Did the Caveman go to the gym?

Did the Caveman go to workshops to learn ‘how to eat and what to eat’?

I think not. Sounds quite funny when you look at it that way, doesn’t it.

Why is it then, that we have so little faith in the ‘wisdom’ that is inbuilt within us to know how to be the ideal body size for us, because we actually do, we also  know that everyone is different.  We do know that, don’t we?

Do we know how to eat? Yes we do!

Do we know what is good to eat and what is not? Possibly.

Has anyone out there ever planted tomato seeds?  My granddaughter has, so I’m sure many of you have also, and if you haven’t, I’m sure you can imagine how it would be done.

You put a seed in the ground, water it, and presto – it grows into a tomato plant, it flowers, develops tiny green blobs, they grow to the size they are meant to – for that variety, then they turn red and presto – a tomato.  If you leave it on the vine it doesn’t get any bigger, it just gets older, withers and rots away, falls to the ground and in time the seeds grow into new plants and the process starts all over again.

Did you know that the washing machine uses 18 buckets of water for the wash and 18 for the rinse. Great upper body workout, biceps, triceps, and the lawn and garden gets watered.  What about the bath, another 10 – 12 buckets.  Then there is the walking back and forth and the squatting.

Then there’s the lawn mower, raking leaves, how about digging the garden and planting some vegetables, herbs, berries.

Splitting logs anyone, just for those with a slow combustion stove.

Just came across an article on ‘Cure for Adolescent Obesity‘

A Healthy Self-Esteem, and how to get it.

I don’t know about the rest of you, but what I need to keep myself functioning at a high level so that I am able to give the best of myself  to my children, grandchildren, family and friends, is a good dose of  acceptance, accountability, affection, affirmation, appreciation, approval and attention, which I call the 7 ‘A’s’. When I am full of these 7 ‘A’s’ I am then also, able to  give  to all my clients, what they need, so that they can then make the changes or better yet, ‘transform’ themselves into who they were meant to be.

4 'A's' of Love

Acceptance –

Can you imagine going through life feeling that you are not accepted just as you are, and not getting that unconditional love we all deserve, for  just being who we are.  Imagine trying hard in all areas of your life, doing the best you possibly can, yet still not getting that acceptance that you should feel and have just for being you.  I want that unconditional Love, just for being me, without bending over backwards to do for and please others, knowing that in the end, it won’t make a difference – WHY? – because I need to be the one who first accepts myself unconditionally, and so do you. When we accept ourselves, truly accept ourselves just as we are, so will everyone else, as it all starts with accepting the one you see in the mirror. You

Accountability –

Responsibility for our actions.  A feeling that we are trusted and that people around us are trustworthy and that we can count on them and they  can count on us.  We all feel good when we are trusted, and it makes it much easier to trust in return.  When we hold ourselves accountable we develop a sense of responsibility to ourselves and each other.

Affection –

Did we get it as a child, and do we get it now?  Does it impact on our lives now, and what can we do about it now, if we were starved of that affection during the imprint period, between 0 – 7.  It is during this time when we are like sponges, we absorb and accept everything around us as the truth, and if our caregivers were not around or too busy with their own agenda, we may have been starved of that affection – that critical key to our survival, that may have impinged  emotionally and physically, because without affection we do not thrive the way we should.  Between 7 – 14 is the modeling period, where we copy people around us, and depending on how affectionate the people around us were during those years, will also determine how affectionate we become to others and also to ourselves.

Affirmation –

Imagine going  through life with a strong yearning to help ones less fortunate than yourself.  Imagine this as a gift from childhood, something that you didn’t need to learn, as it was a part of you, and all you wanted to do was help people who were less fortunate than you.   There will come a point in your life where you will question your motives and your purpose if there hasn’t been that expression of acceptance in the form of an affirmation. Someone telling you that you did good and that you were on the right track.

Appreciation -

Relates to  your self-worth, your values, to who you are, not  just what you contribute or achieve. Between 14 – 21  is the socialization period where we are largely influenced by our peers, sometimes feeling that we may not measure up and therefore need to contribute and achieve to be appreciated, rather than, be appreciated for who we are, so that we can then go on to contribute and achieve.  By being appreciated for who we are first, our value would resonate within and our self-worth skyrocket.

Approval -

Is it I who needs to approve of myself  first – whereby approval from those around me will not be necessary, yet highly cherished when received.

Attention -

Do you know that it’s not only children who act up because of lack of attention?  Without that important attention in childhood, we grow up to become adults who are desperately deprived of attention, sometimes not even being aware of it on a conscious level.  Adults may act up differently to children, but they still act up in one way or another due to a lack of attention, either now or in their past.  Find a way to give this attention to yourself and from others to be a more balanced human being.  You are important, we are all important, and our feelings and needs are important also.  A healthy amount of attention is what makes the world go around.

