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Beautifullamb on CurlyNikki!

2011-09-14T21:42:00.000-07:00

This is beyond late, but I thought I should post the link here anyway. I was featured on popular natural hair website CurlyNikki.com a couple of months ago. She gives great advice for healthy hair care. Check her out while you're browsing the web!

Click here to link to my feature.

Stay Blessed :-)

A Tribute to the Awkward Black Girls

2011-09-14T09:45:00.000-07:00

It seems everyone can't get enough of Awkward Black Girl. (If you're reading this with a question mark etched across your face, get awkward and get with it!) The hit web series chronicles the everyday adventures of "J," the "awkward black girl," which is a personality type rarely seen on television, especially among women of color. Since the show's online debut in February, it has amassed more than 240,000 views on YouTube and created a solid group of fans who have even donated money to keep the show alive. Show supporters raised more than $56,000 in roughly a month! (Source: Kansas City Star)

Media heads are starting to take notice as well, as online news articles have been popping up left and right highlighting the show's success, which creator Issa Rae attributes to social media. Celebs are catching on too! Fellow funny girl Gabrielle Union tweeted a special shout out to the unexpected smash series, calling the show "genius." With the way things are going, it may not be long before "AWB" is popping up in your TV guide.

That said, I thought I'd pay tribute to AWB's predecessors. Here's a list of the awkward black girls who paved the way.

1. "Freddie" (A Different World)

Played by Cree Summer

Freddie was technically more of a free spirit than she was awkward; however, she was a nice break from the norm. Actually, A Different World is one of the few shows that had various depictions of black people. The show's focus on life at an HBCU created opportunities to show the diversity within the black community.

2. "Synclaire" (Living Single)

Played by Kim Coles

Synclaire was Khadijah's (Queen Latifah) good-natured cousin, Overton's leading lady, and an aspiring actress. She was often regarded as absent-minded and gullible, but she was no fool. She possessed a child-like innocence and strong sense of self that enabled her to avoid the relationship pitfalls faced by her friends.

3. "Myra" (Family Matters)

Played by Michelle Thomas

It's hard to imagine that any woman could love Steve Urkel, especially pre-Stefon; but Myra was the equally quirky, yet way more attractive beauty who was able to distract Steve's attention from Laura Winslow-for a while at least. She and Steve shared a bond that however annoying, was nothing less than authentic. She loved him for him, and we loved her for that.

4. "Joan" (Girlfriends)

Played by Tracee Ellis Ross

Sure. Joan was a successful lawyer and everyone's favorite Girlfriend, but she was not without her awkward and corny moments. We can't overlook her strange obsession with holidays, over-use of legal terms in casual conversation, and inventive ways to run men off. She was the corporate world's awkward black girl, who received a pass for balancing and often suppressing her inner-AWB.

FOUR? JUST FOUR?! Wow, That's pretty sad. Well...did I leave anyone off?

Who on television would you consider an awkward black girl?

Blog Request: Khloe & Lamar "Sometimes I feel like a fatherless child"

2011-04-11T09:34:00.000-07:00

It never occurred to me to do blog requests, until I actually got a request (LOL). But I absolutely love the idea and would be more than happy to blog on any topic you would like to see talked about. So feel free to leave a request comment or email me!

And sorry for the lack of posts lately. It's about that time in the school year where the work load starts picking up and the first thing to go is my blog. Sorry :-(

Anyway, I got a request to talk about last night's premiere episode of Khloe & Lamar on E!

I have to admit that I watch all the Kardashian shows....yes its true.

It's my guilty pleasure! Aside from all the hunger for media attention that is the essence of the Kardashian family, they're alright with me. (LOL)

I for one could have neverimagined that a sex tape would result in an entire empire for not just Kim, but her entire family! It might be fair to say that her star power has surpassed that of her R&B crooner turned reality TV celebrity co-star Ray-J. ( -__- )

And though I certainly have my criticisms of the first family of reality TV and how they acquired their fame, I will reserve judgment for now.

So back to last night's premiere.

I initially was sort of irritated at the thought of yet another spin off show. I mean honestly, the Kardashians are on our small screens consistently year round. Did we not JUST close out Kourtney and Kim Take New York last week? Kardashian saturation was not putting me in a good head space.

But, I tuned in despite my better judgment, and was pleasantly surprised.

Let's face it. When you first got wind of a wedding for Khloe and Lamar you just new things would not go down unless a camera crew was there to witness. The whole situation was a quick recipe for reality TV gold. But their marriage, though only a year, has outlasted many of our expectations. But we can't say we didn't see this show coming.

My thing is, I'm a Laker fan. And anything that would potentially distract Lamar from the game was just simply not going to fly. But so far, it doesn't seem like its affected his game. Also, Khloe & Lamar is one of the few shoes to get actual NBA access to shoot footage. I wonder if LaLa will have such luck...hmm?

Anyway, last night's show I'm ashamed to say had me on the brink of tears. I know, I know I'm shaking my head right along with you. But if you didn't watch...don't judge, thanks!

The episode featured a hot button issue in our community, fatherless children.

Lamar's father Joe Odom, who is a former heroin addict popped up on Khloe and Kourtney at a book signing. This was the first time they had met. After getting acquainted and making small talk, Joe preceded to ask Khloe if it's alright if he and his new wife get a couple of tickets to the Laker game. Khloe agreed to make it happen. Things were all fine and well until Khloe mentioned the little family reunion to Lamar who was none too pleased.

Lamar expressed to Khloe that he and his father had a difficult and complicated relationship that was beyond her comprehension, and suggested that she just leave it alone. However, Khloe having lost her own father, didn't see why Lamar was being so cold and why he wouldn't even allow his Dad to come to a game. Lamar said Joe knew the terms of his and Lamar's relationship, which did not include game attendance. He felt Joe should have never popped up on Khloe. Unsatisfied with Lamar's reasoning for isolating his father, Khloe continues to push the issue; at which point Lamar makes a random phone call to Joe to show Khloe his true nature.

