In my last post, I wrote about The Connection Revolution and the growing need for genuine human connection in an increasingly disconnected world.

The response was wonderful. Many of you shared how deeply you resonated with the paradox of modern life: that despite being more digitally connected than ever, so many of us feel lonely, disconnected, or strangely adrift.

As I reflected on your responses this week, a profound truth kept coming back to me: Before we can truly connect with others, we must first reconnect with ourselves.

I learned this lesson the hard way more than twenty years ago.

At the time, my dot-com company had collapsed, my marriage was ending, my house was on the market and I was unemployed. It felt as though every pillar of my life was crumbling simultaneously.

One evening, shortly after my wife and I had shared the news of our separation with our families nd we had stopped living together, I found myself sitting alone in the quiet of the night.

For the first time in years, the distractions were gone. There was nowhere left to hide from the reality of my life.

Sitting there, I realized tears were streaming down my face. The sadness was overwhelming. I felt lost, frightened, angry, regretful, and deeply uncertain about the future.

For hours, I wrestled with those heavy emotions—replaying decisions, questioning my worth, and wondering how it had all come to this.

Yet, somewhere in the middle of that emotional storm, something shifted.

I began to realise that while I couldn’t rewrite the past, I was entirely responsible for what happened next. A quiet sense of determination began to emerge. I didn’t have a grand, flawless plan, but I knew my immediate next step: I needed to find a job and begin rebuilding.

The very next morning, I set out job-hunting and within a month I had three job offers.

Looking back now, I can see that the most important thing that happened that evening wasn’t actually the decision to find work.

It was the decision to stop running from myself.

For the first time in a long time, I got radically honest about where I was, what truly mattered to me, and what I wanted my future to look like. That painful moment of self-awareness became the foundation for everything I built next.

Over the years—both through my own journey and through coaching hundreds of clients—I have seen this exact pattern play out time and again.

Most people think they need a better strategy.

Often, what they need first is greater awareness.

Our lives are constantly dropping clues. They show up in our energy levels, the quality of our relationships, our fulfillment at work, our physical health, and the frustrating patterns that keep repeating themselves. The challenge is that we are usually too busy, too distracted, or too noisy to notice.

This is why the Connection Revolution must start within.

Before we can build deeper, more authentic relationships with others, we need a stronger relationship with ourselves. Before we can create meaningful change, we need clarity. And clarity only begins when we slow down enough to pay attention.

It is also exactly why I created the Inner Transformation Diagnostic Tool.

 [Take the Inner Transformation Diagnostic Tool here]

The purpose of this tool isn’t to give you a rigid set of instructions or tell you what to do. Think of it as a mirror. It is designed to help you step back, cut through the noise, and gain a clear, honest picture of where you are right now.

Because awareness is always where transformation begins.

A Few Reflections For You This Week:

• How connected do I feel to myself right now?
• What area of my life is most urgently asking for my attention?
• What is life trying to teach me in this current season?
• What truth have I been actively avoiding?
• What is one small, honest step I know I need to take next?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Which of these five questions resonated with you the most today? Leave a comment below and let’s connect.”

Your Invitation

If you would like to gain greater clarity on where you are on your own journey, I invite you to take the Inner Transformation Diagnostic Tool.

 [Take the Inner Transformation Diagnostic Tool here]

It only takes a few minutes, but it may reveal the exact insights you need to reconnect with what matters most.

Perhaps the most vital relationship you will ever navigate is the one you have with yourself.

And perhaps the revolution starts right there.

Thank you for reading. If you want to receive these insights directly in your inbox every Sunday morning—along with real-time updates from my week—you can join my community by subscribing to the Connection Revolution Newsletter.

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The newly opened Queent Elizabeth II Garden in its full glory

We Are More Connected — And More Disconnected — Than Ever

“With great power comes great responsibility.”

Most of us hear that phrase and think about politicians, billionaires, celebrities, or world leaders.

But what if the real power lies much closer to home?

What if your power is your attention?
Your presence.
Your willingness to speak to a stranger.
Your courage to truly listen.
Your decision to look up from your phone and connect with another human being.

We are living in an age of endless communication — and yet increasing disconnection.

We scroll through people’s lives while barely knowing our neighbours.
We collect followers while feeling lonely.
We react to headlines but avoid eye contact on the train.

Something is broken.

And maybe what we need now is not more content, more noise, or more productivity hacks.

Maybe what we need is radical connection.

Not surface-level politeness.
Not networking.
Not another “How are you?” followed by not waiting for the answer.

I mean real connection. Honest connection. Human connection.

The kind that requires presence.
The kind that risks vulnerability.
The kind that reminds people they matter.

A Walk Through Regent’s Park

As I write this, I’m sitting on a bench in Regent’s Park on a beautiful spring afternoon.

Nature is everywhere around me. The trees are alive with colour and movement. Dogs are racing across the grass. Friends are sitting on benches actually talking to one another. The sun is shining and there is a softness in the air that makes people seem more open, more human.

And it strikes me that this is the perfect place to connect.

Not only with others, but with ourselves too.

Every week, I volunteer here as a ranger — a role that allows me to be in my favourite park while helping others discover its beauty, history, wildlife, and quiet joy.

There is something deeply fulfilling about watching visitors slow down, notice a flower, discover a hidden corner, or simply pause long enough to appreciate where they are.

Recently, an extraordinary new garden opened here — the Queen Elizabeth II Garden — created to honour and celebrate the life of the late Queen.

It opened just a few weeks ago, and over the next year, around a million visitors are expected to pass through.

A million people.

When I think about that, it feels like being part of something much bigger than me.

Not just a garden.

Not just volunteering.

But a living space of beauty, remembrance, nature, and human connection.

And what a gift it is.

A gift to welcome and connect with people from every corner of the world — families, tourists, gardeners, walkers, curious visitors, and fellow lovers of nature.

Different languages. Different stories. Different lives.

Yet so often, the same quiet sense of wonder.

In a world obsessed with taking, consuming, and broadcasting, volunteering feels quietly rebellious.

It is my way of giving something back.

It is also my way of sharing one of my deepest passions: nature.

But perhaps even more importantly, it reminds me that connection does not happen by accident.

It happens through intention.

Through presence.

Through slowing down enough to notice another human being.

And noticing their inner beauty.

Why This Matters So Much to Me

There was a time in my own life when I felt disconnected — not necessarily from people, but from myself. I know what it feels like to go through the motions, to feel uncertain, overwhelmed, and untethered from what truly matters.

Perhaps that is one reason nature has become so important to me.

Walking through Regent’s Park each week reminds me that healing often begins by reconnecting — with ourselves, with others, and with the world around us.

And science now confirms what many of us already feel intuitively.

Research shows that people with strong social connections can significantly improve their chances of living longer, healthier lives. Strong relationships are linked to lower levels of anxiety and depression, improved physical health, and even increased longevity.

Connection is not a luxury.

It is a lifeline.

The Courage of Radical Connection

Radical connection means daring to care in a world that often rewards indifference.

It means keeping your heart open when it would be easier to shut down.

It means speaking to the person nobody notices.

It means risking rejection instead of hiding behind cynicism.

Because here is the uncomfortable question:

What happens if we don’t?

What happens to society when loneliness becomes normal?
When community disappears?
When people stop feeling seen, heard, and valued?

We are already seeing the consequences everywhere — division, outrage, isolation, anxiety, burnout.

The Connection Revolution is not about being “nice.”

It is about refusing to accept a disconnected world as normal.

It is about reclaiming conversation.
It is about reclaiming community.
It is about reclaiming humanity.

TCS London Marathon 2026.Mile 10 Melodies Surrey Quays

A Tiny Revolution Starts Here

Seeing the energy and unity of the London Marathon — thousands of people supporting strangers, encouraging one another, and moving together with shared purpose — reminds me of something simple but easy to forget:

We already know how to connect. We just don’t always choose to.

So here is my invitation to you this week:

Put your phone away for an hour.

Go outside.

Be present.

Really see the people around you.

Talk to someone — not because you need anything from them, but because they are human, just like you. And really listen.

Smile at a stranger.
Check in with a friend properly.
Sit in a park and notice the world again.
Reconnect with nature.
Reconnect with yourself.

Start small. But start deliberately.

Because revolutions don’t begin with noise or scale.

They begin with attention.

And attention, when shared with another human being, becomes connection.

Start a tiny revolution of connection wherever you are.

Final thought

The world does not change through algorithms.

It changes through people.

And perhaps the greatest power we have right now is our ability to deeply connect with another human being.

The question is:

What will you do with it?

What does radical connection mean to you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

PS I am now finally recovered from the London Marathon 4 weeks ago. It took me much longer this time to get back to my usual bouncy self.

Arvind Devalia

TCS London Marathon 2026 – Rainbow Row Mile 21

 

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The People Who Carry Us Forward

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Today, as thousands of runners take to the streets for the London Marathon, I find myself lining up for the twelfth time.

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A moment of pure presence with my mum in her final days

There’s a moment I keep coming back to.

It’s late evening. The house is quiet. My mum is lying in bed in her final days, and there’s a stillness in the room that feels heavy and uncertain — the kind of silence where you don’t quite know what to say, or what comes next.

And then the doorbell rings, breaking the haunting silence.

Two nurses arrive.

They walk in calmly, without urgency or drama — just a quiet, steady presence. One of them speaks gently, checks on my mum, adjusts what needs adjusting, and brings a sense of order to what had felt like chaos.

But it wasn’t just what the nurses did.

It was how they were.

Because in that moment, something shifted. The tension softened. The anxiety eased. And for the first time that day, we could breathe.

Over the days that followed, that calming presence continued.

The nurses returned day after day, not just to provide care, but to create an environment where dignity and humanity were never lost, even in the final stages of life.

Because of them, my mum’s last days were comfortable, peaceful, and as full of grace as they could possibly be.

I will never forget that.

What has stayed with me just as strongly is the realisation that not everyone receives that kind of care.

Every five minutes, someone dies without the end-of-life support they need — without that calm, that dignity, that sense of being held at a time when it matters most.

And that simply shouldn’t be the case.

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That is why I’m running this year’s London Marathon next Sunday 26th April.

This year I’m running in support of Marie Curie — an organisation that provides this kind of compassionate end-of-life care to thousands of families every year.

While the nurses who supported my mum were from another organisation, the care, compassion, and presence they brought are exactly what Marie Curie makes possible for so many others.

Because what matters most in those moments isn’t the name of the organisation — it’s the human connection, the dignity, and the care they bring into people’s lives.

Last Sunday, I went out for an 18-mile walk/run through North London — my final long training session before the marathon.

It was early, but the city was already waking up.

As I moved through different neighbourhoods, I passed what felt like a cross-section of the world. People heading to church. Families gathering for breakfast. Small groups talking, laughing, starting their day in their own ways.

Fathers with their kids on an early morning stroll to the nearest playground.

At one point it struck me that it felt like a quiet stroll through the United Nations.

So many different backgrounds, cultures, and lives intersecting in the same space.

Some faces were full of energy and joy. Others seemed more distant, more preoccupied.

And yet, underneath it all, there was something shared.

Everyone, in their own way, simply trying to move forward. To find meaning. To feel connected.

At some point, I started smiling at people as I ran past.

And something unexpected happened.

People smiled back.

Not everyone. But enough for it to become noticeable — almost contagious.

It was a small moment, but it stayed with me. A reminder that connection doesn’t always require time, words, or effort. Sometimes it begins with something as simple as being present — and choosing to acknowledge another human being.

This idea of connection, in its simplest and most human form, is something I’ve seen play out many times over the years.

Running the London Marathon has never just been about the distance for me.

This will be my 12th London Marathon – and in previous years, I’ve used it as a way to support people who truly needed it.

One that has always stayed with me is Jesse — a young girl whose story touched so many hearts.

Four year old Jessica was poorly from birth, but it was not until she was six months old that doctors diagnosed Jeunes Syndrome – a condition so rare it affects just one in every 130,000 children.

The condition can cause a host of problems including a very small rib cage which means that the lungs cannot develop properly.

The way people came together to support her was extraordinary.

And what made it even more meaningful was meeting Jesse and her father after the marathon, at a WellChild event. Seeing them in person brought everything full circle — a powerful reminder that these efforts genuinely make a difference in people’s lives.

If you’d like to read Jess’s story, you can find it here:

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This year, the cause is different. But the intention is the same.

To take something deeply personal to me — and turn it into something that helps others.

As I stand on the start line next Sunday, I won’t just be thinking about the finish.

I’ll be thinking about those moments — the quiet, human ones — and about the opportunity to contribute, in some small way, to making that level of care available to more families.

If this resonates with you — whether through your own experiences, or simply through a belief that this kind of care matters — I would be incredibly grateful for your support.

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Every contribution, no matter the size, helps Marie Curie continue their extraordinary work, bringing care, compassion, and dignity to those who need it most.

And if nothing else, take a moment today to pause, reflect, and connect — with yourself, with someone you love, or with what truly matters in your life.

Because in the end, that’s what stays with us.

P.S. Next Sunday is the big day. If you missed the link to support Marie Curie and the ‘Connection’ they provide at the end of life, you can find my sponsorship page here.

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Embracing an attitude of gratitude isn’t just about saying thank you; it’s a transformative approach that reshapes how you view the world and your place within it.

As we go into 2026, cultivating this mindset becomes not just beneficial but essential for navigating life’s ups and downs with resilience and joy. The secret to a fulfilling life often lies in appreciating the small moments, the everyday miracles that we too easily overlook.

From the warmth of the sun on your face to the unexpected message from a friend, gratitude turns ordinary experiences into extraordinary blessings.

But how do you cultivate such an attitude, especially when challenges arise? This guide promises not just to explore the “why” behind an attitude of gratitude but also to offer practical, actionable strategies that can be woven into the fabric of your daily life.

Whether it’s through journaling, mindful reflection, or expressing thanks in new ways, we’ll uncover how these simple acts can lead to profound changes in your happiness and well-being.

So, if you’re ready to transform your 2025 with a deeper sense of appreciation and joy, let’s dive right in and explore the ultimate guide to living with an attitude of gratitude.

1. Cultivate Proactive Gratitude

Proactive gratitude transforms how you interact with the world, shifting your focus from what’s lacking to the abundance that exists around you.

Begin each day by listing three things you’re grateful for, focusing on different aspects of your life each time. This practice can illuminate the overlooked corners of your daily experiences, revealing a wealth of joy and contentment.

To integrate gratitude more deeply into your life, set reminders on your phone or computer to pause and reflect on gratitude throughout the day. Each pause is an opportunity to acknowledge something positive, no matter how small.

Additionally, keeping a gratitude jar where you can drop notes of daily blessings serves as a tangible reminder of the good in your life. Over time, this jar becomes a treasure trove of positivity, a physical manifestation of your gratitude practice that you can turn to whenever you need a lift.

2. Establish Daily Gratitude Rituals

Creating daily rituals around gratitude ensures it becomes a steadfast part of your life.

Keep a gratitude journal by your bedside for morning and evening reflections, allowing you to start and end each day with a positive frame of mind.

Sharing what you’re grateful for with family or friends during meals turns gratitude into a shared experience, enriching your relationships.

Integrating gratitude meditation into your daily routine helps center your thoughts on thankfulness, providing a calm and focused start to your day.

You could even pratice the gratitude dance every day!

Finally, make it a habit to end your day by sending a text or email expressing thanks to someone. This not only spreads joy but also reinforces your own feelings of gratitude.

3. Foster a Community of Gratitude

Gratitude grows exponentially when shared.

Create a gratitude circle with friends or colleagues, a safe space where you can express and celebrate gratitude together. This could be through regular meetings or a shared digital platform.

Engaging with gratitude-focused groups on social media or starting one can also amplify your practice by connecting with like-minded individuals.

Organize regular meet-ups or calls to discuss what you’re grateful for, turning gratitude into a communal ritual.

Additionally, volunteering for community service acts as a powerful expression of gratitude, giving back to the world from which you’ve received so much.

4. Embrace the Present with Gratitude

Living in the moment is the essence of gratitude.

Practice mindfulness exercises that focus on being thankful for the present, using gratitude prompts to appreciate your current situation, no matter how challenging.

Creating a ‘gratitude collage’ that visually represents what you’re thankful for right now can serve as a daily reminder of the good in your life.

Develop a mantra centered on gratitude to repeat during the day, embedding this positive mindset into your subconscious.

5. Commit to a Consistent Gratitude Practice

Consistency is key to making gratitude a lasting part of your life.

Schedule a specific time each day for your gratitude practice, whether it’s journaling, meditating, or simply reflecting on what you’re thankful for.

Challenge yourself to find something new to be grateful for each day, using a gratitude app to track your progress and reminders.

Sharing your gratitude practice with a buddy can provide accountability and deepen the experience through shared reflections.

6. Express Gratitude in Writing

The act of writing amplifies gratitude.

Write thank-you notes for both significant gestures and everyday kindnesses, creating a ripple effect of positivity.

Starting a gratitude blog or social media account to share your journey invites others into your practice, spreading inspiration.

Keeping a detailed gratitude journal allows for deeper reflection on your experiences, fostering a greater appreciation for life’s nuances.

Writing a gratitude letter to yourself is a powerful exercise in self-recognition and appreciation, acknowledging your own strengths and achievements.

7. Find Gratitude in Overcoming Challenges

Challenges are opportunities for growth, and gratitude can be found even in hardship.

Reflect on past difficulties and the growth or learning that emerged from them. Writing about current challenges as opportunities for development shifts your perspective from victimhood to empowerment.

Sharing stories of overcoming challenges with a gratitude perspective in group discussions or on social media can inspire others facing similar situations.

Visualizing a future where you’ve overcome current challenges and feeling grateful for the strength and wisdom gained encourages resilience and hope.

8. Integrate Gratitude and Mindfulness

Mindfulness and gratitude are natural partners, each enhancing the depth of the other.

Practice mindful walking, focusing on things you’re grateful for in your surroundings. This turns a simple walk into a gratitude exercise, allowing you to connect more deeply with the world around you.

A gratitude bell or chime app can remind you to pause throughout the day and find something to be thankful for. This simple practice helps integrate gratitude into your daily life, making it second nature.

Combining deep breathing exercises with thoughts of gratitude can create moments of peace and appreciation. This can be especially powerful during moments of stress or anxiety.

Attending a mindfulness and gratitude workshop or retreat can deepen your understanding and practice of these life-enhancing skills, providing you with tools to maintain this balanced approach in your daily life.

9. Teach Gratitude to Inspire Others

Sharing gratitude practices with children and peers not only enriches their lives but also reinforces your own practice.

Host workshops or seminars on the benefits of gratitude in your community or workplace to spread the message. This can inspire others to start their own journey towards gratitude.

Gift books or resources on gratitude to friends and family. This not only shares knowledge but also shows your appreciation for them.

Leading by example, letting your gratitude be visible to those around you, can inspire others to adopt a similar attitude. Your visible appreciation and acknowledgment can become a beacon for others to follow.

10. Enhance Physical Health Through Gratitude

Gratitude has tangible benefits for physical health, enhancing both emotional well-being and physical fitness.

Link physical exercise routines with gratitude by being thankful for your body’s capabilities. This mindset can transform the exercise experience, making it more enjoyable and fulfilling.

Practice yoga or tai chi focusing on gratitude for each movement. This helps cultivate a sense of gratitude towards your body and its abilities, deepening the connection between mind and body.

Before meals, take a moment to express gratitude for the nourishment your body is receiving. This practice can turn mealtime into a meditative experience, enhancing the enjoyment and appreciation of food.

Associate regular health check-ups with gratitude for your body’s continuous support. Recognizing the incredible work your body does every day fosters a deeper appreciation and care for your physical health.

11. Leverage Technological Tools for Gratitude

In today’s digital age, technology offers innovative ways to support and expand your gratitude practice.

Use gratitude apps to log daily entries of thankfulness. These apps can provide prompts, reminders, and a space to reflect on gratitude, making it easier to maintain a consistent practice.

Set up gratitude reminders on your phone or computer. These can serve as cues to take a moment and reflect on something you’re grateful for, integrating gratitude seamlessly into your daily routine.

Follow and interact with gratitude-focused accounts on social media. These accounts can offer daily inspiration and a sense of community, connecting you with others on a similar journey.

Watch or listen to gratitude meditations and podcasts. These resources can provide guidance, stories, and insights to deepen your understanding and practice of gratitude.

12. Celebrate Your Small Wins with Gratitude

Acknowledging and celebrating every small achievement reinforces a positive outlook and cultivates a sense of progress and fulfillment.

Keep a ‘win jar’ where you collect notes of all your achievements throughout the year. This tangible reminder of your successes can be a powerful motivator and a source of joy.

Share your small wins with a gratitude partner or group. This not only multiplies the joy but also builds a supportive community that recognizes and celebrates growth.

Reflect weekly on these successes and why they matter to you. This practice helps ground you in a mindset of appreciation, propelling you forward with confidence and gratitude.

By embracing these practices, you can infuse your life with an attitude of gratitude, transforming everyday experiences into sources of joy and connection. Remember, gratitude is a journey, not a destination, and every step taken with a thankful heart is a step towards a richer, more fulfilling life.

Unlock the Power of Thankfulness: Your Journey to Joy Begins Now

Embracing an attitude of gratitude isn’t always easy, especially when life throws its curveballs your way. But remember, it’s in these moments that gratitude can truly transform your perspective, turning trials into opportunities for growth and appreciation.

You’ve got the tools and insights to make gratitude a daily ritual—a beacon that guides you through the darkest times and brightens your brightest days.

Consider this your nudge, your starting line.

Begin with one small step, one moment of thanks, and watch as a world of abundance unfolds before you.

Let’s make 2026 a year where gratitude isn’t just a practice but a way of life.

Are you ready to take that step?

Because your most grateful, joy-filled life is waiting just on the other side of “thank you.”

You’ve got this!

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In a world that never stops moving, the “Benefits of Doing Nothing” might seem like an oxymoron.

Yet, here you are, curious about the magic hidden in stillness, wondering if stepping off the relentless treadmill of productivity could be the key to unlocking a deeper sense of well-being.

Imagine, for a moment, the liberation in giving yourself permission to pause, to simply be, without the weight of endless to-dos.

What if I told you that embracing moments of nothingness could lead to more creativity, a calmer mind, and a happier life?

From mindfulness practices that anchor you in the present to the simple joy of people-watching, this guide is packed with actionable strategies that celebrate the art of inactivity.

So, if you’re ready to explore how doing less can actually bring you more, let’s dive right in and discover the joyous benefits of doing nothing as we step into 2024!

1. Bask in the Power of Pausing

In a society that glorifies busyness, learning to pause can feel counterintuitive, yet it’s essential for our well-being.

The physiological benefits of rest are manifold, including reduced stress, improved heart health, and enhanced mental clarity. By allowing ourselves moments of stillness, we not only recharge our bodies but also gain fresh perspectives, often leading to more creative problem-solving.

Successful individuals and companies alike are recognizing the value of downtime, integrating it into their routines and cultures. To start integrating short pauses into your day, begin with just five minutes of quiet time in the morning, gradually increasing as you feel comfortable.

This simple practice can transform your approach to work and life, making you more productive and fulfilled.

2. Find the Joy of Mindfulness in Stillness

Mindfulness in stillness is not about emptying the mind but engaging it differently. By focusing on the present moment, simple exercises like mindful breathing or sensory observation can significantly reduce anxiety and increase emotional balance.

This practice doesn’t require special equipment or conditions—just a few minutes and a quiet space. Through mindfulness, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, leading to greater inner peace and resilience.

To incorporate mindfulness into your “doing nothing” routine, start with short, focused sessions, gradually extending the time as your comfort with the practice grows.

The benefits, including increased self-awareness and emotional regulation, can profoundly impact all areas of life.

3. Master the Art of Intentional Rest

Intentional rest is about choosing to take breaks with purpose, rather than collapsing into them out of exhaustion. It’s a strategy that balances our active lives with moments of deliberate inactivity, improving our overall productivity and happiness.

Intentional rest can take many forms, from a quiet coffee break without your phone to a short walk in nature. These moments allow our brains to reset, often sparking unexpected bursts of inspiration and creativity.

To create a personal rest plan, identify times in your day when you can step away from demands and commitments, even if just for a few minutes.

This conscious approach to rest not only enhances work performance but also enriches personal life by creating space for reflection and connection.

4. Reclaim Your Time with Purpose

Reclaiming your time from the digital world and its constant demands allows you to focus on what truly matters. By setting boundaries around work and screen time, you can carve out moments for rest and personal pursuits.

Prioritizing activities that contribute to your well-being, like spending time with loved ones or engaging in hobbies, can lead to a more balanced and satisfying life.

To combat the urge to always be “on,” designate tech-free zones and times in your home, encouraging more meaningful interactions and activities.

Remember, time is a non-renewable resource; choosing how to spend it wisely can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment.

5. Elevate your Life with Self-Care Sabbaticals

In an action-oriented culture, doing nothing is often seen as unproductive, yet it’s a vital component of self-care. Embracing periods of inactivity allows us to disconnect from external pressures and connect with ourselves on a deeper level.

This practice can help alleviate stress, foster creativity, and improve mental health. Simple acts of self-care, such as sitting quietly with a cup of tea or watching the sunset, can be incredibly restorative.

By redefining these moments as necessary rather than optional, we can begin to appreciate their value in maintaining our overall health and happiness.

6. Immerse Yourself in Nature’s Serene Lessons 

Nature effortlessly embodies the essence of stillness and teaches us the importance of integrating it into our lives.

Engaging with the natural world, be it through a quiet walk in the forest or simply observing the steady rhythm of the ocean, can be a profound source of peace and rejuvenation.

Nature’s cycles remind us that periods of growth are often preceded by rest.

To harness these lessons, make it a habit to spend time outdoors with no agenda, allowing yourself to simply be present in the natural environment. This connection not only grounds us but also enhances our appreciation for the world’s natural beauty and the rhythm of life itself.

7. Explore the Diverse Worlds of Meditation

Meditation offers a pathway to inner tranquility and heightened self-awareness. It’s not monolithic; various forms like mindfulness, transcendental meditation, or even walking meditations cater to different preferences and needs.

Starting a meditation practice can be as simple as dedicating a few minutes each day to sit quietly, focusing on your breath or a mantra.

This practice can significantly lower stress levels, improve concentration, and contribute to a greater sense of well-being.

Explore different meditation styles to find what resonates with you, and remember, consistency is key to reaping the benefits.

8. Transform Mundane Moments with Presence

Being truly present in our daily activities transforms mundane tasks into moments of mindfulness and joy.

Cultivating presence involves paying full attention to our actions, thoughts, and emotions without judgment.

Simple practices, such as savoring your food during meals or fully engaging in conversations, can enhance your sense of connection to the present moment.

This mindfulness in everyday life leads to deeper relationships, increased satisfaction, and a profound appreciation for the simple pleasures that surround us.

9. Uncover the Hidden Science of Serenity

Recent neurological and psychological research underscores the benefits of rest and mental downtime.

These studies reveal that doing nothing can enhance brain function, promote creativity, and reduce stress.

Periods of rest allow our brains to process information, consolidate memories, and rejuvenate.

Incorporating regular intervals of inactivity into your routine can improve cognitive abilities and emotional resilience, making you better equipped to handle life’s challenges.

Embracing doing nothing isn’t just beneficial; it’s essential for maintaining a healthy, balanced mind.

10. Channel Boredom into Creative Breakthroughs

Boredom, often viewed negatively, is a powerful catalyst for creativity and innovation.

When we allow ourselves to experience boredom without rushing to fill the void, our minds are free to wander and explore new ideas.

This mental exploration can lead to unexpected bursts of creativity and problem-solving.

Encourage periods of doing nothing in your routine and observe how boredom can become a source of inspiration.

Documenting your thoughts and ideas during these times can lead to valuable insights and innovative solutions.

11. Prioritise Quality in Your Quest for Productivity

In our pursuit of productivity, quality often takes precedence over quantity.

Redefining productivity to include mental well-being and creativity highlights the importance of doing nothing.

This approach fosters an environment where ideas can flourish, and well-being is prioritized.

By valuing quality over sheer output, we create space for innovation and personal growth.

Implementing practices that balance work with rest exemplifies this new definition of productivity, leading to more sustainable and fulfilling outcomes.

12. Take Bold Steps Towards Embracing Stillness

Beginning the practice of doing nothing requires intentional steps to integrate it into your daily life.

Start by scheduling short periods of inactivity, gradually increasing them as you become more comfortable with the practice.

Create a peaceful space in your home where you can retreat, free from distractions.

Communicate your needs to those around you, setting clear boundaries to protect this valuable time.

Embrace doing nothing as a vital component of your well-being routine, recognizing its profound impact on your overall quality of life.

Embrace the Stillness: Unlock Your Path to Serenity

As we’ve journeyed through the quiet landscapes of doing nothing, a space where stillness speaks volumes, it’s clear that the benefits of doing nothing stretch far beyond mere moments of pause.

They weave into the very fabric of our well-being, inviting a serenity that the constant hustle of life often overshadows.

You’ve seen how embracing inactivity isn’t a nod to laziness but a bold step towards a richer, more fulfilled existence.

Now, standing at this crossroad, your first step is clear: give yourself permission to pause.

Whether it’s setting aside time daily for quiet reflection, indulging in the simple pleasure of watching the world go by, or embracing the art of mindfulness, let these moments of nothing become your sanctuary of peace.

Remember, in the silence of doing nothing, we find ourselves. We reconnect with the joy and wonder that busyness buries.

You hold the key to unlocking this path to serenity, and it starts with allowing yourself the freedom to simply be.

So, as we look ahead to 2025, let’s make a pledge to not just do more, but to be more — by sometimes doing less.

Embrace the stillness, and watch as your life transforms with the joyous benefits of doing nothing.

You’ve got this!

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Have you ever paused to wonder, “How can I be content with what I already have?”

In a world that constantly urges us to want more, do more, and be more, finding contentment in our current circumstances can feel like a breath of fresh air.

It’s about appreciating the sunsets as much as the bank statements, the laughter-filled dinners as much as the promotions.

But how do we shift our focus from what we lack to the abundance and goodness we already possess?

What would your life be like if you could somehow accept that what you currently have is good enough?

There’s a famous film “As Good as It Gets” starring Jack Nicholson in which the main character visits his shrink and on his way out he looks at all the sick people in the waiting room and says – “What if this is as good as it gets?”

Indeed, what if your life was already as good as it gets?

This post will explore actionable strategies to help you cultivate a deep sense of gratitude for your life as it is now.

From practicing mindfulness to simplifying your daily routine, we’ll dive into specific, everyday examples that can transform your perspective and help you find peace in the present.

So, if you’re ready to embark on this journey of self-discovery and fulfillment, let’s dive right in.

1. Gratitude: Unlock Joy Daily

Gratitude isn’t just a feeling; it’s a practice that can transform your outlook on life and unlock daily joy.

One effective way to cultivate this sense of thankfulness is by keeping a daily gratitude journal. Each day, take a few moments to jot down the things you’re grateful for. This simple act can shift your focus from what’s lacking to the abundance present in your life.

Another way to weave gratitude into the fabric of your daily life is by sharing something you’re grateful for at dinner with family or friends. This not only enriches your sense of appreciation but also fosters a positive environment around you.

Small acts of kindness, too, deserve recognition. Writing thank you notes for these gestures can amplify the feelings of gratitude both for you and the recipient.

Starting your day by naming three things you’re thankful for can set a positive tone for the rest of your day. It’s a practice that encourages you to find joy in the simple things.

Similarly, creating a gratitude jar, where you fill it with notes about positive moments, serves as a visual reminder of the good in your life.

At the end of the week, take some time to reflect on the best parts of your week, drawing from the jar or your journal.

This weekly reflection can strengthen your practice of gratitude, making joy a daily discovery.

2. Mindfulness: Be Here, Now

Mindfulness, the art of being fully present in the moment, can significantly enhance your sense of peace and contentment.

One foundational practice is daily meditation, where you focus on your breath, allowing thoughts to come and go without judgment. This practice roots you in the now, providing clarity and calm.

Similarly, taking mindful walks, where you fully immerse yourself in the experience of the sights, sounds, and smells around you, can transform a simple activity into a profound exercise in awareness.

Mindful eating is another practice that can bring mindfulness into your daily routine. By paying full attention to the taste, texture, and sensation of each bite, meals become an opportunity for gratitude and enjoyment.

For those seeking guidance, mindfulness apps offer a wealth of resources for meditation and other practices. Adding yoga or tai chi to your routine can also enhance your mindfulness, integrating movement with breath and presence.

In moments of stress, simply pausing to take deep breaths can be a powerful tool for centering yourself.

This act of mindfulness can bring immediate relief and perspective, reminding you of your ability to navigate the moment with grace.

3. Declutter: Simplify Your World

Decluttering your physical and digital spaces can lead to a clearer mind and a more contented life.

Tackling one small decluttering project weekly can make the task less daunting and more manageable. Similarly, unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and limiting your time on social media can dramatically reduce information overload, freeing up mental space for more meaningful activities.

The Marie Kondo method, which encourages keeping only items that spark joy, can be a transformative approach to decluttering.

It’s not just about tidying up; it’s about cultivating an environment that reflects and supports your inner state of contentment.

Learning to say “no” to unnecessary commitments is another form of decluttering, this time focusing on your time and energy.

Keeping a to-do list can help you prioritize and focus, further simplifying your world.

4. Goals: Dream, Do, Thrive

Setting and achieving goals is a dynamic process of dreaming, doing, and thriving.

Breaking down big goals into small, achievable steps makes the journey toward them feel more manageable and less overwhelming.

Celebrating small victories along the way fuels your motivation and reinforces the joy of progress. Sharing your goals with a supportive friend or family member can provide encouragement and accountability.

It’s important to periodically reassess and adjust your goals as needed.

This flexibility allows you to respond to life’s changes and challenges without losing sight of your overarching aspirations.

Emphasizing progress over perfection helps maintain a healthy perspective on your achievements and areas for growth.

Setting goals across different areas of your life, such as personal development, professional ambitions, and health, ensures a balanced approach to your aspirations.

5. Connections: Build Your Tribe

Human connections are at the heart of a contented life.

Scheduling regular meet-ups with friends, joining clubs or groups that share your interests, and volunteering for causes you care about can deepen your sense of belonging and purpose.

Making an effort to reconnect with an old friend or family member weekly can rekindle meaningful relationships and strengthen your support network.

Practicing active listening in your conversations shows your genuine interest and fosters deeper connections.

Regularly showing appreciation for your loved ones, through words or actions, nurtures those relationships and reinforces your bonds.

6. Simple Pleasures: Savour Life’s Gifts

Embracing the simple pleasures in life is a profound way to cultivate contentment and joy.

It’s the little things, the everyday moments, that truly enrich our lives.

Allocating time each week for a “treat yourself” moment, whether it’s indulging in your favourite dessert, taking a long bath, or simply enjoying a quiet morning coffee, can be incredibly rejuvenating.

Nature, with its endless beauty and serenity, offers a perfect backdrop for reflection and relaxation. Whether it’s a walk in the park, a hike through the woods, or just sitting by a lake, spending time in nature connects us to the world in a meaningful way.

Rediscovering hobbies that you used to love is another way to reconnect with your joy and passion. Perhaps it’s painting, writing, or playing a musical instrument—activities that once brought you happiness and can do so again.

Cooking a new recipe can be a delightful adventure, not just in the act of creation but also in sharing the results with others, turning a simple meal into a celebration of connection.

Playing with a pet brings unconditional love and moments of pure happiness into our daily lives. The simplicity of a pet’s affection reminds us of the importance of being present and finding joy in the now.

Lastly, music has the power to transform our mood, to transport us to different places and times. Listening to your favourite tunes or exploring new genres can be a source of inspiration and comfort, proving that happiness can be found in the melodies of life.

By intentionally seeking out and embracing these simple pleasures, we allow ourselves to find happiness in the present moment.

These acts, though small, have the power to shift our perspective, reminding us that contentment is not a destination but a way of traveling through life.

7. Well-being: Nourish Body and Soul

Integrating exercise that you truly enjoy into your daily routine can make staying active a joy rather than a chore. Whether it’s dancing, hiking, or yoga, choose activities that make you feel alive.Experimenting with new healthy recipes can turn mealtime into an adventure, allowing you to explore different cuisines while nourishing your body.

Sleep, too, is foundational to well-being. Establishing a nighttime routine that may include reading, meditation, or gentle stretches can significantly improve the quality of your rest.

Staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day is another simple yet effective way to support your overall health.

Likewise, taking short breaks to stretch, especially if you have a sedentary lifestyle, can relieve tension and improve circulation.

Lastly, exploring relaxation techniques such as progressive muscle relaxation can offer profound benefits, reducing stress and enhancing your sense of inner peace.

8. Growth: Learn, Expand, Evolve

Personal growth is a journey of learning, expanding, and evolving into your best self.

Reading books on topics that fascinate you can spark new interests and expand your worldview.

Taking up a new skill or hobby not only enriches your life but also boosts your brain health and emotional well-being.

Attending workshops or seminars can introduce you to new ideas and people who share your interests, creating opportunities for growth and connection.

Listening to educational podcasts is a convenient way to absorb knowledge on the go, turning your commute or workout into a productive learning session.

Writing in a journal to reflect on your learnings helps solidify them in your mind and encourages introspection.

Setting aside time for creative expression, whether through art, writing, or music, allows you to explore your thoughts and feelings in a tangible way, fostering personal growth.

9. Positivity: Radiate Good Vibes

Cultivating a positive outlook can transform your experience of life.

Limiting your exposure to negative news can protect your mental health and maintain your focus on the positive aspects of life.

Surrounding yourself with positive influences, be it people who uplift you or environments that inspire you, can significantly boost your mood and outlook.

Practicing positive affirmations daily can reinforce your self-worth and goals, while visualizing your best possible self helps you stay aligned with your aspirations.

Finding humour in daily life, even in challenges, can lighten your heart and strengthen your resilience.

Replacing negative thoughts with constructive ones is not about denying difficulties but about approaching them with a mindset geared toward solutions and growth.

10. Financial Peace: Budget Bliss

Achieving financial peace is about creating harmony between your income, expenses, and aspirations.

Creating and sticking to a budget gives you control over your finances, empowering you to make decisions that align with your goals. Setting financial goals and reviewing them regularly helps keep you on track and motivated.

Learning about personal finance management, whether through books, courses, or online resources, can equip you with the knowledge to make informed financial decisions.

Celebrating financial milestones, no matter how small, can provide encouragement and a sense of progress.

Practicing mindful spending encourages you to consider the value and long-term impact of your purchases, leading to more fulfilling and less impulsive buying decisions.

