Art of Male

Divine Right!! Guide to getting what you want

2012-01-15T21:35:00.001-08:00

Needing to have physical things throughout our day we tend forget on what is really what we are all here for and that is better our lives through creating the “divine right”. What is Divine right you ask? It is something I would to call creating a god like structure through respecting your mind, body and spirit. I don’t believe we can ever be perfect but think about the leaders of our world work. They are motivated by creating something that is there own as like God. They do this so meticulous, creative but they concentrate on everything that is what they create. I believe God is not a man in the sky looking after us but a higher power that motivates our body to be better everyday. A higher power that gives you tools to become better than yourself. When they say to accept Jesus in your heart, I think they got it wrong. I think Jesus was trying to explain to accept his teachings and him so you can live the lifestyle for an overall better positive life. The bible is a guide in which if we adopt the lifestyle it is to help us become a better person overall.

Now I don’t mean if you are not religious this is not for you. This concept is nothing new but it is something I am trying to adopt in my everyday routine. To do things with passion and strive to be self disciplined in my endeavors and to do things meticulously so it is done right. To be successful is to succeed at your failures, don’t give up on the things you do if they are hard. Push through the pain and it will be so much better than giving up early. If you do fail do it with pride knowing you did try your best, you will be a winner.

Divine right is a god like structured life that you try to live by. To know that you are positive and do things to the best of your ability while concentrating, that is divine right!!

Motivation…

2012-01-08T19:15:00.001-08:00

So how do you become successful? The word is a very strong word when you look at it. SUCCESS! Think about for a couple of seconds and think about what it takes to be successful and what you deem success. Money, cars or is it career, personal feats, and relationships. It took me two and a half years to figure out what I wanted, what I needed to be happy. It wasn’t girls, money and assets; it was being happy at my goals and attaining what I wanted in my life. I read through my past posts and I think that I have grown from the first part of my impatient theories and lectures on becoming this ultimate male. The reason why is because I was still waking up every morning unhappy even though I had a great night or going to work where I don’t feel adequate enough or happy to be there. So it is time to create goals and happiness in my life. I choose to be happy, I choose to win. No one else can give me the go ahead; no one else can tell me it’s my time. The only one that can tell me is me and that is all I need to motivate myself. All I need is to have the positive outlook on my goals. What I need is me and to get up when life hits me and keeps beating me down, I will get back up and I will prevail, I will get up every morning and be as productive as I can be and to show my son that you have to work hard to get what you want. Looking for instant gratification is what we all look for when it comes to a dream, but how do you define Success. My definition is standing after every one else has fled, to lead when all others have already quit, to fight when others are knocked out. I will continue to breath and conquer when others have loss sight of the finish line. To continue to fight even though I was already knocked out, to show I am not weak but strong. It’s my time; it’s my time to show everyone they were wrong that they told lies about what I could have done in this life. I will show that I can succeed, I can do this. I am not saying that I will not fail and not fall, but what I am saying is I will get back up and continue to push to shove to drag to crawl to bleed. I will continue to get up and get up until I die, until my last breath and drop of blood has exploded out of me!!

Getting HOT SEXY women with Personal Value!!

2011-10-18T19:38:00.000-07:00

As I walked into the bar with my buds, I looked around to see who is staring back at me. I looked around feeling so confident because I just got a new haircut, whitened my teeth and now down to 10% body fat. I start to walk through the bar and already a girl start to pull on my shirt asking me what my name was. Through the whole night I continue to get the response from many women throughout the night as I start to develop a self esteem that is unparalleled that I had before. Thinking about it, reading documents on how any man can seduce a woman I look at the article and disagree. Even though the techniques would work on some women, I think the women that put hours upon hours in the gym and pay a butt load of money to do their hair want a man that put the same importance in themselves as their partners.

I like the way I feel when I workout and I like the attention that the opposite sex gives me when I am out and about. I will refer back to social value and the confident level that you can create when of course you take care of yourself physically. It also will create a mental atmosphere where you can maneuver and start to be apart of the social scene. Like I said time and time again you don’t have to be in great shape but to tell you the truth if you want a hot, sexy women that you know goes to the gym you may need to hit the weights and lose weight. Just like a car you need to take care of it so it looks nice and new right? Same concept, a women will not want an overweight man that has lost teeth and hair because they don’t take care of themselves, you must understand that physicality is apart of the relationship too. So that said she is going want the value of a man to be at her level or above.

Now there is many questions you have on how to change yourself, and it took me about 2 years to realize this. I have been in the shadows of my friends for awhile and I just thought it was the way life is but didn’t accept that. I started to do research and found that you must adopt a new lifestyle, a new pattern of thinking if you wanted to change your life. I was a passive aggressive and now I am assertive, I was overweight and out of shape and now I run ten miles every other day. It’s a thought process and how to develop the thought of changing your new life, don’t accept it, change now for a better healthier you!!

Do what you love!

2011-10-16T20:21:00.001-07:00

So now that I have recently let my stress go and Just started to do the things Ive always wanted to try. Climbing mountains, getting ripped and training for a marathon I noticed that I started to develop a personality that was my own. As I continue to write down the goals that I want to accomplish I understand why we have men who are considered these alpha males. They own their own lives and I see this in there eyes and when I started to go out for the first time I saw the response that others had when in company with these men.

I had to know how and why these people are so dang entertaining/ attractive/mysterious. As I start to do some research there is a lot of the same answers between different people and styles. I can guarantee right now I fill the same way and it fills amazing. I am not rich and I am not tall But I am fit and I own my own life. That was one thing I was missing, whenever I would talk to someone I would hesitate when I told them I am going through a divorce and have a kid because I thought they would think differently of me.

Own your life because it is who you are!! The difference between you and that alpha male is that they own their lives. They tell you the good and bad of their lives but know that they have learned from their experiences. So to get out and do things and to create your own personality you need to try to do things you’ve always wanted to do!

Make better choices!! for a better life

2011-09-05T15:24:00.001-07:00

As I look out at the vast mountain range of the “Keyhole” with the 50 MPH wind hitting my face like a sand blaster, my stomach drops. Looking down, I see a rocky ridge 2000 feet down with a straight drop and to the left was the path up the massive mountain which I was almost there. I stepped back for a moment looked at the people I was with and saw that they were not going to do it. I started back down the boulder field and thought to myself I was almost there what am I scared of? The drop? The wind? Yeah I was scared but we are always scared of everything and this separates us from the ones who “can” and the “cants”. I start to tighten up my backpack and tie my shoes “Hey, I am going to do it!” my friends turn around and look at me like I was crazy. I told them it may take me some time but I will be back! I start to ascend back to the entrance of the backside of the mountain, the wind blowing in my face my stomach again starts to drop again as I climb over the giant boulders.

As I start to ascend to the side of the mountain I thought that this is crazy and saw others thinking the same way. As I start to climb the trough of the mountain I was testing myself because I have never finished anything in my life. I was 13,000 feet climbing one of the hardest mountains in Colorado for beginners and I was at this moment determined. Once I got to the top of trough I look over and there was about another 1000 feet to the summit but between me and that was a narrow corridor where I will be exposed to a 2000 foot drop but my determination was in overdrive so I start to climb once again. At the end of the suspension I had just 50 feet to ascend to the top as I dig in I felt like I was running up the mountain, I made it. The moment of achievement was upon me as the other people on the top were in awe of the surrounding mountains. I look across the vast mountain range and I felt invisible like I could do anything!

