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Please feel free to post your comments. ACA is an umbrella term covering ALL who have suffered from childhood neglect, trauma and abuse.<br><br>http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)Blogger171125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-9216436632927174207Fri, 05 May 2017 04:50:00 +00002017-05-04T21:51:39.635-07:00emotional abuselearned helplessnessvictimization According to a recent article published on wellness.com by Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT, "There's often a pervasive sense of being off balance for the person being emotionally abused. They start to question their own thinking and eventually believe that they must have it wrong and in fact, they're the bad ones for daring to believe such a thing about the abuser!" People who are emotionally abused http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2017/05/are-you-in-emotionally-abusive.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)43tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-3945917011261555636Mon, 15 Aug 2016 14:05:00 +00002016-08-15T07:07:43.455-07:00dr. wendy walshempathyforgivenessforgiving When it comes to forgiving, Dr. Wendy Walsh calls it, “One of the hardest things to do.” But as long as you continue to carry the pain of feeling hurt, then you STAY in a relationship with the person that wronged you. “Forgiveness is a gift to yourself, NOT the person who wronged you.” -Dr. Walsh Finding EMPATHY for the other person, as hard as it is, releases the anger, pain and fear you http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2016/08/when-it-comes-to-forgiving-dr.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-1892210016718725090Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:36:00 +00002016-01-19T09:40:40.034-08:00adult childrenchildren of alcoholicscoa weekinvisible childrenTian DaytonIt's COA Awareness week! On her latest article published on Huffington Post, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Tian Dayton examines the plight of children of dysfunctional parents as they grow to adulthood. Often their past trauma remains hidden until well after they mature and because it is buried, continues to negatively affect their relationships and how they feel about themselves. "COAs grow up http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2016/01/the-invisible-children.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-1972470609512012299Wed, 02 Sep 2015 16:49:00 +00002015-09-02T09:50:53.238-07:00acoa momacoa parentsfight or flightfrozen feelingsptsdTian Daytontrauma Dr. Tian Dayton is a pioneer in ACOA healing. Her recently published article in the Huffington Post is titled, "When Adult Children of Alcoholics Become Moms“. Although targeted to mothers, this insightful writing applies to all ACOAs and dysfunctional family members. Highlights: Kids whose fight or flight response is activated over and over again by the confusing and disturbing dynamics thathttp://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2015/09/ptsd-trauma-and-adult-children-becoming.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)31tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8894657415249490811Tue, 07 Apr 2015 18:37:00 +00002015-04-07T11:37:26.401-07:00flatterylow self esteemnarcissistnarcissisticnarcissistic tendencies One of the tenets of being an Adult Child Of Alcoholics is having a difficult time taking compliments. Typically the reaction ranges from ignoring the compliment to minimizing it or to deflect on how great the other person is. My theory is that ACAs are fearful of accepting the affection we so desperately crave because it can become a powerful emotional hook and we are afraid of becoming http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2015/04/you-may-be-unknowing-target-narcissist.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8177721527574071820Mon, 09 Mar 2015 16:45:00 +00002015-03-09T09:47:35.964-07:00dr. drewdrew pinskyemotional disregulationtraumatrauma and addictionhttp://www.kabc.com/common/page.php?pt=Dr.+Drew+Midday+Live+-+03%2F03%2F15+-+12PM&id=40341&is_corp=0 You may be familiar with Dr. Drew Pinsky’s work as an addiction specialist on the show Celebrity Rehab, his own TV talk show and now as a radio host on KABC 790 AM. Dr. Drew’s radio show is available as a free podcast. On March 3, he had a few interesting things to say about trauma, dysfunctionhttp://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2015/03/dr-drew-on-trauma-and-emotional.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8942565634705861267Wed, 04 Feb 2015 21:23:00 +00002015-02-04T13:24:45.925-08:00Claudia BlackClaudia Black Young Adult CenterDr. Claudia BlackThe Meadows “Our mission at the Claudia Black Young Adult Center is to help young adults and their families forge recovery paths, so they can heal, blossom, and thrive."- Dr. Claudia Black The center focuses on a nurturing community, family systems, proven testing and assessments, life skills, experiential therapies, and 12-step work. Trauma comes in many forms, including but not limited to bullying, http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2015/02/claudia-black-launches-center-for-young.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-1736008846549969381Tue, 07 Oct 2014 16:49:00 +00002014-10-07T09:54:22.470-07:00addadhdattention deficitattention disordercopingdopamineself medicationSteven L. Schandler “Adult children of alcoholic parents have the highest rate of attention disorders among any clinical group.”