I only barely started to see the patterns. There probably are a lot more a woman look for in a long term relationship, but knowing a few important things would give us a good start.

Be the Author of Her Drama

Women want a man who leads in the relationship. He should be the director of her drama, the one who introduces fun conversations to stimulate her mind and emotions, and the leader who leads her each step of the way in a smooth manner in day to day life.

What comes as a pleasant surprise to me recently is that, men don’t need to be good looking, highly educated, or make a lot of money to be attractive to women. These are the “big tickets” items. Men look at big tickets items, but women take account of the small things in daily life. If you have a lot of money, it only counts as 1 out of 100. If you have a good look, that also counts only as 1.

The good thing is that, if you make a good joke, or a stimulating conversation that enriches her day, that counts as 1. It means just as much as the big item. It’s easy to score if you have the skills to lead her in small things, such as the skill of leading the conversation and keep it fun and stimulating, and you will keep scoring.

Provide Security through Structure and Boundary

Women’s emotional circuit is stronger than her logical circuit. She relies more on her intuition and social instinct to make decisions. If you make her feel uncomfortable, or if she senses that something is off, then to her something must be wrong. Men often make the mistakes of trying to convince their women that nothing is wrong using logic, but the truth is, they need to make her feel that way.

What a man must do is to provide the boundary, and structure for his woman. He shouldn’t be dictated by a woman’s emotions. He shouldn’t be affected by her drama, but to be an anchor, a stronghold, a pillar… who isn’t shaken in any non-peaceful situation. This makes his woman feel safe. She would feel like he can remain calm and confident in any situation. She feels like he is somehow in control when her world is shaken. The boundary and structure that the man provides make her subconsciously feels that he is taking care of things, and her. Often time, she would feel like her volatile emotions is overwhelming, but if a man shows that he is unaffected and confident, he becomes her support—a calming and authoritative presence.

Exercise Authority 

In my last post, “What Attracts Women to Men?”, I listed some specific things that make a man attractive. In this post, I want to focus on the key elements—authority.

This one word pretty much cover everything women want in a man. It’s politically incorrect, but it’s true.

Today’s men have became a lot more feminised, because of social conditioning. It is important for us to rediscover what it means to be a man.

If you try to exercise authority when you are clueless and inexperienced, you will meet a lot of resistance and failures. People will react to you when you are not using it properly. Try to exercise your authority over your wife, children, or even your pet dog, and they will put up a fight, and you might fail time and again, but if you persist, and continue to improve, they will eventually love you for it.

Woman Doesn’t Need a Man Who Mirrors Her

If your love interest tests you with unreasonable demands, or throws a tantrum after another, or disrespects you, try this—walk away. Don’t give her attention. Don’t get mad. Get distracted. Find something else to do to occupy your mind. Try to disappear for a while, and you will be surprised that she will usually comes back and gives you more compliance in the future. She will get along with you better. She will appreciate you more. I say this assuming you are a good person in general, but always get walked over by your loved ones. However, if you are a bad person, your loved ones might find relief when you walk away.

Don’t try to win her over by becoming as emotional as she is. Don’t return tantrum for tantrum. Don’t go down to her level when she agrues with you. Don’t be louder than she is. Don’t tell her how depressed you are because of her actions. Instead, discipline her by walking away, praise her if she behave, and stick with your boundary. Don’t compromise easily. For example, if you try to make it a point for you and your woman to be punctural, then don’t wait for her for 30 minutes when she is late. Be assertive and princinaled if you have made up your mind and you want her to know it.

Most women don’t want another woman to be her husband. If you are essentially a woman inside a man’s body, she will lose respect for you.

Be Engimatic

Don’t give her everything right from the beginning. Reveal yourself little by little. Bait her. Get her interested.

If you want to share your vulnerable side with her, don’t share too much. Don’t seek approval and understanding, but each time after you share a little weakness, share a bit more about how you overcame your problems successfully. This will cause her to want to be vulnerable to you too. She would share something about herself in exchange of what you share. Also, she would feel like she wants to fix your problems (if they aren’t too big). She would feel like there are connections between you two, and she would crave more.

The whole process is a bundle of push and pull, cold and hot, and one step forward two steps backwards. It’s yin and yang. You lead, and she follows. It’s like dancing. Women love to dance, because they likes to be led.

You can’t just suddenly tell her how much you love her—that you would die for her and all the crazies. She won’t believe it. You have to make her feel like she earned your affection bit by bit. You have to lead her little by little. Imagine you are playing with a cat. You use the string toy to bait the cat as it plays with it.

Don’t be boring. Orchestrate a complex emotional journey for her.

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I have been going out and meeting more people recently. It gives me opportunities to practice the materials I just read, and make sense of a lot of things about women that escaped me before. It feels amazing how I can suddenly talk to a bunch of people, guys and girls, and get them to laugh (Social dynamic isn’t just for pick up) and open with me.

It feels wonderful to be able to get a bunch of women to interact with me when I only meet them on the street for the first time. Before, sometimes I passed by a woman who stared at me, and wondered, what if we were able to talk? Would that be a life changing incident? (as in if she might turn out to be my future wife?)

In future posts, I will post reports on how I meet and talk to girls in elevators, malls, coffee shops, bars… I am still practicing and learning. If I can talk to women under the most difficult situation, I could surely overcome other social challenges and enjoy more abundance, joys, and opportunities. I will pray and think about how to develop and utilize this skill set further to evangelize.

