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Scary-Sexy Halloween tricks and treats.. on a budget.

2011-10-06T09:48:00.001-07:00

It's almost Halloween! The time of year where we can get away with wearing our leather boots and lingerie in public...yes!

Halloween is on a Monday this year, so that means tons of parties and events will be happening the entire weekend prior! Don't sweat the costume budget, or decline an invite because you're worried about the funds. Get the most out of your holiday with some fun toys, and sexy ideas.

You can grab a sexy costume pretty much anywhere. Online retailers and pop-up shops are already stocked with options, but can be pricey. The BIG question is, who do you want to be? If you're budget is limited, but you have a party, a school parade, and neighborhood trick-or-treating, you may want to get something that can be modified for each event. Sexy skirts and shorts can be made more modest with leggings or long skirts. Bra tops can be layered under vests, or jackets. Think of how to maximize your dollars by using accessories you have in your closet, or ask a friend to borrow something from theirs. Don't want to be the same thing at each event? Grab a costume that could be made up into different themes. A long black dress can easily become a witch, Elvira, or a pirate! A slinky red dress transforms into a nurse, a devil, or a pirate with the right accessories.

Event tickets getting you down? There are tons of bar parties, underground events, and cover charges... keep the costs down by choosing one or two parties to hit. Opt for a friends' party, then a local pub, or spend the entire night at an amusement park. Eat and drink before you go to avoid spending extra cash on over-priced food and libations. (But make sure to be aware of your local drinking laws, and don't get busted with a flask if you're not allowed to be carrying one.)

Thinking it's too expensive to dress up and go out? Stay in for a night of goose-bumps and spine chills with your own personal devil.

A splash of red can make any black bra and panty set feel a little more Halloween-ish. Or grab this hot number for less than $40.

Just add a devil headband that you can get at any drugstore, or steal it from your kids' dress-up box!

Sexy toys are available in all different colors and themes, and All Hallows Eve is no different. Sleek black vibrators, devil red couples rings, and silver bullets to pierce your most vital organs are just the beginning.

There's a whole collection of Death by Orgasm vibes, or get your own crafty boxes at Michael's and create your own lustful kit. Trust me, a lot more than candy fit into these adorable packages....here are a few spooky suggestions to create a sexy night at home.

1. Twilight encounter
Light a fire, and several candles all around the room, pick up some vampire gloves to stimulate your lovers neck and body. These gloves can be used lightly, or with added pressure to provide a pleasurable painful piercing or scratching of the skin. Black or red velveteen fabric
draped on the floor or bed will also provide more sensation play for naked skin.

2. Chocolate Fantasy
Melt Chocolate body fondue by Booty Parlor is an easy way to turn your lover into a delicious treat. But don't just pour on and lick off... make it a sexy massage. Use your warm chocolate sauce as a warm massage oil and relax your partner with firm hands, while you stimulate their erogenous zones, building up the excitement. Then dive into your dessert! Definitely have a old sheet that you can just throw away, or invest in vinyl bedsheets... you never know when you might want to use them again!

3. Pirate playtime
Yo ho, yo ho, a pirate's life for me. There's a lot of sexy outfits for this role play experience, but you can easily make some up with things you already have at home. A scarf, an earring, or your kid's Captain Jack hat should do the trick! Get some rope from your local hardware store and tack up some sheer curtains around your bed to give it that lush nautical pirate feel. Other items you might want include a feather tickler, a dagger, and a bottle of your favorite poison.

Tie up your wench, or your Captain and begin to act out your pirate fantasies! These are some of my favorite pirate toy choices, but just a few pirate words may be enough to get your salty sea juices flowing! Make sure to always use a safe word for any kind of bondage play (light or heavy)

Pirate Rub my Duckie comes in his own Tresure Chest for easy storage and added flair.

The Inked Glass is perfect for couples who want to feel a little dangerous while probing their restrained prisoner.

However you spend your frightful night, play safe, and indulge responsibly.

To Cheat or not to cheat... can be a dilemma

2011-09-15T09:41:00.000-07:00

I've posted a lot of interesting articles on my Facebook Fanpage and gotten some heated discussions about infidelity, so I wanted to write one of my own, and ask a different question. Do you indulge your needs and desires, or go a lifetime feeling like you missed out on something.

Of all the friends I know who have personally cheated on their significant other, or been cheated on by a significant other and KNOWN ABOUT IT, I would venture to say that all of them are happier people, whatever the direct result of that infidelity was. Some got divorced and remarried, some worked through their situation, some were never discovered, but found a new appreciation for their marriage after the fact.

So the dilemma occurs when the opportunity to cheat presents itself and the person making the decision is unsure of what they want, or should want to do. As "good" married folk, of course the answer is NOT CHEAT. But for a person who feels like something is missing in their life, the answer isn't as clear.

The true answer lies somewhere in the question. Who are you cheating? Are you cheating your spouse from a honest relationship with you? Are you cheating yourself from all the pleasures this life has to give? Or are you cheating the relationship itself from being everything you want it to be.

Most of the women I know who have cheated do it for reasons outside of sex. They crave attention. They want to feel desired. They want to escape the realities of their boring lives. But sometimes it's also about the sex itself. They want different sex. They want better sex. They want sex with someone other than the person they've slept with for the past several years.

It's not much different for men. While it can start as a simple physical attraction to a stranger, it can also provide the same emotional benefits that come from an affair. Both sexes want to feel desired again, they want to know that they are wanted on a purely physical level. Lusted after. Not needed, but wanted.

So there are three answers to this question:

1. Cheat your partner-Indulge in a one-night stand with a complete stranger or a past lover. Experience the needs you so desperately desire, but know that it may not end there. That you've most likely just had a temporary fix to a much larger problem.

2. Cheat yourself-swallow your pride, and suppress your longings. Your relationship is the priority, and your partner's happiness is more important than a few moments of ecstasy. But don't be surprised if you find yourself having to make this decision again later in life.

