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How to Meet Women On Facebook

2012-01-09T09:08:00.000-08:00

First note the title says "How to meet women on facebook", not "how to pick up women on facebook". The pick up artist communities can tell you how to pick up women if sex is your goal. In truth I could tell you how to do that too, but I am just not gonna. ;-)

If you are a single guy, meeting women online is an option. It's actually a good one, there are many success stories out there. If you are looking at facebook as a way to meet women though, first you are going to need patience. This is not an instant satisfaction process. It's more long term gratification. It is rare that you meet a new lady friend on facebook and find yourself on a date with here within days.

I can assure you a smart, emotionally healthy, woman gets more than her share of attention on facebook. They get emails just out of the blue asking to get to know her, telling her she is hot and the list goes on and on. This is not a good way to meet women, just sending her random emails, no matter how clever you think they are. Posting a comment to everyone of her posts isn't effective either. That is borderline stalking. So how do you do it?

It's a process. You start by broadening your circle of friends. You have to start paying attention also. Paying attention is great practice by the way for when you do finally meet a great gal. When I say paying attention that means logging on and watching the posts of others. Gravitate towards like minded individuals. Interact on the walls of others and become conscious of their friends. Doesn't matter if it's male or female. If you find a friend of a friend that posts things that appeal to you, add them. They have like minded friends, I promise, of the opposite sex.

Don't be scared to add females as friends. If she doesn't accept, it's okay, another one will come along. Just keep broadening your network. Interact and comment. Get involved in the conversations. If a female comes on and says something that you like in the comments, post it on the thread and say so. Big tip, use her name and address her personally in public (don't mail her). It's human nature to love recognition by the way. This gets her attention.

Now you don't want to continuously call her out every time you see her on facebook. This is too obvious and a quality woman will recognize this and become suspicious. Women are by the way very suspicious in nature. We suspect every man that goes even a bit overboard on us wants to sleep with us. The reason we are this way is because you men have trained us that this is usually true.

So you have to wait for another opportunity. It will come, especially if you are focusing your efforts on just meeting women in general and not one particular woman. You can see this is why meeting women on facebook is not an instant gratification thing and takes patience.

The next step is once you have her attention is to throw in some flirts or statements that could be questioned if you could have meant something else, when the opportunity presents itself. The double meaning thing. Flirting on facebook should be fun. Picking on women in a playful subtle way is pretty powerful. Less is more, really it is.

Summary here is to just interact and pay attention. Don't just pop into a woman's inbox with no back ground to build on. On the comments and threads you build the foundation. This could take weeks or even months. After the foundation is down, then you can go to asking her out. There is something to be said about being patient. It's self control. I can assure you self control is a very very sexy trait to have.

Also by not jumping into meeting her right away tells her something else about you. It tells her you are selective. This appeals to her. The pick up artist communities spend a lot of time on this point. The qualifying stage. You are qualifying her. This propels a reaction in women. They often then begin to qualify themselves.

All in all I don't knock the pick up artist communities. They have their good points. Many a man has come to a better understanding of how the female mind works in these communities. I am an advocate of using what they learn to actually meet and treat women well. Not so much if it's being used just to get sex if you get my drift. Of course I am a woman.

So meeting women on facebook as an option in your dating life. Have fun doing it. No pressure, no mission, just meeting and interaction with women on facebook. You might be surprised what happens.

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Text Her In The Mood

2011-10-11T08:31:00.000-07:00

It's a common complaint from men. Their wives or girlfriends aren't in the mood for sex. While it's true that the stresses of life get in the way, not all is lost. I am sure you know that sex for a woman is in her mind to a degree, yet it's her mind that keeps her out of the mood.

In other words you walking up behind her groping on her while she is in the kitchen will not get her aroused. To get a woman aroused you have to get her out of her mind or the negative state she is in. Once you get her out of her mind, you get in her mind and she gets into her physical body which is the body that wants sex.

So how do you do this and get her in the mood? Being a woman I can tell you if I feel pressured to have sex, I won't enjoy it. If I have sex because a man makes me feel guilty that I am not meeting his needs, it will cause resentment to build. I will stop enjoying sex because it feels like an obligation. This is what causes many women to stay out of the mood. The stress of the pressure from their partners. They associate sex with feelings of inadequacy.

If you want to get her in the mood, you must take this pressure off. To connect in the bedroom she must connect with you out of the bedroom. She can't just turn the switch to turned on quite like you can. Hold her hand when you go anywhere together. Touch her without being sexual. Women love nice words, give her a few compliments. Do this at random and you will see a slow change. These are just little things you can do to get her in the mood.

The creative thing that you may not even ever think about is to get the romance going during the day through text messages. If you are like most couples you text things like what's for dinner, will you pick up some mild and so forth and so on. Women are moved by words, so text her something that will get her attention, and no not a picture of your penis. Tell her something like you can't stop thinking about how she looked this morning in her nightie or about the way she smells. Be a bit risque. Catch her off guard and you will get her out of her own head.

Text back the romance is a great way to get her in the mood. Use it to build up anticipation and watch the different woman you come home to. Texting can act as a trigger to get her out of her head and distract her and catch her off guard.

Calling Women

2011-09-19T12:16:00.000-07:00

There was a discussion taking place on my wall on facebook. It seems that more and more women are experiencing men giving them their phone numbers and asking the women to call them. Do you guys not get it? We don't really feel comfortable calling men. It doesn't make us feel special at all. If you can't make the effort to make us feel special with a phone call, then we aren't going to likely fall in love with you. Not emotionally, relationship ready women that is. If it's a hook up you are looking for, go ahead and try this, it may work.

As young girls when a guy we liked would call us we would call all our girlfriends and scream with delight. Now that we are grown, sure we matured, but that girl is still in there wanting to scream with delight. Don't deny her this thrill by expecting her to call you. A friend on facebook put it in a remarkable way. See Below:

Most men don't understand that a woman loves to feel cherished and adored by a man. When he takes the time to CALL HER, this very simple act begins the perpetual motion machine of love that so few men seem to know how to run. I just don't get it!!

A lot of the dating gurus out there teach this giving of your number as a technique to make her feel comfort and to feel safe. While I agree with a lot of these dating gurus and think they do in fact make a lot of sense, this one rule needs to go out the window in my opinion. There are some women that just refuse to call a man. It's nothing to do with playing hard to get. It just does the opposite of making us comfortable when the time comes to pick up the phone. We aren't comfortable with it. We pick the phone up, we put it back down. We wait, then try again later and it just sucks.

Your role is the pursuer, you are the MAN, please don't screw it up. I know the feminist movement and equal rights has you all a bit confused, but women want to feel like women. When I am picking up the phone to call a man, I don't feel like a woman. If I don't feel feminine or like a woman, my attraction is not going to go very far, on that you can bank. When it comes to calling women, just do it!

