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BATUK SAMPAI RASA MACAM NAK PECAH PALA.. MIGRAINE BEB

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:42:00 +0000

Cough Headaches : an introduction

Cough headaches are triggered by strain or exertion that occurs by:

Coughing
Bending over
Laughing
Sneezing
Blowing of the nose
Holding the breath
Fast head movements
Singing
Crying
Having a bowel movement
Some clinical studies have shown that men are four times more likely to suffer from cough headaches as women. Most cough headaches don’t appear until after age 40.

Types of Cough Headaches

There are two types of cough headaches, those that are harmless and those that might indicate a more serious disorder. Primary cough headaches are harmless. However, any underlying cause of the headaches must be ruled out first to ensure that a brain lesion or other more serious condition isn’t causing the pain that accompanies straining. The International Headache Society requires that structural brain lesions and aneurysms be ruled out by examining the patient with a brain MRI before diagnosing primary cough headache. Some clinical research shows that about 40 percent of cough headaches indicate another disorder. See your doctor if you suffer from cough headaches so that all other possible conditions can be ruled out.

Symptoms of Cough Headache

Pain on both sides of the head
Head pain starts suddenly after cough or other trigger
Lasts a very short period of time, sometimes only one minute

What causes Cough Headaches

Harmless, primary cough headaches are believed to be caused by increased pressure in the head that comes from coughing and other types of strain. This pressure increase is called the Valsalva’s maneuver, which is sometimes done deliberately by closing the mouth, pinching the nose and breathing out. It is done to equalize pressure in the ear, for example, if pressure builds while flying. However, there is the risk of applying too much pressure to the middle ear and causing damage. Cough headaches appear similar to migraines triggered by physical activity and to exertion headaches.

Diagnosing Cough Headaches

The International Headache Society defines cough headache as:

A headache with the characteristics listed in B and C
Starts suddenly and lasts one second to 30 minutes
Headache is brought on by and only happens with coughing, straining and Valsalva maneuvers
Headache is not caused by another disorder

source: migraine.com

P & L

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sat, 10 Sep 2011 00:30:00 +0000

hidup ini penuh kepalsuan.. itulah yang dinyanyikan oleh Aishah.. kenapa L perlukan P dlm kehidupan? memang dah termaktub manusia ini dicipta berpasangan.. P & L adalah pelengkap satu sama lain.. tetapi kenapa P pelengkap ni susah sangat nak dicari? kenapa P ini susah sangat nak dibahagiakan?

ntah la.. susah utk difahami.. bila kita layan.. asyik sms atau call.. depa kata kita cuba nak kongkong dan mula la dgr ayat "i need some space" bila kita kurang layan.. 2-3 hari baru nak sms atau call.. depa kata "u dun care anymore" betullah gamaknya lirik lagu tu.. P kaulah penawar kaulah peracun hati.. arrrggghhhh.. sudah la.. lagi dilayan perasaan ni makin byk uban kat pala aku.. cit podah betul

RESIDENTS ARE CRYING FOUL

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 23:53:00 +0000

Residents in my housing area are crying foul over the proposed construction of MRT. Apparently the proposed 'TTDI Station' will be built in front of their houses. The map says so!

MRT Route

The proposed station would be built on the stretch of Sprint-Jalan Damansara Highway, in front of Jalan SS 20/10 in Damansara Utama and the TTDI Fire Brigade. It is reasonably big. Obviously it would be an eye-sore and the noise would be unbearable to these residents.

Side View Of The Proposed Station

According to the plan, staff parking would also be built on Jalan SS 20/10. That is indeed in front of a row of terrace houses on that road. We should understand their concern.

Tha authority must be more sensitive and sympathetic to these residents. A wiser decision would be to move it to the stretch that has no houses; that is the area opposite the TTDI wet market. It is only a few hundred metres away!

1 Malaysia dan Hari Malaysia

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 13:11:00 +0000

16 September 2010 hari ni rakyat Malaysia diberikan cuti umum sempena menyambut tarikh dimana 47 tahun sebelum ini iaitu pada 16 September 1963 negeri Sabah dan Sarawak telah merdeka apabila negeri-negeri ini telah bergabung dengan Malaya dan lahirlah Malaysia. Sekarang ini slogan 1Malaysia sering dilaung-laungkan namun adakah kita sedar bahawa selagi Sabah dan Sarawak tidak menjana transformasi Malaysia akan tetap berbelah bahagi.

Saya pernah mengikut bapa ke Sarawak semasa beliau ditugaskan kesana. Disana saya telah bersekolah dari darjah satu hingga tingkatan 3 di Sekolah Rendah Bantuan St. Joseph dan Sekolah Menengah Bantuan St. Joseph Kuching. 2 tahun kemudiannya selepas tingkatan 5 saya berkesempatan ke Kota Kinabalu pula kerana bapa telah bertukar ke sana. Selama lebih 9 tahun di Sabah dan Sarawak banyak yang telah dilalui ada yang suka ada yang duka.

Namun apa yang ingin saya timbulkan bukanlah cerita bagaimana bersekolah disana tetapi perkara lain yang agak menarik perhatian. Setahu saya hanya di Malaysia sahaja penduduk Semenanjung Malaysia harus menggunakan passport atau kad pengenalan untuk memasuki Sabah dan Sarawak yang juga di dalam Malaysia. Setiap kemasukan pula hanya sah untuk 3 bulan. Tetapi penduduk Sabah dan Sarawak tidak perlu menggunakan passport atau kad pengenalan untuk ke mana-mana negeri di Semenanjung Malaysia. Mereka juga tidak tertakluk dengan syarat sah pelawat 3 bulan. Adakah ini sejajar dengan konsep 1Malaysia?

Tujuan saya ni bukan untuk menimbulkan perpecahan atau perbalahan, malah saya mempunyai ramai kawan-kawan dari Sabah dan Sarawak, tetapi hanya untuk memberitahu kepada yang tidak tahu. Agar dengan ini transformasi dapat dijanakan ke arah 1Malaysia.

adil dan saksama VS adil dan sama rata

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 07:22:00 +0000

Baru-baru ini PM kita telah mengumumkan bahawa semua bakal pelajar lepasan SPM yang mencapai 9A+ akan ditawarkan biasiswa JPA tanpa mengira bangsa. Oleh itu semua bangsa iaitu Cina, India, Melayu dan Bumiputera atau singkatannya CIMB... (macam nama bank jer.. hehehe) akan ditawarkan biasiswa JPA.

Sebagai ahli panel penemuduga pelajar lepasan SPM cemerlang pada tahun 2009 yang ingin melanjutkan pelajaran ke luar negara, saya rasa tidak wajar kerajaan menawarkan biasiswa itu hanya kerana pelajar itu mendapat 9A+. Pengalaman saya semasa sesi temuduga menunjukkan bahawa walaupun pelajar itu cemerlang dari segi akademik, mereka belum bersedia dari segi pengetahuan yang diluar buku teks. Apabila ditanya, “siapakah DYMM Yang Dipertuan Agong?” “apakah nama ibu negeri?” “apakah nama ibu negara Malaysia?” hampir majoriti jawapan adalah salah. Jawapan yang betul hanya diperolehi apabila soalan ditanya mengenai pelajaran mereka, yang berada di dalam kepala otak mereka adalah isi buku-buku teks, malah mereka boleh jawap sebiji-sebiji ayat macam dalam buku teks itu. Macam mesin fotostat pula kan.

