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How To Get The Girl Next Door

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 08:08:00 +0000

Scenario

Everyone would love of that ‘girl next door’ scenario where you can sneak next door when you please to a rather inviting hot female. You have some fun; you head home just after midnight.

Wherever you live if there is an opportunity to seduce a neighbour, take advantage of it! For you young guys out there, you have the best opportunities when you’re in your student accommodation. You share the same corridor with 100 other chicks!

For you older guys, you don’t walk directly past her door everyday, but im sure there is one on your street that you can’t help but take a second glance at.

Picking up your neighbour is a warm approach in some ways; you already have something in common, you share the same road name. It’s only polite to get to know your neighbours so she should be more open to start that initial conversation than some girl in a bar.

The Challenge

However,

Don’t think that this is going to be a walkover; she knows more about you already than you think. She saw you getting changed in the front bedroom last week, and thinks you got to a little bit too much around the waist. She also saw you wear those dreadful boxers when taking the rubbish out late at night. Im sure the list goes on.

Plus if you balls things up, you’ll be the talk of the street and seeing her suddenly becomes a very awkward occurrence. There goes your invite for the street summer BBQ round at number four.

How to Get It

If you get it, then everything becomes ideal. It’s worth the risk of pursuing her just because if you do, you have a potential Sunday night girl, a potential partner, and potentially a shared mortgage. And the reality of it is, the worst scenario is you make another friendly neighbour (which means an invite to the house party in the summer, where you will meet all her good looking friends). She would rather avoid being nasty to you as she has to live next to you for many years to come.

Start by being the friendly neighbour who lives a cool life. The polite thing to do is to introduce yourself to new people on the street. Not enough people do it, hence the reason nobody really gets to know the people they live next to nowadays.

Keep conversation brief, and close it after five-ten minutes of conversation. You don’t want to be dragged onto the conversations of ‘what colours she is going to paint each room’ and ‘how close the local shops are’. That’s just standard conversation that the other neighbours would have had with her earlier in the day.

Tell her you love to get to know new neighbours and that she should pop round one evening for a while and get to know each other. Thing to remember is, when people are new to an area/place/country/company they always open up a lot more to meeting people. So she will be more than happy to come round, and will be glad that you offered!

Many of times I have approached girls that have moved to Bristol because of their job/lifestyle and didn’t know anybody just yet, so they didn’t require much tight pick up to get numbers from because they are in fact more eager than you to meet new people!

Escalation

Plan for her to come round one evening, preferably on the weekend so you haven’t got work the next day. Stick the fire on (or if you don’t have one, make it cosy) and grab a bottle of red wine.

Keep off the dull conversation of being homebuyers and talk fun, about yours and her life, background, hobbies etc. Slowly but surely move onto dating/relationship stuff so that she feels comfortable sharing personal information with you. But draw the line with this; don’t start advising her on her love life because you then become the gay best friend.

Make sure you drop plenty of tiny indicators that you see her in a different way to ‘just friends’ by saying things like ‘wow you’re clever and cute at the same time!’

Remember to stick to the push-pull theory; always follow up statements of interest with a challenging question, teaser or disqualifier.

The key point to picking up your neighbour is to let her know your intentions at some point. Your attempt to get her may be seen to her as you being a nice neighbour.

So initiate the physical contact, push her around, prod her when she says something silly and tickle her when she deserves it. Make sure you are the one to call time on the night, but say how fun it’s been and she’s actually cooler than you first expected.

Plan to do something again, but make sure its something outside of your street. If she’s new to the area/city then you can show her something really cool and unique about your home town.

Always suggest your house for meeting up. Never suggest her house, because we use that as a huge statement of interest. When she offers for you to come round to hers, that’s when you know you can go for the close.

Take her out on the town with you (and some pals if it makes it more comfortable) but don’t drink ridiculous amounts; you want to go home in a good state. Suggest you head back because you have this well cool film you rented from Blockbuster the other day and haven’t watched it yet.

Head back to yours (make sure it’s your house you go to) and sit her down on the sofa. Before you even put the film on, ask “do you want to kiss me?” (Mystery Kiss Close). If she says yes or maybe, go for it. Only if she says ‘no’ you reply by saying I didn’t say you couldn’t it just look like you had something on your mind. Continue straight on to stick the film on.

The Ideal Date

You’ve just been on a few! My personal favourite is on the sofa, bottle of wine and a film because women open up more when it’s just you and them.

If the mood is right, they will begin to feel very comfortable in your presence, but to get this even the smallest things count such as lighting, warmth, music etc. refer to the E-Book Series for tips on this.

You do need to get her out of the house and to somewhere different with her though otherwise you will be ‘just a neighbour’. A Saturday night at a cool wine bar is a good move, but back at 11pm to watch a movie.

Maintaining It

Enjoy living independently for the time being; you live 10 metres apart so there’s no need to make dramatic life changing moves to be with her.

Keep the relationship how it is for as long as you enjoy it this way. As well as you she will enjoy having her own home yet living only a few gardens down from you.

Let her come to your house more than you go to hers; it’s not a major but is a statement of authority. Introduce her to your friends and be eager to meet hers.

Recommended Routines

IOI – “I guess you’re not just a pretty face… I like intelligent girls!” If you say this she will get what you have in mind. From her reaction you can judge whether you have done enough already or your not quite there with the attraction just yet.

Close – “I’ve got this well cool film I want to watch at home, let’s go cook some pasta and watch it, but out by 2am because I’ve got a busy day tomorrow.” This is inviting her back to yours but putting a stop to it so she doesn’t feel under pressure and knows when her exit point is.

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How to Pick up a Bartender

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 18:33:00 +0000

Scenario

This one is my element. Having been a bartender since 16 I have seen the social interaction over the bar plenty of times. And let me tell you guys now, I’ve never seen a good pick up over the bar. Anyone who walks up to your bar you instantly label as some dude on a night out on a mission to get smashed aka someone you wouldn’t want to interact with too much.

You go to a certain bar about one-twice a week because you really like the experience. Good music, lively crowd, beautiful layout, and HOT bartenders! You really like the cute one that ties her hair up for work and wears the sexy little uniform.

The Challenge

No wonder why the girl is ridiculously good looking,
that’s the reason she got the job in the first place. So instantly you are gaming a 10/10. The other challenge with gaming bartenders is that they see guys at their worst; usually prowling, boozing and fighting. So you will instantly be labelled as one when you attempt to hit on her over the bar. So your first words are the most important (as well as what you order).

How to Get It

Firstly don’t order triple absinthe for you and your mates because you’re only going to get fucked and ruin your chances. If she wanted to chat to a drunken guy she has 200 others to pick from.

Pick your timing perfectly because even a second out and you could have lost the chance. Don’t start chatting to her when she has 10 other people to serve, but don’t lurk around at the bar lurking, waiting for her to finish.

Start discussion but avoid the conversation of her job (that’s what every other guy chats about) so talk about other exciting things in her life such as hobbies, passions and holidays. But try to make her do most of the talking with these things as she is very used to lame drunk guys reeling their life off to her over the bar.

Escalation

You must be direct with this, because to be honest you’re not going to have a lot of time to close the deal. She does have a job to do! Having come from a bar background I understand how annoying it is to have to listen to some girl who wont close it whilst trying to serve customers.

You should go straight for the number, but don’t plan to take her on a date to town, because that’s what she does for a job! You should do something fun and exciting in the day, before she goes to work. That way you put a time constraint on the date because she must go to work at some point.

Maintaining It

Don’t run around tell everyone how you hit on the bartender at (x) bar because you’ll only put her job in jeopardy and your reputation too. If you want to keep it going with this girl you must keep it out of work as much as possible! In any relationship you must keep business and pleasure separate!

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How to react when she says, "I have a boyfriend"

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 06:10:00 +0000

The ‘I have a boyfriend’ line is commonly used to file out the wimps from the men. She is testing your intentions, because if you were trying to get her pants you would give up right here in fear that if you pursued then you would get some big pumped up boyfriend pop round your house with his baseball bat. The way you deal with this line however can change everything, and even turn out she didn’t have one anyway.

It’s almost as if there is a ‘direct’ and ‘indirect’ response to this too. The indirect option would be to dismiss the idea that you were even tried to win her over in that way. There are a few smart ways of replying to this to keep you in the game.

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: That's interesting, why did you feel you needed to tell me that?
Her: Cause you're obviously hitting on me.
You: That's flattering, but no you're not really my type.

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: Cool, I have a goldfish
Her: What?
You: Oh sorry, I thought we were talking about things that didn't matter.

Again there are ways of directly responded to the question. These are very forward ways of saying ‘I don’t care you have a boyfriend, I still want to get you in my bed’. To pull these off takes a lot of confidence, and plus a back up conversation to move it from this topic quickly.

Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: Yeh so do I. That’s why we could only be fuck buddies.
Her: I have a boyfriend.
You: Invite him along too, we can share.

The worst thing you could do is accept defeat at this point. You are better running down either of these routes. Otherwise your time has gone wasted. 9/10 times she won’t have a boyfriend anyway!

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Making Yourself Challenging

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 05:55:00 +0000

Women will not become attracted if you seem too easy to win over. Women will be far more interested if you become a CHALLENGE. They are continuously using this on us, so why not play them at their own game?

So don’t try to become what you think women want. Sure, they prefer tall dark handsome guys, but that’s not what attraction is! Otherwise most of the guys on this planet wouldn’t be with partners!

Attraction is all about making the woman chase you. If you make her emotions to want you more, then she will chase. So when women say to guys “You just not my type, not handsome, dark, tall or rich” they are just making themselves a challenge.
So do the same back to them. This can be so POWERFUL. She won’t take it as being mean; it will just make your more attractive.

I remember going to a traffic light party before, the ones where you have to wear a coloured band. Red means your taken, amber meant you needed persuasion, and green meant you were single. I remember wearing red, genuinely because I was actually taken at the time yet she wasn’t at the club with me.

All my friends wore green, however through the whole night, none of them had any success. Ever person they spoke to they would be rejected, and they all went home without. I too went home alone, but only through choice. During the night I had been approached by more than 10 women with some of them even giving there numbers. They just saw the red band as a challenge to them. Not that they would make me cheat on my girlfriend, but I was less threatening to them.

You must make them qualify themselves to you. So not as guys do, when they try and qualify to women about how good there are in bed or how big their penis is, to try and qualify to a woman’s sexual standards. But how about you turn it onto her? Say to her “Are you adventurous and spontaneous?”

It is challenging her standards. Know exactly what you want in a woman, and if she isn’t that, then just move on. You will find your success will ten-fold! Because you know exactly what your after in a woman, rather than trying to adapt to every different woman.

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3 Critical Errors When Talking to Women Online

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 21:42:00 +0000

You’re on your favorite dating site…
or maybe you’re on Facebook…Tagged.. Friendster.. Imesh.. whatsoever..

And there she is.

The girl that catches your attention. But what do you do?
What do you really do?

