Avon Hypnotherapy's Blog

Is Vaginismus Different from Vaginism?

2013-01-26T23:29:00.001+00:00

Essentially Vaginismus and Vaginism is the same thing, and the terms are interchangeable, and the forms of help available for vaginismus and vaginism are effectively the same.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with vaginismus, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/vaginismus.htm?avonblog

Article by Denise Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and co-author and editor of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Overcome Vaginismus

2013-01-26T22:59:00.001+00:00

Overcome Vaginismus: Is it possible to Overcome Vaginismus?

Article by Denise Douglass

Millions of women all round the world want to know one thing... can you overcome vaginismus?

To overcome vaginismus, we must understand what we are trying to overcome.

Vaginismus is a condition in which an attempt to insert something into a woman's vagina causes the muscles surrounding the vagina to tighten, and to clamp shut, making penetration painful for the woman. To overcome vaginismus would mean that the woman would be able to have sex.

Vaginismus can affect sexual intercourse and gynaecological examinations and even the use of tampons, and so to overcome vaginismus can have an effect on the woman's health too.

When looking to overcome vaginismus, we must realise that the closing of the vagina is involuntary, it is often due to a learned response to pain.

Woman with vaginismus can get caught in a 'catch 22' situation, for they subconsciously expect, or fear pain, and for them, the muscles can tighten up. If penetration is then attempted, it can be painful simply because the muscles are tight, so to overcome vaginismus, we must do something about this 'cycle'.

Overcome Primary Vaginismus

Primary vaginism and vaginismus are the names given to the condition when the woman has never been able to have sexual intercourse.

Primary vaginism and vaginismus is often discovered in the teenage years, and when the girl tries to use tampons, or goes for an internal examination and finds it to be extremely uncomfortable and / or painful.

Overcome Secondary Vaginismus

Secondary vaginism and vaginismus is the name given to the condition where the woman has been able to achieve penetration in the past, but for some reason develops vaginismus after some time.

To overcome vaginismus is often easier for secondary vaginismus than it is for primary vaginismus, simply because the woman is aware that penetration without pain is possible.

What can I do if I suffer from vaginismus?

The first thing to do, is understand that vaginismus is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like vaginismus, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how vaginismus affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help women with vaginismus all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with vaginismus, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/vaginismus.htm?avonblog

Article by Denise Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and co-author and editor of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

How Many Men are Affected by Premature Ejaculation (PE)?

2013-01-26T22:29:00.001+00:00

Estimates vary, because it depends on their definition of Premature Ejaculation (PE), but estimates show that as many as 40% - 50% of men regularly experience Premature Ejaculation (PE), with most men experiencing Premature Ejaculation (PE) at some time in their lives.

Premature Ejaculation (PE) is most common among men who are having sex for the first few times, and most men could experience Premature Ejaculation (PE) during extreme levels of sexual excitement or stimulation.

Premature Ejaculation (PE) can also be quite specific. A man, for example, may experience Premature Ejaculation (PE) during vaginal sex, but may be perfectly OK during masturbation for example.

What can I do if I suffer from premature ejaculation?

The first thing to do, is understand that premature ejaculation is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like premature ejaculation, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how premature ejaculation affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with premature ejaculation all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with Premature Ejaculation, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/premature_ejaculation.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What Should I Do if I Suffer from Erectile Dysfunction?

2013-01-26T21:59:00.001+00:00

Understand and accept that Erectile Dysfunction doesn't make you any 'less of a man' – In fact, be proud of the fact that you accept that Erectile Dysfunction may be a problem for you, and that you are helping yourself to move on from it

Talk to your partner about it. Sometimes, the stress of 'what will she think of me' can help to cause the Erectile Dysfunction in the first place... talking about it with an understanding partner can help

Talk to your doctor about it.

If you are a smoker, stop smoking, and if you are overweight (again under the guidance of your doctor), lose some weight.

Understand that there can be many psychological causes to (Erectile Dysfunction, and that a professional therapist may be able to help you to overcome them. Don't feel uncomfortable approaching a professional therapist... they deal with these sorts of things all the time.

What can I do if I suffer from erectile dysfunction?

