Angel & Armoni: Remember Your God Given Family

Wanting To Know...

2014-04-21T10:18:00.001-07:00

It has been a year since my last post and several years that I have not seen or heard from Angel and Armoni(their names have been changed). I hope they are well and I pray that they will always remember us. Hopefully their adoptive mother will see this post or perhaps someone who knows her. We will not cause any harm. We just want to see or at least hear from them, K. Holsome

A person that loses a partner is called a widow. A Child that loses a parent is called an orphan, but there are no words to describe a parent that has lost a child, because the loss is like no other... Think of someone you know who has lost baby, or a child or a grandchild and remember and honor their love ones.

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The Pain Is Still There

2013-04-22T08:14:00.001-07:00

I wanted to write a new post frequently. However, each time a write it is like ripping an old wound that has healed, creating more pain than before. I just happen to stubble upon my own blog, and for what ever reason I thought I would write this time. It has been over three years that we have not seen Angel & Armoni, their names have been changed to show that they belong to someone else, and to wipe out all that can associate them with their God Given Family. Soon they will be of age to search for their two brothers, grandparents, cousins and others that they have been alienated from. I often wonder if they ask their adopted mother, Kathy, where are their brothers, Deavion and Evin? Can we see them? What words of comfort can an adopted mother, who for all intent and purposes wishes that the true families of Angel and Armoni disappear? I can not think of any. At least not any truths. This is an outward plead from a Grandmother who deeply loves and cheerish the grandchildren whom she has not seen or heard from in years. Please when you are old enough post to this blog, or my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/gloriakaiser1997. Or look us up on whitepages.com we still live at the same address. We have no intentions of leaving until we have found you.

Remember Cynthia Rose

2012-07-13T16:17:00.001-07:00

It has been years now that I have stop researching articles about a person’s fight to regain custody of their children from Child Protective Services. It is just too painful. Recently I decided to revisit the topic, and came across a book written by a woman who also had lost her grandchild. So I sent an email off to her sharing my plight, and she took the time to answer my email. She expressed her sorrow and suggested that I share my feelings with other grandparents who have also had to go down the deep dark path of loss. She also offered a practical suggestion, to keep a scrap book for Angel and Armoni, so that can see what happened during the years that they were away for us.

I fight the feelings of resentment for Cps, the foster mom Kathy, and my own daughter whose strength to fight for her children was weaken by drugs and mental illness. I still ask what person or organization would dare to keep children separated from families that love and can take care of them? Sometimes I can thwart the feelings of resentment and other times it sneaks up on me. The damages of resentment are costly; it ruins one’s physical and emotional health, as well as relationships with others.

I pray that one day Kathy, will see it in her heart, that Angel and Armoni are missing us their God Given Family and will allow a visit or at least a phone call. To date this has not happen.

I encourage anyone who has shared our experiences and those who do not believe that there exists an agency that separates children from loving family members who will keep them safe from anyone who will cause them harm. The book, Remember Cynthia Rose: Grandparents fight to keep their grandchildrenwritten by Jeanne Sinclair-Krause journalist and freelance contributor to several magazines and newspapers. She holds a degree in psychology from San Diego Mesa College.

I like to end this post sharing one of the reviews posted on Amazon by a reader of Jeanne's book.

“Because of Jeanne Sinclair-Krause's book "Remember Cynthia Rose" Cynthia Rose will know that her family loved her and fought for her. Many children will never know that anyone in their birth family cared. The great problems of the world are horrific, but they should not distract us from the personal dramas that leave dying families and wounded children. It is terrible when a family loses an adult member. It is criminal if a good, loving family loses the right and responsibility to care for the children of that adult. Often the cohesion of the core family doesn't survive the multiple loss. Social service agencies and community leaders will eventually understand what has happened and have to answer for the loss this child and her family have endured. As states are awarded funds for proper adoptions they should be fined for improper ones. Read this cautionary story and add your voice to the choir by talking to others about this problem and contacting your legislature for changes. I anxiously watch for more to come from this social detective.”

So Long...

2012-05-15T13:45:00.001-07:00

It has been a long time since I have added a new entry to this blog. It is so painful to write about the Angel and Armoni (their birth names, adopted mom has changed their first names) we missed them so much. Perhaps they are remembering us as we are them. We still live at the same address and have the same telephone number if in the future they want to find us. I would like to hear from other grandparents who have had their grandchildren taken by the state and adopted out. Just to see how they are coping or if they have had the good fortune of somehow getting in touch with them. Anyone who reads this and knows of anyone please refer them to this blog.

Child Adoption vs. Family Reunification

2012-01-23T17:43:00.000-08:00

I once viewed a movie in which a child was being severely abused by his parents. He locked himself in a closet and called the child protective services hotline and was able to be rescued from a heart wrenching situation. Children should be protected from abusive parents. However, this agency‘s goal of protecting children has, because of federal and state regulations, turned into an agency that separates children from families.

