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term="AAP" /><category term="early intervention" /><category term="myths" /><category term="DSM" /><category term="fat" /><category term="diagnosis" /><category term="drugs" /><category term="b-eat" /><category term="redhead" /><title>Laura's Soap Box</title><subtitle type="html">An activist writer tells all...</subtitle><link rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/posts/default" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/" /><link rel="next" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default?start-index=26&amp;max-results=25&amp;redirect=false&amp;v=2" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" 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gd:etag="W/&quot;C04GQX04eip7ImA9WhRUE0k.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4893038063248464683</id><published>2012-01-23T13:05:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-23T13:05:20.332-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-23T13:05:20.332-05:00</app:edited><title>Deen and Bourdain cook-off</title><content type="html">&lt;a href="http://www.jaunted.com/files/admin/bourdaininbeirut.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="227" src="http://www.jaunted.com/files/admin/bourdaininbeirut.jpg" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href="http://askmsconcierge.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/paula-deen1.jpg?w=300&amp;amp;h=300" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://askmsconcierge.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/paula-deen1.jpg?w=300&amp;amp;h=300" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;Enjoy this:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/01/17/no-proof-paula-deen-s-high-fat-southern-cooking-caused-her-diabetes.html" target="_blank"&gt;No proof Paula Deen's High Fat Southern Cooking Caused Her Diabetes&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4893038063248464683?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4893038063248464683/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4893038063248464683&amp;isPopup=true" title="0 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4893038063248464683?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4893038063248464683?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/8JYXNQRz5Rk/deen-and-bourdain-cook-off.html" title="Deen and Bourdain cook-off" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>0</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/deen-and-bourdain-cook-off.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DUMCR3czeip7ImA9WhRUEk4.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4327842713715334738</id><published>2012-01-22T08:04:00.002-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-22T08:04:26.982-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-22T08:04:26.982-05:00</app:edited><title>Recovery from an eating disorder: it's not a number</title><content type="html">I'm often accused of being all about numbers and calories and percentiles. Guilty as charged: I am very focused on the medical restoration of eating disorder patients because without that there is no recovery at all - and too much of treatment and talk about eating disorders ignores this fact.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-A2EW7Wzhaic/TxwJC0WW3LI/AAAAAAAAAmQ/tpDn3L5w3lo/s1600/cced.tiff" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-A2EW7Wzhaic/TxwJC0WW3LI/AAAAAAAAAmQ/tpDn3L5w3lo/s200/cced.tiff" width="186" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
But what is actual recovery, and how is it measured from the outside? This isn't something that can be analyzed by a chart or ticked off a list - but it can be described.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
F.E.A.S.T. published what I feel is the &lt;a href="http://www.feast-ed.org/TheFacts/DefiningRecovery.aspx" target="_blank"&gt;best list for parents, written by one of our Advisors, Cris Haltom&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
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But I am adding &lt;a href="http://www.eatingdisorderscleveland.org/blog/bid/80664/Client-s-Thoughts-About-Recovery" target="_blank"&gt;this list, gathered from the insights of recovered patients at CCED&lt;/a&gt;, to my personal Hall of Fame. Try to read this list of "thoughts about recovery" without choking up - I couldn't!&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4327842713715334738?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4327842713715334738/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4327842713715334738&amp;isPopup=true" title="0 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4327842713715334738?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4327842713715334738?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/FuAV0B90-u4/recovery-from-eating-disorder-its-not.html" title="Recovery from an eating disorder: it's not a number" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media="http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/" url="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-A2EW7Wzhaic/TxwJC0WW3LI/AAAAAAAAAmQ/tpDn3L5w3lo/s72-c/cced.tiff" height="72" width="72" /><thr:total>0</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/recovery-from-eating-disorder-its-not.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;A0YMRXg9fip7ImA9WhRUEUg.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-8321245835062458174</id><published>2012-01-21T09:32:00.002-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-21T10:19:44.666-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-21T10:19:44.666-05:00</app:edited><title>Maudsley approach: "cure is now completely expected"</title><content type="html">When a media piece gets it wrong about eating disorders the harm is incalculable, but when a reporter GETS IT and TELLS IT WELL lives are saved, and this article will save lives:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/family-ties-helping-teenagers-rise-above-anorexia-20120121-1qbcy.html" target="_blank"&gt;Family Ties Helping Teenagers Rise Above Anorexia&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Thank you to the young man and woman in the piece, their parents, their clinicians, The Age, the eating disorder specialists who developed Family-Based Treatment, the advocates out there spreading the word, and to Jill Stark, the reporter.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://images.theage.com.au/2012/01/21/2907208/Anorexia_729-420x0.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="137" src="http://images.theage.com.au/2012/01/21/2907208/Anorexia_729-420x0.jpg" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
Families need to hear that there really *ARE* exciting changes in the treatment of eating disorders and that if they aren't being told about these ideas they may not be getting the best care.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;"&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;At the Royal Children's Hospital, admission rates have dropped by 56 per cent since the treatment started in 2008. Of the 83 per cent who complete the six-month program, 97 per cent fully recover.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;The results have astounded the eating disorders team, who say it has ended the revolving door for patients admitted for refeeding through a nasal gastric tube, discharged for outpatient psychological therapy, only to fall ill again. Some were hospitalised 20 times a year. The average illness duration was seven years.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;div style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: 12px; font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;Now, by involving the whole family, recovery in six months to a year is common. Readmission rates have dropped by 75 per cent. More than 200 patients have been through the program - the youngest was nine.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"&gt;''Before, we were not really focused on cure because we saw that so infrequently for those who were very unwell. Cure is now completely expected,'' says Professor Susan Sawyer, director of the Royal Children’s Hospital’s Centre for Adolescent Health."&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"&gt;&lt;i&gt;P.S. Now, I know what some of you are going to say, and let me stop you. No one is saying that Maudsley "works for everyone." What we are saying is that FBT/Maudsley recovery rates are far higher than anything else we've got in the toolbox. If you find an antibiotic that helps the majority of people you don't argue about it on the basis of it not working for everyone you get to work finding the 2nd line and the 3rd and inevitably those ideas that works better than FBT &amp;nbsp;- not defending what we know doesn't work for most. If you want to argue about the effectiveness of FBT compare it to something, don't just defend the need for other alternatives; we already know that.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-8321245835062458174?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/8321245835062458174/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=8321245835062458174&amp;isPopup=true" title="5 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/8321245835062458174?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/8321245835062458174?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/G75b7nlEy7s/maudsley-approach-cure-is-now.html" title="Maudsley approach: &quot;cure is now completely expected&quot;" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>5</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/maudsley-approach-cure-is-now.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;C0UHQ309eyp7ImA9WhRVF0k.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-9194253173581215867</id><published>2012-01-16T14:13:00.002-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-16T14:13:52.363-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-16T14:13:52.363-05:00</app:edited><title>what does the term "brain disorder" do for you?</title><content type="html">I'm preparing a presentation about the term "brain disorder" as applied to eating disorders.&lt;br /&gt;