So this story was one of the many I can recall that I have accomplished in my journey through my adult life. As a kid I always started something and never finished it and now as an adult I understood why I made the certain choices that were “convenient” to me because it only took minimal strength from me. Now as I stood on that mountain I knew that life takes endurance mentally and physically just as the journey up the side of one of the tallest mountains in Colorado. You are probably asking what this means and why I am sharing this?

So life throws fear at us every day and it is the choices we make that makes us who we are and what trail you take. If you embellish the fear and allow it to take over you will soon realize that the choice was not what you wanted but the one that was “easy”. There are things we need to realize is that we second guess ourselves everyday but there are a few things to ask yourself and to think about before you make the hard choices.

Think about the long run- Remember the easy choice at the time most of the time is not for the best interest in the end. Weigh out the options before fully committing.
It may be hard now but it will reward you in the end- This is what I say to myself when I am making harder decisions, in some cases the easier decision is the best but don’t fool yourself.
Think logical- in most cases the emotions get in the way of making decisions. Take the emotions out of it and a good way to that is to just “Breath”

So with making decisions always take in your life and no one else unless you do have people who physically depend on. You can only make your self happy no one else can teach this and if you can finally make self control work for you then you can show others how great you really are!

Embrace being Single!

2011-07-11T19:36:00.001-07:00

As the anxiety rises through my head wondering what I did to make her run, I sit back and analyze everything. The feeling of emotions of inadequacy roles over me as I descend to pits of depression. Trying to feel happy but cant put the smile on my face. The feeling of being alone is an upmost horrible feeling at first but as I stare at the phone and realize she is not going to send a text back to a witty thing I said. I am single and a master of my own domain, no one to tell me what to do or say. I realize that I may not be ready for a relationship but trying to rush into one because I am afraid of being alone. I have always done that jumping from one to another thinking it was a good idea. Figured out that it was always a bad idea because I haven’t experienced being alone truly and I think that is why it scares me.

The thought of the unknown is a scary thought and I wasn’t wanting to feel this way. Everything was good until we did the deed and then it changes the emotions between us both, the scary thought of finding someone was also a happy thought that I could not erase I knew I started to rush into quickly. I tend to do that a lot and then see the fleeing of women that I have seen all to much. Ive always been a relationship type of guy but have not embellished the single life. I think it is time to start understanding that I can be happy with myself and be alone.

First things first, I need to reinvent my values as a person. There is a reason why I have failed relationships and that is because I myself has no core values, I use their values to create my own perception therefore I am reliant own the relationship to define my thoughts and feelings. How I am going to do that is to create the perception that I am in control in what I want and what I do. Self control shows many people who they really are in life and creation of life as they know it. I tend to fall in the category where I will follow everyone else’s vision in what I am supposed to be. I am my own person and that speaks a lot for many people who don’t know who they are and what they are capable of. Creating self control not only will help me develop values but create a confidence that is long lasting in being a person who can get about anything they want in life. I must commit to the new me and say goodbye the irresponsible me, I must push forward in life to a degree of irreversible threat. I need this as if it is my sanction my undeniable right as an individual. I must finally decided to accomplish my goals and create a feeling of self worth so the women that I want will want what I share as a value. Its time to do it!!

Love Yourself

2011-06-13T14:14:00.001-07:00

As I stare waitingly into the cold black screen, I have anxiety on the unexplained. The call or even text that I have waited for sometime just will not come. Having the urge to make the attempt to call I back up for a minute and excuse myself. “I shouldn’t be feeling this way, I should be out and about but I am not”. Sitting in my bedroom just pondering and wanting it to give me some sound that I have been yourning for. With all of the people and women that I have met why is this one bothering me? Why cant I just let go and just move on somehow?

Wondering for several days I walked down the street remembering of the homework assignment I had to complete in English, I started to stress about that as well. The assignment was to write about a travelling experience I had that taught me a lesson and to write as a narrative. I started out as talking about the whole thing of me in Lake Powell and doing all of the crazy things that we did. One thing that stuck in my mind was the “cliff Jump” this was one of my most memorable moments in my life that I could remember. As I start to write about it I realized that was the only time I was single and happy to not have to worry about what another person is doing.

As I continue to ponder the reasoning and writing the story my dialogue comes to life as if the words was trying to say something to me. I stop and thought real hard on why I feel that I always have to have a female around me. “I don’t know my limits, I don’t even know how to do anything”. The thought processes through my head like a nail gun putting together the foundation of a wall. I need to start fulfilling my life with other things than the attention of the opposite sex. I cant operate without knowing of a women that cares or at least is thinking of me. So how do I start? What am I going to do to rid myself of the all to commonality of most men and why we fail with relationships.

The all to common “jumping from one to the other” and why we associate this to being happy. I am going to work with this one as somewhat of a starter because I myself has fallen victim to a lot of the term usage of my own life and why I do this. I have always been in a relationship and enjoyed them but for one I time in my life I have not truly enjoyed myself in being single. So here is a few things I am going to point at when trying this new thing:

Make a list “Bucket List”- Try new things or reinvent old things but make a list in the stuff you have always wanted to try and do it alone. You don’t need friends for this one try to do this one and you should be trying to make new friends.
Get fit- Now I am always saying this because I enjoy being healthy but try to enjoy wherever you are.
Help your community- Try to sign up to help fix the local community or even feed the homeless. Be proactive in giving back to your community.
Reconnect with family/friends- this is a big one that I had an issue with because with my relationships I was close guarded so I cared nothing with the other relationships in my life. Basically just leaving them to the waste side.
Go on vacation with yourself- I am going to go to New York this summer and I believe I am going to go there by myself to let some steam off.

There is a lot of other things you can do but start to live life as if you are the one driving. Too many people fall victim to the innate nature of a relationship and they find themselves in an emotional rollercoaster. If you yourself do not know what you like how is the other person in your life going to know!!

Summer!! Customize it !!

2011-05-30T17:00:00.001-07:00

Wanting more from life and wondering what you can do to achieve it? Wondering the same myself as I was out on another weekend with my buddies trying to understand why I do this every weekend. Contemplating this in the back of my mind I knew why and it was because my friends do it. Drinking until I get totally obliterated and not being able to remember the night is something I don’t think I want to continue doing. Trying to re-piece the night I sounded like I had a great time but why put my body through this, no more I say because it is not worth it. I cant stress the importance of how drinking can inhibit everything about your life as I have had to deal with it for a little bit but finally realized the importance of being a healthy individual. I now have the power to take back my life and make the proper decisions to have an amazing summer!!

