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Being Mrs. Mom™ http://beingmrsmom.com Woman, Wife, Mother Mon, 05 Mar 2018 12:02:52 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://beingmrsmom.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/cropped-BMM-Image-9-32x32.png Being Mrs. Mom™ http://beingmrsmom.com 32 32 44161793 Sharing Scripture: Proverbs 16:9 http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/03/sharing-scripture-proverbs-169/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/03/sharing-scripture-proverbs-169/#respond Mon, 05 Mar 2018 12:02:52 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/03/sharing-scripture-proverbs-169/ This weeks scriptural focus comes from Proverbs 16:9 A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps. Each week the scriptural focus and devotion are sent to my subscribers via email. If you are already a subscriber, this week’s devotional has been sent to your email. If you are not already a […]

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This weeks scriptural focus comes from Proverbs 16:9

A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.

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Sharing Scripture: Isaiah 26:3 http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/sharing-scripture-isaiah-263/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/sharing-scripture-isaiah-263/#respond Mon, 26 Feb 2018 04:08:41 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=739815 This week’s scriptural focus comes from Isaiah 26:3 You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You. If you are already a subscriber, this week’s devotional has been sent to your email.   If you are not already a subscriber and would like to receive the weekly devotional that accompanies this scripture, […]

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This week’s scriptural focus comes from Isaiah 26:3

You will keep him in perfect peace,
Whose mind is stayed on You,
Because he trusts in You.

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Will You Answer the Call and Fulfill Your Purpose?! http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/motherlycalling/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/motherlycalling/#respond Wed, 21 Feb 2018 14:09:35 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=739767 When I first became a mother, I had no idea what it was going to be like.  I couldn’t imagine the amount of responsibility that I was going to feel for the lives of my children.  I went to a class for a few months that taught me a few things that I needed to […]

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When I first became a mother, I had no idea what it was going to be like.  I couldn’t imagine the amount of responsibility that I was going to feel for the lives of my children.  I went to a class for a few months that taught me a few things that I needed to know about taking care of my newborn baby.  I then acquired the “What to expect when you’re expecting book.”  However, that book stopped once the baby became one years old.  There have been other books and resources come out since then, but the truth is that many of us are still learning what is required of us when we answer the call of being a mother.  Yet, as you find out, will you answer the call and fulfill your purpose?

Yes!  It is a call.  

It’s not just flower peddles and roses.  It’s a calling.  If you are a mother, you were purposed to birth and raise your children.  (If you are not a mother, please keep reading because you may have a mothering spirit.)  Now that is the most general way to put it, but it encapsulates so much more.  It starts from day one of conception.  If I am to be real with you, it actually starts before our children are born, with taking care of ourselves.  I could go really deep into this, but let’s just briefly think about it for a moment.  

Your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health are all time stamped in your child, when they are conceived.  These are the things that will be a part of their reality, when they are born.  Once you find out that you are pregnant and begin to make the necessary changes, your child has a greater chance at living a healthy life.  Still, there is a lot that falls on our shoulders as mothers.  I don’t say this to remove fathers from the picture, but I am talking to you…the mom. 

From day one, we are feeding our children.  We are training them how to be emotionally fit.  As we listen to music and experience life, our children in the womb have those experiences.  None of this goes away once the children are born.  They are just no longer housed within our bodies.  Instead, we see them and have now gained the ability and responsibility of teaching them how to live, apart from our physical bodies.  We are still responsible for the feeding and nurturing of our children.  

No matter what the world wants to tell you about the relationship between a mother and her child, the truth is that mothering is one of your highest callings. 

I could sit here all day discussing some of the things that are required of us as mothers, and I can add to this at another time, but today I have one primary focus.  I want to sir you up in your innermost parts.  I want to call you to a place where you realize that you are needed inside of your household.  You may feel like you are called to do many other things, but they should never take you away from the call of being a woman of God, wife to your husband, and mother to your children.  You have a very high calling, sister.  

You and I cannot get distracted with the things of this world, that we are not able to recognize the ways in which God has assigned us to build up His kingdom.  Your children are apart of His kingdom.  Your calling is to man the post of your home.  You are supposed to cover your husband and children in prayer.  You are supposed to oversee what comes in and goes out of the home.  You are supposed to pay attention to what they are eating and taking in one a daily basis.  You are supposed to recognize the struggles that they have and go to war for them in prayer. If it’s required, you’re also supposed to go to war for them in the natural. 

When you feel like the burden is too heavy, you are supposed to wail for your children.  When you recognize that the future is too harsh for them, you are supposed to cry out to God, asking Him to fix it.  I know that you are probably saying that prayer doesn’t fix everything, but let me tell you God does and prayer is how we connect to Him. 

In His word, God makes it very clear.  He tells us that He wants to help us and gives us exactly what we should do.  

If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land. ~2 Corinthians 7:14

Children are dying everyday.  We hear about the shootings, killings, cancers, diseases, and so much more.  Beyond that, they are being exposed to things that enable a slow deaths and are robbed of the blessings that God desires for them to have. 

The truth is that when we take the blinders off, our world isn’t so beautiful.  I tell you to find the beauty in this life, but don’t turn a blind eye to what is wrong in it.  It is too easy to be entertained and forget that our world needs us.  You and I can’t just sit by and watch what is happening.  I’m not calling you to request gun control.  I’m not telling you to leave the country and feed the hungry.  No!  I’m telling you to stay home and fight on your knees.  Start where you are, with what you can do.  Give your children a change.  Start there, and from there do whatever else God calls you to do.  

Pray that you are forgiven of your sins and the sins of your mothers and fathers before you.  Seek the face of God and ask Him to make a way for your children.  

Look!  You and I are not SUPER-WOMEN!!! We are not, but through God we are mighty and powerful.  (Ephesians 6:10-18)

Do you want to change the world?  Fall on your face and pray.  

Do you want the massacres to stop?  Seek God and cry out for the children.

Turn off the television.  I’m not saying that you can never have fun, but while we are busy playing, the enemy is executing his plan for our children.  Yes! I said our children.  

What are we going to do when they look at us and ask us to explain why their world looks the way that it does?  When our grand parents are gone and are no longer able to be held responsible, the burden falls on us. What will you say?  How will you help and still be in their lives?  How will you answer God when He says that He gave you a work to do, but you never did it and children died.  

Even if you don’t have children, you have a calling.  

We have to do something!  It goes beyond what we can see and into the unseen.  It goes into what we eat and drink.  It goes into what we hear and speak.  It goes into our spiritual and relational lives.  It has to do with God.  

Woman, wake up from your slumber and do the work of the Lord!  Your responsibility is great and you must answer the call!

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Sharing Scripture: Psalm 32:8-9 http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/sharing-scripture-psalm-328-9/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/sharing-scripture-psalm-328-9/#respond Sun, 18 Feb 2018 21:43:37 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=739652 This week’s scriptural focus comes from Psalm 32:8-9 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye. Do not be like the horse or like the mule, Which have no understanding, Which must be harnessed with bit and bridle, Else they will not come […]

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This week’s scriptural focus comes from Psalm 32:8-9

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will guide you with My eye.
Do not be like the horse or like the mule,
Which have no understanding,
Which must be harnessed with bit and bridle,
Else they will not come near you.

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Should you consider seeking God for wisdom? http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/consider-seeking-god-wisdom/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2018/02/consider-seeking-god-wisdom/#respond Thu, 15 Feb 2018 16:00:06 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=739120 Have you ever felt overwhelmed in your decision making?  Perhaps you were at a place where life felt unbearable.  Have you ever experienced situations that threw you out of your comfort zone and left you wondering how you were supposed to handle life, live with joy, or even move forward?  If you know this feeling […]

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed in your decision making?  Perhaps you were at a place where life felt unbearable.  Have you ever experienced situations that threw you out of your comfort zone and left you wondering how you were supposed to handle life, live with joy, or even move forward?  If you know this feeling or have experienced it for only a short period of time, then you have also wondered how you could acquire the wisdom that you need to move forward in life.  You may not have contemplated these words exactly, but you have tried to determine the steps that were necessary to make good decisions in your life. You began, in some way, to seek wisdom. 

This may cause you to feel a bit distraught because everyone else seems to have it together, but the truth is that everyone is searching for wisdom.  They are searching in books, movies, people, social media, and in so many other places.  However, there is one place where we, as people should turn first.  We should turn to God.  Yet, many don’t because they believe that it is inconceivable to ask the Most High God for wisdom.  They wonder if He would even consider their request.  For this reason, they continue to utilize the wisdom of men.  

Should you consider seekingGod for wisdom?

The wisdom that comes from men, that is mankind, is sensual and wicked.  It derives from the flesh and stirs up strife.  If you want to know how to destroy your life and relationships, just seek the wisdom of ungodly people, who have no desire to seek God or encourage you to do so, either.  

That being said, if you desire to be successful in life and to have some sense of fulfillment, you must turn to the Lord.  When you do, He will give you wisdom and send people your way that are full of godly wisdom, as well.  

Let’s pause for a Biblical account

I know I’m doing a lot of talking on this topic, but let’s visit the Bible for a moment to get clarity on the subject. 

Have you ever heard of Solomon?  He was the son of King David.  Prior to his birth, his mother and father had a child that died, due to the sins of his father.  As a result, his father promised his mother that he, Solomon, would be the successor of his thrown.  However, there was a problem.  David had other sons that were older than Solomon.  They wanted to be king and had no knowledge of the promise that had been made to Solomon’s mother.  Just before King David’s death, while bed ridden, one of his son’s took it upon himself to establish his kingdom, and in his father’s name.  Solomon became aware of this fact, but he remained patient because he loved the Lord and kept the statutes of his father, a wise man. (1 Kings 3:3).  

In 1 Kings 1-3, we see the situation unfold, where God sent the elders to work out the situation for Solomon.  As he waited on God to establish his place on the thrown and his father to fulfill his promise to his mother, and essentially to him, he simply trusted God.  When the kingdom of Solomon was established, he was a young man.  He had to be younger than 30 and some believe that he could have even been 12 years old.  Can you imagine what it would be like to rule over a kingdom as a young person?  I don’t think that overwhelming explains how he may have felt at times.  Yet, this is how he handled it.  

Now, O Lord my God, You have made Your servant king instead of my father David, but I am a little child; I do not know how to go out or come in. And Your servant is in the midst of Your people whom You have chosen, a great people, too numerous to be numbered or counted. Therefore give to Your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people, that I may discern between good and evil. For who is able to judge this great people of Yours?”

10 The speech pleased the Lord, that Solomon had asked this thing.  ~1 Kings 3:7-10 

One translation says that he asked God for an “understanding mind to govern.”  This type of request takes great humility, but it also takes great faith in God.  Solomon clearly felt that he was incapable of fulfilling the call of king on his own, thus he did what he knew his father, a wise man of God, would have done.  He asked of God. 

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.  ~James 1:5

God is pleased when we go to Him with our requests.  He is a loving Father waiting to give to His children.  He wants us to lack nothing and this includes wisdom.  When Solomon asked God for wisdom, the Bible says that this pleased the Lord.  Not only was God pleased, but He also responded.  He confirmed to Solomon, that He would indeed give him the wisdom that he desired and so much more.  (1 Kings 3:10-14)

 And God gave Solomon wisdom and exceedingly great understanding, and largeness of heart like the sand on the seashore.  ~1 Kings 4:29

Now if God gave Solomon the wisdom that he requested, you have to know that He will also give it to you.  He doesn’t look at you or me and determine that He isn’t going to give us wisdom.  His word says that if we are lacking wisdom, we are supposed to turn to God and He will give it to us. 

What is required to be able to ask?

Sure!  I understand that you aren’t seeking God to rule over a people as queen.  You may be asking Him for wisdom in your marriage, finances, or as a mother.  Perhaps you desire to be wiser in life.  Please make sure not to minimize your request because you aren’t being crowned as a queen.  You don’t have to be in a specific earthly position to ask of God.  You just need to have the position of a humbled heart.  

A moment of clarity 

Today, I want you to take a moment to think about how you have struggled in your mind and decision making.  It is important that you and I take the time to realize that without God, we fail miserably.  People that don’t have godly wisdom may appear to be successful, but the truth is that they are miserable and striving to achieve pleasure that will sustain them for a mere moment.  This earthly wisdom leads them down a path of destruction.  You and I cannot be like the people of the world.   We are called out and set apart, so we have to do things differently.  We have to seek God for wisdom.  When we do, He is faithful to supply wisdom and godly resources that are full of His wisdom.  

If you feel lost and confused, turn to God.  If you are unsure and afraid, turn to God.  If you need wisdom and direction, turn to God.  He is faithful and will respond to your request because He loves you and wants you to succeed more that you do.   If you are still wondering if you should consider seeking God for wisdom, you know my answer.  Don’t hesitate!  Seek God for wisdom today.

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‘Tis the Season to Be Wise http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/12/tis-season-wise/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/12/tis-season-wise/#comments Tue, 05 Dec 2017 14:59:21 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=730760 It’s that time of year again.  We are celebrating the birth of Christ, the love of family, and making sure that our hearts are merry and bright.  Still, let’s not forget all of the other things that we are doing.  We are decorating, planning, and shopping.  However, in the midst of everything that we are […]

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It’s that time of year again.  We are celebrating the birth of Christ, the love of family, and making sure that our hearts are merry and bright.  Still, let’s not forget all of the other things that we are doing.  We are decorating, planning, and shopping.  However, in the midst of everything that we are doing, we need to realize this one thing. ‘Tis the season to be wise. 

Why Now?

You might be wondering why we are looking at wisdom during the holiday season.  

Well, if we are honest with ourselves, wisdom is the one thing that can be lacking at this time of year which will leave a lasting impact on the next year or so of your life.  

It can sometimes feel like the real reason for Christmas has been lost in all of the ads, purchases, sales, gadgets, trinkets, lists, and things to do.  We can easily forget about the birth of Jesus, being thankful for the gifts of God, and even having a festive occasion with loved ones.  

When walking out of the house and into any store, we are bombarded with the sales of things that we really don’t need.  When turning on the television, we are shown the latest gadgets and promised happiness. 

Now is the time for us to use wisdom.  

We have to be diligent to focus on what is important and lasting. 

I’m not saying that we can’t shop.  I’m not telling you not to go to the stores.  I’m just saying that now is the time for you to think before you leap.  

How can you use wisdom today? Do these 5 Things …

When considering the season, be excited about all that is happening.  There is no reason why you should be stressed about life, if you view it the right way.  Truthfully, you could go all out and spend as much money as you want, trying to make everyone happy.  You could put up all of the decorations and lights needed to feel like Christmas is coming, but at the end of the night, you have to make sure that you feel good about what you’ve done.

I want to encourage you to use wisdom today and everyday of this season by doing these five things.

  1. Encourage those that you meet and encounter to “Have a Merry Christmas.”  It is a small thing to smile at another person and ask how they are doing.  You’d be surprised how many people are having a horrible day, month, and even year.  Smiling at them might make a difference.  Asking how their day is going and waiting for an answer might help them feel like they matter. Saying “have a Merry Christmas” might give them hope.  This is the first part to using wisdom because it’s about you pouring into another person.  It gets you out of your own head and situation, so that you can see what life is like for other people.  Not everyone is happy that it’s December.  
  2. Make lists of things that you want to purchase for family and friends, prior to spending.  While there are sales going on, you have to remember that the advertiser is not aware of your budget.  Even if they were, I’m not 100% sure that it would matter.  The sales are going to be there and everything is going to look like the perfect opportunity to get a great deal.  However, it’s your job to make sure that you are staying focused on why you are in the store.  When you don’t have a list, you can exceed your budget and if you are not careful, that could impact your life next year.  Be careful with accumulating debt for Christmas.  Those bills will still need to be paid, so don’t spend beyond your means.
  3. Evaluate your spending before you get to the register.  This might seem a bit tedious, but it’s important that you look at what you have in your cart or hands prior to getting to the register.  You may not have realized all of the things that you put in it, while walking through the store.  You can keep a calculator with you and tally up your estimated bill, so that you can spend according to what you can afford.  Don’t worry about the people around you.  We should all take a moment to do this, so that we aren’t stressing later on about the money that has been spent on impulse.  You also want to make sure that things ring up at the price that they were listed on the shelves.  Many people are over charged by the stores because the system didn’t charge them the listed or sale price.  Don’t worry about how long it takes.  If the person behind you is in a hurry, he or she can go to another line.  If the cashier is in a hurry, that’s ok.  He or she isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, so make sure that you are being charged the correct price. 
  4. Be realistic in expectations from others for gift giving.  This might be confusing, so let me explain.  You might have told someone that you want something very expensive.  Perhaps you said that you didn’t want anything at all.  Yet in reality you are expecting the most expensive, high quality item that money could buy.  It is important that you don’t encourage excessive spending from loved ones.  You don’t want them to go into debt paying for items that they could not afford, just to make you happy.  Plus, that happiness will only be temporary.  If you know that you and your husband have a budget, don’t tell him that you want something that is out of the budget.  You know what you want to do for your children or other family members.  You know the bills that you have to pay.  As a woman of wisdom, you should find something within an acceptable price range to add to your lists of desired gifts.  Even if you don’t tell anyone what you want and receive items that were contrary to what you expected, make sure that you have a thankful heart.  They thought about you and gave you something that they thought you would like.  It’s nice to have expensive items, but expensive doesn’t always mean that it’s the best.  It just means that it costs a lot.  
  5. Let your communication be in a loving and uplifting manner.  Earlier I mentioned that you should pour into other people and you should.  However, you should also work on cultivating healthy relationships and conversations with other people in a loving and uplifting manner.  It is easy to get into an argument with someone during this time of year.  People are stressed about finances, relationships, health, and so much more.  They are even stressed because they feel like they should be happy and are not. Many people have lost a loved one, are experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts, feel lonely, and lost.  They may never tell us what they are experiencing, but we want the love of God to be shared in our lives, even more at this time of year.  In your relationships make a point to let people know that you care.  Your gift for them could just be a call or an email.  Try your hardest to make peace with all people and not to hold grudges within your heart.  Remember the “Reason” for the season and share the love of God with others and with yourself.  

 I hope that you found this encouraging.  I pray that God would help you see the multitude of ways that you can walk as a woman of wisdom during this season.  Be blessed. 

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7 Quotes the Inspire Healthy Marriages http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/7-quotes-inspire-healthy-marriages/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/7-quotes-inspire-healthy-marriages/#comments Tue, 28 Nov 2017 14:59:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=358866 As a married woman of today, I’m sure that you’ve noticed the trend that I have noticed.  More people are getting divorced, separated, and remaining single.  There are more people encouraging us to take care of ourselves than there are inspiring us to nurture our marriages and relationships with our husbands.  People want us to […]

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As a married woman of today, I’m sure that you’ve noticed the trend that I have noticed.  More people are getting divorced, separated, and remaining single.  There are more people encouraging us to take care of ourselves than there are inspiring us to nurture our marriages and relationships with our husbands.  People want us to be busy fulfilling our roles outside of the home, in ministry, and in the community, but often times the calling of wife goes without encouragement.  There are many reasons as to why this is so rampant, but today I want to encourage you with 7 quotes that inspire healthy marriages.  

Pulling Away to Scoot Closer

I’ve spent over 15 years with my husband and I know from experience that what I listen to, read, and pour into myself will affect my relationship with him.  If I am struggling within myself with issues, it takes a tole on my marriage.  If I am to busy cultivating other relationships and forget about my husband, our relationship will feel distant.  However, when I am balanced in my efforts and attentive to his needs, the needs of our marriage, and my call as a wife, our relationship blossoms.  

Let’s be honest.  Sometimes we get to busy to stop and think about what we could be doing to make our marriages better.  We get too busy parenting and doing other things.  When we go to bed at night, it is too easy to lie down next to our husbands, while on the phone, watching television, or even reading a book, all the while forgetting that there is someone next to us that we need to connect with.  We have to be attentive and conscious of this and force ourselves to turn off the devices, put away the book, remove any fear, and turn to that man to just spend sometime cuddling.  Who knows where that will lead, but quality time is what your marriage needs. 

Today, I want you to spend sometime reading and pondering over these quotes.  Make sure that you consider every detail of what is being said.  Prayerfully dissect the statements and figure out how you can apply them to your life and marriage.  

Love Your Husband

7 Quotes that Inspire Healthy Marriages

  1. “A great marriage is mostly about two people committing to each other and then employing principles such as love, acceptance, patience, forgiveness, sacrifice, and unselfishness, to enrich that committed relationship.  Marriage is more about work that divine luck, more about finding someone to love than about finding someone to meet your laundry list of personal needs.”  ~Mark Gungor from Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage
  2. ” I can honestly say that I have become a better wife -and a better Christian- when I became a better helper.  Realizing I am on assignment from God to help my husband opened my eyes.  According to God’s plan I was not to compete with Jim.  Instead, I am to be solidly behind him and supportive of him.  He is the one who is supposed to win, and I am supposed to help make his victory possible.”  ~Elizabeth George from A Woman After God’s Own Heart
  3. “What your husband wants is your acknowledgement that he is the leader, the one in authority.  This is not to grind you under or treat you as inferior.  It is only to say that because God has made your husband responsible (review Ephesians 5:25-33), he needs the authority to carry out that responsibility.  No smoothly running organization can have two heads.  To set up a marriage with two equal at the head is to set it up for failure.  That is one of the big reasons that people are divorcing right and left today.  In essence, the marriages do not have anyone who is in charge.  God knew someone had to be in charge, and that is why Scripture clearly teaches that in order for things to work, the wife is called upon to defer to her husband.  Wives often tell me that if they submit to their husbands, it means burying their brains and becoming a doormat.  If you want to work with your husband to reach mutually satisfying decisions most of the time, follow this principle:  GO ON RECORD WITH YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU SEE HIM AS HAVING 51 PERCENT OF THE RESPONSIBILITY AND THEREFORE, 51 PERCENT OF THE AUTHORITY.  Tell Him that you see him as having more authority because he has more responsibility before God -the responsibility to die for you, if necessary.  My prediction is that the nature of your arguments and disagreements will change dramatically.  Once you go on record about his authority, he will not feel you are trying to be the boss.  As you submit (which simply means recognizing his biblically given authority), you will not be a doormat.     ~Dr. Emerson Eggeriches from Love & Respect
  4. “You don’t have to agree with your partner to be a good listener.”  ~Markman, Stainley, and Blumberg from Fight for Your Marriage
  5. “See, marriages have issues because there are two people involved, growing together.  If there were never issues, someone should be concerned because that would mean that stagnation is present.  Marriage makes you better and it makes him better too.  Just look at the issues, chew up the meat and spit out the bones because some of it is just hogwash.”  ~Makeda Rodriguez from Being Mrs. Mom: A Christian Woman Wife and Mother Living in the 21st Century
  6. “People who stay married live four years longer than people who don’t”  ~John M Gottman, PH. D., from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
  7. “Taking Time to listen means putting aside your plans and concentrating on what the other person has to say.  Don’t get defensive if he or she wants to point out a short coming.  If you do the other person will stop being honest and communication is lost.”  ~Phil & Susy Downer from Optimize Your Marriage

These are just a few quotes from the books that I have in my personal library.  I would encourage you to purchase and read them.  Also pray over these quotes and ask God to help you understand the message at their core.  Seek to grow as a woman, so that you can be a better wife.  

My prayer for you is that God would give both you and your husband godly influences that would inspire you to cultivate a long and healthy marriage.  

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Thanksgiving Morning Breakfast Quiche http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/thanksgiving-breakfast-quiche/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/thanksgiving-breakfast-quiche/#respond Tue, 21 Nov 2017 13:03:26 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=726403 Every year, on Thanksgiving, families and friends await the special treats and favorite dishes that will meet them at the table of their Thanksgiving feasts. As we prepare our hearts to celebrate one another and express our gratitude to God for our blessings, many of us are also busy in the kitchen, prepping the meal […]

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Every year, on Thanksgiving, families and friends await the special treats and favorite dishes that will meet them at the table of their Thanksgiving feasts.

As we prepare our hearts to celebrate one another and express our gratitude to God for our blessings, many of us are also busy in the kitchen, prepping the meal that our loved ones love the most.

If you are like me, though, you recognize a trend from the past. My family gets so excited about the evening or noontime meal that they wake up extremely early. They glare at me for about 20 minutes before they ask, “so what’s for breakfast?”

I look around, only to find that there is no room to place another meal, nor time to prepare one.

Have you ever found yourself in this place?

Well, I have a solution that is quick and easy.

Thanksgiving Morning Breakfast Quiche

Combined and Ready for the Oven

Traditionally, I cook the quiche all at one time.  If you are looking for a way to multitask as you prepare for Thanksgiving, you can prep many of the items, for this dish, the night before.  Just mix it together and pop it in the oven when you get up to start prepping for Thanksgiving Dinner.

Cooked and Ready to Eat
Cooked and Ready to Eat. Crunchy, the way that my family likes it

Your family will love it and you’ll find relief because you have saved time and fed your family, with ease.

You can also watch the video for more information.

Breakfast Quiche with Turkey Bacon

Ingredients Used for Breakfast Quiche This is one of my family’s favorite recipes.  It is the Breakfast Quiche with turkey bacon.  I often make it with green peppers, mushrooms, and onions.  However my children don’t like the extra veggies, so I occasionally add them to half of the dish, for my those of us who like it.  A full list […]

  • Prep Time: 15m
  • Cook Time: 1h
  • Total Time: 1h 15m
  • Serves: 6
  • Yield: 6 Slices in a Round Dish and 12 Portions in a Rectangular Baking Dish
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Ingredients

Suggested Ingredients

  • 6 Eggs
  • 2 tablespoons Butter
  • 1 package Shredded Hashrounds
  • 2 cups Shredded Cheese (Sargento Cheese was used in the recipe and I recommend it)
  • 1/2 cup Milk
  • 1 Pam Spray
  • 1 package Turkey Bacon
  • 1 dash Salt
  • 1 dash Pepper

Optional Ingredients

  • 1 cup Diced Vegetables (Green Peppers & Mushrooms) - Optional
  • 1 Onions, diced (optional)

Instructions

  1. Preheat oven at 350 degrees. Spray baking dish with Pam spray.
  2. Melt the Butter in a microwavable dish, inside of the microwave.
  3. On medium heat, place turkey bacon in a frying pan to cook, until desired crisp.
  4. Add package of hashrounds to the baking dish and spread evenly. Pour butter over the hash rounds and evenly distribute as evenly as possible. Place in the oven for 10 minutes while you prep the remaining items.
  5. Chop onions and additional vegetables, if they are to be included in the dish. Chop cooked turkey bacon, creating bacon bits. Set these items aside.
  6. In as medium bowl, mix 6 eggs with the 1/2 cup of milk, dash of salt and pepper
  7. Remove hash rounds from the oven and set on an oven mitt or other temperature holding device. Add the optional vegetable. I separated my dish in half because we have family members that don't like onions.
  8. Evenly Spread the Shredded cheese evenly to the top of the hash round/veggie layer in the baking dish. Pour in the milk and egg mixture, distributing it evenly across the dish.
  9. Cover with aluminum foil and bake for 45 minutes to 1 hour. Checking the middle of the quiche with a butter knife or tooth pick to make sure that it comes out dry. Towards the end of the baking process, you can remove the aluminum foil and continue baking, to get a little crunch on top of the quiche.
  10. Allow to cool. Cut into sections and enjoy.

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And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”

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1 Peter 4:8

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”

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This week on the Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are reading Proverbs chapter 1.  We are going to be learning what God says about obtaining wisdom and hearing from him.  We will also be looking at the purpose of Proverbs and understanding what God shows us about parenting.  

Are you willing to obtain wisdom from the Lord?  

Watch the video below and don’t forget to subscribe to my Youtube channel.  If you didn’t get to watch the second video in the series, take a moment to watch it

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10 Keys to Making Your Marriage Last http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/10-keys-making-marriage-last/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/11/10-keys-making-marriage-last/#respond Tue, 14 Nov 2017 15:00:28 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=724830 Have you ever wondered how to make your marriage last?  I’m sure that if you have been married for any more than a day, you have asked yourself if there are things that you can do to make your marriage successful.  You could figure this out by yourself.  However, I would recommend that you learn […]

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Have you ever wondered how to make your marriage last?  I’m sure that if you have been married for any more than a day, you have asked yourself if there are things that you can do to make your marriage successful.  You could figure this out by yourself.  However, I would recommend that you learn from others that have established long-lasting marriages themselves.  My husband and I have been married for over 15 years and, although we are not experts on every marriage, we have learned quite a few things that make us experts in our marriage.   I’d say that we are strong bond marriage practitioners.  The keys that we have learned and shared with other couples, have help them grow in their marriages, over the years.  Today, I’d like to share 10 keys to making your marriage last.

Why you shouldn’t just figure it out on your own

I’m sure that I’ve shared this with you before, but when I was a young adult, I had this idea that I wanted to learn from my own mistakes and not from other people.  I was convinced that learning from other people would somehow mess up the understanding that I had for my own life.  I want to be honest with you, that was not wise thinking.  It is best to learn from the mistakes of others, that it is to learn from personal pain, struggles, and trauma.  However, I had to learn this the hard way.

If I were wiser in the early years of my marriage, I would have sought wise counsel regarding the role of a married Christian woman.  When I say this, you may think that I mean, I would have talked to women that I knew, so that I could do life better.  However, that is not what I mean.  Looking back on my early years of marriage, I would have prayed more, studied the word of God more, and sought the counsel of wise women who had been in and still remained in lasting godly marriages.  I would have watched the more and asked more questions of these women.  Instead, I spent at least three years of my marriage trying to figure it out on my own.  Those three years were really hard for me because I was stuck in my own way. I wanted to learn from my own mistakes.  

I was constantly saying things like, “that may have worked for you, but I don’t think it will work for me.”  I didn’t know that there are specific keys to making marriage last that are applicable to every marriage.  I had to learn this the hard way, through my mistakes and trial and error. 

You don’t want to make this same mistake.  Trust me.  It took a lot of praying, crying, and painful lessons to get these principles into my mind and heart.  You don’t want to sit up late at night feeling rejected because you weren’t willing to seek God and wise godly counsel about your situation.  You don’t want to experience heart ache and pain because you have chosen to learn the hard way, through your own mistakes.  You don’t want to reject wisdom. 

What does the Bible say about seeking wise counsel?

You may think that seeking counsel will mean that all of the intimate intricacies of your relationship will be exposed to another person and uncover your relationship.  However, you need to understand that you must have someone to talk to.  You must have someone who is willing to hold what you tell them in confidence, pray for you, and offer you wise counsel.  This person must also be willing to hold you accountable for your part in your marriage.  She has to exhibit fruit in her own marriage that tell you she is a godly woman of wisdom that can teach you how to love and respect your husband.  She must be able and willing to help you be self-controlled, pure, a homemaker, kind, and submissive to your own husband.  (Titus 2:4-5)

If you still aren’t convinced that you should seek counsel from other trustworthy, godly women, take a look at what the bible says. 

Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel,”

Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise.”

Proverbs 19:20 “Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days.”

Proverbs 20:18 “Plans are established by counsel; by wise counsel wage war.”

Proverbs 24:6 “For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, and a multitude of counselors there is safety.”

I pray that you take into consideration what the Word of God is saying about the value of godly wisdom.  It is a necessity to a successful life and marriage.  

10 Keys to Making Marriage Last

Now that you have an understanding of what the Bible says about wise godly counsel and the risk that you take in learning from your own mistakes, I hope that you are ready to receive these keys that my husband and I have learned over the years.  We have to continually apply these keys because being married doesn’t make being married easier.  

Life adds pressure and stretches us as people.  If we want to remain married, we have to pray and work harder to remain married.  I say this because I don’t want you to think that once you start applying these keys, that you will be able to sleep on the enemy of our souls and marriages.  Satan will continually try to ambush your marriage, but you have to be wise and prayerful.  You have to continually invite God into your marriage, bedroom, and your heart.  Take authority over what is not like God, rebuking it from your relationship, and use the keys that He gives you for success in your marriage.  

A lot goes in to making marriage last.  Start with these 10 keys and watch your marriage begin to transform.  You may not like all of these keys, but they are affective and will help your marriage last, if you are prayerful in applying them.  

1) Remember that you husband loves you

2) Decided that you don’t always have to be right

3) Spend time, just being there, with your husband

4) Commit to being silent sometimes

5) Never go to bed angry and always say goodnight 

6) Commit to frequent occasions of intimacy with your husband

7) Don’t forget to laugh

8) Say thank you and express your gratitude in different ways 

9) Determine in your mind that you can take constructive criticism from your husband 

10) Challenge him and require him to challenge you. 

Bonuses: 11) Commit to remain married and never stop praying

I pray that you found these helpful and will prayerfully apply these 10 keys to making your marriage last to your marriage.  If you have any questions or comments, I’m just a message away, so don’t hesitate to reach out.  

 

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As married women, we have our opinions of marriage.  We’ve seen movies, read stories, and talked to people that all influence our thoughts and opinions of marriage.  We all want to be successful in our marriage, but it’s important that we take time to get in the word of God on marriage.  For that reason, we are going to take the time to look at some scriptures on marriage. 

Please know that I will not be going through all of the Scriptures on marriage, but we will be looking at quite a bit of them.  

My Hope for You

It is my hope that you will find encouragement for your marriage journey, by knowing that marriage is good; you will come to understand the obligation of marriage, and find clarity in what God expects from you as a godly wife.  

Why Get in the Word of God on Marriage

As you may know, I’ve been married for over 15 years now.  When my husband and I first got married, I had no idea what marriage was supposed to look like, let alone, what it meant to be in a godly marriage, as a godly woman and wife.  I had a very worldly mindset about our relationship.

I was a believer in both marriage and divorce.  I was confused.  I was afraid of being cheated on, beaten, abused, stepped on and walked over, as a doormat.  My fear of being hurt and rejected left little room for love, trust, and approval.  Still, I desperately wanted my marriage to work.  

It wasn’t until I committed to learning what God had to say on the matter and allowing that to change my mind, that my marriage was transformed.  

An invitation to renew your mind and transform your marriage

I invite you to take the same stance, as we head through these Scriptures on marriage.

Commit to learning or refreshing your memory, on what God has to say about the matter.  Also determine within yourself that you will allow the word of God to change your mind, if your mindset is contrary to the word of God.  

Finally, determine that you will do what the word of God says.

James 1:22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.  

What does the Word of God Say?

Marriage is a good thing

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:12 Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

1 Timothy 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

In the Bible, marriage is seen as a good thing.  It is honorable.  It is a sign of favor from the Lord and an honor of leadership to men. The marriage bed is a place of pleasure and a blessing from the Lord.  It was also encouraged for young women to get married.  

The solemn obligation of marriage

The Bible tells us about the solemn obligation of marriage.   According to Macmillan Dictionary  in legal matters, this phrase is used “about things such as promises that express serious intentions.”  An example of this is “Congress has a solemn obligation to vote on any commitment of US troops.”(Macmillan Dictionary) 

When we look at the solemn obligation of marriage, we must understand what the word of God is saying about the legality of the promises made in marriage and what it hold us bound to do.  In short, the bible tells us the above all there is one thing that we are supposed to do in marriage, remain as one.  There are other things, but this is one of the top priorities.  

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Mark 10:9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Let’s look at at a Biblical situation that is similar to what is mentioned in a few of the scriptures above.  

When the giant, Goliath, was terrorizing the Hebrews and no man would go up against him, Saul declared that whoever defeated him would marry his daughter, Merab.  After killing Goliath, Merab was offered to David, but he felt unworthy of becoming the king’s son-in-law.  However, Saul’s other daughter Michal, loved David.  Saul thought that she would bring David trouble, so he had David convinced to marry her.   Later, Saul sent men to kill David, but Michal helped him escape through a window.  In 1 Samuel 25:44, Michal was taken from David and given to a man named Palatial.  However, after Saul’s death, David demanded to have his wife back.  It was the only way that he would agree to be the king of Judah. (2 Samuel 3:13-16)  In verse 16, her current husband had to return her and “went alone with her to Bahurim, weeping behind her.”  After he returned her, he was sent back on his way.  

Regardless of what you think of marriage or what your opinion is, it is important that you subject your thoughts to the word of God.  By reading these scriptures, we see that God expects us to honor our promise to remain one in marriage.  We are not expected to divorce or separate. 

Duty of Godly Wives

While there are many different elements that make up the duties of godly wives, below are the ones that directly stand out regarding the woman’s role in her home and marriage. (We can examine others at another time.)

Esther 1:20 And when the king’s decree which he shall make shall be published throughout all his empire, (for it is great,) all the wives shall give to their husbands honour, both to great and small.

Proverbs 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

1 Corinthians 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

Ephesians 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

1 Timothy 3:11 Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

In these scriptures we see that God desires that a woman honors her husband, regardless of his stature.  She is to take care of her household and not to be lazy and idle.  She should not leave her husband.  She is expected submit to him, as she would the Lord.  She is to have characteristics that are reverent and honorable, so that if a man (her husband) needs to be turned to God, his wife would be the one to do it, respectfully and humbly. 

I don’t know if you can see it, but we as wives are to be intercessors for our husbands and respectful in character, so that we are vessels of honor before the Lord.   Please don’t take any of this to mean that we are to be treated wrong or disrespected.  God has answers for all of our troubles, but we have to start somewhere.  

We cannot read the whole Bible at one time.  

For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little: ~Isaiah 28:10

We must take in the information little by little.  

Overall

There are many things that can be and are said about marriage.  Most of the time, we hear what the world has to say.  It is all fluff and feeling.  What I have learned over the years is that marriage isn’t always about how you feel.  Love is an action word.  When my husband and I took action and got married, we vowed before God that we would remain together and be there for one another until we died.  

Some people may not wholeheartedly believe these vows to be true because of the culture, but if they are like I was, a lover of God, then their minds must change.  I had to change my mind, commitment level, and own up to my responsibility.  No, I cannot change my husband.  It took a long time to learn that, but God has a plan for my husband and I’m apart of it.  He is also a part of my becoming. 

Today we are better because we have remained together and God is with us. This is where the transformation takes place.  It starts in the mind and heart of an individual and then seeps into the marriage because you are in it.  If you allow the word and God to change you, your marriage will transform, as well.  

My husband said something to another family member that blew me away.  I had felt it, but wasn’t able to articulate it.  Once he said it, I knew that it was true and what I had been thinking all along.  He said that “we are family and we have a responsibility to one another.” 

This is the sum of it all.  Marriage can be many things, but one that it definitely is, needs to be recognized.  It is a blessed responsibility to be and become, never be alone, and discover God’s will and love you and your husband.  

I challenge you to read over these scriptures, ask God to help you accept His will, His word, and, if necessary, your husband.  

If you would like to be added to my prayer list for marriage, please send me an email or submit a comment below.  You can email me at makeda@beingmrsmom.com 

I hope and pray that you found these scriptures beneficial and that your marriage would be blessed, in the Lord.  

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Being Strong When You Feel Weak http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/strong-feel-weak/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/strong-feel-weak/#respond Tue, 31 Oct 2017 12:00:24 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=724791 The other day, I went to my son’s practice and watched as his coach taught them. After doing a few sprints around the gym, his coach told the kids that he needed them to say a special prayer for his friend, when they said their prayers at night. With tears in his eyes, he told […]

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The other day, I went to my son’s practice and watched as his coach taught them. After doing a few sprints around the gym, his coach told the kids that he needed them to say a special prayer for his friend, when they said their prayers at night. With tears in his eyes, he told them that his friend had been injured and although she was alive and conscious, all of her bones were broken. I watched this man as he led the children and then I saw it. He turned around for a moment, to gather himself, and shed a few tears. I could see that this thing was breaking his heart and he really wanted God to heal his friend, but in the middle of he is weakness he had to be strong.

This Spoke to Me

After he said these things, I sat and thought about everything. I realized that there are times in our lives that we have to be strong, even though we feel weak. We have to pull ourselves together and push past how we feel, but sometimes this can take a lot out of us. We crumble underneath the pressure of the day and life can feel like a burden to carry. If we are not careful, we could allow it to weigh us down and anxiety or depression will try to seep in.


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In our own human frailty, we try to handle our situations alone and carry the burden. For some reason, we have all convinced ourselves that we have to try to do it for others and we must do it for ourselves.  God did call us to be strong and courageous, in ourselves, He called us to be strong in Him.  He also gave us communities of believers to help us be strong in faith.

Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of His might. Ephesians 6:10

Yes, He wants us to be courageous, not because of who we are, but because of who He is. He gives us the armor of God and enables us to fight battles that aren’t humanly possible. Ephesians 6:10-20 He tells us that it is because of who we are in Him, that we are capable of standing against the wiles of the enemy.