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I'm interested to hear from friends and foes and thinkers, all: what does this term mean to you? How does it feel? When you first heard this term did it upset or enlighten you? If you don't use it, why? If you do, why?&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-9194253173581215867?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/9194253173581215867/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=9194253173581215867&amp;isPopup=true" title="24 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/9194253173581215867?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/9194253173581215867?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/Ypti2zjfXdU/what-does-term-brain-disorder-do-for.html" title="what does the term &quot;brain disorder&quot; do for you?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>24</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/what-does-term-brain-disorder-do-for.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;Ck4CQ3s6eSp7ImA9WhRVF0k.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-3321431997414166145</id><published>2012-01-16T14:09:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-16T14:09:22.511-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-16T14:09:22.511-05:00</app:edited><title>cause or reveal</title><content type="html">Does weight loss cause or reveal the mental illnesses we call eating disorders?&lt;br /&gt;
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And, by way of correlary - does normalizing weight cure or mask mental illness?&lt;br /&gt;
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Or is weight change just a result of behaviors?&lt;br /&gt;
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When I think about it, the above are the questions that divide the eating disorder world and form the fault lines for the positions that divide us.&lt;br /&gt;
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Your thoughts?&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-3321431997414166145?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/3321431997414166145/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=3321431997414166145&amp;isPopup=true" title="19 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3321431997414166145?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3321431997414166145?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/UgMNR0ib5lI/cause-or-reveal.html" title="cause or reveal" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>19</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/cause-or-reveal.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;CkADSHYycCp7ImA9WhRVF0k.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-1056227102310069795</id><published>2012-01-14T18:12:00.003-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-16T14:06:19.898-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-16T14:06:19.898-05:00</app:edited><title>Accepting bad care.</title><content type="html">The downside of empowering parents to know the difference between evidence-based care and myth-based care is that when they don't have the option of good care at they know it.&lt;br /&gt;
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I see so many parents in the midst of crises and forced to make decisions because of circumstances out of their control: insurance, finances, disagreement on direction with spouses, geography, national health systems, co-morbidities that require care outside of ED specialty, parental health crises, multiple family crises, waitlists, age limits... there are more reasons NOT to be able to access the best care out there than ways to access it!&lt;br /&gt;
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But sometimes we do have to accept care that we know is misguided, futile, and just plain wrong.&amp;nbsp;There is a time to be angry about that, to point it out, and stand up to it... but unfortunately, not in the moment. We have to keep focused on the long-term goal: our loved one's life. There are times when being right isn't an asset, and fighting the urge to say so - to howl at the unfairness - is some of the bravest parenting we can do.&lt;/div&gt;
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Coming off as the meddling, over-involved, know-it-all, angry, over-reaching, pain in the ass parent of the patient is so easy: All it takes is the faint whiff of our disapproval and a few pointed questions. Being THAT parent makes things worse for our kids in too many situations.&lt;/div&gt;
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Have I done this? Yes. I've also accepted care that even at the time I knew wasn't good. I've agreed to things I knew I had to because I lacked the authority to stay no. I've worked with people that were great on 50% even though they had it wrong on the other 50. I've sat through advice that I knew we couldn't undermine. &amp;nbsp;It sucks.&lt;/div&gt;
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The time to protest that, to try to fix the system, is later. Holding out for that is worth it, and feels great.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-1056227102310069795?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/1056227102310069795/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=1056227102310069795&amp;isPopup=true" title="15 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1056227102310069795?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1056227102310069795?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/nwAIl337CK0/accepting-bad-care.html" title="Accepting bad care." /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>15</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/accepting-bad-care.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;Dk4CQHgyeCp7ImA9WhRVE0o.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4191130557790563501</id><published>2012-01-12T08:28:00.003-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-12T08:29:21.690-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-12T08:29:21.690-05:00</app:edited><title>Perfectionism: in a box</title><content type="html">I post this with some trepidation... &amp;nbsp;but at some point my desire to not encourage the myth that eating disorders are caused by media influence ends up keeping me from cheering for stuff I actually like, like this:&lt;br /&gt;
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Let me be clear: eating disorders are not an attempt to meet unrealistic media images. Eating disorders are mental illnesses that capitalize on, exploit, and use as cover the fact that advertisers always have and always will sell unattainable perfection in the service of their bottom line. The debilitating body image problems seen in many eating disorder patients is not a sign of the influence of the media any more than compulsive hand-washing is a sign of unrealistic images of cleanliness in detergent commercials.&lt;br /&gt;
