Between Men & Women

Where to Find Online Dating Sites

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 10:56:00 +0000

Want to try online dating? You may try it just for fun or just to meet other people. Let's try it here on these online dating sites, joining is absolutely free.

Just consider it similar to joining some social network sites like Friendster & Facebook. As long as you don't give out your financial details or do something stupid, it's safe to join here. Just click the banners to sign up or register.

If you're a Christian and you want to meet someone with the same religious belief, here's the online dating site for you

If you like to meet a friend or a lover, you decide, meet someone here in Friendfinder.com

If you rather prefer an asian beauty or hunky, here are the sites for you:

Perhaps you prefer Latinos

Hmmm, maybe a Jewish, a German or a French guy/gal

For the one who likes to meet someone with the same intellect & success

That's it! I hope you have chose one online dating site that suits your preference. Just enjoy! It's quite interesting to meet new people especially those with a different culture, isn't it?

What do Women Want in a Date

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:38:00 +0000

Guys, i know you're curious about this. What do women want in a date? Read on.

1. We like you to visit us in our home on our first date other than anywhere else.

That is, if you really have sincere intentions, visiting us at home to meet our family should not be bothersome to you. We want some decency, we don't want to be like a call girl being picked up somewhere. It's important for our parents to know who we are going out with regardless if we are already mature enough to go as we please.

2. Be a gentleman.

They said, gone were the days of boyscouts and gentlemen. Opening the door for us make us feel respected and valued.

3. Be natural.

Show off the real you, don't pretend to be someone else and please don't put only your best foot forward. Don't you want to be liked as you are and not a dummy of an almost perfect man?

4. Show off and be on time.

One of the biggest disappointment in a date is a no-show and a late-comer. Asking us out for a date but then cancels it or be late due to time-management problems. Do you know how much time we spent in the mirror trying to make ourselves presentable? It's really a bad impression of either you are a disorganized person who dont know how to keep appointments or a lazy person who tends to procrastinate first before doing anything. It might also imply lack of interest or preference, making us just #2, 3 or 4 in your date list.

5. Stay fresh and fragrant.

Don't you think it's quite embarassing to come on a date with sweats and odor. This is really a major turn-off. Isn't it a proper social etiquette to make yourself odorless than to smell salty or sour. Some even spray a lot of cologne or perfume to cover up his perspiration's odor but it really makes the smell even worse. Men should set a date on his free days not during workdays where our bodies freshness and energies were already depleted. A man who always looks fresh and fragrant will always be desirable to women.

6. Talk with sense and humor.

We don't want to hear bluffs or false compliments. We just want to have a light and free-flowing conversation with sense and humor on the side. Keep your nasty and dirty jokes in your pocket.

7. Don't be secretive.

Dating is about getting to know each other. Sometimes guys overwhelms us with numerous questions but when asked in return will answer a short, open-ended and general statement. You guys seems to play safe and are afraid to be caught in your own tongue. What is there to hide anyway, a dark secret? Better to lay the cards now so you'll know if you can be accepted or not despite of anything than to lay things after and be called a liar.

8. Don't let us share the bill on our first few dates.

Women tend to be polite (genteel), sometimes we offer to share on the bill. If we are the one who asked you out, that's fine. But if you're the one who does, then don't split the bill, okay.

I hope my dating tips have helped you guys...so gals would stop whining about their dates as well...hihihi =)

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Signs of Infidelity

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 06:43:00 +0000

These signs of infidelity will either show earlier during dating/courtship or later into the relationship.

In the beginning, a gal might be too accommodating, unstrained and open to relationship. On the other hand, a guy might be too eager to see you, too thoughtful to call and too generous to take you to fine-dining restaurants. He/she seems so madly in-love with you until you see some of these signs:

1. As much as possible, he/she avoids visiting you at home or escapes from attending to your family’s occasions or friend’s invitations.
A lover who has insincere intentions feels guilty when surrounded by your family, relatives or friends as he/she sees them as a conscience. He/she don’t want to be popularly known as a shameless scam. He/she tends to limit affiliation between the two of you only.

2. You are in the least of his plans.
Ask him/her of his/her future plans. If you have found yourself placed in the sideline or in the waiting area, rethink your relationship. He/she might just be hooking you up for some company or sex.