The reason for the change of the agency’s agenda in recent years is highlighted in a research article by The Education State University, “In 1980, Congress passed the first comprehensive federal child protective services act, the Adoption Assistance and Child Welfare Act of 1980 (Pub. L. 96-272), which focused on state economic incentives to substantially decrease the length and number of foster care placements. This act also required specific family reunification services, reflecting the goals of the 1909 White House Conference. However, in 1997, in order to cure many of the defects in the 1980 act, Congress passed the Adoption and Safe Families Act, which shifted the focus from family reunification to expeditious permanency for children in adoptive placements. All state child protection systems adopted the federal guidelines as a requirement for receiving federal subsidies.” Child Protective Services - HISTORICAL OVERVIEW, CURRENT SYSTEM.

To receive federal aid States have used these guidelines to support their decision to place children into non-family adopted homes. This has resulted in separation of siblings, loss of contact with grandparents and other close family members, and the destruction of the child’s legacy and heritage.

Not A Day Goes By...

2012-01-20T15:37:00.000-08:00

Although it has been over a year that I have posted to this Blog, there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of them. Now Angel is 11 and Armoni is 10. I hope they think of us as well.

I try to refrain from resentfulness and vengenfulness, those are not christian qualities nor are they healthy ones. I often wonder how I would react if I some day see Angel and Armoni at the super market or in the park with their adopted mom, Kathy H-B. I would like to ask her why she felt she had to change their names or why she felt that we should not have contact with them or prevent them from having contact with their siblings. More importantly, does she feels that such acts are more harmful than helpful? Or would I just politely greet her and give my grandbabies the kind of hug one gives to a love one who they know they will never see again? I hope I have that opportunity.

Adoptive parents need to know the importance of the children's biological families. After all if it was not for the biological families the children would not be here.

On the flip side of the coin there are adoptive parents that welcome the biological families to be a part of their family. One such family is the Singer family. They have had several foster children in their home and have now adopted them. They tiredlessly work along with the biological families, as long as there is no physical danger to the children, to raise their children in a emotionally healthy environment. My heart and love goes out to parents such as the Singer Family. May more adoptive Family following their example.

That Will Be $400.00

2010-12-01T07:39:00.000-08:00

It seems at this point, in spite of our many legal attempts, we cannot see nor have custody of Angel and Armoni. So I decided to go about this a different way. The siblings of Angel and Armoni have not been allowed to see each other as well. After researching I discovered that adoptions done through Maricopa County Courts there is a program that will reunite siblings who have been separated by adoptions. It is called The Confidential Intermediary Program which provides a service to help facilitate contact between parties of an adoption (Adoption triad members) or siblings separated as a result of a dependency action. Voila! If we couldn’t see the children here’s an opportunity for the children to see each other. I placed a call and it was explained to me how it works. However, there is a fee, $400.00 dollars. For those of you that have been following my blog and it seems that there are only 3 of you, you now know that we have spent thousands of dollars and countless hours in the efforts to gain custody of Angel and Armoni. There is not a price that can be place on seeing our grandchildren or having our grandchildren seeing each other. However that $400.00 represents to me another injustice of this system of extorting money for something that they do not own in the first place, family.

This time of the year is especially hard, because this is the time for family. I hope someday Kathy B, the new adoptive mother, will someday read this blog and have a change of heart. After all this is the time of the year when people believe that so call miracles happen. Well, this remains to be seen. For now Kathy please grow a heart and realize that these children need their God given family. To all those foster and adoptive families who feel that keeping children away from their biological family is somehow heroic, please think again. It’s immoral, it is wrong on so many levels, and it’s an insult to God who created the institution of Family.

I Should Have....

2010-11-03T22:08:00.000-07:00

Today I said to my husband I wished I could have a do-over; that last day in court. I wished our attorney had prepared us that this was the time the court would finally allow us to speak. He didn't and we were not prepared. I relive that nightmare in court a dozen times a day in my head. I wished I said this or that. My husband says would it have mattered? He is right. Have you ever walked into a room full of people and you have that feeling that they had been talking about you? That's the feeling we had when we entered the court room that one last time. Everything was in place all the decisions had been made, the children would be adopted by Kathy B. the following day, this was just a formality, a deception or display of fairness. This court was not fair, the judge, and cps were all together in this. The decision had been made before we walked into that court room.

Shut down Child Protective Services

2010-11-03T21:47:00.000-07:00

Shut down Child Protective Services

Az Supreme Court Says No

2010-11-01T17:31:00.000-07:00

Unfortunately, the state supreme court of Arizona denied our case. As it seems we will not be getting our grandchildren. We are sad, of course. This goes without saying. We now will press on to Federal. Why do we have to pay such a price to see our own grandchildren? This is unnatural it goes against all laws of the universal sovereign. God made family and state government can break families.

