s have been well-screened for their ability to become successful parents.

* Donors choose open/agency liaison/closed-anonymous, age range, single or married, geographic location, number of other children in the home, level of education, values, religion, ethnic background, health, employment and other profile parameters with like minded adoptors.

* Agency maintains records, contact information, and acts as go between for you and the adoptor/s.

Ive bolded the particular points I have issues with.

The first is aimed at guilting the biological parents
The second is also aimed at a double whammy of guilt at the biological parents
and finally
The third is another guilt trip with some added extras of sympathy manipulation on the biological parents..

Sound familiar ? yep just like regular old adoption. Guilt tripping and manipulation of the biological parents to satisfy the adopting parents wants and needs and the bank balance of the agency involved...

Is anyone actually thinking of the children ? or because they look like bubbles of some sort the association of this *bubble* turning into a walking , talking, living , breathing person with feelings and emotions doesn't come into it?

BUT WAIT !

Isn't that the war cry about NOT having an abortion - because life begins at embryo stage ?

So if that's the case then surely once must see into the future , think of the future and think about how being a embryo that eventually turns into a walking , talking, living , breathing person with feelings and emotions might actually have a huge impact on that person , like being separated from ones siblings which could be any number of them, like being separated from their biological mother and father who were married at the time, like being implanted into another woman and being born to two completely different people to yourself in every way , physically, emotionally and mentally.

Who does that ? who purposely does that to another human being ? People like this agency that's who. Who get rich of YOU whilst all the spouting their crap about it being for the right reason, ie not killing/murdering a embryo.

Man and Woman are supposed to procreate. Have sexual intercourse where the sperm fertilizes the egg, and somewhere around 40 weeks later the woman delivers the baby into this world.
But NOW Science has overrun this world and we are creating more and more *life* in completely unnatural ways.

People are struggling with infertility more and more. WHY ? Look to the world , look to the environment, look to the manufacturers, look at all the crap we ingest, we slather over our bodies, we breathe in daily, we create ourselves. These things are where the answers lie in regards to the increase of fertility.
If we continue to go down this route , all babies from now on will be *manufactured* in a lab instead of created with love in a natural manner...

Is this really what we want for our future generations ?

Deborra Lee Furness in the News Again pushing for Adoption Made Easy in Australia

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 12:01:00 +0000

Yes Deborra Lee Furness in the news again, or sorry is that Deborra Lee Furness WIFE OF HUGH JACKMAN - Movie Star !!!!!!

Pushing the Adoption rates too low in Australia line again !!!

GO AWAY - Leave Australia ALONE.

Courier Mail has a article CLICK HERE entitled

Australia's doption rates lowest of developed countries

Someone do me a favor and tell me what "doption" is ? I'd think for a mainstream media source they 'd at least get their title correct !

So what if we have the lowest rates of Adoption. Thats a GOOD Thing , not a bad thing.
It means we have very stringent testing procedures that parents have to go through to get that precious *gft* they are after.

Comments after the article are such as those about natural parents should have stringent testing before being able to produce a child, whilst I agree there are some horrific natural parents out there I have to say that when you adopt a child you have a far FAR Greater responsibility. A natural parent has an enormous resonsibility to love, treasure and protect ther child, an adoptive parent has even MORE of a responsiblity because the CHOSE to adopt a child, they CHOSE To take another womans child and raise him/her as their own. That is an ENORMOUS respoonsiblity and one that is sometimes taken far too lightly.
Indeed many argue that is untrue, but personally I see zero foudnation to their argument. The facts are what stand testament to the statement An Adoptive Parent has a far greater responsiblity to their adopted child.

Part of the article says

Adoption laws in Queensland have not been changed since 1964 but Premier Anna Bligh promised an overhaul prior to the March election.

After the election, the Adoption Bill 2009 was introduced to the State Parliament.
It is understood one of the changes the Bill will provide for is allowing people in de facto relationships to be eligible to adopt. Currently only married people can adopt.

Thats just bluddy fantastic. They want to take the very foundation of a family unit and break it by allowing unwed couples to adopt. Sorry but if you cant commit to each other how the hell do you expect to commit to a child ?

It further goes on to state

Advocates of overseas adoption are furious that Australia is doing little to improve its low rate of adopting children from other countries.

More than three years after actress Deborra-Lee Furness – wife of Hollywood actor Hugh Jackman – launched a campaign to make the Federal Government address the situation, lobbyists say little has been done and what has been done is "window dressing".

Furness and her supporters established Orphan Angels – an advocacy group to improve the long wait times and anti-adoption culture of Australia.