Seeking professional financial advice when needed can provide tailored strategies to help you achieve your financial objectives.

11. Imperfection: Perfectly Imperfect

Embracing your imperfections is a courageous act of self-acceptance.

Sharing your struggles with trusted friends or family can lighten your burden and deepen your connections.

Forgiving yourself for past mistakes is crucial for moving forward without unnecessary baggage.

Celebrating your quirks and uniqueness affirms your individuality and contributes to your sense of self-worth.

Practicing self-compassion, treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a dear friend, fosters a nurturing internal environment.

Letting go of the need for control can relieve stress and open you up to new experiences and perspectives.

Accepting that setbacks are part of growth allows you to approach challenges with resilience and optimism.

12. Self-Care: Love Thyself

Self-care is an essential practice for maintaining your well-being and honouring your needs.

Scheduling regular “me” time, whether for relaxation or hobbies, ensures you’re taking care of your mental and emotional health. Treating yourself with kindness and understanding fosters a compassionate relationship with yourself, crucial for overall well-being.

Engaging in activities that relax and rejuvenate you, from spa days to quiet reading sessions, replenishes your energy reserves.

Speaking to yourself as you would a dear friend promotes a positive internal dialogue, critical for self-esteem and confidence.

Prioritizing your needs and well-being is not selfish; it’s necessary for maintaining your health and happiness.

Lastly, seeking support when feeling overwhelmed can provide relief and a reminder that you’re not alone in your struggles.

Crafting a Life of Content: Begin Now

In the quest for contentment, the first step is always the hardest but the most crucial. It begins with turning inwards and asking, “What if this is as good as it gets?”

But remember, this question isn’t about resignation; it’s about realization.

It’s recognizing the abundance you’re living in right now, understanding that fulfilment isn’t tied to the next achievement, the next purchase, or the next milestone.

It’s here, in the laughter shared with loved ones, the quiet moments of peace, and the small victories of everyday life.

So, take a moment today to reflect on what you have, not what you lack.

Start with gratitude—it’s the key that unlocks contentment. Let this article be the nudge you need to start seeing your world through a lens of appreciation.

And remember, the journey to a contented life begins with a single, simple step.

Why not take it today?

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In 2025, the quest to “Find the Special One” remains as elusive and captivating as ever.

Are you tired of the endless swiping, disappointing dates, and the feeling of running in circles? You’re not alone. Many are searching for that unique individual who doesn’t just tick the boxes but resonates with the core of their being.

The good news? Finding your match goes beyond luck; it’s about strategy, self-discovery, and readiness.

This article unveils 14 key tips designed to not only elevate your dating game but transform you into a magnet for love and connection. From honing your self-awareness to embracing vulnerability and everything in between, we’ve got actionable advice that makes a difference.

So, if you’re ready to change the narrative and meet the one who makes your heart skip a beat, let’s dive right in.

1. Unveil Your Best Self: A Journey of Self-Improvement

In the quest to find “The Special One,” the first and perhaps most crucial step is turning inward. It’s about embarking on a profound journey of self-improvement that lays the groundwork for all the relationships in your life.

Importance of Self-Reflection

Start with self-reflection. Take an honest inventory of your strengths and areas for growth. This isn’t about being overly critical but recognizing where you can improve to become the best version of yourself. Self-reflection is the compass that guides your personal development journey.

Setting Personal Development Goals

With a clear understanding of where you stand, set realistic and achievable goals for yourself. Whether it’s improving your communication skills, becoming more empathetic, or learning a new skill, these goals should challenge you while being attainable. Remember, growth happens outside your comfort zone.

The Role of Habits

Your daily habits shape your future. Cultivating positive habits, like reading, exercising, or meditating, can have a profound impact on your character and, by extension, on your relationships. It’s these habits that will propel you toward becoming the person you aspire to be.

Seeking Feedback and Mentorship

No journey should be undertaken alone. Seeking feedback from trusted friends, family, or mentors can provide you with invaluable perspectives on your growth. These insights can help accelerate your development, offering guidance and support along the way.

Celebrating Progress

Lastly, celebrate your progress. Recognize and reward yourself for the milestones you achieve. This not only motivates you to continue moving forward but also builds self-esteem and confidence—qualities that are inherently attractive.

By dedicating yourself to self-improvement, you’re not only enhancing your own life but also preparing yourself to meet, attract, and maintain a relationship with the Special One. Remember, the journey to love starts with loving and improving yourself.

2. Pursue Your Passion: The Magnetism of Purpose

Finding “The Special One” is not just about compatibility in tastes or hobbies; it’s deeply intertwined with the magnetic allure of living a life fuelled by passion and purpose. When you’re passionate about something, it doesn’t just light up your world; it makes you irresistibly attractive to others, especially those who share or admire your dedication.

Discovering Your True Drive

Begin by delving deep into your interests to discover what truly drives you. Ask yourself what activities make you lose track of time, what topics you could talk about for hours without getting bored, and what causes you feel strongly about. This process isn’t about finding a hobby; it’s about uncovering the beacon that will guide your life’s journey.

Aligning Actions with Purpose

Once you’ve identified your passion, align your daily actions with it. This could mean setting career goals that reflect your values, dedicating time to volunteer work that resonates with your soul, or simply choosing hobbies that bring you genuine joy. Living a life aligned with your purpose is not only fulfilling but also deeply attractive to others.

The Attractive Power of Intention

Living with intention, driven by your passion, sends a powerful message about who you are and what you stand for. It showcases a level of self-awareness and commitment that is rare and alluring. People are naturally drawn to those who have a clear direction in life and the courage to pursue it.

Shared Passions Strengthen Connections

When your life is guided by passion, you’re more likely to meet someone who shares your interests or admires your dedication. Shared passions are the bedrock of deep, meaningful connections. They provide endless conversations, shared activities, and mutual growth—all crucial elements of a strong, lasting relationship.

Overcoming Obstacles Together

Finally, understand that living a passionate life isn’t without its challenges. But facing obstacles and staying true to your purpose can make you even more attractive. It shows resilience, a trait highly valued in partners. Moreover, overcoming these obstacles often leads to personal growth, making you an even better match for “The Special One.”

By making passion a central pillar of your life, you not only enrich your own existence but also increase your chances of attracting someone who is equally passionate and purpose-driven. In a world where many are just drifting along, your clear sense of purpose will shine brightly, drawing the right person to your side.

3. Define Your Heart’s Desire: Clarity in Love

Understanding precisely what you desire in a relationship and a partner is pivotal in the journey to find “The Special One.” Without clarity, navigating the vast sea of potential connections becomes overwhelming and aimless. This section delves into how you can gain that clarity and set your love compass in the right direction.

Techniques for Visualising Your Ideal Relationship

Start by visualising your ideal relationship. Imagine the dynamics, the conversations, and even the challenges you might face together. This mental image serves as a guide, helping you recognize when a potential partner aligns with your vision of love.

Differentiating Between ‘Must-Haves’ and ‘Nice-to-Haves’

It’s crucial to distinguish between essential qualities you need in a partner and those that are simply nice to have. ‘Must-haves’ are non-negotiables that align with your core values, while ‘nice-to-haves’ are preferences that, while desirable, won’t make or break a relationship. This distinction prevents you from overlooking a potentially perfect partner over superficial traits.

Communicating Your Desires and Boundaries Effectively

Once clear about your desires, learn to communicate them effectively. Open, honest communication early in a relationship sets a solid foundation and ensures you and your partner are on the same page. It also involves expressing your boundaries, creating a healthy environment where both partners feel respected and understood.

Using Past Relationships as Learning Experiences

Reflect on past relationships not as failures but as learning experiences. Analyse what worked, what didn’t, and why. These reflections can offer invaluable insights into your relationship patterns and help refine your understanding of what you truly desire in a partner.

The Importance of Being Present and Optimistic About Love

Finally, while clarity about what you want is crucial, remaining open and optimistic is equally important. Love often comes in unexpected packages, and being too rigid in your expectations can lead you to miss out on someone truly special. Balancing clarity with openness allows you to recognize and welcome love when it arrives.

4. Spread Kindness: The Reflection of Your Soul

In a world craving genuine connections, kindness emerges as a beacon, drawing people together. How you treat others, from close family and friends to strangers you meet, reflects your inner being and shapes your relationships. Here’s how kindness can amplify your attractiveness and lead you closer to “The Special One.”

Acts of Kindness as a Reflection of Your Inner Self

Your actions towards others serve as a mirror of your soul. Small acts of kindness, be it a warm smile, a thoughtful gesture, or a helping hand, can significantly impact someone’s day and how they view you. These actions signal that you are compassionate, empathetic, and someone worth knowing on a deeper level.

The Impact of Daily Kindness

Incorporating kindness into your daily routine can transform not only how others perceive you but also how you feel about yourself. It boosts your self-esteem and happiness, making you more attractive to others. People are naturally drawn to individuals who exude positivity and warmth.

Kindness as a Key Trait Sought in Long-term Partners

When looking for a long-term partner, kindness tops the list of desired traits. It’s the foundation of trust, understanding, and mutual respect in a relationship. Showing kindness in your interactions demonstrates that you’re capable of being a loving, supportive partner.

Building a Reputation of Generosity and Compassion

As you consistently practice kindness, you’ll build a reputation for being generous and compassionate. This reputation precedes you in social circles and can attract potential partners who value these qualities. Being known for your kindness can open doors to meeting like-minded individuals.

The Ripple Effect of Kindness

Kindness has a ripple effect, touching the lives of those around you and coming back to you in unexpected ways. By spreading kindness, you’re more likely to encounter it in your own life, perhaps from “The Special One” you’re destined to meet. This cycle of kindness and love enriches your life and brings you closer to finding that special connection.

5. Connect Deeply: The Art of Making Others Feel Special

Deep connections are forged in the details—the genuine interest and care you show for another person’s experiences, thoughts, and feelings. This section explores how to cultivate such connections, making every interaction count on your journey to find “The Special One.”

Mastering the Art of Active Listening

Active listening is more than just hearing words; it’s about understanding the message behind them. Show that you value what the other person has to say by maintaining eye contact, nodding in agreement, and responding with thoughtful questions. This attentiveness makes the speaker feel cherished and deepens the bond between you two.

Personalising Interactions to Show Genuine Interest

Take note of the small things—their likes, dislikes, and the stories they share with you. Bringing up these details in future conversations shows that you truly listen and care, making them feel special and seen. This personalised attention sets the foundation for a meaningful connection.

The Power of Compliments and Positive Reinforcement

Genuine compliments can brighten someone’s day and boost their self-esteem. Recognise and vocalize the unique qualities you admire in them. Positive reinforcement for their achievements and qualities encourages a deeper mutual respect and admiration.

Creating Memorable Experiences through Empathy and Understanding

Share experiences and moments that cater to their interests and values. Whether it’s a thoughtful gift, a planned outing to a place they’ve always wanted to visit, or simply spending quality time together doing something they love, these gestures create lasting memories and strengthen your connection.

Nurturing Relationships with Thoughtful Gestures and Communication

Regular, thoughtful gestures and open communication show that you value and prioritise the relationship. Small acts of kindness, surprise messages, or simply checking in on how they’re doing can make a significant impact. Nurturing your relationships in this way keeps the connection alive and vibrant.

6. Embrace Emotional Wisdom: Maturity in Love

Emotional maturity is a cornerstone of lasting relationships. It involves understanding, managing, and expressing your emotions in a healthy way, fostering an environment where love can flourish. Here’s how to cultivate emotional wisdom on your path to finding “The Special One.”

Understanding and Managing Your Emotions

Start by acknowledging your feelings, both positive and negative. Understand what triggers these emotions and learn how to respond rather than react. This self-awareness is key in maintaining your composure and making thoughtful decisions in emotionally charged situations.

Developing Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage not only your own emotions but also those of others. Cultivate this by practicing empathy, being attentive to how others feel, and responding appropriately. This sensitivity builds trust and openness in relationships.

The Role of Vulnerability in Creating Authentic Connections

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable, to share your fears and hopes, invites a deeper connection. It signals to the other person that you trust them and are open to a genuine relationship. Vulnerability is a strength that encourages closeness and mutual support.

Techniques for Resolving Conflicts with Compassion and Empathy

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but it’s how you handle it that matters. Approach disagreements with a willingness to understand the other’s perspective. Communicate your feelings without blame and work together towards a solution that respects both parties.

Recognising Emotional Triggers and Working Through Them Constructively

Identify what situations trigger negative emotions for you and understand why. By recognizing these triggers, you can work on responding more constructively in the future. This effort not only benefits your personal growth but also enhances your relationships, making you a more understanding and compassionate partner.

7. Laugh Together: The Joy of Shared Humour

Laughter is a universal language that bridges gaps, heals wounds, and brings people closer. In the search for “The Special One,” sharing moments of joy and laughter can significantly deepen your connection. Here’s how to weave humour into the fabric of your relationships.

Humour as a Tool for Breaking the Ice

Starting conversations with a light-hearted joke or amusing observation can immediately ease tensions and make interactions more comfortable. It’s an excellent way to break the ice, showing your playful side and making you more approachable.

Sharing Laughs to Create a Bond

Finding humour in the same situations or jokes can create an instant bond. Shared laughter not only fosters a sense of unity but also cultivates a joyful atmosphere in which love can grow. It’s these moments of genuine joy that often form the foundation of a deep and lasting relationship.

The Importance of Not Taking Life Too Seriously

Approaching life with a sense of humour makes you resilient and adaptable. It shows that you can face challenges without losing your joy, a trait that is incredibly attractive. This ability to laugh, even in the face of adversity, can make your journey together more enjoyable and less stressful.

Finding Humour in Everyday Situations

Life is full of humorous moments, and pointing them out can bring lightness to any day. Cultivate the habit of finding and sharing these moments with others. This practice not only makes daily life more fun but also shows that you’re observant and thoughtful.

Balancing Playful Teasing with Maintaining Respect

While playful teasing can be a sign of affection, it’s important to always maintain respect for the other person’s feelings. Understanding their sense of humour and boundaries is key. This balance ensures that your jests bring smiles, not hurt.

8. Radiate Inside Out: The Essentials of Self-Care

Self-care is the act of caring for yourself to be the best you can be – not just for you, but also for “The Special One” you hope to meet or have already met. It’s about radiating health, confidence, and well-being from the inside out. Here’s how to integrate self-care into your life.

Prioritising Physical Health Through Exercise, Diet, and Rest

A healthy body is foundational to a healthy mind and spirit. Regular exercise, a nutritious diet, and adequate rest are key components. This commitment to your physical well-being not only enhances your attractiveness but also boosts your energy and mood.

The Impact of Self-Care on Self-Esteem and Confidence

Self-care practices significantly impact your self-esteem and confidence. When you look after your physical health, engage in activities you enjoy, and take time for relaxation, you signal to yourself and others that you value yourself. This self-respect is a core component of your attractiveness.

Mental Health Practices, Including Mindfulness and Stress Management

Taking care of your mental health is as important as caring for your physical body. Practices like mindfulness, meditation, or even journaling can help manage stress, process emotions, and maintain a balanced state of mind. A healthy mind is crucial for building and sustaining meaningful relationships.

The Role of Personal Grooming and Style in Self-Expression

Personal grooming and developing a style that reflects your personality are vital elements of self-care. They not only help you present your best self to the world but also boost your confidence. This self-expression is an integral part of your identity and how you connect with others.

Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Time and Energy

Self-care also involves setting boundaries to protect your time and energy. Knowing when to say no and how to prioritise your well-being is crucial. Healthy boundaries ensure that you have the emotional and physical stamina to invest in your relationships fully.

9. Expand Your Horizons: Embrace New Interests

The journey to finding “The Special One” is not just about seeking someone who complements you but also about becoming a more well-rounded, interesting individual. Expanding your horizons by embracing new interests can significantly enhance your attractiveness. Here’s how to broaden your scope.

Trying New Activities to Discover Hidden Passions

Venture out of your comfort zone and try activities that have always intrigued you, whether it’s a cooking class, rock climbing, or learning a new language. These experiences can unveil passions you never knew you had, adding depth to your character.

The Benefits of Lifelong Learning on Cognitive Health and Social Connections

Embracing lifelong learning not only keeps your mind sharp but also widens your social circle. Engaging in educational classes or workshops introduces you to like-minded individuals, potentially opening doors to meaningful connections.

How Diverse Interests Make You a More Engaging Partner

Having a variety of interests makes you more engaging and relatable. It provides a wealth of topics for conversation and shared experiences, ensuring that your interactions with potential partners are both stimulating and diverse.

The Role of Curiosity in Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics

Curiosity drives personal growth and enriches relationships. Showing genuine interest in learning about your partner’s hobbies and passions—and sharing your own—fosters a deeper understanding and appreciation for each other.

Encouraging Mutual Exploration of Interests in a Partnership

In a relationship, exploring new interests together can be incredibly bonding. It creates shared memories and experiences, reinforcing your connection and keeping the relationship vibrant and exciting.

10. Live Passionately: Crafting a Vibrant Life

Living a passionate life isn’t just about having interests; it’s about engaging with the world around you with enthusiasm and energy. This vibrancy is magnetic, drawing people towards you, including potential partners who are attracted to your zest for life.

Building a Life You Love, Independent of a Romantic Relationship

Focus on creating a fulfilling life for yourself that isn’t contingent on being in a relationship. Pursue your passions, cultivate friendships, and engage in activities that bring you joy. This independence and self-sufficiency are highly attractive qualities.

The Attractiveness of Independence and Self-Sufficiency

Independence and the ability to find happiness on your own terms are compelling to others. They show that you’re not looking for someone to complete you but rather to complement your already rich life.

Engaging in Activities That Light Up Your Spirit

Make time for activities that truly light up your spirit, whether it’s artistic expression, outdoor adventures, or community service. These activities not only enrich your life but also make you more intriguing and attractive to others.

How a Fulfilling Solo Life Prepares You for Partnership

By leading a fulfilling life on your own, you set a solid foundation for a future relationship. You bring to the table a sense of wholeness and contentment, qualities that are essential for a healthy, balanced partnership.

Inviting Potential Partners into Your Vibrant, Passionate Life

Your vibrant, passionate life can be a beacon for “The Special One.” By sharing your interests and passions, you invite potential partners to join you on your adventures, allowing them to see the world through your eyes and experience the joy you derive from life.

11. Let Go and Grow: Moving Beyond Your Past

Embracing the future often requires letting go of the past. Holding onto old hurts or failed relationships can hinder your journey to finding “The Special One.” Here’s how to release the past and open your heart to new possibilities.

The Necessity of Forgiveness, Both Self and Others, to Move Forward

Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing. It involves letting go of resentment and bitterness towards those who have wronged you, as well as forgiving yourself for past mistakes. This process frees you from emotional baggage, enabling you to approach new relationships with a clean slate.

Techniques for Letting Go of Past Hurts and Disappointments

Implement techniques such as journaling, meditation, or therapy to work through and release past hurts. Recognizing the lessons learned from these experiences can transform pain into wisdom, contributing to your personal growth.

The Role of Self-Compassion in Healing from Past Relationships

Practicing self-compassion is crucial in the healing process. Be gentle with yourself, acknowledging that healing takes time. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend in a similar situation.

Embracing Change and Growth from Relationship Experiences

Every relationship, whether successful or not, offers valuable lessons. Embrace the changes and growth that come from these experiences, using them to better understand yourself and what you truly want in a partner.

The Importance of Being Present and Optimistic About Love

Focus on the present and maintain an optimistic outlook on love. While it’s important to learn from the past, dwelling on it can prevent you from seeing the opportunities for love that lie ahead. Stay open and hopeful, believing that the best is yet to come.

12. Generosity: The Attractive Force of Abundance

Generosity is not just about giving materially but also about sharing your time, attention, and kindness. This abundance mindset can significantly enhance your attractiveness, drawing people who value generosity towards you.

Cultivating an Abundance Mindset in Love and Life

An abundance mindset revolves around the belief that there is plenty of love and happiness to go around. By adopting this outlook, you’re more likely to engage in acts of generosity, which, in turn, attract people who are drawn to your positive energy.

The Joy and Fulfilment in Giving Without Expecting Return

True generosity involves giving without the expectation of return. Find joy and fulfilment in the act of giving itself, whether it’s offering a helping hand, sharing wisdom, or simply being there for someone in need. This selflessness is inherently attractive and fosters genuine connections.

How Generosity Attracts Individuals with Similar Values

Generosity tends to attract like-minded individuals who value kindness and giving. These are the people who appreciate what you have to offer and are likely to reciprocate with generosity of their own, creating a foundation for a balanced and fulfilling relationship.

Balancing Generosity with Self-Respect and Boundaries

While generosity is a virtue, it’s important to balance it with self-respect and boundaries. Being generous doesn’t mean allowing others to take advantage of your kindness. Establish healthy boundaries to ensure that your generosity enriches your life and relationships without depleting your own resources.

The Impact of Small Acts of Kindness on Relationship Health

Never underestimate the power of small acts of kindness. A thoughtful gesture, a kind word, or simply lending an ear can significantly strengthen a relationship. These acts of kindness contribute to a loving, supportive environment, making your bond with “The Special One” even more special.

13. Polish Your Presence: Refining Your Personal Etiquette

Your interactions with others, both in person and online, are reflections of your inner self and can significantly influence people’s perceptions. Refining your personal etiquette is about more than just manners; it’s about showing respect, consideration, and making those around you feel valued.

The Importance of Manners and Respect in First Impressions

First impressions are lasting. Demonstrating good manners and respect in your initial interactions sets a positive tone and builds a foundation of trust and appreciation. It’s about being polite, attentive, and showing genuine interest in the person you’re engaging with.

Etiquette in Digital Communications and Social Media

In today’s digital age, much of our communication occurs online. Practicing etiquette in your digital interactions is just as important. This includes being mindful of your tone, respecting privacy, and responding promptly. Your digital demeanour can greatly impact your relationships and how you’re perceived by potential partners.

Cultivating a Respectful, Attentive Demeanour in Interactions

A respectful and attentive demeanour goes a long way in making others feel special. Listen actively, avoid interrupting, and show empathy in your responses. Such behaviour not only makes your conversations more meaningful but also signals that you’re a considerate and caring individual.

The Role of Personal Style in Expressing Your Identity

Your personal style is a form of self-expression and can communicate a lot about your personality, values, and interests. Dressing in a way that feels authentic and comfortable to you can boost your confidence and help attract someone who appreciates you for who you are.

Continuous Self-Improvement to Maintain an Appealing Presence

Personal etiquette and style are not static; they evolve as you grow. Engage in continuous self-improvement, whether it’s learning new social skills, updating your wardrobe to match your current tastes, or refining your communication techniques. This commitment to bettering yourself makes you more attractive and ready to connect deeply with “The Special One.”

14. Prepare Your Sanctuary: A Welcoming Love-Nest

Creating a space that reflects your personality, values, and readiness for a relationship is crucial in your journey to finding “The Special One.” Your living environment not only impacts your own well-being but also how comfortable and welcome your potential partner feels.

The Significance of a Tidy, Inviting Living Space

A clean and organised home is inviting and creates a positive impression. It shows that you value yourself and your space, which is attractive to potential partners. Taking the time to tidy and declutter not only makes your home more welcoming but also symbolizes your readiness for sharing your life with someone.

Tips for Creating a Comfortable, Stylish Home

Consider the comfort and style of your home. Create a space that feels like a sanctuary, where you and potential partners can relax and connect. This might mean investing in comfortable furniture, adding personal touches with decor, or ensuring the space is warm and inviting.

The Impact of Your Personal Environment on Mental Health and Relationships

Your living environment significantly affects your mental health and, by extension, your relationships. A peaceful, harmonious space can foster relaxation and openness, making it easier to cultivate deep, meaningful connections.

Hosting and Sharing Your Space as a Form of Intimacy

Inviting someone into your home is an intimate act and can strengthen your relationship. It allows you to share more of your life and personality. Making your space welcoming for guests, from comfortable seating to thoughtful amenities, demonstrates your readiness to build a life with someone.

By polishing your presence and preparing your sanctuary, you not only enhance your own life but also set the stage for a loving, committed relationship. These efforts reflect your dedication to finding and nurturing a connection with “The Special One,” making you even more attractive and ready for the special love you deserve.

Your Journey to Love Redefined

Finding “The Special One” isn’t a fairy tale; it’s a journey of self-discovery, resilience, and genuine connection.

We know the road can be rough, filled with doubts and setbacks. Yet, the path you’re on is leading you to not just any partner, but the right one for you.

Consider these 14 key tips your compass, guiding you through the dating maze with confidence and clarity.

Remember, transforming your love life starts with one step: believing in your ability to attract and nurture the love you deserve.

So, take a deep breath, embrace your journey, and start implementing these strategies today.

Your special someone isn’t just a dream waiting to be found—they’re a reality waiting for you to take action.

Let’s make 2025 the year you find them.

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Do you believe that life is miraculous?

Are you waiting for a miracle to happen in your life?

Just imagine what it would be like to live your life as if everything is a miracle.

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is.” ~ Albert Einstein

Sometimes people look for some kind of miracle when their life is in a fix. Other times, people may pray for a miracle when a loved one is seriously ill or when they face a life-threatening challenge.

I remember praying for a miracle when I felt I hadn’t done well in a school exam. Somehow I did pass and that was my first personal experience of my own miracle, albeit a tiny one.

Whenever there is a major earthquake, there are usually many “miracles” of afflicted people surviving for many days under the rubble without food or water.

“The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What’s a miracle and how does one recognise one?

Wikipedia gives us a number of interpretations of what we mean by a miracle:-

• An unexpected event attributed to divine intervention.
• A fortuitous event.
• Any statistically unlikely but beneficial event, such as the survival of a natural disaster.
• An event that is regarded as “wonderful” regardless of its likelihood, such as birth.
• Survival of a terminal illness.
• Escaping a life-threatening situation.
• Beating the odds.
• Some “coincidences”.

In all of the above, the common thing is some unlikely or unexpected occurrence or something that just seems so incredible such as the birth of a child.

I have never witnessed the miracle of a child being born but a few years ago, I was lucky enough to be just outside the maternity ward where a friend was giving birth.

I heard some faint crying and then 20 minutes later, the beaming father invited me in to see their newly arrived baby son. And there he lay cradled next to his mother, with his eyes wide open and looking as if he had always been there.

It was one of the most beautiful and miraculous moments of my life – I can’t even imagine what it must have been like for the proud father.

Just how did that little baby boy happen?

“I am realistic – I expect miracles” – Wayne Dyer

In reality, everything around us is a miracle if only we can learn to see and recognise these miracles.

By living your life as if everything is a miracle, every moment becomes something to savour and live in awe of.

You naturally get to feel great appreciation and gratitude for your life, knowing that you are blessed with such miracles all around.

To help you become more present to all the miracles in your life – I have split them up into 5 specific categories.

As you read the remainder of this post, I invite you to treat this as your own personal journey into the world of miracles.

After every section, please pause for a few seconds, breathe deeply a couple of times, and simply become present to that miracle.

Let’s begin our journey:-

1. The Miracle of Life

The greatest miracle is that you are alive! 

What did it take for us to even be able to engage in this conversation!

Just think about it – how is it that a mass of flesh and blood is able to partake and experience what we call life?

What allows us to experience the world through our senses?

What allows you to even lie back and reflect on this life?

If you have never thought about your very life as a miracle, please take a pause right now.

What is it that makes your blood go through your body – and what’s that incredible and mysterious universal intelligence that makes you tick?

Isn’t it a miracle that somehow life evolved on this planet we call earth, which just happens to be the right distance from our star and where during the course of billions of years, just the right conditions came about for some hydrogen and carbon molecules to gel together and finally evolve into you and me?

Just how is it that a soup of organic materials somehow evolved into the wonder of you and me?

It all seems to happen like magic – and yet we hardly ever pause to reflect on the biggest miracle of all.

Life is our greatest miracle and gift – and even more reason to appreciate your life every day.

“Each of my days are miracles. I won’t waste my day; I won’t throw away a miracle” – Kelley Vicstrom

2. The Miracle of Love

After the miracle of life, the greatest miracle is that of love.

But what is love?

Love is much greater than what we feel romantically – it is what makes us sing, dance and human.

“Love doesn’t make the world go around, it just makes the ride worthwhile.” – Franklin P. Jones

Love is the most amazing thing in our lives.

It is what makes us human, what makes life worth living – in the grander scheme of things, nothing else truly matters.

The size of our homes, bank balances, the beauty of our partner, the speed of our car – all those things pale into insignificance when we face the miracle of love.

“Where there is great love there are always miracles” – Willa Cather

Love leads to other miracles such as kindness.

Have you noticed how great you feel afterwards when you have done someone a kind deed?

Through the miracle of our love, we can indeed transform the world – even a hug, a loving touch or just a smile can cause the miracle of healing others.

There are so many simple things we can all do on a daily basis to bring more love into our lives. Together we can all make this an even more beautiful and miraculous world than it already is.

So from today onwards, appreciate and acknowledge all the love around you and in you. Look for ways of spreading your love through compassion and making a practical difference to those around you.

3. The Miracle of Your Body

To experience this thing we call life, we need our bodies to function as well as possible.

Our bodies somehow sustain themselves, grow, repair, and fight to stay alive till the very end.

There are trillions of chemical reactions and exchanges going on within us every second and everything seems to run like clockwork.

Even when disease or decay sets in, our bodies continue to strive and sustain themselves almost like magic.

The durability of our body is a miracle in itself – I remember when my first nephew was born a few weeks prematurely and he spent the first month of his life in an incubator.

It was heartbreaking to see this little guy, a tiny bag of skin and bones fighting for dear life and getting stronger day by day, ounce by ounce.

Experiencing something like that sure opens you up to the miracle of life – and also makes you realise that perhaps there really is something much bigger than us out there and indeed within us.

From today onwards, commit to take great care of your body.

You only have to take some simple and practical self-care steps and your body will begin to miraculously heal itself and sustain you for the rest of your life.

4. The Miracle of Nature

Where does one even begin to extol the sheer beauty of our natural world?

Let’s start with one of the main symbols of beauty in our society – the majestic flower. Have you ever looked at a beautiful flower closely and failed to be moved by its magnificence and symmetry?

“The miracles of nature do not seem miracles because they are so common. If no one had ever seen a flower, even a dandelion would be the most startling event in the world” – Author Unknown

A flower is but just one example of all the wonderful nature that makes up our earth and indeed beyond the earth. Look at the sky this evening and marvel at all the twinkling stars all around us.

Just how do those points of light just stay there? And who put them up there?

Everything in nature is so beautifully symmetrical and perfect – it is almost like a universal master craftsman or craftswoman was at work.

From today onwards, I invite you to spend some time in nature daily and simply appreciate the miracle of what’s around you – from the humble ant to the majestic oak.

And then for the rest of your life, be in continuous awe of the nature around you.

5. The Miracle of Your Creativity

Only a few years ago, before the advent of the internet, it would have been impossible to even envisage us having this conversation via the medium of the blogosphere.

And yet today, we can send out a single message to millions of people around the world in seconds.

As a species, we are incredibly creative and intelligent, and sometimes there seems no end to what we are capable of.

You are capable of so much – and probably a lot more than what you are currently doing.

You can literally create your own miracles – if you choose to do so.

The challenge that we all face is how to channel this creativity into something that benefits the greater good.

So from today onwards, put your own creative gifts to work – and create your own miracles to make the world a better place.

“I have found in life that if you want a miracle you first need to do whatever it is you can do – if that’s to plant, then plant; if it is to read, then read; if it is to change, then change; if it is to study, then study; if it is to work, then work; whatever you have to do. And then you will be well on your way of doing the labour that works miracles.” – Jim Rohn

It’s in your hands to see life as a miraculous experience.

Make the Rest of Your Life a Miracle

You stand at the threshold of a transformative journey, where the ordinary reveals its hidden wonders.

Feel that excitement? It heralds the start of a new perspective.

Today, take a moment to pause. Look around. Find one simple thing that strikes you as miraculous, no matter how small.

Miracles are all around you – in a stranger’s smile, a flower’s blooming, the rhythm of your heart. Recognise these miracles and let them rekindle your sense of wonder.

By shifting your view, you open a world where everything is a marvel.

Embrace this outlook and watch as your life transforms, vibrant with the beauty of everyday miracles.

Now, take that first step. Begin this journey and make the rest of your life a living, breathing miracle.

Remember, the miraculous awaits in every moment – it’s yours to discover and cherish.

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On 21st April this year, I’ll be taking part in my 10th London Marathon – this time I am running for Samaritans.

You could say I am addicted 🙂

Or maybe I am just crazy!

Each previous London Marathon has been quite a journey of passion and perseverance. And fun!

By supporting Samaritans, the official charity of the 2024 TCS London Marathon, we’re giving much-needed exposure to their invaluable work with those in desperate isolation, facing immense challenges.

Samaritans, a charity dedicated to emotional support and suicide prevention, are a beacon of hope, and this year’s London Marathon will demonstrate to millions that they are not alone in their struggles.

Almost 17 years ago, my friend Rodney died by suicide. He sent me a very loving text message a week before – and I had no idea at the time that would be his last ever message to me.

Rodney’s story is a heartbreaking example of the silent struggle many face, leading to the irreversible decision of suicide.

It’s a poignant reminder of why I am taking part in the marathon – to honour his memory and to support those who might be feeling lost.

So many people have lost a loved one due to suicide.

Suicide leaves a void in the lives of loved ones left behind. The feelings of unworthiness, profound depression, and burdensomeness that lead to such tragedies are what the Samaritans aim to alleviate.

That’s why they work tirelessly to reach more people and make suicide prevention a priority.

Their vision is a world where fewer lives are lost to suicide, and I am committed to supporting this vision.
I am taking part in the marathon to show others there is always hope, and to raise money to help Samaritans be here, day and night, for anyone who is struggling to cope.

Every step I take, and every pound we raise, will help train more volunteers, answer more calls for help and ultimately save more lives.

Join me in this cause. Your donation, big or small, is a powerful gesture of hope and support. Together, we can train more volunteers, answer urgent calls, and save lives.

Here’s the sponsorship page for my 10th London Marathon.

Together, we can create a brighter tomorrow and save lives—one step at a time.

With hope and determination.

Arvind

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Happy New Year everyone!

Trust you had a wonderful festive time and New Year celebration with your loved ones.

As we now get into this New Year, here’s possibly the most important question you can answer this year:-

Just HOW will you make this New Year a Happy Year?

The key word we use to greet each other at this time of the year is “Happy”. As we move away from the old and bring in the new, we expect things to somehow magically be different and better on the other side of the New Year fireworks.

As you know, life is not like that!

You and I have to consciously make it happen so that things are magically different and better in the New Year. The MAGIC comes from us – through our clear intentions, effort and focus.

And the important question is this – how will YOU make this year your best year ever?

Assuming of course that you want to make it your best year. No pressure!

If you don’t want to make it your best year ever, that’s fine too.

Maybe the rest of us have got it wrong – and there’s a lot to be said about just accepting the status quo and being at peace and harmony with where you are now in life.

“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” – Mae West

However, I really believe that we are here to grow and experience life in its fullness and eternal richness. That growth is ultimately “spiritual” but why not make the most of each day and really push your own boundaries?

When you look back on your life, what if one day you have lots of regrets about the type of human being you never became? About things you never tried or places you never visited?

“Don’t die with your music still in you” – Wayne Dyer.

As we get into the New Year, I am clear that I am here to make the most of my life and I want to help others do the same. And that’s my music.

What’s YOUR music? And when will you begin to play it?

Remember, you make the rules in your life – so it’s time to forget all your old rules this year!

“The golden rule is there are no rules” – George Bernard Shaw

Rather than lamenting the loss of time, focus instead on the lessons you learnt last year.

And rather than pondering what you didn’t achieve last year, reflect on how much you learnt from the things you did, how you did them and also most importantly, what you didn’t do.

By seriously looking back on last year, you will see just what it is that you must stop doing from now onwards in all areas of your life this year.

To help you do just that, here are my 7 things for you to finally stop doing this year:-

1. Stop Being Miserable!

Do you laugh easily or do you take life so seriously that you hardly ever smile anymore?

Take a moment right now, look back on the last year and see if you can remember when it was that you truly laughed deeply.

Life is too short to be miserable.

It is a crime to go around with a miserable face.

Remember, laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry and no one cries with you!

So what will it take for you to be happy? To start with, check out my 17 Tips to become Happy Right now.

A lot of people talk about finding your passion but this could well become a lifelong pursuit and you may never find it. Instead of looking for your passion, why not just find your joy?

And when you look for joy, it will show up in so many ways. For example, in my case, in the first 2 hours of 2013, I met an amazingly talented singer called Joy at a New Year’s party!

Learn to be happy and joyous no matter what your life situation currently is.

Make the coming year, the year you embrace joy as a moral obligation!

And learn to become exuberant!

2. Stop Abusing Your Body

You only have one body for this life. And yet, just look around and you will see so many people simply abusing their bodies.

There is so much you can do immediately to improve your health. If you been very unfit, even if you start by simply walking 10 minutes a day, that will be a great start to a healthier and fitter you this year.

Over the next few days, review just what your health is like and decide on ways of how you can finally stop abusing your body.

For this New Year, apply my 14 tips to take total self-care of yourself.

3. Stop Wasting Your Time

Last year has gone, and try as much as you can, you will never get back the time that has gone, along with all its opportunities and gifts.

So from this year and beyond, make the most of your time. Focus on one thing at a time

This is not necessarily about doing less, but about becoming simply productive.

Stop working so hard and stop working all hours. Of course your particular job and career may dictate that you work long hours, but even then look at ways of becoming more effective and efficient.

For example, stop checking your email inbox every few minutes and spending working time on social networking websites such as Facebook and Twitter. Though these websites are now clearly a part of our lives it is up to you to be sensible about how you use them.

The point is that whatever you do, see how you can bring more leisure time into your life. And of course, remember to always stop to listen to the music.

4. Stop Collecting and Hoarding Clutter

Do you collect hoard stuff and hang on to things just because one day they may be useful?

I cannot emphasis enough just how much your life will improve the moment you stop hoarding and start de0cluttering.

To start with take my clutter quiz today.

You may even want to use the first couple of weeks of this year to go around your home and clear out stuff. Why not start the New Year in a de-cluttered home?

For this year, adopt a minimalist life. Though there are lots of resources on the net to help you do just that, I suggest you check out Leo Babauta’s minimalist website.

5. Stop Wasting Money

By adopting a minimalist approach to life, you will begin to stop wasting money. Do you really need to buy the latest gizmos and gadgets?

The media is so relentless in hammering into you messages about spending your cash – make this year, THE year you fight back.

To stop wasting money, simply stop buying more stuff. Cut back on your purchases and ask yourself every time if you really need to make that purchase.

