Just something to tide me by till i have more friends to talk to. Not really having somebody to talk to and when it is hurting it really sucks.

Will share more personal stuff on my heart… and hopefully a blog that I can stay with for the next 10 years.

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All the best, and I think this video really shares what my heart is saying.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=S21kTQHIbFc

The lyrics suit what my heart is saying, but the storyline in the video… is a little too far-fetched. Noone died.

I guess it is time to close Boyfriend Gift Ideas, though it is really sad to say good bye to my memories before. However, I had to because I need to allow the lady to move on with her life. If she is looking at this, she will know what to do.

Really thanks for all your support all this while. I had hoped that this place is a place of sharing hearts with you, but it became drastically down when things are not going the way I hoped for in my life. Nevertheless, enjoy it while it lasts before the subscription for this website ends.

On a personal note, thanks boyfriendgiftideas.org, for allowing this to be a little diary for me. Really sad to close this down, but I am sure love will go on.

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Ever heard of the phrase, “Honesty is the best policy”? I’m sure you would have heard this phrase in one point of your life.

As we grow up, we are all taught that we need to be honest and even before we are taught, we are actually conscious about what is right or wrong.

Today, I will be sharing with you about Honesty and the purpose isn’t to be like a naggy mum telling you that you need to be honest, but rather what honesty may means and how can we be honest in our relationships with loved ones.

What is Honesty?

Honesty may means to you as being truthful and not telling a lie. It may also mean being a person with integrity and above board.

These are just issues of morality of what we are taught and have learnt as we grow up. To me honesty means more than these.

Honesty is..

#1 Honesty is protection
Honesty in a relationship is about protecting your love relationship. It isn’t just about you anymore.

Loving girlfriends and wives out there, to be honest may means putting your beloved before you. Should you tell a lie, how much will the lies hurt him? How much will that hurt the relationship?

Sometimes we even withhold certain information for fear that if we tell the truth, the truth hurts. However, the irony is, being dishonest hurts more too.

Therefore, honesty is protecting your loved ones and also yourself from being hurt even more.

#2 Honesty is love
If you really love him, you would want to be honest with him. Wouldn’t you want him to be honest with you too?

Therefore, this is a vice versa longing. It is love. Love will allow you to be honest with one another instead of being forced to be honest when you do not want to.

#3 Honesty is sharing your vulnerabilities
Many times, this is the hardest. Because it is so close to our hearts, we are not able to be honest about. We fear that if our beloved hears it, they may not like us for who we are or maybe use it to their gain.

Loving girlfriend and wives out there, you are not alone. Do you know that you are not the only one feeling this way? In fact, your boyfriend or husbands feels this way too.

Let this love relationship you both have grow to another level. Without sharing your vulnerabilities, you will not be able to walk or support each other.

Can you imagine a love relationship you have is just full of happy memories and just fun and play? What makes it so different from doing it with your other friends then?

Yes, I know Honesty means these… so what’s next?

I never say that honesty is easy. It is never easy. You may even find yourself in the cycle of wanting to be honest yet can’t do that.

Do not take it all on yourselves, stop being hard on yourself. The first step to being honest is to talk about it.

#1 Tell your beloved about it.
If it is tough for you to be honest, tell your beloved about it. You can start by saying “Dear, I love you. I want to be honest in our relationship but when it comes to my vulnerabilities I can’t seem to be able to do so, can we do these together?”

By saying this, you have just taken the first step of honesty. Did you realised that you are honest about how you feel and you have just expressed your willingness to be honest and not you don’t want to. =)

Discuss with your beloved what are some possibilities or ways that you could help to remind each other to be honest.

#2 Discuss possibilities/ solutions with your beloved
Discuss possibilities or solution on how you can both support and encourage each other to be honest.

Discuss possibilities of how you can remind each other in this journey that you are in.

