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Sacred Altars

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Source: California Psychics

Fall, as a time for harvest and giving thanks for the many blessings and gifts in our lives, is the perfect time to spruce up (or build) an alter. What better way to focus your intentions on gratitude than to create a sacred space in your home? It will also help you attract even more abundance. Use it to reflect upon the blessings the year has brought so far, and to think (meditate or pray) about the clearest path to manifesting your dreams for rest of the year.

Find out ways to make your altar a personal place to manifest your deepest desires. It can help you take a look at your past and see where you'd like to be in the future. Your altar can hold all the inspiration and tools that you need to visualize your way into the brightest future imaginable.

Get direction
Whether you're living in a studio apartment or a mansion, your first consideration will be where to place your altar. It's important to have a sacred space where you can appreciate the blessings you've been given as well as your goals and aspirations for the future. Try to find a place where you will be undisturbed for a few moments… even if that means setting up shop in your closet or outdoors. Take a moment and decide which direction you'd like to face - are you a big fan of meditation? Maybe facing east will put you in alignment with your inner guru. Or maybe you're trying to draw more logic and order into your life. Then a sensible, true north-facing altar can be more effective. The most important consideration for placement is - do you feel comfortable there?

Elements and traditions
A basic way to start setting up your altar is to begin with the elements: earth, air, fire and water. If you have the space for a candle, stick of incense, a cup of water and salt or potted plant you've represented the 5 elements - the foundation upon which everything we are thankful for rests. If space is a concern, you can make symbols of the elements and place your remaining sacred objects around the altar as they speak to you.

Symbols
Your spiritual background will help you decide which objects are most important for your altar. Each religion has icons and symbols to draw from so finding the signs and symbols that are meaningful will help you connect to your spiritual center. Sacred symbols can simply be anything that helps you identify with the Divine. Maybe there is a particular deity that speaks to you (like Tara or Genesh), or a special place where you've always felt a sense of connection. Display postcards, mini statues or even cut outs from a magazine to symbolize these things. Remember, everyone's symbols will differ with background, taste and personal affinity.

No rules
There are no rules for what to include or omit from you altar - this is "you" space! Just keep things meaningful. You're not organizing a mélange of chotchkes, you're visualizing your future and giving thanks for the people, places and things that you value in life. Photographs of loved ones, objects that represent the kind of career you're working towards or the kind of person you're striving to become… pieces of your past, pieces of your future. Commonly found items like fresh flowers, a wish or prayer box, spiritual jewelry, crystals - just about anything that will move you closer to your center.

Vision and personalization
The next consideration is to decide what you are trying to accomplish. Are you looking for a place to say prayers, meditate or visualize? How you will use your altar will help you define the sacred objects that need to be there. If you're planning to practice your Buddhist mantras you'll need a mala. If you're planning to use your altar for goal realization perhaps a dream board would work better for you. If your goal is to honor someone who has crossed over, perhaps a photograph will help you really keep them in mind. If you're looking for a quiet place of rejuvenation predominately, you might find that the objects are not as important as finding a quiet location.

White light and more
Candles can be a great way to add the sacred to your altar. Pick a color that resonates with you - blue is a peace-bringing color, green is perfect if you're looking to draw more money or growth into your life, pink or red if you're looking for love. You can add oils to your candles as well to create a more sensual ambiance for your altar and the entire room. You can add favorite photographs, fresh flowers, your favorite things… to personalize your alter so that it is a safe, familiar place that really resonates with you.

Now, comes the best part - and sometimes the most challenging … finding time to use your altar! In the hustle and bustle of everyday life try to find a regular time to spend there praying, visualizing or just being still. Maybe even just set your alarm for 15 minutes earlier. Keep that time for yourself, you really do need to recharge your batteries if you're going to go out there and conquer the world.

2008-08-23T15:19:00.000-07:00

Source: California Psychics

Without humor and laughter life would be pretty darn bleak. Laughter not only makes life better, it makes it easier by lightening our load. While it's not a cure-all, laughter and a sense of humor can help us get through challenging and difficult times - from mistakes, misfires and mishaps to break-ups, illness and even the loss of a loved one. Laughter is like a balm. It may not take the wounds away, but it sure helps soothe them. If we didn't have laughter, we'd be in quite a predicament.