Check out the Simple Dollar for umpteen ideas to save money

At the same time stop being wasteful with what you already have. It is shocking how so much of the food we buy in the Western world gets thrown away – estimated at least 20%!

So by being more careful with our food purchasing and eating leftovers in creative ways, we could easily cut our food bill by 20%.

6. Stop Ignoring the Key People in Your Life

Your life is made rich not by the things you have and spend money on, but by the people in your life.

From now onwards, get clear about just what and who is important in your life. Make your family and friends the focus of your life and spend more time with them.

It could be as simple as creating a special occasion once a week or more. Simply stop ignoring your loved ones.

Especially spend more time with your parents and learn what you can, whilst you still can.

Also regularly create a special occasion with your friends.

7. Stop Being Socially Irresponsible

More than ever before, the world needs you to be socially responsible. Learn and accept that how you live your life has an impact on everything and everyone around you, both locally and globally.

Everything you do matters and make’s either a positive or a negative impact on the world.

This year learn more about how you can become personally social responsible.

By cutting down on your purchases, making sensible purchasing choices and recycling your stuff, you will have already started to become more socially responsible.

However, you can begin to do a lot more by becoming much more aware of how your behaviour affects the people around you and how your lifestyle makes a lasting impact on the world.

A socially responsible person will endeavour to have a positive effect on others and enrich his environment. He will strive to make a positive contribution, and will not pollute the atmosphere, both physically and metaphorically.

“Be the Change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi

Ultimately we are all one. Earlier on, I talked about finding your song. But ultimately we are all one and we all have the SAME song.

“At the edge of the cornfield a bird will sing with them in the oneness of their happiness. 

And the bird song, and the people’s song, and the song of life will become one.” – Song of the Long Hair Kachinas, Hopi

All our songs will one day be one and ultimately it all comes down to Love.

Which brings me on to my key message again for this year and beyond – Love is all that matters.

Please check out this key post from my archives – Why Love is all That Matters Beyond 21.12.12

What Things Will You Start Doing This Year?

Once you have stopped doing the 7 things above, you naturally get drawn to doing the opposite.

So make this year the year in which you:-

• Live a Life of Joy and Laughter
• Become Truly Fit and Healthy
• Use your Time Wisely
• Adopt a Minimalist Lifestyle
• Become Prudent with your Money
• Spend Quality Time with your Loved ones
• Adopt Personal Social Responsibility

Please add below in the comments section your own ideas of what you will stop and instead start doing instead this year.

And to end, here are my final words for you for the New Year:-

May you walk in beauty, live in peace and be surrounded with love.

May the force be with you today and every day this year!

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Are you dreaming of a stress-free Christmas this year?

You’re not alone.

As the holiday season approaches, visions of tranquil evenings and joy-filled gatherings are often overshadowed by the reality of mounting expenses, endless to-do lists, and challenging family dynamics.

But imagine transforming this Christmas into a season of peace and enjoyment, where stress takes a backseat.

In this post, we’ll explore practical ways to achieve just that, from budget-friendly gift ideas to simple strategies for navigating family gatherings.

Whether it’s finding the perfect balance between festivity and relaxation or learning how to truly savor each moment, these tips are designed to bring the joy back into your holiday season.

Christmas is meant to be fun and joyous!

This year take charge and make it work for you.

Let’s dive right in and unwrap the secrets to a more relaxed, joyful and stress-free Christmas.

1. Envision Your Ideal Holiday: Unlock the Magic of a Positive Mindset

The secret to a stress-free Christmas begins in your mind.

Let’s start by transforming how you view the holiday season. Instead of bracing for stress, envision a Christmas filled with peace and joy.

Imagine waking up on Christmas morning feeling relaxed, surrounded by love and warmth.

This isn’t just wishful thinking; it’s about setting a positive intention. Research shows that positive expectations can significantly influence our experiences.

Replace thoughts of chaotic shopping and family disputes with images of laughter-filled gatherings and heartfelt conversations.

Plan activities that bring you joy and delegate tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Remember, your Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. It’s the positive attitude and the ability to find joy in small things that will make your Christmas truly memorable and stress-free.

2. Budget Smartly for Holiday Bliss: Navigate Financial Harmony with Ease

You don’t have to be Santa Claus to everyone in your life!

One of the biggest stressors during Christmas is undoubtedly the financial strain.

This year, let’s approach it differently. Begin by creating a realistic budget for the holidays. This isn’t just about limiting expenses; it’s about spending wisely and meaningfully.

Start by listing all potential expenses: gifts, decorations, food, travel costs, and so on.

Allocate a sensible amount to each category and stick to it. Remember, the value of a gift isn’t determined by its price tag.

A homemade gift, like a batch of cookies or a handcrafted photo album, often carries more emotional value than something expensive.

Remember, YOU are the greatest gift you can ever give – it requires no money whatsoever.

Do everyone in your life a massive favour and suggest they curb their gift expectations.

If you must give a gift and you are uncertain about what to buy for whom, then give a gift voucher. Avoid that extra stress of anticipating whether they will/won’t like your gift.

Managing expectations with your loved ones can be incredibly freeing. Have an open conversation about gift-giving this year.

Maybe it’s time to start a new tradition, like secret Santa, or a focus on experiences over material goods.

Lastly, don’t forget to include a little extra for unexpected expenses. A small buffer can be the difference between a financial worry and a stress-free Christmas.

By planning your finances thoughtfully, you can enjoy the festivities without the looming worry of overspending.

3. Simplify Your Home for Serenity: Create Your Sweet Holiday Haven

Creating a stress-free Christmas atmosphere in your home doesn’t require extravagant decorations or a perfectly set table.

It’s about making your space a haven of peace and joy.

Start by decluttering; a cluttered space can lead to a cluttered mind. Then, decorate with intention. Choose a few key decorations that bring you joy.

Remember, it’s the people in the space, not the space itself, that create the Christmas magic.

Focus on creating cozy areas where your family can gather. Think soft blankets, warm lights, and perhaps a designated spot for sharing stories or playing games.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking everything needs to be perfect. The slightly burnt cookies or mismatched table settings often lead to the best memories and stories.

By simplifying your space and focusing on what truly matters, you create an environment that is both inviting and stress-free.

4. Embrace Togetherness: Celebrate Family Festivities with Love and Laughter

5. Refresh Your Festive Celebrations: Innovate New Traditions and Joys

Sticking to the same traditions can sometimes add unnecessary stress to your holiday season.

Why not shake things up this year?

Introducing new traditions can be a breath of fresh air, making your Christmas more enjoyable and less stressful.

Consider alternative plans for your Christmas meal.

A potluck dinner, where each guest brings a dish, can ease the cooking burden and introduce a variety of flavors to your table. Or, opt for a themed dinner, like a Christmas taco night, which can be a fun and unexpected twist.

Outdoor activities can also bring a new dimension to your Christmas.

How about a family walk or a snowman-building contest? These activities not only create a stress-free environment but also build stronger family bonds.

Remember, the goal is to create memories, not to adhere strictly to traditions. By being open to new ideas and willing to adapt, you pave the way for a more relaxed and joyous holiday experience.

6. Craft Your Joyous Solo Experience: Revel in the Spirit of a Solo Festive Season

Spending Christmas alone doesn’t have to be lonely or stressful. In fact, it can be a golden opportunity to create a personalized, stress-free holiday.

Embrace the freedom to do exactly what you want. Whether it’s indulging in a movie marathon, reading a good book, or cooking your favorite meal, the day is yours to savor.

Consider starting a new solo tradition. Maybe it’s a special Christmas breakfast, a reflective walk, or volunteering at a local charity.

These activities can be incredibly fulfilling and form the foundation of a new, joyful Christmas experience.

Stay connected with loved ones through calls or video chats. Sharing moments and expressing love and gratitude can be immensely rewarding, even from a distance.

Remember, a solo Christmas can be a time of self-care, reflection, and peace, offering a unique and stress-free way to celebrate the season.

7. Make a Difference This Holiday: Embrace the Gift of Kindness

One of the most effective ways to experience a stress-free Christmas is by focusing on giving back. Helping others can bring immense joy and satisfaction, reminding us of the true spirit of the season.

Think about how you can contribute to your community. It could be volunteering at a local shelter, organizing a food drive, or simply helping an elderly neighbor with their shopping.

The act of giving doesn’t have to be grand. Small gestures of kindness can have a big impact. Perhaps bake extra cookies to share with coworkers or send handwritten cards to friends and family. #

These acts of kindness not only benefit others but also enrich your own holiday experience, bringing a sense of fulfillment and peace.

Remember, the joy of Christmas isn’t just about what we receive, but also about what we give.

By focusing on service and generosity, you can create a truly meaningful and stress-free holiday for yourself and those around you.

8. Embrace Joy and Laughter: Capture the Heart of Holiday Happiness

Finally, the key to a stress-free Christmas is to embrace joy and laughter.

Let go of the notion of a perfect holiday and focus on what truly matters – the moments of happiness and connection.

If things don’t go as planned, find the humor in the situation. Laughing over the burnt turkey or the toppled Christmas tree can turn potential stress into a cherished memory.

Make time for fun activities that bring you joy. Whether it’s a snowball fight, a Christmas karaoke session, or simply playing games with family, these moments of joy are what we remember most.

Above all, be present. Enjoy the company of your loved ones, savor the festive atmosphere, and cherish each moment.

By focusing on the simple pleasures and embracing a light-hearted approach, you’ll find that a stress-free and joyous Christmas is not just a dream, but a delightful reality.

Seize Your Stress-Free Christmas Now

It’s your turn to take the reins and steer your holiday season towards a joyous, stress-free celebration.

Remember, every tip you’ve read here is a step closer to transforming your Christmas into the peaceful, enjoyable time you’ve longed for.

So, what’s the first move?

Start by setting a clear intention for your festive season – envision it, feel it, believe in it.

This is your moment for change. You’re not just planning another holiday; you’re crafting an experience that resonates with joy and ease.

Think of the smiles, the laughter, the sheer relief of a Christmas without the usual stress and chaos.

Ready to make it happen?

Take that first step today. Set your intention, start planning using these powerful tips and let the magic of a stress-free Christmas unfold.

You’ve got this!

Have a  joyous Christmas everyone!

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Are you wondering how to be a solopreneur in 2024?

Then you’ve come to the right place. 

In this comprehensive guide, we will provide you with a detailed blueprint for success in 2024 and beyond. 

From understanding what it means to be a solopreneur to taking the necessary steps to launch your venture, we’ll cover everything you need to know. 

Get ready to unlock the potential of solopreneurship and embark on an exciting journey toward freedom and fulfilment.

You know you have always wanted to do this.

Let’s dive in.

Understand What Solopreneurship Means to You

Before diving into the world of solopreneurship, it’s essential to understand its key distinctions from entrepreneurship. 

While entrepreneurs often build and manage teams, solopreneurs handle every aspect of their business on their own. 

This autonomy provides solopreneurs with the freedom to make independent decisions and pursue their vision without relying on others.

Being a solopreneur versus an entrepreneur allows you to have complete control over your business and align it closely with your passions and values. But it also means taking on multiple responsibilities and juggling various roles.

Understanding and embracing these aspects is crucial for navigating the solopreneur journey successfully.

Contrary to popular belief, solopreneurs can achieve remarkable success, scale their businesses, and leverage technology and automation to streamline operations.

Your Six Steps to Become a Solopreneur

So are you all set and ready to follow your passion and take up the challenge of being a solopreneur? Then these are your initial steps.

1. Identify your Passion and Niche

The first step toward becoming a solopreneur is identifying your passion and narrowing down your niche. 

By aligning your business with your interests and expertise, you can leverage your unique skills to differentiate yourself in the market and attract the right audience.

2. Conduct Market Research and Feasibility Analysis

Market research and feasibility analysis are vital to ensure your solopreneur venture’s viability. 

Understand your target market, assess the demand for your product or service, and evaluate the competition.

This research will help you refine your solopreneur ideas, identify your unique selling proposition, and position yourself effectively.

3. Set Achievable Goals and Create a Business Plan

Setting clear and achievable goals is crucial for solopreneur success. 

Outline your short-term and long-term objectives and create a comprehensive business plan that encompasses your strategies and milestones. 

This plan will serve as a roadmap, keeping you focused and accountable throughout your solopreneur journey.

4. Establish Your Budget and Financial Management Strategies

Solid financial management is vital for the sustainability and growth of your solopreneur venture. 

Develop a budget that accounts for your startup costs, ongoing expenses, and revenue projections. 

Implement effective financial management strategies, such as cost optimization and budget tracking, to ensure the profitability of your business.

5. Build a Personal Brand and Online Presence

In today’s digital age, it is essential as a solopreneur that you establish a strong personal brand and online presence.

Define your unique value proposition, craft a compelling brand story, and create a professional website and active social media profiles. 

Consistently communicate your expertise, engage with your target audience, and build a strong online presence that reflects your brand’s credibility.

6. Take Action and Launch Your Solopreneur Venture

It’s time to take action. 

Launching your solopreneur venture requires courage, determination, and strategic execution. 

Implement your plans, learn from feedback and mistakes, and embrace the learning process. 

Remember, progress is more important than perfection. Taking that first step will set you on the path to solopreneurial success.

6 Key Tips for Your Success as a Solopreneur

As you begin your journey as a solopreneur, your inner game is what will help you make it happen.

1. Cultivate a Mindset for Success – Be Persistent and Focused

Success as a solopreneur starts with cultivating a growth mindset, embracing persistence, and staying focused on your goals. 

Believe in yourself, learn from failures, and continually seek personal and professional growth. 

Challenges are opportunities for growth, and maintaining a positive and resilient mindset will empower you to overcome obstacles.

2. Master Time Management and Productivity

Effective time management is crucial for solopreneurs who handle multiple responsibilities. 

Develop strategies to prioritise tasks, set realistic deadlines, and optimise your productivity. 

Techniques like time blocking and utilising productivity tools can help you stay organised, focused, and efficient in managing your time as a solopreneur.

3. Leverage Automation Tools to Streamline Tasks

As a solopreneur, leveraging automation tools can significantly enhance your efficiency. 

Explore tools that automate repetitive tasks, such as project management software, email marketing automation platforms, and social media schedulers. 

By automating routine processes, you can free up valuable time and focus on high-value activities that drive business growth.

4. Deepen Your Understanding of Your Target Market

Continuously deepening your understanding of your target market is essential for solopreneur success. 

Conduct market research, stay informed about industry trends, and engage with your audience regularly. 

By identifying their pain points, preferences, and evolving needs, you can tailor your offerings, enhance customer satisfaction, and maintain a competitive edge.

5. Build a Network and Seek Support from Your Fellow Solopreneurs

Building a network and connecting with fellow solopreneurs is invaluable. 

Engage in online communities, attend industry events, and collaborate with like-minded professionals. 

By networking and seeking support from fellow solopreneurs, you can gain insights, exchange ideas, and build valuable relationships that contribute to your solopreneurial success.

6. Prioritise Your Mental and Physical Well-being for Sustainable Success

Prioritising your mental and physical well-being is essential for your sustainable success as a solopreneur. 

Practice self-care, establish healthy boundaries, and incorporate activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation. 

Take breaks when needed, maintain a healthy work-life balance, and nurture your overall well-being. 

By caring for yourself, you’ll be better equipped to thrive as a solopreneur.

Your Essential Tools and Resources as a Solopreneur

Being a solopreneur requires you to work smart and use all essential tools and resources.

1. Productivity Tools (e.g. Evernote, Trello)

Productivity tools are essential for solopreneurs to optimise their operations. 

Explore popular tools such as Evernote for note-taking and task management, Trello for project collaboration, and other software that aligns with your specific needs. 

These tools will streamline your workflow, improve communication, and enhance your overall productivity as a solopreneur.

2. Email Marketing Platforms (e.g. Mailmunch, Mailchimp)

Email marketing is a powerful tool for solopreneur customer acquisition and retention. 

Utilise email marketing platforms such as Mailmunch and Mailchimp to build and manage your subscriber list, create engaging email campaigns and automate email sequences.

Effective email marketing will help you nurture relationships, drive sales, and establish yourself as an authority in your niche.

3. Website Builders and E-commerce Platforms (e.g. Wix, Shopify)

A professional website is a cornerstone of your solopreneur presence. 

Leverage website builders like Wix and e-commerce platforms like Shopify to create an online store that’s visually appealing and user-friendly. 

Showcase your products or services, optimise for search engines, and provide a seamless customer experience that reflects your brand’s professionalism and credibility.

4. Communication and Collaboration Tools (e.g. Slack, Zoom)

Efficient communication and collaboration are vital for solopreneur success. 

Leverage tools like Slack for team communication and project collaboration, Zoom for virtual meetings and client interactions, and other platforms that facilitate seamless communication with clients, partners, and stakeholders. 

Effective communication will ensure smooth operations and foster productive relationships.

5. Writing and Editing Tools (e.g. Grammarly)

As a solopreneur, effective written communication is essential. 

Enhance the quality and professionalism of your written content with tools like Grammarly, for real-time grammar and spelling checks. 

These writing and editing tools will help you deliver error-free and engaging content that resonates with your audience and strengthens your brand’s credibility.

Overcome Your Challenges and Maximise All Opportunities

As a solopreneur, you may be on your own, but that doesn’t mean you struggle alone.

1. Use Smart Strategies to Overcome Common Solopreneur Challenges

Solopreneurship comes with its fair share of challenges, but with the right strategies, you can overcome them.

Embrace a growth mindset, seek mentorship, and leverage your network for support and guidance. Find creative solutions, adapt to changing circumstances, and stay resilient in the face of adversity. 

By embracing challenges, you’ll emerge stronger and more successful.

2. Stay Motivated and Resilient During Setbacks

Setbacks are inevitable in the solopreneur journey, but it’s crucial to maintain motivation and resilience. 

Surround yourself with positivity, seek inspiration from success stories, and celebrate small victories along the way. 

Cultivate a strong support system and practice self-care to stay mentally and emotionally resilient. 

3. Harness the Power of Networking and Collaboration

Networking and collaboration are powerful tools for solopreneurs. 

Engage with other professionals in your industry, attend conferences and events, and build relationships that can lead to partnerships or collaborative projects. 

By tapping into the collective knowledge, experiences, and resources of your network, you can unlock new opportunities and accelerate your solopreneurial growth.

4. Adapt to Changes in the Business Landscape

The business landscape is constantly evolving, and solopreneurs must be adaptable to thrive. 

Stay informed about industry trends, consumer behaviours, and technological advancements. 

Embrace innovation, be open to new ideas, and proactively adjust your strategies and offerings to meet changing market demands, and to stay relevant and competitive.

Learn from Inspirational Success Stories of Solopreneurs Examples 

As you launch into your new solo adventure you can learn from and get inspired by your fellow solopreneurs.

1. Check Out Case Studies and Profiles of Successful Solopreneurs

Drawing inspiration from solopreneur examples and real-life success stories can provide valuable insights and motivation for your own solopreneurial journey. 

Explore case studies and profiles of successful solopreneurs who have achieved remarkable results. 

Learn from their experiences, identify key strategies they employed, and adapt those lessons to your own solopreneur venture. 

2. Apply the Lessons Learned and Key Takeaways from their Journeys

In addition to success stories, it’s important to extract key lessons from their solopreneur journeys. 

Identify the common factors that contributed to their success, such as effective marketing strategies, innovative approaches, or exceptional customer service. 

Apply these lessons to your own solopreneurial endeavours, adapting them to your unique circumstances and goals. 

3. Keep Up with Future Trends and the Outlook for Solopreneurship

Though you are now a solopreneur, you are not living in a silo. Look around the world and be prepared to adapt, adopt and grow.

4. Be Aware of Emerging Trends and Opportunities for Solopreneurs

Solopreneurship is an evolving landscape, with new trends and opportunities on the horizon. 

Stay ahead of the curve by exploring emerging trends such as Artificial Intelligence, remote work, digital nomadism, and the rise of the gig economy. Identify niche markets and untapped areas where you can position yourself as a solopreneur. 

By embracing these future trends, you can capitalise on new opportunities and propel your solopreneur venture to greater heights.

5. Look Out for Predictions and Insights from Industry Experts

To gain further insights into the future of solopreneurship, turn to industry experts for their predictions and insights. 

Thought leaders and experts in entrepreneurship, business, and technology can offer valuable perspectives on what lies ahead for solopreneurs. 

Learn from their wisdom, integrate their recommendations, and adapt your strategies accordingly. 

Go Forth and Conquer

Now you know how to become a solopreneur, there is nothing to stop you from turning your passion into a successful business venture. 

Believe in yourself and let this solopreneur blueprint guide you toward a fulfilling and successful career in 2024.

Embrace the journey, persevere through obstacles, and continually refine your skills and strategies. Your determination, passion, and commitment will set you apart on the path to solopreneurial success. 

Grab the opportunities that await you, and let your entrepreneurial spirit soar in 2023 and beyond.

Being a solopreneur could be the best thing you will ever do.

You’ve got this. 

Seize the moment! 

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Do you often feel bloated and fed-up, searching for ways to naturally detox and overcome those persistent digestive issues?

Are you tired of feeling bloated and sluggish all the time?

Are digestive issues getting in the way of your daily life?

It’s okay, we’ve all been there.

I know how frustrating and exhausting it can be to deal with constant bloating and sluggishness.

It can feel like an uphill battle, especially when you’re doing everything right but still not seeing results.

In fact, I know exactly how you feel.

That’s why I want to share with you 13 ways to detox your body and feel like your best self again.

I know it can be tempting to try those quick-fix detox teas or extreme juice cleanses, but trust me, there are healthier and more effective ways to detox your body. And the best part? These methods won’t leave you feeling hungry or deprived.

So if you are one of many people out there who secretly struggle with digestive issues, I want to reassure you that you’re not alone. And more importantly, there is a way to feel better. Naturally.

Let’s begin our journey to a happier, healthier you

1. Drink Warm Lemon Water in the Morning

Starting your day with warm lemon water can help to flush toxins from your body and promote digestion.

Lemon is rich in vitamin C, which is an antioxidant that can help to neutralise free radicals and reduce inflammation. Plus, it can help to stimulate bile production, which aids in digestion.

2. Cut Out Processed Foods

Processed foods are often loaded with sugar, salt, and unhealthy fats, which can contribute to inflammation and digestive issues.

Cutting them out of your diet can help to reduce inflammation and improve your overall health.

3. Eat More Fibre

Fibre is essential for maintaining good digestive health. It helps to promote regular bowel movements, reduce constipation, and improve gut health.

Eating more fruits, vegetables, and whole grains can help you to get the fibre you need.

4. Try Probiotics

Probiotics are live bacteria and yeasts that are good for your gut health. They can help to improve digestion, boost the immune system, and reduce inflammation.

You can get probiotics from fermented foods like yoghurt, kimchi, and sauerkraut, or from supplements.

5. Practise Mindful Eating

Mindful eating is all about paying attention to your food and eating slowly. It can help to reduce stress, improve digestion, and prevent overeating.

By taking the time to savour your food, you can enjoy it more and feel more satisfied.

6. Exercise Regularly

Regular exercise can help to improve digestion by increasing blood flow to your digestive system.

It can also help to reduce stress, which can contribute to digestive issues. Aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise most days of the week.

7. Drink Plenty of Water

Staying hydrated is important for good digestive health.

It helps to keep things moving smoothly through your digestive system and can prevent constipation. Aim for at least eight glasses of water a day.

8. Get Enough Sleep

Getting enough sleep is crucial for good health, including digestive health.

Lack of sleep can lead to stress, which can contribute to digestive issues. Aim for seven to eight hours of sleep each night.

9. Reduce Stress

Stress can have a major impact on your digestive health. When you’re stressed, your body produces more cortisol, which can cause inflammation and other problems.

To reduce stress, try relaxation techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or yoga.

10. Avoid Overeating

Overeating can put a strain on your digestive system and lead to bloating and discomfort.

To avoid overeating, try eating smaller, more frequent meals throughout the day.

11. Cut Back on Alcohol

Alcohol can be hard on your digestive system, particularly if you drink too much or too often.

Cutting back on alcohol can help to reduce inflammation and improve digestive health.

12. Try Digestive Enzymes

Digestive enzymes can help to break down food and improve digestion.

They can be particularly helpful if you have digestive issues like bloating or gas. You can get digestive enzymes from supplements.

13. Seek Professional Help

If you’re struggling with digestive issues, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A gastroenterologist or nutritionist can help you to get to the bottom of your issue. 

No need to suffer on your own.

Bonus Tip: Connect with Nature

Immerse yourself in the serenity of nature. Whether it’s a stroll through a lush green park, sitting by a gentle stream, or tending to your garden, nature has a profound way of detoxing the mind and soul. 

The fresh air can boost your mood, the calm environment can reduce stress levels, and the act of walking or gardening can serve as gentle physical activity, promoting better digestion. 

Just a few minutes a day in nature can refresh your senses, rejuvenate your spirit, and offer a holistic detox experience.

Take Control of Your Digestive Health Today

By implementing just a few of the above tips, you can start taking control of your digestive health today and naturally detox.

Whether it’s drinking more water, eating more fibre, or trying a new relaxation technique, each of these strategies can help you feel better and more energised.

So, what’s the first step you’ll take?

Will you commit to drinking a glass of water with lemon first thing in the morning? Or perhaps you’ll make a conscious effort to chew your food more slowly and mindfully during meals.

Whatever it is, I encourage you to start small and build momentum from there.

Because here’s the thing: when it comes to our health, small actions can have a big impact. And by taking charge of your digestive health, you’re setting yourself up for a more vibrant and fulfilling life.

So go ahead, take that first step.

You’ve got this!

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Can you even imagine yourself at the start line of the London Marathon?

Are you tired of feeling like you’re stuck in a rut, going through the same mundane routine, day in and day out?

Do you crave a challenge that will push you to be your best self and inspire others around you?

Look no further than the London Marathon, where you can become the ultimate inspirational winner and conquer the challenge of a lifetime.

In April 2024, thousands of runners from around the world will gather in London to test their endurance, commitment, and resilience.

Will you be among them?

Or will you be on the sidelines watching on? Just like you watch your life drift by?

You might be thinking, “Who is mad enough to run 26.2 miles?”

“I am not a runner, there’s no way I can do this.”

But let me tell you, that couldn’t be further from the truth. With the right mindset and preparation, anyone can cross that finish line and achieve their dreams.

My Crazy Addiction to the London Marathon

A few years ago, I was just like you. Dreading the thought of endlessly running for hours and hours. Pounding the solitary roads in excruciating pain. Suffering the harrowing loneliness of a long-term runner.

Then one day, I made the crazy decision. I got a running place through a charity, and I committed to take part.

I was going to get to the finish line. No matter what.

It took me over seven hours. But I did it.

Then it got even crazier. I caught the bug, and I got hooked on marathon running.

Last month in April 2023, I completed my 9th London Marathon. And I raised thousands for various good causes along the way.

I became a hero in my own life. And in the eyes of all my friends.

They too at first thought I was crazy. But secretly, they were in awe. And full of grudging admiration.

They all bragged about running a marathon.

But I was the only one who did it.

Not once, not twice but nine times!

Time For You to be a Hero Too.

Are you ready to become a hero too?

Then let’s begin your journey to becoming a London Marathon finisher and inspire those around you to chase their own aspirations.

You can do this.

Running a marathon is not for the faint of heart. It requires months of preparation, discipline, and sacrifice. It demands physical and mental strength, as well as the support of family, friends, and fellow runners. But it also offers a unique opportunity to transform yourself, to overcome obstacles, and to inspire others.

Here are some tips to help you prepare for and conquer the London Marathon in 2024:

Why Run the London Marathon?

The London Marathon is not just another race.

It is a celebration of human achievement, a showcase of cultural diversity, and a fundraiser for hundreds of charities.

Since its inception in 1981, the London Marathon has raised over a billion pounds for various causes, such as medical research, social justice, education, and the environment.

By running the London Marathon, you can make a difference in someone’s life and contribute to the greater good.

You can get a place in the London Marathon by choosing to run for any one of many good causes. You just have to commit to raising sponsorship for your chosen cause. 

If you are really lucky, you can get a place through the marathon ballot. 

Taking part also offers numerous benefits to your physical and mental health.

Regular exercise has been proven to reduce the risk of chronic diseases, such as diabetes, heart disease, and cancer. It also strengthens your bones, muscles, and immune system, and improves your mood, energy, and sleep.

By training for and completing a marathon, you can achieve a sense of accomplishment, confidence, and purpose that can last a lifetime.

Prepare for the Marathon

Preparing for a marathon requires more than just lacing up your shoes and hitting the pavement.

You need to have a plan, a purpose, and a passion.

Here are my tips to help you prepare for the London Marathon:

•       Create a training schedule that suits your level of fitness and your lifestyle. Gradually increase your mileage, incorporate speed work, and cross-train to prevent injuries. There are various training plans online that you can follow.
•       Invest in good running gear, such as shoes, socks, and clothes, that fit well and provide support and comfort. Consider using a GPS watch or an app to track your progress and motivate you.
•       Eat a balanced and nutritious diet that fuels your body with the right amount of carbohydrates, proteins, and fats. Hydrate yourself with water, sports drinks, and electrolytes before, during, and after your runs.
•       Take care of your mental health as well as your physical health. Practice relaxation techniques, such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing, to reduce stress and anxiety. Find a running buddy or a coach who can support and motivate you throughout your journey.

Conquer the Marathon

On the day of the London Marathon, you will face many challenges, both internal and external. Here are some tips to help you conquer the marathon:

Pace yourself wisely. Start slowly and steadily, and avoid the temptation to sprint at the beginning. Use the aid stations to hydrate and refuel, but don’t overdo it.

Focus on your form and your breathing. Keep your shoulders relaxed, your arms swinging, and your head up. Breathe deeply and rhythmically, and exhale forcefully to release tension.

Stay motivated by setting mini-goals and milestones. Break the race into sections, such as the first 10 miles, the halfway point, and the last 6 miles. Use positive self-talk and visualisation to stay focused and confident.

Draw inspiration from the spectators and fellow runners. Listen to the cheers, the music, and the encouragement of the crowds. Hi

Be An Inspirational Winner in Your Life

Crossing the finish line of the London Marathon is a moment of triumph that will stay with you forever. 

But being an inspirational winner goes beyond the race itself. 

It means embodying the values of perseverance, compassion, and gratitude that define the human spirit.

Here are some ways to be an inspirational winner:

•         Share your journey with others. Document your training, your struggles, and your victories on social media, a blog, or a vlog. Inspire others to follow their dreams and to support your cause.
•         Give back to the community. Volunteer at a charity, a shelter, or a hospital, and use your platform to raise awareness and funds for a cause that you care about. Show your gratitude for the blessings in your life by giving to others.
•         Learn from your experience. Reflect on what you have learned about yourself, your capabilities, and your values. Use the lessons you have gained from the marathon to improve your life and the lives of others.
•         Plan your next challenge. The London Marathon is just the beginning of your journey as a runner and as a human being. Set new goals, take on new challenges, and continue to grow and inspire others. Your journey of inspiration has only just begun.

Go Claim Your Medal!

Picture yourself at the start line of the next London Marathon. Along with thousands of other heroes.

You have put in the training mileage. Paid your dues over the winter months. Got yourself in the best shape of your life.

You have already raised tonnes of sponsorship money for your favourite charity.

You have your running number tightly pinned to your running vest. And you have your water and energy gels ready and packed.

The adrenalin is buzzing, the excitement all around you is building and your friends are waiting to cheer you on along the course. And they are ready to see you at the finish line, to celebrate with you, and to admire your shiny winning medal in awe and envy.

Then imagine yourself gliding past some of London’s most iconic landmarks. The incredible noise of the cheering crowds makes you float through the miles. 

You are a superhero in a sea of heroes.

And before you know it you are going past Buckingham Palace just before the finish line.

The crescendo of the cheering crowd is deafening.

The finish line is in sight – and you sprint the last few yards.

You are in ecstasy as you cross the finish line.

A bunch of volunteers congratulate you. One of them garlands you with a precious marathon medal around your neck. Someone else gives you a goody bag with your marathon finisher’s t-shirt.

Now you can relax. Wobble home. Get a massage. Grab a celebratory beer. Or two.

You are ready to sleep. Put up your legs. (Until the next marathon!).

You have done it.

You are a winner!

A dream fulfilled. 

The London Marathon conquered. 

And you know your life will never be the same again.

You’ve got this.

You can do this.

It’s time to become a hero in your life.

Carpe Diem! 

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Have you wondered how you can improve memory as you get older?

Who can ever forget the sensation of triumph when they first rode a bike without training wheels? Or the palpable excitement and fear on their first day of school.

Memories like these, and countless others, construct the unique tapestry of your personal history.

Contrary to popular belief, ageing does not necessarily entail memory decline. 

How do you improve your memory as you age?

Science shows us that your brain, much like a muscle, has a remarkable ability for growth and change. With the right approach, you can maintain and even improve your memory as you age. 

This guide will walk you through over seventeen scientifically-proven strategies to enhance your memory, regardless of your age. 

Let’s dive in.

17 Strategies to Optimise Your Lifestyle for Enhanced Memory

Memory isn’t solely reliant on mental activities. 

Everyday lifestyle choices, like diet, physical activity, and mental health practices, can significantly impact your memory function. Small changes in these areas can lead to substantial memory improvements. 

This section will highlight key lifestyle factors that influence memory and suggest strategies for optimization.

1. Maintain a Balanced Diet

A balanced diet with foods to improve memory is crucial for optimal brain function.

Including brain-boosting nutrients in your meals will enhance memory and cognition.

Berries are rich in antioxidants that delay brain ageing and enhance memory. Fatty fish is a source of Omega-3s, which is essential for brain health. 

Nuts, especially walnuts and dark chocolate, also have beneficial compounds for the brain.

2. Eat Mindfully

What if enhancing your memory was as simple as paying attention to your meal? 

Mindful eating is a practice that involves savouring each bite, being present in the moment, and appreciating the food we consume. 

This active engagement with food not only improves digestion but also promotes memory function by training the brain to concentrate and remember details. 

3. Reduce Sugar Intake

Sugar might be sweet, but its effects on memory are not. 

High sugar intake is linked to memory impairments and cognitive decline. 

Swapping sugary treats for healthier alternatives, like fruits or nuts, can significantly improve your memory. 

Reducing sugar has so many other health benefits, such as weight management, improved mood, and increased energy levels.

4. Take Food Supplements

Certain food supplements, particularly Omega-3 fatty acids, have been shown to enhance brain function and improve memory. 

These fatty acids, which are found primarily in fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts, are crucial for brain health. 

Taking these as supplements can fill in nutritional gaps and complement a balanced diet, thereby promoting optimal memory function.

5. Avoid Memory-Draining Foods

Just as some foods can boost memory, others can impair it. 

Foods high in saturated fats, such as red meat and full-fat dairy products, and highly processed foods can negatively impact memory. 

Instead, choose a diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins to provide the necessary nutrients for optimal brain function and memory.

6. Moderate Your Alcohol Consumption

While a glass of wine can be beneficial for heart health, chronic heavy drinking can lead to severe memory problems. 

Hence, it’s essential to moderate and curb your alcohol consumption. 

Reducing alcohol intake can improve many aspects of health, including cognitive function and memory. 

7. Maintain a Healthy Weight

Obesity can contribute to various health problems, including memory impairments. 

Maintaining a healthy weight through a balanced diet and regular physical activity can support optimal memory function. 

8 . Exercise Regularly

Regular exercise not only keeps the body fit but also boosts your brainpower.

Moderate-intensity exercises such as walking, cycling, or swimming increase blood flow to the brain, helping to boost memory and cognitive skills. 

So, make it a point to get moving every day.

9. Improve Sleep Quality

Quality sleep plays a vital role in memory consolidation and optimal retention.

During sleep, our brain actively processes and stores the information we learn throughout the day.

Improve your sleep quality by establishing a regular sleep schedule, creating a sleep-friendly environment, and avoiding screens before bedtime. All these changes will significantly enhance and improve memory.

10. Manage Stress Effectively

Continual high-stress levels can wreak havoc on the brain, leading to memory impairment. 

Incorporating stress-reducing activities like deep breathing exercises, yoga, and mindfulness can help manage stress levels and improve memory function. 

Try effective stress management techniques, such as journaling, meditation, or even simply spending time in nature.

Pursuing hobbies and activities that you enjoy can also serve as effective stress-relievers.

11. Stay Hydrated

Hydration is often overlooked when considering memory improvement strategies. 

However, even mild dehydration can impair cognitive function, including memory. 

So, make sure you drink plenty of water each day to keep your brain hydrated and functioning optimally.

12. Promote Better Gut Health

Recent research has uncovered a profound connection between gut health and brain function. 

Improving your gut health will contribute to a healthy brain, enhancing memory and cognitive function. 

Probiotic-rich foods and a fibre-rich diet can boost gut health, leading to better memory.

13. Cultivate Mindfulness and Meditation Practices

Mindfulness and meditation can greatly enhance memory and focus. 

These practices cultivate a sense of presence and help us focus on the task at hand, a critical aspect of memory. 

Even just a few minutes of mindfulness or meditation each day can lead to significant memory improvements over time.

14. Organise Your Life

An organised life can lead to an organised mind. 

Simple strategies such as establishing daily routines, creating to-do lists, and decluttering your living space can greatly enhance memory and reduce feelings of overwhelm. 

The less clutter and chaos in your environment, the easier it is for your brain to focus and remember information.

15. Reduce Dependency on Technology

While technology can be a useful tool, excessive dependence on it can lead to memory impairment. 

Limiting screen time and making an effort to memorise information instead of relying on digital devices help improve memory. 

Try to remember phone numbers, directions, and other critical information without the aid of your smartphone.

16. Nurture Social Connections

Social engagement is great for our mental health and memory. 

Regular interactions with loved ones, participating in group activities, and forming new connections can help keep our minds sharp. 

These social experiences provide mental stimulation that helps preserve our cognitive abilities and memory function.

17. Minimise Environmental Factors Affecting Memory

Our environment can significantly impact our memory. 

For example, chronic exposure to high noise levels can impair memory function. Similarly, air quality can affect cognitive abilities, including memory. 

Therefore, ensuring your living and working environments are clean, quiet, and well-ventilated can support optimal memory function.

11 Strategies to Boost Your Brain Power and Amplify Memory Retention

Improving memory isn’t a passive process. It requires consistent effort and the right strategies. 

You may wonder how to increase brain power and memory.

In this section, we’ll dive into scientifically-proven memory-boosting techniques and memory-improvement games that will boost your brain power and help you remember information better. 