So when it comes to calling women, please suck it up, get her number and call her. If you want to wait the proverbial 3 days to not seem desperate, fine. By all means though, step up into your masculine role. I hear young boys bragging about how many girls they have texting and calling them. Put your man briefs on and pick up the phone.

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How To Get a Second Date With Her

2011-08-22T12:47:00.000-07:00

The first few dates are when you lay the ground work for her attraction to build. You landed a first date, now can you land a second date. If you aren't sure if the first date got her attention, be very careful in how you go about getting the second date. You don't want to overwhelm her, you don't want to be needy or desperate. You want to come off as confident. It's always the gentleman thing to do to thank her for the first date. A text, a quick phone call will do. Don't make the second date yet though.

I know you may think this is playing games, but really how women form attraction is important here. She won't be attracted to a man who is too eager. That is why it's best to wait a few days before asking her out for a second date. Give her time to wonder if in fact you were or were not into her. Then when you contact her for that second date she feels relief because you just might be into her after all. This plants a seed for attraction to grow. Women love a confident man and by waiting you show her you are confident that yes she does want to see you again. You are confident, yet not clingy or coming across as needy.

Have a plan when you do ask her out for a second date. Hopefully you paid attention on the first date and have an idea of what she would like to do. Don't ask her to pick the place, you pick the place. Interactive dates are best at building attraction. No movie date please. Bowling, a picnic, a walk, anything but a movie. Have the plan already, a woman likes a man who can take charge. Just purrrr at that one.

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Don't call her every night after the first date either. Less is more, always. Calling her every night lets her know that you have already made up your mind about her. What are you, easy? No I think not. A woman will think about you when she isn't in as much contact. If she is liking you, pacing her will only make her attraction grow. If you want that second date, now is the time to play it cool.

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Flakey Women

2011-08-17T13:06:00.000-07:00

I hear it all the time. Women are flakes. I hear it more from good guys than I do the bad boy types. This is interesting to me and I can only speculate why that is. I think the bad boys have a sense of abundancy more than a good guy. A good guy thinks good women are hard to find. Good being the key work that I will touch on in a moment. A bad boy just moves on from the flake and doesn't really give it much thought. A good guy keeps trying.

What I mean here is this and I have seen it a lot. A guy goes on a date with a woman. He asks her out again soon and she says, sure, call me next week and we will set something up. So he calls. She tells him she has this and that going on this weekend, maybe next weekend. They eventually may make a date and she breaks it. In other words she won't lock down plans with you. You keep giving her the benefit of the doubt, after all we are busy humans these days. Yet a month goes by and all you have had is one date a lot of promises. This is more than likely a flake. Your first clue should have been when she wouldn't pin down a date right away and put you off. She isn't that into you. A woman into you would have encouraged you and set the date and actually shown up.

I will tell a man just like I tell a woman about men that disappear. Forget her. She isn't ready for a relationship or she just isn't into you. Move on to a woman that is. There are good women out there that are not flakes. Women that are looking for someone like you. You can't find these women as long as you keep wasting your time on flakes.

I know so many men who will meet a woman and close all options just in hopes that it might work out. They invest time into making it work while she isn't investing the same effort. Time goes by and they hear "lets be friends". Sigh....When a woman says she just wants to be friends, she is not attracted to you. It's that simple.

If you find yourself complaining about all these flakey women, I suggest you stop accepting these women into your life. It's just as much your fault for not being able to recognize a flake and just as much your fault if you try to spend time with a woman who is not ready for a relationship if a relationship is what you want.

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Why She Is Never In The Mood

2011-08-12T11:32:00.000-07:00

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Text Her In Love

2011-08-10T13:31:00.000-07:00

Some think texting is for teenagers. They think it's silly and that it hinders real communication. While there may be some truth to this there are a few things you might want to think about before dismissing texting as a tool to enhance your relationship.

A few years ago I was in a relationship with a man that used texting a lot. I don't know if he just knew how to do it instinctively or if he had read one of the online texting guides but I do know this. His texts always made me smile. I had a ring tone assigned to this man. His texts were never mundane, always playful and he never texted me to death. The result. Every time I heard that ring tone, my heart would skip a few beats. I would get excited to hear from him. He was creating triggers and his texts helped me to fall in love with him.

He knowingly or unknowingly created a trigger with his texts. His texts would trigger a euphoric feeling in me. This trigger was so strong. Triggers can also change. He broke up with me. I was heart broke. Anytime after that if he called or texted and I heard that ring tone, it triggered deep sadness. I had to change his ring tone. Triggers can be powerful. They can cause us to feel deep strong emotions.

What are your texts triggering in your girl? Do you text mundane things like can you bring home the milk? Do you use your texts to say you are running late, or convey any other boring details. If so, you aren't texting love. Your texts are not positive triggers. If you can learn to text her things that give her warm fuzzy feelings, you can cement your emotional attraction further and deeper. Yes you can text her in love.

Triggers are powerful. Think about an addict. What is one of the first things an addict has to do to break free of an addiction. He has to remove the triggers. That cup of coffee that triggers the cigarette. Texting love is like creating an addiction with your triggers. She becomes addicted to you.

Stop using texts to your woman for anything other than texting love or fun loving things. Create that trigger in her with your texts and help her fall in love with you using these triggers as a tool. You can be playful, or sexual, and engage her imagination with text messages. Your texts become something that is just between you and her. It's those little things that add up and grow emotional attraction and yes text love! Emotional attraction is what makes a woman fall in love.

I can also remember how it felt when I didn't get a text from a particular man. It didn't feel good. This only worked to heighten the effect of the trigger he created. I would feel relief when I did hear from him. Relief, another positive trigger was created. It's a bit like Pavlov's dog if you think about it. You can text her in love

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2011-08-05T08:16:00.000-07:00

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How To Find Love - Throw Away That Stupid List

2011-07-14T09:09:00.000-07:00

Do you want to find love with a great woman? You wonder what list I am talking about? That stupid list in your head that you have of what the woman is supposed to be like, look like and all of that stuff. It's limiting your success at getting what you want and deserve.

I know men who are very specific in their lists. She can't smoke, she must exercise, she must be under 130 pounds, she must be this or that. She can't do this or that. These lists and expectations are killing you, trust me.

I have known men who have the silliest deal breakers. Don't get me wrong, women have them too. Things like she must love animals though? If she doesn't love animals she must be a bad person. Here is a fact, we don't know why people like or don't like certain things until we give them a chance and get to know them.

