Attracting Quotes to Live By

Escape Being Eaten

2012-06-13T07:26:00.000-04:00

How can they say my life is not a success? Have I not for more than sixty years got enough to eat and escaped being eaten? ~Logan P. Smith

It would be a bad day if you were eaten. There are a lot of things out that could eat you. The nice thing is that most of them will not eat you till you are already dead or you are walking in the woods and injured. Most things are afraid of man and do not consider us a source of food. At least that is something you can be grateful for.

As for finding enough to eat to keep yourself alive. That is not too hard either. There is plenty of food out there for you to eat.Most people just buy what they need to eat. If you care unlucky enough not to have a job, then you might find yourself asking other people for food. If you can't make that happen, then you will have to lower yourself to finding food on your own.

You can eat the weeds. The only problem with that is you must know which weeds to eat so you don't get sick and die. The other thing you can do is dig around in other people's or businesses trash and eat what has been discarded. That is kind of gross and there is a possibility the food is not safe to eat. The only other thing you can do is steal what you need to eat. Then you will be caught by the police and they will put you in jail where you will get three meals per day. Either way, you will survive.

What I like about this quote is it suggests that you should be content with what you have in life. Be grateful that you are alive and that you have food to keep you alive. Be grateful that you have lived as long as you have and know you will probably live longer than most people throughout history.

Work Hard for Your Luck

2012-06-05T17:24:00.000-04:00

"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it." ~Stephen Leacock

The only thing that you need luck for is the lottery or the slots in Vegas. Everything else in this world, you can learn enough about that you can change the outcome just from knowing enough about it. Let's think about it.

You might say you need to be lucky to fall in love and get married. It is not hard to fall in love. Love is a choice. It is not something you feel, it is something you do; an action you share with someone else. That means you have to work at that Love with the person you are loving. Take the time to take them out. Take the time to write them little notes. Take them a coffee every now and again.

You might say the stock market takes luck. That's not true either. You can learn a lot about the stock market. There are thousands, maybe even millions of people who are making a killing on the stock market. That is not because of luck. They are making a killing because they understand how the stock market works. They know what they are looking for and know when it is time to buy and when it is time to sell. That is not luck. That is knowledge.

Most people think that gambling takes luck. I will admit there are a lot of games that are purely luck. Slot machines are mostly luck. So are scratch off tickets. If you are playing the game tables, or playing any of the games that require you to make choices, there are ways to improve your odds of winning. There are people who know the games so well, they are able to make a living doing it.

I think the luck Leacock is talking about is the luck of winning in business. A lot of people believe when you are starting a business, you need luck to make that business work. What you really need is a good idea and a lot of hard work. That is when the business will succeed. Luck really does not have anything to do with it.

Meditate Upon Good Thoughts

2012-05-30T10:30:00.000-04:00

"The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world & the world at large." -- Confucius

I have been a strong believer that if you think positively, the world around you will seem so much brighter. Everything in the world is seem differently by different eyes. What I see in one thing, may not be the same thing you see in that exact same thing. The thing is not different. Our points of view are different.

There is so much negativity out there. All you have to do is turn on the television and all you get are things that can depress you. The news is mostly comprised of accidents, murders and people stealing money from each other. If you sit down to watch a movie, most of them have anger, hatred and all kinds of ill will towards each other. Sure most of them end happily, but getting to that happy ending just fills your mind with all kinds of negativity. This is not good for you.

Think about avoiding those things that bring negativity to your mind. Avoid the news. all you need are the headlines to keep yourself abreast with what is going on in the world. Don't watch these headlines in the morning. Wait till you have already started your day in a good way before you introduce those negative thoughts. If you can avoid them altogether, then do that. Find things that make you happy. Find things you can do that bring you some sort of peace and enjoyment. Do these things briefly everyday.

If you can bring good and happy things into your life, you will be amazed at the quality of your life. You will be a happier person. You will be able to handle the things that are not so good. You will also find you are healthier. You will not be sick quite as often. So think positively and have some fun.