Being Strong God’s Way

He calls us to shine our lights out into the darkness, so that all men can see our works and declare His glory. (Matthew 5:16)  What an honor it is to be a vessel of the living God. As vessels, we have to be willing to surrender to the Lord when we are too weak to handle the situations that life has brought us. In the surrender and weakness, we will find God strengthening, equipping, and leading us in how to be strong, the godly way. (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Although we may not always know how to handle life’s situations, we must remember that God is with us and if He is for us than no one can be against us. You and I don’t have to be a super hero. We don’t have to live life alone either.  We simply have to follow God and trust Him with our lives. There may be moments when we are overwhelmed and cry out to Him for help, ask others for prayers, or need someone to encourage us, but sometimes those are the moments when God shows Himself faithful the most.

 

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Are You a S.T.R.O.N.G Woman? http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/are-you-a-s-t-r-o-ng-woman/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/are-you-a-s-t-r-o-ng-woman/#respond Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:23:01 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=724305 I was online when I saw this picture. I get the main point, but sometimes we forget to ask God what’s His point. Do you consider yourself a S.T.R.O.N.G woman?  You might be saying, “yes! I’m strong!” You could be saying, “I’m just not strong enough.”  Let’s look at this from the perspective of a […]

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I was online when I saw this picture. I get the main point, but sometimes we forget to ask God what’s His point. Do you consider yourself a S.T.R.O.N.G woman? 

You might be saying, “yes! I’m strong!” You could be saying, “I’m just not strong enough.” 

Let’s look at this from the perspective of a S.T.R.O.N.G woman. She is Sensible, Teachable, Reliable, Obedient, Nurturing, and Giving.  She relies on God for her strength and is gracious in her living. This woman is fearless because she trust in God, not because of who she is. 

When I saw the image of Wonder Woman, I really did wonder. So, I’m just going to ask. 

When does Wonder Woman have time to raise a strong woman? Will she also be building a healthy relationship with the child’s father, so that she can have a healthy family background that prepares her for life?

 Ok, I know, that was two questions.

We want to raise our daughter’s to be strong, but we have to know that we have to do it God’s way. If we don’t, our daughters will struggle with the things that we ignored and gave no attention to. They will struggle with our disobedience and rebellion.  They won’t have the power to overcome rejection, anxiety, or depression because we were too busy trying to save the world, instead of answering the call of God on our lives. 

 As a strong woman, are you answering the call to be present in your home and in your relationship with God or are your duties outside of your home requiring you to constantly step away from the call of Wife and Mom? 

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When you look around at the world that we live in, we see that there are a lot of things that you and I could be busy doing.  We want our homes, relationships, and careers to be full and satisfying, but there is something that I want to ask you.  Who is building your house?  

Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who builds it; Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.

Before you and I ever set foot on this earth, God had a plan for our lives.  He determined the year that we would be born and the year that our children would be born.  He decided who we would marry and the people we would be in relationship with.  He determined what our hands would be busy doing and the work that we would accomplish.  Still, He has given us the ability to walk in His will and purpose for Him, or not.

If you are like me, then you want for your home, relationships, and career to be blessed, but how did you answer the question above?  Who is building your house? 

Inviting God Into Your Life

You can want all of the things that you want, but God is the builder who has the plan of how your life should be established in order for it to work in a magnificent way.  Have you invited Him into every area of you life, or are there specific areas that He isn’t allowed to enter into? 

For some people the answer is yes, but for others, God is not welcome because control has not been given over to Him.  Which category do you fall in?

Is He welcome in your personal life?

Do you allow God to examine your thoughts and emotions?  Have you invited Him into the spaces of your mind that occupy you on a daily basis?  Do you share, with Him, your concerns and fears and allow Him to tell you how to overcome them?  Do you invite him into your choices? Before you take a drink, get a tattoo, purchase a car, or even watch a movie; do you allow Him to be in the process of your decisions?

Yes, He sees all that you do and think, but He is not going to over power you, so that you can be free.  He already sent Jesus to die on the cross for your mental and emotional freedom.  Have you accepted it?  Are you willing to turn away from the things that invite sickness, disease, and depression into your life?  Have you told your flesh “no” and the Lord “yes?” 

Has the Lord been invited into your marriage?

Did God get an invitation to your wedding?  After the wedding, was He allowed to stay and dwell there?  Or is your marriage a place where God is not welcome to interfere?  One way to tell this is if you find that you only talk to God about what your husband does, but you don’t listen to the Lord tell you what you have done and how to fix it.  Your ability to trust God in your marriage is a direct indicator of whether or not you have invited Him into it.  

If you want your marriage to work, it has to be built on a solid foundation and the Lord has to be the One that is giving out the orders. 

What about motherhood?  Have you given God permission to help you be a mother?

Frustration can set in, when a mother doesn’t have patience or is trying in her own strength to mother her children.  The reason why is that a mother is not the creator of her children.  Although she birthed them, she did not design them, so there are aspects of her children that she must learn to navigate and direct.  However, while you are learning to help and assist your children in life, have you sought God about what is best for them?

Have you told God that you want to be the type of mother that He designed you to be or are you just being the type of mother that you want to be?  You have to make a decision and it’s an important one.  You have to decide to be an instrument and vessel of God in the lives of your children.  They were given to you as a blessing, but you have to be willing to be a good stewart over what God has given you.  

Is it too much for you to ask God to give you patience and direction, so that you can be a mother that builds her children up and gives them wisdom?

Don’t forget about your career.

In the world, you and I are told that we can be whatever we want to be.  What we don’t normally hear is that we can and should be in the place and position that God has called us to.  We aren’t built up to be the type of women that God has designed us to be.  

Because of this lack of encouragement, it’s not hard to take the wheel of the career field and steer it in the direction of our liking.  Have you surrendered your dream to God, so that He could tell you which ones He cosigned on?  Have you stopped long enough to hear Him direct you?  Do you have too much noise playing in the background, so that you cannot hear Him?  You have to be intentional about not avoiding what is important.

Let the Lord build your house

God’s will and purpose for you is important.  You and I should want Him to be involved in our lives, in every way possible.  This cannot happen without an invitation.  

If you believe in Jesus, then you have already believed him for your salvation, but did you make him your Lord?  Are you giving him first place and rulership over every area of who you are and what you do?

You don’t want to be the person that is doing things without asking God to be with you.  You don’t want to find yourself in a place where you are struggling because you got into something that God did not call you to get into.  Now all things work together for our good, but you still have to go through, if you are disobedient.  

Allow the Lord to establish the framework for the buildings in your life, so that as you build, your labor will not be in vain.  

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Psalm 57:7 Bible Verse of the Day http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-577-bible-verse-of-the-day/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-577-bible-verse-of-the-day/#respond Thu, 19 Oct 2017 11:09:52 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-577-bible-verse-of-the-day/ Psalms 57:7 My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast; I will sing and give praise.

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Psalms 57:7

My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast;

I will sing and give praise.

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His Thinks of You http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/his-thinks-of-you/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/his-thinks-of-you/#respond Wed, 18 Oct 2017 14:11:59 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=722214 “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth” and You were on His mind.  When His Spirit hovered over the deep, He look to a place where you could place your feet,  A place for your to sleep,  But there was none, so He made it.  When He stared out into the abyss,  […]

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth” and You were on His mind. 

When His Spirit hovered over the deep, He look to a place where you could place your feet, 

A place for your to sleep, 

But there was none, so He made it. 

When He stared out into the abyss, 

the void, the darkness, 

He knew the harshness of how life would try to overwhelm you

So…He said “Let there be light” and there was light, so that the darkness would not overtake you

As the waters ran and flowed with no end in sight, 

God made it right 

Because He wanted you to have dry land. 

He wanted to remind you that He thinks of you more than the grains of sand, 

upon the earth

He wanted you to remember your worth

He gave the sun and the moon, the trees and the seas

And all have their boundaries 

Because He wanted you to rule and reign and your desires to be fulfilled by the fruit that came 

from the earth

So, why do you question your worth? 

In the beginning God and the Holy Spirit and Jesus our Christ, 

thought of you

Were concerned about your life

So they place everything in perfect order

It’s all for your daughter

And because He knew that evil would come, 

He sent His Son 

upon the earth

Begotten of Him, a virgin birth

Born to fulfill all of His promises to me and to you

Yes you!

He did this all for you because He loves you 

He delights in you

He thinks great thoughts of you

So just love Him and be the person that He created you to be

I can only be I and you cannot be me

Nor can I be you

But that’s because God doesn’t want us as an imitation

He chooses His people, calls us a royal priest hood, a holy nation

But you have to begin to see it

You have to make sure that you believe it

My prayer is that He would help you understand

That your name is written on the palm of His hand

He dances over you with singing

Yes! Your life is filled with meaning

So don’t give up

I know times get hard

But remember that you’re never alone

You have your God

And He thinks of you

 

I have created a quick video of this encouragement.  Listen to me read this poem and be encouraged.  You are loved.  If you enjoyed the video, subscribe to my Youtube channel, leave me a comment below, and give God glory for who He is.  

 

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Psalm 51:6 Bible Verse of the Day http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-516-bible-verse-of-the-day/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-516-bible-verse-of-the-day/#respond Wed, 18 Oct 2017 11:20:35 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/psalm-516-bible-verse-of-the-day/ Psalms 51:6  Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts,  and in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.

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Psalms 51:6 

Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts,  and in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.

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On Amazon’s Hot New Releases List: Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/amazons-hot-new-releases-list-mrs-mom-not-average-superwoman/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/amazons-hot-new-releases-list-mrs-mom-not-average-superwoman/#respond Tue, 17 Oct 2017 21:37:37 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=722164   Earlier today, I sat down to do some planning for Being Mrs. Mom.  I thought about all of the things that God is impressing on my heart to do for and with the women that are in my community and tribe.  After doing this, I had a conference call with two awesome leading entrepreneurs […]

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Earlier today, I sat down to do some planning for Being Mrs. Mom.  I thought about all of the things that God is impressing on my heart to do for and with the women that are in my community and tribe.  After doing this, I had a conference call with two awesome leading entrepreneurs and told them the things that God was placing on my heart.  They confirmed the needs of the women and encouraged me to continue to push forward.  After the call, I got a notification on Facebook from a friend.  She was searching Amazon’s Hot New Releases list and saw my book.  

 

If you scroll down, you find it.

Now this is amazing to find out, but it is also an amazing honor.  Let me tell you why.  

If you look closely, you will notice that my book is nestled between a book by Valorie Burton and another book by Elizabeth George.  These are two great authors.  Valorie Burton is very encouraging and inspiring.  Elizabeth George was one of the first authors that I read when praying about guidance as a woman and wife.  I am so honored to see my book sitting next to these two ladies.

I can’t tell you how excited I am about all that God is doing.  He wants to bless you beyond measure, as well, but we have to be willing to answer the call that He has placed on us.  This is what I’ve done with my books and my life.  I’ve seen him bless me beyond measure in my relationships, ministry, career, and life.  I want Him to do the same for you. 

Here’s to us hearing God’s call and answering it!

   

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Prayers for Strength: An Excerpt from Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/prayers-for-strength/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/prayers-for-strength/#respond Tue, 17 Oct 2017 14:29:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=649897 As you go throughout life, you will run into situations where you just won’t feel like you have enough strength to make it through.  You can try to muster up you own strength to push through, but the truth is that there is no better place to get you strength, than from God.  There are […]

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Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman Book CoverAs you go throughout life, you will run into situations where you just won’t feel like you have enough strength to make it through.  You can try to muster up you own strength to push through, but the truth is that there is no better place to get you strength, than from God.  There are scriptures you can read, affirmations that you can say, but more importantly you should talk to God and pray for strength.  Still, sometimes you might wonder what you should pray.  Enjoy this excerpt, below of Prayers for Strength, from my book Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman.

 

In this excerpt there are prayers that you can pray that focus on  different areas your life, relationships, and focus.  I encourage you to make time daily to pray these prayers.  They are based on scripture and I’m sure that they will bless you.  

 

Prayers for Strength

  1. Lord, You are the source of my strength. I will sing of Your praise daily.  When life get hard and I have to walk in faith, help me to remember that you are with me and have fully equipped me for every good work.
  2. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight Lord, for you are my Strength. Help me not to be anxious or to worry about anything.  Help me to cast my cares upon you daily and to seek first Your kingdom.  You told me that you would supply all of my needs, so I look to You as my Provider.  Help me to trust you when it is hard and I am tempted to fear.
  3. God, You are my strength and power, and You make my way blameless. When I am overwhelmed and feel like I can’t go on, remind me to put on the armor of God and to remove the cape, if I have attempted to put it on again. 
  4. You have girded me with strength for the battle, Lord. You have subdued under me those that have risen up against me.  When the enemy comes in to my life and situations, like a flood, You said that You would lift up a standard against him.  Help me to trust you and stand in prayer, as I await your salvation.  Thank you for fighting my battles.
  5. Lord, I trust you for my family and my personal protection. I will not be afraid of the terror by night, or the arrows by day.  I will not fear what could be done to me.  I will not seek to defend myself.  Help me to stand on Your word and to be reminded that You have placed Your hedge of protection around me and my family.  Help me to remember that You will keep us safe from all hurt harm and danger.  Thank you for not appointing me to wrath, but instead redeeming me and my family to yourself.
  6. Father, help me to love what You love and to hate what You hate. Let my joy be found in You and in Your strength.  Be to me as you were to the Israel, a Strong Tower and Defense.  Remind me daily of your loving-kindness and tender mercies. 
  7. You have commanded me to be strong and of good courage. Help me to not be afraid or dismayed.  Help me to remember that You are with me, wherever I go.
  8. Father, You have equipped me for every good work. Help me not to take on more than you have given me to do.  Help me to walk in the Spirit and not according to the flesh.  Help me to not be deceived by the enemy, but to gird my loins with truth. 
  9. Bless me with your peace, as I make prayerfully make decisions. Help me to support my husband, encourage and guide my children, and disciple the women that you place in my path.  I desire to fulfill your great commission, but I need Your help.  Help me to accept what you give me and to rest in You, as I do your will.
  10. Father, I place all that I am and all that I have into your hands. Let me remain in right standing with you.  Let me always seek to build a relationship with you.  When it is all over, I want to hear You say that You knew me well.  I want to hear your say, “well done, My good and faithful servant.”  For this reason, I will not despise your chastisement, but instead I will embrace your leading with follow you obediently.  Give me the strength to walk out your calling on my life and empower me to be the woman that you have called me to be.

Pray these things in Jesus’ name. Amen.

I hope that you enjoyed this excerpt.  Don’t miss out on Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman.  I’m sure that you’ll be blessed and encouraged by it.  

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7 Effective Steps to Take to Focus on a Task and Complete it: Cultivating Life 3-5 Minute Video http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/7-effective-steps-to-focus/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/7-effective-steps-to-focus/#comments Sun, 15 Oct 2017 21:40:53 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=721976 Sometimes, we get distracted, in life, by the million and one things that we have to do.  We can have so much on our minds that we feel like we cannot accomplish our goals.  This can often lead us to struggle with completing our tasks.  In the video below, I share 7 effective steps to focus […]

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Sometimes, we get distracted, in life, by the million and one things that we have to do.  We can have so much on our minds that we feel like we cannot accomplish our goals.  This can often lead us to struggle with completing our tasks.  In the video below, I share 7 effective steps to focus on a task and complete it. 

This week, I published a video on Youtube about loving wisdom and one of the things that we must begin to do is utilize our time in the best way possible.   Take a quick 3-5 minutes to watch the video on being less distracted and be encouraged.  Make sure to share it, so someone else can be encouraged, as well.  

 

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Come into the Light and Love Wisdom: Cultivating Life Wisdom Series Video 2 http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/come-into-the-light-and-love-wisdom-cultivating-life-wisdom-series-video-2/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/come-into-the-light-and-love-wisdom-cultivating-life-wisdom-series-video-2/#respond Fri, 13 Oct 2017 10:20:39 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=721799 This week on Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are taking a look at God’s invitation to His people to come into the light and love wisdom.  We learn about things that are important to God and a key concept that can be found throughout the Bible.   You will be challenged to accept God’s invitation.  What […]

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This week on Cultivating Life Wisdom Series, we are taking a look at God’s invitation to His people to come into the light and love wisdom.  We learn about things that are important to God and a key concept that can be found throughout the Bible.  

You will be challenged to accept God’s invitation.  What will you choose?

Watch the video below and don’t forget to subscribe to my Youtube Channel for updates

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Sometimes, while going through life, it is easy to feel burned out and overwhelmed.  This is even more common when we haven’t spent the time necessary for rejuvenation, alone with God in His word or in prayer.

So many people say things like, “I don’t have time to read the Bible,” or “I don’t know how to pray.”  However like anything else in life, we must invest in what we want. 

Do you ever say these things? 

If not, what do you say? 

Do you take the time that you need to spend with God? 

Do you want a better relationship with Him?  

Do you want to hear His voice, for yourself? 

Do you want to know His will and plans for you?

Do you want freedom from stress and peace of mind?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, the answer you desire is found in God and His word.

I encourage you to take some time to read the Bible.

Yes, it’s a big book, but you don’t have to read it all in one sitting.  You could read it one chapter at a time.  You could start at Genesis and just read. 

I’m currently in a group and we are studying the Bible one chapter at a time.  However, if you’ve never read the Bible, from cover to cover,  I suggest that you start with reading the books of the Bible, first.  If you feel like you could handle both, you could read and study it at the same time, but if the idea of this feels overwhelming, just pick one thing. 

My suggestion is that you start out by reading the word, one chapter at a time and that you journal about your observations and thoughts.  Write out how you could apply your readings to your life and situations.  At the end of each journal, write out a prayer to the Lord, that was inspired by your readings. 

Yes, if you journal a prayer, you are still praying.  That’s actually how I got started praying.  I’d sit and journal out my prayers.  I was afraid that someone would hear me and I only wanted God to hear me, so I would journal.  After building a relationship with Him and reading more of His word, I became more confident in my prayers.  I started saying them out-loud, but I still journal prayers.  The prayers that I would journal always started with “Dear God,” and ended with “In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

I encourage you to take the time to invest in your relationship with our Heavenly Father.  You’ll feel more refreshed and encouraged than you ever have.  He will rejuvenate you, while you are in His presence.

If you are dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, and frustration, this is the place to start.  Enter into the presence of God and allow Him to fulfill your needs.  You have a God sized hole inside of you that longs to be filled.  You might be filling up on the wrong things, and that’s why you feel the way that you do.  If you take the time to fill up on Him on a daily, and even throughout the day basis, you will find that your life will change.  Your anxiety will go away.  You won’t feel depressed.  You will be less frustrated.  

Think about it, but don’t just think about it.  Do it.  Invest the time necessary to build yourself up in the Lord, establish and continue a relationship with Him, and be strengthened through prayer. 

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This week, on Cultivating Life’s 3-5 minute video, be encouraged to pray in faith.  We take a look at what Jesus said about prayer.  We are encouraged not to doubt, but instead to tell the mountain to move, in faith.  

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Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average SuperWoman http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/being-mrs-mom-the-not-so-average-superwoman/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/being-mrs-mom-the-not-so-average-superwoman/#respond Tue, 03 Oct 2017 16:46:52 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=721142 It’s been pretty busy on my end for the past few months, but that’s nothing new. I’ve spent a lot of time praying, seeking God, and writing.  As I look at the world that we live in today, and continue to be prayerful, I realize that more women need to understand  and receive the call […]

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It’s been pretty busy on my end for the past few months, but that’s nothing new. I’ve spent a lot of time praying, seeking God, and writing.  As I look at the world that we live in today, and continue to be prayerful, I realize that more women need to understand  and receive the call of God on their lives. Not only do they need to receive the call, but they need to step up to the plate, with the bat in hand, ready to answer the call and hit the ball out of the park. 

Did you like my analogy?!  I really mean it though. So many women have forgotten the true call of God on their lives because they are too busy trying to be Super Woman. They are trying to do it all and be it all for everyone.  They are wearing themselves out because they are all over the place, trying to accomplish every goal, and do every activity. At the end of the night, they are worn out, but they still can’t sleep because there is too much on their minds. 

Can you relate to this woman?

If you do, I understand. I used to be right there with you. I just wanted to do what I had to do, and I really had a lot to do. I wasn’t sure what was God-given or Makeda given. I couldn’t stop going or moving, long enough to hear the Lord tell me the right direction to move in. I was working so hard, that I almost missed my call.  Today, I know how to be busy doing the Lord’s work and being about my Father’s business. 

I know you’re wondering what call I’m talking about, right?!  

I’m talking about the call to be one of the Not So Average Superwomen that God has so graciously placed in the world. 

You may not know who she is or why her call is so important, but after I explain it to you, you’ll see why I talking to you about this woman.

Titus 2: 3-5 says “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—  that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”

In this, the admonishment and call are to the women of God.  It is first, an admonishment, to the older women to make sure that they are living the way that God has called them to live. Then they are called to admonish the young women and teach them how to…

This implies that the older women had to first know how to do the thing that they are going to be admonishing the younger women to do.  This is not a just talk of what to do, but an actual type of mentorship in how to do it.  

Next the word is for the young women.  They are called to make a difference, first, in their homes by  loving their husbands, loving their children and being homemakers, and obedient to their own husbands.  Second, it is to maintain their character in accordance to the word of God.  They are admonished and called to be discreet and chaste so that the word of God may not be blasphemed.  

Later on, the young women would become the older women, called to younger women and the cycle would continue.  What’s important to notice here is that the women are first called to their homes and to their own personal development, before they are called to the world.  

I think that today’s woman has it backwards.  Many women are taking the time to help others and working outside the home, but are forgetting their commitment and call to their own families and personal development.  

When we first work in our homes we are a support and pillar to our families.  We establish an environment in the home that makes it a place of dwelling that they always want to come home to.  Nurturing our relationship with God and our family also builds a strong foundation for the woman and understands her value, as she takes her place.  

Look around at the broken world today and you will see that the place of women has not be fulfilled in the home, thus the family is missing a key member.  Women have done great things for society, but they have also left the foundation of society empty, the home.  

The call to be the Not So Average Superwoman is to lay hold of that calling once again and answer it with a “yes.”  It is to be diligent to be different from the women of the world that only focus on building their positions and the facilities of the world.  It is to stop trying to find your strength in yourself and other things, so that you can find your strength in God.  It is to drop your cape at the door, so that you can put on the armor of God.  

I know that this is a lot and it feels like a big challenge.  You can see what I’m saying, but need more information.  That’s what I’ve been busy doing.  I’ve been putting together the book to help you with this.  It’s called “Being Mrs. Mom the Not So Average Superwoman: Find Your Strength in God, Drop the Cape, and Put on the Armor of God.”   I encourage you to get your copy today from Amazon, so that you can make sure to answer the call of God, today.  

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Cultivating Life: Planning Your and Executing Your Week http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/cultivating-life-planning-your-and-executing-your-week/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/10/cultivating-life-planning-your-and-executing-your-week/#comments Sun, 01 Oct 2017 19:39:05 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=720840 It’s the beginning of the week and there is a lot to get done.  Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed with the mere thought of planning your week?  Well, come with me, for less than five minutes, to think through the process and make sure that you no longer feel stressed when it comes getting […]

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It’s the beginning of the week and there is a lot to get done.  Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed with the mere thought of planning your week?  Well, come with me, for less than five minutes, to think through the process and make sure that you no longer feel stressed when it comes getting it together.  

Watch this video below.  Make sure to leave a comment and take a moment to subscribe to my new YouTube Channel.  I’ll be posting weekly videos to inspire and encourage you to take action and transform the way that you think.  Let’s Cultivate Life, by looking at how you plan and execute your week.  

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Why you need to understand that no one has really made it http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/08/why-you-need-to-understand-that-no-one-has-really-made-it/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/08/why-you-need-to-understand-that-no-one-has-really-made-it/#respond Tue, 22 Aug 2017 12:02:13 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=716540 Have you ever looked up to someone that inspired you? If you are like the rest of us, then the answer is yes.  You have been working hard, your whole entire life, aiming to emulate someone and at different seasons, for different reasons, and this person changes to a different character, frequently.  What I mean […]

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Have you ever looked up to someone that inspired you?

If you are like the rest of us, then the answer is yes.  You have been working hard, your whole entire life, aiming to emulate someone and at different seasons, for different reasons, and this person changes to a different character, frequently.  What I mean by this is that depending on what you’re working on, or what the subject matter is, your inspiration can change.

I want to tell you something though.  The person that you are looking to has someone that they look up to as well.  They do the same thing that you are doing, search for inspiration.  They struggle just like you struggle.  They work hard, trying to figure out their next step too.

What you may not even realize is that in some situations, the very person that you are looking to for inspiration, is looking back at you.  We live in a big world that has been brought down to size by social media, travel, and technology.  You could be following someone on social media and they could be reading what your posting as well.  There’s a good reason for this.

The truth is that no one has made it yet.

We all may feel like we have achieved something that we were aiming for, but we are not finished with the work that we are supposed to be doing on this earth.  If we were, we would no longer need to be here.  We each have a purpose to fulfill and we glean from one another the ways by which we can do this, but there is something that we do as humans, especially as women, that needs to stop.

We tend to think that we are at the bottom of the todempole and that we can’t help anyone.  Well, I want to tell you something.  That’s a lie.

The truth is that we each have been given a specific sphere of influence.  You may not realize this, but you’ve been influencing people the whole time that you’ve been on this planet, even if you didn’t mean to do it.

I am honored to say that I’ve had people that I know and look up to come to me for advice.  I’ve had business inspirations come to me for inspiration.  What I have learned from this is that we are all doing our best.  Even the person that has a million dollars is still looking for someone to inspire them as a parent.  The person with the degree is looking for an inspiration in being creative.  The woman with the business is trying to stay innovative and productive.  She’s looking for someone to encourage her to stop procrastinating.

Why are you telling me this?

We’ll I’m glad that you asked.  The answer is simple, but very important for you to know.  I’m telling you this because I want you to stop living below your calling.  I want you to stop hiding in the dark, running away, and holding back.  I want you to realize that it is important for you to be yourself because there is no one else like you on this earth.  Sure, we all have some similarities, but none of us are just a like; That’s because of our God given purposes.

More that I want you to know these things, God wants you to know them.  

You have to stop trying to be someone else.  The world needs you to be you.

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What to do when you want a painful spiritual wound removed http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/08/what-to-do-when-you-want-a-painful-spiritual-wound-removed/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/08/what-to-do-when-you-want-a-painful-spiritual-wound-removed/#comments Fri, 18 Aug 2017 12:40:26 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=657234 I hope that you are having a good week.  I’ve been thinking about you and your experiences.  Not only have I been thinking about your experiences, but I’ve also been thinking about the effect that your experiences have had on you.   I’ve had some of my own…well, truthfully, my life has been jammed packed […]

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I hope that you are having a good week.  I’ve been thinking about you and your experiences.  Not only have I been thinking about your experiences, but I’ve also been thinking about the effect that your experiences have had on you.  

I’ve had some of my own…well, truthfully, my life has been jammed packed with experiences that left me spiritually wounded.  At every step of the way, I had to pull through or else, I’d be numb to life and dead spiritually, maybe even naturally too.  

When I’ve spoken to women in the past about how I have overcome, they often tell me that they think I’m strong, different, and somehow more blessed than they are.  They believe that this is the reason why I have overcome as I have.  Well, I beg to differ.  

We all have God-given mechanisms

I mentioned, previously, that there are mechanisms built into us, as humans, by God, that cause us to heal and survive.  The thing about this is that those mechanisms are only activated when necessary.  If you have lived a life where you didn’t need to heal and survive on a constant basis, this process is new for your life’s ecosystem.  You have to begin healing from every new injury, as they come.  This is especially true of spiritual wounds, but even more so of wounds that transcend across the natural and spiritual boundary.  

Recently, it has been made clear to the public that professional football players that have sustained head injuries for long periods, since childhood, have a layer of tissue that develops around their brain, as a protective mechanism.  Because they have sustained numerous concussions, their brain is attempting to prepare for the lifestyle that they live, by developing a cushion.  Although this is how the brain is attempting to protect itself, it also ends up causing a bit of brain damage, which is why we see football players involved in so many situations where they should have used better judgement.  However, there may be a lack of ability to do so because of the current structure of their brain.  Many doctors have overlooked their injuries, unaware of the trauma that was occurring during each and every football game. 

Dealing with emotional hurts

When I was growing up, as an only child, I dealt with certain emotional  hurts that caused me to develop ways of surviving.  My mother was a single parent and, although I saw my father, I dealt with feeling rejected many times because of his absence from my home.  There is more to this story, but what I want you to understand is that when you live with an injury, your brain, body, and spirit attempt to develop ways of making you immune to the injury.  It develops cushions that buff the fall, so that the next time that you are injured, the pain isn’t so bad.  That being said, that cushion can sometimes have a side effect.  

For me, I was an emotional child.  I wasn’t sure how to handle the things that were coming at me and causing me pain.  I couldn’t figure out why everyone else had their father in the home, but I didn’t.  Why did my mother and I experience such friction in our relationship.  I understood that they both loved me, but as a child, I was an emotional wreck.  I longed to just be happy, like all of my other friends, but no matter how hard I tried, I was hurt.  

As I grew up and began to develop relationships with people outside of my home, I learned that all relationships are not traumatizing.  I learned to trust and love, in spite of my fear, but I was still emotional.  My wounds just kept opening up.  I don’t know how I kept myself from crying in front of my friends, but on the inside, I was a mess.  Then once my husband and I got married, my emotions were so jumbled up and confused.  I had to figure out how to maintain my emotions and allow my heart to heal.  

I really did not want to go through the process, but it was unavoidable.  You can’t escape your healing process and make it out alive.  You have to choose to heal in order to heal effectively.  

As I started going through the process of healing, there were times when my pain was simply unbearable.  I got to the point where I could literally feel the emotional pain in my chest, like a physical pain.  I didn’t want to go through the process, but I really wanted to heal.  I wanted to stop crying.  I wanted to stop being afraid that I was not truly loved.

I dove in to fictional books, trying to run away from my problems and found that the problems where there too, they just had solutions of how they could be fixed.  Every morning, I’d get up before my husband and my son.  I’d go in to a room and give my heart to God.  I’d sit down with my journal and discuss everything that was happening within me.  With every stroke of the pen, I gave my problem, my pain, and my worries to the Lord.  As I wrote, I began to process the injuries.  I read my bible in search of the answers and day by day, I was healed a little bit more.  

I didn’t know it at the time, but I now know that I was seeking God for strength.

How brokenness can prepare you for healing

Living broken, prepared me for a lifetime of healing.  Some women don’t understand this because they didn’t grow up broken.  Maybe you are one of those women.  Maybe your brokenness happened when you hit a certain age and traumatized you.  Maybe you were hurt at a young age, but blocked out the pain.  

I think that’s the thing that you have to understand though, you can’t just decide that you aren’t going to feel the pain.  Not feeling the pain tells your body that there is no need for healing.  When you do that, the signals aren’t sent for the healing process to begin. 

I couldn’t escape my pain.  I almost always felt it.  In some ways, my pain taught me that love is real, but so is pain, and we all feel it, but when we choose to feel and process it, we can overcome it.  

Those women that tell me that I am somehow different, more blessed, stronger than they are have not walked with me through my weakest moments.  They have not felt what I felt as I tried to stay alive emotionally.  They have not known the need that I have had to stay alive daily as the words of another human being attempted to destroy me daily.  Feeling rejected caused me to crave love and I knew, somehow that I could not survive without it.  

I did not escape my process of healing because it was God-given.  It was what kept me alive as I grew and matured.  It was also what allowed me to see the pain of others and have compassion on them.  

Why did I say all of this? 

Well, as I was thinking about the next phase of this healing journey, I realized that there are going to be some of you, maybe even you, specifically, that will attempt to run out on the process.  You might be thinking that you don’t need to do all of this.  You might feel that you can just take steps 2 and on because all of this other stuff is just excessive and unnecessary.  

I need you to understand that it’s not unnecessary, it is imperative to your well-being.  You have to choose to go through the process.  As you journal and think about what you experienced, you have to journal about the pain.  Identifying what you experienced, will allow you to properly evaluate your needs. 

Now, I’m not a doctor.  I’m a woman who has been through some experiences that I’ve learned from.  God has also brought me multiple women that have needed to heal and I’ve helped them through this process.  Everyone’s process is different, you have to choose to follow God through the process.  

When you understand how you feel and think about the things that I mentioned in my last post, then you can move on to the next step.  

My childhood pain allowed me to be stronger as a woman, wife, and mother.  Without my experiences, I believe that I would be a different woman.  However, those experiences alone were not what made me who I am.  I had to trust God, go through the process, and allow myself to heal.  There are somethings that I’ve had to let go of.  Yet there are others, that I have had to decided to give myself time to process .

So, ask yourself a few questions today, right now.  Do you really want to heal?  Are you willing to go through the process of healing?  How bad could the pain really be?  Do you believe that God is bigger that your pain?  Do you believe that He is capable of healing you? 

If you answer is yes, please make a committment to yourself and to the Lord to go through the healing the process.  Decide that you are not going to avoid doing what is necessary to be healed.  

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Please take a moment to share this post with someone who may find it helpful. Repost it to your Facebook or Twitter. Many of our friends are hurting too and need assistance healing from wounds. Let’s not do this alone, we all need each other. 

Leave me a comment sharing your thoughts with me or send me a message telling me how this post impacted you. Would you like to see more topics like these? 

Taking another step towards healing

If you found this post helpful, preorder my second book.  It’s all about finding strength in God.  I will be available on kindle version at the end of this month.  Soon after, it will be available in paperback version. 

 

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4 photos that capture my thoughts… http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/4-photos-that-capture-my-thoughts/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/4-photos-that-capture-my-thoughts/#respond Tue, 30 May 2017 12:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=112850 I was going through a few of my Instagram posts and images that I had created. I decided that I would share a few of theses with you.   These were images that captured my thoughts, at the time.   Which of these spoke to you the most?  You would like to read more on […]

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I was going through a few of my Instagram posts and images that I had created. I decided that I would share a few of theses with you.   These were images that captured my thoughts, at the time.  

Which of these spoke to you the most?  You would like to read more on one of these topics?  Let me know in the comments below.

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Do you have a spiritual wound that won’t seem to go away?  http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/do-you-have-a-spiritual-wound-that-wont-seem-to-go-away/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/do-you-have-a-spiritual-wound-that-wont-seem-to-go-away/#comments Tue, 16 May 2017 12:00:51 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=652425 As a mom of four, I’ve seen quite a few booboos.  We have to keep a box of band aids in the house because my children are always getting injured in one way or another. They come to me when they get hurt, feeling like the world is over and, nine times out of ten, […]

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As a mom of four, I’ve seen quite a few booboos.  We have to keep a box of band aids in the house because my children are always getting injured in one way or another. They come to me when they get hurt, feeling like the world is over and, nine times out of ten, I’m able to tell them that it’s ok. They don’t always believe me initially, but I just tell them again that they got hurt and it’s going to be alright. 

My thought process

When I think about this as a parent, especially a parent of four, I know that this is just apart of growing. When learning a new skill, like riding a bike, in order to get better at it, children fall. They scrape their knees and end up needing hugs, band-aids, and pep talks in order to calm their nerves, ease their pain and try again.  

Little lessons like these, combined with my own growing pains have caused me to realize that we are no different. We grow and as we learn new skills, mature in life, and learn to be better, we get a few booboos along the way. 

Be here’s the thing, some wounds are deeper than others. Some require more care than others and more bandages to protect from infection. 

Small reminders

Not only do I have to remind my children not to pick at their wounds, I have to make sure to keep the wound clean and covered. On top of this necessary and obvious care needed for my children’s wounds, I have to remind them that no matter where we are in the process, the wound is healing. It has to, that’s how we were made. With the proper care and time, that scrape will get better because it wasn’t a fatal injury. 

See the way that God built our bodies was to give us protective layers and barriers that make sure our inner parts, the more necessary ones, are not harmed. These are the parts that keep us alive, breathing, eating, and moving. When we are hurt by falling and scuffing up our knees, our skin begins to heal, but our minds remember the event and learns from it. We begin to process that being off-balance on a bike leads to falling. Touching a hot stove leads to being burned. Touching an aggressive dog leads to being bitten or snapped at. These lessons prepare us for bigger tasks and allow us to remember that although there are great things we want to experience, we should use our skills, use wisdom, and proceed with caution. 

That’s what happens with the little scrapes and bumps that our children get. It’s also what happens when we are growing in life and growing spiritually. 

The Timing of the Wound

We have all encountered situations that have caused us pain. Something has happened to us or we had an experience that opened a wound. Normally, these wounds, no matter their situation, came at some pivotal point in our lives. They came when we were at a certain season of life and began to progress through that season. 

It could have been a spiritual, emotional, relational, or physical experience. No matter what it was, these experience have an effect on us spiritually, whether we know it or not. 

Prayer for healing in the process

Now, I know that you knew we were going to discuss something that would make you a bit less comfortable than normal and we are, but first, let’s pray. 

Father, we love you. We come to you humbly Lord, first and foremost asking you to forgive us for sins that we have committed, both knowingly and unknowingly. Give us peace, Lord. We desire wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. We ask you to provide what we need to explore this topic without fear, because You’re perfect love casts out all fear. Help us to grow and see that the wounds are not the end, but instead a part of the process. Open our hearts and give us what we need to live this life to the fullest.  Help us to heal from both spiritual and emotional wounds that we have experienced.  Cause our broken hearts to be reminded that you do not despise us, but instead you love us.  Wrap us in your arms of love and bring healing to our wounded souls in the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen. 

The process of healing

When you think about your wound, I want to ask yourself a few questions. When the wound was first opened, did you take the time to assess the damage? I ask this because it is very important. Remember when I was talking about my children, I mentioned scrapes and bruises that were not fatal. 

Did you clean the wound and cover it with the proper dressing or band-aid? Did you make sure to go back occasionally, clean it up, and redress the bandage? 

If you are honest, in most cases, the answer is no. We get hurt and we normally do one or two things immediately. We cry, cover it up, and either never go back on the spiritual bike again out of fear, or we try to push past the obstacle to master the challenge. There’s a problem with this though. 

Wounds that are not well cared for can get infected, seep deeper into our bodies, and never completely heal.  Remember, the way that we are built. There is a mechanism to overcome built within us by God. Whether we want to or not, we are always in the process of healing. The problem comes in when we don’t properly care for the wound. It can leave a residue, develop puss, and a stench. It can become more that a growing pain because of a lack of care. 

Do you have wounds that just won’t seem to heal?

At this point, I am going to assume that the answer is yes. 

I want to help you heal, but first there are a few things that we have to do. 

We have to clean the wound up, by taking and thinking about what happened. That’s how you begin to assess the situation, determine the type of damage that could have been done, and decide how to treat the wound. 

Second we have to find the proper tools to assist you in the healing process. We have to gather all of the tools that are needed for the type of wound that you have. There are big bandages and small ones. They all work, but we have to find the one that you need. 

Third, we have to properly dress the wound and you can’t pick at it.  If you do, it could open back up. 

I want to remind you that all wounds have the potential to leave a scar, but that’s a different post. Just don’t be alarmed if you end up with a scar from this wound. It’s not always a bad thing. I actually think it’s a good reminder that you’re healed and have made it out of a painful situation that wasn’t tough enough to kill you. 

What’s next?

For now, here’s what I want you to do. Take a moment to think and journal about this wound that you have.  Ponder some to the things below

What is a natural wound that you have? Perhaps you fell and scraped your knee as a kid. Write about what happened. Give the details of the incident. Do you remember how it happened? Do you remember how it was cared for? If so, describe it. What lesson did you learn from this or where were you in the learning process? Finally realize that the wound did heal because you are still alive and breathing. 

Now for the spiritual wound. 

  1. What happened? You have to take sometime to really think and journal about this. You can’t avoid this process. It’s apart of accessing the damage that was done to you. 
  2. Write about the immediate care that was given to the treatment of the wound. What did you do after it happened to take care of yourself? Did someone else attempt to help you care for it? What type if pain did you experience? What type of discomfort are you still experiencing from the wound? 
  3. Did the wound get infected? Why isn’t it healing? Did that experience cause something else to happen in you? Did you develop bitterness, jealousy, anger, or something else? Be honest with yourself about this. It doesn’t do you any good to cover it up, if it isn’t cleaned up. 
  4. How bad do you want this wound to heal? Talk about what it did to you in the past and what it would mean for you to be healed. What type of fear have you experienced? What has it kept you from doing? Has it tormented you or kept you in bondage? What type of freedom would you experience, if this wound were to finally heal? 

Think journal and pray about this. Then comeback. I want to take you though the next step in this process, but this is the first step and one of the hardest, thinking about it. 

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Please take a moment to share this post with someone who may find it helpful. Repost it to your Facebook or Twitter. Many of our friends are hurting too and need assistance healing from wounds. Let’s not do this alone, we all need each other. 

Leave me a comment sharing your thoughts with me or send me a message telling me how this post impacted you. Would you like to see more topics like these? 

