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How to set boundaries with the narcissist

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 01:29:00 +0000

How to set boundaries with the narcissist.

Knowing how to set boundaries with the narcissist is essential if you ever come across one. It is a really essential if that person is in a position of power over you. I have many things which I need to do today and I'm taking the time today to post this block entry in an effort to heal as I recover from a relationship with the narcissistic person.

Most experts will admit that they do not know how a narcissist is born. But you will always know when you come across one. They tend to be extremely demanding, unable to show empathy for others' feelings, and exude an attitude of complete selfishness. I've been studying narcissism for some time. It all started when I suddenly realized that I had a narcissist in my family. For years I had wondered why it was but it just never felt right with that person. As I started studying I began to realize that there are some traits which are very big red flags for a narcissistic person of authority. First of all they demand complete devotion to the extent that the victim of the narcissist would be compared to a prisoner of war. While many people might say "well why don't you just leave"? You have to understand that narcissist are master control artists. Doing a simple search on the Internet will show how many people have been harmed by narcissistic personality disorder in relationships. A narcissist can be your boss, a parent, a sibling, or worse yet your lover or spouse. Any time a narcissist is in a position of power over you you must understand the you have now become a victim. The only question is how to stop being a victim. This is how I did it.

I'm a writer and was assigned the job of researching the topic of narcissism. It was a high paying article which covered a subject which had always intrigued me. As I sat researching I realize that there was one person in my family that may have definitely been a narcissist. That person had affected the way that I handled relationships my entire life. Number one I was taught and learned to never think of what I needed. Number two I was taught to never ever put myself above anyone else. That was because putting myself above anyone else would mean putting myself above the narcissist that was in control in my life. This was a big no no.

I read things about the narcissist like they come on very strong and they are very charming at first, which is soon replaced by harsh criticism and a demanding demeanor. Now you need to learn how to set boundaries with a narcissist. Unfortunately at the time I did know that it was something that I needed to do. From that point on every relationship that I came across that was difficult I felt the need to fix. Had I not been exposed to the narcissist I would've been able to simply have a relationship and say that didn't work out. What the narcissist taught me was that everything was my fault so I must solve any problems that came out. So if you become a victim of a narcissist the first thing that you need to do is realize that none of this is your fault. While you do need to maintain control over your behavior and keep it appropriate, you do not need to take responsibility for other people's feelings ever. If you are a minor there are places that you can contact to get help for this problem:

Call 1800-4ac-hild.

If you're an adult and you have children that are being harmed by a narcissist you need to know that you are just as much to blame as the narcissist. It is your moral responsibility as an adult to remove the child from harm's way. This means removing your child from the narcissists life. Do not under any circumstances let the narcissus convince you that you're somehow trying to control them or take away power from their lives. The need of the child far outweighs the need of any adult. The fact that an adult is actually stating that they have needs that are more important than the child is the first sign that there's a problem in the household. While I'm certainly not an expert of this I have done enough reading and research to be able to provide this information to the average reader who comes across blog so that you have this information for your own use.

Now that you know you have been victimized and you've made the decision to remove yourself or your children from the situation, here is how you'd start the process of getting away from the narcissists hold over your mind. Number one tell yourself that you do not need to be perfect. Number two tell yourself that you're wonderful just the way you are. Number three, tell yourself as often as is required that they are a liar. Once you set these boundaries in narcissus is rendered powerless. Although they will do many things to get attention and create, sometimes even to their own detriment like that of the two year old child, you must ignore them. It is the only way to cope with such a person.

The thing most people don't understand about this personality type is that they look for people that are prone to being their servants. They're not looking for a valid relationship. Rather they are looking for somebody who never asks any questions and never has any complaints. The truth of the matter is they are extremely insecure people with moral development like that of the two year old child. They go so far out of control that it has taken over their entire lives and has become a bad habit.

Here are some warning signs when you're meeting a person. The person makes way too many compliments. You should take notice. While this is not necessary a narcissist, it is usually an indication that a person may be. If you meet somebody who has been extremely polite and suddenly they change to being extremely rude; you're dealing with a narcissist. The only exclusion of course would be certain circumstances. Obviously you have to go with your gut instinct. The main thing to be wary of is somebody who puts you down. You also should be wary of somebody who seems to try to tell you how to think or how to feel. Be wary of somebody who fails to respect appropriate boundaries in a relationship. Also be wary of people that are extremely critical of others. If you meet somebody who fits all of this criterion, and they are also telling you how wonderful they are all the time, get away now. This sort of person is dangerous to your emotional health. While it may seem ridiculous at first glance, you have to understand how the human mind works. Most people have their normal way they behave. When somebody comes in that changes the way that they think about life, it greatly affects the brain chemistry of the human being. This is how mind control works. So if you ever come across a person that has any of these characteristics get away now. It's not a matter of if, it's just a matter of when they will try to take over your life. If a narcissist is able to have the power or any control over your life, it can lead to serious damage.