Only Today Exists

2012-05-21T17:18:00.000-04:00

Today is the only time we can possibly live. ~Dale Carnegie

Think about it. Yesterday has already past. There is nothing you can do to change it. All you can do is learn from it. Tomorrow has not happened yet. When tomorrow gets here, it is no longer tomorrow, it is today. You can not live for tomorrow because tomorrow never comes. You can prepare for tomorrow by living in the present.

Are you living or just getting by. Are you following a routine or are you living life like to day is the only day you get. Think about time as something we made up. We are only living in our little space sharing it with everyone else's little spaces.

We creates yesterday. We created tomorrow. Think about the animals. I look at my dog. She is only thinking about the right now. When she is hungry, she looks at me and asks me to fill her food dish. Shen she want to be walked she will lay her head on my lap and give me that little "lets take a walk whine."

I think about the spiders that are living on the rain gutters outside the house. They are thinking I need to build a web. Now I need to wait patiently. When something sticks to the web, then I can have lunch. They are not worried about yesterday or tomorrow. Why should we be.

Use what you can do today to enhance what you expect when tomorrow becomes today. It is OK to plan for the future, but there is no point in worrying about tomorrow till it gets here. All that does is make you sick. Think about today and what you can do today.

Make the Days Count

2012-05-11T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Don't count the days, make the days count." ~ Muhammad Ali

You only get so many days in your life. No one knows how many are left for them. They can only live their life to the fullest as long as possible. At least that is what they should be trying to do.

Did you make today count? Before you lay down to sleep for the night or at least before you let yourself drift off to sleep, think about your day. Did you live it the best you could? Are there things you would have changed about it? If there are things you would change, take a moment to live it like you would have liked it to go.

Plan out your days. Sit down for a few minutes before you start each and everyday and write down all the things you would like to get done that day. Think about some of the goals you are hoping to complete in the near future. Think about steps you could take today to make those goals come to pass. Add those tasks to your list.

I find by making that list, you will remember more of the things you need to get done even if you don't have the list in front of you. If you know you are forgetting something you were supposed to do, all you have to do is pull out that list and remind yourself. It is also a nice feeling when you can mark off the things you have completed.

Whatever you do, make the day count.

Your the Pilot of Your Time

2012-05-04T06:00:00.000-04:00

"The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot." --Michael Altshuler

It occurred to me this week that the year 2000 does not seem that long ago. It has been more the twelve years since that crazy New Years Day party. I ponder about how fast time is moving as I get older. I wonder if my body mass makes my place in timespace a bit faster; a bit heavier. I wonder if children perceive time slower because they are younger or because they are just smaller. Do we naturally speed up as we get older because we become more dense? I don't know. It is an interesting concept.

Are you in control of your time? Think about it. Do you know where all your time goes? If you don't, maybe you should sit down and create a time budget. You should know what is happening to all of your time. Are you spending it all at work or in bed or on the couch in front of a television or video game system? Is that where you truly want to spend that amount of time? If it is not, then you have the power to make changes to the management of your time.

I like anything that Dave Ramsey does. If you don't know who he is, run over to his website and download his free podcast. He teaches you how to be smart with your money. I like to take his philosophy with money and focus it on my time. You should budget your time before you spend any of it. Know what you have to do and plan out every minute that way you are not sitting idle trying to figure out what you should be doing. If you can do this, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish.

Discover More About a Person

2012-04-06T06:00:00.000-04:00

You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation. - Plato

There are several sayings like this. In writing they say "Show, Don't Tell" This means you need to find a way to get the reader to participate in what it happening in the story, not just tell them what it going on. Teacher cannot just tell students how to solve a math problem, they have to show them how a problem works on a chalkboard. People learn better when they see and participate in what they are learning. Being told not always enough to make it part of ones learning.

When you see a recipe, you sort of know how to make it, but until you can get the ingredients into the pan and see how they start to react to the heat and to each other, there is no telling how your version of that recipe will turn out. It takes time a patience to learn every aspect of the recipe.