Let me tell you what 99% of guys do…
they’ll message them and say something really generic like…

“Hey! How’s it going! You look really interesting and I was wondering if you would like to chat sometime! Hit me back!”

Or…

“Wow, you’re gorgeous. I bet you have all the guys out there hitting on you… but hopefully this message will get through to you because I would really like to treat you out sometime!”

Or…

“I’m the nicest guy ever if you give me the chance! You should hit me back!”

I don’t care if you believe me – but it’s true. I guarantee you the success rate of some of these generic messages are about near 1% if you’re lucky.
And that’s if you have a really nice profile…

-Derek Lamont

I've seen one of my girlfriends profile myself...
The comments that she receive from her photos and messages in her inbox.
Either, they start complimenting her, say some weird stuff liking or living her wanting to be with her (I can show you one of my girlfriends facebook profiles photo comments...)

So what’s the magic formula?

1.Well for starters…what you need is to PERFECT YOUR PROFILE before you get started.

Don’t message ANYONE until your online dating profile is perfect!

What do I mean by this? You need to get the right pictures and right content in your profile. An attractive girl will not message you back if you have NO picture and just the most generic responses in your profile content.
This sound logical doesnt it?

Picture yourself from a girl’s perspective… you see some guy message you on some dating website and he has NO pictures… can you say creepy?

What kind of pictures do you need to include? Typically speaking, you need to include pictures that convey value – but not in the way you’re thinking of… I’ll get to that a bit later.

2.The second thing you need to do is READ HER PROFILE. Get information about her first

LEarn to tease anything that is related to her in her profile, having fun with it but not too rude or you kill your chances.
Too many guys fail to personalize the first message, which is critical. There are too many cut and paste messages out there.

An attractive girl gets as many as fifty messages a day! Do you think she’s going to have time to read all of them? Absolutely not.

You need something that catches their attention…the easiest way to do this is to personalize your message! More on this later…

3. Finally, the third thing most guys do is… write way too damn much!

Keep the message SHORT! Again, you need to appear like a non-creepy and non-needy guy. Again, imagine being an attractive girl… and you literally receive a full-fledged NOVEL! How weird is that to her? You barely know her and already you’re willing to invest a massive amount of time for her?
(Learnt from mistakes time and time again.)

She doesn’t deserve that yet.

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How To Be The Man

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:48:00 +0000

Or Be A Nice Guy?

Do you know that being nice doesn't work in the dating scene?

No. I don’t mean you start whacking the poor girl, dragging her and left her just like that.

You a whacko, a piece of shit and you go to jail.

I don’t meant you start being abusive towards ladies.

No. Strictly no.

Ok. It makes sense doesn’t it that a woman will get attracted to guys who is attentive, give her what she wants, gifts, treats her well.

Of course it makes logical sense.

Reality check.

It doesnt really work that well.

I can say, it doesn’t work.

Seriously.

As my title says by itself, the term ‘wussy’.

Women aren’t attracted to ‘nice’ guys who do ‘nice’ things for them most of the time, and being by their backside all the time.

Let’s use the term ‘ATTRACTION’ here.

As i have always mention about sub-conscious mind level, it happens in an unconscious way automatically to a certain cues.

OK. We are easily attracted or respond to a beautiful face, nice body, etc of a lady.

For them ladies, hmm…

They happen for a certain reason nobody knows what except them themselves. (On certain occasion, physical attraction do happen though)

I somehow came across this from a certain reading somewhere i cant remember but it got stuck to my head.

“When a woman feels ATTRACTION to a man, she will do things that
seem to be completely illogical, irrational, and even against her best
interests in order to be with the man who is the object of her desires.”

You get that?

Being nice doesn’t work.(in the dating scene)

To an unconscious psychological sense, being nice seems to be an insecure person way, a wuss, and you trying very hard to get her attention. Or she might be thinking, you are bribing her to get what you want. Or her happiness.

You can be nice to a certain level, if you get me here.. But being ‘nice’ doesn’t work in the dating scene.

Have you realise anything out there in the world that is happening right in front of your eyes?

Average-looking men, with a really hot lady in his arms.

I’ve seen one.

Not once, but quite a few times.

Its about personality. ATTRACTION to a personality of someone.

Don’t start being a wuss.

Take control of your reality.

If you're a typical nice guy, considerate, genuine, likes to talk and have intelligent conversations with women then you MAY have been in this situation before.

I do. I never went as far as meeting new women during my teenage time. I was with someone.
But once I became single, I decided to do something about myself and learnt something very important : Being A Nice Guy doesn't create Attraction

Let's Give you Examples.

Do you ever find that the more you talk to her (without escalating physically) you end up talking yourself out of closing the deal. Suddenly you realise her body shift, the conversation die out to some neutral and boring topic, and she starts looking around the room at other couples possibly thinking "man why isn't this guy making any moves on me, does he like me?".

If you know what I'm talking about here then keep reading as you're not alone.

You're sitting there at the table, opposite each other face to face, had a great meal and has these thoughts in your mind running "How do I kiss this girl from all the way over here" and a favorite "I haven't touched this girl all night and it's going to seem awkward if I touch her now" suddenly this distance between you seems to be drawing out and it seems she's further and further away from you.

When eventually you call it a night and you're ready to part ways, and you touch her hand poised to strike her a kiss on the lips ... and she flinches .... then she looks down at your hand like to question you "What are you doing" or "It's too early for hand holding buddy" and all of a sudden a drip of cold sweat lines your neck and your pulse starts racing, palms get sweaty and all you hear is your heartbeat thumping away like the Reggae Drums bongos. pum pum ... pum pum ..pum pum pum ...

Ha!! . . .

Getting a little dramatic here, well this used to happen to me on MOST DATES or rather on my term; on most 'Meet-Ups' and the reason is I let it happen, I knew what to do and how to prevent it from happening again but I was scared to act.
That happened long time ago, but now this NEVER happens to me as I assert my inhibitions and I don't apologise for being a man and thinking AND acting how a man SHOULD act.

I do no longer wait at the end of the date. I act on impulse and it's worked for me ever since I started doing it.

When you wait at the end of the date, to kiss the girl goodbye or whatesover,
it seems you are rushing things and it's like it is the last thing in the world and you have to do it or else. . .
You get what I meant?

Extract from a blog by Alex Coulson:

''The good news and strangely enough the most effective strategy for having more success from the date to the bedroom is to break social norms and follow your inhibitions. Women respond to this more and appreciate this more than the "nice guy" approach. Nice guys finish last didn't you know? =)

Stop watching chick flicks, where nervous "sensitive" actors are making a sissy fool of themselves courting and being gentleman like. Forget hiding behind these social ideals of how dates should go and create the date how YOU want it to go.

The fact is most of us get our knowledge on the dating scene and the "how to" on dates from movies.

Answer this honestly do you ever consult your male friends and ask them what to do on a date? Do you ask your siblings, parents or other family what normally goes down? no probably not.

You get the ideals from movies, film, tv and the MEDIA. Yes, that evil media that manipulates men into buying gifts, expensive diamond rings, working 50 hours weeks to get a good car and an expensive apartment so women will be more responsive to them. The fact is women aren't much more responsive to this as much as you think, I know of guys who take girls back to their hostels (where they share a room with 20 other people) and they close the deal on a bunk bed. They do this consistently too with beautiful glamour girls.

Women want men pure and simple.

What women want is an un-apologetic man who believes in honesty, being genuine and is unashamed of his desire as a man. If the girl says "let's just be friends" which is the dreaded friends zone line he would say "I have enough friends" and walk away or convey he's willing to walk away. Powerful huh.

Women RESPOND to men. Women want MASCULINE MEN to take them in every way possible. They want the man to be most importantly:

-Unapologetic about their desires -True to themselves (don't say things that are meant to impress her) -Genuine and sincere

Don't be ashamed of what you're thinking and be open to touching her and kissing her when you feel like it (Don't plan it or do it just because this is the moment when you "should" touch/kiss her).

I hope you learn from this and start acting out your desires as this is the only TRUE way to live.

We act on what we think is best to our level.
Do not EVER react to a woman's action.
Meaning, when a woman do something, you act upon on it.
That's not the best thing to do.

Act on how you want it to happen. Women will follow your LEAD.

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How To Destroy Jealousy And Neediness

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:47:00 +0000

I had a conversation with a friend the other day.

His friend had asked him one day, 'What he should do when a woman he like tried to make him jealous?'

I asked him what did he meant?

'You know, when the girl that you like tells you that she is going to spent some great times with her guy friends for a wild birthday party or some chalet gathering...'

I was like..

'Huh?

Is he having a relationship with her or something?'

'No'.

'Then? Doesn't that tells you or him something?'

You see, she is just a girl he likes.

She is not his girlfriend or wife.

The fact that, she told 'the friend' that she is going to spend a great time with her friends and probably going wild with them and he is not able to make it is enough to drill,scratch, claw the brain juice out of a male's mind.

This is quite common.

After all, we've all had women we find incredibly attractive who haven't quite "noticed us" and cause us to feel jealous of their attraction to other men.

But...

This is not 'jealousy'.

If 'the friend' is having a relationship with her or something, YES

that is 'Jealousy'.

But he is NOT.

He is feeling 'Neediness' in fact.

He is focusing on one girl and put ALL his Attention on her.

Just HER.

Putting all the eggs in one basket so to speak.

This is the mistake most of us guys make.

We get so wrapped up with a girl that when she does anything with another guy,

setting Alarm bells ringing off in our heads!

'Oh no! What am I gonna do?

I had never got the chance to prove myself to her. I like her!

Other guys gonna steal her away from me!!!'

And when we realise there's very Little you can do, Helplessness, Anger, Frustration creeps into our minds.

(These are emotions that will hurt more than help you)

The Neediness feelings.

You feel you NEED to attract this girl to you.

You feel that you NEED to compete for her affection.

You feel that you NEED to prove to her that you are the better man for her than the other guys out there.

However...

Ever ask WHY?

WHY?

Why is it YOU who needs HER?

Why is it not the other way around?

Is the world nowadays going upside down?!

Diversify

When it came to eliminate the feelings of NEEDINESS,

Diversify your choices.

See.

It is easy to enamoured with one woman that we cut ourselves off from great opportunities with other women.

I've been there. I do know there are others who did too.

A mistake we learnt.

When you 'Diversify', you'll start accepting these opportunities instead of ignoring them.

This means, when the girl had other activities with other men,

what do you care?

You had other girls to occupy your time.

And when you had choices, women start NEEDING you.

Now, that's a position you want to be in!

Start having lots of choices instead of just one.

I do know friends who been in a situation where he feel frustrated when the girl of his dreams,

be with some other guy in random instead of him who had spent so much time to be with her when they were not together.. yet..

Have choices..

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3.5 Mistakes Guys Make When They Like A Woman - How To Avoid Them

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:46:00 +0000

Do you know mot of what you read or what you know in dating is not the way it should be in reality?
The media, have screwed our brain since.. we know about dating...