Example about the not loving animals thing. I am not an animal lover. There is a reason. As a child my mother took all of my animals and dropped them off in random places because she didn't like animals. As a child I learned that to attach to animals was pointless because they would vanish. Does that make me a bad person? Well many a man would not date me, yet they didn't know the entire story because they didn't give me a chance. I have a cat now by the way an am considering a dog.

Love does not always come in the package you had expected. I am not suggesting you settle, no far from it. I am suggesting you may not be able to recognize it if you are one of these people with a list or must haves. Add you list to your fear of rejection or your past experiences that may be clouding you ability to know it when it comes your way and you will never know how to find love.

I am a huge advocate of online dating. I have many a success story of how love was found online. Thing is, men carry that list with them to the online dating and fail again and then blame the women. Do you ever hear yourself saying women only want the bad boys? If so, you might want to rethink this. It's not true. I could go on and on. I do however, believe women do the same things. It's a wonder we ever get together.

If you want to know how to find love, open up to new possibilities. I have a client, he is a biker dude. He was wanting of course a biker chick. The biker chicks just wanted to ride his Harley. I encouraged him to start mailing different types of women. He resisted me in the beginning. Guess what kind of woman he is now in a relationship with? A book worm who has never been on the back of a Harley. They look like a mighty odd couple, but are blissfully happy. Lucky for him this woman was willing to throw away her list as well, but he did have to put some work into her. He says she is worth it all.

Another thing I have to mention if you are looking for love is this. You may need to search inside yourself and make some attitude changes. Men for some reason resist this more so than women. I have proof of this by the way. Women come to me way quicker for help than men do. There are resources out there, really good ones to help you online. Invest in them, do the work. It pays off.

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If you are doing online dating and you just tossed a profile up there, with your list of great qualities and the qualities of your dream woman, don't expect a lot. You really do get back what you put into things. If you want to find love, take it serious. It's not going to come knocking on your door. You have to do some work.

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Sexting Tips - How to Sext Her Into Bed

2011-07-11T11:01:00.000-07:00

First, this is geared towards married men or men already in a relationship. Of course the principles will work for men in general wanting to get laid, but that is not something I am a huge advocate, but to each his own.

So often I hear men say or joke about how their women just don't seem to want to have sex like they did when they first met. This happens. The honeymoon phase wears off. It takes more to get the woman turned on. Ever made a move towards your girlfriend or wife to have her go a bit cold or tell you she is tired. She hates doing this, trust me, but she really doesn't feel like it. Does she not initiate or rarely initiate sex anymore? This is really a shame because it doesn't have to be this way, but I can tell you why.

Stress, day to day life gets in the way. A woman's desire sort of goes to sleep. They aren't going to just wake up all on their own, you are going to have to help her some. You need to wake her up.

Men can go from zero to 100 in just minutes because they are visually stimulated. I could walk out of the bedroom with panties on or just heels and my boyfriend would be sitting on ready. It would be instant because men are visually stimulated. This is not the case with women, we aren't visually stimulated.

You can send flowers or buy her gifts, but this isn't going to work either. She is touched and thinks it's sweet, but her carnal sex drive it will not awaken. A woman is stimulated by what she feels and imagines. Her erogenous zone is her mind. Her mind is her biggest sex organ.

What turns a woman on? A man is turned on by porn for the most part. A picture of a man with this raging hard on is not what gets a woman excited and dying to jump your bones. Have you ever read those crazy romance novels? I have. I am not a fan of them, but I will confess, I have become soaking wet from the language that is used in them and the pictures they create in my imagination.

So how to you do this by sexting? You stimulate her biggest sex organ, her mind, imagination and how she feels. By doing this you give her permission to open up her desires to you. Desires that may embarrass her or that she may find difficult to share. If you are the one stimulating her imagination and helping her create these pictures, yes by a few texts, you can turn your sex life around. You can have her dying to get her hands on you regardless.

I recently got a sext message from a guy who has read the sexting book. A few lines flipped my stressed out switch from off to on. He sent this one message. "I can't stop thinking about you this morning". I replied "Why" Now he could have been crude, or highly sexual, but he didn't. He played with my imagination and let me lead the fantasy from there after a few texts. He replied to my why with this. "Your looked delicious in my shirt this morning".

I won't share the rest of this conversation, but let's just say, it escalated. He opened the door and gave me permission so to speak to be bad. If you don't think you can text your woman into bed, I got news for you, you can. Just not like you may think. Sexting tips for men are far different than sexting tips for women, trust me on this one.

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How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

2011-06-29T08:06:00.000-07:00

I coach mostly women, I won't lie. I have helped many get their ex boyfriends back by helping them understand how men think. So it's a given I suppose that I already know how women think, plus my ex boyfriend just got me back, so I suppose I can shed a little light here for you.

Generally speaking, I believe exes are exes for a reason, but if you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back, I will tell you how my ex boyfriend did it.

I broke up with him. He lost his job, he was smothering me to death, and he was holding onto me for dear life. I cut all contact and if he dared to contact, lets say I was less than nice. He was driving me crazy.

So he had to give up or so I thought. He eventually respected my requests and left me alone. He took that time to think about things. He could have said I was cruel to cut him lose at his worst time in his life, but he didn't. He took that time to understand the dynamics and why it panicked me so bad and why I couldn't be a stand by your man woman.

You see, it goes back to the beginning of time. Men are hunters and providers, women are nurturers etc. My survival instinct kicked in and I did not see him as a suitable mate. Your issue may be different and not even close to ours, but stay with me here.

With all the feminist crap and all going on, and I am not knocking it, don't get me wrong. I am queen of independence, but it confuses our God given roles. Basically we women have needs that we want met, the main one being we want to feel safe with you. There are others of course, but safe and protected are high on the list.

Women grieve heavy in the beginning and while I suggest giving her space in the beginning, you can't wait too long to make your move. When a woman moves on, she moves on. She doesn't look back, because she reaches a point where instinct kicks in and she wants a mate that comes after her.

My ex got his crap together and showed up 5 months later. He would send a ping here and there but stopped driving me crazy. It gave me time to process and when he came back, he had fixed what was wrong and was in a place to listen to what I needed from him. Funny thing happened too during our time apart. I never really thought much about him. I was good with him being gone. I wasn't crying and thought, really thought I had done the best thing. But, and here is the but, I didn't really know how strongly I did feel. I had no clue. He had to remind me.

That is what you have to do. Figure out what it is that made her not feel safe, fix it, wait and come back and remind her.

I have to give my ex this credit as well. In his mind he never gave up. His attitude remained positive that he would have me back one day. I think attitude has a lot to do with is success at it. That and his courage that I could have shot him down. He showed up unexpected, completely caught me off guard. I could have cussed him out and that is truly how I would predict it go down, but it didn't. I hugged him instead and the rest is history in the makings.