The first thing to do, is understand that erectile dysfunction is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like erectile dysfunction, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how erectile dysfunction affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with erectile dysfunction all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with erectile dysfunction, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/erectile_dysfunction.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What should I do if I am impotent?

2013-01-26T21:29:00.001+00:00

If you feel that you are impotent, there are many things that you can do to make yourself feel better, and less impotent..

Realise that because you feel impotent, it doesn't make you any 'less of a man' – In fact, be proud of the fact that you accept that you feel impotent, and that you are helping yourself to move on from it

Talk to your partner about it. Sometimes, the stress of 'what will she think of me' may be contributing to you feeling impotent... talking about it with an understanding partner can help

Tell your doctor (or healthcare professional) that you feel impotent.

If you are a smoker, stop smoking, and if you are overweight (again under the guidance of your doctor), lose some weight.

Understand that there can be many psychological reasons that you feel impotent, and that a professional therapist may be able to help you to overcome them. Don't feel uncomfortable approaching a professional therapist... they deal with these sorts of things all the time.

What can I do if I suffer from impotence?

The first thing to do, is understand that impotence is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like impotence, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how impotence affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with impotence all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with impotence, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/impotent.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What are the psychological issues that can cause a man to be impotent?

2013-01-26T20:59:00.001+00:00

There a huge number of different psychological factors that can cause a man to become impotent... these can include:

Anxiety – A man can experience impotence at any time of his life, depending on the level of anxiety in his life at any given time

Stress – Again, stress can have a great effect on impotence in a man at any time of his life

Boredom – Perhaps the man doesn't find his partner sexually exciting any more

Performance Anxiety – A man may experience impotence due to worrying what his partner is going to think of his sexual performance

Unresolved Psychological Conflict – impotence caused by previous experiences that the man hasn't fully resolved

The Fear of Being Judged – Another form of impotence caused by a performance anxiety (or more specifically in this case, social anxiety)

Anticipation of Impotence Happening – Sometimes, impotence will happen simply because the man has been worrying about not being able to get or keep an erection

Worrying About Pregnancy – Particularly in young men, the worry of getting the girl pregnant can be enough to bring on impotence

Remembering Previous Impotence – If a man gets himself into a cycle of worrying about impotence, this worry can help to bring on impotence

Worry About Using a Condom – Again, often in young men, the worry of using a condom properly (or the thought of using a condom at all) can bring on impotence

Guilt – impotence can occur in men who feel guilty about the sexual relationship (for example, when cheating on their wife, or starting a new sexual relationship after another has ended)

Upbringing - Having grown up, for example, in an environment where sex was seen as 'dirty', or where sexuality was often suppressed or used to induce guilt

Depression – Someone suffering from depression can experience impotence when they are feeling depressed

Relationship Problems – Trying to maintain a sex life with a partner which whom there are problems in the relationship as a whole can bring on impotence in the man

Lack of Self Confidence – If a man isn't confident in his sexual performance, he may worry about how it is going to be, and this can cause impotence

Low Self-Worth – A man may experience impotence if he has a low self worth, and feels he isn't worthy of being in a sexual relationship with his partner

Tiredness – For example, a man who works a lot of hours can experience impotence due to exhaustion

What can I do if I suffer from impotence?

The first thing to do, is understand that impotence is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like impotence, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how impotence affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with impotence all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with impotence, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/impotent.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Question: How do I know if I'm commitment phobic?

2013-01-26T02:29:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'How do I know if I'm commitment phobic?'.

If you want to know if you are a commitment phobic, you need to be aware of the symptoms of commitment phobia, so that you can recognise those signs in yourself.

Once you are familiar with those signs of commitment phobia, then you'll be able to know if you're a commitment phobic far more easily.

When you know if you are a commitment phobic, then there are some really good ways to understand commitment phobia, and then overcome it.
To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Question: How can you make a man commit?

2013-01-26T01:59:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'How can you make a man commit?'.

One of the first things to think before wondering if you can make a man commit, is whether or not you'd like to MAKE him commit at all.

It can be said, that helping a man to understand why committing to a relationship is something he's resisting, is a far better way to encourage him to feel comfortable about committing to a relationship in the long term, than it is to force him to commit against his wishes.

Often, making a man commit is more about making him feel comfortable in the relationship, and it is about making him commit.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Question: How can I find out about guys with commitment issues?

