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Finding a Date After You Have Been Divorced

2008-03-06T07:01:00.000-08:00

Author: Marvin Perry

Dating can be difficult for someone who has gotten a divorce after being married for many years. Anyone who is re-entering single-hood will have to make some social adjustments to be successful at finding a partner. Some people may want to wait a certain period of time after their divorce has been final before they would like to start a new relationship. While there are others who prefer to move more quickly.

Finding a partner after being married for 14years can be stressful. Some people may feel insecure because they have gained a few extra pounds and they look significantly older. This is superficial and it should not affect anyone's chances of finding true love again. Regardless of our marital history, physical appearance, body-type, and age we should remember that there are other people just like us out there.

A good way to get in touch with like minded single people is by joining an online dating service. More and more people are doing it every day, you can start by doing a google search for the term "online dating services". Within a few seconds you will have thousands of choices at your disposal, you should take your time, when you have found a dating service you have confidence in, you should join that dating service. You can join multiple dating sites if you feel the need to do so.

When you're creating your personal profile it's very important that you are specific when describing yourself and what type of person you are seeking. You can list your hobbies, what is important to you, what makes you happy, what makes you sad. It's very important that you are honest and sincere when you are creating your personal profile.

You will need to add a good picture to your profile, if you have multiple pictures that's even better. The picture should be a recent picture, it should be a picture that you like, and it should be a picture that shows who you really are.

You should keep an open mind, be optimistic, and think positively at all times. Try to focus on the future and forget about all the negative experiences you may have had in the past. You may be cautious about your ability to select a partner. This is normal and you will get past it however, you should take things slowly at first.

Patience is a virtue because it may take some time to rekindle a new relationship. However, if you are persistent you will find someone who truly appreciates you for the person you are.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/finding-a-date-after-you-have-been-divorced-350302.html

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My Wife Has Lost Her Desire for Sex and Intimacy: a Story for Men…

2008-03-06T06:57:00.000-08:00

Author: Calle Zorro

It usually goes something like this…

They meet and start dating in high-school – or in some cases, in college. After graduation, they marry.

She goes to work in a lower-end job – something like teaching – which she enjoys to some extent – but it isn’t her “everything”.

He, enters into some kind of mid-range job – and the “potential” of a great career looms clearly before him.

And of course, he has his hobbies and the things he does with his friends…golf, motorcycles, fishing, racing, and so on.

Along the way, children come along – along with the corresponding bigger cars, house, etc.

In the morning, as he leaves for work, the man kisses his wife goodbye and when he gets home, he hugs her and tells her he deeply loves her.

Time speeds by…

Occasionally, the wife complains to her husband that she feels like her and the children are taking a back seat to his work and hobbies. And, for a time, he’ll “cut back” – just long enough for the “storm” to “blow over” and then he’s back to “life as usual”.

Besides, the man knows that he loves his wife and children and so he doesn’t feel that his wife’s concerns are justifiable.

More time speeds by…

And, what with all of his work and hobbies, it’s hard for the man to find enough time to be able to devote any significant time to his marriage relationship.

Every so often, another “storm” blows up…

The wife gets depressed.

She goes through emotional “hard times” for no apparent reason.

But, they talk and the wife tells the husband that she doesn’t feel like she’s a priority to him – although she readily admits that he is a good husband and father. Not only that, she tells him that she understands how important his career is and how important it is for him to continue “climbing the ladder of success”.

And so after talking, the storm seems to blow over and everything appears to be ok…

And since by his wife’s own admission, the man is a “good” husband and father, he just continues on with life as he knows it – work and hobbies, work and hobbies, work and hobbies.

Then five, sometimes ten, oftentimes fifteen or twenty years later, the woman “surprises” the husband with the “news” that she no longer loves him and that she wants out of the marriage.

It’s usually at that point that the husband is awakened to the fact for all of this time, he has been a priority to his wife while she has NOT been a priority to him and that she “cohabitated” in that lonely existence for as long as she possibly could – and now she doesn’t even want the marriage – let alone want the marriage to work.

The husband foolishly and mistakenly assumed that his wife would just always love him – without any maintenance or effort on his part – as he enjoyed life doing his own thing.

And now, more than anything, the husband wants the marriage to work out…and she doesn’t…

For too long, HE has put HIMSELF first…and SHE too has put him and the children first…

For too long, HE has done whatever he wanted to make himself happy…and SHE too has done whatever it took to make him happy…

For too long, the wife has put herself aside as she tries to make sure her husband got the things he wanted.

For too long, the wife has supported the man in his happiness and success. On the other hand, the man has given little to no support to his wife for her happiness and success.

Through the years, the wife would occasionally attempt to engage in something she was interested in – and she would quickly run into the “dark cloud” of the man’s displeasure for having to watch the kids or sacrifice his own interests and needs – and so, she would once again, set her needs and interests aside.

She suppressed “herself” and that lack of “expression” began to build – building like toxins and waste in an unhealthy body…

Now, she has reached the point where she is so emotionally shut down that short of a Divine miracle, the relationship is beyond repair.

The fact is, the wife is done with the man and his selfishness.

Ironically, now that the man realizes he is losing her, he wants nothing but his wife.

Now, the husband wants his wife to “communicate” her feelings.

Now, he wants her to “talk about” her needs and interests.

Now, she’s not interested.

Why should she be?

For all those years prior, HE wasn’t interested in really listening to and attending to her emotions, desires, and needs!

He was only interested in “listening” just long enough for her to shut up, get over her emotional spell (or as he really felt, her emotional weakness), and leave him alone so he could go on doing his own thing.

Why should she now believe that he cares about her feelings, desires, and needs?

Why should she now believe that he will actually make a permanent change – one where she is a priority in his life?

After all, his mode of operation for the entire marriage has been to “gloss” over her feelings, desires, and needs.

So, why should she put herself in a vulnerable position again?

Why should she go back into a position where her feelings get crushed all over again?

After all, his attitude was always one of, “This will all blow over. She’ll get over it.”

It was her unattended feelings, desires, and needs that caused all those “storms to blow up” through the years and every time, after the “clouds” cleared away, he was his same old unchanged self.

And each time this happened, the man unknowingly twisted an invisible dagger deeper and deeper into the woman’s heart that left HER feeling number than the time before.

Until finally, as it pertains to this man, her heart is “dead”. She’s “stone cold”. Her love is gone…her heart is gone…she’s gone.

There is ZERO desire in her heart to “try” anymore.

She has ZERO interest in “cohabitating” with a “kid” in a man’s body who gets all the toys and has all the fun while she sits on the sidelines lonely, unhappy, and unfulfilled.

In fact, she has ZERO tolerance for even one more hour of being alone while her supposed-to-be-husband is off “making the boss happy” or “doing his weekend thing with his buddies”.

Of course, there were “signs” all along the way…

But, in all of his “rambunctious energy”, the man blew right past them and ignored them…

At least, most of them…

One of them was kind of hard for him to ignore…

The affection, intimacy, and sex became less and less frequent.

Early on in their marriage, it was a common thing for the man to hold her or to touch her hair or to kiss her and even to initiate sex – and she always responded and reciprocated.

But, as time went on, he still did these things but she slowly stopped responding and reciprocating.

Unfortunately, as her needs continued to go unnoticed and unmet, he “barreled on down the road” – turning to the comfort and enjoyment found in his work, career, friends, and hobbies.

Sadly, when they talk now, it’s through attorneys.

What about YOUR marriage?

My hope is that things aren’t quite this far gone for you yet. My hope is that there’s still a chance you can turn things for the better in your marriage.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/my-wife-has-lost-her-desire-for-sex-and-intimacy-a-story-for-men-351314.html

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How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Three

2008-03-06T06:54:00.000-08:00

Author: Dr Grace Cornish Livingstone

This is the third phase of your worthwhile series on "mending fast from a broken emotional past." The quickest and most effective way to move from one stage to the next in life and love is through a personal spiritual awakening or practical enlightenment, which you can incorporate and use in your everyday life.

There is nothing more refreshing than an internal spiritual renewal. In this state, old memories and emotionally-unhealthy experiences will be tossed away and your total being shall be transformed. With this kind of personal revival you will definitely have an enjoyable survival in your life and love relationship. You will no longer be held captive by any emotional disturbances and circumstances which once had you drifting along in life, taking whatever was dished out to you. This is so powerful that you will become the writer, the director, and the producer of your own life's script. You shall pick and choose (or refuse), whom you will allow (or block from entering) into your heart and into your personal environment.

Isn't this amazing? Spiritual renewal is personal power! Personal power allows us to choose without being confused. No longer will you have to wait around for the telephone to ring, wondering, When is he going to call? Nor will you have to feel stuck in a miserable, drawn-out, tug-of-war relationship, pondering, "Will he ever stop cheating?"

You won't fall for any of the lies and false pledges of players who make promises such as "Honey, you light up my life; I want to buy you the Sun, the Moon, and the stars," when actually they can't afford to even
buy you a light bulb.

No; not anymore. You'll tell the unworthy lover boys, "The Lord is my light and my salvation. I am a new creation, and I have no time to join you in careless recreation. I am now ready for my very own healthy love relationship with my exclusive soul mate-a real and decent man-and since you are not ready to make a sincere and honest commitment, you're not the one, and I will no longer let you occupy time in my personal space because your presence is blocking my blessings."

Whew! What a mouthful. To keep it simple: It's time to drop the dead weight date, and get yourself a heavyweight mate. You go girl!
Let's get you spiritually recharged through a delightful four-fold process of Dedication, Meditation, Visualization, and Affirmation:

1. Dedication is perpetual prayer, praise and worship. It's thanking God for everything (and even in advance); for your life, family, abundant blessings, joy, and your specially selected husband. And above all, for making you such a beautiful, brilliant, delightful, and dynamic treasure.