He never tried to make me feel bad, he never used emotional blackmail on me, he took it like a man and waited for the timing to be right. If you love her, you have to be patient to get her back. No manipulation, no attacks, no making her feel guilt. Those things won't win her back.

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Nice Guys Finish Last

2011-06-20T12:37:00.000-07:00

Oh the times I have heard that statement. Nice guys finish last. Why is it that this seems to be the general opinion? I hear it from nice guys all the time. Women would rather be with a man that treats her like crap, hits her, talks her down than a guy who treats her good. I can see some justification in this, yes I can. I see it too in some women, but those aren't the kind of women you want, trust me. Think about it. A woman that allows a man to treat her bad is in a way just as responsible for it as the man treating her bad. Do you really want a woman that has no more love for herself than this? She needs some help that you probably can't give her. Some may slap me for this, but sorry, women have control over how they are treated. They don't have to accept this bad guys into their lives.

So that being said, maybe you nice guys aren't really looking for the nice girls? Is that a possibility? Do you have all these standards in place such as she has to be this height, this weight, she has to be this, she has to be that etc. Are you missing some of the good girls with your criteria or high expectations?

I am a part of few online communities. One where they train the nice guys to be players or pick up artist. Now I know many look down on this, but a funny thing happens to these guys going through this training. They learn what goes on in a woman's mind and they learn how to push her emotional buttons to trigger attraction. Some call it game playing. Bottom line. I have met quite a few of these guys that went through this so called bogus training and let me tell you, they did get it. Not "it", but they finally understood how women form and keep an attraction for a man. A lot of these men have met and now have long term lasting relationships as opposed to a lot of one night stands. They learn how to be a nice guy with that extra edge.

I deal with mostly women so let me tell you why they say nice guys finish last. The attraction isn't usually there with the nice guys. They talk about going on dates, what a nice guy he is but there is no click. Why is this, why can't they like a nice guy? Could this nice guy not really understand what it is that creates attraction in a woman. Trust me, you can be a nice guy and still drive a girl wild. Do nice guys finish last? No, they don't.

My Girlfriend Wants a Break

2011-06-13T08:03:00.000-07:00

If your girlfriend wants a break, I only know one way to put this too you and that is straight up. There is a break up ahead if you don't give it to her. If you are saying to your friends or searching this "My girlfriend wants a break", there is trouble ahead.

When your girlfriend wants a break or asks for space what she is saying is she is feeling smothered by you. You are possibly heading somewhere too fast or too soon. I hate to say this part too, but sometimes another guy has caught her attention and she wants the space to explore this but doesn't want to tell you. Cop out? Maybe.

Six months ago I told my boyfriend of 6 months I wanted space. Some of the things he was doing was constantly texting me, wanting to talk every night on the phone, which meant my life as I knew it before was being interrupted. I like my nights out with the girls. He didn't mind that so much, but he wanted to talk to me and would call or text while I was out. I drove me crazy. Thing is he was a great guy.

My love language was different. I need space, I need my other life outside of him and his clinging to me was making me feel quilt and I felt reponsible for his happiness. It became not so fun and it started to bleed over to when we were together.

I asked for space. I explained to him I wouldn't always answer texts or calls if I was working or out having a one on one with my girlfriends, but would call him back. I wanted him to trust me on this. We want to be trusted just like you guys do. By him continuing to push, I didn't feel trusted.

I broke up with him because he wasn't getting it. For the first month after the break up, he kept on pushing. He was coming from a place of his pain. He wanted answers. He didn't understand. The more he did this, the more he validated for me that breaking up with him was a good thing.

About month number 2 or 3, he started stopping contact after eventually I had to get pretty rough and threaten to block him or report him for harassment. I understood he was acting from a place of emotion and not logic, but it wasn't getting him anywhere, he was still smothering me and not respecting my wishes and decision.

Month 4 he stopped all contact. I sort of just forgot about him, but often thought of how much I knew he loved me. Still I pushed it out of my mind as I did not want to go down that road again of having to ask him for a break and fighting that battle again. I was convinced I made the right choice to end it.

Month 6, he shows up after no contact for over 60 days, none, nada zilch. When I saw him all I remembered was the good times to be honest and I was very happy to see him. Very unexpected on my part. His emotions had time to calm. He was more able to see it clearly from my point and I was more clearly to see it from his.

We are talking again. We made a stride towards one another. Had he not crowded me in the fist place and given me, his girlfriend a break, we would very possibly never broke up to start with.

Moral of this story, if your girlfriend asks for space or if you are saying to others my girlfriend wants a break, give it to her. Let her miss you because chances are good she will. Don't question her about it, just accept it and give it to her. You stand a much better chance of keeping her if you do. If you fight it, you will lose her.

So if your girlfriend wants a break, take the time to understand the whys of this, take the precautions to stop that break up that is ahead.

Love Systems Review

2011-03-03T10:50:00.000-08:00

I research many of the dating products out there and recently landed on a forum called "The Attraction Forum". Wow, is all I can say. There are guys there of all ages giving excellent advice and support. The product in my opinion are very realistic and I wish all men would put forth the effort that these guys do to up their dating game.

This isn't like the Don Juan group that seems to promote downgrading women. These guys know their stuff and teach guys how to approach, meet, and keep women. The forum is free and packed with useful information.

The best seller is an e-book called Magic Bullets. It's the basics and well worth the investment especially to those nice guys who get caught in the friend zone.

Texting a Woman - What You Don't Know Will Hurt You

2011-02-15T12:35:00.000-08:00

Texting a woman is right at your fingertips and it's the most powrful dating tool you have.. If you are like 95% of the men out there, you are probably screwing it up. When it comes to impacting their dating lives, most men are clueless.

I am going to be blunt about this texting thing you men do. I am a moderator on a women's forum. Hundreds and hundreds of women from all over the world have the same view when it comes to men and their texting techniques, they are clueless. When one gets it right, we rant and rave. It may be months down the road and we are still carrying those great text messages around in our phones. We save them.

Men, when texting women are just doing lame communications at most. They aren't engaging the woman or her playful nature. If you are sending anything close to the following text messages, you may wish to carry on reading.

* Good Morning
* Good Morning Sexy
* Good Night
* How is your day
* Hope you are having a good day
* How are you today
* What are you doing
* How is such and such
* Don't work to hard
* I am doing such and such
* I had a good time last night
* Thinking of you

There is nothing in the above messages to engage a woman and build up her attraction. It's usesless ramblings.. Unless a woman is totally smitten with a guy, these messages will just make her eyes roll.

What you don't know is this. While you are sending her those lame messages, there could very well be a guy who is rocking her world with the right words and techniques. It's the guy of mystery, the one that engages our imagination that push our buttons. Some guys can literally leave us hanging on their words.

