Becoming a Mistress

First Public Display

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 28 Nov 2018 09:00:00 +0000

Public display is not something every woman wants to do to her chastity boy. However, I thought it worth writing about because many couples do it at some time in their relationship.

The first time I was to be “Displayed” to another woman was announced a full month before it was to happen. I am quite sure that was done to help Mistress build up my anticipation before the event. I was told that on a certain date (a month away) I would be performing in front of one of Mistress' best friends, we will call her “Miss Barb”. I was aware that Miss Barb knew of our relationship, but I had never been required to do ANYTHING of a sexual nature in front of another person.

For an entire month, every day, Mistress would say something about the expected “Display” date. She would tell me things that she “could” do, if she so desired. Things like, Give me a prostate milking, have me masturbate for Miss Barb, or even let Miss Barb play with my caged (or uncaged) privates. I sort of knew that I was going to end up naked at some point while Miss Barb was there, but I had no idea to what extent that would be.

When the day finally arrived, I was as nervous (yes I am going to say it) as a long-tailed cat in room full of rocking chairs. It was around eleven o'clock when Miss Barb arrived at the front door. I answered it (fully dressed) and led Miss Barb into the living room where Mistress was waiting. I was told to stand in front of the television at parade rest until Mistress was ready for me. I have to tell you, the anticipation of what “might” happen, was making my caged penis expand as far as it could. I would have been crying if I had any kind of points in the cage.

Mistress and her guest talked about me. Yes, me, while I was standing right there. Every time mistress would tell her about something she had done to me, or made me do, Miss Barb would look at me while Mistress talked. Now, I wasn't naked, yet, but I knew I soon would be. I was wearing a pair of shorts with no underwear and a t-shirt. That was all I had on.

Eventually it finally happened. Mistress told me to remove my cloths and stand in front of Miss Barb so that she could examine my cage. Needless to say, I was extremely embarrassed and my cock was trying its best to get hard. In fact, it was growing quite painful. That's when Mistress noticed how tight the cage was and decided to remove it. But instead of removing it her self, she gave the key to Miss Barb and had her remove my cage. It did not come off easily. In fact, Miss Barb had to tug quite hard to get it off my swollen penis. When she did, my cock sprang up to its full size and stiffened up immediately.

By the time I was dismissed from the room, I had been subjected to a careful examination by Miss Barb along with a demonstration of how to tie a piece of twine to my cock and balls (mild CBT). I was toyed with for well over an hour before being dismissed. Of course, Mistress had to demonstrate how to shrink a cock down so that the cage would go on easily... Ice!

All in all, it was quite an arousing experience. One which was to be repeated with Miss Barb at a later date. Maybe I will tell you about that some time.

nemo

First Prostate Milking

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Thu, 15 Nov 2018 11:52:00 +0000

Wow! Do I ever remember that!? I think your first prostate milking is something you will always remember. But first, I want talk about the benefits of prostate milking.

Abstinence is NOT the cause of any type of cancer, as far as the medical community can prove. That is to say, no one has ever proven that there is a link between abstinence, and prostate cancer. Having said that, there are studies who reportedly have made that connection. However, their research has always been rather flawed or non-repeatable. That simply means that, even though some studies claim to have made that connection, none of them have been able to reproduce their results (which invalidates the first tudy), or they are simply slanting the results to make it seem that there is a connection between abstinence and prostate cancer.

Now that that is out of the way, let me describe what I experienced during my very first prostate milking. Mistress placed me on my hands and knees on a table so that she would have easy access to my anus and “Dickie.” In other words, I was on all fours on the dining room table.

Mistress placed a small saucer between my knees, directly under my limp penis. Then she dawned a surgical glove and rubbed LOTS of lubricant on my anus and the surrounding skin. Let me tell you, you CANNOT have too much lubrication!!! In fact, the better the lube (such as a silicone based lubricant) the less pain there will be for the poor guy (me) who is about to be milked.

I felt a finger work its way into my bottom. It wasn't all that uncomfortable, though I was definitely not used to it. I felt her finger pushing its way into my bottom until it would go no further. Then the massaging started. She crooked her finger (the one inside me) over and over again. I could feel it rubbing against my prostate. I knew it was my prostate because every stroke made me feel like I was going to cum. But I didn't. Not right away. It took over a minute of massaging before anything happened.

I looked down between my legs and watched as seminal fluid began flowing out of my penis. It was a very strange, although not painful, feeling. To see my own ejaculate being methodically milked right out of my body without me even getting hard. That was a sight to see, and something I will never forget.

Mistress stopped after only few minutes once the ejaculate began leaking out. I have to admit, it was strange to see my cum spilling onto that tiny saucer when my cock was not even hard! But it did. I was surprised that it was not more painful. It actually never hurt, but it did give me a feeling of submission! To have my ejaculate taken from me without any of the usual pleasure associated with it, was a very strange feeling.

nemo

First Outdoor Experience

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Sun, 11 Nov 2018 03:02:00 +0000

I don't know how you feel about being exposed to someone other than your Mistress, but I find very erotic. Just the thought that someone might see me doing something in public (or semi-public) is quite thrilling to many men and women alike. It's like that feeling you had a kid the first time and some of your friends decided to see what other boys and girls look like naked. It can be embarrassing, but it can also be quite stimulating just thinking that someone might be watching.

The first time I was exposed was several years ago while driving to Birmingham, Alabama. Mistress told me to pull over and drive up this dirt road she saw. I turned that car around and drove back to the little road Mistress had seen. I had no idea what Mistress had in mind for me at that time. I just wondered where she taking me.

After driving about half a mile up the dirt road, Mistress tole me to stop car. I did. Then I was ordered to get out of the car, strip naked, and masturbate while standing next to the car. I have to admit, I just knew someone, somewhere, was watching us. Just because I didn't see anyone, didn't mean they couldn't see me.

I got out of the car and nervously began removing my clothes. I strange feeling welled up inside me. It was a thrilling feeling. The feeling that someone was watching every move I made. When I finally was naked (including my shoes and socks) I stepped in front of the car as I had been instructed to do.

As I began to stroke my member, I realized that it was going to be quite difficult for me to even get an erection under those circumstances. I mean, there I was, standing in front of my car trying to masturbate. I could just FEEL those eyes staring, watching every move I made. Needless to say, I was unable to get hard, much less make myself ejaculate.