We all dream about doing something more with our life and being able to do something different but when it comes to the decision we don’t do it. Self sabotage is what I have been preaching and that is what we all do but lets think about a healthier summer:

Get Fit- Now this is hard but once you jump in its no holds barred. Having summer here gives me a sense of wanting to get out and do something active and also being in Colorado helps. Get out and do some running, hiking or mountain biking as well. Not only will this of course help your health but better with the opposite sex as well.
Try something new- So what I have noticed is that people tend to be in habit. What you may want to try is to get fit but try a new way of doing it. I will start bouldering on Tuesday and extremely excited because it is something new and I am not wasting away at a patio drinking empty calories. Try to find something physically to do while it being also fun.
New style- get rid of the 3 year old shorts and reward yourself with newer and of this decade style.
Eat healthy and fresh- Summer always reminds me of fresh squeezed lemonade and grilling. Try to get a juicer and some fish, eating healthier also helps so many other things such as your mood. Fish is an amazing food because its protein to fat is outstanding and very lean for you but also the omega vitamins will help that burn you get turn into a tan senor!!
Relax- Stop stressing, this leads to irrational decisions when it comes to your personal life as well. Feeling stressed can leave you tired and fatigued so when you had plans you wanted to do you may feel weary to do them.

I am thinking that maybe also trying to do some of these with the opposite sex. Try these things for this summer and even plan a trip other than party cities like places you really want to go!!

Positive Awareness!!

2011-05-22T21:18:00.000-07:00

As I stand in the outskirts of the bar looking around I notice the cliques and people that are enjoying each other. As I look around I see beautiful women all over the place and the glances that they are giving me. I start to have a giant smile having loads of confidence I tend to relax a tad in my plaid shorts as I feel at ease with all of the surroundings. Even if the girls were not staring at me directly or just glancing for their attention I still felt as if the energy that I felt created a positive awareness!! This was giving me a natural high as I have not felt this in awhile; can we use this for our own advantage to have the confidence? That night I felt as if I was ten feet in the air even though I was only a tiny 5’ 7”.

So this is something I use in generality to create a positive outlook on myself. I believe that women in general use glances to create a self persona on what they think people think of them. I also use this towards my advantage because it creates awareness that I am good enough for the opposite sex. I don’t think, I know that I could be in basic knowledge that the women here I can have but just don’t have the balls to talk to them. I warm up by allowing the energy of sensuality envolope me as if I was reaping natural energy from a known source. It’s all in the head; you create a fear of the outcomes of what you do and the scenarios that can develop from it. One thing I know is the answer is no if you don't ask, taking chances is all you have.

Creating a positive awareness about yourself can almost guarantee a better night for you and possibly your friends. You see even though we don’t know this we give off energy non-verbally but by looks and glances, try to realize it next time someone gives you a look and remember how you feel. The thought patterns that you create is from another source which you can presume has to be energy. What I try to teach is to envelope a thought pattern to use in the process’s in which you can utilize as a tool instead of resorting to the alternate which is alcohol where you cannot have the ability to communicate with the opposite sex.

I am a Realist…

2011-05-15T18:55:00.000-07:00

Thinking back at my life I never would have thought I would be here! In a place where I have so many decisions to make and it will not only affect me but everyone around me. I continue to drum the fingers on the table as I think of the words to come to mind and putting it down on paper. The words correlating with one another as if they were smeared on there like peanut butter, words looking more like pictures. I continue to get mental fatigue, running out of words and even breathe saying them over and over.

The realization that I did take on a project so big that there should be more clones of me I continue to reinvent words to continue the pages. My one thought is are people going to read this, are they going to utilize the information or are they going laugh at what it says. A book on how to take a passive male modern and turn them into a womanizing self centered fool is hitting the back of my head like the dribble of a basketball. I continue to write because I am ten pages in and knew that if I quit I am not only quitting on me but everyone around me. Failure is not an option at this time and realizing that I am not creating a monster but helping people develop a better them, I continue to write. Realizations are one of my strong points because my personality is more of the intellectual type where I sit back and observe. I am not only the beast but the gentleman in my own right taking control of what I do have control over.

I am a realist and that is what I can say for myself. “I think therefore I am right?” the proud owner of my own beliefs. I am going to cut the red tape of marketing genius and come straight forward; the belief of any man getting a woman is false in its own pretext. Don’t judge me before I explain myself in the next couple of paragraphs.

This is only a realist Idea because I believe in being able to get over hurdles in your life but you have to believe in changing for the better and keeping your word on the decision you make! I don’t believe that someone else can help you, religion only gives you strength but praying won’t get you the girl of your dreams or the job you applied for. Like I said I am a realist and knowing that I am in control of ME!! Control is an illusion only if you don’t believe in self sacrifice.

Let’s try three basic practices that will help

Mind confusion! - Many people ask me what this is and I will tell you it is my own little non self control. You see your mind produces habits to reduce stress using your memory glands right? What we need to do is change your behavioral habits before you can think differently about certain aspects in your life. Try little things such as driving a different way to work or even setting the time on the alarm clock for 10 minutes earlier. This creates I believe “Mind Confusion”. A process in which you will be reversing your outlook on what you do everyday. Try to do small things because it may just allow you to stop doing your day to day and energize your life!!

Being healthy- I will always stay healthy and it might even be my behavioral habit but there is some that are healthy to have. Letting yourself go is like sabotaging your own life a donut at a time. Get out and run not only for health but your self esteem, Depression affects 1 out of 4 right? Cardio and muscle resistance will pump happy thoughts in your head giving you a better image of yourself and of course like I said if you value yourself high the women will to!!

Quality over quantity – Now this is an argument I got into with my friend, he was telling me that it is a number game, he was under the assumption that if he talked to as many women as he could he would eventually get one that said yes. I on the other hand had a different approach on the whole concept. Approaching women is easy when they are not the object of your desire and what I mean by that is approaching any women is easy if they are not fully what you want right? You are at ease because you are already looking for the next girl because of your refection rate. We need to stop this mannerism because it does not go well with you in the morning after. Now I am not saying that the any girl is not quality but what I am saying is if you are not going after the women that fully intrigues you then you will never be truly happy about yourself. I go for women that I know I can be physically and mentally stimulated by “the basics” of attraction. I need to stress this even more “don’t go for any chick, go for the one that you wont mistreat because she was the one that said yes” you will not be happy with the relationship if that is the case.

Value over Value- this is also going hand in hand with the paragraph before. You need to understand the basic knowledge of you. If you are gunning for a woman who is perfect physically and mentally then you need to bring it hard! She works out and takes 2 hours getting ready to look that good but the question is “do you” and I am not saying you really have to but take care of yourself, if you are going for those girls you need to be at their level, healthy, well dressed and groomed and stimulating through jokes or intellectual talk. You need to choose women that fit your needs not just general needs!!

This article will start a phase of articles that will bring you closer to becoming the man you need to be and continue growing as an active patron of your own success!!

This is what my motivation has helped me accomplish!! and keep going

2011-05-13T22:34:00.000-07:00

Allowing yourself to make decisions finally!!

2011-05-13T19:19:00.000-07:00

What is capitalism in America? Being a realist I always have to wonder about what America is doing right that the rest of the world is doing wrong. I take a look at the McDonald commercials on T.V. broadcasting to my Child knowing that it would destroy him one day. The toy is intriguing to him as he taps me in the arm asking me to get him this great toy that cost them a penny to make but I will be paying 3.99 for it. Soon his diet will be the dollar cheeseburger in which costs twice as much as me making a meal for him at home. I shake my head at the one’s that allow this to be the staple of

America

, allowing TV to babysit the kids and fast food to be the nightly dinners. I take a look at our educational system as it teaches our children to try for a better “Job” instead of creating jobs. We look at our fascist country as the rich get richer and of course the poor get poorer.