When I finally read the book, “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists”. It is a chronicle of a man who was frustrated with “forced celibacy” because he was bad with women, and later became a womanizer… not very godly, but I extracted a lot of truth from this very unlikely source. The book overall is quite educational, for examples, the author relayed a couple of womanizers he knew who grew tired of the lifestyle, and sought spiritual help; and the world greatest pickup artist struggles with bipolar— even the most beautiful women cannot fill his void.

The author himself concluded toward the end of the book that what most men want is just one special woman. It is quite similar to the Book of Ecclesiastes, in that King Solomon counted his numerous achievements, including his many concubines and wives, but all his accomplishments are “meaningless, a chasing after the wind.”

I am not saying the following ideas are 100% appropriate to implement, but in terms of attraction, these are the real stuff. They will create immense attraction in women if a guy knows how to apply them. I am not saying these ideas are sufficient to help you keep a relationship, but it certainly can help you start one.

Use them at your own discretion. There is a time and place for everything. You sure don’t need me to remind you that, for example, sex is for marriage!

Here I want to list them out.

Proverbs 30:18-19

What women want in a man?

Popularity with Women

I actually heard about this from a woman first, and later verified it through several other sources.

Women find popular men attractive. The more other women like a man, the more women will find that man attractive. They behave more competitively around a guy who has options. The reason of that is because women trust other women. If they perceive that other women favor this man, their subconscious would deduce that those women must have screened out other men and selected this person based on some good criteria.

One time I had dinner with a cute girl, and I found out some pretty women were checking me out, and it never happened before when I was alone.

There is no limit to how many girls you can have in your company. The more girls favoring you, the more attraction. I know it’s hard to believe, but you can literally go on a date with two women and get more attention from other women because of that. Yes, the society will condemn you. The Bible says it’s wrong, and it can be wrong, depends on the context (if you simply hang out with a couple of female friends, then it isn’t wrong. I am not advocate for polygamy), but I am not telling you to abuse this knowledge, I am just telling you the truth about attraction.

However, don’t make the mistake of becoming a woman pleaser. Don’t compete with other guys, especially your brothers in Christ, for attentions from women. I have seen so many guys who do that, and it always turns out to be counterproductive.

Well Groomed and Dressed

Women don’t primarily look at the physical attractiveness of a guy, but they want to see a man well groomed and dressed. Women like shiny things and fashions, so they put them on themselves. However, these things actually work better on guys, as guys in general don’t really look at clothing and shiny things, but women do. Afterall, in nature it is usually the male who “peacock”, not the females.

If a man wears perfume (not cologne), it actually attracts women, because it makes women feel like that man is popular with women, as they would unconsciously feel that this guy must have got those smells from other women.

They are Attracted by a Board Range of Things in Men

Women fall in love with men for many reasons—social grace, humor, masculinity, paternity… In contrast, men fall in love with women for a more narrow range of reasons.

Interestingly, everything that women find attractive in men are good things that worth to acquire.

Don’t ask women what they like in men, because sometimes what they tell you and what actually attract them are entirely different. I can certainly testify that with my own experience. If you pay too much attention to what women said, instead of observing what they do, or learning from the boys who know what they are doing, then you are doomed to fail. Your heart will break into a million pieces.

Make Them Laugh

Don’t go on and on with your Mr. Nice Guy speech. Don’t hide behind the good guy image. Show some personalities and good humor. They will feel more safe around you and find you genuine. If you are being nice all the time, it will work against you for a lot of reasons, because: 1) it feels fake, 2) you are just like hundreds other good guys, 3) they feel like you must have a psychopath side you are trying to hide, 4) it’s boring, 5) you seem needy.

There are probably more, but I don’t want to think too hard tonight.

If you make girls laugh, then it makes it easier for them to find you attractive, and listen to what you have to say.

Touch

One guy told me girls like to be touched. He said if you touch the back of their neck, like the way you pet a cat, they will act like a cat. They will enjoy it so much. When I first heard about it, I was like, “it’s so wrong! how dare you said it so openly in a Christian setting!” But at least it’s true information, unlike many stuff that religious leaders say, which are irrelevant and pseudo-biblical.

Don’t touch a girl sexually. It is counterproductive, let alone illegal and unbiblical! If you destroy the comfort of a woman, you also destroy any possibility of hearing from her again.

Many women find French and Italian guys attractive. These men also touch much more comparing with men from other cultures. We should study them to find out how they touch. To touch a girl without creating discomfort requires skill. You can certainly learn how to have more touch when interact with female, without coming across as a pervert.

Build a Castle

Women don’t want a prince to intrude their social space and “rescue” them. They don’t want strangers near their tower, even though they are supposed to be imprisoned in that tower, with a monster guarding it.

What they look for is a man with a big castle, big enough for her to want to go in and live there. They want your life to be more exciting than theirs, before they will align with you. If your life is boring and mediocre comparing with theirs, they will not find you attractive.

This castle doesn’t have to be tangible. You don’t really have to have a lot of friends, wealth, and things going on in your social life, but you need to present your life better, or show potential to lead a meaningful life.

If you have a profile on an online dating site, for example, pictures of you doing something interesting or being in an interesting place will attract much more attention from girls than pictures of you standing alone (especially self-shot pics).

Leader of Men

Women like leader of men. If you are in good term with other men, and they like your leadership, then your access to the women in their circle is clear.

Good male friends will introduce you to other women, and financial opportunities. Don’t focus on pleasing women, but instead focus on becoming the kind of man other men would respect. It’s a long term personal growth.

Don’t do anything to undermine your fellow men. It will backfire on you. A high quality man must be above that.

