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Building a "You" oriented Self-Care Routine

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0600

One of my biggest pet peeves is the misuse of the term "self-care" to only mean things that make you feel good in the moment. That creates unrealistic expectations of what it means to care for yourself and it's bordering on unhelpful. I like to think of self-care as doing hard things to improve your life in a way to keep you moving forward. While this can include doing more of what feels good, the bulk of it is challenging stuff that is hard.

How can you create a sustainable self-care routine that fits into your life? We all know self-care is crucial, but figuring out what works for you can be a bit of a puzzle, so here’s a guide to help you build a routine that feels right and doesn’t stress you out.

Start with the Basics

First things first, take a moment to think about what you truly need to recharge. Are you craving more relaxation, or do you need a burst of energy? Maybe you’re just looking for a little more balance. Once you’ve got a handle on what you’re aiming for, set some goals. You don’t need an elaborate routine to start—just small, manageable steps carved out a few minutes a day can make a big difference.

Experiment and Find What Works

Now comes the fun part: experimenting! Try out different activities to see what makes you feel good. It could be yoga, journaling, reading, or even taking a stroll in the park and don't be afraid to mix things up! If something doesn’t quite hit the spot, it’s totally okay to switch it up. The goal is to find what resonates with you.

Make It a Habit

Once you’ve figured out what you like, it’s time to make it stick. Schedule your self-care into your daily or weekly routine. Treat it like any other important appointment—because it is! It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out process; even a few minutes of self-care can make a big impact and become a natural part of your day.

Listen to Yourself

Remember, your needs and preferences might change, and that’s perfectly okay. Be flexible with your routine and adjust it as needed. The most important thing is to be kind to yourself. If you miss a day or two, don’t sweat it. Just pick back up where you left off.

In a nutshell, building a self-care routine is all about finding what makes you feel good and weaving it into your life in a way that feels effortless. Start small, stay consistent, and adjust as needed. You deserve it, and you’ll likely find it’s worth every bit of effort. Happy self-caring!

Bounce Back from Rough Emotions Easier

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 8 Apr 2025 09:10:00 -0600

It would be wonderful to live in a world where we didn't need the amount of resilience that we do. A world where we took care of each other and watched out for each other's emotional state. However, the reality of the world is that it's hard. Living can be hard in general, but even harder for some. This is where resilience comes in, especially around emotions.

Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back from life’s challenges with strength and grace. It’s what helps you weather storms, adapt to change, and keep going when the going gets tough. While some people seem naturally resilient, the good news is that emotional resilience can be cultivated over time.

Here’s how you can develop this vital skill.

Embrace a Growth Mindset

One of the foundations of emotional resilience is adopting a growth mindset—the belief that you can learn and grow from your experiences. Instead of viewing setbacks as failures, see them as opportunities to learn and improve. This shift in perspective can make a big difference in how you handle challenges.

Build a Strong Support System

No one is an island, and having a strong network of supportive friends, family, and colleagues is crucial for resilience. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and provide encouragement during tough times. Don’t be afraid to lean on others when you need help—it’s a sign of strength, not weakness.

Practice Self-Compassion

Being kind to yourself is key to building resilience. When you face difficulties, it’s easy to slip into self-criticism or blame. Instead, treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend. Acknowledge your feelings, forgive yourself for mistakes, and remind yourself that it’s okay to struggle.

Develop Healthy Coping Strategies

Resilient people don’t avoid stress—they manage it effectively. Develop healthy coping strategies like mindfulness, exercise, or creative hobbies to help you process and release stress. These activities not only help you stay calm in the moment but also build your overall capacity to handle future stressors.

Stay Flexible and Adaptable

Life is unpredictable, and resilience involves being able to adapt to change. Practice staying flexible in your thinking and approach. When plans go awry, try to go with the flow rather than rigidly holding onto how things “should” be. Adaptability helps you stay grounded, even when life throws you a curveball.

Focus on What You Can Control

In challenging times, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by everything outside your control. Resilient people focus on what they can control—their actions, attitudes, and responses. By channeling your energy into what you can influence, you’ll feel more empowered and less stressed.

Developing emotional resilience takes time, but by embracing these practices, you’ll find yourself better equipped to handle life’s ups and downs. With resilience, you can navigate challenges with a sense of inner strength and emerge even stronger on the other side.

Nom, Nom, Nom: Nutrition and Mental Health

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 1 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0600

Many of us have a challenging relationship with food and their connection to our emotions. Some of us associate food with love, so when we couldn't get love, a full belly was a decent replacement. Or it was a way to cover up the hurt emotions we felt by being full. However, the flip side of that is that the food we eat can improve our well-being and mood in a way that we might never have thought.

Let’s dig into how nutrition and mental health are connected—and how you can eat your way to a happier, healthier mind.

Food for Thought

Imagine your brain as a high-performance machine. To keep it running smoothly, you need to fuel it with the right nutrients. Foods rich in vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants provide the brain with the tools it needs to function at its best. On the flip side, a diet loaded with processed foods, sugar, and unhealthy fats can clog up the works, leaving you feeling sluggish, anxious, and down in the dumps.

Mood-Boosting Munchies

So, what should you be eating to keep your brain happy? Start with the basics:

Omega-3 Fatty Acids: Found in fish like salmon and walnuts, these healthy fats are known to boost brain function and reduce symptoms of depression.
Whole Grains: Foods like oatmeal, brown rice, and quinoa provide a steady release of energy, keeping your mood stable throughout the day.
Leafy Greens: Spinach, kale, and other greens are packed with folate, a B vitamin linked to lower rates of depression.
Fermented Foods: Yogurt, kimchi, and kefir are loaded with probiotics, which can improve gut health—and, believe it or not, a healthy gut is key to a happy mind.

Fun Fact: Gut Feeling

Speaking of your gut, did you know it’s often referred to as your “second brain”? That’s because your gut and brain are closely connected through the gut-brain axis. A healthy gut can produce more serotonin, the feel-good hormone, helping to keep your mood in check.