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But I STILL find it important that we help ALL our children develop media literacy and I think the video above does a better job than most because it brings up the signs of aging and race - and has high production values - and uses high-quality satire that is more likely to reach people. There is a place for the scary, serious, judgy stuff (&lt;a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U" target="_blank"&gt;like the Dove Evolution video&lt;/a&gt;) but let's keep in mind that ALL this stuff is selling us products and selling us the idea that we're imperfect - even if the imperfection is our self-esteem.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4191130557790563501?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4191130557790563501/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4191130557790563501&amp;isPopup=true" title="3 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4191130557790563501?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4191130557790563501?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/uyeB5ryZwQ0/i-post-this-with-some-trepidation.html" title="Perfectionism: in a box" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media="http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/" url="http://img.youtube.com/vi/S_vVUIYOmJM/default.jpg" height="72" width="72" /><thr:total>3</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/i-post-this-with-some-trepidation.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;C0UESX84fSp7ImA9WhRVFkk.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-5238286831489913954</id><published>2012-01-09T06:32:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-15T10:26:48.135-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-15T10:26:48.135-05:00</app:edited><title>It's all about control...ling the on switch</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.scientificamerican.com/media/inline/deep-brain-stimulation-found_1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://www.scientificamerican.com/media/inline/deep-brain-stimulation-found_1.jpg" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
I rejoice for the families and communities of the patients restored to health through this new intervention's success:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=deep-brain-stimulation-found&amp;amp;WT.mc_id=SA_DD_20120104" target="_blank"&gt;Deep Brain Stimulation Found To Fix Depression Long-Term&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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The implications are staggering.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-5238286831489913954?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/5238286831489913954/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=5238286831489913954&amp;isPopup=true" title="3 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/5238286831489913954?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/5238286831489913954?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/f8vMt52LWNI/its-all-about-control.html" title="It's all about control...ling the on switch" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>3</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/its-all-about-control.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DUMFQH4-eyp7ImA9WhRVEE4.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-5938613749655078380</id><published>2012-01-08T07:48:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-08T10:43:31.053-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-08T10:43:31.053-05:00</app:edited><title>Sugarcoating?</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
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Most people think that body size is a choice. You want to be thin: eat less and exercise more.&lt;br /&gt;
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In the eating disorders world, more than anywhere else, we know that &lt;a href="http://www.aedweb.org/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Advocacy&amp;amp;Template=/CM/ContentDisplay.cfm&amp;amp;ContentID=1659" target="_blank"&gt;this is not only medically wrong it is dangerously wrong&lt;/a&gt;. Genetics and health history determine body composition, not choice, and we are neither meant to nor can we sustainably game the process. Aesthetics, media standards, charts on the wall: none of these are in charge of what an individual's biological destiny considers healthiest and most sustainable. Holding one's body at a level lower (or higher) than it uniquely needs to be is as unnatural as holding one's breath.&lt;br /&gt;
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Nowhere is this idea of weight as a moral, health, and appearance choice more dangerous than when we apply it to children. Developing bodies need regular, varied, wholesome nourishment as well as physical activity, sleep, emotional regulation, and a loving safe environment. Children also need adults and medical professionals to help children appreciate and nurture their unique bodies and genetic destinies.&lt;br /&gt;
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All of these are adult responsibilities.&lt;br /&gt;
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All of these are failed, unconscionably and cruelly, by the&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://strong4life.com/" target="_blank"&gt;Children's Healthcare of Atlanta "Stop Sugarcoating" obesity campaign.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Shaming children's bodies for their size is little different than shaming children for their their height, color, their shoe size - or their health conditions. This campaign is an assault on children, not a protection.&lt;br /&gt;
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Even if you believe that children's weight is an appropriate health target (I don't, I believe healthy behaviors are), do you really believe shame works? Do you believe it is lack of shame that is guiding behaviors? Well, I think you are wrong. I think this campaign and the current obesity hysteria that makes it possible is causing untold harm - and no clarity or healthcare improvement.&lt;br /&gt;
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This hysteria serves nothing but the diet industry and the self-congratulary and self-flagellating weight prejudice so endemic to current society.&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.change.org/petitions/childrens-healthcare-of-atlanta-end-the-stop-sugarcoating-obesity-campaign?mid=57161" target="_blank"&gt;Please join me and a growing army of people fighting back against this campaign.&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-5938613749655078380?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/5938613749655078380/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=5938613749655078380&amp;isPopup=true" title="5 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/5938613749655078380?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/5938613749655078380?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/5vTqazZtkEI/sugarcoating.html" title="Sugarcoating?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>5</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/sugarcoating.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;Ak4GQXo-fyp7ImA9WhRWF0U.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-3867853123286853023</id><published>2012-01-05T13:42:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-05T13:42:00.457-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-05T13:42:00.457-05:00</app:edited><title>Wait, did the paradigm shift and no one told me?</title><content type="html">I know this is common in activists and campaigners: we keep haranguing away even after our point is not only accepted but assumed. But, when I read articles like this I want to send it back to Laura2002 with a hug and a high-five:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.seattlewomanmagazine.com/articles/julyaug11-3.htm" target="_blank"&gt;The Starving Brain by Wenda Reed&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.seattlewomanmagazine.com/images/11JULYAUG_health.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://www.seattlewomanmagazine.com/images/11JULYAUG_health.jpg" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
I mean, even the accompanying photo thrills me. Look: it's a mirror shot but the distortion is of the person's face, not body size! It's not an empty plate! It is us looking at a young person who is not seeing herself clearly - woo-hoo!&lt;br /&gt;
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This article is filled with SCIENCE and reinforced by comments by NEDA's director emphasizing the science and the departure from the myths of the past.&lt;br /&gt;
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It includes comments by patients and their families!&lt;br /&gt;
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I am going to run out of exclamation points!!&lt;br /&gt;