If like myself, you find yourself in a position where a narcissist has power over you, it is extremely important to realize that there's nothing you can do to fix the situation. This is a person who is permanently damaged. They are incapable of caring about how the people feel. They are incapable of caring about how their behavior affects you. Any attempts at communicating with the narcissist, especially a fatalistic narcissist, will always result in harm to the individual. They would usually rather kill you than admit that they're wrong. And it's just not worth the risk. In fact it's usually what most narcissists count on. The name of the game is intimidation. Don't let the narcissist have any power to intimidate you ever. So if you're in a situation where narcissist has any power, learn the following ways to handle a narcissist until you can get away from them.

First you want to understand that they will only care for you if you are doing something to please them. Make sure that while you are leaving the relationship that you are constantly telling yourself that they are liars and this is not real. Try to find a support group at all possible. Never disagree with them. Always do what they tell you as long as it doesn't cause harm to you. If they do put you in a situation which is causing physical harm to you call the police. In most situations walking away from the narcissist in a non-confrontational manner will usually avoid the confrontation. Realize that this is not a fully functional human being. Treat them as a crazy person. This will help protect you until you can get free. If you are minor child, call the police. You can also sometimes get help at your school counselors' office.

As soon as you are able, and leave the relationship and make sure that you have a witness as you leave. What ever you do do not make a scene. Try to leave while the narcissist is at work. This will help protect you from any confrontation. While this is the best thing for your safety, realize that you may need to get a temporary order of protection. Narcissist are well documented for being people who need to have a restraining order taken out against them in order to make them stop harassing you. Don't feel ashamed of the fact that you have to do this. If you're able to get away without doing this it's all the better. Don't try to be a hero. Always remember this has nothing to do with you, it's their problem.

Once you have left the narcissist, you will need to have friends in your life that understand what you just came through. During this phase you will need possible counseling in order to cope with the process that you have just come. If you're lucky enough to have friends that work in the industry you can usually get some help from them. The main thing that you need to understand is that you have been set free. The act of leaving the narcissist removed the victimization from the situation.

In my own personal life I have come to realize that being around a narcissist made me a prime target for adult narcissists. I attract narcissists like moths to a light. Now that I know that nobody has the right to tell me what to do for how to feel, I am truly free to be me. I will never apologize to anyone for being myself ever again. I will never explain myself to anyone ever again. I know now that real love never demands. I also know now that love isn't a job. Relationships should be based on joy. I also have come to realize that I need a person that is somebody who brings something pleasant to my life. I also know that by loving another person, I am bringing something to that person's life. The name of the game when it comes to love is joy. Anything else is peer lunacy. Which I who'll never deal with again.

Now you know how to set boundaries of the narcissist. My advice is try to stay away from them. If you're reading this and you are a narcissist realize that allowing the other party to set boundaries for you is how you can love your the party best. If you truly do not have feelings for person you need to be honest and help them. Honesty is the most honorable thing a narcissist can offer anybody in the game a love. Did I mention this isn't all about you? It's about us.

grab a blanket and get comfy, this is a long one

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:16:00 +0000

Halloween 2009 Home Haunted House in Cave Creek, AZ

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What happens when you default on your Spanish Mortgage?

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:58:00 +0000

What happens when you default on your Spanish Mortgage? If you don't know what to do you can be in a big mess financially. It is in fact very different from what would happen to you financially in the UK. It is different from the UK in that you have less than 3 months to save yourself from financial demise. After that period the bank is obligated to take steps that are aggressive against you on your Spanish Mortgage. This is the point that the situation becomes disastrous to you financially. Also you need to note that you are not allowed to contact the original holder of the mortgage. What this means to you is you are unable to get back to where you belong financially. What you can do at the time of the mortgage signing is add a "novacion" which is a note that is applied to the deed. This costs a significant amount of money. So the fact that you must do this is an expense to consider before getting a Spanish mortgage. All of this becomes a problem for the baks in Spain. They manage this by avoidance. This is achieved by accelerated repossessions. The banks want to liquidate the costs of the failed mortgage quickly. This means a significant thing to you as the mortgage holder. The logic is faulty for the banks. It results in the Spanish banks loosing money.