From organising information effectively to leveraging technology wisely, these strategies will empower you to take charge of your memory fitness.

1. Master the Art of Information Organization

Information organisation is a powerful tool for improving memory. 

Techniques such as outlining, categorising, and using visual aids can help break down complex information into manageable chunks. 

By creating a structure and establishing clear connections between pieces of information, your brain can process and retrieve information more efficiently.

2. Forge Powerful Associations

Association is a cornerstone of memory. 

By linking new information to something you already know, you create a meaningful context that can enhance memory. 

Whether you associate information with a personal experience, a visual image, or a particular emotion, these connections can act as memory anchors and significantly improve recall.

3. Leverage Technology

Strategic use of technology can help improve memory. 

Tools like flashcard apps, mind-mapping software, or note-taking apps can provide external memory support. 

Using technology to practise active recall or spaced repetition can also be incredibly beneficial. 

However, it’s important to balance technological aids with direct, active engagement in the learning process.

4. Learn Techniques for Improving Long-term and Short-term Memory

Understanding the mechanisms behind long-term and short-term memory can help you harness your memory power. 

Techniques like spaced repetition (revisiting information at increasing intervals) and chunking (grouping information into smaller, manageable chunks) can enhance long-term memory. 

In contrast, rehearsal (repeating information) and visualisation can improve short-term memory. 

5. Utilise Visual Cues

Our brains are inherently good at remembering visual information. 

Using diagrams, charts, or mind maps can help visualise information and enhance memory. Even imagining a scene or event can serve as a powerful memory aid. 

So, when trying to remember something, try to create a mental picture.

6. Create Mnemonics

Mnemonics, like acronyms, rhymes, or visual imagery, provide a handy mental shortcut for recall. They provide a framework for embedding, organising, and retrieving information effectively. 

So, the next time you’re trying to memorise a list, try creating a catchy rhyme or a memorable acronym.

7. Write It Down

Writing information down can enhance memory. This active engagement forces the brain to process the information more deeply, facilitating memory consolidation. 

Whether it’s taking notes during a lecture, jotting down a shopping list, or keeping a journal, writing can be a powerful tool for memory enhancement.

8. Speak Out Loud

It may feel a little silly, but speaking out loud can significantly enhance memory. 

The act of vocalising information engages multiple senses, making it easier for the brain to remember. 

So, when you’re studying for an exam or trying to remember a shopping list, try reading the information out loud.

9. Engage in Active Recall

Active recall is the practice of actively trying to remember information without looking at the source material.

This could be in the form of self-quizzing or practice tests. By strengthening the neural pathways associated with the recalled information, active recall significantly enhances memory retention and retrieval.

10. Rehearse Information

Repetition is a fundamental principle of learning. The more you rehearse or repeat information, the stronger the memory becomes. 

This can be especially useful when trying to remember critical information like dates, names, or key facts. 

Whether it’s repeating the information aloud or writing it down multiple times, rehearsal can greatly enhance memory.

11. Explore New Hobbies

New hobbies can be a source of cognitive stimulation and memory enhancement. They encourage mental agility and adaptability, which are both vital for maintaining a sharp memory. 

Artistic hobbies, like painting, sketching or sculpture, encourage visual thinking and boost creative problem-solving, both of which enhance memory. 

Learning to play a musical instrument or even just listening to music can have profound effects on your memory and cognition. This is because music stimulates multiple areas of the brain, enhancing creativity, attention, and memory. 

Learning a new language is a great way to flex your cognitive muscles. It challenges your brain to recognize, comprehend, and communicate in a completely new system, significantly enhancing cognitive flexibility and memory. 

Unleash Your Memory Superpowers

Improving memory as we age is not just possible but an exciting journey. 

Each of the above strategies can be a powerful tool to not only defend against memory decline and cognitive ageing but enhance your memory as you age.

Your brain needs regular exercise to stay fit – so from today onwards, engage your brain with stimulating activities, feed it with a healthy diet, and provide it with restorative sleep. 

Create a roadmap for your memory improvement journey and stay committed to it. 

The power to boost and improve memory lies in your hands – embrace these strategies, and you’ll be well on your way to unlocking your memory superpowers. 

It’s time to age smartly and remember wisely!

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Are you tired of hearing the same old advice around how to boost your brainpower?

Do you secretly feel like there must be something more out there that you haven’t tried yet?

Well, I’ve got some good news for you. In this blog post, we’re going to explore 7 surprising ways to boost your brainpower that you’ve never heard of.

Now, I know what you might be thinking. “I’ve tried everything, and nothing seems to work. How could these 7 ways be any different?”

Believe me, I get it. It’s frustrating when you feel like you’re doing everything right, but you’re still not seeing the results you want.

But here’s the thing. These 7 ways are different. They’re not your typical “eat more vegetables” or “get more sleep” advice. They’re unique, surprising, and, most importantly, effective.

Brainpower is a crucial component of our lives, influencing our ability to think critically, solve problems, and make decisions.

There are many common ways people try to enhance their brainpower, such as reading, exercising, and eating healthy, but there are also some surprising techniques that you may have never heard of.

In this article, we will explore seven unique and effective ways to boost your brainpower, from polyphasic sleeping to meditating with binaural beats.

So, if you’re ready to take your brainpower to the next level, let’s dive in and explore these 7 surprising ways together.

You never know, one of them might just be the missing piece you’ve been searching for.

1. Try Polyphasic Sleeping

Polyphasic sleeping is a sleep pattern where you break up your sleep into multiple shorter periods throughout the day, as opposed to the traditional one long block of sleep at night.

This method may sound strange, but it has been proven to enhance brainpower by allowing the brain to recharge more frequently throughout the day.

There are many benefits of polyphasic sleeping, including increased alertness, better memory retention, and improved cognitive function.

To try polyphasic sleeping safely and effectively, you should start with a schedule that involves one or two naps per day, gradually building up to a more complex sleep pattern.

You may experience some initial difficulty adjusting to the new schedule, but with persistence and discipline, you will find that polyphasic sleeping can be an effective way to boost your brainpower.

2. Learn a New Skill with Your Non-Dominant Hand

Learning a new skill with your non-dominant hand can have significant benefits for your brainpower, as it forces your brain to work in new and different ways.

This process creates new neural pathways in the brain, strengthening your cognitive abilities and improving your overall brain function.

Some examples of skills to try with your non-dominant hand include writing, drawing, brushing your teeth, or even using chopsticks.

To get started, simply choose a skill that you want to master and begin practising with your non-dominant hand. At first, it may feel difficult and awkward, but with practice, you will see improvements in your hand-eye coordination and overall brain function.

3. Use Mnemonic Devices

Mnemonic devices are memory aids that can help you remember information more easily. There are many different types of mnemonic devices, including acronyms, visualization, association, and many more.

These devices work by creating a connection between new information and something that you already know, making it easier for your brain to retain and recall the information.

To use mnemonic devices effectively, you should start by choosing a device that works best for you, depending on the type of information you want to remember. Then, create a mental image or story that connects the new information to something you already know.

With practice, you will find that using mnemonic devices can be an effective way to boost your brainpower.

4. Practise Intermittent Fasting

Intermittent fasting is a pattern of eating where you cycle between periods of fasting and eating.

This method has been shown to improve brain function by reducing inflammation in the brain and increasing the production of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), a protein that plays a crucial role in promoting the growth and survival of neurons.

To start practising intermittent fasting, you should begin by choosing a fasting schedule that works best for you, such as the 16/8 method or the 5:2 method. Then, gradually work up to longer fasting periods, allowing your body to adjust to the new eating pattern.

With time and discipline, you will find that intermittent fasting can be an effective way to boost your brainpower.

5. Play Video Games

Believe it or not, playing video games can actually improve your brainpower!

Studies have shown that playing video games can improve attention, spatial reasoning, and decision-making skills, all of which are important for cognitive function.

In particular, strategy games and games that require problem-solving skills have been shown to have the most beneficial effects on brainpower.

Games like chess, Sudoku, and even certain mobile games can help improve cognitive function and promote healthy brain ageing.

One of the ways that video games improve brain function is by increasing the amount of grey matter in the brain. Grey matter is the part of the brain responsible for processing information and making decisions, and studies have shown that playing video games can increase grey matter volume in certain areas of the brain.

However, before you go out and buy the latest gaming console, it’s important to note that moderation is key.

Too much gaming can have negative effects on your brain and your overall health, so it’s important to find a balance that works for you.

6. Listen to Music with Specific Beats

Music has long been known to have a powerful effect on our emotions and mood, but did you know that certain types of music can also boost brainpower? Research has shown that music with specific beats and rhythms can improve cognitive function and enhance memory.

In particular, music with a beat frequency of around 60 beats per minute (BPM) has been shown to have the most beneficial effects on the brain. This is because this beat frequency is similar to the rhythm of our resting heart rate, which can help to promote a state of relaxation and reduce stress.

Examples of music genres that use this beat frequency include classical music, jazz, and certain types of electronic music.

Listening to this type of music while studying or working on a project can help to improve focus and concentration, making it easier to retain information and complete tasks efficiently.

7. Meditate with Binaural Beats

Meditation is a powerful tool for reducing stress, improving focus, and promoting overall well-being. But did you know that meditating with binaural beats can also have benefits for your brainpower?

Binaural beats are a type of sound wave that is created when two different frequencies are played simultaneously in each ear.

The brain perceives a third beat that is the difference between the two frequencies, which can have an effect on brainwaves and create a state of relaxation or focus.

By incorporating binaural beats into their meditation practice, a person who struggles with focus during meditation is able to achieve a deeper level of focus and feel more relaxed overall.

Bonus Tip:- Engage in Mindful Meditation

Mindfulness has gained attention for its numerous mental benefits, but its influence on cognitive abilities is particularly noteworthy. 

Practising regular mindful meditation can lead to changes in the brain associated with learning, memory, and stress regulation. 

In fact, mindful meditation has been linked with increased grey matter density in the hippocampus. This is vital for memory and learning. 

Additionally, structures related to self-awareness, compassion, and introspection also benefit from it. 

By reducing the negative effects of stress, meditation can preserve and even enhance cognitive functions. 

To start, dedicate a few minutes daily to sit in a quiet place, focus on your breath, and simply be present in the moment. 

Over time, as you increase your duration, you might find clarity, focus, and cognitive improvements you didn’t expect.

Unleash Your Brainpower Now

You might be feeling a mix of excitement and scepticism about the seven surprising ways to boost your brainpower that we’ve discussed.

I get it.

Trying new things can be daunting, and it’s natural to feel a bit hesitant about implementing them into your life.

But remember that you have the power to unleash your brainpower and take control of your life. You can break free from old habits and embrace new ones that will help you grow and achieve more than you ever thought possible.

It’s time to take action, to challenge yourself, and to push your limits.

You have the ability to create new neural connections, improve your memory, increase your creativity, and enhance your overall brain function.

So go ahead and try the seven surprising ways we’ve discussed, or come up with your own ideas.

Don’t be afraid to experiment and take risks. Remember, every small step you take towards improving your brainpower is a step towards a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

You got this!

Now go unleash your brainpower and achieve greatness!

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Today, 2nd October 2019, is the 150th anniversary of the birth of Mahatma Gandhi.

So he would have been 150 years old today had he not been assassinated in 1948.

Gandhi may not be around anymore but his legacy and his message of non-violence lives on and he is indeed the light the world needs today.

He has always been one of my heroes from a young age and I remember crying after watching Richard Attenborough’s famous film Gandhi.

We had made a special trip to London and watched the film in Leicester Square just a few days after its release – watching it was a defining moment in my life.

I have watched this remarkable movie about a remarkable man many times since then.

“Generations to come will scarcely believe that such a one as this walked the earth in flesh and blood.” – Einstein

I have read a lot about Gandhi since then and also been influenced by my late father who collected a huge library of Gandhi’s teachings.

It is now up to all of us to apply Gandhi’s teachings in our daily life – after all his message about peace and non-violence is more pertinent than ever before today.

On this 140th anniversary of his birth, here are 6 keys lessons for all of us to apply in our life from today

1. Be the Change You Wish to See in the World.

This is possibly Gandhi’s most famous phrase and tells us that before we can go and change the world, we have to change ourselves.

From the being, comes the doing and ultimately the having.

So we now have the message – “Do the change you wish to see in the world”.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world before it’s too late.

Check out this truly inspirational video clip about being the change:-

Focus on changing yourself and being the change you wish – and soon we can begin to look at the bigger picture and solve the world’s challenges.

There is this anecdotal story about how a mother came with her son to see Gandhi. She wanted Gandhi to tell her son to stop eating too much sugar as it was harmful for his health. He asked her to come back a month later by which time he himself had cut down on his own sugar intake.

The point is that before you can get anyone to take on your own teachings, you have to apply them to your own life. There are various phrases to reflect this message such as “practise what you preach” and “walk the talk”.

“Let your life be your message” – Gandhi

Is your life the message you want to give the world?

When will you be the change you want the world to be?

2. Reduce, Reuse and Recycle

“There is enough in the world for everyone’s need, but not for everyone’s greed” – Gandhi

Even in Gandhi’s time there was vast disparity in the world between the rich and the poor. He could see how the world’s resources were being pilloried to satisfy the excessive demands of the West whilst most people in the rest of the world were barely surviving.

Today I would argue that the way we are all living in the West and elsewhere, there is not even enough for everyone’s needs. We must revisit how we live our lives and truly learn to reduce, reuse and recycle – the 3Rs.

The time has come when we cannot just rely on others – each one of us has to do our bit. Increasingly, more and more people and also businesses are waking up to their responsibilities to the environment, the larger community and the global implications of their activities.

Start today and apply the 3Rs in your life.

3. Live a Simple, Minimalist Life.

Gandhi lived a very simple, frugal life. He died with very few possessions and he preached simplicity and minimalism in all areas of life.

He also dressed simply and even persisted with his simple Indian loin cloth when he visited England and met the King. When asked if he was under dressed for a meeting with the King, Gandhi replied that the King had enough clothes on for both of them!

Minimalism is something I am beginning to apply in my life too. To get you started, please check out this excellent “Minimalist Guide” from my blogging mentor and friend Leo Babauta of Zen Habits.

Leo is a man Gandhi would have approved off for his humility, sharing, compassion and also his hairstyle!

Start living a simpler minimalistic life from today – and you will release a lot of time and energy to bring more of Gandhi’s teachings into the world.

4. If No One Walks With You, Walk Alone

Believe in your cause, follow your truth and stick to your journey even if you have to walk the path on your own.

Gandhi at the end of his life was said to be heart broken with the partition of India as millions were killed and displaced. Even then, he still had a message for the world – it takes just one man to make a difference.

If no one responds to your call, go forward alone.
If no one talks to you, oh luckless one,
If everyone turns away from you in fear,
Reveal your thoughts and express your ideas to yourself.
If everyone leaves you while you are travelling a dangerous road,
If no one wants to look after you,
Walk on alone, on the road strewn with thorns, trampling on them with bleeding feet.
If no one shows a light, if in the dark stormy night everyone shuts their doors,
Use your rib as a torch, lit from the fire of thunder. – Rabindranath Tagore

So anything and everything you do counts and will make a difference.

5. Get Your Power Through Humility

Gandhi was a very humble, down to earth, ordinary human-being but therein lay his power and authority. His power came from being very clear about who he was, his values and his mission.

So the clearer you are about who you are and what you stand for, the more power you will exert in the world, whilst remaining humble and as down to earth as you wish.

Of course, by power what I mean here is not the power that corrupts but one that changes the world and makes a positive contribution.

6. Start Today

“The difference between what we do, and what we are capable of doing, would solve most of the world’s problems” – Gandhi

Believe that what you do matters, and that it will make a difference.

You can’t save the whole world single-handedly, and we can’t all be a Gandhi or a Mandela, but you can certainly make a difference to one person at a time. So look for ways to contribute.

Ask yourself what special skill or knowledge you have that can solve a problem or make the best of a situation and that will help or support others.

And actually, maybe we can all be a Gandhi or a Mandela.

Start small – and get started no matter what. They too started small one day at the beginning of their own life journeys.

So fear not – you already have and know enough – new skills will come for sure as you progress on your journey. And whatever you choose to do, it will make a difference.

The point is that everything we do matters and makes either a positive or a negative impact on everything around us.

You can start today to apply Gandhi’s message in your life, simply by focussing on this one question:-

How can I bring more love and peace into my life today?

Just know that every little bit helps and by you being more loving and peaceful, the rest of the world becomes more loving and peaceful too.

After all, we all have a “Gandhi” inside of us, just waiting to emerge.

As for me, I too shall continue to work on letting my own Gandhi emerge, but perhaps not his dress sense!

The Way Forward – Become Crazy to Change the World!

What makes one person a Gandhi or a Dr Martin Luther King? Is it pure coincidence or do such inspirational historic figures have some special powers?

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify and vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as crazy, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Steve Jobs, Apple

So just how crazy are you?

And how will YOU change the world?

To get you started right away, please check out this related post:-

Feel the Fear and Change the World Anyway!

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It’s time for my annual picnic in Regents Park!

Called “Friends & Friend’s Friends Picnic“, it is held every year – and this is YEAR 18!!!

This year it is to be held on Sunday, 11th August 2019.

(Post-picnic update – This year’s picnic was phenomenal with around 500+ people attending during the course of the day! You can see all the photos here on Facebook – Friends and Friend’s Friends Picnic #18“).

17 years ago, I had a vision of bringing people together in community in a spirit of fun and contribution – and so I invited all the people in my life to a picnic. And I asked them to invite all their friends too.

So my “Friends & Friend’s Friends Picnic” was born!

With all that’s going on in the world right now, I believe that it’s imperative that we come together as a people as much as possible – and what better way to meet and create new friendships than in a gorgeous setting and with a fun, friendly vibe?

“Far more unites us than divides us” – Jo Cox

History of the Friends and Friend’s Friends Picnic

I first had the idea of the Friends and Friend’s Friends Picnic in summer 2002 when I wanted to bring together people from my family, my friends and the communities that I was part of.

Rather than inviting everyone out on different days, I asked them all to join me for a picnic in Regents Park – and to also invite their friends and ask them to invite their friends.

I had a few friends comment on how easily I was able to connect and make new friends – it was like magic to them!

So I wanted to introduce all my London friends to each other – and bring strangers together in a spirit of community and friendship in London where people seem to live in isolation and everyone is so busy.

That first year, around 60 people came, despite it being a cold and rainy Sunday in June – and the Friends and Friends Friends Picnic was born.

I chose Regents Park because I live nearby but mainly because to me it is the nicest park in London and offers so many activities for my picnic attendees.

The following year over 100 people came with some relatives coming from as far away as Coventry, Birmingham, and Brighton.
That second year I started the tradition of African drumming and dancing and that theme has continued ever since with some years over 20 drummers in full flow!

The picnic grew every year – and in the last few years we have had over 400 people attending – and it’s getting bigger every year!

The picnic has now become a fixed highlight in many people’s social calendars and I now usually hold it end of July or early August. Experience has taught me that that is the most popular time for people and also when we are most likely to get reasonable weather.

One year it rained so heavily that we all had to shelter under the trees for almost an hour. Despite the wetness, over 50 hardy party animals stayed till dusk.

I now usually get 200 to 300 people attending every year – and in August 2016 we had our biggest picnic ever with over 500 people attending in the course of the day.

We now have even more fun activities such as laughter yoga sessions, Bollywood dancing, hula hooping, friendly football matches and the perennial favourite – African drumming.

A lot of new friendships have started as a result of the picnic – 6 years ago a good friend of mine landed a key job in television directly as a result of someone she met at the picnic who then recommended her to a job.

Best of all, in the last two years we have had our first picnic babies! A couple who first met at the picnic in July 2013 started dating soon after and recently became proud parents of baby Lyra in 2016 and recently had their second baby.

Here is the Facebook event page for this year’s picnic:-

https://www.facebook.com/events/952375321800430/

It’s actually a very simple concept.

The idea is to get a lot of friends and their friends together. I invite all my friends and they invite all their friends and they invite their friends and so on……and before we know, there will be 100’s of friends, new and old, having a lot of fun.

Everyone is invited to bring their own food and drinks plus some extra to share. We will also be playing Frisbee, frisbee etc for fun, so bring those trainers and sports gear. And of course children are most welcome. If you haven’t got any, borrow some for the day 🙂

I’ll bring my giant Hula Hoops so it should be entertaining watching some people have a go!

We’ll also have some Laughter Yoga, Bollywood dancing and African Drumming.

There are lots of things you can do in Regents Park. There is boating on the lake, heronry and waterfowl collections to visit, and of course the world famous Rose garden.

We will also be having some African drumming and singing. Bring along any musical instrument that you would like to play.

AS usual, we’ll have some drumming and laughter yoga. 

Check out the picnic photos from 2015!

FAQ

Quick FAQ based on real questions I have been asked for this picnic and previous ones:-)

1. Do I bring food and drink with me?

Duh!

Yes, you do – that’s why it’s called a picnic!

2. What if it rains?

This is the UK – get over it!

We just continue and pretend it’s not raining.

3. What if I don’t know anyone there?

Well, then make some new friends – that’s why it’s called Friends Picnic.

And you are in the right place – time you had some friends 🙂

4. What shoes should I wear? (Question from a MAN!)

Whatever shoes you are comfortable in! Soft shoes or trainers would be fine – but wear high heels if you want to look different or odd.

5. What if I can’t find you guys?

We are to the left of the Hanover Gate children’s playgound.

Look at the map in the image below.

Ahd here are the exact GPS co-ordinates:-

51.529373, -0.162933

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Please note that this picnic will be happening no matter what the weather is like on the day!

A hot and sunny day is forecast for Sunday so it should be a great day out for all of us.

The details are as follows:-

Date: Sunday 11th Augusut 2019

Time: 1pm till 8pm

Location: Regents Park at the London Mosque end. Use the Mosque as your landmark, as its minaret is visible from almost anywhere else in the park.

Directions:

Enter the Park via Hanover Gate, turn left and you are there. You will see a children’s play area. The chosen picnic spot is the whole of this semi-circular area of grass and there is room for at least a 1000 people.

Parking – You must pay for parking within Regents Park even on Sundays till 6.30pm. Alternatively, you CAN park free on single yellow lines on Prince Albert Road, and around St Johns Wood High St.

Nearest Tube stations: – St Johns Wood and Baker Street

For further clarification, please call me on 07803 950 250. Keep this number with you on the day, in case you are lost. Remember that Regents Park is HUGE.

Please invite all your friends and ask them to invite their friends. And so on – this could be the start of something big.

You can also register on Facebook to confirm you are coming.

As I said, this is the 18th year running that I have organised this Friends and Friend’s Friends Picnic – but if you are not able to come to London for this picnic, then no matter where you are in the world, how about organising your own?

Check out my simple guide on how to hold your own picnic anywhere in the world 🙂

For further information and clarification, just contact me 🙂

Special Announcement

I am also pleased to announce that a very special person is joining us on Sunday, and I have a request for help from all of you.

When I held my very first “Friends and Friend’s Friends Picnic” 14 years ago to bring together all the people in my different communities, the idea was to celebrate life, connect people and also to contribute to these friends in some way.

So my annual picnic is totally aligned to the 3C’s which underpin my life – Contribution, Connection and Celebration.

I am so pleased and proud too that my initial idea of bringing my family and close friends together for a day out in the park has become such a huge success and a key event in many people’s summer itinerary.

I now want to build on this even more and make it bigger and better with regular events through out the year in London and other cities around the world.

I really do believe that the challenges the world faced today can only be overcome if we can come together more in unity and with a sense of FUN, community and togetherness.

Let us make it happen so that more and more people come together in such events so that ultimately we get to see that we are all really the same – and our differences simply makes the world a more interesting and colourful place.

Help me bring more people together!

Thank you:-)

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Happy Friday everyone! 

It’s finally spring time in London – and that means it’s time once again for the London Marathon :-). 
 
Do you get deeply moved by stories of brave, sick children?

And then are you moved to help them in some way?

Today I am going to share the incredible and moving story of Maddison. 

You will then understand and appreciate exactly why I am taking part in the London Marathon.

On this coming Sunday 28th April, I’ll be lining up with over 41,000 other runners and each one of us will be raising awareness and sponsorship for their chosen cause.

I have chosen Well-Child, a charity that helps look after sick children like Maddison.

Some friends have been asking me why I am so passionate about WellChild and why I am taking part in the London Marathon for them once again.

Well, this is my way of contributing and making a difference to children. And you too can do your bit by sponsoring me.

Click here to go to my sponsorship page

Your contribution will be helping Maddison and other brave children like her.

(I have been given permission by WellChild to share Maddison’s incredibly inspiring and moving story).

Here is Maddison’s story:-

Maddison was born in August 2008, full term, at a healthy weight and apparently with no problems at all. Shortly after she was born, she was diagnosed with talipes (club foot) but her parents were reassured that this was an orthopaedic problem, which could be resolved with physiotherapy and possibly surgery.

Then Maddison’s Mum, Lidia, started to notice other things about Maddison, which were a little concerning. Maddison had a very feeble cry and didn’t seem to be moving her toes, stretching her feet properly or demonstrating a walking reflex.

Shortly after Christmas 2008 when Maddison was only a few months old, she contracted Respiratory Syncytial Virus and needed to be admitted to hospital for oxygen and a feed tube.

After a few weeks, although much better, her breathing still didn’t seem right and in February, doctors told her parents that they had discovered an abnormality with Maddison’s diaphragm, which they believed could be rectified with surgery.

Over the next few months Maddison remained in hospital. Throughout this time, although clinically still very poorly, Maddison caused confusion by her cheerful disposition and ability to thrive despite being in and out of intensive care. 

Therefore on May 20^th  2009, it came as a dreadful shock to Lidia and Jamie when they were given a diagnosis of SMARD (spinal muscular atrophy with respiratory distress) for Maddison.

Support from WellChild:-

Over the last few years Maddison has continued to thrive and exceed all expectations. She overcame concerns that mainstream school might be too much for her, attending along with all her peers and keeping up her stamina.

Since then she has been able to eat without a feeding tube and even has up to three hours a day off her ventilator. Maddison is doing well at school and she can propel herself independently using her special walking frame.

Maddison still needs 24/7 specialist care and the support of her ventilator is crucial.

WellChild Children’s Nurse, Rachel provides vital support for Maddison and her family in ensuring that any concerns with equipment, training for new carers or worries over Maddison’s breathing are addressed swiftly.

Rachel liaises with Maddison’s school and carers, rushes over with a replacement ventilator when Maddison’s equipment shows signs of malfunctioning and provides constant expert reassurance to the whole family.

This continuous monitoring, specialist advice and ability to intervene really quickly can make the difference between Maddison having to go to hospital or staying at home.

Maddison has proven that if she’s given the chance, through the medical and other support she receives, she can thrive and get the most out of life just like her siblings and her school friends.

So there you are – my participation in the London Marathon and your sponsorship will help provide more nursing support for children like Maddison.

My target is to raise at least £1,600 and more for WellChild.

Please help me get there! 

Click here to go to my sponsorship page

If just 160 people sponsor me for at least £10 each, I’ll reach my target easily.

Thanks everyone for your kindness and generosity.

And look out for me on Sunday at the London Marathon – I shall be wearig my famous Red Wig! 

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What role does money play in your life?

If you are like most people, money probably plays a very central role in your life. We can never seem to get enough of it – and isn’t it funny how quickly it comes and goes?

I recently spoke to my friend Davide De Angelis who is doing some amazing work with his latest product – an incredible range of Tarot products based on the life and work of David Bowie.

I invited Davide to write a few words for my readers outlining his journey and how he got here. This is what Davide had to say – hold tight for an amazing ride:-

There was a time when most of my waking hours were being shaped by a lack of money. At one point things became very grim indeed.

One day as my wife Esther and I sat scowling at each other, me clutching a court summons for unpaid tax and Esther brandishing a final demand from the electricity company, a vocal purging of dramatic proportions ensued: unspoken truths, secrets, buried anger and deep resentments flooded to the surface like an erupting volcano.

We had tried everything – borrowed money from family and friends, sold some old family jewellery and even researched some free tax tools. 

This is Shamanic Territory

The very real prospect of losing the roof over our heads, and the months of threats, final demands and petty humiliations around money had stripped us down to the bare metal.

Finally there was nothing covering up the energies and stories that were really shaping our lives.

In many ways this is shamanic territory because we get to look behind the curtain of falsehoods obscuring what we don’t want anyone – not even ourselves – to see. And in that super-present moment there is only a desire to pull down the curtain of falsehoods, to get honest, to throw anything that isn’t honest into the purifying flame of truth.

We literally escape the gravitational pull of what we have taken to be our self.

We Avoid it like the Plague

The business of getting honest about money (or anything else for that matter) is difficult and dirty work – that’s why we avoid it like the plague. But it’s the work that sets us free and opens new vistas.

The trick – if there is one – is to know that from inside our own fixed ideas about life we can’t even imagine what those new horizons might be. Those ideas need to collapse and it’s the ‘temporary’ discomfort and inconvenience that actually scares us.

It still makes me cry thinking of that day.

Two human beings with nothing left to cover their raw nerves, their vulnerability. It makes me cry because in the midst of a pit of despair, I discovered the unexpected presence of love.

I think we were more beautiful in that moment than I could have imagined possible, and out of the blue as the tears streamed down our faces I saw it.

I saw that once we let go of the lies holding a story about who we are together, we can get down to the real business of cherishing each other, loving each other.

Money is a Powerful Mirror

Money is a powerful mirror that reflects the tons of beliefs we mysteriously seem to be filled with.

Most of us are so full of conditioned reactions and old beliefs that there is no room for anything new to be entertained. The energy of Money reflects back the stories and countless meanings we have given to the circumstances we find ourselves in.

I repeat – it reflects back the stories and countless meanings we have given to the circumstances we find ourselves in. It’s worth giving this statement some consideration.

Money will Systematically Reveal all of our Deepest Fears

If we allow it to do its work, and pay attention instead of running away, the energy of money will systematically reveal all of our deepest fears about life: mainly that life is not safe and that there is something fundamentally wrong with us.

Importantly, it does its work regardless of how much or how little money you have.

A compulsion to accumulate money – far more than is needed – reveals the fear lurking beneath the surface in the same way that struggling for money does.

Most of us carry the belief that having more money will solve our problems and are surprised – shocked even – when we discover that the same old nagging worries about life are still present, even when we have more money!

Money – or perhaps more accurately our ‘idea’ of money gives us all an opportunity to examine what’s actually true for us.

In other words, money always presents an opportunity to know who we are in a remarkably intimate way; that is if we are open to this.

When we are able to see the F.E.A.R (false evidence appearing real) that has so shaped our lives, we are presented with the possibility of living with greater and greater freedom.

The Key is to Live a Life Where You Are Really Present

I remember hearing a saying, ‘We see the world through our beliefs not our eyes’.

This statement is something remarkable because it contains the key to living a life where you are really present to what’s actually going on.

I believe that ultimately this is compassion: you see that all the ideas and judgements that you have about yourself and others are simply not true – can never actually be true – and you become present to the flow of ‘finding out’ and discovering.

You are open to life in all its myriad shapes and forms. You no longer believe the stories your mind conjures up.

Part of the Healing Process

Strangely enough, in the way that flu symptoms are the healing mechanisms of the body and not directly created by the virus, the threats, final demands, petty humiliations and the court summons turned out to be part of the healing process.

They exist to show us what kind of life we’re creating by not knowing who we are and what’s true beyond our false beliefs.

I had said this very thing many, many times on workshops and in coaching sessions and yet on that day it was the first time I totally understood the principle.

The energy of money we see playing out in the world, its connection to forcing things and its connection to control and survival, is a symptom of us not knowing who we are on a massive scale.

We are taught to suppress symptoms and in so doing interfere with the healing process. A symptom is a sign that something is trying to heal: can you imagine what happens when we hold this distinction up to all the things that we think of as problems?

Not Knowing Who We Are is The Virus of Our Time

Not knowing who we are is the virus of our time and all the problems or symptoms we encounter such as spiralling debt, addictions, abusive relationships and poor health, are signs that we need to stop and ask the question:-

Who am I?

We assume the answer at the risk of our aliveness. We need to ask the question ‘Who am I’ as our eyes open in the morning, with a desire to really know, and let the answers we discover give birth to us.

I believe that we all want to be generous and loving, no matter how we may otherwise behave. Bringing this question to life is the activating principle. It’s certainly not a new question. In fact every experience is asking it. It is so present that we completely miss it.

This is Living Meditation

If you’ve never genuinely asked yourself this question, then I invite you to begin the process now. This is living meditation, the answer will arrive, no need to go searching.

What is your relationship with money inviting you to question?

What old beliefs (that were most likely not even yours in the first place) is your relationship with money inviting you to question and see past?

The Way Forward For You From Today

I guarantee that money is not what you think it is and it will help you see that you are not who you think you are. Look at your relationship with money and let it become your ally instead of the enemy.

The by-product of this enquiry is an ever-growing feeling of abundance.

I wish you all abundance and prosperity on your journey.

Your friend – Davide De Angelis

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What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?

Is it a time of the year you enjoy or dread?

Today, I am writing a post with a difference.

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, I am bringing you some of the best blog posts from around the blogosphere, including some of my own previous articles.

Valentine’s Day is a fun and loving day for many people and there are so many wonderful blog posts out there about all aspects of relationships.

I have searched high and wide and these articles offer some of the best wisdom you can get, no matter where you are in your relationship.

I am proud to know a lot of these prominent bloggers as friends and it is a privilege for me to share their work with you.

Do take your time reading through these articles, bookmark this post and come back to it again and again, as you create a wonderful and happy relationship.

Note my emphasis on “happy” rather than “perfect”!

My fondest wish is that may you all find happiness in yourself and in your relationship, no matter what stage you are at – perhaps single and having a ball, in a blissful union or recovering from a broken heart.

There is much age-old wisdom in these 40 posts, so grab a coffee, sit back and come with me on a journey of love and relationships.

1. The Real Meaning of Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love and it is an opportunity for us to truly reconnect with the real meaning of this day.

It is about LOVE, sharing and giving.

Love is the most amazing thing in our lives.

It is what makes us human, what makes life worth living.

Nothing else truly matters. The size of our homes, bank balances, the beauty of our partner, the speed of our car – all those things pale into insignificance when we face the splendour of what it is that makes us tick.

“Love does not make the world go around – it simply makes the ride worthwhile”.

Love is much greater than what we feel romantically.

It is what makes us sing and dance, and it makes us human.

1. What is Love?

There are so many simple things we can all do on a daily basis to bring more love into our lives.

Together we can all make this an even better and more beautiful world than it already is. Let us use the occasion of Valentine’s Day for us all to become human again together, and manifest even more love in our already magnificent world.

Always remember all the positive aspects of love.

2. 8 Ways to Bring More Love into the World – Before it’s too late

2. Avoid the Commercialism of Valentine’s Day

Love is NOT the highly commercialised circus we see on Valentine’s Day.

It is much deeper and much more profound than sending someone a dozen roses at hugely inflated prices.

It is much more than candlelit dinners and fancy chocolates.

It seems we are madly clamouring for this special day of love as if all it takes to prove and validate our love is just one day of being nice to our partner.

It is amusing to see so many people rushing around to prove their true love for that “special” person in their life.

But what happens when the roses have died and the chocolates have all been gobbled up?

This commercialism has gone so far that people are even made to feel inadequate if they are on their own on Valentine’s Day.

Here is a great post from my friend and blogging mentor Leo Babauta about how you can get away from the commercial aspect and be romantic on the cheap.

3. Ways to be romantic on the cheap

Being cheap does not mean being a cheapskate, just frugal and sensible!

At the same time, why limit yourself to having some fun for just one day of the year?

4. How to make it a fun Valentine’s Day everyday

3. Give of Yourself to Others

This time of the year, we are bombarded with all sorts of commercial pressure to go out and spend a fortune to show the true merit of our love.

Rather than just focussing on what fancy gift you can give to your loved one, or how elaborately you can celebrate the day, how about focussing on what you can actually give of yourselves?

Even if you are single, it is time to give more of yourself to others.

It is really not about us anymore – it is about others and what we can do for others.

5. Valentine’s Day is a time for selfless giving

I challenge you not to be moved by the superb story – “The Valentine”  – about a little boy who wrote out Valentine cards for all his school friends.

4. Love Your Life and Create a Great Relationship with Yourself

The key to having a great relationship and indeed a great life is to have a healthy self-image and to love yourself in a healthy way. So just how do you love yourself?

6. How to Love Yourself – the Master Key for Your Life

One of the keys to a wonderful relationship is to love your own life. And here are 77 reasons to love your life from my new blogging friend Dragos Roua.

7. 77 Reasons to love your life

Just how much love do you share with your loved ones?

8. Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

Ultimately, remember that you have to be special to find the special one!

9. 14 Key Strategies To Help You Become Special Too and Find the Special One

5. Enjoy the Single Life

Believe it or not it is possible to be happy even if you are single.

Ignore all the media hype at this time of the year and simply go and have a ball!

10. Stop being an approval seeking machine!

11. How to be single and enjoy every second

12. How to be single and happy

And you can plan how to get out of singledom!

13. 14 Key Strategies to become highly irresistible and a great catch

6. Get Ready for the Special One

Finding “the one” seems to take up so much of our energy – and yet just how well do we prepare ourselves?

One of the keys is to let go of the past and heal yourself – literally mend a broken heart.

14. How to mend a broken heart

Of course you will not meet someone by staying at home.  So you must get yourself out there, which could be a challenge if you are shy or introverted.

15. The introverts guide to people

16. How to finally overcome shyness

The last thing you would want is to feel lonely or isolated. Just know that there are other people at a similar life stage as you who would be delighted to connect with you.

17. How to escape loneliness – 8 easy ways to deal with loneliness

Find out why Love is all that matters in any relationship, special or not.

18. Why Love is all that Matters

And once you are out there meeting people, you want to be as attractive as possible

19. 9 science-backed ways to appear more attractrive

7. Find the Special One

So one day you want to find “the special one”. But remember that “special” is what’s special to you – for someone else, your special person could be a ogre:-)

Do you believe in just relying on the “law of attraction” to find the one or are you willing and ready to put in some work?!

20. The law of attraction versus science

Regardless of what you believe, you really do need to get out there and meet people.

21. Quit the dating apps and get out there! 

If you are a man, it would be helpful to know a bit more about the qualities women want in their men.

22. 12 qualities women want in their men

This article will also help women get clearer about the more important things to look for in a prospective partner, beyond the flashiness. At the same time, don’t just wait for your soulmate – create a soulmate relationship.

23. Why you should create a soulmate relationship rather than waiting for your soulmate!

When you meet someone you really like, how do you know whether it’s true love or just infatuation?