Also, if you found this post helpful, consider purchasing my book. In it, I discuss some of the things I’ve been though and how I’ve healed from them. It wasn’t easy to write, but I did it for you, so consider purchasing it.  It’s available on kindle and in paperback. 

I’m also in the process of writing my new book. Tell me what you would like to or need to read about. What types of topics would you like to see me discuss and find most helpful?  

Be encouraged and make sure to do the work. You’ll be surprised at the results the you get. 

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3 Practical Things a 21st Century Woman Can Do to Make Sure She is Walking in the Spirit http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/3-practical-things-a-21st-century-woman-can-do-to-make-sure-she-is-walking-in-the-spirit/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/3-practical-things-a-21st-century-woman-can-do-to-make-sure-she-is-walking-in-the-spirit/#comments Tue, 09 May 2017 12:00:42 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=651960 In my last post, we discussed the problem of Walking In the Spirit as a 21st Century Woman.  If you didn’t get a chance to read that post, I’d like to encourage you to take a moment to read that post.  Once you have read it and thought about what we discussed, come back here […]

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In my last post, we discussed the problem of Walking In the Spirit as a 21st Century Woman.  If you didn’t get a chance to read that post, I’d like to encourage you to take a moment to read that post.  Once you have read it and thought about what we discussed, come back here so that we can look at the 3 Practical Things that I promised you.  

Before we dive into those 3 things, did you take the time to journal about those questions that I asked you?  If you did not, please take the time to do it now.  This post isn’t going anywhere and I know from experience that journaling helps process topic so much better that just thinking about them.  

If you did get to journal about the topics, what did you find out about yourself, your atmosphere, and your current spiritual standing?  If you are like me, you are not completely surprised.  You knew a while ago that there were things that you needed and could feel that the world was pulling on you more and more each day.  

This is normal.  There are going to be different seasons in our lives where we do an assessment and find things that need to go and other things that we want to implement into our lives. 

One important question that I asked you was if you actually believed that your problem could be fixed.  Do you really believe that there is hope in this situation.  I am going to assume that because you are still reading this, your answer is yes.  

Why does it matter what I believe?

Well, I’m glad that you asked.  The Bible says that those who come to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek Him.  This means that what you and I believe is extremely important to the outcome of our situations.  If you are still doubting that God is able to bring you out of the place that you are currently in and that you can overcome this, I would advise you to stop and ask yourself why you are struggling with this in your faith.  

Do you think that the way that women live today is a obstacle to living in the Spirit?  If you don’t really see the problem yet, I would encourage you to take a few days and live your life as normal.  Journal each night about the problems that you face, the mindset that you find yourself in, and the things that influence you.  After about 3-5 days of this, go back and read what you wrote.  Make a list of the issues and then come back to this post, so that we can move forward. 

When you’re ready, I’m ready. So, Let’s go!

3 Practical Things You Can Do to Make Sure that You ARE Walking in the Spirit

Once again, let’s stop and glean from the word of God.

Galatians 5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

Verse 16. I say then, Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.  

Romans 6:12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts

Galatians 5:26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.  

As we look at the scriptures, we can see specific words being used.  This words indicate action.  They are verbs like live, walk, fulfill, let, obey, become, provoke, envy.  

Let’s take ownership of our actions and look at the 3 things you can do to make sure that you are walking in the Spirit. 

1.  Be conscious, tender hearted, and aware of what is happening in and around you.

Remember that the flesh wars against the spirit, constantly.  You have to know whats happening in you, as you are having various experiences in life.  This means that you cannot avoid being alone.  You can’t tell yourself that you don’t need to think and reflect on life.  You have to hold yourself accountable and journal out your feelings and thoughts.  You have to give yourself the freedom to tell the truth about what’s happening, as your journal.  Keep your heart tender and remain conscious, by not allowing yourself to spiritually die.  What happens in you when you experience life?  How does it affect you?  How can you protect your heart without building walls?  Are you able to set up boundaries that will act as fences in your life?

Proverbs 4:23  Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it

2.  Be Prayerful

This one is very easy, or so it may seem, but it requires persistence.  No matter what happens, you have to keep an open line of communication with the Lord. 

Talk to Him

Ask of Him

Seek Him for direction

Continually have a heart of prayer because it is a type of life line.  It keeps you connected to the Lord at all times.  You can speak to Him and know that He hears you.  Please do not forget that you can hear from Him as He answers the things that you inquire of Him about.  Even when you don’t know what to do, God does, so pray.  He cares about you, so give your problems to Him.  There is great power in prayer, so make sure to remain prayerful.  

3.  Listen & Do

You have to make a point to listen to the prompting of the Holy Spirit in your life.  Listen to the Lord, as you hear His voice.  Make sure to do what you hear Him say or what He leads you to do.  Some things will come as unctions instead of words, you have to know that you have the ability to hear from the Lord, but you also have to choose to do the things that He calls you to do.  

When you stop listening your spirit can succumb to the flesh and disobedience can seep in.  It won’t come alone.  Bitterness, anger, jealousy, selfish ambitions, and all of the works of the flesh will attempt to overtake you, if you turn a deaf ear to the Lord.  

Though we live in the 21st century and there is a lot up against us, there is also a lot for us… GOD.  

Ephesians 6:10  Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.

Pull though and force your character to be godly.  Remember those action words form earlier in this conversation? Make a decision to live, walk, and obey the Lord.   Become the woman that God has called you to be and overcome the works of darkness, by following these 3 practical steps.  At first it might feel hard to turn down the noise and focus, but the more you turn from evil, the more you will embrace the freedom that you were given in Christ Jesus.  

Do it today!  Just make a commitment to take these 3 practical steps each day of your life, at every opportunity that you get.

  1. Be conscious, tender hearted, and aware of what is happening in and around you.
  2. Be prayerful
  3. Listen & Do

If you have found this helpful, consider purchasing my book “Being Mrs. Mom: A Christian Woman, Wife and Mother Living in the 21st Century.”  It’s pact with my struggles and how I have overcome my past, myself, and my pain to become the woman that God calls me to be.  

If you have questions or topics that you’d like for me to discuss, just post it below or send me an email to info@beingmrsmom.com

 

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The Trouble with Walking in the Spirit as a 21st Century Woman http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/the-trouble-with-walking-in-the-spirit-as-a-21st-century-woman/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/05/the-trouble-with-walking-in-the-spirit-as-a-21st-century-woman/#comments Sat, 06 May 2017 20:33:42 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=650196 Many, many, many years ago, women had a hard time living according to the word of God.  Their neighbors from villages around the city were living perversely, serving other gods and tasting the fruit of strange things.   Women like Rahab, that desired to serve the Lord, had to leave their villages and all that […]

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Many, many, many years ago, women had a hard time living according to the word of God.  Their neighbors from villages around the city were living perversely, serving other gods and tasting the fruit of strange things.  

Women like Rahab, that desired to serve the Lord, had to leave their villages and all that they had ever known to become holy and sanctified.  Turning from all that she knew, she gave herself over to the ways of the Lord.  She learned how to live a life of holiness. 

Becoming meek was taught to the women by the old and elderly.  Loving husbands and children were skills that the aged found pride in teaching to the youth.  The fruit of the Spirit, while developed over time, came with commentary and was dwelled upon, as the women laid under the starry sky surrounded by the sounds of nature.  

Although not easy, being a woman of God, in the city of the Lord was not unheard of or strange.  

Fast forward at least 2,000 years and you find a completely different scenario.  Not only do women still have a hard time living for the Lord, it is almost impossible without total isolation.  The old are teaching the young that there is no value in being a wife or a mother; they are simply hindrances to obtaining life goals, obstacles placed in the way of the ambitious.  They urge the youth to consider that God is not real.  Tempted by the lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, women today find themselves lost, struggling to understand how to live this life as a godly woman.  

The clothes, the songs, the entertainment all make it hard for her to hear the voice of God.  Blaring from the speakers of the 4K television in the bedroom are the voices of the world echoing in her head, pulling her towards what she doesn’t long for.  The pictures on her phone challenge her to compare herself to what she has seen.  Social media calls out to her with the constant rings and dings, causing her to lose focus on the things that are most important to her.  

The call of God on her life becomes drowned out and all she can think of are the words of the world. 

“Be more, do more, get more…”

Each message screams for her attention, her love, her worship. 

But really, she yearns for something else… someone that will fulfill her.  As the Holy Spirit calls on her, she finds it hard to live according to the Spirit.  She struggles within.  Love isn’t what she wants because she feels hate.  Peace is not what she craves because there is constantly conflict in and around her.  Joy is foreign because she just wants to be happy.  

Long-suffering…humph, what’s that?  You mean instant gratification.

Goodness is gone as she seeks her own good and for that alone, in the name of God.  Gentleness, meekness, and temperance (also known as self-control) are just words.  There are no examples.  They have lost their meanings.  Their good has now been made evil.  Turned to weakness, stupid, and foolish.  Faith has been thrown out the window and traded in for doubt…I mean logic.

What’s the problem? Can it be solved?

What’s the struggle.  The time, the era, the day that we are living it.  Its corrupt and if we are not careful, it will corrupt us.  

SO how do we stop ourselves from becoming this woman.

Honestly, we have to remain sensitive and recognize the benefits of walking according to the Spirit, but there is still a simpler way.  

Let’s stop for a moment and see what we can glean from the scriptures.  

Galatians 5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

Verse 16. I say then, Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.  

Romans 6:12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts

Galatians 5:26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.  

As we look at the scriptures, we can see specific words being used.  This words indicate action.  They are verbs like live, walk, fulfill, let, obey, become, provoke, envy.  

So what?!  Why should I care if it’s an action word?

I’m glad that you asked.  

These words tell us that we can do or not do them.  When we look at what the Lord is saying to us through the word, He is speaking very clearly about the way that we should be aiming to solve our problems.  

If we say that we are women of faith, then we are living in the Spirit.  If we live in the Spirit, we should also take it upon ourselves to walk in the Spirit as well.  This means that we have to choose to obey the leading of the Holy Spirit.  

Let’s look at it practically

Since we all struggle with this, we must recognize that this is nothing new.  Instead it is something that every believer must endure and push through to overcome.  We must admonish and encourage one another.  When no one else is around, we must listen to the unctions of the Holy Spirit and encourage ourselves.  

There are a few other things that we can do to solve this problem practically, but let’s take some time to think on this.  I recommend that you journal out your answers, so that you are able to really process where you stand before we move forward. 

What are some of the distractions that pull on you heart, requiring your worship, and all of your attention?

What stops you from having quiet time with the Lord, quiet time to think, time to rest in Him?

What songs, entertainment, and television shows cause you to struggle with walking in the Spirit and inspire you to walk in the lust of the flesh?

How does this effect you?  How does it make you feel? Do you really think that there is anything that you can do about it?  

After you have journaled about these topics, specifically answering these questions, take a moment to pray about this.  Ask the Lord to help you let go of the old and corrupt things that tug on you, so that you can grab hold of Him.  

Later on in the next week, I’ll be sharing with you 3 Practical Things You Can Do to Solve the Problem of Walking in the Spirit as a 21st Century Woman

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If you have found this helpful, consider purchasing my book “Being Mrs. Mom: A Christian Woman, Wife and Mother Living in the 21st Century.”  It’s pact with my struggles and how I have overcome  my past, myself, and my pain to become the woman that God calls me to be.  

If you have questions or topics that you’d like for me to discuss, just post it below or send me an email to info@beingmrsmom.com

I look forward to hearing from you and don’t forget to come back within the next week for those 3 Things.

 

 

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Many times we hold back, thinking that we’re doing the world a favor. The truth is that we aren’t. God put something great inside of you and holding back stops the world from encountering the greatness the He has placed inside of you. Go ahead and shine bright for all the world to see. As you do, you’ll give Him the glory.

Question: What’s holding you back? What are you afraid of?

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The Title of Mother http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/04/the-title-of-mother/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2017/04/the-title-of-mother/#respond Mon, 24 Apr 2017 11:20:43 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=649900 Mother is a title that I am honored to hold.  With each day, I have the opportunity to pour into their lives in ways that no one else can.  For they only have one mother.  ~Makeda Rodriguez

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Mother is a title that I am honored to hold.  With each day, I have the opportunity to pour into their lives in ways that no one else can.  For they only have one mother.  ~Makeda Rodriguez

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As a woman that loves to plan, I often try to keep things orderly and functioning well.  I like my planner, my pen, and my paper.  And although I haven’t always been this way, I do my best to plan everything out.  That plan is subject to change because I am married with four children, and really, because I am a human being, living in this world.  Yet, still there are times where I am thrown completely off because of my desire for predictability and order.  

If I can be honest with you, this has to do with my desire to control situations, so that things aren’t thrown off-balance and I’m not flung into a situation that I didn’t expect or feel that I can’t handle.  Again, I haven’t always been this way, but in trying to be a woman of wisdom, I have desired to think through situations and plan how I am going to handle them.  My plan would be perfect if I set in some high authoritative place, like God, but I’m not Him.  I am merely a woman, clothed in flesh and living my life the best way that I can.

I have always had big dreams and this year, I took the plunge in to two of them.  

  1. Writing a book
  2. Starting a business

Coupled together with life, I have found myself in a place of frustration because, well, we don’t live in a box.  Although I set deadlines, things happen.  For instance, I hurt my back and could not do all of the things that I wanted to do physically, so I had to rely on my family.  They were very helpful and I am blessed to have them.  Needless to say, my schedule was thrown off.  I attempted to pull and push my way out of my physical limitations and, as it should be assumed, it took a toll on me emotionally.  

I planned and structured events and business deals, but all parties just did not have the same schedule as I had.  If I were to put it in the simplest way possible, my desire for perfection, was only that, a desire.  Perfection was not going to, nor is it ever going to happen.  

Ok.

Let me stop here for a second.  I think you and I need to allow this statement to just sink in.  

Perfection is never going to happen.

Our desire for perfection and control, literally sends our spirit out into a realm of frenzy because we were never meant to be perfect or in control of everything.  We were placed in this world with the Spirit of the Living God to lead us and guide us throughout our lives.  He is here to help us maneuver through the situations, ins and outs of life.  No matter how much we try to take the steering wheel, its not our place to be in total control.  

Think on this. 

When life is busy and we want to be…., we have a tendency to try to attempt to take the reins from God. We attempt to control life. We don’t do it purposely, but when we do this, hurry up and go “thing,” we are trying to take our lives out of the hands of God. He’s the one who makes this whole world function and yet, somewhere in our minds, we believe that we can do it better. No matter how sincere or humble we are, we have all done it at one point and time in our lives. Believe it or not, we do it again and again. Then we wonder why we are stressed.

We wonder why things don’t seem to be going right.

Where did the problems come from?

Taking our lives out of the hands of God, not following His will, trying life our own way…that’s where the frustration comes in. And no matter how giant or small of a moment it has been that we have found ourselves in this place, we have to come back.

We have to ask Him to forgive us. We have to push forward in His will, listening to His Spirit, and seeking His face. That’s it!

When we do this, with a sincere heart, laying it all before Him, He takes the reigns and fixes our lives, orders our steps, and makes life beautiful again.

That’s what the KING of the world does. He rules and reigns. He orders and fixes our hearts and our lives.

In short…maybe not so short…

Our desires send us out of whack.  The world is only doing what it does normally.  It is functioning chaotically and we are striving for it to have some sort of order.  Yet, in this process we forget that we are not all-powerful.  Perfectionism is not really an accurate picture of any human being on this earth.  It is simply and ideal.  And we all love ideals.  

Control is not really all that we perceive it to be.  It is simply that a perception.  We aren’t in control.

Yep!  I said it…

We aren’t in control.

Whether reactive or proactive, we are not in control.  It isn’t until we step into the will of God.  Taking our rightful place in His plan, using the power that has been given to us by God, through Christ, in pray and in faithful deed, that we are in control…with Him.

Faithful deed…

Not fearful actions.  We have to be living and walking in faith when we proclaim that this and that will be, expecting that it will be. 

Now…let’s do this.  

Let’s check ourselves with the word of God and see where we stand.  Let this be our continual endeavor…to be in right standing with God.

Please take a moment to read Psalm 19 below and the watch the video at the end of this post. 

The heavens declare the glory of God;
And the firmament shows His handiwork.
Day unto day utters speech,
And night unto night reveals knowledge.
There is no speech nor language
Where their voice is not heard.
Their line has gone out through all the earth,
And their words to the end of the world.

In them He has set a tabernacle for the sun,
Which is like a bridegroom coming out of his chamber,
And rejoices like a strong man to run its race.
Its rising is from one end of heaven,
And its circuit to the other end;
And there is nothing hidden from its heat.

The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul;
The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple;
The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart;
The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes;
The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever;
The judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether.
More to be desired are they than gold,
Yea, than much fine gold;
Sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb.
Moreover by them Your servant is warned,
And in keeping them there is great reward.

Who can understand his errors?
Cleanse me from secret faults.
Keep back Your servant also from presumptuous sins;
Let them not have dominion over me.
Then I shall be blameless,
And I shall be innocent of great transgression.

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
Be acceptable in Your sight,
Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.

 

 I pray that you have been blessed by this and I look forward to hearing any thoughts that you have on control.  Has this spoken to you at all?  Do you find yourself in this place, ever? How do you handle it?  Do you handle it at all? 
 
Be blessed. 🙂 

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Life is so full. 

It is full of ups and downs, ins and outs, goods and bads. Whether we realize it or not, enjoying life is a choice. That’s why I choose to make time for the beautiful things in life, daily. 

Sometimes I get so busy doing that I have to remind myself to eat. I don’t forget to do what needs to be done for my children, but as a wife, mother, student, entrepreneur, web designer, minister, blogger, author…you see where I’m going with this, right?!

I’m pretty busy.

I’m sure that you are pretty busy too. 

We can get all boggled down by the daily things that need to be done. Sometimes this busy-ness and doing can attempt to steal the joy that we have on the inside. Yet, if we are diligent to focus on the things of God and the blessings that He has given us, our joy will remain. 

That’s why I say it is a choice. You and I get to decide if we are going to stay focused on the negative or are we going to use the negative to inspire us to do something great. 

See, for every problem, there is a solution inside of someone on this earth. God place the answers within us. When we focus on Him, He will reveal what needs to be done to us. 

The busy-ness of life drains us.  This is one reason why God tells us to rest. 

I take my rest at various points in the day. I stop to smell the roses, kiss my babies, and laugh with my husband. I shut it all down for a few moments to breathe in the fresh air that God has blessed us with. 

Yesterday, I sat outside of my house and looked at the flowers. I have seen a praying mantis, grasshoppers, and a spider eating…yes gross, but it all adds something to my life. 

I look at these things and I see that God has made such beauty around me that I would be doing myself a disservice to not take a moment to look at it all. 

Today I want to encourage you to take a moment to look at the things around you and the people around you. Find something beautiful and be thankful for what you have seen. 

A thankful heart is a cheerful heart and a cheerful heart is full of joy. 

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10 Prayers to Pray Over Your Children http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/10-prayers-to-pray-over-your-children/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/10-prayers-to-pray-over-your-children/#respond Mon, 26 Sep 2016 14:53:23 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=622439 As a mother, with four children, I know that it is hard to send my babies out into the world. Daycare, school, events, none of this is easy. We are charged, as moms, with one of the best and hardest callings in the world. We are called to nurture and love our children; to help them become who God has created them to be. We carry our children within our wombs, as they grow. Once they are born, we raise them, as best as we know how, loving them and protecting them from danger. We teach them how to live. We show them how to love. We train them and coach them to be who God has created them to be. Yet, we can't keep them in our physical arms forever.

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As a mother, with four children, I know that it is hard to send my babies out into the world.  Daycare, school, events, none of this is easy.  We are charged, as moms, with one of the best and hardest callings in the world.  We are called to nurture and love our children;  to help them become who God has created them to be.  We carry our children within our wombs, as they grow.  Once they are born, we raise them, as best as we know how, loving them and protecting them from danger.  We teach them how to live.  We show them how to love.  We train them and coach them to be who God has created them to be.  Yet, we can’t keep them in our physical arms forever.

One of the first challenges of a working mother, a mother going to college, or even one that volunteers, is putting her baby in daycare.  If a mother happens to avoid that one, she will soon face the challenge of sending her 4 or 5 year old to preschool or kindergarten.  If a mother chooses to homeschool, she still does not escape the challenge of raising her child and slowly allowing him or her to go off into the world and explore through social connections.  We haven’t even talked about high school, college, or adulthood.

We hear the news reports.  They aren’t fun to listen to or read.  Children go through so much today and it is very public.  Turn on the nightly news and hear of manipulation, abuse, scandal, kidnappings.  If one is not careful, a mother could have a panic attack trying to figure out how she could protect her babies from all of these troubles and more befalling them. Will they become sick?  She wonders, am I a good mother?  Will I do them any justice? However, she forgets one thing.  It is not her call to protect her child all of the time, throughout the entire duration life.  She is not God.  


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She has to do what the Bible says.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.~Philippians 4:6, 7

We can all use a little peace.  Add with the stress of the world and the cares of this life, we could definitely use a lot of peace.  This peace does not just come.  You have to do something in order for this peace to even begin to come your way.  You have to be willing to give God the things that you are most concerned about.  In this case, your children and their futures need to handed over to the Lord.  I want to help with this today.

There are key scriptures that I have prayed over my children for the past 14 years.  When situations arise and fear attempts to grip me, I have to remind myself of what the Lord has said.  He would not leave me nor forsake me. (Deuteronomy 31:6)  I have had to speak, pray, and meditate on the promises of God.  I have to remind myself that God is faithful and that all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us. (2 Corinthians 1:20)  I have to praise Him, when I recognize His faithfulness.  So, what exactly does His word promise?  I am going to share 10 prayers with you that are directly related to the scriptures in the bible and God’s promises to us, who believe.  The prayers are in bold and the scriptural references follow them. When you pray these prayers, pray them out loud.  Get them ingrained in your heart, so that you pray them with faith and without any doubt. (James 1:8)

  1. Lord let my children be taught by You and give them great peace.  Let all who have a hand in teaching them, be ordained by you.   Isaiah 54:13  “All of your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.”
  2. Lord keep my children safe from all hurt, harm, and danger.  Place your hedge of protection around them.  Let no evil befall them and no plague or calamity come near to their dwelling.  Keep them safely under the shadow of Your mighty wing of protection.  Psalm 91:10  “No evil shall befall you, nor shall any plague come near your dwelling”  (I recommend that you read all of Psalm 91)
  3. Lord bless my children, for they are the fruit of my body.  Give them increase as you have given increase to me.  Deuteronomy 28:4  “Blessed shall be the fruit of your body, the produce of your ground and the increase of your herds,  the increase of your cattle and the offspring of your flocks.”
  4. Lord help my children to be strong and courageous.  Let no man be able to stand before them, all of the days of their lives.  Be with them as you were with Moses and remind them that you will never leave them or forsake them.  Bless them with the fruit of the spirit.  Let them not be overtaken by fear, but instead allow them to live in power, in love, and with a sound mind.  Joshua 1:5  “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life;  as I was with Moses, so I will be with you.  I will not leave you nor forsake you. ” Galatians 5:22-23; 2 Timothy 1:7; 1 Corinthians 15:33
  5. Let each one of my children, (Insert names here), increase in wisdom and in stature and in favor with You, God, and with man, even as Jesus did.  Let them keep good company because you said in Your word that bad company corrupts good character.  Luke 2:52  “And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.”
  6. Father, all of the days of their lives, give them a heart to delight themselves in You, Lord; and give them the desires of their hearts.  Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
  7. As they grow and learn, give them wisdom Lord.  No matter if they turn to the right or to the left, let their ears hear Your voice behind them saying,  “This is the way; walk in it,” and may they follow you all of the days of their lives because you are their Shepherd. Isaiah 30:21 Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”  Psalm 23
  8. Father I ask you to forgive all of their iniquities, heal all of their diseases, redeem their lives from destruction,  clothe them with lovingkindness and tender mercies, satisfy their mouths with good things, and renew them continually.  Psalm 103
  9. Help them to retain the knowledge of You, God, and do not give them over to a reprobate mind.  Instead, keep their minds, by the power of your Holy Spirit.  Let no weapon formed against them prosper and every tongue that rises up against them in judgement be condemned.  Help them continually to put on the armor of God that they may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.  Ephesians 6:10-18; Romans 1:28; Ephesians 1:13; John 17:11-12; Isaiah 54:17
  10. Help me and those that you have ordained, to train them up in the way that they should go, so that they will not depart from that way, when they are older.  If you have it for my child/children to be married, prepare a spouse for my child and prepare my child.  I pray that they would both love you, Lord and not be given over to sinful pleasures or the works of the flesh.  I come against the spirit of fornication, sexual immorality, divorce, confusion, rejection, and separation on behalf of my child and his/her future marriage, right now.  In the name of Jesus, I tell these mountains to move and I believe that they shall be moved.  In Jesus name, I pray all of these things. Amen   Proverbs 22:6; 2 Corinthians 6:14; Acts 10:2; Ephesians 5:18; Matthew 22:37; Matthew 21:21; 1 Corinthians 6:18-20; Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 7:2


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Pray them in faith, knowing that He cares about you and everyone & thing the you care about.  I tell you this; the Lord is faithful.  He is not a man that He should lie and like one of my favorite scriptures says, if you put your faith and trust in the Lord, you will not be put to shame. (Romans 10:11)

I would recommend that you pray these prayers over your children daily.  Watch as the Lord fulfills His promises to you and your children.

I hope that you were blessed and encouraged by this.

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No Longer Moved  http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/no-longer-moved/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/no-longer-moved/#respond Tue, 13 Sep 2016 13:57:25 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=617159 We all have a propensity for self-doubt. It is apart of our human nature. We live and we learn. Sometime we win and sometimes we lose. However, these situations are not and cannot become an indicator to ourselves nor to anyone else of who we are. I used to be afraid of the judgements of […]

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We all have a propensity for self-doubt. It is apart of our human nature. We live and we learn. Sometime we win and sometimes we lose. However, these situations are not and cannot become an indicator to ourselves nor to anyone else of who we are. I used to be afraid of the judgements of men. By men, I mean people. I use to wonder what everyone would think of what I said, did, and thought. I lived in the constant bondage and fear of being rejected. No matter how sure I was of what I was doing, some how, I still doubted that it would be approved.
What I learned over the years was that I was looking for approval from the wrong source. I wanted people, in their own frailty of human nature, to approve what I was doing and who I was. I was ignorant of the fact that real approval cannot come from mortals. It can only come from the One who has the power to judge all. I studied hard to show myself approved to men. All the while wondering why God had not showed who I was to them. I must admit, looking back, I missed it. I was never meant to study to show myself approved to men. I was to study and work and live and move and be to show myself approved to God. For He is the One that stamps me with the seal of approval. And while I was seeking the approval of men, God was cheering me on in my everyday endeavors as a woman, a wife, and a mother. Yet again, I would miss it. I had not allowed His words to penetrate my being. I looked at who had walked away and forgotten about me. I looked to who had said I was not enough and I wasn’t qualified. I missed it. I should have been looking to the One who called me and qualified me. I should have looked to the One who was there and always remains; the One who said, I was and still am enough.

Today, I am able to share this because I have been through some trials and hardships. I have been hurt and realized that I allowed men and women to change what God had made in me. I have learned from my struggles and from the LOVE OF GOD. I am no longer moved by the looks, judgements, and harsh words of people. I am different because I am loved.

Today, I want to challenge you to see if you can relate. Look into your past and see if there were times and situations that caused you to forget who you were and feel less confident.  See if you have ever replaced God’s approval with the desire of being approved by men.  As you do this, realize that you need not earth any more for approval. You are loved.

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The Trustworthiness of God: Psalm 115 http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/the-trustworthiness-of-god-psalm-115/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/the-trustworthiness-of-god-psalm-115/#respond Tue, 13 Sep 2016 12:43:53 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=617084 Today, I want to invite you to take a look at Psalm 115 with me.  Within it, we will find something that cannot be overlooked, the difference between who God is and who the idols are. Believe it or not, people still worship idols today.  To some degree, we also have to be careful of […]

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Today, I want to invite you to take a look at Psalm 115 with me.  Within it, we will find something that cannot be overlooked, the difference between who God is and who the idols are.

Believe it or not, people still worship idols today.  To some degree, we also have to be careful of the image that we have of God.  For if it is not the correct image, we too are creating an idol.  We must know who we worship and serve.  We must remember what He is like.  We must remind ourselves of His characteristics and when we are unsure, we must go back to the word of God.

When we have the right image of God, we will also recognize that we can trust Him.  We will give Him the glory that is due to Him and we will see Him at work in our lives; not because He has finally began to work, but because our eyes are open to the works of His hands.

Psalm 115

Not unto us, O Lord, not unto us, but to Your name give glory, because of Your mercy, because or Your truth.

Why should the Gentiles say, “So where is their God?”

But our God is in heaven; He does whatever He pleases.

Their idols are silver and gold, the work men’s hands.

They have mouths, but they do not speak; eyes they have, but they do not see;

They have ears, but they do not hear; noses they have, but they do not smell;

They have hands, but they do not handle; Feet they have, but they do not walk; Nor do they mutter through their throat.

Those who make them are like them; So is everyone who trusts in them.

O Israel, trust in the Lord; He is their help and their shield.

O house of Aaron, trust in the Lord; He is their help and their shield.

You who fear the Lord, trust in the Lord; He is their help and their shield.

The Lord has been mindful of us; He will bless us; He will bless the house of Israel; He will bless the house of Aaron.

He will bless those who fear the Lord, both small and great.

May the Lord give you increase more and more, you and your children.

May you be blesses by the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.

The heaven, even the heavens are the Lord’s; but the earth He has given to the children of men.

The dead do not praise the Lord, nor any who go down into silence.

But we will bless the Lord from this time forth and forevermore.

Praise the Lord!

Having the correct image of God and knowing His character, helps us to trust in Him.  If you think about it, this is how we build trust with everyone.  Their past actions and understanding their character allow us to feel safe when we are around them.  If we know that someone can be relied upon, we know that they will do what they say that they are going to do.  When we know that a friend will not share a secret, we feel that we are able to reveal more to them.

It is the same way with God.  When we see Him provide for us and protect us on a daily basis, we will trust Him as a provider and a protector.  However, I also want to mention this.  When we don’t take the time to look at what God has done, it becomes easier to forget.  When we have experienced hardship in our lives or heard of those that have, it becomes harder to trust God; Not because He is less trustworthy, but because we do not see Him in relation to our circumstance correctly.

This is why it is important for us to take the time, everyday, to look into the word of God.  When we do, we receive a correct image of God, ourselves, and the world around us.

Our God is trustworthy!


The Lord has been mindful of us; He will bless us ~Psalm 115:12
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He is not an idol, made by man.  He hears our prayers and speaks to our hearts.  He reaches out to us and works on our behalf.  He dances over us with singing.(Zephaniah 3:17)  He is so much more than idol.  He is active.

Every morning when we wake up, it is the Lord that has given us another opportunity to live.  It is the Lord that has breathed breath into our lungs.  It is the Lord.

Looking at the world and our lives with this sense of His continual working for and doing, to bless us, changes how we view everything.  It also changes how we see Him.  It allows us to see that He has always been faithful and will continue to be faithful.  Having this view, changes us.  We come to see ourselves as loved and cared for.

Today I would like to challenge you to take the time to look at your life.  What has God done for you?  I want you to think about the simple things and the complex.  What do you have that you take for granted? Who has God blessed you with?  Count your blessings today and look to the One that has made it all possible.  Realize that He is working to protect us, even as we sleep.  He is always mindful of us.(Psalm 115:12)  Let’s attribute this to His character.  He is trustworthy.


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Thanks for taking the time to read through Psalm 115 with me today.  I hope that you were blessed.  I pray that you are strengthened by the word and that God continues to make Himself know to you.

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Getting Focused http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/getting-focused/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/getting-focused/#comments Mon, 12 Sep 2016 22:44:02 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/getting-focused/ Today, I’d like to share with you a few thoughts that I shared in Instagram, this morning. Perhaps you’ll find it encouraging and helpful.  Yes! We all have things to do today. People will tug on us and attempt to pull is in different directions. Our minds will cry out for guidance, but this one […]

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Today, I’d like to share with you a few thoughts that I shared in Instagram, this morning. Perhaps you’ll find it encouraging and helpful. 

Yes! We all have things to do today. People will tug on us and attempt to pull is in different directions. Our minds will cry out for guidance, but this one thing is true. “God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7. Say this with me. “I have a sound mind.” Say it again. “I have a sound mind.”
We must allow the word of God to permeate our being and allow Him to lead us, not the tugging of individuals and systems that need and want us to move as they say. Yes, obey the authority of the land, meet the deadlines, work hard, be successful, but first…find yourself rooted and grounded in Him. Take the time before you go, to stop and seek His direction. Give yourself the freedom your soul needs to receive from Him all that you will require for the day. Take a moment to write down your thoughts and plan for the day ahead of you. If you put Him first, And acknowledge Him in all of your ways, He will make your paths straight and order your steps. 

If you think that I’m just talking to you, I’m not. I’m also talking to myself. I have a million and one things that I need to do today, but only God knows what my human capability for accomplishment is on this day and so, with all that I have and all that I am I take the time first to submit myself to Him. 
I stop to say, “Father, have your way in my life today. Let your peace rule and reign in my mind. I will not allow the fear of failure or rejection be the thing that rules my mind. For that is not the type of mind that you have given me. You have given me a sound mind and I have power.” 
If you are reading this today, I challenge you to take the same stance that I am taking. Don’t be overcome by you todo list. Start with a clean slate and allow the Lord to help you fill it. He will not fail you. Romans 10:11 days that “no one that puts their faith in God shall ever be ashamed.”

I place my faith and trust in Him and I KNOW that HE WILL NOT FAIL ME. I just have to be willing to submit my will to His and follow Him. 

I pray that you are both blessed and motivated by this today. 

Have a wonderful day.  

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Dealing With Rejection  http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/dealing-with-rejection/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/dealing-with-rejection/#comments Fri, 02 Sep 2016 14:59:15 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/09/dealing-with-rejection/ This morning, want to share something with you. I shared it on my Instagram, but I wanted to make sure that I share it with my blog readers as well. I hope that you find encouragement in this. We have all struggled before with being unwanted, unloved, forgotten, uninvited, rejected, and lonely. The pain of […]

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This morning, want to share something with you. I shared it on my Instagram, but I wanted to make sure that I share it with my blog readers as well. I hope that you find encouragement in this.

We have all struggled before with being unwanted, unloved, forgotten, uninvited, rejected, and lonely. The pain of these moments and feelings cause us to bury specific thoughts about ourselves deep within.

Ultimately, we hold on to and carry around the message, from these feelings, of I am unworthy and unlovable. No one could ever say that they have not wrestled with these things. For they come at us at times when we least expect it, by those that we did not expect it from.

However, if we would take a moment to surrender and trust God, we would hear Him say, as our hearts struggle with all of this pain… “I will never let you go.” And if we can believe as our hearts long to, that He means every word of it, we could begin to walk free. Free from our pain. Free from our pasts. Free from the rejection and fear. We could live as who we truly are, not trying to be perfect, so that we may be accepted. Instead just being ourselves.


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Today, I challenge you, as, I have, to look up. Stop what you are doing. Find a window, step outside…do something that would allow you to take a look up at the sky, that you cannot touch. The one that proclaims, with its very existence, the reality of God’s presence, and hear the Lord say

“I will never let you go. I knew you before you were born. I’ve known you every moment of your life. I still know you now. I love you. I will always love you. I will hold you with my arms and never let you go.”

Then take a breath and realize that you mean more to Him than you could ever imagine.

Have a great day. #youareloved #loveofGod

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Allowing the Word of God to Change Your Mind & Renew It http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/allowing-the-word-of-god-to-change-your-mind-renew-it/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/allowing-the-word-of-god-to-change-your-mind-renew-it/#comments Tue, 30 Aug 2016 16:26:40 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=601109 If you are like me, living in the 21st century, which I assume by the fact that you are reading this, that you are, there are situations that come up all of the time that warrant your opinion.  This may not be a public warrant, but there is an inward conversation that takes place. Just […]

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If you are like me, living in the 21st century, which I assume by the fact that you are reading this, that you are, there are situations that come up all of the time that warrant your opinion.  This may not be a public warrant, but there is an inward conversation that takes place.

Just stop to think for a moment.

When changes are happening in your life, community, and the world, you have an opinion.  You may not clearly understand or express this opinion to anyone, but have it.  I want to ask you a question.  What is your opinion based on?  Is it based on facts, the past, your hurts, or the Word of God?

Some people would be inclined to say that their opinions are based on truth, but truth, unless godly is subjective.  There is THE truth, but most situations are base on an occurrence that can be understood differently depending on the perspective of the viewer.  This is now what I am asking you to consider.

I want you to think about the foundations of your opinions because I want to convince you that it is more prosperous to base your opinions on things that cannot be changed or shaken, like the Word of God…THE TRUTH.

I am currently working on a post to be published to this site because one of my readers asked me a question.  This question was an opinion based question, but the truth about me is that I try not to express my opinions unless I know the stand that the Bible takes on it.  Thus, I am taking a bit longer to write it, than I expected.

I have to research the topic and pray for guidance.  I learned this a long time ago.  When I had just gotten married and became a mother, I was full of my own opinions.  God was in the process of changing me and having my own opinions, based on my truth, made it hard for the change to transpire within me.  I found that I had to submit my will and opinions to the Lord, through the Word of God, in order for the change to happen.  That’s why I began to acknowledge my own opinions, but give myself permission to change them based on the word of God.

I found that I needed to have the authority of the unchanging Word to solidify my thoughts and beliefs.  No one can change God or the TRUTH of His Word.  When we stand on His solid foundation, we are strengthened and become confident in who He is and what He has said.  This in turn makes us better and renews our minds.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.  ~Romans 12:2

This renewal process that takes place within our minds changes our entire being.  Our lives become proving ground for the perfect will of God.  We become His living examples of what He finds to be acceptable and good.  This is hard to do when we are stuck in our own ways.

Don’t want to let go of your opinion?  That is what is going to continue to lead you all the days of your life.

If you are being lead by your own opinion, someone may come to you with their own truth.  That person may be more confident, older, or more experienced.  They may have a strong presence that commands your attention and demands you to reconsider their perspectives.  If this happens, you are or can become completely shaken.  Do you know what happens when you and your thoughts are shaken?  You become a double minded man.

For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.  ~James 1:7, 8

Do you remember that I was telling you about being more prosperous because of the fact that you have chosen to submit your opinions to the Lord?  Well this is where the prosperity comes in handy.  You can’t receive anything from God when you are double minded.

You are praying and praying.  Crying out to the Lord.  Yet, you see no fruit from your labor.

Do you wonder why? Well the Bible says that you ask amiss.  And a lot of times its because you asked, but you didn’t do what the Lord told you to do.  There is a prerequisite.  He tells you.  Do not be conformed to the world.  Renew your mind.  Do not expect anything from the Lord, when you have chosen to be double-minded and unstable in your ways.

You have to choose the Lord’s way.

Do you want Him to open doors for you or do you want to go beating down the doors yourself?

I would choose to allow the Lord to do it.  I’ve tried it the other way and it doesn’t work.  When you beat on doors, you hurt your hands and your feelings get hurt.

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.  ~Joshua 1:8

Do you see that?  You have to meditate on the word of God.  You have to keep it in your mouth, both day and night.  You have to watch and observe to do all that it says.  This is how you will prosper.  Not by following every wind of doctrine of every so called celebrity or successful guru that comes your way.  Not even from being strong and wise in your own eyes.

Start listening to people that base their foundational thoughts and lives upon the word of God.  People who don’t mind saying that they were wrong.  People who do as they believe.

As you fill your mind, time, and relationships according to the Word of God, doors will open.  You will see that your life will take a new turn.  You will be more satisfied and, I know, that you will be changed for the better.

If you are wondering how to get started with this process, I suggest that you simply spend time reading the word of God.  From there you can begin to hear and recognize the voice of God.  Then you will be ready to study the word.  Just remember that becoming the woman that God desires you to be is not a quick journey.  It is a lifetime full of experiences that change as you change and are obedient to the Lord.

Until next time, thanks for reading.  I hope you were encouraged.

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Have you ever been in the midst of a situation and wasn’t sure of the direction that your should move in?

Perhaps you are currently in a season of your life where you are waiting on God to make your direction clear.

If this is you, I know from experience that this could be a bit frustrating. You are probably wondering “How am I supposed to wait?”

Bible Verses How to Wait on God

I’ll tell you how.   Patiently. 

Ok…wait. Hear me out. I know that you may not want to wait and you might be very frustrated. However, I also know that while you are waiting on God, patience is building in you, He is clearing the path before you, and He will guide your steps as you move forward.