Common Sense is a term used for people to use in the obvious; it is something we have all had to deal with having epiphanies of what is! The use of many terms in which facts is staring you in the face but you tend to erase what you know and replace with the norm. It may not be your fault but what society is telling you what the norm is. What you have to understand there is no norm but the differences between people is what connects us to one another. It is what intrigues us all to the brink of discovery but you my friend have to understand its corruptible capabilities.

Opening your eyes to what you already have seen but have not fixed the habit is something we all have to change. A behavioral characteristic is something we all develop through our time on this world, our mind is a sponge and adaptability is what keeps us alive. Learning from parents and kids at school is all you have come upon in what you know is your personality and you think you were born with it. The understanding of oneself is to know what you are capable of and changing yourself into what you want to be and what you want your children to model after. I have experienced many failures in my life and have openly admitted defeats but it was I to blame for all the wretched indiscretions that I have opposed on to others.

I look out into the world and I still find myself repeating the mistakes that I have failed to fix before but as I notice my behavioral characteristics I have found myself beating myself up again. I started the life change 2 years prior to this date and what I’ve learned is no one should accept who they are if they are not happy with themselves. We must thrive on what is reality and what I believe is that we as people must overcome our own obstacles in life and make better decisions. Logics over emotions can be a gateway to a better life and understanding this concept was something I had to learn the hard way. I was married before this and being married to women that continually used manipulation against me was something I hadn’t experienced and being Naive I went with it till one day I woke up and was not happy.

My journey has always started their and realized I had a lot of growing up to do not only for my son but for myself and allowing this to continue I needed to show him I was strong for him. I continually allow my self to grow mentally and physically to understanding the universe in my own sense and to allow others to direct me to answers I have not found. Remember when you are done learning is when you begin teaching. Allow yourself to experience all of what life has to offer! Using common sense to rule out bad decisions and the pressures of society can bring you good as long as you make the decision for a better you!

Product of your environment “subjective”

2011-05-04T19:05:00.000-07:00

Sitting there with a six dollar Latte, thinking to myself while I was people watching “Why do people do what they do”? It makes no sense to me that your soul, your whole embodiment of what makes you who you are may be a little skewed. Looking around people has a habit they pick up when they are really little as toddlers and gradually it becomes a thought they start to grow from it. I was thinking about it, what could have caused the way I think? What triggered my thought process in which I try to utilize biological advances to use towards my struggles in being a man my son can look up to?

As I looked down at the newspaper I was reading, I looked back at a stunning brunette that looked like the models in the magazine. She was tan with a muscular tone and hazel green eyes, walking into the Starbucks with confident strides. Just thinking about her just made me drool all over myself but why? I was thinking too much and wondering what she would be like, “is she an intellectual, does she like sports, and is she the one for me”? Contemplating on talking to her but as she came out of the shop I just froze. “Why do I freeze every time I see a beautiful woman”? I always have beat up myself about this type of thinking, talking to just average women I don’t have an issue but it is the 10’s I have issues with. Of course me being me I had to figure out everything so I hit the books and wondered why I could not have the guts to talk to these women.

Did not find much but about confidence but how do I build this confidence and why have I always been this way. It could be that when I was younger I was not that nice to look at, buck teeth that were more crooked than Al Capone, or my acne that you could play poke a dots with. In recent years my acne went away and I got braces to fix my teeth, most women would say I am handsome but still afraid to talk to the girls my value. “Value"? I thought to myself, what is value when talking about a human being? Value in my terms I believe has all of the physical, mental and spiritual equality measured on how people perceive someone to be. Men tend to value women from 1-10 and of course 10 being the best but I think women probably do the same thing as well but they wont admit it. I actually did a test and my test confirmed that women are almost as shallow as men. The test was that I went on to a very popular dating site, not mentioning. I made up my own profile with just head shots of me writing in my bio as if I was just a regular guy. Had some girls email me and asking to meet up for drinks and so on but….

I then put a picture of my body as well and I am not saying they are perfect but almost there. The responses were astounding, with 10 girls emailing me within 5 minutes of me posting I knew that women grades on physical looks and health just as we do. I then found myself in euphoria in knowing a special secret on how I perceive women and what they think about as well. I know had to use it into practice and figure out to build off that so I don’t have to be afraid of the beautiful girls anymore.

So in definition I have put together some things I thought about before setting out on the night that helped me in being able to get past the first wall which I call “first encounter”.

You need to have value on the table to- So she spends 2 hours a day on the treadmill and her shoes cost more than most guy’s whole outfit. She spends at least an hour before she goes out and she perfects everything about herself before leaving the house. This means two things to me 1) She is of a certain value and she knows what value that is and 2) She knows what she is looking for in a mate of the same or higher value and most people shoot for higher value because that makes them more valuable themselves. Usually in most studies it has been a muscular build with facial symmetry, bushy eyebrow and s

What you need to know- I am not saying that you need to go out and do 2 a-days in the gym, buy a brand new wardrobe but I am saying if you want the more attractive women you may need to spruce yourself up and spend some time on yourself.

Confidence- She walks in the place as if she owns it, knowing she will be hit on at least one hundred times. Free drinks are what she is aiming for in exchange for some chit chat from the same pick up lines she hears every night.

What you need to know- is simply you are confident; confidence is built through what you feel about yourself. Think about all the good things in your life, Job, car, health, remembering you are an interesting person. These are a few things you need to know but also remembering her value has nothing to do with you wanting to talk to her so pick up lines should never be used. Find something witty to say to her or even better act like you did not intend to talk to her, it "just happened scenario".

Forget about the value table- she knows what she is or thinks she is even above what she is. She is tirelessly always being better than the rest and in great shape.

What you should know- this is called fight or flight. You are thinking of how many different ways of rejection and don’t worry I still get the feeling every time but you need to think about one thing. “We are dominant of the two genders”! Its biology, in all aspects of the mammal’s species, males are better in every way except for the emotional support. Male birds are prettier than female birds; Lions are more elegant with the mane than the dull females. Think about it, we are naturally physically better so why not institute that in before you go up to her. Have you seen a hot chick without any makeup, they look like any other chick, without all of the glamour and makeup she is the same value as where you want her to be. Don’t make it abundant that this is your intention to make her feel this way; it is only a tool to use for your advantage when you have the initial approach but do make it a point that you are a valuable commodity….

Part 2 next week!!

The art of openness “objective”

2011-05-01T17:05:00.000-07:00

As I ordered a drink at my favorite “hole in the wall” I look at my friends all having a good time except for one. Josh is a good guy and he seems like he has good intent but he looks sad enough to be on a Hallmark card. A great guy indeed just got a raise at his accounting job and he has a great place where any bachelor would love to have. I was wondering why none of the women he was talking to would not give him the time of day. Pulling Josh over to my side of the room I tell him that I would like to be his “Wingman”. Overly excited he was happy that someone was going to help him out with the girls that were giving no responses.

