I find myself looking forward to my daily routine, it's not much, I take my vitamins and have a coffee, then I water my plants and I sit out the back and try to put positive thoughts in my head for the day, then I pray to God that my child gets in touch and if she doesn't just to keep her healthy and happy and to have genuine people around her who have her best intentions. Then I get on with my day 👍

I am so doing this and it's getting better. I'm staying vigilant though as the AV can come out of nowhere sometimes. Have a great weekend everyone, it's boiling here, I keep opening the freezer to stick my head in it 😂👍

It means very little because I'm aging and riddled with health issues and poverty

The AV is visiting less thank God 🙏 I am taking the students to a big aquapark this afternoon. Loving my morning routine, it's like I need routine and to be organized otherwise my brain wanders, my sleep is fantastic which I am grateful for 👍

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It's our wedding anniversary today, I received a beautiful bouquet of flowers 🌺 feeling good, refreshed and more energy. Going to the beach ⛱️ for the afternoon 😎

Hellooooooo :wavey:
9 months sober now
And now I'm trying life without medication too (I was on latuda 18.5mg)
I sleep a bit better, feel more grounded, calm, balanced, more natural, more in contact with myself for better and worse
I can also feel quite dry, tired, dull, depressed, serious, unhappy
Without both alcohol and medication I'm completely dry and "naked"
But I want to stick with it and deal with things instead of trying to escape
Life is.. somewhat okay. In some sense I feel okay
I wish all a great saturday :banana:
(See? I try to be more energetic, happy and alive. I try ;))

ExAH got a judge to sign off that he was cleared of his 2 DWI's and also breaking probation for the 2 DWI's by showing up drunk to the probation officer. Somehow in February the judge signed papers saying no further action was being taken. After that, he for the most part stopped Soberlinking to me, stopped showing up at church, etc and went dark. He 'finished' rehab at the end of the year, went back for like 10 days because he started drinking again, and then stopped all of the treatment.

Since that time he's managed to cash out the cash portion of the life insurance policy that we had on him when we got married that is for our kids. I gave him my blessing on that actually (not that I could have stopped him). But then he also managed to falsify court documents that stated he no longer owed me child support and therefore could terminate the policies and no longer pay the premiums even though the insurance company has our divorce decree that says he cannot terminate them - UNLESS he no longer owes child support. So he just made up a document and terminated that. I'm working on that one with the company now.

And then I realized that he's racked up $20k in credit card debt in the last 6 months on a joint card we had when we were married that I naively thought he closed. He spends his days hopping from gas station to gas station to liquor store etc. buying booze.

And last weekend he got another DWI about a mile from his house, 2 miles from mine. So that's his 3rd in our state, 4th total although the 1st one was dismissed.

No idea how he keeps getting away with all of this.

I'm just venting. I feel bad for my kids. I feel bad for him mom who just doesn't understand what he's become. He had so much going for him but the addiction has taken a tight hold on him.

I did text my friend who said she had only amazing things to say about a rehab program in TN.... I am thinking about passing that info along to his mom because maybe that could help him. But also maybe I just need to stay in my own lane :-/

I'm new to the group and have found a lot of kindness and wisdom in the posts. Yesterday, I bought a bottle of wine after 139 days of sobriety. I really beat myself up over it. Then I read this wonderful suggestion of thinking in terms of how many days I made it and letting the relapse provide insights rather than viewing it as a failure.
That really helped me see today as day 141 minus 1 instead of tossing out all the previous hard won days.
Thank you all!

Wow, just haring because I know many of you will relate. I am doing good, there is nothing special about today, no stress, and I am looking forward to having tomorrow off. Then it hits me, I can go shopping after work and just stop by the liquor store. It is really strong. I am taking deep breaths...acknowledging the feeling, not denying it or stuffing it...letting it come to the forefront of my mind. I am breathing through it now because I don't need it...I still acknowledge it is a feeling I have...but only a feeling. I am going to continue breathing and know that I can still go shopping, but not make that stop to the liquor store. Thanks for listening. Hugs.

It's been awhile since I've been on this site, but I cannot stress enough how the site got me through the horrible times of addiction. My daughter has been sober now for 20 years, but some of the fall out still continues. She has totally gotten her life together but my oldest grandson (whom I had take custody of at age 11) struggles with relationships now.
But I just want to tell everyone....there is hope...stay strong

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Got peed off again last night when hubby said for his birthday (our short vacation) he wanted to sit in a pub all night on his birthday when he'd already said one pint, I'm not a hundred percent sure but when I stop drinking, it's like he wants to get me upset so I stay drinking and my eyes aren't wide open, I've seen this pattern for a very long time. With a friend before, I stopped and she wasn't really onboard, then I realized it was because everyone could see how she was drinking and I was 100% right about it ( no longer friends) anyway I am staying strong no matter what 👍