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The 50th Law by Robert Greene and 50 Cent Chapter Summary - See Things for What They Are - Intense Realism

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:07:45 PST

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See Things for What They Are--Intense Realism

Intro

Reality can be rather harsh. Your days are numbered. It takes constant effort to carve a place for yourself in the ruthlessly competitive world and hold on to it. People can be treacherous. They bring endless battles into your life. Your task is to resist the temptation to wish it were all different; instead you must fearlessly accept these circumstances, even embrace them. By focusing your attention on what is going on around you, you will gain a sharp appreciation for what makes some people advance and others fall behind. By seeing through people's manipulations, you can turn them around. The firmer your grasp on reality, the more power you will have to alter it for your purposes.

Keys to Fearlessness

Rediscover Curiosity--Openness

Basic ignorance was what you had as a child. You had a need and hunger for knowledge, to overcome this ignorance, so you observed the world as closely as possible, absorbing large amounts of information. Everything was a source of wonder. With time our minds tend to close off. At some point, we feel like we know what we need to know; our opinions are certain and firm. We do this out of fear. We don't want our assumptions about life challenged. If we go too far in this direction, we can become extremely defensive and cover up our fears by acting with supreme confidence and certainty.
What you need to do in life is return to that mind you possessed as a child, opening up to experience instead of closing it off. Just imagine for a day that you do not know anything, that what you believe could be completely false. Let go of your preconceptions and even your most cherished beliefs. Experiment. Force yourself to hold the opposite opinion or see the world through your enemy's eyes. Listen to the people around you with more attentiveness. See everything as a source for education--even the most banal encounters. Imagine that the world is still full of mystery.
When you operate this way, you will notice that something strange often happens. Opportunities will begin to fall into your lap because you are suddenly more receptive to them. Sometimes luck or serendipity is more a function of the openness of your mind.

Know the Complete Terrain--Expansion

War is fought over specific terrain. But there is more involved than just that. There is also the morale of the enemy soldiers, the political leaders who set them in motion, the minds of the opposing generals who make the key decisions, and the money and resources that stand behind it all. A mediocre general will confine his knowledge to the physical terrain. A better general will try to expand his knowledge by reading reports about the other factors that influence an army. And the superior general will try to intensify this knowledge by observing as much as he can with his own eyes or consulting firsthand sources. Napoleon Bonaparte is the greatest general who ever lived, and what elevated him above all others was the mass of information he absorbed about all of the details of battle, with as few filters as possible. This gave him a superior grasp on reality.
Your goal is to follow the path of Napoleon. You want to take in as much as possible with your own eyes. You communicate with people up an down the chain of command within your organization. You do not draw any barriers to your social interactions. You want to expand your access to different ideas. Force yourself to go to events and places that are beyond your usual circle. If you cannot observe something firsthand, try to get reports that are more direct and less filtered, or vary the sources so that you can see things from several sides. Get a fingertip feel for everything going on in your environment--the complete terrain.

Dig to the Roots--Depth

When you do not get to the root of a problem, you cannot solve it in any meaningful manner. People like to look at the surfaces, get all emotional and react, doing things that make them feel better in the short term but do nothing for them in the long term.
This must be the power and the direction of your mind whenever you encounter some problem--to bore deeper and deeper until you get at something basic and at the root. Never be satisfied with what presents itself to your eyes. See what underlies it all, absorb it, and then dig deeper. Always question why this particular event has happened, what the motives of the various actors are, who really is in control, who benefits by this action. Often, it will revolve around money and power--that is what people are usually fighting over, despite the surface gloss they give to it. You may never get to the actual root, but the process of digging will bring you closer. And operating this way will help develop your mind into a powerful analytical instrument.

