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		<title>Get on A Higher Level – Access to the Essay Vault Subscription is Here For 72 Hours!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:40:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
	<category>Personal Development</category>
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		<description><![CDATA[As the years have gone by since I first started this site, I find myself naturally looking deeper and deeper into human potential and the world of self improvement, concentrating on higher and higher ideas which result in MULTIPLE flashes of insight.
The articles you read on the site – they come from a SINGLE flash [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As the years have gone by since I first started this site, I find myself naturally looking deeper and deeper into human potential and the world of self improvement, concentrating on higher and higher ideas which result in MULTIPLE flashes of insight.</p>
<p>The articles you read on the site – they come from a SINGLE flash of insight, but I find myself having fewer and fewer of those as my focus is on a different level now. </p>
<p>That’s evident by the sporadic number of brand new articles that you’ve seen on my site. </p>
<p>Over the past couple years, I’ve had a flash of insight, but then when I got to writing about it, <i>it felt incomplete</i>.  I knew I needed MORE flashes of insight to complete them so I stuck those files into a folder on my desktop labeled <b>“Essay Vault”</b>.  </p>
<p>I knew they would be longer than the articles and of more value simply because <b>they required MULTIPLE flashes of insight to complete.</b></p>
<p>And I waited for those flashes of insight needed to complete them.</p>
<p><b>In the beginning of 2011, I finally began to release those essays for the VERY FIRST TIME to subscribers.</b></p>
<p>The essays in the Essay Vault cover a range of topics, seemingly random as they’re inspired by those flashes of insight, but they’re longer than the articles on my site, of higher quality, and have more of those “ah ha!” ideas that click things together in your mind.  </p>
<p>I like to think of them as the contents of the modern day version of the Alexandria library.   </p>
<p>Here’s a sneak peak at what subscribers have received thus far:</p>
<p><i><br />
How to Be Happy Where You Are Right Now</p>
<p>How to Let Go of The Need for Total Financial Security</p>
<p>How to Eradicate Fear of Failure</p>
<p>The 7 Levels You Can Find People Living On and How to Climb Each One</p>
<p>How to Develop that All Important Skill of Intuition</p>
<p>How to Take Your Thinking Skills to the Next Level</p>
<p>How to Make More Money Than It Takes to Just Get By</p>
<p>How to Stop Struggling In Life</p>
<p>How to Bring the Kind of Peace a Monk Who Lives In a Temple on Top of a Mountain Has Into Your Life</p>
<p>How to Fall In Love With The Process So You’re That Much More Inclined to Achieve Your Desired Outcome</p>
<p>How to Move Beyond the Logical Mind (something I’m SURE readers of this site will find intriguing).</p>
<p>How to Finally Get Out of the Rat Race</i></p>
<p>Access is only granted once a month for 72 hours to filter those who are truly committed to applying the valuable ideas in it.  </p>
<p>Subscribers sign up and get an essay once a week for 4 weeks and in the 5th week, no essay is sent to allow for those flashes of insight to come to complete more essays, and then the cycle continues again, an essay once a week for 4 weeks.  </p>
<p>You read the typical self improvement articles out there on the net – they’re so short, so full of that “just do it, think positive” weak sauce crap, all over the place, scattered, no real new information, no real insight, no real “ah ha” click moments.  It’s very superfluous.  No meat.  </p>
<p>Then you read the articles on this site and you realize it’s a cut above the rest out there on the net.  It’s structured, logical, flows, slices through the BS, gets to the heart of the matter, provides answers that make sense, that are easy to understand, and work in the real world. </p>
<p><b>The essays in the Essay Vault are a CUT ABOVE the articles on this site as they’re born from MULTIPLE flashes of insight.</b>  </p>
<p>They are not available anywhere else and will never be released on the blog for the public to see.  </p>
<p>The M.I.T.’s and articles – there’s no doubt they help you live the good life.</p>
<p><b>The Essay Vault subscription will provide you with a steady stream of next level ideas to help you live the GREAT life.</b></p>
<p>Unfortunately, the window to take advantage of this subscription has expired. Please sign up for the <a href="http://briankim.net/vipnewsletter.php"><u>VIP newsletter</u></a> to get updates as to when the window will open once again!</p>

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		<title>The Secret We Can Learn From Singing and Dancing</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Jan 2012 02:44:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
	<category>Personal Development</category>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you’re hoping this article will teach you how to sing and dance well, I’m sorry to disappoint.  Then again, maybe it might just a bit as you’ll soon see, but not necessarily the technical aspects though.