Ada yang memilih untuk melanjutkan pelajaran ke sesuatu negara itu dengan motif yang lain. Antara yang difikirkan ialah apabila dah mendapat segulung ijazah boleh la kerja di negara itu dulu kerana gajinya besar. Bila dah seronok bergaji besar terus tidak pulang ke negara. Berapa ramaikah bekas-bekas pelajar Malaysia yang pernah ditaja ini masih berada di luar negara? Jumlahnya ramai.. kalau tak percaya tengok sajalah iklan tuntutan balik biasiswa/pinjaman di surat khabar. Bagamainakah pelajar-pelajar ini akan menjadi duta kecil kepada negara? Inikah yang dinamakan membina modal insan untuk negara?

Pelajar-pelajar ini juga sebenarnya belum bersedia untuk melanjutkan pelajaran di dalam bidang yang kononnya adalah pilihan mereka. Ada yang tidak tahu pun mengenai bidang pelajaran yang dipilih kerana borang-borang itu diisi oleh ibu bapa mereka. Ada yang memilih sesuatu bidang itu hanya kerana mereka ingin mengikut kawan-kawan. Ada yang pilih satu bidang itu kerana dirasakan bidang itu tidak banyak saingan untuk mendapat biasiswa ke luar negara. Kaunselor bimbingan kerjaya di sekolah juga seperti melepaskan batok di tangga. Ada yang menasihatkan pelajar memilih undang-undang hanya kerana pelajar itu rajin dan petah bercakap. Selain dari itu pelajar juga tidak faham apakah fungsi kerjaya sesuatu bidang itu. Bayangkanlah apa masa hadapan negara yang ingin mencapai status negara maju pada tahun 2020.

Soalan yang biasa saya ajukan kepada calon-calon ini ialah “apakah yang anda harapkan apabila dah berkelayakan untuk menjadi seorang jurutera?” dan jawapan membodek yang biasa didengar ialah “kerana saya ingin berkhidmat untuk negara” Bila direnung, hanya dengan mendapat biasiswa JPA dan melanjutkan pelajaran ke luar negara baru boleh berkhidmat untuk negara ke? Kalau tak dapat biasiswa nak jadi apa.. pengkhianat negara?

Jarang-jarang kita menemui seorang calon yang sempurna. Bila dah dapat seorang, latar belakang keluarga pula harus diteliti. Apakah yang membezakan mereka dari mendapat tempat atau tidak? Senarionya begini, anak kepada keluarga yang berpendapatan RM300 sebulan dan perlu menyara 7 anak beranak, bandingkan dengan anak tunggal kepada keluarga yang memiliki empayar perniagaan yang asetnya bernilai berbillion ringgit malah mampu untuk mewujudkan skim biasiswanya sendiri. Pada pendapat anda siapakah yang harus ditawarkan tempat? Adakah adil jika kedua-dua calon itu ditawarkan biasiswa tersebut?

Begitu juga senario kuota bangsa/kaum yang sering dipersoalkan. Peratusan kaum di Malaysia adalah berbeza 50% - Melayu 25% - Cina 10% - India 15% - Bangsa-bangsa lain. Adakah adil jika semua bangsa mendapat jumlah biasiswa yang sama? Bolehkah kuota bangsa itu dipenuhi jika bangsa itu sendiri pun tidak ramai? Kalau tak dipenuhi kuota itu akan dibazirkan begitu sahaja. Salahkah jika diberi kepada bangsa yang lebih ramai mengikut peratusan? Salahkah jika kuota itu dipenuhi dengan tujuan untuk mencapai objektif negara?

what to post?

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:34:00 +0000

almost 2 months i have not posted anything.. november is a good month.. my birthday was on the 5th.. getting older with more and more grey hair.. maybe i should start thinking about dyeing my hair huh.. what would be a good color? maybe i should try white.. LOL.. ;)

to all the girls i've loved before (Julio Iglesias & Willie Nelson).. girls thanks for the memories

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:15:00 +0000

To all the girls I've loved before
Who travelled in and out my door
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before

To all the girls I once caressed
And may I say I've held the best
For helping me to grow
I owe a lot I know
To all the girls I've loved before

The winds of change are always blowing
And every time I try to stay
The winds of change continue blowing
And they just carry me away

To all the girls who shared my life
Who now are someone else's wives
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before

To all the girls who cared for me
Who filled my nights with ecstasy
They live within my heart
I'll always be a part
Of all the girls I've loved before

The winds of change are always blowing
And every time I try to stay
The winds of change continue blowing
And they just carry me away

To all the girls we've loved before
Who travelled in and out our doors
We're glad they came along
We dedicate this song
To all the girls we've loved before

To all the girls we've loved before
Who travelled in and out our doors
We're glad they came along
We dedicate this song
To all the girls we've loved before

an officer and a gentleman

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:14:00 +0000

"An Officer and a Gentleman is a 1982 film which tells the story of a United States Navy aviation Officer Candidate who comes into conflict with the Marine Corps Gunnery Sergeant who trains him. It was written by Douglas Day Stewart and directed by Taylor Hackford. It starred Richard Gere, Debra Winger and Louis Gossett, Jr. and was produced by Lorimar Productions for Paramount Pictures. The film's title uses an old expression from the British navy or from the U.S. Uniform Code of Military Justice, as being charged with "conduct unbecoming an officer and a gentleman" (from 1860)."

this movie is like 27 years old already.. one of my most favorite movies.. this movie is so full of love, hatred, rage.. how a nobody can be a special person..

i am currently an officer.. but when will i be a true gentleman???

Been so busy.. or just lazy??

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 01:49:00 +0000

for the past month i havent had time to update my blog.. or am i starting to become a lazy blogger? maybe i just need something new as a motivation.

7 tips to outlast your food cravings!

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 18:33:00 +0000

Researchers define a craving as an intense desire to consume a particular food that is difficult to resist. But you're probably more familiar with the feeling in layman's terms: I want a Mars bar, and I want it NOW.

Cravings may be tough to withstand, but they're even harder to figure out. "You'd like to think that a craving is your body's way of telling you something, and that if you give in, everything will be okay. But that's not always the case," says Adam
Drewnowski, Ph.D., director of the nutritional-sciences program at the University of Washington. "Cravings can have different triggers—stress, depression, hormones—and while there are some cravings you can indulge, there are others that you shouldn't."

8:00 a.m.: A Box of Cap'n Crunch

Why?
A big appetite in the morning is your body's way of coming out of starvation mode after hours of not eating. Going without food triggers your brain to release a substance called neuropeptide Y that helps to increase your appetite, says Janine Whiteson, M.Sc., a New York City nutritionist and author of Get a Real Food Life. The longer you've gone without food, the greater your hunger when you wake up.

Give in or Fight It?
Give in—just don't go overboard. "It's fine to eat a doughnut or a bowl of sweetened cereal in the morning, as long as you also eat some high-protein food with it," says Laura A. Lees, Psy.D., a Wisconsin-based eating-disorders specialist. Studies show that protein keeps your appetite in check longer than carbohydrates or fat can. So go ahead and eat a bowl of Cap'n Crunch, but combine it with a couple of slices of Canadian bacon or a small block of cheese.

8:45 a.m.: A Jelly Doughnut

Why?
You probably didn't eat enough at breakfast. "It's normal for cravings to pop up every 2 to 3 hours," says Heidi Skolnik, M.S., a sports nutritionist for the New York Giants and a contributing editor to Men's Health. That's roughly how long it takes for your body to break down the sugars in the food you eat, release them
into your bloodstream, and convert them into energy, she explains.