This is where things got misty. After what seemed to be a few minutes on the phone, Joe Odom started asking Lamar for money, tickets, shoes, etc. Lamar had already been fully supporting Joe with rent money and a monthly allowance, yet his father consistently sought out more material things from his rags to riches son. I was so hurt for Lamar. He regarded the phone call as though it was typical conversation, which was very saddening. It was as if he had become completely numb to his father soliciting money from him. Yet, you could still see he was very hurt that his father only maintained a relationship for what he could get out of it. The two had lost so many years of their relationship due to Joe's postwar drug addiction. And now that both are seemingly in a better space in their lives (Lamar's pro-ball career and Joe's sober life) Joe was more focused on using Lamar than loving him.

It's no secret that post Vietnam, soldiers were not properly taken care of to make sure they were mentally sound to return to a normal life, and many turned to drugs and alcohol to cope, resulting in a range of negative consequences for them and their families. Many ended up abandoning their responsibilities. Lamar's story is all too familiar to so many families. Lamar acknowledged his father's difficult life, but said that he was not looking for him to be a father, but to just act like he was a father. Acting like a decent human being would have sufficed. I don't want to judge Joe, because I honestly can't imagine all he has been through, but there has got to be a better way to go about having a relationship with Lamar. But does he even REALLY want a relationship?

This issue is something that can arise with many young men today growing up without a father. If you don't take the opportunity to be one when you had it, can you ever really reestablish that relationship?

Your thoughts?

Fights Over Spaghetti and the Last Clearance T-Shirt....Is This Who We Are?

2011-03-25T12:54:00.000-07:00

This week two disturbing videos surfaced in my news feed. My heart was heavy after viewing the way young black women were portrayed and ultimately, the way they conducted themselves.

Here are the videos before I say my peace.

I don't even know how to describe my frustration. Wait....yes I do.

First let me say that I was not present at either altercation, and do not know any information other than what was displayed in the videos. Much of the commentary associated with the first video seemed to be in defense of the two young girls who were said to have been "provoked." I can see that. There was no visibly just cause for calling them animals for eating on a subway. Simply minding your own business would have prevented this situation. As someone who was verbally harassed and demeaned on a NYC subway, I understand the struggle to keep composure when pushed to the edge. I only really began to take issue with this video after I saw the second clip. There seemed to be an interesting theme, "black girls fighting=entertainment."

The girls on the subway were being harassed, yes. Any reasonable person would have been defensive, true. But what played out here, goes far beyond a mere subway scuffle, which is what made this video worthy of being but on YouTube, with over 100,000 views. It's the dynamic. Angry black women vs......whomever really. We can never get enough of that right? No one stepped in (until all hell broke loose) to mitigate the situation. Again, I say this as someone harassed on a train when again NO ONE offered so much as squeal of support. But sadly, it seems that's just the world we live in now. If it doesn't concern me, I'm keeping my mouth closed. Oh, but I will pull out this camera and have you caught out there on YouTube looking senseless. I will lend you a hand with that.

And this second video. Acting a H.A.M in a business establishment as though it were a scene from Fight Club. Punches thrown, merchandise vandalized, weaves flying every which-way. Is this who we are? I'll answer that... no! But this is how the world continues to see ALL OF US, as a result of the select few and that truly irks me. I don't say this looking down on these individuals because, again I was not there to witness the events that transpired leading up to the physical altercations, but I'm willing to bet it just wasn't that serious. And how can I blame these girls anyway. Is this not the same behavior we see aired weekly on Bad Girls Club? Basketball Wives? Jersey Shore....need I go on?

It seems that winning the title of "the baddest" reigns supreme over "the brightest," which is just stupid. I'm not sitting here waving my little judgmental finger over everyone. I had a hand in this as well. I watch these shows...well not Jersey Shore, but that's neither here nor there. Anyway, while I thought I was just being entertained, it seems we are being conditioned to believe this is the way women settle disputes. We name call, we demoralize, we humiliate, we fight. We just can't help but tear each other down and take pleasure in the presumed victory. I can just hear these girls now "yea, I beat that (insert words here), and its on YouTube!" No...please take a seat in the nearest super-glued chair. To use my very best English, this ain't winning.

But the reason these videos scored so many hits on YouTube is the same reason these deplorable television shows get the highest ratings...even over scripted programming. Why do we enjoy seeing women tear each other down?

There wouldn't be as much issue with these shows if they were the exception and not the rule. But there are far fewer positive portrayals of women on television, particularly women of color to combat these negative images. As a result, life imitates, well if I can even call it art.

And with bystanders so willing to pull out a camera phone to make some quick cash from worldstarhiphop, it won't be long before the next aspiring Bad Girls Club castmember auditions via a YouTube street brawl.

I don't have a thought provoking question as I usually do to close this post.

It's actually more of a rant. But I like to hear your rantings as well, so please leave a comment.

Let's love each other ok? :-)

And I feel the need to make this disclaimer:

My feelings on these videos are far more complex and more in depth than what this blog post can explain. I've been a black woman for a long time so I can't possibly sum up the whole of my feelings in a few minutes. But it's enough to get a conversation going...so talk to me!

Art Paisley

2011-03-23T21:35:00.001-07:00

Just got this cute mint color from Ulta last week. Had to test it out. What do you think? Hot or not?

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Funky Fresh

2011-03-23T21:33:00.001-07:00

It's been a little minute since I've posted some nail designs. How cute are these?!