If you think about it, singing and dancing is universally liked.  Doesn’t matter what country you’re from, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you’re hoping this article will teach you how to sing and dance well, I’m sorry to disappoint.  Then again, maybe it might just a bit as you’ll soon see, but not necessarily the technical aspects though.</p>
<p>If you think about it, singing and dancing is universally liked.  Doesn’t matter what country you’re from, your ethnic background, rich or poor, it appeals across the board to all of mankind.  </p>
<p>Look at the most watched YouTube videos and you’ll see they’re either about singing or dancing or a combination of both.</p>
<p>Why is it so appealing?  </p>
<p>At first, you might answer it just is.  People just like it for no reason.  </p>
<p>But if you dig a little bit deeper, you see that singing and dancing are one of the <b>purest forms of authentic expression.</b></p>
<p>When people sing and dance, we can see, hear, and feel them do it and if they do it good enough, we get goosebumps.  We can’t help but be drawn to it.  </p>
<p>And not only that, we can tell the difference between someone singing and dancing TECHNICALLY right vs. somebody who’s singing or dancing all out and really expressing themselves to the fullest.  </p>
<p>So what can we learn from this?  </p>
<p>Simply ask yourself:</p>
<p>What do you wish to express?</p>
<p>What are some of the messages you want to get across?</p>
<p>What’s burning within you that you want to get out?</p>
<p>Once you have that established, simply pick your medium of expression.</p>
<p>Some people wish to express themselves through painting, others by poetry, others by writing a novel, others by writing a screenplay, a song, pottery, clothes, playing an instrument, starting a business, etc.  </p>
<p>All of us wish to do this because when we see somebody doing it, somebody who is truly expressing what they want through the medium best suited for them, we can’t help but look at awe and feel that lump in our throat, symbolizing the message within us that wants to get out as well.  </p>
<p>So why not give that gift to yourself?</p>
<p>You never know where it may lead you.
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		<title>After 6 Months, Access to the Mechanical Discipline Subscription Is Finally Here for 72 Hours!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jan 2012 06:00:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
	<category>Personal Development</category>
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		<description><![CDATA[According to the rotation of the subscriptions, it’s time to release access to the highly coveted Exclusive Premium Mechanical Discipline Subscription!
For those of you just signed up for the newsletter this past month and are unaware of what this is all about, here’s a 2 sentence nutshell to bring you up to speed:
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>According to the rotation of the subscriptions, it’s time to release access to the highly coveted <b>Exclusive Premium Mechanical Discipline Subscription!</b></p>
<p>For those of you just signed up for the newsletter this past month and are unaware of what this is all about, here’s a 2 sentence nutshell to bring you up to speed:</p>
<p>Exclusive Premium Subscriptions provide solutions to niche problems in self improvement that can’t be found anywhere else.  Access to each subscription is only given 1-2 times a year for 72 hours in order to make sure the people who sign up for it are committed to applying what they learn and subscribers get their issues delivered weekly to their inbox for the duration of the subscription (which varies from 1-6 months).</p>
<p><b>Now one of the biggest niche beasts to slay in self improvement is procrastination.  </b></p>
<p>The representation of it is kind of like the Hydra beast in Greek mythology.  You cut off one of its heads, two more grow back. </p>
<p>That’s what people realize once they try to apply all the superficial advice out to deal with procrastination.</p>
<p>They try to chop off the head by using the advice of “make a list” and “just and do it” only to find two more heads grow back when they try to apply it.  </p>
<p>It seems like a never ending battle.  </p>
<p>What everyone intuitively knows about procrastination is that the problem lies in the <b>whole resisting energy</b> around it.  </p>
<p><b><u>People DON’T FEEL LIKE DOING THINGS.</b></u></p>
<p>They don’t FEEL like doing what they know they have to do to achieve their goals.  </p>
<p>Why?</p>
<p>The reasons vary but here’s a question to think about.</p>
<p>If you could GET RID of that feeling, if you could GET RID of that resisting energy that makes you feel like you don’t want to do things, wouldn’t getting things done be a heck of a lot easier?</p>
<p><b>How about you get yourself to the point where the whole process of doing is MECHANICAL</b> – like those robots on the assembly lines building cars?  </p>
<p>Do they say:<i> “Oh, I’m too tired, I don’t want to do it.  I’ll do it later.  I might screw up so I don’t want to try. It’s too hard.  I’ll do it after I watch this TV show.  I don’t feel like doing it right now blah blah blah”</i></p>
<p>No.</p>
<p>They just do.  </p>
<p>It’s no big deal.</p>
<p>No big resisting energy around it.  </p>
<p>It’s a mechanical thing.</p>
<p>How great would it be if you had that same attitude toward doing the things you know you have to do?</p>
<p>Imagine what you could do with your life!  </p>
<p>I created this subscription because I was sick of the usual advice out there on procrastination.  <b>I wanted to punch through to the heart of the problem of procrastination, namely EMOTIONS, and figure out a way to DIFFUSE them so you can JUST DO what you know you have to do MECHANICALLY. </b> </p>
<p>I researched all the information, looked back at the times where I was productive, asked other productive people, took all that information, let it simmer in my mind, got some flashes of insight, took all that and structured it, made it logical, gave it correct order so it flowed, made it easy to understand, easy to apply, and made sure it worked in real life by testing it first and <b>saw that it worked in MECHANIZING my discipline.</b></p>
<p>This subscription is the end result of that process.</p>
<p>It breaks down procrastination into a framework where you can understand it by seeing its structure, it teaches you all the emotional hooplah surrounding it, how you can diffuse it and just do your work mechanically and efficiently like a robot, and also show you a brand new framework to install everything you learned into it to ultimately destroy procrastination.</p>
<p>If there’s ever a rule of success – it’s doing what you say you’re going to do.  If you can do what you say you’ll do, what’s the limit?  </p>
<p>This is probably the reason why this subscription is so popular because people realize it can help dissolve that resisting energy around procrastination which proves to be the major block in their lives.  </p>
<p><b><br />
The problem with all the advice out there on procrastination is that it’s like saying to a desperate drowning person - “hey man, just swim”. </b></p>
<p>Yeah.  That’ll help.</p>
<p>Why not pull him out of the water and teach him how to swim instead?</p>
<p>That’s exactly what this subscription will do for you.</p>
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		<title>How to Stop Making Excuses For Yourself</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jan 2012 04:50:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
	<category>Personal Development</category>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s one of the strongest defense mechanisms we have – making excuses, the clinical term being rationalization.  