How do I know these things? Well, the Bible makes it very clear that the steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord.(Psalm 37:23) It also says that those that wait upon the Lord shall have renewed strength. They shall mount up on wings as eagles. They shall walk and not be weary. They shall run and not faint.(Isaiah 40:31) Plus, if you just think about it, waiting produces patience and the patience produces character.(Romans 5:4) The Lord goes before you,(Deuteronomy 31:8) when you trust Him. He sets your feet firmly upon a rock, so that you won’t slip.(Psalm 40:2) He also guides your steps, when you acknowledge Him in all of your ways. (Proverbs 3:6)

Wait a moment. Let’s stop right here. When you find a scripture that has a promise and a contingency, it is important to understand what the contingency requires of you. The reason for this is that if you do not do your part, the promise will not be fulfilled.



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For this particular promise, the Word of God tells us that God will direct our steps, if we acknowledge Him in all our ways. It actually says it this way.

In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path. ~Proverbs 3:6

You have to know that Lord keeps His word. He isn’t a man that He should lie.(Numbers 23:19) You don’t have to think that focusing upon the Lord and doing things according to His word are tedious actions that will get you nowhere. Instead, you must realize that everyone who stands upon the Word of God in life and focuses on the things of God, seeking first His kingdom and righteousness, will have all of the things that they need and want  added to them. (Matthew 6:33, Psalm 34:10)

So where am I going with this?  I’ll tell you where I’m going.

Remember how you were waiting on God to do something? You were wondering about the path that your feet would take in life. Will you meet those goals? Will you accomplish those dreams? Will you reach your full potential? Will you make the wrong move or the right turn. Remember this, it is the Lord that is working in you, both to will and to do for His good pleasure.(Philippians 2:13)  As long as you give yourself over to Him and focus on Him, acknowledging Him in all of your ways, He will direct your steps.

Ok now wait…

Someone one out there is wondering why this is a good thing. They have heard really horrific stories about God leading His people into tragedies and some really troubling situations. They have been afraid of the big man sitting in a chair in the heavens, ready to punish someone with his lightening rod.

Let me tell you this, that’s not an image of God. That is an image is Zeus, a Greek polytheistic view of an idol/Titan; again not God.

God longs to be gracious to us. (Isaiah 30:18) He has a plan and a future for you (Jeremiah 29:10) He is good to those who hope in Him. (Lamentations 3:25) He delivers those that seek Him.

I challenge you today to stop and read Psalms 103. Look at the qualities of our God ask yourself if you had the correct image of Him in your mind. I am telling you to do this because sometimes we don’t. This incorrect image can stop us from trusting Him, waiting upon Him, and knowing that He cares.(1 Peter 5:7)

Remember, there is something for us to do in order not to take the wrong path. We must trust in the Lord, patiently wait on Him, and acknowledge Him in all of our ways. As we do this, we will begin to seek Him and our paths will be made straight.

I don’t know about you, but that should make you confident in how you live your life.

I hope you found encouragement in this today and will trust in the Lord as you patiently wait on Him.

If you have to choose one Bible verse to focus on after reading this post, let it be Proverbs 3:6 “In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.”

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It is the end of the week and the first week of a new season, in my life.  I have spent the entire week doing all that was required of me and more.  My children just went back to school on Monday and I started a new semester in graduate school.  Not only that, but I am now in a new program/college, so I’m having to adjust to how things work.  With all that has been going on, I have not been able to write as I had desired, but I did take some time to reflect on a few lessons from this week.  Some were new lessons and others were reiterated lessons.  I just want to share a few of these with you.

These lessons have come from specific areas of my life, but I think that there are ways that they can be applied in multiple areas as well.

As a Woman

With all of the busy-ness in the air, I had to make sure that I stayed on track with what was happening around me.  There are six people in my family and it is very easy for me to be the last one that is taken care of.  However, when that happens, no one is happy because I am tired and drained.  I can’t really support them the way that I need and want to.  This is why I’ve had to pray for wisdom and to use it.

Here are a few of the lessons that I’ve learned as a woman.  Perhaps, you will find them helpful.

Always have a plan  

I don’t know about you, but when too much is happening in my brain, things don’t go well.  I am not able to give the current situation 100% because I am too busy being concerned about the other 5 things that I have to do.  I may run late or even forget about some other the things that need to be done. For this reason, I believe that it is important to take time, every day or the night before, to make a plan.


I believe that it is important to take time, every day or the night before, to make a plan.
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 Not only do I make a plan, but I get that plan out of my head and onto paper.  This gives me a reference point and allows me to focus on the task at hand.  This week having a plan, definitely came in handy.  My oldest is in high school, my two middle children are in elementary, and I still have a toddler at home.  I still want to maintain my relationship with my husband and other close family and friends.  Being scatter brain would definitely not help my relationships.  🙂

 

Plan, but Be Flexible

Although I have a plan, I can’t be rigid and stuck in that plan.  There are a few different reasons for this.  The first one is the most important.  I have shared this before, but I personally know it to be true.

The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.  ~Proverbs 16:9

No matter what plan we have, we are not sovereign or God.  He has an ultimate plan for our lives and while He does desire for us to plan our way, it is ultimately His direction that we will walk in.  I can set 9,900 tasks to complete for the day, but the Lord knows those which I will really accomplish.  This is why we must remain flexible.  We have to know that He has it all together, even when we do not.

Planning allows us to steward our day.  However, flexibility, leaves room for the things that God has orchestrated to happen. Let’s be honest… the reality of it is that whether we decide to remain flexible or not, the Lord will have His way and things will happen.


the reality of it is that whether we decide to remain flexible or not, the Lord will have His way and things will happen.
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It is just better to plan to be flexible, so that we are able to cope with the change well.  When people don’t cope with change well, they begin to experience anxiety because things did not go the way that they intended for them to go.

But the question is, who is in charge here, us or God?

We must steward, but remain humble and flexible enough to receive His plan for our lives.

This leads to the other reason for flexibility.

Things come up.  People need us.  Schedules change and sometimes, we just need to rest.  Allowing ourselves to remain flexible does not cancel out the plan, it is just the realistic part of planning.

If we remain flexible, things will go better and life will remain enjoyable…trust me on this one.  I know from experience.  🙂

Eat Healthy & Stay Rejuvenated

Whenever I talk to my father about things that are happening in my life.  Before we begin to assess the situation, he always asks me a few questions about my state of mind and my health.

  1. Did you eat and take your vitamins
  2. Were you well rested or tired
  3. Did you exercise or stretch/meditate (in the word of God), or do your affirmations

The point of his questions is not that of the specific details of the activities.  Instead, he is simply asking me if I had taken care of myself this morning or prior to the event that we are about to discuss. After years of my father asking me these questions, I began to realize the difference in my mood when I had taken the opportunity to take care of myself and when I had not


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In those times when I had neglected self-care, I would find that I was more irritable and frustrated.  However, when I had taken the time to do what I needed to do to take care of myself, I functioned better.  My family and friends were more pleased with my presence and everyone is happier.

This week, this was very important.  With having to run so many errands and adjusting to the new schedule that we have, making sure that I took my vitamins, rested at night, exercised and took time to meditate on the Word of God, were keys to my week going well.  I honestly believe that this is one of the reasons why I am not completely  drained or frustrated at the end of the week.

Tests Will Come, but Prayer is Essential

All week, we dealt with different situations.  There were new adjustments that my children had to make with their sleeping, eating, and playing schedules because of school.  They had new teachers and friends.  My schedule took a beating, as we all had to get up earlier and be on a well structured schedule.

On top of the normal things, policies at the schools raised questions that needed our attention.  My textbooks did not arrive on time, which put me behind in my coursework.   When I contacted UPS, the manager told me that my books were “in a box, on a plane somewhere, about to land and be delivered to me in 24 hours.”  😀

Situations like this come up and we have to decide how to handle them.  I had to pray a lot this week.  My children were dealing with situations with their friends and teachers, while I was dealing with my University.  I could have easily lost my temper, but I decided to seek God prior to moving forward with all of my actions.

This did not require an hour-long prayer.  I just simply stopped what I was doing and asked God to help me.  I asked Him to lead me, guide me, and direct me, as to what I should do next.  Then, I moved forward.

Later on, I took more time to submit the details of my concerns to God in prayer.

The great thing about God is that He is very faithful.  When I asked Him for help, He helped me.  There were a few situations that He had me to request further attention from the supervisors and others that He directed me to, simply, leave alone.

I wanted to make sure that I was using my time and energy the right way, so I just did what He led me to do.  I must say, life was less emotional than I know it could have been, if I had done it all my way.

Rest, Reflection, & Relationships are Key

As a woman, I am a relational being.  In many ways I could be considered an extrovert, but I have my introvert ways about me as well.  I like to say that I am me, but I realize that “me” doesn’t help you understand what I’m trying to say.

Rest

I spent a lot of time doing and going this week, but as much as it was important that I plan and execute the plan, it was equally important that I rest and reflect on the situations of life.

Each morning, I take the time to sit down and do nothing.  I might sit outside in my chair and read or I may stay inside.  Yet, I give myself the opportunity to do nothing.  If I choose not to read, I just observe the atmosphere and take in the moment of the day.

I have found that this is an essential part to my functionality throughout the day.  I realized it even more so this week.  No matter what was going on, I had already given myself the time that I needed to rest.

Reflection

Generally, I take some time to sit down and write out my thoughts regarding the previous day’s activities.  Very early on in my marriage, motherhood, and life as a woman, I found that it was beneficial to write out my thoughts.  This gave me the opportunity to think about the things that were happening in my life without having to share every detail of my being with another individual.  While I have trusted relationships, reflection brings about self-awareness and studies have shown that those who are more self-aware are also very aware of others.  As we come to know more about who we are, we learn more about the difference between us and God, ourselves and others, and life.

Reflection on life is essential to personal growth.  It is one of the reasons why, I believe, that my season of life has changed as it has.  If I had not realized specific things about life and my situations, I would not be able to adjust accordingly to the changes that God was wanting to bring about in me.  My character has definitely benefited from reflection.

Relationships

It is not good for us to be alone.  This is something that God made very clear, early on in the book of Genesis.  We are supposed to have relationship with God, family, and friends.  Yet, many times the busy-ness of life drowns out the time for relationships.  However, I have found that it is very important to remember that not only do we need relationship with others, but they need relationship with us a well.

My husband and children not only desire my cooking and driving skills.  They also desire to have my time and attention.  This is one of the reasons why I have not been on social media as much as I have in the past.  The clicking and ticking of my fingers hitting the keyboard, should not outweigh the amount of time that I spend with my family.

I also have friends that are such a great blessing to my life.  They are wise, funny, smart, and caring women of God.  I am so honored that God has given them to me and I have come to realize that relationships have to be cultivated in order to grow.  If they are not cultivated, they will remain as they are and in some situations, they may even die.

Thus, in the midst of all that I have going on in my life, as a woman, I will continue to make time for relationships.

Next Lessons of the Week

I did not know that this post would be so long and I don’t want to overwhelm you with too many details, so I am going to make my Parenting Tips and Marriage Tips of the Week very brief.   Perhaps, I can expand on these in the near future.

As A Wife

I have noticed that no matter how busy life can get there are specific things that I can do to maintain and improve my relationship with my husband. Here are a few of my tips for the week.

  1. Listen & Encourage–  Many times, my husband just wants me to listen to him.

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     He isn’t looking for me to tell him what to do or how to do it.  He just wants to have me as an open ear and heart that is on his side.  I take his concerns to the Lord and allow Him to be all that my husband needs.  Then, when the opportunity is right and I see that there is room for it, I encourage my husband.  Perhaps I just share with him the fact that I appreciate him as a husband, father, and friend. I could also communicate to him through my embrace that he is respected and loved.  I find that these two things are very important to building a healthy and prosperous relationship with my husband.
  2. Be Available–  With all that I have going on, it is important that I make time for my husband.  This might mean that I remain flexible throughout my day to do or be there for him, when he requests it.  Now his requests may not always be verbal, but I have to pay attention to the requests that he makes. Allowing myself to remain available to my husband affords us the ability to continue to grow.  With this he is continually reminded that I am trustworthy, dependable, and faithful to him.  (Of course there are times when I cannot pull away from a meeting or something of that nature, but I must communicate that I will get back to him as soon as I am free.)
  3. Find Something to Laugh About–  Life is tough enough.  We don’t want to go through the moments without a friend to laugh with.  There is no better partner for this than your husband.  Listen attentively to his jokes and laugh, when you find them funny.  Try to be light-hearted and care free at times.  Tickle, wrestle, or just poke him.  If he isn’t a touchy type of guy, find ways that you two can laugh together.  Laughter makes the heart healthy and brightens up a relationship.  Sometimes, my husband and I just look at each other and start to giggle because, well…it’s silly.  It helps our relationship to stay fun and can become useful in the moments when times are hard.  This week, it was important for us to laugh together.  We were so busy and had so many different situations come up that laughing gave us a breath of fresh air.

As A Parent

My tips of the week as a parent are very simple, self-explanatory, and effective.

  1. Listen well– Make sure to pay attention to your children when they are speaking to you.  Make eye contact and actively listen to what they are saying.  This builds their confidence and helps them to know that they are loved.
  2. Make time for your children–  This means that sometime we have to say no to something else, but making time for our children allows us to do things with them that brings the quality above the quantity.  Perhaps you could read a book, color a picture, toss the football, or play hopscotch.  Doing these things with our children show them that we care and make it so that they don’t feel deprived of our attention
  3. Just Be There. It Means A LOT–  Sometimes there isn’t anything to do.  Our children want to play with their friends, watch television, or read by themselves.  However, the fact that we are in the room makes them feel loved and secure.  I have seen this with my children.  It is especially true when they spend 8 hours or more, away from my husband and I, in the presence of other adults that are not family.  This also helps them to feel confident.

I hope that you have found my tips of the week helpful, encouraging, and inspiring.  I look forward to hearing your thoughts on them and how you have or plan to implement them.

Until next time,

Thanks for reading!

 

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On Matters of the Heart: The One Who Hurts http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/on-matters-of-the-heart-the-one-who-hurts/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/on-matters-of-the-heart-the-one-who-hurts/#comments Wed, 17 Aug 2016 12:30:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=590536 Last time that we discussed hurt, we took a look at the person who is hurt.  We looked at what needs to be done in order to move forward from a place of being hurt.  We discussed boundaries and the need for wise Counsel, as you are moving from the place of being hurt and […]

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Last time that we discussed hurt, we took a look at the person who is hurt.  We looked at what needs to be done in order to move forward from a place of being hurt.  We discussed boundaries and the need for wise Counsel, as you are moving from the place of being hurt and offended to being free and forgiving.

Today, I want to take a look and the other side of that hurt coin.  The one who hurts.

Now, if you have experienced being hurt and have not, whether you tried to or not, dealt with it in the proper manner, the pain of the hurt was able to seep into our heart.  If this happened you allowed bitterness and anger to become wedged within the chambers of your heart.  If this is true, you may have found that your actions, words, and even your thoughts have begun to change.

The truth is that we are all, in many ways, a product of our environment.  The things, situations, and people that interact with us on a daily basis or even on an occurrence, have an opportunity to plant seed in to our hearts that can quickly take root. I believe that this is why God tells us in His word to guard our hearts with all diligence,  (Proverbs 4:23) for out of it flows the issues of life.  He didn’t say that out of it will flow all of the great dreams of our lives.  No, He said that our issues would come out of our hearts.

Not only will our issues come our of our hearts, but if there is goodness within us that will come out.  Yet, if there is evil within us, that will come out too. When we are dealing with or have buried pain from hurtful situations, issues… they will also come out of our mouths.

For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. (Luke 6:45)

If you take a moment to think about it, it is not only our actions that hurt people, but it is often our words, as well.  We speak damaging words to other people, without even realizing that what we have said has the capacity to destroy them, in many ways.  If we were to view things from God’s eyes, we would see that our tongues are swords, cutting others on the way in and on the way out.  Leave it to a heart that is hurting and the target will not only be broken, but demolished.  If you can recognize yourself in these words, I want to tell you that you are not alone.  It is just a sign that you are hurt.

Why?

Well, you’ve heard this before, but it’s really true.  Hurt people, hurt people.

They do it unknowingly, most of the time.  It starts with the pain that is within them and needs to be let go of, but because of unforgiveness, the hurt turns in to a weapon.  In many ways, the hurt person is simply trying to protect herself from other forms of hurt, without realizing that the chosen weapon of protection is not a shield, but a sword.  This is when problems arise.

If you have found yourself in this place, let me tell you that you don’t have to stay here.  Perhaps you have been hurting people, unawares.  Maybe you aren’t even to the place of hurting people yet.  You are just thinking thoughts, that if they came out of your mouth or would be acted upon, would hurt someone.  If this is you, please, please keep reading.

The first thing to do is to declare that you will be honest with yourself and with God, no matter what you find out about yourself.

The second thing to do is to ask for forgiveness.  You are asking forgiveness for hurting others.  Next, forgive.  Forgive yourself and the person/people that hurt you.  You may have to go back to the situation and think about what happened.  You may have to journal it and hash it out, but you need to get to the root of your problem, so that forgiveness can happen.  Finally, you have to commit to renewing your mind and being a doer of the word.

God wants to bring about a change in your life, but He will not force His goodness upon your life, if you are not interested in having it.  When you are a person that hurts others, you know that it comes from your past.  It comes from your own brokenness.  It comes from fear.  It comes from desiring control.  You have to be willing to let these things go in order to be set free.

If you are reading this, and don’t quite understand this position, God bless you.  However, I honestly believe that we have all been in a place like this, at one point in out lives or another.  Maybe you could not recognize it, when in it.  Maybe you did.  We are all different, but I truly believe that we are all similar in this.  None of us, really want to remain in this place.

So, what’s next?

Well, I suggest that you pray.

  1. Pray for the person that hurt you and pray for yourself.(Luke 6:28)
  2. Trust God to fight your battles.(Romans 12:19)
  3. Renew your mind daily. (Romans 12:2)
  4. Practice what you read and don’t just read it.(James 1:22)

If you do this things, you will move from the place that you are in now, to the place where you desire to be, free from the pain and free to love.

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Have you ever stopped for a moment to think about who you are and what that means?  I know that I have.

Today’s woman struggles with so much.  Women of the past wanted the opportunities that we have today, but were banned from having them.  Yet, we, as women of the 21st century, struggle with having our God-given roles and the open doors of opportunities that rest at our feet, for the taking.

When we are given so many opportunities, without a clear understanding of who we are, we are liable to run in every direction, unknowingly, attempting to be someone that we are not.  However, when we know who we are, we will only make the choices that we are called to make.  We will step into the opportunities that fit our call.

Now you might think that I want to discuss with you, who you are as an individual.  Instead, I want to take a look at who the Bible says that we are.  What does God say about us.  This is the perfect starting place.  For it is here that we can begin to know the truth about who we are.

Let’s take a what the Bible says about us as women.

The first appearance of a woman was in Genesis 2:22-24 where it says

And the Lord God made the rib (which He had taken from the man) into a woman.  And He brought her to the man.  And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.  She shall be called Woman because she was taken out of man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.

In this first instance of the woman’s appearing on the scene of humanity, she is made from an intricate part of the man, Adam.  She is brought to the man, as a gift from God and He recognizes her as something special.  It as if he is in awe.  He says this is me.  She is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.  We are the same, but different; a compliment to one another.  Thus, he rationalized within himself that a man should leave all that he has known to cleave to his wife because they are made for one another.  They shall become one flesh.

There is a whole sector of women that find this portion of scripture degrading and humiliating.  I am not talking to those women.  Only God can change their minds.  Instead I am talking to the woman who is a wife or wants to be one, someday.

This is the first time that we see a woman in the bible and, I think that, it is fantastic the way that she is presented, both to us and to Adam.

Let me show you how I see it.

God had created everything else in the world and Adam had the opportunity to look around at those amazing things.  He looked up and saw the sky.  He looked down and saw the grass beneath his feet.  He looked around and saw the trees, named the animals, and even was able to take a look at his own reflection in the waters of Eden.  He had even been given work to do.  He was to tend to the garden of Eden, work and keep it.  Yet, in this world of having all that could satisfy him, he felt and was alone.

Stop…

Do you recognize something here?  In this place of being provided with everything that He could ever need, this man felt and was alone.  He had his needs met, but he had a want, and a longing that had not yet been fulfilled.  Then this happened.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone.  ~Genesis 2:19

The Lord knew that Adam would still feel alone, but He presented him with the animals of the field and the fowl of the air.  He allowed Adam to name them, and he did.  Yet, that need was still not met.  When he was finished with work, he had no one to come home to; No one to cuddle with;  No one with who he could connect with in the most intimate way possible.

In this space in time, when woman had not yet appeared on the scene of creation, in the flesh, the earth was void of her presence.  It was good, but Adam, its governor longed for something.  He had no one that was suitable to come alongside him and help him in his doings.  No one was available to complement him.  No one was there to talk to him, as he worked; to encourage him, as he rested; to lavish her love upon him.  At this point in creation, Adam had been so full, yet desired something more and only God knew what…excuse me, who that was.  It was Eve, his woman.

When we read the bible like this, there should be a dignity that rises up within us.  We should not feel threatened by the presence of a man because we are what he wants, at the end of the day.  Now, I do not dare to place us, as women, above God.  For He alone can satisfy us all.  I am only saying that when God was looking outside of Himself for the necessities in the earth that would bring Adam pleasure, He deemed it necessary to present Him with Eve.  She was the conclusion, the big finale of His presentation.  She was the “wow” factor.

Should we not take pride in being a man’s wife?  Yet, society has brought to us this idea that to be a man’s wife and to be committed to him is a degrading thing.  We are encouraged to leave the home and attempt to be more than his wife.  We are served on a platter of world goods the idea that to “merely” be one’s wife is to be less than because you should be more.  Is being a wife not enough?

I want you to realize that you, as a wife, are not less than.  You were created for this role, in life.  Your part is very important upon the scene of humanity.  Regardless of the mistakes that Eve, you, or I make, we were purposed to be here upon this planet in the position that we are in.

As my husband’s wife, I do for him, what no other person upon this planet can do. I serve my husband’s heart.

The heart of her husband trusts safely in her, so that he have no need of plunder. ~Proverbs 31:11

He knows that his heart is safe with me, regardless of the state that it is in at the time.  I am able to see in to the depths of his being and to pray for his needs to our God.  I am able to see his strengths and weaknesses.  Yet, I do not expose him.  I encourage him and love upon him.  I offer him my respect because it is one of his deepest needs.

If I were to leave my place, I would leave him exposed to the world and the Jezebel like woman.  She wishes to give him over to Satan, to dispose of him, and to leave him utterly confused & destroyed. For if she can destroy one man, she can destroy many.  For she is being led by Satan to destroy the world, one man at a time.

We as women, want to be needed and wanted, in this world.  We want to fulfill a role that can never be fulfilled.  We want to do what can never be done and on a grand scale.  Have we never stopped to think for a moment that we are already doing that.  When we are the women that God has called us to be, we are able to do something that no one else could ever do, hold the heart of one man.  The man that God created. That is an honorable position and it is hard.

Let’s not down play this.

I asked God to let me change the world and it all started with the marriage of my husband.  After him, I was blessed with four beautiful children.  I don’t need to look beyond this call to find something else.   It is within this place of accepting my call that God has so graciously opened up other doors for me.  He has shown me how and who else I can help, but I had to accept and walk in this first.

I challenge you to know and to identify your place.  If you have been called as a wife or desire to be a wife, you have to long for the role of service.  Not just to be loved and lavished upon, but to love and to hold your husband’s heart.  You have to be willing to abandon all that you know, according to the world, to learn the truth that God has set within you.

It is not foolish to trust the Lord and your husband.  It is not foolish to pray that your marriage work and to work hard in it.  Yes, the enemy and the world is busy pulling apart marriages, but that doesn’t have to be your story.  I am a living witness that this truth starts within us as women.  We have to look at the world and the devil, square in the face and say “You cannot have my husband.  He is mine.”  We have to tell the mountains of divorce, separation, chaos, and adultery to move out of our ways and out of our homes.

This takes bravery, consistency, patience, faithfulness, and trust in God to make it happen.  There is a lot up against you, but if you know your place, nothing can take it away from you. You have to pray consistently.  You have to fill yourself with the word of God.  You have to be willing to turn away from the worldly things, the television shows, the wrong books, the wrong people & relationships.  You know the ones that I am talking about.  I live in today’s society, as well ,and this is a battle that has to be fought on a daily basis.

We are in a war.  It is a war for the our souls and a war for the hearts of men.  God has placed us, a band of women in this position because no one else can do it.  No one else will love God and His man enough to take a stand and fight the great fight of faith. To protect and serve the heart of man take a woman.

Will you?

Will you get focused enough to really know and take your place?

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Sharing Scripture 16 http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/sharing-scripture-16/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/08/sharing-scripture-16/#comments Sun, 14 Aug 2016 15:20:34 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=110773 Let us find guidance in what the Lord tells us, through Scripture.  His truth will lead us in to a place of great content, if we allow it.  Today, Hebrews 13:5 is an admonishment to be satisfied with life.  It is an encouragement to strive, not to gain, but to be content; to look around […]

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Let us find guidance in what the Lord tells us, through Scripture.  His truth will lead us in to a place of great content, if we allow it.  Today, Hebrews 13:5 is an admonishment to be satisfied with life.  It is an encouragement to strive, not to gain, but to be content; to look around at what the Lord has so graciously blessed us with, and be thankful for that.

This is so different from all that the world encourages us to do.  It says, get more, do more, and be more.  It tells us to do these things because, well, you never know what tomorrow holds.  You might not have this or that tomorrow.  You may not be able to acquire the things that you desire tomorrow, so you should strive to get all that you can today.

This getting, drains us.  It causes us to be overworked, over stretched, and unsatisfied.  Yet in his Word, God calls us to be satisfied with all that we have; not to look on the possessions and blessings of others covetously.  Why?

It’s simple.  We should not fear because the Lord will never leave us or forsake us.  He is there to provide every need that we have.  The coveting, grows out of a fearful place of being without.  Coveting is an expression of fear, according to this scripture

So we may boldly say:  “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear.  What can man do to me?” ~Hebrews 13:6

Therefore, I want to encourage you today, as I have been encouraged by the Word of God,  to come out of the fearful place of trying to obtain more.  Step in to the place of accepting God’s gifts and be pleased with what you have.  Be thankful for all of the blessings that God has provided you.

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This month, I am taking another trip with one of my favorite fiction writers, Francine Rivers.  Last month, I read “Redeeming Love,” another one of her great books.

I have been looking forward to reading “Bridge to Haven” for quite some time, but I haven’t made it a priority to sit down and read it.  Since I had put myself on a book budget, I decided to check it out of the library and read it.  If you would like to join me in reading it, let me know.  If you have already and would like to share some non-spoiling details with me, leave a comment below. 🙂

Bridge to Haven
Francine Rivers
Inspirational Fiction
Tyndale
2014
Hardcover
469
Amazon

To those who matter in 1950s Hollywood, Lena Scott is the hottest rising star to hit the silver screen since Marilyn Monroe. Few know her real name is Abra. Even fewer know the price she’s paid to finally feel like she’s somebody.

To Pastor Ezekiel Freeman, Abra will always be the little girl who stole his heart the night he found her, a wailing newborn abandoned under a bridge on the outskirts of Haven. Zeke and his son, Joshua—Abra’s closest friend—watch her grow into an exotic beauty. But Zeke knows the circumstances surrounding her birth have etched scars deep in her heart, scars that leave her vulnerable to a fast-talking charmer who lures her to Tinseltown. Hollywood feels like a million miles from Haven, and naive Abra quickly learns what’s expected of an ambitious girl with stars in her eyes. But fame comes at a devastating price. She has burned every bridge to get exactly what she thought she wanted. Now all she wants is a way back home.

In this riveting and highly anticipated tale of temptation, grace, and unconditional love, New York Times bestselling author Francine Rivers delivers big-canvas storytelling at its very best.

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There is a time and season for everything under heaven. ~Ecclesiastes 3:1

I have personally learned this on my journey of this thing called life.  I have had to give myself the time that is needed to be in each season that has been set before me.

There have been times when I have had to wait for things and times when I have been able to move forward.

I have experienced seasons of great success and seasons of epic failures.

I have had my challenges and my wins.

What I am most thankful for in it all is that I have never been alone.  The Lord has always been right there beside me, guiding me along the way.

When I thought that my failures would utterly destroy me, the Lord showed me how to turn them into great leaning experiences.  When I thought that the waiting would kill me, the Lord showed me how to turn the waiting into patience.

All things work together for the good of them that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.  ~Romans 8:28

I have learned this personally.  For there is nothing that has been set in my path, which the Lord has not taken, at some point and time in my life, to make it work for my good.  I count that as a great blessing.

So now, I am in a season where I know that a change is coming, but I am waiting for it to happen.  It reminds me of what it was like when I was having my babies.  I would be at my 36th to 38th week, of pregnancy, and know that my baby could come at any moment.  My body would remind me of the impudent arrival of a little one, but no one could tell me when he or she would get here.  I just had to prepare and wait.

In God’s timing, all of my children arrived healthy and on time.  It wasn’t the time that I had set, but they were on time because their birthday’s had been ordained by the Lord before they were even a thought in my mind.  I just had to trust God and be pregnant.

That’s how this is.  There are things in my life that I am waiting on.  There are things that I am planning.  There are things that I am ready to walk out, but I realize that I am still in the preparation stages.  My season of change has not come, so I am in a season of waiting, planning, preparing.  Yet, I hope and am expectantly awaiting the arrival of the promise that God has given to me.

Do you know what this is like?

Have you ever waited for something, whether it be tangible or not, to happen in your life.  Have you waited to birth that baby, but needed the birthing process to start; Yet you knew that you had no control?

As I write this, I am even reminded of the birthing pains that come before a baby arrives.  There are all types of contractions, emotions, instincts that come.  These things proceed the arrival of a beautiful gift from heaven that no one has yet seen.  This is how all of our gifts from God are.

When seasons change and we are blessed by God, who really imagine what it would really be like to receive the blessing?  Once we behold it, we are blown away by all that God has truly given us.

My prayer for you today, as it is for myself, is that you would be able to trust God until your season changes; that you would trust Him in the preparation and planning stages.   Have confidence in the Lord.  For He always finishes what He starts.  He is the Author and the Finisher of our faith.  He leaves nothing undone, and that includes our lives.  So, surrender all that you are and all that you have to Him, for in His timing, seasons change.

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Because a thing seems difficult for you, do not think it is impossible. Marcus Aurelius

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Open Letter to a Celebrity http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/04/open-letter-to-a-celebrity/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/04/open-letter-to-a-celebrity/#respond Fri, 29 Apr 2016 19:21:20 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=459073   When was the last time that someone held you accountable Told you when you were right and wrong When was the last time that they didn’t just listen to your beat or dance to your song How long did you spend thinking about the decisions that you’ve made Not just about the opportunity or […]

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When was the last time that someone held you accountable
Told you when you were right and wrong
When was the last time that they didn’t just listen to your beat or dance to your song
How long did you spend thinking about the decisions that you’ve made
Not just about the opportunity or how much you’ll get paid
When did you consider your influence and the power to inspire change
Have you realized that you could motivate some to do good and others to fail
Maybe you don’t realize they’re hanging on to your coattail
You say you want to make a statement and you have something to say
Have you considered your actions
Humbled yourself for a moment to just pray
Why are you so adamant on going against the grain
Not the one that makes you popular but the one that declares His name
I know your not religious or at least when it comes to this
You believe you can do whatever you want and still receive His blessed kiss
Now up until this moment, you were considering my words
Don’t let what others say confuse you and make you act absurd
Yes there are things that you can do which defame your name
They make you look bad and bring you shame
There are those that may pay you very well
But the price that you pay…it’s your soul that you sell
Now consider my question and consider your call
Do you have someone to hold you accountable at all

Sincerely a praying sister concerned and watching,

Makeda

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Why do we struggle with identity http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/04/why-do-we-struggle-with-identity/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/04/why-do-we-struggle-with-identity/#comments Tue, 12 Apr 2016 17:00:37 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=408717 As women living in today’s society, it so hard to identify ourselves.  I can personally say that I have been through this.  Often times, life wants and tries to identify me by what I’m currently doing, how many children I have, my work status, and even my husband.  While all of these are apart of […]

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As women living in today’s society, it so hard to identify ourselves.  I can personally say that I have been through this.  Often times, life wants and tries to identify me by what I’m currently doing, how many children I have, my work status, and even my husband.  While all of these are apart of who I am, they are not my identity.

If this is true, why do we struggle with it and how can we overcome it?

Studies have shown, that women are relational by nature.  We want to connect, deeply, with others. Yet, we generally fear that we are too much for those around us and once those in relationship with us realize it, they will run away in fear, leaving us relation-less.

Due to this relational nature and our desire, we tend to dive completely, heart first, in to our relationships and endeavors. By doing this, we find that we care deeply for the people that we care for.  We find that we want to nurture and help them to be the best that is humanly possible.  We take the opportunity, while in relationships with others, to cultivate our love and compassion for them throughout our relationship.  We want them to know how important they are.  In essence, when women love, we love hard.

These loving relationships, if we are not careful, can begin to completely consume us.  And this total immersion into the who and what, that we are into, begins to become how we identify ourselves.  We become proud of our connections and work.

Remember, when we love we love hard.  Do you know anyone that, when they truly love a person or thing, hides it.  No, you don’t because it doesn’t happen that way.  Love proclaims, I love _____.

So what is the problem with this?

Well the problem is that things and people change.  They were never meant to be the indenting factors in our lives.  We were never intended to mimic or display the characteristics of a person or a thing.  Not our husbands or our children.  Not our jobs or our passions.  No matter how great they are.

When I was first married, I had completely lost my identity.  I, like many other women, love my husband passionately and this caused me to immerse myself in who he is.  However, this total consumption of him, continually, caused me to forget who I was.  While as a wife, I was called to take on my husband’s name and cling to him, I was never called to become him.  Together we become one, but this is through a process of continually becoming the unified couple that God has joined together in Him.

Not becoming him.

Identifying myself by my husband, left me lost, hurting, and confused.  It also brought problems into our relationship.  I had to begin to learn who I was again and what it meant to be me.  Thankfully I had help with this.

Yet, my help was not one that many would think of.  It came from God.

Because of how lost, broken, and confused I was, I began to cry out to God for help and He led me to His Word.  Through it, I began to see that I could be passionately in love with my husband and still be me.  The me that God created me to be, not the me that I was trying to be for my husband.

I began to learn that God had created me a certain way and this complimented my husband, children, relationships, career, and so much more.  I began to understand that my identity in Him was more important than any other identity that I would ever attempt to take on.

Today, my husband says that one of the reasons why our marriage works is because he is he and I am me. 🙂   However, the struggle to get here was…well hard.

Now how did I get from point A to where I am now?

It was not easy.  I had to begin to let the Word of God consume me.  Some people thought that I was changing, but if I am to be completely honest, I was.  I was changing from the rejected, fearful, and confused little girl who the world and situations had created, into a confident, loved, and courageous woman who God has always known that I was.

I did this one day at a time…one page at a time…one prayer at time.

It’s like the Bible says in Isaiah 28:10 ,

…precept upon precept,

line upon line,

here a little there a little

Yet, at that time, I was in such a hurry.  I thought that if I did not hurry up, I would never become…me.

The truth is that God loves me so much that He was going to make sure that I was completely identified by Him.  His plan was never to leave me the way that I was, so I had to learn to trust Him.  The process has been difficult and I continually find that life attempts to define me, but I trust in Him.

The situation for you is that same.  He loves you too.

If you have read my blog for some time, you know that I have a few favorite scriptures.  One of them is 1 Peter 5:7

casting all  your care upon Him,  because He cares for you.

This has always reminded me that no matter how unloved I feel, I am loved.  No matter how much I want to hold on to the situation and take care of it myself, there is a Great and Mighty God that wants to do it more and He does it a lot better than I ever could.

Today I want to encourage you to take that first step in solving the issue of displaced identity.  Read Psalm 139 and see what the Lord says about you.  Think about how it makes you feel when you realize how much He loves you.  Do you see how He sees you?  How can it change how you see yourself?  Take a moment, a piece of paper, and pen.  Write out your thoughts.  This is how your process with begin.  With looking at God and becoming aware of your own feelings & emotions.

I look forward to hearing from you. Leave me a comment below and share your thoughts with me on this topic.  If you don’t want to share below, just send me an email at info@beingmrsmom.com

Remember, you are loved.
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5 Reasons Why You Don’t Always Have To Be Strong http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/03/5-reasons-why-you-dont-always-have-to-be-strong/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2016/03/5-reasons-why-you-dont-always-have-to-be-strong/#comments Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:35:41 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=277516 My entire adult life, I have been married and a mother.  I had to mature very quickly in order to fulfill my role as mother and wife. I remember when I was a child, I wanted to hurry up and become a grown woman.  I didn’t know that it would come so soon. However, when […]

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My entire adult life, I have been married and a mother.  I had to mature very quickly in order to fulfill my role as mother and wife. I remember when I was a child, I wanted to hurry up and become a grown woman.  I didn’t know that it would come so soon.

However, when the time came, I stepped into my shoes as mother and wife.  I did my best in everything and I learned how to be strong.  Over time, being strong began to take a toll on me.

My friends seemed to think that I didn’t need encouragement or a helping hand because, I was always doing those things for them.

It wasn’t that I didn’t need it.  It was something completely different.

When I was in the first year of my marriage and had just had my son, I had an encounter. This encounter would begin to shape my life for years and I didn’t understand why until recently.

At this vulnerable and very impressionable stage in my life, I turned to a minister that I thought could help me.  I thought he would lead my husband and I, as we traveled the road of learning to be great parents and spouses.  In my heart, I longed for a word that would show us how to walk with God and with one another.

This leader would speak into my life at various points. I remember going to him because I had found that I was different from my peers at the time.  They were all single and doing things that 20 year olds do.  However, I was a mother and a wife.  I was in the military and I owned my own home.  I had more in common with the 30 and 40-year-old women, than I did with the women that were my age.  His advice to me was simple.  He said show yourself friendly.  If you want a friend be a friend.

That is exactly what I did.  I was there for people as I had wanted them to be there for me, but when I needed them, they were not there.

I have to admit that their unavailability, allow God to be there for me more and more.  However, I began to build up this aspect of myself that had to be strong because if I became weak, no one would be able to help my friends and my friends wouldn’t be able to help me.

I couldn’t understand why thing were this way, but I never gave it any thought until one day.  My family and I were over 2,500 miles away in a new state.  I didn’t know anyone and no one knew me.  I started thinking about all of my relationships and my desire to have people in my life that genuinely cared for me as much as I did for them.  I saw that when I was strong and helpful, people clung to me.  However, I also began to realize that those types of relationships were not healthy for myself of my friends, so I began to make some changes.

When my friends would call, I would listen more.  When they awaited my answer to their problem, I asked them questions about what they were going to do.

At the time I was also going through some training as a Rehabilitation Counselor and I was learning that there is power is asking questions that are not leading.  I started telling myself that in order to truly build up my friends, I had to back off and allow God to do His work through the Holy Spirit in their lives.  I could not solve everything for them.

Setting Boundaries

I stopped answering the phone at 2 o’clock in the morning and worrying about how they were going to fix their lives.  Instead, I fell on my knees and I prayed for them.

When I wasn’t able to handle their lack of desire to do and be better, I said so and then asked them what they wanted me to do to help them.  If their expectations where what I could handle, I did it.  If they weren’t, I simply stated this.  I had to make sure that my friends understood that I was being strong for them, but in another way.  I was setting some healthy boundaries.

Do you know what happened?

My friends started to grow up.  They no longer expected me to be strong and they began to make better choices in their own lives.

Thinking on this helped me to realize that so many women are always trying to be strong.  We are strong because it is always projected that in order to be great you have to be the stronger one.

Why do we fight it?

In our society, it is never encouraged to be the weaker vessel.  Why?

They say that only the strong survive.  They also tell us that what we want, is to survive.

Well, I want to challenge that thought.  I want to thrive.  Not only do I want to thrive, but I want to live  because I am alive.  I am not dead and avoiding death is not the sole purpose of my life.

This is why so many women have trouble submitting to their husbands.  They feel that if they submit, it means that they are weak.

YES!!! It does.  It means that you and I are the weaker vessel in our marriages.  We should be proud of that fact.  What woman, honestly, wants to be married to a man that is weaker than she is?  He could not protect her or their family.  She would have to do it all.

If we are to be honest, in order to thrive as a married couple…be prosperous and develop well, as a married couple, we all have to love each other well.

Do you know that it wasn’t until I took this stand in ALL of my relationships that my quality of life began to improve.

Here are the 5 things that I learned.

1. Always being strong drains you

I found that being strong left me with little energy.  I had to be strong enough to listen to people’s problems and to solve them.  I had to be strong enough to take what they threw my way and not flinch.  I had to always be ready.  This was tiring.