Social Standing

A man who can hold a court in public is attractive. In women’s eyes, your social skill determines the survivability of yourself and those you protect. Your ability to mobilize other men and resources to accomplish something determines how attractive you are in women’s eyes.

I notice this in my life. Guys, we have to do what we say. Whatever we say we will accomplish, accomplish them. Don’t leave so many tasks half done.

Women look at what we do, not just what we say. What we can accomplish determines our social standing.

Body Language and Tone of Voice

Our body gestures, postures, and tone of voice have a lot to do with attraction with women. Poor body postures, and fast talking (not loud enough, or ugly accent) can destroy attraction very quickly.

The subconscious of women is trying to calculate your value. If you have great postures and tone of voice, it indicates that you have good social skill, and probably successful.

Their intuition is often accurate.

Non Needy and Ready to Walk Away

You can’t win over a quality woman with strategies along these lines: Always be there, buy her gifts or dinner, body languages that suggest neediness, text or email her a lot more than she does to you, giving her compliments before she earns them…

Everything along those lines suggest that you have no other options. Women don’t like a man with little options. If  you won’t walk away, that shows that you are needy, instead of being loyal. Sadly, it is universally true for Christian women or non-Christian women.

You have to always show that you can walk away any moment (during the attraction building phrase, not during marriage). You are not there to worship her. You see plenty of fishes.

Mr Nice Guy is just a strategy, and a very bad one. Don’t cry about it when you fail with the Mr. Nice Guy approach. No one is just a nice guy. There must be something passionate and interesting inside every man. We must not be shy to reveal our true self before an attractive woman.

Checking Girls Out in a “Predatory” Manner

Wherever you are, don’t eyeball every woman and look for a good one to approach. Don’t wait for more than 3 seconds before you talk to a woman who interests you, otherwise, you will look predatory, and people can sense it. It looks weird.

I know for myself it is very true. As a single guy, I often find myself in an awkward situation when I see a girl who “looks spiritual”, but I am not sure what to do, and it takes me a lot of time to summon the courage to approach her (if she isn’t Christian, then I can share Gospel).

I just learned recently that what I should do is to talk to people who cross my path. If I have the time and energy, then I should just initiate a conversation. First, I begin with a smile, and then with an opener, maybe a story that may interest him or her.

There is a whole world of knowledge of how to open up a stranger, or a bunch of strangers, and continue to build up the rapport to the point that they want to be your friends and give you their contact information.

It is something that worths pursuing. In 5 to 10 years, this skill will pay a lot of dividends. Time is passing anyway, so I might as well build a useful skill set with that time, so that in a few years I would be in a better place than I am right now.

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There are so much more about attraction and as of this writing I am still learning in a very rapid rate. It seems that God is bringing me to a new stage of life where he feels the need to teach me how to be a man.

I have failed to attract the few girls I ever loved (I liked each of them too much I wasn’t myself. I fell into the Mr. Nice Guy trap). I don’t foresee how things will change for the better if I stay the way I was—an ignoramus of women.

I have came down from the high horse—the old thinking that someone will come along if you are “spiritual” enough. In fact, I learned so much more about evangelism by learning what women are attracted to in a man.

The qualities they find attractive in a man are very good qualities to acquire. Simply by going to church in a conventional way won’t guarantee you those qualities. A man must go out and face the real battles to acquire them, not by sitting behind the walls of church.

One of the crises Christian men face is that we don’t know how to attract women. It shouldn’t be a problem if we do church the way Jesus and his apostles did it (as a lot of qualities listed in this post are qualities they demonstrated). Unfortunately, the mainstream churches mostly replace the true Gospel with many invented doctrines, and their own traditions. It’s easy to find an “elder” from many churches who knows very little about the Bible.

I don’t believe that God will just work out everything for you one day, and bring you your future wife when you have many bad habits that kill attraction. Everyday God is bringing people into our life, and it’s up to us to approach them and show them God’s love. Among those people you touch, your future wife will most likely be one of them. You don’t know when it will happen, but when she shows up, you better be ready. You will only be ready after a lot of “training”. It can take hundred of hours, even thousands, to become the quality man that is attractive to woman.

Single Christian men are watching helplessly as Christian girls date outside of the churches—as they go out and marry unbelievers, “bad boys”, and even muslim men! (can be other cult group or religions, not just muslim) The religious leaders teach us to wait, but the longer we wait, the more we see the girls leaving the churches and having their hearts captured by men of the world.

Fathers are losing their children and wives. They are raising teenagers who grow cold to God. They struggle with marital problems. They are not in control of their lives.

Even pastors are getting abondoned by their wives, on tops of other problems they are facing such as health and finance.

1 Timothy 3: 4-5

⁴ He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of fullrespect. ⁵ (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)

As a Christian man, I myself recently realized that, maybe I am not “waiting” for any special girl, but am more like “benching”, sitting on the sideline as the battles turning against us Christian men. For example, every special girl I met eventually went for someone who is not of the faith, and one girl I loved actually gave herself to a typical bad boy. I was there the whole time, praying for her (the way I did for previous love interest), and prayers worked, but everything I learned about what it meant to be a good Christian man failed when it came to relationship.

I was not able to bring any of these girls home. I was not able to attract any of these girls, who have tons of potential, to be my biblical help mate. Yet, these girls were willingly sacrifying everything for the “bad boys”.

I thought the one was out there, and I just have to wait. Now, I realized that maybe it wasn’t really about meeting the one, but more about some of the common Christian men mistakes I made.

Something is up, but I was too brainwashed by the typical, emasculating church culture to see beyond that.