It's the guy that teases us, banters with us that we find thrilling. It's a simple thing to do, just pay attention and play off of her. Suzanne is a care free, no nonsense southern woman. Her date from the preceding night added one word to his "I had a nice time last night" and made all the difference in the world. He opened the text with Scarlett, as in O'hara. What woman would not want to be seen that way.

She replied calling him Rhett, as in Butler. The flirty play began. That guy knew how to interact with her and push her buttons. She also knew he had paid attention to her. That is hot, to have a man really pay attention. Talk about stroking a woman's ego.

So when texting a woman, leave the small talk conversations out of it. If you can't flirt and be mischievous and make her smile, put down the cell phone, otherwise you are just throwing cold water on top of the fire. You like to condition her to where when she sees it is you texting, she gets excited, and her heart skips a beat. You want to be the guy who she saves his messages.

It's not just the words you use, it really is the strategies as well. Learn how to get her excited about you with flirty text messages.

Calling and Texting Women You Like - This is Critical

2011-01-25T13:13:00.000-08:00

When texting or calling a girl you like it's critical that you don't go over board and kill her attraction. Your instinct when you meet a girl that you really like is to reach out and touch her. You want to communicate with her because face it, it feels good. If you want to build attraction though and an emotional connection when texting a girl you like, it's very important that you go easy boy.

An example. Cindy met Don. They really hit if off. Don got Cindy's number and asked her out. They had the first date and there was some mutual chemistry, lots of it. Next morning Don sends Cindy a harmless text. "Good Morning Beautiful". Cindy thinks aw, how sweet. 5 minutes later, he texts her what a great time he had. She still thinks aw, how sweet.

The day goes on, Don sends more texts, tries to engage her in conversation. Wow, Cindy is now wondering if Don isn't maybe a little needy, maybe even desperate. That night he texts her "Good night Sweetie". Her attraction just dropped a few degrees. Women do like to be challenged. When you come running out of the gate full speed ahead, well you took away any challenge or intrigue she might have felt.

She stills gives him the benefit of the doubt and sees him again, but to her horror, the texts just keep getting closer and closer together. The funny sexy guy has turned annoying on her. When texting a girl you like, you want to be flirty, you want to be fun and you don't want to be annoying.

I know you want her to know you are interested and you think those texts are showing her you like her. The fact is all they are showing her is you don't have a life and you are boring. She starts to not answer all of Don's texts, then he starts questioning her. "Are you upset?" "Do you not want to talk to me today?" Texts that show him in a very unattractive not so confident light.

Fast forward a couple of weeks. Cindy has the talk. She tells Don she just wants to be friends. She tells her girlfriends that if he would have just not texted her so much, maybe she would have given him a chance.

Had Don known some really good flirty techniques, this story might have a different ending. Unfortunately, Don is off to repeat the same mistake with the next girl he likes. Texting is a huge attraction killer, but it can be an equally destructive buzz killer. When texting a girl you like, less really is more.

I have swooned and been swooned by some really skilled texters. I have hung on their every text and I have also cringed at the sound of the phone.

Be The Jerk Women Love

2011-01-12T10:27:00.000-08:00

Why do women love jerks?

This is a question you've probably asked yourself many times in your life. And you might even wonder why women will dump a guy who treats her good, only to go after an arrogant dick!

It seems like guys complain about this problem all the time. I have heard it many times. One of my best guy friends is always whining about how all girls want is to be his friend.
Usually he'll complain about treating a woman REALLY well, but losing her to some schmuck who'll only ends up mistreating her.

So why does this happen?

Well that's a difficult question to answer. The answer is jerks are NOT boring. And there's an interesting explanation of why this is true. But before we get to that, let's talk about the OPPOSITE of the jerk- "The Nice Guy".

In a lot of the chick flicks, "The Nice Guy" was the sweet, caring dude who secretly wanted to be with the Prom Queen. He's clueless with women, but has a heart of gold. And at the very end, the popular girl realizes how wonderful he is AND they live happily ever after.

Unfortunately life doesn't work this way!

In the REAL WORLD, a overly-friendly, nice guy bores the crap out of women. When dealing with a woman, he takes on the role of her friend and listens to her problems and hopes that someday she'll want to be with him instead of the jerk that just broke her heart.

The problem is nice guys reach women on a LOGICAL level, instead of an EMOTIONAL level. He may make a great FRIEND, but he's doing nothing to create sexual attraction.

Women end up with jerks because they provide an emotional charge. Sure he can act like an asshole and hurt her feelings, but he ALSO provides excitement AND arousal. Around a jerk, a woman never really knows what to expect. All she feels is the butterflies and excitement when he is near.

Now there's good news here...EVERY woman has dated a jerk at some point in her life. And from this experience, she's learned that it's not healthy to be around a man like this. However MOST women want that emotional charge WITHOUT the baggage that a jerk often provides. Not an easy task.

In short, she wants a man who is compassionate, but also a little bit of a bad boy.

By understanding a woman's desire for an emotional experience, you provide her with the perfect balance between 'The Nice Guy' and the jerk. When you're talking to women, you want to show ALL the qualities of the jerk (leadership, spontaneity, social dominance and humor) without being the wussy nice guy that typically repulses women.

In other words, you can use your conversation skills to playfully tease a woman, while keeping the comfort level she would find with "The Nice Guy".

This is called "Assumed Familiarity". Here you'll act like her buddy by teasing her in a friendly manner, but at the same time, you're subtly showing her attractive qualities that she wants in a man.

Now this can be a hard concept for many guys to grasp. It's pretty hard to strike that delicate balance between the jerk and nice guy. Most of it involves creating emotional attraction without being perceived as being a jerk.

How to Call a Girl You Like

2011-01-03T13:41:00.000-08:00

Rule number one, less is more. Trust me, an attractive quality girl gets called and texted a lot. She has experienced lots of guys who go overboard and present no challenge at all. It's really easy for a hot girl to attract men. It's not so easy for an attractive, hot, quality girl to find a guy that piques her interest. Trust me on this. This is critical especially in the beginning stages. This is when the attraction starts or stops.

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When texting and calling girls, if you go overboard, she is going to see you as desperate. You want to convey you have a life and although you like her, she is not the center of your world. Women love a mystery. When calling girls or texting girls, the less you do it, the more her imagination goes into play and the more mysterious you will be. Mystery builds attraction. I don't mean go days or weeks without calling, that is just plain stupid. If you really like her though, your instinct leads you to call her more. Resist this. Call her less.