3. Cheat your relationship-This is accomplished with either 1 or 2. So instead, why not take a chance at honesty. Bite the bullet and talk to you spouse. What if we could discuss the desire to cheat with our spouses, wouldn't it lead us to discovering the desires and needs that are buried beneath years of marriage? I realize that for some people, cheating provides an easy answer and solution to this problem. But nobody said marriage would be easy. It must be infinitely harder to deal with the guilt, shame, and loneliness of being caught, than to deal with the honest conversations that would come of us sharing our most intimate thoughts. The thoughts that we would share with a best friend, and yet, can't share with our life partner.

Would our husbands and wives really rather not know that we have needs? Would they rather we worked out our issues on our own? Do you think the really would rather not now about a torrid love affair than just hear a few painful words of truth? I realize for some of you, the answer is yes. Your husbands and wives would rather live in oblivion that find out about a one-night stand, or long term lover. They would rather not rock the boat, and keep life less messy and continue in deliberate denial.

Food for thought:
I interviewed a man several years ago who has an internet talk show all about the subject of living life to it's fullest. Part of what he preaches is that people should do what they want, WHATEVER they want. He doesn't believe the sanctity of marriage, or even the other person involved should make impact on your decision to live for your pleasure. I had a hard time with this. While I think people should live happy, fulfilled lives, I think you give up some of that autonomy when you commit to another person who expects you to be monogamous. I think there is something to be accountable for when what you do affects other people. This is his point however. He believes that you shouldn't be responsible for anyone's happiness but your own.

He is married, by the way. And his wife also lives according to the same creed. Marriage, like divorce, is different for everyone. CHOOSE how your marriage will be.

Public displays of affection just got sexier!

2011-07-24T09:35:00.000-07:00

Liberator has created a new way to share your lovemaking with the world! An art kit to discover and display what your intimacy "looks" like!

Each kit includes a 54" x 41" specially treated canvas, 4 oz bottle of non-toxic black paint, two pairs of disposable slippers, and an 80" x 90" protective sheet (drop cloth) to keep your love-art easy to clean up.

While the idea is not new, the ability to create this on your own was a task. Having to get the canvas, paints, and of course clean it up, took the fun out of making the art before you even got started. Now you have everything you need in an easy to use kit!

I would suggest getting a few paint brushes before you get started to begin the erotic foreplay before you hit the canvas. The paint comes in a squeeze bottle, so if you wanted to bring out your Pollock skills, that works too. But there's something about a soft paintbrush dancing over your most sensuous body parts that gets the blood pumping, and imaginations running... I would also have a camera on hand to document the body art before you look like a human ant....Now comes the fun stuff! Lie down and writhe all over the canvas, and see what your lovemaking creates!

Get it mounted and hang it over your bed to inspire your passions every night, or put in up in the living room or dining room to spark sexy conversations with friends.

Thanks Liberator for the sexy ways to keep the bedroom (or any other room) adventurous!

Not your childhood teddy bear....

2011-05-02T22:48:00.000-07:00

When we were kids, there was something about the comfort of our favorite teddy bear. We snuggled him in close when we fell asleep, took a long car ride, or stayed over at a friends house. We knew everything would be okay as long as "teddy" was there to hug.

The childhood security blanket has returned, only this time, your teddy bear has a new purpose!

Adorable vibrators called Bzzz Buddies are making headlines with adult toy retailers. Not only do these cute little pocket rocket style vibes bring back our youth, they also remind us that sex should be fun and playful. Their website is designed to play and explore as well! You can download some kawai (means "cute" in Japanese) wallpaper, read the stories for all the characters, and even vote for your favorite friend.

But the fun starts when you turn your buddies on! Powerful, waterproof, and functional, these toys provide external stimulation all over the body. Use them during foreplay to stimulate the nipples, tickle the neck, or back of the knees. Then apply to the clitoris with any of the four attachment heads, or the basic tip for some good vibrations!

Powered by one AA battery, these pocket rocket style vibes can also be used during oral sex for him or her. Use on the labia, or shaft of the penis while giving head and watch their pleasure peak. She'll be hugging her teddy bear alright.... with her legs!

Made of hard plastic, this toy is phthalate free, and perfect for a first time vibe, or a toy collector!

The only drawback to having such an adorable toy is having kids. There's NO WAY a kid could resist picking up this colorful massager, so you'd better hide it well, sexy mamas!

When discretion is a must!

2011-04-27T11:49:00.000-07:00

There are many times during the day when we would love to have a battery operated boyfriend by our side to take care of our needs when they arise. But carrying around phallic toy just won't cut it. Especially if you have a young child who would love nothing but announcing your secret friend at your next playdate or school meeting.

What's a gal to do if she want to have a toy on hand but is at risk of being caught?! here are some of my suggestions for discrete toys that get the job done, but won't turn your cheeks red if it spills out of your purse while you're in public.

The new Luxe Rejuvenate from Cal Exotics has the look of a sleek pod. It features 7 different levels of vibration, as well as pulsing and escalating vibrations. It's design is actually quite effective at giving oneself a deep tissue neck massage! It fits easily into your hand, making it easy to slip your hands into your crotch when you have a moment to yourself. Look out, you may find yourself being scolded for having your "hands down your pants," instead of doing the nagging yourself!

Want to get creative with the Rejuvenate? Use it to stimulate his perineum or anus and really kick the action into high gear!

Sophisticated, technie, and discreet, the Lelo Mia is the perfect vibe for the woman on the go.

It plugs into your laptop to charge via your USB port! This small yet powerful vibe has the design to take care of your external or internal desires. Recently improved, the power of the motor has been doubled since the previous design (which I own, and enjoy!). As you can see, it's small enough to fit in a purse, pocket, or laptop case, and looks like a lipstick or a memory stick!

Never again will you be embarrassed if your mother goes through your things, or your child is rifling through your bag. Don't be surprise if your husband tries to transfer files onto it and is frustrated when they can't! Be sure to wash it before and after use.... just in case they've tried.