And it’s one of the biggest blocks we have to getting what we want out of life.  
The seduction of making excuses is that it ALLOWS our behavior to ourselves and to others (at least that’s [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s one of the strongest defense mechanisms we have – making excuses, the clinical term being rationalization.  </p>
<p>And it’s one of the biggest blocks we have to getting what we want out of life.  </p>
<p>The seduction of making excuses is that it ALLOWS our behavior to ourselves and to others (at least that’s what we think what others think).  It’s a story we can hide behind and one we can use to save face when we explain to others our shortcomings.  </p>
<p>The WORST thing about making excuses is that it neutralizes your desire.  You don’t FEEL pain anymore.  You don’t feel the pain necessary to make the change. You numb yourself to it and as a result, nothing every changes.  You become OK with mediocrity.  It becomes your highest standard.    </p>
<p><b>The key to getting rid of this habit of making excuses for yourself is to REALIZE THAT YOU’RE MAKING EXCUSES <i>IN THE MOMENT YOU’RE DOING IT.  </i></b></p>
<p>When you make excuses, you don’t realize it because you’re on AUTOPILOT when you do it. You’re not even conscious of it.  It’s a part of you now.  </p>
<p>Catch yourself when it happens by being conscious of your thoughts and ask yourself:</p>
<p><i>Is this who I want to be?</i></p>
<p>If you’re in the middle of making an excuse for not keeping a promise – is that who you want to be? </p>
<p>A flaker? Someone who can’t be depended upon?  A person whose word means absolutely nothing?  </p>
<p>Think of what happens down the line if you keep on making excuses.  What’s your life going to look like years later?  Is that the kind of life you want to live?</p>
<p>Correct it in the moment by asking yourself who you want to be.</p>
<p><b>And then take action in the moment that mirrors that desire.</b></p>
<p>If it’s too late to keep the promise, own up to it.  Tell the other person that’s not who you want to be and you understand if they doubt it, and that you’ll do your best to show them that you’re going to change and not hide behind excuses anymore.</p>
<p>Do that each moment you make excuses and eventually the correction becomes habit.  </p>
<p>Now imagine on the flip side what happens to a person who reverses this habit. Who doesn’t make excuses anymore, especially when it comes to keeping his/her word.</p>
<p>That person is conscious of this and makes sure to only commit to things they can. </p>
<p>They’re very careful about their promises and make sure to live up to each one of them.  </p>
<p>Imagine the kind of personal power they possess.  </p>
<p>Whatever they promise – it gets done.  </p>
<p>They’ve built the chain.  </p>
<p>So if they promise themselves they’re going to do something related to their goals, it’s as good as done now.  You can take it to the bank.  </p>
<p><b>They’re going to do WHATEVER IT TAKES. </b>  </p>
<p>Each time you come up with an excuse, it’s like you’re adding more figurative plaque to the arteries of your heart’s deepest desires.  Your heart can’t get the blood it needs and then it stops working.  </p>
<p>You figuratively die.</p>
<p>Take a look at people who are masters at giving excuses.  </p>
<p>They’re walking zombies. </p>
<p>Just going through the motions of life.</p>
<p>Afraid to really go for what they want so they make excuses for not going for it.</p>
<p>Making excuses for yourself is a DANGEROUS thing to do.</p>
<p>It strips you of your notion of personal responsibility, it dilutes your life force energy, you start to believe that you have no control over anything, that it’s all about what happens out there and since out there is out of your control, your life becomes a roller coaster ride and it all starts you on the dangerous road to depression and despair.</p>
<p><b><u>WAKE UP!</b></u></p>
<p>Once you remove this block of making excuse, things will start flowing again in your life. It won’t be stagnant.  </p>
<p>You’ll get excited.  </p>
<p>You’ll get back that zest for life.</p>
<p>No longer will you be a stagnant pool of water that becomes a breeding ground for life disease but a pure, raging, flowing river of clean water.</p>
<p>Just how electricity flows through the current of least resistance, so will your life flow when you get rid of these excuse blocks.  </p>
<p>Who do you want to be?</p>
<p>What’s your life going to look like if you keep using these excuse crutches?</p>
<p>Don’t become that stagnant pool of diseased energy.
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		<title>What’s Your Sauce?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Jan 2012 05:36:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been thinking about some of the foods that I enjoy and by no means am I some connoisseur when it comes to food. I’m a simple guy, I like simple foods, I’m not a foodie, I enjoy a nice meal every once in a while.  