Let this not happen to you. Anyone with a child could fall victim to CPS agencies. No one is exempted. All it takes is one phone call from a disgruntled neighbor, or an unhappy employee, a friend or relative who has a grudge against you, or someone sees you disciplining your child. Never ever think that this cannot happen to you. It has happen to thousands of families nationwide. If it does read information from these sites:

Fightcps

National Coalition For Child Reform

Family Rights

Grandparents For Children's Rights

For grandparents who see their adult children involved in drugs and neglecting their children and are in a position to take care of them, do not call CPS. First talk to them, ask if you can take custody of them until they are capable of taking care of them. If they refuse call a reliable juvenile attorney who is not contracted with CPS, or better still check the above sites form information on how you can legally take custody of them.Once you call CPS, they will take over and even place them in foster care even if you want them. Instead call family courts or a reliable juvenile attorney who is not contracted with CPS, or better still check the above sites form information on how you can legally take custody of them.

Cps has helped children who really need to be removed due to severe threats on their lives. However, the number of children taken away that should have not, is much larger than those who need to be. States receive money from the Federal Government for each child adopted outside of the family. So the incentive is there. Do let what happen to us happen to you.

Taking A Break

2010-09-09T15:57:00.000-07:00

It takes a lot out of me writing this blog. In fact I have not posted in months and many months go past before you will see a new post. This whole thing about losing my grandchildren, Angel and Armoni, to someone who the state of Arizona felt was the better placement, hurts like crazy. It makes me feel so angry, resentful, and dejected. These are feelings that I do not want to have and feelings that strips away years from my life. So, I take a break, not from thinking about Angie or Armoni, no I will never do that. It is a break from those negative emotions

Why do I write this blog? Informational purposes mainly, there are so many relatives who are good and hard working, whom their state Child Protective Services Divison passes over in favor of placing their children with a total stranger, for a profit. Maybe some day someone will see the many blogs and websites of relatives, like myself, who have been tormented by an agency that is supposed to protect children.

"After All They Are Not Your Children"

2010-07-02T15:39:00.000-07:00

Last week I was speaking with someone and told them the story of Angel & Armoni being adopted out by the state even though we wanted to have custody of them. The woman's reply was, "After all they are not your children." I was so surprise I could not comment on her statement. How would anyone else have responded?

I did not give birth to them. Was that what she meant? No, they are not my birth children, however, there is a great part of me in their blood, chemical make up, and personality. They have in essence inherited me. So they are a part of me no matter how you look at it. So I'm more of a mother to Angel & Armoni than their adoptive mother. Her chemical make up does not exist within them.

So the next time someone says why are you going through all this trouble, after all they are not your children? I will have a reply.

Your Brothers

2010-06-25T18:53:00.000-07:00

Dear Angel and Armoni,
It has been over two years since you have seen you brothers. Evin is now 12 and Deavion is 11 both are doing well in school. They get to see each other on a regular basis. They miss you very much and often ask us if the Judges will send you back home. We just tell them that we will pray that this happens. One day you will see them again.
love you so much
grandma

CPS Worker Charged For Filing False Reports

2010-06-19T06:50:00.000-07:00

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They Have Won A Battle Not The Fight

2010-06-14T15:47:00.000-07:00

Dear Angel & Armoni,
We tried to have your adopted anulled, because according to Federal laws, family should be given preference when parental rights are taken, in order for the states to receive funding. We were not. Which would indicate that the adoption is illegal. So we appealed and lost. I don't know why the judges feel that you are better off not seeing your siblings and your natural family. They may have won another battle but the fight is still on. We can not afford to hire an attorney, and besides it appears that the attorneys in Phoenix, are afraid to go up against the state in these matters. So with the help of an advocate we will press on to Arizona State Supreme Court. We will continue the fight up to the final courts. Be strong, stay safe, we love you.

Private Name, Private Number

2010-06-04T21:58:00.000-07:00

I refer to my grandchildren as Angel and Armoni, their birth names. However, a message left by my grandchildren' adoptive mother on our answering machine, caller id reads private name private number, referred to my grandchildren as other names. My question is, how is this in the best interest of a child. Reminds me of slave owners changing the names of their slaves to erase all traces of who they are and to which family they were born into.

The Last Time We Were With Our Grandchildren Angel & Armoni

2010-06-01T22:01:00.000-07:00

Our Grandchildren were taken by the State of Arizona and even though we fought to gain custody of them through the court systems, they were adopted out. The adopted mother refuses to allow us to have contact with them. It has been two years since we have seen them. This Blog is created so that when they are old enough to start searching for us they may find us. We want them to know that we love and miss them. We are still fighting to see them. We will never give up.