Ask Ms Hopeful

2012-01-23T15:24:00.000+08:00

make me a servant ,
humble and meek
LORD let me lift up those who are weak
and may the prayer of my heart
always be
make me a servant today

what i really want to do?

2012-01-23T01:11:00.003+08:00

to get rid of clutter in my room and in my office

to work on 5 S

to take online review class

to pay my school accounts and request for my transcript

to work on my personal budget and build up savings

to change my sleeping habit

Pause

2011-09-16T02:27:00.000+08:00

practice the Pause attitude

When in doubt, Pause

When angry, Pause

When tired, Pause

When stressed Pause

and when you pause, PRAY

It is in those times of silence that we hear GOD better.

My google ad sense was disabled

2011-09-10T02:06:00.000+08:00

Yes,and it is sad, well that's part of growing up
i felt like my blogging career is over for me
With adsense or not i will continue to post.
i decided to move on
i will get back soon.

Debt surrender

2011-06-24T12:31:00.000+08:00

Debt surrender for me is to stop debting. To cease from paying debts with another debt.
To accept that I cannot pay it anymore and seek help from GOD for deliverance.

how about you?

happy fathers day

2011-06-18T11:45:00.000+08:00

to the faithful fathers

we give you honor today
for your love and devotion
for your support

we love you

Jump All your Problems Away

2011-05-27T23:06:00.000+08:00

Trust in the LORD

2011-04-30T12:28:00.007+08:00

Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. ~Psalm 37:3

For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD will give grace and honor; no good will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.

O LORD of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee. ~Psalm 84:11-12

Davao trip

2011-03-23T12:41:00.002+08:00

The best place to visit in the Philippines is Davao City, the land of promise and the Durian Capital of the country. It was a refreshing trip.
A visit in the Philippine eagle makes me in touch of nature, and stress relief. Also, there are a lot of places to visit and yummy food.

Self defense for women

2011-02-17T12:19:00.000+08:00

A friend who cares emailed this to me, which i am thankful. I am compelled to share this to every women on the streets for self protection against attacks from evil minded persons.

Subject: Katipunan Incident by Jim Paredes
Jim Paredes wrote: Katipunan , QC incident

Dear friends,

Many of you may not have heard of the incident that happened to a

friend of my son last week at about 6:30 pm right in front of the

thickly-populated area of BPI-Katipunan, near shoppersville. she

parked her car right in front of BPI to make a withdrawal and to do

some groceries.

As she was getting into her car after doing her chores, a man suddenly

appeared beside her and tried to bully her into moving to the

passenger seat. when she pressed her car horn to call attention, he

pushed her in the car and pinned her down with his elbow on her neck.

it was a good thing that she had the presence of mind to continue to

struggle and press on her car horn to catch attention(even if she had

to use her foot to do this) Her assailant even tried to make people

believe that it was a domestic matter by telling the crowd not to get

involved as it was a "private matter". But with the onlookers

multiplying by the second, her assailant finally gave up and ran. that

was when she stood up and shouted for help. Thank God the guy got

caught and is now under police custody.

Last saturday, during the inquest, she told me that what gave her the

guts to fight her assailant was the article "THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES"

forwarded to our e-groups! about a week prior to her attack. I am

re-forwarding the article (you can find it at the bottom of this

(e-mail) for everyone's benefit. please tell your friends, family, and

loved ones about this. It works. may i just add that to a certain

extent, we have to get ourselves involved if we see violence being

committed on anyone like calling on a security guard or a police

officer even if it appears to be a domestic matter. It seems that a

lot of attackers use that tactic to get away with violence. Not many

people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a

situation. Everyone, please be very, very careful.

THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG...

FYI - Through a rapist's eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in

prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim

and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.

They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid

or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to

go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common

targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women

who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors

around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through

their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are

off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is

grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman

and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to

worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged

because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going

after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or

other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their

hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to

the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince

these guys you're not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or

with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask

them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:

can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now

that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,

you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of

you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to

said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would

not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY

target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of

it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER

SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can

do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from

behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and

armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this

guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was

trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin

and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching

yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a

particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it

is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and

make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our

instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of

trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers

and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing

down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using

much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked

audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of

your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any

odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel

little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really

was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be

some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading,

forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in

this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your

body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks

for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from

you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or

purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN

THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back

tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like

crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has

saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,

working, etc., and just sit

(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The

predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for

him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell

you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or

parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be

hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the

passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE

RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the

passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling

them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their

cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and

the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest

your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a

guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE

THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are

horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS

RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;

And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may

get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a

good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies

of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often

asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when

he abducted his next victim.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a

life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going

to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,

wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as

well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the

world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than

sorry.