I would have to say that that was the single most embarrassing moment of my entire life, up to that point. Even today, when I think back about it, I can feel my member stir. Yes, it was very erotic having to perform (even though I couldn't) out in the open like that. I will never forget the feeling of a thousand eyes upon me, even though I could see no one.

Tell me about your most embarrassing moment...

nemo

First Reward

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Sun, 21 Oct 2018 16:58:00 +0000

I remember quite clearly the first time Mistress Ivey rewarded me for something. I had been working very hard all day chopping wood for our fireplace. I chopped a half-cord. It had taken me the entire afternoon git that much, but I didn't want to quit until we had enough to fill the two quarter-cord racks we had bought the week before. I also new that I would eventually be required to fill the racks but I wanted to get it done before she asked. Mistress Ivey had gone a shopping trip with a few of her friends. I just took advantage of her absence to get the job done.

As a result of my efforts my body was very sore the next day. Being as that day was Sunday and we nothing else to do, Mistress said she wanted to reward me with a nice body massage. Of course that sounded pretty good to me. We owned a cheap massage table we had picked up at a yard sale. So, Mistress decided to use it.

I laid down on my stomach to start out. Of course, there were lots of sore muscles on my backside, and Mistress wanted to tend to those first. She did a great job of rubbing coconut scented massage oil into my skin. She took her time, too! She spent nearly half and hour on my back and legs. Then I was told to roll over...

This is where things really changed. Mistress bound my ankles and my wrists to he table. It surprised me because I wasn't expecting to be bound. That's when Mistress carefully removed my chastity cage. Yes, she took it clear off! It felt good for my cock to be out in the open air.

To make a long story short, Mistress massaged my legs, arms and chest before she ever touched my penis. Believe me, my mind and my body were confused. The massage relaxed me but my cock remained hard during the entire time. But,of course, she made a point of NOT touching my cock or balls..

I had been on the table for about an hour before Mistress told me that she was going to give me a reward. It had been about three months since my last ejaculation, and I was ready for whatever she had in mind. She spent a full hour toying with my body. Getting me ready to squirt, then stopping before I did. It was truly fantastic!

By the time she allowed me to ejaculate, I was literally begging her to let me do it. It was probably the best, most powerful ejaculations I had ever had. So take it from me, lengthy teasing can really pay off when it comes time to ejaculate.

nemo

First Punishment

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Fri, 05 Oct 2018 18:37:00 +0000

Sorry for the late post. There has been a lot going on here, lately.

I remember distinctly my first punishment from Mistress Ivey. I admit, I earned it. In fact, I did it deliberately, as I suppose many of you have, just to see what she would do. So what did I do? Let's just say I didn't do what I was supposed to do.

I was ordered to prepare a bath for Mistress and I deliberately filled the tub with COLD water. Needless to say, when she put her foot in the water, you could here her yell for blocks! She yelled for me to come into the bath room, at which time she began to scold me. She knew that I had to have done it deliberately. So the first part of my punishment was to strip down and climb into the tub... naked! Yikes! It was winter and the water was near freezing! She made me splash it up over my entire body. During the entire time she made me sit there... Twenty minutes in all,

Once I was allowed to get out, she didn't allow me to dry myself off. Instead, she made me refill the tub properly and give her a proper bath while my body air-dried. Let me tell you, that would have been bad enough, but in the Winter, we keep the indoor temp set to 68-degrees. Oh, and metal chastity cages don't warm up quickly, either!

When she had finished her bath, dried off and dressed, she told me that my punishment was NOT over. I was allowed to dry off what little water still remained on my body and then meet her in the bedroom. When I entered, I knew I was going to be warmed up... At least my bottom would be. Still naked, I was told to kneel bu the bed and bend over it. She used a small paddle to administer the final part of my punishment. 25 blows to each cheek! And she did NOT go easy on me! The rest of the night I spent sleeping on the floor at the foot of the bed.

Just for future reference, I don't recommend filling your wife's (or Mistress') tub with cold water!

nemo

FIrst T&D

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 26 Sep 2018 08:00:00 +0000

Believe it or not, neither of us (Ivey or myself) had ever done anything even resembling tease and denial. Every session we had up to this point had ended in at least one of us having an orgasm. And, no, it was not always me.

We had just finished signing our new FLR contract (agreement) when Ivey told me to go to the bedroom, strip naked and wait for her on the bed. Being a man, and always horny, I had no problem doing as she had ordered.

It didn't ever matter to me how tired I was, when the offer was made, I would be sure and muster whatever energy was necessary to hand the situation. (I am talking about sex, of course.) I did as I was told. After all, I did want to make things easy for her and I wanted to show her what a good little sex-slave I could be.

It took me about fifteen minutes to get ready. I took a quick shower because I like to be all clean any time I might engage in sexual activity. I think it is only polite to do so. Anyway, I waited for over thirty minutes and was wondering what Ivey had in mind. I was nervous because, after all, this was our first sexual encounter since Ivey took control. I continued to wait. All in all, I waited over two hours for Ivey to show up.

When Ivey finally walked through the door into our bedroom, she made no apologies for having made me wait so long. I continued to wait while she showered and whatever it is women do to get ready for a night of sexual activity. But when she finally climbed onto the bed, she was wearing a brand new baby-doll nightie. She looked so hot I was ready for anything!

Ivey spent the next twenty or so minutes talking to me about what she expected out of me as her junior partner, while gently stroking my hard cock slowly and gently. It was hard for me to concentrate on what she was saying when she was sexually exciting me as she was. She kept talking and stroking and stroking and talking. She continued this for over and hour. Of course, be that time I was begging her to let me cum. Almost screaming it. I could no longer hear what she was saying. All I could think of was my own gratification.

Eventually, Ivey stopped touching me altogether and told me to go to sleep. She said she was finished and that I just needed to go to sleep. I was warned that if I masturbated, I would find my cock locked up in a tiny little cage. So I simply lay there, thinking how good it would feel to ejaculate. I wanted to cum in the worst way! But I wasn't allowed that privilege. The truth is, I did not sleep at all that night. It was a good thing the next day was Saturday, because if I had to work, I wouldn't have been able to stay awake.

That was the first of many tease and denial session I would endure, but I will NEVER forget it!

nemo

Setting Up an FLR

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 19 Sep 2018 21:32:00 +0000

I remember the day, well it was actually an evening after the kids went to bed, that Ivey came to me said she wanted to talk about changing our relationship. I was confused. What was there to change? We had a contract. I was in charge. I saw no need to change anything. But... I was not going to shut her down without hearing what she had to say.