So it's a lucky thing that one of the first parts of the infant brain to activate is what in layman's terms we call the smile center. There's nothing quite as amazing as seeing how soon after birth a baby will start to smile. It takes just a few weeks for us to begin doing what will eventually lead to laughter, joy, release and relaxation!

Vitamin L
Laughter is healthy on all levels. A hearty laugh can help reduce stress, lower blood pressure, elevate mood, boost the immune system, improve brain function and may even decrease the risk of heart attack. Laughter feels good for a variety of reasons. It involves most of the body's systems - our muscles, respiration, heart, body temperature and central nervous system. When we laugh heartily, stress hormones decrease. Endorphins (our body's natural pain killers) are released. After a good laugh, our blood pressure falls briefly to below normal levels, which helps to give us a feeling of relaxation and satisfaction.

Laughter is contagious
Having a sense of humor and inviting a lot of laughter into our lives is not only one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to take care of our bodies, it's also one of the keys to building happy and healthy relationships in the workplace, at home and out in the larger social circuit. Laughter naturally draws people together. Laughing together creates memories and builds bonds. It unites us and heals us mentally, physically and emotionally.

Is everyone at work under the pressure of a tight deadline? There's no better way to help alleviate stress than to use some humor. Your coworkers will appreciate you for it, and it might even increase the quality of everyone's work.

One of the "number one" qualities people cite for falling and staying in love is the ability to laugh together. How many times have you heard someone say, "I love him because he makes me laugh." Those who laugh together are more likely to stay together. Laughing makes everyone feel good. If you can give the gift of laughter to those around you, they'd be crazy not to love you for it!

Let's not be serious
A good sense of humor when it comes to oneself is another great asset. Though we may strive to be perfect, the truth is none of us are. We all have flaws and, from time to time, we make errors or find ourselves in uncomfortable situations. Being able to laugh things off is a way of being gentle with and accepting of ourselves. Take, for example, a close friend who is pregnant for the first time. She's used to feeling slim and glamorous, so the changes in her body have been traumatic. In her final two weeks of pregnancy, she humorously refers to herself as a baby whale, a comparison which immediately lets us know that even in her uncomfortable state, she can at least make fun of her own predicament, while making light of her own vanity. It not only helps alleviate the stress on her body, but it helps her communicate and share the very human experience of feeling fat with others.

When we can take ourselves a bit less seriously, it enables us to view our lives in context. While it's tempting to tackle the world and drive ourselves to take responsibility for every little thing - in the end, this kind of attitude can be counter-productive. We all need to blow off steam, and being less serious is one way to do it. After all, sometimes when one focuses too much on a certain outcome, it actually makes it more difficult to achieve. It's when we mellow out and deal constructively with stress through humor that our chances for success often increase.

Laughing matters
Want to create more opportunities for laughter in your life? There's no harm in seeking humor out. You can balance serious art film watching with a few raucous comedies. Will Farrell, anyone? There are also quite of few comic authors out there. Check out books by Beth Lisick, David Sedaris and Jill Solloway. You might even consider going to a comedy club or theater. Seek out the funny people in your life, and when in social situations, try asking, "So have you seen any funny movies lately" or "What's the funniest thing that's ever happened to you?"

One of the easiest ways to bring more humor into your life is to smile more. Smiling can open the flood gates of laughter. Dress with more attention to playfulness. How long has it been since you played with a toy? Try keeping a few around. Better yet, spend some time with children. When it comes to laughter and taking things lightly, they are the experts! Finally, if you want to put a smile on your face, begin by counting your blessings. Try making a list of all the good things in your life. And lastly, when you hear the music of laughter, head straight for it.

2008-08-20T01:54:00.000-07:00

Source: California Psychics

Is life just a series of swirling, disconnected moments? Or is there something greater that connects and controls your life. Deepak Chopra, the famous spiritualist and medical doctor, has long taught that everything that is happening in this moment is a result of all the choices you've made mentally up until now.