See Further Ahead--Proportion

By our nature as rational, conscious creatures, we cannot help but think of the future. But most people, out of fear, limit their view of the future to a narrow range--thoughts of tomorrow, a few weeks ahead, perhaps a vague plan for the months to come. We are generally dealing with so many immediate battles, it is hard for us to lift our gaze above the moment. It is a law of power, however, that the further and deeper we contemplate the future, the greater our capacity to shape it according to our desires.
If you have a long-term goal for yourself, one that you have imagined in detail, then you are better able to make the proper decisions in the present. You know which battles or positions to avoid because they don't advance you towards your goal. With your gaze lifted to the future, you can focus on the dangers looming on the horizon and take proactive measures to avert them. You have a sense of proportion--sometimes the things we fuss over in the present don't matter in the long run. All of this gives you an increased power to reach your objectives.
As part of this process, look at the smaller problems that are plaguing you or your enterprise in the present, and draw arrows to the future, imagining what they could possibly lead to if they grow larger. Think of the biggest mistakes or those of others. How could they have been foreseen? Generally there are signs that seem so obvious afterwards. Now imagine those very same signs that you are probably ignoring in the present.

Look at People's Deeds, Not Words--Sharpness

In war or any competitive game, you don't pay attention to people's good or bad intentions. They don't matter. It should be the same in the game of life. Everyone is playing to win, and some people will use moral justifications to advance their side. All you look at are people's maneuvers--their actions in the past and what you might expect in the future. In this area, you are fiercely realistic. You understand that everyone is after power, and that to get it we all occasionally manipulate and even deceive. That is human nature and there is no shame in it. You don't take people's maneuvers personally; you merely try to defend or advance yourself.
As part of this approach, you must become a better observer of people. This cannot be done on the Internet. It must be honed in personal interactions. You are trying to read people, see through them as best you can. You come to understand, for instance, that a person who is too obviously friendly after too short a time is often up to no good. If they flatter you, it is generally out of envy. Behavior that stands out and seems excessive is a sign. Don't get caught up in people's grand gestures, in the public face they put on. Pay more attention to the details, to the little things they reveal in their day-to-day lives. Their decisions reveal a lot, and you can often discern a pattern if you look at them closely.
In general, looking at people through the lens of your emotions will cloud what you see and make you misunderstand everything. What you want is a sharp eye towards your fellow humans--one that is piercing, objective, and nonjudgmental.

Reassess Yourself--Detachment

Your increasing powers of observation must occasionally be aimed at yourself. Think of this as a ritual you will engage in every few weeks--a rigorous reassessment of who you are and where you are headed. Look at your most recent actions as if they were the maneuvers of another person. Imagine how you could have done it all better--avoided unnecessary battles or confronted people who stood in your way, instead of running away from them. The goal here is not to beat up on yourself but to have the capacity to adapt and change your behavior by moving closer to the reality.
The endgame of such an exercise is to cultivate the proper sense of detachment from yourself and from life. It is not that you want to feel this detachment at every moment. There are times that require you to act with heart and boldness, without doubts or self-distance. On many occasions, however, you need to be able to assess what is happening, without your ego or emotions coloring your perceptions. Moving to a calm, detached inner position to observe events will become a habit and something you can rely on amid any crisis. At those moments in life when others lose their balance, you will find yours with relative ease. As a person who cannot be easily ruffled by events, you will attract attention and power.

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Choice and the Power to Create - a Poem by Broderick Boyd

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 13:55:19 PST

What to do? What to create?
I can create anything that I choose, It's just a question of what
My mind searches, my heart yearns for constructive effort
Moving in a new direction, moving in a great direction
How does this world change me? the ways that I let it.
Only that is what determines who I become
My choice, my life, my destiny
Life can't stop something like that from actually happening
My life growing the way I want it to, entering the domains that I choose
And there lies the key... the power of choice.
Will I continue this journey, or will I turn back?
Will I take the leap, or will I go back to where it's warm?
What choice have you taken today?
A reversal of that choice, what would that be like?
Don't look back, don't second guess, when you choose, you move, when you choose you live.
Anything less than that is simply death or the coming of death.

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Earth Journey - a Poem by Broderick Boyd

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:40:36 PST

Taking the world one step at a time.

Making my impact

Going my own way

Living for the sake of living

Growing for the sake of growing

Existing in a changing battlefield

Taking my time, going the way that needs to be gone

brushes across my soul, screams beyond my shoulders

The earth shifts, my mind drifts

I take it back, I regain the control

My life changes as necessity demands

Love will never challenge me more than this

Destiny brings me to the edge of bliss

tough love on a mothers son

the journey of a thousand miles has just begun.

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"If" by Rudyard Kipling

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:36:01 PST

One of my favorite poems of all time: "If" by Rudyard Kipling, the author of "The Jungle Book." Enjoy.