2. Meditation is deep relaxed thinking. In this state you are at peace with yourself and can think clearly about exactly what you want in your life. When you meditate, set aside some personal time to find a private space where you won't be disturbed by daily chaos. Get comfortable, either sitting or lying down, and enjoy the peaceful calmness in your spirit. Think about the people, places, and things that bring you joy, and the new experiences you'd like to explore. Be at ease in your body temple, and enjoy your pleasant thoughts.

3. Visualization is using your imagination to form a picture of what you want to achieve. It can be described as "organized daydreaming." We create random images in our minds when we daydream, but in visualization, we tailor these images in our specific desires. For example, if you want a new car, picture yourself sitting in it and driving it. If you want a healthy relationship, picture yourself being happily in love. I must warn you here that you cannot use this as a kind of mind control to get a certain man to fall in love with you. It won't work. All human beings have the gift of free will (or free moral faculty) from God. So no one can spiritually control another person's mind against their will (nor should he or she want to). What will work, however, is if you visualize yourself in a loving, fun, and peaceful relationship (and environment), with a terrific feeling of healthy love flowing all through your entire being.

4. Affirmation is creating reality through the spoken word. You can use it to program new behavior, relationships, friendships, and just about everything into your life. This technique is so powerful that ancient wisdom urges, "Be careful what you ask for [affirm]; you might just get it [you will if you believe]." Here's a tip that will help you affirm healthy love into your life quickly: Don't affirm in the future tense, "I will be happy" or "I will be loved." Instead, boldly declare in the present tense, "I am now happy," and "I am now loved."

Always affirm with deep conviction, absolute intensity, and feeling. Be careful not to just reel your declarations off your tongue, or merely recite them. Believe what you're stating with all your heart. This is not just a hope, want, or wish, it is real. If you truly believe, you will certainly receive.

If you've completed all three phases of this relationship series, you now have the "insider's secret" and formula for turning around your life and love relationship for the better. First, take the time to restore and pamper the true essence of who you are, and when you're ready, be sure to embrace the sacred healthy love relationship you deserve. Why settle for less when you deserve the best?

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/how-to-mend-fast-from-a-broken-past-relationship-part-three-348348.html

About the Author:

Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America’s foremost relationship consultants. She is an award-winning, bestselling author of ten popular books, including 10 Bad Choices, The Band-Aid Bond, The Sacred Bond and You Deserve Healthy Love, Sis! Dr. Grace is currently the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
or www.hopenetinc.org

How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Two

2008-03-04T07:53:00.000-08:00

Author: Dr Grace Cornish Livingstone

In the previous issue as promised, this segment will give you a short-cut, precise, and valuable "12 Step Relationship Recovery Guideline" that will help you look into removing any "hidden" unhealthy relationship toxic buildup that may be unconsciously blocking your blessings.

There is a remarkable Biblical principle, "Ask and it shall be given." But this is not meant to be interpreted just literally. It also implies that you make a psychological and spiritual appeal. In other words, it's not solely the words that come out of your mouth, but also about your frame of mind and behavioral pattern-your thoughts, your feelings, beliefs, and actions.

People may say they want one thing, yet subconsciously their actions and personalities say something completely different. For example, a woman may have gone through a series of harsh and unkind experiences with men in the past and verbally affirms that she wants an ideal mate in the present. Yet, if in fact she has not taken time to cleanse and heal from her old memories and habits, she may, consciously or unconsciously, attract the same type of unworthy men into her life. Or, on the other hand, if a decent man steps into her life, she may not be able to bond with him in a healthy manner because past emotions will keep resurfacing and interfering with their relationship.

However, if she takes the time to first prepare herself mentally and emotionally, she will "ask" for and shall certainly "receive" the healthy love she seeks, and never have to worry about ever being abandoned or deceived again. Here is the "12-Stage Relationship-Recovery Guideline" which you can use as a sliding scale to determine where you are, where you'd like to be, and how soon you'd like to get there:

The 12-Stage Relationship-Recovery Guideline

1. Recognizing that the unhealthy relationship is no good for you

2. Conditioning yourself to get out of it

3. Taking the steps and actually walking out of it

4. Coping with the emotional roller-coaster one day at a time

5. Getting to know yourself (finding out who you are and exactly what you want)

6. Restoring and re-creating yourself (taking back the pieces of your spirit)

7. Empowering and enjoying the new you

8. Wanting and praying for a healthy-minded, compatible mate

9. Meeting and checking him out (letting him into the perimeter of your life)

10. Opening to the possibilities of a new, healthy relationship as you get to know him

11. Removing your self-protective coating as you grow to trust and respect him

12. Enjoying a healthy love match as you grow to love each other

The goal here is to help you heal from the past, so that you will be able to ask for, believe in, receive, and accept the wholesome relationship and marriage you deserve by thoroughly examining and removing the hidden, as well as the readily apparent emotional hindrances that may be barricading your healthy love.

The simple truth is, we do an excellent job of putting on a front before the world. It began from we took that first step onto the threshold of social awareness, where we were conditioned to believe, "Don't let anybody in your business, or have anything over you, and never let a man see who you really are."

This practice has built barricades around the hearts of countless women, resulting in years of celibacy, casual dating, or shallow relationships. And when we experience disappointment from unhealthy relationships, we retreat even further within to an untouchable place in an attempt to bury pain, anger or anguish, which often leads to despondency, depression, and frustration.

How To Close The Old Door, So You Can Start to Restore

Countless women are walking around secretly tucked inside their invisible armor. On the outside, you may seem okay, but no one sees you when you're home alone at nights, crying yourself to sleep because of loneliness and feelings of abandonment. The emotional armor successfully keeps others from getting in, but it also keeps you from getting out. Too many women are prisoners within their own body temples.

And it's confusing. It's confusing because armor is a woman's way of defending herself, yet on the other hand her self-protective wall is holding her captive. Many women have already given up on love; thousands secretly yearn for it; others desperately hope for it; and many are afraid to claim it. This is primarily because they don't know how to trust again, and they haven't been shown how to remove the personal emotional armor. The sacred truth is, the healthy love we crave must first be created within us.

You've got to learn how to let go and let the love of God flow in and through you. Replace your personal armor with the protection of God's love. Ephesians 6:13 in the Bible tell us, "Take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able stand firm [withstand any test in life or love]."

Here's a useful exercise to help you dissolve any personal armor:

EXERCISE: Clearing Out The Emotional Baggage

1. What was your most disappointing relationship in the past?

2. Who has caused you pain (or vice versa)? What happened?

3. How did it make you feel during that time? Why?

4. What did you want to happen in the relationship? What would you have changed?

5. Write a letter to the person (or persons) involved, and tell them every detail of how you were

affected (don't hold back; this is a chance to release your feelings on paper).

6. Looking back now, would you have ended the relationship earlier? If so, when and why? If no, why not?

7. How does it affect your life right now? How do you feel at this moment as you are writing?

8. Adopt this affirmation: "I (your name), am valuable. I deserve healthy friendships, the right relationship, a healthy body, and a great life. I will no longer be deprived of my blessings."

9. Now, tear the letter into tiny bits, and as you tear, affirm, "I now release all painful memories from my mind, my body, my heart, my soul. My life and my spirit are now renewed. I hold no hard feelings, and I feel no more sorrow. I am now free, and something good is about to happen to me!"

10. Repeat Steps 1-9 for each unhealthy relationship you can recall.

Now, that you have completed the second phase of this powerful emotional cleansing series, in the following part, you will conclude with a powerful and fast method to "re-define your life without any unhealthy strife." It's time for a spiritually-empowered and an emotionally-happy you!

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/how-to-mend-fast-from-a-broken-past-relationship-part-two-348349.html

About the Author:
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
or www.hopenetinc.org

How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part One

2008-03-03T07:10:00.001-08:00

Author: Dr Grace Cornish Livingstone

This three-part series will show you how to be free of the past so you can love with a new outlook and place a high value on your personal self-worth.

Detrimental romances have left too many women with broken promises, broken spirits, and broken hearts. I encourage you to realize right now that you don't ever have to settle for any unhealthy relationship in which you are the Band-Aid to cover up your mate's wound while neglecting your own emotional scars. Instead, be aware that a healthy relationship is a balanced love in which both partners can be the healing balm to each other when needed.

Do you know what's extremely disheartening and defeating at the same time? Due to the Band-Aid type of bonding, when a woman discovers that a man is no good for her (or even dangerous), she stifles her own feelings and still remains in the unhealthy relationship, or she goes back to him even after she had left him.

These women know that those particular men are emotionally unhealthy mates, and many have specifically told me so either in person at my national relationship seminars, or in the hundreds of emails and letters I receive each month.

Let's look at these two examples:

One woman, the president of a well-know national women's beauty pageant group, told me between heart-wrenching sobs that she was in "emotional bondage" to her disrespectful lover, who not only openly cheated on her each month with a number of her co-workers and casual acquaintances, but also made her abort the baby she had been carrying for him.

Another woman, Vicki (not her real name), a professional telemarketer, found out her live-in lover of two years was an undercover drug dealer who had been hiding his drugs and guns in her apartment. Seven months later, she threw him out. But here's the kicker, she didn't evict him because of his illegal and corrupt dealings; she threw him and his clothes out because his "other woman" came to her house to confront her. She took back her keys and changed the locks, but less than three months later, she changed her mind and took him back.

A year after bringing him into her home again, she admitted, "I feel like my life is caving in on me. I know he's not a good influence for my teenage son, but I can't get him out of my system.

You Must Be Bold to Break the Stronghold

After examining Vicki's case along with several others, I found that in each situation the woman separated from the man physically but not emotionally. In a sense, she was locked into an emotional stronghold. She had not released him from her soul. She shared an indefinable bond with him and that's why she gravitated back to him. And until she released him from her complete self-mind, body, and spirit-she continued to fluctuate emotionally.

It was hard for Vicki at first. But, with time and proper coaching, she finally turned her back on her unsuitable boyfriend for good. I also effectively helped the beauty pageant president in the former example to break the chains of "emotional bondage" with the dysfunctional lover through a twofold method that I will share with you here.