- according to professor Steven L. Schandler, director of the Addiction Research and Cognitive Psychophysiology Laboratories at Chapman University. In a recent Orange County Register article (Click here for full article), Schandler also claimed that when ACOAs with ADD consume alcohol, http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2014/10/acoa-and-adhd.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-436933843813537429Tue, 24 Jun 2014 23:45:00 +00002014-06-24T16:45:19.656-07:00Annette McGivneyptsdtraumaTrauma Release ExercisesTraumatic Memories When writer Annette McGivney set out to do research on a murder for a new book, she developed nightmares, panic attacks and insomnia. Her diagnosis was delayed onset post-traumatic stress disorder. The cause was 30 years of repressed fear that she had successfully kept a secret — especially from herself — that as a little girl she feared her my raging father would kill her. “Most adult http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2014/06/traumatic-memories.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-1274325338890860401Tue, 22 Apr 2014 23:17:00 +00002014-04-22T16:18:44.324-07:00codependentcontrolControl Freakfearoverbearingreaction to fear CONTROL is usually a reaction to FEAR. Controlling, overbearing, "my way or the highway" behaviors are an attempt to calm the inner anxiety and panic that an overwhelming amount of sustained chaos created in a dysfunctional family or environment, usually experienced in the formative years. Adult Children Of Alcoholics may be prone to continuing controlling patterns into adulthood. Control http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2014/04/control-freaks-8-signs-to-watch-for.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-6009207394648338752Tue, 04 Feb 2014 23:55:00 +00002014-02-04T15:57:45.610-08:00ACEsdevelopmental traumaHealing Personal Developmental Trauma. ACERelational Trauma Relational or developmental trauma can be unknowingly inflicted by parents who are not aware of the physical, mental, social, spiritual and emotional needs of their children. These parents are unable to respond to these needs properly because they did not get these needs met when THEY were children. These kinds traumas can go unnoticed as they are often subtle interactions between parent and http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2014/02/healing-personal-developmental-trauma.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-4746204049400662625Tue, 10 Dec 2013 18:23:00 +00002013-12-10T10:23:00.556-08:00Barry and Janae WeinholdCounterdependencyFlight From Intimacy Drs. Barry and Janae Weinhold have some revealing thoughts about early trauma and the dysfunction that continues long after. "Counterdependency" is a set of adult behaviors that are caused by developmental trauma between the ages of 9 and 36 months. This trauma often involves emotional abuse such as shaming and physical abuse such as spanking. This abuse affects people’s ability to trust. http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/12/counter-dependency-and-flight-from.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-930795465475945239Wed, 06 Nov 2013 00:01:00 +00002013-11-05T16:01:15.900-08:00meditationmusic for meditationrelaxing musicTranquility Dream Music: For Sleep & Relaxation (Exclusive Amazon Digital Sampler) Put your mind at ease. Over 2 hours of chilled out music absolutely FREE! Sample and download here: http://www.amazon.com/Dream-Music-Relaxation-Exclusive-Digital/dp/B00FAEPGA0/ref=pd_sim_dmusic_a_9 De-stress, Relax and chill with this free sampler from Amazon.com Check out the Orange County ACA website at: Orange http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/11/tranquility-is-free.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-2958027084595983182Tue, 01 Oct 2013 19:34:00 +00002013-10-04T09:28:52.303-07:00Grown Wounded ChildrenGWChigh nurturance familyinherited dysfunctionPeter K. Gerlach What happens when someone has psychological wounds that they don't realize or are in denial of? For one, they may live a less joyful, fulfilled life and struggle with emotions and relationships. Secondly, they pass their "wounds" down to the next generation. These inherited wounds are then often again passed down and so on.According to Peter K. Gerlach, MSW, once GWCs (Grown Wounded Children) http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/10/is-childhood-trauma-affecting-your-life.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-4948854845725602850Tue, 10 Sep 2013 17:53:00 +00002013-09-10T10:53:03.120-07:00heroinner childOur self-esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basisreparentingPhilip G. Zimbardo, Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Stanford University suggests that there are small steps which can bring out the "inner hero" in anyone. Zimbardo maintains that heroes are "sociocentric," noticing other people in need and offering help. Therefore, a potential hero does not necessarily need to save someone from danger, but can simply be observant and commit a small act of http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/09/how-to-be-your-own-hero.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8557078178334715740Tue, 30 Jul 2013 17:41:00 +00002013-07-30T10:41:36.483-07:00body postureChange Your MindChange Your Postureguess at what normal is&nbsp;&nbsp; It is often said that Adult Children Of Alcoholics "guess at what normal is". We may try to behave how we think we "should" in spite of past conditioning. Another way to say this is "fake it til you become it". Rather than just a shallow attempt to fit in, assuming the behavior and posture of a successful person actually helps to transition one into integrating and "owning" that veryhttp://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/07/change-your-posture-change-your-mind.