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FOURS YEARS AND STILL COUNTING…

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How time flies, that this month marks our 4th anniversary. It has been a long way coming and we bless the Almighty for being there for us these past four years. Personally as the founder/editor of BIG SISTER, West Africa’s premiere health and life style magazine, I must say I have been blessed. This is one brand that I would say has given me a voice in my immediate society and international community. BSM has earned me respect from my family, the elderly, young and even among my peers. Indeed, the gift of a man makes him outstanding.

This brand may still be on its way for to fetching me billions in my accounts, and we may still be struggling with a couple of challenges as the case may be, but Rome which was not built in one day, we are on our way to building this great media empire. This won’t come by magic, but with time. Four years and still counting, I want to thank our grand patron for the financial sacrifice and support. We want to thank everyone who believes in this vision. We cannot forget our nineteen cover models so far, thank you for identifying with us. To all our partners in the industry and numerous fans worldwide, what would we have done without you?
We won’t go back on words; that is being a voice that represents the clan of the curvy and plus sized women. We won’t stop celebrating their worth, beauty, talent and brain. We won’t stop putting them on the spotlight.

Happy Anniversary Big Sister Magazine!

Elsie-Coco
Photo Credit: Photizo
Makeup: Cheeries Makeover & G Signature

2015 July Cover Models: Bold & Fierce Divas!

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Photo Credit: Photizo | Makeup Artists: Cheeries Makeover & GSignature | Press: Big Sister Magazine

Anytime we are about to package a new edition of Big Sister, one thing we look out for is a cover model with great confidence and personality. We look forward to showcasing a curvy woman with beauty, talent and brains. A woman who is hardworking, ambitious and with inspiring stories.
This month, our cover models, Gloria and Irene are no exception. They are both young entrepreneurs, talented in their field. These women are well empowered and are in a class of their own; they own their looks, personality and loaded with vibrancy.
Let us meet them;

About you: My name is Gloria Silva CEO/founder of G-Signatures group & shopping festival Nigeria. I am a woman entrepreneur & am still working really hard on achieving more.

My company is into interior decoration, event management & image consulting and I am also a freelance make-up artist based in Nigeria.

Family background: I am from an average home, my mother was a contract staff in Mobil & my late father(May his soul rest in peace) died as a director while still in service & they both tried their best for me & since I knew my fees never came on time. I had to work. Even when I wasn't really the school type! I was more of work, business, money. So I couldn't wait to finish school. I’ve always prided myself on being different.

How did I do it? I didn’t take the usual route, and I never did anything the easy way.

qualification:Early start At age 20! I had already graduated with a B.SC in Environmental protection & resources management from the University of Calabar and started my first full-time job, as a CEO of my business company. Then went ahead to obtain different certificate as I trained at the Ghana school of cosmetology specializing in bridal, photography and video Make-up. I was also trained on special effect & cosmetics teeth whitening at Derma contour beauty academy Germany. I was trained on runway and bridal make-up at London school of beauty & make-up Dubai, Also i trained on image consulting in fashion designing school Tanzania. I have also studied at local colleges learning various beauty therapies such as Gel/basic manicure, luxury pedicure, eyebrow threading/tinting, waxing, facials and massage.Other jobs: Before then I was doing some path time jobs while still schooling. it's sure wasn't easy for me! Mixing school with work But I pulled through it all.

Work : My work encompasses many fields & My expertise incorporates the latest beauty trends and my make-up kit contains only the highest quality and luxurious branded products. Having always been moved by the latest fashion trends, I combine this with my creative imagination to give me inspiration of creating unique looks. This is what makes my work original. I am extremely talented and creative my passion and dedication have allowed me to update my knowledge and skill to craft the best perfection, I have equipped myself to thinking on the spot and work within a time frame. One of the most important things I have learnt is the make-up isn't a mask to hide behind but should be used to bring out your best features to reveal your natural beauty. My determination for perfection and dedicated approach enable me to create flawless finish for all my clients. About Shopping festival Nigeria: The sfn is one of NIGERIA’s signature event and It holds once a year. This fair presents groundbreaking work in shopping, sales and exhibition. The Fair is here to help expand the horizons of business owners, shoppers and audiences with product and services that are visionary, genre-bending, multi discipline, Startling and original and also showcases international and local business owners / shoppers then offers a mix that brings achievement around the globe. The Festival will broker international partnerships, will also be a meeting place for creative minds, showcase Nigeria’s best and serve as an incubator of brilliant new work. This Festival is here to help put Nigerian business owners on the world stage and in return bring the world to the business owners. SFN also puts the willing business owners at a profitable end, Building their clientele outside their stores, offices or even mobile trunk. The shopping festival Nigeria helps Nigerians shop for quality at a discounted price.
VISION SFN aims to be Nigerians’ best and one of the 2nd most significant in the world—and a greatly anticipated and highly valued asset. Shopping festival Nigeria will become a Festival of national importance as a catalyst for art, cultural and community development of the region.
MISSION The shopping Festival Nigeria engages and enriches business with adventurous contemporary works PURPOSE The purpose of the Shopping Festival Nigeria is to:
• Present the very best in contemporary performance,
• Develop new, groundbreaking and extraordinary works through innovative partnerships and collaborations,
• Tap into new and existing business owners
• Stimulate shoppers, sales and exhibition engagement through interactive forums, outreach and ancillary activities that generate dialogue and exchange,
• Showcase the innovations of leading Nigerians business owners and their product and services,
• Encourage cultural export by linking Nigerians business owners with a national and international networking.

