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			<title>First month</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2026 04:29:35 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>And first of many. 
Just checking in so I could write it down. Feels more official. 
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<div>And first of many.<br />
Just checking in so I could write it down. Feels more official.<br />
Still struggling with motivation to get on top of a few things. Hopeful it will come in time</div>


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			<dc:creator>Finalcall</dc:creator>
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			<title>Weekenders: Taking off the Mask; 27 - 30 March 2026</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2026 04:06:26 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>Weekenders: Taking off the Mask; 27 - 30 March 2026 
 
 
 
  
 
  
 
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<div>Weekenders: Taking off the Mask; 27 - 30 March 2026<br />
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 ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[Give a man a mask, and he]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ll tell you the truth.]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[<br />
<ul><li>Oscar Wilde.</li>
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 For a long time, alcohol was my mask. It gave me something to hide behind ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ a way to say things I couldn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t otherwise say, to feel things I didn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t know how to face, and to present a version of myself that felt easier than the real one. <br />
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 But over time, that mask stopped revealing truth and started burying it and me!<br />
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 Now, in my sobriety,  the mask is removed and I learnt how to live without it. That was uncomfortable initially, sometimes raw, but also real in a way I haven]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t experienced in a long time.<br />
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 I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m here because I wanted that  truth ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ even when it was messy. Wanted to understand who I am without the mask, without the alcohol, and to build something more genuine from that place I was in.<br />
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 You may relate to hiding behind this mask that once felt like freedom but became something else. <br />
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 If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes.<br />
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 Link to last thread; <a href="https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/470276-weekenders-feeling-like-spring-clean-20-23-march-2026-a.html" target="_blank">Weekenders; Feeling like a Spring clean? ~ 20-23 March 2026</a><br />
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			<title>Occasionally I (we) just like to count our days sober - Pt28</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2026 07:45:57 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>Last part here: 
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<div>Last part here:<br />
<a href="https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/alcoholism/468610-occasionally-i-we-just-like-count-our-days-sober-pt-27-a-20.html" target="_blank">https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...t-27-a-20.html</a><br />
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			<title>Not doing so well now</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2026 02:06:23 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I have posted some "x months" milestone threads where I mainly focus on the positive stuff 
It's also because I want to believe in it and be positive 
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<div>I have posted some &quot;x months&quot; milestone threads where I mainly focus on the positive stuff<br />
It's also because I want to believe in it and be positive<br />
But lately I feel down and I miss drinking and I miss my drinking buddies and being more alive, happy, social and loose<br />
My life seems pretty dull, dry and empty now<br />
I know it goes in waves and I shouldn't listen too much to it. But it's how I feel now..<br />
I feel like I changed my life too much at once<br />
Don't sleep well or enough.. I'm sure that affects my mood and energy a lot<br />
<u>I really don't want to drink and I will not</u>, but I feel like I need SOMETHING. Or at least sleep better<br />
I have started melatonin. don't think it helps much<br />
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I also need to see other people and connect more. But it's hard when all I &quot;want&quot; is to stay home<br />
It's not what I want but what I'm drawn to<br />
My social ability needs training!<br />
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			<title>Day 306</title>
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			<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2026 00:05:17 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[Figured I'd pop in to remind any newcomers that if I can do it anybody can.  I relapsed around a year ago, I remember the feeling I got when I was on my way back after buying booze, it was so dark...]]></description>
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<div>Figured I'd pop in to remind any newcomers that if I can do it anybody can.  I relapsed around a year ago, I remember the feeling I got when I was on my way back after buying booze, it was so dark and terrible. The feeling I felt was how I use to live daily, I had become use to feeling like that.  When I drank it wasn't fun and scared me sober and I haven't touched the stuff since.  I was in a space where I could compare it to being sober for months - sober is indeed the better way to live.  No comparison!</div>


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			<title>Let&#65533;s make a long story &#65533; longer</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 22:02:54 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>In true Atlast fashion!  
 
My therapist and I have already discussed and I feel a-ok about this story. 
 