To be a Christian man who wields control over his life, he must be couragous to live above the religious dogma that the mainstream churches impose upon us. Somehow we were socially conditioned into boring Mr Good guys, and failed to live up to our full potential as men. We do what we think good men should do, and what the religous leaders taught us to do, instead of what the Bible says.

People who are looking for the fathers, and godly men to look up to, find us boring and feminient. We let everyone vote for where to eat after church. We pay our due and live from pay cheque to pay cheque in a boring job, instead of following the dreams that God put in our heart. We pay lip services in the church, instead of standing for the truth. We lose our manliness. Women don’t find it attractive, and our children can see through our inconsistency and hypocracies.

No wonder many women find other men attractive. It’s not just about money, success, or look. A girl can go through hell for someone she falls in love with, as long as her man keep doing things that attract her in the first place. This is why there are always women who marry missionaries, who suffer proverty and minister in the most remote corners of earth.

I feel like I have found the right direction to the solution. The key is most likely this—authority. Jesus is a man of authority. In his time on earth, he attracted many people to him because of this authority he demonstrated.

Matthew 7:28-29

²⁸ When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, ²⁹ because he taught as one who had authority, and not as their teachers of the law.

It’s true, we lack authority these days. We are shy to use whatever authority we are given, in our family and other areas of our life. Jesus, however, knows how to use it and he uses it at the right time all the time.

Yesterday, I read about a dating guru who taught about authority. He said many men are giving away their power, instead of exercising it. He said the media has brainwashed men so bad they have become “girly”, and women can’t respect them, even though society would have us believe that women want “girly” men that the media portrayed. By exercising authority properly, he was able to attract a lot of attractive women. I don’t know if that’s true, but something in my spirit tells me that it probably is. My common sense and personal experience tells me it makes sense too.

As I learn more about this, I might blog about more about how to go out and meet girls for Christian single men (we must also go out and pray for the sick, preach the Gospel, and perform miracles, like the Bible teaches us to) I think it’s realistic and important to talk about this. I used to live in a cocoon, thinking if I am spiritually enough, somehow she would show up, but time and again, girls with potential did show up, and they left me alone. Maybe God did bring the right girl into my life, but it was just me, who was not man enough for her.

I realized that I have watched too much Korea love drama (half joking but half serious) to be the man that God wants me to be. Hollywood’s idea of ideal men are unrealistic and unbiblical too, that’s why in real life those of us who naively follow the scripts they give us fail miserably.

God designed men to be like king David, Samson… those manly men! They are not ashamed to talk loud and stand out.

It’s time for us to find out what needs to change, so we can free ourselves from the cultural and religious programming that surpasses our manhood.

I have been going out more too. I was not afraid to approach girls anymore. I used to be very timid around women, but I have been able to share Jesus with many of them. I no longer care about what they think—even if they suspect ungodly intentions of me (they are the one who need salvations! ha), which I used to hate when girls do that to me. For the sake of Gospel, I was able to go out more and be myself.

The goal is the same—to build churches that are more like the first century churches of Act. If I only preach the Gospel to men, then after they convert whom are they going to marry?

I decide to wrap up the diet journal today, because I have already done what I planned to do, even though the result wasn’t 100% what I expected.

Maybe I have been eating something that feeds the Candidas? If I am, I don’t know what it is.

I am suspecting that my mercury filling maybe the culprit. I am going to remove this one and only mercury filling in mouth, and see if I am going to get even better. I already had some good result about 10 days into the diet. If the yeast is totally gone, it must be even better!

I really pray that the Lord protect me through the mercury filling replacement procedure. I am going to look for a good dentist for this. The filling area is not small, so I hope that the alternative material will be able to do the job, and the removal of the old filling isn’t going to hurt that tooth.

If it’s going to cost a small fortune, then only God can provide. Right now I have been making more money since the diet began, but if it’s a thousand dollar dental bill I can’t afford it as of now.

Each time I bite, the filling is releasing mercury vapor! Mercury vapor sure would affect the brain in negative ways. It certainly explains a lot about me…

But I am hoping that once all the heavy metal posioning and yeast are gone, I would regain a much more healthy brain.

So my next quest is mercury amalgam removal.

Last Friday I got a rum and some cheese, and it became obvious that my mind was less sharp since, and it resumed a couple of days later. Alcohol and cheese are foods for yeast, so it’s a big no.

See how easy it is for most of us to be trapped? The common mercury fillings that people used to get a lot, combined with the epidemic yeast overgrowth that many people have, are depriving them of optimal health. Those who are trapped are underperforming spiritually, mentally, and physically, but most of them won’t see how serious the problem is, because they have got so used to this really bad condition. For people who are lucky enough to be not in this trap, they have sharper minds and have more advantages to help them get ahead in life.

Anyhow, I will probably fast for God soon.

Today is my 6 to 7 th days since I started to take the anti-fungal, candidas cleansing kit, but so far so good, nothing too violent in terms of the dying off reaction.

Somedays I experienced more brain fog, fatigue, or gas problems more than the other days, and that was it. The white plague is still on my tongue, which means the yeast overgrowth is still a problem. The yeast is supposed to be gone after 15 days, so I will see what happens.

My craving for carbohydrates decreased to a very comfortable level. I don’t feel the urges at all. My appetites for foods also decreased in general. I have 2 children legs a day on average, plus the green juice, and that was it.

I feel there is a greater ability in me to surpress distractions, and focus on what I want to do. I have a greater motivation to make money, and more positive emotions to enjoy the process, whereas before I often worried or felt depressed about many things related to work. Overall, I make a lot more money since the diet started.