Everyone learns differently as well. It make take a different aspect of something to make it click in my head than it will in your head. I might need to see the contours of a figure before I can see myself painting it on the canvas. You might need to see the colors you are going to paint with before you can start painting. There are infinite points of view and infinite ways to think about things. We just need to remember that people need to see how things work in their own way.

Do Something Today

2012-03-30T06:00:00.000-04:00

"If what you did yesterday seems big, you haven't done anything today." -Lou Holtz

We should always be striving to do our best. If we can, we should at least try to do better than we did previously. We should always be better than we were. That will only bring more value to our lives and the lives of those we touch.

I see a lot of people just moving through life. Some want to do better with what they have but they don't seem to have the drive. They can't find the will within themselves to do what they want to accomplish. They need something else. Usually that something else is the approval of others. They want to hear someone else say what they are doing is the right thing to do. What they are doing is an amazing thing.

What I have come to realize is if you want to accomplish something, you can only rely on yourself for the support. People are not always going to come behind you and tell you are doing a good job. In fact, a number of them are going to look at what you are doing and ask you why you are doing such a thing.

Take a moment to appreciate what you are doing. Tell yourself you are doing a good job and smile because you are doing something you love, something you want to do. Then keep doing what it is that you are doing and keep working hard to get it complete.

I like the checks and balances Holtz' quote suggests. You should look at what you what you are doing today and compare it to what you did yesterday. Strive to make something bigger and better today than what you did yesterday. If you can do that, then you will always accomplish your goals.

Hate Statements About the Hunger Games

2012-03-29T15:41:00.001-04:00

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

I am hearing a whole lot of anger filled statements about the Hunger Games. There are posts upon posts online about people not liking the fact that Rue was portrayed as a black girl. This confuses me. I don't understand why people allow skin color to get in the way of enjoying a great film, a great set of books, and an overall story that touched on much bigger issues than skin color.

The first point I want to make is that Rue is described as dark skinned girl in the book, so the choice of actor for this part is fitting. There is no need to get mad at the choice. Second, the producers of the movie are trying to make sure as many people as possible can relate to the story, so they want to provide as much diversity as possible when choosing their actors.

Another quote that I like comes from Yoda in Episode 2 of Star Wars. Yoda says, "Fear leads to Anger. Anger leads to Hate. Hate leads to Suffering." Hate does lead to suffering. in this case, unneeded suffering. It is a movie. A completed movie at that. It's not like the producers are going to go back and make changes just because people are complaining or nitpicking the film. Take the movie for what it is. If you don't like it, that is fine, say you don't like it, but keep the negative comments to yourself, especially ones that are going to stir up anger and hatred. Lets enjoy a movie for what it is, a form of entertainment.

May the Odds be Ever in Your Favor

2012-03-27T15:14:00.000-04:00

"May the Odds be Ever in Your Favor"
~ Effie Trinket, The Hunger Games written by Suzanne Collins

Little did she know that she would be giving Katniss a small glimmer of hope, hope that she would survive the Hunger Games. Effie liked Katniss. She did not want to see the young player lose her life to the annual event. It happened every year and to win would mean to live a life of luxury and fame.

Katniss didn't want the money or the fame. What she wanted was to save her family from having to live in a world where children would be forced to play in a game that would kill all but one. Being close to Katniss, prepping her for what she was about to experience, Effie felt a bit of pain and expressed it the only way she knew how.

If you can keep this thought in your mind, Think: "The Odds are Ever in My Favor." you will find the ability to do anything. You can be the hero of your own story. You can find a way to survive in a world that would love to see you fail. I don't know why people want others to fail. If we helped each other succeed, more amazing things would occur, making our world a better place to live.

Think of ways to say this to other people. Most people say things like, "Have a great day." or SciFi fans might say, "May the Force be With You." Religious people might say, "God Bless." I find myself saying many times, "Drive Safely." I feel if people think about driving safely, they will be less likely to get into trouble while behind the wheel.