Treat Yourself (Wisely)

This doesn’t mean you can’t indulge now and then. The key is balance. Enjoy your favorite treats in moderation, but make sure your overall diet is rich in brain-boosting foods. After all, a happy brain leads to a happy life—and it all starts with what’s on your plate!

Just Breathe to Reduce your Stress

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0600

Before I became a therapist, I had a period in my life where I attended some weekend meditation retreats on the regular. During these weekend, there would be talks, formal sitting meditation (which included breathing exercises) and walking meditation.

This was before "mindfulness" found it's fame and I really just thought of it all as meditation. At the end of these weekend, there would be a clarity to everything around me; my thoughts, breath, vision and more. The breathing was always something I could bring into my everyday life that I found helpful.

What Is Mindful Breathing?

Mindful breathing involves paying close attention to your breath and using it as a tool to anchor your mind in the present moment. It’s about observing the natural flow of your breath without trying to change it. This practice helps calm your nervous system and reduces the impact of stress.

How to Practice Mindful Breathing

Find a Comfortable Position: Sit or lie down in a relaxed position. Ensure you’re comfortable and can breathe freely.
Focus on Your Breath: Close your eyes and bring your attention to your breathing. Notice the sensation of the air entering and leaving your nostrils, the rise and fall of your chest, or the expansion and contraction of your abdomen.
Use a Breathing Technique: Try the 4-7-8 method: inhale through your nose for a count of 4, hold your breath for a count of 7, and exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of 8. This pattern helps to slow your breathing and calm your mind.
Be Present: If your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to your breath. The goal isn’t to stop thoughts but to observe them without judgment.
Practice Regularly: Incorporate mindful breathing into your daily routine, even if it’s just for a few minutes. Consistent practice can build resilience to stress and enhance overall well-being.

Benefits of Mindful Breathing

Reduces Stress: Mindful breathing helps lower cortisol levels and activates the body’s relaxation response, making it easier to manage stress.
Improves Focus: By anchoring your attention on your breath, you can improve your concentration and clarity.
Enhances Emotional Balance: Regular practice fosters emotional stability and helps you respond to stressors with greater calm and resilience.

Incorporating mindful breathing into your daily life can transform your approach to stress. By taking just a few minutes each day to focus on your breath, you can cultivate a sense of inner peace and improve your overall mental and emotional well-being.

Positive Affirmations can be Powerful

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 09:08:00 -0600

There's a bit of jumble in the psychology world between affirmation and toxic positivity. I've found that toxic positivity, ie putting a positive spin on anything and everything, really differs and if you can hold them apart, affirmations are extremely helpful.

Affirmations are more about being kind to, and encouraging yourself rather than being positive about everything. They can help you make it through a challenging time, but they must be paired with reality to truly be effective.

Here’s how embracing positive affirmations can bring a touch of magic to your day.

What Are Positive Affirmations?

Positive affirmations are short, uplifting statements that you repeat to yourself. They’re like little pep talks that remind you of your strengths and potential. For instance, saying, “I am capable and resilient” can help reinforce a positive self-image and boost your confidence.

Why They Work

Boosts Confidence: Regularly repeating positive affirmations helps you internalize a positive self-view. It’s like giving your self-esteem a daily workout, helping you feel more confident and capable.
Shifts Perspective: When you focus on positive statements, you train your mind to look for the good in situations. This shift can help you approach challenges with a more optimistic outlook, making them easier to navigate.
Encourages Resilience: Positive affirmations can help you bounce back from setbacks. By reinforcing your strengths and affirming your ability to overcome obstacles, you build mental resilience.

How to Use Affirmations

Keep It Simple: Choose affirmations that resonate with you and are easy to remember. “I am worthy of love” or “I embrace my potential” are great starting points.
Repeat Often: Incorporate your affirmations into your daily routine. You might say them in the morning to start your day on a positive note or whenever you need a confidence boost.
Believe in Them: The key is to truly believe in the affirmations you’re using. The more you align with these positive statements, the more powerful they become.

In essence, positive affirmations are a delightful way to uplift your mood and reinforce a positive mindset. By regularly repeating these affirmations, you can nurture a more optimistic and resilient outlook on life.

Be Grateful, Dammit!

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0600

Sit back, close your eyes and forget all your complaints about life for one second. Think instead to the other side, the things you are grateful for. It might be big things like having a roof over your head or a loving partner. Or you might be able to see smaller things you're grateful for like the food you're eating right now, or an interesting cloud in the sky. There is power in being able to see what you're grateful for and remind yourself of that every day. It's not a reality shadowing practice in that you forget all the bad, just that you remind yourself of the good, as well.

Cultivating gratitude can bring a sense of inner peace and contentment, so here's how you can make gratitude a part of your daily routine and reap its benefits.

Start Small

Begin by setting aside a few minutes each day to reflect on what you’re thankful for. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture—just jotting down a few things, big or small, can make a difference, whether it’s a kind word from a friend or a moment of tranquility. Acknowledging these positives can shift your focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant in your life.

Do it Consistently

Integrate gratitude into your daily routine. Choose to write in a gratitude journal each morning or evening, maybe even sharing what you're grateful for with a partner or friend. This practice reinforces a positive mindset and encourages you to notice the good even on challenging days.

Shift Your Perspective

When faced with difficulties, try to find a bit of a silver lining. Asking yourself, “What can I learn from this?” or “What am I still grateful for despite this challenge?” can help you maintain a balanced outlook.

Accepting gratitude into your daily life can foster a deeper sense of inner peace and joy. By focusing on what’s good, you create a positive ripple effect that enhances your overall well-being. Start small, stay consistent, and watch how gratitude transforms your perspective.

The Physical way to Better Mind and Emotions

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 4 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0700

Very honestly, I have a love/hate relationship with exercise. I've never been one to "work out" but I do find that making sure I move my body enough is incredibly important. For me, that's yoga and walking for the most part. But really, when I finally had the realization that I was important in this world, the first thing I did was start taking better care of myself. So maybe before you get there, taking care of your body can start first?