Ever noticed how it seems the less interesting not so high quality girls seem to fall all over you at times. Think about it. How are you texting them? Probably not so enthusiastically. This intrigues them and they want you more. So when calling a girl that you like or that is hot or high quality do it as if she was just another ordinary girl you aren't so into.

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Rule number 2, don't call or text her and have nothing to say. You want to make her smile. You want her to associate your calls and texts with positive feelings. You want to create an anchor to these positive feelings. The anchor is going to be the phone ringing and her seeing your name pop up. Don't bore her, be funny and confident. If you don't have a lot to say, well get off the phone or stop texting. End the conversation, have your escape route already in place before you call. This also puts mystery into it when you end the conversation first. Leave her wanting more.

Now confidence is a big thing when calling a girl. If you are calling all the time again, this is not good. It shows her you aren't confident enough in yourself and that you need her constant validation. That is why less is more. If you call every other day for example, well apparently you are confident in yourself, otherwise you would be ringing her phone off the hook. Sometimes it's more in what you don't say or do that speaks the volumes.

When calling a girl or texting a girl, remember, she is just a girl. If she is a high quality girl or hot girl, well she is still just a girl. This is the attitude to have. Remember that women do like a challenge, so don't be too easy. The key is to get her thinking about you. You want to master the calling and texting girls to get her to think about you when you aren't around. Once a girl starts thinking about you, well she is hooked.

Your cell phone is without a doubt your best dating tool. You can use it to build some intense attraction or you can pour cold water all over her. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages

How To Get Her Sexually Attracted To You

2010-12-15T09:08:00.000-08:00

How To Get Her To Feel Sexually Attracted To You

By Alex Allman, author of Revolutionary Sex

I want to share with you 2 things that I
believe any man can do... that will make you much
more sexually attractive to women.

If you are single this can get you more dates...
If you are married, just try to imagine how much
better your relationship could become if you knew
how to trigger your wife's sexual attraction for
you?

In other words... this is important stuff, so
read on...

Let me start by asking you a question...

What do WOMEN think is "sexy" anyway?

Tattoos? Clean-cut guys in well tailored
suits? Danger? Money? Muscles? A feeling of
security? Musicians and poets? Power? Pretty
boys? Tough guys? Bad boys? Brains? A great
sense of humor?

Sure. Of course. There are women that
find each of these things sexy.

Some women like tattooed, rocker types.
Some get turned on by clean-cut, Wall Street types,
some like 'em pretty and some like 'em tough, etc.

But is there something that ALL women think
is sexy? Is there something that really pushes the
hot-button on every girl you'll ever meet?

There is.

In fact, there are two things.

And these two things are so powerful in the
way that they affect women, that if you strongly
exhibit these two qualities, it can overcome just
about anything else.

In other words, if you have these qualities,
you will be sexually attractive to a woman that
usually goes for tattooed guys even if you're a
Wall Street guy, or vice-versa.

And the really great news is, they are qualities
that any man can acquire if he's willing to LEARN
and to work at it a bit.

And, yes, I'm going to tell you what they
are...

What you do with this information after that,
is up to you...

Women are generally creatures of emotion,
and men generally are about facts and results.

Of course this isn't always true, but
pretty close.

And it's especially true when it comes to
sexual relationships. Men want facts and results
(like: what's your phone number and when are we gonna
get it on?).

But women are much more emotionally driven.
(like: we'll get it on when it FEELS right to me.)

I challenge you to find a woman that
disagrees with that statement.

Emotions and feelings are what really
motivate most women, and your ability to make
her FEEL things, your "emotional power" over her,
is key to her feelings of sexual attraction.

PASSION is the language of emotional power.
And for a woman, it is the best indicator of a
man's ability to FEEL things strongly...

And make HER feel things strongly...

And THAT drives women crazy.

Passion is the first of the two things that all
women find sexually attractive.

Does it matter what you have a passion for?

Well, for starters, you can't go wrong with
SEXUAL passion.

But she's not going to be able to read that
in you immediately unless you go around with a t-
shirt that says, "Hey Girls: Passionate Lover Right
Here"

(I don't recommend it, by the way, but hey,
it COULD work).

But seriously, passion about anything is a
turn on for women.

I admit, and I guess it's obvious if you
live on this planet, that artistic passion... like
passion for playing the guitar or writing powerful
poetry is more attractive than passion for theoretical
mathematics...

But I PROMISE you, even passion for
theoretical mathematics is seriously sexy to any
woman who encounters it.

The problem is, the mathematician usually
doesn't believe that others share his passion and
so he, like most men, walks around suppressing or
hiding his passion and his emotional power.

For women, these timid men that walk around
all covered up and too weak to show their emotional
power are all the same.

They are guys that are too shy or too afraid
to express their passions for the guitar or poetry
or mathematics. And so she can be pretty darn sure
that they are too timid to show their passion in bed.

In other words...

They are just like the last guy that failed
to impress her in bed.

I suppose that there are some passions that
don't impress women-- like, say, passion for
watching Monday Night Football with a can of beer
in your hand...

But that is only because it is a passion that
is so common that women don't discern it as a
measure of emotional power-- just a "guy thing."

But if the same guy that went completely crazy
with enthusiasm during the football game could
bring that same kind of passion to other things in
his life-- almost any woman would find herself drawn
to him... maybe even fantasizing about him.

If you are married and your wife sees your
passion for football, but feels excluded from it,
then the problem is your inability to SHARE your
passions with her.

I dare you to find a new passion (or re-find an
old one) that kindles your excitement, and then
share that excitement, without filtering it, really
getting excited about it WITH your woman. Watch
the result it has on her... watch how she gets
swept up by it and gets pulled into you masculine
power...

Sure, she may gently tease you in the moment for
getting all excited about something she thinks is
silly... but...

Watch what happens later that evening when you
get into bed.

But getting back to my example about the
mathematician...

A girl asks him, "what are you doing?" and he
mumbled under his breath, "It's just math... you
wouldn't be interested..."

What would it take for the mathematician to
really show his passion, to really blow a woman's
mind with his emotional intensity on the subject?

First of all it takes some guts. Because he is
used to hiding his passion, like most of us are.

What does it take to REALLY be yourself and
not care what other people think? What does it take
to be so comfortable in your own skin that what other
people think doesn't matter to you?

Massive confidence.

And, as it turns out, THAT is the second
quality that all women find sexy:

CONFIDENCE.

A woman can never completely let go and
trust a man that does not display confidence.

It helps if you know what you are doing...
But more important is to have the attitude and the
rock-solid BELIEF that you know.

In the presence of a man like that, most
women feel huge amounts of sexual attraction.

Often they can't even tell you why. They
just say, "there's something about him."

And to really rock a woman's world in the
bedroom, the best place to start is to be confident
about your sexual ability and your sexual identity.