An example could be:
One of you senses that there seem to be something that the other is not honest about. As per agreed, the person will remind the other. Remember! Please be gentle with each other. Do not scold the other party for being dishonest.

Be objective and remind gently. Both of you might have agreed beforehand, what would be some preferred ways of reminders. So allow your beloved to remind you and do not be angry when he/she does that.

#3 Seek the One
I’m not sure if you believe. But for me, this had been really encouraging. I share with the One whom I trust as my God.

I find myself going through the cycle of wanting to be honest yet finding it very tough to do so. My beloved then was also caught in the cycle of it. As much as he tries to assure me we are still stuck in the same cycle.

Therefore, the only possibility that is available is to look to the One. Since I trust Him as being the One, wouldn’t He be able to help me? Wouldn’t he be able to show me what I believe wrongly in order to start believing right?

This was most helpful for me. As I look to Him and tell Him how I feel, I feel encouraged and strangely there is this power within me that helps me to be able to voice out what I had wanted to share.

Of course, it doesn’t mean that I am now at a place where I can be fully honest, but I trust that He will help me. =)

Conclusion

Just as the phrase “Honesty is the best policy”, honesty isn’t just the best policy, and it protects you from further heartaches. It prepares you for the future with your beloved.

I wish you all the best in this journey that you are walking together.

Do share with me your thoughts about my post =)

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I’m going to share with you 7 simple gifts you can give to your boyfriend or husband when you miss him.

#1 Drop him a message on his mobile

A simple message like “I miss you dear and I love you muackz.I can’t wait to see you soon” brings about a warm fuzzy feeling. It actually shows appreciation love and longing.

Can you imagine receiving this message on your mobile when you are having a long day at work. Wow! This can do wonders.

#2 Send him an e-card

Technology is  so advance now, everybody is hooked onto the internet. Dropping an e-card is fast and convenient. Yet, how often do we do that?  There are many free e-cards websites out there such as 123Greetings . They have some sweet and loving e-cards.

Brighten up your boyfriend or husband day by sending him an e-card early in the morning. He gets to read it the moment he checks his mail when he reach office. This reminds him of you too =)

#3 Shop for something

Loving girlfriends and wives out there, aren’t you all excited! Shopping! Haha.. Yes, shop for something for your beloved. I believe there are times when you are just shopping around and you discovered something that reminds you of your beloved.

If budget allows buy that for him. Gifts need not be given only during occasions or anniversaries. Gifts can be given anything, it shows appreciation and love.

It isn’t the matter of how much you spend on your gift, it is the thought that count. Even simple things like a pack of sweet that your beloved enjoys eating, or his favourite drink, that works fine too.

#4 Create a blog just for both of you

I remembered during anniversaries, I wanted to create photo collages or albums to remind my boyfriend and myself about the memories that we shared.

Alternatively, I created a blog just for us. I will post regularly of the memories that we shared. In times when I want to tell him things yet I did not know how to express myself when I see him, I will post it there too.

Over in the blog, he could see my true self. My feelings, my thoughts, my fears which I was not able to express when I met him.

For you loving girlfriends and wives out there, if you find it very difficult to verbalise your feelings, thoughts and fears because you have not been able to do that since you were young, this is a place whereby you can start off.

Let your boyfriends or husbands know about your intention. As you work together for both of you, ask him to help you to speak out too. He could use the blog entry to prompt you to speak.

#5 Whip up a meal

There’s a saying, “to win the heart of a man, you have to first win his stomach:” Check out some recipe online, cook something special or learn to cook his favourite dish.

If you are not confident in cooking, do start with something simple. You can start with a  simple home cook Maggie noodles. Yes! You did not read wrongly. Maggie noodles.

Cooking Maggie noodles requires skills if you didn’t know. Too much water will caused it to be too bland. Cooking it for too long will caused the noodles to be too soggy. In your Maggie noodles, add in egg, vegetables, meat for balanced diet and it will be sumptuous for a simple dinner for both of you.