It’s incredible how moving your body can have such a profound impact on your mood and overall mental state. Here’s a look at why getting active is a game-changer for your mental health.

Boosts Mood and Eases Stress

Ever noticed how you feel on top of the world after a good workout? That’s because physical activity gets those endorphins flowing—your body’s natural mood lifters. These “feel-good” hormones help chase away the blues and bring a sense of euphoria, sometimes referred to as the “runner’s high.” Regular exercise also lowers cortisol levels, which means you’re less likely to be overwhelmed by stress.

Sharpens Your Mind

Exercise isn’t just for your muscles; it’s great for your brain, too. When you move your body, you boost blood flow to your brain, which can improve memory and focus. It’s like giving your brain a much-needed tune-up, helping you think more clearly and stay sharp.

Improves Your Sleep

Struggling with restless nights? Incorporating physical activity into your day can help regulate your sleep patterns. Better sleep means you wake up feeling refreshed, which can do wonders for your mood and mental clarity. It’s like giving yourself the gift of a good night’s rest.

Boosts Confidence

There’s something incredibly rewarding about seeing your hard work pay off, whether it’s gaining strength, endurance, or simply feeling more energetic. As you reach your fitness goals, you build confidence and self-esteem, which spills over into other areas of your life.

A Healthy Emotional Outlet

Sometimes, life’s stress can feel overwhelming. Exercise provides a healthy way to manage and channel those emotions. It’s like hitting the reset button for your mental state, giving you a break from daily pressures and helping you regain emotional balance.

So, next time you’re feeling the weight of the world, remember that getting active can be a powerful ally. Lace up those sneakers and embrace the incredible benefits of physical activity for your mental wellness. It’s a simple yet profound way to nurture both your body and mind.

The Present Moment is All There Is

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0700

The present moment is all that exists. You can spend it thinking about the future or ruminating on the past, but the best way to live is to be and stay in the present moment. Now this may be a bit oversimplified, as I don't want you to just forget about the past and never plan for the future, but increasing the time you spend in this actual, real, present moment can make a significant different in the quality of your life.

Understanding Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. It involves being fully aware of your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, rather than getting lost in worries about the past or future. Mindfulness isn’t about escaping the busyness of life but about fully experiencing and appreciating it all as it unfolds.

Why Mindfulness Matters

Reduces Stress: When you’re mindful, you’re less likely to be overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. By focusing on the present, you can avoid getting caught up in overthinking and rumination.
Improves Focus: Mindfulness helps sharpen your concentration. By practicing being present, you can enhance your ability to focus on tasks at hand, which can lead to increased productivity and satisfaction.
Enhances Emotional Well-Being: Staying present allows you to connect more deeply with your emotions and experiences. This awareness can lead to greater emotional resilience, reduced mental health symptoms and a more balanced outlook on life.

Incorporating Mindfulness into Your Day

Start Small: Begin with short, mindful moments. Take a few minutes each day to focus on your breath or simply observe your surroundings. It’s not about the duration but about making mindfulness a regular part of your routine.
Breathing: Try deep, intentional breathing whenever you feel overwhelmed. This simple practice can help center your thoughts and bring you back to the present moment.
Eating: Use mealtime as an opportunity to practice mindfulness. Pay attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of your food. Eating mindfully can enhance your enjoyment of meals and help you stay connected to the present.
Walking: Take a walk and focus on the sensations of each step. Notice how your body moves and the environment around you. This practice can transform a routine activity into a mindful experience.

In essence, staying present in a busy world is about finding small, moments to practice amidst the chaos. By incorporating this into your daily life, you can cultivate a greater sense of awareness, reduce stress, and enhance your overall well-being.

Alone is not a 4 Letter Word

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0700

My family moved around a lot when I was younger and that increased the challenge of making friends with all that transition. Over time, I gave a negative association to being alone and it took some time to sort that out. I've seen this in my clients, as well, in that they'll stay in bad situations so they don't have to be alone. But really, there's power in being alone that we can't always get when we're with others.

Solitude, the intentional practice of spending time alone, can be a powerful way to reconnect with who you are at your core. Far from being lonely, solitude can offer a deep sense of peace and self-awareness that’s hard to find in the noise of everyday life.

Embrace the Silence

One of the first steps to reconnecting with yourself through solitude is learning to embrace silence. In a world full of constant chatter—emails, social media, the news—finding quiet moments can be challenging and sometimes the space to do so even more so. These moments could be a few minutes in the morning before the world wakes up or in the evening after the day winds down. Use this time to sit quietly, without any distractions, and simply breathe. As you grow more comfortable with the silence, you’ll start to hear your own thoughts and feelings more clearly.

Engage in Reflective Activities

Solitude is also a perfect time for reflection. Activities like journaling, meditating, or taking a mindful walk in nature can help you reconnect with your inner self. When you journal, let your thoughts flow freely onto the page. Don’t worry about grammar or structure; the goal is to explore what’s on your mind and in your heart. Meditation, too, offers a way to quiet the mind and connect with your deeper self. Even a simple walk can be a form of meditation if you focus on the sights, sounds, and sensations around you.

Set Intentions

As you spend more time in solitude, set intentions for what you want to achieve during these moments alone. Whether it’s gaining clarity on a particular issue, finding peace, or simply getting to know yourself better, having a purpose can make your time in solitude more meaningful.

Listen to Yourself

Finally, use solitude as a time to listen to your inner voice. What are your true desires, needs, and values? In the quiet of solitude, you can hear these answers more clearly. This self-awareness is the foundation of reconnecting with yourself and living a life that’s aligned with who you truly are.

Reconnecting with yourself through solitude is about creating space to explore your inner world. By embracing silence, engaging in reflective activities, setting intentions, and listening to your inner voice, you can foster a deeper connection with yourself and navigate life with greater clarity and purpose.

Write it Down: Journaling for Life Clarity

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0700

Over the years, I've always tried to keep a journal and over my history, it's admittedly been sporadic. I love the idea of it, but a constant practice of it has evaded me. However, I've seen it help many a client in my time and I still suggest it for anyone, but maybe a little bit more for those who have a hard time sharing with others.