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New Music: Sha Stimuli Wake Up & Go

2011-03-18T09:50:00.000-07:00

(Via Clutch Magazine)

This was a cute concept. Unfortunately this message isn't loud of enough to drown out the sound of the self-hate promoting records put out everyday. Sighs...

Enjoy it while you can. :-)

Kobe Bryant: "I Want What All Men Want, I Just Want it More"

2011-03-16T21:14:00.000-07:00

Last week after a disappointing loss to the Miami Heat (94-88) Kobe Bryant did something that reminded us all why he's a candidate to be the greatest NBA player of all time.

Oh, yall didn't think I knew about sports huh? LOL, not much...so don't get excited. But I do follow my hometeam. #Lakers! Woot woot!

Anyway, via NecoleBitchie.com, while Kobe's teammates hit the showers and headed home or to their post game festivities, Kobe spent an additional TWO HOURS practicing his game.

Several reporters and NBA players tweeted in awe of Bryant's dedication:

@WojYahooNBA: Kobe’s been going for over an hour now on AA Arena floor, covering every spot on the floor with jumpers. He’s out beyond 3-point line now.
@desmond_howard: Kobe put himself through a 1.5hr workout after every1 left the arena. http://twitpic.com/48cen3. He’s not THAT GUY by accident. #DEDICATION
desmond_howard: This is Y I have so much admiration for Kobe as a professional athlete. http://yfrog.com/h3hdvyjj. His professional focus is unmatched
dannyhoyt: Love that Kobe stayed and shot for an hour after losing. AN HOUR. When the Heat lose, they cry. When Kobe loses, he gets better. #Lakers
IraHeatBeat: Yes, Kobe Bryant, right now, more than 2 1/2 hours after the game, is shooting jumpers on the court, with media told building is closing.
IraHeatBeat: Kobe Bryant still out on the court, shooting, more than a hour after the game. Even Erik Spoelstra came out to take a look. i have a whole new respect for him right about now
When asked why he stayed behind, Kobe nonchalantly stated:

"I had some things to work on."

He told another reporter by text message:

“I want what all men want. I just want it more.”

This my friends is what greatness looks like. Kobe is great because he practices greatness and wants it more than ANYONE. The Heat can recruit Lebron. Shoot they can phone the Harlem Globetrotters for all I care, but no one, NO ONE will match Kobe's dedication to the game.

Whether you're a fan or not, you have to respect that.

This inspiration is applicable to anyone. Take heed.

Watch video of Kobe's extended practice here:

Are We Being Too Rough on "The Game"

2011-03-16T19:58:00.001-07:00

Not everyone was pleased when the hit sitcom "The Game" returned to cable television with record-setting ratings. Sure, I expected that. There's always a critic. But, its been 8 weeks since the show's return and feedback has been steadily less than flattering.

I initially voiced by concerns with the new, more dramatic format of the show in a past post, but eventually came to terms with new changes. However, negative whispers about Kelly's new attitude, a soap-operaesque plot, and the Brit-brat swap have been festering consistently since season 4's debut and its truly beginning to worry me. This coupled with so-so ratings and the fact that the show has not yet been confirmed for a 5th season has me wondering are we in danger of losing the show again?

I've thought seriously about some of the complaints that I've heard, and it all seems quite trivial in the larger scheme of things. We are in a television era where Jersey Shore ranks as the highest weekly rated show for cable TV and yet, we take issue with The Game? Someone help me see the light, please! This baffles me.

I wouldn't be surprised if the shade thrown at The Game's new season is provided by those who hopped on the bandwagon. At any rate, the actors on the show are aware of the mixed feelings of "fans" who have reached out via Twitter, and the cast has urged them to direct their comments toward the powers that be at BET.

I partly feel as though social media's involvement in the show's return is beginning to backfire. Roughly two years ago, Game fans on Facebook and Twitter united to lead an ambitious campaign for The Game's return. And obviously it worked. However, I think there was a price to pay. It seems as though viewers have become to invested in their presumed "power." Because they were responsible for the comeback, they feel a sense of entitlement to the shows content. Sure every fan has right to their opinion, but we can't expect for it to be adopted as law.

Furthermore, people have to get used to change. Hello! Things change. They just do. In this case the show can't win for losing. If they hadn't changed a thing, I'm sure some would have said the new season ran dry. Now that they've stirred the pot, people don't like the recipe. Sigh...

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with voicing opinions. In fact, most shows encourage social media heads to "watch and discuss." The key thing here being to watch.

Anyway, I say all this to say. Discontentment cannot cause us to disengage. What a shame that would be after all of this right? Bottom line is there are about two handfuls of reality Tv shows we should probably be petitioning against right now....and we're not. Why?

Why are we being so rough on The Game?

Now What Now?: Tyrese On Love and Marriage

2011-03-12T13:38:00.000-08:00

I was enjoying an afternoon snack browsing my Twitter timeline when some foolishness popped up in a retweet. I don't follow Tyrese, though I do have much love for him as a musician. However, as a relationship counselor, I sometimes wish he would sit all the way down.

Before I weigh in, you know I like you all to read for yourself. Start from the bottom up.

Sighs...

Ok, I can't tell you how many times I've heard these same sentiments uttered from a modern-day male on the dating scene. I've even gotten hit with the "I can't date you, you're wifey material" line a couple times myself. What frustrates me about this mindset is that it eliminates the element of responsibility on the part of the gentleman. It's one thing to work together to build a relationship, but to suggest that women patiently wait for a man to "get it together" while he lives it up and does his dirt, just so at the end of the day she can win the ultimate title of wifey with a couple kids to boot is just pure stupidity. Yea I said it!