Awards: I have been honored with various awards from all over the country on woman entrepreneurs and the resent one was received in Lagos.

My advice to young ladies out there: Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. You have to ask for things to be successful—a lesson that women in my generation could hear a few more times throughout their careers. Ask for opportunities. Ask for a raise. Ask for a job, knowing Success Is Uncommon Everyone is different,The important thing is to embrace it—not suppress it. It’s okay to be the odd one out. In fact, I think being different, and being unique, is one of the key components of being successful.
A quote that has stuck with me through the years is, interestingly enough, from sports coach Cal Stoll: “Success is uncommon, therefore not to be enjoyed by the common man.” If I strive to be normal, how could I ever be different? If I was never different than my peers, how could I achieve greater success than the rest of the pack? So the next time someone says you’re unusual, take pride in it. That’s what will set you apart–and set you up for success. I am Gloria Silva and this is my true life story.

To like our page! Visit www.facebook.com/sfnigeria www.facebook.com/glowsols Twitter@holaatme8Instagram@gsignatures

My name is Irene, I am a graduate of foreign language, French to be precised from the University of Uyo. Presently, I am in the beauty industry as a professional makeup artist, the creative director of CheeriesMakeover Studio.

How come you studied French and you are into makeup business?

I have always had passion for the makeup and beauty related matters. So immediately after my national youth service, I had to go for training in makeup. To me it was just a natural thing to do because I had passion for it. Although when I went for the training at the initial stage, I didn’t see it becoming what it has become today in my life. I was just like, let me go and train and improve my own personal makeup while waiting for a job. But today, I thank God I took that step, it has been the best decision of my life and I have no regrets whatever.

How long have you been doing this?

I have been doing this for six years now and still counting.

What is your makeup specialty?

Bridal and beauty makeup

Can you count the number of brides you have done makeup for?

Awwwh! No, I can’t count. I have lost count as at now.

How do you handle difficult brides/clients?
I have been here for a long time so I have devised means to relate with all my clients. Because I’m a very simple and easy going person, that trait has helped me a lot in dealing with difficult clients which I rarely have anyways. Soft words and patience works the magic for me.

Do you have challenges in your business?
Definitely there are. Like every other business, there are a lot of challenges but guess what? I’d rather choose not to see them as stepping stones. I use them to encourage myself to work harder and stay on top of my game.
Can you recall any memorable moment in the business?
I have so many memorable moments in the course of my work, but the ones I always look forward to are the wows that comes from my clients after having the CHERRIES EXPERIENCE. The prayers they shower on me after they see their faces in the mirror.
How do you see makeup business in Nigeria?
The person who coined the adage; ‘looking good is good business’ should be proud by now because the business side of beauty is being greatly explores by my likes in Nigeria. The awareness is more in recent times which make it easier. So to me the business side of makeup is better business.
What are the worse makeup mistakes people do and you are tired of seeing?
I ‘m tired of seeing a lot of women use red pencil to draw their eyebrow. Hello dearies, it’s brown not red! I’m pretty tired of also seeing white faces and black necks. Please make them match, blend your face and neck together.

What are the beauty routines and essentials that you would recommend as a makeup artist?
As a makeup artist, I would advice that you always take off your makeup from your face before going to bed. Never sleep with your makeup on. Endeavour to get a facial treatment every now and then to pamper your face. Drink a lot of water to moisturize your skin and face and add glow to your face.
Do you see yourself owning a beauty/makeup range in the nearest future?
Yes, I see myself owning a makeup brand in future by the grace of God.
What do you do aside makeup brides?
I train people on the skill, I sell makeup products and shoes of all kinds. I sleep, drink and eat makeup, everything I do is beauty related.
Where do you see yourself and brand in the next five years?
In five years time, I see Cheeries Makeover as one of the leading makeup brands in Nigeria. And we will surely keep doing better.
Advice to big sisters who dare to dream big due to their body size?
To the big sisters out there, I say you should keep your confidence high by staying healthy. It is not just about being big, it is also about being healthy in your BIG size. Be sexy and always put your best forward.
Big sister is four, what is your message to them?
To Big Sister Magazine at four, I say Bravo! You are doing absolutely well and I’m so proud of you. You make me proud as a curvy woman. Sometimes I wonder how you get to pull all this through, then I remember you are driven by passion, and for this, I know the sky is your stepping stone. Keep the good flag flying; you are touching many lives in beautiful ways.

FactFiile

Full names; Irene Gregory Udoh
Birthday; 9th May
Zodiac; Taurus
Fav Food; Unripe plantain
Fav Drink; Natural Juice
Most expensive fashion item; Perfume
My Most have makeup item: Powder
Who inspires you; God and good people
Connect with Irene via
Fb; Irene Cheeries Makeover Udoh
Fb pg; Cheeries Makeover Studio
Instagram; Makeuo by Cheeries
Email; Irene-amazing@gmail.com

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Editor's Note

2015-06-09T08:03:00.002-07:00

EVERYTHING BRIDE & BEAUTIFUL!!!!