And lastly, for the outdoor-sy gal who owns a bullet holder, she can discreetly store her Rocks-off RO 120-mm Bullet vibrator! This kick-ass vibrator boasts 5 levels of vibration with just the touch of a button. And as most outdoors women would want, is waterproof and built to last!

The 120-mm bullet has a soft tip and is available in six different colors. Grab your favorite, or collect 'em all. Afterall, everyone should have a hobby, right?!

Now your iphone really can be a vibrator!

2011-03-28T12:41:00.000-07:00

Earlier this year, OhMiBod launched Body Heat, an app that remotely controls your OhMiBod vibrator! You can customize your settings, adjusting vibration levels and patterns by sliding your finger on the touch screen. Nobody will ever suspect as you play on your phone that there's a party in your pants! Find a beat you love? Simply lift your finger off the screen to continue the current vibration. When you've finished, shake the iphone or ipad to reset the app. You can record and save your favorite experiences and call them up when you're feeling frisky. Name one for your favorite lover! Here's the video from Youtube about how to use this super cool and sexy app!

Compatible vibes include the wireless Freestyle G and wired Club Vibe models. Both vibes provide the same funky beat thumping and pulsating vibes powered by either your ipod, mp3 player, or the music in your favorite clubs. The cheaper models ($50-$59) require batteries, while the higher end models ($120) are rechargeable and hold a buzz for 5 hours... unlike your vodka redbull.

Not only will you be the owner of one of the coolest vibes on the market, but you can also remotely control your lover's vibe. Lights clicked on yet?! Go out dancing with your lover and make sure they're wearing their club vibe.... can we say erotic dancing? Never before could you get someone off in public without risking a lewd conduct misdemeanor.

Feeling naughty? It's ON!

Valentine's Day 2011-what will you do?! Part3-Getting Wild!

2011-01-21T15:06:00.001-08:00

Wanna get wild? Get these!

Tired of giving and receiving the same old boring roses? Grab this vibrating rose couples ring from Hustler Toys instead! Or better yet, grab 11 red roses and add this one to the bouquet.

You're so getting laid!

And when you do, it'll give her stimulation right where she wants it most, and you get to deliver it to her while it provides you with added tingles too. Need me to draw a map? Just shoot me an email :)

Liberator's limited edition heart wedge doubles as both sex furniture and decorative pillow! This cute wedge is available in multiple colors to match your bedroom, and has the same great shape to enhance your lovemaking. Lay over the slope and tilt your pelvis to expose nerve endings to enhance pleasure during oral sex or penetration. Great for either partner, this wedge may just become your new best friend.

On by Sensuva was launched last year, but is now gaining momentum as the best stimulating product for women, and let me tell you, it works! At the toy show I sampled it on my tongue, but at home, I put it where it belongs.... oh baby. It really does travel as it is absorbed by the body. It starts warm and tingly on the external parts (clitoris, labia) but then as your intercourse begins, it travels deeper to stimulate the G-spot and vaginal canal, providing you with an erotic experience normally only achieved through "other" less legal methods. This transforms the monotonous romp into the blissful desire you watch in the movies, or while reading books.... "men are more interesting in books than in real life"-The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows Until you've tried ON!

Kama Sutra's Impulse Stimulating gel and vibrating roll-on applicator. Smart! Obviously if you've got a vibrator applying the stimulating gel to your clitoris, you're going to get more blood pumping. At a suggested retail of $19.95, it's totally worth a try! The battery power seemed a little weak, but it's an "ap-pli-ca-tor" afterall :) Smart people at Kama Sutra!

Valentine's Day 2011-what will you do?! Part2-Sensual Body Products

2011-01-19T08:35:00.000-08:00

New sensual body products!

Lelo's Limited Edition Soy Massage candle is the perfect gift that keeps on giving. The box is beautiflly designed to evoke a sense of romance, and inside is their Black PEPPER AND POMEGRANATE scented soy candle. The candle boasts a burn time of up to 36 hours, and once the candle is gone, the glass jar is perfect for storing sexy things on your nightstand or countertop. If you don't care about the limited edition box, you can also choose from their other erotic infusions:

VANILLA & CRÈME DE CACAO
Rich, creamy, and silky smooth; indulge your sweet tooth with a delectable top note of vanilla that gives way to the intoxicating aroma of crème de cacao.

SNOW PEAR & CEDARWOOD
Light and crisp as a breeze off the surf; set yourself adrift on the playful waves of cedarwood accented with a enticing top note of snow pear.

What says Valentine's Day like chocolate?

Kama Sutra announces new flavors of body paint! Their best selling chocolate body paint is now available in Dark Chocolate Raspberry and Rich Caramel. The Dark Chocolate Raspberry tastes like a dessert liquor, while the Rich Caramel is tasty enough to pour onto your favorite vanilla ice cream. Either flavor is the perfect thing for edible play.

What KS has to say, "For those who have been tempted by their creative side, indulge your artistic muse with this decadently rich body paint. Includes your choice of Lover's Body Paint and a supple paintbrush to create your masterpiece. Note: Refrigerate after opening; to reheat, microwave briefly on a low setting or place the jar in warm water .... if there's any left over!"

Part 3- "Getting Wild" is coming soon....

Valentine's Day 2011-what will you do?! Part1-Sexy gift packages and games

2011-01-17T21:47:00.001-08:00

Need tips for a sexy Valentine's day surprise for your lover? I've got the low down on new products to make it as romantic or erotic as you want! These are my pics for the big day....(it was a long post, so I broke it down into sections, part 2 and 3 on the way...)

New romantic packages and sexy games to play!
Grab these newly designed scratch cards to reveal an entire years worth of romantic ideas. Afterall, Valentine's day should be every day. Each kit comes with 26 cards for each of you! One set for him and one for her to read and perform. Really the black satin bag is the key. Whenever you see the black bag on the your pillow, you know it's ON!

Kinky Pleasures is an all new collection of scratch and reveal cards for those who want to take their lovemaking to the next level. Been married awhile? Need to rev up the relationship? Go for these truly kinky and seductive cards. Hell, you may not even have to open the box, the suggestion of what's inside could be enough to set both of your pants on fire!