24. True love or Infatuation – what’s the Difference? And then of course when you meet someone, you want to know all about the perfect kiss.

25. 7 tips for the perfect kiss

8. Make your Relationship the Best Possible

One of the foundations of all successful and happy relationships is your communication and listening skills. It is time time to horn these skills.

26. Improve your relationship – listen up!

It is inevitable that all relationships will have their ups and downs. So it’s good to know how to deal with really difficult people without becoming one yourself!

27. 10 Ways to Deal with Really Difficult People without Becoming One Yourself

It’s okay to love yourself, but do so without becoming full of yourself.

28. Love yourself without becoming full of yourself.

Be wary too of the simple ways through which you could kill your romance.

29. 10 ways we hurt our romantic relationships

If nothing else, just remember that some how you attracted this “douchebag” person into your throgh youir vibration!

30.  What comes first – the douchebag or the vibration that attracted him?

Quite often, the secret is to be aware of your expectations of your partner and then releasing them. Create love rather than just falling in love

31. Don’t fall in love – create love instead! 

Maybe it is time for you to turn a boring relationship into a party of love?

32. 10 ways to turn a boring relationship into a party of love But if your relationship is in real trouble and dying then there are just 2 steps you need to taketo revitalise it.

33. The 2 most important steps to revitalise your relationship from death

Finally, you may just want to revisit all the boundaries in your life

34. Setting your boundaries and your house rules

9. Have Fun in Your Relationship

Being in a relationship is not all about just holding hands – hopefully you will do a lot more! Do however control yourself:-)

35. 5 things to do to sustain passion and desire

And there is always room for improvisation and improvement.

36. 13 ways to be a better lover

10. Marriage, Commitment and Small Acts of Kindness

So you have now met someone and you are falling or fallen in love.

What next?

Well how about just letting go?

Why not just let go, make it up as you go along and give love a chance to work?

37. 9 rules to follow to make a relationship actually work

And then one day prepare for committment and marriage

38. Committment forever here and now

Then one day who knows what amazing children you’ll create!

39. Remember the power of positive parenting and the value of discipline

At the end of the day, remember never to take life too seriously and your marriage too lightly.

40. Why Would You Ever Want to Grow Up Anyway?

What we all have to remember is that romantic love may bring you and your partner together, but it is the tiny day to day acts of kindness which will allow your relationship to flourish and grow.

And most importantly, always remember to be child-like!

Why would you ever want to grow up anyway?

“Dating is about grand romantic gestures that mean little over the long term. Marriage is about small acts of kindness that bond you over a lifetime”. – Lori Gottlieb, author of “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough”

Always remember that there is enough love in each of our hearts to heal the world, and not just our own personal relationship.

We have simply forgotten this as we all strive to get bigger, better and to get somewhere. But usually when we get there and have these things, we find forlorn emptiness.

“Love doesn’t leave you but you leave love”

So from this Valentine’s day onwards, focus on creating the best relationship you can, not only with yourself, but also with your partner.

If you have not yet found the “love of your life”, then you have all the tools and wisdom here in this article to help you do just that.

My desire and my fondest wish is that this Valentine’s day, you find your own love, within you and around you.

And after that, I urge you to spread this love.

Love is all that Matters

This book is a clarion call to bring more love into the world through simple yet powerful daily rituals.

The book is available on Amazon.

There are 9 chapters in this book and each short chapter concludes with a daily exercise – carry out these simple exercises and watch in wonder as your life magically transforms into a life filled with love, kindness and understanding.

And if you enjoyed the book or if you found it useful, I’d be very grateful if you’d post a positive review on Amazon. Your support really does matter and it truly does make a difference – I do read all your reviews so I can get your feedback.

Thank you.

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Do you say “thank you” like you mean it or do you just say it casually and almost apologetically?

And when you thank someone, just how appreciative are you really being?

Today, 11th January 2017 is International Thank You Day!

So firstly, thank you for being in my life and for reading my blog posts :-).

There is an art of saying thank you and mastering this one skill will instantly make your day to day interactions with people deeper and richer.

The key is very simple – you really have to mean it when you say thank you!

People get it when you genuinely mean something and also when you are just going through the motions.

Put yourself on the receiving end of being thanked – I bet you remember well the few times when someone has truly shown their appreciation.

I shall always remember the day when I invited a new friend for dinner and she asked if she could bring something – I simply suggested she brought a huge appetite.

She turned up laden with gifts – a thank you card, flowers, a bottle of wine and something for dessert! It was so thoughtful and unexpected; to this day I still share her story like I am doing right now.

The most beautiful thing about truly thanking someone and expressing your gratitude is that it creates a deeper and instant bond between people.

Many a time a harried shop assistant has been working for many hours and has to face demanding customers. Yet it will take very little on your part to improve his or her day by showing your appreciation.

When I visit the USA, I always smile when someone says to me – “Have a nice day!”

I used to think this was a bit corny, but now I know that the very act of saying this phrase does impact both people in a positive way.

Here are my tips for mastering the art of saying thank you:-

1. Say “Thank You” Like You Mean It

This is key – say it like you really mean it from your heart. Pause and even slow down your speech when you say the words.

Be vocal and voracious about conveying your thanks – don’t be shy.

“I would thank you from the bottom of my heart, but for you my heart has no bottom.” – Anonymous

2. Look for Opportunities to Thank Others

It all comes down to living your life with an attitude of gratitude – and when you do so, you actively seek out opportunities to appreciate and thank people

“I feel a very unusual sensation – if it is not indigestion, I think it must be gratitude.” – Benjamin Disraeli

Every time someone does something for you, it’s an opportunity for you to thank them.

At the same time, do not confuse giving thanks and compliments with flattery. You should be positive, sincere and focused on something specific. For example, “You look radiant today”; “You sang really well today”.

Conversely, don’t be flippant when some one praises you or gives you a compliment. Instead of saying it’s nothing, just say “thank you”.

3. Look People in the Eye

When you say thanks and look at people in the eye at the same time, your words will have great meaning.

I thought I was great at looking people in the eye but recently found that I hadn’t been doing it much recently.

Notice how much you actually look people in the eye – and learn to do so all the time.

Of course, you don’t stare intently as that could be a bit disconcerting and spooky!

4. Use their Name

If you know their name, then do address them using their name. Most people who make your life so easy such as shop assistants usually have a name badge on for a reason – so you can get to now their name and get to know them better.

However most people don’t address shop assistants properly and just see them as somebody there to bag up their groceries. You will be surprised how much it means to them when you thank them and use their name at the same time.

If you don’t know their names, then it’s easy to find out – just ask!

5. Be Specific About What You Are Thanking People For

Sometimes it means even more when people know what they are being thanked for e.g. Thanks so much John for bagging up my groceries.

It makes the whole exchange richer and more meaningful than just a casual “thanks”.

From today onwards, begin to find out the name of the people who serve you such as your postman and newsagent.

6. Send a Thank You Note or a Gift

With the advent of email and text messages, people are far less personal in conveying their thanks.

If you can’t thank someone face to face in person, call and speak to them.

If you can’t see them or call them, then send them a hand-written note or a thank-you card. And if you feel the situation warrants it, then send a gift.

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow” – Melody Beattie

7. Commend and Refer People to Others

One of the best ways of showing your appreciation for what someone has done for you is to refer their services to other people.

I have a health practitioner friend who was very supportive to me a few years ago, and to date I have referred her to dozens of new clients and that’s my way of thanking her.

You could also commend someone to their manager for something they have done for you.

The possibilities of praising someone and showing your appreciation directly and indirectly are endless.

Let’s Create a Crescendo of Appreciation

You have a choice in how you behave towards others. You can be generous, considerate and caring to the people around you – or you can be selfish, self-centered and always put your own interests first.

“Every time we remember to say “thank you”, we experience nothing less than heaven on earth.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

Remember that when you are genuine and authentic and you mean it, people will get you.

A sincere compliment or even just acknowledging people’s presence can make a huge difference to them – and you.

Remind yourself that every interaction with another human being is a gift and an opportunity for growth and contribution.  Everyone you meet is an amazing teacher.

Let us all begin a crescendo of appreciation and thanking people from today.

Thank you:-)

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Happy Thanksgiving Day everyone!

Well, a lot has happened in the world over the last few weeks. Just what is the world coming to!?

If you look around, the world faces umpteen challenges today and it’s really time for us to rise to the challenge and make it happen for a better world for all us. At the same time, we have to make the most of our own lives and make the most of what we all have.

Even at a personal level, we all face so many challenges. Right now I have dear friends who are going through a painful divorce whilst a very close coaching friend is going through her last days after a serious illness and is now in palliative care in New York,

Of course, it is not how or when you die, but ultimately what matters is how you lived your life – and the legacy you created.

Life is so precious and it breaks my heart every time I hear of the killings and atrocities that happen every day in the name of religion, politics etc.

Right now the world is a very different place compared to last Thanksgiving Day with the Brexit uncertainty and the USA election.

A while back, a blog reader emailed me directly to challenge my way of looking at the world through “rose-tinted glasses”.

Well, as I replied to him, I am happy to see the world the way I see it. Of course, it’s not about being blind to reality, but choosing to see how things can be different and in a way which uplifts and benefits everyone.

So yes, I for one am happy to be upbeat about our humanity and our potential to solve the huge problems we face today.  There are so many inspirational people who are striving to change to things for the better – and their number is growing.

I am always inspired and filled with hope when I learn of all the good things happening in the world. For example, Nirvana School in Pondicherry, South India, is going from strength to strength with over 500 children now receiving a good education and being well cared for.

These children may not have much in material terms, they have so much more to offer us and teach us.

And yet we in the West who have a lot to be thankful for so often take life and all our goodness for granted.

We all have deep within us this calling and a capacity to help others, to make a difference in some way and to make ourselves count.

So my invitation to you on this Thanksgiving Day is to remember to be grateful for all that you have – and to strive for something bigger than you.

Check out my tips on how to live with an attitude of gratitude. 

No matter what, celebrate your challenges too!

Also, a while ago, I wrote 5 special articles for this week of Thanksgiving. So to help you celebrate and appreciate all that you have to be thankful for, check out all 5 articles about this special time.

Thanksgiving Lesson 1 – How To Embrace What You Already Have

Thanksgiving Lesson 2 – How To Let Yourself Give and Receive

Thanksgiving Lesson 3 – How To Add a Little Sizzle to Your Relationships

Thanksgiving Lesson 4 – How to Harvest the Wisdom from my Blogger Friends

Thanksgiving Lesson 5 – How to Serve Others at the Global Table

Thanks, everyone!

PS As I said, please remember that no matter what challenges you may be facing in your life we all have so much to be grateful for. 🙂

Life is short. Cherish this moment. Treasure this memory. Celebrate this life…

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How friendly are you to strangers? Do you reach out to new people you meet or do you hold back?

Over the years I have learnt to take each person at face value and try not to judge them in any way. Friends often comment on how easily I connect with people and how effortlessly I seem to make friends wherever I go. Maybe it’s a gift, maybe it’s just my way of being – but whatever it is, the results are often magical.

Talking to strangers I meet has led to some great friendships as well as many life lessons.

I have had 2 such experiences with homeless people in London which left me moved to tears on both occasions and reminded me once again of the power of giving and receiving.

In London where I live, there are more and more homeless people, many of whom have to resort to begging, whilst others sell the “Big Issue” magazine which helps the homeless create an income and ultimately aims to get them off the street.

I met one such Big Issue seller outside my local train station – he proudly told me that his full name was Christopher Patrick McCormack. We struck up a friendship and we had a repartee going – every time I saw him I called him by his full name – and he would call me by my full name.

I usually carry some bananas with me whilst I am out and about in London, especially for homeless people, and every time I saw Christopher, I would offer him a banana.

A few weeks after meeting Christopher, I also gifted him a copy of my Amazon best-selling book “Get the Life you Love” – and invited him to read it. My intention was that it would somehow help him in whatever way possible to get a different perspective on life and get off the streets and into some employment. But to be honest, a part of me even wondered if he would read it.

Also, the irony of giving a homeless person such a book was not lost on me.

A few months went by – and one evening as I came out of the train station, Christopher excitedly approached me saying that he had something for me.

He then proudly offered me a carton of fruit – and said how glad he was to see me and how he had kept this gift especially for me.  I resisted and said I couldn’t take it – it was meant for him!

He then turned around and said:-

“Arvind, YOU need to learn to receive! Come on man, you even wrote about that in your book!”

I was blown away as clearly Christopher had read my book, in which I have a chapter about giving and receiving, and how it was important that we all learnt to receive as well as giving.

So of course I happily accepted Christopher’s gift – and to this day, this has been a reminder for me to be open to receiving – and to never ever underestimate the generosity of people’s hearts, no matter what their own personal circumstances might be.

Update – Christopher was featured on 17/10/16 in a double spread article in The Independent Newspaper about The Big Issue magazine celebrating 25 years of publication.

Please read Chrisopher’s story here

(Further update from July 2017: Sadly my dear friend Christopher Patrick McCormack passed away in July 2017, having just been through a rehab program and becoming the healthiest he had been in years. I attended his funeral along with over 100 friends and family members who gave him a wonderful sendoff). 

Random Acts of Kindness

Around the same time, another homeless person blew me away with his humanity and contribution.

One cold dark evening, I walked past a figure huddled up on the side of the pathway outside Euston station. He had a bulky rucksack by his side and looked quite down and out.

I smiled and said I had some bananas if he would like one.

He smiled back as I put my own rucksack down by his side to get him a banana.

As I was doing so, he said “Do you have any water?”

Now at this point, all sorts of thoughts went through my head. Something along the lines of give some people a finger and they take the whole hand! Part of me even resented this apparent cheekiness in asking for water.

I apologised and said I only had the bottle which I had been drinking from and it was almost empty anyway so I couldn’t give him any water.

At this point, he started rummaging through his own rucksack and eventually pulled out a big unopened, bottle of water.

He handed it to me and said “There you are – you have some water now. I think that’s a fair exchange, don’t you – water for a banana?

On one of the few occasions in my life, I was left speechless.

I was left teary eyed – and in that moment I learnt again about the generosity about the human heart – and our infinite capacity to show love and kindness to others, no matter what’s going on for us.

My invitation to you all is to always be on the look out to contribute to others – that’s what gives your life meaning. At the same time, be open to the many wonderful surprises coming back your way.

Want to change the world? Then please carry out a random act of kindness today and every day from now onwards…

Choose one act of kindness for today from my 31 Ways to Carry Out Random Acts of Kindness

Then choose another one for tomorrow – and continue to carry out a random act of kindness every day for the rest of your life.

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This is my 600th blog post!

To mark my 600th blog post, I could not have chosen a more appropriate topic for me – love.

And on Valentine’s Day too!

I looked around at many Facebook pages to get the best image quotes to share with you on this momentous day – and I found a real treasure trove for you all!

Firstly, what does the word love mean to you?

Does it evoke a vision of red roses, serenading in the park, moonlit walks and champagne?

In our world of glossy magazines and glitzy media, where we are constantly bombarded with images of the ideal, love struck and “perfect” couple, is it any wonder that the real meaning of love has been so diluted.

Love for some is about being starry eyed and going gaga over someone. The actual being in love becomes more important than ever truly loving someone.

Some people are even  in love with the idea of being in love! 

I have shared these words before on my blog and I make no excuse for sharing again these famous words from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin (by Louis de Bernieres):-

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.

And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day.

That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those who truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from the branches they find that they are one tree and not two.”

The question is what will it take for you to be able to love like this?

And what will it take for the world to wake up to the true meaning of love?

Remember that you can have at least 23 top ways to be love today and every day, not just on Valentine’s Day.

So Just What is Love?

Love is the most amazing thing in our lives. It is what makes us human, what makes life worth living. Nothing else truly matters. The size of our homes, bank balances, the beauty of our spouse, the speed of our car – all these things pale into insignificance when we face the splendour of what it is that makes us tick.

Love does not make the world go around – it simply makes the ride worthwhile!

Love is not the highly commercialised circus we see around Valentines Day. It is much deeper and much more profound than sending someone a dozen roses at hugely inflated prices. It is much more than candle lit dinners and fancy chocolates.

We all yearn for that deep connection with others, those moments of bliss, joy, completeness. We crave to have more of those delicious moments we may have had with a romantic partner. And yet, such moments seem so rare and forlorn.

We all remember the blissful moments when strangers have shared their love and made a difference. We all remember the feeling of gratitude in the eyes of someone whom we have helped. We remember how great it feels to do something for someone without expecting anything in return.

We cry when we see happy stories on our TV screens of families reuniting. Such stories touch our hearts and yet they are so rare, as we continue to get bombarded with so much doom and gloom by all the negative media around us.

We remember the sheer joy of children playing and the love in their eyes. Our hearts skip a beat, we get goose pimples and we get teary eyed when we witness an act of sheer love, pure, unadulterated and unconditional.

Such Moments Literally Take Our Breath Away

Love is much greater than what we feel romantically. It is what makes us sing, dance and makes us human.

The world today is just not working – our tried and tested methods have failed. We need to review our core values and to see just where we are headed.

If there was enough love in the world, we would simply not tolerate a single human being starving.

“There is enough for everyone’s need, but not for everyone’s greed” – Gandhi

However, there is enough love in each of our hearts to heal the world. We have simply forgotten this as we all strive to get bigger, better and to get somewhere which we think will make us happy.

Usually though when we get there and have these things, we find forlorn emptiness. Yet there is a better way. Open your heart to what is possible.

There are so many simple things we can all do on a daily basis to bring more love into our lives. Together we can all make this an even better and more beautiful world than it already is.

“Love WILL conquer all – if you let it!” – Arvind Devalia

Once you become aware of the miracles that love can produce you will want more of the same. Your situation will change, people around you will change and you will change. You will become human again.

“The love you fail to share is the only pain you live with right now in your life” – Shore Slocum

Let us all become human again together, and manifest even more love in our already magnificent world.

A world of love, and love always.

After all, nothing else matters.

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Now please join me in my mission to share and spread more love in the world.

Please check out all the amazing image and love quotes below and share them with your friends.

And do also visit all the Facebook pages for more inspiration and wisdom.

Let’s all transform the world together and bring more love into the world. You know it makes sense to do so:-).

Love Wisdom from my Facebook Friends Around the World

So here is the love wisdom from my fabulous Facebook friends around the world

1. Ink Stains for Your Brain

2. Amit Sodha Unlimited Choice

3. Steven Aitchison

4. Inside the Divine Pattern

5. A Conscious Rethink

6. Live Purposefully Now

7. Beyond Affirmations

8. Always Well Within

9. Change Your Destiny in 6 Days

10. David Vox

11. Positive Provocations

12. Essence of your Heart

13. Tanuja Desai Hidier

14. Amazing Me Movement

15. Relationship Junction

16. The Burned Hand

17. Bhavya Gaur

28 Day Relationship Adventure

In Feb 2011, I wrote 28 articles in 28 days – all around them the theme of love and relationships.

Here are the complete 28 articles – please do check them all out:-)

1 – Become Aware of Your Relationships

2 – Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else

3 – Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself

4 – Love is all that Matters

5 – 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships

6 – Why Decluttering your Friends is Good for You and Them

7 – Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!

8 – Be Special to Find the Special One

9 – 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable

10 – Don’t Fall in Love – Create Love

11 – Do you Believe in Soulmates?

12 – Open Your Heart and Find the Special One

13 – Create your ideal Valentine’s Day

14 – Make it a Fun Valentine’s Day Everyday!

15 – Make Your Relationship Even More Special

16 – Learn to Love Unconditionally

17 – 11 Keys to Improve ALL Your Relationships

18 – Why the Human Touch is Key

19 – How NOT to Make Friends!

20 – Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

21 – Stop Judging, Start Loving

22 – Simple Trick to Instantly Improve All Your Relationships

23 – Why No One Is Ever An Ugly Duckling!

24 – Why World Compassion Begins With You

25 – Why Teamwork Always Begins with YOU

26 – How to Let People Go From Your Life

27 – Thank the Divine Every Day

28 – Stop Being An Approval Seeking Machine

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Have you ever hated someone who was just so good at everything they did?

They couldn’t do anything wrong whilst there was poor you, struggling with the most mundane of things.

You know what I mean – that smart ass kid at school who annoyingly always got straight As. That hot girl who everyone wanted to date, was super at all sports, knew all the latest dance moves and came top of the class.

And worst of all while you slaved away every day immersed deeply in your books during your college days, these smart students never seemed to study. Instead they were out partying every night – they were the smart in-crowd.

It was as if they were born high-achievers.

Yes, we have all been there. And didn’t you just hate these guys and gals?

Of course it doesn’t end there – at work there is always that one smarmy work colleague who just knows it all – and you hate to admit it but he really knows far more than you do. Like him or not, you grudgingly accept that he is simply brilliant. And sadly you are not anywhere near their level.

Yet deep down you know that you are as good as them. In fact you just know you are better than them. You even feel smug knowing that you are actually smarter than them – it’s just that no one has discovered this about you.

Worst is this pain of knowing that you could be so much more in life – it hurts you to the core of your being to know that life is passing you by whilst you are being mediocre. And others are getting the glory.

Life seems so unfair – you are from the same gene pool. What have they got that you don’t?

Well, what if I told you that there was a way to become just like them? To become even better than them?

If you wanted to, you too could become such a high-achiever. Indeed you could ruffle so many feathers with your brilliance and your success that others would love to hate you too.

The good news for you is that it really does not take much to raise your game and become a high achiever yourself.

And you know what, you owe it to yourself to do so. Remember, the clock is ticking.

“We all have two lives. The second one begins when you realise you only have one” – Tom Hiddleston

But first you have to be ready to play all out to finally become a high achiever and start creating amazing things in your life.

Now what I have learnt is that highly successful people always strive for more.

They work hard and play hard – and if that sounds like you, then read on.

So consider this right now – where in your life can you raise your game?

4 Underlying Principles for Becoming a High Achiever

There are 4 underlying principles for becoming a high achiever and transforming your life – Clarity, Commitment, Focus and Action.

I have learnt that achieving things in life is actually relatively quite simple – get clear about what you want, get committed to do whatever it takes to get this, become laser focussed and take action until you get there.

Of course it’s simple, but not easy – not everyone is willing to do the work and take the necessary steps. Which is why there are so many people mired in mediocrity.  But you no longer need be one of them.

1. Clarity

Clarity is POWER – the clearer you are about what you want, the more likely you are to achieve it.

Knowing what you want in life is key – but most people don’t even know what they want!

There are only a small number of people who do know what they want.

But there are only a TINY number of people who actually take the actions necessary towards getting what they want.

Most people go through life in a fog, meandering from day to day and before we know it, their life has gone by. And then they come and bury you.

Once you have the clarity about what you want in life, the rest is about creating a sensible strategy and taking action.

Getting that clarity in the first place is key.

Incidentally, when I first started coaching clients, I used to think that self-belief was the starting point i.e. you had to believe in yourself.

I have known some high achievers who were totally plagued by low self-belief in themselves and yet they were creating incredible things in their life.

Other times, I have worked with clients who couldn’t even get started as they had such low self-belief.

So get this once and for all – self-belief is not a pre-requisite to success and achievement in life. Neither is confidence.

Confidence is an outcome and not a pre-requisite for success in life.

So here are some key questions for you to consider right now to get more clarity for your life:-

What dreams did you have when you were a child?

What gives you joy today?

What have you given up on?

2. Commitment

The second principle for a life of high achievement is Commitment.

“Commitment is an act, not a word.”

Your commitment is something you renew every morning, and it’s not just a passing, fancy fad.

So pause right now and ask yourself –

What does commitment mean to me?

What I mean by commitment in this context is not just another word you throw around loosely – but it’s a way of being and something you take on for the rest of your life.

Let us look at the lives of 2 of my all-time heroes.

Mahatma Gandhi was totally committed to a free India – and he achieved that in his lifetime

Check out 11 Key Lessons from Gandhi for leading a Powerful Life of Commitment

And Mr Nelson Mandela was committed to a free united South Africa – and despite spending 27 years in prison, he achieved that.

During that time in prison he remained totally committed to his lifelong vision.

Commitment is about declaring your word to something bigger than you.

The question for us is really not even about what Gandhi, Mandela and others like them have achieved in their lifetime – but what made them stand out from the rest of us?

So this is really an inquiry about what allows you to be totally committed to what you say you are committed to.

You simply have to take action daily to renew your commitment on a daily basis.

You have to be persistent and keep going till you get there. Even if takes you the rest of your lifetime!

WHO you are is not absolute nor set in stone – it’s a choice.

And you can choose to be whoever you want to be – and today you can choose to become a high-achiever and transform your life.

3. Focus

When you truly focus on what you what, everything else falls away.

Nowadays we have more distractions than ever before.

“Absolute focus is the key to all great human achievement – whilst preoccupation is the enemy of all achievement”  

And let’s just check in on you guys right now – whilst reading this blog post, have any of you checked out your Social Media notifications since you started reading it?

Come on – own up. It’s okay – I let you off this time :-).

But remember – how you do one thing is how you do everything.

First comes the clarity. You then declare your commitment and remain focussed on this until you’ve achieved success in your quest.

Once you are focussed, you simply do not deviate from your path.

There are so many distractions these days to stop you from focussing on the key things!

For example, if I didn’t switch off all my social media inputs, every time I try to write an article, I would have Twitter, Facebook and email notifications stealing my attention.

Not keeping your focus on your goals will lead to ineffective efforts – and you already know that ultimately this is the road to mediocrity. You might as well give up and stop reading this article if you are so easily distracted.

So here are some practical ideas for you right away.

Next time you need to stay focused, switch off your TV, log off social media sites and blogs and turn off your smartphone.

Even turn off your computer if you don’t need it for your work.

Simple really. That’s how you create time for the important things.

Commit to starting and finishing one key task at a time.

Create a powerful statement for yourself such as:-

“I’ll have 100,000 subscribers to my blog and I will not stop taking focused action until I do”

4. Action

You can have complete clarity and be committed to getting what you want in life.

But all that would be pointless if you do not take focused action every day!

Most of us procrastinate – some of us are even world class at procrastinating!

But the clock is ticking – we have very little time to waste.

“The trouble is you think you have time!” – The Buddha

Success in life is actually quite simple – focussed, relevant actions on a daily basis taking you to where you want to go.

So here’s something for you to do by the end of today. Start or finish off something you have been putting off for a while –make sure you do not go to sleep tonight until you are done.

You really have to do whatever it takes to get what you want in life.

So to summarise – my 4 underlying principles for ultimate success and high achieving in life are:-

1. Clarity – Get clear on what you want
2. Commit – Play full out
3. Focus – Get and remain focussed
4. Action – Take daily action

So these are the foundational principles for becoming a high-achiever – and to put them into practise, here are my 8 practical strategies:-

1. Review Your Starting Point

Start by focussing deeply on what’s happening in your life currently

Take stock of all the powerful and fulfilling things you have done and continue to do.

• What’s already really working right now?
• Where do you want to step up?
• What are your current challenges and blocks?

To start with, remember that you are already successful in your life!

However, let’s look deeper:-

• Where are you stuck?
• What’s holding you back?
• Where is there room for improvement?

Take an HONEST look at what’s really going on for you.

Getting this extra clarity will allow you to review and start again if necessary.

2. Get Clarity and Create a Bigger Vision

Now let’s look at the vision you have for your life.

What’s the powerful vision for your life? For today and the future?

To help you get a clear idea about what one thing you must do in your lifetime, I invite you to reflect on these questions:-

• What do you want to look back on when you are 80?
• If you had all the time and money in the world, what would you do?
• What’s your ultimate game?

And this is the KEY question I would like you to keep reflecting on during the next few days:-

Just what one thing MUST I do in my lifetime?

And once you have an idea of what you want to do in your life, you have to go after it single-mindedly and let nothing get in your way!

3. Harness the Ultimate Mindset

Once you are clear about the ultimate vision for your life, it’s time to get committed to it!

Most people in life are NOT committed to anything!

Indeed most people go through life half-hearted committed to what they think they want.

And most people don’t even know what they want in their life!

So ask yourself just what are you committed to in your life?

What’s the one thing you are committed to make happen in your lifetime?

“It helps to be positive and upbeat every day, but unless you are committed to something bigger in your life, you may well spend the rest of your life in mediocrity” – Arvind Devalia

So it’s your choice – a life of mediocrity or a life of excellence!

4. Develop a Winning Strategy

What got you here may not necessarily help you to reach the bigger game you are committed to!

Once you’ve got clear of just what you want to do in your life and in your lifetime, how are you going to win at your ultimate game?

The key is to create a winning strategy to help you get there. And to correct your course if necessary.

It’s about bringing your best game to the table and to create your own rules for your game of life. And for transforming your life.

And YOU get to choose just who is going to help you become a high achiever and win your ultimate game.

• What are the special rules of YOUR game of life?
• What steps will YOU take to win the game?
• WHO is going to play with you?

5. Become Streamlined and Strong

To become a high- achiever in all areas of your life, you need to be in prime condition, physically, mentally and emotionally.

What we are looking at here is you being fully energised and highly optimised.

You also need to be streamlined and de-cluttered in all areas of your life.

Do an honest review today of what and who you can let go off from your life.

A coaching client living in the English countryside in Sussex took on de-cluttering her life. It turned out that she and her husband had so much junk, they were actually paying a lot of money to hire a large warehouse to store their stuff.

Within a month, they were able to get rid of most of their stored stuff and the warehouse was completely empty. And amazing things began to happen in her business once she had cleared all this unwanted junk.

So this is really, really important – I cannot emphasise this enough – please start to simplify your life in all areas from today onwards.

Here are 20 simple questions to help you simplify your life for ever.

Streamline all your commitments and start letting go of things that no longer serve you.

And to play your best game in the game of life, you also need to have an optimum self-care regime.

Please be clear that I am talking about talking TOTAL self-care here – there can be NO half measures when it comes to being your best mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Finally, it’s about having congenial relationships so that all your interactions with others are powerful and they support your quest.

Remember, you have to be intentional about creating the best and optimal environment for high level achieving.

It’s about calling on external resources where necessary so you can focus on what’s really important.

Crucially, it’s about not doing certain things at all.

And it’s about slowing down to speed up.

6. Create and Follow a Powerful Action Plan

You could have a really inspiring vision for your life and you can have the best strategy and your life could be really streamlined. But if you don’t take any action, your life will NOT transform!

There is no point in having compassion for something or someone if you don’t actually take a stand for them.

In the same way, being committed to something that really resonates with you is useless unless you take daily action.

Your commitment has to be renewed every day.

Most people go through life stopping and starting on their projects – or they keep going around in circles, never getting anywhere.

So it is vitally important to have your goal broken down into discrete and simple steps with clear deliverables.

“Most people never ever take the one simple action step which they know will change their life dramatically” – Arvind Devalia

It is about doing the simple things and doing them well – but doing them only as well as is absolutely necessary.

Take discrete and simple steps with clear deliverables.

Be creative and really think outside the box.

And always remember – strive for excellence rather than perfection.

7. Get Accountability and Project Manage Your Life

Your life of high-achieving is your own little project – it’s what you are going to create. Your own masterpiece.

As with any worthwhile project you must plan and manage your project – and you may need accountability to others.

Ultimately the only person who you are accountable to is YOU.

So check in with yourself just how committed you are to become a high-achiever and to create your legacy and your dream life.

And stick to the course and re-evaluate as necessary.

Remember that to get there, your mind-set has to be focussed on success come what may!

8.  Celebrate Life, Review and Plan Your Next Steps

Most high-achieving people rarely stop to celebrate.

It’s so easy to get totally and heavily involved in your work. Especially if it’s your passion.

But it’s all about working hard and also playing hard.

So how do you celebrate in your life?

How do you mark the big victories in your life?

I invite you to celebrate life over the next 24 hours in any way that excites you. It could be as simple as a nice cup of tea or that bar of chocolate you have been denying yourself.

Your big successes in life and your super achievements are worth celebrating big time.

Review daily how far you have come.

Express gratitude and appreciation for all you have.

And then perhaps it is time to step up your game even further.

You can create the next steps for an even bigger game – no point stopping now, right?

The Way Forward

So there you are – a rapid exploration of how to become a high-achiever – how to go from struggling in the shadow of all these so called high achievers – and learning not only how to be like them but even out-smarting them.

“Revenge” in your mind over those alleged high-achievers who made you feel small will be sweet.

But also watch out – don’t become smarmy and arrogant. Be nice to those not as smart and high-achieving as you – you never know just how quickly and when they could outdo and outsmart you :-).

It’s time for you to soar…

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“Peace in the World begins with you and me – every single peaceful action you take makes the world a better place” – Arvind Devalia 

Today there is more conflict and strife in the world than ever before. At the same time, we are all more stressed out. It almost feels hopeless as we all strive to improve our lives.

So where do you even begin to bring more peace into the world? And what needs to change?

This is a question I have struggled with almost all my life – it seemed so daunting and overwhelming I had no idea where  to even start.

Then I realised a few years ago that change begins with me – and I can only do what I can – and  I can make a huge difference to others by my inspirational words and powerful actions.

To this end I have written a number of articles, such as 9/11 remembered – 11 articles to sow peace and healing.

Yet I still feel I could be doing much more, especially in light of the current world situation and the refugee challenge in Europe right now.

So I am excited and yet humbled to announce my first ever Peace Evening.

Join us on Sunday 20th September for an inspirational and uplifting evening of Peace, Love and Joy to mark “Peace One Day“.

Tickets are only £5 (plus booking fee) and all profits will go to our chosen charities.

Please book your ticket here:-

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/peace-in-our-time-tickets-18392928745

(You can also pay at the door on the day but please book in advance to be sure of your place)

Eva Schloss, 86-year old holocaust survivor and step-sister of Anne Frank will be sharing her profound message of peace, love and reconciliation.

Listen to Eva’s interview about the peace evening:-

And I’ll be presenting my own practical steps towards bringing more peace in the world today:-

(Please also check out my Peace Evening Media page)

Plus we’ll have wonderful contributions of songs, music and inspirational words from our peace loving friends:-

• Revd Aidan Platten (Priest St Mark Church)
• Esther Platten (Singer and Musician)
• Renu Gidoomal – International Singer
• St Marks Choir – to be confirmed

Please book your ticket here:-

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How is your life going? 

What’s missing in your life? And what are you doing about it?

If you are like most people, you are having another day of challenges, deadlines and being overwhelmed. Or worse still, you are having another day of boredom. And despair.

Just what happened to all your childhood dreams? How did they get vanquished and forgotten over time?

Pause for a moment and look around the world you live in today.  Turn on the daily news and all you get is more doom and gloom around you.

The world seems to face so many challenges that you might despair and feel completely hapless as to just what one individual like you can do. Especially when you have so much going on in your own life.

Just where do you begin to create the sort of life you want, and to live in the type of world you want?

Where does one begin from this point?

The answer is actually quite simple – you begin exactly where you are at right now.

Your future and all the things you desire, dream of, wish for and want to create don’t exist anywhere other than here, right now.

That future is created here and now – not just for yourself but for those around you.

It’s simply all about you deciding to change – and choosing to make it happen for yourself and the world.

You see in life, you are either reacting or creating. Always.

Next time you are in a crowd in any setting – social, family or work, notice how people are either complaining about something or ranting.

On much rarer occasions,  the conversation is about moving forward, resolving challenges and heaven behold, even about creating something majestic and lasting!

So are you going to be reacting and ranting – or stepping up and creating?

Your life transforms the moment you choose to transform. The moment you decide that enough is enough and you are going to make it happen for yourself.

That time is here now.The time to rock your world.

It is time for you to step up and be the sort of person you have always wanted to be – and be the leader you know you were born to be. And then one day you too can rest in eternity, just like one of the greatest human beings who ever lived.

“I have worked hard enough, so I can now rest in eternity” – Nelson Mandela

You too can aspire to be a “Nelson Mandela” too!

Yes, quite a challenge, but why not?

Mr Mandela has left quite a legacy – and you can begin to walk in his footsteps by adopting some of his lessons in leadership.

So where do you even begin to follow in Mr Mandela’s footsteps? You start by first making your own life the best you can – a life based on high moral and ethical values.

At the same time, you do your best for the world around you and you create our legacy.

To help you get started, I have created a treasure collection of my all-time, best life-changing articles I have ever written. This is an extra-ordinary anthology to help you get more out of all areas of your life and to make it happen.

I looked through all the almost 600 blog posts I have written over 8 years and I have picked out what I consider the best 101 articles.

It was quite a challenge to pick these out and organise them into one post but this has been a labour of love for me – and I sincerely hope you get a lot from the 101 articles below. These are life-changing articles you can return to again and again.

I have put them under some relevant categories but there’s clearly a lot of crossover.

I suggest you read a few articles at a time and bookmark the ones that resonate with you – and please do share them. It would be a crime not to share these life-changing “secrets” :-).

1. Simplify Your Life

1. 20 Questions to Simplify your Life For Ever

2. 5 Key Lessons in Simplicity from Gandhi the Ultimate Minimalist

3. If Less is Best, Why Do I Still Want a Porsche?

4. Why Decluttering Your Friends is Good for You and Them

5. Stop Wasting Time on Petty Stuff: If I Can Do It, So Can You

6. Don’t go Through Life so Fast!

7. Find Your Path to Happiness By Saying NO

8. Why Playing Big Helps you Let Go of Small Things

9. Take off your Superman Cape and Become Human Again!

2. Take Optimum Self-Care

10. 14 Simple But Powerful Tips to Take Total Self Care of Yourself – Before It’s Too Late!

11. The Zen Mantra for Coping with Pain – “This Too Will Pass!”

12. 31 Days to Bliss and Lightness

13. How to be Positive Even If the DoomSayers Tell You to be Miserable

14. How to Suffer Excruciating Pain and Live Again

15. How to Detox in Five Days with Apple Juice

16. Green Juicing – Your Secret to Health, Vitality & Youth

17. How to Detox in Five Days and Enjoy It!

18. How 30 Minutes of Intense Chest Pain Changed My Life For Ever – and Will Change Yours Too

3. Strive for Excellence & Success

19. Strive for Excellence – Just Begin!

20. Warning: This Blog Post May Cure Your Fear of Success

21. How to Succeed at Anything in 15 minute Chunks

22. Warning: The #1 Secret to Success in Life Which You Ignore at Your Peril!

23. How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking – and YOU Can Too

24. How to Stop Being a Mouse in Public!

25. Top 10 Reasons Why Losers Give Up: And How Not To Be a Loser Too!

26. 11 Key Lessons from Gandhi for Leading a Powerful Life of Commitment 

27. 9 Tips to Create an Extra Hour Every Day

28. Make It Happen in 30 Days – Just Go on an Adventure!

29. Warning: Why Facing Your Fear Doesn’t Always Work – and 4 Things to do Instead

30. How to Keep Standing No Matter What Life Throws at You!

31. How I Got My Mojo Back – and Now So Can You!

32. James McCartney: Lessons and Insights from a Rising Superstar

4. Create Great Relationships

33. Become Aware of Your Relationships

34. Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else

35. Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself

36. 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable

37. 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships

38. The Shocking Truth About Being a Nice Person!

39. Stop Being an Approval Seeking Machine!

40. Why Teamwork Always Begins with YOU

41. Why No One Is Ever An Ugly Duckling!

42. Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!