Sometimes those private thoughts swirl and swirl in your brain and you just need to get them out somewhere. By putting your thoughts and feelings on paper, you create a space to explore your inner world and gain valuable insights. Here’s how journaling can boost your mental clarity and offer a range of benefits.

Organizes Your Thoughts

Writing in a journal helps organize your thoughts and emotions, turning a jumble of ideas into a coherent narrative. This process clarifies what’s on your mind and allows you to address concerns and priorities more effectively. When you see your thoughts laid out, it’s easier to identify patterns and make sense of complex emotions.

Reduces Stress

Journaling provides an outlet for expressing feelings and processing stress. By writing about your daily experiences and challenges, you release built-up tension and gain perspective. This reflective practice can help you manage stress more effectively and approach problems with a calmer mindset.

Enhances Self-Awareness

Regular journaling encourages self-reflection and self-discovery. It helps you track your personal growth, understand your motivations, and recognize areas for improvement. This heightened self-awareness can lead to more intentional decision-making and a deeper understanding of your values and goals.

Boosts Problem-Solving Skills

When you journal, you often work through challenges and brainstorm solutions on paper. This process can enhance your problem-solving skills by allowing you to explore different perspectives and strategies. It helps you break down complex issues into manageable parts and develop creative solutions.

Fosters Mindfulness

Journaling encourages mindfulness by prompting you to be present and attentive to your thoughts and feelings. This practice helps you stay grounded and aware of your current state, contributing to improved mental clarity and emotional balance.

Incorporating journaling into your routine can be a transformative practice for mental clarity. By organizing your thoughts, reducing stress, and enhancing self-awareness, journaling provides a valuable tool for navigating life’s complexities and fostering a more balanced and insightful perspective.

Just a Little Bit of Nature: The Outdoors and Mental Health

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 4 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0700

A little patch of grass. Feeling the trunk of a tree. Birds chirping in the morning. Did you know that spending time in nature can benefit both your physical and mental health?

Why Nature Heals
In Japanese culture, it is called Forest bathing, or "shinrin-yoku," a practice of immersing yourself in a natural environment. Nature provides space to breathe, both physically and mentally; fresh air, natural light, and open spaces. These all help lower cortisol levels, reducing stress, and boosting serotonin, the brain’s “feel-good” chemical which results in reduced anxiety, better focus, and an overall clearer mind.

Being outdoors also encourages mindfulness where the sights and sounds help us stay present, whether we’re listening to birds or watching the wind move through the trees.

Simple Ways to Reconnect
Many of us don't have a nearby forest or area to truly immerse ourselves in nature on a daily basis, so understand that reconnecting with nature doesn’t require grand gestures. Start small by stepping outside for a few minutes each day to find an interesting tree or go walk on some grass. Take a morning walk, eat lunch, or spend time in a local park. Pay attention to the environment around you—feel the breeze, listen to the sounds, and notice the colors.

Make it a Habit
Give yourself the gift of doing this as much as you can, ideally every day, as consistency is key. The more time you spend outdoors, the more you’ll feel the benefits on your mental health. Schedule weekly activities like hikes, visits to the beach, or simply sitting by a river. Make time for you and nature and you'll start to see some benefit from it in no time.

Fear of Flying (or Falling): The Self-Sabotage Dilemma

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 28 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0700

I've always considered fear of failure and fear of success to be two sides of the same coin. They're both rooted in self-sabotage and so the initial piece of "why" doesn't really matter too much. Self sabotage is difficult to identify, but also difficult to stop, and there are a lot of messages that we got from growing up that is embedded in this, so it can be challenging to break free from, but necessary to confront if you want to life a better life.

There are enough barriers and challenges in life without being one to our own selves.

What is Self-Sabotage?

Self-sabotage involves actions or thoughts that undermine your progress and well-being. This can include procrastination, negative self-talk, or avoiding opportunities. Often, it stems from deep-seated fears or insecurities, such as a fear of failure or success.

How to Overcome It

Recognize Patterns: Start by identifying when and how you self-sabotage. Keeping a journal can help you spot recurring behaviors or thoughts that hinder your progress.
Challenge Negative Beliefs: Replace self-critical thoughts with positive affirmations. Reframe your mindset to focus on your strengths and potential.
Set Small, Achievable Goals: Break down your larger goals into smaller, manageable steps. This makes the path forward less daunting and more attainable.
Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Talking to a mentor, coach, or therapist can provide valuable insights and encouragement.

By understanding the roots of self-sabotage and implementing strategies to stop doing it, you can move past these barriers and create a path toward greater success and fulfillment.

From Groggy to Great: Transform Your Life with Good Sleep

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0700

I have a complex relationship with sleep. I love sleep, but I've used it in the past as an escape from reality and really dug into it during depressive times. In times of stress, I can't sleep, and then when that's gone, it all comes back. What's helped me over time is a bit of what we call "sleep hygiene" which cleans up your routine before bed to prep you for it.

Sleep is more than just a way to recharge your body—it’s a crucial component of mental health. When you sleep well, your brain processes emotions, consolidates memories, and clears out toxins. Poor sleep, on the other hand, can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and difficulty concentrating.

Understanding the basics of sleep science can help you improve your rest and, in turn, your mental well-being.

Why Sleep Matters

During sleep, your brain cycles through different stages, each playing a unique role in maintaining your mental health. Deep sleep is essential for physical recovery, while REM sleep is when most dreaming occurs, helping to process emotions and solidify memories. Skimping on sleep disrupts these processes, making it harder to handle stress and regulate mood.

Tips for Better Sleep

Stick to a Schedule: Going to bed and waking up at the same time every day helps regulate your body’s internal clock, making it easier to fall asleep and wake up refreshed.
Create a Relaxing Bedtime Routine: Engage in calming activities before bed, such as reading, taking a warm bath, or practicing mindfulness. This signals to your brain that it’s time to wind down.
Limit Screen Time: The blue light emitted by phones and computers can interfere with your body’s production of melatonin, the hormone that regulates sleep. Try to avoid screens at least an hour before bedtime.
Keep Your Sleep Environment Comfortable: A cool, dark, and quiet bedroom can help you fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer.