In the UK this is very different. The UK allows the banks to not take complete ownership of the defaulted properties. This in turn offers the banks in the UK to be more financially logical throughout the entire process. Also this allows the bank in the UK to take steps with no tax repercussions against them. The mortgage price that the bank can auction it at is 70% of the entire cost owed. This can be offered to the original owner of the property. That means that you can actually lower the cost of the mortgage in the UK if you play the game right. This forces the banks to be financially smart. The must differentiate between the people that have the means to repay the loan verses the people that have a mortgage that are unable to pay for their mortgages. If the bank fails to do this in the financially difficult times the bank will take a loss. Spanish mortgage allows for their mortgage owners to have a time out of sorts at times of unemployment. That averages at 17 % of the population. Some non-residents of Spain have tried to take advantage of this process in order to profit from Spanish Mortgages. It is risky. It is not a certainty. You can fail to make money doing that. It does have enough possibility of a potential to make those people that are not residents of Spain to profit. This is disastrous to those in Spain. It allows non-residents of Spain to profit. One thing is certain. You must understand what your mortgage is about in Spain in order to be smart financially.

Angel

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 22:53:00 +0000

this is a thank you form Angel the Calico cat this is my namesake.
Thank you

Write professionally for a fee

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 01:23:00 +0000

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Discovery STS-127 Space Shuttle Mission Delayed

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 05:48:00 +0000

This week at Kennedy Space Center the Discovery STS-127 Space Shuttle mission was delayed due to a leak discovered thankfully prior to launch. Read on to learn all about the Discovery STS-127 Space Shuttle mission's leak.

This week, According to Nasa at Kennedy Space Center, Kennedy Space Center had a big scare. Nothing that cannot be handled with a simple repair of course. When running tests at the Kennedy Space Center on the Shuttle for mission STS-127, a leak was thought to have been discovered. When investigated by the technicians it was validated that indeed there was a leak. Nasa Space Shuttle Mission: STS-127 will be delayed according to Nasa managers. The decision is based on some much needed leak repairs found earlier in the week of June 14, 2009. Based on this decision, the team will delay the Shuttle launch until June 20, 2009.

Technicians found the leak at Kennedy Space Center. This leak is similar to the leak on Discovery's STS-119 mission. The leak is connected to a gaseous hydrogen venting system. The repair requires the internal seals to be replaced. This is done so the excess hydrogen can be safely burned off. Nasa Space Center reports that the find is a good and not a bad thing. Its better to find a leak than to have a problem later when there is no way to fix it. Everyone would agree that the safety of the Shuttle's launch and mission far outweigh any delays to the schedule.

Managers met today on June 14, 2009, to decide how the repairs should affect the launch date. They are looking to be as effective as possible with the launch dates and schedules.

This mission will last for 16 days; and will have five space walks on it. It will also include the completion of the Japanese Aerospace Exploration Agency's Kibo Laboratory. This laboratory will allow experiments to be placed in space.

The mission will last for four months and will have seven members on the it. It should be a productive mission if all proceeds as planned. Nasa has to ensure first that the mission is safe to proceed with prior to launch.

The missions often are compared to space mechanics garages. That sounds funny; but if you think about it, that's exactly what these often are about. The crew goes up and makes repairs or tests things in space. It must be the coolest mechanic job on the planet, or off the planet. Either way, the Space Shuttle Mission STS-127 will launch if all goes well with the repairs later this week. It's far better to be safe than to be sorry.

Source:
NASA at Kennedy Space Center

This isn't your mom's time anymore: strong female role models

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:02:00 +0000

Strong female role models today are more evident than ever. All you have to do is turn on the television and you will see many excellent strong female role models for tweens today. This isn't your mom's time anymore ladies.

Today we have everyone from fictional characters to real life heroes, all making a difference in our world today. This is such a refreshing thing to see finally. Gone are the days of damsels in distress. Today's woman can do more than bring home the bacon and fry it up; she can defend those she loves as well.

From your local military mom, to fictional characters Buffy the Vampire Slayer, strong female role models for tweens abound. This is a good thing since it never feels right to have to depend on another person. Learn how to do it yourself. Learn how to defend yourself and those you love. Stand strong, be true to what you believe in; and rock history. Leave your legacy as a strong woman for those little girls that are becoming tweens today. Tomorrow they will be the role models. Give them something to look up to. Give them something worthwhile to aspire to be.

This isn't your mom's time anymore ladies; and you have to make sure you are teaching your tweens this. The media is so full of cute, brainless tweens that it is admittedly, disgusting. Try to look for strong female role models that teach your young tweens to be able to protect themselves and do things for themselves. Show them that doing things for yourself is an asset to their lives. Look for women to place as role models that are making a difference in our world today. Strong women that do more than look pretty or make the men stare. Teach your young tween girl that beauty is from inside of herself; not from a bottle of make-up. Show her that what matters most is how she behaves. Avoid stereotypes that disrespect others just to be cool. That's not a good role model. Brainless airheads are even worse as a role model. So really be sure to check out the role models in your tween's life and ensure that she has the strong influences available to her.