I disagree with Tyrese's challenge to women to "make us a better man." I'm sorry, I don't have super powers. If you lack the self-control and will to better yourself, than I lack the endurance to stand by and watch you flounder. I must move on to the next. I realize my tone may seem a bit callous and frank, and well... I'm not arguing with you there. But I will say, that I'm not heartless. I fully believe in looking at the present as well as the potential, but potential requires effort to become promising. And this "i'm a playa, but when I do get ready to settle down, the first one i'm calling is you" attitude is making promises with no effort.

Tyrese's friend was with his girl since they were 16, and although she "shared" him, when he was ready to grow up he married her and they have two children. And this is all because she waited. The problem is that you could be waiting for a day that will never come because in waiting, haven't you already proven that you tolerate this behavior? And wouldn't that increase the wait because why change? You're still around right?

I know plenty of stories where both parties in the relationship were young and just a mess and when they were older they put away childish things. It happens. But, the thought of being jerked along for the roller coaster ride when you can be elsewhere doing you is just irksome.

You shouldn't put the diamond on lay away if you know you can't afford to pay. Leave the treasure for someone worthy and willing to pay full price. Just sayin.

I could very well be wrong, doubt it though. Anyways, as always, these are just my thoughts.

But I'd like to hear yours.

Women I Admire: An Evening With Ms. Butterfield

2011-03-10T20:33:00.000-08:00

It has been far too long since my last post. School, work, and the day-to-day have caused me to hit the blog pause button. But only the awe-inspiring Ms. Valeisha Butterfield could inspire me to hit play again.

Syracuse University's Black Communications Society (BCS) sponsored an event aptly titled, "An Evening with Ms. Butterfield." Though it was roaring wind and pouring rain, Ms. Butterfield managed to weather the storm, looking fabulous in an all black ensemble offset with a pointy-statement necklace and the latest trademark trend, a pair of Christian Louboutin booties, street name "red bottoms." Not to mention, the hair was whipped!

But, we obviously weren't there to talk fashion. We were there to talk business! And the staunch business woman was the perfect conversationalist.

As the appointed Deputy Director of Public Affairs for the International Trade Administration (ITA) in the United States Department of Commerce for the Obama Administration, Butterfield has a key role in supporting President Obama's national economic agenda to revive the global economy, create jobs and renew growth that benefits all people. (via weenonline.org)

She is also the Co-founder and Chair of the Women in Entertainment Empowerment Network (WEEN). According to their webpage, WEEN is a worldwide coalition of women, all ages and races, committed to supporting, promoting and defending the balanced, positive portrayal of women in entertainment and society. And let's face it, there has never been a more necessary time for such an organization to exist.

The image of women in the media is at an all time low and WEEN is one of the key players leading the crusade for change.

Part of WEEN's mission is to provide "personal advancement for young women nationwide." Butterfield held true to this mission, by setting time out to speak to a group of young and old hopefuls in entertainment.

The conversation was comfortable, candid, and constructive as Ms. Butterfield shared her wealth of knowledge and experience working in both the corporate and entertainment industries.

Valeisha Butterfield and I at BCS event

In paraphrases, Here's what I learned from Valeisha Butterfield.

On Interning...
Make sure you're filling a void. If you've completed and internship and they aren't missing you, you haven't done your job. Your presence should fill a void and make a strong impact.

On Working...
For companies, its about what you can produce. How much money can you produce for the company? Are you bringing in sponsorship money? Companies are looking for someone who can be an asset and bring in the dough. Makes sense right?

On Mentorship...
Don't just call when you need something. Keep in touch regularly to build mentorship and make sure its not a take-take relationship. Actually show that you care by sending cards on their birthday, etc. This doesn't mean be fake, but it does mean be thoughtful and smart.

On Climbing the Ladder...
Surround yourself with people you want to be your peers one day. Ms. Butterfield shared stories of waiting outside an execs office at a time when they might be showing up to work. Wow, that's dedication. Of course, you'll want to avoid being carried out sideways by security, so be forward...not awkward. The point is to place yourself in an environment convenient for potential opportunities to arise and to just familiarize yourself with what you one day hope to be doing.

On marketing...
Look at yourself as a brand in whatever field. Look at yourself now as the brand you want to become.

Sound advice from someone who knows. What more could you ask for?

If you want to learn more about Valeisha Butterfield and/or her work visit weenonline.org.

It's a Thin Line...

2011-02-18T20:22:00.000-08:00

Satirical video of the "Real Housewives of Civil Rights" raises eyebrows in the midst of black history month.

What do you think? Funny, or gone too far?

Leave your thoughts....

Laugh of the Day: Behind the Scenes of "35 & Ticking"

2011-02-18T16:16:00.000-08:00

Today's laugh comes to you via necolebitchie.com in the form of some behind the scenes footage of the new movie 35 & Ticking.

According to her blog...

35 and Ticking, directed by Russ Parr, is about four friends that are approaching the age of 35 and are looking to figure out their futures and straighten out their relationships: Zenobia (Nicole Ari Parker) is looking for a man; Victoria (Tamala Jones) is married to a man that doesn’t want children; Cleavon (Kevin Hart) is too much of a nerd to get a woman; and Phil(Keith Robinson), is married with kids, but his wife isn’t too interested in family life.

Check out the HILARIOUS Kevin Hart behind the scenes footage below:

Video footage provided by HartProductions.

K. Hart always cracks me up. Hope the movie does the same.

Will you watch?

The Trendsetters: African-Americans on Twitter being heard, but not saying much

2011-02-16T10:13:00.000-08:00

If you've been a user of Twitter for any extended period of time than you know that trending topics are the "what's happening and when" of the popular social network. Trends include hot topics about what everyone is watching (Grammys) to the major news of the moment (Egypt). But more and more, certain topics are sounding like something picked from a round-table discussion at the family reunion. For example, #blackparentquotes or #ifsantawasblack. Subjects that appear to be created by and targeted toward African-Americans have become so frequent that they were given a nickname, "black tags". But why are #blacktags so popular you may ask?
Well, a recent article on rollingout.com cited a study from Edison Research's Annual Report saying...