Don't need all that? Grab the adult version of boxed candy that says what you really mean! Let's F*ck candy heart box is full of individually wrapped conversation hearts that say it like you mean it! Quotes like "F*ck me silly" and "I'm Easy" are just a few of the surprising candies inside.... perfect for those ladies who aren't good at talking dirty! Y'know, all the things you want to say in bed, but you feel silly saying?

Kama Sutra's Cupid Collection sets the mood, provides the game, and the tools to make your Valentine's night one of the sexiest ever! KS's description, "This exploratory gift set allows lovers to discover the pleasure of the unknown. Gently tie the satin blindfold around the eyes to remove the sense of sight and allow your sense of touch, taste, smell and hearing to heighten and guide you through the pleasure of your love. Featured in this playful gift set are: Red satin blindfold, Strawberry Honey dust with feather tickler and lightly scented silk rose petals to create your romantic setting."

Penis Envy?-Learn to pee standing up and you won't anymore...

2011-01-07T17:09:00.000-08:00

Sounds strange, right? Why would I want to learn how to pee standing up? I like being a woman, I like having to hide behind a dirty stall door, placing toilet seat covers or layers of tee pee over a seat so I can take my time while sitting to urinate. Sure! I have a vague recollection of not rushing while I relieve my bladder, but in the last 9 years since I have had children, I don't recall having a leisurely pee....

I do recall having to go to the toilet in disgusting bathrooms in malls, gas stations, movie theatres, amusement parks, and especially port-a-pottys in parks, where the seat was no where near clean and I felt like showering in bleach afterward.

So where do I sign up? Take a class at the local parks and rec? Do they offer this type of thing in moms groups or hospitals? I introduce you to Stacy Kwan and her Stand2Pee program! Available on DVD for your own private lesson in the comfort of your own home and toilet.

I knew that when I started the DVD I wouldn't be watching a video worthy of an Oscar, but it was still funny when the program began. Stacy is very serious about her pee-ing program, and at times you just want to bust up laughing. Her "models"/students are cute young girls who are equally maintaining their composure even thought the subject matter is hysterical. I kind of keep waiting for the girl-girl porn to begin, because while there is nothing sexual about the video, the cute young girls look a bit uncomfortable, in the "something's about to happen" kind of way. Stacy interviews them about They even share their stories and experiences about why they want to learn how to stand and pee. With a little more creativity and even gimmicky additions, this video could rock!

Stacy is extremely thorough and I love how she covers all the bases for the topic. She tells us why we want to learn, where all our body parts are located, and how to actually do the steps, without showing a real vagina! Super classy, well shot, and well written. I wish she would smile more, and be silly with the subject matter, but hey, it's her video, not mine :) There is some slight nudity (a couple of naked asses) but otherwise is not only tastefully done, but complete. Each young woman performs their first attempt standing in the bathtub, second attempt with jeans on, and third attempt over the toilet. I feel completely empowered to learn and plan on standing to pee outside of my shower!

To get your copy, visit her website at http://www.stand2pee.com

Condoms for safe sex, now available as a fashion statement.

2011-01-03T12:38:00.000-08:00

We all knew condoms were great for protecting us from unwanted disease and pregnancy, but who knew they could also help define your personality and maybe even help get you laid?!

OhMiBod created a special belt buckle to hold your love gloves in the easiest place to get to it when you need it most! You can get an assorted pack of One Condoms to change it up whenever you head out. Sizes for women and men so either sex can be stylishly ready for action. Their motto? "Buckle up before you cuddle up!"

The true fashion accessory is the condom itself however. One Condoms are so well packaged, you almost don't want to open them.... almost.

Check out their new contest for condom covers!

Want to get in on the fun? Design your own condom cover and if you win, you'll get a cash prize, a donation of condoms sent on your behalf, and of course a years supply for your own consensual indiscretions. Imagine dropping this line at a bar, "I designed this condom myself."

Not into the round packaging? Don't fret! Good things still come in square packages! David Bircham, a professional anime artist has teamed up with Ooo Boutique and created the "Art of Lust" line of artsy condoms.

Each of the three designs is a unique style of FDA approved condoms. The Feel Me is a sheer latex, the Savor me has three flavored condoms, and the Rock me features a flared design.... hmmm, does that mean it adds girth at the tip, or the base? I just had a weird image of a penis wearing a pair of bell-bottoms...

And lastly, but certainly not your last option when it comes to safe sex....

You can wear your politics in your pants! Practice Safe Policy are condoms makers who like to stimulate conversations along with potential decision making. Palin condoms are perfect for those little reminders about making the right choice. Grab some with sayings like, "When Abortion is not an option," or "as thin as her resume," to show your prospective bed partners that you're an involved, educated, and responsible American. Obama and McCain condoms also available!

Not sure you want all this pizazz on your penis? Check out my article on other latex and non-latex condoms, but always practice safe sex!

UCLA study suggests that women avoid fathers as ovualtion nears.... according the cell phone report?

2010-12-02T14:58:00.000-08:00

Is it just me, or does this seem a little strange? I just read the study conducted by not one, but THREE PhD's who have come to the conclusion that women tend to avoid their fathers as they head toward ovulation each month. Okay, this seems reasonable, but how they came to this conclusion based on cell phone bills from less than 50 women is where I get lost.

Can a study of less than 50 women with tremendous amounts of uncontrolled variables really bring us to some sort of scientific conclusion worthy of the University of California's funding?

These are screen shots from the actual report which explains the study in blaringly disturbing detail. It goes on to report that these women, who's average age was 19, didn't answer calls from their fathers more frequently as they neared high fertility, and didn't initiate calls to their fathers as often during these times. They did; however, answer calls from and initiate calls to their mothers. Seems like it could be argued that they wanted more feminine, or motherly contact during these times.

And what was possibly happening during this time in their lives? Were they hanging out at home more, therefore decreasing the need to call their parents? Were they in the midst of finals? Did they just break up with a boyfriend? So many questions, and no real answers.