First, I brought to the attention of both women ten specific preprogrammed beliefs that promote fear and keep women in turbulent relationships with wrongly selected mates:

10 Misconceptions That Cause Emotional Deception

1) "There aren't any good men left. I might as well stick with the evil I know."

2) "No one else is going to want me."

3) "So what if he cheated; all men do. 10% of something is better than 100% of nothing."

4) "I can't make it on my own."

5) "If I was doing what I was supposed to, he would not have done it."

6) "What will everyone think?"

7) "As long as he takes care of the bills, I better keep my mouth shut."

8) "My children need a father figure around."

9) "He says he loves me and didn't mean to do it."

10) "I want to leave, but the sex is good."

Second, I provided a useful and effective technique to help them break the negative emotional ties. This method is very important because it helps you explore and discover exactly how someone else may be in control of how you feel about yourself. It will be much easier to disconnect from an emotionally disruptive relationship once you get a clear picture on paper of how much negative power he has over you self-value system.

EXERCISE: Getting the Unhealthy Suitor Out of My System

Set some private time aside to take this seven-point quiz. Don't just answer a quick yes or no then jump to the next question. Spend at least ten minutes on each to work through the deep feelings and beliefs that will be attached to each of your answers:

1) Does he make me feel good about myself? Why, or why not?

2) Do I feel safe with him? Why, or why not?

3) Does he protect me from feeling embarrassed or unfulfilled? Why, or why not?

4) Can I trust him to be faithful? Why, or why not?

5) Do I feel attractive and appreciated when I'm around him? Why, or why not?

6) Do I think he's a kind, caring, and honest person? Why, or why not?

7) Would he be a good role model for children? Why, or why not?

Conclusion: If you've answered no more that you've answered yes, you don't have to second guess. It's time to cut the emotional string with this dysfunctional and unhealthy fling!

In the second part of this series, I will give you a short-cut, precise and valuable 12-Stage Relationship Recovery Guide. We will also look at how to empty relationship baggage by clearing out any "hidden" toxic emotional build-up that may be unconsciously blocking your blessings. Remember always: you deserve the very best!

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/how-to-mend-fast-from-a-broken-past-relationship-part-one-348350.html

About the Author:
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
or www.hopenetinc.org

Women and Cheating: the Reasons Why We Cheat!

2008-03-01T05:39:00.000-08:00

(This is a pretty vicious article. Not all men deserve to be cheated on and sometimes the women will still cheat on the guy. So I don't agree that men cause the women to cheat just like women don't cause men to cheat)

Author: nadia cherubin

Women and Cheating:

Men usually say that all women are the same. So not true, it's just what's in the back of their minds that has them thinking that all women are the same. But, not all women cheat on their partners. It's just the one's that really deserve to get cheated on. Now if men didn't do silly things to make us look and feel bad, then we wouldn't have to cheat on them. Just like they feel that they have probable cause to do what they do, then we feel the same way about the situation.

Most men drive women to cheat on them. And those reasons are:

-Lack of attention (not noticing us):

Remember it's pretty simple with us, all you have to do is pay attention, and in due time, you will understand us.

-Lack of communication

-Laziness (no drive whatsoever) no one wants to be with a jobless man who has no hope for the future

-Not doing enough for us

-Neglect

-Too many lies and getting caught lying.

-Thinking with the head down below instead of the head on top.

-Not knowing when to draw the line between respect and disrespect.

Note: The same way a man wants respect, we deserve the same respect in return too.

Some women say: We have to cheat especially if the guys are going to continue doing what they're doing.

Please: Women get tired of opening up their hearts to men and end up getting the same results everytime. Now some women cheat on their men, and some don't and some of us usually play the playboy status where we have to act like men and do what men do and switch the roles on the guys because if you really think about it, if we started acting like men and switching roles like the singer Ciara says, then they would really hate us to a point where they would just swear off women all the way.

You ever notice a couple walking down the street and the woman is so bossy and you would say damn, this woman loves to wear the pants and he allows it.

In cases like this: You can't even blame the woman because if you think about it. If she didn't wear the pants or even try to hold her ground and stand on her own two feet, then the man would just walk all over her and making demands while he does his dirt. But in all actuality, she's just demanding her respect the best way she knows how so she won't get cheated on, so she has to stand her ground, if not, she has to do what she has to do and if by chance that she's unhappy then she has no choice but to cheat on her man.

Most women that say the reasons why they have cheated on their men is because of suspicions and gut feelings because we women have to follow our women's intuition which is always true and it never really lets us down. Don't get me wrong now. I'm not saying that cheating is a good thing to do, but to tell you the truth, some men deserve it and need to look into why their women are cheating, and most of the time when we cheat, it's already planned and to tell you the truth the way we do it is so sweet and the men just can't understand it, but hey! It is, what it is.

Now a days, most of these powerful women who have it all together always seem to get a man who seems to end up being a cheater in the end and the women always seem to find out that the man has been doing dirt behind their backs, but they normally react differently to this situation. So what do they do? They normally get back at them by cheating out of spite. We all know that two wrongs don't make a right, but in certain cases you can't feel sorry for the man because they should know better than that. If I was a man, and I had a powerful woman, then I would just stand by her side, no matter what and make sure that I didn't cheat on her because you never know who could be your soul mate, so never take advantage of what you have.

However, women should always take charge no matter what when it comes to their relationship because sometimes cheating is not a choice, it's an option and trust me, there are options to choose from that ususlally tells us when we should cheat when in a relationship with a man.

Here is a simple example and a reason behind the cheating or a simple little thing that are grounds for cheating:

-If a woman is sick with the flu and the man doesn't even call or check up on her and it's just a ton of her friends that are checking up on her, then that means that he doesn't deserve her and wouldn't be by her side even if she's dying, so yes, that is grounds for cheating.

In other words: The man shoud be there for you no matter what, and if he can't see that he's supposed to be there for you, then he's in trouble and he deserves to get cheated on.

It's like this: If a woman has a man and a man doesn't do simple things like bring her juice or soup then he's really not worth it and she can do bad by herself and he could never take care of her in any situation she's in because if any of her friends can call and check up on her and the guy she's with can't, then that is definitely grounds for cheating. No ifs, ands, or butts about it and that is when cheating becomes a choice in the matter that the man doesn't have any say so and then that's when he has no options to choose from whatsoever! That also shows you that he will never go the distance with her.

Always remember this: If your man can't take care of you when you're sick, then he'll never take care of you and things will never get better than this. That's a fact!

When it comes to Women and Cheating: Women should realize that some men need a dose of their own medicine and deserve to get cheated on.

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A new writer of urban tales and fiction.
My first book will be out this summer of 2008.

Tips for Flirting in Spanish

2008-02-28T08:13:00.000-08:00

Author: Jason Vachon

Why should you learn how to flirt in Spanish?

Well, imagine this.

You have been in the club for hours and, so far, no one has caught your eye. You are just about to give up and go home when, suddenly, a hot Latina or Latino walks through the door.

What do you do?

While eye contact and body language may get the job done let's add a twist: Some flirty Spanish phrases.

Breaking the Ice

Flirting is all about breaking the ice. The tone of the conversation starts with the first words you say. So you really want to start off with a bang.

Starting a conversation with a flirty Spanish phrase is a unique way to break the ice. If the person you are talking to speaks Spanish, you will immediately separate yourself from all the others.

Even if the person you want to flirt with doesn't know Spanish, you will still have their attention. How often do people come up to them speaking a foreign language? More than likely, they will ask what the phrase meant, which might just lead into a longer, more involved flirtation.

Some Flirty Spanish Phrases

So, now that you know that adding some Spanish phrases to your list of flirting techniques is worthwhile, you just need to know what to say.

Here are a few flirty phrases that will work wonders.

I noticed you and wanted to find out what you were like. Te not? quer?averiguar c?eres. teh noh-tEH ee keh-rEE-ah ah-vehr-ee-gwahr kOH-moh eh-rehrs.

You are very pretty. Eres muy linda. eh-rehs mwee leen-dah.

You are very handsome. Eres muy guapo. eh-rehs mwee gwah-poh.

You have the prettiest eyes in the world. Tienes los ojos m?bonitos del mundo. tee-eh-nehs lohs oh-hohs mAHs boh-nee-tohs dehl moon-doh.

You have a lovely smile. Tienes una sonrisa hermosa. tee-eh-nehs oo-nah sohn-ree-sah ehr-moh-sah.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Once you have learned a few flirty Spanish phrases, you want to master them. Practice them until they start to become warm and natural.

First, find out the proper way to say the words, either by asking someone who knows the language to teach you, or by using a dictionary that spells out each word phonetically.

Then, practice each phrase as often as you can, until they roll off of your tongue almost as easily as saying the same things in English would.

Having the ability to flirt a little in Spanish provides you with unique opportunities when meeting people you are attracted to.

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About the Author:
Jason Vachon is the author of Hook Up Spanish and it's weekly e-tips. He has lived in two Latin American countries and spent time in ten. Click below and get a free copy of his ebook that covers dating and romance in Spanish at http://www.hookupspanish.com/ebook/

Going on a First Date? Learn Some Tips & Tricks

2008-02-27T15:25:00.000-08:00

Author: Marvin Perry

First dates can be stressful and it takes quite a bit of preparation to ensure that everything goes smoothly. You should plan the following things ahead of time: what you are going to wear, what are you going to do, and where are you going to go. These factors are important because you need to make a good first impression when you go on a first date.

Everyone tends to think they are an expert when it comes to dating, and everyone thinks they are qualified to give sound advice. Maybe your siblings or your friends have been interrogating you on a regular basis about your love life, or trying to give you advice and suggestions. However, we all know what to do on a date. You should be yourself, try to have fun, listen, ask questions, and let the conversation flow naturally.

We all have a good idea of what we need to do to be successful at dating, yet we all still have anxiety and stress about going on a first date. Everyone tends to have their own set of rules they follow when dating. Some people may say it's ok to kiss on the first date, while others may disagree. Some men may feel it's necessary to open doors for women while other men may disagree, there is no standard set of rules. However, there are some common guidelines which we all can agree on.