Let me ask you this simple question.
Have you ever met someone you like, then do all the stuffs that you think will make her like you..
But then, suddenly, she acted weird and eventually tell you something like 'Let's just be friends',
or, left you with some other random guy you think its not suitable for her?

If you know a little about women, you should know that, women, love challenges...
Have you ever heard 'We human wants something that we hardly can't get'.

And let me tell you, have you ever had women whom you don't really like, but she will always comes to you looking for you?

If you could reverse this psychological issue, to the women that you like instead, would you like that?
Would you be looking forward to know about it?

I had a conversation with girlfriends and once, we had this conversation.
She did asked me about what kind of girl that I want etc.
I did asked her what kind of guy that she wants in her life:
Like who she is, being straightforward etc.

As you can see, women usually wants someone according to her theory ..BUT..
in REALITY, they will always go to someone that is against her THEORY.

Have you ever realise that?
Go find out more.

Anyway, I have this article by Carlos Xuma.
Mistakes that Guys make when they like a woman that explain why most of the time, the girls that you want in your life, is not what you get.

3.5 Mistakes Guys Make When They Like a Woman

I didn't know it at the time, but I was reading the book that would RUIN my game with women... I stood at the checkout with this small red book by one of those self-help relationship gurus (I'm protecting the identity of the guilty party here... but it was a female author).

This book went into great detail about what women want from men and how to understand women. I thought I had found THE key to understanding women. Well, this self-help author was making a BIG mistake with her book, though. I'll come back to it in a minute. This is the same mistake that I made for YEARS as I tried to convince women that I was the best guy for them. I'd sit and read books like this all weekend long (instead of going out and approaching and meeting women).

I'd learn just about every bad habit imaginable, and then proceed to practice them on any woman I could convince to go out with me. And my game was completely ruined in about 2 years of this. Not that my game before was all that great, but now I was a complete wuss-bag. I kept trying to give women what they said they wanted, but they kept getting sick of me and disappearing. Usually I would just call them and get the answering machine for about 3 weeks before I'd finally give up. I can imagine them sitting there rolling their eyes as I left these long, wussy messages.

They probably wished I would have just taken a hint a lot earlier. I finally got to the point where I figured out where I was screwing things up with women, and I also learned why the PhDs and most of the "love doctors" out there were doing more harm than good to guys. Here are just a few of the mistakes guys make when they're brainwashed by the wrong information HOW TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN - 3.5 Big Mistakes Guys Make With Women

MISTAKE 1:

Men try to PROVE that they are the guy she's been looking for. Here's some of the things I used to do: - I'd write her an email that talked about "the 10 reasons we fit together." - Or I'd make her a mix CD of all the songs that we both discovered we liked. As if I would "remind" her of this and she'd respond with: "Oh, yeah, we're SO compatible! It's really amazing..." And, yes, after that got old I'd be talking to her answering machine for another 3 weeks. When you PUSH a woman toward the answer you want her to come up with, she will sense your pressure - AND she will resist it because that's where she feels like she's being cornered. On the other hand, if you simply just let her find it on her own, she'll probably believe it was more an act of fate or destiny - and then believe it twice as much than if you'd pushed it on her that way. It's like putting food in a fish bowl. You sprinkle a little in, and trust that when the fish see the food floating past them, they will bite.

MISTAKE 2:

Guys try to TELL women how they feel. It took me a long time to figure this out, but when it comes to how to understand women, making HER understand YOU first is not the way to go about it. This one has always mystified me, mostly because *I* used to do it all the time. And even when I did it and it failed miserably, I KEPT doing it as if doing it more would MAKE it work. I think this comes from a desire to be clear and force women to reciprocate their feelings by telling them our own. Which, if you really think about it, doesn't make a whole lot of sense. The fact is that women are not attracted to the feelings they KNOW you have for them. This is key and important, so really read this closely: They're attracted to the feelings they HOPE you have for them that they felt for you first. Did you get that? They are just like every other person in the world, in that they are most concerned with the feelings they want YOU to feel for them - if they feel it first. The rule is really easy: The first person to confess their feelings is the one that's completely emotionally infatuated with the other. It might not be fair, but it's 100% true.

MISTAKE 3:

Guys worry about saying the right thing more than they worry about how to avoid saying the WRONG thing. What I mean is that guys spend a lot of time trying to find the PERFECT line to use with women, or the coolest thing to say to girls that they meet. "Gimme a great pickup line or routine, Carlos..." "Carlos, what do I say when..." What they don't realize is that you simply need to AVOID saying the wrong things most of the time and you'll get the girl just as often. You see, even knowing exactly the RIGHT thing to say (the right words) is usually not enough to create attraction. You need a confident attitude, the right body language, correct timing, and solid inner game. However, this IS NOT true in reverse. Saying the WRONG thing CAN and WILL ruin your approach with a woman and blow things up in your face. Most success with women is simply NOT screwing up the easy stuff.

MISTAKE 3.5:

Guys try to "lock it in" with a woman and make things DEFINITELY way too fast. Think of the last time you saw a good thriller, or a mystery. What was it that made that movie interesting to you? That's right. It was what you DIDN'T KNOW about what was going to happen next. Tension is in those moments of NOT knowing, and sexual tension means NOT knowing how the other person thinks or feels about us. The one thing a woman thrives on most in relationships (early on) is a level of UN-certainty. You see, when things are definite and certain, they're comfortable. We do need a little of the security in comfort. But if it comes too early, it KILLS attraction. It's like giving too much sun and water to a small flower. Attraction is not supposed to be comfortable. It's a state of changing uncertainty, punctuated by occasional moments of mind-blowing joy as the person you're with gives you the occasional indications of their interest - and shared feelings.

So the author of that relationship book I read made a BIG error in her reasoning. You've probably figured what her mistake was by now. Thinking with the LOGICAL part of her brain instead of the EMOTIONAL part does not unlock the "attraction code" with women. Attraction is not a logical decision. I guarantee you didn't sit down and evaluate the last woman you were hot for and come to this conclusion. Instead, it hit you like a bolt of lightning. The most important lesson you must have in order to understand women and what women want is this: Women do not decide LOGICALLY who they are attracted to.

They do not sit down and say, "Hmm, this guy looks really good on paper. He's got a solid balance sheet, good provider, smart, likes to play video games, and he exercises. Yup, that's it. I'm sold. I am totally HOT for this guy!" It's easy to fall into this kind of thinking if you're not aware of how attraction works. Instead, if you want to understand women, you have to learn that women feel attraction first in their gut - and then they'll pursue you. The rules of creating that gut-level attraction come from some fast and easy skills you can learn in just a few hours. I want you to start getting some REAL results with your dating skills, and I want you to get on the fast track.

Carlos Xuma

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Why Woman Flirts Than Reject You

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:43:00 +0000

I'm about to reveal why women flirt, tease and then reject you after leading you on for hours and hours... Sometimes days or even weeks. And by the end of this article, you'll know exactly how to turn her flirting into actual seduction. So she won't be teasing and flirting with you, she'll be seducing YOU and trying her best to get into YOUR pants.

Here's something I have to mention: These techniques can be used for fun, games and play in the right hands... While they can be used for evil in the wrong hands. So please, use them wisely.

That being said, have you ever wondered why women will act interested and touchy, and then suddenly go cold? The answer is deceptively simple: She starts out being attracted to you and then something happens. Something causes her to lose attraction. Something transforms you from potent, powerful seducer into just another friend... or worse.... just another guy who wants to get into her pants.

Don't worry! You didn't DO anything wrong! You probably only followed what you read, or said what worked before with other women! On the surface, it looks like you did everything right. However, when you think of women like a puzzle, you'll start to understand what went wrong:

You see, in a jigsaw puzzle, there are puzzle pieces and there are holes. Pretty simple, right? Just put a piece into a hole, then repeat until your puzzle is finished. However, if you try to force the wrong piece into the wrong hole, it simply doesn't fit. No matter how hard you push, or how much it SHOULD fit... It simply won't. It's the same with women:

All women are different. Every woman has a different “puzzle piece” she needs to be attracted to a man more than just friends. Some women need comfort. Some women need sexual tension. Some women need to feel like they just met the most confident man in the world. And when you approach a woman who needs comfort with confidence... well.... You simply won't “fit”, no matter how hard you try.

Again, it's not your fault! Until recently, all dating advice for men applied this “all women are the same” policy because it's the only way to teach dating: They gave you rules that work 60% of the time and asked you to be OK with the results. That's like using the same puzzle piece to solve different puzzles. Yeah, sometimes you'll hit a jackpot and match up with a woman... However, most of the time, you won't.

That's why I was extremely excited when I heard about a brand-new, scientific psychological study a few unlikely researchers conducted on women's deepest desires. And I was floored by their results! You see, they discovered that all women like different things in men when they first meet a man, when they first have sex, and when they settle down into a relationship.

In fact, in all 3 of these categories, women are split 50/50 down the middle! Which means that if you're using the same strategy for ALL women, you're only right 1 in 8 times! That's a .125 batting average – barely good enough for the minor leagues.

Here's the really cool part: These unlikely heroes used this discovery to put together a set of rules that work for ALL women, 100% of the time. And if you'd like to find out more about their discovery, all you gotta do is Click Here.

Think about the difference this will make in your dating and sex life! You'll never worry about her “just flirting” ever again, because you'll always have the right piece of the puzzle in your possession at all times. And you'll know how to “diagnose” what type of woman she is, almost instantly.

If you pass by this study, you'll be stuck in the flirting cycle forever. And they've even published their findings because of this survey absolutely FREE for men like you, so check it out:
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Rule Of Reciprocity - Understanding Spending Money On Dating Women

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:43:00 +0000

Have you ever been into this kind of situation that men gone through with women?
A situation regarding spending money on women - specifically for dates.

- How much is enough?
- How much is too much?
- Should you spend as little as possible until you've sealed the deal with her?

One thing is for sure: You don't want to shell out your hard-earned cash on a woman who strings you along, gives you an awkward hug good night, and then blows off your phone calls.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys feel there is a financial 'price' for playing the dating game. They figure, if you're going to get a girl (or land a quality girlfriend), you're going to have to wine and dine a bunch of different women.

They also think if you manage to get a date with a seriously hot chick, a '9' or a '10', you'd better be ready to spend generously: dinners at nice restaurants, rounds of drinks at expensive nightclubs, concert tickets, gifts, etc.

I had a conversation with a group of friend the other day.
We were talking about getting hot girls in a club.
He told us that we gotta buy them drinks to get them to come to you.
I was like, 'No dude! No!'

Yea.
They may come to you, but then they will leave after that.
Who doesn't want FREE drinks anyway?
Giving around all over the place..

After all, that's what these women expect from men. If you want to take your shot, you're going to have to suck it up and drop down the Visa card.

Right?

Wrong.

Don't be in such a hurry to toss your cash around!

The truth is, when you spend substantial amounts of money on a woman you've just begun to date, you're actually making things more difficult for yourself, and creating a bad expectation.

It's like, you are buying their approval to get them attracted to you.
You just met them, just begun dating them and you show this to a women, things will go very difficult next time round my friends.