Consider enrolling her in martial arts classes and her ballet. That way, she will be graceful, elegant and never a damsel in distress. Yes, gone are the days of weak women. Strong female role models tweens today are available. Look around to find the ones that best suits your tweens life. This isn't your mom's time anymore, thankfully. Teach your daughter to rock history by leaving her path in this world as a strong and able woman.

Albuquerque, NM Green Scene

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 23:07:00 +0000

Albuquerque, New Mexico's green scene is wonderful. This article will share some of the best farmers markets to go green in and find the best produce for your family, while helping the local economy.

Albuquerque, New Mexico is very fortunate to have plenty of green resources available for local Farmer's Markets. The abundant sunshine and green attitude has long been a staple in the Land of Enchantment. Here, you can find locally grown produce that helps your local farmers maintain a living and get healthy options for your family's meals. Check out the local flavors and sample a piece of sunshine full of enchantment at your local Albuquerque New Mexico Farmer's Markets; while you help your local economy. So, gather up your green bag and head out in Albuquerque this May to find your local Farmer's markets. Some are even open right now. Here are the details for your Local green scene at the Local Farmer's markets.

Head over to Nob Hill to find your local Albuquerque, NM Farmer's Market. The scene is all green and full of fun for the family. Here is the information:

Morningside Park

505-869-3553

May-November

They accept WIC and senior checks as payment.

If you are near downtown then your best option is:

Robinson Park

505-869-3553

They accept EBT, WIC, and senior checks.

This location is really great as you are able to reach it by foot if you actually live downtown. It's a great way to stretch your bones with some exercise and get some green and healthy foods at the local Farmer's Market.

If you are looking for farmer's markets that are open now then your best option are these:

Corrales Grower's market

Recreation Center at 500 Jones Rd.

Their schedule is Sundays from 9 am to 12 pm on the first Sunday of the month. You can reach them by telephone to confirm at: 505-898-7927.

They also accept WIC and senior checks.

The Los Ranchos Grower's Market is now open as well for the winter season. Their location is City Hall at 6718 Rio Grande Blvd. NW from 8 am to 11am on Saturdays; and from 10 am to 12 pm on the second Saturday of each month. for information to confirm you may reach them at 505-890-2799. They accept WIC and senior checks.

Edgewood, New Mexico is now open for the winter season on Mondays from 3 pm to 7 pm at #1 Eunice Ct. You may reach them at 505-281-7851 by phone for details and to confirm by date.

That should give you a great start for your local green scene at Albuquerque, New Mexico's Local Farmer's markets; and it will also help the local economy.

Trip to the Vet with 6 Cats

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:56:00 +0000

Cats and the Veterinarian Visits

Last week it was time to go to the vet for our cats. All six of them had to be bundled up and go get their annual check-up and shots. Here are the antics of our trip to the vet with 6 cats.

First of all, you must realize that a cat is not a happy camper when it comes to change. Change is terrifying to a cat. They love nothing better than a routine that they can safely depend on every day. This brings peace to your cat. Now, consider that they now only have their daily routine messed with; but they also have their security messed with. Imagine not being able to understand the language of those around you, and all of this is happening. Consider this when you visit the vet with your cat. You can also imagine what our 6 cats felt as they day unfolded. It was actually at night. We reserved a whole hour at the vets office for our brood of a family. Did I mention that we also have a dog named Rin, two birds and five chinchillas? Fortunately they do not visit the vet all at the same time.

First they had to be put into their cages. We had only five cages we realized at the time. This meant that two had to be in one cage. Needless to say; it was not going to be easy. Two that play together every day were placed on one cage. They snuggled together well. They snuggled together well that is until Angel, our calico cat peed herself. Cats go when they need to go. Libby our youngest I swear was grimacing as we placed that cage on the shelf next to the examining table. My boyfriend and I apologized to the vet as he came in. As the veterinarian came in we said that Angel had peed in the cage. He was not even fazed by that. I guess like us, he has seen it all in cats. Nothing much affected him. I am sure he knows all too well that these are the antics of a trip to the vet with 6 cats.

We then had to get each one out of the cage and onto the measuring table. This required some hissing and general upset cat behavior. Needless to say we keep our cats claws trimmed. Remember though that, the antics of of a trip to the vet with 6 cats. Everyone did an amazing job. Even our two eldest cats who had to have blood work did a great job. There was of course some protest in the cat language of hissing and cat screams; but one has to expect that of any cat. Overall, they did very well. We got them all home and cleaned up Angel and the very unhappy Libby, who looked as if she was thinking something to the effect of "my sister is a pee-pee". Her normal cat eyes were flat across the brow appearing quite unhappy. She got over it; and I am happy to report that she is doing really well. They all are in fact.