When you get healthy, especially in the brain, work becomes so much more enjoyable. My social life becomes more natural and smooth too. I have more energy and spontaneity to deal with people. I feel more ready to deal with social challenges. In fact, social life is no longer a challenge, but it became something that stimulates positive emotions.

I went out to evangelize to people more often. Time doesn’t feel half as long as it used to when my diet improved. I didn’t have to push myself through the process. I still had to take time to summon courage and what not before reaching out to a stranger, but the entire process seems much easier comparing to before. It may have to do with past experiences and training, but I think the diet definitely had a lot to do with the recent boost in street evangelism performance. I just feel more relaxed. The depression and anxiety aren’t bothering me as much as before, and I am more able to focus on the moment.

However, sometimes I am still forgetful and experiencing “brain glitch”, such as miscalculate very simple math, zone out while doing important things (such as driving), or misplace appointment on my calendar.

The good thing is, these glitches are occuring less often these days, and I can work longer hours.

The future is looking good. But I couldn’t help but wish that I started having this understanding about diet and doing it much earlier.

Today I feel no craving for sugar in any shape or form. I was busy so I only drank one cup of the green juice for breakfast, and that was it, but the entire day I wasn’t hungry at all.

I think that soon I might be able to fast for an entire day with just water and don’t feel a thing. I will wait until all the yeast overgrowth is gone before I do that though, and it will take approximately 12 more days to accomplish that, according to the candidas cleansing kit manual.

I was not dying to buy my beloved duran fruit as I usually did during a  time like this (abstained from sugar for a while). I felt more alert, even though the scattered brain-ness was still there. It was a feeling of clean and clear.

More Social and Money Making Activities

Socially, I have been able to ask friends out more. I have more desires to meet people. It is just automatic. The moment I sensed that I needed to meet new people, get their contact, or ask someone out, I just did it. There was no lethargy or lack of motivation that stood in the way. I have more tutoring works than ever, and I have been able to juggling the schedule really well.

I have much less anxiety and depression, which helped me handle more money-making activities such as tutoring. I no longer get deterred by anxious thought. I have more energy to advertise myself and get new clients.

Creative and Intuitive

Last Friday, I did an impromtu stand up comedy before a weed smoking crowd, a tough room they said, but by God’s grace I was able to make many people laugh. I believe that the diet helped too, because everytime I got hungry for a day or two I often became more creative.

I feel that my ability to connect useful ideas and people together improved. I am able to intuitively grasp the situations, quickly come up with things that I have learned in the past that are relevant for the situations, and put them together in a productive way. I am able to tell who are the right people to get help from when I want to do something. They would just show up in my mind. Or, when I meet some talented people, I am able to come up with good project ideas that we can work on together.

For example, I have been working as a part time janitor lately, and during the diet I suddenly had this sense of certainty that I HAD to talk to my manager about starting my own cleaning company. I did and he was very eager to help. Just like that and I will probably create my own janitor job so I can earn more and have more stable hours. I will see how it goes.

Excited about the Future Result!

I had similar improvements in the said areas five years ago when I did fasting more often, and these improvements lasted long enough for me to achieve some great things that I was never able to achieve before. However, the yeast (candidas) was already there even back then. What level of mental and spiritual potential will I uncover if the yeast is finally gone? I am excited to know.

I have made a lot of mistakes. I ate too much “disguised” carbohydrate. Like I said earlier, the candidas can trick your mind into eating things that don’t look sugary, such as potatoes, but are in fact candidas beloved foods. Sometimes I eat out and they always have some carbohydrate foods, such as rice, potatoes, bread, and even dumpling skins!

I didn’t recognize the dumpling skin as a candidas food until today! It was made of flour. Any powdery or starchy foods can turn into sugars very quickly when digested, so they do fuel the candidas.

Now I know eating even just a little bit of these wrong foods here and there is enough for the yeast colony to survive.

I should have stuck with just protein and the green juice (which is VERY delicious, after using the Vitamx. I am quite sure that fruits won’t feed the yeast, so its okay to have fruit juices.

At the beginning of this diet, I thought the battle won’t be so hard, because I am still eating, instead of going cold turkey such as a water fast, and the fruits should help me curb the craving for bad carbohydrate, but I was wrong. The craving was still very strong, even though I ate fruits.

I would feel tired sometimes when I shouldn’t be for someone my age. My sleep pattern is irregular, and when I am off any carbohydrates or starchy foods that the yeast loves, I would feel the craving and fatigues. I would feel so tired that I need to get a sugar fix!

I have always been like that, but during this diet it became so much more obvious. I now can tell where the voice that told me to get sugar or disguised sugar (“go eat some shrimp dumpling it wont hurt”) was from.

Comparing with what other people are experiencing during their candidas die-off, I have a much easier time, but still it is hard somehow. Or maybe the die-off is yet to happen because I wasn’t doing this diet 100% right?

I slept well the first few days, but one day (day 11) I went out with a friend and drank a cup of milk tea (dairy is bad for yeast), and the following nights I wasn’t sleeping well. It wasn’t insomina, but the sleep quality was bad. It was a restless sleep. And I won’t go to bed that night until early morning, doing unproductive things like browsing the Internet. My mind went blank quite a lot during wakeful hours, and I had frequent fatigues. When I am like that, I am not very motivated and productive in general.

So from now on I have to stop eating carbohydrates! I can foresee that tangible fatigues in the days ahead—it would be so tangible that I can feel that something within me is gone. It’s like a ball of energy jumping out of me. I feel it at times and I am sure that if I continue to starve the candidas, I would feel that way more often.