Since the year began, there is no single week that I do not receive alert on wedding invitation via fb, BBM and Whaspp. Intending couples are displaying their pre-wedding pictures and status are changing this season.
Few weeks back, I was excited to be the maid of honour to my bestie Vera. It occurred to me that this was the closest I have ever involved myself in all the weddings I have ever attended. It was a more humbling experience when she requested that I propose her toast as best friend of fifteen years. Here is wishing her a blissful union.
In the spirit of the season, the inspiration came to package this special bridal edition. This is one edition of Big Sister that will most definitely inspire all brides to-be plan their wedding better. Starting with six months wedding preparation checklist, on Living column.
As a plus size magazine, we are celebrating the curvy brides. On fashion and style column, we republish an earlier feature on choosing the right wedding gown as a plus size sister by Kemi Farquharson, a renowned U.K. based designer. Style pick column features your must have wedding accessories. Beauty zone features lovely bridal hair plus our interesting interview with our cover bride, Vera.
Read these and other interesting features.
Cheers!
Elsie-Coco

Cover Story

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Let’s meet you…
Vera Charles Nsa is my name, formerly Vera Oku. I am half Nigerian and half Liberian. I am in the corporate world, a Sales rep and business woman.

Meeting your better half…
He is someone I have known for a while. At some point, we lost touch but later reestablished contact and here we are today.

Charles your choice…
It was not about those who came earlier, it was about who stayed to prove his genuine love and devotion for me. It was about the right man who did not want to toy around with me emotions. It was about a man whose greatest desire was to make me his wife and mother of all his children. It was about Charles Nsa.

The proposal…
He did what every real man who takes a woman seriously does. He went further to my elder brother Oku Ekpeyong and asked for my hand in marriage. I thought, that was very respectful and that made take his proposal seriously.

The dream wedding…
We wanted to keep it simple. We wanted our family members and friends to be part of. However, we had to follow things through due process. It all started with our registry marriage at Ikoyi Registry, Lagos. As an Efik princess that I am, we had to travel down to my hometown Calabar, Cross River State for the traditional marriage. The church wedding followed the next morning.

The preparation…
It was very hectic, planning a wedding. We had to involve our family members from both sides. Almost everyone was very helpful. For the wedding reception, my cousin did a fantastic job with the catering. One of my cousin who is a broadcaster ‘Double E’ was our M.C. My cousin and one of my close friends did my hair and makeup dressed me up. I am just grateful to God that we pulled through and and no last minute hitches.

The ‘I-DO’ Moment…
Very emotional! I broke down severally when I was saying my vows. I remember my maid of honour (Elsie-Coco) dabbing tears from my eyes and calming me down. Those were tears of joy. That moment where I let go all the hurt and pain that love ever caused me and finally finding my true love and soul mate.

Wedding memories…
I remember my elder brother Oku, walking me to the altar and handing me over to Charles formerly. I thought I was the best dancer between my husband and i. I remember my mother joining us on the dance floor. Our M.C. was very hilarious during the cake cutting and my maid of honour Elsie-Coco proposed a moving toast.

Love message to your husband….
I LOVE YOU!!!

CHOOSING THE RIGHT WEDDING GOWN AS A PLUS SIZE SISTER

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So you said Yes and now for planning the dream day. Whilst shopping is always fun, finding the wedding dress of your dreams it can be stressful for the best of brides not to mention ladies with curves – I know from experience!

So as a Bridal Designer for the Curvy Bride, here are my top tips on finding your perfect wedding dress.

1. Set a budget. It is so important to keep to budget and look for various options within your bracket. When visiting shops, boutiques and designers let them know your budget early on as this ensures that you don’t fall in love with a dress that you can’t afford.

2. Know your silhouette. The design that best flatters you will depend on your silhouette and shape. Most designers and boutiques will offer a style assessment service. The design is the foundation, so take your time and get it right, after that its easy to work on the finishing and details.

3. Try new styles but not too many dresses! Some styles that you may not have considered may turn out to be flattering, but if you try on lots of dresses in the same style it will just leave you overwhelmed. My advice is to pick three different styles and try 3 dresses per style; anything more will be confusing rather than helpful.

4. Don't get distracted. Try to limit your shopping trips to 1 or 2 trusted friends or family. Having too large a crowd whilst fun can be distracting, offering to many opinions.

5. Time is of the essence. Especially if you want a bespoke dress as it will take approximately 6-8 months to design and create, for off the peg dresses purchased from a boutique you need to leave 3-6 months although they can often accommodate you in shorter time if need be. Ideally start shopping at least 9 months in advance and don’t forget to check out the sample sales.

6 Don’t change. Sometimes ladies tell me they love a dress but just want to lose some weight for the day, I never recommend this. Firstly your husband proposed to you as you are now so why change just for a day? Secondly yo-yo diets are not good for your health and you are more likely to end up heavier than you started. If you choose to make healthy lifestyle changes that is very different, just remember that your dress is either made to your measurements or altered, either way if your weight is fluctuating it will have an impact on your dress.

7. Don’t panic if you don’t find the one. Not every bride is going to have a moment when she puts on ‘the one’ and falls into a flood of tears, it may happen for you it might not, for me the moment didn’t come when I chose my dress or even tried it on for the first time but it happened as I walked down the aisle and saw the look in my husband’s eyes. Also once you have decided on your dress, stop looking, it only creates confusion and wastes time.

8.Bespoke or Retail? There are advantages to both, especially for Curvy Brides. Bespoke will allow you to spend time with the designer creating your ultimate a gown and of course you are guaranteed a truly unique look from head to toe. Likewise retail is an option and a good boutique will also be able to offer you advice, just make sure you do your research and look for a shop that stocks plus size dresses.