I emailed all three of these PhD's asking for some additional details on their findings, and not one even replied. (and no, there wasn't a mail return either) I wonder how we can get away with the lack of funds for elementary schools all around the country and yet universities are throwing money away on ridiculous and useless data.

College Coeds rejoice! There's a new way to stay up all night long...

2010-11-15T08:08:00.000-08:00

The Shane's World Sorority party vibe is a colorful and powerful waterproof probe that can handle any subject! Are you a beginner? Use this vibe to help you find all the spots that make you squeal! Intense vibrations are great for stimulating the clitoris and outer labia, and the smooth probe glides easily for vaginal insertion.

Feeling a little frisky? Use the slim probe for some anal adventures, but make sure not to let it go, this probe has no base, and no retrieval cords, which leaves you to this dismaying challenge, trying to find a way to get it out! (should it happen to get sucked into your anal canal....)

My overall take on the vibe:
I dig the color and the velvety soft material. Every gal should have a standard issue vibe, one that doesn't require an owner's manual and gets the job done. While we may love our rabbits, sometimes we just like some plain ole insertion. I'm not that excited about the packaging, I would probably never pull this one off a store wall, but once it's out of the plastic clamshell and the image of the dumb college nymph is out of mind, you'll be able to love it like your own.

National Sex Toy Day!

2010-11-04T08:47:00.001-07:00

My Pleasure is giving away 1000 free vibrators and other goodies in honor of National Sex Toy Day! Grab yours here and get your buzz on!

Don't want the free vibe? Get 50% off anything in stock at Domestic Goddess Studio and Romance Boutique through November 15th! Just make an appointment to come by and shop for sexy products and sensual vibes!

Email me to make an appointment or call! 888-294-9048

Death by Orgasm and other Halloween treats!

2010-10-28T20:49:00.001-07:00

It's Halloween! The time of year when we can become someone else, and let our alter ego come out and play! What better time to take advantage of the fact that you have the freedom to be sexy, slutty, or even a bit naughty without explanation.

Adult toys are designed for use throughout the year, but at holiday time the toys get even more festive! Check out the Death by Orgasm collection from LoveHoney. PLUS, play their online game here! www.deathbyorgasm.com

The Fang Banger is my favorite toy in this collection, even though I love the coffin boxes that the other vibes are packaged in! Check out the awesome description for this vibrating couples ring. (Twilight fans everywhere will be begging for one of these.)

It's the best way to enjoy sex with another being - alive or undead! If your sexual desires are as strong as your blood-lust, slide this rich red cock ring over his stiff love stake and the vibrating fangs will make you scream... with pleasure!

Slide the skin-safe Fang Banger over his manhood with the fangs pointing towards you. To activate the two vibrating bullets, simply press the button on each and feel coffin-shattering vibrations.

Made from skin-safe silicone. Does not contain latex, phthalates, garlic or anything else harmful to the living or the undead.

The perfect sexy supernatural accessory for every Fang Banger (people who enjoy sex with vampires). Biting optional.

Garlic-free. Undead-friendly. Holy Waterproof.

Uh, "yes, please!!"

The Scorpion is a bit scary, and the other vibes seem rather plain, but like they say, "It's all about the presentation." And all of these vibes will provide stimulating sensations for your fright night encounters.

More fun treats that were made for sexy tricks? The pirate Rub my Duckie and Devil Duckie!

These vibes are the perfect discreet toy for your playmate. They're waterproof, making them an ideal addition to your shower or bathtub should you decide to get a little frisky in the water.

So leave the candy to the kids, and grab some sexy fun for your night free from virtue or duty.

Am I a Cougar?!

2010-10-24T08:44:00.000-07:00

There's been a lot of hype surrounding "cougars" in the past few years, Demi Moore has Ashton Kutcher, Courtney Cox had David Arquette, and there are websites popping up so that younger men and cougars can find each other. It seems as though it is almost a new trend to be a cougar, even though women (and men) have been "robbing the cradle" for years.

While I am halfway through my 30's, I am hardly an older woman. I was recently at a bar dancing with some friends and young guys who were celebrating one of their birthdays, and I was asked by another guy who was watching us why I was dancing with someone who was clearly much younger than me.

I was taken aback for a moment that this guy was essentially offending me by calling me old, and then got annoyed that he was kind of calling me a "cougar!" My girlfriend heard the exchange of words, and defended him saying, "He just wanted to dance with you himself." So, his way of asking me to dance was to offend me. Nice.

I don't often dish out pick-up advice or single person bar etiquette, but I feel like the guys who are out at these bars are missing something.

To the single guy at the bar:
-I am a married woman who is out dancing at a bar.
-I am wearing my wedding ring, and will admit to being married if asked.
-I enjoy dancing A LOT.
-I do not like being groped while dancing, but do enjoy grooving or even "freaking" with you if vibe is right.
-I generally will gravitate toward a dance partner who is having fun, and is not concerned if they appear to be dorky.... these guys tend to be YOUNGER.
-Don't expect to get my number, since I am not looking to date or have an affair.
-Don't be upset when you ask for my number and I tell you I am married. I wasn't hiding anything from you the last hour we were dancing.

That being said, I must acknowledge that there is another party to address. The actual cougars themselves. Yes guys, there are married women out there who do want to take you home, maybe go on a date, and perhaps even participate in an affair. This comes from a lack of passion in their life, not just their marriage, and they are looking for you to fill the empty void that has now become their reality. Be gentle with them.

To the Cougars:
-The young men will scope out the bars for the hot young chicks first, then as the clock ticks and the booze flows, they will be drawn to your deeper sense of self confidence and willingness to enjoy yourself without fear of what others think.
-Don't drink too much, beer goggles go both ways!
-Don't shit where you sleep. Most likely you are in a bar where someone might actually know you or your husband. Be respectful of appearances to some degree. You can save all the inappropriate touching for later.
-Don't fall in-love. You're picking up a band-aid, not a replacement part. This guy will never fill your husband's shoes so don't expect him to.
-Understand the difference between sex and love.