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Really, thank you Wenda Reed, and Seattle Woman, and all the people quoted. This is the kind of article that offers genuine hope and grounded information for families seeking care. This is all people like me want, really.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-3867853123286853023?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/3867853123286853023/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=3867853123286853023&amp;isPopup=true" title="3 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3867853123286853023?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3867853123286853023?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/K-3LsYm27wE/wait-did-paradigm-shift-and-no-one-told.html" title="Wait, did the paradigm shift and no one told me?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>3</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/wait-did-paradigm-shift-and-no-one-told.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;CEEAQX08eip7ImA9WhRWF0o.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-3413766456484780518</id><published>2012-01-05T09:10:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-05T09:10:40.372-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-05T09:10:40.372-05:00</app:edited><title>more afraid of the chemo than the tumor?</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
&lt;a href="http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ7Y7H6Y5j-O1jC_cVHYsivK8VT5GJjCzyiCbE4I2Uva1e4NEdn" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQ7Y7H6Y5j-O1jC_cVHYsivK8VT5GJjCzyiCbE4I2Uva1e4NEdn" width="158" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
The jury's still out on how fast to re-nourish a hospitalized anorexia patient: although each hospital has its own approach there is limited evidence on how fast, how much, and how. Personally, I think our job is to stop waiting until a patient is emaciated: if outpatient re-feeding isn't working then hospitalize for ANY lost nutrition. &lt;a href="http://www.jahonline.org/article/S1054-139X(11)00344-2/fulltext" target="_blank"&gt;Still, I'm glad to see more attention to the medical issues here and some evidence being gathered&lt;/a&gt;: I have heard privately from several clinicians who do think the level of timidity of early re-feeding is based on urban legend and not facts - and in reality may be harming patients in the long-term.&lt;br /&gt;
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Most alarming, &lt;a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/03/health/research/anorexic-patients-can-be-fed-more-aggressively-study-says.html?_r=1" target="_blank"&gt;and seen in the New York Times article about a small study on avoiding re-feeding syndrome&lt;/a&gt;, is the idea that the patient's desires and distress should be part of the calculation. Yes, eating disorder patients find it traumatic and undesirable to gain weight more quickly or at all -- that's the most prominent symptom of an eating disorder! Avoiding re-feeding syndrome is a VERY important medical issue but can not be obscured by the patient's cognitions and insight.&lt;br /&gt;
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What if chemo patients were treated this way: their tumors were considered less of a danger than the chemo? Insulin shots and chemo and debriding wounds are all distressing and traumatic but our job is to comfort and support our loved ones through that and not to damage their health by avoiding appropriate medical care.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-3413766456484780518?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/3413766456484780518/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=3413766456484780518&amp;isPopup=true" title="2 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3413766456484780518?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3413766456484780518?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/QVTzko6wQuU/more-afraid-of-chemo-than-tumor.html" title="more afraid of the chemo than the tumor?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>2</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/more-afraid-of-chemo-than-tumor.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DUUHRHYzeyp7ImA9WhRWFkU.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-3921709458315055781</id><published>2012-01-04T09:27:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-04T09:27:15.883-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-04T09:27:15.883-05:00</app:edited><title>repairing brain damage: with song!</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
&lt;a href="http://media.npr.org/assets/img/2011/12/23/fontaine_emw_20111223_0161_wide.jpg?t=1324937579&amp;amp;s=4" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="179" src="http://media.npr.org/assets/img/2011/12/23/fontaine_emw_20111223_0161_wide.jpg?t=1324937579&amp;amp;s=4" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
Many people criticize the use of the term "brain disorder," but here is an example of why I find the term optimistic and not fatalistic:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2011/12/26/144152193/singing-therapy-helps-stroke-patients-speak-again" target="_blank"&gt;Singing Therapy Helps Stroke Patients Speak Again&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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The brain is plastic: interacting with the environment and changed by experience. When there is damage, or developmental problems, or an individual is born with a predisposition to a mental illness there is hope through re-building and strengthening and skills-training.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-3921709458315055781?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/3921709458315055781/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=3921709458315055781&amp;isPopup=true" title="2 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3921709458315055781?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/3921709458315055781?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/DZMOgvTZPsk/repairing-brain-damage-with-song.html" title="repairing brain damage: with song!" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>2</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/repairing-brain-damage-with-song.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DkIAQXs7eCp7ImA9WhRWFk0.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-2466103692740138852</id><published>2012-01-03T10:29:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2012-01-03T10:29:00.500-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2012-01-03T10:29:00.500-05:00</app:edited><title>Why I won't be dieting in 2012</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
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New Year's diet resolutions are as normalized as midnight champagne toasts. Sorry: I no longer stay up drinking until midnight on New Year's Eve and I sure as heck am not resolving to lose weight this year or any year.&lt;br /&gt;
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I'm a middle-aged woman with jiggles: isn't it my moral and health obligation to want to lose weight all the time? No. In fact, my New Year's Advice is, as usual, for everyone I know to STOP dieting. They won't listen to me, of course, but still.&lt;br /&gt;
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For anyone out there still listening, please read &lt;a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magazine/tara-parker-pope-fat-trap.html?_r=3&amp;amp;pagewanted=1&amp;amp;emc=eta1&amp;amp;adxnnlx=1325208517-GAWf%20QcLH5vV9vLkf138yQ" target="_blank"&gt;Why Lost Pounds Come Back&lt;/a&gt;. The piece is notable not only for the content, but for who wrote it. Parker-Pope makes some startling personal observations and I appreciate them because I've cringed and groaned at many of her comments over the years about eating and weight and eating disorders. She sounds as if she is nearly into a new paradigm -- not quite, but the tipping point is near. She has a great deal of power in her position at the Times, so when she DOES get there it will have an impact.&lt;br /&gt;
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It is brave, in our society and in the healthcare science field, to suggest that weight loss is not the Holy Grail. Many of us in the eating disorder world have accepted that already and we are familiar with the science behind this seemingly endlessly shocking idea.&lt;br /&gt;
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"Giving up" on weight loss isn't as hard as it may seem. Once I accepted that &lt;a href="http://healthateverysizeblog.wordpress.com/2011/12/13/the-haes-files-truth-in-advertising/" target="_blank"&gt;weight "loss" is really unhealthy "weight cycling"&lt;/a&gt; I was able to enjoy eating, exercise, and my amazing body a great deal more. I got healthier, and happier. Once I stopped reflexively and boringly dissing my body size it opened up an enormous warmth for other people as well. I wasn't giving up on anything, it turns out, because it was an unhealthy and and self-defeating illusion. Do I fleetingly, secretly wish I could slip into my 1980s jeans or still use that cute belt I loved as a young professional in Manhattan? Yes, I do. But would doing that for a few months be worth the health damage - mental health included - that would linger for years and probably the rest of my life? Obviously NOT. What a silly, meaningless, irrelevant goal. It's like holding your breath: not sustainable and what for, exactly?&lt;br /&gt;