It's important to be alert and pay attention to everything your date is saying, whether you are listening or speaking it's important to maintain eye contact.

It is a necessity to plan your date ahead of time, because doing this shows that you put some thought into it. It's a bad idea to meet your date without having a plan on what you are going to do and where you are going to go.

When coming up with a dating idea you should try to be original. Going to dinner and watching a movie is very traditional and we have all probably done that before, try to think outside the box. Go for a long ride through the city in a stretch limo, go on a picnic, try to do something that your date will enjoy doing.

Try to be polite at all times and try to avoid talking about your previous relationships. If your date is asking questions about your previous relationships it's very important that you do not say derogatory things about your ex.

Rather than focusing on the imperfections of your ex relationships. You should try to focus on the present and the future and try to talk about positive things when you are on a date.

If you had a good time and you say you are going to call, you should call. However, if you think there's no chemistry between the two of you, and you do not plan on calling them, you should not tell them you are going to call. Whether or not your are interested in the person you should be honest with them.

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How to Dance Salsa

2008-02-25T06:31:00.000-08:00

Author: Robert

Salsa is now wide spread, and everywhere around the globe it continues to gain popularity by the droves. If someone wishes to learn and to attain a degree of expertise in salsa, then lot of hard work is required. For a beginner level salsa dancer, and also for experienced people a good recommendation would be to keep improvising on it. The regular intake of lessons will help us to improve our dancing and be admired by all our friends.

Salsa basically has origins in Cuba and consists of combinations, turns and patterns. This though can be learned in the privacy of our home, but requires dedication. With no regards to our age, shape or size of our physique, dancing is a best way to burn calories and keep you healthy

The Miami style of salsa dancing consists of the basic dance steps including the salsa stance, side and back rocks, small quick turns, cross body leadings, what is popularly called The Adios, then outside turns, the enchufla y dame or instead simply An enchufla and more.

Small Stepwise descriptions:

1. Get into a position where you are facing your facing. Now placing the right hand on your partners waist, around the back, grasping the partner's right hand.

2. According to beats step forward starting with left foot, with your partner mirroring your steps backward.

3. For second beat repeat with right foot.

4. Now mirror same steps like the above but backwards.

5. Now itâ€™s such that after 6th step, the seventh step you will be in now in starting position.

This is a very basic description of how to do jazz. Hope you enjoy learning more.

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Jack Dalton is a writer for Monster Guide. You can find more information on How to Dance at Monster Guide .

Specialty of Outdoor Education Camp

2008-02-23T08:52:00.000-08:00

Author: Ron Victor

Outdoor education is a special program offered to kids, teens and adults in adventure camps. Outdoor education comprises of organized learning of things which takes place out of the environment. This is a special program which is considered to be important for the people, especially students because it teaches more outdoor stuffs, so that kids or teens are enabled to compete towards the competitive environment. Here all sorts of extra curricular activities will be provided in different courses as per the capacity of students participating.

More demand exists for availing the services provided by outdoor camps in essential manner required. This campaign is especially for the people and it is designed for them to meet their requirements in organized manner. All sorts of games, adventures and outdoor activities like fishing hunting, social awareness, mutual understanding between people, developing leadership skill and more are offered.

These types of programs are offered by well qualified, professional and experienced trainers who possess knowledge in the field. It enhances the students to play the challenging roles in schools, colleges and outside the campus in competent way. In outdoor education program, special classes will be conducted with accommodation, food and security. More number of institutions shows their interest in offering the service to the people around the world. The prices charged for providing the service differs accordingly as per the sort of institutions offering the program as well as the type of program provided.

Team building activities, leadership skill, awareness of science and its specialty are coached in different tracks, so that students with respective capacity can able to learn the course basically. Some of the activities coached by trainers are fishy facts, soil studies, archaeology, energy dilemma, aerodynamics, solar system and still more in science camp, while in leadership camp team building activities goal setting, ethical leadership, peer pressure, rock wall, ropes courses and development of mutual relationship between people.

Students will come to know that participation always matters and also it gains more knowledge related to indoor and outdoor activities. It will be based upon the requirement of the student and the program chosen. It will be offered in most of the seasons, but especially in summer seasons special programs will be offered by adventure outdoor schools. It develops creative knowledge of teens, kids, adults and separate classes or centers are conducted with full accommodation and food to enable students to join the program.

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Ron Victor is a Expert author for Outdoor Education . He written many articles like Leadership Camp California , outdoor adventure program, outdoor education activities, OE science institute california. For more information visit our site. Contact me at ron.seocopywriter@gmail.com

“experiences From ‘the Flow’ (13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues Part 2.”

2008-02-22T05:41:00.000-08:00

Author: Carl Pantejo

By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright February 2008

(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.)

“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…”

*Below is the thirteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in “My Friend Yu – the Prosperity Mentor: Book II,” Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.

“Compatibility” is the degree in which you and your partner are similar in temperament, well-suited for each other, well-matched, like-minded, etc.

Since we must first know what we really want before we can gauge compatibility, we began the process of identifying personal needs and desires.

We brainstormed.

We used unbridled imagination to come up with Your List.

We continue the process in this article with the following steps: Prioritizing the items on Your List, Ranking, Pruning, and Reality Checks.

(Short Aside)

My Friends:

You may have noticed that, lately, my articles have been smaller in size.

Reason?

Many readers have commented that, although my articles are enjoyable, informative, and absorbing, they tend to be much longer (over 2,000 words) than the usual articles (800-1000 words). Consequently, many readers simply don’t have the time to read them in one sitting – the aim of all good articles.

So, in a rare instance of acquiescence, I am submitting a series of medium-sized articles aimed at those who believe smaller articles are more palatable.

Don’t worry. The size of the article will not restrict the amount of content published.

I will just write more articles!

- About this article -

I acknowledge the fact that Western/Asian relationships don’t always consist of a Western Man and an Asian Woman. There are many Western Woman/Asian Man relationships, as well as Man/Man and Woman/Woman couples out there.

But, since the overwhelming majority of Western/Asian couples are composed of a Western Man and an Asian Woman, this article addresses their issues and assumes that they are the primary audience for the information submitted below.

- Brief Recap -

In “Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (11) …,” we discussed one of the two main reasons why relationships fail: Miscommunication.

Then, in “Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (12) …,” we began discussing the second main reason for relationship failure: Incompatibility.

Remember, “Compatibility” is the degree in which you and your partner are similar in temperament, well-suited for each other, well-matched, like-minded, etc.

Since we must first know what we really want before we can gauge compatibility, we began the process of identifying personal needs and desires.

We Brainstormed.

We used unbridled imagination to come up with Your List.

We continue the process in this article with the following steps: Prioritizing the items on Your List, Ranking the items, Pruning Your List, and Interpretation.

- Prioritize: Vital or Important? -

Okay. Let’s charge on.

Look at Your List.

Some items will seem to jump off the page. Those items stand out as Vital (can’t live without) items to you. These are the things you absolutely require from your partner.

Other items, while not Vital, are Important nonetheless.

If an item is neither Vital nor Important, it probably would not have made it on Your List in the first place.

But there must have been a reason why you listed it. Don’t delete any items. Keep all of them for now.

Just classify them as at least Important.

- Rankings -

Starting with the “V” items, rank each item against each other. Which “V” items are more vital than others. Rank (number) them in the order of significance to you (i.e., your biggest need or desire is #1, and so on).

Now look at the “I” (Important items).

Of the “I” items, which items are more important than the others? Number them accordingly – beginning with the next number of the last ranked “V” item. For example, if the last “V” item was ranked as #5, the first “I” item should be ranked (numbered) #6.

Again, we are not editing Your List yet. We are simply re-arranging the items to reflect their relative personal significance.

- Pruning: Reality Check No. 1 -

It’s time to begin making Your List match reality – somewhat.

Look at Your List.

Are their any items that even Super Girl or Wonder Woman could not accomplish (e.g., that “Monthly 7-Day Sex Marathon” you listed as “V” item #1!)?

These types of items should be modified or deleted.

Maybe you could modify “V” item #1 to 18 hours?

Next, are there any items that are mutually exclusive? That is, do you have items on Your List that are so different, opposite, or rare that you would be hard pressed to get them from any one person?

Kind of like the tri-lingual, natural blonde, Asian you listed as “V” item #2, #3, and #4?

Decide which mutually exclusive, opposing item is more important. Then scratch the lesser one.

I’d scratch “tri-lingual” and maybe “natural blonde” from the list. That would leave me with a realistic standard: “Asian”.

- Status of Your List -

If you’ve done all the steps outlined in this article so far, you should now:

1. Have a list of your needs and wants (Your List).

2. Each item on Your List should be classified as Vital (“V”) or Important (“I’).

3. All items (starting with the “V” items) should be ranked (numbered) – in the order of significance to you – against each other.

4. Your List should contain items that are humanly achievable.

5. Your List should be free of conflicting, mutually exclusive items.

- Reality Check No. 2: Does she? Can she? -

Look at Your List.

Does your partner (or prospective partner) give you what you want, especially the top-ranked “V” items? If so, great.

Do your realistically believe this blissful state of affairs will continue? Again, if so, fantastic!

If not, why?

Maybe, currently, SHE CAN’T.

Ask yourself plainly; is she capable of giving me what I want?

Let’s say that you may need intellectual stimulation, but she never finished High School, doesn’t like to read, and is quite averse to going back to school. Obviously, your need can not be filled by this particular woman.

What if you crave companionship, but you only see each other a couple hours a day because her and your work schedules conflict?

Or, what if you love outdoor sports and activities, but she avoids sunlight (because she doesn’t want darker skin)?

Accept it. You two are simply not compatible in those areas.

And if an unfulfilled need is a truly a “can’t live without” item, it’s best to move on.

- Will she, will you? -

Look at the things you want, but are not getting.

Is your partner willing to learn how to fulfill your unmet desires? If not, you two will always be incompatible.

Accept it. Move on.

If she is willing to learn how to meet your needs, are you willing to wait for her? If not, you two are incompatible.