Give in or Fight It?
Fight it. Instead of sugar, you need something that's high in fiber—it'll fill you up now but won't interfere with snack time later. "Mid-morning snacks are great, but this isn't midmorning, and you don't want to break out your big snack too early," says Skolnik. Instead of the doughnut, reach for dried fruit, a handful of nuts, or an energy bar. "Eat enough to satisfy your craving, but not enough to keep you from being hungry an hour or two later," she says.

10:30 a.m.: A Coke

Why?
You could be craving the caffeine. The coffee or soda you drank on the way to work is wearing off, and you want another hit to get your energy level back up to what feels like normal.

Give in or Fight It?
Fight it. Swear off the regular soda and opt for the caffeine-free diet variety. "Caffeine gives you a false sense of energy because it doesn't give your body any real fuel to burn," says Lynn Grieger, R.D., C.D.E., a Vermont-based nutritionist. If you switch to caffeine-free soda, not only will you break the
caffeine/craving connection, but you probably won't even notice a difference in the taste. In a study from Johns Hopkins University, researchers found that fewer than 10 percent of people were able to tell the difference between regular and caffeine-free soft drinks.

Noon: Macaroni and Cheese

Why?
You're stressed out about your boss, your dog dying, your boss's dog dying, something—and that craving is your body's attempt to make you feel better. "Carbs trigger the production of a feel-good hormone called serotonin, which helps to boost your mood and temporarily relieve your stress," says John Foreyt, Ph.D., director of behavioral-medicine research at Baylor University.

Give in or Fight It?
Give in—occasionally. "Using food for temporary relief from a problem is fine, as long as you don't do it all the time," says Lees. A better alternative: Trick your mind into thinking about something else. "Use your lunch break to go running or lift
weights," says Skolnik. "Or try to outthink your craving. When the urge to eat strikes, rate your hunger on a scale of one to 10. "Unless you're at a level of seven or eight, don't allow yourself to eat."

Still Hungry?
Go ahead and eat, but opt for a very small portion and eat it along with a high-protein food like steak, chicken, or tuna salad. "The last thing you want for lunch when you're working is something like macaroni and cheese," says Deborah Gleason, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in Rochester Hills, Michigan. A few carbs may boost your mood, but too many can overload your brain, leaving you sluggish and tired, she says.

2:45 p.m.: Chocolate-Chip Cookies

Why?
You might not be getting enough magnesium. Semisweet chocolate chips are one of the top sources of magnesium, and, according to one theory, not having enough of the mineral in your system could generate a desire to eat chocolate. Or, if you eat chocolate all the time, maybe you're a chocoholic. Spanish researchers found
that chocolate and cocoa contain some of the same potentially mood-altering compounds found in alcohol.

Give in or Fight It?
Give in. "If you have an intense craving for a bit of a very specific food like chocolate, it's best to go ahead and eat it," says Skolnik. "If you don't, your craving is going to get more intense until you eventually give in anyway, and you'll have eaten a lot of unnecessary calories in an attempt to make it go away."

Make sure you keep your portions under control, meaning take two or three cookies at most—and then put the rest away. You may feel as if you want more, but according to a study from Pennsylvania State University, people who were served the smallest portions of a food felt just as full and satisfied after eating as people who were given unlimited helpings of the same food.

8:00 p.m.: Potato Chips

Why?
You want to relax. In this case, the craving is less about the food and more about what the food signifies. "A lot of guys feel stressed out and tired all day, and when they get home, they just want to relax and forget about their day with a bag of chips and the remote control," says Skolnik. "They feel like they've been in control and used restraint all day, and the chips are part of their reward for that good behavior."

Give in or Fight It?
Fight it. You're eating for the wrong reason. "It might not seem so bad in the short term, but over time, this kind of emotionally driven eating is one of the primary reasons men gain weight," says Skolnik. To break the habit, go cold turkey: no food while the TV's on. "Even healthy snacks won't help break the association between food and relaxing," says Gleason.

To make the process easier, rearrange your living-room furniture or watch your favorite show in a room where you typically spend less time. Studies from Brookhaven National Laboratory suggest that hanging out in a spot where you've indulged past cravings can help trigger future ones.

11:00 p.m.: Ice Cream

Why?
You want to watch Letterman but your body wants you to go to bed. Men may crave foods like ice cream and crackers late at night because carbohydrates help to boost levels of a sleep-inducing compound called tryptophan. As tryptophan levels
in your brain increase, you naturally become sleepier, say researchers at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Give in or Fight It?
Give in. "Hunger can keep you awake at night, so you're better off eating something than eating nothing at all," says Lees. Her advice: Keep the serving small and pick a regular, full-fat ice cream, not the fat-free kind. According to a study from Purdue, tastebuds can detect fat, and that may be why fat-free foods aren't as satisfying as full-fat foods.

A Common Spice That Will Trim Your Tummy!

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 17:23:00 +0000

want to pass along a quick interview
with fitness guru Mike Geary. If you listen to his tips you
will pick up a quick tip for increasing your metabolism
effortlessly!

Enjoy!

I've written before about the power of certain herbs and spices
in terms of antioxidant capacity and other health benefits. If
you remember, I wrote a couple months ago about the super-food
status of cinnamon and how powerful a health food (or rather
spice) that it can be.

The next super-spice -- Chili!

I was just reading about a recent Australian study that
documented how you can burn more calories, increase your
metabolism slightly, and help control your blood sugar and
insulin levels by including chili peppers and chili spice (or
cayenne) in your foods.

Keep in mind, this may be a minor "detail", but when you add up
a lot of these types of "details", you can make significant
changes to your body over time.

As you've probably heard in the past, the active ingredient in
chili pepper (capsaicin) can cause slight increases in your
metabolic rate and calorie burning from a meal. This has been
reported many times in both animal and human studies.

However, in this Australian study, Madeleine J. Ball, MD, one of
the researchers from the study, sought to find out how chili
pepper affected blood sugar and insulin response after a meal.

As you know, chronically high insulin levels in your body can
not only cause deposition of excess body fat, but also can lead
to diseases such as heart disease and diabetes.

The study was split into groups of subjects that ate meals
without chili spice, and other groups of subjects that ate meals
with chili pepper.

As it turned out, the chili pepper eating groups had lower
insulin levels and more stable blood sugar after the meals than
the groups that ate the same food without chile. According to
Dr. Ball, "the chili is probably having some effect on the
ability of the body to clear -- or remove -- insulin from the
bloodstream".

Aside from the temporary calorie burning boost and insulin
controlling response, apparently chili pepper also has
significant antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties...

So if you can handle a bit of spicyness, go ahead and enjoy
adding some extra cayenne or chili pepper to your pot of meat
& bean chili, your morning eggs, meat dishes, and other meals,
knowing it's possibly giving you a slight edge in the fat burning
department.

One of my favorite meals that I've been eating a lot of lately
is my home-made chili. I make big batches of it, and that leaves
leftovers for quick and healthy meals whenever you need them.

migraine

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:32:00 +0000

i am having a bad but still controlable migraine. yes my head hurts but i still have to live my life. i cant go on head banging against the wall every where i go.. LOL.. below is what wikipedia says migraine is.. maybe anyone who reads this is a doctor can give extra info..