Jim Paredes

New hopes for 2011

2010-12-30T17:46:00.000+08:00

Thanking GOD for HIS flow of blessings in this year 2010.

It is only by HIS grace that we are able to live each day.

Without HIM, I could not survive the storms of stress.

With HIM, I put my trust to face the challenges for 2011.

With expectant joy, I hope to receive the blessings in store for me

With HIS wisdom, I hope to make life decisions according to HIS will

With peace in my heart, I hope to learn to accept things which I cannot change

With HIS unconditional love, I hope to give love without expectations

Have yourself a merry little Christmas

2010-12-18T13:07:00.000+08:00

i like the lyrics and music of this song, heartwarming in cold december breeze.

Have yourself a merry little Christmas,
Let your heart be light
From now on,
our troubles will be out of sight

Have yourself a merry little Christmas,
Make the Yule-tide gay,
From now on,
our troubles will be miles away.

Here we are as in olden days,
Happy golden days of yore.
Faithful friends who are dear to us
Gather near to us once more.

Through the years
We all will be together,
If the Fates allow
Hang a shining star upon the highest bough.
And have yourself A merry little Christmas now.

blessings from my vacation

2010-12-04T12:32:00.000+08:00

thanking GOD for the blessings i enjoyed during my short but refreshing vacation
thanks for Cebu pacific Air for sponsoring my fare at a huge discount
for bonding with Jacob and Julianne , my cousin's sons in Cavite where i spent my first night.
for my stay with maggie in her orphanage , met again Maxie and CJ, and the new housemates panda , princess forgot the names of the other 3.
i also met maggie's friend rhea , thanks to maggie for "my amnesia girl" :)

for the "diskarte EB which was great and wonderful , lots of food, smiles, hugs and stories.
thanks so much for the advance christmas gifts, i did not expect it.
the night out was cool.
also for the hotel accomodation , it was great , very comfortable.
thanks for the facilitators and to those who attended and contributed
i will keep these memories in my heart.

thank you ......

2010-11-17T12:35:00.004+08:00

I am inspired by this song, thanks to Ray Boltz

Thank You for Giving
to The Lord
Music & Lyrics by Ray Boltz

I dreamed I went to Heaven, you were there with me.

We walked upon the streets of gold beside the Crystal Sea.

We heard the angels singing, then someone called your name.

You turned and saw this young man, and he was smiling as he came.

He said, "Friend you may not know me now," and then he said,

"But wait - You used to teach my Sunday School, when I was only eight. And every week you would say a prayer before the class would start.

And one day when you said that prayer, I asked Jesus in my heart."

Chorus

Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am so glad you gave.

Then another man stood before you, he said "Remember the time,

A missionary came to your church, His pictures made you cry.

You didn't have much money but you gave it anyway.

Jesus took that gift you gave And that's why I'm in Heaven today"

Chorus

Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am so glad you gave.

One by one they came, far as your eyes could see.

Each life somehow touched by your generosity.

Little things that you had done, sacrifices that you made,

They were unnoticed on this earth In Heaven now proclaimed.

Chorus

Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am so glad you gave.

And I know up in Heaven you're not supposed to cry

But I am almost sure there were tears in your eyes

As Jesus took your hand and you stood before the Lord

He said "My child look around you, Great is your reward."

Chorus

Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am a life that was changed. Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am so glad you gave, I am so glad you gave.

Make Me a Blessing

2010-10-23T12:39:00.001+08:00

Make Me a Blessing
Words by Ira B. Wilson
Music by George S. Schuler

Out on the highways and byways of life,
Many are the weary and sad;
Carry the sunshine where darkness is rife,
Making the sorrowing glad.

Chorus
Make me a blessing, make me a blessing;
Out of my life may Jesus shine.
Make me a blessing, O Saviour I pray,
Make me a blessing to someone today.

Tell the sweet story of Christ and His love,
Tell of His pow'r to forgive;
Others will trust Him if only you prove
True every moment you live.

Chorus
Make me a blessing, make me a blessing;
Out of my life may Jesus shine.
Make me a blessing, O Saviour I pray,
Make me a blessing to someone today.