3. He/she doesn’t want to show subtle signs of affection in public.
A simple HHWW (holding hands while walking) is a subtle sign that you two are “together”. If he/she rejects your hand, he/she might be cautious that someone will see or know that he/she is attached…to another one.

4. He/she keeps talking about his/her ex.
Whether he/she is saying good or bad things about his/her ex don’t really matter, the fact is he/she is not really over her/him. Especially if he/she is maintaining friendship with his/her former beau, chance is, they’ll just get back together.

5. He/she prioritizes attending to his other social activities over being with you.
Check how many times he/she has been ditching you for his/her friends. Monotony and boredom may happen in a relationship, sometimes you need to be apart to give each other space & fresh air. But if asking for a-time-apart becomes frequent, maybe he/she is just coward or is just passing the ball to ask a permanent space.

6. He/she doesn’t tend to compromise on your disagreements.
To resolve disagreements, both parties need to compromise so you can meet both ways. If he/she doesn’t, he/she might be giving more importance to his/her own wants and desires. That’s selfish and selfish people tend to leave a relationship if they can’t get what they want.

7. He courted/dated you immediately after his/her recent break up.
Never accommodate someone who’s just on the rebound. He/she will just use you to ease his/her loneliness or save his/her face from his/her ex and friends. You don’t want to be just a filler or a meantime girl, do you?

8. He/she had frequently lied.
How can you trust someone who’s not open and honest in your relationship? Covering up something is really doubting.

9. He/she is always the one starting up the fight.
Ever wonder why he/she easily gets mad even to the pettiest things? He/she might just opening up a chance or reason to break up with you.

10. His/her phone becomes frequently unattended & doesn’t return your call the soonest possible time.
He/she might be busy with his/her “extra-curricular” activity that your call doesn’t excite him/her anymore.

There are many possible reasons why you might be seeing these signs of infidelity from your partner. Better make things clear or clearer.

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Flirting, Courting and Dating Styles That Didn’t Work

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 10:57:00 +0000

The following are flirting, courting and dating styles of men that didn’t work on me. I’m not sure if it worked on some other women though.

An Obvious Agenda

I had this grade school classmate, we were dance partner and we become close during rehearsals. He was 11, we were of the same age and I owe him for teaching me to ride a racer bike. But one day he surprised me saying “you’re like a banana, so enticing to peel”.

If he has said it to me today, I would just probably blush and get over it. But I was too young and innocent then that every time he’ll passed by our house for a visit, I’ll go hiding.

Guys, think before you spill out the beans or you’ll scare us away.

Testing the Waters

After a very long time, I happened to bump into one of my high school classmate. After the coincidence, he came to my house. When I asked him what he is doing in my place, he said “Oh, I was just passing by”. But he was in the house for hours asking me questions about yesteryears.

Some guys are so afraid of rejection that they’ll test the waters first before they fetch it. Real men are not cowards.

Charade

My friend’s cousin often asks me to accompany him in our organizational affairs or for some program preparations. He always involved me in. I thought it’s just because I am his vice-president. Until one day, our common friends started teasing us. I wasn’t really informed of his motive. A few months passed, one of our common friend asked me in front of him, what is the reason of not accepting him as of yet. I didn’t want to embarrass him so I just played dead-ear. I was mumbling but in my head, “why, is there a question?”

How can we know your real intention if you don’t spill it out? You don’t want us to be just presumptuous, do you? What is there to answer when there is no question?

Guys, gals are not like Edward Cullen, a vampire who can read minds. So, speak up!

Double-Standard

I’ve met this guy, he became a jogging pal. He calls me everyday at work, we jog every Saturdays and Sundays. One time, he mentioned on the phone that he is easily turned off when his gal is dating another guy. As for him, it is embarrassing to know from a friend to see his constant date dating with another guy. He is implying that if I’ll date another guy, he’ll back out. So I asked him the other side of the coin, if he wants exclusivity, would he do the same? He said, it’s not awkward to see men dating various girls. I felt injustice, where is gender equality here?

Few weeks passed, I’ve met an Indian national. He’s handsome, physically fit, funny and a sensible person. He has an interesting personality that I allow him to befriend me.

But the former guy got irritatingly jealous, he didn’t backed out but he is making me feel guilty about going out with the Indian guy. I made it clear to him that I’m only being friendly and the latter has no chance with me. But he still feels bad about it that though he communicates with me, he won’t ask me out anymore. One night, he’s texting me, I’m missing him a lot but I still feel disappointed so I dumped him.