2013-01-26T01:29:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'How can I find out about guys with commitment issues?'.

While commitment phobia doesn't only affect guys, if you are affected by a guys fear of commitment issues, it's important that you know that he can be helped to feel differently about his commitment issues.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Symptom #8 - The Unavailable Partner – The Long Distance Relationship

2013-01-26T00:59:00.001+00:00

The Unavailable Partner – The Long Distance Relationship

An example of the person with commitment phobia having an unavailable partner is the commitment phobic who lives in London and their boyfriend/girlfriend lives in Australia for example.

The commitment phobic 'knows' that the chances of that person giving up everything to travel half way around the world to be with them is very remote. Again, the person with commitment phobia is keeping the relationship at a nice distance.

Read more about the symptoms of commitment phobia at http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitment_phobia/symptoms_of_commitment_phobia.htm?avonblog

Or, to read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Symptom #2 - Criticism of a Partner

2013-01-26T00:29:00.001+00:00

Criticism of a Partner

The person with commitment phobia may be extremely critical of their partner, the environment the relationship is in, or of the relationship itself.

"We couldn't possibly have a baby, you chose this house... the house is far too small"

or...

"Why do you always have to bring up marriage now… you know I'm stressed at work? - I get more stress because of you constantly pressuring me... it's all your fault"

Using criticism like this is an unconscious attempt by the person with the commitment phobia to deflect the 'blame' off of themselves onto their partner.

"I want to get married one day, but you keep pressuring me too much".

Read more about the symptoms of commitment phobia at http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitment_phobia/symptoms_of_commitment_phobia.htm?avonblog

Or, to read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What can I do if I suffer from vaginismus?

2013-01-25T23:59:00.001+00:00

The first thing to do, is understand that vaginismus is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like vaginismus, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how vaginismus affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help women with vaginismus all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with vaginismus, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/vaginismus.htm?avonblog

Article by Denise Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and co-author and editor of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What is Vaginismus, and What Vaginismus Help is Available?

2013-01-25T23:29:00.001+00:00

Article by Denise Douglass

Vaginismus (also known as Vaginism) is a condition in which an attempt to insert something into a woman's vagina causes the muscles surrounding the vagina to tighten, and to clamp shut, making penetration painful or impossible.

Vaginismus can affect sexual intercourse as well as gynaecological examinations and even the use of tampons.

Vaginismus is involuntary, and can be compared to any other reflex action where the body closes up as a reflex, like when the eye blinks if something approaches it.

In vaginismus, although the closing of the vagina is involuntary, it is often due to a learned response to pain, that is to say, the woman expects pain, or remembers previous painful experiences, or simply imagines that penetration will be painful, and the vaginismus reflex occurs. Vaginismus can be helped very successfully.

Woman with vaginismus can get caught in a 'catch 22' situation. They subconsciously expect, or fear pain, and the muscles tighten up. If penetration is then attempted, it can be painful simply because the muscles are tight. What happens then, is that the pain then subconsciously re-inforces the fear, tells the subconscious that it was right to fear the pain, and it can cause an even stronger response the next time.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with vaginismus, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/vaginismus.htm?avonblog

Article by Denise Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and co-author and editor of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Hypnotherapy for Vaginismus

2013-01-25T22:59:00.001+00:00

Hypnotherapy for Vaginismus: What is Available for Vaginismus?

Article by Denise Douglass

Vaginismus is a term for a condition in which an attempt to insert something into a woman's vagina causes the muscles surrounding the vagina to tighten, and to clamp shut, making penetration painful for the woman, and frustrating for her partner.

Vaginismus can affect sexual intercourse and gynaecological examinations and even the use of tampons.

Vaginismus is involuntary for the woman, and can be compared to any other reflex action where the body closes up as a reflex.

For vaginismus, although the closing of the vagina is involuntary, it is often due to a learned response to pain, and the woman expects pain, and remembers previous painful experiences, or simply imagines that penetration will be painful, and the vaginismus reflex occurs, but treatment for vaginismus can be very successful for vaginismus.

Woman with vaginismus can get caught in a 'catch 22' situation, for they subconsciously expect, or fear pain, and for them, the muscles can tighten up. If penetration is then attempted, it can be painful simply because the muscles are tight.