Ivey began by showing me some of the websites that other Mistresses were running at the time. She complained that was NOT the way it should be. I agreed, but I still didn't understand what that had to do with our relationship. She carefully explained that she wanted to reverse the roles in our relationship. That kind of shocked me even though I had already taught her how to be a good Dominant in a BDSM relationship.

Ivey had already taken on a part-time male sub, but she said that was not really enough. She wanted to see if she could handle a full-time BDSM relationship in which she was in charge. Of course, that would mean that either I would have to become her sub or we would have to bring someone else into our home. Well, we had children to think of. That meant there was no way we could trust bringing someone new into our home. It would raise way too many questions. So I finally agreed to become her sub. Of course, I insisted on setting up a new contract.

It took us over a week to finally agree on the wording of this new contract. I wanted to protect myself as well as I had protected Ivey with out first contract. That took a bit of doing. But we finally worked out all the details and set a date for the switch to occur.

Yes, I was initially quite shocked when Ivey first broached the subject. But the more I learned about her way of doing things, the more impressed I became, and the more I like it. I think the thing I liked best was that I no longer had to make any major, or minor, decisions. In fact, the only thing I had to worry about was what I wanted to wear that day. Since I had a uniform to wear for my work (jeans and a company shirt) even that was pretty easy.

nemo

The First Time

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 29 Aug 2018 08:00:00 +0000

For the next few months, I am going to post a series of articles entitled “How It Feels.” This series is going to look at Female Led Relationships and Male Chastity from a man's point of view when his significant other is the one who wants to change things. Basically, it will be a look at how he feels, and what thoughts might go through his head when his partner decides to “give it a go.” Basically, it will be a look back on how things went for me. What I felt, and what other guys sometimes feel when things change. When the relationship evolves from the “normal” to a Female Led Relationship. And, of course, chastity.

Mistress Ivey always covered life from the woman's perspective. I plan to show this kind of relationship from a guy's point of view. The only difference is that “he” will not have to figure out how to approach “her” to get things started. I realize that that is one of the hardest things a guy has to do when he wants an FLR, but his wife has never considered it. I will cover that aspect later. There is an old post on my blog that is a letter from a guy to his woman telling her the benefits of an FLR. Actually, there is a link to it at the top of the page. It's called “To My Wife” and it pretty much covers that side of things.

My goal, with this series, is to show women (and men) how it feels from the male side of things. I think, once a woman knows how men feel about most things, she will realize that there is no reason for her to fear this kind of relationship, nor will she worry about the things Ivey proposed she do having a negative effect. They won't! Men, whether they know it or not, WANT this kind of relationship. I can say that with certainty because, I admit, I never thought I would enjoy being someone's “slave” or whatever you want to call it. But I found it much more exciting and rewarding, than anything I had experienced before. And I had been married twice before!

Hold onto your hats, folks! The truth is out there, and I am going to bring it straight to you...

nemo

The Answer...

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 08:00:00 +0000

...To last weeks questions. I know it was rather strange of me to write all that stuff about not knowing what to do and all, but the truth is, there are many guys, and women as well, out there who just don't know where to turn when they have no one to control them, or to control.

The answer is really quite simple, and that's why it is so often overlooked. You have to put yourself out there! By that, I mean, you have to make yourself known. Let others know what you are looking for. There are literally thousands of men and women looking for the right partner. That one person who can be their soul mate, as it were. The one person who is not only willing to control them, or be controlled by them, but who is a perfect match. It might just be the person living right next door to you. But you will never know unless you have a way to meet them. That is, meet them and let them know what you need without sounding like a complete loser, a weirdo, or some kind of creep.

You need to join FetLife! Well, in all honesty it doesn't have to be FetLife, but any one of a number of dating sites made just for people like you and me. Take it from one who knows, FetLife is probably THE best place to meet people just like you, or just like what you need. Join up, check out the local groups in your area and you are sure to find someone open to being your Mistress or sub, or whatever you need. They even have online groups dedicated to advertising what you are looking for. Or maybe, just maybe, you will find some one else's ad who is a perfect match for you.

You don't have to use FetLife. I don't get a commission or anything if you do. There are hundreds of websites that cater to men and women who enjoy a Femdom style relationship. I am not going to try and give you a long list of them. Mainly because there are just too many. Besides, FetLife is the largest and most popular of all the kinky web sites for people looking for other people I know of. Sure, you could use “Adult Friend Finder,” or “Alt.com” if you like. But there are MORE people on FetLife. And, they may even know some who would be perfect for you even though that person might not be on FetLife... yet. So I recommend NOT just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there! Do something to let other people know who you really are and what you really want. That is the only sure way of finding exactly who and what you need.

nemo

It's Sad...

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 15 Aug 2018 08:00:00 +0000

To see what happens to a cock that no longer has anyone to control it, to tease it, to keep it locked up in chastity until it is time for it be released. Well, at least, that's how I feel. Since I have had no one to control me or my poor cock for the last five months, it seems a shame. I mean, here I am, probably the best example of how to be a submissive, male locked in chastity, and totally controlled by a woman, and I have no one...

Raise your hand if you agree with that statement. I happen to be the embodiment of that statement. Alone, after seventeen wonderful years with a loving partner who knew what it meant to control a man and his organ.

It seems a shame, to me, that such a person has no one to turn to. No one I can ask to be my Mistress. I am stuck here in this house all by myself (except for my 19 year old step-son) with no one tell me to put my cock back in it's cage. Or to let it out for an occasional orgasm.

I am too old to go shopping for another Mistress. Besides, who would want a 67 year old chastity sub anyway? Oh well, life goes on. Or so I am told. I really don't care to masturbate without direction or orders to do so. It just isn't the same. Back me up on that guys. I don't know what to do with myself without someone to tell me what needs to be done.

Well, I guess I have cried on all your shoulders long enough. I hope to be in better spirits next week. Thanks for ready this post, though! Remember to smile even if that photo is being taken while you are standing naked outside somewhere just because you were ordered to do so. At least you had someone to give you that order. ;)

nemo

How to Get Teased Without a Mistress

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 08:00:00 +0000

Guys... One of the hardest questions to find an answer to on the Internet is, “How can I get my wife to tease and deny me?” Good luck! Well, I have at least one answer for you...