#6 Surprise him on his way home from work

We ladies often hope that our boyfriend or husband will surprise us at our work place to send us home. How often do you do the other way around? A simple gift or rather initiation from you by pick him up at his office is a very simple gift to show him that he is important to you.

Guys need not always make the first move.  =)

#7 The gift of saying thank you

Yes thank you! Remember your thank you loving ladies and wives out there. Do not forget it because this is a very important word.

We all need to feel appreciated, and that what we have done is appreciated by the others. Remember to say thank you to your boyfriends or husbands.

Thank you for sending me home dear

Thank you for even being my boyfriend

Thank you for being there for me

Thank you for being my best friend

Thank you for dinner

Thank you for the phone call

You can thank him in so many aspects. You can see that the list goes on…

Conclusion

These are very simple gifts that you can give to your boyfriends or husbands. Do not belittle these simple yet necessary gifts.

We often take these for granted. If you have not started these 7 gifts, it is never too late.  Do start now!

Do share with me your thoughts about my post. Cheers!

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Given this scenario:

You are feeling down and feel rather lonely and tell your boyfriends or husbands about how you feel. Instead of comforting you, he does not attend to your feeling. When asked why he doesn’t do so, his reply is “I’m not in the position to do so now, and I choose not to. I’m in a bad mood”.

What will your reaction be when you hear these?

How would you feel?

If it was me, I think I may hear my heart falling into pieces. I will feel hurt and wonder why is he ignoring me? I may even feel rejected, as if he doesn’t love me anymore. All the other negative thoughts may fill my emotions too.

What about you? Would you feel the same?

Tips on what can you do in times like these

Stop! Do not let your emotions run over you. Separate the actions from his love for you. They are 2 separate entities.

#1 Appreciate his honesty

Yes, your boyfriend or husband is in a bad mood. Appreciate that he is honest to tell you that he is in a bad mood and he finds that he is not in the position to comfort you at this point of time.

#2 Give him time and space

Men and women are really different in general. When we are in a bad mood, we will tend to want to share and talk it out with someone we trust. However, men work different. When they are in bad mood, what it means to you is, “I’m going into my ‘cave’, give me time. When I’m ready I will come out of it and talk to you”

So instead of trying to push him to tell you more, I guess the best way is to give him time and space.

#3 Separate the actions from his love for you

I reiterate, men and women are different. We think very differently. Wanting to be by himself for awhile does not means that he is rejecting you or he does not love you anymore. So do separate the action of him telling you that he is not in a position to comfort you at this moment, from his love for you.

#4 Speak to a close trusted friend

Speak to a close trusted friend about it when you are feeling rejected and lousy at the point of time when your partner is reacting this way.

Your friend may be able to stand by you and listen to you. She might even be able to provide some objectivity to you in times like such when you are full of emotions and lose your objectivity.

Conclusion

I know loving girlfriends and wives out there. These are often easier said then done.

Remember you are not alone.

After the entire episode, do speak to your boyfriend or husband about how you felt when that happened. Do come to a common ground of how both of you could work out a solution when this thing happen again.

Ultimately, you are working it out together for the better of the relationship for both of you and not who wins or lose.

How do you deal with such situation? Do share with us your thoughts.

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I’m not Jonathan and yes, just as the title of this post, the lady speaks. I’m his ex-girlfriend. Jonathan have stopped blogging since April 2010. I’ve decided to continue on with the blog and this will probably be the last lap.

History/Lifespan of BoyfriendGiftIdeas.org

BoyfriendGiftIdeas was birthed in Oct 2009. Then it was a gift from me to Jonathan as he started his journey in blogging to make money.

He had wanted this blog for boyfriend gift ideas, and to share gift ideas to all loving girlfriends and wives. His true desire is to have everyone reach their ideal love relationship for themselves; for gifts is one of the expressions of love, and not the end by itself.