Walking around him pointed to two beautiful girls underneath the dance floor while he scheming for better chances. I knew I was going to have to dance even though I was hoping they were sitting down, usually it is easier to keep my self with a better value if I talk to them. Walking over there with a slump and walking a little to fast he leans over and asks the taller of the two if she would like to dance a tall gorgeous brunette from Wichita Kansas looking at him for a second and then back at her friend shrugging then backing into him rubbing her butt all over him. The shorter of the two was a blond who is a nurse at the local hospital, leaning in to her I ask her to dance to keep her entertained while he works his swerve on the other friend.

As the song nears the end the brunette starts to become bored and walks off leaving me still in tact with her friend. Looking at me Josh was wondering why the blond stayed with me and the brunette took off. There is going to be a discussion I needed to tell him about what he did not do that is killing his game.

The lost post I wrote about is “Social Objectiveness” basically teaching you social value within a structured environment and now I am going to release another small portion of how to win over your objective. Within all great “Ladies men” you notice that there is an entirely different person and how they present themselves to others. One thing that I do know about the opposite sex is: they are still human and being human they still establishes boundaries and how they react to outside connections. Have you thought about it for a little bit, why your approach is not winning them over? You are afraid of talking to them right? The same with them being afraid of you so let’s look at how to use the openness technique where you don’t creep them out!

First thing is first:

Body Language- I preach this time and time again but no one listens, 95% of communication between humans is not even portrayed with words. Your body will tell the other person on how you are and how you react; you stereotype someone not on how they talk but how they act. Creating the great persona of body language is only steps away just by opening up. Don’t cross your arms, Don’t fidget, Head up, arms out, shoulders back, these are the classic characteristic of showing attractiveness but also showing you are confident and nice to talk to.

Smile- this is also a big problem people have, they don’t smile. Think about it would you rather be talking to someone who is happy or sad, it is only a given that you would like to speak to someone to who is happy and willing to talk to you and is “open” SMILE!!!

Dominate- So people don’t take this is the wrong terms, this is a term I use when telling someone to dominate the conversation meaning to use dominating actions, like leaning over her when speaking, showing interest by leaning in to listen to her words, using open arms to show her your domination.

Approach- now that we have talked about this we are going through a scenario

1) walk up to her using a confidence swerve (walking slower with your head up and smiling)

2) approach to the side- don’t go head on because if you do you will put a defense mechanism ( try to approach to the side so it gives her not a lot of time to assess the danger)

3) use something out of the ordinary when first saying something- this is key because women needs to be exposed to new things not the same old routine because they have heard it a million times over, my buddy enjoys telling taller girls this one “ Man you are tall but you want to know something? We are all the same size in bed” he said this to a tall sexy dentist and she stayed attached to him all night.

4) Conversation- this is key in making her more comfortable with you, this is wear you grab her, most guys go to the dance floor hoping that the bumping and grinding will do the trick but it is within the way you speak to her. Ask open ended question but don’t ask anything to personal, show interest by having total dedication on what she says and a rebuttal good or bad but say something on how you approve or disapprove.

5) Confidence in control- this is key, if you know how to control a conversation you can control on how the rest of the night goes, leading her to where you guys can get more in-depth and ordering for her and …the list goes on and on but don’t go overboard. Allow her to make decisions as well, have her order the shots even though they will probably be girly ones!!

So the whole point of this Post is to be more open to your advances and realize that you could be scaring her if you advance in a way that sets off her defense. Don’t act desperate and act confident and remember the worst thing they can say is NO. Practice makes perfect peeps so happy hunting!

Lose weight easier!!

2011-04-25T19:17:00.001-07:00

It is three o’clock and I am wide awake. The only thing on was infomercials about how to lose weight and build muscle. The person talking, a tanned hyped version of Arnold yelling at me on ways to improve and lose the extra weight. Being a skeptic that I am I quickly turn to another channel but still another weight loss program ready to yell at me. Continually over and over again as I switch one thousand channels I get on a station playing a movie as I start to finally dose off. Dreaming of the infomercials because of the memory lag in my mind I start thinking on how people overspend on these expensive products that people soon pawn off to friends because they have no motivation for it.

Now I am not saying that this stuff works because it does as long as you have self discipline for it. Diet fads and other retrospective “Weight loss” products have some potential and even supportive reasoning behind it but what I am purposing is self motivation. When I was in High School I had a best friend who was overly obese but one of those funny ones, you know what I am talking about. He was a guy who was always downing himself because he also was short and not a lot of self esteem. At the beginning of my senior year he came back from the summer and I did not even recognize him. He lost over 50 pounds that summer and I didn’t understand how or why.

From this day I am still amazed on how his transformation gave me some inspiration to do things in my life. With all of the aspects in my life I have always lived through everyone else’s success and I love them for it. Determination is you telling yourself to get back up after falling a million and one time, and you keep doing that even though you are failing miserably. Expensive gyms, CD’s, personal trainer’s and Diet supplements are all there for your use but you have to remember nothing is ever easy as I learned throughout my years of failing, I just pick my self up again. These products work and they will always work, you just need some self discipline. You need to stop that self sabotage that I have experienced a thousand times and go for your goals.

There are many ways to lose the extra weight but you had to think logically and self discipline:

Have a plan-you can’t just wing it when you are trying to discipline. Try to make your lunches and leave your money at home. You will have to plan what you will eat at what breaks.
Create goals- per week write down your goals and what you want to accomplish. By the end of the week you should be one more step to being thinner.
Use the products for the benefit- If you do try the DVD’s or even the diet pills “fat burners” you have to have the goal of accomplishing it with a diet because if you don’t you wont lose you actually may come out gaining weight.

In essence learn from the experts, if you are going to buy these products don’t just do it half a*& you need to create goals and stick to them!!

Social Objectiveness

2011-04-18T14:15:00.000-07:00

Walking into the bar I was wondering around when I saw a gentleman with a group of people and was wondering why he was so important. He was not a movie star nor was he anyone I would think exceptionally interesting just looking at him. I had to know more about this so of course if I don’t know how it works I try to find out. So when he had to stop to go to the bar to get another drink I had to make a move to ask why he had almost a quarter of the bar in the palm of his hands.

I approached the middle aged man as If he was a teacher and I was an eager student to learn. “ Hey can I ask you a question” I said in a shaky voice. Smiling at me a with a weird grin he stated “sure”. “I noticed that all of those people over there were giving all of their attention to you, do you know all of those people?” He grinned a pretty big grin and smiled stating “I am just interesting to talk to, I make myself open for opinions and I try to get to know everyone I can by remembering the name and something about them”. Okay as I walked away thinking maybe I can use this to my advantage.

Very simple when you think about it right? Basic thought process and simple playground theory on how to make friends but how do we use this to get the women to melt out of your hands? This was something I had to look into with knowing that attention is something that women like to have and give it to someone who has greater social value than her. See as much as I knew than was that you yourself is a very interesting person, everyone is very interesting and all you have to do is get past the first initial ice breaker. Lets look at this in depth just a little bit further and concentrate on the social value part.

Social Value is what Pick up artists use to attract women utilizing the value of their social skills to dominate the conversation having the object of their desire be submissive which will entitle the Pick up artists basically dominate her emotions as well. This is great and all but what if you can get multiple women attracted to you without even talking to them directly? How can we as men use each other to get all the women at the bar to be infused on trying to get our attention? I had an Idea but just had to test it out.