Please quote:

Kemi Boutique
Kemi Farquharson
www.kemiboutique.com
+44 07830 236 223

Kemi Farquharson

Designer | Creative Entrepreneur

Kemi@kemiboutique.com

07830 236 223

http://www.kemiboutique.com

https://www.lovingyourcurves.co.uk

http://www.kemicourses.co.uk

https://www.facebook.com/KemiBoutiqueBridalCouture

Sister's Gist

2015-06-09T07:04:00.002-07:00

NOW THAT YOU ARE MARRIED…
Now that you are married, a successful marriage is possible in a time where divorce rate is high. Longevity, strife free and fruitful marriage is very possible. There are two basic things involved when it comes to marriage; either the marriage works or does not work.
For every successful marriage, there are basic principles that the couple has applied and for the unsuccessful marriages, there are obviously principles that were never applied or considered.
Marriage could be likened to a building, the principles of a building relates in marriage as well. All buildings are products of knowledge and understanding, a building that will accommodate people must be well maintained, renovated and cared for if you do not want to loose it. And so is marriage. It is not just enough to have a marriage, if you abandon it shortly after your wedding, then you are likely to loose it.
For every successful marriage, there are some basic wisdom and principles to put in practice;
NEVER ABANDON GOD
Marriage is a threefold cord. God is the third cord that binds the two together. Your connection with God determines the quality of life that flows in your marriage. Do not loose your prayer life, even if you do not have one, this is the best time to build one. Study the word of God and fellowship with God’s people.

NEVER ABANDON YOUR SPOUSE
De-prioritizing your spouse is a very dangerous thing to do. Only God should come first and then your spouse. Never put things such s career not even your children before your spouse. Never take your spouse for granted and do not talk to your spouse without regard. Abandoning your spouse means the death of your romance-not necessarily sex.
BE KIND AND CONSIDERATE
In marriage you ought to make some adjustments or change in consideration of your spouse. Love your spouse. Be submissive as a wife. Learn to forgive and be kind.

Special tribute

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Xmas recipe

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BIG SISTER COVER STORY

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Kathleen Blade is an actress, host and plus size model. She has been involved with numerous projects ranging from independent films to network television and fashion shows. Kathleen launched her own internet radio show titled: The Phat Girl Show that seeks to educate, inspire, and uplift women of all shapes and sizes. We are glad to have her on our current edition of Big Sister Magazine, and we hope her story inspires you.

Enjoy Excepts:

Photographer: MontyModelManagement.
Dress:BlairChicBoutique:Jessica Blair.
Hair/Make-up: Jasmine Celestin
We start by congratulating you on your 45^th birthday. What’s the secret for staying sexy and fabulous?

First, I like to thank God for allowing me to be on the Earth for 45 years. I thank him for my health & strength. My dad jokes that the Blade family is blessed with great genes. I love life and try to keep a positive attitude.

Let’s get to know you more?

Born January 20, 1969 in Terre Haute, Indiana to Fredrick & Harriet Blade. 1 brother, Fred Jr. Had a very active childhood. My parents kept my brother & I very active in school & church activities. I have three college degrees: B.A.-Political Science/Psychology.M.S.- Family & Consumer Science/Child Development-Family Studies: Indiana State University & M.A. Social Service Administration- University of Chicago.
I moved to Chicago in 1999 to attend the University of Chicago.Upon graduating from the University of Chicago in 2001, I became a School Social Worker. I found it to be a very rewarding experience to touch the lives of children. Children in our society today endure so many hardships & sometimes all they need is a few words of encouragement. I was featured in the Chicago Suntimes newspaper in April 2011 for my work as a School Social Worker.
After almost 10 years as a Social Worker, I decided to enter the world of entertainment. It was one of the biggest decisions I have ever made in my life. Leaving a very well paying job to pursue a career as an actress. My acting mentor, Chicago actor, Harold Dennis, introduced me to the world of acting. I love acting and I have a strong passion to continue on in my career. I believe with God & the love my children, the sky is the limit.
I am a divorced mother of three beautiful children: Sheridan, 19. Mariah 17 & Devon 10.

Kathleen on a movie set

Tell us about the Phat Girls Show.

The Phat Girl was birthed from my desire to uplift and inspire all women to embrace & love themselves. I particularly wanted to present more positive images of curvy women in entertainment.

Who have you hosted?
I have interviewed plus size comedian Erica Watson. Plus size Nigerian model, ChiChi Jennifer.Ms.Elsie-Coco Utong,editor of Big Sister Magazine. and Ms Winnie Voke ceo Big Bold Modeling Agency and Femi Adu, an ex-plus size beauty queen. This is just to name a few. The 2 most explosive shows I had centered on the plus size community. The first show we explored the whether true sisterhood exist in the curvy community. I received tremendous feedback on that show. It has been requested that I do a follow up episode. The second show dealt with comedian Monique's recent weight loss. That show was very charged & emotions were high!!!

Who are you looking forward to hosting?

I would LOVE to interview Michelle Obama, Oprah, Monique, Gabby Sidibe & Denzel Washington.

You recently visited Africa, Nigeria to be precise, why Nigeria?

I have always wanted to visit Nigeria. In college, I had several Nigerian friends & that sparked a desire in me to visit. I also wanted to tape the Phat Girls Show in Africa. I wanted to gain insight on how the plus size woman was viewed in Africa.