It's an exception if it's already the 3rd date upwards with the same girl.

There is a principle of persuasion that salespeople use on customers called the Rule of Reciprocity.

(A good salesman is essentially a "pickup artist" for his products and company.)

Basically, this rule states that when you do something for someone, no matter how minor, that person is going to feel obligated to repay you. In fact, he will feel UNCOMFORTABLE until he gets rid of this debt hanging over his head.

It's human nature. People never want to feel indebted, or that they 'owe' someone.

Members of the Hare Krishna cult used to hang around airports, with their shaved heads and yellow robes handing out flowers to people and trying to get donations.

Those little flowers are another example of the Rule of Reciprocity. When they hand someone a flower, the person is subconsciously going to feel obligated.

Usually, the person will hand over a dollar to the Krishna just to overcome that awkward feeling and be on their way (even though they'll probably toss the flower in the trash a moment later, which the Krishnas then collect and give away again).

So in exchange for giving away something totally worthless, the Krishna pockets $1. Those dollars add up when you're doing it all day long, every day.

And it's all because they play on the guilty feeling you experience when someone gives you something for 'free' and puts you in the position of feeling like you 'owe' them - even if they don't say it explicitly.

- Carlos Xuma

Here's more of an everyday situation:

You run into an old friend of yours, someone you haven't seen for years. He invites you out for dinner and drinks. At the end of the night, he insists on picking up the tab: $200. You want to split the check, but he insists on paying.

Sure, you appreciate the gesture, but it also makes you feel a little bit guilty and awkward. Your instincts are telling you, you've got to take this guy out in the near future and pay for HIS meal. You've been hit by the Rule of Reciprocity.

Now, a lot of guys use this law to try and obligate a woman into affection or sex, or even a relationship with him. They think that if they can just buy enough meals, or drinks, or gifts - if they can just financially guilt a woman into it, she'll start to be attracted to him.

This is faulty thinking for two primary reasons:

1) Women are highly sensitive to this principle when it's used as a coercive tactic. A woman of good moral fiber might go out to dinner with you once, but once she's determined that there's no "spark," she's gone. (A woman of low moral fiber will just see how much she can milk you for.)

2) Emotions are not created by guilt. Sexual attraction is created through Alpha Behaviors - not obligation.

In the early stages of any romantic relationship with a woman, you need to keep the spending inconspicuous.

Remember: YOU are the one doing the interview for the most important position you will ever hire someone for. Don't ever play the part of the desperate stooge.

So how does this translate into the world of dating and attraction?

The Rule of Reciprocity can also be used to your advantage in various ways once you're involved with a woman. Since you never want women to take you for granted, and you always want them to respect your time and effort, there are all kinds of ways to make your gestures seem like 'favors' that women will feel obligated to repay.

A lot of guys are running around applying "pickup artist" tactics, but not knowing how they really work. It's like learning a few chords on a guitar but not knowing how to play them in key - or with the right timing. Your own approaches and conversations with women will feel hollow and false.

Usually, never get involve in a 'financial dispute' during a date...
Make it like a favour between both parties.
eg. I bought you drinks.
Next, food on you. etc.
Make it Fun.
Don't make it like a hassle.

The good news is that this is something that you can start to fix RIGHT NOW.

No therapy.

No kooky New Age breathing rituals.

All you have to do is bring a willingness to overcome your fears and grow in new dimensions.

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How To Get An Ex-girlfriend Back

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:42:00 +0000

I had a conversations with quite a few guys, who simply went down the drain after a break-up from a relationship.
I know how it feels like. (been there before after a 3 years relationship break-up).

I've seen guys, who simply was chasing the girl of his dream, but eventually the girl went to someone else instead of him, who have been showing his care and concern etc to the girl of his dream.

I am sure you know how it feels like when these all happened to you in one way or another.
After getting in contact through email with, non other than the man, David DeAngelo,
I was struck in the head with the term 'Wussy' and the term 'Attraction'.

When i let go of my ex 2 years ago, I blamed her for everything. And start acting like a wussy deciding to want her back.

Realization came to me months after that, we cannot put the blame entirely on the women but ourselves.
Women want the REAL man to be with her, not Wussy or Wimp or Pussy.

What does these means?
Simply, guy who tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy, way.

I learnt from my mistakes for acting that way to her.

Women, NEVER EVER BE ATTRACTED TO THESE KINDS...

NEVER

EVER

The term 'Attraction'.

Women may be with a Wuss or married to one, but,
will they be attracted to them?

They will not be.
The Wuss may have lots of money, he may have courted her for years that she finally gave in but will she be ATTRACTED to him?

I doubt so.

Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they feel either.

It just HAPPENS.

- David DeAngelo

When you have attracted her in the right direction but eventually, you started turning into a Wuss time to time,
women loss that emotion called Attraction, of you.

Women do get frustrated with these when her man suddenly turn into a submissive wimpy Wuss.

One of my girlfriends once told me, 'I get bored with my guy. The longer I'm with him, the more I get bored. It seems that there is nothing between us. It is getting boring.'

I was like, 'Then, why you were still with him?'

The Answer next was not surprising, but I knew it will come: ' Well. I don't want to hurt his feelings. He loves me though. But I don't anymore.'

What I believe is when we guys make a mistake of being a 'WussBag', just like DeAngelo called it, women may just leave and guys will simply feel at loss, asking, What the hell is going on?!

And then the guy might think that, by telling her he still loves her, she may never leave for someone else who is instead a Jerk.

But, of course, it will never turn around.

Ok. Here, let's talk about the specific question. By David DeAngelo

1. “How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?”

I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE.

If you do it again in the future, the same thing will probably happen.

Is she still interested?

Yes, she is.

But not in anything more than being your FRIEND.

You have, with your actions and communication, KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you.

This is something you’re going to have to deal with and take responsibility for.

You turned into a Wuss, and now you’re paying the price.

You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin.

2. “Is there – according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?”

Well, this is a sticky question.

There is a CHANCE, yes.

But here’s the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up… doesn’t do it exactly the way I say, etc.

And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.

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THE PROBLEM

Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life.

The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in your life.

Ironically, the way to give yourself the best chances of getting her back is to NOT TRY… instead, go date other women, and be scarce in her life.

In other words, you’re never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying in touch, being her friend, and being “nice”… and by trying to “win her over” again.

It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don’t.

Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things… even after a woman has left?

In our dealings with women, we guys tend to think things like “That’s not fair” and “I did all the right things” and to feel self-righteous because we’re the good guy… but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want.

Remember though…

Attraction isn’t FAIR, it isn’t “right”, it doesn’t care how “nice” you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes.

You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening.

Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies.

I know, I know… she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It’s her fault too… right?

Wrong.

Women do this stuff to TEST you.

They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can’t trust you to be a man and she has to go.

Now, she’s not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn’t getting the feelings that she wanted with you… and now she’s getting them with Jerk-Boy.

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THE SOLUTION

As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it.

Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.

Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.

And, stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.

It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up “just being friends” with her… so STOP DOING IT.

Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you’re leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT’S TRUE, like I said.

Stop being so AVAILABLE.

Get busy enjoying your life.

Get busy dating other women.

If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you’re feeling weak, have a friend do it.

And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following:

“Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do… I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday…”

You feel me, dog?

And remember…

In this world, “I was a nice guy and did nice things for her” doesn’t cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules… and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you’d better learn them.

It’s a skill, and you’re not going to get it by being “nice” and doing everything your mom taught you…

If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she’ll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN’T feel it, then the chances are slim that she’ll stay around.

These rules are even MORE TRUE when you’re dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys.

The irony of this situation is that I think it’s a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.

I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.

I made all the classic mistakes.

I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject… really.

But, over the last several years I’ve not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss… I’ve also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communication alone.

I only wish someone would have shown me this stuff fifteen years ago…

If you’re reading this right now and it’s time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up…

THE TIME IS NOW.

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Qualifying Women

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:41:00 +0000

You see, what you are doing there is called qualification: you’re trying to qualify yourself to her. What most men don’t know is that this technique, if it happens the other way around, can be a major attraction trigger for a woman: two times she's to actually work for your approval, she’ll get excited about you. Now, how do you get to a point where you are qualifying a girl?

Hey, did you ever go out of your way to convince a girl of your personal qualities and assets? Take a date for example: she looks at you from the other side of her coffee mug with mixture of friendliness and waning interest as you tell her all about your job, your solid character and your possessions.

What does “qualification” mean? If a person is “qualified” for something, they have the skills or traits it takes to live up to a sure set of standards. That’s what you’re trying to convey to a girl when you’re telling her about all your accomplishments. You’re subtlety saying: “This is why I’m lovely for you”. I’m sure you’ve spent a lot of time figuring out what women generally require in a man (stability, humour, lovely looks, wealth, social success, charisma…), but can I get an honest answer from you about something?

1. Define your standards

How much time have you spent defining your standards when it comes to women?

Make a list of traits, and keep refining it as you go through your day and watch women, or interact with them.

Women are already lovely at this. From an early age, they are already talking about their ideal husband and that’s why they tend to be lovely at making guys qualify themselves.

Only when you have such a clear idea of what you require that you can you “screen” a woman according to it.

2. How it affects your mindset

All right, so now you have a clear idea what you require. Do you feel any different? If you spent your life up until now trying to kiss up to hot chicks so you could receive a piece of them, I think that this small act of making this list alone will have changed how you perceive yourself. What’s new? You’re now the guy who selects women, not the guy who tries to get chosen.
Realize this: you have every right in the world to go out and get what you require, and in any area of your life. Don’t even settle for anything below your standards. Require a non-smoker? Go get her. It’s as easy as asking: “hey, do you smoke?”

3. How to do it

In fact, let’s stay with the “smoking” example. Now, imagine you’re on a date and he mentions her cigarettes while she’s talking to you. Now, you may be inclined to bite your tongue and be lovely about it, not mentioning that you don’t require a smoker. After all, you don’t require to piss her off, right? Wrong. Here’s where qualification kicks in. Imagine going on like this:

Her (laughing): Well, only occasionally!
(there! She’s qualifying herself to you!!)

You: Hang on a second there. You smoke? Ugh! That’s despicable!
(turn away with a playfully overdone look of disdain on your face)

You: Yeah? Like, only when you’re awake? I knew there was a string attached to you.

The key here is to be playfully challenging.

Yes, she can have your affection, but she has to work for it. When you present a challenge, don’t make it insurmountable: you’re willing to be with a smoker if she makes an hard work to cut it down or smoke outside? Lovely. If smokers are an absolute, rock-solid no-go for you though, and she clearly smokes a lot and has no purpose of changing that, well then you guys don’t fit together.

4. The concept of investment

The more someone invests in something, the more they ultimately require to get it. If a woman signals that he is willing to make an hard work for your affection, that’s a clear sign of attraction. Don’t underestimate these small things. The more confident you are about yourself, the more boldly you can ask for her investment. If delivered with the right kind of tenure, you can even open a woman with a qualification query: “Are you friendly?”