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I am quite sure that in 5-10 years few people will still be drinking the Kool-Aid on weight loss -- doctors will be cautioning us against weight cycling, and at New Year's the resolutions will be to enjoy our bodies with good food, good activity, good sleep, good relationships FOR THEIR OWN SAKE. Resolving to do healthy things in pursuit of and measured by appearance is not healthy and not sustainable: and generally lasts until February 15 or so when the self-reproach season begins anew. Thank goodness New Year's Resolutions only come once a year!&lt;br /&gt;
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I finished &lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1451648537/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=eatingwithyou-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=390957&amp;amp;creativeASIN=1451648537" target="_blank"&gt;Steve Jobs' biography&lt;/a&gt; last week. CanNOT stop thinking about it: riveting for a range of reasons. &amp;nbsp;The topic also makes great conversation. My question to everyone has been:&amp;nbsp;"is it worth it?" by which I mean was Jobs' apparent mental illness worth his success and the Apple legacy?&lt;br /&gt;
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When I read (and of course I have no way to know how accurate the book is) about how this man's dysfunctional social relations, interpersonal cruelty, maniacal business management, narcissism, obsessional focus and compulsive behaviors led to his fame and fortune -- and they did, it seems -- I don't see how they are worth it. Others around me disagree: they consider his madness to have been both admirable and his own damn business. I see a tortured, ill man who wreaked havoc on others and lived uneasily in his own brilliant mind and body. My ipod and MacBook are heavier when I think about their cost.&lt;br /&gt;
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Would we take a different view if he had the same personality and attributes but was unemployed and living in his aging parents' back bedroom?&lt;br /&gt;
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I'm particularly struck by the obviousness of his eating disorder. It is mentioned frequently in the book, but as usual framed as a set of choices he was making. It is obvious to me that his eating disorder killed him, too: he was unable to comply with the necessary dietary and behavioral recommendations of his medical team treating his cancer. His wife and friends were helpless as are most families facing an eating disorder in a self-supporting adult. Driven exercise, intermittent fasting, extreme dietary restriction, and purging seemed to have been taken for granted in this man but are frightening symptoms to me.&lt;br /&gt;
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But his children have lost their father: will they some day question how a treatable mental disorder played a role in their family's fate, and consider it differently as society better understands mental illness over time?&lt;br /&gt;
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Mental illness is almost always limited to certain functions, not a global mental problem. People with extreme and life-threatening eating disorders can and often do continue to perform at high levels on thoughts and tasks unrelated to eating and the body. There are many examples of geniuses of many types who are floridly mentally ill with other disorders.&lt;br /&gt;
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Had Jobs been my father, son, or brother, I don't think I would consider his business and design legacy "worth it" for the suffering he experienced and caused. I would rather he receive treatment and recover from his eating disorder, and from co-morbid conditions (many have been proposed -- including personality disorders and Aspergers and OCD and bipolar -- but of course we can never know).&lt;br /&gt;
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I've taken this "not worth it" position in many conversations this past week, and most people have disagreed with me. Fame and wealth and our pleasant kludge-free electronics seem their own reward. Finally, yesterday a friend of my daughter's said I did have a point: "He wasn't Churchill" he said. "He invented the iPad."&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-7166859160836526250?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/7166859160836526250/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=7166859160836526250&amp;isPopup=true" title="4 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/7166859160836526250?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/7166859160836526250?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/Rbzf33VP9i0/id-give-up-my-mac.html" title="I'd give up my Mac" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>4</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2012/01/id-give-up-my-mac.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;CEcAQXk9eCp7ImA9WhRWEEk.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-6217877160026001747</id><published>2011-12-27T22:14:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-27T22:14:00.760-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-27T22:14:00.760-05:00</app:edited><title>rare expertise</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
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Family-based Maudsley treatment is still difficult to find, and even with the best of clinical support still a challenge. Smart parents actively seek out information, ideas, and inspiration on how to meet that challenge.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
One good resource is the &lt;a href="http://maudsleyparents.org/askanexpert.html" target="_blank"&gt;Maudsley Parents "Ask The Expert" page&lt;/a&gt;, where you may just find the answer to the very question YOU have been wondering!&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-6217877160026001747?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/6217877160026001747/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=6217877160026001747&amp;isPopup=true" title="0 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6217877160026001747?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6217877160026001747?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/PvfNstCLKUs/rare-expertise.html" title="rare expertise" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>0</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/rare-expertise.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;D0QMQnY5fyp7ImA9WhRXGUg.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-2802658445769523928</id><published>2011-12-26T22:09:00.002-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-26T22:09:43.827-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-26T22:09:43.827-05:00</app:edited><title>boys with anorexia</title><content type="html">A journalist for a major TV news show in the US is looking for parents of male anorexia patients. I have been interviewed and the producer is familiar with the issues, science, and family concerns about media.&lt;br /&gt;
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If you are the parent of a male patient with anorexia and willing to talk with the producer by phone for an interview, please email me at laura@feast-ed.org as soon as possible.&lt;br /&gt;
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Being interviewed isn't for everyone and parents MUST think carefully before doing so, but we also don't make progress in how eating disorders are portrayed BY the media if they aren't exposed to families who are thoughtful and well-informed.&lt;br /&gt;
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Assuming you are a fan of evolution -- and not all are -- why would humans have such a complex and multi-faceted relationship with feeding ourselves if not for survival of one's genes through famine? If finding food was as simple as reaching up and having it, grazing through a field of adequate nourishment, our hunger drives would be pretty simple. Yet we have terribly complex and multifaceted systems to help us seek, choose, refuse, and feel sated by food. Only one system has to go down to make the others go awry as well.&lt;br /&gt;
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Intermittent famine is the threat that humans have faced and survived most often, and we are well-adapted to it.&amp;nbsp;We're not all that adapted to turning down food, and I have no doubt any more that the turning down of food opportunities is doing serious harm:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;ul&gt;&lt;a href="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/9/93/Famine_memorial_dublin.jpg/275px-Famine_memorial_dublin.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="149" src="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/9/93/Famine_memorial_dublin.jpg/275px-Famine_memorial_dublin.jpg" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;