By improving your sleep habits, you can enhance your mental health, making it easier to manage stress, improve focus, and maintain a positive outlook. Prioritizing good sleep is a simple yet powerful way to support your overall well-being.

Creativity: An Essential Part of Healing and Wellness

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 14 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0700

Creativity can be daunting. When we look around the world with an eye for art, we can feel intimidated and overwhelmed when thinking about pursuing it ourselves. I know I am. However, creativity isn’t just for artists, actors or musicians. Whether through painting, writing, gardening, or even cooking, creative activities offer a unique outlet for expression and even emotional release.

When we engage in creative processes, our brains shift into a mode of exploration and problem-solving. This encourages us to see things from new perspectives, often helping us process complex emotions or experiences we might not be able to articulate otherwise, so for many, it’s a way to give form to feelings that words can't quite capture.

One of the benefits that engaging in creative acts does is that it provides a break from the constant chatter of our minds, allowing us to immerse ourselves fully in the moment. This “flow” state, where we lose track of time and become absorbed in an activity is known to enhance well-being and create a sense of peace, as well as provide you a glimpse of an alternate way of being.

Creative outlets also serve as a form of self-discovery where we can learn more about ourselves, including our thoughts, our desires, and our challenges.

Another benefit is that creative acts can be shared and connect us with others, so whether we’re sharing a poem, collaborating on a project, or simply discussing our latest hobby, creative expression fosters community and empathy. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone in our experiences, and that connection is healing in itself.

So, even if you don’t consider yourself “creative,” give it a try. Just try anything that you might have previously or have always wanted to try. Just play a bit and you might be surprised by how much it can do for your mental health.

Don't Ignore your Self: Why Self-Care isn't Silly

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 7 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0700

If you think back in your life to the times that others have provided care for you, what would that look like? Maybe you were sick and someone did some chores for your. Or you were just feeling down and someone spend time listening carefully and compassionately. Now think about how you treat yourself? Do these match up? Maybe not, and if not, it's a good area to work on.

It’s more than just pampering yourself with bubble baths and snacks—it’s an essential practice that keeps you balanced and thriving. Whether you feel you're relatively mentally health, or living with depression, anxiety, PTSD or more, self-care matters and here's how you can incorporate it into your life.

Understanding Self-Care

Self-care is all about tuning into your own needs and actively meeting them. Picture yourself as a plant; without water and sunlight, you’d struggle to grow. Similarly, regular self-care helps you stay nourished and vibrant.

Why It’s Essential

Recharge Physically and Emotionally: Regular self-care helps you rejuvenate and maintain your energy levels, especially for when you need them to be healthy.
Prevent Stress and Burnout: Neglecting self-care can lead to stress buildup and eventually burnout. By taking time for yourself, you’re actively working to avoid these pitfalls, which can sometimes take a long time to settle.
Improve Overall Well-Being: Self-care practices help you stay balanced and feel better overall in your life.

Now, self-care isn’t a one-size-fits-all situation. What works for one person might not work for another. Some people find their groove in gym workouts or outdoor activities, while others recharge through quiet time with a good book or hanging out with loved ones. The key is to explore and find what truly resonates with you.

Creating Your Self-Care Routine

Set Aside Time: Whether it’s a few minutes a day or a block of time each week, make self-care a regular part of your schedule.
Experiment and Adapt: Try different activities to see what helps you feel recharged. It’s all about finding what suits your needs best.

Remember, self-care isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. It’s about being kind to yourself and acknowledging that you deserve to feel good. So, make self-care a priority and watch how it positively impacts your mental health.

Compassion for Self Helps with Healing

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0700

For the longest time in my life, I was incredibly hard on myself. I know this is not a rare thing, as most of the people I've counselled in my life are the same in that they beat themselves up for silly mistakes, berate themselves for not "doing better" and generally dislike themselves and they way they've handled a lot of things in their lives.

I've often tried to practice compassion for myself, but always found it easier to practice it towards others. I've gotten better at this and it's really helped me out in so many different ways.

Let’s delve into the transformative power of self-compassion and its essential role in the healing process. Navigating through life’s challenges can be tough, and incorporating self-compassion into your routine can make a significant difference in how you handle these difficulties.

Understanding Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a close friend. Imagine you’ve just faced a setback or made a mistake—rather than criticizing yourself harshly, self-compassion invites you to respond with empathy and care. It’s acknowledging that everyone experiences struggles and that it’s perfectly okay to be imperfect.

Why Self-Compassion is Essential

Reduces Self-Criticism: When you practice self-compassion, you replace harsh self-judgment with kindness, which can alleviate the emotional strain and depressed feelings that comes from being overly critical of yourself, helping you move forward with less self-doubt.
Enhances Resilience: Self-compassion acts as a support system during tough times. By offering yourself understanding and encouragement, you build emotional resilience, making it easier to recover from setbacks and face challenges with a stronger mindset.
Improves Emotional Well-Being: Engaging in self-compassion fosters a sense of connection and reduces feelings of isolation. Validating your own experiences and emotions without judgment helps you maintain a balanced and healthier outlook on life.

How to Practice Self-Compassion

Positive Self-Talk: When you’re struggling, speak to yourself as you would to a supportive friend. Use gentle and affirming language to offer encouragement and understanding.
Acknowledge Your Emotions: Allow yourself to fully experience and accept your feelings. Recognize that all emotions are valid and an integral part of the human experience.
Prioritize Self-Care: Incorporate activities that nurture your well-being, such as mindfulness, exercise, or relaxing hobbies. These practices help reinforce the sense of self-kindness and support.

Self-compassion is a fundamental practice for effective healing. By extending kindness and understanding to yourself, you can foster resilience, reduce self-criticism, decrease anxiety and improve your overall emotional well-being.