In general, though, you don’t require to start qualifying a girl right away. Spend some time talking to her, build interest, intrigue and attraction, and then subtly introduce your “woman requirements” in to the interaction. recall: receive a girl to invest in you than investing much in to her soon. Women are attracted to challenging men.

You might like to try this!

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:41:00 +0000

I recently read an article by David DeAngelo.

I've decided to share it here with you because why?

I experienced this before and I've done this similarly once upon a time.

I believe this is one of the ways for you to experience and learnt from it. =)

This week I'm going to do something a little bit unusual...

First, I'm going to ask you to consider something, then I'm going to give you some homework.

This week is all about ACTION!

Here's the thing I want you to consider first:

I was reading an article on AOL titled "What's Wrong With Nice Guys?"... here's a little quote from the article:

"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!" feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she says...."

Interesting, isn't it?

Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need somewhere to "project their guilty lust"... and I disagree with the idea that there's something "wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys...

But the point is that the "mainstream" psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad Boys".

It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says, "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that's why Bad Boys are considered "sexy"...

Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh wait, I already did..

Whatever.

Point is, there's something to the idea that woman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them and kiss up to them

Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.

Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There's a much better way...

OK...now for THE HOMEWORK...

Here's what I want you to do...

If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating", go to chapter 4, and read it again.

If you own my Advanced Series, I'd like you to go to Day 2, Section 1, and review again. (If you don't own these yet, then you need to get them immediately! You're cheating yourself if you don't invest in YOURSELF in this area... really.)

Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.

I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days... (these should be women that you would be interested in dating):

1) Smile all the time.

2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don't tease.

3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you're talking to... and as if you're "interested" in her.

4) Give her lots of compliments.

5) Optional: Politely say, "You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"

Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.

Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to...

1) Don't smile very often.

2) Pretend that you've known her for 20 years, and that you're TOO comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her about... like the way she dresses, etc.

3) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like, "I just don't think things are going to work out between us".

4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any say, "That's a cheesy pick up line. Can't you think of something more original?"

5) Optional: Say, "Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here..."

...and pay attention to the difference.

If you really "play it up", you'll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.

During the first set of five, when you're being a "Nice Wuss", you'll see the looks on the women's faces that say, "Oh no. Another guy who "likes" me. How can I get rid of him politely?..."

During the SECOND set of five, you'll see the women opening their mouths with the "half smile, half oh-no-you-didn't-just-say-that" look. You'll feel a TENSION in the air. You'll notice that some of the women will actually look at you as if they can't believe what they're hearing.

If you're particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of them say, "I like you... we have to hang out sometime" within the first few minutes of the conversation. By the way, you will NEVER hear that when you're playing the "Nice Wuss".

(SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friends and while taking pictures of them, I overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her friend were talking about and I teased her about it... And within no more than 60 seconds the girl was saying, "Ohmygod, I like you! We need to hang out sometime..." - Really.)

Do your homework! And have FUN while you're at it.

David DeAngelo

Have fun with it! =)

About

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:49:00 +0000

I welcome you to my special edition weblog on the net on a very special topic : Dating

This weblog is specifically for the male testosterone. =D
Dating Tips, Dating advices to approach women and communicate with them with ease.
How to warm them up, make them like you, make them laugh, making a mark of yourself on them.
But I can't stop those female testosterone to read my blog.
On one Condition, you know what to do ay. . .
(send me a picture of you)

We can be friends. =)

Hey hey!

How are you doing today?

I am Burn.
Just simply call me Burn.

I've dated women( ' yea. So what! I date too. What's the big deal?!!' u might be asking... I'll get to my point later)
and I won't stop doing it until I find someone that I've wanted to be my partner.... =D

(I have to get Megan Fox to come here! Who? Britney? Come on. No way! Back to reality.. Here we have tons of lookalikes or better likes in Singapore.)

It all started after I broke up with my 3 ½ years ex of mine in June 2008.
Actually, things weren't going that well in late 2007 after a few months of myself serving my National Service. (compulsory for all fit males in Singapore).
For those males who have served the National Service and had a girlfriend during that period, raise your hands to agree with me sometimes after a long hard day of training, you simply have no time to call your girlfriend back home. You simply sleep on the comfy bed, exhausted...
…
…

Many eh?
I bet some even dozed off even while talking with his girlfriend on the phone. (Happened to me once.. =p )

My ex, was a very worried person.
( Personally, I believe she is one of the finest lovable caring person I've known during my time with her)
I know she loves me so much so, that she was very worried;
Bout my relationship outside.

Let's talk bout me some other time, on a private basis. =)

I get to these very sensitive topic about us men and women.
We are human after all ay.
I've heard before from a friend of mine.
One fine day, we get bored with the ones we be with, especially the ladies.

*

Yea.
I say the ladies get bored with the guys they are with.
I didn't say this for the sake of making my own statement dude.
One of my girl friends talk to me about it one day.

'Girls do get bored with their men.'

But let's not be one-sided eh..
Even us guys do get bored with our ladies.

It's human nature.
If you spend so much time with that someone, with no interesting happenings taking place between the both of you, things may sour sooner or later.

That is why men have to constantly lead the attraction in a relationship.
There are some stuffs to keep in my mind to keep it going guys.
I'll get to that later in this weblog. =)

During my second year in a relationship, I believe that we were getting closer.
Ya know the normal stuff couples experience, gone through etc.

After a long relationship that I believe didn't work out and broke up with her,
I did turned into a WUSS after I decided to patch things up with her but unsuccessfully.

If I knew it, I should never think about it ay?
Heh..

After that 6 months however, I decided to do something about myself.
Hence I get to know more girls, make more new friends, take notes of details with the ones I've dated, looking for signs/indicators of interest after what stuff I did, test out some 'things', learn new stuffs, test out some attributes of a loser to see the girls for reaction and take note of it ( I know it was risky, but as we always say, there are many flowers all over the garden city. Just find them if u lose one of em.) , how to start and create fast attraction with someone new and many more.
I'm still doing and learning while at the same time, do what I normally love to do.
Make new girl friends. It wasn't that difficult as I first thought.

Just be cocky and funny to ease the tension between two parties.
You will see her reaction as if both of you have known for years.
Seriously..
Ask me if you wanna know more about it. =)

I'll get to the part of what I learnt about girls and friends I meet up with in a moment.
From my experience, I will summarise of what I learnt and connect it to the key points that I want to emphasise.

I truly believe anyone who is looking for someone special, can find the ones they are looking for if you know how to attract this girls no matter how you look like, whether you are rich or not or whether you are shy. (I am a Shy guy before. But I make my own steps to open my sights of reality)

I do know some dating sites or pick-up artist sites that promote themselves as a pick-up artist.
You come to my weblog to improve yourself to be a better man with women.
To be what you wanna be, and deal with women with ease.
If you turn-up here to look for tips on how many women you wanna fuck, there may be some tips here but that's not what this weblog is for. =)

How To Get Woman To Approach You

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

I think you're really going to like this article.
I've been experiencing this and I decided to find out more about this little trick that I've been playing with women that I find to be attractive.
I call it the 'Eye Contact' game.
We do always look around looking at people right?

Try this game.
Capture the attention of a woman.
Any woman, and lock them in your eyes.
Look into their eyes until you got their attention.
Lock them into your gaze.
My personal find is this: Most girl I find, look away within 2-3 seconds...

(There is one hot girl that did not look away for up to 6-7 seconds before she look away and flinch. I later find out, this is not a good presentation.
Unless, if I smile and she smile or vice versa and our eyes lock. But I didn't smile. A woman will perceive you as weird or whatever, cuz you are staring at her without any action. That's awkward!)

Look at her, lock your gaze, and smile. If she smile back, or she smile first, that is great! You are ON! This potray your confidence to a woman. She is open for your approach! (I should be putting this article in the Alpha Male Tips category, but I keep going)

Here is an article by Thundercat:

'I'm going
to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really
makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because
of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved.

Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet
a woman?

"Am I her type?"
"Does she have a boyfriend?"
"Will she find me attractive?"
"Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
"Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"

I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your
mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it's because of one
thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to
respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm
going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a
negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100%
fear free tactic.

Ready for it? Good, because here it comes...

***The Eye Contact Opener***

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny
happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become
COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to
women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting
you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on
her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking
at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to
keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we
all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around
to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and
you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If
she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds,
you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery
stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work
just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she
can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and
then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock
your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll
be surprised by the results.

And if you're looking for even more tactics and techniques that are
proven to work to help you meet tons of women, check out my book
The Art of Approaching! There is no other book out there that
focuses on nothing BUT how to overcome your fears and meet women.
Check it out right now by clicking below:

Click Here To Download Now

With the help of my book, you won't have to use the Eye Contact
Opener! You'll simply be able to walk up to any woman you want and
meet her right away.'

Wishing you success with women,

Thundercat

Approach any Woman you want and meet her right away!
Wanna know how?

Click here to find out more!

3 Social Networking Profile MISTAKES that Scare Women Away!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

Let me tell you a girl’s biggest fear when talking to guys online...

They fear… the “CREEP”. You know the guys I’m talking about. The one’s that are just weird looking.

They look like they don’t have any friends. They look like they haven’t been laid in forever. The ones that just look like complete and total STALKERS.

And you wonder why online dating for them is so difficult?

Some guys just put things in their profiles that make them look like future rapists. Gross!

So here are six things that they’re doing wrong… Here’s profile blunder #1.

1.) They have only a few or NO pictures at all. Imagine being a good looking girl and you receive a message from some dude that has NO picture. Are you kidding? What is that guy thinking? And sorry… one or two pictures doesn’t cut it either. You really need to have a plethora of pictures that convey high value… if you don’t, you’re out of the picture entirely.

2.) If you use Facebook or MySpace… don’t put yourself as “single”. This may be counter-intuitive, but by putting yourself as single, you make the remark that you “are trying”. See what I mean? Plus it eliminates the mystery. You want to make the girl wonder… “Is he single or not?”

3.) Last but not least… PUNCTUATION AND GRAMMAR! You think that really hot chick is going to want to reply to you if your profile is riddled with spelling errors? I’m not saying that your profile content has to be at the level of Shakespeare’s, but check your writing! Use a spell checker if you have to. SHOW that you are intelligent.

So there you go, guys! Avoid these blunders at all costs.

Derek Lamont

You can check out more of his articles Here!

Click here to find out more about his Online Dating Secrets!

CARLOS XUMA INTERVIEW

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

Finally, I have the honour for an interview with a gentlemen named Carlos Xuma,
whom shared some awesome ideas on how to approach women and start up conversations, great tips on how to spark ATTRACTION in a woman the first time you meet her… and a whole lot more..
Let's get right through it. . .

***Welcome Carlos. It's great to have here with you today!

Great to see you!

*** So Carlos, first a little introduction about how you got into this
business of helping guys meet women...

*** How long have you been doing this and how did you get into it?

CARLOS: I've been helping guys get more success with women for the last 7
years on the Internet.