Skate to Where the Puck is Going

2012-03-27T06:00:00.000-04:00

"I always skate to where the puck is going, not where it's been." -Wayne Gretsky

I always try to follow my own advice. If you see something that is working, do more of that. In your money making endeavors, you will find a lot of things that just don't work. You will find a few things that sort of work and even fewer things that work really well. You would be smart to continue to do the things that make money and if you are capable, you will do more of those things.

Of the things that are sort of working, you will want to adjust what you are doing and try to make them work better. You want to make those ideas make money for you. If you can't figure out why they are only making a little bit or just breaking even, maybe it is time to set that idea aside and skate towards something else that might have a higher return.

Ideas are a dime a dozen. I heard somewhere that the average person has at least three new ideas per day. The problem is that we don't act on them. We need to find a way to determine the profitability on those ideas and act on the ones that look like they will make money.

Do you have a pocket notebook? You should have one in your pocket at all times. Whenever you have an idea, you should write it down. I find if I don't write the ideas I have down, I forget them within an hour. For some reason, our ideas create themselves in our short term memory and most of them never make it to our long term memory.

A couple of times per week, during your slow time, take the time to look through your ideas and figure out which ideas you can act upon. This will lead you to more creative ideas.

Find Your Inner Way

2012-03-24T06:00:00.002-04:00

"Once you have the Inner Way, the Outer Way will Follow" ~Wayne Dyer

If you think about it, Whatever it is, it will usually find a way to happen. I have always liked the philosophy that you become whatever it is you think about. If you set up the thought pattern in your mind that something bad is going to happen, something bad usually finds a way to happen. On the other side of the coin, If you set it in your mind that only good things are going to happen, then you will find awesome things happening to you all the time.

The trick is to find ways to make you think about positive things.For some reason, we a human beings are trained to think negatively. We don't trust anyone or anything. We feel like we have to do things by ourselves when in reality to be good at any one thing, you need a group who also is interested in that one thing. That is why there are writing groups, magician clubs and coupon cutting parties.

Here are some ways you can keep yourself thinking positively:

Find a partner who wants the same thing you do. Together you can build each other up and route each other on to make it to the finish line. I am sure you can do it all by yourself, but it will be a whole lot more fun if you had someone to share the success with.
Carry a reminder. If you can keep something in your pocket or around your wrist to remind you to think positively then you will have a trigger to pull you back into the positive side of that line.
Laugh out loud for no apparent reason. If you find yourself thinking badly, stop what you are doing and just start laughing. Soon you will find that you are laughing at yourself laughing for no reason. Laughing feels good and will lift you out of your negativity.
Write good things in your journal. Sit down and just start a list of the things that are good right at that moment. If you can see your surroundings in a different way, then you will be able to be positive.

Let's Make a Point

2012-03-18T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy" ~Sir Isaac Newton

How many times do we speak before we think, then in turn lose a good friend or at least lose their respect. This is something that happens on a regular basis. All you have to do is look around and watch the relationships between the people around you.

That Old Wife's Saying, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." is a good lesson to live by. I find that if I hold my tongue instead of speaking what is on my mind at the time I was thinking it, I am better off. If I give my mind some time to think about what I want to say and how to say it with more than just my emotions running the thought, then what I have to say will be more constructive than destructive.

Usually when you want to say something negative, you are more interested in putting the other person down or causing them the same kind of pain you are feeling when you want to make the comment. If you can keep your mouth shut, you will be able to allow the emotions of the moment subside. You will be able to think about the comment you want to make. I think more often than not, you will find the comment unnecessary.

If you feel the point still needs to be made. If someone has wronged you in some sort of way, giving the moment the time it needs to calm itself may be what you need to keep it from turning into something that will tear the relationship apart.

Think about what you want to say. Try to find a way to make the solution benefit both yourself and the person you are angry with. If you can make them an active participant instead of an enemy, then you will be more likely to keep them as a friendly relationship.