&lt;li&gt;It sets up moral and anxiety-based relationships with foodstuffs: we have &lt;i&gt;good&lt;/i&gt; foods and &lt;i&gt;bad&lt;/i&gt; foods to choose from, and our morality and intellect are judged by those choices.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;It creates "dieting," an artificial and unhealthy intermittent famine. This self-imposed famine condition sets &amp;nbsp;us up for internal forces built to fight a lack of food: compulsive food-seeking, a melting of social connections, a messianic value to restriction.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;For some it breaks the development of normal social eating and intuitive feeding behaviors.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Others suffer by setting off a genetic cascade of thoughts and behaviors that make normal eating nearly impossible.... something we now call an eating disorder.&lt;/li&gt;
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For those interested in this idea, &lt;a href="http://www.shanguisinger.org/?p=7" target="_blank"&gt;look into Shan Guisinger's Adapted to Flee Famine hypothesis&lt;/a&gt;. Worth a read.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-6343384467210232641?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/6343384467210232641/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=6343384467210232641&amp;isPopup=true" title="2 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6343384467210232641?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6343384467210232641?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/Bnt8YrBldYc/famine-its-bad-thing.html" title="famine: it's a bad thing" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>2</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/famine-its-bad-thing.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;AkMAQ3kyeCp7ImA9WhRXGEw.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4937550537407249485</id><published>2011-12-25T07:51:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-25T08:07:22.790-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-25T08:07:22.790-05:00</app:edited><title>room at the table</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
&lt;a href="http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcT0acLMDuluOv1Vc5YzUSYUPkbiVFl_UTiVzJ3CEbd624mA1HDBcO_RZhGn" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" src="http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcT0acLMDuluOv1Vc5YzUSYUPkbiVFl_UTiVzJ3CEbd624mA1HDBcO_RZhGn" /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
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&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 19px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/parents/2011/12/making-room-at-the-table-for-grief.html" target="_blank"&gt;"To consciously make room at your table for those who are grieving&amp;nbsp;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 19px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/parents/2011/12/making-room-at-the-table-for-grief.html" target="_blank"&gt;(which by extension includes the one they have lost)&amp;nbsp;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 19px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/parents/2011/12/making-room-at-the-table-for-grief.html" target="_blank"&gt;is a gift that will mean more than you may&amp;nbsp;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large; line-height: 19px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/parents/2011/12/making-room-at-the-table-for-grief.html" target="_blank"&gt;ever know."&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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Doris Smeltzer, Andrea's mother, author of &lt;a href="http://www.bulimia.com/productdetails.cfm?SKU=ANV" target="_blank"&gt;Andrea's Voice&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4937550537407249485?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4937550537407249485/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4937550537407249485&amp;isPopup=true" title="1 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4937550537407249485?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4937550537407249485?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/fGF-pY1OfS0/room-at-table.html" title="room at the table" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>1</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/room-at-table.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DkEAQX8_eSp7ImA9WhRXFks.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-270941678275157062</id><published>2011-12-23T13:24:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-23T13:24:00.141-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-23T13:24:00.141-05:00</app:edited><title>Too many "worst case" scenarios</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
&lt;a href="http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSFwspn8sN7ngTdfn8ospC70P5-qGQnb0fzRvTBM1inioasL7oz" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="150" src="http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSFwspn8sN7ngTdfn8ospC70P5-qGQnb0fzRvTBM1inioasL7oz" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;
It is easy to read an article like this,&amp;nbsp;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px;"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2074086/Kate-Chilver-dies-16-year-anorexia-battle-worst-case-doctors-seen.html?ito=feeds-newsxml" target="_blank"&gt;Woman dies after 16-year anorexia battle in 'worst case' that doctors had ever seen&amp;nbsp;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&amp;nbsp;and call it a severe case of anorexia. Really, I don't know, from her death or her weight history, how bad her anorexia was.&amp;nbsp;I only know how very strong this young woman's physical constitution was to survive semi-starvation for so long.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Anorexia doesn't have to cause severe weight loss to kill, and it causes severe disability at perfectly "normal" weight ranges. Eating disorders cannot be measured by weight or appearance: they are mental disorders.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
The weight loss isn't the anorexia's fault, in my opinion, it is OURS. Ours for seeing the weight loss as a sign of severity of illness - and the only sign. Ours for having a mental health system that only hospitalizes during crises. Ours for letting patients be in charge of seeking care, following through on care, and knowing when to raise the treatment level. This could have happened anywhere, and it does, every day.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Side note: what is the statistical probability that I've known so many families who report being told that their loved one was the "worst case" the clinician had seen? I hear it pretty regularly - and it scares me. Strikes me that more providers should be referring to professionals who HAVE seen enough serious cases.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-270941678275157062?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/270941678275157062/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=270941678275157062&amp;isPopup=true" title="6 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/270941678275157062?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/270941678275157062?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/w-hiF10BOtk/too-many-worst-case-scenarios.html" title="Too many &quot;worst case&quot; scenarios" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>6</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/too-many-worst-case-scenarios.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;DEICQX86fCp7ImA9WhRXFUo.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-1212042634582051765</id><published>2011-12-22T12:56:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-22T12:56:00.114-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-22T12:56:00.114-05:00</app:edited><title>Hope without help is not merry</title><content type="html">&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"&gt;
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Hope is good; empty hope is dangerous.&amp;nbsp;I'm a little tired of messages of empty, airless hope.&lt;br /&gt;
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Hope, to me, isn't just an attitude of optimism and belief in full recovery -- though those are essential for parents and clinicians to hold and keep. &lt;b&gt;Hope is active. Hope is action. Hope is confident, assertive, and courageous.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Hope is also, at times, painful. Painful to hold for a patient who is in pain and has to experience distress and discomfort in order to recover. Painful to keep sight of when the patient feels undeserving and angry and rejecting our hope -- even finding it insulting. Painful to hang on to when those around us think it would be better for us to "let go" or "leave it to others."&lt;br /&gt;