"If" by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,

Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,

And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;

If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with triumph and disaster

And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,

And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -

Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,

And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

Chapter Summary - Desire - From the Book "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 13:08:48 PST

Law 1 – Cultivate a Burning Desire to Succeed

A long while ago, a great warrior faced a situation which made it necessary for him to make a decision which insured his success on the battlefield. He was about to send his armies against a powerful foe whose men outnumbered his own. He loaded his soldiers into boats, sailed to the enemy’s country, unloaded soldiers and equipment, then gave the order to burn the ships that had carried them. Addressing his men before the first battle, he said “You see the boats going up in smoke. That means that we cannot leave these shores alive unless we win! We now have no choice–we win-or we perish! They won.
Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to burn his ships and cut all sources of retreat. Only by so doing can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a BURNING DESIRE TO WIN, essential to success.
Every human being who reaches the age off understanding of the purpose of money, wishes for it. Wishing will not bring riches. But desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring success.
The method by which desire for success can be transmuted into it’s physical equivalent, consists of six definite, practical steps:

Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient to say "I want plenty of money." Be definite as to the amount. (There is a psychological reason for definiteness which will be described in a subsequent chapter).
Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing”)
Establish a definite date when you intend to posses the money you desire.
Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.
Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for it’s achievement, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to achieve it.
Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. AS YOU READ-SEE AND FEEL AND BELIEVE YOURSELF ALREADY IN POSSESSION OF THE MONEY.

You may complain that it is impossible for you to "see yourself in possession of money" before you actually have it. Here is where a BURNING DESIRE will come to your aid. If you truly DESIRE money so keenly that your desire is an obsession, you will have no difficulty in convincing yourself that you will acquire it. The object is to want to money, and to become so determined to have it that you CONVINCE yourself you will have it.
Only those who become “money conscious” ever accumulate great riches. “Money consciousness” means that your mind has become so thoroughly saturated with the DESIRE for money, that one can see one's self already in possession of it.
All who have accumulated great fortunes, first did a certain amount of dreaming, hoping, wishing, DESIRING, and PLANNING before they acquired money.
You may as well know, right here, that you can never have riches in great quantities, UNLESS you can work yourself into a white heat of DESIRE for money, and actually BELIEVE you will possess it.
You may as well know, also that every great leader, from the dawn of civilization down to the present, was a dreamer.
If you do not see great riches in your imagination, you will never see them in your bank balance.
There is one quality which one must posses to win, and that is DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning DESIRE to possess it.
The practical dreamers have always been, and always will be the pattern makers of civilization.
We who desire to accumulate riches, should remember the real leaders of the world always have been men who harnessed, and put into practical use, the intangible, unseen forces of unborn opportunity, and have converted those forces, (or impulses of thought), into sky-scrapers, cities, factories, airplanes, automobiles, and every form of convenience that makes life more pleasant.
Tolerance, and an open mind are practical necessities of the dreamer of today. Those who are afraid of new ideas are doomed before they start.
In planning to acquire your share of the riches, let no one influence you to scorn the dreamer. To win the big stakes, you must catch the spirit of the great pioneers of the past, whose dreams have given to civilization all that it has of value, the spirit which serves as the life-blood of our own country-your opportunity and mine, to develop and market our talents.
Let us not forget, Columbus dreamed of an unknown world, staked his life on the existence of such a world, and discovered it!
"SUCCESS REQUIRES NO APOLOGIES, FAILURE PERMITS NO ALIBIS."
If the thing you wish to do is right, and you believe in it, go ahead and do it! Put your dreams across and never mind what “they” say if you meet with temporary defeat, for “they,” perhaps, do not know that EVERY FAILURE BRINGS WITH IT THE SEED OF AN EQUIVALENT SUCCESS.
"The greatest achievement was, at first, and for a time, but a dream."
“The oak sleeps in the acorn. The bird waits in the egg, and in the highest vision of the soul, a walking angel stirs. DREAMS ARE THE SEEDLINGS OF REALITY.”
The world is filled with an abundance of OPPORTUNITY which the dreamers of the past never knew.
A BURNING DESIRE TO BE, AND TO DO is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off. Dreams are not born of indifference, laziness, or lack of ambition.
Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they "arrive." The turning point in the lives of those who succeed, usually comes at the moment of some crisis, through which they are introduced to their "other selves."
Before passing to the next chapter, kindle anew in your mind the fire of hope, faith, courage, and a working knowledge of the principles described, all else that you need will come to you, when you are READY for it.
There is a difference between WISHING for a thing and being READY to receive it. No one is ready for a thing, until he believes he can acquire it. The state of mind must be BELIEF, not mere hope or wish. Open-mindedness is essential for belief. Closed minds do not inspire faith, courage, and belief.

Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty. A great poet has correctly stated this universal truth through these lines:

“I bargained with life for a penny, and Life would pay no more, however I begged at evening when I counted my scanty store. For Life is a just employer, he gives you what you ask, but once you have set the wages, why you must bear the task. I worked for a menial’s hire, only to learn, dismayed, that any wage I had asked of Life, Life would have willingly paid.”

Through some strange and powerful principle of "mental chemistry" which she has never divulged, Nature wraps up in the impulse of STRONG DESIRE "that something" which recognizes no such word as impossible, and accepts no such reality as failure

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Interview - Speaker Jason Leon Discussess the Four Fundamentals to Success and His Past Life

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:05:34 PST

Hi there,

In this interview, my friend Jason Leon discusses the four fundamentals to success. Those four include: The Physical Aspect, The Mental Aspect, The Emotional Aspect and the Spiritual Aspect. He also disclosed the personal story of his past life, his tragedies and his perseverance over those challenges. Enjoy.

-Broderick

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The Power of Looking Beyond Your Own Pain

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 12:32:14 PST

There is an old Chinese tale about a woman whose only son died. In her grief, she went to a holy man and asked, "What magical incantations do you have to bring my son back to life?" Instead of sending her away or reasoning with her, he said to her, "Fetch me a mustard seed from a home that has never known sorrow. We will use it to drive the sorrow out of your life." The woman set off at once in search of that magical mustard seed. She came first to a splendid mansion, knocked at the door, and said, "I am looking for a home that has never known sorrow. Is this such a place? It is very important to me." They told her, "You've certainly come to the wrong place," and began to describe all the tragic things that had recently befallen them. The woman said to herself, "Who is better able to help these poor unfortunate people than I, who have had misfortune of my own?" She stayed to comfort them, then went on in search for a home that had never known sorrow. But wherever she turned, in hovels and palaces, she found one report after another of sadness and misfortune. Ultimately, the woman became so involved in ministering to other people's grief that she forgot about her quest for the magical mustard see, never realizing it had in fact driven the sorrow out of her life.

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Interview - Robert Greene Discusses the 50th Law and Research Methods

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 20:17:50 PST

Hi there!

I'm extremely excited to announce that I just finished an interview with Robert Greene :) In this interview, Robert and I discussed his new book "The 50th Law" that just came out, as well as some of the ideas behind his other 3 books, the 48 Laws of Power, the Art of Seduction and the 33 Strategies of War. It was amazing to talk to him about his research methods, and how he goes about collecting all of the stories and examples that he uses in his 4 most recent books. He told us how he and rapper 50 Cent found one another and created this new book which is all about the concept of "Being Fearless". There is a TON of good information in this interview. Make sure you let Robert and I know what you think!

By the way, if you would like to order Robert Greene and 50 Cent's new book, the 50th Law, you can purchase it from Amazon.com by clicking this link. Also, if you would like to visit Robert Greene's blog, you can do so by clicking here, or, if you'd like to visit 50 Cent's website, you can do so by clicking here.

Thanks and sincerely,

-Broderick

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4 of the Best Self Improvement Videos Online for Free

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 20:18:32 PST

Hi there :)

I have searched the internet over the years for some quality FREE self improvement videos, and here are some of my favorites, and I must say, all of them have had a big impact on my life and I believe that you are almost GUARANTEED to benefit from each of them in a profound way, so here they are right here for you to easily absorb into your life. Enjoy :)

Sincerely,

-Brody

The Secret - First 20 Minutes

Wayne Dyer - The Power of Intention

Steve Jobs - Commencement Speech

Tony Schwartz - The Power of Full Engagement

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Life: Explained

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:17:09 PDT

Here's a story that I found online and thought was pretty great :) Let me know what you think!