At the time she told of how she and Jackman faced an uphill battle when they tried to adopt in Australia. The couple eventually adopted in America.
As a result of the outcry, Canberra set up a body to streamline the process

Well BOOHOO. Seriously this wife of a movie star doesnt even live in Australia full time and is interfering in our laws.
The reason we have an anti adoption culture is because we once did not, and out country was a shambles and a disgrace with all the shoddy adoptions that went on, children being ripped from their mothers.

I'm disgusted and furious that she is using her influence of being Hugh Jackmans wife along with everyone else touting that fact to try to boost her following to further her own agenda.

I'd probably have more respect for the woman if Hugh Jackmans name wasnt in every single article (or any in fact) to do with her and her push for opening up adoption ease in Australia.

This article CLICK HERE talks about our Australian Government and its policy of NOT allowing Private Adoption Practices here in Australia. Becuase they do not want Child Trafficking. Look at the countries around the globe that have Private Adoption Practices and Look at the horror stories connected to some of them.

I hope that Deborra Lee Furness stops meddling in Australia's adoption laws and policies.

And...Just another reason I cant stand Labor. Not only do we have a jet setting Prime minister who spends more time OUT of our Country than in it, but we also have Premiers whose heads are turned by famous people (or wives of famous people anyway!)

Psycho Adoptive Mother - Prison Break

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:41:00 +0000

I want to rip her eyes out. Or Rip her a new one !

Michael and Lincs Mother. (yes despite what you say bitch you are his mother !!!) Christina Schofield (from Prison Break for those that insanely do not watch this show!)

Linc is Adopted. Michael is not.
Its only come to surface of recent eps that Linc is adopted. Michael found out before Linc but Linc only found out in the most recent ep. (aired here in Oz anyway)

Hows this for a complete Bitch of a Adoptive Mother

Christina says to Lincs Face -directly - that Michael and Lincoln are test cases for the whole "nature versus nurture" study. That they had the same parents and the same upbringing, but they're completely different. Then a litter later in the show she gets all pyscho on Linc and starts ranting that he's worthless now that he said to Michael to leave him behind. How she never wanted to be a mother (gee you think!)

And then OMG She takes off her pointy stilettos and STABS Linc in his gunshot wound that SHE Had previosuly given him and presses HARD ( I do love how they are wearing White - so it looks even more dramatic ;) )

She further tells Linc that she is most definitely not his mother and Michael already knows that fact !!!

I wanted to reach through the screen and smack her one on the nose with her stiletto heel and wrap Linc in my arms..

Ive always been partial to Michael (drool) but boy oh boy I was just aching for Linc and thought how brave he was listening to all that shit being spewed out of Christina's evil mouth.

WHY does EVERY SINGLE Show (practicially) have to have adoption in it ? There is always a adoptee/adoptive parent/birth mother - whatever in most every show, and one of them is always demented if not all of them.

What does that SAY About us ?

It must be hard to love an adopted child like your own.

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:38:00 +0000

Yes this is the line in the file Orphan that I blogged about in April HERE that has got Adoptive Parents panties twisted in a knot!

Well I have one thing to say to you......

FFS its a M O V I E, its not about your adopted kid (or is it *insert evil laugh*) its a made up , get ratings drama.
As I said in my other post Im Pissed off big time about Orphan. Because I am sick to death of Movies/Drama Series potraying adoptees as the psycho.

But you (adoptive parents ) get your knickers in a twist because of ONE LINE ??? Well isnt that a suprise (not) Its always about YOU, its always about what YOU want.

Why dont you for ONCE put yourself in the shoes of the adoptee (or first parent) and try to walk a mile in them and then see what you have to complain about

(NB: this is not an attack directed at ALL Adoptive parents just those that feel adoption is all about THEM)

Comments

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 11:59:00 +0000

Well!!!

I want to send out a big sorry to those wonderful people in my life (blogging life LOL) who have sent in some AWESOME Comments in the past few months !

I used to have it set up that I received email notifications that someone had left a comment, well guess what ! Ive had no such thing for months.
Today while messing around in my blog I looked under comment moderation and suprise suprise a truckload of comments!

Well Ive published the lot including the not so nice ones!

To those of my friends who wish to comment on the not so nice ones - I say - LET IT RIP as in RIP not R.I.P!!!!

Life is to short to let people walk all over you!

To those nasty people out there with nastier dogs (as a breed that is ) dont bother !

Michael Jackson - His Childhood, His Interview with Bashir - The Wolf in Sheeps Clothing

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 11:48:00 +0000

I apologize if this post goes in and out of points.....