If you have approached your wife or girlfriend about using tease and denial to make your life more miserable (meaning fun) and she is just not interested, here is some advice on how to proceed and get yourself teased in the process.

First of all, you need to decide what kind of teasing you want. Do you want her to go out of her way to physically tease you on a daily basis? Would you rather she was a bit aloof and acted like she was totally uninterested in your sexual gratification? Or would you simply want her to deny you an orgasm once in awhile?

First of all, if you expect her to go out of her way to physically tease you on a daily basis, you may be out of luck. You will first have to show her how much fun it can be. But I warn you, it won't be easy. You will have to beg and plead and try to get her to read all those stories that turn you on so much. Or... You could simply keep reading them and STOP masturbating to them. Sort of a do-it-yourself tease and denial.

If you like the idea that she pretend your sexual arousal and subsequent ejaculations are irrelevant, then pay attention. All you have to do is give her everything she wants, sexually. Then, when it is your turn to get off, simply stop and tell her that you are satisfied with just making her happy and you don't really need to cum yourself. This can be very difficult if you lack the will power to stop yourself.

Finally, if you only want her to deny you on occasion, again, you will have to do it yourself.

Okay, none of those methods seem very fun. And you are right... They are not. But try this... Take every opportunity to show your wife how much you appreciate her. Bring her flowers (even just one) every now and then. Buy her a trinket, some jewelry that she likes. It doesn't have to be expensive, just something you think she would like. Surprise her with it. Now, to show her how much you REALLY appreciate her, give her a bath followed by a full body massage, ending in an orgasm (or multiple orgasms) and then convince yourself that you need nothing in return. Yes, you will be extremely aroused. Yes, you will WANT to cum. But, come on, you're a man. Resist letting her show you her appreciation. After all, you want her to deny you that orgasm. Pretend that she has and don't let her do it.

Be sure to take every opportunity to kiss her, passionately. Fondle her or grab her butt while you do it. Tell her how terribly sexually exciting you find her. Grab her bottom as she passes you in the kitchen, the hallway, or even the bedroom. All these little things should give you a sexual thrill as well. But, since you will get nothing in return, except maybe a hard-on, you have successfully teased yourself. That is what you want. Right? That is, to be aroused and get nothing for it?

Now, after a few weeks of this, she may be more willing to talk about a tease and denial relationship with you. Believe me, it works. The more you give her without expecting anything in return the better your chances are that she starts to see the benefits of such a relationship.

Finally, if you keep doing it, taking every opportunity to show her how sexually exciting you find her, the better your chances are. Make her the center of your world, not just sexually, but in everything you do. Put HER needs above your own. Show her the benefits of tease and denial. Once she has experienced the devotion that you are giving her, the faster she will come around to seeing the benefits! It's a win-win proposition!

nemo

Male Chastity Pt-12

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 01 Aug 2018 08:00:00 +0000

Sample Games & Teases

Here are some sample teases to get you started. I can't do everything for you, but with just a little imagination, you should be able to keep your Chastity Boy on the edge most of the time.

Verbal Teases:

These may be done over the phone, through a text message, or even email. They could be whispered in his ear when you are out to dinner, or at a movie. The point is to get him turned on and thinking about you, and what he could be doing instead of whatever he is doing.

I would love to lick your cock from your balls all the way to the tip very slowly.
I am laying on the bed masturbating right now. Don't you wish you were here?
I would love to suck your big, hard, cock right now. I can't wait until you get home...
I would love to feel your hands squeezing my breasts as you fuck me from behind.
Remember that story you read about the two woman and one guy?

Psychological Teases:

These teases are best told to him while he is bound so that you can physically tease him. Or on the phone like those above. They are just the beginning of the kinds of things you can use.

I have invited my old roommate from college to come over and see your chastity cage.
You know, I would love to dress you up as a French maid and have you serve dinner to a few of our friends.
Oh! You're about to cum. Let me make you a deal. You can cum right now, or you can wait three more months and I will let you fuck me any way you want. What's it gonna be?
Honey, I've decided to ask Mandy to come over this week-end to help me tease you.
How would you like it if I were to invite a couple gay guys I know over to teach you about anal sex?

Physical Teases:

These are practical teases in which he must do something that could be extremely humiliating if anyone else knew he was doing it. Or do them during a T&D session.

Have your guy wear a pair of women's panties to work.
Bind his hands, remove his cage, stroke his cock very slowly ten to twenty times. Then ice him down and put the cage back on.
Send him on an errand or to work with orders to insert a butt-plug before he comes home.
Bind him to a chair, a bed, or even a table. Lube his cock and stroke it as slowly as you can, for as long as you can without allowing him to cum. Then put his cage back on.
Put him on his knees and milk his prostate.

There you have it. I think you get the idea. Now go out there and tease that Chastity Boy of yours. And remember: Never let up. Never give in.

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-11

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 25 Jul 2018 08:00:00 +0000

Keeping it Fun!

As I said in my last post, male chastity should be FUN! Not just for you, but for your chaste male as well. While this may seem like a daunting task, it is really simple. The Internet is full of ideas for you. There are websites dedicated to chastity games. All you have to do, is play them.

Let's be honest here, if something you want to do, have to do, or hate to do, is suddenly turned into something fun, you will look forward to it. You will no longer dread having to do it. Right!? Well, keeping your chaste male, AND yourself, happy, you need to keep things fun.

One way of having fun is to try out different ways of determining your charges release date. As I said, the Internet is full of ideas on this. The best ones I have seen, have GAMES! Games are great, because you can change the rules, adjust them to be a little more difficult, or easy, if that's what you want.

There are numerous dice games out there, besides being easy to make up yourself. Whether you use one die, or ten, doesn't matter. It's how the game is played. And the best part is, YOU get to make the rules! You decide how the game will be played. Use the rules (though, often complicated and impossible to memorize) supplied by the creator or the web site, or make up your own set of rules.

There are card games galore, as well. Look at them. See if there is one or two that capture your interest. Modify them to your particular needs or desires. Just make sure you don't allow your charge to actually “earn” release! And don't overlook your favorite table games. Trivial Pursuit(R) is one that comes to mind. Monopoly(R) is another. Simply modify the rules to your liking, and play!