Im pretty sure x is dating one of our friends. Based off the reports of said friend always...</description>
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<div>In true Atlast fashion! <br />
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My therapist and I have already discussed and I feel a-ok about this story.<br />
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Im pretty sure x is dating one of our friends. Based off the reports of said friend always being around these days, as told by kids. <br />
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We met friend and her husband 15 years ago while camping. We hit it off and were a tight knit friend group. We were also all active alcoholics and drank, all weekend long, together. <br />
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When I got sober, that changed things. We quit camping - too much of a trigger for me - and I could t spend time with them much anymore. We had conditioned them to 16+ hours a day together of drunkness. <br />
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when we would hang out, that was the expectation. <br />
I slowly faded out over time. For many reasons. <br />
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You see, my friend is a kind and loving person. But she]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s broken. Not only an alcoholic but an abused woman who learned to make herself small for others. A people pleaser who never stood up to her husband. <br />
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Her husband appeared to have untreated mental health disorders. He would rage for no reason, lock her out of the house, cancel her credit cards, cancel her phone. He told her for years that one day he]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[d sell the house out from under her, take all the money and be gone. That]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s exactly what ended up happening. <br />
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She defended her husband for years. They understood each other, they loved each other, and she was in it for the long haul. <br />
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It would make perfect sense if they are dating. She won]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t stand up for herself, she will jump when x says jump, and she will bend over backwards to make x happy. And she]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s an alcoholic. That]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s the type of person x needs and who I used to be. <br />
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On the one hand, I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m sad for the loss of my friend. On the other hand, she made a choice and chose my alcoholic x. We were very close - she knew my struggles with x. At the very least, she]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s kind to my kids. She always has been. </div>


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			<title>I am getting up tomorrow and do this</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 19:25:21 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title>Sorry guys I need your help</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 18:31:58 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I don't know what to say apart from I'm sick]]></description>
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			<title>Doing all the &#65533;adulting&#65533; stuff</title>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Mar 2026 01:08:47 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve applied for the refinance &#9989;  
 
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I have an in person appointment to process my name change &#9989;  
 
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<div>I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve applied for the refinance &#9989; <br />
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I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve applied for my name change &#9989; <br />
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I have an in person appointment to process my name change &#9989; <br />
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I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve set up payments from x via the court messaging system &#9989; <br />
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x]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s number and email are blocked &#9989; <br />
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Met with a friend today &#9989; <br />
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Started taking out some of the landscaping I loathe &#9989; <br />
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Decided NOT to paint the bedroom right now &#129335;&#8205;&#9792;&#65039; <br />
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Looked through the bajillion cans of paint &#9989; <br />
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Have to ask the guy at the paint store how many cans I can bring to dispose of at a time AND found the color I was looking for that I will be using when I do paint &#9989; <br />
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Trained the puppy to chew his bone IN his crate so they stop fighting about bones &#9989; <br />
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Went to 2 doctors appointments &#9989; <br />
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Busy, productive day. I feel good and am happy to be reclaiming my life, my name, my finances, my landscaping, my home]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[.all the good stuff. </div>