This is a tough one since most likely you haven't had much of either in your life lately. Love is respectful, considerate, kind, and UNCONDITIONAL. Love knows who you are at puking from the stomach flu, and what's underneath the make-up and hair during your best moments. Love can understand that you have a need to feel beautiful, desirable and full of life. Which brings me to me next rant.

To the one who is left at home:
-If you are shocked by this advice, get over it.
-Your wife (or husband) was once young and appealing to the opposite sex.
-Sometimes, all that is needed is to be seen, to be acknowledged by someone other than you. We all have an ego, and we all have the need for attention, be it shallow or not.
-Don't think you can be the center of someone else's universe and then be shocked when it implodes.
-Try to give your partner the freedom to be sexy. You might be surprised and find that the more freedom you give them, the less inclined they are to use it.

Some men won't allow their wives out dancing with their girlfriends thinking that they might be tempted to stray from their marriage. Personally I find this rather condescending. I am not a child, and I am in control of what I do with my body.

I am equally saddened to hear women say they don't allow their husbands to go to a strip club or attend a Vegas bachelor party for the same reason.

Define the boundaries in your relationships, and trust that your partner is capable of keeping their promise to you. Infidelity happens, but the chances increase if one or the other feel trapped in their relationship. Keep an open line of communication and expect the best of each other.

Good 'ole penetration-with a few extras!

2010-10-02T08:59:00.000-07:00

Let's face it gals, there's several thousand vibrators we can choose from to satisfy our desires, but for some of us, all it takes is some vibrating penetration. Just like the good 'ole days of medical treatment for hysteria, these vibes release stress and anxiety, allowing us to feel normal again.

But unlike the ancient vibes of our grandmothers, we have more options! Buying a vibrator these days is much like buying a car, you can choose your color, go for more green options to make less of a carbon footprint, automatic or manual transmissions, cruise control.... you get the idea.

For a thick and powerful ride, go for the Sassy Swirl!

A phthalate free vibe made of PVC, at the base I can just wrap my hand comfortably around the shaft. It has a bulbous tip perfect for clitoral or G spot stimulation, and is nearly 7" in length. On Cal Exotics website, they say it's quiet, but it's not the most subtle sound I've ever heard. It's definitely got some horsepower! It takes three AAA's and gives you low to high vibration, and has 10 different patterns of pulsation (thumping) and escalation (a gradual rise in intensity).

And check this out!
Talk about your options! This ride comes with a magic memory chip so that whatever your last setting was is saved for the next time you turn on your vibe! The bendable shaft can be torqued to wrap around the pelvic area giving grinders the clitoral attention they want while still having something to wrap their vaginal muscles around.

Want something a with a little less flash? Try the Liberte 1 from the Couture Collection.

This sleek vibrator is more slender than the Sassy Swirl and vibrates at a higher frequency. While it's only about 5" in length and as thick as a thick-handed man's thumb, it's added texture makes it completely capable of satisfying your needs.

With ONE BUTTON to control the vibration, it's simple to operate. However, if you accidentally turn it to a new setting and want to go back, you'll need to scroll through the options to find the one you liked.

The Liberte has a stiff shaft and is made of silicone, a higher grade material that is smooth and non-porous. With a little of your favorite lube, this vibe will have you melting like you're at the mercy of a lover's well-trained finger.

L'Amour... in case you wanted to fall in love?

2010-08-30T22:45:00.000-07:00

Personally I'd prefer to keep my romantic notions away from my sex toys, but there are some that had me at hello. This one feels like you're being french kissed.... in the vagina.

The new silicone multi-function vibe is a sexy and smooth shaft with powerful clitoral ticklers. Normally adorned with two rabbit ears, this vibe has three ticklers to fully encase the clitoral hood. There are easy to use power, vibration, and rotation buttons on the battery controller base. So for those of us who just start smashing buttons to make our high-tech vibes start or stop, be relieved.

I was excited to watch the sensual rotation of the shaft, it appears as though to have a snake-like wave along with the rotation. It might be an optical illusion as the tip of the shaft has a slightly larger thumb-shaped bulge. If the slight churning doesn't do it for you, you can bend the shaft to create larger circles of rotation without damaging the toy. The motor on the shaft is not as impressive as the power bumper, but if you relax your vaginal muscles, it shouldn't stop while penetrating. Of course, you may not have a choice once the clitoral vibrations kick you into muscle-contracting orgasms! They will at least slow down a bit, if not stop completely.

This toy is waterproof, so feel confident while washing, but as with most other "waterproof" toys, I wouldn't truly submerge unless you want to run the risk of losing your new investment.

Overall this toy's smooth shaft is thick enough to let you know it's there without being an obvious penetrator. Good for women who don't want the stuffing effect, but still want some vaginal and G-spot stimulation. Not a hard-core pounding, this one lives up to it's name. It's a toy for lovers.

The Teenage Sex Alternative

2010-08-30T01:23:00.001-07:00

MTV's Teen Moms may be a show designed to chronicle the difficulties of being a teen mom, but I wonder if the impact of television and the media negates the point. Bristol Palin and Levi Johnston made headlines all over the world with their "shameful," yet "celebrated" teenage parenthood. While teenagers everywhere will get an education on young parenting, the delivery and sensationalism presenting the material is confusing.

I am all for young people having the support they need to raise a family. I believe in a woman's (or girl's) right to choose. I appreciate the stories that are shared and the difficult decisions that are involved in pregnancy at any age. I understand that many teenagers are faced with pregnancy, as there were many in my own graduating class. But I am baffled at the lack of sex education we are able, and willing, to present.

My own school district begins teaching basic sex education in 4th grade. But really it started back in Pre-school. My kids were segregated by sex at the age of three, teaching them the importance of gender classification. By First grade, they were read stories about men farmers who worked hard, and the female wives who cooked, cleaned, and raised the kids. It may not be the "birds and the bees," but it is every bit as influential on the overall message of sex in this country.