Guys, you can’t have it both ways, if you want exclusivity, you have to earn it.

Vote Buying

My brother’s high school classmate often visits my family in ordinary days. When he’s here, my brother isn’t around and so I always make up for my brother’s absence. He became close to my mother, he was like a family. I thought it was my brother he’s visiting until I got a letter revealing his heart out. But I do not care.

Guys, don’t you think you have to win our hearts first before trying to please everyone in the family. If we didn’t like you, you're just prolonging your agony.
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After all this dating stuff I’ve found out, one sure way to make the guy aggressive is to make him jealous. Nothing drives a man crazy but by seeing competition. He is threatened yet challenged by it. Tried it thrice, it was always effective.

Though sometimes, I'd rather prefer the western style of courtship and dating. In the west side, they do not court, just date and say “I like you” bluntly to one another. No pretensions, just straight-forward. If you got turned off eventually, there’s not much time wasted investing in a relationship that was not worth it.

Because in the traditional way of courting, guys will just tend to put their best foot forward, you’ll never get to know the guy’s darker side unless you two are childhood friends. Even if you push the courtship too long trying to decipher the guy’s personality, it doesn’t guarantee a deeper relationship.

Whether you took the hard way or the short cut, it’ll just be the same. You just have to take the risk/s if you want to love and be loved.

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The Difference between a Male, a Boy & a Man

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 10:49:00 +0000

Bluntly speaking, a male is a human who have penis & testicles that produce sperms that can fertilize a female’s ovum. But nowadays, not all male can fertilize an ovum, not that they are impotent or something, it’s just that some are more interested in seeing someone else’s penis & testicles.

So for me, a male is a human with a testosterone and has interest on the opposite sex.

Literally, a boy is a young male in his primary years until he reaches his legal age. A-ah, some are in their mid to late 20s but is still asking for his mother’s consent to make up his own decision.

It’s not wrong to ask a mother for her views and opinions, well, “Mothers knows best”. It becomes different when you have to get her approval every time so that you can go on with your own life.

So for me, a boy is a young male who can stand up on his own feet.

Categorically speaking, a man is a male adult with qualities and virtues learned through the years. But not all males are boys and not all boys become a man. Instance, he got a woman pregnant and he ran away from her. Is he afraid of his own blood or something?!

For me then, a man is someone who has a sense of responsibility, become matured in many ways. He do not just ran away from his mistakes, he faced them.

We should know the difference!

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It’s Called a Break up Because it’s Broken

noreply@blogger.com (cbguillermo) — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 10:18:00 +0000

The book "It's Called a Break up Because it's Broken" is authored by the couple Grey Behrent and Amira Ruotala-Behrent. The former coauthored the two-million copy bestseller “He’s Just Not That into You” which inspired a movie of the same title, starring Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Aniston, Scarlet Johansson and Ben Affleck. His wife Amira, is a former record executive and now a full-time author and TV producer.

If you had just split up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you don’t want your friends to know your misery but wants to find comfort anyhow, well this is the book for you. It is actually defined as a girl’s book as the subtitle says “The Smart Girl’s Break up Buddy”. But hey, not only girls experienced the same trouble, actually the contents are applicable to both sexes.

I recommend the book especially when you’re already tired of sulking and want to lift your spirit up, this book will definitely do the job. It presents the harsh realities of a break up but in a funny way. This book will leave you laughing from start to finish. It aims to save your face from humiliation by discouraging you to do something stupid. It will make you feel special, restrain you from self-pity, give advices on preserving your pride & dignity and teach you ways to recover.

I have many favorite parts in the book, one of it discussed about “rebounding”. It states, “The best thing you can do is get out of your ex’s world and go find someone real to love. Any relationship that’s designed solely to elicit a reaction from someone else is not only false but a major discredit to anyone who’s a part of it. When you truly move on, you won’t care what your ex thinks. And for the record, the best revenge isn’t messing up his life – it’s getting on with yours and living it to the fullest”.

I think even if you’re not broken-hearted right now, you still can relate to the book. As once or a few times in your life, you might have just experienced the same situation. Even JLo and Jennifer Aniston have been dumped! What the heck!