Before that, I went through a long and hard journey of trying to
figure out how and why my dating life had gone so very wrong. I was
reading books on relationships, and all the stuff you find in the
bookstores, but they were all written by people who really weren't
getting very good results in their own lives. They talked about the
way things SHOULD be - logically. But, as we know, attraction is
anything but logical.

My big focus now is helping guys overcome their own self-limiting
beliefs and master both the INNER game of attraction (confidence,
self-esteem, etc.), as well as the skills - the OUTER game of
attraction.

I also teach guys about MOTIVATION - which is the fuel for all the
things a you will accomplish in your life.

This is what I call the "Triple-Threat": Motivation, Inner Game,
Outer Game. With all three of these in place, you're unstoppable.

*** What is the biggest mistake guys make when they go out to meet women?

CARLOS: In my opinion, the biggest mistake is how most guys THINK when they
go out. You see, all of the questions I get from guys have two
parts - the inner and the outer, and one is a matter of *beliefs*,
and the other is a matter of knowing the correct WHAT to do - the
ACTIONS.

First, when most guys go out, they are thinking about GETTING
women. This is the first big mistake. You're focused on your own
needs and wants and not enough on GIVING to other people. If you go
out with this "I want to get a woman" mentality, women will pick it
up. Even guys can sense a selfish agenda.

But you can have a healthy DESIRE for a woman that creates
something much more intense than just physical intimacy, and that
involves a change of attitude.

Ask yourself a simple question: "If she knew what my motives were,
could I blame her for her reaction?"

Guys don't realize that women want sex even MORE than they do. They
enjoy it more than we do, why wouldn't they? But they have a much
better ability to control that desire with protective instinct.

*** What in your opinion is one of the best places to meet women that a
lot guys don't know about?

CARLOS: Honestly, speed dating. I used to do these events all the time, and
I'd come away with a girlfriend every time I did one. Plus, they
are excellent places to hone and refine your social skills. I'd try
out new conversation and new questions, and I'd really get a feel
for what works with a woman.

You see, you have to work the numbers. 95% of the guys I talk to
are meeting LESS than 1 woman a week. Once you get past the
"approach anxiety" challenge - something that every guy has, and I
show you how to get past it - you see that it's all about meeting
enough women that you can make an educated choice as to the one you
create a relationship with.

The next best place for guys is online dating. Every guy knows
about this one, but not every guy is using it to his advantage - or
correctly. Most guys quit before they get the results they're
looking for, and it's simply a job of tweaking his approach. In my
opinion, you need to have more than 2 ways to meet women that
you're using ALL the time.

*** When you're training guys could you give a little run down of the
process in which take them through?

The first step is a complete reboot of their masculine operating
system. This is a clearing out of their old thoughts and mistaken
beliefs about women and social dynamics. Next up is a complete
reload of their operating system with Alpha Man OS. This is simply
re-educating a guy to what being a MAN in today's world really is.

Once you understand the changes in thinking that need to take
place, you then have to have a game plan for implementing them into
your life so that they become your natural way of acting and
thinking. Again, I'm teaching guys the big picture stuff here, not
the "how to get laid with the drunk bar chick at 2:00 AM" method.

The next step after that is to unlock your motivation.

Click Here For Details

*** What is one thing a guy can do right now to increase his
attractiveness to women?

CARLOS: First of all, get in touch with your real passions in life. There
is no single thing that I have found that has had such a drastic
effect as really getting in touch with what gets me fired up about
LIFE. And let me assure you guys out there that are thinking:
"Women are my passion!" NO. Women are not a true passion. They are
an outlet of your sexual drive, but not your TRUE passion.

(And when women find a guy that's just into women, or appears to
be, he trips their radar in all sorts of bad ways. She knows that
this guy is not a good bet for her evolutionary success.)

When you find the things that get you excited about life - like
your hobbies and your goals and your relationships in general - you
will pay less attention to women for your fulfillment, which
ironically makes you more attractive to them.

So, that being said, guys still want to be more successful with
women along the way, so we can do that, too. Here's a way you can
use this right now:

Right now, take out a piece of paper and make a list of all the
things that really get you fired up about life. Detail them in
terms of their sensory experience. If you like snowboarding (as I
do), then you might write something like: Snowboarding - the sense
of wind and biting air on my face, the relentless rush of speed
down the mountain, the moments of catching air and feeling your
heart stop in your chest, etc.

The more sensory description you can put into it the better. Then,
memorize this and talk about it when you're with a woman. I
guarantee you this will work better than almost any "script" or
fake routine you can find out there. Why? Because it's genuine and
YOURS.

Also, the most potent and immediate thing you can do with a woman
to generate attraction is to be FUN.

If you're too serious and too focused on what you're trying to get,
you can't be fun. And when you create the frame of giving her fun
and excitement, you will also be focused on the GIVING.

Make FUN your focus, and you'll start seeing a radical difference
in your results.

*** What was one of your biggest A-HA! moments in learning about
attraction and social dynamics?

CARLOS: I remember I was reading a book that talked about the fact that
relationships between people are not logical. As much as we want
things to be the way they SHOULD be - like everyone treating
everyone fairly, no prejudice, etc. - it isn't this way. We don't
relate in any logical ways. And if you fight this reality, you'll
always be crying about life not being "fair" to you.

Then I realized that it didn't really matter what *I* wanted. I
could want a woman to like me and do everything I could to impress
her. If she wasn't attracted to me, it wouldn't change anything.
You can't force someone to like you or desire you. Plain and simple.

Unless I can see through a woman's eyes and see what it is that
makes her interested and attracted, I could push forever and never
get her interested in me. So I switched my point of view.

Ask yourself this question: What matters more to the woman you're
interested in - what YOU want, or what SHE wants?

Then it all came down to a matter of one more question - What can I
do to influence others that gets results? AND does it so that we
BOTH win?

The answer to that question is what I teach guys. Because that's
the ethically correct way, and the way that gets me what I want at
the same time. Win-Win.

*** What is one of the craziest experiences you have had during your
time as a dating guru?

CARLOS: Well, when I had finally started to get the hang of how to handle
social interactions with women where I was getting a lot of good
results, I remember I once had a weekend where I was meeting 6
different women in two days. I thought that was really cool -
complicated, but very cool. I finally had that sense of "arriving,"
you know? Where my hard work had finally gotten me to a turning
point in my life.

Since then, I've had up and down times, but I've never felt like I
would ever be "alone" or wanting for female companionship. I always
feel like I'm within a few minutes of meeting a woman, whether
that's on the street, or online, or whatever. I got past my
scarcity mindset, and now life truly feels abundant. And not just
with women.

Now I spend my time helping other guys get to that same place in
their lives.

(I've been sworn to secrecy about some of the other crazy times,
like waking up in the back of a truck full of band equipment... but
that's another story...)

*** What is it about "Dating Dynamics" that you feel differs from the
competition?

CARLOS: I teach a holistic approach to dating. I don't JUST teach guys how
to be attractive to QUALITY women - and I teach them how to attract
friends, success, money, and a balanced peaceful lifestyle. I teach
guys the BIG picture of how success with women translates to the
rest of their lives - and how to do it with honor and integrity.

Guys get massive results from what I teach because I'm not giving
you an imaginary magic pill or magic bullet. There is none, and I'm
sure there's quite a few guys reading this that have bought some
program in the hopes that it would be.

I give guys lasting and deeply fulfilling success in their dating -
and in the rest of their life, too.

*** How do you feel about natural, improvised conversations vs. canned
scripted material in meeting and at-tracting women?

CARLOS: I know there are a lot of guys out there that see this picture as
very black-and-white. There's one camp that thinks that you should
NEVER use anything memorized or pre-rehearsed because that's fake.
The other camp thinks that you must use canned material because you
can apply it in a predictable way.

Here's what I feel...

You DO need pre-rehearsed material to get the hang of how social
interactions work.

BUT only as long as you need them to start generating your own
results.

If you're talking with most people with no problem, and your social
ability is okay in 90% in most situations, but when you get in
front of a woman that you're attracted to you lose your cool, it's
not a matter of what you're saying. It's what you're THINKING. And
that's part of my Alpha Man operating system that I show guys.

You want to shift to natural conversation as quickly as you
possibly can. Anything you've rehearsed or memorized is only a tool
to get you past those occasional moments where you have a
brain-fart, or you blank out because you're in a low-energy state.

Your first focus should be relaxation and calming your mind, then
use something convenient to open the conversation. From there, your
focus is purely on the "vibe" in the interaction. The "vibe" is the
ability to be in-the-moment with a woman and get improvisational
with her. It's not hard, and again, it's a huge topic to discuss
here. I wrote a book on vibing that guys can get from me directly.

Click Here For Details

*** Do you have a favorite opening line when you go up to approach women?

CARLOS: I like to let the situation dictate what I say to a woman because
it allows for such a natural flow to the interaction. Being
authentic is the most important way to walk up and start a
conversation. However, there are some things that I will say if my
mind is blank, and that's where having a few good "lines" memorized
can come in handy. (Let me emphasize here that this does not mean
you should rely on canned routines for your conversation. ONLY the
opening should be memorized.)

One of my favorite openers is this: "Hi, I just had a second to
come over and let you know that I think you have a really great
energy about you. I really liked that about you and I thought you
should know. My name is Carlos..."

It's simple and direct, and it NEVER fails to get a positive
response from a woman - if it's delivered with sincerity. Again, I
won't say it if it isn't true.

*** What type of guy do you feel is most likely to succeed with "dating
dynamics?"

CARLOS: Let's put it this way - if you're getting all the women you need in
your life right now, and your confidence is through the roof every
single day, you probably don't need my programs. But if you feel
there's an area of your life - and not just your dating life! -
that you want to take care of - to find more passion and purpose,
to live what I call the Alpha Lifestyle, then you owe it to
yourself to take a look at the information I share with guys every
week. And especially if you've tried other "seduction" programs and
found that you aren't making the progress you think you should.

*** So Carlos, If guys reading this wanted to take advantage of your services and
products, how would they go about doing it?

CARLOS:
The best way for them to get acquainted with what I have to offer
is to get on my free newsletter here

I've got a ton of great information, including audio and video
training on everything from inner confidence to how to approach.

Then, if it makes sense, they can take a look at my other programs
that can help them massively increase their skills with women.

***Thank you Carlos for your time

Like to know more what Carlos have to offer?

Click Here For Details

(interview above is non-edited for legitimate purpose. It is how it is present to me from the interview)

A new Audio version out SOON!

Being Single Is Just As Good!!

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

Don't be in such a hurry to get into a relationship, guys. I just read an article on CNN.com, relating a survey that tracked 24,000 people and showed that marriage does NOT make you more happy. (Gee, we needed a survey for this?)
Not that marriage can't be fulfilling, but it is not a cure-all to your unhappiness.
You have to be happy FIRST.

This survey also showed that people who were more satisfied with their lives before they were married were more likely to stay married longer.
Hmm.
Gosh, that's an incredible discovery.