As much as it was meant as a gift for him, it was a gift to me too. He had wanted to dedicate this blog to me. However, our relationship had ended in late Jan and till then, this blog was very much stagnant.

I have purchased this domain for him and the validity is only for a year before there is a renewal. I don’t think I will be renewing it. Therefore, this will probably be the last lap for BoyfriendGiftIdeas.org.

So why am I blogging instead of him?

As he have not been able to blog, I will be doing this to complete the gift to him. Since it started out as a blog to reach out to you loving girlfriends or wives out there, I’ve decided to complete this task till the lifespan of this blog is up.

What will I be blogging about?

I must be honest that I’m not sure how much I will be able to share, and I may not be as informative as Jonathan is. However, I will definitely share with you within my capacity. I hope that it will be useful to you.

I will be glad to hear from you if you have any thoughts

A little about me

Well, I am also the owner of SG Blogshops Review. I had started blogging almost the same time when BoyfriendGiftIdeas.org started.

I prefer to remain very much low profile and to be known as Shanetta. In the course of Jonathan’s sharing, he does share previews about our relationship then and I do appreciate his thoughtfulness when he does that.

If you are still wondering how did our relationship ended, Jonathan had written a blog post about it titled: News: my love relationship with my girlfriend just ended .

To find out more about me, I guess as I continue blogging, you will get to know more

Conclusion

So to conclude, yes, me his ex-girlfriend will be blogging for now.

I would love to hear from you. If you do drop by this blog, do say hi (you can do so by dropping a comment) Thanks!

So till then, see you around… =)

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Instead of talking about the bigger perspective of dating relationships for now, I would like to talk a little about break-ups. No matter how many advices you have and the amount of crazy stuff you have done to lessen the pain, this is still probably the most difficult thing to accept when you are at the wrong end of a breakup.

So let us discuss here on some of the things about a breakup.

Some Heartache Symptoms That I Personally Indulge Myself In

I do not really know how to call it. Heartache symptoms? Coping mechanisms? Just some of the things we would normally do consciously or unconsciously when we suffer from a broken heart.

I just realized that as a guy, I am pretty sentimental. That means that when I face a heartache with a loved one or a breakup, I would actually be hearing love or sentimental songs that would cause tears to well up in my eyes.

This is a sentimental music that I would sometimes hear:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ClB2ljxZoM

Many of us have this inclination to drown ourselves in our emotional feelings with love and sentimental songs, which makes us a little comfortable but yet a little more painful in our feelings. Perhaps we just want to savor the sweet moments in our past relationship, and yet on the other hand it breaks our hearts even more.

Some people will seek to soothe their hearts by doing physically exercise, others by studying frantically, and the wild will go partying all night long. I myself may play lots of computer games just to forget the pain.

However all these are just some form or fashion to make ourselves feel a little better, but whether we really move on from our broken hearts is a big question mark. And these feelings are at its worst when we are alone, when our we have nothing to do because we cannot help but keep thinking about the pain.

Here are some tips to know when you are suffering from a broken heart:

1. It is good to cry.

People think that to be strong means we must not shed tears and to suppress your feelings, but I always feel that this is the worst form of weakness of all. That is because we as humans are all weak at some point of time and there is nothing to be ashamed in that.

By trying not to show your weaknesses to others by suppressing your feelings or not crying, you have just earned yourself the biggest ‘wimp’ title in my opinion because you think you are strong by appearing strong. The ones who really are strong are those who are honest about their vulnerabilities and weaknesses without having to put a strong front in front of other people. Come on, we all are weak at some point of time, what is there to hide?

Tears do have a healing effect. It sometimes have a lifting up effect in our hearts after we cry and it causes our minds to be a little clearer in our situation. Also, it helps us face our situation and not run away from them by indulging ourselves in activities.

There are people who just cry easily even if something small happens to them, and I am not talking about ‘crybabies’ who will flood the place with their tears. I am saying that our tears allow us to be honest with ourselves in our weaknesses, and it will help us to move on in the long run.