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-6493114141800255828Tue, 02 Jul 2013 17:30:00 +00002013-07-02T10:30:06.134-07:0011th step meditationfree meditation downloadmeditationmusic for meditationrelaxationrelaxing musicThe Mayo Clinic has listed both meditation and listening to music as Top Ten stress relievers. Here is over an hour and a half of FREE music to help you relax, focus and chill out courtesy of Amazon.com. Click on the three links below and download away! Step 11- "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/07/music-for-healing-and-mediation.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8010914638596464659Tue, 11 Jun 2013 18:57:00 +00002013-06-11T12:08:22.512-07:00adult child of alcoholic dysfunctional familybradshawinner childjudgement&nbsp;John Bradshaw On Healing The Inner ChildRemember the story of Adam and Eve? Legend has it they they gained wisdom from eating forbidden fruit. But what I think they really got was the insidious and pervasive "disease" of judgement. Once they learned judgement they could blame and in turn, feel blame and shame for being "wrong". They felt naked and exposed. Their self judgement made them http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/06/how-judgement-keeps-you-from-healing.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-852966044324018825Tue, 14 May 2013 22:44:00 +00002013-05-14T15:44:26.264-07:00aceptsdthe solutionTian DaytonDr. Tian Dayton describes PTSD as a post traumatic stress reaction in which childhood pain is being lived out in adult relationships without our awareness.When we experience trauma the prefrontal cortex (responsible for planning and rational thought) shuts down and the traumatic experienced does not get processed. It works the same way in Adult Children Of Alcoholics as in others, although ACOAs http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/05/can-adult-children-of-alcoholics-forget.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-6380186080171054890Wed, 17 Apr 2013 01:14:00 +00002013-04-16T18:16:51.841-07:00Brene BrownconnectionshamevulnerabilityShame is one of the major blocks to having a deep connection to other people. Some people seem to have a sense of worthiness, love and belonging. For others it is a challenge. People that experience "connection" more often have the courage to be imperfect and the compassion to be kind and self accepting.Do you have the courage to be imperfect? Can you let go of who you "should be" in order to be http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/04/connection-and-vulnerability.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8436273478580698429Tue, 26 Feb 2013 22:48:00 +00002013-02-26T14:50:54.520-08:00empathyhidden paininner child&nbsp;Life is hard. It's even harder if you don't have parents. By that, I mean parents in the fullest sense- two supportive, caring and emotionally present beings to guide and help you develop. I say this not to indulge in self pity or wallow in victimization. I say it simply because it's true, yet is often overlooked by those most affected by it- the adult child of alcoholics. We take it for http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/02/healing-pain-of-inner-child.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-3472766702337151737Tue, 05 Feb 2013 23:23:00 +00002013-02-05T15:29:30.840-08:00Control Freakhealingperfection Adult Child Of Alcoholic, Sandra Graves Talks About Healing Sandra Graves talks about dysfunction, fear, "perfection", forgiveness and healing from a personal perspective. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Who's In Control? Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/02/healing-are-you-control-freak.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-463833000279805880Tue, 15 Jan 2013 23:44:00 +00002013-01-15T15:44:45.443-08:00Huffington Post recently published this video on How Adult Children Of Alcoholics can confront their parents about their addiction.&nbsp; Host Nancy Redd was joined by Jeff Jay, co-author of "Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention"; Julie Bowden, a therapist and co-author of "Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics"; Erin Harkes, a singer/songwriter; and psychotherapist Wendy http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/01/confronting-aca-parents.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8163547142712937000Tue, 01 Jan 2013 18:37:00 +00002013-01-01T10:40:14.638-08:00meditationmusicrelaxationstep 11 Step 11: "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out." It can sometimes be a challenge for ACAs to take time out for ourselves. Call it yoga music, songs for meditation or whatever, this download has over 2 hours of chilled out goodness and it's all FREEhttp://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2013/01/free-music-for-meditation-and-relaxation.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-221101278797301003.post-8893601463422278614Tue, 20 Nov 2012 18:31:00 +00002012-11-20T10:31:14.134-08:00lisa romano You can be part of the solution!Rutgers University is conducting an online survey of ACAs. This study is being conducted to learn more about the communication behaviors that characterize families of alcoholism and the implications that family communication patterns have on the adjustment and well-being of adult children of alcoholics. The survey is anonymous.Conducted by: Marie C. http://adultchildrenaca.blogspot.com/2012/11/part-of-solution.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0