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			<title>Medical pot considered not effective for things like anxiety, depression or PTSD</title>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 23 Mar 2026 15:22:08 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>A recent study has shown medical pot not shown to be effective in treating things like anxiety, depression or PTSD. The study looked at 54 studies from 1980 to 2025. Also not as effective as thought...</description>
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<div>A recent study has shown medical pot not shown to be effective in treating things like anxiety, depression or PTSD. The study looked at 54 studies from 1980 to 2025. Also not as effective as thought on other issues.<br />
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https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/medical-cannabis-isnt-an-effective-treatment-for-anxiety-depression-or-ptsd/<br />
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The study noted that medical pot hasn't been studied the way traditional or current drugs in use. The studies used tended to have small groups of 100 or less patients .It noted the state by state legalization laws in the US makes studying medical pot more difficult.<br />
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Keep in mind this is medical pot they're talking about so it's being prescribed one would assume it would work like a existing drug on the market. It could be patient or doctor desperation trying to treat something where more traditional drugs did not work.<br />
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The pro pot lobby at times try to make it seem like a miracle drug when it's not. It probably could/should be 'a' treatment option but the patient should know it hasn't been vetted for medical use the way other drugs have. There are probably some lying or false claims made by patients to get their pot use legalized and easier to get with a medical/pot card as well.<br />
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Anytime someone tries to rationalize or justify their pot use just cite some of the more recent studies on pot and it's effects or lack there of.<br />
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			<title>Pseudoephedrine Thoughts</title>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 23 Mar 2026 13:51:25 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[It's not worth ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[8.25. Maybe when I started abusing it, it seemed like such a cheap and magical drug. It would make me hypomanic years ago. Now it maybe lifts my spirits a little bit and then severely...]]></description>
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<div>It's not worth ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[8.25. Maybe when I started abusing it, it seemed like such a cheap and magical drug. It would make me hypomanic years ago. Now it maybe lifts my spirits a little bit and then severely depressed when ot wears off.<br />
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My body can't take endless abuse. Vaping and the occasional cigarette are bad enough. My heart is probably affected by regular pseudoephedrine overdoses.<br />
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Sure it suppresses my appetite and it was great for weight loss in the beginning. But it wears off and I binge these days. It's not the secret to weight loss. And maybe I should get down to a healthy BMI by, you know, making healthy decisions?<br />
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It is NOT a study aid. Like a handful of times recently it's helped me be hyper productive. But not since the first semester.<br />
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There's a good chance I'll have dreamless sleep tonight. That's nice. I love a good dreamless sleep. I only ever get it after taking pseudoephedrine earlier that day.<br />
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It is the safest OTC I could be abusing. But I need to stop turning to substance abuse to feel good.<br />
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Today is 27 days off alcohol. But I've tainted my alcohol recovery. And maybe giving into AV for other stuff means I'm not really growing and makes me more likely to drink again.<br />
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			<title>Little Ideas and Things that Worked</title>
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			<pubDate>Sat, 21 Mar 2026 08:36:06 GMT</pubDate>
			<description><![CDATA[I forgot about this little trick that I invented on my own, not saying others hadn't come upon it long before I did, but I will claim it, even though I don't hold the patent. I forgot about it,...]]></description>
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<div>I forgot about this little trick that I invented on my own, not saying others hadn't come upon it long before I did, but I will claim it, even though I don't hold the patent. I forgot about it, because I haven't needed it for years.<br />
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This one came out of a recognition that I was engaging too much of my time in self pity in my recovery (and before). To be blunt, I was spending too much time on the pity pot, which I did not enjoy, but couldn't seem to shake once it started. What I decided to do was allow myself a certain amount of time to wallow in my self pity. It could be for 10 minutes, and hour or hours, or even a day. Usually, I would decide on a number of minutes or hours, but I don't think a specific time was the critical part. I would just give myself license to wallow to my heart's content and even push myself to go as deep as possible.<br />
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Once I would do that, I don't recall ever having to use up the time I allotted. It would just pass, not even for reasons I understood. I speculate that it was something I needed to do, or maybe going so deep allowed me to embrace the stupidity of the pity pot and put it into a different perspective. As counterintuitive as it seemed, it actually worked.<br />
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Maybe that will help someone else, if in fact anyone else has ever found themselves in need of that. I think it would work for other negative thoughts as well, but during that part of my recovery, self pity was a big one getting in the way of a joyful sobriety. If I applied it in other situations, it was at an unconscious level, because I don't remember using it for other things.<br />
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Any one else have a trick they would like to share? They don't have to be as embarrassing as that one. Some tricks are just common sense which we hadn't seen the sense in before we used them.</div>