Emotional Triggers: How to Identify and Respond Calmly

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 24 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0700

We're in the midst of that time where our emotional triggers are on HIGH alert. Be it from family, time of year, changes in weather or otherwise, there's a lot of emotion running high at this time of year. Read on to find out how you can respond to your triggers and not react to the situation, all the while providing the care for yourself you need to get through the season.

Emotional triggers are situations, people, or memories that evoke intense emotional reactions, often disproportionately to the event itself and can range from anger and sadness to anxiety and fear. Learning to identify and manage your emotional triggers is crucial for maintaining emotional well-being and fostering healthier relationships.

What Are Emotional Triggers?
Emotional triggers often stem from past experiences, unresolved trauma, or deeply held beliefs. For example, if someone has been criticized harshly in the past, they may become triggered by even mild feedback from others. These triggers can cause immediate, automatic reactions that are difficult to control in the moment. Being aware of your triggers is the first step toward managing them.

How to Identify Emotional Triggers

Pay Attention to Your Emotional Reactions
The first step in identifying your triggers is to notice when you’re having a strong emotional reaction to something. Ask yourself:
- When do I feel overwhelmed, anxious, or angry?
- What words or situations make me feel this way?
- What are the physical sensations that accompany these emotions (e.g., a tight chest, clenched fists)? Becoming more aware of these patterns helps you pinpoint the underlying trigger.
Examine Past Experiences
Triggers are often tied to unresolved issues from your past. Reflect on your childhood, previous relationships, or significant life events that may have contributed to your current emotional sensitivity. Journaling or talking to a therapist can help you connect the dots between past trauma and present reactions.
Identify Specific Situations
Sometimes, your triggers are connected to specific environments or people. It might be a particular setting—like a crowded room—or an individual who reminds you of a past hurt. Making these associations can help you anticipate situations where you're likely to be triggered, allowing you to prepare.

How to Manage Emotional Triggers

Pause Before Reacting
When you feel a trigger coming on, take a moment to pause. Ground yourself by taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or focusing on a calming object. This pause helps create a buffer between the trigger and your response, giving you time to assess the situation rationally.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
Often, emotional triggers are accompanied by distorted thinking patterns such as catastrophizing or assuming the worst. When triggered, ask yourself:
- Is my reaction proportionate to the situation?
- What evidence supports this feeling?
- Could there be another way to view this situation? By challenging your initial reactions, you can shift your perspective and diminish the emotional intensity of the trigger.
Practice Self-Compassion
Managing emotional triggers is not about suppressing your feelings but understanding and accepting them. Be kind to yourself during the process. Acknowledge that it’s okay to feel triggered, but you’re working on finding healthier ways to cope.
Set Boundaries
If specific situations or people frequently trigger you, it’s important to set boundaries. Communicate your limits to others and take steps to protect your emotional well-being. For instance, if large social gatherings trigger anxiety, consider attending for a shorter time or taking breaks in quieter areas.
Engage in Healthy Coping Mechanisms
Developing healthy coping mechanisms can help you deal with emotional triggers more effectively. Activities like meditation, yoga, deep breathing exercises, and journaling can help you process your emotions and reduce their intensity.

Seek Support
If you find it challenging to manage emotional triggers on your own, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide insight into the root causes of your triggers and offer strategies for managing them.

Identifying and managing emotional triggers is a process that requires self-awareness, patience, and practice and by understanding your triggers and developing healthy coping mechanisms, you can reduce the impact they have on your emotional well-being. The goal isn’t necessarily to eliminate triggers but to learn how to respond to them in a way that promotes growth, healing,

The Art of No: Protecting Your Energy

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0700

I am a recovering people pleaser, and as such, saying no was always very difficult for me. I grew up in so many situations where saying no was not an option and those are the kind of situations that shaped my understanding of using the word. Taking this into the real world causes huge problems for myself and other people, as evidenced by so many of the people who I've counselled over the years. As I said, I am now able to say no more appropriately and effectively.

There are people-pleasers who will do anything for others, to the detriment of themselves and initially can't even fathom the idea of saying no to something asked of them. Change from this can be very difficult, as it's tied up in a TON of childhood emotions that need to be untangled. Some, however can start this practice right away.

While it can feel uncomfortable, setting boundaries is essential for maintaining balance and prioritizing what truly matters to you.

Understanding the Importance of No

Saying no is not about being unkind or selfish; it’s about recognizing your limits and honoring them. When you constantly say yes to others at the expense of your own needs, you risk burnout and resentment. By learning to say no, you create space for activities and relationships that align with your values and contribute to your well-being.

How to Say No Gracefully

Be Clear and Direct: When saying no, be straightforward but polite. There’s no need to over-explain or apologize excessively. A simple, “I’m unable to commit to that right now,” is both respectful and firm.
Prioritize Your Well-Being: Consider your energy levels and obligations before agreeing to any request. If something doesn’t fit into your schedule or align with your priorities, it’s okay to decline.
Practice Assertiveness: Saying no can be challenging, especially if you’re used to pleasing others. Start small by declining minor requests and gradually build your confidence in setting boundaries.

Reaping the Benefits

By protecting your energy through the art of saying no, you gain more control over your time and resources. This practice allows you to focus on what truly matters, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life. Remember, every no you say to others is a yes to yourself and your well-being.

Space of Your Own: Creating Personal Sanctuary

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0700

Growing up in a larger family, I never really and truly had a space of my own. I remember one of the first things I was asked to do when I started going to therapy was to create a space for myself where I felt safe and comforted, as the spaces that I had for myself did not have that. It was awkward at first, as I piled blankets into a closet to be cozy, but over time, incredibly helpful and it was a task I ensured I gave the people I counselled myself.

Here’s how to create a personal sanctuary that nurtures your mental well-being.

Design for Comfort and Calm

Start by choosing a space that feels inviting and comfortable. It doesn’t have to be large; even a small corner of a room can become your sanctuary. Furnish it with cozy items like a comfortable chair, soft blankets, and cushions. Opt for soothing colors and textures that promote relaxation.

Incorporate Elements of Nature

Bring elements of nature into your space to enhance tranquility. Plants, natural light, and water features can create a calming atmosphere. The presence of greenery and natural elements can reduce stress and improve mood.