So the next time you gripe about having to deal with a doctor visit with your kids, imagine this. You have 6 of them, they can't speak their thoughts, they are violent at will; and they have no problem with taking your face off at any moment as they see fit. These are the antics of of a trip to the vet with 6 cats.

Chick Gamer meets the new year

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 20:55:00 +0000

It's that time of year again. Time to check out the new video games for 2009. There are some great ones out there. No matter what genre of gamer you are, there's something new for you to love. I love the Tomb Raider series. I am currently playing Tomb Raider Underworld. It's pretty sweet. So far, it is more visually appealing and versatile than previous releases. I really love the new look Lara has. She is sleeker and more realistic than before. As a chick gamer, that appeals to me. The game play is really open ended. I love that. The appeal of Tomb Raider Underworld is the mixture of old school meets new gaming. The detail is stunning, while maintaining the aspect ratio of the game. Pretty cool stuff for us gamers. Boys will love the ability to look up-close and personal at Lara with the game. Choose what appeals to you and go with it. I have an article on my AC site about the best console version of the game. click on my AngelKitty1441S2 AC links to check it out. Email me here if you want a direct link to that. You can't go wrong with that game.

There are so many more that I love. Unfortunately, my blogging time is limited today so I have to post more on that later. So for now- go get your game on.

More coming soon

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:05:00 +0000

I have been so busy lately on a new really cool project. I have not posted in some time because of it. I have been having a brilliant holiday and spending much needed time with my loved ones. It's been great, but I have neglected this blog. :( You understand though. Family comes first.

So, very soon, I will be back posting all of the things that I have found that will thrill and wow you to your hearts' content. Cheers, and happy new year to you and yours.

Kitty

Mama Mia

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 23:45:00 +0000

It's here soon

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:51:00 +0000

It's black Friday

THE shopping day of the year.

Do not miss out.

Shop online and you don't waste your gas or have to endure the trample crowds:

Click here to shop and save

Happy holidays,

Kitty

What happens when you use hacks on the PSP

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 20:52:00 +0000

The PSP is a game console that is portable. It is a mini computer. That being said, many of us would love to be able to hack it to make it more useful to our own needs. So, you go do some research and find wow, there is a way to do that.

But, be careful what you do to it.

Why? Because malicious, black-hat hackers have made programs that run malicious code that will brick your PSP by deleting important flash files with-in the operating system. They want you to download and install a downgrade of the firmware. Why? Because Sony updated their firmware on your system to make sure that these things won't happen. The black-hackers want you to remove that so their flash can brick your PSP. That's just rubbish.

I still do not understand people that want to harm a person's game console, computer etc. Hacks should be, and were originally made to help others create better things for their lives. These other hackers need help. Serious help.

Or is it that they just need to get a life...and um perhaps a career?

Either way, check out this link by clicking the header in this post to see the youtube video on how the black-hat hackers do what they do, when they try to brick your psp.

And um...don't be ignorant and listen to these type of hackers.

Hacker for a better life.

Not a negative one

Sheesh.

Local Issues in Politics Continue in New Mexico

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 17:53:00 +0000

New Mexico president pro tem of the Senate, Tim Jennings, failed to communicate effectively regarding lay-offs and spending cuts in the Roswell school district. Governor Richardson remarked today that it is a failure to communicate effectively and that it was jumping to conclusions. He scolded Jennings for this error. Governor Richardson has had issues with Jennings before on other issues. He said that it was "irresponsible and premature" for Tim Jennings of Roswell to mark this statement. Indeed it is true that Tim Jennings has done this more than once. Democrat Tim Jennings is really listed several times as making several errors in judgement. One can only wonder why and when this sort of thing will stop. It is not good for his respresentation to continually be in the news cited as saying these things. Yet this trend continues still. There are the robo-calls that were made about Republican incumbent Senator and Minority Whip Leonard Lee Rawson. You can listen to that recording here at this link: http://www.santafenewmexican.com/www/sen_jennings.mp3 It is not the sort of thing that should be ahppening in this area. One gets trired of these sorts of races. Can these people behave well at all? This is the question on all of our minds. Do they remember what we learned way back in grade school about ethics? Why is it that it can not be practiced by these adults? We wait to see if these elected officals will change their behavior for the better. At least let's get better at learning to communicate effectively here. Time Jennings was cited as stating that he does not endorse Rawson in the robocall, and that he wishes Fischmann the best. Are you scratching your head yet wondering what is going on with these people? We all are as we watch these alleged adults behave like children. Name calling, insulting, and more happens everywhere in politics; but this is getting ridiculous. If they can not even communicate effectively, then how exactly are they going to do a good job for us in goverrnement? We all wonder as these things pan out. Check out the mp3 message at the link. It is in Quicktime format. Tell me what you think. Source: Associated Press release at 7:45 AM 11/06/08