Hypnotherapy for Primary Vaginismus

Primary vaginism and vaginismus are the names given to the condition when the woman has never been able to have sexual intercourse.

Primary vaginism and vaginismus is often discovered in the teenage years, and when the girl tries to use tampons, or goes for an internal examination and finds it to be extremely uncomfortable and / or painful.

Hypnotherapy for Secondary Vaginismus

Secondary vaginism and vaginismus is the name given to the condition where the woman has been able to achieve penetration in the past, but for some reason develops vaginismus after some time.

Treatment for vaginismus is often easier for secondary vaginismus than it is for primary vaginismus, simply because the woman is aware that penetration without pain is possible.

What can I do if I suffer from vaginismus?

The first thing to do, is understand that vaginismus is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like vaginismus, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how vaginismus affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help women with vaginismus all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with vaginismus, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/vaginismus.htm?avonblog

Article by Denise Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and co-author and editor of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Does Premature Ejaculation (PE) Matter?

2013-01-25T22:29:00.001+00:00

The simple answer that it matters if a man (or a couple) feel that their Premature Ejaculation (PE) is having a negative effect on their sex lives.

This is why the 'time' definition of Premature Ejaculation (PE) can be problematic.

One man may last for two minutes after entering their partner before orgasm and ejaculation (coming/cuming) and be perfectly satisfied with that, whereas another man might last ten minutes, or twenty minutes, and still feel that he has ejaculated (orgasmed) before he wanted to.

When using the orgasm (ejaculating / coming) before the partner definition of Premature Ejaculation (PE), this in no way takes account of how long the partner lasts before orgasm. If someone's partner lasts for over an hour, but they are happy to orgasm (ejaculate) within ten minutes, then that shouldn't be considered as Premature Ejaculation (PE), simply because in this case, the man is happy with his sexual performance, and is satisfied by the sex.

What can I do if I suffer from premature ejaculation?

The first thing to do, is understand that premature ejaculation is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like premature ejaculation, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how premature ejaculation affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with premature ejaculation all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with Premature Ejaculation, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/premature_ejaculation.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What is Erectile Dysfunction?

2013-01-25T21:59:00.001+00:00

Erectile Dysfunction (also commonly known as Impotence) is an inability to get an erection, or to maintain that erection long enough for intercourse or other sexual activity to take place.

Usually, Erectile Dysfunction will fall roughly into one of the following three categories:

Inability to get an erection
In this case, sexual stimulation, whether psychological (anticipation of sex, or sexual excitement), or physical (the touching or rubbing of the penis), is not enough for the man to be able to get an erection.

Inability to maintain an erection
Here, although the man may experience an erection through psychological or physical stimulation, the erection doesn't last long enough for sexual intercourse or other sexual activity to take place.

The man may initially penetrate his partner, only to find that his erection subsides.

Inability to penetrate during sex
Again, in this example of Erectile Dysfunction, the man may achieve an erection before sex, but when he tries to penetrate his partner, he finds that his penis isn't hard enough.

What can I do if I suffer from erectile dysfunction?

The first thing to do, is understand that erectile dysfunction is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like erectile dysfunction, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how erectile dysfunction affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with erectile dysfunction all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with erectile dysfunction, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/erectile_dysfunction.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

When Does Impotence Occur?

2013-01-25T21:29:00.001+00:00

A man can experience impotence at almost any part of his life. Because impotence has many different possible causes, Impotence can come on when the man is young, and first becomes sexually active, or impotence can come on when other factors in the man's life, such as stress, anxiety, boredom, money worries etc come into play.

What can I do if I suffer from impotence?

The first thing to do, is understand that impotence is no longer these days something you've just got to 'live with'... by using the technique or therapy that's right for you, you can overcome it very successfully.

So how do you know which is the right technique or therapy for you? Well, we feel that for something like impotence, there's simply nothing better than sitting down with a therapist, having a good, informal, friendly chat with them about how impotence affects you, and then hearing about the options available.

Having a chat with a therapist is free of charge, and there's no obligation, so you've really got nothing to lose. Remember, the therapists help men with impotence all the time, so there's no need to feel embarrassed... we're a friendly bunch really, and we'll soon put your mind at ease! :O)

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you with impotence, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/impotent.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

What are the effects of impotence on someone's self-esteem?