Personalize Your Sanctuary

Make the space uniquely yours by including items that bring you joy and comfort. This could be favorite books, calming artwork, or cherished mementos. Surrounding yourself with things that make you happy helps create a space that feels truly special.

Create a Relaxation Ritual

Designate specific times for using your sanctuary. Whether it’s for meditation, reading, or simply unwinding, having a routine helps reinforce the space’s purpose. Incorporate calming activities like deep breathing, journaling, or listening to soothing music.

Maintain Cleanliness and Order

Keep your sanctuary tidy and organized. A clutter-free environment enhances relaxation and helps maintain a sense of peace. Regularly clean and refresh the space to ensure it remains a serene retreat.

Creating a personal sanctuary is about crafting a space where you can escape from daily stresses and focus on your mental wellness. By designing a comfortable, personalized, and calming environment, you provide yourself with a dedicated area for relaxation and self-care, helping you navigate life’s demands with greater ease and tranquility.

The Dirty Phrase: Work/Life Balance

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 3 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0700

A while back, I was caught in the perfect storm of a job. It was interesting and challenging, but the expectations were unattainable and I burnt myself out trying to make the role work. It was one of the worst times in my life in that my personal life really suffered, but my professional life moved way to far forward in terms of responsibility. I had to make the decision that my actual non-work life was important and I found another more suitable role that worked to challenge me (though less) but also gave me time to live my life.

Balancing work and life can sometimes feel like trying to ride a unicycle while juggling flaming torches—impressive if you can pull it off, but most of us are just trying not to faceplant. Thankfully, finding a little harmony between your job and personal life doesn’t have to be a circus act. Here are some tips to help you stay upright.

Set Boundaries (Without Building a Moat)

You don’t need a medieval fortress to protect your time—just some clear boundaries. Try turning off work emails after hours, or at least resist the urge to check them while binge-watching your favorite show. Boundaries keep your work from invading your personal space, like an overenthusiastic puppy.

Prioritize Self-Care (Yes, It’s Allowed!)

Think of self-care as maintenance for your most important asset: you. Whether it’s a bubble bath, a yoga session, or just an uninterrupted nap (remember those?), taking time for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup, but you can pour from one that’s well-rested and slightly pampered.

Learn to Say No (Politely, of Course)

No is a complete sentence, but feel free to dress it up a bit. Learning to say no to extra projects or unnecessary social events is like decluttering your schedule Marie Kondo-style—it leaves more room for what truly sparks joy, like sleeping in on Saturdays.

Stay Organized (Without Becoming a Robot)

Let’s be real—organization is your friend. Whether it’s color-coded calendars or just a sticky note reminding you to breathe, staying organized helps you avoid the last-minute scramble that makes you wonder why you didn’t run away to join the circus.

Embrace Flexibility (But Maybe Skip the Gymnastics)

Life’s unpredictable, like a cat deciding whether it wants to snuggle or attack your foot. Being flexible means rolling with the punches, whether work throws you a curveball or your personal life decides to stage a surprise. The trick is to go with the flow and laugh when things get a little wild.

With these tips, you can find a balance that’s less like a high-wire act and more like a comfortable dance between work and life. Plus, a little humor never hurt anyone—except maybe when you’re laughing too hard to juggle those torches.

One Thing After Another: Embracing the Chaos of Life Transitions

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0700

Recently, I've been through some huge life transitions that I'm planning on writing about very soon. Some loss, some work changes, some inner adjustments. Change is hard. When we think of life transitions, we think of the big event like the moving day, the first day on the job, the day the baby is born. But life transitions creep up on us and can actually take a long time to grow and fester.

Life’s transitions—whether they’re planned or unexpected—often bring a mix of excitement and anxiety, but also just pure anxiety. But these moments of change also offer an opportunity for growth, if we allow ourselves to navigate them with intention and grace.

One of the most important things to remember during transitions is to embrace the uncertainty, as life rarely unfolds exactly how we expect, and that’s okay. Going with the flow of the change can help us stay open to new possibilities and perspectives, rather than clinging to what was or what we think should be.

Another key to navigating change is to stay curious, instead of fearing the discomfort that often accompanies transitions. What are we really seeking? What’s exciting about this next chapter? This curiosity helps us move forward with less resistance and more enthusiasm.

Finally, be patient with yourself. Adjusting to a new phase of life takes time. Celebrate small wins along the way, and don’t forget to acknowledge the courage it takes to embrace change. Transition may be difficult, but it also creates space for something new to bloom, and watching how it unfolds and going with the current may help you maintain your sanity throughout.

Go Against the Grain and Love Yourself

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0700

I want you to think of someone in your life that you care about greatly. Think about that love and what it feels like, what sparks it, what sustains it. Now think about people that love you and why they do. Turning that to yourself, can you see those qualities? Can you love yourself in the way you offer others?

Practicing self-love can feel like a revolutionary act. It’s about giving yourself the same kindness, respect, and care that you would offer a loved one. Here’s a simple guide to integrating self-love into your daily routine, so you can nurture your well-being and boost your confidence.

Start with Self-Awareness

Begin by tuning into your own needs and feelings and spending a few moments each day reflecting on what you need to feel supported and content. This could involve journaling, meditating, or simply sitting quietly with your thoughts. Understanding yourself is the first step in practicing self-love, as it helps you identify what truly nurtures and fulfills you.

Practice Positive Self-Talk

The way you speak to yourself matters. Replace self-criticism with affirming, supportive language. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, counter it with a positive statement. For example, if you think, “I’m not good enough,” replace it with, “I am doing my best, and that’s enough.” This shift in self-talk can significantly boost your self-esteem and reinforce a loving attitude towards yourself.

Set Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are a form of self-love. They help you manage your time and energy, ensuring you don’t overextend yourself. Communicate your limits clearly and assertively, and make sure to protect your personal space and time. By respecting your own boundaries, you show yourself that your needs and well-being are important.