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			<title>dating experience - seeking ESH</title>
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			<pubDate>Sat, 21 Mar 2026 00:24:59 GMT</pubDate>
			<description>Hi&#65533;I&#65533;m fairly new to this site and I just wanted to share some recent dating experience with my ex.  I do not know if she qualifies as an alcoholic, however, she does exhibit many of the traits of...</description>
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<div>Hi]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m fairly new to this site and I just wanted to share some recent dating experience with my ex.  I do not know if she qualifies as an alcoholic, however, she does exhibit many of the traits of one]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[and I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m open to feedback.  Thanks again for reading such a detailed post!<br />
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Note that I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m 37 years old, I do not drink (by choice, not a compulsive drinker), and she]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s 42.  I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m in a 12 step program, and I am grateful that I have about 3 years abstinent from my self destructive behaviors.  I haven]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t had much success with dating since I got sober, until my ex, so I think that]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s why this experience meant a lot to me]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[<br />
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Ironically, we met at a bar late Sept 2025.  She invited me to her apt almost immediately and I was not aware she was blackout drunk until later]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[she lived in a city about an hr flight away from me]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[but we kept in touch and immediately had chemistry (emotionally, physically).  Note we did spend quite a few weekends together when we were seeing each other over the 3.5 months relationship, so we did get to know each other quite well, although not as much as if we lived in the same city of course.<br />
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In the first few weeks of talking on the phone, I realized she liked to ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[party]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[. I was very confused why she would drunk dial, drunk text me in the wee hours of the morning during the weekend.  Is this college still?  Even though I noticed my concerns, I still proceeded to get to know her instead of passing judgment.  I get it ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ we were drawn to each other since so different ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ so maybe that]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s just who she is?<br />
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However, the late night heavy drinking continued.  I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ll never forget the first time she said ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[I love you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ when she was wasted over the phone in mid November ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ after we spent a few weekends together ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ I visited her for Halloween and she came to me a few weeks later.  Did she mean it?  She was out late with girls till 5am that night (though she says they were just talking at her friend]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s apt).<br />
<br />
Everything clicked together that she was abusing alcohol more than just ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[fun]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ when we met up during the holidays for thanksgiving, and then the next day I flew home.  She was out having brunch with her narcissistic mom (a source of her emotional and physical trauma as she says) and I got about 10 missed phone calls from her in a span of 15 minutes that day.  I called her back and I remember how drunk she sounded on the phone ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ so sad ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ so resentful against her mother.  I could hardly understand what she was telling me on the phone since she was so drunk.  We talked later that night]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[and she didn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t even remember we had the phone call.<br />
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So two blackouts (brown outs as she calls them) in about two 2 months.  Not just that but using it to cope with her mom]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s stress.  <br />
<br />
I was disappointed and ready to leave.  But I wanted to give her a chance since I liked her so much.  <br />
<br />
During the Christmas holidays at a hotel, I told her how uncomfortable I felt about her drinking to the point of having brownouts.  She dismissed it as I expected.   <br />
<br />
We hung out more later during the holidays, and the day before new years eve, she got so drunk with her friends at a bar she didn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t remember how she bruised / banged up her leg.  She told me this when she was still drunk at 9am.  This was the last straw for me.<br />
<br />
The weekend after new years]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[I then had a final conversation with her, giving her one last chance,]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[being very direct and telling her:<br />
<br />
]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[It]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s difficult for me to see us growing together if you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[re going to continue to have brown outs, hurt yourself at bars]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[<br />
<br />
She almost immediately responded in a gentle, respectful tone:<br />
<br />
]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[I think you just need to accept me.  Can you accept me?]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[<br />
<br />
3 weeks later towards end of January, I ended it between us.  <br />
<br />
1 week before I ended it, she offered me to join her and her friends for a celebration in a foreign country to do lines of coke.  She knows I don]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t do drugs and she thought I would maybe want to join her and watch?  We clearly weren]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t on the same page.<br />
<br />
And then she blew up my phone after I ended it ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ the gaslighting, manipulation, was something I should have expected but didn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[and had to block her unfortunately]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[though I do contemplate about unblocking her from time to time.<br />
<br />
Two months later, I think I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m moving on.  I am an addict in recovery so moving on has been challenging.  I do wish she wakes up ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ a part of me would want to hear from her again if she ever takes responsibility for her drinking ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ but it also breaks my heart the way this ended.  We had so MUCH fun together ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve never felt more emotionally safe with another human before ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ but I just could not see a future with her drinking.  It would destroy my serenity and would go against everything I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ve worked so hard to build.<br />
<br />
I do wish her well and wishes she would stop hurting herself.  And maybe I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ll hear from her again when she does wake up ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ and I just need to remind myself that is most likely just a fantasy of mine.</div>


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			<title>6 months, keep going</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Today marks 6 months for me without alc. :celebrate 
It has not been easy and required a good deal of self-work.. 
And I'm back on stabilizing psych medication (small dose).. It was good to not have...]]></description>
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<div>Today marks 6 months for me without alc. :celebrate<br />
It has not been easy and required a good deal of self-work..<br />
And I'm back on stabilizing psych medication (small dose).. It was good to not have it for a month, but realize I need it so I'm back on it, that's ok<br />
One major thing is: gradually finding/being myself more again, without as much of the unstable/moody/drunken/hungover/suffering/loony alc-personality I developed in isolation<br />
I'm more mentally healthy now and improving<br />
I will continue to not drink and just ride onward<br />
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Thanks to all the nice helpful folks on SR :biggthump</div>


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			<title>My Experience Using AI in Sobriety &#65533; Benefits and Risks</title>
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			<description>Here&#65533;s a forum-ready post you can use on SoberRecovery&#65533;clear, grounded, and respectful of tone: 
*A Word of Caution About Using AI (ChatGPT) in Recovery* 
 