Accept it. Move on.

- Reality Check No. 3: Pluses and Minuses -

Assign a Plus (+) to the following items:

1. You are now getting it from your partner. You believe that this is not a temporary thing (i.e., you think you’ll get this need fulfilled or desire met for a long time).

2. You are not getting an item, BUT she is willing to learn how to give it to you AND you are willing to wait for her.

Assign a Minus (-) to the following items:

1. You are not getting it from your partner AND she is not capable to give it, nor is she willing to learn.

2. You are not getting it from your partner; she is willing to learn how to give it to you, BUT you are not willing to wait for her.

In the next article, we continue the process with: Weighing the Pluses and Minuses.

(Continued in “Experiences from ‘The Flow’(14) - Farang: Tipping the Scale. Good or Bad?”)

“Until next time, find ‘The Flow’ and jump in!”

Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

Farang, Asia, relationship, compatibility, prioritize vital, important, ranking, reality, capable, incapable, willing, unwilling.

Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’: From Heartbreak to Happiness”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES...”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes made in Haste.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (4): LOST AND FOUND – Meant to Be?”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (5): “The Stray”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (6): “New Beginnings, Old Endings”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (7) - Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Myth”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (8) Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Reality, Stupidity, and Hard Knocks.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (9): New Girlfriend, New Life.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (10): Farangs and Asians – Polarized Views.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (11) - Farangs: In (or considering) a long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues.”

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive”

“Remember Who You Are!”

“Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Overcome Heartbreak and Learn the Illusive Secret of Happiness.”

(By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or “Carl Pantejo”)

Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com

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About the Author:
He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less than 4 years much later in life – while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 1 year ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a teaching job, and has never left!

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
Founder, Y.N. Vurce Publishing
http://www.ynvurcepublishing.com

Make a Difference

2008-02-21T06:41:00.000-08:00

Author: Muhammad Adnan

Behind a personality, there are factors, which made it so. A different perception on a single object shows how a thought from an individual to other varies. Psychologists believe that early age of human play a major role in personality development and it is how a child learns from the environment. Children always copy their parents and try to behave like them. If parents are reacting on small things this in turns effects their children and this habit begins to develop in their child and similarly if parents are doing injustice with their kids then it is obvious that these kids will never do justice with others when mature. I observed that lack of love from parents produce in children less tolerant and violent behavior however criticizing and torture acts produces less confident & emotional disturb personalities. Children mostly do not learn from what you teach them but by your behavior with them or other persons as they observe you.

It is clear that even a minor irresponsible and non-ethical attitude from parents produces negative effects in children. It was interesting to me that children starts telling lies if you react badly when they tell you truth because it alternate and keeps you happy. I believe that instead to react we should hear them and keep calm on it because whatever it is but is true.

If you show your child respect, love, ethical attitude, harmony and tolerance by doing so then your child must reflect your image. If during development, you do not care in providing your child proper and balanced environment, your child will show its effects in forms of different emotions and habits. There are many other factors, which influence in making of any personality like childhood environment, trait from ancestor genes, and behavior of parents or guardians but providing these is up to you. It is in your own hands how you develop a personality of infant. Instead, to teach you need to shows a positive attitude practically in order to make a difference.

Written by Muhammad Adnan

Pharm-D,

University of Karachi.

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About the Author:
Muhammad Adnan is a Pharm-D student at University of Karachi. Most of his articles reflects his thought based on his own analysis on social issues. He also write articles on psychology, medical topics and current affairs. His most articles are based on drama type writings. Send your suggestions at below email ID:- Email:- ad_farq@hotmail.com

“experiences From ‘the Flow’ (12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues.”

2008-02-20T08:38:00.001-08:00

Author: Carl Pantejo

By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright February 2008

(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.)

“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…”

*Below is the twelfth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in “My Friend Yu – the Prosperity Mentor: Book II,” Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing. Release Date: 2008.

Please Note:

I acknowledge the fact that Western/Asian relationships don’t always consist of a Western Man and an Asian Woman. There are many Western Woman/Asian Man relationships, as well as Man/Man and Woman/Woman couples out there.

But, since the overwhelming majority of Western/Asian couples are composed of a Western Man and an Asian Woman, this article addresses their issues and assumes that they are the primary audience for the information submitted below.

- Square Peg, Round Hole? -

Compatibility: the degree in which you and your partner are similar in temperament, well-suited for each other, well-matched, like-minded, etc.

But how do you gauge compatibility if you don’t really know what you want first?

Ideally, BEFORE you enter into any relationship, especially a Western/Asian relationship, KNOWING WHAT YOU REALLY WANT is vitally important. It’s Primary Mission #1.

If you’re already in a Western/Asian relationship, you still must hash out clearly in your mind what you really want. Otherwise, you certainly will become another statistic, another failed Western/Asian relationship.

And you are doing a great disservice to yourself (and your partner) if you don’t identify what YOU REALLY WANT from the relationship FROM THE OUTSET.

How do you expect your partner to meet your needs if you don’t know EXACTLY what those needs are?

Additionally, you should periodically compare your current state of affairs with your original list to see if the relationship is going in the right direction.

If not, is your relationship going down the tubes? Why?

Can you pinpoint the problem?

Have your needs and desires changed drastically?

Should you get out before it’s too late? Or is it salvageable?

Without this knowledge, you might as well try jamming a square peg into a round hole. It just won’t fit.

And the resulting frustration, energy wasted, and money spent can leave you angry, depressed, heartbroken, bitter, and disillusioned.

So, what do you want? Really. WHAT?

- A Common List -

Below is a list of things (needs, desires, etc.) that men commonly want from women.

By no means is this list all-inclusive.

Look at the list and see which items apply to you. You’ll be using these choices later to build your own, personalized list.

1. Sex with no accompanying relationship

2. Sex with a strong relationship

3. Companionship

4. Spiritual Partner

5. An Atheist

6. Friendship

7. A Caretaker

8. A Recipient of Care

9. An Ego Booster

10. A Trophy Escort

11. A Maid and Cook

12. A Mother for his progeny

13. A Wife

14. A Dominatrix

15. A Sadist

16. An Intellectual

17. A Simple-Minded Woman

18. An Athlete

19. A Model

20. A “Girl Next Door”

21. A Linguist

22. A Younger Person

23. An Older Person

24. Security

25. Freedom

The list of personal preferences can go on and on.

Everyone is different with varied, individual needs and desires. For example, someone might prefer a partner who is interested in (or shares) a certain hobby, activity, or sport. Another person may want a partner with a particular personality (e.g., introvert vs. extrovert). And still others may feel strongly about appearance (i.e., slim/fat, tall/short, blond/brunette, European/Asian, etc.).

The point is this: You have to think hard and decide which items should be on YOUR LIST.

- Aside: In Retrospect -

Before you begin building your own list, here’s an aside:

If I had gone through this process outlined in these articles before (or during) my last relationship, I could have avoided 99% of the headaches and heartache.

Armed with a clear list of things I wanted from my partner beforehand, I would have seen the obvious: We were incompatible. She was unwilling to meet (and most likely, incapable of meeting) my needs; and I, hers.

If I knew what I really wanted and needed, I would have been able to take a step back and see the sad state of affairs - before it was too late.

I would not have stubbornly escalated my commitment to the point of no return (meaning: fearing to cut my losses because I’d invested so much of my time, money, and emotions into the relationship).

We would have ended the relationship much earlier and on better terms. All the negative experiences could have been reduced (or totally avoided).

But the “good” thing about the “bad” things from my last relationship is that I now know what I DON’T WANT; hence, it’s easier to identify what I DO WANT.

I don’t want a liar. I don’t want a cheat. I don’t want an immature brat. I don’t want a slob. I don’t want a spendthrift. I don’t want a slacker. I don’t want a sofa lizard whose only mental stimulation is television. And I don’t want an Escape Artist/Disappearing Act Specialist!

What I do want is an honest, person who is tidy and shares in the overall housework. I want someone who can save money and spend wisely. I want someone who enjoys being around me (friendship). I want someone who shares a mutual belief in telling each other about our whereabouts - not to control each other, but to minimize genuine worry. I want a patient, understanding woman. I want a woman who is keen to learn new things and see different places.

Honesty, neatness, financial responsibility, thoughtfulness, companionship, friendship, humor, and fidelity are all items on my own personal list of needs and desires.

And I’m grateful to say that I now get all of these and more from my partner.

This is largely due to completing the process described in these articles (i.e., communication, honest introspection, brutal questioning and blunt answering, list building, prioritizing, and interpretation - before entering into [and during] the relationship.).

Okay, enough about my situation. Let’s get back to yours.

- Your List -

Take the items that apply to you from the Common List above and begin adding your own, particular preferences. The goal is to personalize Your List with as many of your needs and wants that you can think of.

Brainstorm. Use your imagination.

At this stage, don’t be afraid to be “unrealistic.” Reality checks are built into this process and are further down the line. This step’s main objective is to help you gain insight into your true wants and needs WITHOUT any personal censorship.

Come on. It’s just you and me here; so go ahead. You can be as bizarre as you want!

If you have a “need” for a pornstar-looking, librarian who guzzles your favorite beer, collects rare Sumerian amulets, and plays a great game of golf; put it on Your List!

Next Step?

- Prioritize -

(Continued in “Experiences from ‘The Flow’(13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues II.”)

“Until next time, find ‘The Flow’ and jump in!”

Your Friend in this Intrepid Journey called Life,

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo

Farang, Asia, Thai, language, communication, differences, language, relationship, compatibility, mutual, comprehension.

Note: If you want to read more about Asian and Western cultural differences, finding unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’: From Heartbreak to Happiness”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: FROM RELAPSE TO MIRACLES...”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes made in Haste.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (4): LOST AND FOUND – Meant to Be?”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (5): “The Stray”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (6): “New Beginnings, Old Endings”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (7) - Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Myth”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (8) Living Well? Farangs and Finance: The Reality, Stupidity, and Hard Knocks.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (9): New Girlfriend, New Life.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (10): Farangs and Asians – Polarized Views.”