2. If you are always strong, you leave no power for God’s strength

You have probably heard this before, but I am going to tell you again.  God has given us strength for this life, but He also knows that there will be specific points, where He will need to be strong for us.  These times allow Him to show us how much He cares for us.

“For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 2:10

Yet when we cover up our weakness and pretend to be strong through it all, we leave no room for Him to be God in our lives.  In our strength, we tell Him, “I don’t need You to be strong for me.”

3.  Being strong all of the time tells everyone else in your world that you don’t need them

Just like our strength communicates to God that we don’t need Him, other people in our lives begin to receive the same message.  They feel that they are not strong enough to help us because we have it all taken care of.  We make them think that we are super human, when in reality, we struggle just like they do.

4.  Always being strong can lead to pride and pride leads to a fall

When we are always strong, we can begin to fool ourselves in to thinking that we don’t need anyone.  We feel that no one is capable of helping us and with this, pride begins to move into our lives.  Pride can be very dangerous because it takes away our ability to see all of the needs that we have.  The only way for us to recognize those needs is for something to happen, the fall…

5.  It might be someone’s else turn

Have you ever thought that perhaps your strength was standing in the way of someone else being strong?  I didn’t until it happened to me.  I had a friend that was really strong.  She was so strong that she would not let me help her.  I had never been that way, but her actions caused me to wonder if my other friends had perceived me as such.  I waited a while for an opportunity to show her how much I cherished our friendship, but that opportunity never arrived.  I had asked to help and volunteered, but she never would take any type of help, encouragement, or friendly gesture of caring through gifts.

This relationship showed me that sometimes it’s just not our turn to be strong.  It might be someone else’s turn to be strong and we need to back off.  From then on, I wanted to do my best to allow my friends to be strong for me and I would continue to do the same thing, when needed.

If you don’t get anything else out of this, I want you to know that you don’t have to do it all or be it all to everyone.  All you have to do is be you and give this life all that you’ve got.  Your strength is not who you are.  It is a quality that you possess.  It also does not define you.  You are so much more than one word, strong.  There is great value in you, but in order for you to see it, you’re going to have to step out of your own strength and into God’s strength.  There is a time and place for everything.  Just know that when you decide you don’t want to be strong, there is still greatness in you.

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Are you successful?

Do you feel successful?  Why or why not?

If you answered no…what would it mean to you if you could, honestly, say yes?

 

For a long time, I struggled with this question.  In my mind, I had always known what it was that I wanted to do and that I would be successful doing it, but as my life and the dynamic of it changed, my idea of success changed.

Let me preface this… I am about to talk about something that I have not talked about publicly before, not to this degree, anyway. Ok.  Now that I’ve said it, let’s get into it.

For a long time, I found myself in a place where I thought I was enough.  I felt capable of doing what I was called to do and I had the education to do it.  However, due to what I had been taught, I went to those who were in authority for approval and, well, they disapproved.  They didn’t disapprove because they had tested my knowledge or life skills.  They disapproved because of two reasons.

  1. They did not know me
  2. I did not have a piece of paper to prove that I was qualified

This world is full of standards, I do understand why, but sometimes those standards disqualify the very people that have been qualified by a higher power…God. On the pathway of qualifications, wordly standards crush people.

In his book, “Read for your life,” Pat Williams talks about education.  He says that the normal masters degree requires a student to read a minimum of 50 books on one specific topic.  After reading these books and immersing herself in the topic, the student is then required to write about the topic.  This writing, proves the degree to which she has learned the material.  From there, an educator, who has assigned the readings, takes the writing and examines it.  When this process if finished, if to the standard set, the student is given a masters degree in a specific topic.  She has now been deemed an expert in her field.

After reading this, I once again felt the need for validation.  Isn’t that what the process of obtaining a degree is all about?

However, Pat Williams put a different spin on this, without disqualifying the necessity of education itself.

Before we go any further, let me ask you a question. Has your level of education had an impact on what you believe you are capable of doing? If your answer is yes, why? Keep this answer in your mind.

Pat Williams said that the average American does not read at all.  They spend so much time watching television and doing other things, which do not educate them, that to be an expert in a specific field, in relation to our peers, requires very little.

Ok, ok…I’ll explain.

We are going to do a little bit of critical thinking here.  Make yourself a promise.  Say, “I will finish reading this article.”  Go ahead, say it.

Did you say it?

Now…

If A is true, then B is true,

If B is true, then C is also true

This means that A and C are both true

It will make sense in a moment.

Here is A:  According to the world’s standards,  a person who spends time immersed in books, reading approximately 50 of them, studying, and researching a specific topic is an expert.

Do you agree with that statement? Is it true or false?

My answer is yes, A is true.

Here is B:  Statistics have shown that the majority of people in America spend little to no time reading, on any given topic.  They spend more time immersed in electronic games, making a living, and social activities.

Do you agree with this statement?  Is it true or false?

My answer is yes, B is true.

Here is C:  If an individual spends her time immersed in books, approximately 50 of them, reading, studying and researching a specific topic, regardless of the lack of certifying authority, she has now become an expert.

Is C true?

My answer is yes, C is true.

If we are to think on this topic logically, both the individual with the certifying authority and the one that lacks the certifying authority are experts.

So why, was I so easily disqualified?  It was because my expertise was not recognized.  No one at the upper level of that industry had taken the time to examine my qualifications for authority.  Instead they dismissed me and ultimately, I disqualified myself.

What is your purpose?  Why are you on this earth?  Are you living out your dreams?  If you answered no, why not?  Have you disqualified yourself?

For almost 10 years, I allowed those words to echo in my head.  I felt that I was not enough.  I often times attempted to convince myself that I was, but I had not been allowed to do what I was called to do because someone didn’t invest the time required to investigate my knowledge.

In many ways, I felt unsuccessful.

I never disqualified myself as a mother or wife.  My teacher was experience and no one was going to tell me that she had not done well in teaching me the best way to be me for my family.

However, this same message did not permeate into my vocational purpose until I was working on my masters degree and they told me.  What did “they,” the educators tell me?  They said that everything I needed to accomplish what I had been placed on this earth to do was in me.  I just needed to make sure that I continued to obtain the wisdom and knowledge of those that had walked this path before.  This would keep me wise and maintain my level of expertise. I needed to keep doing what k had always done. Read, research, and study.

Now, in all that I have said, I am not advising anyone to out and begin practice professions in fields like psychology and medicine because someone could be hurt and it is illegal to do so without that certification.

What I am saying is that it is time for you to stop disqualifying yourself based on individuals who have not checked your credentials or tested you to affirm that you are capable of walking in your purpose.

It is time for you to stop questioning who you are, what you possess, and your capabilities.  Stop questioning God.

My journey through discovering who I am has brought me to a place where I no longer allow people to tell me something other that what God has already told me and what I know to be true.  I had to decide that I am successful and no one can determine my level of success but me.

This was not an easy conclusion to come to.  There were many obstacles in my way, but I have realized something.  I am not the only one that has had this experience.  It is a problem among our generation.  It is plaguing us and trying to tear us apart.  We are all beginning, and for some continuing, to take the words that someone has spoken over us to mean that we are of little value.  We have said to ourselves, “I am not enough.”

But guess what!!! I am not going to stand by any longer and watch you do this to yourself.  I am doing something about it.

I have decided to establish a company that focuses on helping you become your best.  I am taking all of the skills and resources that I am able to put together, for you.  I want you to realize your value, potential, and worth.  I want you to be successful so that you can do what you were put on this planet to do.

How am I going to do that?


That subscription is not for this blog.  It is for the business that I am launching.  If you would like updates on the services that I will be offering, with you in mind, subscribe.

I am also preselling my course “Discovering Your Pathway to a Life of Success.” It deals with topics like this and so much more.  The pre sale will end on February 29th and then the price will go up.  I am only accepting 50 people, so if you want to be apart of this course, please don’t wait.  I will be reaching out to everyone who signs up to find out what their struggles are, in this area.  From the information that I gather from the group, I will be adding additional content to the course.

What does that mean?  It means that this course is different from many other courses out there.  I want you to begin to grow as you find what it is that your heart has been searching for, purpose.

I want you to be in a place where you are successful because you feel successful.  I want you to live a Life of Success.  Take a moment to review the course, Discovering Your Pathway to a Life of Success and if you know someone who could be helped by it, share it with them.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  I hope it has blessed you and I pray that God would continue to give you all that you need to keep moving forward.

Leave a comment below on your thoughts or send me an email at info@beingmrsmom.com

I look forward to hearing from you.

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I have to remind myself of this, sometimes, because the world tries to tell me otherwise. I’m sure that it says the same thing to you.

It says that our value is based on what we can do and on what we have. Yet that is not true!!!

Your value is in who God says that you are. It is obvious by the price that He paid, that your value is in Christ Jesus.

His blood brought and paid for you…

Let us not forget how valuable we are.

The Son of God is our value and our worth.
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The Importance of Being Authentic http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/the-importance-of-being-authentic/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/the-importance-of-being-authentic/#comments Fri, 27 Nov 2015 11:00:57 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=170299 Be authentic… Does that spark any thoughts in you mind? Well, It is 2am and I am sitting in my bed typing this.  I wanted to make sure that I discussed it while it was fresh on my mind. We all have a message. We all have influence.   Some of us feel that we […]

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Be authentic…

Does that spark any thoughts in you mind?

Well, It is 2am and I am sitting in my bed typing this.  I wanted to make sure that I discussed it while it was fresh on my mind.

We all have a message.

We all have influence.

 

Some of us feel that we are less heard than others, so we begin to reach out for a bigger platform that will afford us the opportunity to get out message out to a larger audience.  Yet, many times, we never stop to think about when we will be satisfied with the size or magnitude of our platform.  When will you be satisfied with the size of your audience?

Have you realize that your message has the power to change someone’s life?

If you focus on the size of your audience, you may never say what you need to say to change the life of that one person.  Yes, one person matters.

Will you be happy if your message changes 500,000, 100,000, or 5,000 lives? How about 500?  What about 100?  What if your message reached 50 people and their lives were changed?  What if you message reached 5 people?  Would you be happy that those 5 people were always attentively listening to your message?  What if the message that you shared changed the lives of those 5 and then they, in turn, had an impact on their sphere of the  world?

Ironically, my family has 5 of the members, besides myself, in it.  Years ago, I told the Lord that I wanted to change the world…He gave me my family.  My role as a wife and mother has become the most important role in my life outside of being a child of God.  I have come to realize that nothing else can be placed above these two God-given roles.

Now although I am a wife and mother, I am also a writer.  I have come to learn that I must know my audience.  When I am talking to my family, they are my audience.  My message is for them.  However, when I am writing, my message is for a specific, God-given audience.

I believe that we have to understand and appreciate the fact that God has given all of us an audience.  Whatever it is that you do, you sphere of influence is God-given.  You don’t have to change your message in order to attract your audience.  Share the message that God gave you and watch those within your sphere of influence; receive a major impact in the way that God ordained.

Stop focusing on the numbers.  Stop thinking that no one is listening.  Those are all distractions.

When you are at home cooking dinner for you family, the message is clear…you care for them.  They hear you say, “You are worth of my time.”

When you take the time to help your children with homework or to, simply, hug them…you are sharing your message.  They hear you say, “I love you.  You are valuable to me.”

When you listen to your husband talk about his day…you’re listening.  He hears you say, “You are interesting and your story matters.”

If you are a blogger, like me, and you take the time to share a message with your audience…you are investing.  They hear you say, “Your life matters and I am honored to share my message with you.”

We all have to realize that our message is bigger than ourselves.  Whether the listener responds in a way that communicates what we are expecting or not, we have to understand the potential for our message to reach their hearts and to inspire them.

The numbers don’t matter.

I understand the statistic.  “If you have a larger number of people in your audience, the greater amount of people who might hear your message.” Yet, you are focusing on the numbers, not the message.

Let me give you a different statistic.  If you have a larger number of people in your audience, the greater number of people who may possibly encounter your message, but they might not be listening.  Yet, if you focus on the quality of your message and know your audience, regardless of the numbers, someone will most likely listen and be greatly impacted.

What I am trying to tell you is that focusing on the numbers causes us not to be authentic because we are willing to do whatever is necessary to get our numbers up.  We become blinded by the numbers and unable to see all of the people who God has placed in our lives, who are actually listening.

However, when we focus in on the quality of the message and share what God has placed in our hearts, the lives that He has foreordained, are changed…

Don’t change your message to make people listen.  Share your real message and the people who are supposed to hear it, will listen.

All of this is a choice.  Just give it a thought and be authentic…

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The Little Things http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/the-little-things/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/the-little-things/#respond Thu, 26 Nov 2015 14:05:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=168131 The Little Things… Over the past 13 ½ years, I have gone from working mom, to student, and then to stay at home mom and back to student/SAHM again.  When I look at the standard that the world sets, I realize am supposed to be able to do it all and still live a healthy […]

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The Little Things…

Thankful In the Little Things

Over the past 13 ½ years, I have gone from working mom, to student, and then to stay at home mom and back to student/SAHM again.  When I look at the standard that the world sets, I realize am supposed to be able to do it all and still live a healthy life as a wife and mother.  However, I have found this to be a task that I have not successfully achieved in all of my adult life, to the degree that I desire.

When I attempt to tackle too much, I find that I am overwhelmed by the daily tasks and expectations that are set before me.  I want to be, both, a great wife and a great mother, but when working hard at achieving these two goals and then trying to juggle a full-time job, it seems that I end up dropping the ball and despising one aspect of my life.

For that very reason, I decided to give up the 9-5 for a while.  I decided to  focus on my education, which will afford me the opportunity do work a more flexible schedule while doing what I love.  In the mean time I focus on being thankful for the little things.

What little things? You ask…

  1. I am thankful for the conflicts that my husband and I have.  They remind me that I am in a healthy relationship where my spouse is willing to challenge me.  He helps to sharpen me like iron and he makes me better.  I am married.
  2. I am thankful for the mandate that I have to balance my roles as mother and wife with other roles that I have. They remind me of how important it is to me to be a mother and a wife.  These challenges show me that somethings will come up against my most important human relationships, but resilience and reevaluation are the keys to getting things back in line. I am a wife and a mother.
  3. I am thankful for the mounds of laundry that I tend to have. We have six people in our family and those mounds of laundry remind me that God has blessed us with tons of clothes and choices of what to wear. We have clothes to wear.
  4. I am thankful for the dishes in my sink. I have to take the time to wash them, either by hand or by dishwasher, but they remind me that we have all eaten and do so daily. We have food to eat.
  5. I am thankful for the toys to pick up off of the floor. They remind me that God has blessed us with an income to provide for our children’s pleasure.  They get to play with things that they enjoy. We have a steady income and material things to enjoy.
  6. I am thankful for the time that I have to manage wisely. As a stay at home mom, I have a certain amount of time that I have to manage in order to be productive, while my family is away at school and work.  This could feel overwhelming at times, but it is a blessing to have that time to decide what I would like to take care of and how I would like to do it.  I am still alive and can manage my time.
  7. I am thankful that I have to tell my kids to stop running around the house or being so loud. I grew up as an only child in my house, so I having four children actively running around and playing are things that I had to get used to.  However, their noise is a very pleasant reminder that they are healthy and adventurous.  Their noise and lively activities remind me that I have been blessed with children and I am thankful.  I have children and they are healthy.
  8. I am also thankful for the school work that I have to complete and the books that I have to read. They are reminders of the fact that I am receiving an education that will prepare me of various opportunities in life.  I have the opportunity to be educated and make the best out of life.  I have a sound mind.

I have a long list of things that I could discuss, but I think you get the jest of what I’m saying.  It is very hard to forget our blessings, especially when some of our struggles come from those very places.  We could all take a look at the things that we complain about and realize that they are simply a blessing that we must learn how to manage.  I hope that you have found this post encouraging.

Do you have various areas of your life, where you tend to complain, but after reading this post, realize that you have more to be thankful for than to complain about?  If so share them with us.

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Is Your Husband Flawed? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/is-your-husband-flawed/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/is-your-husband-flawed/#comments Wed, 25 Nov 2015 22:23:15 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=168668 When I first married my husband, I was convinced that he was a great guy.  I knew that he would always love me and show me that he cared. As we moved into our second, third, fourth, and even fifth year of being married, I could see his flaws more than I could see them […]

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When I first married my husband, I was convinced that he was a great guy.  I knew that he would always love me and show me that he cared.

As we moved into our second, third, fourth, and even fifth year of being married, I could see his flaws more than I could see them originally.  I considered how I thought he had changed and was determined to help him remember the qualities that he had possessed before, which qualified him for the “great guy” category.

Is your husband flawed?

What I did not know was that he had always been a flawed individual, but because of the love, passion, and desire that I had for him, I could not see them.

When we were dating, my husband would show up early for our dates.  He would ring the door bell and then patiently wait for me, on the couch or in the car.  When we arrived to our destination, we were always early.

Later on in our marriage, he would get ready and promptly remind me of my need to speed up, as I got dressed.  He wanted us to arrive early to our destination, but I was taking my time getting dressed.

Before marriage…not a flaw….

After marriage…flaw…

Over the years, I had tried to change various aspects of who he was, but learned that it was more difficult to change him, than it was to change something in myself.

What I mean is that I started to ask myself why certain aspects of his personality seemed to be flaws to me now, when they were not flaws to me before…

He had always been very punctual…nothing had changed about him.

Had I been unaware of the changes that had occurred in my own personality over the years?  The more I asked this question, the deeper I dug into the root of my issue.  The more I dug, the more I prayed.  The more I prayed, the more God began to show me…myself.

He helped me to see that I wasn’t perfect, but He never considered me so flawed that I could not be loved.  He showed me that He had actually given me time, as He would continue to in the future, to get past certain struggles and be the woman that he created me to be.  He showed me that there were various aspects of myself that would need to be changed before He would consider me mature.  Yet that never changed how He saw me.  It never changed the fact that He considered me precious and lovable.

Learning to see myself through God’s eyes, helped me to see my husband in the same way.  I began to accept who he was and his “flaws” became characteristics that I cherished.  Our differences came to be the strengths of our marriage, when previously, I had considered them weaknesses.

Today, I am a more punctual person.  Although I still struggle with consistency, my husband’s ability to remain consistent will definitely rub off on me, I’m sure.  I consider that my perspective is often times what needs to be changes, not my husband.  God will and does work on him, but my job is to allow Him to work on me.

I love my husband more and more each day.  I cherish the ways that he sharpens me like iron, even when it’s not comfortable at the moment.  When I look back on it all, I am thankful.

If you were to ask me if my husband is flawed, I would humbly say, “Yes, he is, but so am I.  We are both human.”

Can you relate to what I have said here?  Do you find it easier to identify the “flaws” of your spouse that it is to identify your own flaws?  How can you change your perspective and actions to make the weaknesses of your marriage the strength of your marriage?

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Communicating With Your Husband http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/communicating-with-your-husband/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/communicating-with-your-husband/#respond Tue, 24 Nov 2015 02:19:19 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=112072 The other night, I was in a marriage coaching session with a couple.  After we had finished, I sat and thought about the communication between these two spouses.  I gradually began to think about my communications with my husband over the past 13 1/2 years. I realized that many times couples underestimate the effectiveness of […]

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The other night, I was in a marriage coaching session with a couple.  After we had finished, I sat and thought about the communication between these two spouses.  I gradually began to think about my communications with my husband over the past 13 1/2 years.

Communicate with your husband

I realized that many times couples underestimate the effectiveness of loving, open-hearted communication.

When we were in our first two years of marriage, I remember thinking that good couples in healthy marriages did not argue.  Now that I have been married to my high school sweetheart for more than a decade, I have come to realize that some of the best couples, indeed argue.  They are just careful about how they do it.

Many times in life, we try to avoid some of the hardest situations.  When we are in the fire, we run away, refusing to get burned.  What we fail to realize is that somethings require fire in order to be refined, like gold.  That is how our lives are.

We spend a lot of time around people who want to tickle our ears.  They don’t want to ruffle our feathers because they are afraid that challenging our perspectives will jeopardize the relationship that they have with us. Yet, without challenges, we cannot become better individuals or live our best lives for Christ.  Without challenges, we are stuck in our same ol’ ways, smiling, but never better.  However, marriage is not one of those relationships, nor should it be.

In a marriage each partner, by default, should make the other better.

Think about it.  This is the person that lives with you and sees you at you best…and worst.   He knows when you are giving something your all and when you are doing it half way.  He can see when you are walking in love and walking in anger.  To be even more precise, he can see what you cannot see about yourself and speak truth to you about it, in love.

I know, it doesn’t always feel like he is speaking in love, but what if you adjusted your hearing.  Do you think that you could turn down your detection of pessimism, resentment, and anger long enough to detect the love that he has in his heart for you.  Do his words challenge you and call you out of fear?  Does he confirm what God has already spoken into your heart about the changes that you need to make to be your best?

I have found that over the course of my marriage, communication with my husband has not always been easy, but more times than not, it has been very beneficial.  I have had to make a choice to remain accountable, open-hearted, and humble towards him, so that he could lead me.

Yes, I said that my husband leads me.  When I have prayed for direction and I’m looking for someone to speak into my life, God will often use my husband to say some of the toughest things to me.  Because his eyes are watching me each day, I have also been held accountable.

In trusting our husbands with our hearts, we leave room for God to speak to us through them.  He is able to validate us through the one human relationship that will be most fulfilling on this earth.

 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,  that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,  that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.  So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.  For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”   This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.  ~Ephesians 5:22-33

Today, I want to encourage you to consider the communication that you have with your husband.  Don’t think that it always has to sound or look a certain way in order for it to be effective.  It should not be abusive, but it doesn’t have to be pretty either.  It needs to be what God knows is best for you in your life and in your marriage.  Your husband loves you and servers God in helping you though this process of sanctification and cleansing that God is so mercifully taking you through.  See the fire and the flame as methods used to make you better.  Never stop talking to, texting, emailing, winking, or smiling at your husband.  Leave the lines of communication open and know that in a loving relationship, iron sharpens iron.

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Great Expectation http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/great-expectation/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/great-expectation/#respond Fri, 13 Nov 2015 15:00:29 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=158718 This morning I woke up with a great expectation. It just feels like a new beginning. Throughout this week, my oldest son was sick and I wasn’t feeling too great, but I thank God for my husband, who kept the house running smoothly. I took sometime, while resting to think and reflect on life and […]

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This morning I woke up with a great expectation. It just feels like a new beginning.

Throughout this week, my oldest son was sick and I wasn’t feeling too great, but I thank God for my husband, who kept the house running smoothly. I took sometime, while resting to think and reflect on life and the direction that I’m headed in.

Reflection is something that I do pretty often, but something was different about this time. As I read and reflected, the same encouraging thoughts kept coming to mind. These words were present in the books that I read. Believe it or not, when I went to social media, I found the same message being spoken to my heart again and again.

It was like God wanted me to know and understand something.

With this, a great expectation began to build within me. I realized that there is so much that I am capable of. I have been viewing myself in certain ways that have limited my abilities. I have searched for validation, when all I really needed was a yes from God. I have tried instead of just doing the thing, and all this has led me to a place of frustration.

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All of my life, I have been told not to quit. I have heard people say that I should not give up. Yet, I have come to realize time and time again that there are times when we should all give up on a thing.

For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

That’s right! There is a time to persevere and a time to call it quits.

When we give up on one thing, we are able to passionately pursue something else. We cannot have all of our attentions divided all of the time. That lack of focus and consistency will lead to incompletion and ineffectiveness.

None of us want that.

Soooo…

When I heard, repeatedly, throughout the past week that the season for one thing had ended and the time for another had begun, I was filled with excitement. A joy began to fill my heart and I felt my strength renewed.

Today, I am walking in the newness of my great expectation.

I want to encourage you to take a look around you. What is the thing that you are doing, that have come to the end of its season? Is it time to move on to something else? Have you been trying to persevere in something that requires you stop trying…think about it.

If you hold on to something that you have to let go of, your efforts are in vain…

I want you to be filled with the same type of expectation that I have been filled with. There maybe something that you keep hearing repeatedly, but you aren’t sure how to apply it. Take sometime to write it down and reflect on it a bit. I am sure that it will begin to make sense to you.

Trust God and know that He is working it out for you.

I hope that you find this helpful. Remember, it is completely fine to call it quits on one thing so that you can focus your attention and efforts on something else.

Seasons change and with that great expectation comes…

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Use Your Voice http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/use-your-voice/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/11/use-your-voice/#respond Wed, 04 Nov 2015 02:22:48 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=151661 Over the past few weeks, I have struggled. I have been praying and seeking God about the direction that He wants me to go in. I have been blessed with talents and abilities. I have been given opportunities and chances to do such wonderful things. Yet it is very important to me that I fulfill […]

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Over the past few weeks, I have struggled. I have been praying and seeking God about the direction that He wants me to go in.

I have been blessed with talents and abilities. I have been given opportunities and chances to do such wonderful things. Yet it is very important to me that I fulfill my purpose.

A few years ago, I sat down and wrote out my mission statement. However, knowing my mission does not mean that everything will go the way that I think it will go. Over the past few years I have heard God call me to a place where He desires to use me to help others. Now, as I wait in Him to work it all out, I am tested and tried by life.

I have fought battles in my mind. Thoughts that challenge my existence. They challenge my call. They challenge my abilities, talents, and relationships. I have had to listen to the Holy Spirit within me. He says that I am here for a reason; I am called and chosen; My talents, abilities, and relationships are all purposefully blessed.

In this, I find myself thankful. I might not have it all together. Yes, I am walking it out, but there is one thing that I have learned over the past few years.

I have a voice

God has given me a voice. He has blessed me with a strong one too. So, I choose to use my voice for good. I choose to use my voice to encourage you. I use my voice to bring Him glory.

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Today, I want to encourage you to do the same thing. If you feel like you have it together, ask yourself if you are using your talents, abilities, and voice to bless others.

If you are like me and you are watching God put it all together, I challenge you to find your voice and use it to bless someone else. Use your struggles and challenges. Allow them to make you strong. Not just strong enough to recover from the battles that you have fought. Let them make you strong enough to strengthen, encourage, and motivate someone else.

I hope you find this helpful.

As you watch God, use your voice…

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Sharing Scripture 11 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/sharing-scripture-11/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/sharing-scripture-11/#comments Sun, 25 Oct 2015 10:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=110753 Let’s be encouraged, this week, by the Word of God to be wise.

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Decorating My Franklin Covey Planner http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/decorating-my-franklin-covey-planner/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/decorating-my-franklin-covey-planner/#respond Fri, 23 Oct 2015 22:33:45 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=137993 A few weeks ago, I decorated my Franklin Covey classic planner pages. I currently use the two page per day format in the planner. (There is a video below) Although I really enjoy decorating these pages, it’s not something that I do each time.  However, when I do decorate the pages, I do it a […]

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A few weeks ago, I decorated my Franklin Covey classic planner pages.
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I currently use the two page per day format in the planner. (There is a video below)
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Although I really enjoy decorating these pages, it’s not something that I do each time.  However, when I do decorate the pages, I do it a bit differently each time. 12107754_10100359390765609_8546496328973596351_n

When I am decorating the planner, I use stamps and stickers to make it look pretty.  I also use sharpies to write on the washi tape that I use.  12088319_10100359390745649_9172976651778883892_n

Doing this makes me want to use my planner more.  It is also just plain fun to decorate my planner.  12032154_10100359390720699_3063822826529208234_n
Watch the video to see how I make these pages so beautiful.

Leave your comments below to share what you think…

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My New Franklin Covey Planner: Planner Love http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/my-new-franklin-covey-planner-planner-love/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/my-new-franklin-covey-planner-planner-love/#respond Thu, 22 Oct 2015 11:46:15 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=137596 If you have been visiting my blog for sometime, you would know that I am a planner gal.  I love being organized and utilizing my planner. Over the past few years, I have used a Franklin Covey planner, but I have often times thought about changing for one reason and one reason alone…it wasn’t always […]

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If you have been visiting my blog for sometime, you would know that I am a planner gal.  I love being organized and utilizing my planner.

Over the past few years, I have used a Franklin Covey planner, but I have often times thought about changing for one reason and one reason alone…it wasn’t always pretty.

I would look online at the other types of planners and while my Franklin Covey was very practical, it lacked style.

I will say that I was getting kinda antsy this year, but I purchased a binder that I found appealing and used it all year long…well, almost all year.

At the beginning of October, Franklin Covey announced their new line of planners.  It is called Planner Love.

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I was so happy, that I ordered myself one.  I had to wait two weeks, but it finally arrived today.

Although I will be doing a full review of it later on, her are my unboxing and my initial thoughts on the planner itself.

Here is my other video with my thoughts on it…

I hope you enjoyed it. Let me know what you thought…

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You Are Worth It http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/you-are-worth-it/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/you-are-worth-it/#comments Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:32:02 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=108256 A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend.  As we sat and talked, we began to discuss our roles as women today.  We looked at who we are as wives, mothers, friends, daughter, and so much more.  As if those roles had not demonstrated to us the importance of the call that had placed […]

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A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend.  As we sat and talked, we began to discuss our roles as women today.  We looked at who we are as wives, mothers, friends, daughter, and so much more.  As if those roles had not demonstrated to us the importance of the call that had placed on our lives, we began to discuss our roles outside of our homes and relationships.

Somehow, the expectations of the world began to creep into our conversation.  We could both see how the standard of being a super, you can do it all, and be it all to everyone type of woman was infecting our self esteems like viruses injected into our veins.  We have each been spoon fed specific criteria that makes a woman successful.  There is this mold of what a woman today is supposed to look like.  There is this vision of what her home should be like.  Someone has said how her relationship should be with her husband and children.  I am not sure who has set this standard, but it seems that if we do not meet it, we, as women, end up thinking that we lack value.  We think that if we aren’t making a certain amount of money with a specific degree, driving a certain type of car, with one type of hair, and our families reflecting the magazine image, we lack value.  We feel that without these things, no one will want us, need us, or desire us.  Yet this is a lie!

Those standards are not God’s standards of women…

Today, I am here to tell you that you are very valuable and so am I.  You are worth it.

Know your value

If no one else ever tells you this, I want you to know that you are of great value.

God loves you.

NO!!! STOP! STOP RIGHT THERE!!!

Before you write off what I am saying as some cliché statement that everyone says, think about it…

Get this deep down in your heart, mind, spirit, and soul…

Jesus died for you.  Not just for the world, but for  you too…

I will wait for a moment as you think about this.

Jesus died for you!!!
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He did not do this in vain.  He did this with you in mind.  Sometimes we don’t realize the importance of this statement.

JESUS DIED FOR YOU!

That means you are worth His life.

You are worth more than any paycheck could ever represent.  You are worth more time than any person can give.  No one but God the Father, Jesus the Son, and our precious Holy Spirit could ever love you enough to equal your value.

The Almighty God, who hung the stars in the sky, took His time to create you.  When I say create, I mean that He pieced you together, cell by cell.

He took time planning your life and working out ever aspect of it.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!  ~Psalm 139:17, 18

 Psalm 139-17, 18I know you have had thoughts before that no one loves you or cares for you.  I know there have been times when you feel forgotten.  I know that you have had times when you feel worthless.

Let me tell you…there is One who will never forget about you.  He thinks about you all of the time.  He spends time, just sitting and thinking about you.

Did you know that He dances over you with singing?

For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” ~Zephaniah 3:17

When you feel like quitting or giving up, He will fight for you.  You are worth it to Him.  He will never leave you alone.

I just want to tell you today, from that bottom of my heart that you are worth it…all of it.

You are worth the fight!

You are worth the time!

You are worth the energy!

You are worth the love, the effort, and the patience!

You, my sweet sister, are worth the wait!

You are worth Jesus!!!

My prayer for you today is that you would be reminded, right in that place,  how precious and valuable you are.

Because…You are worth it!!!

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Sharing Scripture 10 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/sharing-scripture-10/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/sharing-scripture-10/#respond Sun, 18 Oct 2015 11:44:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=110751 Today, I would like to remind you to not be afraid of your enemy. Have faith in God and the power He has given you through His Son.

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My Book of the Month http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/my-book-of-the-month/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/my-book-of-the-month/#respond Sat, 17 Oct 2015 02:05:31 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=112063 This month I am taking the time to read a book by a fellow blogger and author.  Her name is Hope N. Griffin and she blogs over at http://www.hopengriffin.com/ I am pretty excited about reading this book because I am a military wife myself and I have found that great life lessons have come from my […]

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Finding Joy by Hope N. Grifin

This month I am taking the time to read a book by a fellow blogger and author.  Her name is Hope N. Griffin and she blogs over at http://www.hopengriffin.com/

I am pretty excited about reading this book because I am a military wife myself and I have found that great life lessons have come from my marriage with my husband.  Tack on his occupation and the various aspects of it…BAM!!! Life change, heart change, God touches my souls with change, happens.  I am sure that these types of things happen with marriages that are not affiliated to the military, but there is something that happens here because we are connected to those who are connected to servicing the country.

Anyway…I have digress.

I am excited to read this book and want to learn so much more about this fellow blogger, wife, and author.  Here is a synopsis below.  If you are interested in reading it with me, you can join in and leaving you comments below. You can also discuss it with me in Hope’s Goodreads group.

I will also be writing a post next week to share my thoughts on the book.  If you are interested, stop by here next Friday for the review.

As a military spouse and mother (with one of her children being a young cancer survivor), Hope has faced some long, lonely nights questioning God’s faithfulness and the strength of her marriage. If you’ve ever found yourself in a long-distance marriage and wondered if it was possible not only to survive but also to thrive, then this book is for you. Hope invites you-through personal experience, examples of others in history, and Scripture-to explore the possibility of a stronger more fulfilling marriage. Together we are stronger. Together we can overcome any obstacle. You don’t have to do it alone. (Source: Amazon)

Doesn’t that sound encouraging.  I know it is to me.

If you are interested, Hope is also giving away a copy of her book.

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When you’re finally ready to do it… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/when-youre-finally-ready-to-do-it/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/10/when-youre-finally-ready-to-do-it/#respond Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=117215 Have you ever had a time in your life where you keep on waiting on someone to do something. You didn’t want to overstep any boundaries or make anyone feel bad, so you just kept on waiting? Then when you were finally tired of waiting and decided to do the thing yourself, they did it.   That […]

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Have you ever had a time in your life where you keep on waiting on someone to do something. You didn’t want to overstep any boundaries or make anyone feel bad, so you just kept on waiting? Then when you were finally tired of waiting and decided to do the thing yourself, they did it.

 

That is what happened to me this morning. I had been waiting for the gardeners to come and take care of the yard. I had been doing it myself, but we went on vacation for 3 weeks and I thought they would take care of the yard. Once we returned from our trip, I found weeds galore. My bushes were unkept and my yard looked horrible.

This disappointed me because the gardeners are paid to keep up the yard. I planted beautiful flowers before in the yard, but I guess I had expected them to do their job especially since I was gone.

I had been waiting and waiting, mostly because I didn’t have the time to do it and also because I didn’t want to do their job for them. Then yesterday, I decided that today, I would go to the store and get the flowers that I really wanted. I would take the time today to plant the flowers and do my yard.

To my surprise, this morning, at 8am, the gardeners were outside doing everyone’s yard.

Can you say frustrated?  That’s how I felt…

I decided that I would let them do their job and just continue on with whatever they left me with. That thought was a good one, until I heard the chopping.

I went to my window and saw them ripping out my beautiful pink flowers. I could feel them ripping them away in my heart…that’s when I couldn’t take it anymore. I opened the door and asked if they were really about to rip out all of my beautiful flowers. The gentleman told me no. He said that they were just trying to get ready for the fall. I didn’t like the idea of them gutting my yard, but I decided to let them do it anyway.

There are a few reasons why I want to share this with you.  I learned a few things and I’m hoping that you will find the lessons helpful.

Reason #1: Perspective

The first reason is that sometimes people are waiting on us to do things. They wait and wait, patiently, frustrated, and trying not to overstep our boundaries. Then when we are finally ready to do the job, they have planned to do it. We show up ready to work, it is almost too late.

If this is a situation that you find yourself in, look at the situation from this perspective.  Try to communicate. The other person cannot read your mind.

Reason #2: Make a Decision

I am sure that the gardeners were busy with their other jobs. They probably had already set the date on their calendars to go out to the homes and prepare each garden for the fall. It just so happened that I took too long to do what I was going to do. I didn’t know what they had planned and they didn’t know that I was also waiting and planning.

We have to either let someone do the job that they are supposed to do or hurry up and do it ourselves. Both situations are not going to work together…at the same time. Only one person can do the job… Only one plan can work.

If you find yourself in this situation, decide what you are going to do and stick with it.

Reason #3: Trust God

This reason is the one that stood out to me the most. There are times when God is doing something that I do not understand. I’m not sure what is happening because He has not revealed all of His plans to me. Yet, I know that His plans are to prosper me. (Jeremiah 29:11)

All I see is weeds growing, things not being done, and my impatience driving me up the wall. Yet, I do not realize that God has it on His calendar to do something in my life, His way. I could try to hurry up and do it, but I might mess it all up.

Waiting on Him is not easy, but this is His job, to work in my life; to take care of me, as my Heavenly Father. He does what only He can do. If I wait on Him, He will take care of everything and have my garden looking beautiful and ready for the Fall…yet it won’t be a pretty sight while He is ripping up all of my weeds and trimming all of my bushes. He might have to gut a few of my beautiful pink flowers because they are not needed or can’t survive the next season. I just have to trust Him and move out of the way so that He can do what He is going to do.

If you find yourself in this situation or can identify with my sentiment, simply, trust God.

Think about it..

When I first started this post, I asked you if you had a time when you were waiting on someone to do something, but you really were planning on doing it yourself. Hopefully you have now thought about each perspectives and not just your own.

Can you see the godly perspective?

That is the perspective that is most important. Waiting on God is wisdom. Moving out of the way so that He can do what He desires it’s the best thing to do. His plans for us are the best plans that anyone could ever have for us, including our own plans.

As I waited inside of my house, with the blinds closed, I wanted so badly to have my hand in my garden. Yet, I restrained myself, because I thought it was best. If you find yourself in a similar situation, be encouraged because you are not alone.

I hope you found encouragement in this post.  Share your thoughts with me in the comment section.

Thanks for reading…

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“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.”  ~Joseph Anderson

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Read to and with your child… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/read-to-and-with-your-child/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/read-to-and-with-your-child/#comments Wed, 30 Sep 2015 19:57:10 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=112019 This post is going to be the first in, what I hope to be, a series of posts presenting and discussing children’s books.  Today, I just want to introduce the concept…   In my home, we take a lot of time to read.  Every month, my children get a book allowance and visit the library. […]

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This post is going to be the first in, what I hope to be, a series of posts presenting and discussing children’s books.  Today, I just want to introduce the concept…

 

In my home, we take a lot of time to read.  Every month, my children get a book allowance and visit the library.  We have a reading area in our home and spend time reading everyday.  Well, just about everyday. 🙂  My children read for a  set amount of time when they come home from school and I read for at least an hour a day. I try to encourage my children to read in various ways.

As we take time to read, I have found such great joy in reading to my children.  Not only do I enjoy reading with my children, but I often find that I learn something new, as well.  I have also recognized the benefits in reading with my children.

Here are a few benefits of reading with my children

  • I get to connect with my children through, what we normally find to be, a great story.
  • I get to hear how much they are improving in their fluency and vocabulary.
  • I give them an opportunity to share something with me that they enjoy about the story.
  • I am able to explain some of the hard topics that they find difficult to comprehend when we read together.
  • I am also able to spot situations, placed in books, that I find conflicting to what we believe and what we teach our children.  With this, I now have an opportunity to teach them the differences between what we have read and what we believe.  (This one is one of my favorites)

In this series, I will be sharing books that I have read with my children. I’ll be discussing the topic of the books and doing a mini review of the book. Sometimes, I will even share thoughts from my children on the books. My hope is to encourage you to read to and with your children.

Today, I would like to encourage you to take some time away from your busy schedule to read to your children.  I am not telling you when to do it, how to do it, or for how long.  In our house, we don’t normally do bed time stories.  Instead we do afternoon or quiet-time reading.  My children can also read at any other time of day that they want.  I am simply suggesting that you take some time, if you don’t already, to enjoy a nice story with your children.  Perhaps you can take a trip to your local library, book store, or used book store to find some hidden treasures.

Whatever you decide to do, get excited about reading and enjoy sometime connecting with your children through a great story.

Do you have any children’s books to recommend?  Let me know in the comment section.  I’d love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

 

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Reflecting and Preparing http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/reflecting-and-preparing/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/reflecting-and-preparing/#comments Mon, 28 Sep 2015 17:46:29 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3575&preview_id=3575 Have you ever had a situation in life that you did not want to deal with? Maybe you felt like you could just wait it out and time would bring a solution… Let me be the first to say that I know that feeling. I’ve dealt with somethings in the past few years that I, […]

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Have you ever had a situation in life that you did not want to deal with?

