On this, the 11th day of September, 2011, the 10th anniversary of 9/11, we have the opportunity to reflect on what’s important.  Not only did New York and Washington change that day, but we all felt those vibrations down to our very souls.

That gift of perspective can help us remember to let go of the little things and remember what’s truly important to us as individuals and as a whole. And then to act on them.

I read a recent New York Magazine editorial by Frank Rich talking about the opportunity that this tragedy gave us and how we collectively squandered those chances.  It is, if nothing else, meaty thinking material.

Let’s take this day to reflect on what’s important, give our loved ones an extra hug, reach out to each other, remember those lost, and honor their memories by pledging to try harder to build a world that recognizes and rewards our collective humanity.

Sincerely yours,

Sarah

If  you want to fight effectively or discuss a tough issue, control your pulse.  That’s the secret.  Stay calm. Simple, right?  On paper, yes.  In reality over a heated issue?  Not so easy.

The Story of Discovery

On a walk the other day, we talked about fighting. One of our friends is incredibly calm when dealing with things that send me over the edge.  She told me her secret.

“We learned really early in our marriage that if our pulse is too high, or if we are too enraged over an issue, we cannot hear each other.  As a matter of fact, we end up fighting over how we’re fighting or about what we said during the fight instead of the original issue.”

Why It Works

It works.  Here’s why.  When calm, you can listen.  When calm, you can be reasonable.  When calm, you can compromise.  When calm, you can accomplish anything as a couple.

Try it.  When fighting, take a break. Agree to come back to the ring calm. If one person is getting too testy, try to keep each other calm.  And see what you can accomplish.

Further Proof

In the middle of this discussion, I saw this post on WebMd on the NEW rules for marriage.  It says that the new way to fight is to go to bed mad, wake up calm, and then try to resolve the issue when you are both calmer and more level-headed. Here’s what the post says.

“New rule: Sleep on it. Conflicts are best dealt with when you have calmed down and are well rested. (Sarah here.  See the theme?)

Rather than stay up to debate the disagreement du jour, Gottman suggests that couples set aside a moment every night to focus on what’s good about their marriage. Then, “no matter what — if you’re angry, if he’s angry, or if you’re both exhausted — kiss good night for six seconds,” he advises. “Sure, sometimes you’ll be so mad or tired that the kiss will last for six nanoseconds. But it will remind you of your enduring affection, and besides — long kisses often lead to something even better than conversation.”

That’s not to say that conflicts don’t have to be dealt with. To make sure disputes don’t get swept under the bedsheets, Gottman recommends having a standing, short “State of Our Union” meeting each week (just not at bedtime). “Take turns telling each other something about your marriage or your partner that you appreciated that week, and then afterward each of you gets to bring up one issue.”

Let us know if you agree.  We find that it is much harder to read about than to accomplish, especially for those emotional issues.

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Today we present an interview with Tom Matlack, founder of the Good Men Project, entrepreneur, Huffington Post contributor, and really talented writer.

The Good Men Project is his brainchild, born out of an exploration into the defining moments in mens’ lives. What a great and meaty topic; it certainly made me curious. I had to find out more. Tom was kind enough to answer some of our questions.

Defining Moments for Men

In your experience of researching and finding “defining” moments in the lives of men, are there any overall themes that you have discovered? (ie an unexpected death, a first sexual experience, witnessing a war, an abusive parent, a moment at the bottom)?

One of the most fascinating parts to me is the amazing variety of defining moments. It can be huge like a war or quite intimate like treating someone better on the subway.  The one thing that sticks out about all of them, however, is the recognition of some deeper truth that each man has been hiding from. I like to describe it as the moment when you look in the mirror and quite literally don’t recognize the person looking back. I think men in general are striving to find their way back to something more authentic, more real, that doesn’t include living a dual life. Lying about yourself truly sucks. It’s painful. Discovering truth isn’t always easy–and in some cases pivotal moments are involuntary like a death of a child or spouse–but there is a great release in moving away from what isn’t working to some new self-defining that is more hopeful and genuine.

