https://ask.metafilter.com/ The past 24 hours of questions at Ask MetaFilter Tue, 01 Sep 2026 13:58:58 GMT Tue, 01 Sep 2026 13:58:58 GMT en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 So of course one can squabble over the Paste list, but as at by intelligently pointed out, there were in fact more than 100 good songs released in the eighties.

Given this, here is my ask: how about a couple of your personal greatests, but at least very slightly deep cuts. Medium cuts, if you will. Songs that not literally everyone who was able to process language in, say, 1985 in the US would recognize.

I have about umpteen billion and I bet most people do, but I will start us off with only two:

Primitive Painters by Felt, a song I only heard last year but that is probably one of my top ten ever, and one of the most beautiful and utopian (and trans-friendly) songs ever, Wind Power by Thomas Dolby. (Note a continent not a nation.)]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/390612/The-greatest-songs-of-the-eighties-For-some-values-of-great-anyway tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390612 Tue, 01 Sep 2026 13:58:58 GMT Frowner AndICallItTheEighties Eighties EightiesMusic NotTHATPoguesSong Paste https://ask.metafilter.com/390612/The-greatest-songs-of-the-eighties-For-some-values-of-great-anyway/rss https://ask.metafilter.com/390611/Shipping-a-single-item-of-furniture-cross-country tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390611 Tue, 01 Sep 2026 13:28:59 GMT BlahLaLa crosscountry moving shipping https://ask.metafilter.com/390611/Shipping-a-single-item-of-furniture-cross-country/rss
Sometimes I go into a NYC gym steam room, and I pick up a vibe that some guys want to jerk off or jerk each other off. Sometimes it seems like they act like I'm interrupting and it puts a pause in their activities. I don't want to participate, but I am also happy for them to have their fun. Is there some way I can subtly indicate that I'm cool with whatever they want to do?]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/390610/How-do-I-let-people-know-they-can-have-some-fun-in-the-steam-room tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390610 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 22:26:01 GMT davidstandaford gay gym https://ask.metafilter.com/390610/How-do-I-let-people-know-they-can-have-some-fun-in-the-steam-room/rss
My favourites that I own right now:

- Indian-ish, Recipes and Antics from a Modern American Family by Priya Krishna
- Chinese Enough: Homestyle Recipes for Noodles, Dumplings, Stir-Fries, and More by Kristina Cho
- Family Style: Elegant Everyday Recipes Inspired by Home and Heritage by Peter Som

Thanks for any recommendations!!]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/390609/Immigrant-Cookbooks tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390609 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 20:42:38 GMT Pitachu cookbooks cooking diaspora immigrants recipes https://ask.metafilter.com/390609/Immigrant-Cookbooks/rss
Today our dog killed our kitten. We took in a deaf kitten with a head tilt. My partner and I are completely devastated, and I can't make peace with what happened or understand how I'm supposed to see our dog the same way again We adopted the kitten less than three weeks ago. She was about 10–11 weeks old, deaf, but still incredibly energetic, affectionate and fearless. She was healthy and had been checked by a vet. She was an absolute little lunatic in terms of energy, but also extremely loving and social. Best little thing I've known. She purred just looking at us

We were still in the process of introducing her to our adult cat, Aurora. The introduction wasn't finished yet — Aurora was still setting boundaries and wasn't completely comfortable with her — so we continued keeping the kitten separated when we couldn't supervise them.

We also have dogs, 2 elderly rescues, and Davion, our 5 years old purebred rough collie, he was my first dog.

What makes this so impossible for us to comprehend is that Davion has an extensive history of living safely with cats since the puppyhood. I took this breed because it was supposedly cat safe. He lived with Aurora the entire time. Over the years he has lived with several other cats we fostered including kittens, and we've fostered kittens around him. He has never EVER shown nothing but love and curiosity, no aggression, predatory fixation or anything else toward cats that made us consider him dangerous. The only thing he didn't enjoy was someone stepping on his fur, but even then he just stood up and signaled to back off.