Migraine is a neurological syndrome characterized by altered bodily perceptions, severe headaches, and nausea. Physiologically, the migraine headache is a neurological condition more common to women than to men. The word migraine was borrowed from Old French migraigne (originally as "megrim", but respelled in 1777 on a contemporary French model). The French term derived from a vulgar pronunciation of the Late Latin word hemicrania, itself based on Greek hemikrania, from Greek roots for "half" and "skull".

The typical migraine headache is unilateral and pulsating, lasting from 4 to 72 hours; symptoms include nausea, vomiting, photophobia (increased sensitivity to light), and phonophobia (increased sensitivity to sound); approximately one-third of people who suffer migraine headache perceive an aura—unusual visual, olfactory, or other sensory experiences that are a sign that the migraine will soon occur.

Initial treatment is with analgesics for the headache, an antiemetic for the nausea, and the avoidance of triggering conditions. The cause of migraine headache is idiopathic; the accepted theory is a disorder of the serotonergic control system, as PET scan has demonstrated the aura coincides with diffusion of cortical depression consequent to increased blood flow (up to 300% greater than baseline).

There are migraine headache variants, some originate in the brainstem (featuring intercellular transport dysfunction of calcium and potassium ions) and some are genetically disposed. Studies of twins indicate a 60 to 65 percent genetic influence upon their propensity to develop migraine headache. Moreover, fluctuating hormone levels indicate a migraine relation: 75 percent of adult patients are women, although migraine affects approximately equal numbers of prepubescent boys and girls; propensity to migraine headache is known to disappear during pregnancy, although in some women migraines may become more frequent during pregnancy

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:19:00 +0000

This article was forwarded to me.. Since its crazy wedding season now, some useful tips for those who just got married, about to get married, planning to get married or who dont even want to get married. Hehe. Not sure who wrote the article tho

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,'How do I know if I married the right person?'

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades..

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. .

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make love'.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

How to achieve good vision during heavy downpour, while you are driving

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:10:00 +0000

How to achieve good vision while driving during a heavy downpour. We are not sure why it is so effective, just try this method when it rains heavily. This method was told by a Police friend who had experienced and confirmed it. It is useful...even driving at
night. Most of the motorists would turn on HIGH or FASTEST SPEED of the wipers during heavy downpour, yet the
visibiilty in front of the windscreen is still bad.....

In the event you face such a situation, just try your SUN GLASSES (any model will do), and miracle!

All of a sudden, your visibility in front of your windscreen is perfectly clear, as if there is no rain.

Make sure you always have a pair of SUN GLASSES in your car, as you are not only helping yourself to drive safely with good vision, but also might save your friend's life by giving him this idea.

Try it yourself and share it with your friends!

Is fruit making you fat? The FINAL word on fructose and fat loss

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 18:02:00 +0000

Does fruit make you fat? Are bodybuilders right when they cut out fruit before competitions or is that unnecessary? These and other questions have been hotly debated for decades. In this short 4 minute audio, Kevin Larrabee of the Fit Cast show puts this question to Tom Venuto, who puts everything in perspective and gives you the final word on fruit, fructose and fat loss...

Read the transcript below . . .

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KEVIN LARRABEE: Well, let's jump right into the questions. The first one we have comes from Chris. He says, "I'm just curious, what are your thoughts about fructose? Should the average person avoid a lot of fruit? I tend to avoid starchy carbs altogether, instead focusing on lean protein, fruit and veggies, in addition to healthy fats. Should I be worried about the fructose stuff? I eat 3 to 5 pieces of fruit a day, and that includes apples, grapes, bananas, oranges and really whatever is on sale at the store."

TOM VENUTO: I saw this topic got stirred up again just a few weeks ago. There was a study published in June, and it got written up in The New York Times, about fructose getting converted into fat. And you know how good the media is at reporting scientific research. Right? [sarcasm]

KEVIN LARRABEE: Oh, it's great. It's fantastic. I go to The New York Times for all my nutrition information actually. [more sarcasm!]

TOM VENUTO: [laughs] Well, it was The Journal for the American Nutrition Society. The title, right off the bat, was really damning. It said, "Dietary Sugars Stimulate
Fatty Acid Synthesis." Then The New York Times' article says, "Does Fructose Make You Fatter?" And everybody saw that and they're like, "Oh, my God! Fruit turns into fat!"

To tell you the truth, having started in the bodybuilding world, I believed that too. That's what I was taught. I was taught that fruit turns to fat, and when you go on a contest diet, you have to cut the fruit out. So when I was just starting out in bodybuilding, in my first few contests, I cut the fruit out. And then I started to really analyze it and it didn't seem to make any sense to me, so I put the fruit back in. I didn't see one shred of difference.

If you really go and look at these studies, like this new one, they were talking about high fructose corn syrup, not whole fruit. We know that the fructose goes to preferentially restore the liver glycogen, and the liver has a limited storage capacity. Some of the studies suggest that about 50 grams of fructose before it starts to spill into fat, at least in the context of those studies.

But does anybody know how much 50 grams of fructose is? I mean, in terms of soda, or high fructose corn syrup, I don't think it's hard at all to get 50 grams. And in that study, they didn't give people whole fruit. They gave them a big liquid dose that had 85 grams of carbs in a 75% fructose solution. That's like 64 grams of fructose all at once.

So there you have it. That's consistent with what you'd expect based on the research.

Now, if you look at whole fruit, everybody saw the headline and they thought, "Fruit equals fructose." But fruit and fructose aren't exactly the same thing. A lot of people think that all the sugars in fruit are fructose. But a typical piece of fruit has what? About 6-7 grams of fructose?

Maybe you'd get about 10 in a big banana, and some of the berries that are really high in fiber, have only 2-3 grams of fructose. So it would take almost an impossible-to-eat amount, especially if you're trying to stay in a calorie deficit, for that to cause any fat storage. And if you're in a calorie deficit for the day anyway, should we really be worried about it?

KEVIN LARRABBE: Yeah.

TOM VENUTO: I think fruit is good for a fat loss diet. You could actually make an argument that you should include it because it's high in nutrients, it's high in fiber; it's high in water content, and we know that's a combination right there
(high fiber, high water) that's good for reducing appetite and making you feel fuller. So maybe the pre-contest bodybuilder or the low carb dieter is going to pull back on fruit a little bit. But that's mainly a function of cutting down on everything across the board -- cutting down calories across the board and
cutting down carbs across the board. Fruit is just too nutritionally
valuable to get rid of.

KEVIN LARRABEE: Exactly. I think something that Craig Ballantyne said was that he's never had a client that got fat by eating fruit. They got fat by having breads, like pastries, junk food, pizzas, things like that. You're not going to get fat by eating
fruit. I think people are just focusing on the wrong things.

TOM VENUTO: Yeah. Absolutely. Eat your fruit.

Common Bid'aah Made in Imsak

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:46:00 +0000

The practice of some people is to stop eating Suhoor 10-15 minutes earlier than the time of Fajr to observe Imsak. This is not correct because Allah has permitted the fasting person to eat and drink until dawn comes.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (raheemullah) was asked about some timetables which give the time of imsak as being approximately one-quarter of an hour before Fajr. He said:

"This is a kind of bid’aah (innovation) which has no basis in the Sunnah. Rather the Sunnah is to do the opposite, because Allah says in His Holy Book (interpretation of the meaning)":

...and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night) [al-Baqarah 2:187]

And the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: “Bilal gives the azan at night, so eat and drink until you hear the azan of Ibn Umm Maktoom, for he does not give the azan until dawn comes.” This imsak which some of the people do is an addition to that which Allah has enjoined, so it is false. It is a kind of extremism in religion, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed, those who go to extremes are doomed.” Narrated by Muslim, 2670

Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: "This shows that it is permissible to eat, drink, have intercourse etc until dawn comes."

Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said in Fath al-Baari (4/199): "One of the reprehensible innovations that have appeared in our times is giving the second azan approximately twenty minutes before Fajr in Ramadhan, and extinguishing the lamps which indicate that it is haram to eat and drink for those who want to fast. Those who introduced this innovation claim that they are erring on the side of caution with regard to an act of worship."

What is obligatory on all Muslims is that they hold on firmly to the Qur'an and Sunnah and follow it as closely as one can. This is a safeguard for us, so that we don't fall right or left but stay on the middle course. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) described the religion of Islam that is a middle course between extreme and lenient. Remember these words of the Prophet
(صلى الله عليه وسلم): I leave behind me two things. You will never go astray if you hold fast to them: The Qur'an and my Sunnah.

O Allah! Render the thoughts and inclinations within my heart, to be Your fear and remembrance, and let my endeavour and desire be devoted to what You love and appreciate. Keep my feet firm on Thy Right Path so that I should not stagger, and guide me to the true Faith so that I should not go astray. Ameen!!!

Subject: Fw: Microsoft will pay you $245.00 - spam email crap

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 17:04:00 +0000

below is from an email i got.. read it and see what i say about it afterwards

Dear Friends,

Please do not take this for a junk letter.. Bill Gates is sharing his fortune. If you ignore this you will repent later. Microsoft and AOL are now the largest Internet companies and in an effort to make sure that Internet Explorer remains the most widely used program, Microsoft and AOL are running an e-mail beta test.

When you forward this e-mail to friends, Microsoft can and will track it (if you are a Microsoft Windows user) for a two week time period.

For every person that you forward this e-mail to, Microsoft will pay you $245.00, for every person that you sent it to that forwards it on, Microsoft will pay you $243.00 and for every third person that receives it, you will be paid $241.00. Within two weeks!, Microsoft will contact you for your address and then send you a cheque.

i first got this kind of mail when i was still studying in the states.. 1994-1998.. like 15 years on it is still lingerie on the net.. i thought it was real then.. the testimonials seem genuine.. i sent this mail to so many friends..

just imagine how many malaysian students were online then.. the number could have easily been in the thousands.. all of whom got in touch with each other thru email and mirc(something like ym, windows messenger, skype for the younger generation now)..

lets say i forwarded this to 100 frens.. so according to the email i would get USD245 per person.. i should have gotten USD24,500 then right.. but i didnt get any response from Microsoft or AOL.. no email.. no calls.. my Great Western bank account still had the same balance as before.. there were no checks in the mail..

now its 2009.. AOL is still not a part of the Microsoft Corporation.. rocketmail no longer exists.. i still get this email.. if this was genuine.. 15 years on.. i should have already become a millionaire at least.. thank god at least u do not have to part with ur money to try this and learn that it is a hoax..

come on people nothing in life is so easy.. wise up..

Facebook - Connects

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 19:24:00 +0000

i may not have been using facebook for a long time.. but i find it very2 useful.. i found my friends from when i was in sarawak and perlis.. and from my frens i get to make new frens.. sometimes i get to play with the quizzes and apps.. no wonder it is so hard to meet people in person.. almost everyone is online.. anyways the weather here in malaysia is not very forgiving for meeting people.. it is so hot and humid.. i do pity the foreign tourists.. especially caucasians.. they get so hot and red..

WHY MUSLIM EAT ONLY HALAL FOOD?

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 19:20:00 +0000

Coconut Water can prevent H1N1 ??

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:00:00 +0000

i am not sure if the health ministry of malaysia endorses this but since H1N1 is threatening the livelyhood of malaysians.. i just thought i would share this email that my friend forwarded.. trying wont hurt.. not trying??? well u know there has been 73 deaths since it all started.. so why not give it a shot..

Former associate professor of ecology at Universiti Malaya has authored several books on complementary therapy called, 'Ecological Healing System'.

Dr Palaniappan said his 33 years of research had shown that high acidity in the body resulted in loss of immunity, thus making people more susceptible to viral diseases like Influenza A (H1N1).

Hence, to prevent acidity, it was essential to consume alkaline food and drinks that could neutralise excess acid in the body.

Dr Palaniappan recommends coconut water, which is alkaline, and therefore could be used as a herbal medicine for the prevention of H1N1.

For example, he said, those who felt feverish and developed a burning sensation while attending to a call of nature because of extreme acidity, could neutralise it by drinking coconut water, twice a day, for three days.

He also recommended orange, lemon and pomelo which, despite containing citric acid, were very rich in potassium and therefore, would not disturb the body's immunity.

According to Dr Palaniappan, excessive physical activity like running a marathon should be avoided as it produced acid due to excessive metabolic activity.

Similarly, he said, keeping late nights without adequate sleep and working without proper rest could also increase the body's acidity which in turn, lowered immunity and made the body vulnerable to viral attacks.

Langkah Bestari Suami Mithali ( Dato' Dr. Mohd. Fadzilah Kamsah)

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 07:54:00 +0000

Para isteri pun boleh baca /BAKAL2 YG MENDIRIKAN RUMAH TANGGA /BUJANG

1. Pasang niat dan berdoa untuk menjadi suami terbaik. Tanpa berniat dan berdoa anda tidak mungkin jadi suami yang cemerlang. Ramai suami terlupa.

2. Bersyukur kerana mempunyai pasangan hidup. Yakinlah bahawa isteri anda adalah pasangan terbaik yang Tuhan tentukan untuk anda. Ketentuan Tuhan adalah yang terbaik.

3. Suami mithali menjadi kebanggaan isteri. Pastikan anda membentuk sifat positif dan istimewa. Cuba tanya diri apakah sifat atau amalan yang boleh dibanggakan oleh isteri anda.

4. Setiap hari pulang dengan senyum dan bersemangat. Apabila suami tersenyum, isteri dan anak-anak akan bahagia dan rahmat Tuhan akan turun.Senyumlah apabila sampai ke rumah.

5. Pastikan anda ada masa untuk berbual dengan isteri setiap hari. Semua isteri bahagia apabila dapat berbual dengan suami. Berapa minit yang anda luangkan unutk berbual dengan isteri setiap hari ?

6. Telefon isteri ataupun hantar SMS sekadar untuk menyatakan yang anda sayang ataupun rindu pada isteri. Isteri anda akan berasa seronok dan bahagia apabila mendapat panggilan ataupun mesej tersebut.

7. Hiburkan hati isteri anda dengan bercerita, buat lawak atau gurauan yang mesra. Setiap gurauan mengubat hati isteri dan mengeratkan hubungan suami isteri.

8. Pastikan anda bergurau senda dengan isteri di dalam kenderaan semasa dalam perjalanan ke tempat kerja ataupun ke mana sahaja. Ramai suami membazir masa dengan membisu semasa di dalam kenderaan.

9. Amalkan makan bersama setiap hari. Berbual mesra dan nasihat menasihati semasa makan. Amalan ini akan menarik hidayat Tuhan dan mengeratkan hubungan. Elakan berbual perkara yang melalaikan semasa makan.

10. Ajak isteri mandi bersama sekali sekala. Bergurau senda semasa mandi bersama adalah sunah yang dapat mengeratkan hubungan suami isteri.