As an African American how did you feel touching the soil of your ancestors? What was your impression about Africa before your visit?
When I got off the plane, I wanted to cry. As an African American, it was a dream come true to be in Africa. I was in the motherland.

My impression of Africa prior to visiting was very positive. In college, I had many Nigerian friends who shared with me stories about Africa. I read a lot about Africa. I also took college courses on African politics.

Tell us about your whole experience in Nigeria?

I had the most AWESOME experience in Africa. I did not want to return home. The people were so friendly. It was very refreshing to walk down the street and have people great you with a warm smile. I enjoyed attending church and making new friends. I loved being around my people. The children were so respectful and obedient. I told many of my friends, that we need to ship our kids to Africa to learn respect. I would love to purchase a home in Nigeria. I have encouraged all of my African American friends to visit Africa.

Which was your fav food?
I fell in love with the Chicken Stew. My friend's mother made it for me several times.

How can you access African entertainment (music and movies)?

During my visit, I was able to meet people in the entertainment industry. Since my return, I have remained in contact with them. I am very interested in being in a Nollywood movie.

Do you have a favorite African celeb?

I am a huge Jim Iyke fan. He sizzles!

How do you see the evolution of the size industry in Africa:

I learned a lot about the plus size community in Africa during my interview with Big Sister Magazine. I was enlightened & educated on the challenges that plus size African women face. In America, there are many stereotypes that exist regarding African views of the plus size woman. For example, it is believed that African men only prefer plus size women. I discovered that this not totally true. I applaud BSM for giving plus size African women a voice & platform to be heard. I see the African plus size community doing great things. Furthermore, I believe the connection with the International Fuller Woman Network will provide increased exposure for plus size Africa women.

What do you think of Big Sister Magazine?

I would like to begin by thanking Big Sister Magazine for selecting me as their February cover. I am not only honored, but humbled. I believe that Big Sister is an AWESOME magazine that uplifts all women. I particularly love the focus that is given to health & fitness for curvy women. Furthermore, I view BSM as a trailblazer in the plus size community. It has provided a platform for the African Plus size community. I see BSM opening more doors for plus size African women!

Have you ever had any issues with your body?
Yes, growing up I was always the tallest in my class. I wanted to be short. As a plus size woman, I struggled with accepting myself. I truly believed that I was unattractive & was plagued with low self esteem. However, as I entered my 40's, I begin to confront my body issues. First, I realized that I did need to lose weight due to health issues. Secondly, I realized that I would never be a size 2, so I begin to embrace who I was. Furthermore, God created me in his image, so I MUST be beautiful!

How did you deal with it?

I use to weigh almost 400 pounds. I suffered from diabetes. All of this by age 25. I realized that I was not going to see my children grow up. It was not until I turned 35, I decided to get healthy. I begin to educate myself on how to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I begin to surround myself with others that strives to be healthy. I joined a gym and became addicted to Spin class. I no longer have to take medication for diabetes. It is now controlled by diet & exercise.

Kathleen before weight loss

What do you have to say to people are still not comfortable with their body image?

First, we are created in the image of God and that already makes a person beautiful. Secondly, one must dig deep down and find self love. No one can do that for you. There are days that I don't feel beautiful, so I look in the mirror and tell myself that I am AWESOME. This is why BSM is so important. It allows plus size women to see how beautiful they are.

Valentine is in the air, does valentine mean anything to you?
I really don't celebrate Valentines Day. I believe if your are with the one you love, everyday should be Valentines Day.

WHAT IS YOUR TYPICAL VALENTINE'S DAY:

I make the cutest gift bags for my children & we have a special dinner.

What is your definition of love?
I believe that you only discover true love when you have endured various situations with a person. It grows over time. Love is patient & kind.

Can you recall how it felt the first time you feel in love with the opposite sex?
I was 39 when I first fell in love. He was my perfect match. He loved me unconditionally. I truly believed that he was sent from God.

People are hurt by the ones they truly hurt, should love hurt?
Love should never hurt. I believe one must have the love of God to truly embrace the concept of love.

Any special val message to someone you love?

I would love to send a message to that special guy who has been my best friend for nearly 5 years. He is my biggest supporter. He prays with me and stands by my side.

UP CLOSE & PERSONAL

Full Names: Kathleen Blade AKA Kat Blade Height: 5'9

Weight: 229lbs

Favorite food: Tacos

Favorite drink: crystal light raspberry tea.

Favorite love song: Would you Bleed for Love by Jennifer Hudson . It was the theme song for the movie Winnie Mandela. Jennifer Hudson played Winnie.

Favorite romantic movie: Winnie Mandela. I just watched the movie last month & since then, I have watched it six times! Winnie & Nelson truly loved each other. They were so connected.

Two countries I would like to visit: Dubai & Japan.

                                 Dubai

   Japan
What do I feel comfortable wearing: maxi dresses. I love the way my body looks in them.
Describe yourself in one sentence: I am the kindest person you will ever meet.