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<div>Here]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s a forum-ready post you can use on SoberRecovery]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[clear, grounded, and respectful of tone:<br />
<b>A Word of Caution About Using AI (ChatGPT) in Recovery</b><br />
<br />
I want to take a minute to share something from my own experience using AI]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[specifically ChatGPT]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[as part of my recovery toolkit.<br />
<br />
First off, I]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[m not &#1590;&#1583; (against) it. Used properly, AI can be a powerful <i>resource</i>. It can help you organize your thoughts, challenge negative self-talk, learn about addiction science, and even give you a different perspective when you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[re stuck.<br />
<br />
But here]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s the line that shouldn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t get blurred:<br />
<br />
<b>AI is a tool ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ not a sponsor, not a sober coach, and not a substitute for human connection.</b><br />
<br />
That distinction matters more than it might seem at first.<br />
<h3>&#9888;&#65039; The Risks (from real use)</h3><ul><li><b>Echo chamber effect</b><br />
AI often reflects the way you phrase things. If you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[re off track, it can unintentionally reinforce that instead of correcting you.<br /></li>
<li><b>False sense of being ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[understood]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[</b><br />
It can feel like deep connection]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[but it]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s simulated. There]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s no lived experience, no accountability, no real-world stake in your sobriety.<br /></li>
<li><b>Over-reliance / isolation</b><br />
The biggest danger: choosing AI over real people. Recovery doesn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t happen in isolation.<br /></li>
<li><b>Authority without responsibility</b><br />
AI can sound confident even when it]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s wrong or incomplete. It doesn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t carry consequences]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[you do.<br /></li>
<li><b>No accountability</b><br />
An AI won]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t call you out, show up at your door, or notice when you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[re slipping in real life.<br />
</li>
</ul><h3>&#9989; Where AI <i>can</i> help (if used responsibly)</h3><ul><li>Learning about addiction, relapse cycles, and brain chemistry<br /></li>
<li>Reframing negative thinking patterns<br /></li>
<li>Journaling prompts and self-reflection<br /></li>
<li>Practicing how to communicate difficult feelings<br /></li>
<li>Getting unstuck mentally before reaching out to someone real<br />
</li>
</ul>Think of it like a <b>search engine with a brain</b>]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[not a recovery partner.<br />
<h3>&#129517; Better Uses That <i>Support</i> Real Recovery</h3>Use AI to:<br />
<ul><li>Prepare for a conversation with your sponsor<br /></li>
<li>Clarify what you]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[re feeling before sharing it here<br /></li>
<li>Challenge your own thinking]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[not replace outside input<br />
</li>
</ul>Then bring that into:<br />
<ul><li>This forum<br /></li>
<li>Your sponsor<br /></li>
<li>Meetings<br /></li>
<li>Real-world relationships<br />
</li>
</ul><h3>&#128218; Resources to Stay Grounded</h3><ul><li>Alcoholics Anonymous ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ human connection and accountability<br /></li>
<li>SMART Recovery ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ practical tools and group support<br /></li>
<li>The Biology of Desire ]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[ understanding the brain in addiction<br /></li>
<li>Research areas like <b>cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)</b> and <b>neuroplasticity</b> for evidence-based approaches<br />
</li>
</ul><h3>&#128591; A Thank You</h3>I also want to thank <b>Dee</b>, the Administrator here at SoberRecovery, for his patience and willingness to raise concerns about this topic. He made an important point: <b>AI should never replace human support]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[either here or in real life.</b><br />
<br />
That]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s worth repeating.<br />
<h3>Bottom Line</h3>AI can help you think.<br />
<br />
<b>But it can]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t stand beside you.</b><br />
<br />
And in recovery, that human connection isn]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t optional]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[it]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[s essential.<br />
<b>I Zencat use ChatGPT to help organize and tighten up this post. The experiences, opinions, and warnings are mine.</b><br />
<br />
I don]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[t use AI as a sponsor, therapist, or substitute for real human connection]]>&#65533;<![CDATA[just as a tool to communicate my thoughts more clearly. My recovery still depends on people here at SR,<b> not computer programs or algorithms</b>.<br />
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<a href="https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/members/dee74.html" class="utag">@Dee74</a> :thanks</div>


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