Although black people comprise about 12 percent of the general population, they account for 25 percent of the population of users on Twitter. As a consequence, they tend to follow celebrities and post more trending topics. On Twitter, for example, young blacks follow more people, retweet more often, and reply to posts more frequently causing certain topics to rise in popularity that have nothing to do with breaking news or information.

Since this report, many articles have sprouted up online condemning Twitter's black culture for their lack of "consciousness" with regard to trending topics, and suggest that users are in need of a wake-up call. Indeed there are many opportunities made available through the use of social media and there is something powerful to be said about the influence of black culture on Twitter. However, though 25% might start a topic, its not enough to keep it going if no one else catches on. Nonetheless, many are saying African-American users are not taking advantage of their wide influence.

Trending topics like #ghettobabynames have become the norm, but what many don't realize is that social media can often provide a safe space for hate, where bigomists, racists and the like can promote their values without reprimand. And they do. Many of these individuals use racially aimed TT's, that were perhaps intended for comedy, as ammunition for their corrupt values. Discussing the differences between black and white parents might be of normal comedic conversation between friends, but when broadcast to millions of users without understanding of the context, the conversation and the message becomes diluted and can get lost fairly quickly. I had to learn this the hard way.

But while the topics on twitter largely consist of subjects representing an unfavorable depiction of black culture, I have to disagree that African-Americans aren't at all using their voice on twitter for ANY good. Afterall, it was their voice that led the social media campaign to bring back yet another wrongfully canceled black sitcom "The Game" after two years off the air. Other more positive topics that have trended include #mlkday to commemorate Martin Luther King's birthday and #unsung a TV show honoring black superstars who's stories were never told. Ultimately, they are using their influence to raise awareness about subjects that otherwise would not reach beyond the consciousness of African-Americans. However, I believe that this is only scratching the surface. The more positively skewed topics that do become trends lack the depth of other trending topics related to socio-political issues, and trend far less often. There is so much more good that can done and my hope is that black users begin to utilize their influence to bring about positive changes.

The issue with this mission, is that for one, how does Twitter determine the ethnicity of their users? It isn't requested when signing up for account. I only assume by the nature of the content that the trending topics are started by a black person, but how can this be proven? Furthermore, users would need to be on one accord to spread knowledge about what's going on in black communities across the US and worldwide. But the truth of the matter is that social media has different uses and gratifications for different people. Some use Twitter to get news and information about the world around them, while others use it to spread information. And then are those who have less strategic uses for Twitter and simply view it as a leisure activity. And any user can employ a variety of motives for Twitter use at any time. So, I guess my question is how does this change occur?

Yes, the foolishness needs to stop, but will it? Who knows.

What are your thoughts?

"They should've burned it" TV One's Cathy Hughes on Precious and other things

2011-02-12T11:17:00.001-08:00

While visiting one of my fav blogs Necole Bitchie, I ran across an interview with TV One's Cathy Hughes from Miss Drama TV.

The station's front woman spoke very candidly and honestly about her thoughts on positive vs. negative portrayals of black women.

I'll let you watch the video before I say my peace.

Check it out here:

Ok, hopefully you watched it.

Now...

Half the time I was nodding my head in concurrence with Mrs. Hughes and shaking it in disagreement the other half. I too was displeased with the fact that the highest honor given to any entertainer (Academy Award) was awarded to Monique and Halle for two of the most negative portrayals of black women we've seen. I might not have felt this way when Hattie McDaniel received her award because, at that time, it was one of the only roles available for black women. But times have truly changed, and despite the difficulty I do believe black women have more options. I agree that we should be telling more positive tales of black women, a la the story of Michelle Obama. (Seriously, where's the script on that?) And while it's great to see black women being recognized for their achievements, its unfortunate to have one of the highest achievements stained with the black ink blot of knowledge that your role is one that perpetuates negative and villanous stereotypes of women you claim to represent.

The ironic thing about Mrs. Hughes' comments though, was that she failed to see how Tyler Perry has also fallen victim to this pattern of betrayal and how her own network is neither exempt nor blameless. More recently, many have come out to declare their disdain for Tyler Perry's works (*ahem* Spike Lee) and amid the criticism, he still remains thee top selling creator of black films. But while his films introduce topics of spirituality and moral consciousness rarely visible in today's media, they are also inter-laden with characteristics of stereotypical black life. His alter-ego portrayal of Madea is the epitome of a modern day mash-up of the historically derogative "Mammy" and "Sapphire". Yet, Hughes suggests that his ability to deliver a positive message through humor offsets the depiction of the "Angry black woman."

Do you agree?

Furthermore, Hughes expresses her feelings on BET's role as being #1 in black entertainment saying that she felt BET missed a lot of opportunities to showcase new talent, which she says is to her benefit as TV One is able to learn from the mistakes BET is making, thus delivering better programming and more positive portrayals of African-Americans, particularly black women. Again, Mrs. Hughes I disagree...in part. Has anyone seen "Love that Girl?" I know I have ranted on this show once before, and don't want to get into that again but it honestly is one of the most disappointing shows I've seen in a long time. The stereotypes extend beyond black women to homosexuals and I fail to see the point of it all.

Anyway...

I have been watching BET since I was young and since Bob Johnson's exit stage left, I have seen improvement in the network's quality of programming. Granted, they still have far to go, but they have eliminated disparaging shows like "UnCut" and have successfully introduced a positive spin on reality television with shows like "The Family Crews." Again, there were errors along the way. (I think we were all mad at Frankie and Neffe, but some see the positive in any situation.) At any rate, the network has indeed showcased new talent by joining the race to revive the black sitcom.