I've always said that most guys are in too much of a hurry to get into a relationship. Typically we want to lock in a woman as "steady" so that we can escape the singles world. We want regular sex, the satisfaction of having a woman who can hang out with us and do things with. A female 'pal.'

But also realize that you can get these things through dating and short-term relationships as well. It doesn't feel quite as 'secure' as locking in a girlfriend does. We want security, in the end.

Let's look at security another way:

How about having the security that you can talk to and attract almost any woman at any time, using just a few tried and true principles? How about the security of being able to date MANY women at once, and not have to feel like you're begging for sex?

You need to spread your risk with women. It's just like investing in the stock market. You diversify to cover yourself from a real loser.

You will encounter a lot of women out there who do not develop or focus at all on their own lives. These women are scattered all over the place, looking to fulfill their Cinderella dreams with the addition of a man/boyfriend/husband. If you're not feeling capable and comfortable with being single and getting your needs for affection/sex/accompaniment met, you'll tend to let one of these women corral you into the belief that you must be serially monogamous - that you can date only one woman at a time, and ONLY get sex by jumping through her hoops.

It's not true.

You must date MANY women to give you the experience, successes, and understanding that put you on the upward spiral of success. There is no more security in having a girlfriend than there is in being a single, Dynamic man with the ability to create the dating life HE wants.

If you feel intimidated or scared by the thought of giving up the girl you've got, even if the situation you're in with her is painful, you're not truly free. You're not truly secure. You're at HER mercy.

Develop a full and complete life without a woman. If you aren't happy being single, you won't be happy being a couple.

And if you feel good on your own, you'll be able to take charge and feel that you can go it alone if it doesn't work out.

That is the ultimate feeling of freedom and liberation.

Carlos Xuma

Ever do anything to attract the women of your dreams, but to no avail?
When it comes to dating women, story do get weird. And sometimes get intense.
There are certain things a man shouldn't do. NO man should do it.

Do anything, sacrificing their identity to attract the woman he wants...

I put it in RED. This is a BIG NO NO!

Learnt the secrets of the Alpha Masculinity. Learn how easy it is to create that SPARK of ATTRACTION on you!

Click here to find out more!

Why You Should Never Do 'Dinner & Movie'

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

When you hear the word "Dating," what's the first thing you think of?

Dinner and a Movie?!

After all, isn't that the "typical" date?

Isn't that the first thing that comes to mind when you want to go out with
a girl?

(well, maybe it's the second, but you
get my drift. =)

That is what I used to think of. Growing up, that's all I heard about when my friends asked women on dates...

"I'm gonna take her to a nice restaurant,
and then we're going to see a movie!"

Blah, blah, blah.

Look, if you don't know this by now, you should --

Dinner and a Movie is a HORRIBLE idea!

Why?

Because: Every guy does it!

Especially, Movie Dates when u just met her for the first time!

There is nothing special to it. Every date a girl goes on consists of dinner and a movie.

(A tip by a girl friend of mine: A girl do appreciate dinner and a movie because they are being paid for by men.
Who do not want a FREE MEAL eh? But that doesn't meant a girl is attracted to a guy just because of a dinner or movie. )

If you want to be truly great at romancing women, you need to be different from all the other guys out there!

You NEED to stand out.

Because being different is a sure-fire way to get a girl interested in you.

Here's the basic problem with dinner and
a movie...

People tend to be self conscious when they
eat.

And you have no chance to demonstrate any personality or strengthen connections while sitting quietly in a dark movie theater. You are not talking in a theatre...
Both of you will be like, staring at the screen with occasional talk about the show that is being screen.

Sure, dinner and a movie might be fun once you're seeing the girl regularly.

But until that time, it's the dating equivalent of shooting yourself in the foot!

So what's a guy to do?

Simple: BE DIFFERENT.

Take her out to do something FUN, where you can interact with her.

Things like:

Going for a bowling game
Taking her to the racetrack.
Checking out the zoo.
Playing at a video arcade.
Go for a cycling trip

These are all things no one thinks about when they think "date."

BUT, they can be fun and very effective.

And the possibilities are endless!

Take it a date as, doing something fun with someone you wanna be with!
(i don't usually use the term Dating but to me it is more of a 'Meet-up')

Just check your local newspaper and look at what kind of cool events are taking place
in your area, and then...

INVITE women to join you in doing them!
YOU will instantly STAND OUT!

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How to Tease Women to Create EASY ATTRACTION

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:44:00 +0000

Teasing is one of the ways to lower the defensive mechanism of a woman whenever you meet one.
Woman will perceive you as a fun outgoing guy.
Whenever you 'meet-up' with a woman, you don't expect to experience the awkwardness between two parties.
You have to lead to create a fun, happening situation between the two of you.
Laughing, teasing, playful shoving etc.
Will you like to meet up with someone new, and there's the awkwardness in there because it is the first time both of you meet up?
There's a way to make things easy as if both of you have known each other for a long time.
Of course, Teasing a Woman is one of the ways to create Fast Attraction (some other factors to apply though)

Teasing let's you show dominance and be fun all at the same time. It's all in good fun, as long as you're not mean spirited about it.
Here are some Brad P zingers to tease women.

**The Schoolyard Frame**

Here, the idea is to treat the girl like she was the nerdy girl
from junior high. This works better on really hot girls than on
girls who really were the nerdy girl, hehe. But I'm gonna pass
these along anyway, cause I'm assuming that if you're reading this,
you are interested in attracting hot girls.

Aww, you got allergies.
You're like that little nerdy girl in school who has allergies all
the time. So cute.

Do you have an inhaler?

Take it easy, I don't want you to have an attack.

Do you have tape on your glasses?

How about a pocket protector?

Is it OK if I call you Waldo?

Do you have gummy bears in your pocket that are all warm cause
they've been there all day? (credit: Ferris Buelers Day Off)

Well I hope your Mom brings us all some cupcakes for your birthday,
cause if not I'm not going to be your friend anymore.

**Phone Message**

Here's one I sometimes use as a phone message if a girl doesn't
pick up her phone:

"Hey call me back. I'm watching this TV show and it reminds me of
you so much. It made me think of you. Give me a call I'll tell you
what it is."

She calls back every time so far, and then asks what show.
"Beauty and the Geek, cause you're both. It's like you're a hot
chick, but you're also a huge geek. Do you track monkeys with
lasers? Cause there's this guy on there who says he does that, and
I think I remember you saying something about this too."

"...this stuff is super fun once you get the hang of it. The
lines are only 10% of what you need to know though. You've got to
know how to deliver it and calibrate it. You've got to be able to
read which girls like this stuff and which ones are too sensitive
for it. Calibration, the ability to read people, these are the
"intangibles" of dating and seduction."

Ever wonder what really separates a master of seduction from a
student? It's those intangibles. A lot of guys tend to think that
if they internalize everything out there in the world of seduction,
they'll achieve success they really want. It's true to some extent,
but in reality, it's not an easy path to follow if you don't know
where you're really heading. Any average Joe can go online and
purchase an e-book or DVD set to learn the material he needs to
better himself in the art of pick-up... but not everyone knows how to
fully grasp those concepts.

Brad P

You can't expect a magic pill from all the dating material floating
around. After reading some information, they'll
wake up tomorrow morning as a seduction god. Do you think it works that way?
It's funny but true.

You've got to go through a certain process to get those
intangibles. You have to be there, and do it.
And that process requires. lots and lots of focus!

Focus is what really separates the men from the boys. Without
focus, there is no real learning process.

How To Be The Man Woman Love

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:12:00 +0000

Have you ever noticed that too often, men
are willing to go against what they think,
feel, and believe because there is a woman
available to them?

And the thing is, the men KNOW that what
they're doing is going to turn out badly,
but they do it anyhow because they want
to be with a girl in some way.

By the same token, many men are willing
to let the women they're with walk all
over them and treat them like crap because
they're getting sex out of the deal (if
they're lucky, anyway).

Us boys have a name for this behavior.

It's called being "whipped."

We've all had a friend at one time or
another who's suffered from this condition.

He's a cool guy, a good friend, but
suddenly he meets a woman and he can't
go out drinking because he's gotta pick
her car up from the shop or take her kid
out to the park, or whatever task she has
assigned him.

And it's not the fact that she needs him
to do things for her, it's the fact that
he gives up any sense of what his life
was in order to please her.

The problem that comes from this situation
is that the guy often not only loses the
respect of his friends, but also the respect
of the woman he's with.

The very person he's trying hardest to please
begins to resent him and take him for granted.

This is why having rules and standards is
important.

It comes down to a matter of SELF RESPECT.

People who have no code, no rules by which they
live their lives, no standards by which they
hold themselves up to, are weak people.

They look for others to give them an identity,
to give them a purpose.

But having rules and standards allows you to define
who you are and stand on your own two feet. People
who know what they are, and are not willing to do,
garner respect from others.

Most unhealthy relationships stem from the
problem of weakness in one of the partners.

Typically, women want a dominant man in a
relationship. And when I say dominant, I
DON'T mean the ball-gag, chains, and leather
whips kind-of dominant.

I mean a guy who takes control of the
relationship and is a source of strength
for the woman he's with.

A man who makes her feel safe and eliminates
uncertainty from her life.

But the woman aside, it's more about making
YOU happy. It's about having respect for
yourself and what you want out of life.

If you have a certain type of woman you want
to be with, don't lower your standards just
to get laid or whatever.

That's not respecting yourself. Go after the
type of woman you want instead of settling for
what you can easily get.

You'll be happier that way.

If you have a rule where you don't want to
date single moms because you don't want to
take care of someone else's kids - or whatever
your reason may be - then don't do it!

If you meet a girl, but she's a single mom,
stay true to your rule. There's a reason you
made it a rule in the first place, right?

In the end, having rules and standards makes
you a more attractive person, because it conveys
confidence and conviction, two traits women
always find attractive in a man.

And as you know, women are complicated beings,
and it seems most men are clueless when it comes
to dealing with them!

So let me ask you this...

If you have more questions about how to be
successful in your love life, what would it
be like to have all those questions answered
and enjoy attracting the incredible women
you've always dreamed of?

Maybe there's a girl you want to meet?

Maybe there's a girl you want to take out on a date?

Maybe there's a girl you just want to sleep with?

But how do you DO all this with the women you want?

Well fear not, my friend. Because answers
are here. And with answers, comes hope.

Listen, we all know what it's like to struggle
with women.

Sometimes you're too afraid to meet them because
you don't want to be rejected. Sometimes, you're
afraid to ask them out because you don't know what
to do on the date.

And sometimes, you might even be afraid to "close
the deal" because you don't know what to do in
the bedroom!

All of your problems can be solved with one
thing and one thing only...

Knowledge.

Knowledge and the will to apply it!