43. A Powerful Yet Simple Trick to Instantly Improve All Your Relationships

44. 11 Keys to Improve ALL Your Relationships

45. Do You Believe in SoulMates?

46. Be Special to Find the Special One

47. Open Your Heart and Find the Special One

48. Make Your Relationship Even More Special

5. Find Your Vocation

49. Why YOU are the Greatest Gift you can Give the World

50. Discover Your Ultimate Life Purpose Once and For All

51. How to Make Your Dream Job Happen on Your Own Terms

52. Your Personal Brand – the Secret to Success in Life and Business

53. How to be Like the Buddha and Make It Happen Mindfully

54. Find Your Mojo Through Meditation!

55. How to be Outrageous and Change your Life For Ever!

56. Lighten Up and Light Up the World

57. Warning: Freedom Is NOT Everything

58. Find Your Fire!

6. Find Your Joy!

59. How to Live Your Life as if Everything is a Miracle

60. 17 Tips to Become Happy Right Now

61. Live with an Attitude of Gratitude

62. Why Would You Ever Want to Grow Up Anyway?

63. Find Your Bliss – Just Start Walking!

64. Stop Being a Drama Queen and Become Happy Instead!

65. The REAL Truth About Why You Suck: You Don’t!

66. How to Always Look on the Bright Side of Life – Even if You Don’t Want To!

67. How to See the Beauty and Greatness in Any Tragedy

68. Thank the Divine Every Day

69. Happy Thanksgiving Day Today and Every Day!

7. Strive for Personal Social Responsibility

70. Feel the Fear and Change the World Anyway

71. Personal Social Responsibility is Here to Stay

72. Why We Must All Listen to this MotorBike Crazy Mystic!

73. 101 Ways to Live Cleaner and Greener for Free – Book Interview

74. Why Peace Begins with ME and YOU (9/11 tenth Anniversary)

75. How to Be a Good Parent, Even if You Don’t Have Any Children!

8. Build Your Legacy

76. 6 Key Lessons in Life from a 150 year Old Man – Gandhi

77. Let Your Life Be Your Message

78. Why You Should Never Ever Underestimate the Impact of Your Kindness

79. Why the World Needs More Dreamers Like You and Me

80. Be the Change You Want to See in the World – Before it’s too Late!

81. Change Yourself First to Change the World

82. The REAL Truth About Why You Suck: You Don’t!

83. 6 Key Life Lessons from a 100 Year Old Woman – Mother Teresa

84. How to Start Living Again after the Loss of a Loved One

85. How to Get to Your Nirvana Through Kindnessgrief

86. Follow Your Intuition and Change your Life

87. 50 Ways Coaches and YOU Can Change the World!

88. Why You Should Never Ever Feel Sorry for Yourself Again!

89. Why Death is the Great Arbitrator

9. Remember that Love is All that Matters

90. Love is all that matters

91. 8 Ways to Bring More Love into the World – Before it’s too Late

92. Don’t Fall in Love, Create Love

93. 10 Ways to Turn a Boring Relationship into a Party of Love!

94. The Ultimate 40 posts for Love Every Day

95. Why Love is all That Matters Beyond 21.12.12

96. Lessons in Compassion and Love from my Father

97. Why World Compassion Begins With You

98. Stop Judging, Start Loving

99. Learn to Love Unconditionally

100. Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

101. Carry Out Random Acts of Kindness Daily

Life is a Miracle

So there you are – my 101 all time “Make It Happen” top posts to help you create your legacy and your best life ever.

A friend recently asked me which one was my favourite blog post of all time on Make It Happen. That was quite a challenge but as I pondered on this a bit more, it became quite easy – my favourite has to be #59 from above:-

How to Live Your Life as if Everything is a Miracle

As you move forward in your life, if yhttps://www.arvinddevalia.com/how-to-live-your-life-as-if-everything-is-a-miracle/ou take on just one thing from this blog post, I request you to treat everything in your life as a miracle. And watch how your life transforms.

I wish you a life full of miracles always.

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Have you ever had a deep life-changing experience?

An experience which left your previous life in tatters and forced you to face up to life like never before?

There you are – one day simply meandering through life, care-free and thinking that life was going to go on forever.

Then what happens…

Suddenly you are jolted by a thunderbolt – and life is never the same again.

Something happens personally that hits you deeply in the groin of your soul – and you have no choice but to take stock of your life. And then perhaps you can choose to actually start living the life that you really want.

You see we all go through life as if it is going to last forever. In our head and in fairy tales, we get to live happily ever after.

Except that it’s never ever forever. And most of the time, it’s hardly even happy.

And the insane thing is that though logically we know that this life is not going to last forever, we live our lives as if it is going to last forever.

The reality though is that one day we die. And then a few loved ones and many strangers come along to pay their final respects.

They all look as serious and solemn as they can, address your coffin and tell you what a fine fellow you once were.

And soon after all the lofty eulogies which never saw any daylight whilst you were alive, they bury you and throw some mud over you. Or in my case, being of Hindu origin, they’ll burn me. Then scatter the ashes in some polluted river.

The worst and the most harrowing bit is this – like it or not, every day brings you and me closer to just such an ignominious end.

So what comes between now and that solemn but frivolous ending? And when are you going to wake up and get that your clock is ticking?

Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock. Tick Tock.

“We all have two lives. The second one begins when you realise you only have one” – Tom Hiddleston

Are you ready to wake up and truly live your life? Or are you going to be just like the masses who are living with this illusion of immortality?

So what do you do? Become despondent and depressed that this is all there is and what a failure you have been?

Become fatalistic as it’s all going to go belly up one day anyway?

Or do you finally get clear about your life and focus on the legacy you are going to leave behind? And at the same time, you have a blast and have some rip-roaring, rollicking fun along the way!?

How about living a meaningful life?

Living a life without meaning is like being on a train with an unknown destination. You know you are going somewhere – you just don’t know where you are going to end up!

And you might even arrive at your ultimate destination much sooner than you anticipated. Yes, I am talking about the dreaded D-word.

Living a meaningless life and meandering through the years towards your ultimate demise is demoralising. As well as a waste of time and energy. And an insult to our divine creator, whoever she is and wherever she is right now.

Especially when deep down you suspect that there must be a lot more to this thing called life.

We are born, we eat, we copulate, we die. What was the bloody point of it all!?

But just how and at what point do you wake up to the huge majesty and beauty of this thing called life?

It usually takes a life changing experience. A wake-up call completely different from your morning wake-up call.

It jolts you and wakes you up to life, once and for all.

My Wake-Up Call

This is exactly what happened to me recently, only 2 weeks ago – a day before Mother’s Day and just a few days before my birthday.

My own, gift-wrapped wake-up call. My 30 minutes of intense pain. And with it came a number of life lessons.

Lessons which I am going to share with you. And kick-start your life. In the same way I kick-started mine

My life will never be the same again. 

I just know that the best of me is yet to come – as surely as day follows night-time. And as surely as death follows life.

Oops! There I go – I used the dreaded D word again:-).

It happened just a few weeks ago. On a Saturday. In the middle of the day.

The pain in the middle of my chest started slowly but surely. I ignored it. And then I ignored it again. Until it got so painful I couldn’t ignore it anymore.

In such a situation I did what any self-respecting, closet geek would do. I went online and I Googled “chest pain”.

Surely I was not having a heart attack!?

I checked out heart attack symptoms and early warning signs.

I frantically looked through all the symptoms.

My throat was drying up. I was feeling dizzy. And the chest pain was still there. Persistent and hard to ignore.

Damn!

I had 3 of the tell-tale symptoms – and the advice was to call an ambulance if one was not sure at all about a heart attack. Better to be on the safe side.

That’s when I made the first of three life-changing decisions that day. I did the sensible thing – I called for an ambulance.

The man who answered my 999 call was very calm and asked me to go through my symptoms. Even then I kept reassuring him that I didn’t think it was a heart attack but I just wanted to make sure it wasn’t – and I was only following the advice on the website.

He assured me that an ambulance was already on its way even whilst he was still going through the checklist with me.

I was instructed to leave the doors open, eat nothing, take no medicines and just have some gentle sips of water. And wait.

Waited I did. For all of 10 minutes before 2 ambulances showed up and 5 paramedics galloped up to the second floor of the building where I live, fully laden with magical medical gizmos.

Paramedics Party

I thanked them for arriving so quickly – and said that since there were so many of them we could even have a party.

They gave me a quizzical look – I reckon they suspected a fraudulent call-out from some attention-seeking weirdo, who was into partying with women in uniform. But I digress. Maybe that will be another arousing blog post soon:-)

I could tell they really meant business. Jokes and parties could wait. Life was calling. Or was it the dreaded D word calling!?

So I simply invited them to my annual “friends and friend’s friends picnic” later in the summer. They had now better come and join us all in a few months’ time!

They were incredibly kind and caring. I had such a feast of love in my own home from five strangers – I could have lapped it up for much longer. But life was calling – and someone else in more dire need of medical attention than myself may be missing out whilst I indulged myself.

They were also super-efficient and business-like. They had clearly done this many times before – but I wonder how many times they had been invited to a party!

One asked all the questions and quickly went through the symptoms whilst another started plonking all these wires and test-pads all over my chest.

She asked for permission to shave some hair off my chest for better connectivity – I said she could but only as long as she shaved me uniformly on both sides.

I was clearly on top form that day – heart attack or not, why would you ever not see the lighter side of life!?

To be honest, the chest pain had already subsided by the time they arrived – and I was already beginning to feel a bit foolish for having called them out.

Within less than 10 minutes the ECG test was done – and my ticker was fine. But the blood pressure was rather high, probably due to the panic and tension of the previous half hour.

The paramedics advised me to get some blood tests done immediately so as to be completely sure. Either I could go to the nearest A&E (casualty) department myself or they could take me in the back of an ambulance.

I suddenly felt a bit silly for having all this special attention given to me. After all surely it was just indigestion?

Through that annoying cloud of not wanting to be fussed over, I did make a mental note to work on some self-esteem stuff. A little voice said to me – just enjoy this Arvind, and let someone fuss over you and serve YOU for a change:-)

And that’s when I made my second life-changing decision of the day – I went for the blood tests in the back of the ambulance.

I expected flashing lights and sirens all the way to the hospital but no such luck. I was no longer considered an emergency and I just had to get there quietly and without any fanfare. Of course along the way, I chatted to the lovely paramedic looking after me and I even gifted her a copy of my book – “Get the Life you Love“.

I had anticipated being at the hospital for a couple of hours whilst the A&E staff did some more blood tests etc. But little did I know what was to come next.

We got there and I simply walked in. No need for a stretcher – I am guessing not many people come out of an ambulance and just walk in!

14 Hours of Hospital Waiting Agony –  and then Ecstasy!

So began 14 hours of hospital tests and examination.

I had another ECG done and some blood taken by a really pleasant nurse. In my head, I nicknamed her Dracula – in an endearing way of course.

And then two hours later, I had another ECG and yet more blood taken by my favourite Dracula nurse.

I was told I had to wait in hospital for at least 12 hours before a definitive blood test could be done which would confirm either way if I had had a heart attack or not.

Apparently the heart releases a certain protein enzyme called troponin within 6 to 12 hours of any cardiac damage and the presence of this enzyme is a definitive indication of some damage.

So began my stay of 14 hours in hospital – I reluctantly cancelled all my social activities that day. But strangely, I chose to not tell any family members or friends about what had happened. I just had this sense of everything was going to be fine.

Those 14 hours in hospital seemed to drag at times. But I can tell you that your life and mine will go past much faster. Just like that.

It was agony for someone as restless as me to be stuck in one place for so long – but also ecstasy as for once I got to rest for a prolonged period and spend some quality time on my own.

However, in those 14 hours as I rested on a hospital bed and waited for the blood test results, I also experienced many worrisome thoughts and searing feelings.

What if this was it?

First I experienced this feeling of sheer helplessness. How could life get me to such a tragic low – being confined to a sorry hospital bed?

My feelings of loneliness and helplessness were not helped by the looks of sympathy from the other patients and visitors.

Surely they could see there was nothing wrong with me or my heart!?

I then experienced deep sadness as I thought of the loved ones I may never see again. And I cried inwardly at the thought of the pain my loved ones would go through if anything ever happened to me. That day or any day.

I went through a whole range of torrid regrets as I looked back on a life of broken promises, unfulfilled potential and missed opportunities. People I had wronged, neglected, ignored. Abused even.

Regrets of all the things I did – and the things I didn’t do. Places I never visited. Things I put off for another day. Feelings of love I never expressed. Relationships I broke up. Girls I never kissed. And indeed, girls I kissed.

Worst of all was this haunting thought of just who I could have been if only. If only I had woken up sooner to the impending end of my time on this planet.

It was with these haunting thoughts that I must have dozed off for a couple of hours – only to be woken up by the night Dracula nurse at around 3 in the morning. Thankfully she nudged me with her hands rather than with her fangs on my throat.

My blood test results were back from the lab. They were negative. Yeah!

And though I had a sense they would be, my deep sense of relief was incredible. I could have kissed that Dracula nurse! She could have even sucked out some blood from my throat and I couldn’t have cared less.

Though I intuitively knew early on that it was not a heart attack, this final confirmation was such a relief and a huge boost.

It was like being given back my life – Xmas had arrived and Santa had just given me the biggest present ever – a chance to really live the life I want.

I felt ready to take on anything and do anything I wanted!

“Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. When I believe I can, I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.” ~Mahatma Gandhi.

Joking aside about Dracula, these nurses do an incredible job under the most trying of circumstances and for the most demanding of patients.

Florence Nightingale can be happy with her lasting legacy – and what a legacy.

Suddenly a whole new world opened up for me. It was not too late for me to be who I was meant to be.

To create my own lasting legacy.

Like Florence Nightingale did.

The Dracula nurse offered me the option to rest in my hospital bed till the morning, but I was out of there prompto! Besides it was Mother’s Day and I was paying my mother a surprise visit later that morning:-).

The taxi ride home that cold but fresh night was incredibly exhilarating. Life was full of possibilities – and I felt there was so much love all around me.

The taxi driver who took me home couldn’t believe that I had just spent 14 hours in hospital after a suspected heart attack. He said I looked great. And I felt great. Brand spanking new.

Relieved. Resurrected. Revitalised. Ready to conquer anything.

And to share my life-changing lessons. But first let’s do a little ritual with the proverbial middle finger.

Look at your right hand right now. Stick out the middle finger and fold your thumb and other fingers.

Stick the proverbial middle finger to illness and death! And also stick it to your old life and the old you.

Let us start today with making the most of the life you have.

Knowing that our time on this planet is so limited, it’s time for you and me to finally begin to live:-

1. Your Health is your Wealth

Our bodies are incredible machines – they are designed to last many decades. And barring freak accidents, you and I living in the western world could easily live to 80 years and beyond.

As long as we look after this body and give it optimal self-care and feed it well, it will survive for a long time.

But what good is an able body if the spirit within is dead!?

Funnily enough, whilst I was in hospital a close friend happened to call me – he himself had just recovered from an illness and the phrase he shared with me was that your health is your wealth!

I agreed with him though I didn’t tell him where I was or what I was going through.

The message to me and you is very clear – it’s time to take total self-care now – not tomorrow, not next week, not next month but now.

In that place where broken people come to be fixed, I had this deep realisation of just fragile our lives are – simply hanging on a string, ready to be blown away at any moment at the vagaries of nature.

A lottery of life and death.

I also saw just how ill and broken people can be – broken in both body and spirit.

So please deeply appreciate this – your life is such a gift and is so precious. It is a privilege to have this human body and this human form.

Why would you ever want to abuse your body?

First get a full medical check-up – let’s start with the basics and go from there. Then you can build on that.

Then it is up to you to give your body a chance to give you optimum and lasting service for as long as possible.

Learn to relax – do not stress about anything. Take up meditation to help you relax and get a different perspective on life.

Take up yoga too – this will help you to relax, make you feel and look younger and best of all increase your libido. Believe me – it works!

If nothing else, adopt a daily practice of walking – it’ll do you wonders

And of course, watch what you eat. This is so important and it really drives me mad and saddens me when I see people pumping their body with junk food.

Check out and apply these 14 simple but powerful tips to take total self care of yourself.

Before it’s too late.

As for me, I have already been to my GP who has confirmed that all is well with me though the blood pressure is still slightly on the high side.

I am due to visit him again in 2 months’ time for another assessment and of course during that time I’ll be focusing on even greater self-care. And I’ll be doing even more yoga :-).

2. Just be Yourself

One of my great realisations in that hospital bed was how much I had to offer the world. I kind of already knew this – but it became even more crystal clear and sharp when I was faced with the stark possibility of suddenly being unable to continue to offer the world what I had to offer.

In the same way, YOU have so much to offer the world.

You are unique with so many wonderful qualities. Yes, you:-).

You are so unique that not even the best and the maddest, baddest scientists can ever create another one like you.

Can you even imagine what the world would be like if there was another person with all your unique and wonderful talents and skills?

Do what I did that day in hospital – look back at your own life in earnest. Look at your heritage and your family background. Think about your education and all your unique life experiences that have brought you to where you are today and made you the person you are.

You are unique – there will never be another one like you. Accept that. Acknowledge that. And appreciate who you are.

You are here to serve the world with all your uniqueness.

YOU are the greatest gift you can give the world.

3. Share All Your Love Whilst You Can

One of the saddest insights I had that day was all the people I had let go from my life. And those people I had brought so much pain to.

The people I had mistreated, hurt or harmed, either knowingly or unknowingly.

Though I considered myself a loving being, I still held so many petty grudges. And I still withheld my love from so many wonderful people in my life.

As if my fountain of love was limited and there was only so much to go around.

So it’s time for me and you to share and spread your love.

It’s like when you light a number of candles with the flame of one candle. The light from the original candle is not diminished but augmented.

In the same way, let today be the day you truly begin to share your love and your light. The world needs your love more than ever before. Don’t keep it waiting any longer.

“The love you fail to share is the only pain you live with right now in your life” – Shore Slocum

Tell your loved ones just how much they mean to you. And tell them you love them. It’s as simple as that – but so hard for most people to do.

Regular readers will know that I have written about LOVE many times before. Just know and remember that every day until the day of your and my final reckoning, Love is all that matters.

4. Make Your Life an Epic Adventure

One of my key life values has always been fun – otherwise what’s the point of living?

It’s great to have a childlike attitude and a light-hearted approach to life – but I challenge you to transform your life into an epic adventure!

“Life is either a great adventure or nothing” – Helen Keller

Throw out your limitations, let go of your chains of boredom and apathy, and sail out to the seven seas like the sailors of centuries past.

Don the proverbial Tarzan’s outfit and go and find your Jane in the jungle of life, if you haven’t already found her.

Take on saving the gorillas in the mists of Congo – and having a rumble in the jungle with them.

Do whatever that tickles your fancy and your funny bone. Indeed, when was the last time you were truly tickled by anyone?

Embrace life to the full and do not let a single day pass by without a whiff of adventure, and a life lived to the brink.

A life overfilled with multiple glasses of love, joy and sheer unbridled passion.

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”― Hunter S. Thompson

Do whatever it takes so that one day you too can look back and say what a ride that was!

5. Get out there and Shine in the World!

As well as being unique, you are also incredibly smart and far more capable than you think.

Can you remember a time when someone has really moved and inspired you?

Maybe you attended a concert or a sporting event when someone just blew you away with their passion, their skill and their soaring spirit.

Well, you too can experience such highs in your life. Just connect to the Great Spirit within you!

To start with, list all those things that you have done and that you can do that no one else can.

Look at your hobbies and interests outside of your work – and you will see just how competent and capable you are.

Do you play the piano? Can you blow a didgeridoo? Do you salsa or tango? Can you do complex maths in your head? Can you walk into a room full of strangers and be the life and soul of the party?

Are you into scuba-diving? Can you recount all the baseball or cricket scores since the eighties?

Maybe you run marathons before breakfast at the weekend? Or maybe you walk the London Marathon every second year like I do.

Well, there you are! There are umpteen things you can do in your social and work life that no one else can.

No matter what pastimes you engage in, you are THE KING when you are in the middle of those.

Stop under-estimating yourself – go out there and strut your stuff!

You no longer have to wait to shine in the world.

Find your fire – and you too can now set the world alight!

You may ask – where do I start?

Well, the place to start is from exactly where you are at now!

YOU are the leader that the world has been screaming for. Rise up to the challenge. You know it makes sense.

6. Enjoy the Journey and Remember to Lighten Up

Whoever told you that life was meant to be hard and a struggle?

No matter what challenges you are going through, just lighten up!

Life is meant to be easy and flowing, albeit with the occasional challenges that we all go through.

So just lighten up – and remember you are still a child at heart. I mean why would you ever want to grow up anyway!?

Here’s a challenge for you – create a fun thing EVERY day from now onwards. It could be going out on a night-out to a play, a musical gig or a movie.

Or something as simple and easy as a short stroll through your local park. Literally stop and smell the roses.

Just learn to laugh at life. And remember to laugh the loudest at yourself.

Stop taking yourself so seriously!

7. Create a Lasting Legacy Worthy of You

My experience of 14 hours in the hospital also opened my eyes to what other people’s lives are really like. And also what goodness there is all around us.

A whole kaleidoscope of humanity went past me that day – a bunch of noisy and playful Arab youths, a grumpy old man suffering skin problems, an Ethiopian monk-like man with a serene face visited by an even more serene but concerned looking young daughter and so on.

And all around them, some incredibly kind human beings, skilfully disguised as doctors, nurses and admin staff, each with an eternal and endearing smile, and genuinely kind words for all the heavy and weary hordes of humanity passing by.

That night just as I was leaving the A&E ward, I got talking to a very upset black guy who had a wound on his head.

I usually don’t refer to people’s colour except in this case it is relevant – he and his brother had been beaten up by a bunch of young guys, and the police were also there, investigating a possible racial attack.

Having had my own blood drawn out by my adorable Dracula nurses so many times that day, I was almost immune to the sight of blood but there was a lot of spilled blood about. My recently okay-ed heart went out to this man and his brother who was still lying prostrate on a ward bed.

Just what sort of a world do we live in? And what world are we creating and leaving behind for our children?

What struck me in that moment of talking to this person was how we were all so connected – and yet our perceived differences tore us all apart – in our relationships, in our families, in our communities and indeed in our countries.

Yet we are all striving for the same thing – to be happy and to be loved. And ultimately we all want to contribute and make a difference to others, though most of us don’t even realise this.

And this is where you come in. Go out and live your life in such a way that your life becomes a celebration of all that’s so great and noble about human-beings.

You don’t have to aim for something huge and grand such as striving for the Nobel Peace Prize (actually, you CAN if you really want to) but start small by taking a stand for something greater in your family, in your community and in your country.

Feel the fear and change the world anyway.

Ultimately when it comes down to it, your happiness comes from what you bring to the world and those around you.

It’s not about the size of your house. Or the speed and engine capacity of your car. Or heaven forbid, it’s certainly not about how many subscribers follow your blog (mental note to self!).

All that matters at the end of the day is what YOU bring to the world.

By simply choosing to carry out one act of kindness each day, you’ll be making your world a better place. And by the time you are on your deathbed, you’ll have thousands of acts of kindness to look back on:-).

Remember – your lasting and worthy legacy is built not by some grand, noble gesture but by tiny acts of humanity each day.

The Way Forward for Me

During those 14 hours of waiting, I made my third and final life-changing decision.

It was so simple yet so far-reaching – from that point onwards, I simply chose to live the best life I can.

So yes, I already have a great life – my health, a loving family, amazing friends and a beautiful home in the middle of one of the greatest cities in the world. But yet there was a big missing piece.

I was frustrated in my work and not yet achieving what I really wanted. And I am single and I have been single for a while, still searching for that elusive and fabled soulmate:-).

It was my own private joke really – I wrote a best-selling book called “Get the Life you Love” – and yet I was not yet living the life I really wanted!

People have asked me in the past if I had the life I love – and I used to jokingly say that I was a work-in-progress. Though most areas of my life were working, I was still working on some bits – and I was working on making other bits even better.

But the reality was that in my eyes, I was still a fraud. I was still far from living the life I imagined – and though in most people’s eyes I was doing great, I was defrauding myself.

So I am done with being a fraud. Just watch this space…

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” – Tony Robbins

The Way Forward for YOU

The most important question here is this – when will you stop being a fraud?

When will you stop cheating yourself and the world?

When will you start creating and living the life which you really want?

It’s time.

It’s time to wake up and create your life, your legacy. Don’t wait till the day they are throwing mud over your coffin. Or burning you.

Because like it or not, that dreaded D day is getting closer each day.

I shall end by reminding you of this poignant quote I shared earlier from Tom Hiddleston.

(Coincidentally this quote was sent to me by a new friend just days after my life-changing experience, though  she had no idea of what I had just gone through. But then again, there are no coincidences).

“We all have two lives. The second one begins when you realise you only have one” – Tom Hiddleston

Let today be THE DAY you begin your second life.

Some Powerful Life-Changing Questions for You

I invite you to take some time out TODAY to reflect on these life-changing questions:-

What would it be like to live the most powerful life I can?

What does it look like?

What does living my “best” life mean to me?

What will it take for me to make it happen?

What am I really, really good at?

What’s my greatest gift to the world?

What contributions am I making to my loved ones?

What impact am I having on the environment?

What sort of legacy am I creating?

What am I doing that one day my children will be proud of?

These are all powerful and life-changing questions only you can answer.

Reflect on these questions and write down whatever answers that bubble up for you.

Then just dive into my special blog post collection of 101 Ways to Help You Make It Happen which will go a long way to help you create the sort of life you can be proud of in the years to come…

LIFEPLAN Course Coming Soon

I end this momentous and deeply personal post by sharing what I am currently creating with a friend – a life-changing, online course based on my best-selling book “Get the Life you Love“.

Look out for more details soon.

In the meantime, go well my friends – and may the force of love be with you on every step of your journey.

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Given the chance, if you are like most people you may just rattle off some of the challenges you have faced in your life. Some people might even show me their battle wounds

Let me be clear – this is a rhetorical question and not an invitation for you to wallow in your past or share any pain you are going through now.

We have all faced challenges during our life journey – and the very fact you are reading this shows that you survived.

As a wise man said to me once – your life is a success every time you wake up in the morning. You have survived another night and maybe you will thrive for another day!

It’s so easy to feel sorry for ourselves as we meander through life’s ups and downs – and wonder how and why life got so hard for us along the way.

Then along comes somebody who has faced such astonishing challenges and is still dancing and smiling through life. They just blow you away with their zest for life, optimism and positivity.

One such person is my long term friend and mentor Evelyne Brink. Three years ago in November 2011, Evelyne was due to visit my home for lunch. She was 7 months pregnant at the time and was due to visit me after a routine hospital check-up in the morning.

She never made it to mine that day.

Instead she called me in the afternoon to say that the doctors had discovered something not quite right with her baby. She was in shock and still taking in the news. I offered to join her at the hospital but her partner Thomas was already on the way.

That day Evelyne’s life changed for ever. As did Thomas’s and all the close people in her life.

Their son Tuffel was born a few weeks later without a bowel and despite all the odds he is now a bright, gregarious 3-year old.

Tuffel is a miracle baby and has become the first ever survivor of “ultra short gut syndrome“, living with no small intestine.

Evelyne has now written and published a heart-warming book about her journey over the last 3 years – “It Takes Guts” (Amazon UK/Amazon.com)  an uplifting and deeply emotional journey which will fill your heart with new hope for what is possible for each and every one of us.

As the subtitle says, it is a story of love, hope and a missing bowel.

“An amazing story of how crisis can turn strangers into family and the amazing reserves of grace, love, and hope we can all find inside ourselves when we really need them.” – Michael Neill, Supercoach

Evelyne has such a powerful story to share – and amidst her busy life of nappy changing and visits to the hospital with Tuffel, she kindly agreed to be interviewed for my blog, so that readers can be inspired by her message.

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Happy Thanksgiving Day everyone!

Wherever you are in the word today, I wish you all the best for today even if you are not celebrating this tradition of thanks giving marked in so many countries and cultures around the wold.

I love the idea of having a special day of thanks giving whereby we can express our gratitude for all that’s good in our lives.

At the same time, living with an attitude of gratitude all the time is something we can all cultivate.

Having once experienced Thanksgiving Day with my brother and his family in the USA, I know what a special day it is for so many people around the USA.

On this day, in theory anyway, we get to see all that’s good in our lives and in the world – and for a few hours we connect with our own greatness. Bit like Xmas Day, except a few weeks earlier.

Then we get back to being our “normal” grumpy and stressed selves!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every day were to be like this, a day of goodness, gratitude and appreciation!?

At the same time, I feel that people are forgetting the original meaning of this thanksgiving celebration. Even in the UK over the last few years, Black Friday and Cyber Monday have been marked with a buying frenzy and special deals – so you can buy more of the stuff that you didn’t really need or want in the first place!

And the focus seems to have shifted more to eating, drinking and getting merry – and away from thankfulness and appreciating what we have.

I’ll stop myself there before I start ranting!

Let me walk my talk, by thanking all of you who have continued to read my blog and followed me despite my infrequent postings and multiple cyber disappearances. It is you who inspire me and make me want to become a better human being. Without you and the other people in my life, I am nothing.

Thank you for allowing me to contribute to you – and please know that I continue to aspire to serve you more. And together we can and we WILL make this an even better world.

Also, during this week of Thanksgiving, please remember that no matter what challenges you may be facing in your life, we all have so much to be grateful for.

So why does it make sense to do good every day, and not just on some special day like today?

As Mother Teresa said, do good anyway, no matter what.

“People are often unreasonable and self-centred. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.” – Mother Teresa

If you look around, the world faces umpteen challenges today and it’s really time for us to rise to the challenge and make it happen for a better world for all us. At the same time we have to make the most of our own lives and make the most of what we all have.

This morning, we had a tragic reminder of the need to make the most of each day and our limited time on earth.  Australian cricketer Phil Hughes passed away, 2 days after being hit on the head with the ball. A reminder of just how fragile and delicate our lives are – and yet so precious.

Life is indeed so precious and it breaks my heart every time I hear about more senseless killings and deaths.

Of course it is not how or when you die, but ultimately what matters is how you lived your life – and the legacy you created.

A while back, a blog reader emailed me directly to challenge my way of looking at the world through “rose-tinted glasses”.

Well, as I replied to him, I am happy to see the world the way I see it. Of course it’s not about being blind to reality, but choosing to see how things can be different and in a way which uplifts and benefits everyone.

So yes, I for one am happy to be upbeat about our humanity and our potential to solve the huge problems we face today.  All around me, there are so many inspirational people who are striving to change things for the better – and their number is growing.

More and more people believe in the power of good and strive to make it a fair and just society, a world that works for everyone.

And it makes total sense to do good every day – it’s the only time we have and it’s the only time we CAN do any good! 

Yet so many of us in the Western world who have a lot to be thankful for,  so often take life for granted and never get around to make the huge difference they could make.

So what stops us from doing more good every day?

1. Fear of Failure and Playing Small

Incredibly, the biggest block to us doing more good is fear!

There is the fear of failure, success, standing out, looking stupid etc. The idea of doing some good and taking a stand for the world can seem so big, one can be paralysed with fear.

Well, feel the fear and change the world anyway!

Conversely there is the fear of playing big and not wanting to stand out – but in the words of Marianne Williamson, who are you to not let your light shine?

And if you want some kick-ass coaching to help you PLAY BIG, just visit my Think Big Coaching website and arrange a powerful, life-changing conversation with me.

2. Waiting for Perfection and the Right Time

You will never have the right moment to do some good in the world. The only moment you have is now!

So stop waiting for the right moment and for “one day, some day” – do what you can today. Whilst you can.

Strive for excellence, not perfection!

And if you are too busy with other things, ask yourself – what must I DO in my lifetime?

For Mahatma Gandhi, it was a liberated India, for Mr Mandela, it was a united, free South Africa.

What must you do in your lifetime?

Don’t hesitate a day longer. Start today.

3.  Waiting to Know How to Do Good

Not knowing what good to do in the world today is a really dumb place to come from!

From today onwards, you can simply show kindness to everyone you meet.

Do not wait to be enlightened one day with your life purpose, so you can then spend the rest of your life blissfully focusing on doing good in the manner you were supposedly pre-ordained to do so!

Simply make it your life purpose to be kind and loving every day – and then carry out your good deeds daily to the best of your ability.

And if you are still looking for ideas to spread kindness, just choose from any of these 31 ways to carry out random acts of kindness

The world needs you do to some good – do not keep it waiting!

Get the Life you Love – 9th Anniversary

We all have deep within us this calling and a capacity to help others, to make a difference in some way and to make ourselves count.

It is this belief that drives me to coach, to blog and to publish books. And this is why exactly 9 years ago this week, I published my book “Get the Life you Love“.

Exactly 10 years ago on 25th November 2004, I met up with my friend Ritu Sethi and we got talking about our goals for the following year. When I mentioned I wanted to write a best-selling book within a year, she challenged me to do so.

I accepted her challenge and agreed that the defining moment proving that I had achieved my goal would be to see my book on the shelves of Borders Bookstore, Oxford Circus, a year from that day – and then the two of us would celebrate with champagne.

Did I do it!? Yes!

This photo taken on 25th Nov 2005 is testimony to what you too can do with some focus, dedication, accountability and most importantly ACTION!

A few months after this photo was taken, Borders Bookstores gave my book a national listing and stocked it in over 60 stores. Then a few years later during the downturn, they went bust!

This story gives me an opportunity to ask you some powerful questions:-

1. What’s next for you?

2. What will YOU achieve by 25th November 2015?

3. Who will you have to BE to achieve this? 

4. What about in 10 years’ time!?

Answers below in the comments box please:)

And so it happened that 9 years ago this week, I took a video of my book rolling off the printing press. Every aspiring author’s dream video!

That summer of 2005, I spent many days and weeks in Regents Park and created something that been so fulfilling and rewarding to me.

Having sold thousands of copies since then, I feel I have achieved my intention of helping and contributing to a lot of people.

From the original print run of almost 4,500, I am now down to my last 100 or so copies. Over the years, the mountain of books delivered to my home has now dwindled down to less than two packs of 60!

(And these 100 copies too would have gone a long time ago, if it wasn’t for the beauty and efficiency of print-on-demand, whereby I get to fulfil Amazon orders automatically by having single or more copies printed by Lightning Source, my international printer).

Signed Copies for You and Your Friends

I now intend to see the remaining 100 copies sold by Xmas – and am sending out signed copies to readers around the world.

Please click on the Paypal button below to order your copies.

This is the perfect gift for Xmas and the New Year – I can even send it as a gift on your behalf! Just contact me by 10th December and I’ll get some copies out to your loved ones:-).

I am grateful to all of you for sharing this journey with me.

The exhilarating thing is that the 9 years since I published the book have just flown by! It’s scary too!

I would love you to get my book and go through the many lessons and exercises – and I can guarantee your life will be impacted in a positive way.

Please do let me know how you get on with my book – and I would really appreciate it if you would write a review on Amazon afterwards.

And I always welcome all feedback about anything I do or say.

Please also let me know how else I can help you get the life you love in 2015. On this day of gratitude and appreciation, this is the question I would like you to answer:-

How else can I serve you?

Finally, during this week of Thanksgiving, please remember that no matter what challenges you may be facing in your life, we all have so much to be grateful for.

To help you celebrate and appreciate all that you have got to be thankful for, check out my special articles about this special time.

Thanksgiving Lesson 1 – How To Embrace What You Already Have

Thanksgiving Lesson 2 – How To Let Yourself Give and Receive

Thanksgiving Lesson 3 – How To Add a Little Sizzle to Your Relationships

Thanksgiving Lesson 4 – How to Harvest the Wisdom from my Blogger Friends

Thanksgiving Lesson 5 – How to Serve Others at the Global Table

Thanks everyone!

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This week was the 145^th anniversary of the birth of Mahatma Gandhi, one of the greatest human beings who ever lived.

As Einstein said:-

“Generations to come, it may well be, will scarcely believe that such a man as this one ever in flesh and blood walked upon this Earth.” – Einstein

Mahatma Gandhi is one of my all-time heroes and I have written a number of key articles about his life and his message.

This post about lessons in life from a 140 year old man is one of the most popular posts on my blog.

Do also check out the following 3 posts:

1. Gandhi the Ultimate Minimalist

2. Let Your Life your Be your Message

3. Lessons in Peace from Sammy, also known as Gandhi

Being a keen and ardent student of people, I have always being intrigued by what makes a “Gandhi” a Gandhi?

What made him so committed to his cause that he changed the lives of millions of people, and his legacy still lives on in the world today?

And what makes it so that the majority of us can’t even get committed to our own well-being?

What is Commitment?

Firstly, let’s get clear what we mean by commitment.

“The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity etc” – Oxford Dictionary

Please understand that what I mean by commitment in this context is not just another word you throw around loosely – but a way of being and something you take on being for the rest of your life. Just like Gandhi did.

“Commitment is an act, not a word.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

Commitment is about declaring your word to something bigger than you.

For this life-changing article, the real question is really not about what Gandhi and others like him have achieved in their life – but what made him and them stand out from the rest of us?

So this is really an inquiry about what allows you and me to be totally committed to what we say we are committed to.

And as a backdrop, I’ll use Gandhi’s life as an illustration of what he was committed to – and how he changed the world as a result.

I learnt a lot about the power of commitment when I recently came across The Deuce Story – all about how an American Footballer transformed overnight after declaring his commitment to be the #1 player in his position.

Deuce’s story partly prompted me to write this post – he literally became an overnight sensation. All after just one powerful, chance conversation with Steve Hardison, the Ultimate Coach.

Yes, that’s the power of thinking big coaching. :-).

Ironically, Deuce’s story is also an illustration of how one’s commitment has to be renewed daily. He flopped just as quickly as his star had risen.

You see not even the ultimate coach can empower you, if you don’t take action to renew your commitment on a daily basis.

To use this analogy in my own life, I too have had many false starts. By way of writing this first blog post after a few weeks break, I am renewing my commitment to serve you through my words and by sharing my insights about life.