But it’s plainly obvious that it’s the sauce [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been thinking about some of the foods that I enjoy and by no means am I some connoisseur when it comes to food. I’m a simple guy, I like simple foods, I’m not a foodie, I enjoy a nice meal every once in a while.  </p>
<p>But it’s plainly obvious that it’s the sauce that makes all the difference.</p>
<p>Take for example a hamburger.  A hamburger is a hamburger is a hamburger is a hamburger is a hamburger.  It’s the sauce that makes all the difference whether its sauces like the Big Mac secret sauce or Tommy’s famous chili sauce.  That’s what really makes it good.  The other stuff like bun, meat, tomatoes, onions, – yeah, you could say it’s the best, but that’s expected.  </p>
<p>But some people don’t even do that. They have crappy ingredients to begin with.        </p>
<p>Italian dishes are mostly all made up of the same “base”.  You strip them naked of their sauces and they’re all the same.  Again, it comes down to the sauce.  </p>
<p>Smog check stations. They all do the same routine. They’re mandated by the state to follow the same routine.  They’re all the same.  </p>
<p>Until you add the secret sauce.  </p>
<p>I know of one smog check station that gets hundreds of reviews.  Hundreds.  Of a smog check station.  You usually only see hundreds of reviews for popular restaurants or landmarks.  But for a smog check station?  When other smog check stations only have about 2 or 3?  What the heck is going on?  </p>
<p>Just from reading a couple of the reviews, turns out the owner keeps a very clean shop, is very thorough in his work, gentle with the cars, if there’s a problem with failing the smog test, he explains what he thinks the issues might be to help repair it, if you’re waiting way back in line behind other customers, he gets your keys and gives you map of the local area with interesting things to see while you wait, turns your car around when he’s finished so you can easily exit instead of backing out onto the street, holds the door open for all occupants, smiles, and waves you off, plus has pretty good prices on top of all that.  He makes the inconvenient smog check as pleasant as can be.  </p>
<p>You would think all smog check stations would do that but they don’t. That’s why this guy gets all the customers and gets hundreds of glowing reviews.  He has the sauce that makes all the difference.  </p>
<p>So the question is – what’s YOUR sauce?  </p>
<p>Think about the sauce you bring to work.  </p>
<p>Skills are the base.  Everybody can have them and if you don’t, you can learn them.  Too many people only worry about the skills.  Yes they are needed, but it’s the sauce that tips the scales.  </p>
<p>Skills alone won’t help you when you’re competing with others who have the same, if not better skills than you.  </p>
<p>It’s the sauce that’s going to help you.</p>
<p>Hiring mangers can see that two people have the same skills but if one person’s “sauce” is more appealing in terms of fitting into company culture and working with others, the hiring decision is very easy.</p>
<p>So what’s your sauce going to be made out of?</p>
<p>It’s really a cornucopia of things like personality traits, aptitudes, talents, social skills, etc.  </p>
<p>But it’s hard to articulate what the ingredients of our sauce would be when you try to do it on the spot so here’s a very simple way to find out. </p>
<p>List 3 people you really admire.  </p>
<p>Then list all the qualities that you really admire about them.  </p>
<p><b>The reason why you like those people is because you see the qualities that you like about them in yourself, or you at least see a sliver of those qualities in yourself that you know if you nourish, you can fully exhibit too.  </b></p>
<p>As you know, I admire Steve Jobs and some of the words that would describe what I like about him are creative, different, and simple.  </p>
<p>Other qualities I admire from other people would be structured, meaty, organized, efficient, and logical.  </p>
<p>These make up some of the ingredients of my sauce and if you look at all my writings from articles to books and subscriptions, you’ll see that sauce poured onto them.  </p>
<p>So find out what your sauce is.  What ingredients make it up?  </p>
<p>Pour it onto what you plan serve to others.  </p>
<p>It makes all the difference in the world.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I can’t believe it’s been 5 years since the beginning of this site.  Seems like yesterday I was writing the first couple articles for it.  </p>
<p>Millions upon millions of readers and hundreds and hundreds of articles written later, it sounds crazy, but I think I’m just getting started.  </p>
<p>Self improvement is such a big field and I think I’ve only discovered a fraction of a percent of all the ideas in it.  </p>
<p>There’s so much more to explore, so much more to think about, to meditate on, to swish around in my mind.  </p>
<p>That’s the direction this site has been heading over the years and <b>it’s the reason why brand new articles have been very sporadic this past year.</b>  </p>
<p>Now most of the people who have read the bulk of the articles on this site and have signed up for the M.I.T’s to get that consistency – <b>they’re at a higher level than most of the people out there.</b>  </p>
<p>Their lives have changed because of the ideas in those articles.</p>
<p>But the articles can only do so much.  </p>
<p><b>Those articles come about from a SINGLE flash of insight.</b></p>
<p>I get the idea for the article, write it down and then expand upon it.</p>
<p>However, over the past couple years, I’ve had a flash of insight, but then when I got to writing about it,<b><i>it felt incomplete</b></i>.  I knew I needed MORE flashes of insight to complete them so I stuck those files into a folder on my desktop labeled <b>“Essay Vault”</b>.  </p>
<p>I knew they would be longer than the articles and of more value simply because <b>they required MULTIPLE flashes of insight to complete</b>.</p>