What would you advise women to do in order to help bring out the best in the men in their lives (whether they be husbands, sons, fathers, or significant others)?

Ask them what brings them joy.  What are they most passionate about? We as men, just like women, too often do what we think we are supposed to think.  We get lost in external expectation rather than looking inside. Now more than ever men are conflicted by trying to be good husbands and fathers while having a career. I like to say that feminism was about women having the right to leave the home and the modern man is trying to figure out how to get back home.  We are both pretty stuck.

What have you learned from The Good Men Project that was unexpected?

What it’s like to take picture at the front line of the war in Iraq.  The look in the eyes of inmates inside Sing Sing that are never going to get out. That the sex trade is something no one really wants to talk about but has increasing importance and isn’t something that you can reduce to one simple judgment. That race is really hard to talk about, still. That we are literally locking up black men in this country to the tune of 1 million, almost half the total inmate population.  That women and boys are dying to talk about manhood.  But men take a bit more convincing.

Is there anything that women don’t generally know about men that we should know?

Men love stories. We don’t generally lead with our emotions.  But tell a guy a story, even a really macho one about war or sports, and they will start crying like a baby.

Is there a question I should be asking that I am missing?

Why are there all these women sociologists writing about the end of manhood?  Shouldn’t they be writing about the transformation of men into stay-at-home dads and husbands who want true intimacy with their wives?

Interesting, don’t you think?

Gentlemen, do you agree with this?

Take a look at this story from Tom on The Good Men Project from last week,  Why Gaga and Chelsea are Good for Men.

Here’s my favorite part:

“The ‘bad boy’ media frenzy is all about objectifying men, making them all the same just like we airbrush every freckle, every wrinkle, every bulge on a Playboy centerfold’s body. We want our women stars to be all the same under their clothes — drop-dead gorgeous. And we want our men to be all the same under their clothing too — not so powerful, not so suave, but flawed, those flaws exposed.

So the question becomes how do we as men deal with women in a more meaningful and ultimately fulfilling way. And how do women break out of the preconceived notions of being female.

Twenty-four year-old Lady Gaga and comedian Chelsea Handler are part of a move towards a new paradigm of womanhood. And that’s why I just can’t seem to get enough of either one of them.”

Check out the post.  Check out the site.  They define and discover what’s new and amazing in men.

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“Free will” and “marriage” do not have to be an oxymoron.

Here’s the situation as discussed with a number of girlfriends.  Husbands we know give their wives specific tasks to take care of. If their wives don’t do exactly what they tell them to do exactly how they suggested doing it, men sometimes feel like they are not being listened to.  They feel ignored.

That’s not the case.  Gentlemen, are you listening?  You need to understand this.

When you give your wife an order, or direct her on exactly how to complete a task, she is listening to every word you say. (Her blood pressure may be rising, but she is listening.)

However, and this is a big however, there are multiple variables in her life that she has to take into consideration.  Your direction is one of them. The kids or the chores or her job may be another.

Here is how we think. When the husband gives us an assignment with specifics on how said assignment should be accomplished, what he doesn’t often take into consideration is that there are several other factors involved – kids, homework, jobs, meals, and a thousand other things that affect said assignment’s completion.

What do we end up doing?  Something that takes into account all of these variables.

The End Result?

Just because you may ask us to do something that we don’t do according to specifications doesn’t mean you are being ignored or that we are not listening to you.

As women with free will, your desires and directions are inputs into our decisions and actions.  And then we do them the best way we see given those circumstances. We use our best judgment.

So, don’t take our doing things our own way as an insult.  It’s not meant that way.  It’s what keeps us both infuriating and interesting.

Ladies, do you agree with this?

Sincerely yours,

Sarah

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The Contest Returns

We haven’t run a giveaway for months and we wanted to thank our community for all you have done. Plus, we thought this could help as a gift for our men.

Prizes:

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Update

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The winner of the three books is: #41, #215, and #129.

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Contest runs from this posting to Wednesday June 15, 2011 at 6pm cst. Anyone 18+ can enter.  Winner announced at 10am cst June 16th, 2011.