In 1994 he published The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, a ground-breaking book that spelled out principles to live by that he claimed would help you align the various aspects of your spirit to develop a more fulfilling life. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success is now available on DVD where it features real-life examples to illustrate the philosophy, which combines Eastern principals like "karma" (one's destiny) and Western principles like "the law of least effort" (going with the flow). So what are the seven laws? And do they really work?

The law of karma
Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind. Choosing actions that bring happiness and success to others ensures the flow of happiness and success to you.

Does it work? The concept of karma crosses many cultures and religions. Some people take it to mean "what goes around, comes around." When someone has wronged you, it's comforting to think they will one day get theirs. But relying too much on the idea of karma can also be dangerous if you start to blame yourself for every bad thing that happens to you. The best way to act on the "law of karma" is to put out the best energy you can, but understand that it might not always come back that way.

The law of least effort
Accept people, situations, and events as they occur. Take responsibility for your situation and for all events seen as problems. Relinquish the need to defend your point of view.

Does it work? Chopra says every situation is the seed of an opportunity - and in every seed is the promise of a forest. The challenge is that many of the "seeds" are painful moments we'd rather not experience. The key to accepting this law is to recognize that it is often through pain that we learn the greatest lessons.

The law of pure potentiality
Take time to be silent, to just BE. Meditate for 30 minutes twice a day. Silently witness the intelligence within every living thing. Practice non-judgment.

Does it work? Finding stillness and quiet with your own spirit can be one of the most difficult - and rewarding - journeys of life. If you are able to regularly connect with yourself in this way, you will find yourself on the path to spiritual success.

The law of giving
Today, bring whoever you encounter a gift: a compliment or flower. Gratefully receive gifts. Keep wealth circulating by giving and receiving care, affection, appreciation and love.

Does it work? Giving is another concept that seems to cross all cultures and faiths. But at the end of the day, most people still don't realize the transformative power it has. By focusing your gifts outside yourself, you will be more richly rewarded than you can ever imagine.

The law of intention and desire
Inherent in every intention and desire is the mechanics for its fulfillment. Make a list of desires. Trust that when things don't seem to go your way, there is a reason.

Does it work? One of Chopra's fundamental beliefs is that in order to make change happen in your life, you have to give your deeper instincts a chance. You have to unlearn the tendency to second-guess yourself and trust other people over your own spirit. The first step to making your dreams come true is allowing yourself to decide what those dreams really are.

The law of detachment
Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions - allow solutions to spontaneously emerge. Uncertainty is essential on your path to freedom.

Does it work? Trying to control other people is one of life's most frustrating - and fruitless - endeavors. By letting go of expectations for yourself and others, you free yourself.

The law of dharma
Seek your higher Self. Discover your unique talents. Ask yourself how you are best suited to serve humanity. Using your unique talents and serving others brings unlimited bliss and abundance.

Does it work? This really comes down to the question of whether you can actually find a higher purpose in life. The answer: only if you truly want to take the journey.

2008-08-11T08:59:00.000-07:00

Source: California Psychics

The secret to a new and improved sex life - believe it or not, is within you! And while we all know being sexy does have some external factors involved - namely your appearance - tapping into your natural sexiness requires a good look inside at the more mindful elements like self-confidence, personal power and just plain, knowing yourself - qualities you might not have considered to have anything to do with being sexy.

Consider that men and women alike consistently rate confidence as the biggest indicator of sexiness. Not a D-cup or six-pack abs, but a self-assured nature. A smile. Eye contact. The behaviors of those who feel comfortable and confident are naturally appealing. In other words, what you feel internally affects how you're perceived externally. Hence, feeling sexy makes you sexy, as well as encouraging you to have more sex - either because you pursue it more readily or because more people (or your partner) pursue you!

Plus the best part is, if tapping into your internal appeal seems like a stretch on any given day, or in general (you've got a busy life after all!), there are a few external tricks guaranteed to help your shine! So, how do you tap into your natural sex appeal? As with most questions, the answer depends on who asks it. Here are a few universal ways to do it - starting inside and out!