Contribute to the Success of Others

2012-03-17T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Our own success, to be real, must contribute to the success of others." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Have you ever noticed when you are trying to do things for yourself, you feel either the stress of failure or the desire to procrastinate, but when you are doing something for someone else, something without expecting anything in return, you have a greater desire to finish what You have started.

I like the idea of helping others. Many of the most successful people made their riches by helping other people get what they want. You can read about people like Henry Ford who wanted to help people get around faster without relying on a living creature. Horses get tired, but the automobile does not.

You can read about Benjamin Franklin or Thomas Edison who both were inventors who made things for people who needed glasses or light bulbs or pot belly stoves or a way to listen to the recorded voice. When you make a product or provide a service for a large group of people who need or want it, there will be a fortune waiting for you.

Zig Ziglar Always says "If you help enough people get what they want, You will get what you want." You could treat this statement almost like a law of life. It happens every time I see it put into use. The goal is not to think about the money. Spend your time thinking about how you can implement the idea. If the idea is valuable to people, the money will find it's way to you.

Explain it to a Six Year Old

2011-10-21T06:00:00.000-04:00

"If you can't explain it to a six year old, you don't understand it yourself" ~Albert Einstein

This makes perfect sense. Have you ever sat down with a child and tried to explain something to them. You think you can explain it to anyone, but then you find that you can't find the words to make it understandable to someone who doesn't have an extended vocabulary.

I think this is how most self help gurus write their books. You should try this with something you know a lot about. Sit down and start writing. Split what you are trying to teach into sections. You want something that is separated into bite sized chunks. You want your six year old to be able to go away everyday with a small part of what you are teaching.

Now start writing each section as if you are trying to explain it to a child. Use small words. Don't try to expand on anything in exhaustive detail. Try to remember that the people you are trying to teach probably don't have any experience in what you know about. That means the parts you take for granted, they know nothing about.

When you are done, try your teaching on someone else. They don't have to be six years old. They just have to know very little about what you are teaching. When you do this, you will find out some of the things you left out. You will notice their face when you say something that does not make sense to them. Those are you ques to make changes to your teaching.

The interesting thing about putting together this teaching, you will learn so much more about what you are trying to teach. You will be surprised at what you have learned yourself.

Time or Money

2011-10-20T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time." -Jim Rohn

This is something that we often forget. Then we wonder where the time went when we have wasted it watching TV or surfing the internet or whatever other pointless activities we do in life. Time is something that is finite. We only have so much of it. The problem is, we have no idea how much of it we will have.

I am a strong believer in making your time count. Make sure you know what you want to do in your life. Make sure you know who you want to spend that time with. Then when you get to the end of your life, you won't be sad to find that you have wasted the time you have been give.

Do you know what you want to do with your life? Even if you do or you don't, take a few moments to sit down and make a list of all the things you want to accomplish in your life.I like the website called 43things.com. The site allows you to make goals. Then it helps you accomplish those goals.

After you know what you want to do, take a few minutes to plan out the upcoming month, to figure out how you can get certain steps accomplished to get closer to those large goals. Then the only thing you will have to do to make those goals happen is to get out there and do them.

Promises are like Crying Babies

2011-10-19T06:00:00.000-04:00

Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once. - Norman Vincent Peale

If you make a promise, you must follow through with that promise. It will define your character whether you carry out what you've said you would do or not. If you don't follow through, then people will have a hard time trusting you with anything. They will not take you seriously. If you do follow through with your promise, then you will be admired, counted on, and the amount of responsibility given to you will grow.

It says something about you as a person when you keep your promises. You say that you are a person who is going somewhere. It says that you should be someone that people can follow and not worry about being left behind. Keeping your promises will make you a better leader, and ultimately more successful in life.

Think about it. If we had a politician who could keep every promise they ever made, they would be someone worth getting behind. We would have someone who might just be in office for 8 years and who might be worth getting the law changed to give him (or her) a third term. That would be just awesome.

So how do you keep your promises? Don't promise something you can not deliver on. Remember to think about what you are promising before you make the commitment. If you know you can't do something, don't say you can do it. If you are not sure if something is possible, then don't promise you can do it. As for help and do it together. Then you will know if it is something you can do.