Davion and the new kitten had also already been introduced. They had shared a room while we were there and their interactions had been affectionate and completely uneventful. We had no reason to think they couldn't be together.

The kitten absolutely hated being alone and would scream when separated from everyone, so we were experimenting with having one of the dogs keep her company. Being around another living creature immediately stopped the kitten from crying, it worked like a charm with our eldest.

Today my partner put Davion in the room with her.
I haven't been able to watch the camera footage myself. I don't know if I ever will. But my partner has seen what happened beforehand and told me that the kitten was cuddling with Davion and affectionately walking underneath and around him. There wasn't a fight or an obviously hostile interaction leading up to it. Then Davion suddenly bit her.

It seems to have been a single bite, but she was tiny and the damage was catastrophic. She started bleeding from her nose/mouth. He rushed her to a vet, but her lungs had been punctured and she died. I genuinely cannot comprehend that sentence yet. She's gone.

My partner is torturing himself because he was the person who put them together. If either of us had believed Davion represented a danger to her, we would never have left them together. We chose a dog who had spent years demonstrating that he could coexist safely with cats. Hell, once my eldest felt into freezing river and i jumped immediately to save him.

And now I'm struggling with something beyond the question of why the attack happened. I can't look at Davion the same way anymore.

I know intellectually that he's a dog and that assigning human morality to his behavior doesn't make sense. I know he didn't sit there understanding the consequences of what he was doing in the way a person would. None of that changes my emotional reaction. When I look at him, I think about her. I think how she could have been alive and enjoying life if it wasn't for him.

I'm beyond angry at him. I'm disturbed by him. I don't want him anywhere near me. I don't know whether I'll ever be able to forgive him, if "forgive" is even a meaningful concept when talking about a dog.
This is particularly painful because Davion was such an important part of our life and our future. We're getting married, and he was supposed to bring us our rings at our wedding. I was imagining him being part of that day. Now, only a day after this happened, I'm disturbed simply looking at him. I can't reconcile the dog I knew and loved with the fact that this same dog killed our kitten.

We're considering having him stay with my parents for a few weeks because I don't know whether being around him while we're in this state is good for us or for him.

I suppose fostering is over for us as well. But I'm desperately trying to understand what actually happened behaviorally. Can a very active, fast-moving kitten suddenly trigger a grab/predatory response in a dog that has lived safely with cats for years and has never previously shown obvious prey drive toward them? Could a single bite-and-release instead be an attempted correction, startle response or play interaction in which a large dog used catastrophically inappropriate force? Is there anything about the pattern that helps distinguish these possibilities?

And then there's the question I don't know how to answer at all: How do you live with your dog after your dog kills another animal you loved?

If anyone has experienced something like this, did you ever manage to feel affection for your dog normally again? Did the association between the dog and the death eventually weaken? Did you permanently change how you felt about the dog? Did you ultimately decide that the dog needed another home?

I'm not asking people to tell me that Davion didn't do anything wrong, and I'm not looking for a way to pretend this didn't happen. He killed her. She should still be here.

I'm trying to understand how something that seemed safe based on years of experience could go catastrophically wrong in seconds — and whether it's possible to have a relationship with him after something I currently cannot imagine ever making peace with.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/390608/Dog-suddenly-killed-our-kitten-despite-years-of-living-safely-with-cats tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390608 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 18:39:19 GMT Salicornia animal Dogs https://ask.metafilter.com/390608/Dog-suddenly-killed-our-kitten-despite-years-of-living-safely-with-cats/rss Brazilian Girls 'Good Time' from? Start of the week with a one and done Ask fam.]]> https://ask.metafilter.com/390607/ID-this-sample-I-only-need-10-seconds-of-your-time tag:ask.metafilter.com,2026:site.390607 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 18:00:52 GMT 99_ musicid musicidentification https://ask.metafilter.com/390607/ID-this-sample-I-only-need-10-seconds-of-your-time/rss