This sexual confidence and PASSION during love-
making is the single biggest turn-on for most women.

It is what allows her to surrender herself to
experience pleasure that she probably has never even
dreamt of.

Since the ability for a man to SHOW his passion
comes down to having confidence, I guess you could say
that confidence is the more important quality in being
sexually attractive to your woman.

And that makes sense.

Because while most women wouldn't explain it quite
as carefully as I have done in this article,
again, I challenge you:

Ask any woman you know if she agrees with this
statement-- that "confidence" is the single biggest
thing that all women find sexually attractive.

I think you'll see very quickly that I'm on to
something very big and very true, and that you
need to learn more about it--

So, here's the big question...

I said that ANY guy could learn to do these
things that women find so sexually attractive.

So HOW DO YOU become the kind of sexually
confident guy that women fantasize about?

In my experience, it's a bit more complicated
than just deciding "I will be sexually confident
from now on."

But I want you to know that it's not so much
more complicated that it can't be learned.

In fact, I believe ANY man can display massive
sexual confidence... the kind of sexual confidence
that has his woman crawling all over him all the
time... just by learning a few simple things.

The keys are both External... learning the
actual skills, techniques, and "competence" in the
bedroom that breeds confidence...

And Internal... learning to silence the voices
of doubt and judgment (that women can sense),
that can destroy that passionate sexual confidence
before you ever have a chance.

On the one hand there is nothing "hard" about
this process...

On the other hand, it's not likely you can go
it on your own or that you'll figure it out "by
accident". And because the woman in your life
has gotten used to you not having this confidence
and passion, and she will resist you trying to
change... it will freak her out a bit.

You need the tools to handle all of these
factors and really grow into your new identity
comfortably and happily.

I believe it will profoundly change your life
and your relationship. And both you and your woman
will be so much happier and more fulfilled when
you have done it.

Plus, she will be so sexually satisfied that very
little else will matter!

A great way to get started is to download
your copy of my online eBook and start reading it
on your computer right now.

It is is filled with incredible techniques
and tips to take your sexual relationship to
levels that you can't believe until you experience
them.

You can find the book and my FREE, sex tips
newsletter right here:

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Texting a Woman You Really Like a Lot

2010-12-14T08:32:00.000-08:00

You finally met a woman you really like. How you communicate with her is a big in determining if she is going to like you back. It's a fine line in texting women. It's easy when you aren't that into her, but when you are, suddenly, you are second guessing your every move.

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When texting a woman you like, you want to spark her interests. You don't want go into overkill and appear desperate. If you go about this the wrong way, you can kill her attraction. Texting a woman is powerful, because unlike men, women do respond to words. Not only do they respond, they analyze the crap out of everything a man says. You know women, it's true.

Think about this, how often is it that the woman you aren't that into is more into you? Why is this? Maybe because you don't go over board. You text her at random, and aren't so available. For some reason this makes her want you more. That old human trait, she wants what she can't have. Keep this in mind when texting a woman you really like.

I am not suggesting you play games, I am just suggesting that you treat her somewhat like you aren't that into her. Don't start texting her all day long. I know you want to reach out and touch her, but there is some truth to absence makes the heart grow fonder. Engage in a conversation daily is fine, but keep it down to a few texts and try to be the one to end the conversation. A sign that she is into you, if you end the conversation and she sends you one more text, you got her on the hook.

Women like intrigue and mystery. If you are texting a woman all the time, or telling her your every move, it's no mystery. Sometimes it's in what you don't say that gets her interest sparked. If she texts you and asks a question, dance around the answer for a while. Let her work for it. This is a way to measure her interest. If she does keep going for an answer, again, you got her hooked.

When texting a woman you really like, you want to be fun and flirty. You don't want to send her boring texts about mundane things going on in your day. Keep those things to yourself. I know you may be really wanting to send some sort of text a woman you like to check to see if she is still there. Hold off. Only text her when you have something that will make her smile or put good thoughts in her head about you. Leave the boring stuff behind.

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How Texting a Girl Can Backfire and Turn Her Off

2010-11-28T06:02:00.000-08:00

Texting being the biggest dating tool available can be used to turn a girl on, but if used incorrectly, it can be a huge turnoff. Texting a girl should always be done in moderation. There is a such thing as overkill. This applies also to calling. The key here to remember is less is more.

I am going to share a story here with you about Jack and Diane. They met at happy hour one afternoon and hit it off. Jack got Diane's number and texted her the next day. Jack immediately jumped in and started texting her Good Morning everyday, even before their first date. Diane thought it sweet and really didn't think nothing of it.

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Fast forward, they start dating. They hit it off, things are good. Jack steps up the texting, now not only is it Good Morning, but he is sharing bits and pieces of his day, staying in constant contact with Diane. Now there are so many women out there complaining that their guys don't text or call enough, so what is the problem here?

Let's go forward a couple more months. Jack and Diane are still dating, but Diane has slowed down on her responses to Jack. He texts her while she is at work, while she is shopping, it's just too much. Diane goes out with the girls. Jack texts her half the night and she can't relax. She starts ignoring him, so he calls. She has to assure him everything is ok, but she would like to enjoy her evening.

Diane is now frustrated with the way the relationship is going. She feels like Jack doesn't trust in what they have, as he seems to need to keep in touch constantly. She starts seeing this as clingy needy behavior. She doesn't feel like Jack trusts her anymore although he claims he does.

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Diane cuts her phone off for an entire weekend. Jack has pushed her to the limit and killed her attraction. Jack sees his behavior as considerate. He doesn't understand he took away all of the challenge, all of the mystery by being to available with his constant texting.

A challenge and some mystery are what builds attraction with women. There are texting techniques you can use to build the attraction but there is a such thing as overkill. When texting a girl, if you want it to last or you want to keep her, remember less is more. Click Here to get over 101 proven flirty text messages

Top 4 Mistakes Men Make in Bed

2010-11-24T10:04:00.000-08:00

1. Asking Her What Turns Her On

Talk to women any day and you will find their biggest complaint is communication, men just don't really know how. Asking her seems logical right? Wrong. We appreciate the effort, really we do, but for most of us, opening up like that is not an easy task. We want a man who leads, who pays attention and knows what to do. We do understand you can't read minds, but we know somewhere inside that if you pay really close attention to the signals of our body, you will learn what turns us on without asking.

If you just ask her "What turns you on?" you might get a good answer. She might even like it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance that, on some unconscious level, she will feel a weakness in you and be disappointed.

She will be less turned on by the sexual experience if she feels weakness. The key is to get her to open up and get her to show you without you asking.