“Experiences from ‘The Flow’ (11) - Farangs: In (or considering) a long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!

“How Dare She! Out of Desperation I Learned How to Forgive”

“Remember Who You Are!”

“Need to Heal Your Broken Heart? Read on. Overcome Heartbreak and Learn the Illusive Secret of Happiness.”

(By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo and published internet-wide, keyword: [title of article] or “Carl Pantejo”)

Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com

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He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less than 4 years much later in life – while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 1 year ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a teaching job, and has never left!

Carl “J.C.” Pantejo
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Fun Ideas on What to Do on a Date

2008-02-19T06:22:00.001-08:00

Author: KV Chaudhary

Sometimes when you join an online dating site it has been a while since you've been on a date. Then you have people viewing your profile and the next thing you know, you have a date set up. In this article we want to look at what to do on a date if it has been a while since you have been on one.

It's only natural that you would be nervous when it comes time to go on your first date. That nervousness can be quickly be noticed with long pauses during conversation. Sometimes even an awkward attempt at a joke can fall flat.

It's always a good idea to spend first dates in an area where there is not a lot of pressure and you can get to know each other better. This could be something as simple as having a cup of coffee at a local coffee shop or even go into a movie.

One thing you don not need to do is go to an expensive restaurant for dinner on a first date. You may feel like you have to impress your date when they may just be as nervous as you. One thing you can do is find something that interest you both and try getting outside.

Ideas for that would include going to the zoo, star watching, going to a museum, or a historical place. This allows you to both act natural and get to know each other in a very relaxed atmosphere.

You may have to battle the weather depending on where you live. Hoping to do an outdoor activity on a day when it's rainy or snowy isn't always the best idea. For this reason you may want to have a backup plan that could be something as simple as going to a mall and having a cup of coffee there.

Other things that you can do can include going to the bookstore, playing video games, going to a sporting event, going bowling, and things like this. When you do dates like this you can have a good time and be yourself.

There are many different things you can do when you date and your profile will help you plan it. Hopefully you are choosing to go out with someone has common interests as you so therefore you stand an excellent chance of having a good time and doing something that you both enjoy.

There are a few tips on what to do on a date. After you get back in the game, you will find it is really very easy to do and can be a lot of fun as well.

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The Forgotten Art of Kissing

2008-02-18T08:02:00.001-08:00

Author: Brett Smith

Sleeping Beauty knew the power of a kiss. Fated to sleep for a hundred years, she was awoken from her trance by her Prince's lips, and everyone lived happily ever after.

Kissing, snogging, smooching, is an integral part of fairytale mythology, romantic novels and famous films. Who can forget Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman in the dying moments of Casablanca?

But in Western sex-obsessed society, kissing is overlooked as an end in itself. Be honest. When did you last enjoy a really passionate pash?

"Many people, particularly if they're in a long-term relationship, often skip the kissing stage when they begin to make love," says Susan Quilliam, author of Women On Sex. "But it's such a shame—kissing is one of the sexiest, most exciting and intimate things a couple can do."

The deep tongue kiss can be a second penetration, while a light kiss or a brush with your lip across a partner's neck, shoulders or back can spark a rush of erotic reactions through their body. That's the beauty of kissing. It works in all sorts of places.

As Alex Comfort, in The Joy of Sex, writes: "If you haven't at least kissed her mouth, shoulders, neck, breasts, armpits, fingers, palms, toes…you haven't really kissed her."

The way we kiss – like the way we make love – can, over time, become habitual. And with habit, our sensations gradually shut down. So the answer is to shake things up a bit.

"Be inventive," Olivia St. Claire urges in 203 Ways to Drive a Man in Bed. "Use your lips, your tongue, your teeth. Press hard. Brush softly. Suck, lick, and bite. Linger lovingly, press passionately. And respond sensitively to his lip manoeuvres. This is not a solo tune but a lovely, harmonious duet."

When we kiss a lover for the first time our knees go weak and wobbly. It's a wonderful feeling and it's worth repeating. So rediscover the kiss, and explore the erotic potential of your lips.

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Learn How you Can Get Over your Ex With These 3 Tips

2008-02-17T05:34:00.000-08:00

Author: Daniel Amis

Is it taking you along time to get over your ex? Well you're not alone. In fact it's hard for many people to get over their ex. Breaking up with someone isn't easy...but there are some things you can do.

First let's identify some of the problems that may happen because of a breakup.

1. You may compare your last partner to the one you're currently with.

If your expectation of your partners high because of the standard set by your ex, you may get disappointed. Once you start to compare, problems may occur.

2. You don't let your feelings go.

If you split apart because of "hard-to-get over" reasons (i.e. your ex cheated on you), it may take a while for you to give someone your heart.

So what should you do if you've been hurt?

Well you can:

1. Keep high expectations, but don't base them on standards set by your last partner.

2. Take your time with your current partner. It may take a while for you to start trusting again. But if you really want someone to steal your heart, you need to put it out there. But don't rush anything. Take things slow. And remember to give your partner a chance. They deserve an opportunity to prove to you that they're different.

3. Talk to other people. Find out if they've ever been in a similar situation. You may receive words of encouragment. Find a support group or create one of your own.

To say "just get over your ex" isn't nearly enough. If you've been in a long-term relationship or marriage, you have to understand that your current partner and your ex are two different people.

Give him/her the opportunity to treat you better.

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Relationship coach Daniel Amis has helped many people create the relationship of their dreams. He publishes monthly E-zines that's inspiring, fun, and insightful. If you're ready to get the love that you desire, then subscribe at www.relationshipadvice4you.com and get your FREE tips today!

The Young Woman Vs. the Older Woman

2008-02-16T13:31:00.000-08:00

Author: nadia cherubin

The young woman vs. The older woman

They say that a young woman is spoiled and the older woman doesn't need anyone to spoil them because they usually spoil themselves because of the income that some of these older women are bringing home. They usually bring home the bacon, while in power of themselves. Now, some of these young women out here are doing nothing with their lives and not working and still looking for a man to take care of them. These young women are what you call high maintenance and the older woman is very independent and can take care of themselves where they don't need anyone or any man.

In sex and relationships: An older woman is very experienced and some older women may not be able to take the thrashing behind closed doors when having sex whereas, the younger woman might be able to take it. It's pretty simple with that particular subject with sex, because most older women dry up to a point where they need lubrication because of that particular area can't get wet as much as the younger woman's can.

However, some find it hard to climax, and with the younger woman, climaxing is easier for them while driving a man crazy, and that's when the older man starts dating a younger woman and thinking in the back of his mind that a younger woman can satisfy them more than the older woman can. Although, the younger woman may love the thrashing, but some can't handle what comes with the thrashing and penetration and tend to get a little clingy and needy and want to say that they're in love and start to sweat the small stuff. Although, the older women never sweats the small stuff because they're just too busy for all of that nonsense because they're too busy with their careers. In love, a younger woman tends to date older men because they all want that father figure who can tame them and teach them.

Remember: The little girl's first love is her daddy, and if the father is in her life then that only means that she's choosy about the men in her lives, whereas the other young girl's who are irresponsible when it comes to love and is still immature and naive when dealing with men and is not real smart about their decision making and the younger woman is spoiled to a point where they want their way all the time, but what they don't know is that when you throw a fit or temper tantrums, no one will pay you any mind because you acted like a kid by throwing a fit with these attacks thinking you'll get your way. However, an older woman will handle things differently where they won't have to throw a tantrum to get their way, because they normally use what they have, to get what they want.

On the subject of sex again: Today, young girls give a shallow fallatio, and complaining about how it's too much, and the older woman will gag and knowing all the while, that true love is just a gag away. When dealing with a younger man: The older woman will go the extra mile for competition to please her man whereas, the younger woman can and the older woman is willing to do anything to keep her younger man while keeping him satisfied so their man won't wander or stray. However, the younger man will always be satisfied with the older woman because they realize that the older woman is into anything.

Priorities: An older woman knows her priorities and what comes first before anything and can seriously hold down their forte, and the younger woman will just keep living the life of partying and not handling responsibilities, let alone having their own apartments and is not ready for serious relationships while playing too many games. Some men say that younger women are undecided about things in general and still having a child like mind and not making up their minds to make the right decisions in life.

When in relationships: Some young women don't know how to hold down the man, so they get pregnant knowing that they can't take care of that baby because they're babies themselves and end up blaming themselves in the long run.

Newsflash: Love don't pay the bills, or the rent. So get up off your comfort zone and get a job. Don't look for a man to pay your way all the time. Most men love it when they can depend on a woman who can stand on their own two feet and have their stuff together. Some young women are insecure to a point where they do the dumbest things to go through any lengths to please a man which might turn a man off. Now, the older women don't have to do those things to keep a man because they're not insecure at all, but don't have it twisted because they do have some older women who are very insecure to a point where they start to do silly things to trap a man which also turns a man off because as older women, you should know better than to play those same games as the young girls normally do., so no man really takes them serious. An older woman takes takes their lives serious while the younger woman might never take their life serious until it becomes too late. Some succeed in the corporate world and some can't handle what comes when working in the corporate world, they say the young woman would never survive, but so not true. Some young women might be able to handle all the responsibilities that come when working in the corporate world and some can't handle what comes when working in that particular environment and some don't know what they're doing with their money and not putting aside for their future so they really have nothing to build off of.

The young woman vs. The older woman: Ladies are we finally going to see the difference between the younger woman vs. The older woman. Why the older woman is very independent vs. the spoiled rotten young women out there that wants to get their way all the time and living the life of partying and not handling responsibilities that comes with growing up to be that mature young woman that they should blossom into.

It's the younger woman vs. The older woman.

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My first book will be out this summer of 2008.

Planning for your First Date

2008-02-15T09:20:00.001-08:00

Author: Terry Leslie

You can easily plan your date by having the following in mind…

Why?

Where?

When?

What?

How?

We will now go through each of these in detail.

Why?

