December- the month to be jetting around on a holiday. This year we did go out in December. We flew to South Korea for some fun. It was the first time that we went on an all girls trip. 2 weeks was a rather long period of time to go on a trip. I think from now onward the max 10 days should be enough for traveling or else it gets too tiring. Korea is really not cheap. Comparing Korea with Japan I seriously prefer the later. I am seriously considering re-visiting Japan but haven’t decided on when to go. I will have to work out the finances first on that. If I visit Korea again it would be to go to Busan. I feel that it is a much better place to be then Seoul. Seoul is seriously too commercialized for my liking.

I’m still open to visiting Taiwan again and traveling around other places which I haven’t been for quite awhile. I would like to visit other scenic places which I haven’t seen in a while. Nora and I are up for traveling again in 2026 but we have to see how our schedules align.

Middle of March. More changes to my schedule. Another add on from last month have decided to drop * roll eyes *.. Well I guess that is the con of the job. Student can come and go anytime. There is no need to be too emotionally attached to them nor their families. It’s just life!! Even though each time I receive such messages it sucks temporarily as it means a dip in income I shouldn’t be too bothered by it. There are better things in life to focus on. Another student may come by and more rest time is good too. There are many other things to be concern about then just to focus on this issue. Anyway it is already a blessing to have a roof over my head and the kids are all healthy.

Three month in to the new year and Demons come a knocking on the door again. I seriously hope that these idiots die off asap. I don’t need all those unwanted chaos for nothing. I know I have to be strong and ignore all these unwanted energy vampires. It is tiring enough coping with daily life and now we have to cope with unwanted morons who intrude onto your privacy and peace. I just have to wait for Karma to bite time in the butt!!

There are still many things to be done like planting of new seeds into the planted. It has been more then 2 months overdue. A job that has to be done soon no doubt.. I’ve managed (with Roy’s help) do up 1 planter of the C n G. There are still a few more to be seeded but will do it by next month. I’m still pondering on how many to plant and what to plant at the moment.

A new month- Feburary

A new beginning and to put into effect the plans that were made last month.

I’m not going to date anyone who can’t even plan a date. I find it truly ridiculous if one expects the other party to be the one who is constantly giving in or making the arrangement even after both sides timetable has already been reflected.

I do not need a useless man around. What I realised after spending nearly the whole 2024 getting to know different man is that majority are seriously CMI. So many of them are unable to do such a simple thing like to plan a date. * Roll eyes * Isn’t it simply ridiculous? It only shows their “determination” in having a relationship and their interest level. Interest = ZERO. I’m not a time filler activity Nada! Too bad if you aren’t up to the mark. Out with the trash you go!!

I’m also done with dating APPs. Those connections from it are all less then satisfactory. I rather seriously leave it to faith 100% at this point in time. There is no need to waste time and effort anymore. I need to consciously remind myself that it is not in my benefit to associate with these low breeds. Eg: Kenneth.
If they haven’t gotten their finances settled by this age they will never succeed in life Period!!

Want vs Needs

I have been looking closely at the Ez-Link Charms. The current one (wearable) which I am using is going to expire next year and there is no indication that they will be coming up with a version 2 of it. Therefore I’m considering whether to go back to using the card or one of the other types of Charms which you attach to the phone. I’m not for using Google pay /HP to pay for transportation as I find it harder to track and if your phone goes out of battery you are seriously screwed by it.
*update* I bought a Doraemon Charm for $14.90 from the EZ-link vending machine at westgate. I figured out that it is still cheaper to get this character charm instead of the snoopy which I previously wanted as it was nearly $10 more with shipping. I have still yet to get use to using it . I’m toggling between both Ez-link devices at the moment.

A new month…a new year 2025. As we march into the unknown there are many things to get organized.

2025 is a time to try new things too. Therefore the 1st thing out is to try new design of shoes- court shoes(Working shoes). Doing something out of the box. This month it was the first time I bought working shoes. It is not something that I automatically gravitate towards but definitely won’t be something I will not consider wearing. The new year is a time for embracing changes and doing stuff that one may not do before. If you never try you will never know if it works or not.

On Students

These days I’m not too concern about the total number of students I have and whether I enough students to reach my target. Students come and go I know. God will set the way and make sure that I am adequately provided for. I just have to keep optimistic about everything and keep the faith. There is no need to get too emotional over things that we beyond your control.

I have resolved not to spend effort on people/ things that do not even reciprocate my energy level. There is no need to waste effort on things that bring about low or dismissal rates of return. You do not need to put up with arrogant brats with their delusional thinking and sense of entitlement. There are much better things that I can do with my precious time.

Personal Upgrading

This year I want to upgrade my cooking skills and prepare more variety of dishes for the family.
-hot and spicy soup
-peanut and lotus soup

Mental well-being

My focus this year is to eliminate unwanted/ unsavoury thoughts which may be due to intentional / unintentional triggers by others. It is important not to be triggered by others and maintain my state of peace.

Let me find one that can be really considered a man this 2025.