On our girls’ trip, we had an “interesting” discussion about what we want our husbands to say when we get dressed up. By interesting, I mean that the discussion did not go as I would have predicted.

Here’s the scary part, at least for you gentlemen out there.

When you’re wife asks you how she looks, although it is not intended as a trick question, you’d better treat it as one.

The Discussion

A1 (Anonymous1):  When I get dressed up to go out and I ask my husband how I look and he responds “Fine,” that is a slap in the face. When I put myself together, I hope he’ll appreciate it.  ”Fine” just does not do it. (Big smile. Sip of wine follows.)

A2:  Hold on a second.  I really want my husband’s opinion. I mean, sometimes I’m not sure about an outfit and I hope he’ll tell me if he likes it or if it accentuates the wrong things.  However, he’d better be careful.  Maybe something like, “I like it, but it’s not my favorite” seems to work for me.

A3: I don’t ask my husband how I look. I am confident enough in the way that I put myself together that when I put in the effort, I know I look good. I’m sure he’ll appreciate it and let me know.

(Sarah:  I am silently marveling at the conversation, taking mental notes, knowing that this is a great conversation for a future post.)

A2:  You mean, you really don’t ever want his opinion about what you are wearing and whether or not he likes it?

A3:  I’m sure I look appropriate and put together for the occasion and just fine.  I don’t really need his opinion in that way.

A1: I put in the effort. I don’t want a “you look fine.” I want more acknowledgment than that.

A2: Hmmmm…. I guess I’m just different in that I truly want his opinion as to whether or not a particular outfit really makes sense for me.  I care about what he thinks.

A1:  I care what he thinks too.  BUT, in this matter, I worked hard, I have confidence in my taste in clothing, and I hope he appreciates it.

Translate This Please

So, what’s a man supposed to say when his wife asks him how she looks?

My unprofessional opinions is as follows:

Figure out what she expects. Is she an A1 and A3 or an A2 type of woman. If she’s and A1 or A3, a “beautiful” or “spectacular” or “great” will do. Make sure you mean it. If you have a hard time finding her beautiful, without makeup and hair done, this is more about you than her.  Better take a look at that one.

If you’ve got an A2 kind of woman, figure out a way to help her feel as good as she can. Learn the language that does not offend her, or learn to love how she puts herself together.

Ladies and gentlemen, care to add any comments to the discussion about what has or has not worked for you?

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The Story Behind the Story: Part II

Day 2: As described yesterday, I have this amazing resource who is going to share all: a woman who has proven that she doesn’t need sex advice despite my incredulity.  (See yesterday’s post.) Here’s what happened during the interview process.

Sarah:  Do you want to be anonymous or not?

Woman:  I have nothing to hide. Give me credit.

Sarah:  Okay, great!  Here are the questions.

A couple of days ensue.  The email hits my inbox.  I hit “open” immediately, read the amazing content, and then she concludes with the following:

Woman:  Ok let’s do total anonymously! I don’t want my computer savvy daughter finding it! LOL

So, if she has changed her mind, the information must be pretty good, right?

Read on…

What were some of the most interesting bedroom secrets you learned from these lingerie parties your mother hosted that you carry with you.

Flexibility will help you with your hips. A bjob is all about the tongue and what you do with it.

What would you advise to women who are not as comfortable with their sexuality or who grew up in homes that were a little less talkative about the subject?

Go to a show. Have a girl’s night. Whatever it takes to be around women! You don’t even have to drink! Trust me: women have the same insecurities. We all want to be considered sexy and hot.  When one woman starts talking, others start to chime in without even realizing it! They get comfortable and chatty! Add a little wine for the women that drink and watch out!

Another thing is to go take Boudoir pictures! They are made to make a woman feel sexy and attractive. no matter who you are! It is one of the biggest confidence boosters a woman could ever partake in! Another activity that would help you feel more comfortable is to take a pole dancing class or a stripping class. They actually have those for real women. Bring a friend and just laugh and have fun.

What would you suggest to the husbands of women who are not comfortable with their sexuality?