Instead of open discussions about sex, schools teach the biology of sex... heterosexual, procreating sex. Yes, it is the parent's option to have these conversations, and they should be the ones to create an open environment to discuss these topics. But let's face it, parents are not always qualified to be parents. Who showed us how to parent? Our own parents? Books written for the masses to create a safe and compliant society?

I have come to realize that what is needed is sex-positive education. Kids shouldn't just be taught how men and women have sex that leads to pregnancy; therefore, subliminally telling them they need the opposite sex to lead a fulfilling life. We should be teaching sexuality in all forms. Kissing, masturbation, same sex relations, and how to fulfill the emotional needs that are generally filled by premature sexual encounters.

We shut them off from sex toys and tell them to do their "private touching" behind close doors, and then we're surprised when they find another human being with whom to explore and discover their bodies?

Why not empower the sexuality of our teenagers? Create a judgement-free zone for them to have conversations about their needs, so they can find other safe ways to fulfill them. Then perhaps they won't have to face the more difficult choices of abortion, adoption, or teenage parenthood. It might be brutally uncomfortable at first, but in the end, we are here to teach our children about how to live a happy life.

Sex is a major component to adult relationships. Just like death, sex is inevitable. Instead of sheltering our youth and trying to suppress their natural desires, give them permission to have needs. Then hand them a masturbator sleeve, or a vibrator and send them to their rooms for private time. Sure it's scary to think of our babies getting it on with themselves, and I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but they're doing it anyway.

Need a little tease? The perfect beginner toys

2010-07-24T20:22:00.000-07:00

I often meet women at my parties who are shopping for their first vibrators. They generally sit respectfully listening to my presentation and are intrigued by the buzzing bullets and rockets that pass their way. By the time the rabbits are in their hands, their eyes begin to glaze over. Then when it's ordering time, their palms get sweaty and their stomachs get a little nervous as they ask me what the best recommendation is for a first time buyer.

Pocket rockets have always been a great beginner vibrator. It doesn't look like a vibrator, but is powerful enough to send them into clitoral orgasm. They can be tossed into a handbag, nightstand, or suitcase, and require little user education to get the job done.

The new Lil Teasers from Cal Exotics also have the same benefits, but instead of hard plastic are soft silicone.

They are only 3-4" in length, and turn on with a simple twist of the base. They are waterproof and come in three different styles, for whatever floats your boat. They can be used externally for clitoral stimulation, or inserted for vaginal, G-spot, or prostate stimulation.

As they are silicone, you should do a patch test with your silicone lubricants to ensure they will not alter the material. Water-based lubricants of all kinds can also be used. So grab your favorite flavored, warming, or stimulating lube and kick it up a notch!

Sex is Natural... your lube should be too.

2010-07-22T10:03:00.000-07:00

As my quest for greener living ensues, I find myself contemplating personal pleasure lotions and products as I recommend them to others. Ultimately I have come to realize that there are so many things out there we could be afraid of and avoid, but we also have a lot of options for things that are less harmful to our bodies that can bring us so much joy! Be they foods, enhancement creams, or battery operated boyfriends.... everything in moderation.

That being said, my heart has fallen for a line of products that came out a few years ago, dedicated to using ingredients that are not know to cause health risks or infections in our lovely lady parts. When they hit the market with their line of sensual body products, I was thrilled. Now with the introduction of lubricants that warm, soothe, and protect, I am head over heels.

Intimate organics not only educates us about what is in our body products, but offers effective natural substitutes. Suburban housewives in my area were buzzing about the KY his and hers when their marketing campaign went into high gear, but soon afterward, I heard stories of women having to wash off the intense heat, or suffering from annoying reactions.... not so sexy.

May I introduce you to MELT?
This warming lubricant is true to it's name. And isn't that what we really want anyway? We don't want to light a fire in our vaginas, we just want them to melt.
...Like when Edward leans into Bella and doesn't kiss her....

Infused with Cinnomamum bark, this silky liquid warms the body and builds as the friction increases.

Need some protection?

Defense is a paraben and glycerin free water-based lubricant with sea kelp and guava bark. Use this lube to help maintain healthy floras and protect the delicate balance of your vaginal bacteria. Yes, I just said that.

For those of us gals who are sensitive to toys and creams, this lube is a blessing.

Feeling adventurous?
Soothe is a plant derived glycerin lubricant designed to enhance anal play. It contains guava bark for it's antibacterial properties. Combine this lube with the Adventure Anal Relaxing spray and experience forbidden pleasures like never before. Here's what Intimate Organics has to say about their anal spray:

Intimate Organics understands that anal sex for women is becoming more popular and losing its stigma. However, many products on the market are simply not safe. Unlike other anal sprays or creams that can numb the sphincter and cause tearing, our natural spray causes no anesthetic effects. The anal sphincter becomes relaxed and therefore penetration becomes comfortable. Intimate Organics anal relaxing spray’s unique formula contains a certified organic extract blend with the natural potency of clove, goji berry, aloe, and lemongrass. Intimate Organic’s natural anal spray relaxant does not contain the synthetic compound benzocaine.

What better way to increase the pleasure of your intimate life? Give Intimate Organics lubricants a try and feel the difference for yourself.

Wanna get drilled?

2010-06-21T21:23:00.000-07:00

Not the most romantic thing you've ever heard, I'm guessing? (And with the current situation in the Gulf, you might be afraid of bursting something and having uncontrolled leakage.) If you can set aside your need for seduction, and your environmentally friendly brain...you may just find some mind-blowing orgasms.

The new Power Bumper is far from sexy, but big on satisfaction. It actually doesn't look that intimidating, right? Cute little pink bumps on what appears to be a regular multi-function vibe.... but when you power it up, you'll want to make sure you've got time to spend with your new friend. The vibrating clitoral stimulator isn't low-to-high speed, it's low and high frequency. An option rarely seen in the world of pleasure products. Either setting is extremely powerful, for those of you who need some intense vibrations, but the difference in frequencies is truly an experience.