So after doing the research I decided to take it to the streets and try it at the local bar. Sitting down at the bar where you had a clear view of everyone in the room I started in on the bartender. And I will review my notes with you to show you its all mathematical engineered to work as long as you do not get emotional. Remember these points also when you do start to talk to the women you want as well.

So placement is key in this game of cat and mouse, and we already went how you need to show Alpha male characterstics. Remember this process will evaluate your social value and aspects on making new friends and creating an attraction from women.

So lets hit the basics on making people feel important.

know their name- simple but not so simple, how many times did you forget someone’s name. When they say their name, take some time to remember it and repeat it back to them, it actually shows a better social value.
Know something personal about them- this is a great thing to remember when wanting to make a bigger impression on the people you want to make your friends. It shows openness and wanting to be personal at the same time.
use body language- Don’t show a passive person this shows that you are not confident and it will not be good in the end and even lowering or even dismissing your social value.
Smile and ask open ended questions and really be involved in conversations, don’t act like it!!

The bartender is the first piece of the puzzle. They are your friend but making them a better friend will take time and a little more dough if you want a good outcome. Tip very well and get to know their name and they will help you with what you came there for IE women.
Make yourself the center of attention- now you know all of the players you need to know the game, be the center of attention of a group and make everyone involved, use dominant body language but also be open to everyone else. Be in the middle so everyone can talk to you and you can point them out when addressing them. If you have never been a mediator what you need to do is have a comment on everything someone says, use a real comment and always make it positive. Now you have successfully raised social value and your confidence.
Use this to your advantage- look at the women around you after about 10 – 15 minutes, they should be fixated on you and your every move, don’t screw it up. Use this to your advantage, invite them into the conversation and if you don’t know if they are attracted look at the body language:

playfulness- playing with the hair or any part of clothing,
the look- yes of course if she stares then don’t be a wimp
knees and feet- look at them if any pointing in your direction and she glances to see then like I said don’t be a wimp
overly moving, exemplifying action- this is very key, moving slower, slurping down the drink slowly, flinging hair back, being fidgety, these are things to remember.

Remembering your value- don’t put her on a pedestal when opening up with her, remember you just had a bunch of people eating out of your hands and to put her above you decreases your value fast. Use somewhat of a negative comment and intend to be funny like “ you have broad shoulders for a women” or “you have only one dimple when you smile, its odd but cute”

When doing this task it will increase your confidence not only with women but people in general. Having this type of quality you can use not only in just attracting women but your worth at your job or with your current friends. Remembering that this is and can be used very versatile will help you control your intentions and emotions as well.

Spring Fever!!

2011-04-07T17:53:00.000-07:00

It is upon us the spring has hit and now all I see is dresses and skirts. Get excited over this because this is the time of love, pools, BBQ’s and patios. Well if you are not excited that means you are not truly ready and need a little bit of encouragement. Maybe you need to adjust your look, work out, or change your wardrobe. Let’s look at this in perspective if you have not been excited about the spring that means you truly have not enjoyed the true feeling of warmer weather as a single male dude on the hunt for the ultimate feeling. With low self esteem and decreasing male libido means only one thing: you need to change up your game and experience.

I love spring because of the women and the more things you can do. Skin and warm weather is just exciting to me but let’s look at a couple of things to do if your game is not cutting it:

Weight- well now that the winter is done that means you can lose the extra five to ten pounds you put on in hibernation.

Run for at least 30-45 minutes every other day
Change up your diet to have high protein and low carbohydrates; also you do need to do some calorie counting. Try this link http://health.drgily.com/basal-metabolic-rate-calculator.php and remember that the more calories you burn and the less intake = weight loss
Muscle resistance is always my favorite but always use your brain on this one. You need to have a plan on what you do and try not to overwork your muscles. EX: 5 minute warm up, 30 minute muscle group (chest, back, shoulders, or legs) 15 minutes secondary muscles (Triceps, Biceps, or core) then do 10-15 minutes if cardio. Take it from this guy http://fitnesslk.blogspot.com/
Resist temptations-remember that food is a necessity not a privilege. What this means is that you don’t have to eat at McDonald’s so think healthy.

Change up wardrobe- This is very essential if you are still wearing the same gear from winter. You will need to put away the sweaters and break out the shorts and plaid shoes. T-shirts that will accentuate the newly developed muscles, perhaps a v-neck.
Get some color- I am not saying go to the tanning bed every day but you need to maybe go outside and get the skin a little refreshed with the UV rays that also give out Vitamin- D. Remember to much of something is bad for you and most things are good in moderation.
Enjoy the outdoors- get outside and do something like hiking, rock climbing or something that will get your blood pumping.
Enjoy a patio- there is nothing better than just sitting outside on your own, a buddies or a bar patio but enjoy it because it feels so good to enjoy some suds in warm weather.
Be single- now this is only for the single dudes but enjoy the women in your life and if you don’t have some get some. Read my other blogs on how to meet women and just get out there because I love the skin and you should to.

So now that we have discussed what to do for the spring we need to boldly go where you have not done before. No holding back and be strong on your values, don’t party too hard and enjoy other things besides just the bar and booze. Enjoy life as it brings fullness and new things to your life.

Words of encouragement

2011-04-03T19:18:00.000-07:00

Think about what you have done in your life!! Think about all the things you want to accomplish and have not!! How does the taste saturate in you mouth? Never good when you can think of things that you have yet not accomplished and will not. These are the things we have in our subconscious that keep us awake at night. These regrets and promises we made to ourselves are the only thing we think about when life does not go our way!! Life takes concentration people. Life is a concurrent of what is expected of us and how we develop into the people we are today.

Are you who you thought you would become? In most cases probably not, things got in the way or things just did not work out. Most people have this thought process and it is incorrect to a standard of people who always fought to better themselves. We are talking the top dogs people, the men and women we see in the movies and on TV. These people have known that they can better themselves and improved themselves daily. We need to concentrate and focus on what we want out of life not what we are giving to it. If you have ever heard of, “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else” use that to insure the consistence of what you want out of life.

Money, Women, Sex (I love it)

2011-03-20T16:06:00.001-07:00

So lately I have been just thinking about it because the spring is upon us and I can’t get it out of my mind. What am I going to do for the summer because I have an Itch I will always scratch it. You may call me vain or addicted to myself but I don’t care because I don’t spend 5 days 2 hours a day to look like a slob. I love the summer for three things: Women, Money, partying. That is why I am so driven but why am I this way? I believe everyone has this feeling and would love to have fun at it. I say scratch it fella’s, love being you and let everyone know it.

Time for a new wardrobe

Unfortunately I have grown in size from last year so now I need larger shirts (which are good and bad because I am bigger but it hurts the pocket book somewhat). I think the V-neck is going to be shirt of choice even though the Polo’s show off your tone, the v-neck is something that will show off your neck and traps. I am also going to try to find what is called Boat shoes (recently told by a girl I hooked up with) I have one pair but I like the attention enough I may buy more with nice shorts.

Summer ABS

I have not had Abs to show off but this year I don’t think the shirt is going to stay on. If you did not notice I love the attention from this and I don’t think the women mind it neither. I have shredded about 6 pounds of fat and wanting to do about 4 more before I go to Vegas and yes I will have pictures for all of you. I think this is going to be an Epic year for me.