<p>And I waited for those flashes of insight needed to complete them.</p>
<p><b>In the beginning of this year, I finally began to release those completed essays for the VERY FIRST TIME to subscribers.</b></p>
<p>The essays in the Essay Vault cover a range of topics, seemingly random as they’re inspired by those flashes of insight, but they’re longer than the articles on my site, of higher quality, and have more of those “ah ha!” ideas that click things together in your mind.  </p>
<p>If you’re craving deeper, higher quality ideas from my site, if you’re ready to take your life to the next level, the Essay Vault is just what you need. </p>
<p>Here’s a sneak peak at what subscribers have received thus far:</p>
<p><i>How to Be Happy Where You Are Right Now</p>
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<p>How to Develop that All Important Skill of Intuition</p>
<p>How to Bring the Kind of Peace a Monk Who Lives In a Temple on Top of a Mountain Has Into Your Life</p>
<p>How to Take Your Thinking Skills to the Next Level</p>
<p>How to Make More Money Than It Takes to Just Get By</p>
<p>How to Deal With Thoughts of Not Achieving Your Goal</p>
<p>How to Stop Struggling In Life</p>
<p>The One Idea That Will Take the Process of Achieving Your Goals to the Next Level</p>
<p>How to Find It Within Yourself to Truly Forgive Others and Obtain the Peace that Comes With it</p>
<p>How to Fall In Love With The Process So You’re That Much More Inclined to Achieve Your Desired Outcome</p>
<p>How to Move Beyond the Logical Mind (something I’m SURE readers of this site will find intriguing).</p>
<p>How to Finally Get Out of the Rat Race</i></p>
<p>Access is only granted once a month for 72 hours to filter those who are truly committed to applying the valuable ideas in it.  </p>
<p>Subscribers sign up and get an essay once a week for 4 weeks and in the 5th week, no essay is sent to allow for those flashes of insight to come to complete more essays, and then the cycle continues again, an essay once a week for 4 weeks.  </p>
<p>You read the typical self improvement articles out there on the net – they’re so short, so full of that “just do it, think positive” weak sauce crap, all over the place, scattered, no real new information, no real insight, no real “ah ha” click moments.  It’s very superfluous.  No meat.  </p>
<p>Then you read the articles on this site and you realize it’s a cut above the rest out there on the net.  It’s structured, logical, flows, slices through the BS, gets to the heart of the matter, provides answers that make sense, that are easy to understand, and work in the real world. </p>
<p><b>The essays in the Essay Vault are a CUT ABOVE the articles on this site, are not available anywhere else, and will never be released on the blog for the public to see.</b>  </p>
<p>They’re born from MULTIPLE flashes of insight.  </p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2011 04:35:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brian Kim</dc:creator>
		
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Politicians have a reputation for being corrupt, flip floppers, people with no integrity or strong beliefs.  Part of it has to do with the dilemma they face.  </p>
<p>In order to get elected, they need a lot of votes so the logical thing to do is to make their platform appeal to the beliefs of the majority.  And not only do they need the votes, they need the money to campaign so twisting their beliefs to match special interests groups who are willing to donate money to their campaign also comes into play.</p>
<p>But if the beliefs of the majority are contrary to what you truly believe, do you flip flop just to get the votes and get elected?  </p>
<p>Or do you stand by your beliefs and run the risk of not getting enough votes and not getting elected?</p>
<p>If you do flip flop, you have no identity. People don’t trust you.  You don’t stand for anything. </p>
<p>But if you do stick to your beliefs, irrespective of the election outcome, over the long haul, that action will serve you greatly.  </p>
<p>Looking at the current Republican nomination candidates for 2012, one person seems to embody the actions of being consistent and that’s Ron Paul.  Agree or disagree with his views, you have to admire the way he stands by his beliefs of following the Constitution and the principle of liberty.  </p>
<p>Back in the day, those views were not very popular at all.  Government routinely flouted the Constitution and reduced civil liberties under the guise of anti communism and anti terrorism but Ron Paul kept on plodding along with his beliefs and now, many people are coming around to them, noted by the favorable polls in the Iowa caucus.</p>
<p>If he flip flopped in the middle of his political career, he never would’ve gotten his rabid supporters who helped spread his message and the people he flipped to wouldn’t trust him either because of the fact that he flipped.</p>
<p>You can’t be all things to all people. You need to stick to what you believe.  </p>
<p>Now he ultimately may not get the nomination, but he set up a very solid foundation and he spread his ideas in the minds of many people which can then help plant the seeds of a bigger revolution (also note that he WAS elected as a Congressman based on sticking by his principles.)</p>
<p>Businesses face the same sort of dilemma.  They want to focus on increasing profits to show good quarterly earnings in order to please investors and drive up the stock price but they do it at the expense of not thinking about the future.  It’s all short term thinking.  Cut costs, raise prices, who cares about the customers, just make sure the numbers look good type thinking.    </p>
<p>Steve Jobs flipped that thinking around and focused on building great products that were ahead of their time instead.  He could peer into the future and see what was coming and how he could best build products that would help people at that time.  He believed in being different, having minimalistic design, innovating, using high quality material, making products easy to use and he spread that message.  As a result, profits took care of themselves.  (It’s interesting to note too that Ron Paul was able to predict the economic crisis, terrorist attacks, loss of civil liberties, the devaluation of the dollar and spread those ideas as well).  </p>