Then comes the shaft....
We've seen the rotating ball bearings and jumbling pearls, but this baby has rotation that doesn't give. Many times you can grab the shaft of a multi-function vibe and stop the pearls or balls from rotating. The Power Bumper continues drilling no matter how hard you squeeze! I don't think I need to express to the ladies what a fabulous feature this is! The hundreds of tiny bumps that adorn the entire unit make for a textured shag you won't forget. Make sure to use some lubrication prior to insertion, or wait for your body to be naturally ready and lubricated for action, otherwise the initial penetration might be less than pleasurable.

Cal Exotics says it's made of unscented TPR, but the scent when first opened is a little pungent. It's material is a thin "skin" over the mechanics, and is easy to clean before and after use. It take four AA's to power up this hard core lover, but you won't be disappointed that you had to steal them out of BOTH of your remote controls.

Want one of your own? Contact me to find out where to get it.

When batteries just don't cut it...

2010-05-03T11:05:00.000-07:00

Let's face it gals, when it's good, it's GOOOOOOD. Nothing feels quite like the body paralyzing vibrations that can be attained from the power of an electric vibrator. These power tools are no longer big cumbersome back massagers, they are made from high grade materials, in sleek designs and compact sizes for comfortable solo play.

The Inspire from the Couture Collection by Cal Exotics is nothing short of toe-curling! The flexible head is made of silicone for a velvety soft touch and safe play. The power cord is long enough to plug in by the bed, and layback comfortably or stretch over you to stimulate your partner! Or, I guess you could use it to actually massage your back.... if you're into that kind of thing....

Guys, don't be jealous! Some of the best things come in small packages. This compact massager is great for you too! Have you ever wondered what it would be like to experience her total body orgasms? Now's your chance. Grab a hold of this electric massager and place it at the base of the shaft on your pubic bone and push the powerful vibrations into your pelvis as you work your hand stroking magic.

Make it a "couples" toy and follow the instructions above, but instead of adding hand strokes, have her sit on top. You'll both be riding the wave of pleasure in record time.

WARNING: you could do this all day, and it may become addictive, so play with caution! You may also experience temporary numbness, but you won't lose your ability to orgasm normally... unless you become an addict and use your electric vibe nonstop....Did I mention you should play with caution?

Disposable Pleasures

2010-04-30T15:57:00.000-07:00

We're used to throwing away all kinds of things to make life easier, but there was never a disposable masturbator.... until now.

Introducing the Tenga line of disposable male masturbators! These single shot devices were designed with the occasional masturbator in mind. Inexpensive enough for a night of solo pleasure, or a special occasion... but a little too pricey for the frequent um...jerker.

Available in different styles to suit every stroke. The Deep Throat cup delivers exactly what it promises, a intense suction with "special" suction valves inside to create this amazing sensation. You can even increase the suction by using the air hole at the top of the cup... just cover it with a thumb or finger and feel the "jaws" tighten around your member. They come in soft, hard, and the US versions (20% larger) in ultra-size and super vacuum. Don't mind the slurping sounds-it just makes the fantasy more realistic.

Need more options? Try the Double Hole Cup, the Air Cushion, the Soft Cup, or the Rolling Head Cup, all of which come pre-lubed and ready to enjoy. They are all equipped with Tenga's spongelike material, making them gentle lovers. So if you've been turned off by the hard plastic sleeves, it may be time to give Tenga a try. Afterall, you're just gonna toss it when you're done.

Check out these video demos of these scientifically designed masturbators!

Save your Marriage with Sex Toys!

2010-04-26T16:26:00.000-07:00

Can a battery operated lover really reignite passion in an otherwise lust-less marriage? Absolutely!

With all the rumors of infidelity swarming around, you might be wondering if your sex life needs a makeover. Well, considering many women and men have admitted to straying because they are bored... it's not a bad idea to spice things up now and then.

Intimate products were designed for the majority of married couples where one or both partners are experiencing less than satisfying orgasms, or excitement in the relationship. Most products are also created with women in mind, allowing them to reach climax, thus creating the ability for emotional connection with their spouse.

So, which products should you introduce to your bed? It all depends on what needs you're trying to meet.

If you're a woman who is not achieving orgasm during lovemaking, don't worry, you're not alone. While a reported 70-80% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach climax, many women still feel that they are less qualified lovers because they do not orgasm through penetration alone. Relax ladies, your inability to have mind blowing O's by his pounding is completely normal. And guys, news flash... that pounding isn't what's going to get us off most likely.

While most of the nerve endings are located at the introitus, or the opening of the vagina, many men still focus on deep penetration. Deep penetration is great for stimulating the G-spot and giving her a place to grind her needy clitoris (against your pubic bone), but if she requires some manual stimulation with a finger or toy, it's hardly cutting the mustard.

Vibrating enhancement rings and mini vibrators can be perfect helpers for this kind of stimulation. The ring is worn at the base of the shaft of the penis, and the vibration directly stimulates her clitoris. If you're using a small or slender vibe, just place it strategically on the clitoris, but far enough that it doesn't get caught in the action. She won't need long to get that happy feeling, then he can do his pounding, and everyone's happy. She may want to cuddle afterward, so give her that moment to collect herself. The next time you want to play, guess who will be all the more ready?!

Fulfill fantasies with molded toys! Have a threesome without the jealousy. Molded toys have visual qualities that help bring our fantasies to life. Do you or your partner want to experience a threesome, but only in theory? Grab a realistic penis or vagina and talk out your fantasies together!

Which ones to avoid if one or both of you are feeling less in lust? Don't break out the Jack Rabbit with 100's of functions and speeds. He's not going to feel needed, and she may not be relaxed enough to share her orgasm with him. These can be amazing toys if everyone's on board, but if he's already feeling left out or pressured, this isn't a positive addition to your relationship.... yet!

How do you introduce the idea? Easy! With so many article and ads on radio and television showing these products, you won't seem off your rocker to suggest one. A sexy way to invite him to play would be to print out or cut out an ad for an item you like. Stick a post it note to it that reads, "this might be fun... can't wait for bedtime." and leave it somewhere he'll find it. Just make sure the kids don't find it first!