Whatever games you choose to play, no matter how you play them, should be fair. By that I mean, there should be a way for him to win. Even if the best he can do is to reduce the time until his release date. Remember, he must NEVER be allowed to reach that release date if you are both going to get the most out of male chastity.

I am not saying he can never be allowed to ejaculate. What I am saying is he should never be allowed a FULL ORGASM! You can, from time to time, allow him a ruined orgasm. But be sure you can successfully ruin his orgasms or that won't work. You can also milk his prostate if you like. Or make him do it. This way, he gets relief, but no true ejaculation!

Above all, make this game of Male Chastity fun and exciting! Don't let yourself fall into a rut. That can be the most disastrous thing you can do. If either of you no longer find it fun, it will fail. The ball, as they say, is in your court. It is ALWAYS in your court. Don't let your chaste man down. HAVE FUN!!!

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-10

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 18 Jul 2018 08:00:00 +0000

The Perfect Male Chastity Relationship

Besides the fact that nothing is perfect, (well, except the Fibonacci curve, of course) every relationship will face it's own set of problems. But, for the purpose of this writing, we are going to assume every couple is capable of making their relationship perfect.

For any relationship to be deemed perfect, each half must compliment the other. So, as a reasonable couple engaged in a male chastity form of existence there must be two sides that work in harmony with each other. They compliment each other, so to speak. If your relationship is going to last, there must be a balance between the participants.

What we are talking about is the need for each of you, male in chastity, and female in charge, to be a willing participant in this relationship. As the female, and the one in charge, the most important thing you have to do is enjoy yourself. I know how that sounds. Of course you enjoy yourself, you're in charge!

Yes, you are in charge, but have you set up sufficiently random use of all the tease and denial techniques available to you? Because once you do that, you can keep things moving ahead by simply being unpredictable. Your chaste partner should never know exactly what is going to happen next. And frankly, neither should you.

Your objective is to continuously tease and torment your chaste man keeping him just enough off balance to keep things interesting. You must never allow your relationship to become “stale.” So you should always be on the lookout for something different. Maybe just a little different. But still, different. By doing this, you keep things interesting, not only for yourself, but for your charge as well.

One thing should always remain constant... His release date. It should be constantly changing and still be just within reach. Don't try and “go for a year” just to set your own long term record. You, as the one in charge, can always find reasons to move his release date back a few days at a time. Thus, keeping it just out of reach. Close enough that it seems attainable to him, yet far enough that you still have time to move it back again.

I know there are some of you who still have the need to feel a real piece of flesh between your legs, pumping into you, or you onto it, whatever the case may be. Well, I believe I have already given you one method to eat your cake and have it, too. Numbing cream! The best answer to any woman's need for real flesh between her legs.

So, keep things moving, keep them constantly changing, and always fun! Then you will have a successful D/s relationship! If you are NOT having fun, you are simply not doing it right. Above all else, having your own male in chastity should, not only be entertaining, it should be FUN!

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Making it Tighter!

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Tue, 17 Jul 2018 01:41:00 +0000

No, that's NOT me!

Your chastity cage, I mean. I know how it is, many of us (me included) feel that we don't have “enough” when it comes to filling a woman during intercourse. You know what I mean. Either our equipment is lacking in the size department, or we don't “put out” enough semen. If you are like I used to be, fairly small with a load to match, then you understand where I am coming from.

Yes, I admit, I was always a little self-conscious when it came to letting a woman, or other men, for that matter, see my equipment. For years I tried all the tricks to making it larger. You know, stroking it, pulling it, stretching it, and definitely trying every product on the market that touted that it would make me bigger. Naturally, none of them worked... Until now!

I recently discovered a line of products that actually work!!! No, I am NOT kidding! These products ACTUALLY WORK! How do I know? Because I tested them! That's right, me, nemo, personally tested these products! Let me explain what I did...

I had tried many other products that promised to make my equipment bigger. I swallowed their hype, hook, line, and sinker. I bought a three month supply. I took them as directed, and... NOTHING! Nothing happened. What a big surprise. I kept telling myself that I was just wasting my money and dreaming of something that no one could actually make happen. Let's face it, I know there are many of you who have done the very same thing. You don't have to admit it to me. But you know who you are.

Well, I did it again. Back in April, I purchased a three-month supply of VigRX-Plus. Oh, I had hopes, but I was also VERY skeptical! Again, I took them as directed (twice a day with food), but I didn't expect anything to happen. However... about half-way into my three month supply, I started to notice something. My equipment did seem to be a bit larger. I measured myself, and to my surprise, I had actually grown about three-quarters of an inch longer (when flaccid).

Naturally, I proceeded to watch some of my more erotic videos just to see what would happen when I got hard. I measured myself again when I was “standing at attention.” I was actually a little over an inch longer than before and had gained a half-inch in girth. WOW!

By the end of my ninety-day test supply, I was almost two inches longer and a full inch bigger around! I could hardly believe it. Nothing I had tried before ever showed ANY KIND of results, much less anything like the VigRX-Plus did. I was so impressed that I decided I had to tell you all about it. Thus, the reason for this post.

But VigRX-Plus isn't the only product I tested. I also tried Semenax, which is supposed to increase both the volume and thickness of your ejaculate and the amount of testosterone in our body (I did not have that tested).

I had a vasectomy years ago, (before I met my wife, God rest her soul), and if you know what that does to the volume and consistency of your ejaculate, then you know I haven't “put out” much in the years since. And I DO mean “years!” You see, without any sperm to thicken things up, my semen got pretty thin and runny, and there wasn't much of it. Not any more!

Since taking the Semenax, however, that is no longer the case. Now I don't know what it would do for those of you who still ejaculate sperm along with your semen, but I am told that it will also increase your sperm count. I have been totally impressed by these two companies! The claims made by both VigRX-Plus and Semenax are true!

Honestly, I would NOT tout a product I did not believe in. (Mistress Ivey would NOT have tolerated it, either.) For another reason, I don't want to lose my readership by lying to you! So, believe me when I say, if you suffer from either a size problem or a quantity problem (or both), it is worth your hard earned dollars to invest in a supply of one or both of these products!

Both VigRXPlus and Semenax have been clinically tested! You can read all about the results of these clinical studies for yourself. You will NOT believe it. I didn't either, but I took a chance, and I was amazed! They actually work.