Connect with Kathleen @:
KathleenBlade@twitter.com
KatBlade-ThePhatGirlsShow-FB
and www.intellectualradio.com

VALENTINE BLUES

2014-02-03T09:43:00.001-08:00

Dear Sisters,
It's been a while here and i apologize not updating you on what has been going on in my life after my last feature which i tagged; 'Another Lonely Xmas?'.
Well, Xmas and new year fever is over already and here comes another one, VALENTINE'S DAY!
Honestly, life would have been easier without all the valentine hype and i just can't understand all the buzz. They make it look like another Xmas Day or Ramadan around the corner.
In recent day, i have been asked all sorts of questions like; 'What are you doing for Val's Day?' 'Who is taking you out?' 'Who will be your Val?' etc.
What am I suppose to say? I mean I can't remember ever observing Valentine's Day and i don't know the feeling so don't blame me if i say Valentine is no BIG DEAL!
But as February 14th draws close, I'm forced to be reminded of love. It just makes me wonder on so many things...how long it's been since a man expressed his genuine love or admiration for me. I'm not talking about the regular cat calls and silly advances from creeps that have very visible wedding bands on their third finger of the left hand.
But i have made a strong decision for this year's Val's Day, i shall not allow my long time single statues to prevent me from feeling the valentine blues in the air. No, i wont be left out!
Luckily, i have been invited for a Val's day evening get together with some old friends. Each of us will contribute with refreshments, music etc. Hopefully, we might even find some single brothers who are willing to mingle.
That's it! Valentine's Day Blues. That i am single doesn't mean i should pity myself. I shall be positive and celebrate Val's Day with the same zeal that people in relationships are. I hope this inspires all the the single and searching sisters out there.
Have a wonderful Val's day

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Zizi
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MESSAGE BEHIND MASSAGE

2014-02-03T08:30:00.002-08:00

MESSAGE BEHIND MASSAGE

Massage has many important health benefits. In fact, massage can help you maintain physical, mental and emotional well being, especially when it is part of your regular wellness routine.

The Health Benefits of Massage

* Massage calms the nervous system and promotes a sense of relaxation and well being.

* Massage reduces tension and anxiety.

* Massage improves blood circulation, which delivers oxygen and nutrients to the cells.

* Massage stimulates the lymphatic system, which carries away the body’s waste products.

* Massage prevents and relieve muscles cramps and spasms.

* Massage therapy can help with pain management in conditions such as arthritis, sciatica, muscle spasms.

Remind yourself of these health benefits if you start to feel guilty about getting massage!

Massage is not a good idea if you have a fever, infections, inflammation, osteoporosis and other medical conditions. If you have any questions about whether a massage would be right for you, ask to speak to a massage therapist before you make your appointment.

RED HOT!!!

2014-02-03T08:28:00.001-08:00

February 14th is popularly know as the Valentine's day, a day most people show their love and affections to the one they love. Though the dress code for the day has not been recommended, however, the colour for the day remains red world wide. And for that reason, fashionistas go a step further to make impressive fashion statement.

This month, our fashion and style column joins the rest of the world to celebrate Val's Day with one unique colour-RED!

PLUS SIZE INDUSTRY EVENT

2014-02-03T08:16:00.000-08:00

The Curvy Fashionista Blog is turned Five year early this year. To celebrate, they threw a party at Club Nokia's VIP Lounge in Los Angeles! They partnered with ADDITION ELLE, City Chic and Lane Bryant and Sealed with a Kiss Designs Plus Size Boutique.

Photos by Merciful Photography and Media Sponsor POSE Magazine!!!

The event was Produced by MISS Dunnie O. and the red carpet hosted by Chenese Lewis with sounds by Alonia LaLa Walton and DJ B. Hen!

Hottest young black couples in the world

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Theirs is a union that keeps the attention of the media, they have graced covers of magazines, people admire what they have in common. They have taken a step further to build a family and for that reason have been tagged to be the most popular black couple in the world.

The Obamas

The Carters

Kim & Kanye

Rose Amber & Wiz Kalifa

Marie & Nick

BROTHER'S WHEN LOVING A BIG SISTER....

2014-02-03T07:21:00.002-08:00

BROTHER'S WHEN LOVING A BIG SISTER....

Oftentimes, it is not unusual to come across guys who claim to be perplexed by what women want from them. Some days wives and girlfriends seem to be fine with who their men are while on others they will try their best to change the men in their lives. Likewise if you find women difficult to figure out, here is a list of the ten top things that brothers should know about what some big sisters want in relationships.

“We want you to listen to us”

Like really listen instead of putting on that dazed look and occasionally managing to come up with an “uh-uh…yeah...that’s right” to show that you are still alive. At the other of the spectrum are guys who jump at the chance of lecturing or criticizing their partners the moment the latter try to share something with them. Remember women talk not merely to seek advice or exchange information but to share their thoughts and feelings – it’s how they connect with their partners.

“We want you to be fun”

A lively sense of humor is apparently the biggest draw when it comes to women looking for a dating partner. A man who can laugh away the blues is not only fun to be with when the going is good but is actually quite a blessing to have around when the sun does not shine so bright and the chips are down. However leave the “Three Stooges” brand of humor for the guys and give your woman something wittier to laugh about.

“We want you to be there for us”

Perhaps what differentiates a casual fling from a meaningful relationship is that in the latter, partners are there for each other through thick and thin. Men who are not emotionally available are not much use to women for long and sooner or later, women will gravitate to other people who are better at offering comfort and emotional support.

“We want you to look beyond our bodies”

Every woman is looking for a guy who is willing to see her as a individual with a mind and not just a means of making out. This is not to say that women don’t want to be thought of as attractive but only that they want to be considered living, thinking beings before that. It has been a long and hard struggle for women to be accepted as equals, both in society as well as in personal relationships and this self-respect is not something that your wife or girlfriend would be willing to give up in a hurry.