Getting money for teaching men to get women

Started to show other men about the power of confidence and the key ingredients to do it right which of course helps the pocket book a little bit but in turn I am helping men better themselves. I mean what is better than helping other men achieving goals and getting paid to do so. I love my life but I do need to state it was hard for me to reach this as well. It was a hard transition but I do appreciate all the people that have helped me.

In turn I may be a little Vain and so what I love to better myself everyday and that is why I teach it. Bettering yourself everyday is something you have to do to make yourself better as a person and to make your life better as well.

Setting Goals for Better Mental Health

2011-02-27T16:20:00.001-08:00

The time it takes for us to realize that we have an issue is about less than a second. The time it takes is to correct this issue can take a lifetime, why is that? I was sitting in my room knowing I have an issue but continuing to do the same thing over and over as if I was listening to the same song over and over again. Waking up I tell my self that this will be the day when I change, this will be the day I start off right. Self sabotaging seems to be the modern realization of someone’s ego. I tend to stay on the same page without wanting to turn the page with fear of it. I tend to want to resort back to the same things I am accustomed to and can’t get to the part I want to be and without it I feel alone and depressed. With the same people I seem to go out with, they seem to be friendly but in the end I am betrayed by their desires of drinking and loose women. Goals I set every start of the week seems to be dwindled by the end when my urge to use the bottle to solve my social problems.

Have the thought crossed your mind? Why am I still here? A thought many people have every minute of the day but they know why. The thoughts of our faults have always been there and we do notice them. Why can’t we fix the issue that we notice and continue in the life of destruction? Being afraid of the future, being afraid of failure and success is self imposed on what we need to fix. We always will fix if it is the last minute before the destruction of your so called life but why can’t we just fix it at the beginning. I am not saying I am perfect but I think maybe we need to stop the self doubt in ourselves and start to think about how we can better ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. How do we fix the issues that we have problems with?

Write it down- Writing it down is better than just thinking it; this tends to be more of a dedication than just the thought of changing. Put this paper somewhere you will look everyday like the bathroom mirror or on the steering wheel of your car.
Make goals- seeking out an answer to your problems that you only can solve can be hard so make goals that are attainable. Stick to them but also put steps in your goals with a time constraint so you can reward yourself when you hit each step. The rewards cannot be something that will sabotage but compliment the goal but also it shows you that you are achieving it. EX: lose 1 pound a week, reward is eating fat free ice cream
Acting the part- Has anyone ever told you this? Acting the way you want to be can be very beneficial because it gives a sense of what it is you want to become. Don’t lie about who you are but practice in saying you are this certain way and how happy you are for being this way can be positive encouragement.

So with being healthy you have to understand you have to be mentally healthy as well. Having a great physical physique is healthy but with not having mental health or emotionally health can and will be a problem. Being an all around healthy person can an will help you get through your day and week and even month but also understand you will fail at stuff but what separates the boys and men is how we deal with it. One side we can dwell on it and become enrapt in our failure and become immobile for achieving anything or we can take it as learned lesson and move on. “What does not kill you make you stronger”.

Being Attractive can only go so far when seducing women!

2011-02-22T14:50:00.000-08:00

She was sitting there as beautiful as possible and glances up to see what attention she was getting. She looks right at you and gives smile as if she was waiting for you the whole time but you freeze and your palms get sweaty. The nervousness gets to you as if you were paralyzed from the brain down, not knowing you walk away and leave her wondering why you could not talk to her.

This happens every second of the day for many men and some women as well. The possibility of getting the beautiful girl in the room is there you just have to take the chance but how? This is a subject on what people don’t know how to do and many don’t even notice that it is a problem. You have to understand that being physically attractive has only a little to do with the attraction from women. In many polls where women judged men based on just the physical appearance most of them were very vague on what they found attractive and most of them was just about symmetry. Being able to understand this makes an instant connection towards why you sometimes see hot chicks with mediocre dudes right?

Being physically attractive does have an advantage over the competition but you still need the other four aspects to really seduce and keep her attraction:

· Gain her trust quickly! - She is human and having human characteristic they also are afraid of new people like you are. She needs to know that you are not going to be a danger. So instead of going up to her and be straight act like you were going somewhere else but had to have a question answered. This shows your intent is not sexually and will open up to you!

· Escalating attraction- So now you have her attention, you seem interesting and worth talking to but what do you do now? Most beautiful women think they are on a special level where you can be no part of. Put the ball on level playing fields by knowing you are as good /or better than her by calling her out on her own BS. You do this is to act confident and joke with her by stating something about her that is original and different without offending her but making her feel like a regular person. Don’t use “just kidding”, being firm on the comment or joke shows you are confident to be a mate for her.

· Closeness – So now she is ready for the next step right? Being confident and being able to be closer to her without her being afraid of you is in your grasp’s. How do you accomplish this and how do we accomplish this? Move in closer to her proximity and allow yourself to direct what you guys do. Being a confident person in being able to show them a good night and she does not have to worry about what they are going to do reduces stress and raises her other hormones if you know what I mean. Use somewhat of a touch but non sexual like grabbing her hand and leading her around or touching an arm or moving her hair around if it out of place. This is more like a test, if she allows you to do this then she is more interested in being more than friends.

· Don’t be too submissive or needy- What I mean by this is don’t allow your emotions get the best of you. Over complimenting her or asking question after question like an interview shows you are not the assertive man they need. Be cool about it and allow her to talk about herself freely. Don’t compliment but comment on certain things you notice that no one else will. Allowing your emotions to get the best of you may be the worse thing that you can do, play it cool when she does not reply to a question or not giving you the attention you think you should be getting. Doubting yourself is also a big turn off, If she does not like something you said just mention that most people would find it funny.

These are proven based on my own interactions with women. You see the best way to find out if these accusations are try is to try it yourself. Being attractive is only an advantage but you have to understand everyone is interesting in their own way and because of that notion you can be the interesting person she just does not know yet.

A symmetry boggles over a snag.

2011-02-21T13:52:00.001-08:00

Nice guys can finish first!

2011-02-13T15:39:00.000-08:00

So lately I have been reading a lot of blogs that have been talking about how nice guys finish last! This is not true because I believe I am a nice guy but I am usually the guy who the women are attracted to! Now I am not saying that the bad boy image is something you have to have to get the women but let’s take a look at why it works. We all have a persona on the mind and how we think but we need to think differently to get those women we want!

I have no clue on how people got the nice guy syndrome but we need to fix this right away. We need to venture further why and how we can fix this! Real bad boys do get women based on a couple things:

No care attitude- So when I say this it really works subliminally. Women are attracted to mystery but not what you think mystery is. I am talking about the one where she wonders why he does not care to talk to me or give me attention. That is the mystery people are talking about. So now we know about this and we are going to try this right? You need to have a no care attitude towards the opposite sex and don’t try too much. Stop asking her out every week or stop staring at the same girls for hours on end. Give them the impression that they need to give you the attention to figure out why you won’t do the same. Acceptance is the key in this game.
Being cocky – Now this will run into the first part but we are going to look into it deeper. Have you ever looked up the definition of passive? If you are reading this then you have not and you are a passive person. We need to change your thinking because these so called bad boys have a persona where they treat the women like crap and you are upset because of it right? When you talk to a girl and you crack a joke about her appearance do you say just kidding right after? Stop it because that shows you are not confident in yourself so how are you going to have her be confident in you. This is a passive person and it shows lack of or not a lot of confidence. Change your thinking in being a confident person and she will love you for it!
Do what you want- this is a number one on my life choice. Why do you say? I do what I want and not what people want me to do. I am not saying helping people out but if you do it in excessive then they take advantage of you and that makes you look like a schmuck. Try to change the habit where you in the past say yes try to say “NO” for once. This assertive practice will create more confidence in yourself and the saying goes is “how are you going to love someone else if you can’t love yourself?”