Remind them everyday of why you think they are sexy. But don’t just tell them, show them. Gestures like walking behind them in the kitchen and placing your hands on your hips. One of the biggest things that makes me feel sexy is when I look over out of the blue and see my husband undressing me with his eyes.  No matter how long a couple has been married, a woman likes to feel pursued. Pursue her. Tease her. Laugh with her. If you drink, bring her a glass of wine! Invest in candles, massage oils, and other fun little toys. No I’m not talking vibrators at this point! If she trusts you, you can slowly get her comfortable.

Have any explicit tips or tricks for the rest of us?

It’s all in the hips. Invest in an exercise ball and get to opening those babies up. It’s not easy to explain how to move your hips just right but not too hard (unless he is really into it). If he is digging that action, you will know it.

INVEST in lingerie, sexy underwear, bras. The return is HUGE! I have 2 drawers just of lingerie: everything from simple to elegant to risque. Then wear it! What good does it do when you keep it in your drawer. Put it on. Feeling frisky? Flash it. INNOCENTLY of course. Wear it when doing housework (if the kids are gone for the day).

Get a few good toys. Let him watch you use them while he is not allowed to touch.

Take control at times.  Give him the control at others. Restrain his hands as you explore his body with your mouth and hands. Go slowly and find the spots that make him tense up. Don’t be afraid to nibble at times and flick your tongue at other times. The goal is to find out what sets him off.

Invest in mirrors or do it in the bathroom. I have mirrors on my closet door. Another favorite place to do it is on the bathroom counter.

Talk dirty. While you are watching movies, lean over, place one hand on his thigh and nibble on his ear as you whisper something dirty. Watch that smile cross his face and you know you hit the spot. Don’t know what to say? Just say “Let’s get naughty” or if you are feeling really frisky, “Want my mouth where my hand is?”

If you are using condoms, put them on him. Make it fun.

Okay, Sarah here.  That is some pretty explicit and good advice.  Now, I can say that my friend has clearly earned her “no sex advice” title.

Thank you for sharing. This kind of information could make a lot of couples a lot happier.

Anything else you want to add (that we can publish – we moderate comments, FYI)? I dare you!

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The Story Behind the Story

It’s another day on Twitter, and somehow the conversation turns to, you know, sex. And advice. And advice on sex. I replied that everyone needs advice on sex. And one participant explains that she doesn’t need advice on sex.

“Why not?” I ask. (I cannot help myself.)

“My mother sold lingerie when I was in high school to women at lingerie parties. I helped her and learned about everything.”

BINGO.  Now, this was a source that we all needed to hear from. Plus, I needed to know what this woman knows to merit her feeling that she does not need sex advice.

What’s the problem with this?  There’s just too much good information to absorb for one post.

Therefore, today we’ll cover her “credentials” and what she learned.  In the second part of the interview, we’ll go to her specific advice.

Here goes…

1.  In our Twitter exchange, you explained that you don’t need any sex advice.  Why is that?

LOL Honestly, I don’t think anyone needs sex advice. It boils down to communication with your partner.  Everyone’s preferences and tastes are different. Add two people together and those preferences and tastes may not be the same. Communicating your desires and what turns you on, is the best way to achieve sexual satisfaction. It is also something that I think a lot of couples fail to do. It’s like we are afraid to say “hey I like it when you use your tongue like that”

2. What makes your intimate life so satisfying?  (You don’t need to be explicit unless you want to be.  I am just curious if it is variety, understanding each other, quantity, being in groove, etc.)

We have been together for 6 years. We still have sex 4-5 times a week. EVERY week. Everyone uses kids as an excuse. We have 5 at home full time. Then a couple times a year, we have my 2 stepkids. So our house is hectic, chaotic and crazy busy. He works 6-7 days a week. Our secret is not to have a schedule. Throw the TV on and lock the door!  It’s not always perfect and we go through our ruts like everyone else. But after a week, we are both going insane. We definitely mix it up. It would get boring having quickies all the time. But since we are working around little ones schedules, we have to mix it up. He is not a romantic and definitely lacks in the foreplay department. I have to take control and guide him. Of course after 6 years, I think he just likes when I do that!