2. A good friend is a good gift from heaven.

Spending some time away with a good friend is good, because they can share your emotional burdens with you. If you realized, no matter how many advices and tips you can read or hear from other people, your feelings of negativity still stays.

However when you are around with a good friend, we normally feel better automatically, because we feel that at least we are accepted by this friend in the midst of all the negativity. That friend need not be there just to give advices or tips; you just need his or her presence to know that there are people who still care about you.

3. If possible, stop the very activity that you are obsessed in to make yourself feel better for just a moment.

Some of these activities seem truly harmless. Like studying frantically, or reading books frantically, they are ‘good’ activities that parents or other people will seem to think.

However your broken heart is still broken, and when you do well in your studies or your ‘harmless’ activities, many times you appear well and good in front of others, but your heart is still miserable and suffering. There are people who score well in their studies after a major heartache, because they poured out all their stress into their studies. Yet for years they couldn’t get into a relationship because they have not dealt with their broken hearts and they cannot bring themselves to trust in a love relationship once again.

Others also indulge in activities that harm the body, like drinking and partying all night to forget the sorrows.

If you do happen to know that you are indulging yourselves in these activities to escape your situation, do stop yourself or consult a good friend to help you out if you can.

4. Try not to take things personally in your break-up.

The blame game on others or even yourself does not help you to move on in life for the long run. Self-pity or harboring bitterness in your heart against another person does not help you to be happy and have a satisfying life.

Of course, if the breakup happened because your partner or you have been unfaithful, untrustworthy or whatsoever that either your partner or you cannot stand, it is a time of learning and correction. However blaming yourself or others still does not help you at all to have the satisfaction of life.

Everything has a timing and season to it. In this lesson of life, we need to learn to be timely in our situations and relationships so that things that matter to us will truly last for eternity. Let us hope for the future instead, and know that these seemingly bad situations can only happen to us now but not forever.

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Now I agreed only if they allow an unbiased review from me, and so here I am sharing from my personal experience. Before I begin, I want to first say that this blog is never obligated to give a biased review even if I receive any monetary gain from it. As with review sites like Sponsored Reviews or ReviewMe, the bloggers are never obligated to be bias in their review.

So I will begin my review.

MyDogTag Gift Review

MyDogTag.com specializes in personalized dog tags. You can choose unique designs for your tags and have them print a special message or your initials on to them.

Now what are dog tags? They are used in the army as a form of identification. During a war, if someone is missing or has perished, these dog tags serves as identification for the army to know who is gone. So dog tags do hold sentimental values, and it can be a sentimental gift for your boyfriend or girlfriend.

After I opened up the above package, these are what I saw inside:

*Sorry about the slight flash; I did not notice it until now.

It looks pretty neat in presentation for me. I took the plastic package and the leather bag, and out came:

• Dog tags
• 4 colored silencer (supposed to be only two, but I guess they wanted me to evaluate their designs.)
• 1 Long Fastener ( I received 3 of them; 1 metallic ball chain, 1 black and 1 tan leather fastener)
• 1 Short Fastener (I received 1 metallic ball chain)
• 2 Accessories

Dog Tags

Instead of my name, since I am reviewing in BoyfriendGiftIdeas.org, I thought I just put the blog’s name instead, with a little message. MyDogTags have some pretty unique designs and Nintendo’s controller design is my choice since I am quite a gamer.

There are 4 silencers of different colors that are given to me, but instead of showing you the silencers by themselves, I will show you how they look like with the dog tags.

Army Styled Silencers

The silencer of the dog tags do add to the overall design of the gift, and these are the usual colors that are used in the army. They look okay, but a little boring since I have seen these silencers everywhere.

Other Styled Silencer

These silencers look outstanding to me! I like the colors myself as I have hand picked them (the army styled ones are given), and so I felt it is a great combination!