While I can't guarantee your results will be the same as mine, I promise that these products work! You might get better results than I did, or you might not. But rest assured, when taken as directed, these products WORK! And they are SAFE! But you don't have to take my word for it, try it yourself. (A three month supply is recommended for best, and permanent results.) To learn more about VigRXPlus and Semenax Click the ad in the right column -->

nemo

P.S. By the way, I have since bought myself a years supply of BOTH of these products!

Male Chastity Pt-9

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 11 Jul 2018 08:00:00 +0000

What Can You Expect to Get Out of it?

Of course, the obvious answer to that question is: it depends on what you are willing to put into it. You might think that that is a joke... But it isn't! As the Keyholder, you have the toughest job, until you get used to it. Once you have a number of things that you enjoy doing to your chaste man, a good set of weekly teases and, maybe a game or two that he likes to play, you can run on autopilot. Now that you have everything you need at your fingertips, and you are comfortable enough to use them, your job becomes a lot easier.

Now don't get me wrong. I am not saying that your job as Keyholder is an easy one. What I am saying is that you no longer have to spend half your day thinking of ways to tease your guy. You do, however, need to actually tease him. The more you tease him and the better you are at dangling the ejaculation carrot in front of him, the less work all this will be.

What you can expect to gain from all your hard work, aside from the fun you have actually teasing him, is a partner who now pays more attention to you and your needs. Your sexual needs as well as the needs that go with running a household. You can expect flowers from time to time. Maybe a dinner date, too. You should have plenty of help around the house getting all those nasty daily chores done for you, (well, most of them).

I would say you are getting plenty out your new relationship. Well, if you spent the time training your chastity boy as I recommended, you will. But there is so much more if you take the time to look for it.

Besides obeying you, your chaste male should now be giving you bubble baths (if you are into that sort of thing). How about full body massages? He should be giving you more spare time to spend any way you want. But the BIG bonus? That's the one where arguments are practically non-existent. I mean, you should be able to win any argument that comes along. In fact, you should be able to win with nothing more than a look. You know the one. That special look that says, “I will be happy to extend the time to your next release date... A year!” That one usually won most disagreements in our house.

So, as you can see, you have gained a great deal, since starting down this tease and denial path. I think you will agree, by now your chaste man should be well behaved and life is going much more smoothly than it was this time a year ago.

So, I was right. What you get out of it, depends upon what you are willing to put into it.

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt. 8

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 08:00:00 +0000

How Should a Keyholder Approach it?

This is one place where the Internet seems to get it wrong. They seem to think that you, as the Keyholder should make all the rules, and be as mean and evil as you can possibly be. Go ahead and try that approach. I'll wait...

I didn't think it would take long for you realize that that is the WRONG approach. I will admit, there are a few men out there who would relish that type of a Keyholder. If that is what he really wants, then by all means, give it to him.

I will admit, many times the “Dream” of a guy who wants to try chastity, is quite often of a Keyholder ( a woman) that is mean and cruel and won't give him and inch, much less an orgasm... EVER! But faced with reality, most men will back off from that kind of relationship. It just won't work for them. I agree. It won't work for most men. And I don't think most wives or girlfriends, for that matter, could be that mean and cruel.

It would be better to start out nice and easy. Take things slowly. You may find some things that you like and you can include them in your regular activities. You may find some that just don't fit what you (or he) had in mind. There is one area in which you should be strong-willed, stubborn, hard-headed about, and that is not giving in when the pleading starts. Yes, there will be pleading. But whatever rules you have starting out concerning ejaculations and how often they should be allowed, you need to stick to them. If you said one a week for the first month and then “we will see” for the time after that, be sure to allow him one ejaculation per week (for that first month).

Having said that, there is something you should commit to memory right now... NEVER say you can have an orgasm on this day or that day. NEVER be definite about that day. Instead, what you want to do is to promise him that he can have a “chance for an orgasm,” or “a chance for an ejaculation.” Putting it that way, opens up the door for you to extend his lack of ejaculations for as long as you would like. Maybe indefinitely!?

Now, repeat after me, “I am giving you a chance to ejaculate today.” Very good. Why are you not allowed to say, “I am granting you an orgasm today?” Because, unless, for some strange reason, you have decided that it IS time to allow him to ejaculate, you don't want him to. But you want him to think that he has a CHANCE to cum! You can play a game, or give him a task to perform, or a time limit, or just about anything you can think of that will make it almost impossible for him to achieve his goal.

One last thing... Before you begin this journey into male chastity, you should sit down and talk with your partner and discuss things like release dates, amount of teasing he is to get, and limits. Limits are something that your partner (or you) flatly refuse to do. There may be a lot of them, but you should know what they are before you begin. Also, you will need a method of signaling that something “new” falls under a limit he had not thought of. Remember, safety first!

Have fun and remember the word, “Chance!”

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-7

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 27 Jun 2018 08:00:00 +0000

How Does All This Benefit Me?

I know I have been talking about the benefits for the chastised male, but this is supposed to be a partnership. After all, isn't that what marriage is all about? Being partners?

There are many benefits to being a Keyholder in a male chastity relationship. First of all, your partner is the one with the lousy hand in all of this. Oh? You don't think so? Yes, it's true that you will do most of the work when it comes to teasing him and keeping him as horny (aroused) as possible for as much of his time as possible. And, yes, there is a great deal of planning that goes with all that teasing.

However, as long as you are doing your part, you will have the perfect husband. Your husband (or chaste partner), will do just about anything to get what he wants. “And what is that?” you may ask. A chance to ejaculate (have an orgasm), of course. The longer he goes without ejaculating, the more desperate he will become. A desperate man will do just about anything to get what he wants. And you literally hold the key to that.

Men, and I don't care what men you are talking about, all have one thing in common... They ALL want sex! Yes, even gay men want sex. They are not so different from any other man except that they choose a different partner, that's all.

Your partner will not only be obedient ('cause if he isn't there will be consequences), but he will become more attentive to your needs. Not just sexually speaking, either! He will gladly help you with anything you need done around the house. I repeat, ANYTHING!

He will go shopping for you,
He will help you get dressed,
He will do the cooking,
He will clean the bathrooms,
He will clean the kitchen,
He will clean all your floors,
He can even be trained to bring home flowers and other small gifts for you, from time to time, all on his own.
And of course, all the sexual attention you ever wanted!

All you have to do to receive all this household help is, keep him aroused and wanting that orgasm! An orgasm that you will give him a “chance” to have every so often. But we will get into that later. Just remember what he wants, tease him as often and as much as you can, and you will have the perfect husband. How do I know? Ivey always said I was the perfect husband once she put me in chastity. And I certainly tried to be!