You Are a Success

2011-10-18T06:00:00.000-04:00

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success." ~Dr. Joyce Brothers

This is a simple concept, but I think most people fail to live it. If you want something, you need to focus on it. If you don't focus on it, then your mind will not be aware of the things you want when they pass near you. If you are focusing on those things, then you will notice them when they approach. Then you can take action on those opportunities.

You can only do things if you believe you can do things. That includes being a success. If you don't believe you can, then what chance do you have to actually become that success. You have to know it is possible, and the more present tense you can make that belief, the sooner you will feel that success come to your reality.

I think you have to be ready to make something happen. If your mind is not ready, then it will be hard for your body to make it happen. The nice thing is that you can choose to be ready whenever you want to be. Once you make that choice then there is nothing outside your grasp. You just have to believe.

Make Others Become Great

2011-10-17T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great" ~Mark Twain

This is an interesting quote to think about. It is true if you think about it. Who in you life do you feel is a great person. It might be a teacher or a boss or someone else who you think does amazing work. Why do you think they are great? Usually it is because they have made you feel like you yourself might be great as well. That teacher prods you to do well on a test or compliments something you have written. The boss tells you that you have been doing a good job and instructs you in ways that will make you a better boss.

One of my favorite examples is when we read authors. We think they are great. They don't know us. They have never spoken to us. They may never speak to us. Somehow, though, they are able to make us feel like we are someone great. I don't know what it is. Maybe because we get the opportunity to read something in their world, become part of that world. We get to see a small part of what is inside them.

We all strive to be great in some way. We all strive to be like those who we admire. The ones who, in our eyes, are already great. In that way we try to me more like them, making even the slightest bit of greatness. What we don't always see is that those we see as great once saw someone before them as great, someone who made them want to be better, to be great themselves. Soon you will have people looking at you wanting a little bit of your greatness to rub off on them. All you can do is be as great as you can be.

Ignore Your Limits

2011-10-14T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Know your limits, then ignore them" ~John Mason

Sometimes it is good to not know how far you can go. Then you will surprise yourself by how far you can go. Lets say that you are invited to run a marathon. You say yes knowing you have never run that kind of distance before. You get on the starting line and start running when you hear the signal. You will be pleasantly surprised how far you can run without stopping. Then you will be surprised that you are able to walk the rest without stopping. Then you will be able to tell everyone that you have completed a marathon. It may take you 6-8 hours to complete the marathon but that is OK. You did it, and that is all that matters.

Now that you have an idea of what it is like to run a marathon, you know what your limits are. You will know what it takes to get yourself to the next level. Now all you have to do is train yourself to get past those limits. You start running everyday. You start to rat better, making sure you eat things that will give your muscles the nutrients they need to take the punishment you intend to put on them.

Instead of waiting for someone to invite you to run that next marathon, you start searching for the next one you want to run. You make plans to be at that marathon, and you set goals to get you to the point to run that race. When the day comes you start running, and are amazed when you pass the 5 mile mark without feeling too much strain. You keep running till you can't run anymore. Then you walk the rest of the way. When you finish, you find you have shaved off two hours off you last marathon. Now you know what your new limits are and you can plan for the next one.

Absorb what is useful

2011-10-13T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Absorb what is useful, disregard the rest, Add what is uniquely your own." ~Bruce Lee

This is one of the best pieces of advice I have ever come across. It is important because everyone perceives the world differently. This means that one piece of information may be important to one person and completely useless to another.

Personally I like to listen to as much information as I can. If the information that is being presented is not making some kind of movement within me, I move on to the next piece of information. If there is something I find interesting I will try to listen to it more than once. I want to listen to or read that information enough to absorb what it is trying to say to me.

That is another point I would like to suggest. The same piece of information could mean two totally different things to two different people. One might be thinking about the person who is talking and be focused on how the information changed the speakers life. The second person could be thinking about how the information could benefit the project he is currently working on.

