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I wore these amazingly comfortable Clarks loafers for years but I was told the Clarks brand got acquired by another company and now the latest pair I bought in the spring really hurt my feet after I walk even a short distance. I'm in the USA and wear size 13.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389938/Looking-for-comfortable-mens-dress-shoe tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389938 Fri, 12 Jun 2026 10:54:52 GMT BigLankyBastard Mens Shoes https://ask.metafilter.com/389938/Looking-for-comfortable-mens-dress-shoe/rss
Tried to download the Official Boggle game and the amount of pop ups/log in issues/non-intuitive set up flummoxed me. I am looking for something simple to distract myself for 10-20 minutes, a website or app is fine, can live with non-intrusive ads. I do not need it to have lots of bells and whistles or to play with other people.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389937/What-is-the-best-Boggle-Boggle-like-app-or-site tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389937 Fri, 12 Jun 2026 09:48:58 GMT Gin and Broadband boggle gaming internet wordgames https://ask.metafilter.com/389937/What-is-the-best-Boggle-Boggle-like-app-or-site/rss
I do not want to share a bedroom.

This is a women's leadership conference for higher ed faculty and staff; it's an annual event and previous attendees said it was, and I quote, very kumbaya touchy feelie. I thought, well, I like hippies, I can do that. We have kind of run out of women to send, so my boss was visibly relieved when I volunteered.

Full disclosure, I am not doing this out of any wish to advance my career, such as it is. I gave up on that eons ago and I'm too old anyway. My career goal is to survive for five more years, until I can maybe get full social security and only work part time. I'm doing it to get out of work and away from my life for an entire beautiful week. So I am perhaps less motivated to sleep in the same room as another person than I would be if I was all ambitious.

I feel as if I have valid reasons to request an accommodation. I don't sleep well despite a cpap. The cpap can be noisy, which would disturb a roommate, as would my unfortunate tendency to wake up at like 3 am, go to the bathroom, drink a glass of water and do jigsaw puzzles on the iPad or read until I get tired again. How do I phrase that, though? And is it even a possibility? None of the stuff they have sent me mentions the possibility of rooming alone. In fact it says how great it is and that we will make lifelong friends. I doubt this.

I really don't want to deal with another person in the bedroom or share a bathroom or, well, any of that. What if I fart? I haven't shared a bedroom with anyone who was not related to me in probably almost 30 years. That's not by accident.

So my question is multifold. First, does it seem reasonable to ask for a single room citing the reasons above and if so, how do I phrase it? Should I offer to pay the difference? I might well not be able to afford it and my college is not going to shell it out. But maybe it's not that much.

Or should I just suck it up? Am I being an entitled snowflake? Will the other attendees hate me if I have my own room?

Or should I just politely bail altogether? I have a cast iron excuse - I can say I can't find respite care for the demented sibling I care for. This may even be true and render all this moot anyway. But a week off that doesn't use vacation time and is paid for? And I might learn some things? I do want to go.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389936/Evading-A-Roomie tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389936 Fri, 12 Jun 2026 02:31:34 GMT mygothlaundry accommodations Roommate sharedRoom WorkConference https://ask.metafilter.com/389936/Evading-A-Roomie/rss
I'd say a solid 70% of the creators I've followed don't show up on my tiktok fyp. My fyp is instead populated by women with the whiff of trad wife "reset" cleaning their houses, and loads of other content from people I've never seen before and don't have any interest in.

Reddit has decided that I really missed out on being an HR professional, and that it really wants to show me lots and lots of HR content. Or that possibly I should have been a lawyer or a civil servant, because it has shit tons of that content for me too.

I miss content that didn't bore me to fucking death, that was interesting, and that aligned with my values I guess.(I am thankfully not getting far right content at least.)

Is there any way to get an algorithm reset? I join subs around diverse topics I would like to see more of, and I hardly ever click on a random subreddit I didn't ask for. I am subscribed to similarly broad creators concentrated in a handful of content areas, and I don't interact with the content I don't want to see.

I know the whole world is undergoing severe enshittification, and that this is the least important example of that global problem, but if there is a way to steer this back to consuming content I actually like, I would love to hear how to do that.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389935/Why-do-the-algorithm-gods-of-the-internet-hate-me tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389935 Thu, 11 Jun 2026 22:53:28 GMT DarlingBri Algorithm curation Reddit tiktok https://ask.metafilter.com/389935/Why-do-the-algorithm-gods-of-the-internet-hate-me/rss
Previous questions are all here, for reference. They tend towards the silly adventure and terrible pun more than "a gift"]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389934/A-highly-ordered-repeating-structure tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389934 Thu, 11 Jun 2026 22:25:02 GMT Just this guy, y'know RecurringQuestionForever WackyIdeas WeddingAnniversary https://ask.metafilter.com/389934/A-highly-ordered-repeating-structure/rss
His stated argument for refusing the surgery is "I have to die of something" and, while that's objectively true, he is in otherwise good health with his various medical conditions being well-managed and he is from a long-lived family. I think (and he would agree) that much of his hesitancy is founded in the extensive pre-op clearances as well as what seems to him a lengthy and arduous recovery process with a dizzying array of moving pieces. He is, at heart, an introvert who finds the multiple medical contacts/procedures so far, to say nothing of the extensive post-op period, a bit overwhelming and definitely disruptive to his insular lifestyle.

We are in the US. Because of our excellent insurance coverage, we're unlikely to incur any out-of-pocket costs through the entire process and even if we do, money will not be an issue. Truly the only impediment to moving forward is his reluctance to endure the hassle.

What advice, insights, anecdotes, etc. can you offer him? I think if he sees strong consensus that people are happy (or unhappy) they went through the whole process, it will help him reach a decision he can be comfortable with.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389933/Seeking-advice-and-anecdata-about-open-heart-surgery tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389933 Thu, 11 Jun 2026 22:19:39 GMT DrGail BypassSurgery OpenHeartSurgery https://ask.metafilter.com/389933/Seeking-advice-and-anecdata-about-open-heart-surgery/rss
Seeking to coordinate these tops with more shorter, often wider-legged pants like these, which mean the top is the smallest third of the overall proportion. And most of the time, even in petite departments, tops are just too long. Or they are straight-up cropped, exposing way too much belly for a person of a certain age. The struggle is real- your suggestions appreciated.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/389932/Where-are-the-cute-casual-tops-for-short-waisted-petites tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.389932 Thu, 11 Jun 2026 19:46:24 GMT I_Love_Bananas notcroptops shortwaisted stylish tops https://ask.metafilter.com/389932/Where-are-the-cute-casual-tops-for-short-waisted-petites/rss