What better reference could you have?

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-6

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 08:00:00 +0000

How to Tease Him

One of the most often asked questions. Ivey got it a lot and I have gotten it a few times. I will give you a few examples and you can use your imagination from there. The first thing is, you must understand exactly what teasing is all about.

The art of teasing a man sexually has been practiced since the dawn of man ( and women). Women have used it to get more meat from her cave man, the chance to kill an enemy, and yes, even the opportunity to get a new car. Anytime a woman uses her sex appeal in order to influence a man in any way, she is, technically, teasing him. She offers certain sexual favors if he will only do such and such for her. Don't tell me you haven't ever done that. I know better.

Anyway, all you are doing is telling your chastity boy that you “might” let him have an orgasm if he will do something for you. Or perhaps, you simply fondle him and nuzzle into his neck and talk sweetly to him in order to get him to agree to something else. You have ALL done it at one time or another.

There are three basic areas, or types, of teasing. The first is verbal. You tell him how much you would like to let him out of his cage so that you could play with him. Maybe suck on him. Or stroke him, or whatever you think will turn him on. You can use verbal teasing any time. If you're on the phone, in the car, at the grocery store or even in bed with him. It's easy. Just make him think that you want him just as badly as he wants you. You may not, but he doesn't need to know that.

The second type of teasing is psychological teasing. You play with his mind, with his fantasies, or you make up some fantasy of your own and implant it in his head. You can write him a letter, email him, send him a text, call him, or even simply whisper in his ear. What do you say? That's easy, say anything that you think will turn him on. Tell him how badly you want to jump up and down on his hard cock, or how much you would love to tie him down and tickle every part of this body, including his cock and balls. You can tell him you would like to spend a weekend with him at a motel, just the two you. Anything that will get his motor running is a good psychological tease.

Finally, we come to the physical tease. Now I know Ivey has written about this. She has written a book about it. Anyway, the physical tease is exactly what it sounds like. You touching him. Anywhere, anytime, any place. Talk about or whisper a psychological tease in his ear while working your hand into his pants to fondle his cock and balls. At night, when you go to bed, run your hands all over his body and be sure to make him beg you to let him out of his cage. Of course, you are not going to do that, but if he begs you for release, you have done your job well. And you can turn over and go to sleep. Okay, it may be hard (pun intended) for him to get to sleep, but that's all a part of the game.

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-5

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 13 Jun 2018 08:00:00 +0000

How to Control Your Chaste Man

If you thought getting him locked up in a chastity device was all you needed to do, you are sadly mistaken.

Many of the websites I have been to seem to think that once you have him locked up all safe and secure, you are done. WRONG! If you happen to be one of those who is actually mean and cruel, you can now move on to something else in your life. Let him suffer like the wimpy little rat he is. But... If you are a real, caring human being, you will want to keep your end of the bargain. What bargain? You ask. Surely you didn't get him so drunk that he passed out making it easy for you to lock his little dickie up. If not, that means you made some kind of agreement about teasing him at some point.

Let's talk about that. I am not going to fill your head with things to do to him physically. You know how to do that, or, at least, you should. No, I am going to tell you how wrong other Internet sites are when it comes to that.

You have seen some of those captioned photos in which some woman tells her guy that she makes the rules and that her first rule is that he will never cum again. Do that, and your marriage (or whatever kind of relationship you have) will be over. Remember, there isn't a chastity device that can't be removed without a key. No, there isn't. But I am not here to talk about that. I am talking about the kind of things you can, can't, and should say to your guy once he is securely locked in his chastity cage.

Don't tell him his chastity is permanent. Don't tell him he is never going to cum again. Don't tell him he can look at you but he better NEVER try to touch you again. These are ultimatums that should never be used (unless used properly) by you.

Don't tell your chaste man to never expect any teasing, after all, that is the whole purpose of caging his manhood. If you do what these other websites tell you to do, you will not only destroy your relationship, you will ruin any chance you had of being happy.

Not teasing the guy you put into chastity is tantamount to ignoring him. He didn't agree to let you lock him up just so you could ignore him. And I suspect you know that. There is no quicker way to end a good relationship than ignoring your partner sexually. No, you want him aroused. In fact, you want him aroused and frustrated as much as he can handle. Your goal is to get him to do nice things for you... Bring you flowers, gifts, be more concerned with your sexual needs than his own, help you with chores around the house without complaining, and so on and so forth.

Oh, don't get me wrong. You can tell him that you will never let him cum again, or that he will never get out his cage again, but you really should include the words, “Unless I want you to.”

That makes the threat a tease. But of course, there are many other kinds of teases but we will get into that later. That was Ivey's job to teach you about those. My job is teach how to keep him happy so that he will keep you happy and you BOTH can live happily after ever... I mean ever after.

nemo

(I really shouldn't have watched so many Popeye cartoons when I was a kid.)

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-4

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 06 Jun 2018 08:00:00 +0000

More of What Men Really Want

I am sorry for not including everything men want in my last post. but let's face it, men are greedy when it comes to sex! So there are a lot of things men want. Not to mention that each man is different and you should do your best to figure out what some of those things are. Also, his desires will, more than likely, change over time. What he finds humiliating today, may not be enough for him tomorrow.

I will probably receive a lot of grief for this one, but one of the things men really want from male chastity is humiliation. Come on now... The fact that he wanted to have his jewels locked up so that only one person would have control of when and how he ejaculates is pretty humiliating. So, don't even try to deny it guys.

If you talk with your chaste hubby, it should be easy to find a few things that he wouldn't mind doing, even though they are a bit humiliating. Would he rather be punished by having to hold a penny against the wall, or be paddled? By-the-way, either one of those is humiliating. Make him insert a butt-plug before you take him shopping. Chances are, he will feel humiliated even though no one else knows he is wearing it.

Of course, not all things will be that easy to discover. The best way to find out is to assign him a task or chore and watch his reaction. If he flatly refuses to do it, don't get angry or throw it in his face that this was all his idea. Instead, ask him why he doesn't want to do it. Let him explain himself and then you can move on to something else.