I don't want to come off like I'm taking sides because I definitely am not getting a check from BET nor TV One. But rather, I want to highlight the senselessness in the competitive spirit that often resurrects itself between two black entities at the top of their game. This "crab in a barrel" nature is what I believe is tripping us up. I am NOT accusing Mrs. Hughes of this, but her comments did leave me feeling this way. If ABC, CBS, and NBC can coexist for over 50 years than I have to believe the same is possible for BET and TV One. Has it not been established that our competition is not each other? The threat is the alternative powers that be that are trying to choke off our voices entirely or worse, speak for us.

Both networks have done a GREAT job of providing alternate programming geared toward African-Americans. TV One's "Unsung" is truly in a class of its own and BET has scored a major hit with the "The Game." Moreover, that both of these networks have women as the HBICs is esteeming in itself. (B stands for Boss, don't get it twisted) Debra Lee and Cathy Hughes are remarkable women for fearlessly taking on such as task. I hope both networks can continue to excel.

So now the spotlight is on you. What do you think about Mrs. Hughes' comments? Monique and Halle's Oscars? Tyler Perry? And BET vs. TV One?

For Valentines Day: All Time Fav TV Couples

2011-02-09T21:22:00.000-08:00

In the spirit of love, I decided to post my all time favorite TV couples! Whether you've got a love connection of your own this Valentine's Day or you're flying solo (again) you can at least find solace in the love of these dynamic duos.

1. Lucy and Desi (I Love Lucy)
I was a big 'I Love Lucy' fan. Not only were they the funniest pair on television, they were also one of the first onscreen interracial couples. Although their relationship seemed more like one between parent and child than husband and wife due to Lucy's antics getting her in trouble, you couldn't deny the love between these two. Onscreen they slept in separate beds, but the arrival of "Little Ricky" during the second season suggested there were other arrangements at home. (wink)

2. The Huxtables (The Cosby Show)
There was no better example of black love than Mr. and Mrs. Clair Huxtable during their TV era. Both at top positions in their fields, Cliff and Claire's respect for each other as equals and parental partners made them arguably the most beloved couple on TV. They were the perfect balance for one another, always in harmony. Well, accept when a visibly upset Mrs. Huxtable would burst into a Spanish rant. But even while speaking another language, you knew Cliff completely understood the nature of the conversation.

3. Martin and Gina (Martin)
Martin and Gina's romance was sizzling! They always knew how to keep things fresh and interesting. It must have been tough maintaining their relationship within a larger circle of friends, but they sure made it look easy. You've gotta love a couple that can make fun of each other and know its all love at the end of the day. Who can forget Gina's visit to the dentist where she returned looking like she just got it in with Mike Tyson and lost, right before Martin's award at his high school reunion. He may not have wanted her there, but Gina showed up to support her man with her famous line, "You Go Boy!"

4. Florida and James (Good Times)
Raising a family in a Chicago housing project may not sound like fun to you and I, but the Evans household was full of good times. Despite raising 3 kids under financial hardship, Florida and James always found a way to survive. Their love was resilient and indestructible, which is why we truly felt Mrs. Evans' pain when she lost her husband in a fatal car accident in Jackson, Mississippi. "DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!"

5. George and Weezie (The Jeffersons)
It takes a patient woman to love George Jefferson. He was quite chauvinistic and arrogant, but only one woman could see through his facade. None other than Weezie Jefferson. We first fell in love with the couple as the Bunkers' neighbors on CBS' All in the Family, but it wasn't long before the Jeffersons moved on up to their very own deluxe apartment in the sky. For 11 seasons fans enjoyed wise-cracking George and lovable Weezie on the hit sitcom that still today stands as the longest-running sitcom featuring a predominantly black cast in the history of American television.

6. Laura and Steve (Family Matters)
Steve was probably the most obnoxious human being on television, but you couldn't help but admire his unconditional love for Laura Winslow. So what it took him YEARS to win her heart. After 8 seasons and a beautiful distraction (Myra), the final season finally brought these two together. Laura who received two proposals, had found love on a two-way street and was forced to choose between Steve Urkel and his more attractive, less-annoying alter-ego Stefan Urquelle. In the end, she followed her heart and she and Steve eventually became engaged. I still would've picked Stefan, but hey...spilled milk right?

7. Corey and Topanga (Boy Meets World)
Raise your hand if you wanted their relationship? ...ME TOO! It was a love at first sight that went the distance...literally. Cory and Topanga survived high school, college and Topanga's move to Philadelphia. And though the young couple struggled through their first year of marriage due to financial hardship they always managed to find their love. They were so fun to watch and really made us TGIF!

8. Vince and Jess (Friday Night Lights)
I understand you may not be familiar with these two, because honestly, I've just gotten hip to this show myself. But it has very quickly become one of my favorite shows! Sadly, it ended its 5 year run last Wednesday just as things were getting good :-(. But don't fret, you can catch up this spring when the last season airs on NBC. Jess and Vince, though teenagers, have one of the strongest relationships I've seen portrayed by characters their age. These two had an ambiguous history that led to a promising future. Of-course with a few bumps along the road. Vince was a prison-bound knuckle head when Jess reentered his life. He wanted her back, but she was in another relationship. But as fate would have it, a traumatic loss would land Vince in Jess's comforting arms and B-O-O-M...fireworks! Jess stood by Vince through the loss of his best friend, his mother's drug habit, and his incarcerated father's dramatic return. Their shared passion for football and love for one another made them one of the steamiest duos on the small screen. If you think you have them figured out, you don't know the half! Be sure to check them out!