Top Ten Must-Haves for Your Baby

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 16:55:00 +0000

There are so many baby product available for new parents today to help care for their baby that it is positively overwhelming. How does a parent know where to begin? This has plagued many parents and is the bain of the "after shower" process of knowing what one still requires to care for your baby once the little bundle of joy arrives. So here are the top ten must-have baby products today. The first thing you will need is a good car seat to take the baby home in. While the hospital may provide a free on to you is it the best? Here is what the best must consist of. First, the 5 point harness is the safest hands-down. It completely protects your baby from being thrown out or even shaken in any unsafe manner in the event of an accident. I would also look for a car seat that is adjustable. The more adjustable, the better. That way the baby is completely custom seated in the car seat. Also, for cost effectiveness, you want one that grows with your baby. After research I would recommend the Britax convertible car seat for your child. It costs a bit; but has all the required aspects of any good car seat. It will also last through several children. The other things required for your baby depend on many issues such as if you use cloth diapers or disposable. Breast or bottle feed and so on. If you do bottle feed the second baby product I highly recommend the Playtex disposable nursing system. It is completely sterile and it does not allow gas bubbles in your baby's tummy. If you use disposable diapers the third must-have for your baby is a Genie Disposable Diaper System. It allows you to change your baby's diaper with out having the stench that goes with diapers in the house. It locks in the odors and keeps the nursery safe from what's in the diaper. My fourth recommendation is made by Fisher Price. It is the swing that they make. Every year they release a new series of swings for your infant. They come in various colors and designs. This is your choice to make on color or aspects desired. It is also a way to save some money as you can generally find these at auction on places like Ebay for next to nothing used. Simply ensure that the model you purchase still has the paperwork so you can ensure your baby's safety and you are all set. The Fifth recommendation is a the Chico Pliko-matic stroller. It is adjustable and small. Perfect for those trips on the air plane to see the grandparents. It is small enough that you can take it on the flight with you and large enough when opened to allow storage beneath the stroller as well. My sixth must-have for your baby is the Baby Sling. This is an essential item for colicky babies. You wear the baby while doing most anything. Convenient and washable it is absolutely the best when your baby requires bonding time. Seventh in the line up of must have baby products is the adjustable crib. They come in many models and colors to satisfy even the most design conscious parents. the perk is that they adjust to grow with your child. So plunking down the money for your baby's crib becomes the money saved on your child's bed later. Added benefits include the guard rail to help your toddler from falling out of their beds at night. My eighth recommendation for the must-have list is travel warmer for the car from evenflow. It is a little device that plugs into your car lighter to allow your baby the warm feeding at any time. It is also great for those cold morning for mommy and daddy as well. Along this line comes my ninth recommendation for my must-have list. It is the Tupperware container sets. they come in baby fascinating designs and are the best for those trips when hunger may strike your baby. They are air tight so no leaks occur. Perfect for the need. The tenth and final must-have for your baby is the motion detector baby cam. It monitors your baby not just for sound, but visually as well. It can double as a nanny cam as well. It is able to be changed to motion detector that saves on electricity as well. If something happens near your baby or baby stirs you will see it all. There are many brands available today. Your choice on that. The big thing to ensure is that is has a warranty should something occur to the original unit. That way you get a new one free of charge should anything occur. Safety First is always a brand I trust on any baby product. They come highly recommended on most all reviews. Now you have your basic list of must-haves for your baby's products and are ready to sit back and pamper yourself a bit before the big day arrives. Sleep is what you will need to save up on.

What About the Economy Obama?

