tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-126392802026-06-02T00:11:33.708-07:00This is a journal created by a woman for women. However, if you are a man in tune with your feminine side (or trying to get there), feel free to read on. It's mainly the stuff we talk about but that noone ever wrote down. It's all the stuff in all those self help books that we read, all the stuff that should be said but aren't. This is just a venting spiel, about the idiosyncrasies of dating and how to make it better.Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.comBlogger540125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-36505800342833418342009-11-13T17:49:00.000-08:002009-11-13T17:49:02.898-08:00

If I would prefer to take relationship advice from anyone in the world, it would definitely be the first lady Michelle Obama. Here’s her advice to young women on how to find the perfect man: Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul.

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com30tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-69512430965004572162009-09-04T00:39:00.000-07:002009-09-04T01:17:22.801-07:00

"Screw Cupid: the Sassy girl's guide to picking up hot guys" is a dating book.Publisher's Info:Screw Cupid: A Sassy Girl's Guide to Picking Up Hot Guys by Samantha ScholfieldPublisher: The Experiment, September 2009Paperback, 240 pageswebsite: http://screwcupidthebook.com/index.htmlScrew Cupid is a dating manual for every woman ready to take her dating life into her own hands. Samantha Scholfield

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-25402875541706376602009-08-17T19:03:00.000-07:002009-08-17T19:13:28.615-07:00

Is it a necessary to play games to get what you want in life and love, or is it just something that were programmed to do, and what happens when the games end? And what the f*ck exactly is game?The Game: When you act a certain way while dating or in a relationship but you aren't being true to your real motivations or emotions. Example, you wait 3 days to call the guy back even though you want to

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-70517096334023569272009-08-14T17:09:00.000-07:002009-08-14T17:10:14.701-07:00

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-4106577905019282952009-08-10T22:41:00.000-07:002009-08-10T22:56:50.163-07:00

I had an interesting conversation with a friend a few evenings ago. The observation was that adults get so used to relationships not working out that when they do find a relationship that is good, one might 'self-sabotage' because you can't deal with not breaking up or having drama.Personally, I used to feel that I had a relationship shelf life, which was around the 6 month mark. I never had a

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-88048274350150592242009-07-24T00:07:00.000-07:002009-07-24T00:09:54.574-07:00

For those of you that are into boots, the wonderful creators of WHOOGA have given my readers $30 off any purchase at http://whooga.com. Just type Vixentales into the code box in the cart.Whooga's are kinda like Uggs..you might not need em now, but when the cold arrives, you will sorely wish you got them.Enjoy!

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-2791194598495080402009-07-17T04:29:00.001-07:002009-07-17T04:34:50.231-07:00

One of my absolutely fav blogettes recently wrote a post that hit home for me. Here is a teaser...the first few paragraphs...but you seriously should go to her page and read the whole thing, not only is it eloquent, argumentative, passionate and brilliant; it's beautifully articulated (she should be a lawyer!)A while back, I was involved in an "internet discussion", regarding female sexuality,

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-53990547306269723162009-07-08T16:35:00.001-07:002009-07-08T16:35:51.489-07:00

Pantene is looking for real women (that's us!) for their 2010 ad campaign. Apparently they did a casting call in three cities last year, but it was too limiting for start of a new decade! Is your hair so beautiful that you want to show it off to the world? Here's the skinny:Women will have the opportunity to upload videos July 1 through July 31, 2009 by visiting www.relaxedandnatural.com. All

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-52318856395871600322009-06-24T17:05:00.000-07:002009-06-24T17:14:45.696-07:00

I am writing because I have reached a point of absolute disappointment with men. I just turned 24. I have loved once before and had my heart shitted on. He was my first everything. I get hit on all the time, flirted with, followed but the irony is I feel so alone because none of the men that hit on me or the ones I meet ever seem to get very far. It's now 3 years post break up and no still no

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-77385286282571469912009-05-03T01:26:00.000-07:002009-05-03T01:26:00.397-07:00

My blog is 4 years old today. Wow.We've been through alot together, a bajillion dates, 3 heartbreaks, 2 blogging hiatuses, 2 articles in ESSENCE magazine, 1 proposal and hopefully come soon 1 wedding..lol!I wrote 3 posts on my first blogging night, and now I have 5 blogs and several very cool friends from all places and all walks of life. It's amazing how many of you have reached out and opened

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-31338033587099437792009-04-17T08:36:00.000-07:002009-04-17T08:52:01.129-07:00

Okay this is the abbreviated version of yesterday's emotional saga. If you want to read it in it's entirety, just check out the previous post!Question: I'm the rebound girl hopelessly in love with a guy that is back with his ex-girlfriend. We tried to be friends but it's hurting me more. I'm still in love with him and want him to come back to me. I don't know what to do...Wow! That is a lot of

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-48306871684785462892009-04-16T08:41:00.000-07:002009-04-17T08:43:10.329-07:00

I'm a freshman in college and I have never had a boyfriend and I am still a virgin. I've been "together" with guys before, but my relationships never last more then three months. I've recently realized that I am always the rebound or the girl on the side. But anyway your advice I will truly take to heart and I would extremely appreciate it.I'll make this short, his girlfriend of 3 years broke up