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Hope is different for loved ones than it is for patients. Patients don't have to have hope -- that is OUR job until we can. We should not require it, be disappointed in our loved one for not having it, and not wait or change our actions because we're waiting for it.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Hope, when offered as the only thing we can do, can be a cruel thing to ask of a parent. To hope we need more than platitudes and positivity: we need a plan. The plan may be to do something, learn something, call someone, stop doing something, do more of something -- or even to consciously and mindfully do nothing -- but &lt;b&gt;it still needs to be a plan, not a capitulation&lt;/b&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://balloonwishes.com/images/Balloons%20in%20sky.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://balloonwishes.com/images/Balloons%20in%20sky.jpg" width="200" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
Much of what parents are told to have is empty hope, and I'm weary of it. It can be one more way to say "back off" or to criticize us for what we have not done or want to do. It can be a way to tell us to stop feeling angry, or showing our distress, or asking uncomfortable questions. My job as parent is to hope, absolutely. But not just to hope, and not to hope into the ether. My hope is part of a plan that includes my action as well.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
For a little bit of hope with a plan for the BIG picture:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.facebook.com/notes/hope-network-inc/aed-and-hope-network-1-family-1-drive-for-eating-disorders-research/10150608140238942" target="_blank"&gt;AED and Hope Network 1 Family $1 Drive for Eating Disorders Research&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h2&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-1212042634582051765?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/1212042634582051765/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=1212042634582051765&amp;isPopup=true" title="1 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1212042634582051765?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1212042634582051765?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/Nhl7tL86O9c/hope-without-help-is-not-merry.html" title="Hope without help is not merry" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media="http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/" url="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ISGwLbEZCJg/TXHun5EjKqI/AAAAAAAAB4s/N7UUXIysJuM/s72-c/12547deflated_balloon.jpg" height="72" width="72" /><thr:total>1</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/hope-without-help-is-not-merry.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;C0AGQXc8fSp7ImA9WhRXFE0.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4333925932538036997</id><published>2011-12-20T12:22:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-20T12:22:00.975-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-20T12:22:00.975-05:00</app:edited><title>Tell me again why we use the term "over" weight?</title><content type="html">Aside from other sins of the BMI index, the weight of the words we use to classify BMI are absurd:&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.obesitymyths.com/images/charts/nationalbmidistribution.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://www.obesitymyths.com/images/charts/nationalbmidistribution.gif" width="127" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
"underweight"&lt;br /&gt;
"normal"&lt;br /&gt;
"overweight"&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
"Under" means shouldn't be this weight, so does "over." "Normal" implies everyone should be in this range. All this is ridiculous. BMI was never meant to assess individuals, anyway, it's a population measure.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
But making quantitative and value-laden classifications that indicates someone ought not be in that grouping is bad science&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
First of all, weight is influenced by many factors -- mostly genetics -- and isn't something one can decide to simply change.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Think of it this way: let's measure everyone's lung capacity and graph it up. There'd be people with readings all over the range, and some on the far edge are very unwell. But others with low capacity may be quite well, and may indeed be doing as well as they possibly could be considering their genetics and medical history. Those people "should" not be considered "under-breathed.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/590652" target="_blank"&gt;There are many,&lt;/a&gt; &amp;nbsp;but here's yet another reason to look with derision on the "overweight" wording:&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/238043.php" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"&gt;Under Or Normal Weight Linked To Raised Risk Of Death Following Surgery&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4333925932538036997?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4333925932538036997/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4333925932538036997&amp;isPopup=true" title="4 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4333925932538036997?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4333925932538036997?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/Y3CNC_CDdv0/tell-me-again-why-we-use-term-over.html" title="Tell me again why we use the term &quot;over&quot; weight?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>4</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/tell-me-again-why-we-use-term-over.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;A0EESH86fip7ImA9WhRXEkQ.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-6209932781294202616</id><published>2011-12-19T08:00:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-19T08:00:09.116-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-19T08:00:09.116-05:00</app:edited><title>Do you believe in Pandas?</title><content type="html">&lt;a href="http://wichitagalleryxii.com/wp-content/gallery/chiaw-weai-artwork/home-sick-panda11wx12h.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="200" src="http://wichitagalleryxii.com/wp-content/gallery/chiaw-weai-artwork/home-sick-panda11wx12h.jpg" width="181" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;Anyone interested in eating disorders needs to know about Pandas. Your treatment providers should know about this enigmatically named syndrome.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://online.wsj.com/article_email/SB10001424052970203518404577094604010074464-lMyQjAxMTAxMDEwMzExNDMyWj.html" target="_blank"&gt;Does Strep Throat Trigger Serious Issues?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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You may still not believe it applies to eating disorders -- many don't -- and may conclude that it doesn't apply to your child. But still, I think all parents should be told.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-6209932781294202616?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/6209932781294202616/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=6209932781294202616&amp;isPopup=true" title="3 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6209932781294202616?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/6209932781294202616?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/aEah55XTFPY/do-you-believe-in-pandas.html" title="Do you believe in Pandas?" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>3</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/do-you-believe-in-pandas.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;C0UMQHoyeyp7ImA9WhRXEkk.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-4978953556445665338</id><published>2011-12-18T15:48:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-18T15:48:01.493-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-18T15:48:01.493-05:00</app:edited><title>Why Hollywood shouldn't tell the story: Scary Movie X</title><content type="html">Parents like optimism. We like believing in our kids, in bright futures - we're built for it.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.wendyswizardofoz.com/credits/end1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"&gt;&lt;img border="0" height="213" src="http://www.wendyswizardofoz.com/credits/end1.jpg" width="320" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;But, beware thinking of recovery like a victory narrative. Eating disorder recovery isn't a battle you win and then credits roll.&amp;nbsp;&lt;b&gt;Successful treatment doesn't mean you're done&lt;/b&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