In the words of Steve Hardison, I am here to:-

“Be Me, Be Love and Be in Service”.

Whilst I have been away from my blog for a few weeks, I have had quite a summer and been on a deep journey of healing and also soul searching. More on that in a future blog post, but suffice to say that I am back now with a renewed vigour and deep sense of my ongoing and future contribution to the world.

I do feel that I have let down my regular readers and I am clearing that up today by renewing my commitment to post here on a regular basis.

It’s a cop out to say I am only human and also to say that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.

Yes, of course I should always be kind to myself and I should always be committed to my own well-being and health. But as I’ll explain below, Gandhi’s commitment to his vision was actually greater than his commitment to his own self-interests.

So let us begin.

What made Gandhi who he was – and what made him the man he became?

To start with, who was Gandhi as a person? By all accounts, he was actually quite an ordinary man who was raised to greatness by one life-changing experience. The real question is this:-

What makes an ordinary man extra-ordinary?

What transformed Mohandas Gandhi into “Mahatma” Gandhi?

(Mahatma is Sanskrit for “Great Soul” – and Gandhi was bestowed with that title during this lifetime by his ardent followers).

One of the inspirational figures in my life is Sadhguru – and this week he wrote a fabulous article about how Gandhi’s life as a struggling lawyer in South Africa was turned upside down after he got thrown out of a train for being in a first class carriage. His only “sin” was the colour of his skin.

In that life-defining moment, Gandhi identified with the plight of all those around him who were not as fortunate as him. He rose beyond his own “petty” daily challenges of survival and making money, and made a commitment to something larger than him. His old identity was shattered and the rest is history as he rose to become a giant amongst man.

Though not traumatic at all, I had my own life-changing moment a few years ago in India, when I experienced unconditional love for the first time. Life was never the same again – and maybe all of you will also soon have such a life-changing experience. Maybe even by the time you have read this blog post and reflected on your own life:-).

So here we go – what’s commitment and how can we all become committed just like Gandhi did?

1. Connect to Something Bigger than Yourself

How does one get committed?

Simple – getting committed to something is a decision you make within yourself. A decision that resonates with you and makes you come alive.

Everyone one of us has something within us that makes us tear up and get connected to something bigger than us.

And this is what happened to Gandhi when he speculated on life, whilst sitting on that railway platform after having been thrown out of the train carriage simply because of his skin colour.

By all accounts, Gandhi was an ordinary man – “average” in all ways but he went on to do things that he himself probably never imagined possible. There were so many more talented and qualified leaders around him at that time, but he rose above them all – simply because of his commitment.

You and I – we all live with a limited identification. And it takes something outside of us, for us to wake up to our own power.

My life-changing moment when I spent some time with orphans in India was a call from something much deeper and bigger than me. I was never the same person again. I then went on to raise great awareness and funds for my chosen project – Nirvana School.  

My life changed in a flash. Forever.

So the key is this – be willing to be sacrificed and to be “used” for something bigger than yourself!

Feel the Fear and Change the World Anyway

Know that being committed to something is simply a decision you make.

And please, NO half-hearted commitments!

2. Focus on Your Being

Once you are clear on your commitment, your BEING is the most important part of you and your commitment.

A key part of being committed is to come from the future you want to create and work backwards to WHO you need to be now. If you come from the past, you will of course, get more of the past.

Ask yourself:-

WHO do I need to be to fulfil on what I am committed to?

What type of person will it take to create the future I want?

What’s the “being” of the being who fulfils on such a commitment?

Being authentic and being courageous about what you stand for in the world is what will have people knocking on your door.

So in Gandhi’s case, his being was one of someone totally loving and peaceful, and yet he was powerful and steadfast in his resolution. He espoused peace and love, and never did he falter in being loving and forgiving towards the British despite being jailed a number of times.

His being of love, peace and equanimity won the day in the end – and that’s why we still talk about him to this day.

And that’s why Gandhi will always be my hero – I aspire to be like him daily – goofy teeth and hair style notwithstanding :-).

3. Make Your Commitment a Life-Long Thing

When you get committed to something bigger than yourself that becomes a lifelong commitment.

Once you are totally committed in such a way, you express yourself daily – completely and in every possible way.

So what you commit to for life is not something you do lightly – and nor is it something you can only do when you feel good about it.

Nelson Mandela was in prison for 27 years – and his commitment to a united and free South Africa never wavered. Now that’s commitment!

Okay, I appreciate not everyone reading this will want to change the world for the better (why not!?).

But whatever you truly want in your life – for yourself and others – getting truly committed to that is a conscious decision you make for yourself. And you can choose to make that a lifelong commitment.

4. Do Not be Attached to the Outcome

Once you are committed to something you are committed. And then you give it your all.

Even if the results don’t come, you remain committed – there is no such thing as a “failure” for a committed person.

You don’t care about the outcome – your commitment is your reward enough.

Gandhi remained committed to a free and united India – and though he did get to see a free India in his lifetime, the country being ultimately partitioned broke his heart. And he was rather sad and forlorn in the last few months of his life.

Something I need to clear up here – a friend asked about being committed in a marriage.

Yes, once you are marred, you are committed to your partner. One can’t get married on a Saturday and then decide to be “unmarried” the following Wednesday!

Commitment in relationships is an article I shall write in the near future, but consider this question. What should one do about one’s commitment in a marriage / relationship that has become say abusive?

Hard as it may be sometimes to get out of such a relationship, the greater commitment you must always have is to yourself.

So in such a scenario, your commitment to your own wellbeing and greatness overrides any commitment you may have made to another person. And yes, you can break your marriage vows, despite any family or social pressures. Of course I am simplifying greatly here but your ultimate commitment must be to yourself.

Conversely, being solely committed to yourself and your ultimate actualisation does mean that you DO get committed to something bigger than yourself!

This reminds me of a family folklore story that I only heard recently from a cousin’s wife. 60 years ago, soon after my parents got engaged, my mother got seriously ill a few months before the wedding date. The story goes that he was put under a lot of pressure from his elder brother, the family patriarch, and others to break off the engagement with this “sick woman”.

However my father remained resolute and reassured my mother and her family that he was totally committed to getting married – his stance was what would have happened if my mother had fallen ill 6 months after the wedding?

Well, fortunately for me (!), my mother recovered fully within a few months – and here I am today to share the story.

I only heard this story a few months ago and this is yet another testimony of the type of man my late father was. And Gandhi was his hero too :-).

Check out Lessons in Compassion from my Father

5. Declare your Commitment

Your commitment has to be declared publicly.

There is a reason why most cultures make the act of getting married such a big, public celebration. Of course, I am an advocate for any partying any time, but there is a bigger underlying reason to taking your marriage vows publicly.

You are declaring your commitment to the world – and your word has power.

Beyond the wedding celebration and beyond your marriage ceremony, you do need to renew your commitment to each other daily. I bet that if more couples actively reviewed their marital commitment to each other, they would be much happier and the divorce rates would come plummeting down.

So remember the power of your word. And of your commitment.

Nelson Mandela endured 27 years of hardship in prison. Yet he remained committed to his vision of a united and peaceful South Africa. Now that’s commitment!

6. Renew Your Commitment Daily – and Review Periodically

As I said above, it is key to renew your commitment daily. Otherwise like Deuce, you’ll go by the wayside – and your dreams will be stalled or forever lost.

What is also important is to review your commitment regularly. Challenge yourself and check in that your commitment is still valid. Ask what changes you need to make in light of your ongoing life journey.

Ask – why am I doing this? Is this still valid?

Of course some commitments are life-long – such as to a married partner. If you are single, and you want to be in relationship, your commitment could be to create a loving fulfilling relationship, rather than being committed to creating a relationship with one particular person.

7. Get Clear about Whose Dream it is

Before you get committed to something, get clear about whose dream you are committing to.

Is it really something that fires you up? Or is it something that you think you ought to be doing? Maybe your parents or your peer group influenced you to take up something?

Coming back to the example of a couple getting married, ideally the two people involved should be committed to a common, greater goal.

In my ideal world, two people can come together with a big dream to transform the world and get committed to doing so together. And such a powerful union would thrive and CAN change the world.

So get clear – whose dream are you committing to?

Own your dream and your commitment – it’s your life, your vision, your commitment.

Ultimately, your life is your life – though often this might be hard for some of the key people in your life such as your parents to accept.

I am not advocating disowning anyone in your life – after all they have, or they think they have, your best interests at heart. But when you get committed to something bigger than you, you have the power to inspire and draw others into your vision of the world.

It is also about truly believing in what you are up to – and not worrying about looking good.

Do not wait for others to buy into your vision – nor care about what others might say or think.

8. Get a Sense of Urgency

I have realised that time is just so short – our lives are speeding up day by day. And before we know it, they will be burying us under the ground – or in my case sending me up in smoke :-).

Every day brings each one of us closer to our ultimate day of commitment – our death. Life beyond death is a topic for discussion for another day – but for now I suggest that all you and I should really be interested in is how best to make the most of our time here on this fragile yet achingly beautiful planet.

And that means truly getting committed once and for all to what our heart is yearning for – and then going for it.

9. Do Not Seek Certainty

There is no certainty in life – except for something I mentioned above – death.

Once you get committed to something, and it is something that totally rocks you and your world, then go for it and give it your all.

You’ll find that paths open for you – and you’ll naturally draw in the internal resources and external resources you need for your journey.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.

Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” – Goethe

Do not look for certainty – instead just keep taking those daily actions and the rest will take care of itself.

Photo credit – Antiquorom Auctions

10. Simplify Your Life

When you get truly committed to something, a beautiful thing happens – your life actually becomes simpler!

There is no time to waste or even desire to spend any energy or time on superfluous things.

Gandhi led a very simple, monastic life and he had no time for the trappings for life – he was devoted to his cause and his ultimate spiritual growth. Indeed, he was the ultimate minimalist.

In this day and age, we have so many distractions, we can hardly fulfil our daily commitments, never mind our life-long commitments.

But a powerful life-long commitment will automatically filter out any minor distractions.

For instance, for me no more endless email checking or time-wasting on social media!

At the same time, you must enjoy your life and make the most of the abundance that this planet offers. Remember that the earth was created for our delight and our pleasure.

And I am open to receiving and enjoying all the delights that the universe has to offer. Even fast cars :-).

If less is best, why do I still want a Porsche!?

Ultimately though, remember that you and I are just dust and ashes. So isn’t it time you and I got truly committed and made the most of ourselves so that we might even become star-sparkle before reverting back to mud and smoke!?

“Everyone must have two pockets, with a note in each pocket, so that he or she can reach into the one or the other, depending on the need. When feeling lowly and depressed, discouraged or disconsolate, one should reach into the right pocket, and, there, find the words: “For my sake was the world created.”

But when feeling high and mighty one should reach into the left pocket, and find the words: “I am but dust and ashes” – Rabbi Simcha Bunim of Peschischa

 11. Inspire and Create a Dedicated Team

When you get committed to something bigger than you, you will naturally inspire and draw in like-minded people who will join you and support your cause.

Gandhi had an incredible set of talented and equally committed people who enabled him to do what he did in his lifetime.

He was very much the kingpin and the leader of the pack and yet he was nowhere near the archetype of a leader! He was a tiny, skinny, bald man with goofy teeth and wiry round glasses.

By all accounts of his physical presence, Gandhi was a nobody – but it was his being and his commitment that made him the man who he was.

My point is this – you can get the best A-team and a super mastermind group around you – but it all begins with you, your being and your commitment.

So get committed – and then let the people inspired by your commitment be drawn to you.

The Way Forward

It’s time for you (and me) to wake up and truly get committed to what you want in your life – and what you want for the world.

Life is short – the clock is ticking. The sands of time are running fast.

The world needs you to share your gifts. Whilst you can.

Are you ready to get committed?

Please share in the comments below just what you are committed to. When will you begin?

TODAY is the best day to declare your commitment – and then take that first step.

My Own Commitment

So naturally, some of you may be wondering what I am committed to in my life?

Great question – I thought you would never ask!

I am clear that I have an extra-ordinary commitment to myself and to people. I am committed to being in my own power and greatness, and standing in this place at all times.

It is from this place that I take a stand for people being united, and finding their own greatness and power. And everything I do from now onwards will be from this place of being me, being love and being of service.

(Thanks again Steve Hardison for your 90 minute talk which changed my BEING forever).

I am committed to creating and living an extraordinary life – and playing a BIG game for the rest of my life.

I am committed to being an extraordinary coach and to work with extraordinary clients who are up for transforming the world just like I am.

On a personal level, I am committed to creating an extraordinary, passionate, soulmate relationship, sharing my life with an extraordinary woman and transforming the world together.

So over to you now.

WHAT are you committed to? WHEN will you begin?

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Just what’s going on in the world today?

What’s with all this strife, conflict and war around the globe?

For a while now, I have been avoiding watching the news but I can hardly turn a blind eye to what’s happening right now in places like Gaza and Ukraine.

It breaks my heart to see all this anguish and sorrow happening around us. When will we ever learn!?

“There must be people who remember World War II and the Holocaust who can help us get out of this rut” – Martin Scorsese.

I feel that the world quickly needs to remember and apply the lessons taught by the likes of Gandhi and Mother Teresa:-

1. 6 Key Lessons in Life from a 140-year-old man.

2. Mother Teresa on Loneliness, Love and Peace.

Then recently, with almost divine intervention, amidst all my anguish and hopelessness I met Eva Schloss.

I had the real privilege and honour to meet Eva Schloss recently at a book reading event in Waterstones bookstore in Hampstead Village. It was a life-changing event and got me reconnected to what’s really important to me and also what truly matters in life.

It was a surreal evening as I then discovered that Eva and I are neighbours, and we literally live around the corner from each other!

A couple of weeks ago, I invited Eva to my home for tea – and also to share her wisdom and views on peace and life for my blog readers.

Eva Schloss has an incredible story. She was arrested in Amsterdam by the Nazis on her 15^th birthday and sent to Auschwitz. Thanks to incredible luck, her own determination and the love and protection of her mother Fritzi, Eva somehow survived Auschwitz.

After the war, Eva and her mother returned home to Amsterdam – alas only to learn that both her father and brother had been killed during the war.

Before the war, Eva had been friends with Anne Frank, who went on to change the world through the legacy of her diary. Though their fates were very different, Eva’s life became entwined with her friend’s forevermore, after her mother Fritzi married Otto Frank, Anne’s father.

Eva subsequently kept quiet for many decades about her holocaust experience, but in recent years she is on a mission to spread her message of peace and reconciliation.

She has published several books and her most recent book is “After Auschwitz” (Amazon UK / Amazon USA), which is a searingly honest account of how an ordinary person survived the Holocaust. It is also a heart-breaking, exploration of what happened next and Eva’s struggle to live with herself after the war.

“When the power of love overtakes the love of power, peace will reign” – Jimi Hendrix (click to tweet)

Meeting Eva in my own home again was a rather surreal experience, to say the least!

At that time I was still recovering from taking part in the London to Brighton bike ride in memory of my late cousin Harish Devalia who passed away in December last year after a heart attack.

The bike ride went really well except that 20 yards from the finish line, I fell off the bike after trying to high-five some children on the side of the finish line! Somehow, my bike somersaulted and I head-banged the ground. Apart from serious calf bruising, I also suffered bruised/ fractured ribs.

So when I met up with Eva, I was in a lot of pain and felt rather sorry for myself.  And then as soon as she started sharing more about her life and her holocaust journey, I had a reality check.

“The Holocaust survivors are among the most inspiring people I have had the privilege to meet” – Jonathan Sacks

Here was this amazing and inspirational human being who had survived the worst atrocities mankind is capable of and I was whining about some bruising.

Talk about a wake-up call!

On that note, what are YOU whining about in your life right now?

Eva is so down to earth and humble – and for me, that adds to her greatness and charm. Last week, on Nelson Mandela Day 18th July, she invited me as her guest to a very special event to mark the legacy of my all-time hero Mr Mandela. (WHO are you to not let your light shine!?).

The event, organised by Nic Careem was an incredible and moving tribute to Mr Mandela and will go down in my life as another memorable and life-changing experience.

When we arrived at the venue, the iconic RoundHouse in Campden, there were all these paparazzi lined up at the main entrance. Yet, Eva, another friend and I were ushered in via a side door.

It amused me and also bothered me that here I was with the most inspirational human being I have met in my lifetime – and hardly anyone even knew her!

If only the world knew what this woman had been through and what the mission for the rest of her life was!

And once we were inside, Eva was again not noticed by any of the camera crew who were interviewing “celebrities”.

So of course, I actively sought out the guy in charge of the video interviews – and Eva was then interviewed for a few minutes by the stunning actress and TV presenter  Kate Elizabeth Hallam

It then turned out that Kate is a big fan and knew all about Eva and her life – and there might be some future synergies in her acting work. There are no coincidences in life:-).

As you can tell, I am on a mission to get Eva and her message of peace into the world.

And this is where I begin – Eva was very kind to share her life lessons for today’s world and this is what she had to say.

1. Eva, thanks for joining me and for this wonderful opportunity to learn from you about life, love and peace. What do you think is the biggest challenge we face today in the world?

The biggest challenge the world faces today is the lack of acceptance. Sadly terrible atrocities are still happening now and we just have to look around at the news today to see what’s happening in the Middle East and elsewhere.

We simply need to accept each other for who we are.  For instance, at the end of the day, what’s the difference between Shia and Sunni Muslims?

There is actually very little difference except their interpretation of their faith. We are all just one people and it’s high time we realised we are all one.

We preach tolerance but we are not tolerant towards each other. If we have no trust of each other, then where do we begin? How do we even begin to negotiate?

Even soldiers involved in the many wars around the world are so traumatised. What’s the point of all this fighting?

2. What would you advise people today on an individual basis?

Life is so precious! Today I see people wasting their lives away and not doing their best. And it’s such waste.

Having been through the type of experiences I have, one learns to know what’s truly important in life.

People don’t look after themselves today – which is why obesity is such a huge challenge nowadays.

People are mostly greedy and it’s all about me, me, me. Plus the drinking culture does not help. There is more to life than getting drunk at weekends!

So look after yourself to the best of your ability. Remember the sacredness and value of your life.

3. What about the younger generation today? What are your thoughts and suggestions for them?

Nowadays, I see children spending so much of their time on computers and video games.

Movies nowadays are mostly violent, as are videos. Kids play games that encourage them to see how many people they can kill etc.

So inevitably, children think that violence is the normal way. What’s happened to the censorship of movies and news?

Also, there are very few role models for children. Footballers shouldn’t be so aggressive – we need stronger referees!

In my own family, my grandchildren are interested in the holocaust and in my past. A couple of them are following careers that will allow them to make a difference in the world.

So it’s not all doom and gloom where the young people today are concerned. With a bit of guidance and mentoring, we can create model citizens for tomorrow.

I myself have never watched movies like Schindler’s List as it would be too harrowing for me.

But Arvind, I do recommend you watch The Pianist, which is about a Polish Jewish musician who struggles to survive the destruction of the Warsaw ghetto of World War II.

“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion“. Nelson Mandela

Also, I did watch Sophie’s Choice many years ago, about a woman forced by the Nazis to choose between her son and her daughter.

4. Apart from your book tours and talks, what else do you do?

I have worked in 8 prisons around the UK and shared my experiences of life.

We have to remember that most prisoners are not criminals but people who have ended up in prison through either being badly brought up or not being loved by their parents.

One prisoner had murdered her husband after being provoked for many years in a violent, abusive relationship. She was very disturbed and could not speak. She had suicidal thoughts but she is now in regular dialogue with me and is getting her life back together again.

Ultimately, everyone is “good” but some people are “bad” only through circumstances.

How can someone have children and not look after their own child?

5. What advice can you give me on my quest to be a peace activist in the world?

Well, your wonderful book “Get the Life you Love” is a good start!

Keep doing what you are doing – and write more books and get yourself out there.

Let your life be your message.

6. Finally, you are now only 92 years young! So what’s next for you?

More of the same for me – more talks around the world. Time is so precious and there is so much more to be done by me – and people like you and others. It encourages me to see so many people interested in peace work and making the world a better place.

Anyone who wants to know more about my work and my life lessons should read my books – and also check out my interview with Steven Spielberg.

Eva Schloss’s Book

Eva has written 3 books and the most recent one is “After Auschwitz”.

Please get your copy today from (Amazon UK / Amazon USA) and support Eva’s quest for Peace in the World.

Peace in the World Begins with Me and You

So there you are – some simple but powerful words of peace from an inspirational woman who lived through hell and came through to share her light with the world.

Thank you Eva for your time and ongoing inspiration!

What’s really present for me right now is that it is high time that ALL of us took a stand for a peaceful world.

Let peace in the world begin with me and you

Top image by Lisa Mintzberg

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What secrets do successful people hold under their hats that you’d love to know?

How do they progress from zero to where they are today?

How can you do the same?

Let’s see how it all starts:

I turned to look at her one last time before I left.

She refused to return my gaze. Her pain was visible.

As I’d made the decision to leave my home in the North of England for the dizzy heights of London, I had no intention of hurting her. But she was hurt all the same.

She was hurt because I hadn’t listened to her advice to stay in the city I was raised in.

She was hurt because she felt betrayed by her own child. How would she explain to the neighbours that her unwed daughter was now living alone?

But most of all, she was hurt because she was afraid for my safety. She wouldn’t be there to protect me.

She was my mother, after all. This reaction was as much chemical as it was emotional.

It took me some time to realise that her hurt was in her control. It wasn’t caused by me, brought on by me, and neither could it be controlled by me.

She created it. She would make it go away.

But this post is not about forgiveness, difficult relationships, or coming to terms with your decisions.

This post is about a subtle shift in mindset.

A mindset that moves you away from simply dreaming, and starting to truly live.

Before I’d decided to move to a new city, I behaved like a victim of my dreams. My thoughts for my future were consumed with what ifs…..

• What if …I had the courage to do what felt right in my heart?
• What if …. moving to London could happen for me?
• What if …. I could start my own business and not have to work for someone else?

And these what if’s? They kept me rooted in the lack of faith I had in my own actions. The fact that I invested more time dreaming, and less time acting, was a testament to this lack of faith.

And all it took was one slight adjustment to the very words inside my mind to impact my entire life.

Instead of thinking what if … I started asking why not?

• Why not take a chance and move to London for a short period of time?
• Why not make new friends when I get there?
• Why not start a website that offers services to help others in business?

And over time, my life began to transform.

It didn’t happen in grand, sweeping accomplishments. As with any big change, it evolved with each, tiny step.

And you can do the same.

Focus

First, make a list of everything in your life that you want to change. Make your what if..? list.

Cover everything you’ve ever wished for, from health, money, relationships, and everything else in between. Make it grand; make it small – whatever you choose. Just write it all down.

• What if … I made enough money to send my children to the school of my choosing?
• What if … I learned a new skill so that I can start a new business?
• What if … I could afford a copywriter to make my website so emotionally appealing that sales skyrocket?

Make your list.

What’s Your Why?

Now, next to each item on your list, write down all the things in your life that would change if this thing came to life. How differently would you feel? How different would the conversations you have become? What inner dialogue would you have, and what impact would this have on your confidence?

What impact would it have in the confidence other people have in you?

The reason why we make the list, and then add more visualisation to each item, is that the second part helps in making you bought into the concept.

Knowing what to change is one thing, but the thing that drives you to make that change is a compelling, emotional reason why the change is so important.

What if I learned a new skill to start a business? On its own, this is just a question. But add to it the reason why this is an important change (I could leave my job and work from an apartment in New York/I could see my mum whenever I wanted/I could take a holiday without having to ask for ‘time off’ in the first instance) and the drive to make the change happen increases tenfold.

Which One First?

Pick one thing on your list to focus on that’s going to make a change in your life. Whether you choose something that overhauls your entire life as it is today, or something small – again – it’s up to you.

Pick one thing, and decide what action you’ll be taking today to create shifts in your life. Remember that small, consistent steps lead to big change in the long term.

So using the example of someone wishing to learn a new skill to start their own business: today, this person can decide what market they wish to serve, and list the people that best represent this market.

Then tomorrow, they could set up times to have conversations with these people, to determine what needs they have that a new business idea can be generated from.

Over time, this research will translate itself into a skill this person will need to start a business, and before they know it, they are on the path to working out of New York, just as they’d dreamed.

So today, this is my invitation to you:

What thought are you thinking that begins with what if…. And how different does it become when you decide to ask why not?

How does this make you feel? Defiant? Adamant? Ready for movement?

And more importantly: what are you now going to do?

My ‘why not’ moments? They took me from the North of England, to London, and then to picture perfect Paris, where I now live.

Where will yours take you?

This is a guest post from Razwana Wahid who is the founder of Your Work is Your Life – a copy-writing and online business strategy service dedicated to coaches, consultants, healers and service providers.

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Have you ever wondered what it would be like to stop complaining and start living again?

I have had some amazing insights recently into this topic of complaining – and it all began during my preparations for the London Marathon in April.

As some of you know, I recently took part in the London Marathon to help little children like baby India and in aid of my chosen charity WellChild.

Thanks again to all of you who sponsored me for this cause – I am basking in sheer gratitude for your generosity and support.

Please know that I felt your support and well wishes every step of the way:-).

I walked the whole way in 7 hours and 28 mins – and it was a memorable and life-changing day – I live my life for days like this!

You can see my pictures on Facebook – The Ecstasy and Joy of London Marathon 2014

I say to all my friends and I am going to also tell you all – do whatever it takes to take part in the London Marathon at least once in our lifetime.

It’ll be one of the best days of your life!

These are my 2 key articles after the previous 2 times I have taken part in the London Marathon:-

1. 10 Life Lessons from Running the London Marathon

2. How to Change the World in Less Than 8 Hours and 27 Miles

So what made it such a powerful experience for me?

Well for starters, I felt like I was part of something much bigger than me.

Whilst we were all waiting at the start line in our various starting pens, the excitement and the buzz was electric.

I did feel a little nervous – after all, superheroes also get nervous. Maybe just for a change, I should take off my superman cape and become human again!

I felt very alive and very present to all those around me. It was incredible to think that almost everyone there was taking part to raise funds and create awareness for their chosen cause.

So there was a much greater meaning to the day and it was not just about running or walking around some of the most scenic parts of London.

And when we got to the start line, it was like unleashing a force of nature and it was a torrent of humanity coming together for a common cause.

A cause much greater than any cause us single individuals can aspire to in our day to day lives.

What I also got was the incredible sense of camaraderie amongst the runners – we were united in not only conquering the 26 miles of the marathon course,  but also in creating a better world.

It was a potent combination of achieving something personally and also remembering the greater good we are all capable of.

What was just as powerful was the encouragement we received from the spectators. That’s what got me through walking 26 miles, even though once I had started, nothing was going to stop me from getting to the finish line!

What I also got was the oneness with me and the thousands of spectators who not only encouraged me and the others but also donated loose change into my collection bucket.

As I walked and walked and walked on that day, I got to reflect and think a lot about the day and what made it so special. Since I was walking, I was mainly alone during the 26 mile route and that’s a lot of thinking time:-).

I felt in the zone and was fully present most of the time. I realised that any great endeavour takes such presence and commitment to the greater cause and to a final target.

And then I also got that we all go through life complaining about our lot rather than fully appreciating all we have.

At the start line, there were people around me who had conquered various personal challenges or were running in memory of a loved one they had lost – or they were taking part for their chosen cause or charity.

There was a guy in a tiger outfit which looked like it weighed a tonne –just imagine running 26 miles in that! There was a gorilla too and umpteen other fancy outfits – all for a bigger cause.

A cause bigger than me and you.

There were also wheel chair participants who started the marathon from a different start line – and to see these guys is even more impressive.

They just whizz around the 26 mile course like it’s just another breeze in the park.

Now that’s what I call really taking on your life and not complaining!

So what do you get out of complaining!?

Usually it’s about not taking responsibility for your life!

“The moment you accept responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life is the moment you gain the power to change ANYTHING in your life“. – Hal Elrod

We go through life complaining about others and what they did to us – or indeed what they didn’t do for us.

We go through life feeling hard done by – and we believe that others have got it in for us, including “god”.

We complain about petty things like the weather, the traffic and train delays.

And we go through life stuck in our little petty stories – whilst life is passing us by.

Yet, when I was on the marathon route, not only did I get present to the futility of our complaining but more importantly, I was aware of the majesty and splendour of this thing we call life.

There I was in the midst of humanity at its greatest, all rooting together for a common and greater cause, and striving to make the world a better place through umpteen individuals – those taking part and those spectators encouraging the participants.

And then I wondered what it would be like to capture that sheer energy, that immense goodness and that can-do attitude!?

Our world would be transformed overnight!

As I work on the next phase of my own growth and my business development, I plan to capture this energy and create resources to help you make it happen for yourself and others. More details over the coming weeks.

In the meantime, let’s again look at complaints in your world. What’s YOUR number one complaint?

I would love you to take part in my simple survey which only has one question – you simply fill in the  gap:-

My number one complaint in life is ……………………………….

Please click here and let me know – it’ll take you no more than one minute of your time. Thank you.

Your input will allow me to create a brand new online course to help you stop complaining and start living again.

As you reflect on your complaints in life, here are just 21 benefits of stopping complaining:-

21 Benefits of Stopping Complaining:-

1. Attain Inner peace
2. Boost in your productivity
3. Let go of the past
4. Allow others to be
5. Become a nicer person
6. Lighten up
7. Become popular (or less unpopular!)
8. Smile a lot more
9. Become generally happier
10. More energy for things you love doing
11. Greater clarity of mind and improved creativity
12. Less noise in your head
13. Greater focus on key things
14. Better co-operation from work colleagues, employees and all the people in your life
15. Cordial family relationships
16. Improved sense of perspective
17. Optimistic mind-set
18. Better health
19. Lower Blood Pressure!
20. A can-do attitude
21. Self-Acceptance – and acceptance of what is

These are 21 reasons I just rattled off for why you should never complain again – and I am sure you can think of many more reasons why you should stop complaining.

What you get once you stop complaining is grace, ease and joy in life.

Of course, it’s important to “complain” about some things. It’s okay and I believe absolutely necessary to take a stand for something in your life – such as Gandhi did when he took a stand for the end of oppression in India.

That’s a different type of complaining when you take a stand for something bigger than you. Then you just have to remember to feel the fear and change the world anyway.

From today onwards, begin to get aware of all your complaints in life – and then ask yourself if it really matters!

And please do take my simple one page survey right away and let me know what your number one complaint in life is.

Survey about complaints 

Finally, I invite you take part in the London Marathon next year – as I said, it”ll be one of the best days of your life. There are a number of charities which will offer you a place as long as you commit to fund-raise for them.

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Have you had ever had a life-changing experience around children?

An experience which changed you and your life for ever?

Today I am going to share a key experience from my life – and also the incredible and moving story of baby India. You will then understand and appreciate exactly why I am taking part in the London Marathon this coming Sunday.

I have had 2 life-changing experiences around children – one of them was when I experienced unconditional love for the first time in South India whilst visiting Nirvana School.

A few years before this, I went through an experience which affected me deeply – and it was only recently that I had a sense of completion.

We are talking about a time over 20 years ago. My eldest brother’s wife was expecting twins and there was much excitement in the family – my parents especially looked forward to their first grandchildren.

One evening I got the call that the twins, both baby boys, had arrived prematurely and I rushed off in total excitement to see my newly born nephews. But it was only at the hospital that I found out how just premature they were – and how seriously ill. They had been put into intensive care straight away.

Even worse news was being told that one of the babies was really weak, under-developed and unlikely to survive for more than a few days. But the prognosis was very promising for his twin brother.

As you can imagine, we were all in shock – the good news followed by such devastating news.  I still remember to this day how what sustained and encouraged us was the incredible kindness and support from all the hospital staff. Such tender kindness was so welcome during those torrid days.

Four days after the birth of the twins, the doctors told us that they were losing the battle to save the weaker twin and it was only a matter of a couple of hours.

So they gave us the space to be alone so we could say some final prayers and be with the baby.

There we were, the entire family in a private room and we were handed a tiny bundle. We then said some prayers around my little nephew, smaller than a 2 lb bag of sugar- and even lighter.

Having seen the little guy previously just through his incubator, it felt so good to actually hold him – incredibly tender and fragile looking and yet so much personality and presence already after his first 4 days of life.

It was an incredibly poignant and sad moment in my life to feel this little guy, his heart pumping away and his tiny nostrils fighting to take in some last gasps of oxygen.

I can’t even being to imagine what his mother and father were going through. As for my own parents, they were trying to keep a strong facade but I could tell just how hard it was for them too.

And then it happened – the baby was in my arms and I could feel the heart beating ever so slightly – and then no more. A life had been extinguished even before it had much of a chance.

That life-changing moment stayed with me forever.  Feelings of helplessness, sadness, anger all came up – only to be suppressed forever. Or for many years anyway, until I visited Nirvana School, where I learnt once again the joy of being around children.

And the other tiny twin nephew? He stayed in hospital for another 4 weeks and slowly but surely put on some weight. From being just 3 lb of weight at birth, he is now a gangling young man and is following a promising career in IT and Banking – and of course we are all very fond and proud of him.

The hospital held a small service for my nephew – and after that, as a family, we got on with our lives. We were not even sure if and where he had been buried. Through our grief, we didn’t even follow up – and looking back, maybe we were simply in denial.

Over the years I wondered where he had been buried and I thought of investigating but just found it too painful to even think about it.

Roll on many years – and over the last two years, I felt it was finally time for some closure and I contacted the relevant hospital and cemeteries but didn’t get anywhere.

Then a miracle happened – going through my late father’s files last Xmas, I found a little postcard meticulously filed away – and on it was the Birmingham cemetery address, section and plot number

Two weeks ago, on a glorious spring day, we finally visited my late nephew’s tiny grave – it was a poignant moment in our lives, and especially for his twin brother.

It felt like closure in a way, and yet a reminder of someone who is very much part of our lives. His soul lives on amongst us.

Two decades later my memory of the baby passing away in my arms is still as intense as ever – but now there is only a tinge of sadness over our loss and about what could have been.

I am now wiser and braver – and can truly see how death is just as much part of life. I am now also  strong enough to deal with grief and know that as I go along on my life journey, I am sure to experience such loss many more times.

Why the London Marathon?

So moving forward to today, here I am once more on the verge of taking part in the London Marathon.

This will be the third time I am taking part and once again I am raising funds for WellChild, a charity that helps look after sick children just like my nephew and gives support to their families.

Please check out 2 articles I wrote after my previous marathons:-

1. 10 Life Lessons from Running the London Marathon

2. How to Change the World in Less than 8 Hours and 27 Miles

This coming Sunday, 13th April 2014, I’ll be lining up for my third London Marathon with over 36,000 other runners and each one of us will be raising awareness and sponsorship for their chosen cause – I have chosen Well-Child.

Some friends have been asking me why I am so passionate about WellChild and indeed why I am taking part in the London Marathon for them once again.

So having now shared about my late nephew, they all know – I simply want other families and children to receive the same tender kindness and support we received all those years ago. And that’s exactly what WellChild provides.

This is my way of contributing, making a difference to children and giving something back. And you too can do your bit by sponsoring me.

To give you an example of how your sponsorship will help, I am sharing a story about Baby India. Your contribution will be helping baby India and other brave children like her.

(I have been given permission by baby India’s family and WellChild to share her moving story).

Baby India’s Story

Here is India’s story:-

So there you are – my participation in the London Marathon and your sponsorship will help provide more nursing support for children like India.

My target is to raise at least £1,500 for WellChild.

Please help me get there by sponsoring me.

If just 50 readers sponsor me for at least £20 each, I’ll reach my target easily.

Of course, you can sponsor me for more than £20 each:-).

Thanks everyone for your generosity and kindness.

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Happy International Happiness Day everyone!

So just how happy are you in your life?

And just how much happiness is there around you?

Today is the day decreed by the UN for universal happiness and this is the second year of this day happening.

So to start with, here are my 17 tips to become happy right now.

And no matter where you are at in your life, always look on the bright side of life!

But just what is happiness – and how can you sustain these feelings of happiness?

Is happiness what you feel when your favourite football team wins? Only for you to get really upset when they get thrashed the following week?

Or is happiness the feelings you get after a night out with your friends and drinking beer and feasting on your favourite dishes?

Or is happiness being with your loved ones and seeing your little child at play?

I believe that happiness is all of the above – and is much more. The challenge comes when we see happiness as transient and dependent on external factors as in the above examples.

So how can you sustain happiness and how can you generate it from within you, no matter what’s going on in your external world?

Let me explain a bit more by sharing what’s going on for me right now.

It was my birthday yesterday and what an amazing day it was!

With over 300 messages on Facebook, Gmail, Mobile and WhatsApp I certainly felt the love yesterday! And today I am basking in a sea of love, gratitude and appreciation.

I love you all and am so proud to have you all in my life:-).

I now just have to remember that every day is my birthday!

My birthday reminded me of how easy it is to have happiness in our lives – and also just what’s important in my own life.

• Heartfelt birthday messages from family and friends from around the world meant a lot more to me rather than any material gifts.
• The simple gesture by a friend of bringing me some home-made cakes meant more to me than any fancy party in a glitzy club.
• A leisurely walk in my spiritual place Regents Palace meant more to me than a visit to anywhere else in London.
• A deep morning meditation and a reflection on my life to date and all the lives I have impacted rather than on the things I have not yet done or the things I have accumulated.

So these are clearly the sort of things which make me happy:-)

My point is this – what’s important to you in YOUR life? What really makes YOU happy!?

It’s a while since I came to the conclusion that what makes ME happy is making a difference to others. And now I truly believe that is actually what WE all want.

Just look back on your own life and recall the times when you’ve made a small or big difference to a stranger. Or remember the time you went out of your way for someone when you didn’t really have to.  THAT feeling of fulfilment, joy, elation, or whatever you felt is what I call ultimate happiness.

And what would your life be like if you chose to live such a life from here on!? A life of service to others? No matter what work you do now or what stage of life you are in, you can indeed bring this sense of making a difference

That’s the amazing thing – to get ultimate happiness in your life, you don’t have to pack up your life, go on a pilgrimage or live in a cave!

You simply choose to live a life of making a difference to others!

And that my friends is the secret to ultimate happiness in your life.

Ultimately we all want to make a difference and we get the biggest kick going by making others happy!

So when will you begin?

My Life from Here Onwards

A birthday is always a time to reflect not only on the year just passed, but also your life to date. And to then create an intention for your life from there onwards.

And this is exactly what I did yesterday. I looked back on my life and what it’s been about to date.

I feel that there is still so much to be done – and yet there’s so little time!

One thing that seems to be human is that no matter how much we have done, it’s never enough!