Last night I watched a show called Living with Michael Jackson.

Last night I cried again for Michael Jackson.

The pain that seeped out of his pores as he talked of his childhood and the things that people said about him, it was so obvious to anyone that this was not a put on, that this was truly a person in great pain.

I despise Joe Jackson, Michael's Father, I DESPISE HIM. I despise him for what he did to Michael and his siblings. As I watched the Memorial yesterday , how I wanted to reach right through my TV screen and say to home HOW DARE YOU - how dare you wear a HAT And CHEW GUM through your own sons memorial service.

This man is supposed to be deeply religious ? P...L..E..A..S..E .....yeah and I'm Bobbi Brown !

Michael, throughout the interview that I watched was so obviously still very child like in his nature and in deep pain. He was it appeared also quite manic in some parts of the interview , in the Germany section..
There are a couple of areas that I feel that I need to touch on here, personally, as a mother.

The dangling of Blanket (Prince Michael II) from the balcony window in Germany, either A) there was no real baby and it was a doll or B) Michael was manic - Drugs, Prescriptions Drugs can do that to you, I know, and I'm not in front of cameras and screaming fans and goodness know what else going on..But Ive had doctors prescribe things that have had a adverse affect with my body.
Michael Jackson is no different , he can still react to things.

The next issue is the feeding of Blanket (Prince Michael II) , The majority of people focused in on the muslin wrap/scarf over the baby, and whilst I personally cant stand that , there are MANY Women who breast feed their babies with such a scarf/ wrap. No, what I found distressing to me, as a mother was the jiggling up and down of Michael's Legs, whist giving the baby the bottle - looked like a pure recipe for a vomit!
The baby was distressed at not getting the bottle and having the scarf pulled this way and that way , It was CLEAR that the baby was distraught. But Michael was ALSO Distraught and in some sort of Manic state.

I blame Joe Jackson, I blame the Doctors / people loading Michael up with Drugs and I blame Bashir...

I've now watched a "apology" from Bashir, the English reporter (full name Martin Bashir) - what a Joke! Is he for real ? He was awful to Michael in the "Living with Michael Jackson" Interview.

He was a snake in the grass. He was a Wolf in Sheep Clothing. Sadly Michael also realised that , but too late and could not get out of it. He said in another interview that it was the worst betrayal :(

How sad. I hope Bashir has those words echoing in his head until the day he has to face Michael once again. But Michael will have forgiven him..

Just like I am sure when Joe Jackson joins his son one day , Michael will have forgiven him too. I hope too that Joe Jackson sits and contemplates, if not now but then on his death bed, how he played a pivotal role in the demise of his son, in his emotional fragility and his physical fragility.

Michael was a shining star, he was a sensitive soul, he deserved better treatment in his childhood and in his adult life.

Michael gave an awful lot to this world with not only his music and talent but his oepn heart and massive generosity. And what did the world give him back in return ?

NOTHING until now - his DEATH - when the naysayers become Michael believers, when the very people that hounded him suddenly now are lost in sadness ?

I hope the world will learn a lesson..you cant take it back..you cant take those words back, you cant take those hideous accusations back..you cant take the nastyness back...

It breaks my heart what has happened to Michael, it breaks my heart what is going to happen from now on........

Michael was eccentric...I will agree with those that state it..

For those that think this is some sort of crime, I say to you WHY ? and SO WHAT if he was eccentric, there are many people in many ordinary everyday families who are eccentric as well. We all have someone in our family thats a little different ....Thats what makes this world go round..
Michael made this world special with his way...

Michael's Family and Close Friends....

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:44:00 +0000

TO you all, I wish you my deepest sympathies.. As today you have held Michael's Memorial I join you with you in a deep sadness :(

I'm so sorry for your loss...

Michael has departed this earthly world far to early...

Now maybe though he will no longer suffer from the madness that surrounded him, in the form of media, the scandals that people laid at his feet....

I hold Michaels Memory in my heart and as my children grow up in the same era as Michaels I will ensure that they understand who exactly the KING OF POP Was ....

MICHAEL JACKSON

May he Rest In Peace

GOD BLESS YOU Michael....

Shon Pernice again in the news

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 05:46:00 +0000

This time for "disturbing the peace" you can watch the video HERE

Then of course there was the taped phone conversation between Activist Alonzo and Shon which you can listen to parts of it here where he speaks about Renee and Affairs....

Yes he wanted the police to look at the supposed guy that Renee was supposedly having an affair with and speaks of how the police are just going at him ! PFTT Because they know you are a dirty dog Shon Pernice they KNOW you killed your wife.

