tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299Thu, 01 Mar 2012 03:48:23 +0000soul mateswomenmendatingforgivenessrelationshiploveattractiondifferenceRelationship Coach &amp; A-ha! Trainer<br> REAL LOVE. Happier Marriages. Stronger Families. &lt;3http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)Blogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-3477119498445316967Thu, 01 Mar 2012 04:04:00 +00002012-02-29T19:48:23.321-08:00I've always found those "What People Think I Do" graphic memes entertaining, so here's one for that thing we're always talking about: "LOVE." :-)http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-people-think-i-do.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-3264697565620766455Sat, 25 Feb 2012 05:12:00 +00002012-02-24T20:56:08.064-08:00A number of couples go to our counseling center hoping to save their marriage; sometimes, it's just one spouse who's actively getting help. If there's anything I've learned from these people in rocky relationships, it's this: They already SAW the problems even BEFORE they got married. But they got married anyway. They got married because people expected them to, because they'd already been http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2012/02/what-you-can-learn-from-unhappy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-4289941977077216452Mon, 20 Feb 2012 23:24:00 +00002012-02-20T15:08:31.933-08:00Some women tell me that their friends keep telling them to "lower their standards," so they can finally be in the loving relationship they want. But when I ask them what exactly are their standards, they say very reasonable things like "He should be responsible with money." or "He should be emotionally stable." or "He should be kind to others." or "He should be spiritually mature." Often I find http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2012/02/should-you-really-lower-your-standards.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-5544146219440390290Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:01:00 +00002012-02-16T19:37:08.554-08:00A Special Workshop Offer To celebrate my Valentines Day guesting on The Wake Up Show How do you make a guy friend start thinking of you as "more than a friend?" Is there an effective way to convince your boyfriend to take your relationship to the next level? What causes a man to decide to be committed to one woman, but not to another? What makes a man fall in love, not just in lust? http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2012/02/special-workshop-offer.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-2309897228935561268Fri, 12 Aug 2011 23:07:00 +00002011-08-12T16:09:38.965-07:00 "Love is part Science, part Magic, and part Adventure." This is something I've come to realize and believe, and I often share this with my coaching clients. Let me share with you why... Love Is 1/3 Science  No matter how much we think we've changed in the arena of relationships -- like how women are now more empowered, and how men now have the permission to be in touch with their http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/08/love-science-magic-adventure.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-2770340742179465767Tue, 19 Jul 2011 08:07:00 +00002011-07-19T01:12:05.676-07:00womenattractiondatingsoul matesmenloverelationshipI don't believe in "Soul Mates," in the idea that someone out there is walking around with "the other half of your heart / soul," and you can only become complete when you find each other. Courtesy of PhotoBucket This myth gives many people the idea that "if things get hard in a relationship, then it probably means we're not meant to be together," or that "if I made a mistake and http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/07/why-i-dont-believe-in-soul-mates.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-7101909515982497680Wed, 06 Jul 2011 02:35:00 +00002011-07-05T19:37:05.240-07:00forgivenessdatingloverelationship SYLVIA BROOME: Everyone who loses somebody wants revenge, on God if they can't find anyone else. But in Africa, in Matobo, the Ku believe that the only way to end grief is to save a life. lf someone is murdered, a year of mourning ends with a ritual that we call the Drowning Man Trial. There's an all-night party beside a river. At dawn, the killer is put in a boat. He's taken out on thehttp://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/07/everything-we-need-to-know-about.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-7099646458745115668Sat, 11 Jun 2011 04:09:00 +00002011-06-10T21:09:54.831-07:00womenattractiondatingmenloverelationshipThe Top 4 Reasons... ...why so many of us still don't have the Real Love we say we want: We have not yet developed the Vision to recognize (potential) Real Love when we see it.  We still don't have the Courage to accept the risks that come with a Real Loving Relationship. We still lack an Understanding of what Real Love needs in order to grow. And Even when we know what needs to be done, http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/06/top-4-reasons-why-real-love-eludes-us.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-5780101995849948673Wed, 25 May 2011 07:25:00 +00002011-05-25T00:25:31.465-07:00I just updated this special report I published online: The Top 5 Surprising Reasons That May Be Keeping You From Finding The One (function() { var scribd = document.createElement("script"); scribd.type = "text/javascript"; scribd.async = true; scribd.src = "http://www.scribd.com/javascripts/embed_code/inject.js"; var s = document.getElementsByTagName("script")[0]; s.parentNode.insertBefore(http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/05/top-5-surprising-reasons-that-may-be.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-1668591249091761037Mon, 23 May 2011 23:57:00 +00002011-05-23T16:57:08.370-07:00attractiondifferenceloverelationship...and this song from Leigh Nash shows us that - even between two people who are already in a relationship with each other - our ideas of "heaven" could differ greatly. Does this mean you have to think very much alike in order to be happy? Not necessarily. :-) But three of the major keys to a happy relationship are these: To always remember that you are two different people,  To not expect http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2011/05/we-all-have-different-ideas-about-what.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-116851337722929295Thu, 11 Jan 2007 11:01:00 +00002007-01-11T03:02:57.496-08:00 This is something I believe in. :-)"Thoughts become things."Here, Mike Dooley talks about using our powers of thought, imagination and visualization to manifest changes in our life. http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2007/01/thoughts-become-things.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-115933515674408657Wed, 27 Sep 2006 05:26:00 +00002006-09-26T22:32:39.996-07:00 Art Therapy uses drawing, painting, moulding clay and sand-play and symbol work to reveal patients feelings and explore their issues. http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2006/09/art-therapy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-113584499955206185Thu, 29 Dec 2005 08:24:00 +00002005-12-29T00:29:59.563-08:00Last month - during the 2nd session of a workshop I was conducting - I learned that one of our participants had been killed. He was 21.One Saturday he'd entered our workshop doors wanting to write down the stories of his life; the next day his life was over, and the last word he ever said was "Mommy."When I learned about this, I started counting - and noticing - the next 10,080 minutes of my ownhttp://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2005/12/honor-your-stories-celebrate-your-life.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-109178566332114244Fri, 06 Aug 2004 09:30:00 +00002004-08-06T03:05:54.516-07:00The other night I found myself in the company of no less than 10 counselors/dreamers/trainers, and I had an "A-ha!" moment. Well actually, the "A-ha!" moment came about 43 hours and 44 minutes later (a while ago, in fact), when I realized something that happened that night. And what happened, exactly? What happened was I sat there in the middle of that group of strangers, silently praying thathttp://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2004/08/permission-passion.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451299.post-108832586024968210Sun, 27 Jun 2004 08:30:00 +00002004-06-27T01:49:22.953-07:00Aileen is said to be the Gaelic variation of Helen, which means "light." On the other hand, Santos is very Spanish, and literally means "saints." Put these two words together, and I am literally "the light of the saints." A big responsibility, yes, and rather pressure-building. But I am extremely grateful to have a name like mine, because it gives me a clear idea of the person I'd been http://aileensantos.blogspot.com/2004/06/about-aileen.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Aileen Santos)0