Maybe you felt like you could just wait it out and time would bring a solution…

Let me be the first to say that I know that feeling.

I’ve dealt with somethings in the past few years that I, honestly, considered burying deep within my heart and a secret treasure box somewhere.

Yet, I found that the more I considered not dealing with it, the more it changed me.

Now this wasn’t a single occurrence. It was something that happened a few different times in various situations.  As it happened, I kept wondering how I was supposed to handle the problem.

What I found was that I had to deal with it. I had to take the time to allow myself to feel the emotions. Those feelings became the beginning of my process.

From there, I had to talk with someone I trusted. This was someone who I knew would not only listen, but also pray for me and encourage me along the way.  I had to begin to reflect on my life so that I could grow and change.

Reflecting

Reflecting, not simply on the occurrences of the past, but also on the situations that had transpired within me. I had to bring myself to a place where I knew how the things that were said and done affected me.

This process of reflecting was not an easy one. There were times, during reflection, where I wanted to avoid the pain of remembering what happened. For the memories seemed to harvest the feeling that caused me such great pain.

Although I did not want to go through the process, I knew that I would have such great freedom after I did.

Cast your cares on God, for he cares for you. ~1 Peter 5:7

One of the reasons why reflecting and self-reflection are so important is that you cannot cast upon God, what you do not know exists.

See, when we give our concerns, fears, anxieties, heartaches, and heartbreak to God, He will take care of them. However, when we do not know or refuse to identify the cares that are driving us crazy, we also choose to hold on to the cares. We decide that we are more powerful alone and don’t need God to solve the problem.

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.  ~Psalm 55:22

If you can see this clearly, reflecting is a tool of freedom. Without it, we are unable to see primary aspects of ourselves, needed for liberty.  Without seeing those areas, we cannot submit our selves to God so that He can free us.  Our hearts have to go through the reflection process in order to begin preparing for what is next.

Preparing

After reflecting on the situation and coming to terms with the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that have been experienced, it is imperative that we begin to prepare ourselves for freedom.

Freedom is a choice.

That statement is the first one that we must accept as we prepare ourselves for liberty.  See, we can each choose to be prideful, stubborn, hard-hearted, impatient, and fearful. No one will stop us from feeling this way.

Honestly, it is our right to feel anyway that we desire.

However, if I am to move forward on my journey of healing and freedom, I must choose to be humble, tender-hearted, patient, willing, and full of courage. You have to make the same choice if you want freedom.

Freedom will also require us to forgive others.   Although it is very hard, each of these choices will unlock the door to our future and prepare us to walk in the place God calls us to.

Now I started this conversation with you by asking if you had ever found yourself in a situation that you didn’t want to deal with. My question for you now is, do you think you are a little better equipped to deal with it, after reading this?

I hope your answer is yes.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I hope you found it helpful.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please share them with me in the comments section.

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Sharing Scripture 9 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/sharing-scripture-9/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/sharing-scripture-9/#respond Sun, 27 Sep 2015 10:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=110739 We must use wisdom…

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We must use wisdom…Proverbs 4:23-26

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Expecting the Unexpected http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/expecting-the-unexpected/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/09/expecting-the-unexpected/#respond Mon, 21 Sep 2015 21:45:58 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=99024 There are times in life where you know exactly what to expect. You prepare yourself and those in your life for the event or thing that is about to happen.  During those times, there is such excitement and confidence in the way that things are going to go. Do you know the feeling that I […]

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There are times in life where you know exactly what to expect.

Time For Something New

You prepare yourself and those in your life for the event or thing that is about to happen.  During those times, there is such excitement and confidence in the way that things are going to go.

Do you know the feeling that I am describing?  I’m sure that many of you reading this do.

Then there are times when you know that something is going to happen.  You can feel it, but you are not aware of the exact event that is about to take place.  With great expectation, you await the moment of revealing, when your eyes will be opened to…it.

That’s how I feel right now.

Over the summer, I had a series of experiences that caused me to be emotionally drained.  There were moments where I was very happy and others where I was not.  I had so much to do and still nothing to do, at the same time.

With all of this chaos, I could feel that it was a type of attack that was coming my way to get me off track.

I really mean that.  My character and relationships were challenged in various ways.  All I could do was hold on to God.

Have you ever heard of a three-fold cord that is not easily broken?  Well, it’s mentioned in the Bible (Ecclesiastes 4:12) and that is what I held on to all summer.  I thank God for keeping me and His Holy Spirit for comforting me.

Now that we are in the fall, things are slowing down, but I have this feeling…this expectation of greatness in my heart.

I don’t know what is about to happen or what God is doing, but I can feel a rising up in my heart for something…something good.

God is about to do something in my life and in me…I can feel it.

So, I am looking forward to that new thing.

With all of the difficulties that I have experienced, good news sounds great!

I am patiently waiting…I really am.

Can you feel my excitement?  I am expecting the unexpected.

Have you ever experienced something like this?  Can you relate to these emotions?

I’d love to hear about it, so leave a comment below.

Thanks for reading…

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Who Can You Trust? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/who-can-you-trust/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/who-can-you-trust/#comments Wed, 19 Aug 2015 02:00:14 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=24721 Everyday we go through things. Life is filled with ups and downs. When we are hurt, we can begin to wonder, who we can trust… No matter what there is one thing that we must remember. That’s right!!! We must trust in Him because He will never, ever, fail us. There are so many people […]

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Everyday we go through things. Life is filled with ups and downs. When we are hurt, we can begin to wonder, who we can trust…

No matter what there is one thing that we must remember.

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That’s right!!!

We must trust in Him because He will never, ever, fail us.

There are so many people that will let us down. There are so many people that will forget…

They will turn and walk away. They may give up. They may say things that are hurtful, but there is One that will never treat you this way.

He is the King of kings and the Lord of lords. He lives up to being the Best and will always exceed our expectations.

Today, I want you to remember as I am reminded…our God is great.

Never wonder again who you can trust in…Trust God because He will never fail us.

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Sharing Scripture 7 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-7/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-7/#respond Sun, 16 Aug 2015 15:29:01 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3875 In our lives we have so many opportunities to think on things. We focus our thoughts on the good, the bad and various spectrums of two in between. Today, let us be reminded of the goodness of God. May we be reminded of His greatest, His majesty, He patience, His kindness, His love, and so […]

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In our lives we have so many opportunities to think on things. We focus our thoughts on the good, the bad and various spectrums of two in between.

Today, let us be reminded of the goodness of God. May we be reminded of His greatest, His majesty, He patience, His kindness, His love, and so much more.

I want to share this scripture with you today.

Sharing Scripture 7

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Sharing Scripture 6 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-6/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-6/#respond Sun, 09 Aug 2015 10:00:33 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3871 Today I am sharing this bible verse.  I was encouraged by the Psalmist’s words.  He found strength and protection in the Lord, as I do.  The Lord is  so faithful.  Let Him be the source of your joy today.

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Today I am sharing this bible verse.  I was encouraged by the Psalmist’s words.  He found strength and protection in the Lord, as I do.  The Lord is  so faithful.  Let Him be the source of your joy today.
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When It Seems Easier To Pretend http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/when-it-seems-easier-to-pretend/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/when-it-seems-easier-to-pretend/#comments Thu, 06 Aug 2015 16:37:07 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3885 There is a saying that goes something like this, “when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade…”  Have you ever heard of it?  I’m sure that you have. That sounds like a great saying, but have you ever wondered what is going on between the receiving of the lemons and the making of the lemonade? […]

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There is a saying that goes something like this, “when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade…”  Have you ever heard of it?  I’m sure that you have.

That sounds like a great saying, but have you ever wondered what is going on between the receiving of the lemons and the making of the lemonade?  Well I have.

I have wondered what the person is thinking and feeling. I have also wondered when it becomes clear that it is time to make some lemonade.

While dealing with these thoughts, it may be hard to focus on the good, to wait for things to get better, or to even know how to feel.  At times like this, I think it might seem easier to pretend.

Upset and frustrated, I have often looked at a situation without knowing what to do or how I was supposed to feel.

Naturally, I am an optimist.  Still there are times when I cannot see the bright side and I feel lost. It is at these times that I start to wonder if it would just be easier to pretend that I am not going through anything at all.

Have you ever felt like that?

Pretending means that you get to ignore the situation.  You don’t have to talk about it, think about it, or acknowledge anything is happening at all.  However, this does not magically stop us from feeling the stress and emotions of the situation.  In fact, I think it would make it worse.

By pretending, we would be telling ourselves that the situation did not occur the way that it did.  We would also be denying ourselves the right to feel the way we do about what occurred.  Denying ourselves of our emotions is not wise because acknowledging our feelings allows us to process situations.  Processing the situations, stimulates growth in our lives.

There have been many times when I have wanted to stop thinking about a situation.  I have wished that it never happened.  I have also tried to ignore my feelings about it all.  The result is…well ugly.

When I have tried this in the past, I have become very nonchalant and emotionless about various aspects of my life.  It is as if ignoring the situation allowed a totally different process to start in my life…I became cold and despondent.

Generally, that is not me.  I care, I feel, I wonder.  Yet, ignoring situations and my feelings about situations change me.

When I allow myself to see the situation, no matter how painful, I feel the emotions attached to it;  when I feel those emotions, I process them.  In processing them, I begin to learn from the situation.  Learning from situations offers wisdom and helps me to trust in God.

I used to ask why God would allow me to go through somethings.  I could not see with my eyes, why He would, in all of His infinite wisdom, allow me to endure such situations.  It wasn’t until I read Romans 5:3-5

“And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.  Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”

I realized that the tribulations, no matter how big or small, make me better.  They encourage me to a place of being better and hoping in God more.

Now do you see why it is never good to pretend.  We don’t have to treat others badly and act in a way that is unbecoming, but we should recognize the tribulation and allow the process of feeling, becoming, and overcoming to take place in our lives.

Today, I want to encourage you, as I have been encouraged myself.  We have been given some lemons and it’s time to make some lemonade.

Sometimes, you may not know how to feel, what to think, or how to act, but continue to trust God.  He knew what would happen and He has something great prepared for you in the end.  Recognize how the tribulation produces perseverance in you.  Take note of how the perseverance produces character in you.  Understand how the character produces hope in you.  When it is all said and done, look back and see how you are better and the hope that you have in God has not failed you.  Remember that it never will.

I hope you have found this helpful and that you will remember these things.

When life gives you lemons, make some lemonade…

Until next time…don’t pretend and be blessed.

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Thoughts on Today http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/thoughts-on-today/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/thoughts-on-today/#respond Tue, 04 Aug 2015 03:21:27 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3878 I have been sitting here thinking of what to share with you about my day. It was very busy and full of emotional ups and downs. The ups were about my day. The downs were about my past month. There were things that happened, conversations that I had, and questions that I asked, which are […]

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I have been sitting here thinking of what to share with you about my day.

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It was very busy and full of emotional ups and downs.

The ups were about my day. The downs were about my past month.

There were things that happened, conversations that I had, and questions that I asked, which are still on my mind.

Today, I realized, more than ever, that we may not get to choose the circumstances of our lives, but we do get to choose our reactions to them.

So this is what I want to share with you today.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Philippians 4:8

The things that we think will help us act in a way that we can be proud of. The actions of others may cause us to consider doing things or saying things that are out of character, but prayer and proper thinking will help us to see life in a different light.

So try to make good decisions and have a good day.

Until next time…

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Sharing Scripture 5 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-5/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/sharing-scripture-5/#respond Sun, 02 Aug 2015 13:39:11 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3867 Today, I would like to share with you a bible verse.  May you be blessed encouraged by the Word of God.

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10 Quick and Thorough Cleaning Tips For A Saturday http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/10-quick-and-thorough-cleaning-tips-for-a-saturday/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/08/10-quick-and-thorough-cleaning-tips-for-a-saturday/#comments Sat, 01 Aug 2015 16:11:48 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3863 Happy Saturday!!! Its time to do a quick thorough cleaning so that you can enjoy the rest of your day…but first let me give you a few tips and encouragement…   Here are my top 10 tips for cleaning on a Saturday There are so many ways that you can clean.  If you aren’t in […]

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Happy Saturday!!! Its time to do a quick thorough cleaning so that you can enjoy the rest of your day…but first let me give you a few tips and encouragement…

 

Here are my top 10 tips for cleaning on a Saturday

There are so many ways that you can clean.  If you aren’t in the mood to do it or you have other things on your mind, it could be a long and boring process.

You could get sidetracked and be ineffective in you cleaning…no one wants that.

Over the years, I have observed my own cleaning habits and realized that there is a way to motivate myself and use these 10 tips to get it done, quickly and thoroughly…

Tip #1 Decide what you would like to do for the day

Since you are reading this, it can be assumed that you would like to or have to clean today.  However, I suspect that you don’t want to spend your entire day doing it.  So, what else would you like to do?  Maybe you would like to read a good book, spend sometime with family, go out for a nice meal, or even watch a good movie.

By knowing that you would like to do these other things today, you will motivate yourself to clean faster and get the job done.

Which leads to tip 2

Tip #2 Decide how you will reward yourself for cleaning thoroughly and quickly

Our human minds are generally motivated by some sort of reward, whether it be by a positive reward or negative reward.

Yes, I did say negative reward.  Let me explain…

When you give yourself something to encourage an activity, that is a positive reward.  For instance, you would like to read 20 books, so you decide that at the completion of reading those 20 books, you will give yourself a budget of $40 total or $2 per book that you read, to buy books. (I like reading and reading analogies.)

Then there is the negative rewards, which was probably the statement that placed a question mark over your head in the first place.  This means that you take something away in order to encourage a positive action or when you are doing something undesirable.  Using the same analogy above, the negative reward would be that for every book that you did not read, you would take away $2 from the overall book buying budget of $40.

The reason why I am suggesting this is that you will find that if you have a few things that you would like to do after you are finished cleaning.  If you have not met your own expectation, rewarding yourself in this way will help you to stay motivated.  You will either gain something or lose something based upon your cleaning actions.

Tip #3 How long will you clean?

It is important that you decide how long you will clean.  Give yourself a start time and an end time to get all of the cleaning done for the day.  Will you clean for 2 hours? What time will you start? What time will you end?

Remember, it’s Saturday and we should be spending time with family and/or friends, doing things that we enjoy.  If not, you should at least be spending sometime doing something that you enjoy.

Tip #4 Make a list of rooms that you will focus on

It is very unlikely that you can clean your entire house thoroughly and quickly in one day.  This is why you need to decide which rooms you will focus on cleaning thoroughly and which ones you will do a light cleaning.

You may decide that you will thoroughly clean your bathrooms today and then lightly clean your living room and dining room.

Write these things down and remember that the objective is to clean quickly and thoroughly.  The rooms that you lightly clean, like your living room, can be thoroughly cleaned on another day of the week.

Be sure to check off the rooms that you have cleaned as you do them.

Tip #5 What are your focal points for each room

Every room has a messy point where you normally drop things down.  It can even be a space that collects a lot of dirt, paper, or trinkets.  This should be one of your focal points for that particular room.  For those rooms that you are lightly cleaning, at least decide to tackle those focal points.

Tip #6 Clean in increments

This is a tip that I acquired from the Fly Lady over 10 years ago.  I hold on to this tip because I have found it very helpful.  Her tips are so helpful, you should check out her site.

Decide the increments that you will clean in.  I recommend using the 15 minute increments.  I use a stop watch and allow it to sound automatically.  You can use your phone, kitchen timer, or find an online timer.

When you are cleaning in increments, you give yourself time to focus and refocus on various tasks while cleaning.  You offer yourself a bit of adventure and stop yourself from getting board with the task.  You might even speed up,  knowing that you are supposed to be finished with a specific task in a certain amount of time.  You will also begin to notice how much you are getting done with each time that the alarm sounds.  This will also motivate you to continue.

Tip #7 Take breaks in between the cleaning increments

As I stated above, I recommend that you clean in 15 minute increments.  Do this three times and then when your alarm goes off the 4th time, on the 45 minute mark of the hour, take a break.  For more clarity, understand that if you start at 10am, you will clean until 10:15.  Once the alarm goes off, you will refocus.  Do that again at 10:15 and again at 10:30.  Once your alarm sounds at 10:45, give yourself a break.

At your break, sit down and do nothing.  Studies have shown that if you take 15-20 minutes to do nothing and rest, you will be thoroughly replenished and rejuvenated.

*Perhaps my word for the day should be thoroughly…*

Tip #8 Aim for clean not immaculate

This is a tip that I have had to tell myself over the years.  I clean my house all week-long and there are many times where I wonder why my husband seems to do it faster than I do.  I have learned from his wisdom and I want to share it with you.

Everyday is not a day to clean thoroughly to the point where the house is spotless and immaculate.  That being said, we are aiming for clean and that is a personal standard.  I am however saying that if today is not the day to focus on the kitchen, don’t begin to pull out the refrigerator and stove to clean behind them.

It’s Saturday, remember the plan back in Tip #1…that’s why I had you do it.

Tip #9 Play some music, watch a movie…

This tip is something that I highly encourage.  Although it says play some music or watch a movie, there are so many options for things that you can do to help you clean.

The purpose in doing this is so that you are not thinking about the mound of laundry that you are folding.  Who likes the repetition of grabbing, folding, and putting down?  I know I don’t.  However, I do like to do it while I am watching a movie, listening to an audiobook, watching a YouTube video, or listening to some music.

You will find that this tip will help you get your cleaning done quicker that you thought.

Tip #10 Try not to stress and have a little fun

I know that you just read that tip and wondered if you were still reading the same article.

Yes! I said it…you can clean and not stress.  You can also have a little fun while doing it.  See how long it takes you to do the tasks that you have set up.  Make it a game for yourself.  Enjoy the music or videos that you are listening to and watching.  As your house begins to look the way you want, smile and realize that you are doing a great job. Remember the rewards?  This is the time to remind yourself of them and to do your best.

Have a Happy Saturday!!!

My hope for you is that after reading this, you will be ready to tackle that Saturday cleaning, so that you can then have fun with your family and friends, read a great book, or go out to dinner.  I hope that you have found encouragement within this post.  As you apply the tips that I have given you, decide which ones you would like to tweak a little and which ones work best for you.  Come back another day and tell me how it went…

Until next time, Happy Saturday!

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Q & A: Do you struggle with being a stay at home mom? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/q-a-do-you-struggle-with-being-a-stay-at-home-mom/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/q-a-do-you-struggle-with-being-a-stay-at-home-mom/#comments Fri, 31 Jul 2015 15:46:08 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3853 Happy Friday everyone.  As I announced yesterday, I will be doing a Q & A every Friday.  Our first question comes from Elizabeth. Hello! I, too, am a grateful SAHM. But, I am in what seems to be a very small group of SAHMs with older children (one tween and one teen) who does not […]

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Happy Friday everyone.  As I announced yesterday, I will be doing a Q & A every Friday.  Our first question comes from Elizabeth.Q & A

Hello! I, too, am a grateful SAHM. But, I am in what seems to be a very small group of SAHMs with older children (one tween and one teen) who does not homeschool. Lately, I’ve had several conversations with moms my age who’ve said, “What would I do with myself if I didn’t work?” I, personally, don’t have any problem finding things to do (two words: band mom). But what is your perspective on this subject? It seems it’s acceptable to be a SAHM of babies: so much to do there. And of preschool and elementary kids: hello, PTA mom! But I’m feeling a little lonely here in SAHM/public-school/older children land! 🙂

Well, that is a question that I think most stay at home moms think about and may never actually discuss.  Yet, it is something that I have often asked other stay at home moms about because I am interested in their answer and would like to see what plan they have for life.

In today’s society, women are pressured to have a duality that can often be frustrating.  They are supposed to be strong, but feminine.  The strength that they are expected to have is an emasculating strength (it takes away from our men) that says things like “I don’t need a man to be ok,” or “I will pursue my career and take care of my family.”  While there isn’t anything wrong with these statements in themselves, the implication is that the woman is on an island by herself, having to make decisions for herself and her family because there may be an absence of a man or the man might not be present, even when he is.  This lack of trust in the men that are in our lives, socially, leads the 21 century woman to struggle with being dedicated to her God, her husband, her children, her church, her career, and so much more.

All of these pressures and ideas lead to the destruction of the family.  Who has time and energy to tend to the needs of the family, ward off dangers, and nurture home life, when they are bombarded with these types of ideas and worries.?

I have said all of this because I believe it is at the root of why we struggle with these questions in the first place.

When I first became a mother, I worked.

You know, I need to back up a bit…before I became a mother, I worked.

I had seen my mother work my whole life and I assumed that this was what I was supposed to do.  She took care of me and worked; and I never saw nor understood her struggle.  That “struggle” would become very apparent as my husband and I came to expect our first child.

I was in the military and was expected to do everything that I did before I was pregnant.  Now, if you have never been in the military, you might be thinking, “yes, you should be able to do it all.”  However, I want to challenge your thinking a moment and place you in my pre-mother, military woman, new wife shoes…

As a new wife, I had not yet learned the ins and outs of taking care of my home, nurturing my marriage, or meeting the needs of my husband.  I was supposed to be learning how to maintain my home and make it a place that he wanted to come home to.  It was supposed to be a sanctuary where he could unwind after work and our marriage could grow; a safe haven for me and my young family.  Instead of doing what I was called to do, I was trying to be like my mother, who was a single woman and mother.  I was nurturing myself, keeping my house clean, preparing for work , and taking care of me.  I took tended to my husband and children, but I was very distracted.  This me, had no clue…

As we came to expect our first child, the military did not tell me that I would not have to get up at 6am to go do physical training.  By physical training, I mean run, do crunches, and even push-ups until my belly was too big to do so.  Now this sounds great to the superstar mommy that wants to get back in a bikini right when she has the baby.  She gets on stage and dances, like she has no morning sickness.  Yet I am not, nor have I ever been that woman.  I had to continue to do most of the things I had done prior to expecting a child.

I was 19-year-old GI Jane, but I was tired moody, with occasional morning sickness and life confusion.  I began to wonder, at 3am as I put on my uniform to report for a urinalysis, how anyone could or would expect me to be a mother and a wife while being in the military.  I saw mothers that had 6 month old children deploy, leave the country for one year or more to fulfill military duty. Fulfilling their duty to the country meant leaving their children with families and friends.  My frustration with all that I was handling led me to realize that I could not do all of this.

By this, I meant be everything to everyone.  A few years later, I had gotten out of the military, I was pregnant with our second child, and trying to adjust again.  I had worked outside of the military, placed my oldest son in daycare and left many of my relational needs with my husband stagnant.  I did not have time to nurture a healthy relationship with my son or my husband because I was so busy working and trying to meet the worldly standard of “becoming somebody.”  Now don’t get me wrong, I tried to maintain my relationship with them…I did what I knew to do, but I was divided.  I was trying to focus on to many things at one time

The pregnancy of my second child led me to decide that it was time for me to put my family first.  The needs of my family and the pressure of the worldly standard were in competition due to my desire to be a godly woman, wife, and mother.  I could not see how I could do it all without not doing it all.  Something would be lacking.  I had to make the decision. I decided to pursue my degree in preparation for the future, but I would remain conscious of the needs of my family.  More than I would be conscious of their needs, I would tend to them.

That was 9 years ago.  I have had three more children since then and seen my family grow in such great measure.  I have a healthy relationship with my husband that I believe we are both pleased with, although always a work in progress. 🙂  I have, with much struggle completed my bachelors degree; and have had to be dedicated with a focus on what’s important, as I walk through this current season of working on my masters degree.  This personal history of struggling within myself to do it all has stayed with me throughout the years.  Some women can do it all, but I have found within myself that I cannot be the mother, wife, and woman of God that I desire to be or that God wants me to be if I am also a full-time working woman.

My decision has been a progress.  Currently I have three of my four in school.  My fourth child is two years old.  However, I have found that my 12, 8, and 6 year olds have needed me to be able to be available to them during school hours and when they get home.  If I were working outside of the home, they would not be able to have my full attention, neither would my husband.

As a homemaker, there are a lot of things that go into maintaining my home and relationships with my family.  The culture is crumbling, but my family has a strong foundation in Christ,  so that they can be people of integrity.  I admire the Proverbs 31 woman who did it all, but I have to know my limitations and do what I can.

For each woman, that will look differently.  Currently I am working on my masters degree in Life Coaching, for this very reason.  One of my desires is to help women transition in and out of the workplace in a way that they find will meet the needs of their families and the desires of their hearts.  Part of my journey is maintaining a balance that allows me to be available to my family and to be effective in my education.  My education is preparation for the next season of my life, but it should not take away from the season that I am in.

I believe that it takes great strength to be both of these women, a homemaker and a full-time working mother.  We just have to know our limitations and understand the calling that God has given each one of us.  For me, I feel that I sacrifice something to do everything.  When I am being paid to work outside of my home, my family suffers and I am not answering my first callings as a godly woman, wife, and mother.

I do not struggle with not knowing what to do while I am at home.  I stay very busy with my education, my hobbies, the actual homemaking process, and maintenance of my relationships.  Although, this frame of mind is a struggle because I am a 21st century woman, I seek to be pleasing to God in all that I do and look for his guidance.  There may come a time where I will be a full-time working woman, but God will work that out.

For the woman who is reading this, I want to say that things happen in life that show us what our families need.  There may come a time when you will need to help out in various ways, by working, but there will be other times when you will need to be to your family, what no one else can be.  This season is between you, God, and your husband.  Don’t allow anyone to put pressure on you to be on either side of this equation.  Let God lead you.  Pay attention to the needs of your family.  Do you see, as I did, that my relationship with my husband would have been better if I weren’t distracted with the needs of my job?  Do you see your children wanting you to be more involved or do they need you at school?  Are you available to help with homework and to be at the games?  If you find that you can do it all and still have peace…do it.  However, if you struggle with any aspect of what I am saying, take the time to pray, talk to your husband, and decide what is best for your family.

Each season will have its beginning and will come to an end.

To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven

~Ecclesiastes 3:1

I hope this has answered your question. 🙂

If you have read this today and would like to submit a question, please visit the Q & A page.

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Come and See…I’m Doing Something New http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/come-and-see-im-doing-something-new/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/come-and-see-im-doing-something-new/#comments Thu, 30 Jul 2015 15:14:13 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3830 Have you heard?!  I am doing something new, here at Being Mrs. Mom, and I am very excited about it! The Newsletter Over the past few years, I have wanted to have a way to promote other bloggers.  I have often thought about a weekly post that gave them the spotlight, but it just did […]

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Have you heard?!  I am doing something new, here at Being Mrs. Mom, and I am very excited about it!

Time For Something New

The Newsletter

Over the past few years, I have wanted to have a way to promote other bloggers.  I have often thought about a weekly post that gave them the spotlight, but it just did not seem like the best option.  After doing some thinking and brain storming, I have decided to establish a newsletter that will be used for multiple purposes.

  1. Featuring other bloggers that I believe need the spotlight.  For now, this will include a post from the blogger that I believe my readers will enjoy or greatly benefit from.  Each newsletter will be on a specific topic and the topic will change regularly.  (To submit a post for the feature consideration, please visit the Newsletter Blog Post Submission page.)  In the future, I would like include exclusive content from various bloggers.  If you would like to be a blogger that provides exclusive content to my readers in the future, please send an email to info@beingmrsmom.com or simply contact me here
  2. To notify my subscribers of the next month’s book of the month.  As many of you know, I read a lot and I have a book club on Goodreads.  I normally have a link on my website that shows the book that I am currently reading.  I thought that the newsletter would be an awesome way for all of us to be on the same page and prepare for the next month’s read.  I will also tell you about books that I am reviewing.  (If you would like to submit a book for a review, please visit the book review police page  and submit a request.)
  3. To share with you, an occasional, word of wisdom from a seasoned Christian woman, wife, and mother.  Monthly, I will what she has decided to share with us.
  4. To share with you an exclusive and personal word from my heart.  This will be something that I share only in my newsletters and not on my blog.

Can you see why I am so excited about this newsletter?

It will be published monthly, at the end of each month.  You should go ahead and subscribe, the first one will go out tomorrow, July 31, 2015.

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The Q & A

I have been married for almost 14 years and I have been a mother for almost 13 years. I have been a military wife, a student/mother, a stay at home mom, I was in the military, a working mother, and I have been woman of God for a very long time.  God has also brought a few awesome women of God into my path that can offer some wisdom to the situations that you present to us.  These women have 30 plus years of experience in being a wife and a mother…not to mention the 50 plus years of experience in being women.  Who doesn’t need that type of wisdom?!  I really want to answer questions and offer you these perspective about being a Christian woman, wife and mother.  I know that these awesome power houses that God has sent us have some wisdom to share with both you and I.

There is now a tab on the site titled Q & A.  You are able to submit your questions whenever you would like.  You can submit the questions with your name or anonymously.  One question will be answered every Friday.  We will notify you when your question is being answered via email, but you could also subscribe to the blog to receive the notification of the posts to the blog, so that you can receive these updates in your email. (This link can be found in the right sidebar.)

I don’t know about you, but I am very excited about this!  God is opening up so many door and giving me different ways to give you what you want.

Is there something that you would like to see in the newsletter or something a special element that you would like see me bring to the site, let me know by posting it in the comment section or filling out the contact form.

So make sure you subscribe to the blog to receive updates and to the newsletter for exclusive content.

 

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Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/dont-be-so-hard-on-yourself/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/dont-be-so-hard-on-yourself/#respond Wed, 29 Jul 2015 15:40:37 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3828 Now, I am going to say that this will not be an easy pill to swallow. Not just for you, but for me too. This morning as my husband was leaving the house, he kissed my youngest daughter and told her that she was beautiful.  Then he leaned over and gave me a kiss.  He […]

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Now, I am going to say that this will not be an easy pill to swallow.

Not just for you, but for me too.

Don't be so hard on yourself

This morning as my husband was leaving the house, he kissed my youngest daughter and told her that she was beautiful.  Then he leaned over and gave me a kiss.  He looked at me and told me that I was beautiful too.

With all of my stinky morning breath, crusty eyes, and messed up hair, I said “Not right now, I’m not.”  In response to my awkward response to his affectionate and loving words, in which I had rejected myself and him, to a degree, he said… “Yes, you are!  You’re my wife.”

Ok…wait!  Did you get that?! Or did you miss it?!

He not only disregarded what I had said, but he also took it and turned it around by implying that because I am his wife, I am beautiful.

After he left, I read a devotional that illustrated how often we take the time to treat strangers and those that we don’t really know, very well.  Yet, we fail to treat ourselves and, sometimes, the ones we love, with that same kindness.

Normally I would have told a friend or someone who I didn’t know, that they should not be so hard on themselves. Yet I was doing it.

So I took some time to think about this.

How does the way that I treat myself affect my relationships with others and more importantly, my relationship with God?

There are enough people and ads out there that tell me that I am not beautiful, too dark, my hair isn’t straight enough.  They say that I’m not smart enough, not tall enough, short enough, bold enough.  They say that I’m too feminine and too masculine.  They tell me that I need to be more independent, but that I’m not dependent enough.  You know…I smile too much, but don’t smile enough.  How about this one?  I’ve been told that I am too organized, but not organized enough.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think that I should listen to these voices.  They don’t seem too sure of the standard.

Then there is me…I am really hard on myself.  I often hold myself to a very high standard.  In many ways, I deal with perfectionism.  We all know that I will never be perfect, in this life.  In all actuality, I am aiming to be pleasing to God, but that ends up translating into trying too hard.  I keep trying to do what is right in His eyes, but I hear the voices of people. I hear them rejecting my application.  I hear them telling me that now is not the time and I’m not it.

My heart believes that He loves me and that I am accepted, but this head of mine…its always fighting with my heart.  Telling me that I am not special and most often, I am not wanted.

With all of this, I think I hear God saying that I am not good enough and He is not pleased…

But wait!!! That’s not the truth.

He never said that.  That’s not even His character.

Much like my husband, He looks at me, in all of my mess.  He has said “You are beautiful. You are mine.” (see Isaiah 43:1)

He has said that his kindness would not depart from me; that he would have mercy on me, and that his covenant of peace would not be removed from me. (See Isaiah 54:10)

He has created me as I am supposed to be and he loves me. He will never leave me.

He has said the same thing to you.

Don’t believe me?

Let’s look at what the Bible says.

O Lord, You have searched me and known me.
2You know my sitting down and my rising up; You understand my thought afar off.
3You comprehend my path and my lying down, And are acquainted with all my ways.
4For there is not a word on my tongue, But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
5You have hedged me behind and before, And laid Your hand upon me.
6Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is high, I cannot attain it.
7Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
8If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
9If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
10Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.
11If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall on me,” Even the night shall be light about me;
12Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You, But the night shines as the day; The darkness and the light are both alike to You.
13For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
15My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
17How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them!
18If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You.
19Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God! Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.
20For they speak against You wickedly; Your enemies take Your name in vain.
21Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You? And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
22I hate them with perfect hatred; I count them my enemies.
23Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties;
24And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.
~Psalm 139

Are you able to see it?  Have you realized why it is important not to be so hard on yourself?  Meeting the expectations of the world is impossible because they don’t know what they want.  The world is tossed in every which way depending on the culture climate.  However, our God is the same yesterday, today, and forever.  The woman who He created you to be is the woman that He wants you to be.  He gave you that hair, that skin, that smile, those teeth and all of your qualities.  He has said that He would never leave us or forsake us. (see Joshua 1:9)

He has created us and in rejecting ourselves, we, in turn, reject Him.  We are made in His image and with His love.  He made us in a way that is magnificent and pleasing to Himself.  All He wants is our love, obedience, and worship.

This in itself is another post, but let me leave you with this.  If you don’t love God with all of your heart, another god will sit on the throne of your heart and you will love it.  If you don’t obey God, you will submit to another authority and obey it.  If you don’t worship God, you will find something else to worship.

So, what am I getting at?

All of those other things, that will attempt to take the place of God and desire you, will never ever do what God has done for you.  They have never taken the time to piece you together and they will never love you.  They are not totally dedicated to seeing you at your best…only God can, has, and will do those things.  He sent Jesus Christ to die for your sins and to wipe your slate clean.

Have you ever lied?

Have you ever stolen something?

Have you ever used the Lord’s name in vain?

Have you ever looked at a man with lust in your heart?

Have you ever been jealous of what someone else had and wanted it?

Before Jesus, we were all liars, adulterers, and covetous thieves at heart.  There was nothing left for us but to try hard and burn in eternal damnation away from God.  Yet, Love paid the ultimate price and has now given us a chance to have life more abundantly here on earth…no more trying, just be who He has called you to be and walk with Him.  You are also now able to have eternal life.

If you don’t already know Jesus Christ as your  Lord and Savior, please take a moment, in your heart to speak with the One true and living God.  Accept His free gift of salvation, repent of your sins, and make Him the Lord of your life.

I can’t promise you that there won’t be days when you wake up feeling like I did.  I can’t promise you that you won’t or that the world won’t be so hard on you, but I can tell you that you don’t have to be.  I can tell you that God is there at the door and He wants to walk with you through your roughest times.  This applies to you whether you have known the Lord for years or are just meeting Him.

My prayer for you today is that you would have peace in Him.

Have a great day and be blessed.

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On Matters of the Heart: The One Who is Hurt http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/on-matters-of-the-heart-the-one-who-is-hurt/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/on-matters-of-the-heart-the-one-who-is-hurt/#comments Tue, 28 Jul 2015 15:15:54 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3833 In all of my years upon this earth, I have come to learn a few things on matters of the heart.  Today I am going to discuss hurt.   It may seem like a very broad topic, but hurt, when it comes to matters of the heart is like a double-sided coin.  You just can’t […]

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In all of my years upon this earth, I have come to learn a few things on matters of the heart.  Today I am going to discuss hurt.

 

It may seem like a very broad topic, but hurt, when it comes to matters of the heart is like a double-sided coin.  You just can’t win.

If you have been living for longer than 5 years upon this earth, which I suspect that you have, if you are reading this, you have either hurt someone else or have been hurt by someone.

Life is a mixture of sunshine and rain, tear drops and laughter, pleasure and pain. Just remember, there was never a cloud that the sun couldn’t shine through. ~Unknown

I set this quote here because I am going to talk about this topic of hurt and it is no easy feat.  However, I think it is important to remember that it won’t last forever, no matter which side of the equation you are on.

Alright…now let’s get into it.

When it  comes to this heart thing it is either hurt or be hurt…wait! Let me explain.

I am not saying this as a thing that should be done; you either hurt someone else or you get hurt.

Nor am I saying that you have to make a choice, right now, about which person you should be.

No!

I am saying this as an observation; I want you to think on this, as I explain.

Throughout the duration of a having a personal relationship with anyone upon this earth, there will come a time where either you or the other person will become offended.  This is inevitable.  Even Jesus said that it would happen. “It is impossible that no offenses should come, but woe to him through whom they do come!” Luke 17:1

Did you catch that?

He said that it is impossible that no offenses should come, so the first position that I would like to deal with is the one whom the offense has come to.

The One Who is Hurt

Hurt…hurt comes.  It comes in different fashions and forms.  It can look many different ways and be very unexpected.  There are even times when you can see it coming and attempt to protect yourself, but somehow, it still makes its way to your heart.

If you have ever been hurt, you know that there is a blow to the heart that reminds you that you are more that flesh and bone.  I say this because it is not a physical pain that we feel when we are hurt, but instead it is one that goes beyond the physical realm and hits our emotions.

When you are hurt, you can feel like you have done something wrong; you could feel rejected, confused, and even angered by the pain that someone else has caused you.

Yet, in the midst of all that you are experiencing you have a choice to make.

What are you going to do?

Various choices can begin to come to your mind.  While some options may involve retaliation, I urge you not to make those choices.

Yes, I understand that there is only so much that a heart can take and you may feel that you have taken enough, but let me tell you, there is nothing that you will ever do that will not produce some sort of fruit, whether good or bad, that you will not have to eat some day.  You will reap what you sow.

Do you want the fruit of hurting another in retaliation?

Hopefully you answered wisely and said no.

So what is it that you are supposed to do? Nothing?

Now I am not suggesting that you do nothing.  Instead I am suggesting that you not be quick to anger or quick to act; Don’t be quick to speak either, for that matter. (Ecclesiastics 7:9; James 1:19)

Take a moment, whether in a heated discussion or in the privacy of your own thoughts, to take wise Counsel with God.  He is near to you, if you draw near to Him, in any moment that you desire and He will give you wisdom on how to act. (James 4:8; James 1:5)

Once you have taken a moment, realize that your actions are very important from here on out.  We teach people how to treat us, by how we allow them to treat us and by how we treat others.

If a person has hurt you, it is imperative that you first realize the importance of setting some boundaries.

What has this person said or done, or the lack there of, that has caused you to be hurt.

*STOP!!! YOU ARE NOT MAKING YOURSELF PROMISES AT THIS POINT!* Don’t say things like I will never allow you to hurt me in that way again. 

Making yourself promises is not what I am encouraging you to do.

What I am encouraging you to do is to set up some boundaries.

See it

Let’s pause for a moment to get a visual…

Two neighbors live with open fields.  They are friends and they often travel to one another’s houses for fun, festivities, and personal conversation.  Crossing the property line has never been a problem.  However, both of these families have dogs.  When the families cross the property line the dogs have gone with them, in the past.  Yet on occasion, when there friends are not going to one another’s houses, the dogs cross the boundary line anyway.  One family has a garden in the back yard.  The other family has a family play set and activities set up in their back yard.  When the neighbor’s dog crosses the property line, it often leave its mark.  It goes to the bathroom, rummages through the garden, or bites & scratches up the family play set.  Both families have noticed the problem.  Without  allowing the emotions of being upset to get to them, they simply decide that there is a need for a fence to be placed between the two homes.  The dogs have no ill intent, they are just being dogs.  Yet there is a need to set a boundary for the dogs, so that each yard can remain as the families would like it to.  Each family takes the necessary steps to set this up as they, each, see necessary. Once the fence is set up, the dogs remain where the owners have left them, the yards remain intact, and the families continue to grow in their relationship together.

Getting an understanding

Did you get the visual?  I hope so…

Did you get what you need to do? I hope so…

You need to decide what the fence is that will allow you to keep your property in tact.

Now, fences are not walls.  They are fences that simply say to other people, this is my property and I would like you to respect my property line.  Your dogs are not allowed to go rummaging in my yard; nor can they tear up my family play set.

This is not an easy task, but it is one that needs to be done in order for you to remain unoffended.

The offenses will come, but you have to decide how to handle them.

Making the right choice

There will be many options for you, but I suggest that you take time for yourself, so that you can get a grip of how you are feeling and seek God, to know what you need to do.

Just don’t make any rash decisions.  Choose not to accept the offense as it is, but instead to reevaluate why you are hurt and how you can not be offended.  There will be times when you can see why you are hurt, but cannot see how it is that you cannot be offended.  When this happens, you have another option, just forgive.  If you have to, forgive yourself for anything that your feel responsible for.  Then forgive the person, so that you can move on.