What are your motives? Were you looking for a quickie? If this is the case, best not to tell her upon first approach. General statements like “I’d like to get to know each other better” means that one thing can lead to another.

But, if you would like to have a longer term relationship with this woman, being more specific and sensitive works best. Go ahead and point out her individual qualities you admire and love, and not focusing just on her looks. Perhaps it is her humor, her kindness to people etc. She will feel that you have then taken the time to really get to know her a little better. This will really impress her.

Where?

This will really depend on both your and her motives the moment you met. If the both of you are in it for the quickie, then it is probably mutually agreed its best you head straight for a hotel room or one or the others home.

However, it’s more than likely that the two of you are probably more looking to know a bit about each other first before sex enters the equation. On your first date, it’s probably best to meet up at somewhere more public so she feels both at ease and safe. A popular restaurant, a café, or a park is probably best.

When?

This really depends on the women and what she is comfortable with. If she is more daring, then the early night is perhaps best for an intimate setting. If she is shy and not used to meeting guys, then a daytime date is probably better.

What?

This depends on her interest as well as yours. Any mutual interest is probably best as the both of you are then comfortable with the setting and activity. It could be bowling, a comedy show, horse riding, ice skating pool, a movie etc.

How?

Most women don’t like to give you her home address until they get to know you better. So do not push to know where she lives.

Ask her if she would be more comfortable meeting you at the place of the date or you picking her up at her place. It is likely better to meet her there, particularly on your first date, not only because she will feel safer but also in case it doesn’t work out and you can end the night if all did not work according to plan. Can you imagine the awkwardness of having to drive her home in silence from the date location?

In the mean time, GOOD LUCK!

OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction” and discover “What do Women Really Want From Men”, check out www.secrets2datingsuccess.com

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Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training.
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Gifts for Her - Make your Woman Feel Special

2008-02-14T08:54:00.000-08:00

Author: Adam Jaylin

Presenting a women with a gift that she will appreciate depends a lot on the relationship a man enjoys with the woman. A man may have various relationships with a woman like a friend, boss, mother, colleague, sister or neighbour. Different relationships required different types of gifts. While a gift may be appropriate for one's sister, it would be equally inappropriate for his girl friend. Moreover, one also needs to be conscious about the personality and profession of the woman he wants to present a gift. One would need to select a different gift for a book lover and an outgoing woman, or a fashion conscious woman and an athlete.

Offering an athletic woman with a bungee jumping session ticket on her birthday will make her delighted. While a teen-aged girl may be overjoyed on getting a soft toy packaged in a special case, a woman in her thirties would prefer a gift basket with a bottle of champagne and some chocolate pieces.

Gift baskets are becoming popular these days as one can put all the necessary items in a single basket. One need not purchase each small item separately that he may be wanting to gift a woman. A variety of gift baskets like gourmet baskets, body baskets, baby baskets and bath baskets are available at gift stores in the UK. It would be nice to present some jewelry to a woman who is in her forties.

One can present a gift to a woman on occasions like birthday, Valentine's Day, marriage anniversary and on the arrival of a new baby in her life. Many retailers have special sections which are earmarked as Gifts for Women. Many retailers in the UK are selling one of its kind gift items like a coke-crate shaped radio and snow dome shaped telephones to the consumers. Several gift stores have come up with innovative gift ideas for her. Many of them are offering customised gift items to the people. These retailers allow their customers to print the photographs of their beloved ones on bed linen, towels and blankets etc.

A man should not wait for special occasions like birthdays or Christmas to present a woman with a gift. A woman would be pleased to accept a gift without any special occasion, only if a man cares to show that he really loves her. One should offer a romantic gift to his lover or girl friend. A romantic gift need not be expensive. A necklace, a costume or a single pretty red rose would make one's girl friend happy. She will cherish such gifts for long. It would still be better if one chooses the woman's favourite colour for rose.

Bouquet of flowers, jewelry and greeting cards are considered appropriate gifts for women. Most young boys exchange love notes with their lovers on the Valentine's day. Most couples present each other with a figure of winged Cupid that is encircled by a hear shaped outline on the occasion of Valentine Day. Older couples may go for an outside family dinner on the occasion of their marriage anniversary. There are numerous other gifts for her that one may present to that special woman in his life. Gifts leave long lasting memories in the mind of a woman. They make a woman joyous, while a man will feel greatly satisfied.

Some of the gifts that cannot be bought with money include gift of trust and smile to one's lover, gift of appreciation to one's spouse and gift of thankful heart for one's parents. One should always try to give a personal touch his gift. A personalised gift will be highly appreciated by a woman and she would always like to keep it with her for as long as possible. For example, one may gift a mug to his friend which has the photographs of both of them embossed on it. One can also gift his colleague with a pen that has her signature engrossed on it. A gift, no matter how cheap it could be, will be highly valued by a woman if it has a personal touch.

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Top Gifts for Valentine's Day

2008-02-13T17:48:00.001-08:00

Author: BOSHart UK

Valentine's Day is a special time for all couples and getting it right is important. Here at BOSHart we are already getting into the romantic spirit and have drawn up our list of favourite gift ideas for February 14th. Pick one of these are you are unlikely to go wrong.

1.Flowers – It may be clichéd and not the most imaginative thing under the sun, but flowers are still one of the best and most popular options. If you are planning to get them delivered then make sure you order in advance and be prepared to pay a premium.

2.Original art – If you want to really do something unique this Valentine's Day then how about commissioning an original piece of art. Nothing could be better than a hand-painted canvas – something to keep and admire for many years to come. Visit www.boshart.co.uk or email info@boshart,co.uk and we will be more than happy to help you pick out something special! Visit our special Valentine's suggestions at www.boshart.co.uk/valentines

3.A nice meal – Valentine's Day is the time to splash out so why not book your partner's favourite restaurant. Add in the element of surprise and you are onto a winner!

4.Chocolates – Who can resist chocolate – especially at this time of year. Valentine's Day is the time for indulgence so go ahead and treat yourself.

5.Perfume/Aftershave – Try and find out if your partner has a favoured fragrance and treat them. If you feeling extra confident then why not try and pick out something new that you know they will love.

6.Day out – Rather than a gift, why not arrange a trip or a day out to a local attraction or event. A concert or a trip to an art museum might be a nice way to spend the day. If you aren't free on the day itself then promise to take your partner out at the next available weekend.

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BOSHart – www.boshart.co.uk – BOSHart is a UK-based art website specialising in abstract artwork . All items are originals, painted to order to a high quality. BOSHart supports and promotes upcoming UK artists including Catherine Smith. For more information contact pr@boshart.co.uk or visit www.boshart.co.uk

Reuniting With An Ex

2008-02-13T08:10:00.001-08:00

Author: Julie Francis

Now, here's a different twist. Years ago you dated someone, but then you separated and drifted apart. Now you have suddenly come into contact once again. You're both single at the moment and decide that hooking up on Valentine's Day would be an excellent way to curb the Valentine blues for both of you.

Maybe this is no bad idea, but remember that whilst this may seem innocent enough, you should tread carefully. Years ago or less than one year ago, this person became your ex for a reason. Agreed, people change but that can work both ways, literally for better or worse.

He or she might not be the person you are expecting them to be. The time that the two of you have spent apart has given both of you room for new opportunities, growth, and different experiences. Perhaps you have even been moving and living in completely different environments from one another, so the one thing to actually expect is, simply, nothing.

You've somehow got in touch with each other and now you are going on a date. It is as simple as that. Don't put yourself through the agony of thinking and wondering whether your feelings and emotions might be exactly the way they used to be. Don't make statements like "But you used to love it when I did that." Look at this person with a new perspective.

This date will almost be like catching up with an old friend and may lead to nothing more than that. The less pressure you put on each other in this situation, the happier the two of you will be.

One other thing is certain though. You must be sure that both of you ARE single or you are playing with very dangerous fire, which can only lead to a very upset spouse or partner!

Even if there is an invitation to join your ex for dinner or drinks on Valentine's Day with their other half, do consider how you should actually deal with this. If there is no animosity or if you are all friends, then by all means go ahead. But if there is any inkling of "I don't really care for his or her new partner", then staying away is definitely a better idea.

If this is the first time you are meeting the other half, keep it polite. Don't accept the invitation with the sole intention of running the person down or to boast that you were definitely a better catch. Take it for what it is and move on. If this new person in your ex's life is really nowhere as good as you, then you'll have the satisfaction of sniggering about this in your own good time!

At all times, stay focused! Your aim is to just to get a date for Valentine's Day, not to get hitched and spend eternity together. Take into account the fact that while you are searching for someone with the intention of having a happier Valentine's Day, the other person may also be doing exactly the same thing. So, beyond Valentine's Day, accept that maybe the two of you are not going to be an item and that this is not going to be the beginning of walking down the aisle.

However, also give yourselves a chance and don't be too cynical. Give the person room enough to make an impression that may just take you both beyond Valentine's Day. Don't set out on the date telling yourself nothing will happen even before you have met the person. As mentioned earlier, there is a reason why you are single, but stop dwelling on it and give this new person a chance. Who knows, this might be your time to get a nice surprise and find that special someone.

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This article was taken from my eBook "Surviving Valentine's Day On Your Own." . Read more by clicking on the top link, includes 12 Things to do if alone on Valentines day. Or Visit... On Being Human There's more to it than you think!

Some Useful Tips for a Successful Relationship

2008-02-12T06:03:00.000-08:00

Author: Marvin Perry

Many people are using online dating as an alternative to meeting new people, people we would never have met had it not been for online dating. The idea of finding an activity partner, soul-mate, or a pen pal is somewhat new to us. However, thousands of people have had success at finding a partner through the use of an online dating site. But how can you guarantee the success of your newly found relationship?

In this article we will give you some useful tips you can follow to improve the longevity of your relationship.

You should date slowly.

All too often many singles get caught up in the heat of the moment and they tend to move a bit faster than they should. Recent studies have proven that singles who date for at least two years before getting married have a significantly better chance of their marriage being successful.