Last 2 month of 2024. November. Can’t wait for the new year to roll by and wrap up this exhausting year.

I’m feeling extremely restless as funds are running low this season. There are so many things which I would like to do however I lack the funds for them. I would love to go for a winter vacation but it is simply not possible at the moment. It would be great to go to Japan. Many of my students are going to Japan for holidays this year end. I know that it is nothing to envy. On the surface it may seem that their lives are much more desirable then mine and they get to enjoy more without worrying so much about finances so much. They may have other worries and issues which are not shown to outsiders. Every family has their own issues to deal with no doubt.

It is no point being envious of others as it will only breed contempt. It will make you depressed also which is not ideal. It saps your energy and drive. It is really no use ponder on stuff that will not enrich my life at all. The grass is not greener on the other side. Live below our means and be prepared for potential rainy days. Sometimes it is easier said than done unfortunately.

What I really look for in a partner

1. Emotional Intelligence: I values someone who is aware of their own emotions and can understand mine. .
2. Authenticity: I’m drawn to someone who is genuine and doesn’t put on a facade. I want my wants partner to show his true self, embracing flaws and imperfections.
3. Intellectual Curiosity: I often enjoys exploring new ideas and learning. I need a partner who is curious, open-minded, and willing to engage in thoughtful conversations.
4. Emotional Availability: Emotional depth requires a partner who is open to connection and vulnerable enough to share their own feelings and experiences.
5. Integrity and Honesty: I need someone who is honest and keeps their word. This builds trust, which is foundational for me in a meaningful relationship.
6. Respect and Independence: I value respect in a relationship and want a partner who encourages my independence. A partner who respects my space, interests, and individuality.
7. Supportive and Compassionate: I seek someone who will support my dreams, ambitions, and emotional needs, offering encouragement through good and tough times alike.
8. Growth Mindset: I want a partner who seeks personal growth and encourages my growth too. Whether it’s personal goals or relationship goals, I want someone invested in evolving together.
9. Good Communicator: Open, honest, and respectful communication is essential for me. I look for someone who is willing to talk about issues, listen actively, and resolve conflicts constructively.
10. Shared Values: Whether it’s values on family, career, or personal integrity there has to be alignment on the core beliefs that matter most to me.
    

I haven’t met anyone who have managed to satisfy all these criteria. Plenty of them fall short in many areas and seriously after much consideration it is still better to remain single. Less hassle and not having to deal with shit ass half useless idiots.

Three more months till the end of the year. There are still things not done as yet. I still have quite a few items on my list to get done.. namely setting up an exercise routine that I will be able to stick to easily.

I have been really too lax to set up certain routines especially when it comes to setting an exercise routine. I have yet to determine which type/sets of activities that I will be doing on a regular basis.

I need to really pull together what I have on Instagram and really get to it.

Questions to ask guys.

1. What do you see as the role of a man and a women in a relationship?
2. What are your pet peeves and deal breakers?
3. What are your views on Marriage?
4. What are your views on communication?
5. What kind of lifestyle do you desire to live?
6. How do you feel about kids?
7. What do you consider cheating?

My answers to the above:

1. What do you see as the role of a man and a women in a relationship?
   I see the man as the main provider for the family and the women as one who helps supplement along. One who takes FULL responsibility for his actions and decisions. He shows leadership by taking the first initiative while committing to the relationship fully. He has to be able to be the one that provides anchor and support to his partner. He has to be proud and not afraid to show his affection to his partner. The man has to be able to protect the partner physically and emotionally.
   The man is able to make tough decisions and fulfills his partner mentally and sexually.
   
   The women in the relationship is more of a supportive role. One who can help analyse and make decisions and steer the man back on the correct part when he drifts away. The person who helps to maintain and keep house and kids together with the guy by having a family plan, couple parenting plan, couple bonding plan etc.
2. What are your pet peeves and deal breakers?
   
   Pet peeve – Indecisiveness and slackers. Who can only do NATO( No Action Talk Only). Words mean nothing if actions don’t match up. Tolerance also has a limit
   
   Deal breakers -1)Showing no respect for me and my decisions.
   2) Inappropriate behaviour within the relationship IE: Watching of pornography,
   being overly close to other females,
   3) Infidelity
   4) Not having the same core values.
   5) Having vast different lifestyles.
   6) Being over critical over my choices and decisions.
   7) The person being violent and abusive .
   
3. What are your views on Marriage?
   I’m not keen on re-marrying at all as I seriously don’t find any point in getting that piece of paper anymore. I rather a committed partnership with communal goals.
4. What are your views on communication?
   It is something very important and essential in a relationship. I require daily connections. It doesn’t need to be lengthy conversations. Just a simple morning and evening text will suffice if one is busy with work. This is especially if we are not living in the same space on a daily basis.
   
5. What kind of lifestyle do you desire to live?
   I would like a simple life. Preferable in a small town and away from the hustle and bustle of city life. To have a place that I’ll be able to call my own with a nice garden to plant flowers/ vegetables. The place should not be too rural that there are no modern amenities though just not littered with people and many skyscrapers. It would be good if the house is big enough so that I have my own studio to do my work.
   