<p>Now what can we learn from each of these individuals in terms of how they solved their respective dilemmas?</p>
<p>Don’t focus on the money.  Establish what you believe.  Be consistent in sticking with your beliefs through your actions.  Spread your message.  Create great ideas, products, and service that will add value to people based on your beliefs.  Persevere because the benefits of doing so will take a long time.  </p>
<p>Rinse and repeat.  </p>
<p>The formula makes perfect sense when you look at it from a big enough timeline but most people don’t want to wait. They want the shortcut. The easy way out. They only think short term.</p>
<p>While that kind of thinking may produce immediate results, it won’t last.  </p>
<p>Life is long.  </p>
<p>Slow and steady wins the race.  </p>
<p><b>You want to look at everything you do from a long term point of view.</b></p>
<p>Now if we take the dilemma businesses face, we can draw a parallel to the scenario of getting a job just to pay the bills vs. doing something you love to do.   </p>
<p>If you just get a job to pay the bills, yes the money comes in fast, you pay the bills, you survive, but it can be viewed as a very short term way of thinking.</p>
<p>Doing something you love – yes, that requires you NOT to focus on the money first and in order to really do that, you have to really believe in the idea of serving people in some way shape or form based on doing what you love.  You must be consistent with it, create ideas, products, and services, spread your message, and persevere despite the fact that money may be very scarce in the beginning.  It may be unpopular with friends and family at first, but in the long run, you’ll be better off and will have established trust and provided great value to people and solved the “passion” dilemma that so many people struggle with. </p>
<p>This takes time and planning but if you truly believe it, stand by it.  Be in it for the long haul. Don’t flip flop.  Let your actions reflect what you believe.  Create.  Spread your message. Persevere.  </p>
<p>In the long run, that’s how the dilemma is solved.</p>
<p>People who think short term can’t see that and before they know it, it’s too late.  </p>
<p>They didn’t build the foundation of their beliefs and as a result, it all comes crashing down.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s been 6 months since this subscription was last offered so according to the rotation, <b>it’s finally time to release access to it once again!</b></p>
<p>For those of you who have joined us this past month who have no idea what we’re talking about, let us quickly bring you up to speed.</p>
<p>Exclusive Premium Subscriptions deal with VERY SPECIFIC niche problems that people deal with, but can’t really find any answers to.  Problems such as how to master that mind chatter going on in your head so you can just freaking do what you set out to do, how to install the correct mindset and the actions to take to make more money, how to develop what I call mechanical discipline to defeat procrastination, etc.  </p>
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<p><b>Now of ALL the problems in self improvement, probably none are more powerful than your Circular Mind Chatter (CMC).</b></p>
<p>It’s that voice in your head talking you OUT of the things you want to do so you end up right where you started – hence the term Circular Mind Chatter.  </p>
<p>It’s the voice that goes:</p>
<p><i>“Don’t start that business. You’ll fail.”</p>
<p>“Don’t bother trying to lose weight. You’ll never succeed.”</p>
<p>“It’s too risky to do that so don’t even try.”</i></p>
<p>Here’s the thing.</p>
<p>In the self improvement world, nobody talks about it.  It’s like the 13th floor of a hotel.  Everybody just wants to sweep it under the rug.  </p>
<p><b>They don’t talk about it because they have no real solutions to it.</b></p>
<p>And if it does come up, the experts always love to throw the old “just do it” trick at you to wash their hands of it and deflect it and we all know how that works.  </p>
<p>So what is this beast, this mental chatter in your head?  Are you mentally ill for having it?  Where does it come from? How can we smack some discipline on it?  How can we control it instead of letting it control us? </p>
<p>Mark my words - this mental beast MUST be dealt with.</p>
<p><b>Otherwise, your life is going to be forever run by it – by this fearful imaginary VOICE in your head. </b> </p>
<p>This circular mind chatter affects ALL people.  You’re not the only one who has it and you’re not crazy for having it either.  </p>
<p>But people don’t like to talk about it out of fear of being judged as crazy or mentally weak.  </p>
<p><b><u>I believe it’s time we stop skirting around the issue and punch a big ass hole right in the middle of it, rip its guts out, examine it to understand the beast of it and then go on to solve it so it never gets in our way ever again.  </b></u></p>
<p>It’s time we shined a big old spotlight on it, expose it for what it truly is, and master it to the point where it becomes the voice of a 5 year old child, tugging at your shirt, telling you he’s afraid of the monsters under his bed.  </p>
<p>You will then pat your CMC on the head, squeeze its cheeks and tell it not to worry and to go to sleep and you know what?</p>
<p>It will.  </p>
<p>It will go to sleep and leave you free to do what you really want to do.</p>
<p>So enough of the “just do it” advice.  </p>
<p><b>This issue needs to be THOROUGHLY examined and talked about and solved and I can tell you, the process to do just that was very meticulous.</b></p>
