It's Fathers Day in my neck of the woods so a happy Fathers Day to everyone who celebrates it :)
DD

Over the past month or two I've argued with my wife and son (who moved back in) periodically. The arguing got very heated (as they sometimes do) and they both said (separate arguments), they liked me better when I was drinking. Wow. I didn't think I've been that much of an arse hole AND I'm not going to start drinking again to see if they're right. I've been sober for a little over 3 years and seven months. I'd rather be a sober arse hole than a dead arse hole...
OK, I'm done, thanks for reading.
I hope everyone else is doing well. N2C

Could someone please give me some insight. My daughter is 30 years old. She has struggled with drugs, inappropriate relationships, homelessness, alcohol. I feel like I've been trying to save her or redirect her for close to 20 years. She finally went to rehab April of 2026, she was there 6 weeks. My husband and I went to the parents therapy day, I went to the parents weekend. We were both active in her recovery. Her perspective seemed to shift, she seemed to acknowledge the pain and trauma she had inflicted over the years. Once she graduated she went to AA meetings faithfully, sought out a sponsor and therapist, went back to work. BUT, she came out of rehab with a new group of people. One she pulled at my heart strings, "she'll be homeless, she has no one to help her, she's had unthinkable trauma...", I agreed. She moved into the RV with my daughter that was located in our driveway. That quickly fell apart and we had to get law enforcement involved. The other individual, a 24 year old guy that just now found a job, his mom pays for everything. After the first individual finally moved on, he became a more frequent fixture. The only reason he wasn't with her here more was because the sober living home his mom was paying for him to reside had curfews. They went to church because his sober living required it. The same with AA meetings. She started talking to us less and less, she stopped meeting with her sponsor, she said she didnt want to do step work. From what I saw she was/is headed backwards. We told her in treatment we refused to go backwards. A week or so more passed, she continued to isolate with him, there was less and less interaction with us, her parents. In my heart, I feel like she knew how I would eventually respond. I finally told her the arrangement wasn't going to work, that she needed to get out of debt and find a place to live. She's an RN. She worked 12 hour shifts Mon., Tues., and Wed. Thursday I got a text from her saying she had found an apartment, Thursday afternoon there was a UHAUL truck here and her and her boyfriend moved every bit of her stuff from my home. They now live together. I was, I am, angry and hurt. She made comments to me like, I'm at peace with you no longer controlling my life. Statements that made me feel like she was now blaming me for the awful choices she had made in her life. I feel betrayed, manipulated. I feel like she's punched me in the throat. Of course now, almost 3 weeks have passed, the tone of her text messages has changed. I'm sorry mom, I did this to take the stress Ive caused you away. I love you, I didn't do this to hurt you. BUT now, now that she supposedly is not under the influence, I feel completely betrayed and I feel like shes just cruel and selfish. NOW, I feel like I need to protect myself from her, because the years of emotional and mental pain just never seem to stop and I can't continue. Then there are the guilt texts, I'll get married, have kids and give my kids the unconditional love they deserve, I'll surround myself with people who love me and want me to succeed. So now, I'm struggling with guilt, doubt, hurt, betrayal, anger, so many different emotions. Am I wrong? Do I AGAIN, give her a second chance, pretend the past didnt happen and move on with her until the next time? My goal for now, is to not have a relationship with her.

Everytime I drink I put myself in dangerous situations, I think I am insane. I got jumped, pulled into an alley. I hit him in the throat with all my force.
i am beat up, bruised and absolutely disgusted with myself. I cant just be normal when drinking
I hate myself and just crying.
Please God change my ways.

Hello everyone. Recently an AA friend asked me if one should talk to an alcoholic who's still drunk? Or should one wait until they are at least somewhat sober? They got a text from this person that said hey I've been drinking this morning and want to talk. My friend also said that the last time they took a drunks (who was still drinking) call the person (not the same person) cussed them out and so they hesitate to go through it again.

Personally, I'm no AA saint and I would not talk to them. I have seen this person at meetings occasionally and I simply don't have the inclination to get involved in their drama. But I did not give my friend that answer because I am not sure it's always the right answer for everyone.

Your thoughts/suggestions are appreciated.

I almost ruined my relationship last night. Today was very hard. I thought I could have a drink again every now and then, but that doesnt happen. Im glad I never deleted this place off my phone. Im glad I know I have support. Ive been seeing a therapist and psychiatrist for a year now. Today I didnt feel safe, so I went to my uncle's house. Now I am back home. I told my boyfriend I will stop drinking. Ive done it before. I can do this again. Im grateful I have another chance.

I just got back from taking the family to Busch Gardens and Water Country for the week. It was fun but my back and neck are sore from all the roller coasters and rafts banging around so I'm going to take it easy through labor day weekend and just chill.

I'll resume training tuesday. I ate waaaaaaaaay too many sweets and way too many meals that were unhealthy. Breakfast every morning and dinner out every night for a week was not good for me. Every night, we went to a different ice cream shop or candy shop. I put on 7 pounds over the vacation so i'm going to be eating super light for the next week. No sweets or fried foods which are 2 of my biggest weaknesses.

I came back sore but mentally recharged. I needed to take a vacation for a bit. I was starting to lose perspective on things from all the drama over the past year so it was good to just play for a week and not worry. We rented an air b&b and took the dog along too. I had a really good time but I'm glad to be home.


side note and very important:

It's weird, 10 years after getting clean and when I was at the park yesterday, I slipped and fell pretty gnarly on my back. I really thought I had severely injured myself, but like everything else, I blow everything out of proportion.

What went through my head- was I didn't want booze, I wanted opioids. I was semi terrified. Luckily, it was almost the end of the day so I only missed like 2 rides. My wife could see I was upset so she gave me an AMAZING back rub and I took some ibuprophen and took a blistering hot shower and concentrated all the hot water on my sore back. I slept good and I was 50% better than the day before and there was no signs of a disk injury or anything serious so I'm good. Just a tad sore. I wonder if the opioid craving came from me having to take oxys after my surgery. It really freaked me out so I wanted to come here and let you all know.

I was going to get back into BJJ but I feel like my body might be too frail for ju-jitsu again. I dunno. I guess I can take a few classes and just see where I am skill wise after 20 years of being off the mat. I used to be pretty good, but my joints might make this decision for me. :)

Any one have any plans for Labor day weekend?

Hi everyone. I am in day 4 and doing well. I have done this before, lasting 2 years before relapse. I live in a retirement golf community , where the parties and happy hour are a daily occurrence and celebrating "breathing" is a reason to drink. All our friends are drinkers and love to party, so I am surrounded with challenges. My wife turned 61 today and we are having 24 drinkers here tomorrow evening to celebrate. Followed by my wife out of town for 4 days leaving me alone in the house. My routine would be to start drinking at 5 pm, until bedtime, whether I am alone or not.

I am buckled in for the ride for the next 5 days of challenges. Wish me luck !!!

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