6. How do you feel about kids?
   I’m happy with my 3 and do not wish to have any more kids. However if the other partner does come along with his own kids I will accept that kid but will not be active in parenting that child/children as I believe that the biological parent should be in charge of discipline. I do not want/ need to have a blended family with both side kids coming together. I would rather keep them separate as this will minimise problems and trouble. It will be on them to come together if they do wish to but there will be no mandatory need/ expectation for all to get along like a happy family.
   
7. What do you consider cheating?
   – Telling lies to your partner
   – Deliberately concealing information from the other which put the relationship in dire situation
   – sleeping around with other people. (Physical and mentally)
   

1. What is your burning desire?
2. What is your priorities?
3. Are you working on your walk with GOD?
4. What is your focus for the next few years.
   

BALANCE

Be You
Acceptance( of each other at where they are )
Laughter – bring laughter into your daily conversations.
Allowance (To have space within the relationship)

Nurture (Each other and yourself focusing on continual growth within the relationship- nuturing life)
Commitment/ Compassion (to each other)
Being Curious – Ask curious questions to each other to find out more about situations before anything explodes into arguments due to assumptions etc.
Education ( of each others childhood traumas/ triggers and other

(DIOS)= GOD. Having GOD be the thread that binds all things together so that it will be a strong unity.

Choose a guy whose 1st priority is to take care of himself first- spiritual ,mentally & emotionally.
2nd priority- to work on his goals and career
3rd priority – couple goals.

Would you accept if certain areas do not align ? Will 80% alignment be good enough for you?

Creating agreement with flexibility. Be okay to focus on growth and also

Resources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnESq7ggVS4

1/2 the year has passed by already. There is still so many things to do which I haven’t really got around to do so. Like documenting my Japanese learnings. I have decided to put it to a Japanese learning blog on blogger so that it will be easier to refer to when needed.

I realised that I lack consistency in a lot of things especially when it comes to exercising regularly.

There are so many different exercise routines which I had bookmarked on my instagram. I’m still looking through those that RY has introduced in bid to see which is most suited to follow and do on a regular basis.

April – The middle of spring. Time to enjoy the flowers and take a breather. It is also time to take stock take on what I intend to do/ pursue this year. What type of relationships I want to nurture or drop too.

Meeting new guys this year has kind of been a pain in the ass for me. There are so many slackers around seriously it has been a waste of time and effort. It always start out sounding interested then the interest wanes and they start to MIA or be super unresponsive. I’ve enough of such games. If they really want to date me they should put in the effort. Period!! No excuses for lazy and half hearted guys who STILL can’t get their act together.

I’ve no time for sub par guys who have nothing substantial to offer in return. I won’t let anyone access to me for free no take advantage of what I have without making a contribution. There is no free lunch in this world. I’m not a naive 20 yr old that is easily conned by wolves. I don’t need one that supposedly promises the world with his words but takes no concrete action to get things done. There has to be substantial effort taken on the part of the guy to show that he is willing to make an effort to have a good relationship. Apparently many guys nowadays are too lazy even to make such an effort.

On the other spectrum are those extra demanding guys.. who want to know everything that you are doing but refuses to disclose what they are doing. I find them super annoying. I’m not someone who is under constant supervision and I don’t need a stalker. I don’t need to report my every move to you nor need to account to you on everything. Who do you think you are? There is no mutual respect nor understanding in such a situation. Those that try to guilt trip me by saying stuff that if you are not interested in me you can just tell me when they send 101 questions all the time can bloody hell got out of my life. Congrads you have just earned yourself an instant BLOCK on my phone

1/3 of 2024 is almost over. It’s time to really put certain things into practice/ routine.

I have yet to put a lot of things down to regular routine as there is still so many things that I’ve yet to really sit down and analyze. There are simply too many things to get done for me. I don’t know where is good to start .

I’ve decided to widen my social circle and get to know new friends. It isn’t easy to get to know new people especially since I don’t work in the corporate world and get to meet various different types of people. Therefore I decided to sign up to some different dating apps to give it a try. There are different guys that I’ve met up from it. It is a hit and miss… still a searching process for me at the moment.

There are some guys out there who are really CMI.. refuse to take responsibility and be serious in a relationship. No wonder they are still SINGLE at their age. They will certainly not become anything plus they themselves have nothing to bring to the table. What a useless guy seriously!! I don’t have time for stragglers nor do I want to do with one that cannot commit in anything. Foo Guan Yong is one typical example of such a guy. After assessment I seriously find that this guy has no hope ever making it financially or personally. I wont do with one who can’t even tell you if you are meeting up in the evening on weekends or not in advance. He is not even FIT to be a guy. That chapter of testing out with him is finally over. I am still more interested in younger guys however he has to be one that is open / reliable and contactable.

I am not in a rush. I can slowly take my time to look around and see who is the best match