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Stephanie Mabey: Love Comes Back

2012-02-01T17:47:00.002+08:00

Love comes back is a song from EFY (Especially for Youth), that performed by Stephanie Mabey. It is all about the simple things we are doing and bounces back as a blessing to us. Example is rendering a service as to show our love for those who needs us. The root is always the love that always comes back to us.

Here's the half part lyrics of the song:

Sometimes we all feel like something's missing
And our days start to drag us down
There's an answer and if we'll listen
It's telling us peace is found
When we reach out 'cause

Chorus:
Love comes back when we take care of each other
Just like that, it can lift the weight that we're under
There's always enough, no way to give too much 'cause
Love comes back to us

We all need love and we want to be loved. It is our wishing candle that sometimes we may feel that we don't have and we need one. But, if we'll just listen and look around, there's always an answer as long as we give and not expecting for a return. Love will always comes back to us.

Caught in the Middle

2012-01-26T09:24:00.000+08:00

What will you do if someone who is superior from you will ask something for you to do but you know that others will hate you? Will you still obey your superior and be hated by others? Or please others sacrificing yourself and disobey your superior? What will you do if you are being caught in the middle?

For all the things in this world, being a natural man, we are subject into confusion and in all oppositions. We may encounter things that we might think it is right but it is wrong for others or contrast to it. We may find ourselves again being caught in the middle and will tell ourselves to spot the difference and play the game of jeopardy. It will be difficult for us to decide and to do what's the best for everyone.

There are three possible things and options that we might do when we found ourselves being caught. First thing or option we might do is to do nothing. We think that it is better to put ourselves in the safest place. As a result, all the blames and consequences is on our shoulders.

Second, we disobey our superior just to have a good image of ourselves for others. We sacrificed ourselves for the wants of others. We might choose this option because we are afraid to lose them than our superior for they are our friends.

The third and the last option is to obey our superior. Our friends will hate us, but our superior knows what's the best for everybody. He has a lot of experiences in leadership and he knows the right thing to do, so the only key is to trust him. We were given instructions and we know if he is doing the right thing. Just like our Savior Jesus Christ did. He willingly obeyed his Father for he truly knows it is right even others will hate and persecute him. He still obeyed with a willing heart. Therefore we can learn from it, obedience is better than sacrifice.

Building Relationship of Trust

2012-01-23T10:54:00.003+08:00

Building relationship of trust is one of the skills in communicating. Having this kind of skill is an advantage to the world of communication. It will increase your stewardship and ability in interacting with people.

The thing you need to consider in building it is truly different than merely building trust only. Building a relationship means you are planting a quality trust with your own effort, while building trust means that you are only creating trust with or without your effort and not planting.

Having a firm foundation in building relationship of trust might require your skills in listening by heart and ears, asking good questions and not being interrogative, rephrasing their questions asked to make sure you understood and absorbed it, using your voice tones amplification that's not seems boring, using the right gestures or body language and eye contact, using good responses and timing, having a choice of words, having sympathy by putting yourself in their situation, and more importantly your good attitude by loving them and being true and honest in dealing with them.

You can be creative using these ideas that vary from your initiative and style. The fact that seems difficult to master is the attitude. But doing so and so using the skills mixed with attitude will create a behavior. And that behavior will result to a relationship of trust with a sure foundation. Act naturally and evaluate yourself from time to time, for perfection never comes in just one glance.

This Thing is Mine

2012-01-19T21:45:00.004+08:00

We all have valuable things that we don't want to lose. Such things like we don't want to let other people to borrow it from us. We are so stubborn keeping it only to ourselves just to make sure it is in good hands. And there are times that we keep it in a secure place not accessible to anyone. Thus, some people will judge us from being selfish or greedy for we don't want them to borrow or ask it from us. We might say, "This thing is mine and I own it". We know, that it is for the sake of safe keeping and valuing things we owned. We feel that what we are doing is the right thing to do and we have the right to decline because we own it.

If we will carefully observe situations like these, it's hard to tell if what you are doing is right. For example, you bought an expensive cellphone and it takes several months of your savings just to buy it. Then, your neighbor wants to borrow it from you. If your neighbor will borrow it for just a minute, will you let him to use it? If he will borrow it for a day, will you let him? Or if he will borrow it for a week, will you still let him?

There are considerable situations just like this that you need to comprehend. It may be right to let them at first but if the situation seems too much or abusive, then let your intuition take its part but not too judgmental in reasoning to them.