“We want you to be honest”

OK, this is not an excuse to tell your woman what you really think of her in that red dress. Rather when a woman says that she wants her man to be honest with her, she means that he should refrain from lies and half-truths in their relationship. Like for instance, telling her that you are doing overtime when in fact you are out with your beer-mates. Or worse, cheating on her with someone else and allowing her to think that you have actually been on a business trip. Trust is the foundation on which every relationship is built and if you are not honest with your partner, how can she put her trust in you?

“We want you to be smart”

That women dig intelligent guys needs little elaboration. Even though this does not mean that you have to quote realms from your college dissertation or explain the finer points of quantum physics but not coming up with a “duh” every time she wishes to have an intelligent conversation will work wonders for your relationship. For women, the brain perhaps is the sexiest part of a man and few things turn her on as a witty repartee or an intelligent remark. So the next time your girlfriend invites you over to her place, beat her at Jeopardy and watch happens.

Pix courtesy a plus size diva

“We want you to be financially secure”

Among the top turn-offs for women are guys who live off others – whether family members, friends or partners. A man who is not gainfully employed will rarely attract a smart, well-adjusted woman and only those who are psychologically drawn to losers. Similarly having your own place and car are signs that you are a responsible adult and are not only capable of taking yourself but also of providing for a family, which is ultimately what women have been hard-wired to look for in a potential mate since the primitive times.

Images of real life couple Sean and Nay Shuemate

“We want to see a more sensitive side in our partners”

Granted that you don’t believe in shedding tears at the slightest pretext, but being in touch with your feelings is important if you want to connect emotionally to a woman. So the next time your partner suggests taking a late Sunday evening walk, reach out for her hand and hold it gently as you both watch the sun go down behind the trees. Or when your beloved is visibly upset, give her a cuddle and ask her what’s going on instead of merely waiting for her ‘to snap out of it’.

“We want a guy to have values”

No matter what your particular philosophy in life is, if you have certain convictions and are willing to stand up for them, women will respect and love you the more for it. Values like sincerity, generosity, compassion and doing good by others will never go out of fashion. Indeed as society becomes more self-centered and materialistic, these ideals will be valued even higher. The same goes for good manners and the daily courtesies. Pulling out a chair for ladies or helping the elderly to cross the road are not simply evidence of a chivalrous nature but show that your heart’s in the right place.

“Lastly remember cleanliness is next to Godliness”

No matter how nice or rich or smart you are, if you don’t put in a decent level of effort in your appearance, women are unlikely to have anything to do with you, especially if you are looking for a nightcap. So go back to the basics of personal hygiene and every now and then take a tip from the metrosexual male. Even though not every woman wants a Greek god on her arms, she definitely wants and expects her partner to look well-groomed.

At the end of the day it is not that hard to figure out what a woman wants from a guy. Someone to respect her as an individual and to love her in a way that she feels special – apparently, not very different from what guys want in relationships as well!

VALENTINE IDEAS FOR HER:
Every sister wants to be spoiled and pampered and the best way to show her you really love and adore her is to spoil her silly with love. This valentine season, show her you really care, here are some heart warming gifts that would make any woman love you more.

Flowers

Perfume

Diamond ring

Necklaces

Teddy with gift basket

Valentine Cake

Sexy lingeries

Wristwatch

Make-up box

BROTHER'S MIND (MENS' WORLD)

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SISTERS, THOSE TINY GESTURES THAT MAKES HIM LOVE YOU MORE.

ONCE you find yourself in a relationship, those cute nice-for-no-relationship actions such as spontaneous pinch on the butt, quick kisses etc tend to fall by the wayside. After a while, that stuff seems superfluous, unnecessary. The problem is, without a steady influx of sweet deeds, your bond can likely begin to fade.

Brothers often want their women to be supportive and as such, the smallest favour can likely make him feel sexy, connected to you and accepted for who he really is. Since those are the very things men want in a relationship, tender actions reinforce your tie on deep core level. Brothers reveal in routines, and a steady flow of these little wow-she-really-thought-to-do that moves will get him used to be made sparingly. When he sees you regularly in this thoughtful light, it'll trigger his impulse to respond in kind.

Sisters, you do not have to go overboard to send the message. The truth is, brothers are wary of display of too much effort because they feel you'll expect an even grander response in return. So get started with this list of fast and easy hits that'll jolt his heart...and leave you two in love than ever.

-Invent a holiday that gives you an excuse to chow down on your favorite guilty pleasures.

-Whenever you introduce him to people, subtly brag about a skill or interest he's proud of.

-Treat him to a slow hand massage. It really occurs to guys to relax overused body parts,so working those millions of nerve ending will practically make him pass out.

-Restock his stash of grooming products when he runs low.Or the next time you're at a store's fragrance department, pick up testers of his favorite so he won't have to replace them quickly.

-Prolong a routine hug, breathe in deeply,and sexily murmur, 'you smell mmm.'

-Write something sappy, like 'you get me all steamed up' on his foggy bathroom mirror. The next few times he takes a shower, the message will appear.

-Rock the nice panties-and-a-T-shirt outfit anytime you're hanging out with him. Indoors, casual partial nudity is always appreciated.

-Instead of jumping in his lap for a kiss or gushing all over him when meet him our with friends, give him a clandestine whack on the butt. His friends won't notice or give him hell for it, but he'll know you're psyched to see him.