Forgiving does not mean forgetting.  Nor does not forgetting mean always rehashing the painful events.  Instead it means that you learn from the experience and see how things can work out better next time.

Side Note:  Sometimes God allows us to see the character of people.  When you see it, pray, and act in a way that honors God, is wise, and is confirmed in your conscience.  Pray for the other person because hurt people hurt people.

It is my prayer for you that in the midst of all that you are feeling and experiencing, you would have peace through seeking God and acting in a way that glorifies Him.
Things happen in life, but remember there is no cloud that the sun cannot shine through…more importantly, there is no situation that God cannot fix.  We just have to trust Him in it.

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Finding My Place http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/finding-my-place/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/07/finding-my-place/#respond Tue, 14 Jul 2015 02:45:20 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3789 There are times where you know where you fit it. Then there are times when you don’t. This weekend I spent some time looking at the world, my life, and ministry. As I looked and thought, I wondered where I fit in.  I started thinking about the big picture and how God wants to use […]

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There are times where you know where you fit it. Then there are times when you don’t.

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This weekend I spent some time looking at the world, my life, and ministry.

As I looked and thought, I wondered where I fit in.  I started thinking about the big picture and how God wants to use me.

God has placed, in each one of us, gifts and talents.  He has given us to our families, friends, ministries, and the world.  Yet, we cannot do it all, all of the time.

I say this because there are times, when I want to do it all and be all to all people, but truth be told, that is now wise nor possible.

I have to look at the things that are going on in my life and be prayerful about how God desires for me to be productive in a situation.

All of this thinking, for a short time, caused me to feel like I had no place.  I saw myself as a speck of sand on a beach full of sand…where did I fit in and what was the point.

I saw all of the problems of the world and wanted to be a part of the solutions.  I saw all of the pain and wanted to be a part of the healing.  I wanted to be a help…

Here’s what I mean…

I don’t just want to be a replica of some other mother, wife, woman…I want to be who God created me to be.  In all of my uniqueness…and I am very unique and still I am commonly, uncommon…I stand out in various ways that are not always comfortable.  This caused me to ask…should I be.  Should I stand out because I am just like the others or should I be comfortable being uncomfortable because I stand out as me…just the way God created me to be.

I hope this makes sense because I am not trying to confuse you.

I want you to know, as I am realizing, that God has called each one of us to be very different in this world.  We may have certain qualities or circumstances that are similar to our sisters in Christ, or even have some stories that the other women in the world may relate to, but we are not supposed to look like, sound like, and dress like them.

Our identity must rest in Christ.  This must be our resting place…a place of comfort.

As I thought of these things, I felt inadequate…as if I could not handle those things that God has brought me to handle.  I had, for a brief moment lost my sight.  I could not see where I fit in…

But God…

As I thought…I contemplated…I read my Bible…I prayed…I waited…and I prayed some more…

He reminded me that I fit in Him.  He is my source and my purpose.  He is the reason why I am alive and my reason for being.  I had to stop thinking on how big the world was and all that was going on in it and focus on how great my God is.  Realizing His awesomeness, allowed me to grasp hold of his purpose for me…

In this I rested…

As I rested, it was revealed.

Perfectionism, is not the way to go.

Being like everyone else is not the way to go.

Being recommended or recognized…even honored, are not the ways to go.

The way to go is by His grace, as I trust His leading…

In that moment, as I dwelled on Him…I was at peace.  I could see that none of my own expectations or the expectations of the world may add up, but His will…would.

In this…I found peace.

I realized, through His revelation that all of the things that He reveals to me through various avenues, He will put to use, in time…

What He gives me to use, when He gives me to use it..can be utilized, as long as I trust in Him…

In this, I heard His voice…

Calling me to listen harder and pay attention amongst all of the noise…

In this…I found my place in all of this

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Just Be You http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/just-be-you/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/just-be-you/#respond Wed, 24 Jun 2015 23:31:45 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3783 Being original isn’t hard, but for some reason, we all struggle at it a little bit. We look around and see certain things working for some people and other things working for others. We wonder, “could any of this work for me.” Without saying no, I am saying that it is extremely critical that we […]

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Being original isn’t hard, but for some reason, we all struggle at it a little bit.

We look around and see certain things working for some people and other things working for others. We wonder, “could any of this work for me.”

Without saying no, I am saying that it is extremely critical that we realize the importance in being unique.

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Out of all the people in the world, there are no two that share the same fingerprint. That says a lot.

Although we all have eyes and they range from green, to blue, to brown…no two people have the same iris or retinal pattern.

I would bet that if we were to count the number of hairs on our heads, we would find that we differ there as well.

What does this say about our Maker? What does this say about us.

Well, from where I’m sitting, it says that He likes variety and uniqueness. It says that being special is not found in our commonality, but in our uniqueness.

This makes sense because some people wonder how God could find you, me, and 50,000 others special. The truth is we are all special in different ways. He looks at us and sees who we are and that is what makes us special.

We each make Him laugh a certain way. We get His attention and touch His heart in a certain way…

Do you see where I am going with this?

Our family and friends feel the same way, even if they never say it. They see how unique and special we are and their hearts smile…

I am saying all of this to help you, and me, walk upright with our heads held high because we are, in our uniqueness, great.

So stop trying to be like the other gal and just be you…

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It summertime!!!

Yay!!!!

Do you know what that means?!

It means that my family and I get to do great things everyday…together. Now although my husband will be able to do things with us, the summer fun will mostly consist of my kids and I hanging out.

We love going to the pool, running through the sprinkler, and playing outside together. Although these are things that we can do all year long together, the best part is that no one has to be worry about homework, waking up for school, or even what day of the week it is. We just spend days of carefree hours together doing what we love.

I am so excited, that I feel like I am going to burst with joy.

Last night I said that I was excited that the summer was finally here. My younger son asked me if it was because we get to spend so much time together…YES!!! That is my reason (plus the fact that we don’t have to get up at the crack of dawn or before it).

Today, we slept in. We had a fun carefree breakfast, sat on the couch and watched a movie. We had a video game challenge, where my older son came out as the ultimate winner. We had a great lunch and now we are getting ready to have some of that good old outside fun.

Some of the things that I am looking forward to are going to the park with my kids and taking trips to explore. We also like to take trips to our local library, book store, and used book stores. We’ll probably do some art and craft activities that have to be done outside, since they are so messy. This will give me a chance to try some of those projects that I have on my Pinterest board for doing crafts with my kids.

I am looking forward to our baking sessions together. This is something that we do on breaks anyway, but during the summer, baking and coming up with new things is fun.

One of our summer projects will be to study the Bible together. I am really excited about this.

You know being a mom, is one of the best gifts that God could have ever given me. I get to share my life with these four great kids. I pour in to them and they make my life such an adventurous pleasure.

My heart is filled with so much joy right now.

I don’t know about you, but I just can’t get enough of my babies…although one of them would say that he isn’t a baby anymore…he’s still my baby.

I hope you plan on having a great summer like I do.

Ok…enough chat, I’ve got to run…literally… 🙂

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3 Essential Tools Needed To Stay Organized http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/3-essential-tools-needed-to-stay-organized/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/3-essential-tools-needed-to-stay-organized/#respond Thu, 18 Jun 2015 12:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3706 We have been talking about getting organized. There are a lot of things that you could get to stay organized, but there are three essential tools that you should make sure to not only acquire, but to hold on to and become very fond of. 1. Something to record with I always keep pens with […]

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We have been talking about getting organized. There are a lot of things that you could get to stay organized, but there are three essential tools that you should make sure to not only acquire, but to hold on to and become very fond of.

1. Something to record with

I always keep pens with me. It is very important that you keep a pen with you at all times. If you don’t have a pen with you, at least have a device that you can use to record your thoughts.

So in thinking of something to record with, find a pen, pencil, or device that you like to look at and love to hold. You will use it a lot.

2. Something to record on

Now if you have something to record with, you know you need something to record on, but it needs to have room to hold your thoughts, lists, and goals. You need to be able to carry it with you everywhere. If you aren’t going to have it with you all of the time, why have it?

I personally use my Franklin Covey planner. I keep it with me all of the time. I am also very fond of how it looks. I love the way that it feels in my hands. I have also decorated it to look in a way, to me, that makes me want to look at it everyday.

You might even choose to start off with a todo list. You could use a journal or a notebook that you have.

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I would recommend getting a planner or create your own. There are many options. I have tried a few of them.

3. Something that inspires you

This last thing is something that I believe will have a very strong impact on you while working on being organized. Find quotes, pictures, stories, goals, and anything else that inspires you.

Over the past few years, I have gathered things that I’ve come across, which inspired me. I’ve written them in my planner so that I could remember them. I have photos of my children, their drawings, notes from my husband, Bible quotes, quotes on planning and so much more in my planner. As I am using it, I find inspiration hidden within the pages.

What I am telling you is not that you have to do things my way. Instead I am saying that you have to find your way and make being organized and planning special to you. When it becomes special to you, you will begin to take responsibility for your actions. The effort that you put into being organized, even in the materialistic things, will begin to show in your life.

I hope this helps.

Today’s assignment is for you to

1. Find something to record with that you really like and will want to use a lot. You might even need to purchase something special.

2. Find something to record on. For the time being you could use a note book or note pad, but eventually you should look into using a planner or notebook that you can customize like a planner. (I can make recommendations later)

3. Begin to search for things that inspire you. Gather them together in one place. Look for quotes, pictures, stories, and anything else that you can think of that inspires you.

4. Pray that God would help you line things up so that you can get and stay organized.

5. Rest in Him

I look forward to discussing more with you tomorrow as we discuss getting it together.

If you have any questions, comments, or recommendations…leave me a comment below.

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A Moment to Ponder http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/a-moment-to-ponder/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/a-moment-to-ponder/#respond Thu, 18 Jun 2015 03:45:51 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3721 The organization posts will pick back up tomorrow. For now, let’s think on this. (photo from lifehack.com) Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. This says a lot… Let’s take some […]

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The organization posts will pick back up tomorrow. For now, let’s think on this. IMG_9867.JPG (photo from lifehack.com)

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

This says a lot…
Let’s take some time to think on it…

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5 Reasons Why Should You Be Organized? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/5-reasons-why-should-you-be-organized/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/5-reasons-why-should-you-be-organized/#respond Tue, 16 Jun 2015 16:00:00 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3704 Yesterday we discussed the idea of organization.  We looked at getting it together. We all need to be organized, right?! But have you ever asked why? Why would anyone want to take the time out of their lives to organize and plan, when they could be doing something…productive? Well, I am going to give you […]

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Yesterday we discussed the idea of organization.  We looked at getting it together.

We all need to be organized, right?!

But have you ever asked why?

Why would anyone want to take the time out of their lives to organize and plan, when they could be doing something…productive?

Well, I am going to give you 5 reasons why you should be organized.

1. Clear your head

Living life in today’s world, we find ourselves overwhelmed with a vast amount of things to do.  We are wondering what we have already done.  We are asking questions about budgets, schedules, the kids, our spouses, our dreams, hopes, and aspirations.  If you add in the books we want to read, the products we want to try, the trips we want to take, and the chores to get done, our heads are full.

Now don’t get me wrong, we don’t want an empty head with no knowledge, but we, also, don’t want a cluttered head either.

All of those thoughts need to be written down some where so that we don’t feel we have to have the lists stapled on the walls of our brains.
2. Have Less Stress

By clearing our heads of all the clutter, we begin to free up space in our minds to have a systematic way of thinking.  The structure that we implement will not only be evident in how we organize, but we will begin to live life in an ordered fashion as well.

Yes! I am talking about organized living.

Our brains like order.  The more we create a pattern or organize a thing, the more our neurons travel across the synapse in our brain.  The more a synapse is used, it sticks around and forms a permanent bridge within our minds.  To make it clear, what we use we keep.  What we don’t use, we lose.  These bridges start off as thoughts, but can also form actions and habits.  As we grow and learn, like in organization, we become more stable.  The more stable we are, the less stress as we have more  experiences.

This will give our brains a sense of relief.  Knowing where things are, what’s coming up, and what you want to do, allows your mind the freedom to focus on things that you find more important.  It also provides a stable environment for your continued growth and development.
3. Process Your Thoughts (Discussing your thoughts with you)

The Bible tells us tells us to meditate on the Word of God.

Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

~Joshua 1:8

That word meditate does not just mean to sit and think.  It also means to have a conversation with ourselves about what the Word says.

Well, I apply this same meditation meaning to organization.

We need to ponder, think, and discuss, our list of to-do’s and must have’s, with ourselves and God.  By discussing it, we are actually thinking through it and processing it more than we realize.

4. Keeping Track

By staying organized, we offer ourselves the opportunity of tracking our progress.  It feels good to look back and see how far you have come from where you were…and if you didn’t move, you can find a way to motivate yourself to get going.

Keeping track and being organized will motivate you to move forward in your goals, relationships, personal and professional endeavors.

I even track my hobbies…I must admit, it becomes fun. 🙂
5. Get Rid of Forgetfulness

I’m not sure if you are anything like me, but I used to forget a lot.  I would remember an event, but forget the date and time.  I would remember the date, but forget the time.  When I got to my lowest point, I had arrived to a party and it was over…that was when I said, I have to do something about this.  I meant well, but I wasn’t organized,

When you are organized, you don’t put the pressure on yourself of having to remember everything.  Your planner and organization helps you with all of that.  It is almost like you create your own personal assistant.

Don’t believe me?  If you continue to walk with me throughout this week, you’ll see that you can do this…and it’s not as hard as you would think it is.

Let’s Recap

There are 5 reasons why you should be organized.  

1. Clear Your Head
2. Have Less Stress
3. Process Your Thoughts
4. Keep Track
5. Get Rid of Forgetfulness

I hope you found this helpful.

Wait! Don’t leave…I have something for you to do…

Your assignment is to…

First: Think of the reasons why you should be organized.  Write them down.

Second:  Do you have any objections? Write those down too.

Third:  Do you think you will struggle with being organized?  If so, in what ways?…you’ve guessed it…write those down also.

Fourth:  Pray, out loud for God’s direction.

Finally, Rest In Him.

Join me tomorrow as we take our next step in getting it together.

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Getting It Together… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/getting-it-together/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/getting-it-together/#comments Mon, 15 Jun 2015 16:25:10 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3693 Well, today is Monday, and you know what that means… It means, more to do, places to go, people to see, and so much more… Even if you are stuck in the house on a Monday, there is a lot going on in your mind… I say this, because I know. I used to have […]

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Getting It TogetherWell, today is Monday, and you know what that means…

It means, more to do, places to go, people to see, and so much more…

Even if you are stuck in the house on a Monday, there is a lot going on in your mind…

I say this, because I know.

I used to have headaches because I had so much to do or that I wanted to do.

I was thinking about so much stuff, that my brain was cluttered with all of my todo’s.

Then I read

Proverbs 3:5,6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Proverbs 16:9 The mind of man plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.

I had so much going on in my mind…I longed for peace.  I wanted to trust God.  I wanted to submit to Him.  I wanted to all that He had to offer, but I could not figure out where to start.

I’ve been a writer all of my life.  Since I was in kindergarten, I’ve written things down.

Yet at this point in my life, when I was so frustrated and confused, I had stopped doing what I loved.

I wrote when I had to, but when I needed and wanted to, I just wouldn’t.

After reading these scriptures and asking God to help me, I began to desire to get organized.  I looked high and low for the answers…not knowing what to do, I started writing again.  Not stories or anything, just lists.

I made so many lists…looking back, I laugh now, but making those lists, began to empty out my brain.

The more I wrote down my ‘to do’s’ the more I felt relief.  I would write my list and ask God to help me accomplish what He had for me.

Shortly after my season of lists, I came across the Franklin Covey planner.

I followed the steps outlined in the starter pack and before I knew it, I was getting it together.

I had a purpose and mission statement.  I had life goals and my mind felt free.

Now, here I am today…I use my planner, lists, and I’m pretty organized…although the we could all use some improvement…I’m happy with my organizational skills.

I’ve had a lot of women, over the past few months, tell me that they are not organized and wished that they were.

Let me say this…You can be free too!  You can be organized!  You can get it together!

For the rest of this week, I will be posting tips on how you can get it together, by organizing your mind and life…Your assignment for today is to read over the scriptures that I mentioned above.

Proverbs 3:5,6
Philippians 4:6
Proverbs 16:9

After you have read these scriptures, write out what each one makes you think of. Write the directions that God is giving you through each scripture

Pray, out loud, that God would help you do His will, trust Him, and hear Him, as you take this journey.

Finally…Rest in Him

Join me here tomorrow, as I offer you the tools and tips needed to get it together…

 

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I’m Overwhelmed… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/im-overwhelmed/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/im-overwhelmed/#comments Fri, 12 Jun 2015 14:44:21 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3686 We all have these days… You know them… Days where it’s hard to move forward… Hard to smile… Hard to function… Not because of the weather, or something that just happened, but because something is bothering you… Something is causing you to be emotional… Something that makes you want to quit… To say, “I’m done.” […]

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We all have these days…

You know them…

Days where it’s hard to move forward…

Hard to smile…

Hard to function…

Not because of the weather, or something that just happened, but because something is bothering you…

Something is causing you to be emotional…

Something that makes you want to quit…

To say, “I’m done.”

It makes you vulnerable and turns everything else into a big deal too…

Capable of snapping on someone…

You hold back…

Shut down…

Pull back the tears…

And run inside where no one but God can see you…

And while there…you say…

“God why?!”

Everyone around you thinks they know, but they have no clue…

If you are like me, you realize…

THIS IS OVERWHELMING!!!

STOP!!! STOP RIGHT THERE!!!

What is the problem?  Who is the problem?  Why is there a problem?  Why such great turmoil, pain, agony…Why?

We don’t wrestle against flesh and blood…No

We wrestle against the principalities in this life, against rulers, against the powers, against the world forces in this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places… That’s what Ephesians 6:12, 13 says.

They make themselves known and affect us by whispering things in our ears, throwing destructive darts at our minds, and aiming their blows at our hearts…

But we have a choice…

Say this with me…

OVERWHELMED!!! YES, I AM OVERWHELMED!!!!

I am overwhelmed with emotions, but I will decide why I am overwhelmed… and it is not because of what these forces have to dish out against me…

NO!!!

I am overwhelmed because I serve a great God that is more than able to take care of me and everything that attempts to overwhelm me.

I am overwhelmed because of His great salvation.  I am overwhelmed because of His love.  I am overwhelmed because of His heart for me.

I am overwhelmed because of His power and His might…

I am overwhelmed because in the midst of my emotions, He makes Himself known…through the trees, the wind…

Through the birds…

Through the color of everything around me…

He whispers in my heart…

FEAR NOT!!! I AM HERE AND I HAVE ALREADY OVERCOME THEM!!! HAVE COURAGE AND HOLD ON TO ME…I AM HERE AND I’VE GOT THIS…

You just don’t know how completely overwhelmed I am right now…

I can feel His love…can you?

In the mist of my brokenness…in the midst of my ache…I know He is all-powerful.

My husband said “Don’t let anyone mess up your day!  Have a good one…”

That was God, speaking through Him…

The “let” in his statement said “take authority…don’t let it have power over you…put on the armor of God and stand”

Today, I stand on my knees…worshiping HIM.

I will choose what overwhelms me.  It will not be the cares of this life, or the problems…or the people…It will be God! He will overwhelm me…

Have you ever felt overwhelmed?

How do you handle it?

Are you able to take control of your emotions and focus on Him?

Try it! Next time let Him overwhelm you…it may take a minute, but whisper “God help me to be overwhelmed by you.” and I promise you will experience a great and powerful overwhelming that you will yearn for again…

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A Season of… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/a-season-of/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/06/a-season-of/#comments Wed, 10 Jun 2015 11:05:32 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3677 Today, I am going to share something with you… Something very dear to my heart… I’m a little nervous about sharing it because I think I hold back a little here, on this blog, but I think it’s time to give it my all… Not only that, but I am following God’s lead here.  I […]

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Word Wednesday

Today, I am going to share something with you…

Something very dear to my heart…

I’m a little nervous about sharing it because I think I hold back a little here, on this blog, but I think it’s time to give it my all…

Not only that, but I am following God’s lead here.  I believe that this is something that He wants me to share, so I will go where He takes me…

 

I was born a dreamer…

That’s right, a visionary…

I’d have dreams and visions, I still do…

If you need someone too believe in you, I am your gal.  I can see it!  I believe that there is no dream too big because we have a great God.

And if you have read my blog before you know that my favorite Scripture is Romans 10:11. It says that no one who puts their faith in God will ever be put to shame.

Now while we are talking big, there are dreams that I’ve had for myself, as well.  They are beautiful dreams that I have had hidden in my heart for a very long time.  Yet there is something  that, if you don’t know, I am going to tell you, must happen…a process.

As a dreamer, I didn’t know, nor was I taught that the dream didn’t just come to pass as quickly as it was tucked away in my heart.  Yet as I have lived this life and walked with God, He has shown me the truth in His Word.

Eccl 3:1-8 “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.”

I’ve experienced different seasons in my life. There was a time for fun; a time for preparation; a time to learn, a time for sacrifice; a time for laughter, a time for weeping…boy did I weep?! I thoroughly remember the time when I had to learn to be resilient.

During these times, I didn’t know what to call them.

Why am I telling you this?

Well, not knowing what to call these times or truly understanding them…I pushed against the things that were happening. My heart was breaking. I wondered why, when, and how long…I lost sight of the dream. I thought, for a split moment, that God had changed His mind about me and the plans He had for me.

Yet I was always reminded of Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.

One translation says, “to give you hope and a future.”

During these times, I needed to be reminded of God’s faithfulness…to His people…to His Word…to me…

Because He was and always is faithful…

So now here I am. I stand as a different woman, years later. I’ve had a few opportunities come knocking at my door and they have looked really good, but…it’s not time for them. It’s time for patience. It’s time to wait on God to do what only He can.  While I wait on Him, I will live this life as a wife, woman, and mother…a friend, teacher, confidante, a servant to all who God leads me to…I will continue to focus on the things that are important…

That means I’ve had to say no…a few times…and wonder if I made the right decision.

But I thank God for the Holy Spirit. He always reminds of what God’s Word says.

In this time of patience, I have to remember

Isaiah 40:31
But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired.

I’ll keep dreaming, planning, hoping, believing…and most of all waiting on Him patiently.

Today I want to give you an assignment. Once you do it, you can Tweet me, Instagram, Facebook, email me, or comment below…whichever you choose. Just as long as you do it.

The first thing is for you to think and pray about the season that you are in.

The second is to give it a name.

Third, find a scripture that helps you in this season. It should be something for you to stand on while you are here.

Then let me know, so that I can be praying for and with you. Let me know so that I can encourage you. Let me know because it’s nice to connect with others who are identifying where they are and walking in that place. (Use the hashtag #seasonof(__________) You fill in the blank.

I look forward to hearing from you.

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On Days Like This

On days like this, I just want to sit on the couch with a hot cup of tea while reading a great book…

That’s what I want to do, but let me assure you, that is not what’s about to happen.

You know what days I’m talking about…

All night, I heard the sound of rain…and crickets.

When I got up this morning, my house was cold, which delayed my movement from under the blankets…

My children were all snug in their beds, hoping that it was a Saturday…

To our dismay, it’s Tuesday and no matter how much we wanted to sleep in…we had to get up.

So what do you do on a day like this?

What do you do when you look out the window and all you see is the earth looking gloomy, as if it is national drink a cup of tea and read a good book day?

I don’t dare to say that I have all of the answers, but you could try what I did.

I found a beautiful spot on this earth and I looked at it in a different light.

 

A different perspective.

I found a bright area and I focused on the beautiful things…the flowers, the cup, my pjs, and my old pink Bible…

Then I just sat…

I sat and took in the fresh air…

I smelled the rain in all of it’s freshness…

I asked God to bless my day and lead me to accomplish all that He has for me…

Most of all, I wrapped my mind around goals…tasks…all of my required duties…

When I was finished, I felt great…

I felt ready…

I am so happy that I found the beauty in it all…

I am thankful for days like this…

They remind me that we all need to be refreshed…

We all need to slow down and take in our surroundings…

We all need to breathe…

How do you handle days like this? I’d love to hear about it.  Leave a comment below…

Thanks for reading

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Butterflies http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/butterflies/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/butterflies/#respond Fri, 29 May 2015 18:31:07 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3658 Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always beyond your grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you.  ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

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Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always beyond your grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you.  ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

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What About The TODO List? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/what-about-the-todo-list/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/what-about-the-todo-list/#respond Fri, 29 May 2015 14:40:14 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3652 If you are anything like me, when Friday comes around, you are thinking back on all of the things that you accomplished during the week. You may even be thinking of the things that you didn’t get done. That’s me… I’m normally looking at my to-do list. I start listing the millions of things that […]

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Refreshing Friday

If you are anything like me, when Friday comes around, you are thinking back on all of the things that you accomplished during the week.

You may even be thinking of the things that you didn’t get done.

That’s me…

I’m normally looking at my to-do list.

I start listing the millions of things that I could do today because it’s the end of the week and I had a goal in mind.

Then, I am hit with something…it happens each and every time.

YOU CAN’T DO EVERYTHING, ALL AT ONCE, ALL OF THE TIME!

Suddenly, I am hit with this reality and I’m stuck.

“What?! I had so much to get done.  I can do some of it…”

The truth is that I can’t and neither can you…

“We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.”  Proverbs 16:9

No matter how much we plan on doing, there are just some things that God never intended for us to do.

I don’t know about you, but I find that refreshing.

I can make as many plans as I want, but God has orchestrated my life.  He has already set aside those things that I will accomplish.  Not only has He set those things aside, but He is there with me in that moment to help me accomplish them.  All of the things that I’ve been planning are preparation for, in my mind… It is my participation in the process, but my extreme standard or all work and no play, is not THE standard.

So the to-do list can continue to grow, but I am happy that God has set aside the things that He wants me to accomplish and I’m sure that I will get those things done in the near future…

Until then I will just breathe…

freedom

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You Are More… http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/you-are-more/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/you-are-more/#respond Thu, 28 May 2015 02:01:17 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3640   Sometimes we forget. We forget that we are special. We forget that we are unique. We forget the times when we didn’t mess up. We forget how much fun we are. Sometimes we need to be reminded… Someone sees you as amazing. Someone thinks that you are great. Someone wants you to shine. …but […]

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Sometimes we forget.

We forget that we are special.

We forget that we are unique.

We forget the times when we didn’t mess up.

We forget how much fun we are.

Sometimes we need to be reminded…

Someone sees you as amazing.

Someone thinks that you are great.

Someone wants you to shine.

…but what does it take for us to realize that we are more that we thought we were?

It takes a hit of encouragement.

I got that today. It was a dose of…you’re special.

Today through God’s word, someone told me that I am amazing and I smiled.

I smiled because for a moment I had forgotten the things that I was good at. I had forgotten not to compare myself to others. I saw their strengths and my weaknesses. I had forgotten that the standard I need to meet is God’s standard.

The word, sparked life into my being and it hit home that I am great and it’s ok because I’m not great in my own strength. I’m great in His.

Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.

With this word I realized that this is how God sees me. This is how He sees you. That uniqueness that we bring to the table makes him say this to both you and me. So…don’t change who you are. Be 100% you…ALL OF THE TIME…

And remember… You are amazing!

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You Can Live Your Life Without Fear http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/you-can-live-your-life-without-fear/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/you-can-live-your-life-without-fear/#respond Mon, 25 May 2015 23:57:41 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3634 There are many people that live their lives, daily, in fear. They are afraid of what happened, what is happening now, and what will happen soon. Although we all have had experiences with fear, at some point in our lives, being fearful has to end. This no way to live a healthy life. Well, what […]

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There are many people that live their lives, daily, in fear.

They are afraid of what happened, what is happening now, and what will happen soon.

Although we all have had experiences with fear, at some point in our lives, being fearful has to end. This no way to live a healthy life.

Well, what is a gal to do?

I’ll tell you what I had to do.

I had to learn that I can’t control everything and I’m not expected to.

I had to learn that there is a GREAT BIG GOD out there that cares about me and my family. He is the only one capable of controlling everything.

This task wasn’t easy, I must admit. Yet with all that it took within me, I wanted God to be in control of my life so that the things He promised me would happen. As I gave Him more control, He took the reins, and gave me peace.

That’s right! He took my anxiety and fear and gave me peace.

Now I walk, talk, and think differently.

365 times, in the Bible, God tells us not to fear.

That’s one time per day of the year.

Should anyone doubt the message, they could read it for themselves.

I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. ~Psalm 34:4

Did you get that?

The Psalmist says that He sought the Lord and the Lord heard him and delivered him from ALL of his fears.

I don’t know about you, but that encourages me. If God would do it for Him, why wouldn’t He do it for you or me? God isn’t a respecter of persons. He loves all of us the same.

Still one of the keys is that we have to be willing to call upon the Lord, give Him our fears, and take what He gives us in return. If we do this, our lives end up filled with peace.

I’ve made the step and I feel God’s peace resting on me daily.

Will you take this step?

Say that today will be the last day that you live in fear…

Be encouraged and trust God.

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Are You Faithful in The Little Things? http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/faithful-in-the-little-things/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/05/faithful-in-the-little-things/#comments Mon, 18 May 2015 05:00:39 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3620 Often times we find ourselves committed to causes that we really believe in. We make sure that we do all that we are asked to do. If we have committed to doing something or being somewhere, we’ll make sure that we are faithful to show up or do it. That’s great! We are showing that […]

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IMG_9604.JPGOften times we find ourselves committed to causes that we really believe in.

We make sure that we do all that we are asked to do. If we have committed to doing something or being somewhere, we’ll make sure that we are faithful to show up or do it. That’s great!

We are showing that we are disciplined.

Still, I have a question for you…

Are you as committed to yourself or even to your relationship with God as you are to these other commitments?

How many times do we make ourselves promises only to break them?

Where do we lack commitment to self?

Is it in working out?

Is it in reading, praying, or having time to rest?

Maybe you told yourself a long time ago that you wanted to do something, like finish your degree or go back to school, but you never did it.

Did you fine that you we committed to other things?

Now don’t get me wrong.

There is nothing wrong with having priorities and realizing that what you wanted to do for yourself, just didn’t fit into the picture at that time, but what about now?

Have you lost sight of a dream or desire and left it on the back burner?

Perhaps you’re like me and said that you wanted to read the Bible all the way through and never did it…well, what are we waiting for?

There will never be a better time than now to commit to doing something for ourselves.

God tells us to love one another as we have loved ourselves, but how can we do that if we have forgotten about ourselves and left her stranded in the dust somewhere, holding the promise of that commitment…

Really?! Are you still waiting on yourself to fulfill the commitment that you made to yourself years ago?

If your answer is yes…now is the time to get honest with you…

Today I encourage you, as I am encouraging myself, to prayerfully take a look at the things that you’ve wanted to do for yourself. PICK ONE and see where you can fit that commitment into your present life…

Be good to yourself so that you aren’t angry when God calls you to be good to someone else.

That’s right!!!

Be faithful in the small things for you.

People always call us to be faithful in the little things others, but you count too. Be faithful in the little things in your life…the little things that are important to you.

Perhaps you should take a rest today.

Maybe tomorrow, you can paint your nails.

Over the weekend you can go for a run or walk.

Read that book you’ve been wanting to read. I’m sure you can find an hour in your day to do this.

Talk to God while you ride in the car.

I’m sure that if you find time to do this, you will feel great about you.

Remember, you are loved and you matter!

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Your An Overcomer http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/04/your-an-overcomer/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/04/your-an-overcomer/#comments Sat, 11 Apr 2015 16:07:31 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3596 I watched video today and I found it so encouraging.  I pray that it would encourage you as well. DON’T QUIT DON’T GIVE IN YOU’RE AN OVERCOMER!!!  

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I watched video today and I found it so encouraging.  I pray that it would encourage you as well.

DON’T QUIT

DON’T GIVE IN

YOU’RE AN OVERCOMER!!!

 

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As people we are all boggled down with life. We get so busy doing the things that we think are necessary and required. When we are not doing the necessary and required, we begin to do what we desire. Sometimes we fail to realize or just forget that we live in a community of people that need us…and we need them.

Whether we are thinking about our home, family, friends, neighbors, church, online community, or even, dare I say, the world…we all need each other. When individuals spend too much time alone, they begin to experience thoughts that may not be conducive to their “best” life. In the Bible, this loneliness or not having encouragement, led to a disbelief because people started to question the faith that they once had in God.(Hebrews 3) This is the reason why God tells us to exhort one another.

We have to be there, available, ready, and willing to encourage our brothers and sisters in the faith. We have no idea the struggles that they are going through and no one has any idea what we are going through as well. But God…

He is more that aware of our present condition and yes, He does and will encourage us, but He also gave us one another. We are a family and he wants us to help each other in our weakness.

If you are losing hope…don’t. Period…
God says in His word that no one who trust in and puts their hope in Him will ever be put to shame. (Romans 10:11)

If you feel like things are impossible…stop. Period…
God says in His word that with Him all things are possible.(Matthew 19:26)

If you feel like you have to give in to sin and temptation…don’t feel that way. And run!!! Period.
God says in His word that although sin comes to our house and knocked on the door, it crouches and waits, we have power over that sin…to overcome it. (Genesis 4:7, James 4:7)

If you feel that the cares in your life are just too much to bare and God doesn’t even care…like a car coming to a screeching holt, I say…DO NOT FEEL THAT WAY. Period…
God tells us in His word that he cares for us. In fact he wants us to thrust our cares upon Him because He cares. That’s right! He cares about everything that we care about. (1 Peter 5:7)

I am suggesting that you can just stop all of the things that I mentioned above. We have to take control of our emotions and cast vain thoughts out of our minds and vain imaginations off of us. (2 Corinthians 10:5) We have to tell ourselves (sometimes speaking out loud) that the thoughts and feelings that attempt to settle in us that are contrary to what God says and who He is, are all vain. Therefore, there is no need to hold on to them. We have to verbally cast them off!

Do you see how this works? I am encouraging you. Somehow, in encouraging you, I too, feel myself being encouraged. Why? Because we are the body of Christ and we need to build one another up so that or body can be strong. We are more connected that you know.

If one of us veers off to the left or the right, there are ravenous wolves waiting to devour…these are seen and unseen. Our thoughts and feelings are used as catalysts and springboards to set our hearts in motion away from or towards God.

So today lets stir one another up. Let’s encourage one another in the faith. Let’s encourage one another in relationships, work, hobbies, and life. God has empowered us to do it.

Someone might give up and turn away because we didn’t encourage him or her. That’s what the Bible says.

Be uniquely you, have no fear, and encourage someone else. You never know what a smile and a good word will do.

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A good word costs no more than a bad one. ~English Proverb

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God has spoken plainly, and I have heard it many times: Power, O God belongs to you.
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Taking Steps To Grow Spiritually & Intentionally http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/taking-steps-to-grow-spiritually-intentionally/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/taking-steps-to-grow-spiritually-intentionally/#respond Sat, 21 Feb 2015 19:54:47 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3501&preview_id=3501 Today, I read an article by Rick Warren. He talked about spiritual growth. As I read it, I felt encouraged to grow more spiritually, but I realized that although he talked about growing spiritually, he didn’t mention how this would happen, specifically. Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is […]

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Taking Steps To Grow

Today, I read an article by Rick Warren. He talked about spiritual growth. As I read it, I felt encouraged to grow more spiritually, but I realized that although he talked about growing spiritually, he didn’t mention how this would happen, specifically.

Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose. – Philippians 2:12-13

This was one of the key scriptures that he mentioned.  I’ve thought of this scripture often times when I think about growing.

“This verse shows the two parts of spiritual growth: “work out” and “work in.” The “work out” is your responsibility, and the “work in” is God’s role. Spiritual growth is a collaborative effort between you and the Holy Spirit. God’s Spirit works with us, not just in us.” -Rick Warren

There is a part of the growing that is God’s job. He works in us and grows us the way that he desires for us to grow, but there is another type of growing that is our part. It is rarely discussed, or at least that I’ve seen. Sometimes, we look for practical help…

We have a job to do in the growing. From my experience, it, partially,  has to do with a change of mind and a change of actions.

We have to begin to look at our thought patterns and ask ourselves, do these thought patterns line up with what I believe, with the word of God, and with the life of Christ. When we find a point where they don’t, we must be very active in changing them. From there we have to be proactive about producing positive thoughts that line up with who we are spiritually.

We have to tell ourselves things like, “I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me.”(Philippians 4:13  )  We have to “cast down every vain imagination that would rise up against the knowledge of God”(2 Corinthians 10:5) in our lives, to include who He is and what He has enabled us to do.  In changing these thought processes, we have to say these things out loud so that we can hear it.  Those words will stop us in our tracks and help us to begin to make changes.

Then we must begin to line our actions up with the word of God, what we believe, and the life of Christ. We have to begin to observe our actions and ask, do my actions line up with who I am spiritually. If not, we must take the steps necessary to change them.

Let me tell you what some of this looks like, from my perspective…

I remember a specific point in my life where things were really hard. My relationships were in trouble, I could not get where it seemed that I needed to be in my career… and spiritually…I was drowning. I had decided that I was going to do all that I could to grow in every possible way. So I built myself a spiritual emergency kit.

Now in the natural, there are certain things that I keep with me all the time, especially when I leave home…my phone, my keys, and my wallet or purse.

Because I was trying to grow, I found that there were certain things that would help me spiritually and I could depend on them all of the time, so I kept them with me… my bible,my prayer journal, and my promise bible.

I could be found at any given time with these in my possession. If we went out to dinner and I got a little frustrated, which I did very often at this time in my life, I would pull out my promise bible and read the promises that pertained to stress.

I would have these items with me as I watched tv, visited friends, and went to the grocery store. I remember being asked why I brought my bible with me everywhere. What the person asking did not know was that I was on a mission and my biblical survival kit was my life line. If I felt that I couldn’t hear from God in a specific moment because of my emotions, I could see the words on the paper.

Over time, this action changed my thought process and my thought process changed me. I relied on God more than I ever had in my life and through viewing His word all day, especially when emotionally weak, He changed me.

My action was…surrender

Do you see an example of what it looks like? Now I have to admit that at every point in my spiritual growth, it looks differently. I no longer need to read my bible at dinner because I’m different. Now the word of God arises within me and I make choices based upon what I know to be right in God’s sight, but I still need His word. It is life changing.

The practical steps that we take in our lives to grow must be intentional, purposeful, and continual.

What steps are you taking to grow spiritually? Have you changed the things that you do over time because you find that some work better than others or are you stuck and need ideas?

I would love to hear from you.

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Psalm 22:24-25 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/psalm-2224-25/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/psalm-2224-25/#respond Thu, 19 Feb 2015 15:17:24 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3486&preview_id=3486 You have not despised nor abhorred the affliction of the afflicted; neither have You hidden Your face from me; but when I cried to You, You heard me. My praise shall be of You in the great congregation. ~Psalm 22:24-25

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You have not despised nor abhorred the affliction of the afflicted; neither have You hidden Your face from me; but when I cried to You, You heard me. My praise shall be of You in the great congregation.

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“When we yield to discouragement, it is usually because we give too much thought to the past or to the future.  ~Therese of Lisieux

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How To Get Focused http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/how-to-get-focused/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/how-to-get-focused/#comments Sun, 15 Feb 2015 17:47:32 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3480&preview_id=3480   There are times in life where it feels like the waves of life come crashing in on us… It can feel like someone has suddenly rained on our parade… We can even feel stuck… Do you know the feeling? I do. I have been in that place before.  In thinking about those moments, I […]

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There are times in life where it feels like the waves of life come crashing in on us…

It can feel like someone has suddenly rained on our parade…

We can even feel stuck…

Do you know the feeling?

I do.

I have been in that place before.  In thinking about those moments, I realize that there are two option that I have.  I can choose to let life have its way and stay down in the dumps or I can choose to be active and do something about life.

In moments like this, I run to God.  I run as fast and as hard as I can because, whether the situation is big or small, I feel like I am suffocating.  Gasping for air, I reach my hands up an pray that He feels me reaching, drawing, pulling near.  Somehow, in the midst of my desiring a sense of relief, feeling overwhelmed, and stressing… I feel his presence.

This was one of those days.

Yesterday was lovely…a day to experience and share love…

Today reality hits…the new week reminds me of educational deadlines, choices, and requirements.

I had one child that didn’t feel well last week and now another woke up not feeling well this morning.

Laundry, dishes, meeting, papers, deadlines…these things and more attempt to weigh me down, but suddenly…I am reminded that although it feels like a lot…there are things that could make my life a lot worse.

I am grateful…

Still I will not minimize my own struggles…we all have them.  We all have our moments and in order to become better we have to identify what they are.

When I said “My foot slips,” Your mercy, O Lord, held me up.  In the multitude of my thoughts within me, Your comforts delight my soul. ~ Psalm 94:18-19

Will I let the fear of failure, the fear of not meeting the standard stifle me…stunt my growth, cause me to stand motionless…stressed…

Dare I say no?