Dating slowly can be difficult. Physical attraction and lust can force couples into a serious relationship before they are emotionally ready for it.

There are many older singles who tend to move faster during a relationship because they believe moving slowly is wasting time. However, it's better to be single than it is to be in an unhappy relationship. You should take things slowly if you are seeking a serious long term relationship.

You should have realistic expectations.

We have all been influenced by the media in some way or another sometimes we may have unrealistic expectations about our relationships. Life can be a complicated and stressful experience, having a good relationship with your partner will not make life easier.

You should always date to please yourself.

We have all been taught that we should not be selfish however, when it comes down to whom you should date the rules may be different. Being selfish is crucial when choosing a relationship partner. If your parents and friends approve of your partner it's great. However, if they do not approve the final decision is yours.

You should date with a purpose.

We all have positive and negative things about us and our personality however, serious personality imperfections deserve special attention. If you are considering a long term relationship with someone you are dating you need to face the facts which has been responsible for many unsuccessful marriages.

If you have been struggling with personal problems while you are dating, they will not go away after you are married, sometimes they get worse.

The belief that problems such as drug dependency, alcoholism, and physical abuse will magically resolve on their own is wishful thinking. It's best to deal with these problems early on in the relationship. If the person is unwilling or unable to change, you should end the relationship and move on.

These are a few tips you can use to ensure the success of your relationship. Dating slowly and creating a solid foundation is the key to success and longevity in any relationship.

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Soul Mates: Discovering Yours

2008-02-11T14:27:00.001-08:00

Author: Joan Marie Whelan

Namaste , a Hindu expression, roughly translates into " that which is of the Divine in me greets that which is of the Divine in you. " And when we reflect on this simple expression, we find that the Sanskrit language of the soul resonates with us all on a deeper, more spiritual level -- and this is how, too, many a soul can reacquaint itself with its identical counterpart.

Believe it or not, our intuition plays an essential role in discovering exactly who our soul mates are. Throughout our lifetimes, we have certainly come upon an individual to whom we're inclined. Suddenly, you feel this sense of "knowing" -- though you've never met that person before. And, it is in that "chance meeting" that we discover how much alike we are. The "chance meeting," however, is no accident; a matter of fact, it is not by chance at all. There are no "accidents" in life. Remember, every encounter and every facet of our lives is laid out for us to explore -- including the journey in finding our soul mates.

Whether or not one believes in the possibility of reincarnation, it is important to note that each of us has at one time or another met an individual to whom we've been drawn like a magnet. Accordingly, our mutual bond helps us to rediscover the life light in each other. Perhaps in a not-too-distant past, we shared experiences and/or love, and that is what has drawn us together. There are NO accidents in these "chance encounters."

But how do you discover your soul mate ? That depends entirely on how evolved you are on a spiritual plane. Euphoric love is such a heightened state of emotional awareness that one could liken this feeling to the ultimate high. And when we have opened ourselves up to invite another into our sacred space of love, we often discover the vast similarities of our likes and dislikes...but that is simply not enough to awaken our soul mate experience. One must resolve to live in an absolute state of awareness, unlike "euphoric love," but that of Divine love to reignite the passion and discovery of one's soul mate.

You see, the difference between a state of euphoria and a relaxed state of heightened awareness is that our sense of heightened awareness is what essentially gives us the innate ability to "see" who are twin soul mate is; not like euphoria -- the beginning stage of infatuation, which can sometimes blind us from the truth of the matter.

So here we are , another Valentine's Day, and we still haven't discovered our soul mate -- don't be discouraged. Many travelers haven't found their soul mate because they've been all-consumed by either euphoria or emotional blockages. But don't despair; there is a way to rediscover your twin flame in the vast expanse that we call Earth: First, we must throw out all preconceptions and misconception of what love is supposed to be. There are no perfect physical unions, but there can be perfect spiritual unions. And when we resolve to love others with absolute love, we discover a whole new realm of life.

If you haven't honed in on your inner wisdom, now is the time to do so. Now ask yourself, "Am I looking for love?" or "Am I seeking my soul mate?" Which of the two do you desire most? If you've decided on the latter and truly want to reunite your soul mates, then you must nurture your inner consciousness. Awaken your mind through meditation, peaceful reflection and gear up for the expedition of your life. If you are intended to meet your soul mate , you will. The intention, however, must coexist in both your mental and emotional being. To achieve this state of awareness, you must be focused on your anticipated result.

How do you know if you've met your soul mate ? Like two small embers, sparks will ignite an inferno of emotions. You will be flooded with a sense of "knowingness" on a very soul-full level . This is not euphoria, rather, a very intense state of emotional, mental, and spiritual unity that transcends the normalcy of physical love. The nicest part of this soul mate reunion is that once you have received it, it remains steadfast in your life. The flames can never be distinguished.

Are you ready to explore and fulfill your destiny with your soul mate? All things are possible through God -- and yes, even finding your soul mate is one of those possibilities . Understand that like all goals in life, the quest for finding our soul mate takes effort and patience. Enlighten yourself by reigniting your life light...the rest will come in time.

Until we speak again, I am

Joan Marie, your Intuition Expert

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About the Author: Joan Marie Whelan, an internationally known intuitive specialist , business consultant, medium, and coach travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and the Manifestation Method with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her much anticipated first book, "Self- Discovery: The Nine Principles to Reveal Your Sacred Gifts" will be published later this year. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariewhelan.com .

St Valentine's Day Symbols

2008-02-11T06:15:00.001-08:00

Author: EveBridge Women Magazine

Long ago romantic symbols of St. Valentine’s used to be hidden in cakes sometimes. Each guest got a piece of cake and if he was lucky there was an emblem in it. The emblem was a symbol of his luck. Sometimes the symbols were put into presents instead of parcels. Rice symbolized wedding. Ring symbolized wedding or engagement. Coin meant a rich marriage. Sometimes fellows used to get a red glove. "To get a red glove" meant a girl liked him.

Heart – once upon a time people used to believe that such feelings as love, luck, anger or fear were hidden inside one’s heart; later they supposed that only love took its place in people’s hearts. Thus heart nowadays is a symbol of love and St. Valentine’s Day.

Red Rose – is a favorite flower of Venus, a goddess of love. Red is a color of strong feelings. That’s why red rose is considered to be a flower of love.

Lace – a hundred years ago women used to carry lace handkerchiefs. If a woman dropped her handkerchief the man near her had to pick it up. Sometimes women used to let their handkerchiefs fall advisedly to get familiar with the man she liked. Soon lace got association with love roman. That’s why nowadays they use casing-paper in the form of lace to pack presents for St, Valentine’s.

Gloves – long ago when a man wanted to marry a woman he asked for her hand. Hand became a symbol of love and marriage, so did gloves.

Rings – in most countries people exchange rings while marriage or engagement. Two or three hundred years ago it was popular to get engaged on St. Valentine’s.

Love birds and doves – colorful parrots living in Africa. Most of them have red beaks. They are called love birds cause when they make couples they sit very close to each other. Doves are considered to be favorite birds of Venus. They never change their partners during the whole life and they take care of their babies together. These birds symbolize love, faith and St. Valentine’s Day.

Cupid is a son of Venus, goddess of love. He can make a person fall in love with his magic arrows.

Nowadays we have more symbolic presents dedicated to this day, particularly teddy bears, Valentine’s cards in the form of hearts, chocolate, sweets, perfume, jewelry heart shaped and all the rest that can be associated with love and romance. To make a good present to your beloved find out what he or she loves most and associates with this holiday. If your relations have just got started you can preset something from those mentioned above and your beloved will be delighted.

Love and be loved.

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10 Romantic Ways To Propose Marriage

2008-02-10T18:53:00.000-08:00

Author: Jason Parker

For any man when it comes to asking the woman they love to marry them they need to come up with a way that will truly sweep them off their feet and get them saying yes. Certainly, when it comes to finding romantic ways to propose to the woman you love the internet is a great place to get some ideas from. Below we offer you some ideas, which you may want to consider using when thinking of proposing to your girlfriend in the future.

1. Why not recreate the first date that you went on with them. Not only will this bring back lots of happy memories of that very special day but will also get them in the right mood when you do finally propose. Many women will appreciate the effort that a man has gone to in order to recreate a time that was extremely special and important to them.

2. Why not go about planning a surprise picnic in a spot that you both like and which again brings back happy memories of when you first started going out together. To further add to the romance of the occasion why not spell out "Marry Me" using some stones or seashells (if at the beach).

3. Another very romantic way of proposing to the woman you love is by cooking a meal that they enjoy for them. Then during it why not hand her a glass of champagne, into which you have placed the engagement ring.

4. If you are going to be proposing to your partner at Christmas then why not arrange for her to come to your place to see your Christmas tree. But rather than having it decorated in the usual way just have the lights on it along with one small decoration being the engagement ring.

5. Another great idea for a romantic marriage proposal is to buy a charm bracelet, but instead of the usual little charms on it arrange to have the words "Marry Me" spelled out on it instead.

6. If you really want to do something a little more different but still romantic then get yourself a box of children's Valentine's Day cards. Then in each one place a different message until she comes to the very last one in which you have written "Will You Marry Me".

7. If you have a girlfriend who likes chocolates then why not buy her a box of her favorite ones (preferably in a heart shaped box). Then remove one and instead replace this with the engagement ring.

8. Another way of proposing marriage romantically to the woman of your dreams is by buying a dozen red roses and tie the ring onto the bouquet. Then when she sees it ask her to marry you.

9. However another really great romantic proposal is by getting a single red rose and then just gently place the ring inside its petals before carefully handing it to her. As soon as she moves towards the rose in order to smell it, she should see the ring and at this stage you can ask her to marry you.

10. Another way of proposing romantically to your partner is to first speak with her father and then with all those around who are important to her ask her to marry you.

Hopefully these 10 romantic ways to propose marriage will have given you food for thought.

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Jason Parker is a relationships expert, author, and owner of St Valentine's Day Gift Baskets Dot Com where delightful gift baskets abound.