<p>It was a pleasure gathering all the ideas I’ve learned over the years to deal with it, researching what little information there was on it, talking about it with other people on how they’ve successfully dealt with it, brainstorming all that, letting it simmer in my mind, getting those flashes of insight, gathering the meat of it, cutting the fat, structuring the information, ordering it so it flowed, making it logical, easy to understand, testing it to make sure it worked in the real world, and polishing it all to finally deliver it in this subscription.  </p>
<p>We all want to be like Yoda, to have that calm, peaceful, wise mind, to control our thoughts so they don’t control us.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We all have bad habits and the thing is, we fail to realize it’s a choice. The reason why bad habits keep on going on is because we think they’re automatic.  </p>
<p>No.</p>
<p>We make a choice to indulge in those bad habits but it happens so fast we don’t realize it.  </p>
<p>We CAN choose otherwise.  </p>
<p>But of course, the thing is people think it’s too hard to break those bad habits.  </p>
<p>Why?</p>
<p><b>Because the cost is too high.</b></p>
<p>It’s too hard.</p>
<p>Requires too much work.</p>
<p><i>But that’s the result of only focusing on one side of the equation.</i></p>
<p>What about the other side, namely the benefits?  </p>
<p><b>The benefits FAR outweigh the costs and the problem here is that people don’t SEE the LONG TERM BENEFITS of breaking those bad habits. </b></p>
<p>They’re just fixated on how high the costs are of breaking them, <b><i><u>which is only just an illusion as you’ll soon see.  </b></i></u></p>
<p>In the beginning, yes, breaking the habits will be “hard”, but if you do it long enough, you’ll turn the corner, see the pay offs, AND NEVER WANT TO GO BACK.  </p>
<p>You’ll kick your bad habits out of the car and leave them choking in the dust.  </p>
<p>So to wrap our minds around all this, let’s see what happens with a typical bad habit.</p>
<p>Something triggers you to indulge in a bad habit, you do it, and afterwards you have low energy, low self esteem, low self confidence, and a low self image. You caved. You think you have no self control.  You think you’re a loser, that you can’t do anything right.  You vow not to do it again but lo and behold, the same thing happens.  </p>
<p>Now EACH TIME you indulge in your bad habit, energy gets depleted and the way in which you view yourself gets weaker and weaker and weaker, making it easier and easier and easier to further indulge in those bad habits to the point where it seems automatic.  </p>
<p><b>People don’t see how those bad habits become AUTOMATIC based on your self image.</b></p>
<p>If you think you’re a loser who has no self control, self esteem, self confidence, discipline, etc., and something comes up that triggers you to indulge in your bad habit, of course you’re going to do it because how could a person who has no self control, self confidence, self esteem, discipline, etc., possibly resist?</p>
<p>Now what happens when you break it ONCE?</p>
<p>Your energy isn’t depleted anymore.</p>
<p>It’s stored within your body.  </p>
<p>And it has to have an outlet so you give it one in the form of another activity.  This hopefully gets you busy to the point where you don’t think about your bad habit. Not only that, your self image of yourself grows as does your self confidence, self esteem, self control, discipline, etc., setting it up so that in the event the trigger comes again, you’re BETTER EQUIPPED to stop the bad habit that next time.</p>
<p>This is what most people don’t see.</p>
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They think it’s a 100% struggle EACH TIME they’re tempted to indulge in their bad habit and that just makes it too hard in their minds to overcome it.</i></p>
<p><b><u>NO.</b></u></p>
<p><b>It gets EASIER over time and REQUIRES LESS ENERGY to break it and each time you break it, your self image grows stronger to the point where breaking it becomes AUTOMATIC and you’ve developed a new habit to cope with the trigger, one that helps you instead of hurts you.</b></p>
<p>You want to get to the point where the idea of indulging in your bad habit has no “energy” over you and that happens when you shift from the “doing” to the “being” because the doing comes from the being. </p>
<p>Focus on the source and fix that and the rest will be natural.  </p>
<p>So the key here is to notice your triggers, find a substitute activity to deal with that trigger, use sheer willpower the first couple of times to break the cycle and strengthen your self image, and the rest will follow naturally.  </p>
<p>This part is crucial though to help you for the majority of your journey.</p>
<p><u><b>Make notes of all the positive changes that occur.</b></u></p>
<p><i>So often, the BENEFITS fall by the wayside so it’s easy to think that it’s not worth it but if you keep a list of ALL the benefits, big and small, grow them, review them, you’ll see it’s definitely worth doing.</i></p>
<p>Now let’s use an example to illustrate all that we’ve talked about.</p>
<p>A classic example is overeating when stressed. </p>
<p>Such a bad habit and each time you indulge, you get fatter and fatter, have less energy, less self confidence, less self discipline, and all that creates more stress, which creates more overeating, etc.</p>
<p>Now you notice the trigger and instead of eating when stressed, you run. Get more endorphins, stronger self image, etc.  Stress comes again, you’re really tempted to eat, but it’s not as bad as before, so you run and you get more endorphins, stronger self image, discipline, self esteem, etc. The next time stress comes, the temptation to eat is not so bad and this goes on and on and on to the point where it has no hold over you anymore.  </p>
<p>Your life takes a new turn, you have more energy, more things to do, feel better about yourself, see yourself as a person who’s disciplined and all that carries over and you find life on all fronts just keeps getting better and better.</p>
<p><b>That energy you expended indulging in your bad habits gets transmuted into other areas of your life instead.</b>  </p>