Yet if that if that is my answer there is something I must do…

You give power to the faint; and to those who have no might, You increase strength. ~Isaiah 40:29

Father, I need your strength.

That mental struggle…It can drain us…the cares of this life coupled together with the outer circumstances that press in on us.  The relationships…the give and take…the desire to do and not to do…the requirements, both imposed by others and self-imposed…the calm and strife…all of this…becomes a burden…

“Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you, and learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for our souls.  For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. ~Matthew 11:28-30

Rest for my soul…a lighter burden…

Today, like so many other days that have come before…I choose His way over mine.  I choose to breath and take in the rest that God has offered.  I choose to listen to the Holy Spirit within me that says I can and I will…the voice that says that there is no need to be afraid…

Today I choose which direction my ship will move in and I pray for the tools, the confidence, the strength, wisdom, discipline, the faith, and courage to do what I have to do…

Let us not minimize where we are in life.  Instead, let us approach each struggle with faith in God knowing that He cares about everything that we care about. (1 Peter 5:7) With the strength that we receive, let us move forward first from within…that is when we will begin to see the results that we desire.

It is my hope that my story encouraged you in some way and that I offered steps to help you overcome your struggle and get focused.

  • Run to God
  • Identify the struggle
  • View the struggle as it is in your life (don’t minimize it or make it bigger than it really is)
  • Make a choice to direct your own ship
  • Pray for direction
  • Plot the course and take action

Do you ever find yourself in this place…telling yourself that your struggles aren’t so bad because of how they compare to the rest of the world’s struggles, but never facing them head on to make the appropriate changes?  How do you deal with life’s struggles? Did you find this helpful?  I’d love to hear from you.

 

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February 2015: Book of the Month http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/february-2015-book-of-the-month/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/february-2015-book-of-the-month/#respond Fri, 06 Feb 2015 03:20:34 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3459 Its February everyone! You know what that means…it’s Black History month. As a new booktuber, I am very excited to be able to join in and discuss the books that I am reading. The book of the month is “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson. I am very excited about reading it.  I have heard […]

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Brown Girl DreaminIts February everyone!

You know what that means…it’s Black History month.

As a new booktuber, I am very excited to be able to join in and discuss the books that I am reading.

The book of the month is “Brown Girl Dreaming” by Jacqueline Woodson.

I am very excited about reading it.  I have heard some really great reviews about this book.  I will also do a review of it once I am finished.

I must say…this is a very beautiful book…just look at the cover.

I hope that you will join in with me…

 

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Booktube Mini Review: Agenda 21 http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/booktube-mini-review-agenda-21/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/booktube-mini-review-agenda-21/#respond Thu, 05 Feb 2015 14:34:45 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3448 I recently finished reading “Agenda 21” by Glenn Beck and I decided to do a mini review of the book on youtube.  I will be doing a full review of the book, but for now, here are my thoughts on the book.  

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I recently finished reading “Agenda 21” by Glenn Beck and I decided to do a mini review of the book on youtube.  I will be doing a full review of the book, but for now, here are my thoughts on the book.

 

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On Parenting http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/3444/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/02/3444/#respond Thu, 05 Feb 2015 05:08:30 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3444 Wow!!! Was that Wednesday?  I had my share of ups and downs yesterday. I had moments when everything went well and others where they just didn’t. But that’s how life is, right?! Each and every day…in every season of our lives we are faced with new challenges.  We have to make new decisions.  We have […]

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Wow!!!

Was that Wednesday?  I had my share of ups and downs yesterday.

I had moments when everything went well and others where they just didn’t.

But that’s how life is, right?!

Each and every day…in every season of our lives we are faced with new challenges.  We have to make new decisions.  We have to decide to either commit or not to commit to a task, function, or a role.

I find that these are the times when I begin to reevaluate my priorities.  I look at my progress.  Am I consistent in what I do?  Am I holding myself accountable or do I have someone in my life that can do it for me when I can’t?

Yet, parenting is one of those things where you never know what trials or tests we are going to face.  Parenting tests our ability and our inabilities. It is one of the many roles in life that test or check our character.  Parenting proves if we are who we say we are…who we hope to be…or who we said we would never be…

It is in this, that we have to stand strong in the promises of God…cast all of our cares upon Him…for He cares for us…

When I need wisdom…I ask…He supplies…

Parenting causes me to say “Lord, help me to push when I need to push, but not pass the limit that you have set…that is needed…Help me to hold on when I should and to let go when I need to…Help me Lord to raise them right…pleasing in Your sight. For you gave them to me…Let me stand up for them and with them…when I should against their will to do wrong…to quit, to not try…help me to teach them resilience and accountability.  Help me to show them the way that you have shown me…”

This is my hearts prayer…for me…for my husband…for my children…my grandchildren…

I even pray this for you…that you would be encouraged and strengthened to influence and assist a young person in their growth and maturity.  When you feel like giving up, that God would equip you with the strength to continue to go on and to see the task all the way through…

That was Wednesday…over that hump…

Now, this is Thursday…

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The Choices That We Make http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/the-choices-that-we-make/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/the-choices-that-we-make/#comments Tue, 27 Jan 2015 07:16:56 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3437 Over the course of our life times we are faced with choices. Our life experiences shape the way that we view the world and in a way, they predetermine the choices that we make…unless something or someone intervenes to help reshape the way that we view the world. In this manner, our relationships become as […]

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Over the course of our life times we are faced with choices.

Our life experiences shape the way that we view the world and in a way, they predetermine the choices that we make…unless something or someone intervenes to help reshape the way that we view the world.

In this manner, our relationships become as important, if not more important than the experiences that we’ve had.

Last night, I sat and had a conversation with my husband about a few things.   I realized, once again, that it is important to get wise counsel before making a choice, if I’m not sure what to do.  (And in many cases, even when I’m sure what to do)

You see, just because we view the world in a specific way doesn’t mean that it’s the way that the world should be viewed.  Just because we want to handle a situation a certain way, doesn’t mean that we should…

Sometimes…most of the times…no, all of the times…it is important for us to thoroughly consider the choices that we make.  How will our choices affect other people?  How will they affect us?

We have to take our time to make the proper, correct, right choice…the one that represents us…

I am thankful for my husband.  I am thankful for his wisdom.  I am thankful for our unity.

It is my hope that I would always be able to consider the various options before me and the effects of each choice that I make, wisely.

Have you ever realized that your choices should be thoroughly considered and in considering them, you changed your mind?  If so, what or who made you see this?  What would the outcome have been like if you made the other choice?  Please share…

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January 2015: Book of the Month http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/january-2015-book-of-the-month/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/january-2015-book-of-the-month/#comments Fri, 09 Jan 2015 22:43:12 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3421 This month the Christian Moms Read book club will be reading “The Five Love Languages of Children” by Gary Chapman. Reading this book will help us understand and focus on the way that our children love and how to love them in a way that is beneficial to them. I don’t know about you, but […]

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5 Love Languages of ChildrenThis month the Christian Moms Read book club will be reading “The Five Love Languages of Children” by Gary Chapman.

Reading this book will help us understand and focus on the way that our children love and how to love them in a way that is beneficial to them.

I don’t know about you, but I am interested in seeing if this book can offer me some understanding that I don’t already possess in regards to my children.  I have four of them and they are all different.  I’m sure that they all have various love languages as well.

What are your thoughts on this book?  Are you looking forward to reading it?

Leave a comment below to tell me what you think…also join in the discussion on the Goodreads group

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Currently Reading: Unbreak My Heart http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/unbreak-my-heart/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/unbreak-my-heart/#respond Wed, 07 Jan 2015 13:00:34 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3365 As you know my reading goal for the year is to read 50 books. That equals out to a minimum of 1 book per week. I’m currently reading 2. The one that seems to have more of my attention at the moment is “Unbreak My Heart” by Toni Braxton. As I read it, I find […]

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As you know my reading goal for the year is to read 50 books. That equals out to a minimum of 1 book per week. I’m currently reading 2.

The one that seems to have more of my attention at the moment is “Unbreak My Heart” by Toni Braxton.

As I read it, I find that I have a lot to say. If only I could have a conversation with Toni Braxton…I’ll save that for my review.

Below you will find my progress and a bit more information about the book.

Happy Wednesday!

 

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Unbreak My Heart Book Cover Unbreak My Heart
Toni Braxton
Biography
It Books
May 2014
Hardcopy
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"In this heartfelt memoir, six-time Grammy Award-winning artist and star of WE TV’s reality hitBraxton Family Values, Toni Braxton writes about her personal life decisions and their impact on her health, family and career.

While Braxton appears to be living a gilded life—selling 60 million records, appearing in sold-out Las Vegas performances and hit shows like Dancing with the Stars, and starring in her own reality series—hers is in fact a tumultuous story, a tale of triumph over a life filled with obstacles, including two bankruptcy filings. The mother of an autistic child, Braxton long feared that her son’s condition might be karmic retribution for earlier life choices, some of which will shock fans. But when heart ailments began plaguing her at the age of 41 and she was diagnosed with Lupus, Braxton knew she had to move beyond the self-recrimination and take charge of her own healing.  Intensely honest and deeply inspirational, Unbreak My Heart is the never-before-told story of the measures Braxton took to make herself and her family whole again." ~Amazon

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Encouraging Myself Monday: Taking Time To Focus And Reflect http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/encouraging-myself-monday-taking-time-to-focus-and-reflect/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/encouraging-myself-monday-taking-time-to-focus-and-reflect/#comments Mon, 05 Jan 2015 14:54:09 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3395&preview_id=3395 Sometimes life gets challenging.  Obstacles arise and we find ourselves in the midst of being shaken.  Not knowing what to do or how to react, we can easily put ourselves in the wrong predicament, if we are not careful.  This is why it is so important to have a time of prayer, reflection, and contemplation […]

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IMG_0086.JPGSometimes life gets challenging.  Obstacles arise and we find ourselves in the midst of being shaken.  Not knowing what to do or how to react, we can easily put ourselves in the wrong predicament, if we are not careful.  This is why it is so important to have a time of prayer, reflection, and contemplation in our lives.

The above example doesn’t mean that we have something horrible or devastating happening in our lives.  Instead it is just a normal occurrence to have life challenges that cause us to act, or in some cases react.

Well, I don’t know about you, but I wish I knew what to say and do all of the time, but I don’t.  Since I am aware of this, I don’t try to figure things out all on my own.

There used to be a time when I didn’t have a friend to call on in a time of need.  In those situations, I learned to journal about my situation.  I would pray that God would give me wisdom.  I would read my Bible and once I believed I had an answer, I would act.  Those days were hard, and I must admit, there are still times when I am unable to ask anyone , but God for help.

I’m glad that God is always there

He says that he will give us wisdom if we just ask for it.(James 1:5)  When we feel lonely, He tells us to draw close to Him and He will draw near to us. (James 4:8)

I thank God for those times when He shows Himself strong in my life.

I am also very thankful for the friendships that I have now.  I am able to call on a few women to pray and offer sound counsel.  The Bible says that there is safety in counsel (Proverbs 24:6), but I never realized how safe it could feel until I had it.

Now when I have those challenging moments, I don’t abandon what I have always known.  I still take time out to focus on what is happening in my life and around me.  I journal about the issues and cares that are upon my heart.  I pray and ask God for His infinite wisdom.  I look for Him to move in my life.  I also call for a praying, God-fearing, wise woman to assist me.

This morning I took the time to do this and some how, now that I’m done…the sun is shining a little brighter.  My smile is a little bigger and my load is a little lighter.

What do you do when you are faced with life’s challenges?  Do you journal or do you reflect on life in another way?  Do you pray about the situation and wait on God to answer you and give you direction?  Do you have a friend to call on or are you in that stage of life that I described earlier, where it’s just you and God?

I’d love to hear from you today…

This is just me, hoping that I am encouraging you as I am encouraging myself…

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On My Heart http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/on-my-heart/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/on-my-heart/#respond Sun, 04 Jan 2015 12:38:43 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3385&preview_id=3385   This morning I’m sitting here, thinking. I have something on my heart. Normally I’d be thinking about my family, my day, my plans, my desires…but not today. This morning I am thinking about the less fortunate. The poor… There are poor people in this country. They live at a level that is below the […]

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This morning I’m sitting here, thinking. I have something on my heart.
Normally I’d be thinking about my family, my day, my plans, my desires…but not today.

This morning I am thinking about the less fortunate. The poor…

There are poor people in this country. They live at a level that is below the normal American standard of living. This morning my heart goes out to them.

There are also poor people that live in other countries that not only live below a certain standard of living, but they are dying. Their children are dying. They search the trash and find no food. Not only that…they do not have basic human rights. There is no chance for them to get out of poverty…and there is no one in their country to help them because of a dictatorship.

They don’t have freedom of speech. Not even those that are considered the elite of the country. What they see, hear, and do is controlled by the government…

This is sad…

So this morning, I pray for all of the less fortunate. I pray for the abused. I pray for those that don’t even know what they are lacking because they are kept from knowing what they could have.

This morning I pray that we as Americans would not take our freedoms for granted. I pray that God would help us see how blessed we are. We are blessed to have food, water, shelter, books, television, music…choices.

If you understand what I’m saying, join me in this prayer.

Father God, we come to you humbly asking you first to forgive us if we have been ungrateful for the blessings that you have given us. Help us to see how blessed we are in this country and not to take it for granted. Help us to utilize the voices and freedoms that you have given us for your glory and your purpose, to help others. Father, help us to see with your eyes and hear with your ears, the needs of others. If we can help, let us help. If there is nothing that we can do, let us pray. Help those in need God. Help the mother that cannot feed her child or herself. Help that father that has no way of providing for his family. Help the broken and the wounded. Help the forgotten…we pray that the brainwashing would cease. We pray that all people would have basic human rights like freedom of speech. Lord do what only you can do. Go where only you can go. Save souls and lives. Show them that you are God.

In Jesus’ mighty name we pray…Amen

Cherish what you have been blessed with and I hope you have a great day…

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Keeping Track Of My Reading Goals http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/keeping-track-of-my-reading-goals/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2015/01/keeping-track-of-my-reading-goals/#respond Sun, 04 Jan 2015 04:35:21 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3370 Over the past few years, I have had some lofty reading goals.  They were hard for me to achieve.  I think I lacked focus and drive.  As lofty as they were, they weren’t anything like the goals that I have set for myself this year. I have decided to read a minimum of 50 books. […]

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Over the past few years, I have had some lofty reading goals.  They were hard for me to achieve.  I think I lacked focus and drive.  As lofty as they were, they weren’t anything like the goals that I have set for myself this year.

I have decided to read a minimum of 50 books.  Although I haven’t sat down to write out my list just yet, I am working on it.  My goal is to read at least one book per week.  That would equal around 50-52 books per year.  After reading “Read for Your Life” by Pat Williams, I really believe that I can do this.  I’ll be adding books to my reading list here.

I have had a Goodreads account for quite some time and although I like what they have to offer, I have decided that I want to be able to utilize my personal site in tracking my progress this year, in combination with Goodreads, of course.

So, if you see a lot of different posts or types of information, it’s just to keep me motivated and help me track my progress.

For instance, in the right sidebar, you will find my reading challenge status.  It looks like this…

2015 Reading Challenge

2015 Reading Challenge
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I have also decided to read through the Bible this year. My progress can be found in the right sidebar as well. I am tracking it in pages.

Bible Reading Progress

I have a book club on Goodreads and the books that we have read can be found in the right sidebar as well.

Goodreads Book Club Reads

On the left side bar, you will find the group read for the month. (This month’s group read is The Five Love Languages of Children)

Book of the Month Snapshot

Below that is a list of books that I have recently reviewed.

Recently Reviewed Books Snapshot

Below that I also have the books that I am currently reading, books on hold, and books that I have recently finished reading.

Book Status Snapshot

I couldn’t get it all in the snapshot, but this list also includes the books that I haven’t read yet.   There are a lot more than are listed here currently.  I will be taking the time to list them.  Hopefully this will be a quick list.  I have a lot of books to read and I will have a library page to post those to.

 

Now all of this is pretty simple, but one of the main things that I am going to start doing, in conjunction with my book reviews, is a post on each book that I begin reading.  It will have a progress bar that I’ll be updating and a brief synopsis on the book as well, from a reputable site.  This is all to help me, but if the process gets too tedious, I will change it.

The book reviews will be separate and the currently reading post will look something like this…

 

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Happy Reading!!!

The Little Guide to Your Well-Read Life: How to Get More Books in Your Life and More Life from Your Books Book Cover The Little Guide to Your Well-Read Life: How to Get More Books in Your Life and More Life from Your Books
Steve Leveen
On Reading
Levenger Press
2005
Hardcopy
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"Perfect for all of us who can never get enough time with good books. It not only urges us to indulge deeply and often, it shows us how."-Myra Hart, professor, Harvard Business School

"Readers and want-to-be readers will be encouraged by the advice to read more, more widely and more systematically."-Michael Keller, university librarian, Stanford University

"An ideal gift for both sporadic and relentless readers."-James Mustich Jr., publisher of A Common Reader

"A worthy addition to even the most well-stocked personal library."-Ross King, author of Michelangelo & The Pope's Ceiling

Do not set out to live a well-read life but rather your well-read life. No one can be well-read using someone else's reading list. Unless a book is good for you, you won't connect with it and gain from it. Just as no one can tell you how to lead your life, no one can tell you what to read for your life.

How do readers find more time to read? In The Little Guide to Your Well-Read Life, Steve Leveen offers both inspiration and practical advice for bibliophiles on how to get more books in their life and more life from their books.

His recommendations are disarmingly refreshing, as when he advises when not to read a book and why not to feel guilty if you missed reading all those classics in school. He helps readers reorganize their bookshelves into a Library of Candidates that they actively build and a Living Library of books read with enthusiasm, and he emphasizes the value of creating a Bookography, or annotated list of your reading life. Separate chapters are devoted to the power of audio books and the merits of reading groups.

The author himself admits he came "late to the bookshelf," making this charming little guide all the more convincing.

-From Goodreads

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2014 Goal (Reflection) http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/12/2014-goal-reflection/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/12/2014-goal-reflection/#respond Wed, 31 Dec 2014 22:33:24 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3354 Tonight, as I bring my 2014 year to a close, I am reflecting on my goals. At the beginning of this year, I sat down and wrote out some goals.  There were some that I accomplished that were personal and…well, some that I didn’t.  I also made a list of goals that I shared, on […]

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Tonight, as I bring my 2014 year to a close, I am reflecting on my goals.

2014 Goal Reflection

At the beginning of this year, I sat down and wrote out some goals.  There were some that I accomplished that were personal and…well, some that I didn’t.  I also made a list of goals that I shared, on this post.  These were things that I wanted to do for the 2014 year.

I must admit, there were a lot of goals that I had that I didn’t accomplish.  Still, this has helped me to see what’s important to me.  I am going to continue with this because I believe it is important for me to see the goals that I have and to hold myself accountable for achieving my goals or not.

2014 was a year of growth for me.  There were things that I had stopped doing that I began to implement again toward the end, like using my planner regularly.  There were also things that I had to stop doing because they didn’t fit into my life.

I don’t know about you, but that’s how life is.  You have to learn what works for you and what doesn’t.  Overall, I am proud of myself for learning how to overcome certain situations in my life.  I am excited about my new adventures and I can’t wait to see what the end of 2015 will being.

I hope you are able to reflect on this past year and smile with excitement as you see the great opportunities that 2015 will bring.

Be safe and God bless…

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A Break http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/11/a-break/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/11/a-break/#comments http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3337&preview_id=3337 Over the past few weeks, I’ve been kinda hard on myself. I have made sure that I am taking time to rest and I am focusing in on the things that I need to get done, but there is still something that I’m not doing. I’m not giving myself a break. Well, I really enjoy […]

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Over the past few weeks, I’ve been kinda hard on myself. I have made sure that I am taking time to rest and I am focusing in on the things that I need to get done, but there is still something that I’m not doing.

I’m not giving myself a break.

Well, I really enjoy reading, doing projects, blogging. I have had a lot going on and this causes my hobbies to take a back burner. I don’t really like this idea, but I realize that I have to be realistic. For this reason, I have decided to give myself a break.

I’m telling myself that it’s ok.

I’m not going to be so hard on myself, especially when it comes to my hobbies and readings. I have to take care of my responsibilities and focus on the things that are most important right now. If I don’t, I’ll get side tracked.

I have to be honest though…I would be really nice it I were able to read a 300 page book in one night, but I can’t. That means that I have to be kind to myself. Yes, there are tons of books that I want to read, but I will just have to plan my readings out. I also have to pray and hope that I will read my books in time.

Today, I am really reminding myself that I am not perfect. Although I am striving for excellence and I want to be great, I am just a woman trying to be my best and asking God to let His glory be shown through me.

It’s not about how hard I can be on myself to get things done. I need to give myself a break and have faith that God’s will, will be accomplished in my life. I will read what needs to be read. I will have time to enjoy my hobbies…until I make time for all of that I will take time to focus on my responsibilities an education.

I will not be so hard on myself all of the time. I will give myself a break.

I want to encourage you to do the same thing. Look at your life. See if you are being too hard on yourself in some areas. Is the pressure necessary? Is there a way that you could be a little easier on yourself?How? If you take the time to reflect as I am, I think you will find that you too, can give yourself a break.

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A New Season http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-new-season/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-new-season/#comments Sat, 25 Oct 2014 12:35:03 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3324&preview_id=3324 The past two weeks have been a bit of a trying, yet enjoyable, time for me. There have been times when I have experience very high levels of stress and others when I have experience high levels of pleasure. If I had to sum it up, I would say it was like a wild roller […]

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A New Season
The past two weeks have been a bit of a trying, yet enjoyable, time for me. There have been times when I have experience very high levels of stress and others when I have experience high levels of pleasure. If I had to sum it up, I would say it was like a wild roller coaster ride.

This summer my grandmother and great-grandmother passed away. After dealing with such great loss, my husband and I had decided that we needed to take a few days to get away. We took our kids to Hershey Park for one weekend. I must say, it was a needed mini vacation.

While there another family member and I, both having a small baby and had being under a lot of stress, decided to get on one of the most extreme rides at the park. It was about 20 minutes before the park was set to close, but we had been saying all day that we were going to get on one of those crazy rides.

It was dark and this ride was at the back corner of the park. We watched as a group of young people ran to the stairs ahead of us. In a moment of sheer excitement, we speed walked to the stairs. Once we got there we realized that we were about to do something very extreme.

Plastered all over the bright-colored walls were warning signs about what to and what not to do. This was different because other rides didn’t have this. The signs told us things like hold on, hold your head back, and keep your arms in. As I stood second in line, I looked away from a sign to see a man getting strapped in the seat. We begin to talk with a woman who was going on the ride for a second time. As she told us how fast it went, the ride took of and I could feel my nerves telling me not to try it. Before she could get to say three sentences and I could get to calm down, the man was back. That’s right it was a matter of seconds, or so it seemed.

Filled with adrenalin, I climbed into the seat. As I struggled to pull the harness down, I wondered what I had gotten myself into. I looked over at my partner in the crazy endeavor and nervously smiled. Looking up at the caution signs, I held my head back and tried to remember what to and what not to do. I could hear my kids and my husband cheering me on…nervously I smiled. Then suddenly the ride took off.

I was slung through the air like a sling shot. All I would do was close my eyes and scream. I opened my eyes for a second and we were upside down. I closed them back and gripped the harness as I tried to keep my head pulled back. Up, down, and around I went, but before I could get my barring, the ride was over and I was laughing. Yes laughing. I could not believe what had just happened. What was I feeling? Well, really, what had I felt? It was over.

Full of the rush, we ran down the stairs as my husband looked at up puzzled at to how it was over so soon. He had just sat down to change the baby’s diaper and had not finished, but we were done.

Storm Runner 0-72 mph in 2 seconds

That’s how life feels right now. A 72 mile per hour ride in just 2 seconds. There is no time to lolly gag. It’s either I’m with it or I’m not. I’ve been given such great opportunities, but I realize that if I’m not careful, time will fly by and I would have missed the experience and opportunity. That’s why I have given myself some ground rules.

It’s either I can or I can’t, no in betweens. I have to commit myself. If I find that I can’t complete the task in a certain about of time, then it’s time to pick up the pieces that I’ve dropped and move on. I have to hold on to the harness and enjoy the ride.

I don’t have time to strive aimlessly at achieving goals that don’t fit into my life plan or the path that God has laid before me. I will not take on more what I can not bear and somethings have to be cancelled.

I must admit, there are times when I’m afraid.  There are moments when I’m intimidated, but God is greater that all of my emotions.  I am in my new season, full of excitement and adrenaline. I’m nervous and last night I wanted to quit. Yet I can hear the Holy Spirit encouraging me and I have to continue to move forward. There is a lot to do and a lot of ground to cover, but like the ride, I am equipped to do the unthinkable as long as God is with me.

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Unattended… http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/unattended/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/unattended/#respond Fri, 17 Oct 2014 15:53:55 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3261 “The unattended garden will soon be overrun with weeds; the heart that fails to cultivate truth and root out error will shortly be a theological wilderness.” ~A.W. Tozer

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“The unattended garden will soon be overrun with weeds; the heart that fails to cultivate truth and root out error will shortly be a theological wilderness.” ~A.W. Tozer

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Remember To Breathe http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/remember-to-breathe/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/remember-to-breathe/#comments Thu, 16 Oct 2014 01:44:29 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3241 Have you ever had a moment when you found yourself gasping for air? No, I don’t mean literally, but you can feel it.  It seems like everything around you is going so fast that you just can’t seem to catch your breath. I know that you know what I’m talking about. It’s that time in […]

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BreatheHave you ever had a moment when you found yourself gasping for air?

No, I don’t mean literally, but you can feel it.  It seems like everything around you is going so fast that you just can’t seem to catch your breath.

I know that you know what I’m talking about.

It’s that time in your life when you feel like you are spinning around in circles, getting dizzy, and are about to pass out because you aren’t getting enough oxygen to your brain.

Those are the times when it is imperative for us to take time away.  It might be a vacation.  It could be a day.  It could be as simple as a few minutes out of the time that you spend being super busy.  Where ever you make the time to do it, that time becomes your point of rejuvenation.

How do I know?  Well, it’s simple.  I’ve been there.

I’ve been at a point before where I was trying to be everything to everybody.  I thought that being a good woman, friend, and Christian meant that I had to say “yes!” and do it all…all the time.

That’s when, thankfully, God’s Holy Spirit stepped in and began to tell me something that I will never forget.

BREATHE…Don’t forget to breath

Hearing those words caused me to feel like someone cared about all that I had been experiencing and that I was important too.  I began to realize that I didn’t have to pour out everything in order to be the woman that I believed that God had created me to be.  It was OK to slow down or stop at a point when I knew that it was too much. I became more encouraged as I felt the Holy Spirit unction me to say “No, I’m sorry.  I understand, but the answer is no.”

Today my life is a bit more balanced.  I am no longer the same woman that I once was.  I know, now, how to say no.

So, why am I writing this?

I’m writing this because I believe that it is important to share my story so that I can help someone else.

If you are reading this and life seems to be moving at the speed of lighting, take a moment and breathe.

Find time throughout your day, week, month, and year to simply look up at the clouds or the sky…the trees, the stars…watch the kids play and as you do, remember to breathe.

Thank God for all you have and all He is in your life. Put one foot in front of the other and continue to move forward.

I hope you found comfort and encouragement in this.

Until next time…God bless you

 

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Proverbs 38:15 http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/proverbs-3815/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/proverbs-3815/#respond Mon, 13 Oct 2014 09:00:51 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3271&preview_id=3271 For in You, O Lord, I hope; You will hear, O Lord my God. ~ Psalm 38:15

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For in You, O Lord, I hope; You will hear, O Lord my God.
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A Few Of My Favorite…Scriptures http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-few-of-my-favorite-scriptures/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-few-of-my-favorite-scriptures/#comments Wed, 08 Oct 2014 06:16:52 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3172 Anyone that’s been reading this blog for a while or knows me, knows that I enjoy encouraging people. Many times in my life when I needed some encouragement, there was no one to be found, besides family, of course. Yet, I longed for more.  I wanted to be able to sit down with a girlfriend […]

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20141008-021006.jpgAnyone that’s been reading this blog for a while or knows me, knows that I enjoy encouraging people.

Many times in my life when I needed some encouragement, there was no one to be found, besides family, of course.

Yet, I longed for more.  I wanted to be able to sit down with a girlfriend and discuss the troubles that I was facing.  I wanted someone that could encourage me and not just let me wallow in the mud.  Instead what I found was a great friend in God.  He showed me how much He cared for me and how much He thought of me.

Why do I say that?  Well, if we look at the Scriptures, it becomes evident that God had us on His mind as the Bible was being written.  For a long time, it was a part of my Christian emergency on the go kit.  (before the Bible app)  I quickly learned that if I needed encouragement, I had to encourage myself through the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.

So today, I want to share a few of my favorite scriptures with you.  (By no means are these all of them.  Just a few that I want to share for today.)

Romans 10:11 For the scripture says, Whosoever believes on him shall not be ashamed. (When I needed boldness to stand on God’s word)

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. (When I needed to understand how to go to God and what He expected of me)

Matthew 19:26 But Jesus beheld them, and said to them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible (When I needed to know that God could do the impossible and that I could trust Him to do just that)

Matthew 6:33 But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (When I needed to know that God would take care of me, so I could seek His face and work in His kingdom without worrying about my needs and wants)

Isaiah 54: 4 Fear not; for you shall not be ashamed: neither be you confounded; for you shall not be put to shame: for you shall forget the shame of your youth, and shall not remember the reproach of your widowhood any more. (When I was afraid of what was to come and of what would be said about what happened)

Isaiah 54:5 For your Maker is your husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and your Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called. (When my heart was broken)

Isaiah 54: 13 And all your children shall be taught of the LORD; and great shall be the peace of your children. (Whenever I was…concerned for my children)

Isaiah 54:17 No weapon that is formed against you shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment you shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, says the LORD. (When I am concerned about what others will say)

I really love all of Isaiah 54…it really speaks to me

Psalm 91:5-12 (for overall protection) You shall not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flies by day;  Nor for the pestilence that walks in darkness; nor for the destruction that wastes at noonday.  A thousand shall fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand; but it shall not come near you.  Only with your eyes shall you behold and see the reward of the wicked.  Because you have made the LORD, who is my refuge, even the most High, your habitation;  There shall no evil befall you, neither shall any plague come near your dwelling.  For he shall give his angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways.  They shall bear you up in their hands, lest you dash your foot against a stone.

Psalm 34 (ALL)  verse 4: I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. (I needed to be reminded that the Lord hears me); verses 8-10 (the promise of God for my personal needs and wants);  O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusts in him.;  O fear the LORD, you his saints: for there is no lack to them that fear him.   The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not lack any good thing.

Psalm 2:8  Ask of me, and I shall give thee the heathen for thine inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for thy possession. (When I would pray for people to get saved.  A reminder that God would hear me and His promise to act)

1 Peter 5:7  Casting all your care upon him; for he cares for you. (A constant reminder that God cares about everything the I care about…all of it)

James 5:14-16 (A reminder of the power of prayer)  Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord:  And the prayer of faith shall deliver the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he has committed sins, they shall be forgiven him.  Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that you may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

James 4:8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. (When I want to draw near to God, He want to draw near to me too)

2 Timothy 2:15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. (Encouragement and reason to study…this scripture was the foundation for my Bible study life)

As I said before, these are not all of my favorites, but the one that came to my heart to share right now.  I hope you have found some encouragement in this.

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A Day To Plan http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-day-to-plan/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/a-day-to-plan/#respond Mon, 06 Oct 2014 04:55:04 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3121 Normally, I take Monday’s to relax.  It is a time when I give myself a moment to breathe. Today was just a little bit different.  I decided to work on my planner.  I know that seems very simple, but it’s a little more complicated than one would thing. See, I love planning, but after I […]

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20141007-141722.jpgNormally, I take Monday’s to relax.  It is a time when I give myself a moment to breathe.

Today was just a little bit different.  I decided to work on my planner.  I know that seems very simple, but it’s a little more complicated than one would thing.

See, I love planning, but after I plan, I kinda wing the rest of my day, s I’ve had to give myself a bit of an incentive to continue glancing at my calendar.  I’ve dressed it up.

I uses a lot colorful markers, tapes, and sticky notes.

After doing this, I am more apt to look at my calendar and remind myself of all the things that I have planned on doing for the week and the month.

Now I am ready…I have done a different type of resting.  I have set my plans before me, but I know that God will lead me the rest of the way. (Proverbs 16:)

Prayer for the day: Father, I thank you for leading me to a place of planning where I can aim to be a good steward over the work that you have set before me.  I ask that you would help me to accomplish the goals that you have for me and to be comfortable with leaving the unnecessary undone.  I thank you for your peace, guidance, and rest…In Jesus name. Amen

If you find yourself in a place like this…take some time to seek God about how you can plan and be better.

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For Our Children http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/for-our-children/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/for-our-children/#comments http://beingmrsmom.com?p=3096&preview_id=3096 This is one of my favorite scriptures. It reminds me that God has everything and everyone that I care about covered, especially my children. He is such a great God and He honors His promises

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Taking The Steps To Grow…Spiritually http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/taking-the-steps-to-growspiritually/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/taking-the-steps-to-growspiritually/#respond Sat, 04 Oct 2014 17:03:44 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3067 “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” ~1 Corinthians 13:11 There is a normal cycle in our human existence.  We all go through a span of life development. We are born […]

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Taking Steps To Grow

“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”

~1 Corinthians 13:11

There is a normal cycle in our human existence.  We all go through a span of life development.

We are born into this life as a helpless baby.  We mature into a child, adolescent, and adult.  Even our adulthood is filled with a maturing process.  We go from being young adults to middle adulthood.  Finally we become an elder.  While this process is a natural one, there is also a spiritual process of development that we all must go through.  Yet there is a slight difference in the two.

The natural process of development takes place without our participation.  Every year we grow older, age, and change.  Life’s situations and circumstances cause us to develop, even in our minds.  Our brains change, developing the essential qualities needed to live a healthy life. Yet, the spiritual process is not the same.

As an adult that is a newly saved Christian, we are a new creature in Christ.  This means that we are born again and a babe in Christ.  After spending time in relationship with God through His word, we begin to mature.  However, this process of maturing requires more than what is required in our natural lives.

What I mean is that as a Christian ages, this is not equivalent to their level of spiritual maturity.  However God calls us to a place in Him where we go from being a child in Christ to being a young man or woman in Christ.  After that it is important that we begin to mature into an elder in the body of Christ.  In the body of Christ, new babes are always being born and we are called to help train them for service and for their lives in this earth.  (Titus 2:3-5) Yet we cannot do this if we stay babes ourselves.

This process of becoming spiritually mature requires our participation.  In the scripture above, Paul distinguishes some of the changes that take place.  He says that when he became a man, he put away childish things.  We must put away from us speaking as a child.  We must be willing to take the time necessary to acquire the understanding of a spiritually mature adult so that we no longer understand as a child.  Even our thoughts have to change from being childish to being spiritually mature, thinking on the things that are pleasing to God and replenishing to our spirit.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. ~Philippians 4:8

This is one of our first steps.

We must change the way we think.  We cannot do this on our own.  Instead, we have to allow God’s word to permeate our beings.  As we do, we will renew our minds and change the way we think. (Roman 12:2)

We also have to change what we do.  It is not enough to simply read the word of God.  We have to do it.  We have to decided that if our lives conflict with the word of God, we will bring things to a clear resolve by doing what the word says. (James 1:22)

In all of this, it is important that we seek to build a relationship with God, in faith as a changed individual. (Hebrews 10:22)

We all want to be our best.  We want to be good wives, mothers, daughters, friends, aunts, sisters, cousins…you name it…we want to be our best.  If we want this, we have to do what it takes to be that.  We have to afford ourselves the opportunities to be our best.  Yet, when we do not pursue the things of God, we rob ourselves and those in our lives of experiencing us at our best.

I hope this message comes across in a way that blesses you.  I have found that being my best means saying no to some things and yes to others.  I have to trust God at His word and do what He says, so that my life can be a reflection of His love.  It might be challenging, but when we look back and see how far we have come, it will all be worth it.

As we bring this week to a close, let’s think about the things we can change in our lives. What are new habits to build and old ones to break? How can our relationship with God and others be better? What is our relationship with the Word of God?

Basically, let’s do some evaluating so that we will be ready tomorrow to start a new week, moving forward spiritually.

 

 

 

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Partial Obedience http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/partial-obedience/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/partial-obedience/#respond Fri, 03 Oct 2014 23:32:21 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3047 “Yesterday’s partial obedience creates staggering consequences in today’s experiences.” ~Priscilla Shirer

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“Yesterday’s partial obedience creates staggering consequences in today’s experiences.” ~Priscilla Shirer

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Current Bible Study http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/current-bible-study/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/current-bible-study/#respond Fri, 03 Oct 2014 23:27:38 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3045 I am currently doing a personal Bible study. It is addressing certain topics that I can appreciate. Although there are certain topics that don’t apply to where I am in my life right now, I am learning a lot of historical facts which I really enjoy.

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Sharing Scripture: 1 http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/sharing-scripture-1/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/10/sharing-scripture-1/#comments Fri, 03 Oct 2014 14:52:42 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=3032   Today I’m linking up with the Prayerful Bloggers.  Although I’m a day late…I’m still linking up. This is one of my favorite scriptures.  It reminds me that God is in charge.  It is my Scripture for of the week.

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Proverbs 3:5, 6

 

Today I’m linking up with the Prayerful Bloggers.  Although I’m a day late…I’m still linking up.

This is one of my favorite scriptures.  It reminds me that God is in charge.  It is my Scripture for of the week.

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Courage http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/09/courage/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/09/courage/#respond Thu, 25 Sep 2014 01:49:13 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=2860 “Courage is fear that has said its prayers.” ~Dorothy Bernard

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“Courage is fear that has said its prayers.” ~Dorothy Bernard

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Can I Really Trust The Bible: Book Review http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/09/can-i-really-trust-the-bible-book-review/ http://beingmrsmom.com/2014/09/can-i-really-trust-the-bible-book-review/#comments Wed, 24 Sep 2014 01:21:44 +0000 http://beingmrsmom.com/?p=2852 When I originally sat down to start reading this book, I thought that I wouldn’t like it.  I wasn’t sure if it was one of those books that appeared to be pro-Christian, only for the reader to find out that it was very anti-Christian.  I thought that I would have to refute many of the […]

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Can I Really Trust The Bible
Can I really trust the Bible? by Barry Cooper

When I originally sat down to start reading this book, I thought that I wouldn’t like it.  I wasn’t sure if it was one of those books that appeared to be pro-Christian, only for the reader to find out that it was very anti-Christian.  I thought that I would have to refute many of the author’s points in my review.  Needless to say, I was on guard.

From the beginning of the book. Barry Cooper jumps right in to the position that many believers, whether new or seasoned, find themselves in…trying not to be a doubting Thomas.  In today’s society we have all met someone that seems more educated than we are.  They seem to have thought harder and longer about the Bible and its ability to be trusted.  These individuals seem to study the history of the Bible, its compilation, its human authors, and specific portions that inspire…doubt.  All of these things put together can leave a believer feeling overwhelmed and at a standstill.  Yet Barry Cooper takes advantage of one thing that many believers forget,  the innate human ability to ask questions. In fact, God wants us to ask Him questions.

As I read through this book, I realized that it was an easy read.  It was not so complicated that it would turn away a new or unbeliever, but still filled with enough “meat” to fill the desires of a seasoned one.  I found that this book fed my intellectual desire to answer the questions that I had been asked over the years.  I had personally asked some of these questions and researched others.  Yet I found myself amazed at Mr. Cooper’s ability to sufficiently answer the question in just 80 pages.  When I say answer, I really mean that he answers the question, offers an example, and a reference…just in case you want to do some research for yourself.

I have heard some of the very statements that he used in the book given as reasons why the Bible could not be trusted.  I have to admit that I found myself smiling as he answered them and did not shy away from the questions that challenge our faith.  As I finished the book, it felt like I had just read a page turning novel.  Better yet, it felt like I knew Barry Cooper and we were discussing these questions together.  I know that sounds a bit outlandish, but he really addresses topics that I have only discussed with my closest family members, friends, spiritual leaders, and God.

This is a book that I am proud to have sitting on my bookshelf.  I would give it or recommend it to another person.  I would let my children read it.  I wish I had it years ago.  It would have prepared me for the many questions that I would hear as a believer. I have studied these questions and have learned a lot over the years, but I am very thankful that I received this complementary book from the publisher through Cross Focused Reviews to review.  I look forward to getting more books from The Good Book Company.  Judging from this book, they have a lot to offer.

Below you will find the Booktube video that I posted on Youtube.

 

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