As you look around the world today, granted there is a lot of strife and discord around us. And yet there is also a lot of nobility, beauty and splendour. I much prefer to focus on the latter whilst also remaining realistic and practical.

All around me I come across so many inspirational people who are out to make a difference in the world and create their legacy. It blows me away when I meet such people or read about them online. There is massive change going on in the world and I am so happy to be part of this the massive, positive shift happening around me.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” – Margaret Mead

Yes, there is so much injustice, dishonour, outrage, shame, violence, racism etc. in the world. But there’s also so much concern and desire to share what limited resources we have. And a desire to make the world a better place.

There are so many inspirational people out there who care for the truth:-

• People whose commitment is to the truth and to compassion, not to any sides.
• People who take grave risks and take a stand for the greater good.
• People who use wise speech rather than the right speech.
• People who show compassion and mercy even to those who have caused them terrible atrocities.
• People who are willing to drop the past, forego the conflict and focus on things that bind us.
• People who accept that it is what it is and are prepared to choose and create something more noble and lasting.

This reminds me of the famous prayer attributed to St Francis of Assissi:-

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

Where there is injury, pardon;

Where there is error, truth;

Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;

Where there is darkness, light;

And where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, Grant that I may not so much seek

To be consoled as to console;

To be understood as to understand;

To be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

To end, where I am at is that I now have a searing sense of urgency!

And what do I want to create?

A friend put it so beautifully recently:-

“I want to create a world that works for everybody”.

So join me and let’s make it happen together.

Make It Happen 2014 Survey

Thanks to all of you who completed my recent survey. There were 103 responses in the end!

I had promised to do a draw for a FREE one hour coaching session worth £250. The draw was done by my friend Dr Thuvaraka Vetpillai. Incredibly she picked out her own name! So we did the draw again and the lucky winner is Trisha Em.

Thuvaraka also gets the free coaching session – she is an incredibly caring doctor and an inspirational newcomer to the coaching profession – and I am delighted to be part of her coaching journey.

New Coaching Page

As part of my quest to make a difference to you all, I have revised my coaching page.

The key coaching question I have for you is this:-

What’s your biggest challenge I can help you with?

Please contact me to find out how I can help you – let’s get cracking with the coaching!

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So how do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Do you spend some quality time with your loved one – or isit just another day for you?

It always amuses me to see people spending a small fortune on just one day every year to show their love for someone!

What happens during the remaining 364 days of the year!?

Why not make it a fun Valentine’s Day every day?

As for me, last year I did have a friend over for lunch on Valentine’s Day – and yes I too made a special effort by preparing some love based dishes.  It was a fun day but to be honest, no more than usual:-).

Check out my pictures from Valentine week on Facebook🙂

My point is this – you CAN create love every day of the year – and it’s simply crazy and dumb to specially do so on just one day of the year!

Today I would like to share a couple of stories about love which will touch and move you.

The Power of Love

The night before Valentine’s Day, I had a powerful reminder of what it really means to be loving and caring towards others

I was on my way home past Euston Station in central London and I saw this homeless guy sitting on the side of the footpath, all huddled up in the drizzly rain.

I offered him a banana but instead of accepting or declining it, he simply asked if I had any water.  Thinking he wanted some water instead, I replied that I didn’t have any water.

He promptly started rummaging in his bag and offered me an unopened, full bottle of water and said – “There you go – you have some water now. A bottle of water for a banana seems like a fair exchange to me!”

I was gobsmacked, to say the least! It was such an unusual and kind gesture and so unexpected – I was just blown away.

I have kept that bottle as a reminder of the goodness inherent in each one of us.

It is such moments that touch us deeply and make us realise just what’s important in our lives. The rest is just noise!

It breaks your heart to find people in such circumstances and then it’s so uplifting to know that the human spirit is alive and kicking no matter what life has thrown them.

People are so incredible – we just have to give them a chance to show us their love and their greatness!

Next time you go past a homeless person, remember this – they too are just as amazing a human being as you, but only going through some tough challenges.

And given the chance, they could teach me and you key lessons in life and love:-)

Also, learn 8 simple ways of giving and receiving more in your life.

I Know You Love Me, But You Never Say it!

A few years ago when I first started on my journey of personal growth and self-development, one of the things I learnt was to become much more self-expressive. I learnt to honestly express my feelings – you cannot imagine how closed I was just a few years ago.

I used to have great difficulty in saying much – would you believe me if I said I used to be shy?!

Anyway, one of these seminars was all about telling people in your life how much they meant to you. That evening I happened to call my 13 year old nephew and just as we were finishing the conversation and I was about to hang up, I managed to stammer – “You know I love you don’t you?!”

His reply simply stunned me.

“Yes, I know you do, but you never say it”

My whole life changed in that split second. Tears streamed down, and a whole new world of openness and self-expression swallowed me. No more Mr Closed!

I have never again felt shy or foolish when expressing myself. If I can do it, anyone can!

So who can you call or tell someone today just how much they mean to you?

What is stopping you?

What will no longer stop you?

Come from the heart, be really open, and just say whatever you have to say.

Wake Up Call Literally from the Heart 

Two months ago, I had a massive wake-up call. Just 3 days before Xmas 2013, one of my closest cousins suddenly passed away – on the very day he was due to fly for a family holiday to Singapore and Bali. He passed away after a sudden heart attack.

Xmas was a surreal experience and a reminder once again of just what’s important in our lives.

Yet we all go through our lives as if we’ll live for ever – and then we get yet another wake-up call.

So here’s something I would like you all to take from today:-

Make EVERY day Valentine’s Day.

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28 Day Relationship Adventure

A few years ago, in the month of February, I wrote a blog post every day around the theme of relationships. That was an amazing month full of relationship insights and I believe that I wrote some of my best blog posts in that month.

I invite you to check out these 28 posts – the order of these posts is relevant too as each one builds on the previous post

Please do also let me know how you use these articles to transform your relationships.

Here are the complete 28 articles in my Relationship Series from that February:-

Check them all out right now! 

1 – Become Aware of Your Relationships

2 – Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else

3 – Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself

4 – Love is all that Matters

5 – 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships

6 – Why Decluttering your Friends is Good for You and Them

7 – Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!

8 – 14 Key Strategies to Help You Become Special Too and Find the Special One!

9 – 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable

10 – Don’t Fall in Love – Create Love

11 – Why You Should Create a Soulmate Relationship Rather Than Waiting for Your Soulmate!

12 – Open Your Heart and Find the Special One

13 – Create your ideal Valentine’s Day

14 – Make it a Fun Valentine’s Day Every Day!

15 – Make Your Relationship Even More Special

16 – Learn to Love Unconditionally

17 – 11 Strategies to Instantly Improve ALL Your Relationships

18 – Why the Human Touch is Key

19 – How NOT to Make Friends!

20 – Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

21 – Stop Judging, Start Loving

22 – Simple Trick to Instantly Improve All Your Relationships

23 – Why No One Is Ever An Ugly Duckling!

24 – Why World Compassion Begins With You

25 – Why Teamwork Always Begins with YOU

26 – How to Let People Go From Your Life

27 – Thank the Divine Every Day

28 – Stop Being An Approval Seeking Machine

4th Image courtesy of Jakob Montrasio 

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Happy Thanksgiving Week everyone!

This week, as is the tradition in the USA and other countries around the world, people are celebrating with their families and loved ones. And here in London, over the last few years, thanksgiving is being celebrated more and more. I feel it’s a truly wonderful way of getting reconnected to what really matters in our lives.

Thanksgiving Week is a reminder for us all to live with an Attitude of Gratitude

As we look back this week at our lives and be thankful for all the goodness around us, we can also remember all the little kindnesses that make our lives so wonderful and worthwhile.

At the same time, we should also look at the kindnesses we have carried out for others, whose impact though not immediately obvious can be far reaching and hugely significant.

There are so many ways to randomly make a difference to people – check out my 31 ways to carry out random acts of kindness every day.

So many times in our life, people show us great kindness and yet are not even aware of the impact they have had on us and others as a result of their kind deed.

This week I have been looking back on my own life and reflecting on all the little kindnesses that people have shown me over the years. There are a couple of life changing experiences of kindness which I’ll never forget and which continue to drive me to share more of such kindness and spread the goodness,

To start with there was the kind Mr Roy – this diminutive  Indian man was instrumental in starting my real life journey and who completely changed my life and that of others 16 years ago.

He showed me how to be kind to others and get to your own Nirvana.

Please do check out the story of how in just a few hours he transformed my life and ultimately that of thousands of Nirvana School children.

Another time of life changing kindness I experienced was 6 years ago in Dec 2007, when my father passed away and I received so much love and support from strangers and friends alike.

Once particular friend invited me to her home and just let me be with food and drinks aplenty, a bunch of CDs and the space to finally grieve properly.

It is such little kindnesses that we all remember and which make such a big difference to us.

Let Kindness Underpin Your Life Mission

After my lovely friend was so good to me all those years ago, I have made a special effort to support and be with friends who have also lost a loved one.

And today I was able to do just that. Earlier this evening, I had tea with a remarkable man Doug Manuel who is on a mission to transform the delivery of education in schools around the world and especially in Africa though the power of drumming via his international organisation Sewa Beats.

I first met Doug 6 months ago literally in the street – he was on his mobile and I overheard his conversation about coaching and I handed him my business card requesting him to contact me. And since then, we have remained in touch and we finally met properly today.

I viewed Doug’s TED Talk a few months ago and was stuck by his authenticity and his passion for his world and for making a difference in the world.

Doug’s father passed away this week after a long standing illness and having lost my own father 6 years ago, I invited Doug to meet for tea and to talk about his loss and just to be with him.

Little over an hour later, I was blown away by Doug’s vision for his life and for his work – I was left inspired to create something much more and bigger the way he has!

This is Doug’s mission for his life and his work – “To be a Pioneer in Education“.

And by education he means in the true definition of the word ie to learn from within. This is opposed to most of modern schooling which is mainly about cramming information.

What’s really inspiring is that Doug and his organisation are truly living up to his mission.

Get Beyond Your Judgment and Let Kindness Ripple Through

Then on the way home this evening, I met one of my neighbours living in the next street, an elderly gentleman who was happily chain smoking lying down on a bench despite the bitter cold. For all anyone could see, he didn’t have a care in the world and he was just chilling.

Until recently, every time I passed him on his “smoking bench” I had all my judgments coming through about people abusing their health through heavy smoking etc etc.

Then one day, I saw him in the middle of the road, standing outside his car and seemingly talking to himself. I said hello and when he seemed to be not even aware of me, I felt something wasn’t quite right. So I stopped and asked him if he was okay.

It was then that he told me that his wife had passed away two days before and he was saying his last goodbyes to her outside their car.

He was a broken man and looked so helpless and in so much pain, my heart went out to him – and gone were all my judgments and preconceptions about his smoking habits. Turned out that she had been suffering from a fatal illness for a few years – and smoking was one of his ways of dealing with his impending loss.

And this came on top of him losing both his parents over the last 2 years. Now here he was, all alone with no partner and no parents. And having no children or siblings made him feel terribly alone in his life.

He was so grateful for my interest in his well-being and I felt that I had touched something in him whilst he was at possibly the darkest point in his life. His words of gratitude and appreciation, and the grateful look in his eyes will stay with me forever.

Tony Robbins and Basket Brigade on 23rd Dec

“One small act of generosity on the part of one caring person can transform the lives of hundreds. It takes only one light to dispel the darkness, and even just one basket, or a few could bring hope.” – Tony Robbins

Many years ago a stranger left a basket of food outside Tony Robbins’s home at Xmas time when his family was struggling for money. He was so touched and inspired that he said that one day he would do the same for others.

And now today this single stranger’s kindness has grown into the Anthony Robbins Foundation’s International Basket Brigade, with baskets of food and household items for an estimated two million people annually in countries all over the world.

The International Basket Brigade is built on a simple notion: one small act of generosity on the part of one caring person can transform the lives of hundreds.

Talk about the impact of one stranger’s kindness!

So here is YOUR opportunity to join myself and 100s of other like-minded people in London on 23rd Dec 2013. The intention is to create and anonymously deliver Xmas food baskets to a world record 3,000 families (for one city) on that day.

Please sign up here and join me – I can guarantee you a day you’ll never forget.

In the meantime, please check out these photos from Basket Brigade 2012 and find out just how much fun it can be making a contribution to others!

Never Ever Under-estimate the Power of your Kindness and Goodness

So this is the key takeaway from my special blog post for Thanksgiving week – never ever under-estimate the impact of your kindness on others.

Look to make a difference to others no matter what – you just don’t know what’s really going on for them.

And your kind deed and kind words can dramatically change forever their life and also that of others.

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Before you go off and start carrying out your next act of kindness, please check out my 5 special lessons for Thanksgiving Day:-)

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 1 – How To Embrace What You Already Have

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 2 – How To Let Yourself Give and Receive

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 3 – How To Add a Little Sizzle to Your Relationships

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 4 – How To Harvest the Wisdom from My Top Blogger Friends

Thanksgiving Week Lesson 5 – How to Serve Others at the Global Table

Finally, do also check out my post from a year ago about how the greatest Thanksgiving gift of all is this precious and miraculous life that we all have.

Images courtesy of  woodleywonderworks, doyouspeakdembe.com and sewabeats.com

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Have you ever wondered what it is that every human being ultimately wants in their life?

Well, wonder no more – I can tell you what we all ultimately want to do:-

We all want to make a profound difference in the lives of others.

Deep down you already know this – but you may have not been willing to acknowledge it. Or maybe in your world, it’s not considered cool to openly declare your desire to help others.

As I look around the world today, I am so encouraged to see so many more people stepping up and wanting to create their legacy and to live a life of contribution.

You may argue that maybe that’s just the circle of people I move in. Well, that could be true but then again I seem to attract people who want to make a big difference in the world!

Right now, the world is shocked and moved by the plight of the millions of people affected in the Philippines after the most powerful typhoon recorded in human history. And this could just be the beginning of many more such massive natural catastrophes to come in the years to come.

What has been so heartening and moving is how so many people around the world have stepped up in their efforts to help the millions of people affected in the Philippines.

What is it about the human heart that so moves us in making such superhuman efforts?

Maybe it’s because the path to Nirvana lies in kindness to others

My Update from the Last Few Months

As some of you will have noticed, I have not been blogging much over the last few months. It seems a long time ago since I wrote 100 blog posts in a month and wrote 28 relationship articles in the month of February 2011!

I have been on quite a journey over the last few months – and like for so many of us, it has been a time of deep soul searching and retrenchment.

This year began for me with a wonderful Yoga experience with Sadhguru in February which really reconnected me to my true core and made me realise what’s important to me.

“A World full of love, light and laughter. It’s time has come. Let’s make it happen!”- Sadhguru

As I look back on my life over the last few years, it seems that I had moved away from my core purpose of living a life of contribution and making a difference. Then a recent personal development seminar with Landmark awoke me once again to what’s important to me and made me present to my own greatness – and also your greatness.

I am pleased to get back into integrity and once again write about matters about life from my heart.

So here I am reinvigorated and blogging once again, out to transform the world one reader at a time! It feels great to be back – and on this 50th anniversary of the death of President John F Kennedy, what better topic to write about than love and kindness?

My blog post for today is about love – and how to bring more love into the world before it’s too late.

8 Ways to Bring More Love into the World

Have you heard the story of the ugly duckling?

Well, there never was an ugly duckling – he was actually a swan whose real beauty had not been recognised by himself and nor by others.

All of us may or may not be ugly ducklings, but we are totally worthy of being loved, accepted and cherished just as we are.

Check out why no one is ever an ugly duckling

Ultimately we are all trying to do the best we can with our current knowledge of knowledge, awareness and understanding.  But we lose our way and the first thing that goes is our ability to love ourselves and others.

To begin this article about love, I was going to write a few words here about how fragile our lives are and how tenuous is the fine line between life and death. But as so often happens, life illustrated my point more poignantly than I ever could myself.

I started writing this article on a train going to London and we were told by the driver over the tannoy that our train was subject to long delays.  My initial reaction was something along the lines of oh no, here we go again!

Then at the next station, I got talking to an employee of the train company and he told me what a traumatic morning it had been for them. There had been a fatality with someone hit by a train at that very station. All the staff were traumatised and he was being sent home to rest.

Immediately, my heart sank for the family of the killed person – so what if I was late getting home? There was one person who was never going to get home – never mind getting home late. And the lives of his/her loved ones will never be the same again.

This was yet again another stark reminder of why we need to make the most of each day as we just don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

Yet, we all go through life as if there is always going to be a tomorrow for us. We squander our precious time and energy on things that really don’t matter at the end of the day.

We put our lives on hold and we spend so much of each day on those things that we cannot control or impact. For example, here in the UK most of us moan and groan about our unreliable weather – and yet there is not much we can do anything about it!

We try and control our relationships and how people behave around us – and yet we rarely look at how we are impacting them and what needs to change in us.

We want things done our way – and our way only. My way or no way!

Okay, maybe I am exaggerating a bit here but you get my point.

So what really matters in our lives?

“You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.” – Brené Brown

Yes, maybe we are all imperfect and maybe we are wired for struggle. And yes, maybe life sucks for so many of us for much of the time. But what really matters in life?

By the way “Life Sucks” is an American phrase I picked up from my US friends. Every time they say this to me, I give them a lecture about how you get back what you put out, and how they should reframe their outlook. But I am learning now to leave them be –and I am trying to love them:-)

I digress.

What really matters in life is love.

Simple.

Love is the most amazing thing in our lives. It is what makes us human, what makes life worth living. Nothing else truly matters. The size of our homes, bank balances, the beauty of our spouse, the speed of our car – all these things pale into insignificance when we face the splendour of what it is that makes us tick.

Love does not make the world go around – it simply makes the ride worthwhile!

Love is not the highly commercialised circus we see on Valentine’s Day. It is much deeper and much more profound than sending someone a dozen roses at hugely inflated prices. It is much more than candlelit dinners and fancy chocolates.

We all yearn for that deep connection with others, those moments of bliss, joy, and completeness. We crave to have more of those delicious moments we may have had with a romantic partner. Such moments seem so rare and forlorn.

We all remember the blissful moments when strangers have shared their love and made a difference.

We cry when we see happy stories on our TV screens of families reuniting.

We remember the sheer joy of children playing and the love in their eyes. Our hearts skip a beat, we get goose pimples and we get teary eyed when we witness an act of sheer love, pure, unadulterated and unconditional. Such moments literally take our breath away.

I invite you to look back on your own life and remember those moments when you have been blown away by an act of love. Recall how amazing you felt and how everything in the world seemed just right.

I can look back in my life and I can still remember the wonder I felt when I saw a friend’s baby son 20 minutes after he was born. And not having any children myself, I’ll be eternally grateful for that gift.

Another time, I felt so much unconditional love and joy when visiting some orphans – indeed this first time that I experienced unconditional love changed my life forever.

At the same time, when I look back on my life, there have been so many unloving things I have done that I now regret. Such as getting angry and impatient with my young nephew and mildly smacking him. Or getting really impatient with my siblings and almost hitting my younger sister. Even getting angry with my late father for his quirky habits.

These were little things which they probably don’t even remember but which still haunt me to this day. Things I regret and wish I could undo and erase from my psyche.

(By the way, now that my father is no longer around, those “quirky habits” are now fond memories of his endearing habits)

If love is all that matters, where did the love go in those dire moments that I still regret?

The love was brushed aside by a suddenly descended fog of anger, self-centredness and greed – and any number of other negative emotions. Or so-called negative emotions.

Looking back to how I was then as a person and how I am now, the key difference is I am now much more self-aware of my thoughts, words and actions.

And with greater self-awareness has come calmness and greater compassion for those around me and for the world.

This perhaps is the key to bringing more love into the world and especially in our relationships. And I would like to think that all my relationships are now love based and much more authentic and genuine than before.

If I can do it so can you!

You too can have authentic relationships which are heart-centred and full of love – and here are my 8 simple tips to help you bring more love into the world:-

1. Next time you are in a potential conflict or disagreement with someone, ask yourself – does this really matter? Will I even be talking about this in the months and years to come!?

2. Take a time out – get away from the situation and let your emotions calm down. Otherwise, as in my examples above, you might end up doing something you’ll regret for the rest of your life.

3. Put yourself in the other person’s place and ask how you would want to be treated if you were them. Then treat them exactly the same way if not even better.

4. See each person in your life as a young vulnerable and helpless baby – which they all were at one time – and then see if you can show them the same love and awe you would show towards a baby.

5. Look for the highest good in the other person. Everyone is doing the best they can – so help them be the best they can be!

Indeed in any transaction and dealings with other people, look for the highest good of all involved.

6. Learn from any experiences where a relationship has deteriorated and see how you can do things differently next time. What one key lesson have you learnt that you can apply next time?

7. Look for guidance from your mentors and people you look up to help you resolve any relationship issues. What would your role models say? What would Gandhi, Mother Teresa, and Dr Martin Luther King Jr say?

8. Finally, perhaps the most important thing is to have a life mission to bring more love into the world. Ask yourself these 2 key questions anytime you are in a conflict:-

What would love do?

How can I bring more love into the world?

The Way Forward

There never was an ugly duckling – just a beautiful swan that didn’t recognise his own beauty. The ugly duckling was teased and harassed by the ducks and other birds. Yet he retained his dignity and one day woke up to his own beauty.

In the same way, we are all beautiful swans – we just have to wake up. And we wake up by awakening to all the love in us and around us, and then doing our utmost to bring more love into all our relationships.

May you continue to bring more love into the world – please do so before it’s too late! 

Do you have a DREAM?

In the last few weeks, we have had some momentous events and historic anniversaries.

First, it was the 50^th anniversary of the famous speech from Dr Martin Luther King Jr when he spoke of his Dream.

On 28th August 1963, Dr Martin Luther King Jr made the speech at the end of a freedom march in Washington DC that was the turning point in the civil rights movement, and his words have been immortalised. So what was it all about?

If you haven’t yet heard this speech online, where have you been!?

Now thanks to YouTube. you can finally hear it please check it out here as soon as possible.  The video clip is just over 17 minutes long, so click here, sit back and enjoy being inspired by one of the greatest men of the 20th century.

As you watch this clip, I invite you to think about these 3 questions:-

• What is YOUR dream?
• What can you do with your life to change the world forever?
• When will you begin?

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step” – Dr Martin Luther King Jr

Happy Diwali and Indian New Year!

It was the Indian festival of Diwali and the Indian New Year last week and as usual, it was a fabulous time to get together with family and friends.

However as so often happens, the celebrations seem to be over far too soon – but here’s how you can spread the joy of Diwali and indeed any other festival all year round:-)

10 Tips to Have the Joy of Diwali all Year Around

Graced with Orange

Talking of love and kindness, I am currently reading an amazing and inspirational story of philanthropy and compassion called “Graced with Orange” (Amazon.Com / Amazon.Co.Uk)

Author Jamie C. Amelio found the true meaning of her life after she launched a charity “Caring For Cambodia”.

And it all began with a dollar.

When Srelin, an eight-year-old Cambodian girl approached Jamie C. Amelio and asked for a dollar so she could afford to go to school, Amelio was sceptical. Was this just another beggar’s ruse?

Amelio was visiting Cambodia for the first time and was shocked by the poverty. Entire villages lacked plumbing or electricity. And this child wanted a dollar for school?

A doubtful Amelio told Srelin that if she would take her to visit the school, she would give her the dollar. What Amelio found at that school changed her life.

Graced with Orange (Amazon.Com / Amazon.Co.Uk) is the story of how Amelio discovered 75 hungry, impoverished Cambodian children crowded into a single room with bars on the windows, waiting patiently for a teacher who never showed up. The students shared a pencil they had broken into small pieces and had very few school supplies.  And this was a school that students had to pay to attend!

Overwhelming? Yes. But Amelio took it as a challenge. She established “Caring for Cambodia,” an organization that builds life-changing schools and offers opportunities to young people to learn in a safe, nurturing environment with motivated teachers.

She invested herself into making lasting change in a country that cried out for it. She vowed to make a difference.

Readers will be inspired by the children of Cambodia. They will start out learning the background of how to build a charity and school system from the ground up and end up understanding how ‘giving’ and ‘getting’ can become the same thing.

As you begin to bring more love and kindness into the world, I can highly recommend “Graced with Orange” (Amazon.Com / Amazon.Co.Uk) to get you started on your own journey of contribution.

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What are you afraid to do in your life?

Probably the most common advice you’ll get when you are afraid to do something is to “feel the fear and do it anyway”. Whether you want to talk to a person at a party, start your own business or bungee jump, you’re supposed to face your fear and do what you truly desire.

In essence, this is good advice. The principle behind it is solid. It is by pushing against your fear and challenging yourself that you build confidence. You can even overcome your fear of speaking in public, like Arvind did.

Indeed, you can feel the fear and change the world anyway.

However, based on several years of experience as a confidence coach, I believe that in practice, this guidance often doesn’t work.

This is because in practice, many times the fear someone is feeling is too strong for them to be able to just face it and do what they want. No matter how hard they try, they cannot overpower their fear.

Unfortunately, many individuals who offer self-help advice simply don’t understand this, which is why they keep repeating the same advice for people to face their fears and to try harder, as if this by itself is the universal solution to overcoming any fear.

But it’s not. Many times, just trying to face your fear doesn’t do it. I’d like to show you a few things that you can do in these situations, and genuinely become more confident.

Here are 4 proven ideas that you can put into practice:-

1. Take a Progressive Approach

When you fear a certain stimulus, the intensity of the fear will generally be proportional to the intensity of the stimulus. If you’re trying to face that fear but you just can’t do it, it may very likely mean that you’re trying to face it at a very high intensity, and therefore it generates a very high dose of anxiety for you.

The solution to this predicament is to find situations where you encounter the same stimulus at a lower intensity, and try to face it there. You’re much more likely to be able to do it. And as you get used to the stimulus and you build confidence, you can increase its intensity. But the whole process needs to be gradual.

For instance, let’s say you have a strong fear of public speaking and you want to overcome it. It’s not wise to try and jump in a situation where you speak in front of 100 people. It will generate too much anxiety for you. It’s best to start small, with speaking in front of 10 or 12 people, and progressively advance to bigger audiences as you fear declines. I can vouch from experience that this is by far the most effective approach.

2. Gain Knowledge First

Frequently we dread dealing with certain types of situations because we don’t know how to deal with them effectively. We lack the appropriate know-how. But if we acquire that know-how prior to attempting to deal with it, our anxiety will visibly lessen.

Here’s an example: I often coach people who are shy or socially anxious. It’s not uncommon for them to have little social experience and not really understand how to talk to people or what the basic rules of conversation are.

Fortunately, it only takes a bit of theoretical learning for them to understand the basic principles and dynamics of conversation. And once they’ve done so, they can approach social situations with a lot more confidence, because they feel they now know what to do in such situations.

It just goes to show that a bit of relevant knowledge can go a long way in calming one’s anxiety. And then it’s much easier to face whatever fear remains.

3. Use Positive Self-talk

Positive self-talk is one of the most powerful tools I know for calming anxiety. The gist of it is to deliberately talk to yourself in a constructive way and reassure your mind that everything will be okay. Kind of like a loving parent talking to a child who is afraid of the dark and helping the child quiet the nervousness.

Using this kind of self-talk will help take down your anxiety a couple of notches, which will then make it easier to push against it and do what you want to do. Or it may even eradicate your anxiety completely. It depends.

Using positive self-talk effectively is an art and science in itself, and it can take a while to master this. I will say though that persistence goes a long way in mastering it. So it’s worth practicing with persistence.

4. Get Someone to Push You As Well

There is a reason why people who work out under the supervision of a fitness instructor usually get much better, faster results than people who work out without an instructor. It’s because the instructor not only gives them feedback, but also provides some extra emotional push.

When the person feels like putting the barbell down, the instructor pushes them to do another rep or two. And it the long run that small addition makes a huge difference.

Similarly, with some external help, you can push against a higher dose of fear and be able to go through it. You can get out of your comfort zone further than you could on your own, and this makes confidence building faster.

This external help can be a supportive friend or family member, but it’s better if it’s a qualified trainer, coach or psychologist, someone who truly knows what they’re doing. Facing a fear at a high intensity can be somewhat perilous if the person pushing you doesn’t have a good grasp the mechanisms of fear; and this is something to bear in mind.

I will be the first one to say that facing and overcoming any fear is not simple. It sounds simple sometimes, but it’s not. Fear is a tricky, complex adversary to face and it’s crucial to have a good understanding of the way it works in order to face it effectively.

You can do it.

Put the advice I shared with you here into practice, and I’m certain you will see impressive results.

Eduard Ezeanu helps others build the confidence to be more talkative socially, have more initiative in life, and follow their dreams all the way. He also writes on People Skills Decoded, his specialized blog for improving social skills and social confidence.

Image courtesy of Capture Queen 

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Maybe you are even frustrated seeing how some people are doing so much better than you?

And have you wondered what it would be like to discover the #1 secret to success in life? What differentiates you from Steve Jobs or Richard Branson?

Well, in the next few minutes reading this blog post may just change your perspective on life forever. No pressure!

I had a dear friend around for lunch last week – and as we often do when we meet, we got talking about life and what the next few years will bring us.

We all come to a crossroads in our life when we face having to make some major decisions – and depending on the path we take, our life may change one way or the other. Sometimes quite dramatically.

So often a life-changing event such as say a serious health challenge or the passing of a loved one causes us to reflect and review our life. And yet so often, we do nothing to change our life as day to day commitments and challenges take up our time, focus and energy.

My friend who came for lunch shared this powerful prayer from Marianne Williamson:

Dear God/Universe/Source (insert here whatever word you prefer),

“Please impress upon me the vision of whom I am meant to be – reveal to me the bigger life you would have me live and undo the forces that keep me bound so that I might serve you more” – Marianne Williamson.

Marianne Williamson is one of my favourite teachers and I have been privileged to be the “mike-runner” at a couple of her talks.

So that’s it – the number one secret to success in life! 

At the end of the day, it all comes back to being of greater service to others. As the late and great inspirational teacher Zig Ziglar said:-

“You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want” – Zig Ziglar

Now you know the reason behind why Steve Jobs and Richard Branson have been so successful in the business world – they served so many people through their businesses. The products and services they created fulfilled superbly their customer’s needs again and again

One of my friends is currently recuperating after a major operation and I just get the sense that her life is now going to follow a completely different pathway.  The questions she is pondering are:-

What’s next for me?

How can I be of greater service to the world?

This friend is one of the most inspirational and loving people I know and the world needs her to share her gifts much more widely.

So my point is this – what will it take for you to truly follow what you want to do? Why wait for your wake-up call from the Universe?

And the answer to this question becomes easier to arrive at if you ask yourself this key question:-

How can I serve the world more?

To help you further, I invite you to ponder on these 2 questions:-

 What will you say about your life 10 years from now?

 What will others say about your life 10 years from now?

I have chosen 10 years as the figure here, but I could have easily suggested 5 years or 20 years. The point is that what you do today and how you serve others will impact the rest of your life.

Regardless of what profession you are in, what country you live in, what age you are, time is slipping away. So wait no more to follow what you want to do and to serve the world!

Now when I usually talk about service, some readers mistakenly believe that I am suggesting going to another part of the world and getting involved with a charitable institution such as Nirvana School in South India. However, you can serve others from exactly where you are today, and through whatever you currently do.

So let me be clear here – I am not advocating that we all pack up our bags and go and serve others.

It’s a misconception that you need to change your life dramatically to be of service to the others.

Besides, it’s not necessarily easy for everyone to pack up their jobs and go travelling. To put things into perspective, for a lot of people in the world, finding their next meal is their biggest challenge, never mind being of service to others or seeking the perfect job or even enlightenment.

Please also be clear that I am not talking about servitude! I am advocating coming from a place of wanting to serve through choice and from a position of personal power.

The emphasis of this post is all about how you can be more successful in your life by helping others much more – and it’s not about dramatically changing the world. Though that might happen too!

True service to others is simply about bringing all of you into what you do every day! (Tweet this)

And ultimately, success in life can only come through truly serving people and serving as many people as you can.

It’s about doing what you do, whole-heartedly and with the intention of consciously making a difference to others. And you can do this, no matter what your profession is and where you are in your life.

If you are a painter and decorator, always do your best job you can!

If you are in customer service, hard as it might be at times, do it with a smile and with the intention to be of service.

If you are a writer, bring your authentic and pure self to the keyboard and pump out your best and most inspirational work:-).

I have met some very jolly and happy people performing what others would have considered jobs of drudgery and far beneath themselves. And I have also met some people in high level jobs, who moan all day to anyone who wold listen about their woes.

Remember that every human interaction is one of give and take. And each interaction is an opportunity to be of service to others. (Tweet this)

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

In my time, I have met some people who seemed more dead than the dodo! But this is about you – just how alive are you? And what makes you come alive!?

I have learnt that some people will rise to any challenge, others will always complain. And some people will pull out all the stops to make something happen, others will do the minimum and give up.

Just make sure that you are the one who has come alive and is hungry for grabbing success in life through serving others.

I have often written in the past about serving others and here are three of my most popular posts in this area:-

1. Feel the Fear and Change the World Any Way!

2. 6 Key Lessons in Life from a 140 Year Old Man 

3. Let your Life be your Message

I invite you to read each of these articles properly – and then do not be surprised to see your approach and attitude to live shift dramatically.

To bring an attitude of service into your daily life, it’s actually quite simple but not necessarily easy. To help you get started, here are my suggestions:-

1. Always Give your 100%

No matter what job you have and where you are in your life, do it to the best of your ability – whatever you do, do it 100%. Or don’t do it!

Can you imagine the dire and serious consequences if a surgeon did shoddy work!? What life threatening damage could he or she do?

No matter what you do, YOUR work deserves to be done with the same level of care, diligence and attention.

2. Give People more Than They Expect

Most people only do the minimum they need to but YOU can always give people more than they expect.   Ask yourself how can I serve more in this interaction? And then do it.

Always go the extra mile and remember – there is no traffic jam on the extra mile!

3. Connect People

One of the best ways of serving the people in your life is by connecting them with others in your life where you sense there might be mutual synergies or where one person can help the other.

I have a superb painter / decorator friend called Ricardo whom I have recommended to a number of friends over the years and he has done a sterling job for them all.

So who can you connect and serve in your community?

4. Look out for People in Distress or in Need of Help.

Do you remember how you felt the last time you helped a stranger with directions?

I bet you experienced a deep feel good factor in your body and you felt really good for the rest of the day for having helped someone.

So from now onwards, actively look out for ways of serving others around you as you go through your daily life. It’s easy right?

5.  Get Involved in your Local Community

There are so many ways you can officially serve your community such as joining your local youth centre or social centre.

Just find something that you like doing and which uses your skills.

6. Enrol as a Volunteer

One of the key factors behind the success of the London Olympics 2012 was the energy and enthusiasm of the volunteers.

These selfless volunteers who gave up their time to ensure the well-being of the spectators created a superb atmosphere and contributed to what’s recognised as the best Olympic games of the modern era.

I recently volunteered at a festival in Hyde Park and it was an amazing experience. I had a ball! I made some new friends and also went 10 shades of brown darker in the hot sun!

So look for ways of how you too can volunteer your services in something much bigger than you. As always, you’ll get so much more back!

7. Remember to Smile Often

By applying this one idea alone could transform your world and that of the people around you!

Would you rather be served by someone smiling or someone miserable? By someone looking light and jolly, or someone who seems to be carrying the weight of the whole world?

Whatever job you do, bring a smile and light-heartedness to your activity – and watch the impact on those you serve.

Even if you see your job as drudgery or mundane, from now onwards remember to smile, and to smile often. Ad your job will somehow feel easier too.

People will soon start wondering what your secret of happiness is – and they’ll gravitate towards.

8. Pay It Forward with Random Acts of Kindness

This is one of my favourite ways of serving others – pay it forward.

If someone does you a kindness, you simply “pay it forward” by carrying out an act of kindness for someone else.

The key is to always forget what kindnesses you have done, and to never forget the kindnesses done for you.

Go one step further and choose one or more ideas from 31 Ways to Carry out Random Acts of Kindness

You could go the extra mile – and choose one random act of kindness for each of the next 31 days.

Let’s create a ripple of kindness and service all around us!

The Way Forward

In this blog post, it seems that I have come full circle. I started by talking about reflecting on what’s next in your life – and how to bring a greater attitude of service in your life.

And maybe it’s not even about what’s next for you – it’s about being fully present and committed to where you are now.

By making the most of what you have now and giving the best service you can, the future will sort itself out.

What the world needs today is more people committed to serve others NOW. So let’s start from where we are now and see where we go -and at the same time, see how that brings you more success in life.

NOW, please share below in the comments section YOUR intention for service – let’s put it out there:-)

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Make It Happen Workshop this Saturday, 20^th July 2013

I am pleased to announce that I am launching regular weekend workshops for the rest of the year. To start with, these will be intimate events for a small number of people in a beautiful venue in central London.

The first workshop is this Saturday, 20th July 2013 from 3pm to 6pm.

What will you get from this event?

• Clarity about the single most important goal for you in 2013
• Insights into what’s been holding you back and stopping you
• An action plan to help you make it happen

Click here to find out more about my workshop and to secure your place

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My Radio Interviews

In the last 3 weeks, I have been interviewed on 2 radio shows – please check them out as below:-

1. Radio Enso with Arvind Devalia

2. How you can Make It Happen with Arvind Devalia

Enjoy!

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My 12th Annual Friends & Friend’s Friends Picnic! 

11 years ago, I had this vision of bringing together the various people in my life for a day of celebration of life.

The result was my first ever “Friends & Friend’s Friends Picnic” in 2002. Every year since then, I have held this picnic in Regents Park central London – and this year’s event is on this coming Sunday – 21^st July.

Check out more information here and join me!

Please bring all your friends, family, neighbours, work colleagues etc.

This year, the event has even been featured in TimeOut London magazine and you can read the online version here:-

TimeOut magazine has described the picnic beautifully:-

 “Indian author Arvind Devalia is on a mission to ‘create a movement of people who want to make the world a better place whilst also improving their own lives’.

One of the ways he reaches out is through his annual FAFF picnic – which is in its twelfth year now – inviting people to bring their families and friends down for a day of pleasant picnicking (bring your own food), games, African drumming, dancing and guided meditation.

The picnic will take place whatever the weather. NB: Enter the park via Hanover Gate.”

I look forward to seeing you all there!

If you are not in London or you are unable to attend due to prior commitments, then do organise your own “Friends & Friend’s Friends Picnic”.

I wish you all an amazing weekend – and a wonderful picnic wherever you are in the world.

And always remember to go the extra mile when serving others – therein lies the secret to success in your life 🙂

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