-Brody

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A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the Mexican.

"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the American.

The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs. I have a full life."

The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?" asked the Mexican.

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?" asked the Mexican.

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years," replied the American.

"And after that?"

"Afterwards? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting," answered the American, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the Mexican.

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends."

And the moral of this story is: ......... Know where you're going in life... you may already be there.

Elvis Presley - My Way

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 22:23:18 PDT

Another of my favorite songs of all time. The lyrics are great, and it was originally sung by Frank Sinatra but I like the Elvis Presley version way better. Enjoy :)

-Brody

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Here's the lyrics, in case you want to review :)

And now, the end is near;
And so I face the final curtain.
My friend, Ill say it clear,
Ill state my case, of which Im certain.

Ive lived a life thats full.
Ive traveled each and evry highway;
And more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Regrets, Ive had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption.

I planned each charted course;
Each careful step along the byway,
But more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Yes, there were times, Im sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew.
But through it all, when there was doubt,
I ate it up and spit it out.
I faced it all and I stood tall;
And did it my way.

Ive loved, Ive laughed and cried.
Ive had my fill; my share of losing.
And now, as tears subside,
I find it all so amusing.

To think I did all that;
And may I say - not in a shy way,
No, oh no not me,
I did it my way.

For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has naught.
To say the things he truly feels;
And not the words of one who kneels.
The record shows I took the blows -
And did it my way!

The Emotional Mastery Conversation

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 11:42:18 PDT

Hi there :)

So to start out, my story is that I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years about a month ago. The breakup has been very hard on me, but it wasn't until about 2 days ago that I realized the the reason I was feeling so much pain wasn't me or her so much or even the breakup, but the fact that I had never felt this kind of grief or guilt before and I wasn't sure on how to handle these emotions.

I believe that I was resisting feeling a lot of the emotions that came up for me. I finally had one of my lowest points yesterday morning and that is when I had the breakthrough. I was listening to an audiobook called "The Missing Secret" by Joe Vitale while I was working, and at the end someone gave 17 techniques for "emotional clearing". Wow, they really helped me out. I was feeling about a 9 out of 10 as far as emotional pain when I started, and ended up with about a 3 out of 10 when I was finished. The techniques consisted of various visualization techniques involving your emotions, labeling them, rating them on a scale of 1 to 10, visualizing them, their color and their shape, location etc. They also talked about appreciating your emotions, loving them for their ability to help you and to keep you from making mistakes in the future, and also letting yourself feel the emotions and not resisting them at all. Before this I had also been working on emotional control techniques and have found the whole process to be extremely beneficial.

So my question is, do you have any emotional control techniques, concepts or recommendations? I have started reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman and doing research on the internet. If you have any thoughts to discuss, please reply below and lets work on this together :)

Thanks,

Brody

Casino Royale - Summary, Trailer and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:45:54 PDT

Another of my favorite movies of all time. A story of strength, determination, personal growth, ingenuity, love and betrayal. From IMDB: Recently promoted to 00 status, James Bond takes over his first mission, in which he faces a mysterious private banker to world terrorism and poker player, Le Chiffre. Along with a beautiful Treasury agent and the MI6 man in Montenegro, Bond takes part in a high stakes poker game set up by Le Chiffre in order to recover a huge sum of his clients' money he lost in a failed plot that James took down. 007 will not only discover the threatening organization behind his enemy, but the worst of all truths: do not trust anyone.

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Steve Perry - Oh Sherry

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 11:06:36 PDT

This is another one of my favorite songs of all time. Steve Perry without Journey but still just as excellent. Enjoy.

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The Last of the Mohicans - Summary, Trailer and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:44:27 PDT

Another one of my favorite movies of all time. A movie that teaches the values of courage, honor, true love, strength, masculinity and the desire and willingness to fight for freedom and love. From IMDB: The story is about a dying tribe called the Mohicans in which only two are left as well as one adopted white man. These three men refuse to enter the English militia in 1757 because of their desire for freedom. On their way to Kentucky, they intercept Indians attacking a small regiment of British including the two daughters of an English Colonel on their way to a fort. The three men lead the survivors to the fort while two love stories take place, but the French and Indian War continues.