I also have a drawer full of lingerie. I’ve been known to slip it on before a dinner date and give him sneak peeks. Take a picture before dinner and text him while you are at dinner too! The goal is to have him saying CHECK before they even ask for dessert! Date nights must be regular too! We PEN in a date night once a week. No phones, no technology. Just the two of you!

3.  You explained how you learned about intimacy.  Can you explain what your mother did?

I learned about sex through my mom. She used to sell lingerie at lingerie parties when I was in high school. I used to help her out and earn money by helping her set up. 99% of it was very classy and made to make a woman feel great.

4.  Did you get to listen in?

Yes I got to listen in. It’s amazing how open women can be in a group of women. Even women that are seen as more prudish. It’s their comfort zone and when one starts talking, stories start flying!

5.  In the parties that worked best, what were the dynamics of the women?  Were they friends? Sisters?

Most definitely friends. We are more relaxed with friends than family members.

6.  What are the 5 (or 50 if you want) most interesting/important things you learn from the women at these lingerie parties?

1. COMMUNICATE (Have I mentioned that before?) It’s the best thing EVER and one of the hardest things to do!
2. When you are in the bedroom, let go of inhibitions. If you are with someone you love and trust completely, this should not be a problem!
3. Make it fun. Go on a date. Laugh. Remove car seats before your date.
4. Keep a drawer full of lingerie and WEAR IT!
5. Send little messages throughout the day to build excitement
6. When sending him to the grocery store, add something Naughty to the list.
7. No one else knows what you are wearing underneath your clothes but your husband will like it.
8. Men need to know they are wanted, respected and SEXY.
9. A b-job is all about the tongue, not the other things that you may hear.

I hope you agree with me that this woman is a great resource, because not only did she learn about sex from a lot of women, but her marriage reflects energy and enthusiasm for a solid and active and playful intimate life.

Tomorrow she’ll give advice both to women and men.  Just wait!  What she has to say is GREAT!

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Here’s the story behind our guest today.

I sent out a tweet about our book Getting Lucky with the Wife. Aaron, our guest, responded that getting lucky has absolutely nothing to do with luck.

He didn’t even know that was the end of our title. We started talking. I wanted to know what he knew about luck and HOW he figured it out. (I figured a bunch of other guys would want to know this as well.)  Well, he certainly makes a lot of sense. He answers my questions below. You’ll see why he’s a lucky guy and that it takes work and a whole bunch of consideration.

A8: When you told me that luck has nothing to do with getting lucky, what did you mean?

Me: Wow. That is a really great question that I could talk/write/dance/sing about for hours or even days in response to. Seriously, though, what I meant was that having frequent, positive sexual intimacy with your spouse is as much about luck as the success of Google or Apple.  Luck is what the jealous call the results of trying, failing, learning, and growing. If you think that bringing home a paycheck is the end of your husbandly duties and that foreplay is a slap on the buttock while rubbing your erection against her, then yes, any kind of sex is going to be dumb luck. The successful husband knows that foreplay starts when you get up in the morning and ends when intercourse begins: in short, if you are meeting the emotional needs of your wife all day, she will be in a much more arousable state of mind when you make sexual advances.

A8: What are the key things you have learned in your relationship with your wife that have made it strong (and gotten you lucky along the way)?

Me:

Patience: Early on, when she would tell me about some hurt or issue that she was dealing with I would try to jump immediately into solving the problem without making an effort to truly hear her and let her know that I was on her team and that her feelings about the situation were important and meaningful.  Also, in our marriage I have always been the more adventurous one in the bedroom, but I have learned that it never pays to steamroll or dismiss her concerns in this area–and slowly moving from the status quo to where I wanted to go was worth the wait even when it has taken years in some areas.  Being patient says, “You are more important than my agenda.”