Some people have discernment that they do feel if that person is truly needful of your help. If what you feel is right, then it is right. If you feel it is wrong, then it is wrong. Put your feet in their shoes when they want to borrow or ask something from you. Try asking yourself what's the best solution is before you decide (Good results? Think first!), for it is crucial when they're already offended of what you have decided. Be sensitive too of their feelings. Use kind words in explaining and give some options and solutions. Because you love them and they are your close friends, they do need it more than you do. You may let yourself be the offered lamb and sacrifice things you owned in behalf of your relationships from them. You dared because you care!

No Effort is Wasted

2012-01-18T18:28:00.002+08:00

I remember a time at school that our programming instructor was asking who will lead the prayer. No one seems had a courage to volunteer among my classmates. Then our instructor picked someone who was not among our classmate but from another section. The student seems shy but he still obeyed. After he lead the prayer, all of us smiled and felt enjoyed to what he did. Even though he is not our classmate, still he brought a smile to us. That experience made me realize how important sharing is.

We can share small things to others even we don't have any. Try smiling on every people you'll meet, saying kind words to others, or even a simple greeting everyday to a friend or stranger can make them smile and bless their entire day.

Doing an effortless good works can make a person happy even in just words.

Blessings will just bounce back and every effort you'll make will not be wasted once you're making others happy in a simple way.

Swearing to Compromise

2012-01-17T19:09:00.000+08:00

There are times that we are being obliged to finish a specific task from other people. Our minds is being pushed in a work pressure to achieve the deadline. Of course, we can't afford ending up as a carcass when we fail to accomplish a task after the deadline. We see, that we will do everything to win their trust. Because of it, we opted to tell them promising words just to cure their anxiety towards us. We don't want them to be compromised so we end up saying, "I will do it, I PROMISE!".

Do you know that swearing is like putting yourself on the edge? Failure to accomplish what you have agreed will turn your expectation from white to black. Instead of gaining their trust, you gained their doubts of accomplishment to you or even will hate you. You don't want that to happen so you are compelled to do what's in the agreement.

The good impression is this, avoid swearing and just do it. Do it with all your best even if you fail. Having a strong statement, "I WILL DO IT!" will boost your confidence to accomplish a task. But having a weak statement, "I PROMISE.", is like opening a situation, a chances to "comPROMISE".

"DON'T PROMISE. JUST DO IT!", for action is better than words.

Counting Coins

2012-01-17T10:11:00.002+08:00

I tried an experiment to myself one time putting coins on my left palm facing up. While I'm looking on the objects, I asked myself, "What do I truly see?". Then I mumbled, "Is it the coins? Or my hand? Or both?". At first, I only noticed the coins. Then, I realized the importance of my hand.

In that experiment, the value of the coins represents of the problems while the importance of the hand represents of the blessings. Looking in different views in life may help us recognize and notice various things that we need to see through.

There are instances that we sometimes feel nobody loves us nor cares for us when being persecuted by other people. We may feel like being hammered in all corners and may only see the coin of problems not knowing we already have a hand of blessings. Our hand is bigger than the coin. Counting only the coins and not realizing the importance of our hand is like welcoming our expected problems and persecutions that are entering in our front door without checking the back door and the windows of blessings. Sometimes we may feel like this being hopeless and without noticing what we already have.

If we have coins of problems, we must not count it nor save it. We must spend it and use it like using our problems to strengthen ourselves. The longer the coins stay in our hand, the higher possibility that it will increase. Seeing the logic, we must learn to count our blessings and save it instead of counting coins.

Good Results? Think First!

2012-01-16T19:24:00.012+08:00

What we are doing today is what we are building for the future. Just like having a regular daily exercise that we expect and want to live longer and to have a physically fit body. We do want having a good result! But the question is, how can we achieve good results? If this principle is applied on what we are doing everyday, what kind of result will it be?

Shaping up ourselves today plays a vital role for our future. What we are expecting for our tomorrow depends on what we choose and act today. You have the freedom on what you will be doing but you cannot choose what will be the outcome.

Think first before you act, that's what they say. It's true, but sometimes we were too excited on the outcome not thinking of a better idea to do first and the result comes to a failure.We were sometimes deceived by our perspective and being carried away by our emotions.

Being patient, doing things diligently, being positive in all things, and being calm in all situations are some of the main ingredients of having a good result. Rushing is mostly and maybe the reason of having a weak foundation. But you can avoid a weak foundation by preparing and shaping up yourself early. Planning and having goals are key points toward good results too. This is the reason why it is better to prevent than to cure and it is never been too late to a person who has plans and goals. Having an option in all things doesn't mean that it will confuse you on what to choose but it will help you to have hope and to carefully think of what's best among the best. Think first. Think positively and have hope for there are good results lies in store!