This is basic instinct in most men and you need to adopt the attitude but don’t adopt the treating women like crap part. If you can diagnose your own problem then you can change the habit correct. Don’t be a victim and try to be more assertive and you can go further with the women that you want!

Losing weight is simple!

2011-02-09T18:50:00.000-08:00

So I was going to the gym the other day and it dawned on me while I was reading an article. People want a quick fix for everything right?! The magical cure for losing weight is taking pills and weighting for results or if you have enough money you can do a tummy tuck or Lipo. I was sitting here wondering why I was in the gym two hours a day trying to perfect myself when there are magical drugs out there to keep everyone skinny. So I wondered about the results and as I was of course "googling" I found many websites frowning on the effects of these diet pills. Reading further into them I was really concerned about people spending money on things that really have no effect.

What I did read is that any of them can be effective and now I am not saying that using them will not allow you the results you want. Just clearly stating in fact, the bottle even states that needs to be taken with a regular diet and workout. Why would I spend money on the diet pill for fifty dollars if I still have to go through the agony of working out? Why do we play off insecurities of others? Like I say I didn’t say they did not work but they can give you results faster as they tend to speed up your metabolism but there are things to remember:

Have a regular diet- write it down or create your own, I don’t care but do it and stick to it. How are you supposed to loose extra weight if you are eating the same foods, makes no sense right? Lets try to look at my diet and how I was able to phase out about 6 pounds of fat in a month:

Breakfast- oatmeal with fruit and yogurt and maybe some whole grain toast. I also will eat some eggs for protein with the yolk because it has natural fat that will help. Around 400 calories would do the trick

Snack- around 2 hours later you should feel hungry but don’t sweat it. You need to energize your body and mind so reach for some fruit. With tons of vitamins and fortified nutrients it should give you enough to hold out till your next big meal. Remembering to drink at least eight glasses a day will help you feel fuller.

Lunch- is a great way to wind down before going back to the daily grind and around 200 calories it will still keep you on your feet. Sandwiches, whole grain bread and lean turkey are not a bad way to go especially with a granola bar. Remember to think smart, losing weight is not for idiots because you have to plan. I suggest packing it and leaving the money at home.

Another snack- usually at this time you should just be about done from work. Each of these meals is about a 2.5 hour spread so try timing these or setting an alarm. Usually I like to drink a protein shake that has maximal amounts of vitamins just because it is easy and doesn’t take a lot of time to eat. Usually I would stay around 200 calories for this as well.

Dinner- the best part of the day is dinner. Man I look forward to this part because it helps me relax while I am eating. Now dinner should have at least 80% protein and 20% Carbs / Vegetables. I know a lot of people do not like the V word but it has too many vitamins to ignore.

Think smart- we all think about it but never actually tried to do this. Common sense goes along way and with this I mean a leaner way. People in general do not practice this and that is why most people find it difficult to lose the weight because of bad habits. McDonalds and burger king is not a good choice so I suggest you bring your own lunch to work or to an outing. Don’t get me wrong food is amazing and you can eat it sometimes but not all the time.
Cardio before and after muscle resistance-So people in general have a set thing they are going to do at the gym. A) They are going to do weights or B) they are going to run but some people don’t realize the benefit of doing both and in sequence. My buddy who is studying kinesiology was telling me about the rubber band theory. What it basically implied is asking yourself “would you stretch a rubber band that is frozen or cold” the answer of course is no right? Same as your muscles, if you are going to be ripping muscles to build on them wouldn’t you want to warm your body up first? So do at least 5- 10 minutes of cardio before. Here is the real kicker in recent studies stats have stated that you use most of the carbs stored before your workout you will use to burn during weight training so when you are done jump on the treadmill because you only have stored fat left, so guess what you will be burning?
Use primary muscles with secondary muscles- Have you heard of this? This is an exercise that people will not follow because they cannot guess what it actually entails. Primary muscles have to do with the bigger muscles closest to your core: Chest, Back, quads, shoulders, and gluteus. What about secondary muscles? Here is a list of muscles you should be working them out together to get maximum potential:

1. Chest with triceps

2. Back with biceps

3. legs with calves

Then shoulders on your final day

Protein is power- protein is the building block of all life. You actually cannot live without it so get a nice protein shake that has 20grams or more per serving but it has to be lean!

So I said it was simple but we all have to concentrate day to day to keep it up. Try creating a calendar to help you remember because writing it down helps sub-consciously.

Getting Attention from Women

2011-02-06T16:22:00.000-08:00

So I have written so much about attracting women and the seduction of them but what about attention from them. There is a primal instinct of everyone to get attention from another person. Either through friends or from of course the opposite sex but why do we need this in our life? How are we going to get more of this stuff? How are you going to get attention from the one you like?

If you look on the streets or even online like Face book and MySpace you will see it. People are different and you can see it everywhere but what makes them different? Attention is always an addiction that people must have good or bad attention, we have to have it! People are waves of consciousness that drive our cities and our countries. There is a reason why the most popular magazines are the ones with actors and models. We need the feeling that someone wants us or wants to be us but how? In today’s society we have so much diversity it is hard to get the attention we want but if you want the attention from women you will need to dissect what they are looking for:

Women like strong men- Yes physical strong, muscle strong, but they also want a strong minded man. They need to know that they need to be protected however you take that. What I am meaning is that you need to show women that you can be adaptive to what society throws at you but how can you? Simple, it is called confidence; think about it for a second, if you look at for a second, try to fathom it, how did you feel when your parents were able to make decisions for your well being and how safe you felt? This is the same feeling but how do you show this without even talking to them? You must hold your composure and act like you own the place that is how! You have to show when you walk and talk that you are the man of the year. Being that confident will show the women that you can take care of them very well.
Smile- Smiling is well profound sign of attraction but how? Think about it this way, how many times have you gotten a smile from a girl who looked at you when you were not smiling? Never, thinking and that is why this is a very useful thing to have. Showing a happy composure shows the woman that you are genuinely a happy person and which also shows confident in your life. Next time you are out trying holding a somewhat smile when out and about; see how many people actually respond to your attitude.
Be open- literally, body language is the pinnacle point of anyone’s subconscious thoughts. We all hold ourselves to physical communication but no one sees what is behind the curtain even though we respond to it. We all respond differently to it but in general we are visual people and seeing what a person does can show what type of person they are. Don’t cross your arms, fidget, bite your nails, look down, this is all signs of non- confident and people who are more of a beta male.

We must understand that if you want the attention of women you have to think about all aspects of your life and change accordingly. Making slight changes to your everyday life can and will change the way everyone perceives you as well.