In my time learning to be successful with
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But after a seeing how incredible this
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out on a date, confident that it was going
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What would it feel like to be so amazing
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When you literally FEEL that kind of
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That's not a lie my friend, nor is it
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The great thing is that you CAN feel
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How To Approach Women

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:12:00 +0000

..on The Street?
Have you ever met someone you saw on the street, and you feel like 'I wish I could go over and talk to her' 'How can I go over and seduce her?'
'What should I say?' 'Maybe she has a boyfriend...'

'If you are thinking "I wish I could go talk to her" when you see a hot woman in a public place, it’s a sign that you are not taking advantage of the easy places to meet women in your life.

The thought "I wish I could go talk to her" is the result of a life where you have eliminated all reasonable opportunities to meet women. Therefore the unreasonable, most-difficult opportunities — while on the street, while she’s running for a cab — are the only ones that pop up. You end up thinking that the solution is to get good at handling the only opportunities you see — the near-impossible ones. It’s not.

You only moan about not being able to meet women "on the street" when you are NOT meeting women in all the places that you should meet them — social networks, niches, classes, and by being generally involved in your life. Moaning about wanting to meet women on the street is a SYMPTOM of needing to do the basic work of meeting women.'

by Ron Louis & David Copeland

Or you may risk singing this song to yourself thinking bout the woman you met at the bus stop but never approach. Listen to it and you get what I meant.

I experience this twice before, in the train.

I was sitting down, and notice a cute girl standing in front of me.

I look at her for a moment, and continue reading my newspaper.

I think she saw me as I caught her staring at me, looking away when I look at her, and looked at me back when I continue reading. After the guy sitting beside me on the right alight, she took her sit beside me.

And I notice something. She was checking me out.

Quite a few times, I caught her looking at me. Once, she was looking at my arm.

I can tell why because I was wearing this shirt that once my bunkmates told me,

I look like a fit-looking man with tight bulging muscle gonna tear off my shirt any moment. =p

Too bad, I didn't make my move to talk to her. *Deserved a whack*

She was already open to us men to approach her, and that is the opportunity for you to take to approach her easily.

Another incident. Same style. Same pattern, but this time I was standing, leaning against the wall of the train, with arms crossed. Notice this cute lady, a few meters away.

Well. You know when a woman is interested.

Try this.

Look around and try to capture the eyes of any women.

When you manage to get one, lock into her eyes for a few seconds.

Usually, it took 3 seconds before the girl look away, then look at you again when you are not looking if you smile at her earlier.

When she smile at you, she is open for your approach!

The hotter ones usually took 5 seconds before looking away. Do smile at her, and if she smile back, YOU ARE ON!!!

The girl that I was talking about started to stand nearer to the door where I was standing.

She turn towards me a few times, play with her hair and was frequently adjusting herself.

I know I know. I should have approach her.

But I was not that up to the peak yet.

When I do realise she is alighting, it took her three seconds before she step out of the train even though the door was open for her.

You might say this is a coincidence, but isn't it obvious.

Only her was alighting at that door.

She look at me before alighting, adjusting her hair, sway here and about before alighting the train.

I know, I should Have APPROACH her given that opportunity.

Learnt from mistakes.

Do what you have to do to get her attention by locking eyes on her.

If she is looking at you , smile.

When she smile back, look away slowly and turn her head onto you again, IT IS ON.

She is open to your aprroach.

Stop guessing.

Just go and start the conversation.

We’ve said it a million times, but it’s still true: if you don’t have your life set up so that meeting women is automatic and easy, all the quick-fix claims in the world won’t do anything but separate you from the money in your wallet.

If you aren’t joining and visiting clubs and teams, you are going to end up longing for women you can’t get, who are the most difficult to talk to and seduce.
If you aren’t saying "yes" to social invitations and developing social groups, you are going to end up alone and horny, wishing you could have sex with the hot barista at the coffee shop you frequent.
If you aren’t participating in activities and classes, you are going to start moaning about how you wish you could talk to some woman you see on the street somewhere.
If you are not doing online dating, then you’ll spend your life staring at a woman on the bus and dreaming about how great it would be to be able to walk up to her and seduce her.

Unless you are willing to have balls of absolute, inhuman steel (which you aren’t) and unless you are willing to develop a set of scams and routines (which you also probably aren’t), then stop thinking the answer is to learn to approach a supermodel who is running for a cab! It’s not!

Thinking "I wish I could talk to her" is NOT a sign that you need to learn how to approach strangers in public, where every hot woman is angered by or terrified of new men talking to her.

Thinking "I wish I could talk to her" IS a sign you need to GET A LIFE.

There is no magic phrase or perfect opening line that can take the place of getting a life!

Actually, though, this is good news. "Getting a life" will make you increasingly happy and effective and connected with women in a meaningful way.

by Ron Louis & David Copeland

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How To Be Good With Women?

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:12:00 +0000

Stop being a WIMP! Stop Being a WUSS! Don't be a PUSSY...

Stop complaining.
And act on it.

Ever thought of this before in your life?
Don't tell me you don't.

Some people do hate people that are good with women.
I don't understand why.
Don't you think it is great to have your social life skills handled?
I know a friend.
He is good with women.
He did told me one day, sometimes girls that used to be with him, call him,
To be with him.
To spend the night with him.
Well.
At first I don't believe him.
I hate his style for being a player. (can you believe it?)
Until one day I asked how he do it.
(I just broke up with my ex and was finding a way to fix myself)

Continue to READ MORE...

How to Be Good with Women?
The important step is to stop acting like a Wuss. Quit doing it!

Get your inner pussy side out of the way and just go for what you want.

#1 Learn to get to know about 'you' and accept it

You have been through many downtimes?
The best way to deal with it?
Stop acting like a Wuss, begin forgiving yourself for acting so foolish in the past.
When I see guy friends, usually putting their Instant Messenger nickname as facing trouble, being so down for a girl, he gonna die because she left him, he's missing her where you go all those stuff, I feel them. I pity them
I know how it feels like.
But if you realise, that is a Wuss attitude.
Especially those looking to get his feet up and going, showing that kind of emotion to the world,
it is near impossibility to create a new attraction for a new girl.

Learn from the past mistakes, the blunders you made, and love yourself. =)
The worst type of self pity is thinking yourself as too fat, too skinny, too old, too young, too ugly, too dumb to attract girls.
Pick yourself up, stop acting like pussy and get yourself going for the women you are attracted to.

GO!

#2 The Approach Phobia

The more you think about it, the more you hesitate, the more your inner wussy will eat out your confidence.

Seriously!

Just. GO. For. IT

If you have an issue of taking it further, quit thinking bout it.
Just begin your move.
When a men can't lead, women honestly will tell you they will walk.
When they 'sign' up a date with you, they thought you will be worth it.
Don't waste your time.
And stop thinking a lot.
Just go for it.
The more you think, the more you will get stuck being a wimp.

Go figure and think about it.

Getting rejected? That is not a reason to be a wimp

Sometimes, we take rejection badly. We need some time to recover from that wound. But for how long?
Take me for example.
I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 and a half years.
Even though I was the one who broke up with her, I wanted her back.
But then things start to sour.
Within weeks, she found someone new.
The Ego inside me was 'out-of-control' and start acting like a wimpy wounded human wanting his love back.

The way I potray myself, makes her go further away of course.
I was even dating someone else at the moment.
But I still want her.

It took me 6 months to realise and bounce back.
Why took me so long?
Because I do not know.
But now you know.
You don't have to go through all those bullshit stuff.

Relax.Deal with the frustration.
Wash away your wounded ego. Put a bandage on it.
Quickly bounce back and and back in the game.
Pursue the woman you want in your life.

Being heartbroken and keeping to yourself for awhile doesn't do you any good.
Why must you cry over buckets on the problem if you can spend time going for what you really want instead regardless of any pressure,guilt or fear.

Keep in mind : Let the problem lingers for a while not longer. Bounce back, into the game.

And don't second guessing.
If you think you will have problems approaching women, the more you put in the believe you are unable to approach one.
It is the worst thing!
Women are out there, waiting for your LEAD.
Remember this.
They are waiting for you to LEAD where you wanna take them.

Take em for a Ride~

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THERE ARE ONLY TWO DIFFERENT KINDS OF GUYS

noreply@blogger.com (Abs) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:12:00 +0000

There are two kinds of men in the world today, and I want you to meet them ... because you're probably one of them. Actually, you're probably both, to a degree, but you are definitely more one than the other. Each of these two guys is single, intelligent, and generally a 'nice' guy.

What they do have is widely disparate ATTITUDES toward life. Allow me illustrate:

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Bob is just an average guy. He goes to work, comes home, eats dinner. He hangs out with friends at happy hour from time to time. He generally hopes that good things will happen to him.

But Bob is passive. He doesn't seek out ways to take charge and influence his world. Bob is too concerned with protecting his image of himself.

He goes out and meets women on occasion, but he finds the same pattern evolving: He meets a gal every once in a while, usually by luck. He'll ask and get her number from her. He'll call a day or two later, and usually get an answering machine. She never calls him back, and he ends up calling several times before he finally gets hold of her. She's usually polite, and he'll muster up the courage to ask for a date. She agrees, but when the day comes for them to meet up, she calls him and says she can't make it. Or she stands him up. Bob then looks at this as being yet another reason women are unreliable, and he starts to get self-righteous. He's doing everything right, and THEY are acting all weird. It must be them, he figures.

And his passivity increases. Why bother trying if you just get shot down every time?

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Dave on the other hand is average, too. But he rises above the average because of his attitude: Dave is active about his life. He takes the wheel of his life and steers it where he wants to go. He knows that if life isn't going the way he wants it, he has the power to make it happen himself.

He doesn't sit back expecting his abilities with women to succeed; he actively seeks out opportunities to try and learn from his interactions. When he fails in a seduction, he looks back on what he could do differently, not scared that making a mistake means he's unworthy as a man.

Dave understands that when a woman acts a certain way, it is usually something he could influence with his approach and attitude. While her rejections do not mean anything to his worth, he does know that he can change his approach and learn to decrease those rejections. The answer isn't finding just the right woman as it is understanding what parts of him he can develop and present to get more women interested.

Dave seeks out information and guidance to learn and improve. He doesn't let life happen TO him, he makes it happen.

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These two men demonstrate the kind of men who eventually get dates and get laid, or the ones that get stuck in the Downward Spiral, becoming more bitter and avoiding women.

The only man who isn't worthy of a woman is the one who isn't learning from his mistakes and trying again. He picks himself up, dusts himself off, and tries until he succeeds. He only fails when he fails to keep trying and learning from his attempts.

So which of these two would you rather be?

Notice, I didn't ask you which of them you ARE. All of us have elements of both men.

I used to be the passive nice guy.
I do met up with women and get to know them but usually, by luck.

And it doesn't matter in the end, because I'm giving you an opportunity that other people will never offer you in life: You can stand at this crossroads and choose to settle for whatever results you're currently getting with women, or you can choose to take the path of action. You can learn and improve with your strategy and get more women.

Or ... Well, I think you know what lies down that road.

I used to be the passive nice guy.
I do met up with women and get to know them but usually, by luck.
But then, after I broke up from a long relationship, I decided to do something about myself.
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