It is a good idea to work up a contract, but if you are in a trial period for say, a week or two, or even a month, it would be best to make a note of the things he refuses to do. That way, you can put those limitations into your first contract. You will have limitations also, but you won't need to put them into a contract. After all, YOU are the Keyholder and, therefore, YOU make the rules. But just because you can make the rules, you should refrain from making rules that might make your partner hate chastity. Let's be honest here, it's better to make a few concessions than to ruin the whole thing by being stubborn. There will be time for that later.

Learning what your guy wants is an on-going process. Not just because it changes a lot, but because there may be things you never thought of. Again, pay attention to the stories he reads. Have him tell you about them, or simply read them yourself. You can get a great many ideas from the stories he reads. You also want to talk about them while you are teasing him. Use the stories as insights into what he likes. Tease him by telling him that you want to do something he read in one of those stories. If he likes the idea, he will probably not admit it, but if hates the idea he will let you know!

Until next time,

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-3

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 30 May 2018 08:00:00 +0000

What does he REALLY want?

Okay, we have established there are things your chastity boy wants, and why he can't tell you what they are, there are some things common to every guy wearing a chastity cage. First of all, he wants more sex! It may be because he feels you are not doing enough for him. Or he may think that he will get teased constantly. Either way, he wants more!

What your chastity boy wants is more sex, more teasing, more denial, and longer periods of being locked up. I know that sounds stupid, but we are men, and... Well, sometimes we just don't make sense.

When your guy asked, begged maybe, you to lock his cock in chastity, he wanted several things. 1) more frequent sexual contact, 2) less frequent orgasms, 3) to have one thing in his life out of his control. While it's true that many men (usually wealthier than me) would use a professional Domme. Even though she would not ever have sex with him, she took control of a small portion of his life. For a few minutes, he was allowed to let go, to NOT be charge of things. That may be all he is looking for.

Now I have read on several blogs that you (the Mistress) should lock him up and then, because you can, you take total control of him and his cock. Fine. Do that. It won't make your marriage any better. First of all, if you are like most women, you actually enjoy having intercourse with a live man. That is to say, sometimes a plastic vibrating dildo is just not going to do it for you. So you let your hubby out of his cage and have some fun. There is nothing wrong with that, though there are websites that will tell you differently.

Your chastity boy may want to go for longer and longer periods of denial, but that doesn't mean you have to. Here is a tip that will satisfy you both. Go out and purchase a bottle of “Aspercream.” Pay no attention to the fact that is for tired, aching muscles. If you massage his cock with some of this, rub it in really good, wipe any excess off with a dry towel, You can now have intercourse for as long as you would like. Aspercream happens to be 4% Lidocaine! Yes, you read that right... 4%! It will numb his member for about thirty to forty-five minutes. Long enough for you get all the satisfaction you want, without giving him any.

But how is he going to keep it hard if he can't feel it? Trust me, watching you and listening to you as you bounce up and down (or whatever you do) will be enough stimulation to keep him hard. What? He never got hard watching a porn video? Well, he won't be just watching this one. Take my word for it, he will stay hard as long as you talk to him. But that's my next post...

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Male Chastity Pt-2

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 23 May 2018 08:00:00 +0000

Why men can't tell you what they really want...

Have you ever wanted something, like a bouquet of flowers, a present, or even a surprise night out? How do you go about telling someone that you want them to surprise you and, yet, it still be a surprise? Think about it for a moment. If you tell your hubby that you want him to surprise you with a bouquet of flowers and the very next night, low and behold, he brings home a beautiful bouquet. Be honest. Was it really the surprise you hoped it would be? Or was it more a let-down because you just told him what you wanted. The surprise was gone, wasn't it? And the fun right along with it.

Well, there are things your partner would love for you to do, but... (And here's the rub) he cannot tell you what they are. If he does, it would simply not be as much fun or exciting when you do it. It's kind of a conundrum. If he doesn't tell, you may never think of it on your own, or you might think he wouldn't enjoy that sort of thing, so you won't want to push him into it without asking first. But then, asking ruins it too.

So how can he tell you what he wants you to do to him, if he can't come right out and say it? There is only one sure way I know of. Fantasies! You, as his Mistress (or whatever you call yourself), must pay close attention to the fantasies he tells you. Or, if it is you telling the fantasy, pay attention to the things he says he finds erotic. It's really that simple.

But the main thing to remember is that you are the one who needs to pay attention when he tells you a fantasy and when you tell him one. Okay, maybe you are not big on telling fantasies, but you can certainly find a story or two for him to read, can't you? That's all it takes. Understanding what your subby-hubby enjoys is up to you. He can't tell you.

My recommendation? Have him read a lot of stories and tell you what he likes best in them. Then you can surprise him sometime by doing one or more of those things.

nemo

For more in-depth information, consider one of theses books:

The KeyHolder's Guide

The Ultimate Guide to Tease & Denial

Realistic Male Chastity

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Wed, 16 May 2018 08:00:00 +0000

I have recently read a great deal about male chastity on other blogs. I wanted to see what was being touted as “The” way to do it. Mistress Ivey started this blog because she was tired of the way sexual “Mistresses” were portrayed on the Internet. She believed that there were many more women (perhaps couples) who would open up their fantasies and desires, if they were exposed to another way of doing things. It was she who brought the Female Lead Relationship out in to the open and made it acceptable to the average woman.

Now, I am looking at male chastity and finding very little honest and unbiased accounts of what it truly is and can be. Just because a man has the desire to serve a woman, and to allow her to take control of his life, including his orgasms, does NOT mean that he wants permanent chastity, or a wife who will treat him like dirt and never think about his pleasure. On the contrary.

Male chastity can be the exciting new lifestyle many couples have been looking for. BUT... It can be done in a moderate fashion. It does not have to include many of the things I have read about on other blogs. Things like cuckoldry, permanent chastity, cruel whipping, or any of a number of other things.

So, it occurred to me that I have a venue to set the record straight. I will en-devour to teach you how REAL couples do it. How they live very happy, healthy lives together using male chastity as a way of injecting a little excitement into their, otherwise, stagnate sex lives.

So watch this space in the future for some truly good, honest, advice about Male chastity and how to use it to spark your own sex life up.

nemo

Coming Soon!

noreply@blogger.com (nemo) — Sun, 13 May 2018 14:12:00 +0000

Coming Soon!

I am planning a series covering the fallacies you find on the Internet concerning Male Chastity that will set the record straight. The truth about what makes a couple successful, and what makes relationships fail. Don't miss it!

nemo