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 18:37:00 +0000

Let's Get Down to the Nitty Gritty and Make Some Serious Changes

October 27, 2008: 2:55 PM

(Democratic headquarters) This week we are closing in on the election. Assuming this article gets published in time for you to read this, you are deciding who to vote for in this election for the Presidential candidiate. As I sat reading the local details of the economic plans for each candidate this week, I thought of one blaring question to Obama. What about the economy Obama? This is what I researched and discovered to my horror. Obama, according to Obama's own site for the democratic party: http://www.barackobama.com/issues/economy/ , these are the two things that caught my attention: Obama will spend more government money on the United States citizens that are hurting economically. It also states that he will reward those in business that help support the American worker. Let's get down to the nitty gritty of what that means to the american economy before you try to crucify me here. First of all, spending more on a nation that historically can't save money to save themselves is a recipe for utter disaster. How many people do you know that fail to make their credit card payments on time and end up going under economically because of the problem? Can we control the lack of good judgment of our society that leads us to this consumer driven economy? No way can we ever begin to do that. Any candidate that says you can is a liar. Either that, or seriously dillusional. No, we can't control the bad decisions of our public. But what we can do is not bail them out when they fail. Providing all of this economic assistance to the people of the United States is not going to save the economy. What it's going to do is allow us to get into debt further. You may be reading this, thinking ah well, then what to do? What you do not do, is provide more money to the dependent. Its like giving a drug to an addict. If you want to change your economy America; then you are well going to have to stop getting into debt. Don't do it. Now, that's not a Republican position any more than a Democratic one. What it is, is a call to change. Not the change that Obama is calling for, not the platform that McCain stands for; but let's start helping ourselves America. Seriously, it is time for change, big change. Now to the second idea that caught my attention. Let's reward the business owners in America that help support the American workers. What does that mean? I've absolutely no idea. Sounds to me like a bunch of rubbish sold to a party platform. Before you ax me here, remember I'm not taking sides. I am reporting the facts from what I have seen in this campaign. These are the things that scare me for the American future. What will happen to our economy? Obama, your change is going to have to do better than this. McCain, you'd better fix the past of your party. Either way, somebody is going to have to do far more thinking these things through, and far less trying to say the right thing to make people vote for them. Did I mention, I don't really care for politics. I just want to stop feeling as though things are out of control. Obama, your ideas are really pretty. They rather remind me of a fairy tale where everybody lives happily ever after. But did you ever wonder what happened to Cinderella after the Prince and her had their first real fight over money spent on the kingdom? Rather like the reality of spending in an already harsh financial outlook. Let's get down to the nitty gritty and make some real changes Obama. Don't just say what you think will get you elected. Sources: http://www.barackobama.com/issues/economy/

Amazon.com and Music

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 19:29:00 +0000

Amazon.com announced recently that they are going to improve the world of music for consumers. They will offer downloads that are "open". Meaning that they will sell music downloads that allow the buyer to put the MP3 in as many places as they desire. Currently places like itunes have restrictions on where and how you can use your purchased downloaded music. This also includes the ability for consumers to not have to have a particular membership to download music. Currently on itunes, you have to sign in to purchase music and their other downloads. Amazon.com claims that they don't allow require that. Actually, they do. Try it now for yourself. Go to Amazon.com and make a purchase. In order to purchase anything you have to sign in. So actually, that's not true as Amazon claims.You'll see that the benefit is not all that great.

So, let's see what the benefit is: you go to a site that requires the same exact process minus the security of your information. If you don't believe there is a security issue on Amazon.com try being a seller of electronics on there for a month. You will get assaulted with Nigerian fake scam offers and purchases. That will follow with charge-backs which Amazon will allow even if you have proof of sending the item. Translation? Amazon.com allows scam art5artists to get away with their scams. So Amazon.com is not secure actually. The only thing I notice is that Amazon does not take personal responsibility for it's transactions. Sellers beware.

Now, musicians will loose money because the consumer can buy one download and make as many copies of it as desired. As a musician, I am not happy with that at all. I am in fact no longer willing to offer my music on Amazon. As a seller, I won't touch Amazon.com with a twenty foot pole. Ebay is much better and actually takes responsibility for itself. Itunes protects the musicians. If you are a decent consumer you will be happy to protect the seller as well as having your personal information protected. So, what's the great offer here Amazon? Let's sum it up: you found another way to make money off of other's losses. That's not good. That's not going to make people that are ethical happy. Amazon.com = scam= loss=bad. I am going to stay with Itunes. They care about maintaining ethical practices in business. That gets my business any day. I would venture a guess that the average consumer feels the same. So, is Amazon.com improving the music world? You tell me. I would say no.

Inspiration to Write: How to Choose a Subject to Write About on AC

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 19:19:00 +0000

If you are a loss about what to write on AC simply think about the questions people ask in forums. I started doing this after I realized that my inspiration was at a loss one day. So I went to a few forums that I frequent and posted some questions. Many failed to know the answers. They all had opinions of course; but they all admitted they didn't know the answers to the questions. This got me to thinking. Several had said their grandmother had once said something or other about the topic at hand. I thought about all the sage advice I had been given by mine. Fortunately, I kept a journal all my life. So, voila! I now had a huge volume of content to write about. Now came the inspiration. Sure, it's fine to know what to write about. The delivery is the key to an interesting article though. I knew that I had to really give a good delivery as well as a topic. I returned to the forums. I was delighted to see how many writers on the sites were truly discussing with a personal manner of delivery. I realized that I actually enjoyed those posts more. I thought about how much the people were connecting one to another. It was obvious that this was meaningful content. Now I had the method of delivery. I began to organize, then write about each of those various articles. I realized that this was brilliant content for my readers. Things that happen everyday that need a solution. Ways to get inspired, and many other things that were personal and meaningful to people. I felt really proud of the fact that I was passing this all on and sharing it with others. It may help or inspire another. Either way, it was really good. Since then, I post as I get the chance. It is very fun to read back over my grandmothers thoughts and comments to me over time. I really never realized how insightful she was. All this time I had been recording the sage advice of a woman in my family. It brought a smile to my face. So if you find yourself at a loss for content to write about, simply look back over your journals and diaries. There may be a huge collection of topics that you have a unique perspective of which to write on. Now, get to it.