And fancy having that converstion with your kids in the background.

You are lower than low and this all time low on July 4th when you were pissed as a maggot and yet you put your children in the car to drive them home.

You should be locked up pronto for endangering your children.

I want to know WHY the chidlren are not being removed from this scumbags care and being immediately given to the full time custody of Renees Parents ?

Where is the outrage of this case ? like with Casey Anthonys case ?

I hope Renee is found and I hope its soon and I hope this arsehole gets whats coming to him..

Adam Herman ? Where is he ?

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 00:12:00 +0000

Where is anything about his dissapearance even ?
The last articles are back in January - its now July.

I did a piece about Adam click here in January as well.

But why is there nothing about the search for Adam ? or conviction for his adoptive parents for Abuse and Fraud ?

Please look at these photos of Adam Please Click Here Maybe you will recognize him? Maybe you KNOW What happened to him. Make a phone call and tell the Authorities and allow Adam to be put to rest or to know what happened to him.

There needs to be Justice for Adam if he was abused and or Murdered by his adoptive parents. They scammed money for him for 10 long years - that in itself is a horrendous crime, I dont want to even imagine what else Adam suffered at their hands :(

Please if you know something speak up

Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson RIP

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 04:42:00 +0000

Farrah Fawcett

Ive put Farrah's name first because not only is it etiquette to put a lady's name first but also she died before Michael.

I grew up with Charlies Angels and The Bionic Woman, I grew up with Michael Jackson as a musical influence.

Its taken me some time to compose what I want to say in respect to these two fine artists.

For Farrah, I feel deeply deeply sorry for her and for her family, such a beautiful woman ravaged by Cancer, I understand her families pain, My own Mother was ravaged in such a horrid way also. I also feel deeply sad for Farrah and her family in respect that The ? what is the right word here ? her demise was overshadowed by another brilliant artists passing that seems to have taken the shine off of Farrah. (as it were) - As I am sure that if Michael had not died so shortly after Farrah then It would have been Farrah's name that would have been on every Tabloid , Newspaper, Magazine TV Station , Reporters Lips... Perhaps it is a blessing to her family ? I do not know the answer to this, but to her family I say Please know this that I am mourning Farrah's loss all the way over here in Australia, right along with you as I sure many many other people around the world are.

RIP Beautiful Lady

Michael Jackson - King Of Pop

And he will always remain so. The man was and will remain forever a legend. Just as Elvis Presley was to the previous generation The King of Rock and Roll, Michael will remain the King Of Pop.

Ive chosen the song Ben as my remembrance to him. His voice was so unbelievably beautiful and he was such a beautiful boy. It is heartbreaking to listen to he words of not only Ben but to many other songs that Michael released and know that there was great sorrow behind those words. I believe the reason that he and indeed any song writer and or performer does so well in their field is because of their deep pain , love or genuineness behind the emotion in their songs.

I believe more than likely that Michael ended his own life. I believe that in March when he announced his 50 concerts that he would be dead at 50, I believe that his words of "Let the final curtain Call" and his turning around waving behind him at the media and crowd was his final goodbye..

I believe when he said these words "the songs my fans want to hear" and promised again that "this is the final curtain call. I'll see you in July."

That he was meaning they would see him in July at his funeral/memorial, and that his songs of course would be played at his funeral /memorial.

I believe that the man was in so much emotional and physical pain that he just wanted to escape..

I think that Michael had a horribly tormented childhood, and worse a terribly tormenting life by the media and all the many people who *hung* on to him for the many things he could do for them. Its not a new story, its happened before to many many other famous people who lived torturous lives and died young. James Dean, Marilyn Monroe, JFK, Elvis Presley , Princess Diana, Heath Ledger, the list could go on and on ... Some plagued more than others by paparazzi and innuendo , lies, rumour and so forth..

There are many people that will wish to sullen Michael Jackson's name by screaming paedophile, calling him whacko for his antics..and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but possibly those people do not know Michael Jackson before the scandals broke. Before he changed his face so much, before he went down a steep and slippery path until his own death just days ago..SO that is fine I can understand those people saying their thoughts, but that is only because they did not grow up with Michael's music and influence.

From all accounts Michael had a very hard and troubled childhood, it was not a easy childhood. From all accounts he has still all the way through his life had *family difficulties* Add to that the difficulties faced with the public and media, always wanting more until they broke him.
Then the vultures came.