2013-01-25T20:59:00.001+00:00

When someone feels impotent, it can have a massive effect on their life. Sexual impotence doesn't just affect someone during sex, it can damage their self-esteem and feelings of self worth, so overcoming a feeling of impotence can have a very big effect on someone's life...

To understand what impotence is, and the effect it can have on someone, we need to understand...

• What does 'impotent' mean?
• What should I do if I am impotent?
• What makes a man impotent?
• When can a man become Impotent?
• What are the psychological issues that can cause a man to be impotent?
• What are the physical issues that can cause a man to be impotent?

Impotent is a terms that describes a man who has an inability to either get an erection, or to maintain that erection long enough for intercourse or other sexual activity to take place…

Read the full article at: http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/impotent.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment phobia and emetophobia client testimonial

2013-01-22T14:16:00.001+00:00

We've received a testimonial from someone who is a perfect example of how overcoming problems like emetophobia and commitment phobia can help with your whole life, not just one of your symptoms.

This lady's emetophobia (the fear of being sick) and commitment phobia (the fear of commiting to relationships) have been cured at the same time.

A client tells of how both problems have completely disappeared!

To see how you can overcome commitment phobia or emetophobia, see the relevant pages below…

http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm

http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/emetophobia.htm

"Dear Paul and Denise,

I just wanted to say THANK YOU VERY, VERY MUCH for being so incredibly patient, understanding, helpful, lovely, trustworthy and genuinely nice during the last few months and, most of all, for bringing those AMAZING changes into my life.

I had hoped for some improvement when I came to see you the first time, but I never ever imagined that so many things would be sorted out and that I would feel that much better -- not just about relationships but about myself in general.

It was another failed relationship that made me go and get professional help, not being entirely convinced that there was much I could do about my pattern -- which was always ending up with the wrong guy. But rather than waiting for Mr. Right, I thought it was better to do something about it. And I am so glad I did! My views, opinions and feelings have completely changed.

Along the line, my fear of seeing others being sick and the fear of being sick myself somehow disappeared and I would have never believed before that this could be cured. And guess what? I saw "The Last King of Scotland" on Saturday and there is a scene where the guy vomits and it did not bother me at all. I was so happy that your magic had worked that I actually enjoyed watching it. Spooky!

I really did enjoy the sessions -- with both of you -- they were good fun and you made me laugh so many times -- and they were definitely the most interesting thing I have experienced in my life so far.

I will never forget you and what you did for me - Thank you so, so much!

All the best, take care and see you soon,

Kerstin"
(name used with permission)

Paul Douglass

Therapist, trainer, and author of

the Paul Douglass LifeShaping® Process

http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

I’m thinking of using hypnosis out of desperation to help with my commitment phobia… can hypnosis help?

2013-01-22T12:42:00.001+00:00

Question:

I'm thinking of using hypnosis out of desperation to help with my commitment phobia… can hypnosis help?

Answer:

People often look at hypnosis out of desperation, so that's something I've come across quite a few time over the years… it sometimes has the 'aura' of being something that can magically 'hypnotise people out of' their problems.

In reality of course, the term 'hypnotherapy' covers a lot of different disciplines, that also happen to use 'hypnosis'. Some issues that can be described as 'habitual' (stopping smoking, some weight issues, nail biting, and things like that), can be improved by 'traditional' hypnotherapy, but for something a bit 'deeper', often needs a little more.

Commitment phobia is usually more than just a habit. It's usually more to do with getting into a 'cycle' of 'thinking' and 'coping' (where someone feels uncomfortable, does something to cope with the feelings that are there, and feel better temporarily, but don't do anything to actually break the cycle).

For something like commitment phobia, what I usually use to help people, are a combination of techniques that can help them to recognise those cycles (which they're often unaware of), and then break those cycles.

So in essence, I do think it's important to 'understand' why commitment phobia is there (which needn't necessarily be that hard… I usually get people to answer a series of questions that can show them how and why the commitment phobia is happening), which in turn can help them to know what they need to do to change it.

I hope that helps?