Anyway, I just want to share with you that when you buy any dog tags from MyDogTag.com, you are not receiving only 1 dog tags; you are receiving a pair, and I initially thought it was printed on double sides. Silly me.

Hence, you can give one to your boyfriend or girlfriend, and keep one yourself as a couple thing.

MyDogTag Accessories

These accessories are found in the leather bag, and it looks really great. However I really do not how to use them. I believe that it is used with the leather cords, so I thought that MyDogTags should provide a little instruction on how to effectively use their accessory.

Anyway, the leather bag is an accessory by itself, but as seen in the above picture, it is really nothing fancy, and I am happy with everything else without the leather bag.

My Verdict

These dog tags range from 8 bucks to 15 bucks, and it can be a pretty neat inexpensive gift for your boyfriend or girlfriend. I like it myself and I believe that your beloved will like it too! So if you want to order one by yourself, visit MyDogTag.com!

Bonus for Boyfriend Gift Ideas readers…

I prepared this video for you out of my free will, and I am not receiving any money for it. This is just an instructional video of how you can use MyDogTag.com’s site to create a personalized dog tag as a gift for someone special.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=79kK43AmkVc

That is because when I arrive at MyDogTag.com, I was little overwhelmed in the amount of stuff they have in that very page. If you notice the site, they do indicate which is Step 1, or Step 2 etc. so after some trial and error you will know how to create a personalized dog tag design on their site.

Anyway, if any advertizer is looking at this video and think that I am just going to do one for you for free, I don’t think so. I just happen to have the tools to do this for my readers in this site and I am not receiving any gains for this.

Regarding Advertising

I have not exactly decided to monetize this blog, however if you are interested in advertising, do use the ‘Contact Me‘ form and let me know. I can review:

• Blogs
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Anything else you wish to be reviewed, let me know and I will see how I can cater to you. Everything must be related to boyfriend gift ideas, relationship advice and dating tips.

By the way, if you do want a review, it means that you agree that no matter what kind of products or monetary gains you are going to give me, I still get to give an unbiased and honest review for my readers. Otherwise I will not be reviewing anything. Thanks!

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I am looking at the digital camera department so much simply because I too want a new digital camera. So I am just browsing to see what fits my budget and purpose, but no worries, other interesting gift ideas are coming up very soon!

Gadgets for men – Pentax Optio H90

This digital camera looks really neat. It has cool colors, and has pretty nifty specifications! At only USD$152.90, you get these features:

• 12.1 megapixel digital camera
• 5X zoom lens
• 1280 X 720 pixels for HD recording
• 2.7 inch LCD screen

Of course it has the other usual functions that other digital cameras have, such as anti-shake mechanisms and automatic face detections.

It looks really neat for a pocket-sized camera, and I do recommend getting one for your boyfriend, girlfriend or yourself!

A digital camera is always a good gadget to have to keep those memories of your love alive! And if your partner or you do not own a camera, it is time to get one really, as there are many other ways to make a gift out of photos.

Other matters

Anyway, somebody just commented on my site that my blog does not look right in Google Chrome. If you have any feedbacks on the look on my site, please feel free to comment, and I will be tweaking the look accordingly. I have now changed slightly the outlook of the blog, so let me know if this looks better.

What are your experiences with Pentax Optio H90 if you currently own one?

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Today, I am going to continue from my previous post on “Parental objection and your love relationship – Part 1“, on how you can deal with your parents in a practical way so that your parents may gradually come to accept your love relationship with your partner if they have any issues with it.

Parents are not very direct in their objection to your love relationship even if they do object to it.

Usually they tell you that they are not against your relationship, but give hints with lots of advice and try other sorts of means to limit contact with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

You will feel it, sense it, and sometimes feel suffocated about their subtle approach. Now what really makes parents become obvious in their intentions is when you rebut their words and they respond back with angry feelings.

Next, you become angry, give them reasons to support your stand, and then your parents do the same thing also. It will be a big fight, and from then on your parents and you will have frequent wars.