11. Bantu isteri melakukan kerja rumah. Ini adalah sunah yang dapat meringankan beban isteri, mengeratkan kasih sayang dan menbahagiakan pasangan anda.

12. Amalkan mesyuarat keluarga sekerap yang mungkin. Amalan bermesyuarat menarik hidayat Tuhan,mengeratkan hubungan dan menyelesaikan banyak masalah.

13. Pastikan penampilan anda anggun, kemas, bersih, wangi, sihat dan ceria. Ramai suami inginkan isteri yang mengancam, tetapi mengabaikan Penampilan diri sendiri. Mana adil ?

14. Didik isteri dengan memberi nasihat dan peringatan secara hikmah.Jadikan tindakan dan amalan anda sebagai contoh teladan yang cemerlang.Elakkan cakap tak serupa bikin.

15. Berikan nafkah kepada isteri mengikut keperluan keluarga dan kemampuan suami. Ramai suami mengabaikan nafkah kerana isteri bekerja. Ramai suami yang kedekut dan berkira. Ini menyebabkan isteri derita dan rumah tangga terancam.

16. Jadikan penawar hati kepada isteri. Ambil berat keperluan dan kemahuan dan peka kepada emosi dan situasi isteri. Isteri yang bahagia membentuk keluarga sejahtera

17. Sentiasa taat kepada semua perintah Tuhan dan memastikan keluarga juga patuh kepada Tuhan.

18. Suami mithali sentiasa menyimpan rahsia isteri. Ramai suami secara sengaja ataupun tidak sengaja menceritakan keburukan isteri kepada orang lain. Ini wajib dihentikan.

19. Muliakan keluarga isteri seperti keluarga sendiri. Ada suami yang menbeza-bezakan antara keluarganya dan keluarga isteri. Ada suami yang memusuhi keluarga isteri. Anda bagaimana ?

20. Bentuk sifat cemburu yang positif. Cemburu tanda beriman, sayang dan endah. Suami yang tidak cemburu adalah dayus. Isteri amat suka apabila suaminya ada sifat cemburu. Dia rasa dihargai.

21. Jadilah suami yang pemaaf. Syurga isteri di bawah tapak kaki suami.Maafkanlah isteri setiap malam sebelum tidur supaya rumah tangga bahagia dan isteri mudah masuk syurga.

22. Tegur kesilapan isteri dengan hikmah dan kasih sayang. Isteri merajuk bukan sebab ditegur, tetapi cara ditegur yang kasar. Apabila suami kasar, isteri jadi takut, bingung, hiba dan memberontak.

23. Gunakan Nabi Muhammad sebagai model. Hidupkan amalan sunah dalam rumah tangga. Sebut nama rasul apabila mendidik dan menasihati keluarga bagi mendapat hikmah.

24. Mendahulukan keperluan isteri daripada orang lain. Ini adalah tertib memberi khidmat. Ramai suami yang melebihkan orang lain daripada isterinya. Elakan kesilapan ini.

25. Suruh isteri dirikan sembahyang dan ibadah lain. Apabila berjauhan, telefon ataupun SMS bagi mengingatkan sembahyang.Wasiatkan isteri untuk sembahyang fardu dan sunat. Buat pesanan ini sehingga suami meninggal dunia.

26. Cintai isteri sepenuh hati. Cintai tanpa syarat, bertambah mengikut usia, penuh kemaafan, memberi tenaga,tidak pernah sensara serta berteraskan iman dan takwa.

27. Sentiasa berubah secara positif. Sebelum cuba ubah isteri dan keluarga, ubah diri dulu. Apabila suami berubah, keluarga akan turut berubah. Apabila suami cemerlang, isteri akan gemilang.

28. Pamer keprihatian yang tinggi terhadap keluarga. Ramai suami tidak ambil kisah dengan keluarga mereka.Cuba tanya apa lagi khidmat tambahan yang patut berikan kepada keluarga.

29. Pamer kematangan yang tinggi. Orang yang matang tenang, sabar, waras, bijaksana, dapat membuat keputusan dan cekap menyelesaikan masalah.

30. Memuliakan semua perempuan bukan sekadar isterinya. Ramai lelaki cuba hormat wanita tertentu sahaja.Ramai isteri yang kecewa terhadap suami yang menghina atau tidak hormat sebarang wanita termasuk pembantu rumah.

31. Bentuk beberapa sifat wanita yang terpilih dalam diri suami. Nabi Muhammad amat pemalu, pemaaf, peka,endah dan mudah menangis. Sifat wanita yang ada pada lelaki menaikkan martabat lelaki dan lebih disayangi wanita.

32. Mahir dalam menguruskan keluarga. Peka dengan masalah dan karenah ahli keluarga, cekap mencari punca masalah, mencari alternatif penyelesaian dan memilih penyelesaian yang optimum.

33. Membaiki diri secara berterusan. Tingkatkan iman dan takwa, cuci hati dengan sembahyang taubat, istighfar,memaafkan dan minta maaf, berkawan dengan orang yang baik, pendapatan yang berkat dan baiki amalan dan tindakan.

34. Jadi contoh atau model terbaik untuk keluarga. Doa dan usaha supaya setiap perbuatan anda dapat dicontohi dan dibanggakan ahli keluarga.Apakah sifat dan amal anda yang dapat dicontohi oleh ahli keluarga ?

35. Jadikan diri anda pendorong dan motivator berkesan unutk keluarga.Sentiasa beri galakan dan belaian. Elak marah, kritik ataupun hina keluarga. Fikir positif dan bersangka baik terhadap keluarga.

36 Tingkatkan ilmu berkenaan agama. Lazimnya, suami yang mendidik keluarga berkenaan agama. Belajarlahilmu agama dengan niat mendidik diri dan keluarga.

37. Sentiasa menegakkan kebenaran. Tegas menyatakan apa yang buruk dan apa yang baik. Elak mengenepikan kebenaran semata-mata bagi menjaga hati ahli keluarga. Tegakkan kebenaran dengan hikmah.

38. Bertindak tegas dan lemah lembut mengikut situasi. Tegas dalam menyeru ke arah kebaikan. Lemah lembut dalam menegur dan memberi nasihat. Tegas sangat orang memberontak, lembut sangat orang pijak.39. Latih diri memuji dan menghargai isteri. Ramai suami yang pandai kritik tetapi tidak tahu memuji. Belaian merawat emosi dan fizikal isteri dan membuat dia terasa disayangi. Cari peluang untuk sentiasa memuji.

40. Cari peluang untuk bertindak romantis terhadap isteri. Ini termasuk senyum, lemah lembut, sebut sayang tiga kali sehari, buat sebelum disuruh, sentuhan sayang, pujian dan memberi hadiah.

41. Fahami yang isteri ingin selalu di sisi suami. Suami pula berjauhan dengan isteri sekali sekala. Apabila berjauhan, telefon, SMS ataupun e-mel unutk bertanya khabar, berikan maklumat dan mengubat rindu.

42. Bentuk kerjasama yang mantap dengan isteri. Pamer kesatuan hati dan pendapat kepada anak-anak dan orang lain. Wujudkan kerjasama melalui mesyuarat, berbual, tolak ansur, bermaaf-maafan dan banyak berdoa.

43. Nilai diri daripada kaca mata isteri. Buang sifat dan amalan yang isteri benci. Berusaha keras melakukan perkara yang isteri suka. Apabila isteri bahagia, suami akan bertambah bahagia.