Engage in Self-Care

Incorporate activities that bring you joy and relaxation into your daily routine. Whether it’s reading a book, taking a walk, or enjoying a warm bath, make time for things that rejuvenate you. Self-care isn’t just a luxury; it’s a fundamental part of self-love.

Celebrate Small Wins

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing your progress and efforts helps reinforce a positive self-image and motivates you to keep striving.

By weaving these practices into your daily life, you cultivate a nurturing and loving relationship with yourself. Remember, self-love is a continuous journey, and each small step you take contributes to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Boundaries are Essential, not Evil

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0700

Throughout my career as a social worker and and throughout my life, boundaries have been ever present and showing me in sometimes frustrating ways how important they are. I've gained a very fluid understanding of them and while I'm not always the best at communicating mine, I always try. It's also been the focus of how I counsel people, as I've found that most people that need the support of a therapist struggle with their boundaries.

Setting healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining well-being and fostering meaningful relationships. They are the limits we set to protect our mental, emotional, and physical health, and play a crucial role in how we interact with others and ourselves.

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

Healthy boundaries are guidelines that define where one person ends and another begins. They help you manage how much time and energy you invest in relationships, work, and personal activities. Setting boundaries is not about building walls but about creating a space where you can thrive without feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of or used.

Why Boundaries Matter

Protect Your Well-being: By clearly defining what you are comfortable with and what you are not, you can avoid burnout and stress, allowing you to maintain a balanced life where your needs are respected.
Improve Relationships: They help prevent conflicts and misunderstandings by setting clear expectations and when you communicate your limits effectively, it encourages others to respect your needs (as well as theirs), leading to more harmonious interactions.
Enhance Self-Esteem: It shows that you value your time and energy and are willing to stand up for yourself, building confidence and self-respect, which are crucial for growth and satisfaction.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries

Identify Your Needs: Reflect on what you need to feel balanced and content. This might include managing your workload, personal space, or time for self-care. Knowing your limits is the first step in setting effective boundaries.
Communicate Clearly: Express your boundaries openly and assertively. Use clear and respectful language to let others know your limits and needs. For example, you might say, “I need to focus on my work right now, so I’ll have to turn down this request.”
Be Consistent: Enforce your boundaries consistently. It’s important to stick to them even if it feels uncomfortable. Consistency helps others understand and respect your limits, making it easier to maintain healthy relationships.
Practice Self-Care: Prioritize activities that recharge and rejuvenate you. By taking care of yourself, you reinforce the importance of your boundaries and ensure that you have the energy and resilience to uphold them.

Setting healthy boundaries is a crucial practice for maintaining well-being and fostering positive relationships. By clearly defining your limits and communicating them effectively, you create a more balanced and respectful context around yourself where you can thrive.

Forgiveness Always Wins

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Tue, 5 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0700

I've struggled greatly with forgiveness in my years as a human being, and continue to do so to this day. There are some experiences that are just hard to accept and that just stuck with me and hurt so bad and I held onto that hurt to no end with blame against the other person. Throughout this, all who was really hurting was me.

When you're hurting, forgiveness can feel like the stupidest thing to even think about. However, the way forward can often lie in how we actually understand forgiveness. Imagine that you hold resentment towards someone, but have no interaction with them and never plan to. In that scenario, it's very clear that the only thing being hurt by your lack of forgiveness is you.

Now move that into someone you have a lot of contact with. You're still hurting you, and it gives you no gain to keep blaming them. So forgiveness isn't "letting someone off the hook" for bad behavior, and we can still hold people accountable and forgive them, because forgiveness is about you, not them. It means you can let go of the hurt you feel for them in your heart and soul, not that you'll let them hurt you again with no consequences.

When we hold onto grudges, we often trap ourselves in the past, replaying hurtful moments, keeping wounds fresh and preventing healing. When we choose to forgive, we create space for growth and self-compassion.

The journey to forgiveness starts with self-reflection. Ask yourself, "What am I holding onto, and how is it affecting my well-being?" This process can bring clarity, allowing you to see the bigger picture and understand that we’re all imperfect. Forgiveness is also a practice of empathy, as it helps you recognize the humanity in others and in yourself.

One helpful approach is to start small and begin by forgiving minor offenses, such as misunderstandings or accidental slights, before working up to deeper wounds. With time and patience, forgiveness can become a natural and useful part of your emotional toolkit.

No Better Place Than Here

antiswer@gmail.com (antiSWer) — Thu, 17 Oct 2024 09:48:00 -0600

So I've really accepted that I'll never be a consistent blogger, but there are just times where I need to write some things and have them out in the world. I still write a bit, but most of it isn't for an audience....this feels different.

These past couple years have been transformational for me in way more ways than one.

I've found a job that is very settled and calm and I can accept as good for me right now. It's not so social worky, but that's more than okay right now.
I've mostly let go of my constant striving to achieve more and more and am settling into who I am and what that means. I get small bursts of this now and again, but it settles quickly.
Most of my anxiety has left me, and I've made peace with my understanding of any depressive tendencies that I might have. There's a few reasons for this that I'll offer later.
My wife and I have a lovely home and are mostly settled. We do struggle with possibly wanting to move to a house again, but that might not happen.
One of my parents passed recently and I've had to come to terms with what that means for me, as I have a mostly removed relationship with most of my family.

So the biggest catalyst for some of the work and personal changes started early last spring. That was when I re-discovered the research behind psychedelics and mental health. I remember studying in my undergrad how psychedelics were researched in the 60s and 70s, then shut down by government and it always stuck with me a little bit. A number of years ago, I had a call to pursue ayahuasca ceremony, but chose not to at that time.

So last spring, I started a string of interactions with psychedelics and related medicines that progressed from psilocybin microdosing to ketamine therapy to a bufo molecule experience and recently to an ayahuasca retreat. All this, in tandem with a lot of therapy and inner work, has been truly transformative in many ways.

I'm still formulating how I want to lay this all out and will probably just go chunk by chunk...possibly working backwards...but I do think it will be helpful with my integration process overall.

I look forward to sharing more.