One of the symptoms of my yeast-caused ADD is underarousal. I often feel bored and unmotivated. This symptom would probably become much more obvious during the yeast starvation in the days ahead.

So I Bought CandiGONE—Candidas Cleasning Kit

I mentioned in day 3-6 that I decided not to buy the kit, but today I think that it is way too hard to just starve the candidas to death. It would be better for me to suffer a quicker die-off than a slower one, because the candidas will fight for their life every step of the way. It can be an ugly battle, so at least I can make it a short one.

I don’t want to take one step forward, and then a few steps backward, by “accidentally” eating a candidas food like I have done so many times during this diet.

I will do a review on this product after the cleanse. I read the user reviews on amazon for this kit and they are great.

Vitamix is Fabulous

My mom bought the vitamix. At first I thought it was a waste of money. We already had the Osterizer blender. However, when I used it to blend my green juice, the result is fantastic. The mix is perflectly grinded into a powdery soup. All the ingredients are perfectly mixed together in their finiest form. I don’t know it can taste better when they are perflectly mixed. I thought they would be all the same once they enter the stomach, but I was wrong. The texture of the juice is creamy. It made a noticable difference.

The Poops

I have been pooping more often than before, because of the green juice(more like soup). Today, I see some nasty things coming out with latest poop. I am happy to see that so many toxin looking stuff came out. Maybe it means the diet is working. If you are a sufferer of candidias, you may experience constipation often. I pooped at least once a day on average (only occasionally more than once), but now I poop at least 3 times when I remember to drink the green mix that day.

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Will I face a worst candidas die-off? The hardest things that the candidas caused for me are depression, boredom, and fatigues. If I am bored, I often can’t help but seek excitement by doing things that I don’t want to do. The fatigues are bad because I couldn’t do anything, and it feels painful and guilty to not do anything. It is very tempting for me to seek that sugar fix and other stimulations when I am extremely underaroused.

I didn’t pray as often as I would like during this diet. Perphaps I was more distracted than ever, and that maybe due to the die-off.

The very nature of the die-off symptoms make it hard for the sufferers to persist beyond the die-off. It is easy to give up when the yeast fight back so hard. But I will carry on.

The yeast really took over my brain, and it began a long time ago. It was a mental prison but for the longest time I didn’t even know it was there.

The strange thing is that it would make me crave some foods, but it also makes me forget they are sugary. How devious! It’s like they actually have a mind of their own. For example, in the last 3 days I had eaten fries, which fed the yeast as french fries are potatoes, and potatoes turn into sugar very fast once we consume it. The moment they are starved, they will plant in your head the images of foods they want you to consume.

Today I even walked into the beer store! Was it a coincidence? I normally don’t drink at all. I was just waiting for a bus and felt bored so decided to go inside the beer store to hang out for just a little. Beers are products of yeast. It can fuel the candidas. The yeast in my system knew what it was doing for sure, when it tried to urge me to drink beer.

I am still drinking the green juice and eating quality protein such as fishes, beef, and chicken. I still try to avoid sugar as much as possible.

Maybe it was those fries that have been keeping the candidas alive to this day! D’oh!

More Self-realization

It suddenly came to my mind how many good ideas I had and relatively little I was able to carry them out. I had so many good ideas, but I couldn’t handle a brief period of boredom while carring out my plans.

Each day I spent so much time seeking intellectual and emotional stimulation. I don’t know if it is good or bad yet. Maybe one day the things that I was compelled to do due to this symptom will turn out to be extremely useful. For now, I want to be able to act upon my knowledge and ideas more, a lot more.

The focus it takes to carry out ideas is easy for many people, but not for someone like me, who has ADD (aka sluggish cognitive tempo).

It’s natural for most people to think of something they need to do and then get up to do it. Yes, most people are procrastinators, but not because of biological reasons like ADD, so it is easier for them already, comparing with those of us who have problem focusing due to biological reasons.

This is why I need to do this diet.

Most people might lead a boring life because they do can focus on mandane tasks on a daily and consistent basis. They don’t have to do exciting things to help them focus. At the end, they get complacent and stay there.

I believe that if they do have the ability, then they should strike to achieve more.

I have been imagining the day when I finally have the best of both world—the urge to do exciting things and the focus I need to complete them.

I also remembered how much I had to put up with due to this yeast-based-ADD (it was an educated guess for me to assume my ADD was caused by yeast), such as how teachers treated me like a disgraced criminals because of my behavioral problems. I spent years being punished and conditioned by authority figures instead of actually learning or achieving anything.

Supplement and Exercise

I have been doing some fitness walking. It’s mostly self-taught. I heard that it was the best form of exercise for most people. Under the cold winter weather of Toronto, I am still able to get sweaty. It’s good for detoxing. You don’t have to buy extra gear and what not. You just walk outside and walk as fast as you can for as long as you can. Soon your legs will feel strained and get all sweaty.

A supplement that I want to highlight is coconut oil. I took a teaspoon of it everyday. It’s good for fighting candidas. It also speeds out metabolism and increase energy.

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According to a study, 70% of Americans have candidiasis. It is serious guys. Although it can’t kill you right away, it dramatically lower your living standard, by keeping you fat, unmotivated, depressed, and other symptoms. Each day it takes away some productivity, energy, and joy from you. It’s gradual, so most people don’t notice the difference.

It took me a long time before I finally confront this problem. It’s not enough to just do a little bit here and there. Supplements aren’t enough. Eating healthy 70% of the times isn’t enough. Short periods of fast isn’t enough. You really need to go all out against it for at least 2 weeks before you can get rid of it.