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The Psychology of Winning Seminar - Positive Self Esteem

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 18:14:48 PDT

Even if it feels uncomfortable, accept all the compliments, gifts and values offered by others for whatever reason they offer them by simply saying, "thank you." Allow that deep down inside feeling of your own worth to shine through you. Accept yourself as a growing individual with room for improvement. Give yourself your own love so that you can give it away, and share as much of it as you can with others. Be proud of your own accomplishments and goals, and talk yourself up as a winner every day of your life. Your subconscious is listening!

Techniques for More Positive Self Esteem:

Accept yourself as who you are right now, an imperfect, changing, growing and worthwhile person.
Accept yourself, be willing to be yourself and live your own life and accept responsibility for the ultimate outcome.
View yourself in terms of your own abilities, interests and goals.
Take pride in what you accomplish.
Dress and look your best at all times
Volunteer your own name first when being introduced
Write down your blessings, accomplishments and goals.
Respond with a simple courteous “thank you" when anyone pays you a compliment for any reason.
Sit up front in the most prominent rows when you attend meetings, lectures or conferences.

This will make it easier for you to exchange questions and answers with the speaker.
It will also make it easier to listen and focus.

Walk more erectly and authoritatively in public with a relaxed but more rapid pace
Set your own internal standards rather than comparing yourself to others
Keep upgrading your standards in lifestyle, behavior, professional accomplishment, relationships etc.
Use encouraging, affirmative language when you talk to yourself and to others about yourself
Keep a self development plan ongoing at all times.
SMILE!

A smile is the light in your window that tells people that there's a caring, sharing individual inside.

The entire Psychology of Winning Seminar can purchased by going here: http://su.pr/4XhtMf

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The Techno Viking

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:37:13 PDT

Watch the Techno Viking defend the blue haired girl and then dance through the street's of Berlin. The Techno Viking is good for you, he teaches the value of standing up for others and also dedicating yourself with full forced passion to whatever you want to do in life.

Phil Collins - In the Air Tonight

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:19:41 PDT

Another one of my favorite songs of all time. Enjoy.

If you liked this song, some other great songs by Phil Collins include: Paradise, Against All Odds, and Easy Lover.

Legends of the Fall - Summary, Trailer and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:33:53 PDT

Another of my favorite movies of all time, a story of love, loyalty, tragedy and the battle between civilization and everything that is wild and untamed. The story follows three brothers and their father trying to raise his sons well in the wilderness of the Montana Rocky Mountains in the early 1900's. Conflict ensues when the youngest brother, Samuel, brings home his lovely fiance from college. Sibling rivalry and Samuels desire to enlist against the Germans in WW1 soon drive this movie into a whirlwind of passion, despair and forceful awakening. Enjoy.

Journey - Separate Ways

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:36:35 PDT

Here's another one of my favorite songs of all time. Enjoy.

If you like this song, some others that I highly recommend by Journey include: Don't Stop Believing, Send Her My Love, After the Fall, Girl Can't Help It, Message of Love, The Eyes of a Woman, "Mother, Father" and Somethin' to Hide. All of these songs can be found on the album "The Essential Journey" which is also one of my favorite albums of all time that you can preview or buy here.

The Psychology of Winning - Positve Self Image Summary and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:40:02 PDT

   The following is my review and summary of the chapter "Positive Self Image" from the book "The Psychology of Winning" published in 1979 by psychologist Dr. Dennis Waitley. Positive Self Image is all about how you see yourself. Winners see themselves as winners. They have programed their subconscious through affirmation, imagination and visualization to believe that they really are true winners and that they will succeed in their goals and purposes in life. Use your imagination and visualize yourself winning. See and feel the images and emotions that will come from that success. This chapter of the book is probably my favorite because of how powerful and how valuable it can be to understand the concept of the self image. Enjoy.

   Your self image is either you life handicap or your auto pilot for winning.

   Winners act like winners, imagining with pictures, feelings and words the roles they want to play.

   What you "see and feel" about yourself is what you get.

   Individuals behave, not in accordance with reality, but in accordance with their perception of reality. How the individual feels about themselves is everything, for all that they ever do or aspire to do, will be predicated on that all important concept which is the self image.