<p>Once you see these kinds of benefits, you don’t want to go back.  </p>
<p>It’s like you’re living a brand new life where you’ve emerged from the dark recesses of your mind having finally seen the light.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As always, invites to the Essay Vault Subscription are available every month so before this month ends, let’s do just that.  </p>
<p>For those of you who just joined us this past month, who have no idea what this is all about, let’s bring you all up to speed.</p>
<p>It’s been 5 years and 500+ free articles from the beginning of this site and it’s been a great ride.</p>
<p><b>But it’s just getting started.</b>  </p>
<p>Why?</p>
<p>I find myself delving into deeper and deeper ideas of self improvement, which require more and more time to think about, which takes away from writing new articles, which explains why brand new articles have been sporadic lately.</p>
<p>Writing those 500 articles came as a result of a SINGLE flash of insight for each article, but over those 5 years, I’ve also written essays that have required MULTIPLE flashes of insight to complete.</p>
<p>The flash of insight would come, but I would look over what I wrote, and I knew that more would be needed to complete them so I patiently waited for them to come.  </p>
<p>When they did, I would structure all the information, made sure it logically flowed, worked in real life, sliced through all the B.S., and punched through to grab the heart of the matter.</p>
<p><b><u>Those completed essays are now being released through the Essay Vault Subscription.</b></u></p>
<p><b>Now to put the Essay Vault Subscription into perspective, it helps to use this analogy.</b></p>
<p>Right now, we have smartphones on one end of the gadget scale and we have laptops on the other end.</p>
<p>Both help us immensely in our lives in their own respective ways.</p>
<p>Is there a third category in the middle?  </p>
<p>Yes, there is, as the late Steve Jobs astutely predicted. </p>
<p>The tablet.  </p>
<p>The articles on this site are like the smartphones.</p>
<p>The Exclusive Premium Subscriptions are like the laptops on the other end of the scale.</p>
<p><b>The Essay Vault Subscription is in the middle like the tablet.</b>  </p>
<p>It allows for more exploration of ideas that are too complex for an article, yet too short for an Exclusive Premium Subscription (those deal with niche topics like mastering your circular mind chatter, cultivating burning desire, developing mechanical discipline, etc).</p>
<p><b>Now you may ask – why not give out the essays for free?</b></p>
<p>Well, if you look at it this way, I’m already been giving out “smartphones” for free.  The articles and the M.I.T’s have been of tremendous help for millions around the world, but just like how smartphones can only do so much, <b><u><i>so can the articles only do so much.  </b></u></i></p>
<p>Tablets and laptops provide more meat, use, and function, just like the Essay Vault and the other Exclusive Premium Subscriptions do as well so that’s why they aren’t given out for free.  </p>
<p>Moreover, just like how tablets are less expensive than laptops, so is the Essay Vault less expensive than the Exclusive Premium Subscriptions ($10/month vs. $14.95/month).</p>
<p>Those who gain access to the Essay Vault will receive one essay a week via email for four weeks, and then for the fifth week, there’s a break to allow for those flashes of insight to come to complete more essays and then the schedule continues again the next following week, one essay a week for four weeks, a break for the fifth week, etc.</p>
<p><b>It’s a unique schedule that takes into account that incubation time needed to bring about those flashes of insight into play.</b> </p>
<p>Just like the M.I.T.’s and articles, the essay topics vary but as you might have experienced, they come at the right time when you need them.  </p>
<p>I can’t count how many times people have emailed me saying that the M.I.T. I sent or the article I wrote was EXACTLY what they needed at the time and all I can say is that I have no conscious part in that.  They all come from the same source.</p>
<p><b>Here’s a recent peek at what the Essay Vault has released:</b></p>
<p>How to Let Go of The Need for Financial Security</p>
<p>How to Finally Get Out of the Rat Race</p>
<p>How to Move Beyond the Logical Mind (something I’m SURE readers of this site will find intriguing).</p>
<p>The 7 Levels You Can Find People Living On and How to Climb Each One</p>
<p>How to Develop that All Important Skill of Intuition</p>
<p>How to Bring the Kind of Peace a Monk Who Lives In a Temple on Top of a Mountain Has Into Your Life</p>
<p>How to Take Your Thinking Skills to the Next Level</p>
<p>How to Make Those Tough Decisions in Life</p>
<p>How to Deal With Thoughts of Not Achieving Your Goal</p>
<p>How to Stop Struggling In Life</p>
<p>The One Idea That Will Take the Process of Achieving Your Goals to the Next Level</p>
<p>How to Find It Within Yourself to Truly Forgive Others and Obtain the Peace that Comes With it</p>
<p>How to Fall In Love With The Process So You’re That Much More Inclined to Achieve Your Desired Outcome</p>
<p><b>If you loved the M.I.T’s, articles and books, there’s NO DOUBT you will enjoy and benefit from the Essay Vault.</b>  It’s on another level, of higher quality, has never before been seen, nor will ever be released to the public, for your eyes only. </p>
<p>It contains a lot of great ideas on a variety of topics, full of those “ah ha!” moments you love thanks to those multiple flashes of insight, all geared toward helping you live life on a higher level than most people out there.</p>
<p><b>If all the free M.I.T.’s and articles on this site have helped you, <i>HOW MUCH MORE WILL THE ESSAY VAULT HELP AS WELL?</b></i></p>
<p>Moreover, invites to the Essay Vault are only given out once a month, for 72 hours, to weed out those who aren’t committed to applying the information in their lives.</p>
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