These are the ‘Seven Motivator’s to our Inner Child which express themselves through our  Inner Parent, and our External Selves.

How many diets have you been on in your lifetime?

I'm Ready to be Slim

Sometimes they work, sometimes they don’t, and the whole diet industry wants to keep it that way.

WHY?

Because, they all have a vested interest in keeping the merry-go-round moving.

Could you imagine if every diet or exercise program achieved what was promised, and everyone lost the weight they wanted to lose, gained all the muscle they needed and toned up their body and kept it that way?  The whole diet/weight loss industry would go out of business and fall flat on its face.

Weight Loss is not my vested interest – Breakthrough is. I am a Personal Trainer & Weight Loss Coach, only if you want me to be, as well as many other things.  I am not going to tell you to come on board with me, or even listen to anything I have to say, because you may just be thinking – “Isn’t she doing the same thing the whole weight loss industry is doing?”

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NO -  I am  just giving you information, and I expect you to think for yourself and do your own research, just like I did.

STOP  - falling for all the hype, and thinking that this time it will be different, because it won’t unless you find out what your head is doing, and stop sabotaging yourself.

So – when ‘YOU’ are ready to be the ‘slim you’, and ONLY when you are ready to be the ‘slim you’, and not because someone else wants you to be, but because you would like to reflect on the outside what you feel on the inside when there are no mirrors in your face.  Give me a call and we can have a chat to see where you are now and where you would like to be in the very near future.  For once try something different to what everyone else is offering.  Trust your own instinct and stop being led by the nose, know that you have all the knowledge to do what it takes to be the person you have always been on the inside.

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This Is So Much Fun.

A Foolproof Way To Procrastinate.

How many times do you have to put off doing what is important to you because you always give your time away to other people who either genuinely need your help, or something else from you.  Have you ever made a decision to work on a project of your own and as soon as you close the door to your space – someone knocks, rings, opens the door or something else happens to divert your attention to everything else other than you. (It’s happening to me now – will come back later – after I take my grandson to the park)

As I said earlier - A very strange thing happens once you start to do your thing (whatever that may be). The moment you close the door to your work room, it appears that everyone suddenly requires something of you. Not sure exactly what it is that happens. A closed door should be a hint that people should stay away, what happens with amazing frequency is that it ends up being an invitation for people to come in and ask you to do things for them.

It appears that closed doors make people feel insecure, so they become amazingly creative in finding ways to get the door open. However, you must do whatever needs to be done to achieve your goal, as well as be there for everyone else.  Be creative.  I have a 3 year old picking up and sorting all his toys – WHY? – because he wants to go to the park – so in between giving him instructions, I can still write a few sentences.:) OK can’t stall anymore – need to go to the park.

Who can say no to a child who wants to talk to you?

Who can say no to a child who feels insecure and needs comfort from you?

Who can say no to a child who just wants to be with you and sit with you while you are busy.

After all, you have their promise that they won’t disturb you. Children come first, so give them the time they need so that issues of guilt will not cloud your writing.

I am back from the park – little boy is happy and I can now write peacefully, or do a myriad other things that need my attention.

I Want To Be You.

What Matters Most Is How You See Yourself!

I was sitting across from a client who was in a Breakthrough session with me, and she was telling me why she was unhappy, feeling stuck, and not knowing how to move forward.  She did not like her job or herself for that matter. I asked her what it was that she would like to be doing instead.  Her reply was ” I want to be you” her exact words.  ”I want to do what you do”  came rolling out of her mouth.  Even though I was flattered by what she had said, because I do get a buzz when my clients breakthrough their limiting beliefs and release their negative emotions. It still left me with a churning in the pitt of my stomach, asking myself questions like:-

Why are women dissatisfied with their lives?

How can we assist them to accept themselves?

Where is this underlying feeling  coming from?

What would it take for them to love themselves?

Why do they want to be somebody else?

I have been thinking about this for the past week, and that is why I started this new website – so others can find some sort of comfort in knowing that they are not alone in thinking this way.  I too, used to feel that everyone had it all together, knew what they were doing, and were happy doing it, and I was the only one wanting something other than what I had.  This wonderful client made me stop and think why I was doing what I was doing.

WordPress Training this weekend has been very informative for me, as it taught me  how to make my own Google friendly website using WordPress for my  businesses. A work in progress – website not complete yet, although I still decided to take it live, just to show others that everything doesn’t need to be perfect.  The website will grow and improve and develop a life of its own in time.  I will now be posting updates to help others out there who may be dissatisfied and wondering how to improve their lives.

Who is living your life?  Are You?  And if not – why not?