Give as 'twas given to you in your need,
Love as the Master loved you;
Be to the helpless a helper indeed,
Unto your mission be true.

Chorus
Make me a blessing, make me a blessing;
Out of my life may Jesus shine.
Make me a blessing, O Saviour I pray,
Make me a blessing to someone today.

Things i want to do or do again

2010-09-11T12:31:00.001+08:00

Life is a journey and i want to savor each step of the way.
Assuming i can do all things i love to do , no boundaries, no restrictions, no beliefs, with all possibilities. this list is random.
I want to -
1. Pursue taking and passing the bar exam.
2. Go to Macau with my two sons.
3. File an annulment case :)
4. Be with a "friend" in an island with a beach and a cottage
5 Earn dollars
6 Have my hair rebonded
7 Stay for a vacation in a 5 star hotel resort in Tagaytay for 3 days
8 Pamper myself with a body spa.
9 Be physically fit , flat tummy
10 Walking early in the morning for 30minutes daily
11 Eat durian
12 Swim in a pool or beach at least once a week
13 sky dive
14 try zip lining
15 eat ice cream
16 teach children in church outreach
to be continued

PUSH

2010-08-27T13:13:00.000+08:00

Pray Until Something Happenss

(a friend shared this to me , thanks tintin)

A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

So, this the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sunup to sundown, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might!

Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain. Since the man was showing discouragement, the Adversary (Satan) decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the weary mind: (He will do it every time)!

You have been pushing against that rock for a long time and it hasn't moved." Thus, he gave the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure. These thoughts discouraged and disheartened the man.

Satan said, "Why kill yourself over this? Just put in your time, giving just the minimum effort; and that will be good enough."

That's what the weary man planned to do, but decided to make it a matter of prayer and to take his troubled thoughts to the Lord.

"Lord," he said, "I have labored long and hard in Your Service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?"

The Lord responded compassionately, "My friend, when I asked you to serve Me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all of your strength, which you have done.

Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to Me with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed.

But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back shiny and brown; your hands are callused from constant pressure, your legs have become massive and hard.

Through opposition you have grown much, and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have. True, you haven't moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. That you have done. Now I, my friend, will move the rock."

At times, when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is just simple obedience and faith in Him.

By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but know that it is still God Who moves the mountains.

When everything seems to go wrong.........................Just P.U.S.H.

When the job gets you down......................................Just P.U.S.H.

When people don't do as you think they should.........Just P.U.S.H.

When your money is "gone" and the bills are due......Just P.U.S.H.

When people just don't understand you......................Just P.U.S.H.

P = Pray
U = Until
S = Something
H = Happens

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."

2010-08-12T12:34:00.000+08:00

GOD's will is perfect

I seek HIS perfect will
HIS perfect will nothing more
HIS perfect will nothing less
HIS perfect will nothing else

Why worrying is sin?

2010-07-27T12:46:00.000+08:00

When we worry , we deny GOD's existence. we make worry our idol, focusing the object of the worry.

I admit i still worry sometimes and i am trying to put a stop to it and become victorious.

I remind myself not to worry by prayer and meditating on HIS word. For I know HE will not leave me nor forsake me. I claim HIS promise of provision and protection.

Why worry when we can pray.

my Vision board on the making

2010-07-17T12:27:00.000+08:00

This is not new to me, i have heard about this in the Law of Attraction, in The Secret. many months back, but until now i have not started making my Vision Board.

what is a vision board , in case u have not known it yet it is collage of pictures and images of what you want.

like a dream house, a car, a vacation spot. you have to post it in a place where you can see it daily like in your bedroom or bathroom.

i do not have drawing skills , am good in copy paste :)

(to be continued)

getting over depression

2010-07-08T18:30:00.000+08:00

i have read this in webmd and hope this helps

Exercise and Depression: Expert Q&A

Robert Thayer, PhD, on how to make exercise part of a depression treatment plan.

By Katherine Kam
WebMD Feature

Reviewed by Laura J. Martin, MD

Depression is draining. It can make any type of exertion -- going to the grocery store, cleaning up the yard, or exercising -- seem daunting.

"Energy loss is one of the key characteristics of depression. Some people feel that it’s the key characteristic of depression," says Robert E. Thayer, PhD, apsychology professor at California State University, Long Beach, an expert in managing mood, and the author of Calm Energy: How People Regulate Mood with Food and Exercise.

He points to exercise as one of the best ways for depressed people to lift their mood. "Exercise generates energy," Thayer says.

Here are Thayer's answers to questions about exercise and depression.