44. Apabila suami melayan isteri seperti mana dia melayan kawan, pasti isteri bahagia. Bayangkan cara anda melayan isteri sebelum kahwin. Ulangi layanan itu sekarang. Pasti hebat kesannya.

45. Suami wajar belajar jadi mengikut setia. Patuhi cadangan, Pandangan dan pandapat isteri yang betul. Jangan bangkang perkara yang baik. Kawal macho dengan saksama.

46. Buat undang-undang dalam rumah tangga. Apabila suami marah, isteri mesti senyap. Apabila isteri marah,suami mesti senyap. Ini mengelakkan daripada bergaduh. Orang tidak boleh bergaduh sendirian.

47. Latih gerak batin anda supaya serasi dengan gerak batin isteri.Serasikan gerak batin dengan berdoa, patuh perintah Tuhan, maafkan isteri, bersangka baik dan lakukan perkara baik untuk isteri mengikut sebarang lintasan dalam hati.

48. Pimpin isteri dengan nasihat dan kasih sayang. Pesan selalu dan nasihat sekali-sekala. Waktu terbaik nasihat adalah semasa rehat, minum petang, waktu bersiar-siar dan semasa hendak tidur.

49. Seimbangkan hidup dengan sempurna. Rajin di tempat kerja, Rajin juga di rumah. Peramah dengan kawan, peramah juga dengan isteri. Disiplin di pejabat, disiplin juga di rumah. Sabar dengan orang, sabar juga dengan isteri. Di luar dan di dalam rumah serupa.

50. Urus stress dengan sempurna supaya keluarga tidak terjejas, lakukan riaadah, berdiet, hentikan merokok,bercampur dengan orang positif, bermain dengan bayi, tengok ikan di akuarium, menyanyi, sembahyang taubat dan maafkan semua orang.

Biar susah, jangan menyusahkan

Hantaran Al-Quran = Al-Quran as wedding gift

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 18:34:00 +0000

Semasa tengok siaran lansung Solat Tarawih dari Masjidil Haram.. terdengar imam membaca ayat dari Surah Ar Ra'd.. teringat pulak email kiriman dari kawan.. jadi saya ingin berkongsi email itu disini.. bukalah hati anda bila membaca kandungannya.. tidak bermaksud untuk mempersendakan.. tetapi sekadar berpesan-pesan agar manusia tidak di dalam kerugian

“Sayang, tengok nih. Cantiknya AlQuran nih. Warna keemasan. Sesuai untuk kita buat hantaran” pekik Jamilah kepada Nabil.

“Sini pun cantik juga. Warna unggu keemasan. Mana satu kita nak beli nih” balas Nabil.

Mereka sedang asyik mencari bahan-bahan untuk dibuat hantaran. Tinggal satu lagi yang masih dicari-cari iaitu AlQuran yang bakal dijadikan hantaran.

“Tapi, yang ni lagi best, ada terjemahan arab” keluh Jamilah.

“Ala, awak bukan reti pun bahasa arab” jawab Nabil. Tergelak Jamilah. Berbahagia rasanya dapat calon suami seperti Nabil. Prihatin.

“Apa yang saudara cari tu. Nampak seronok saya lihat” tegur pakcik berbaju putih. Jaluran baju ke bawah menampakkan lagi seri wajah seorang pakcik dalam lingkungan 40-an.

“Oh, kami cari AlQuran. Nak buat hantaran. Maklumlah, nak bina masjid” sengih Nabil. Jamilah ikut senyum tidak jauh dari situ.

“Oh. Bagus lah. Adik selalu baca waktu bila?” pakcik menyoal sambil tersenyum.

“Aa.. aa.. lama dah saya tak baca, pakcik“ teragak-agak Nabil menjawab. Jamilah sudah di sebelah rak yang lain.

“Kalau gitu, tak perlu lah beli AlQuran kalau sekadar hantaran. Kesian ALQuran. Itu bukan kitab hiasan, dik” tegur pakcik berhemah.

“Alah, pakcik nih. Kacau daun pulak urusan orang muda. Kami beli ni nak baca la” tiba-tiba Jamilah muncul dengan selamba jawapannya.

“Oh, baguslah. Kalau gitu beli lah tafsir ArRahman. Ada tafsiran lagi” cadang pakcik.. Mukanya nampak seperti orang-orang ahli masjid.

“Ala, besar lah pakcik. Kami nak pilih nih. Kiut lagi” senyum Jamilah mengangkat bungkusan AlQuran warna unggu keemasan. Saiznya kecil.

“Jangan lupa baca ya” pakcik dengan selamba sambil meninggalkan pasangan tersebut.

“Sibuk je la pakcik tu” Jamilah mengomel.

Nabil kelihatan serba salah. Mungkin ‘terpukul’ dengan kata-kata seorang pakcik yang muncul secara tiba-tiba.

Hari yang dinantikan sudah tiba. Mereka sudah bersolek. Hari nan indah. Terlalu indah buat pasangan teruna dan dara yang bakal disatukan. Nabil dan Jamilah tidak sabar-sabar menantikan ucapan indah tersebut. Pak imam baru sahaja sampai.

“Assalamualaikum semua” ucapan salam Pak Imam bergema.

Nabil bagai hidup semula. Dirinya terkejut. Jantung bagai gugur serta merta. Mungkin tidak percaya apa yang dipandangnya dihadapan. Ahli-ahli keluarga berebut-rebut bersalaman dengan Pak Imam. Mukanya berseri-seri. Janggutnya putih. Jubah putih. Rambutnya ada yang berwarna putih.

“Inikah pengantin hari ini?” tegur selamba Ustaz Saad.

“Pak.. Ustaz.. kabar baik, pak.. usta.. ustazz..” jawab Nabil mengigil. Jamilah juga terkebil-kebil melihat kelibat orang yang dikenali di kedai buku 2 bulan lalu.

“Oh, sebelum tu, saya suka mendengar bacaan adik Nabil. Mudah-mudahan kita dapat mengambil manfaat dari bacaan pengantin” cadang Ustaz Saad. Kelihatan orang ramai mengiyakan. Maklumlah, ustaz Saad merupakan antara orang dikenali oleh ahli-ahli sebagai penceramah tetap setiap hari Khamis selepas maghrib.

Nabil menelan air liur. Baginya inilah saat paling menyeramkan bagi dirinya. Peluh membasahi baju melayu satin berwarna putih.

“Ss.. su.. surah apa ustaz?” Nabil cuba mengagahkan diri. Jamilah masih melihat dari tepi tirai. Memegang kepalanya. Seperti mengagak benda yang sebaliknya berlaku.

“Oh, ayat yang mudah ja. Baca 3 ayat Surah Ar Ra’d” kata ustaz Saad sambil menunjukkan baris giginya yang putih hasil bersugi setiap solat mengikut sunnah nabi.

Surah Ar Ra'd

“Apa benda nih” detik hati Nabil.

“Bismillahirrahmaanirrahim..ALL..MAA.. RIII..!!” berlagu Nabil.

Kelihatan gemuruh satu rumah pengantin perempuan. Ada yang keluar dari rumah menahan gelak. Ada yang mengeluarkan air mata menahan kelucuan. Ada yang menggeleng-geleng kepala. Ibu bapa Jamilah merah padam wajahnya. Jamilah entah ke mana, mungkin berpura-pura ke tandas.

“Baru ustaz tahu ada kalimah almari di dalam ALQuran. Adik Nabil, cara bacanya seperti begini : A’uzubillahiminnassyaitaanirrajim.. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.. ALIF.. LAMM.. MIMMM.. RAA..” kedengar suara gemersik Ustaz Sa’ad. Orang ramai kelihatan ingin mendengar lebih banyak lagi alunan irama ALQurannya.