This is a typical situation that happens to people who have parents that are objecting in their love relationship. Parents will be upset that you do not see their good intentions and view; you will not be happy that your parents are not supportive and giving the freedom you want.

What is the point of trying to convince someone with just plain reasons?

Ever seen an insurance agent trying to give you a thousand reasons on why you should take a look at his insurance polices? Do you ever buy an insurance policy because you are just solely convinced with his logic and reasonings?

For myself, I never did, because I know that he may be giving me reasons to buy these insurance policies for his benefit and not mine.

Similarly, you are not giving reasons for your parents’ benefit, but just to support your own stand for your love relationship. Your parents can see that, and are doing about the same to you too for their own intentions.

How you should approach parents if they are closing down on you with reasons or forcing their stand on you…

1. Try not to convince your parents with mere logic and reasonings.

Doing otherwise will only make the arguments more intense and it will spoil your chance of convincing them even more. No matter how unreasonable and wrong they seem to be, if their hearts are closed, it does not matter how right you are in your reasonings.

2. If you need to make a stand, do it silently and not try to force your stand upon them.

It means that you are just silent, show that you did indeed hear them, but you still maintain your stand respectfully.

They will still be upset no matter how silent you are, however it surely gives them less reasons to pick on your faults in the long run.

How should you start convincing your parents in the long run for your love relationship?

Your partner and you need to work together. Both of you do need to know what your partner’s and your parents want as an life partner for the both of you respectively.

• Parents like people who are well-educated, have financial stability and a great future ahead.

It is not about the amount of lovey dovey feelings that your partner and you both share for each other that will convince your parents to acknowledge your love relationship; like I said when parents are down-to-earth, they want to know whether you have the ability currently to take care of their child if he or she is placed in your hands.

Therefore if you are a teenager, and you are dating some guy or girl that do not seem to be responsible in your parents’ eye in terms of studies and academics, it is time for both of you to pull up your socks. And if both of you are adults and yet your partner or you have not secured a job or a career, you need to start.

If you are not assuring your partner’s or your own parents’ now that you are responsible and that you have financial stability and education now, they will not be convinced of what you say about the future and the present.

Especially if the issues that you feel your partner’s parents are against you for are about religion and race; in order for your words to be even heard, you need to know to convince them in the area of financial stability and success first.

And it surely raises the chances of your or your partner’s parents to acknowledge the both of you in your relationship, no matter how bias they are against you in race and religion.

Think about it; if you own oil rigs, even if you are of a different race and religion, most parents are still bound to respect you.

• The bad mannerisms that either your partner and you are showing must go.

If you are smoking, or your words are full of vulgarities and profanities, please minimize them and even stop them if you can. If both of you are always scantily clad, dress appropriately instead.

Just place yourself in your parents’ shoes; would you want your children next time to mix around with people who have mannerisms like you now?

• In your love relationship, take care of each other, and let both your and your partner’s parents know about it.

Parents can perceive if your partner and you are appropriate for each other. Even if you are financially stable, or even rich, if you are not taking care of each other in practical ways such as providing the needs and wants for each other, parents would not care less about what you have in the bank.

That is because even if you are rich financially, if you have a stingy attitude or a small heart for others, parents will know that you will not be able to take care of your partner at the end of the day.

Parents must be convinced through gentleness and example instead of mere words only.

As I have shared before in the email, no sane parent will want their child to live on this life lonely and never marry. Neither any sane parent will ever deny their child to have a great life partner in life.

However noone is going to be convinced by mere words. You will need to lead by gentleness and example, showing that you do hear your parents’ words, but that you are able to prove that this love relationship is worth it.

Then will your parents’ hearts be soften, and gradually come into acceptance of your love relationship after the test of time.

Have you read part 1 of this blog series on parental objection in your love relationship?

What are the other issues in your love relationship that parents need convincing of?

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