How to make money on the internet

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:54:00 +0000

How do you make money on the Internet? That is the question I hear again and again. I studied and read until I was exhausted. I came to realize that many hours though very informative; were wasted hours. There are a few good leads that I did receive however and this article will share them with you. If you are writing on Associated Content then you already know that it pays you to write articles and share various things in a content form. It pays and more importantly, it pays in a timely manner. That is very important. There are other sites that offer this sort of payment for writing on the Internet. Go to my blog on that at: http://freewebcamfriends.blogspot.com/ to see some very good reviews of several of those sites. Many I am still reviewing for reliability and payout. There are many other ways to make money as well. I discovered affiliate sales and have really enjoyed not only the money that it makes but the fun of discovering the way advertising works as well. The best paying money maker on the Internet came as quite a surprise to me. I had long received several emails that I always had taken to be spam. When a cousin referred me to one of those places I thought she had gone off her rocker. I did trust her though and decided to see what it was all about. The first place I visited was a very low paying place; but after signing several people up I realized that I was in fact making money off of their work as well as my own. I was hooked! I signed up to a place that pays you to post to forums and realized that the work I had been doing before was now being compensated. That site is: http://tinyurl.com/239fzq There are loads of new sites like this that simply pay for you to click. You should sign up at a forum to review how each site pays and how consistent they are at paying. Now I realized that I actually could make money for doing nothing once I laid the seeds out in the world. I was thrilled. I am now actually able to not only write for a living and finish the three books I started long ago; but I am able to make money while I sleep. You can actually do that. Who would have though it true? I didn't before; but I sure do now.

Using the Life Skills of a Stay-at-Home Mom to Qualify for a Job

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 02:54:00 +0000

Here you are, facing the work world again after years of working at home as a mom. Maybe you have lost a spouse or you simply need to bring in more money. Either way, you are at a loss as to the process of returning to the work world. If you have everything in order to do so, this will not be required reading. If you are not, then it is essential.

First, look at your education. Does it fit the job you are seeking? If not, then simply consider job that are less appealing but ones that may offer free tuition to further your degree. Many these days will do this very sort of thing. These can be used to get to the place you really wanted to be. Remember that delayed gratification can be well worth it.

Second think about what you really enjoyed doing in your time as a stay home mom. Is there a way you may be able to do that sort of thing and get paid for it? Consider all of this very, very carefully.

Then take a good hard look at your life experiences. Did you cook gourmet meals for your family year after year? Perhaps you watched hours of cooking programs on television to learn new and exciting ways to cook a roast. You may be able to work as a chef if you take some qualification test or perhaps a class or two.

Maybe you volunteered as a girl scout leader for your daughter. This is serious managerial experience that could prove your worth in a managerial position. It shows you have brilliant organizational skills and are able to handle groups of very difficult people. You might even be able to do more with that. Get really creative. Look deep at the things you have done. Especially those that you can show as a portfolio. Did you design things for the group, or write? Really give that some thought and run with it.

If you managed the house expenses then you could work in the financial field. Look at various places and consider carefully the ways in which you could advance in that field by simply taking some tests or a class or two. If you do this you may find that you are more qualified than you previously thought.

Now that you've given it much thought and consideration; go and write the words that describe what you did. Then go to the computer and google those words in the Internet. Carefully consider the things that come up. Then begin you new career.

Takeaways:
Think about your work as a stay home mother as career experience.
Join various Internet sites that help mothers return to the work place.

Coming soon:

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 19:48:00 +0000

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George Carlin: All my stuff

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 00:52:00 +0000

George Carlin: All my stuff is a new DVD that I came across recently and really was surprised at the humor I had missed during this man's life. I laughed until my sides hurt. The comedy is pretty harsh and has language that is not appropriate for children. Prents, will love it though if they enjoy political humor as I do.

He has entertained audiences for 50 years, over 25 of them on HBO, with his raunchy, eclectic, and always-sidesplitting humor. See the best of comedian George Carlin's HBO concert specials, filmed on college campuses and before live audiences, including performances of such cult routines as Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television and Why We Don't Need Ten Commandments. This set includes bonus discs with Carlin interviews.

Halloween Treat Alternatives for Health-Conscious Families

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 22:49:00 +0000

Halloween Treat Alternatives for Health-Conscious Families
this article will show you how to create Halloween treat alternatives for health conscience families.Be creative with your children this year and make new traditions.
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