9.Rochelle and Julius (Everybody Hates Chris)
These two can go down in history as one of the funniest couples on television. Raising 3 children in Brooklyn, NY in the 80s sure made for some great laughs in the Rock household. When Julius wasn't counting pennies and Rochelle wasn't knocking her children into their next lifetime, they were perfecting their roles as solid parents to a young future comedian, Chris Rock and his younger siblings. Their tough love for their children enabled them to remain a strong family unit that was able to escape poverty in a crime and drug-infested neighborhood. I hate that the show was canceled.

10. Derwin and Melanie (The Game)
Now you knew this list would not be complete without the most talked about couple on TV. Ding-dong and MedSkoo! We have seen these two through some serious highs and lows and have been along for the whole roller-coaster ride. And what a ride it has been. Despite infidelity, injuries, a turkey baster, and baby mama drama Derwin and Melanie just can't seem to let each other go. Relationships don't get any more real than theirs. We thought we'd seen the last of the drama now that Derwin put a ring on it, but we should've known better. We know who we're dealing with and the new season is serving up all the drama we know and love them for. We ain't seen nothing yet!

Ok, what do you think of my list? Who did I miss? Any surprises? Snubs?

Leave your thoughts!!!

This Just In...

2011-02-09T21:02:00.000-08:00

Lipstick sales are down 5% while nail polish sales are up 15% since last year grossing $173 million dollars. As you know, I have a thing for nail lacquer...ok call it an obsession. Before I was old enough to wear nail polish, I would put stickers on my nails (LOL). But that embarrassing nugget is beyond the point.

These stats got me thinking what is the recent fascination with our fingertips? An ABC special calls it "a sign of the times." Makes sense. Celebrities have just about endorsed every other beauty product from fragrances, to makeup, to hair dye. Nails were all that's left.

I must say that my nail hobby has saved me quite a few bucks at the nail salon. I believe in becoming more self-sufficient for all beauty needs including hair. In times like these should we really be shelling out $50-$100 bucks every 2 weeks at the salon and an extra $20-$40 on nails, eyebrows, lashes, etc? Probably not.

I personally never spend more than $3 on a nail polish. I don't care how much you pay the polish probably won't last past 5 days so why spend a fortune? Unless you're a monochromatic girl, which clearly I am not.

At any rate, now might be a good time to invest in O.P.I. stock #wordtothewise ;-)

Sorbet Assortment!

2011-02-06T17:31:00.001-08:00

Don't ask me how often I change my nail polish lol. What can I say, I love doing creative nail art.

I've recently been inspired by designs seen on Wah Nails

They feature hundreds of fabulous designs that I often use for inspiration.

Here are a couple from the site that inspired my sorbet assortment look!


The art is fresh and funky!

The colors are so fun and perfect for spring!

Here's my spin on the two looks!


What do you think?

Coming to the Screen: Red Tails

2011-02-06T00:32:00.000-08:00

For those unfamiliar, Red Tails is the story of the Tuskegee Airmen, the first African-American pilots to fly in a combat squadron during World War II.

During the war, African-American pilots of the experimental Tuskegee training program were engaged in two wars -- one against enemies overseas, and the other against discrimination within the military and back home. Racial prejudices have long held ace airman Martin "Easy" Julian (Nate Parker) and his black pilots back at base -- leaving them with little to do but further hone their flying skills -- while their white counterparts were shipped out to combat after only three months of training. Mistakenly deemed inferior and assigned only second-rate planes and missions, the pilots of Tuskegee mastered the skies with ease but have not been granted the opportunity to truly spread their wings. Until now.

As the war in Europe continues to take its toll on Allied forces, Pentagon brass has no recourse but to reconsider these under-utilized pilots for combat duty. Just as the young Tuskegee men are on the brink of being shut down and shipped back home, Col. A.J. Bullard (Terrence Howard) awards them the ultimate chance to prove their mettle high above. Undaunted by the prospect of providing safe escort to bombers in broad daylight -- a mission so dangerous that the RAF has refused it and the white fighter groups have sustained substantial losses -- Easy's pilots join the fiery aerial fray. Against all the odds, with something to prove and everything to lose, these intrepid young airmen take to the skies in a heroic endeavor to combat the enemy -- and the discrimination that has kept them down for so long. (Wikipedia)

When the pilots of the 332nd Fighter Group painted the tails of their P-47's red, the nickname "Red Tails" was coined.

The film adaptation was written by George Lucas (Star Wars) and directed by Anthony Hemingway (Ali, Manchurian Candidate, The Wire).

The cast includes a host of new faces who are well on their way to becoming household names.

Terrence Howard as Col. A.J. Bullard

Cuba Gooding Jr. as Major Emanuelle Stance

Gooding also starred in the HBO special on the Tuskegee Airmen years ago.

Michael B. Jordan as Maurice 'Bumps' Wilson

You may recognize Jordan, who is oober-talented, as Wallace from 'The Wire'.


Tristan Wilds as Ray 'Ray Gun' Gannon

Wilds was also featured on the hit HBO series 'The Wire' and currently plays Dixon on '90210'.

Andre Royo as Chief 'Coffee' Coleman

And it seems the director Anthony Hemingway hooked up all his former employees from the Wire with new jobs. (Must be nice) Royo played "Bubbles" on 'The Wire'.

Method Man as Sticks

It will be interesting to see what he brings to the film.

Neyo as Andrew 'Smoky' Salem

Neyo seems like the wild card of the cast, but this may be a good look for him.

Nate Parker as Marty 'Easy' Julian

Nate knows he's fine! Ok, sorry *ahem* I mean very talented (tehe). Nate has appeared in 'The Great Debaters' and 'The Secret Life of Bees'.