This expectation we have that we will drag our child bodily out of their hell and get them cleaned up and healthy and then sit back to watch them go through life without looking back is the wrong script. The real story is that successful treatment is the beginning of leading a life that is consciously free of dieting, disordered eating habits, using the body as a self-improvement project, and seeing exercise as a payment for eating and a stress-relief drug.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Successful treatment is followed by relapse prevention: regular medical and psychiatric check-ups, strong emotional regulation skills, connection with friends and family, participation in society, useful work, and a &amp;nbsp;good relationship with food and activity. The opposite of mental illness is robust mental HEALTH.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Sucessfully saving our children from a life of mental illness isn't a destination or a point in time it is a lifestyle. There are no credits, either - nor credit.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Most parents have this point at which they want to celebrate and "move on." Do celebrate (in private), and do move forward, but don't turn your back on ED or think he's like an enemy you've killed. The Hollywood ending you should be thinking of is the horror movie where in the last frame you see the hero doesn't see the monster is still breathing -- and you know there's a sequel in the making.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-4978953556445665338?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/4978953556445665338/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=4978953556445665338&amp;isPopup=true" title="4 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4978953556445665338?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/4978953556445665338?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/vXZkr6yLrV0/why-hollywood-shouldnt-tell-story-scary.html" title="Why Hollywood shouldn't tell the story: Scary Movie X" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>4</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/why-hollywood-shouldnt-tell-story-scary.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;AkAAQHs9cSp7ImA9WhRQGUg.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-1497832209722799496</id><published>2011-12-15T08:25:00.001-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-15T09:19:01.569-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-15T09:19:01.569-05:00</app:edited><title>Do parents affect mental health? Of course</title><content type="html">If you don't know me, I can understand that without that background my posts may seem "needlessly angry" or that I am on a "high horse."&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I have blogged on this topic before:&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2007/10/yes-some-parents-suck.html" target="_blank"&gt;Yes, some parents suck&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2008/10/my-personal-experiences-diminished-and.html" target="_blank"&gt;"my personal experiences diminished and trivialized"&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
...and many other times to say very clearly and without reservation that&lt;b&gt;&amp;nbsp;parents very, very, very (save a few of these for later because if you read my blog you'll need them) much affect the mental health of our children&lt;/b&gt;. If we neglect or abuse our children we cause enormous and often irreparable harm. Sometimes we do things that are not overtly damaging but do cause harm anyway -- in ways we may never know.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
But a person with an eating disorder isn't JUST an eating disorder, and an eating disorder isn't the sum total of that person's mental health.&amp;nbsp;I'm not arguing that parents don't cause harm or make it more likely that an eating disorder be triggered or that we don't sometimes exacerbate and perpetuate the illness once in place.&amp;nbsp;ALL I'm saying is that an eating disorder is not a sign that the patient has been neglected, abused, mistreated, bullied, teased, pressured, or influenced. All an eating disorder diagnosis tells us is just that. No matter how serious the symptoms, how severe the behaviors and the thoughts, this tells you nothing about the family or the life experience of the patient.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
This is important because unless we separate the issues we risk harming the patient more:&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
If there is NO environmental problem then we cannot afford to put energy into that angle - the patient needs a confident, calm, loving family and treatment team even in the best of circumstances to save this person's life and future. This is most families.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
If there ARE problems in the patient's history or present then those must be addressed FOR THEIR OWN SAKE and not based on the eating disorder. By linking the two we actually risk making the patient use the eating disorder behaviors as a distress signal -- and a default. An eating disorder only makes one's overall mental health worse.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Believe it or not, I'm not DOWNPLAYING parenting, I'm EMPHASIZING it. We parents need to step up and do some of the hardest, scariest, most personally challenging parenting we've ever had to do - and most parents never need to do - &amp;nbsp;if our child has an eating disorder.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Let's not give abuse or poor parenting a pass, and lets stop putting all parents under that suspicion.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-1497832209722799496?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/1497832209722799496/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=1497832209722799496&amp;isPopup=true" title="4 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1497832209722799496?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/1497832209722799496?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/XcjnPAgFAbE/do-parents-affect-mental-health-of.html" title="Do parents affect mental health? Of course" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>4</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/do-parents-affect-mental-health-of.html</feedburner:origLink></entry><entry gd:etag="W/&quot;A0YEQXg9cSp7ImA9WhRQGEQ.&quot;"><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4764661534986087239.post-7375763457154805118</id><published>2011-12-14T16:45:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2011-12-14T16:45:00.669-05:00</updated><app:edited xmlns:app="http://www.w3.org/2007/app">2011-12-14T16:45:00.669-05:00</app:edited><title>The Thin Ideal and Anorexia Nervosa: It’s Not What You Think</title><content type="html">&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #232323; font-family: Georgia, Arial; font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
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&lt;a href="http://www.blog.drsarahravin.com/eating-disorders/the-thin-ideal-and-anorexia-nervosa-its-not-what-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3498" target="_blank"&gt;The Thin Ideal and Anorexia Nervosa: It’s Not What You Think&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;
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Thank you, Dr. Ravin, for a brilliant challenge to the usual thinking!!&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/4764661534986087239-7375763457154805118?l=www.laurassoapbox.net' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel="replies" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.laurassoapbox.net/feeds/7375763457154805118/comments/default" title="Post Comments" /><link rel="replies" type="text/html" href="http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4764661534986087239&amp;postID=7375763457154805118&amp;isPopup=true" title="1 Comments" /><link rel="edit" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/7375763457154805118?v=2" /><link rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" href="http://www.blogger.com/feeds/4764661534986087239/posts/default/7375763457154805118?v=2" /><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/AreYouEatingWithYourAnorexic/~3/hNYG3nnpvxc/thin-ideal-and-anorexia-nervosa-its-not.html" title="The Thin Ideal and Anorexia Nervosa: It’s Not What You Think" /><author><name>Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel="http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail" width="25" height="32" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TFrCRIk86xk/Ti1-ZFE5GAI/AAAAAAAAAh8/-J46gE9L9EM/s220/Little%2BLaurae%2Bas%2BAudrey%2BHepburn.jpg" /></author><thr:total>1</thr:total><feedburner:origLink>http://www.laurassoapbox.net/2011/12/thin-ideal-and-anorexia-nervosa-its-not.html</feedburner:origLink></entry></feed>