You can read more about the techniques to overcome commitment phobia at http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/help_with/phobias/commitment_phobia/commitment_phobia_index.htm

Cheers

Paul

Paul Douglass

Therapist, trainer, and author of

the Paul Douglass LifeShaping® Process

http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Can anyone suggest any coping strategies to deal with emetophobia?

2013-01-18T22:03:00.001+00:00

One of the main problems with 'cyclic' problems like emetophobia, is that if they can start to spiral out of control. This can happen easily when someone tries to 'cope' with the problem, rather than trying to do something about the 'cycle' itself.

There are some really good techniques that you can use to overcome emetophobia... some you can do as a 'self-help' programme, and some that you can do with someone (a therapist for example). Sometimes though, the best option can be to do something that's flexible (so for example, you can do it as a self-help programme, but have the additional one-to-one help on 'standby' as and when you need it).

If you are having panic attacks, then you'll be able to see those 'out of control' feelings in action, and so doing something to get things back under control could really help you.

I wish you all the best in getting help with your emetophobia.

If you'd like to find more resources, there's a new forum dedicated to emetophobia at http://forums.lifeshaping.co.uk/?forum=2… and you can read more about those sorts of techniques that I mentioned at http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/help_w…

Take care
Paul

My partner has commitment phobia, but we're not in the UK, can you help?

2013-01-18T16:14:00.001+00:00

Quite often (as I'm sure you're already aware), commitment phobia can often be something that over time, turns into a bit of a 'pattern' or 'cycle' (the same thoughts and behaviours happen time and time again). You may have recognised this sort of thing going on for your partner.

When that happens, the commitment phobic person themselves, as well as the people around them (especially their partners), can feel 'helpless'. The best way around this is to do something that can help them to break those 'cycles'.

There are a few techniques that can really help with this... two of them in particular are called the 'Divergence Point' and the 'Unhelpful Thinking Spectrum' - They're both really good techniques that can help someone to break those cycles. When they do, they often say they feel a huge sense of 'relief' and far more in control.

Both of those techniques come from something called the LifeShaping process (http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk) - it's something that can be done as a 'self-help' type of programme, or there's lots of help and support available if needed. (there's a free members forum, and there's optional additional one-to-one help available via Skype if someone feels like they need a little bit more help).

What I'd suggest, is that you or your partner try that as a self-help programme at first (and use the help and support that's available free on the forum), and then if you or your partner feel at any point that a little bit of extra help would be useful, that's always an option.

I hope that helps? Thanks again for getting in touch... I look forward to hearing from you.

Take care
Paul

Commitment Phobia Question: How do I deal with relationship problems?

2013-01-10T02:29:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'How do I deal with relationship problems?'.

If you want to deal with relationship problems in yourself, then there are some really good ways that you can deal with those relationship problems, primarily by understanding how relationship problems are affecting you, and why those relationship problems are there, and then putting some things in place to deal with those relationship problems for yourself.

If you want to deal with relationship problems in someone else, it's often best if the person with relationship problems wants to overcome those relationship problems for themselves.

Fortunately, whichever of these is most appropriate for you, there are some very good ways for you (or them) to understand how they can deal with their relationship problems.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Question: How can you help men with commitment problems?

2013-01-10T01:59:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'How can you help men with commitment problems?'.

While of course it's not just men that have commitment problems, when men do have commitment problems it can be a real problem, not only for themselves as the commitment phobe, but also for the partner or potential partner who is having to battle with their commitment phobia.

If you want to help men with commitment phobia, the place to start, is to understand for yourself what commitment phobia is REALLY all about. This can be done quite easily when you know where to look.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk

Commitment Phobia Question: Can I make him commit to a relationship?

2013-01-10T01:29:00.001+00:00

One of the most common questions about commitment phobia, commitment issues and relationship issues is 'Can I make him commit to a relationship?'.

While you can't necessarily MAKE a man commit to a relationship, you can, if your partner has commitment issues, get help that can help him to feel better about committing to a relationship with you.

To read more about how hypnotherapy can help you or your partner with commitment phobia, or to have a free chat with a hypnotherapist, go to http://www.avonhypnotherapy.co.uk/commitmentphobia.htm?avonblog

Article by Paul Douglass,
Trainer, therapist, and author of Paul Douglass LifeShaping
http://www.lifeshaping.co.uk