Marcus Paulk as David 'Deke' Watkins

Last we saw Marcus, he was still Moesha's lil brother. Oh, and Natalie's BFF on Bad Girls Club -__-

Jazmine Sullivan as Deborah 'Love Bunny' Gannett

She plays a jazz singer in a relationship with one of the airmen.

I love that she'll be showing off her singing chops!


Stacie Davis as Mae

Stacie also appeared on 'The Wire' and most recently 'Lottery Ticket'.

The film is slated for an early 2011 to mid year release. February would have been a opportune month, but hey...i'm excited nonetheless.

Will you be watching?!

Black Tie Affair

2011-02-03T20:11:00.001-08:00

I've seen this design a couple of times and thought I'd try it.

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Minnie Mouse

2011-02-03T19:40:00.001-08:00

check out these Minnie mouse inspired nails I did.
Love them!

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Where are all the girl groups?

2011-01-26T12:26:00.000-08:00

I was listening to a song online today and I had no idea who it was. So, I looked them up. The song was called "Get Your Swagger Right" by Rich Girl. I was surprised to find that it was a girl group and not a solo artist, which got me to thinking...

WHERE ARE ALL THE GIRL GROUPS?!

It seems like since Beyonce, Michelle, and Kelly fulfilled their "destiny" there hasn't been a truly successful girl group.

Sure, we had the Pussycat Dolls, but there were just too many to count and keep up with, and they all ended up blending in with each other.

Then there was Danity Kane, but they suffered the curse of P. "Can't Make a Band" Diddy. (sigh)

There was also some group Electrik Red, but they just seemed like a bunch of pretty girls stuck together.

The dynamics of a music group are always difficult as there is always someone who must stand out as the lead. Dealing with egos, varying salaries, fan bases, and personal issues can lead to disaster if not treated carefully.

Very few have managed to be successful and maintain longevity. But even the best of things must one day come to an end.

Here's my run down of some of the best girl groups

1. Martha and the Vandellas

Everyone always notes the Supremes, but Martha and the Vandellas were quite successful in their day. You may know some of there hits like "Heatwave," "Nowhere to Run," and "Dancing in the Street."

2. J.J. Fad

Who can forget their upbeat, funky hit "Supersonic." It made them the first female rap group to receive a Grammy nod.

3. SWV

SWV is undoubtedly one of the best female R&B groups of all time. SWV stood for "sisters with voices" and that's exactly what they were! Their smooth melodies were undeniable!

4. Brownstone

Bump what you heard, Brownstone was the ish back in the day! Those harmonies were insane!

5. Destiny's Child

You knew Destiny's Child would make the cut, but I have to say they had stiff competition like Total, and Xscape. But there was nothing like the original DC3. I still miss them. I hate when groups disband for solo careers :-/

Here's the song I was listening to earlier that started all of this.

	RichGirl - Swagger Right .mp3

	Found at bee mp3 search engine

We need to bring back the girl groups!

Women I Admire: Simmons Family

2011-01-25T22:00:00.001-08:00

I haven't done a "Women I Admire" post in a while. When thinking about this one I thought, Oh, the Simmons sisters! But then I thought, there's Kimora and then there's Justine! So...I decided to do a family post (LOL).

I may have been the only one, but I was a big fan of Run's House. They didn't seem to be your average stuck up "celebu-spawn" with no sense of reality. Angela and Vanessa appeared to be young women with their heads on straight who, despite having loads of money, still had work ethic. So much so, that they launched their own sneaker line "Pastry" in 2007, which has grossed somewhere around 50 million dollars. Not to mention they are both just twenty-something.

Even though they got a little help from Dad and Uncle Russell, they are business powerhouses in their own right and make a conscious effort to be role models for young women. It's always refreshing to see young ambitious women making it happen for themselves without sacrificing their values. Gotta love Ang and Ness!

The two obviously took a page from their fab Aunt Kimora Lee Simmons, who at the ripe age of 13 began modeling for Chanel. After capturing the modeling world by storm, she went on to conquer fashion, launching Baby Phat in the late 90s. She nurtured the brand for nearly 10 years, but recently shed the Baby Phat in 2010.

I love Kimora because she didn't let such a huge blow defeat her. She let us know that Baby Phat is not her only claim to fame and reminded us that she made the brand and the brand did not make her. She's moved on to bigger and better things like her hit reality series "Life in the Fab Lane" as well as her multiple fragrances, jewelry line and new, mature clothing line, KLS. She's a true renaissance woman balancing family life with her husband and three kids, with her booming business in fashion and entertainment, and on top of it all, still manages to make it all look so fabulous! I love the "go-getter" in Kimora.

And then there's Justine, the loving matriarch of the Simmons clan. What I love about Justine is that she reminds me so much of my own mother. She married Joseph Simmons who had 3 children from a previous relationship and loved and supported the children as if they were her own. Justine never struck me as the typical "look-at-me" hip-hop wife. She was grounded and made sure to keep her family grounded in spiritual values. She's more concerned with the well-being of her family than being known in the industry. It's no wonder the children are so successful. They obviously have the best cheerleader in their corner. Go Jus!

Gotta Love Uncle Charlie

2011-01-24T18:38:00.000-08:00

Charlie Wilson makes the best romance songs.

This video was too cute not to post.

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There's a Limit to My Love

2011-01-23T19:40:00.001-08:00

Photo Credit: fashioncappuccino.com

I saw these shoes online and the first thing that popped in my head were the lyrics to Keri Hilson's Breaking Point. (LOL)

Surely my ankles will be at a breaking point if I ever got nerve enough to rock these bad boys. I love heels, but there's a limit to my love and it ended 3 inches ago.

Here's Keri Hilson's Breaking Point Video. Sing along if you feel me.
"There's a limit, there's a limit..." (snaps)