Nabil berasa seperti kilat menyambar kepalanya.

“Nabil, kamu jangan merendah-rendahkan kitab petunjuk iaitu AlQuran. Ianya hendaklah dibaca bukan sekadar dijadikan hantaran. Malah lebih malang perlakuan seperti ini seolah-olah menghina ALQuran. Beli ALQuran kemudian menaruh di tempat-tempat tinggi seolah-olah ianya sudah cukup bagi seorang muslim” tazkirah sudah bermula. Orang
ramai memang senang cara penyampaian ustaz Sa’ad.

“Tinggi mana pun kamu belajar, tiada gunanya kitab yang tidak berubah ini tidak mampu kamu baca. Kitab ini pasti begini rupanya, ayatnya tetap sama, kedudukannya tidak sama. Malah, ketahuilah Allah akan menjaganya sehingga hari kiamat. Nabil, kalau kamu tahu orang-orang yang mengaku kitab AlQuran sebagai kitab petunjuk kemudian diabaikan dia pasti dilaknat oleh AlQuran itu sendiri. Tetapi beruntungnya orang-orangnya memanfaatkan AlQuran setiap hari, membacanya, menghafalnya, mengamalkan menjadikan hati terlalu tenang walapun dia bukannya seorang yang tinggi pelajarannya, kaya hidupnya dan sebagainya..” penutup Ustaz Sa’ad sudah dikagumi orang terutama yang mengikuti ceramahnya.

Hari semakin cepat berlalu.

Nabil sudah melalui hari-hari yang indah. Kitab ALQUran yang menjadi hantaran pertunangan sudah menjadi diari kehidupannya yang aktif setiap hari.

Pit.. Pit! Jangan lupa datang rumah ustaz malam nih. Kita belajar sama-sama. Jangan lupa bawa isteri sekali ya Nabil. SMS dari ustaz Sa’ad tiba. Jamilah senyum disisi suaminya, Nabil.

Fake Egg ???? What are the CHINESE gonna think of NEXT?????

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:33:00 +0000

This article i got over the net.. i do not know whether it is true or not.. but when i read it.. and if it is true.. it makes me wonder.. are the eggs we are buying here in Malaysia 100% original or are they manufactured?

In China there are fake schools and classes that teach a variety of blatant fraud technology, even eggs can be modulated by chemical materials, but also be able to fry cook, is currently the most popular False course.

Step 1 modulation of raw materials
Using 7 kinds of chemical materials, see pic below

Fake egg was made from calcium carbonate, starch, resin, gelatin, alum and other chemical products.

Step 2 egg production
Raw egg into the mold to 2 / 3 full, put calcium chloride, colouring die, the egg appears on the film been announced.

The 'yolk' is shaped in the round mould. 'Magic water' containing calcium chloride is used.

By adding a yellow pigment and become raw egg yolk.

Step 3 fake egg shape
In the mold into 1 / 3 raw egg white, like the first package, like dumplings into the egg yolk, egg white into another, into the magic water, a shell eggs will come slowly. Naked egg shape to 1 hour to dry after washing with water, at shells ready.

Step 4
Sewing lines through the use of eggs, immersed in paraffin wax, calcium carbonate, such as modulation of the eggshell into a solution, repeated several times until the shell a little dry, immersion in cold water pumping line shape, this point, the egg has been put on a false cloak , You're done.

Hard shells are formed by soaking in paraffin wax onto the egg, which are then left to dry.

Oh yeah The Egg is ready. The artificial egg shell is very fragile and break easily but who cares!! Look so real

Many small bubbles is formed during frying the egg but not many people can tell the difference. The egg look exactly the same, and the eggs taste better than real but you are adding to the statistic of food poisoning person.

Why make fake eggs ? Because of money.

The cost of fake egg is only 0.55 Yuan/kg, while the true eggs’ market price is 5.6 Yuan/kg.

Almost 33 years old

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:24:00 +0000

in roughly 2 mths time i will be 33 years old.. it feels like it was just yesterday when i was a little kid.. most of my childhood was spent in Kuching, Sarawak.. i was in standard 1 and when i left Kuching i was in form 3.. roughly 9 years.. with the exception of 2 years when i followed my Mama to Miami, Florida.. Abah was suppose to follow but something went haywire in the planning.. and then i was in MRSM Perlis, now known as MRSM Beseri for 2 years.. after my SPM.. i went to the United States of America again to pursue my degree.. this time on the west coast.. Los Angeles, California.. i came back to Malaysia with my Bachelor of Science in Electrical Engineering in April 1998.. 11 years on after working here and there.. this year is my third year working for the Government of Malaysia via Jabatan Kerja Raya..

overall i have experienced and achieved a lot of things in my life.. well there is always financial freedom.. but how to achieve that?? anything and everything in this world involves money.. so i dont think anybody on earth can truely achieve that.. that only leaves 1 thing that i havent achieve.. to find my one true love and soulmate.. seeing friends from way back walking around town with their wife/husband and kids.. really makes me feel that i am missing something and much worse it makes me feel lonely.. before i had set a target of getting married by 27 like Abah.. it has been 5 years since that target went past.. sighhh!!!!

i've had girlfriends.. so since i am still single.. u must guess something didnt work out along the line.. being the only child.. there are a lot of things that i have to think about.. most importantly must be "will my future wife be willing to live with my parents and accept them??".. "will my parents like the woman that i bring back to the house and introduce to them??".. guess thats y more and more grey hair keeps appearing on my head.. these questions are hard to answer.. how do i know that the woman is really sincere when she says that its ok to live with my parents..

being almost 33 i have been to so many weddings.. wonderful.. but what i hate most.. i have to answer the same old question.. "are you married yet??".. "when are you gonna get married??".. especially when i attend weddings of my relatives or friends of my parents.. i am so fed up with these sort of questions that i hesitate to attend another wedding.. i'd rather drive my parents to the event and wait in the car.. or if its a long wedding.. pick them up after they are done.. even if i am in that wedding i just cant wait to leave..

i'd rather not talk too long about this.. it makes me feel so much more depressed.. if i get over depressed i might just end up crying.. anyways i hope to end my search by 2010.. especially when the dates 10/10/10 or 20/10/2010 looks so good on the calendar.. with this i seek your divine help my dear ALLAH.. show me who and where this soulmate of mine is..

1957 - Hati Malaya

noreply@blogger.com (big daddy) — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:49:00 +0000

i first watched this movie while i was in Melaka for BTN 13th-17th August.. tonight on the eve of 31st August.. the 52nd independence of Malaysia.. i am watching it again on RTM 2.. it as basicly a reenactment on how Malaysia achieved its independence.. Everybody who had a role during the period is potrayed in the movie, the late Tunku Abdul Rahman, Dato' Onn Jaafar, Tun Dr. Ismail, Saadon, Tan Cheng Lock, HS. Lee, Sambanthan just to name a few...

i sincerely hope at least 20% of the population of Malaysia is watching this movie.. this based on history movie, should provide a better understanding on how Malaysia became an independant country, why the Malays obtain special priveleges, how the Chinese and Indians became citizens, and the sacrifices made..

if anyone who reads my blog missed the movie.. please do get urself a copy.. understand and digest what the movie is about.. God willing Malaysians will be more harmonious.. 1 Malaysia - People First, Performance Now..