If you win, you will become a totally different person. You will have a new influx of energy, time, and motivation you might get overwhelmed. I had but a short period of time when I experienced something close to that state of high performance, and it was a very sweet experience. I am going to there again. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. What about you? Are you going there with me?

Of course, as it would take at least 2 weeks.

Do the test I mentioned in the last post, I bet many of you will find out you also have a yeast problem as well. It is worth the effort to eliminate this problem, as the benefits are many. You will live a much easier life without it.

I still have craving for sugar and diary, but I continue to consume almond milk, raw honey, green juice, and protein, instead of what the yeast wanted me to consume.

On day 4 I went to the health store and the staff (a homeopath) recommended me a candidas detox package. It claimed to kill candidas in half a month if you take it. It didn’t mention anything about dieting though. I figured it would do the work for me. It sounded good, but I didn’t buy it at the end, because I thought I should try the current plan first, so if it didn’t work I could tell you guys it doesn’t work.

I want to get rid of the sluggish cognitive tempo (a new name for the ADHD predominantly inattentive, or ADD) and its symptoms.

Is it relevant to those of you who are “normal”? YES. As we grow older, more and more of us will develop what is similar to ADD anyway, due to the cumulating effect of many years of poor diets. If you want to grow old and wise, instead of becoming old and dependent, you too should consider to do what I do now.

I heard that colloidal silver can kill the candidas effectively for the first few days, but it also destroy the good bacteria in the digestive system, so I would have to re-plant them into my gut, by eating plain, organic yogurt! It’s delicious if you mix it with raw honey.

The first 2 benefits that I get from the dieting are better sleep, and better mood!

I heard that sugar is linked to depression. It certainly links to mood swing and fuels the candidas. Ultimately, it kills you, but it kills you slowly.

I stopped getting any sugar—tea, coffee, or soda.

My quality of sleep is much better. The bouts of depression comes much less frequent and even if it comes, it is like water off the duck back.

Before this diet/fast, I would often fall into temptation—”just one more soda”, “one more cup of milk tea”, and so on! Even if that means depression would come. I would try my luck. Each time I would get insomina and depression

Milk, which belongs to gluten food group, can trigger depression in people who are sensitive to it. Here is why. And if you get rid of candidas, you get rid of some allergies too.  See Naturally and Holistically Curing Allergies by Eliminating Candidas.

I don’t know if I am allergic to gluten, but I am avoiding this entire food group to see if my health will get any better. It is the only way to test if you have it.

Now that I am off sugars and milk, my moods are much more stable. Nevertheless, some stubborn symptoms remained.

For example, I still very much “crave emotional and intellectual stimulation”, which is one of the symptoms for my sluggish cognitive tempo. The problem with that is, I would have the strong tendency to seek activities that are fun (stimulating), instead of working on what is mentally demanding, such as typing a blog entry like this one.

Basically, anything that doesn’t provide instant gratification, but requires some amount of thought and focus, would often be challenging for me—I would not be able to do it as much as I want to, when the mental energy is just not there. The level of energy is sporadic. It is hard for me to control it.

This is how it’s like if you have sluggish cognitive tempo.

It really messes up your mind if you have it—”Am I lazy?”

Even though I know that what I am dealing with are symptoms, but I often still feel that it is me. I already am taking the actions I need to take to cure it, but the guilt is still the first response when I don’t feel like I have done enough. Somehow I still feel like the symptoms shouldn’t be there, or I could somehow overcome them with my willpower, such as getting the task done despite the strong pull from distractions, and the lack of mental energy (low motivation).

I have lived long enough to know that everytime I tried to beat it I would end up losing. When I don’t have the motivation to do something, no matter how hard I punish myself afterward, or to scare myself into doing it beforehand, I just couldn’t do it. Even if I managed to start it, I would still get distracted shortly after. I would try to get back to it again, and only to find myself distracted again. Hours later, I would wonder how I became lost, and forgot what I originally wanted to do.

I have hopes. If the candidas is gone, along with the sluggish cognitive tempo, life would be so good. I would finally be able to become what I long wanted to become.

I still consume meat though, such as sardines and salmons. I also eat chicken and beef. This fast is still good spiritually even though I have these delicious foods. It is my preliminary round of attack against my spiritual enemies. It will make my subsequence fast much easier. The detox symptoms will be less severve when you eliminate candidas and some toxins. It’s better than doing it cold turkey from day 1.

You can get a lot out of this post too, because most people have some degree of candidias due to the standard diets, and the health issues that come from the overgrowth can not be underestimated. Everything is easier when you keep the yeast away. For example, you can solve the achieve weight loss much more easily if the overgrowth is gone.

And in my case, it fuels my ADD/ADHD. Even for “normal” people, yeast problem causes brain fog. Many people live under its curses. If only we know what normal truly is for our brains, our productivities will increase many folds.

The ADD and ADHD took my life away from me for many many years, long before I realized what they were.

If you read my ADHD articles, then you know how much pains I have been through on a daily basis becuase of the conditions.

Then I also discovered I have a yeast overgrowth (Candidiasis), which is also common for ADHD or ADD. Some of their major symptoms are the same. In fact, ADD and ADHD sufferers do often come with other health issues that are not part of the list of symptoms for their conditions, but they happen to be on the list for candidiasis.

It makes me wonder if they have the same causes. One thing is for sure—that if I get rid of the yeast problem, my ADHD/ADD will calm down a lot too.

If you don’t mind, I would like to show you my tongue. You can see a layer of cotton cheese like of white stuff on my tongue.

A white coated tongue wasn’t the only thing that convinced me of the problem. I actually did a home candidas test and found out I did have an overgrowth of candidas.