VALENTINE GIFT IDEAS FOR HIM
Are you confused about what romantic gift to give him this valentine? Here are some suggestions that would make him fall in love with you again.

Personalized boxers

Personalized mug

Shirts

Wristwatch

Wallet

Champagne

Gadgets

Business Organizer

Belt

Ties

LOVE FOOD TO BOOST YOUR SEX LIFE

2014-02-03T07:13:00.000-08:00

LOVE FOOD TO BOOST YOUR SEX LIFE

Having a good sex life doesn’t just happen – it requires an additional help, which is a balanced and nutrients diet combined with regular moderate exercise and a positive attitude. These are all key elements in helping to keep your sex drive high and your reproductive system in good working order. You cannot ignored that there are certain nutrients which have the power to regulate the levels of sex hormones in your body, and some can even help to protect your reproductive system from the potentially damaging effects of infection or disease.

A lack of zinc can cause infertility and impotence, and while moderate amounts of alcohol can help people to feel relaxed.
Caffeine in coffee, tea and cola drinks can reduce libido.
Being either overweight or underweight can reduce the libido and impair fertility. A certain level of body fat is necessary ovulation and menstruation, and when fat drops below a certain critical point, ovulation and menstruation both cease.
A negative attitude to your weight or body shape can dent your confidence in sex and relationships.

However, there are certain foods that are not only delicious but also contain the necessary nutrients to maintain your reproductive health and your libido. These will contribute to your healthy sexuality by maintaining your system in good condition, helping you to regulate your hormonal cycles and boosting your fertility. Besides, the fast pace of modern life leads to stress, tiredness and sometimes a lack of sexual energy. Foods indicated below can help to combat this.

      OYSTER

Oysters are no 1 food of love. They are high in zinc which is essential for making testosterone.

                         CHOCOLATE



Chocolates contains chemical thought to affect neuro-transmitters in the brain and a related substance to caffeine called theobromine.

                            BANANA

Banana flower has a phallic shape and is partially responsible for popularity of the banana as an aphrodisiac food. Banana is rich in potassium and vitamin B, which is important for hormone production.

                            AVOCADO

Avocado is the mythic thought of fruits hanging on the tree resembled the male’s testicles. It is a delicious fruit with a sensuous texture.

                       CARROT

Carrots are phallic-shaped and are sex stimulants. They are rich in carotene.

Valentine's Receipe-SOFT TACO

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SOFT TACO

Ingredients
Chopped chicken or beef
Grated cheese or melted
Tortillas (also referred as soft shell taco)
Salsa/Pico-de-gallo Ingredients
Taco seasoning mix
Sour cream
Chopped Lettuce, Tomatoes, etc

Steps

1. Cook the chopped (or shredded) meat or chicken in a skillet. When it is well cooked, then add the seasoning so this avoids drawing out juices.

2. Heat the tortillas in the microwave or between slightly dampened dish towels or paper towels in an oven (Don't dry them out.).

3. Put meat in tortilla first, then add all the raw vegetables like lettuce, tomatoes, and the salsa.

4. Then add the cheese (or you may like to melt the cheese over the meat in the microwave or such) and sour cream into the soft tortilla shell.

5. Fold the tops of the tortillas together, tuck into a wrapper to avoid dripping juices and enjoy this delicious dish!

6.Finished.

WHEN HE DASHES YOUR HOPE

2014-02-03T07:04:00.001-08:00

Mandy was in her late twenties when Ikenna, her then fiance jilted her. He was her first love, the first guy she ever dated. They started dating since her early twenties before he called it quit with the relationship.
As expected, Mandy was devastated. It took a long while before coming to terms with the heartbreak that had closed that chapter of her life.

Three years after shutting out men from her life, Mandy decides to move on with her life. Now, she is ready for a fresh relationship and suitors have been coming out but the issue now is, the suitors that come do not last. The men will propose, lift up her hope and within a month or two, she realizes the relationship is no more.
That has been the story with all the guys she met after Ikenna and it has affected Mandy a lot. She is miserable and withdrawn. She thinks she is jinxed and is worried why the men will not stay.
What the likes of Mandy should understand is that marriage is a serious institution and should not be toyed with. It is a life long bond which we have to think about it properly before making our decision. Maybe the men seem to understand this better than women.
Obviously, it hurts when your expectations is dashed and promises made broken at the tome when almost all your friends and mates are married with children but there are so many things women should know such as the following;
-Even though age is not on your side, do not be desperate and eager to settle down. When you tell yourself this, you won't be hurt when any son of Adam reneges on his promise.
-A broken relationship/engagement is better than a broken marraige.
-Don't brood over it so much. Don't allow it give you sleepless nights because you may end up doing what you will regret like inflicting body harm on yourself. No man is worth dying for, always remember that.
-Don't you think that the guy dashing your hope affords you another opportunity for preparing yourself for marriage?
-Tell yourself that he is NOT for you, that a better guy is coming on the way.
Prepare your mind to a state of not taking a guy serious when he proposes. That way, you won't feel hurt when he does the unexpected.
-Involve yourself in activities that would take your mind off the pain of being jilted. Live your life, start fulfilling those dreams you've always had since childhood.
-Discuss your problems with a marriage counselor and confide in a man of God for further counseling and prayers.
Wish you the best.
Elsie-Coco

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