Can depressed people get into a vicious cycle if they feel stressed and overeat and don’t exercise and then become more depressed?

"Definitely. People self-regulate with food, and I think that’s one of the reasons for the obesity epidemic that’s occurring -- the combination of increased stress and depression going on for a long time and people needing to self-regulate, using food and other substances for doing that."

If depressed people begin to exercise instead, what happens physiologically?

"There’s a whole series of things that happen when we begin to exercise. As we get up and begin to move and exercise, there’s a general bodily arousal state that occurs. It includes many different systems of the body -- everything frommetabolism to cardiovascular activation, various kinds of endocrine changes in thebrain, various kinds of hormonal changes and shifts."

What happens psychologically when people start to exercise?

"It depends on the degree and level of exercise. With moderate exercise, [in our research] we’ve been working with short, brisk walks [of] five or 10 minutes. The primary mood effect in that situation is increased energy. Secondarily, sometimes -- but not always -- there’s a tension reduction."

"With more intense exercise -- for example, an hour of heavy aerobic exercise -- there is a reduction in energy and a reduction in tension. But oftentimes, after recovery [from the workout], there’s an energy resurgence that occurs."

Do depressed people have to exercise intensely to get a mood boost?

"No, it actually can occur fairly quickly. One of the things about our 'short, brisk walks’ studies really illustrates this point. People can think about ... how tired they’re feeling, then get up and begin to walk -- walking moderately, maybe quickly down the street for a short while. Immediately, they will begin to feel differently. As we’ve found with short, brisk walks of five to 10 to 15 minutes, there’s a significant increase in energy. They begin to feel it almost immediately."

"When people are seriously depressed -- with clinical depression, of course -- it may be not as efficacious as it would be for people in a normal state, but it still will have an effect."

If depressed people lack motivation to begin exercising, how do they get started?

"It’s a significant problem because when you’re depressed, you have no energy. When you think about exercising, you have no energy to try it. What I suggest is to start out very minimally, just getting up and walking a few steps or just down the street. Then as they begin to move a little bit, they start feeling differently, and they’re able to do some more."

Is the research strong enough to show a treatment effect? In other words, should doctors or therapists prescribe exercise for depression?

"Absolutely. I was giving a talk to clinical psychologists, and I mentioned that anyone dealing with a depressed person, an important thing they should do is put them on an exercise program. We often go toward various kinds of medications, but exercise is vital."

"Exercise should be part of a treatment plan for depression. The exclusive use of exercise for depression could be a problem for various reasons. But it should be part of an entire treatment plan."

Feature : Poem of the week - "GOD'S call by: dragon76(wdc)

2010-06-25T12:32:00.000+08:00

GOD’S CALL
by wdc

I was there in the darkest of age
Alone and weary and my heart was caged
No one knows, nobody understands
What I’ve been thru and what’s my stand

I am a bad and a hurtfull sinner
Unworthy of anyone’s love and care
I deal with life just like a game
I play with people without a shame

Until one day that I met this man
He smiled at me and reached for my hand
Not a total stranger i know this one
But why care to someone who’s heart is gone

“I am your friend” he Smilingly said
“today and tomorrow, till the very end”
“No matter what you were in the past,
It’s a brand new day for your life at last”

Speechless I was with puzzled thoughts
As he flashes back the life’s battles I fought
Problems, betrayals, sorrows and pains
With all these things my heart was maimed.

“My son, My dear beloved son,
the shine of your faith has just begun
you’ve heard my call from deep within your soul
just follow my lead in achieving your goal”

“All your needs I shall provide
I’ll deal with your problems so set them aside,
In your coming fights I’ll be your shield
And all your enemies shall cry and yield
All these things you shall cherish
Believe ME forever and you shall not perish….”

(photo courtesy of wisdom.com)

Living the life I want

2010-06-18T12:40:00.000+08:00

What do I really want ????

Bonding and relaxing with my son

2010-06-17T19:09:00.000+08:00

it was fun and so relaxing to swim and feel the gentle breeze.

Trees

2010-06-12T18:44:00.000+08:00

I THINK that I shall never see
A poem lovely as a tree.

A tree whose hungry mouth is press
Against the sweet earth's flowing breast;

A tree that looks at God all day,
And lifts her leafy arms to pray;

A tree that may in summer wear
A nest of robins in her hair;

Upon whose bosom snow has lain;
Who intimately lives with rain.

Poems are made by fools like me,
But only God can make a tree