Team: Team means that communication is key and important decisions are not made unilaterally. It means that husbands are parents too! So many men (myself included for many years) seem to think that parenting is “womens’ work.” Can a woman successfully parent alone? Yes! Can a man? Certainly. But that’s not the point of marriage. Getting married means having a shared life with shared responsibilities–a team.  And to bring it back ’round to sex (as most men do), my wife always says that there’s no one hotter than a man who loves his kids, more so if they’re hers too.

Growth: I have established a history of “growing up” about many different things in my marriage. That history is what has given my wife hope when we have tackled some pretty serious issues in our relationship.

A8: What 3 things would you advise other husbands to do if they would like more luck?

Me:

Listen: Hear what your wife is saying (and not saying). Ask her questions that show that you are interested in her day, her thoughts, her feelings and then shut up and listen as long as she takes to answer. “Listen” to her tone and body language too.

Act: Do not be a passive bystander in your marriage. Realize that you are as happy and fulfilled (within reason) as you are choosing to be. Is there something that she has been asking you to do? Just do it. Have you noticed something that is likely bothering her, but she hasn’t mentioned it yet? Even better! Ask her what she thinks of solution Y to problem X and then ACT!

Speak: Tell her when you appreciate something that she does. Be observant and make a habit of letting her know what you notice and how you feel about it (emphasize the good here: a 10:1 positive:negative ratio at least). For example, my wife was ill for years while I was working 60-80 hours a week at a startup company, and so, our house was often very messy. This was a source of frustration and resentment because I wanted a clean house but neither of us had the energy (both of us) or the time (me) to do anything about it. Now that she is much healthier, our house is usually pretty clean (for a house with 6 kids), but it still makes her day when I say, “Wow honey! The house is looking really good today.” It especially matters to her now because I don’t just talk about the state of the house: I jump in and clean right alongside her.

A8: Also, do you think that you wife’s work has anything to do with your happy intimate life?  I mean, she is around, shall we say, cues all day…

Me: I can see how it might be easy to think that, but we actually had a fantastic sex life before AmberDawn started her Pure Romance business. In fact, that was part of the reason she was looking into that kind of business.  We both felt that she could make a big impact in womens’ lives with knowledge that she has gained in this area.  I think that having a husband who is actively committed to supporting her in her business success (industry aside) is a much bigger turn-on for her than the content of the business itself.

About the author: A self-described, semi-pro husband, Aaron McCall is serious about improving his skills as a spouse. He has recently begun to tweet as @HubbyPhD and is in the planning stages forhttp://hubbyphd.com, an educational site for husbands (and potential husbands) who want to improve their relational skills too.

Gentlemen, for more help in this area. Check out our book Getting Lucky with the Wife. It could be the best investment you EVER make.

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Thanks for stopping by. Welcome to our world.  Grab a cup of coffee, sit down, and look around.  We promise you some interesting conversation. Here is a short guide of things you may find interesting.

For our readers, we published a guest post on Problogger entitled Setting Personal and Professional Boundaries on Your Blog.

• Top Posts of 2010
• Our Favorite Posts of 2010 (These are more along the line of editor picks.)

Series

We love series because they allows us to dig a little deeper into the meatier subjects (or there is just too much to talk about in one post). Here are some of them.

• Hair Down There (a 4 part series)
• Manscaping (because why should women have all the fun)
• Marriage and Pornography (a 7 part series)
• Pure Romance Parties (a 3 part series because we couldn’t cover this in one post)
• Lingerie For the Rest of Us (ongoing)

For Women

• The Biggest Mistakes Wives Make
• 8 Ways to Treat Your Husband Like a Boyfriend
• What Makes Real Men Melt
• Women Body Posts (all those peculiar things that happen to our bodies that no one really discusses)

For Men

• 8 Ways to Treat Your Wife Like a Girlfriend
• What Makes Real Women Melt
• The 14 Sexiest Things a Guy Can Say to His Wife
• 17 Stupid Things Guys Do to Guarantee a Sex Free Marriage
• What Every Guy Should Know About Foreplay

For Both Men and Women

• Spicing up the Intimate Life – Fun Tip Tuesdays Posts
• Get a Room!
• How to Be Effective in Love

There’s lots more but this is a good start.

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