When Bruce made this statement, he was talking about martial arts. The same techniques of different martial arts may not be as effective for one person as it is for another. He wanted his students to take the techniques that were beneficial for each person and build upon them. There is no point in spending time on a technique you can't do or don't do well when there are other techniques that will get you to your goal faster. Take what works for you and build upon it. That is my suggestion.

Stop Rowing and Look Around

2011-10-12T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Rowing harder doesn't help if the boat is headed in the wrong direction." - Kenichi Ohmae

I don't know how often this happens to us, but it does happen often. We are doing one thing when we should be doing another. It's not until we fall into a hole when we realize that we were heading in the wrong direction.

There are other times when we know we are heading in the wrong direction be we make the decision not to turn around. Then we wonder why we arrive somewhere we don't want to be. The best example of this is how we eat. We know we should be eating healthy food. We make the decision to eat a lot of junk food and fast food. Then we wonder why we are fat and miserable.

Take some time to think about your life and what you are doing with it. Identify the things you are doing that are heading in a different direction than you truly intend to be heading. May a conscious choice to turn around and head toward a definite goal. You will enjoy your life much more when you start making some of your goals come true.

Are You Contagious?

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"Happiness is contagious. Be a carrier" ~Robert Orben

Have you ever looked at someone and just laughed. Then because you laughed, they start laughing. I do this all the time to my little nieces. They have no idea why they are laughing. They have no idea why I am laughing. All they know is that my laugh is making them laugh. That's kind of funny.

Here is something you can experiment with. When you are out in public, start laughing for no reason. People will start to look at you with curiosity. They will want to know what is making you laugh. They might even start laughing because you are laughing. If anything you will have brought a little humor to other peoples lives.

If you think just laughing is creepy, then pick up your cell phone and pretend you are laughing at someone on the other side of the call. Or wear your earphones and point to them when other people look at you funny. You will have to laugh harder to get a response out of them, but at least you won't seem like a creepy, insane, happy person.

Love, Strength & Courage

2011-10-10T06:00:00.000-04:00

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

I don't know why I like this quote. There is something truthful about the words. I wonder if it is the same for men as it is for women. I know when I think about it, women tend to give men their strength. If it wasn't for women, I don't think men would ever do anything. I think they would sit around and do as little as possible. When women (or anyone you might care for) comes into the picture, then men want to do things for her. The man wants to give her everything he possibly can. It takes courage to do that.

When that same person loves you back, that just makes you want to do more. It becomes a cycle. She loves you. That gives you the courage to do the things that will make you successful. Loving her in return makes you strong enough to continue to do the things that make him and her successful. The cycle continues as long as they continue to love each other.

So here is what I suggest that you do. Take the time to find someone who you can love. Allow that love to give you the strength you need to build your life. When she loves you back, that will give you the courage to continue to do the things you need to do to continue to grow your life together. It will take that courage to have kids and to be the parents you want to be.

Strength, Courage and Love. Those are a fantastic combination.

Make Yourself Happy

2011-10-07T06:00:00.000-04:00

"Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response." ~ Mildred Barthel

Have you ever thought about this? You may laugh at a joke, you may find things around you, but you choose to laugh. You have a choice to laugh. You may think that you don't, but if you put your mind to it, you can force yourself to keep a strait face instead of laughing.

The exact opposite is true as well. While you are sitting there in your seat in front of your computer or your smartphone or even your tablet reader, just start laughing. You can laugh for no reason. When you start laughing, you will find that funny and that will make you laugh. Try it. I Dare You. The laughing will make you feel good. There is something in your body, a hormone or something that is released when you laugh that makes you happy. So just laugh. Laugh when you are in your car and you just had a rough drive to work. If you laugh yourself into a good mood before you walk into the building, you will have a better day than if you walked in with the sourness from the guy who cut you off.

If you think you are a naturally pessimistic person, I am here to tell you, that is a choice you have made. Change that choice. Whenever you catch yourself being pessimistic, change your thinking. If you need to, start laughing. The people around you will wonder what happened to you.