2. Using Techniques to Please Her

Techniques are great, but again, a woman's orgasm really is directly connected with her brain. The problem with these techniques is that all women are different. What works on one, will not work on another. A woman can tell when you are just focused on a mastering a technique. This means one thing to her, you aren't focused on her but on what you are doing at the time. She then feels pressure to reward you for your efforts. We often fake orgasms at times like this just to get you to stop. It makes us very uncomfortable to have a man doing some robotic thing hoping to bring us to orgasm.

3. Not Understanding the Sexual Language of Women

Sexual communication is foreign to most men. Women give off all kinds of signals, but you aren't understanding her most of the time. Have you ever been going down on a woman and for some reason you feel she may be up there sleeping? Have you ever had a woman getting really excited and she pushed you away or stopped you? This is happening because again, you aren't paying attention and she is frustrated. If you can learn how to listen to a woman's body and really pay attention, she is capable of having an incredible sexual experience. Tons of signals are being sent out when a woman is close to orgasm. Men misinterpret them for many reason, one of which is he may be looking for the standard orgasm response. Screaming, moaning,what ever he has encountered before. Not all women are alike and I can't stress this enough. Some orgasm quietly and you have to pay attention to her breathing. Others thrash around. Some are still. It is critical to be able to read her sexual language and all women speak it differently.

4. Not Doing Anything To Fix It

The 4th and biggest mistake of all. If you don't do anything to fix it. Women will stay and remain faithful to you if you are an incredible lover, don't underestimate the power of it. If you aren't doing it, chances are somewhere out there is a man who will take the time and effort to take her to higher sexual levels.

Are you the best lover she ever had? Are you sure? You can be.

Before You Text a Girl Good Morning

2010-11-15T12:09:00.000-08:00

If you have a new girl in your life and are thinking of sending her a good morning text first thing to consider is this. Is she as into you as you are her? When we girls get a good morning text, we know in that instant you are into us. We think, wow he is thinking of me in the morning, this guy really likes me. You have lost some of your mystery appeal here. She now knows she is in. Once a girl knows this, the fun is pretty much over. Do you really want her to know yet that you are thinking of her even when you awake in the morning?

Another thing about texting a girl good morning is you are setting up an expectation that is pretty high. If you are both into one another and it is early on, she is going to start expecting it everyday. It lays ground work for issues ahead. Do you want to be expected to text her every morning? What happens if you stop feeling it for her or miss a few mornings? I will tell you what happens. Women analyze. She will start worrying if you might be getting distant. There is a good chance she may cause some drama. It's like when you tell a girl you are going to call her and you don't. What does she do? You know the answer to that one I am sure.

Last but not least is texting a girl good morning is pretty boring. It doesn't do much to build attraction. It's sweet, but sweet will not make her feel it for you. To build attraction with texting a girl you need to convey mystery and be a challenge. Texting is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction if you do it with skill.

Any guy can send the same old boring messages that we get everyday. Learn to stand out and escalate the attraction to a higher level through texting.

She is Distant - What Happened - What to Do

2010-11-14T11:12:00.000-08:00

Ever been dating a woman maybe a few weeks, maybe a few months and all of a sudden she is distant. You can tell in her voice she is less than thrilled when you call, she may stop answering some of your texts and worse she canceled a date. You can feel her pulling away and you don't know why.

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Chances are she is not feeling the attraction she felt earlier. Attraction for a woman is a tricky thing. They like to feel secure, but at the same time they do like mystery. You might want to ask yourself have you been smothering her or maybe being too predictable.

Men often wonder why women love jerks. This is not really true, it's just there is something that jerks can do that the nice guys struggle with. They create attraction. They are not so easy to get and are far from predictable. If you are texting her relentlessly, telling her you miss her and other mushy stuff, this really is a turn off. We start to think, oh boy, if I don't return the sentiments, he is not going to be happy. Then we feel responsible for your happiness. This is huge in killing attraction.

I will share a story about attraction gone south. Tim met Jen. They hit it off, started dating. Tim immediately started texting her everyday. Good Morning, Good Night, sharing parts of his day with her. He sent her flowers. She was flattered at first. How sweet. Weeks go by, he continues. Jen is starting to get bored. She calls me and doesn't know what to do, she feels smothered and is starting to see him as a friend. The more she pulls away, the more he comes after her. She is distant. Relationship dies before it even gets off the ground because Tim wouldn't give her time to miss him, the key element in building attraction.

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If you feel she is distant, don't go after her even harder. Give her some space and time to miss you. Don't ask her for reassurance, this makes you look needy and will kill the attraction even more. If you text her every morning, miss one. Mirror her level of commitment. This shows her you will not allow her to be the center of your universe. This is wildly attractive to a woman.

It's like flowers on Valentines day. You get them for her because it is expected. If you are relentless and predictable, she will come to expect it. A woman would much rather get flowers at random than on a day of celebration. It means so much more.

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Why and How Women Fake Orgasms

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Women faking orgasms is very common. I often hear men say she should just tell them how to please her. Truth is though, this isn't really something a woman feels comfortable doing. She knows it may take her longer and she fears this will turn a man off. She is also scared you may see her as a freak.

With the porn out there, it puts some pressure on women. In any porn flick, the women are in these insane positions such as ankles around the neck, or contorted into a pretzel, yet she is screaming her head off in ecstasy. This really isn't realistic. A woman is often self conscious and to have her legs over her head does not make her feel attractive, trust me. She is thinking of her belly and how it might look to you. If you are behind her, she make think her rear is too wide. These things get in the way of our orgasms. An orgasm with a woman starts in her mind.

Just like you don't want to disappoint her, she doesn't want to disappoint you. This is the main reason women fake orgasms. She is thinking of you and not her. Women by nature want to please you. They know how sensitive men are when it comes to his performance. It's often just easier faking an orgasm than risking hurting your feelings.

I know a lot of men who would say their women faking an orgasm is out of the question. Many a man has been fooled by this illusion. Women do fake it. They can actually contract their vaginal muscles and breath and moan and groan just like the porn stars do it. You roll over thinking you are the man and she rolls over frustrated thinking she just put on the show of her life. She has dug herself in and now she doesn't know how to fix it so that you will know how to satisfy her.

If you are having sex with your woman and she is panting and screaming like a banshee ape, there really is a good chance she is faking it. If she really is having an orgasm, her heart starts beating really fast when orgasm begins, she gets flushed, and her breathing is shallow and fast. A woman's nipples go completely erect during an orgasm. This is a little fact they never will share with you because then you would know their secret.

All women fake orgasms at some point, there are few who haven't. We talk about it often with our girlfriends. It's a very common topic among women. They don't feel safe to open up because they are too worried about what you may think. If you want to satisfy her and assure she doesn't have to fake it, this may take opening your mind to the fact that you may not know what you think you know.

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