Remember when...
First, take a moment to think back. When was the last time you felt really sexy? Like super hot as in I can take over the world... or at least a lover! Was it after a great workout, during a night on the town or in your PJ's after a long, hot bath? The answer's not important, what is vital is that you remember it. Experience what it felt like - from your head to your toes. Relish that. And work on the ability to recreate it. Why? Because sense-memory goes a long way.

The point of this exercise is to have a fantasy place. In times when you'd like to give off that just got it glow, you'll be able to go there - on your own or with an amour. And shy types, don't worry! You don't even need to share what's on your mind. Sometimes, just thinking about sex can make you feel sexy. (And note: sexy and horny are not the same thing… though one can lead to the other!)

Be scent-sational!
Sexual attraction is based largely on pheromones. And pheromones are sensed largely through scent. Think about it. When with a lover to whom we're well-matched, their scent (natural, sprayed or dabbed on) will drive us wild. As such, one quick, easy way to make yourself feel like a mate-magnet is to spritz on a scent that you love. It shouldn't just be any scent however (perfumes and colognes smell different on different people). It should be your signature scent. The one that every time you get a whiff, makes you feel magnetic. Finding yourself a signature scent may be a bit more time consuming than just dabbing it on, but the initial investment will pay off dividends - in what you give off and in how you feel doing it!

Only you
If you're like most of us, you may let yourself fall by the wayside in favor of catering to your job, your family and your friends (sometimes all three)! In this scenario, your needs go out the window and poof - there goes your sex appeal (along with your libido). And it's no wonder! Feeling desire requires actually feeling satisfaction in other areas of your life. If you're ultimately dissatisfied, the outside world can sense it (read: you don't exude sexy) and your libido goes into hibernation. However, if you take a little time for yourself on a regular basis - for yoga, for meditation, for cooking a great meal, for a night out dancing, for pampering yourself or for whatever turns you on (see aforementioned for an example of the last time you felt sexy), you'll find yourself feeling happier and sexier.

Say cheese
Lastly, if you're looking for a quick fix - and one that will take hold, contributing to an overall sexier feeling - adopt the behaviors of the confident. Even if you're not quite there yet. Stand up straight. Meet people's eyes when you're talking to them. Smile - even if you've just eaten poppy seeds. If you've got some in your teeth, so what? You're human after all. Laugh it off, excuse yourself and come right back with your best and brightest.

Remember, if your best and brightest doesn't meet some external definition of beauty, so what! Because sexy is not perfection. Sexy is a state of mind.

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Are You My Soulmate?

2008-07-10T19:15:00.001-07:00

Hello Beautiful One,

Are you in search of your soulmate? Well on the larger scheme of things in my belief, we are all soulmates on some level, we are all one big soul broken up into individual souls. We have clusters or matrixs that groups us together that create this concept of soulmate connections. These clusters/matrixs consist of our closest relationship that includes family, friends, and lovers. These clusters can shift, readjust or realign as our souls evolves. That is when some of our relationships goes through break-ups, divorces, going off to college and even death. These are natural occurrences and evolutions, even though we physically may separate, we still have a spiritual connection with the other soul. Emotionally this may be hard but spiritually this is inevitable and necessary. Each soul is on it's own journey and need to follow the best course for their own evolution. We are here to assist one another on that journey and sometimes that means even letting them go.

As we evolve and rediscover who we truly are as spiritual beings we open the door up to having deeper connections with others thus,creating a true soulmate connection. This experience is more spiritually driven, it flows easier and it is less demanding of the other person. You will share your life on a deeper level and will go into this relationship looking to bring gifts instead of looking to see what you can get. You will experience less emotional drama and upsets and will understand the concept of bliss in your relationships. I will go into this more in my next blog titled "Divine Love: How to Maintain a Spiritual Partnerships." But for now we will begin at the beginning with the definition of the term soulmates. I figure it's a good idea to understand the definition and origin of what your looking for. I found these definitions on wikipedia and www.solvedating.com. ( I do the research so you don't have to :)

Definition of Soulmates

Soulmate, the wikipedia definition is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility. A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the one and only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.