I have symptoms such as inability to concentrate, mood swing, fatigue, depression, anxiety, short term memory problem, and probably some other symptoms that I overlooked. Each person with an overgrowth problem has a different combo of symptoms on the list, but they rarely have the entire set. You can see the complete list here.

What made me hopeful is that if I do get rid of the yeast problem, I might finally get rid of the conditions together. In “How to Improve Your Handwriting Simply by Changing What You Eat“, Dr Hyman explains how he cured ADHD and a load of other health issues in a boy, by changing what he eats, and by eliminating his yeast overgrowth!

I am not here to tell you what Dr Hyman said. You can go to his website to read that article, but here I want to show you my simple plan.

To starve them.

The Green Juice

The good news is, I don’t have to spend a lot of money and go through a rigorous dieting plan to starve the yeast. The plan isn’t complicated at all.

I don’t have to starve myself to starve the candidas.

My trusty researchers recommend this green juice. It is delicious.

I forgot to buy the celery and parsley. But I added some frozen fruits bought from Costco into the incomplete ingredients, and put them into a blender to make something similar. It tasted fantastic.

I also drink lemon honey. I use raw honey though, to avoid feeding the yeast.

I can sense the yeast fighting back on the very first day. They make me crave sugary or diary drinks and foods, such as rice, cheese, wine, beers, milk, and coffee/tea(with the milk and refined sugar of course). It’s almost like they can take over my brain to control my behavior.

It’s okay to eat canned sardine or salmon. They are actually healthy. Protein and fruits won’t harm. To block my craving for milk, I bought a box of organic almond milk. It tastes really good, and it isn’t more expensive than milk anyway. If you are allergic to gluten, like many are, then you should drink almond milk instead of animal milk, or soy (as it is toxic).

I also eat plain, organic yogart. It is diary, but it is good for the gut, because it plants new, beneficial bacteria into it. It works much better than probiotic for many people.

In the future I might get a juicer to make green juice out of the receipe. For now, the fiber doesn’t harm. I pooped 3-4 times the first day with the green drink.

I estimate that I need to do it for 2 weeks. At some point I might turn it into a fast (with no protein and solid food). My intention is to pray more as the whole thing is actually a fast. I am fasting from diary and sugary foods. I am also avoiding the junk foods.

I used to do water fast a lot. The last major water fast was 5 years ago. I couldn’t do it anymore. I was burnt out. It was exhausting. Now I know why—the candidas overgrowth made it so much harder for me when I tried to drink only water.

I need to get rid of the yeast problem, and detox my body, before my body is willing to do it again.

A water fast is healthy, but it is too challenging with the sugar craving, and the relapse from cutting off the toxins in my usual diet. It is like quitting a drug addiction cold turkey.

My Expectation

I expect new found clarity for my brain. I look forward to not having to live with the constant bombardment of thoughts again. I will probably sleep less and no longer have frequent fatigues or emotional exhaustions. Insomina shouldn’t be a problem anymore.

With a new ability to focus, I will procrastinate much less, and get on with tasks much more quickly. There will be much less fillers in between tasks. I will actually be able to prioritize the tasks and automatically know when to do what, and actually get to do it.

I will also have an increased ability to multitask. Now I tend to do a lot of things at the same time, but that is because I can’t muster enough focus for each activity, and I am constanly under stimulated, so I crave stimulation from many sources. My mind jumps to another direction before I complete something at hand, and it continues to jump like that, and then suddenly I wonder, “where am I? why am I doing this?”.

I often find myself at activity D, E, F, or G, and wonder how I got there from activity A.

I don’t have my schedule planned very well. Tomorrow I could be somewhere talking to someone I haven’t seen in a long time. I am very spontaneous and random. On the other hand, I could forget the only one commitment on my schedule, such as friends’ wedding.

It is THAT bad.

I am very excited to get rid of these problems and gain new abilities.

Spiritual Benefit

A major benefit is becoming happy. When you can finally focus and enjoy your work, money, success, freedom… start to come. Life will be so much easier if you can just focus. People with little problem to focus don’t know how depressing to not being able to focus productively.

I have anxiety and depression (ADHD based). They have huge, negative spiritual impact.

Depression made the worst impact, because it stands between me and what I have to do a lot. When you are depressed, you can’t function. You just sit there and wallow in sadness. You won’t have the strength to do anything afterward. An entire day would be gone if you are depressed enough.

Anxiety is a pain too. It gets triggered whenever I read a job posting, for example, which set me back from doing as much as I can for my career. I would have done a lot more if the anxiety isn’t triggered so frequently throughout the whole process.

They affect the way I see God. When you are depressed, it’s very hard to see God in a positive light.

Another benefit is the increased capacity to do more spiritually, due to increased energy. Spiritual insights, spiritual discipline, and ministering to others require a lot of energy. For example, writing for this blog takes a lot of mental effort. It takes energy to serve others and God.

When you pray, it takes a lot of energy if you are praying for real, not just doing it as a token prayer before going to bed. It is a spiritual battle. If you have a low level of energy, you will fall into sleep, you won’t be able to fight off distraction, you won’t remember what to pray for, and therefore your prayers won’t work. The is speaking from my 14 years of experience.

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I will post more about my Candidas diet as long as it is still going. You might hear more from me as my brain works better. The last time I did a major fast my brain was so clear. I only needed to sleep for 4 hours per night. I didn’t have the bunch of healthy green foods and supplements back then though. This time I am starting off with healthy green drink, and protein. When my body gets healthier, I might do a couple days of water fast or juice fast, and see if it’s going to be different than before.