Do I believe that Michael was a sexual predator of young children ? no I do not.
What i do believe is that Michael regressed into living a sort of dream like child hood fantasy, he became a child, he started to live a fantasy life. I believe he would have thought nothing of sleeping in the same bed as a child because he regressed into being a child himself. I think Michael was pushed over the edge. I think all the *whacko* things that he did , the Neverland ranch , the animals, the Monkey was all a step out of reality for him, I think with all the hounding, the wanting , the pushing , the constant media want want want at him , the changing of his face, the physical impact and toll on his own body and mind from that sent him over the edge into a different place of reality.

I remember when I saw him dangling his youngest child just a baby over the edge of the balcony I wanted to slap his face right off. I was so angry with him. In this article HERE His close friend Yuri Geller suspected that the *baby* was a fake. The dolls the Baby reborns are very real looking , perhaps it was in fact a fake. I hope so for the 9month old infants sake that it wasn't in fact him and was in fact a fake.

I remember being so angry with him, this incident more than anything turned me off him as a person for some time because I Was so angry with Michael Jackson, and for when I became a mother the following year I could never understand it. I still don't understand it real baby or a fake baby, But I can try to possibly be a little empathetic towards Michael Jackson for the horrendous strain that he was under from everyone.

My mother used to say Money cant buy you happiness, and while I do think that some money can certainly make you more comfortable, the mega millions that celebrities make does not bring them happiness, not true happiness. Everything has a price except happiness.. You just cant buy it.

To Michael's Family and True friends and fans that truly loved him you have my utmost heartfelt sympathies and condolences, and I mourn right along side you. To those that used Michael and pushed him to where he is today you have my utmost contempt.....

RIP KING of POP Michael Jackson, you were and always will be a true legend ......

Another Adopted Child - 9 years old - DEAD

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 11:34:00 +0000

Thats right NINE Years old, as if that isnt tragic enough, this child was a Quadraplegic.
Adopted by her AUNT because her mother abandonded her, a Quadraplegic because there was some sort of Suffocation in her Cot at around 3 months (some say earlier some say later)

Shylea Thomas was her name ...

And this is where she ended up - in a Garbage bag - with moth balls covering her Bed sore Ridden , 33lb pound corpse.....

Yes her Adoptive Mother , her biological Aunt, adopted her after other family members had taken turns caring for Shylea, And I'd lay a million to one that it was for the $$$$ signs that flashed by her eyes for the monthly subsidy check from the state of Michigan, which included $2,884.73 for caring for a child with special needs.

Here is the loving grieving adoptive mother, grieving for being CAUGHT! and nothing else !

You can read more here and here and here

I had a lot more to say, but I've been trying to post this for a couple of days now. Its been in draft mode for 5 days at least !

Everybody is doing it ....

noreply@blogger.com (Jane) — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 05:06:00 +0000

Writing about the movie coming up called Orphan..I first saw it here and made my comments, Ive since seen it Here and Here Im giving the links so A) you can visit these fabulous blogs and B) so you can read others comments...

The movie that is getting everyone yapping is one called ORPHAN, here is a little preview for your viewing pleasure , or revulsion, whatever tickles your fancy

My comments on this were and are :

OMFG I am BEYOND OUTRAGED
You know , everytime I see a movie, or a series where it turns out that the pyschopathic killer was adopted, I Cringe, it maks me feel that adoption is so very stereotyped to ALL ADOPTEES being total nutters, but this film is OUTRAGEOUS

Of course I love a good horror flick with evil in , so i'll be sure to watch it when it comes to Oz ;) Lol guess it must be the Adoptee in me *rolls eyes*

I wonder if Esther will die at the end ? or spend eternity in a straight jacket doped to the eyeballs? some days I think thats preferable ;) when I'm having my bad adoptee day.......

And it really does beg the question "If adoptees are potrayed in such a bad light all the time, why are their so many people itching to steal them away from their mothers as soon as possible, if not yesterday?"

We are chastised as adult adoptees when we speak out of how we feel inside, growing up as an adoptee, we are as adoptees potrayed as pyschopaths on tv , movies, and in print, we are told that we should be grateful and just accept our lot in life and be happy, at times it almost feels like the days of when Adults would speak and tell children speak when spoken to, they would carry on their conversations , around you and about you and expect their children to be silent, no matter what was being discussed....
At times, even in blogsville, I often feel like that..

Its almost like we are really just a "means to a end" - To fill those couples hearts desire of having a baby , and when that has been accomplished then really there is no use for us...

If adoption is so hunky dory, delightful, and the best thing in this world since sliced bread, why is there such sterotying such as this movie (and the many others) that foster kids, orphans, adoptees are completely pyscho ??? after all ...you never really can tell what *stock* they come from now can you .............................