Classic Meaning of Soulmates
The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
Spiritual Soulmate Concepts
Many religions and spiritual paths believe in reincarnation and the concept of karma. Through reincarnation, soulmates may spend many lifetimes together in past lives. Other spiritual methods of searching for one's soulmate are astrology, numerology, palm reading, personality types, and magic. Modern spritual paths often blend western and eastern philosophies.

Companion Soulmates

These are people that we encounter through our life. These are usually friends, teachers, mentors, or other people who have helped you achieving a life's goal or helped you out of a crisis.

Twin Soulmates

These types of soulmate are your closest friends or a person whom you really click with. According to those who believe in reincarnation, you have already met them in a past life, and in this life you are continuing the relationship. There is an emotional bond between these soulmates and each is able to sense the feelings of each other.

Twin Flame Soulmates

This is the most popular type of soulmate. There is usually one twin flame soulmate for each of us. Twin flame soulmates have spent multiple lifetimes together in past lives. There is incredible chemistry and attraction towards each other. They "complete" each other and only few lucky people are able to find their twin flame soulmate. Twin flame soulmates, if separated, usually suffer enormous pain.

Recognizing your Soulmates
In order to recognize your soulmates as they come into your life, you must be tuned in to your own soul. In order to attract your soulmate, you must allow yourself to become more of who you truly are, more of your authentic self. This will allow for the best soulmate experience and give you the flow you are seeking in relationships with others. If you don't have a good relationship with the most important soul in your life, which is you, it will be difficult to enjoy or for that matter even attract a soulmate connection into your life.

You define your experiences in your life, you are the creator, your choices at each moment is creating your life and your mind is the most powerful tool you have in this creative process. My hope for you is to first love and accept yourself just as you are, then seek to share the wonderful, dynamic, unique expression of God's love to the world which is you ,with another. You must know this, you are truly a blessing and a gift to this world, worthy of love and all that is good.....I know this to be true and my wish for you is to know this, too!

Exercises to get us closer to the source and lead us closer to the love we seek

For the next 30 days try this out and see what changes occur in your life

Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day -Sit in a quiet space and breath deeply, allowing your breath to cleanse your body, mind and spirit. Release all tension and thoughts and relax as God speaks to your heart. You can say a mantra- for example, I AM LOVE, over and over again as you get closer to the true source of unlimited unconditional love and that is GOD (or whatever you choose to call your spiritual source)

Visualize for at least 10 minutes a day, see in your mind what you believe true love looks like, feel in your heart and spirit what it feels like, I mean really feel it, it is your life and your imagination you can have it just the way you like it, you are a co-creator with the creator, so don't limit yourself, ask and you shall receive.

Affirm Daily at least 10 times:

I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY JUST AS I AM
I AM WORTHY OF LOVE JUST BECAUSE I AM ME
you can write it down on an index card and put it where you can see it everyday, recite this to yourself out loud as you look in the mirror, feel what you are saying, this will become a truth for you the more times you repeat it.

Create a Vision Board, I have been doing this for years before it became popular with the secret. I loved arts and crafts and always had an excess of magazines, I found it to be very therapeutic and now I learn that it is also a way to ignite the Law of Attraction and to bring things into your life. So I suggest this as a therapist and as a spiritualist. All you need is a cardboard, magazines, glue stick and scissors. Then just let your spirit guide you, whatever pictures or words you are attracted to cut them out and place them on the board. I suggest putting positive images that you would like to see show up in your life. for example, the one I have has a section for love, career, spirituality and wealth. Be creative, there is no wrong or right way, have fun with it.

These exercises will assist you with beginning the process of self-discovery and attract more love into your world and allow you to have a deeper "soulmate" connection with others.
I wish you the highest good in your life and a truly divine experience of love. It is what life is all about. Love is what you are made of and it is all around you just take a moment to soak it in.

It is such a pleasure to be here for you and with you on this wonderful journey of life. I know all of my clients are divinely drawn to me making them apart of my soul matrix and making us soulmates, thanks for showing up, you are a blessing!

In Love and Light,

Your Spiritual Advisor and Best Girlfriend!

Kim Afreeka