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-43232224705935544362009-04-05T01:20:00.000-07:002009-04-05T01:22:10.029-07:00

I've had all kinds of episodes with meeting families or introducing a guy I was dating to my family. Here are some tips that will help steer you in the right direction.Don't bring him to a funeral...or wedding without meeting your family first. If it's a funeral, everyone will be sad and mournful, and it's not a conducive place for a meet. At a wedding, everyone will attach a greater significance

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-43917954372206055982009-04-04T00:18:00.000-07:002009-04-05T01:20:46.613-07:00

Reflecting back on past experiences and relationships has made me really think about things that went right and wrong. I've been in a few relationships even a fairly long term one, but I have never introduced any of the guys I dated to my parents. I genuinely cared for the guys but I never knew how to go about doing that. I always felt like the entire experience would be really awkward and

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-15378256798251143792009-03-26T15:24:00.000-07:002009-03-27T08:46:10.781-07:00

Here is a question that has been answered here, here and here, but I'll do it again just because darling girl sounds so utterly confused and new to this 'men not calling' phenomena.I am seeing this guy who is really confusing me. We went out few times and it was great. I used to call him at least once at the beginning of the relationship but not often...but he used to answer and reply to my texts

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-47323566423879753722009-03-17T14:25:00.000-07:002009-03-17T14:33:10.433-07:00

Okay, so I'm reading this refreshing new book by Simon Oaks titled "Will Marry for Food, Sex & Laundry." I just had to share this little excerpt with everyone because so many women send me questions on how to know if the guy is interested in you. I haven't finished reading, but I will be doing a 'proper' review in the future.He Likes Me -- Doesn't He?By Simon Oaks,Author of Will Marry for

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-43917677227826956032009-03-10T13:16:00.000-07:002009-03-10T13:33:13.725-07:00

Is it possible to adjust to a small penis when your preference is a large one? Call me shallow, but I'm having trouble adjusting. Please enlighten me. Thanks in advance!!Whoa...your question is one I haven't encountered before. In my experience, my penis sizes went up on the scale...not down! I hope the penis you are talking about is in the 4.5-6 inches range, with a decent circumference,

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I got this question from one my fav readers the other day...I've been having a really hard time and could use some advice or support. 7 months ago I randomly met an amazing guy and started dating off the bat. He is an incredibly smart dedicated individual. In terms of relationships his views were that a relationship should consist of two people working together to help each other achieve there

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-89252217238333814102009-02-26T04:21:00.000-08:002009-03-07T09:42:41.036-08:00

I had this question asked to me at a party recently, and my viewpoints totally started a firestorm of controversy. Personally I have no problem with Cohabitation, it's worked out great for me, and if I could do it all over again with Norio, I definitely would (but I would pick the apartment next time;).Everyone else in the group was vehemently against it. The population was a group of

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Vixen please shed some light on my hopeless situation. I am a 20 year old sistah in college whom is beautiful and independent. But for some strange reason i attract men whom are already in relationships. It's like i have the phrase "Play me" written on my forehead. Every time I think I've found the right man. He either has a girlfriend on the side or is totally immature. Why me??? My friends told

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-87915999755748381332009-01-28T11:52:00.000-08:002009-01-28T12:12:32.600-08:00

Help I'm 19 years old and I am dating a 20 year old man with a psycho baby mama. I want to trust him . But its kind of hard when she calls me private every other day. Telling me she's still having sex with him. On his part he told me not to worry. But why do I feel like I'm being played. He says the only reason they broke up was due to her lack of trust in him. Vixen what do I do...I feel like

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-14858971368850478222009-01-26T09:44:00.000-08:002009-01-26T17:43:14.407-08:00

Wow....just wow! This guy has way too much going on! I don't think he intentionally meant to screw you over, it sounds that when your relationship with him started, he was going through a seperation or rocky period with his wife. He was looking for his second fiddle, a woman to go to when things got hot at home and he found you. You fulfilled for him every desire that his wife did not, you were

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-45484735420570073782009-01-18T18:11:00.000-08:002009-01-18T18:14:05.177-08:00

Hey Ladies,For some reason, there seems to be a misconception that the last story is my own. This was a question that I got from one of my readers!Oh hell no it couldn't be my story. I'm way to crazy to put up with this....I would be hiding in someone's bushes ready to spill blood.So....I still think your advice applies, but it's not my story:) Everyone does have a story though, and I'm sure if I

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This is a question I got from one of my readers. Your thoughts are welcome. Last Sunday I found out some information that tore my world apart. (or at least ruffled my feathers- a lot) Lately, my boyfriend had been pulling "disappearing acts" on me and I was fed up. Over the holidays he disappeared for two weeks straight, and on the weekends he disappears" also. I'm very much a "let me know whats

Vixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064520755523082756noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12639280.post-47429847253671660892009-01-05T10:08:00.000-08:002009-01-05T10:08:02.112-08:00

Dear Vixen, I could use a little workplace advice. I am currently one of 8 counselors working in a university admissions office. Out of the 8 of us, me and two others are the only returning staff members (the other 5 are brand new). Out of the three of us that are returning I am the only "regular" counselor....the others are senior counselor and transfer counselor respectively. Hence, they do not

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