   The self image is the fundamental key to understanding human behavior. Dr. Maxwell Maltz, the great plastic surgeon and author of the best seller Psycho Cybernetics, said that "The most important psychological discover of this century is the discovery of the self image."

The Blue Eyed vs. the Brown Eyed School Children Experiment

   With approval from their parents, a young primary grade school teacher revealed to her students that "a recent scientific report has verified that children with blue eyes have greater natural learning abilities than children with brown eyes." She then had them make up little signs designating them as either "Blue Eyes" or "Brown Eyes" which were hung around their necks. After a week or so, the achievement level of the "Brown Eyes" group fell measurably, while the performance of the "Blue Eyed" group improved significantly. She then made a startling announcement to the class. It was actually the "blue or lighter eyes" who were the less intelligent, and the "brown or dark eyes" who were the more intelligent, and the pattern reversed itself.

   Each of us are controlled by the mental pictures that we have formed of ourselves.

   Your subconscious strives to meet the objectives and goals that you set for it, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. Furthermore, it cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience that is imagined vividly, emotionally and in detail. Many of your everyday decisions are based upon information about yourself that has been stored as truth, but is really just a creation of your imagination shaded by reality.

   A change in your conscious mind, through willpower, will only be temporary, but a change in your subconscious is much longer lasting.

   Whenever your conscious and subconscious minds come into conflict, your subconscious will most likely win the battle, unless any newly acquired fears or desires are strong enough to override it.

   Any permanent change in your personality or behavior, should first involve a change in your self image, reinforced by a change in lifestyle.

   Your behavior, personality or achievement level is usually consistent with your self image.

   Your self image is your homeostatic pull.

   A positive self image is your achievement mechanism.

   You can't escape from your self image.

   Winners control their self image and change it as they desire.

   Winners dwell on and hold the self image of the person that they would like to become. They get a vivid, clear, emotional, sensory picture of themselves as if they had already achieved their goal. Like children playing "Let's Pretend," they play the role of whomever they want to be. They know that their subconscious can't tell the difference between "the real me" and "the one I see".

   They see themselves standing in the Winner's Circle. They feel that solid weight of the gold medal around their necks. They hear the approval of the crowd. They smell the roses in the Rose Bowl. They touch the diploma in their hand. They feel the self esteem of their personal achievement in advance.

   Winners feel like winners. Winners "see" through the eyes of winners.

Review

   Winners are especially aware of the tremendous importance of their self image, and of the role that their imagination can play in the creation and upgrading of their self image. They know the self image acts as a subconscious life governing device, that if in your self image, you can't possibly see yourself doing something, or achieving something, you literally cannot do it.

   They also know that the self image can be changed since the subconscious is incapable of differentiating between a real success and a success imagined again and again vividly and in full detail. A winners' self talk is "I see myself changing , growing, achieving, winning!"

   Your behavior and performance usually are consistent with your self image. Your self image is an intricately woven concept made up of all of your feelings, fears and emotional responses to each and every personal experience up to the present. What you imagine as being real, with frequency, becomes your version of reality. Winners imagine and fantasize about the person that they would like to become, and their subconscious self image reads that script, memorizes it, and acts accordingly.

Techniques for More Positive Self Image:

Go for a walk on the beach, in the country or at a park and recall your childhood play time

This will help you dust off an oil your imagination

Set aside 20 to 30 minutes a day for relaxed imagination, whether commuting somewhere, at lunch or in the morning or evening

As you relax during this time, imagine yourself achieving and enjoying your most personal desires

See them as if you were previewing them on a movie screen

Read a biography every month of someone who has reached the top in your career or passion or just someone that you admire

As you read, imagine yourself as the person you are reading about

If you spend time around young children, become a storyteller, this will boost your imagination power
Limit your television viewing to stimulating, special shows

Watching too much television can lead to tunnel vision which will limit your imagination

Take a deep relaxation, meditation, auto suggestion, or biofeedback training program
Develop the habit of listening to educational and motivational audio programs
Write a two page resume of your professional and personal assets as if you were going to apply for the job of a lifetime

List your maximum current potential and ultimate future growth potential instead of your past experience

Read it every week and revise it every two months

Improve your external image to help improve your internal image, take stock of your clothes, car, home, garage, closet, dresser drawers, desk, photos, lawn, garden etc

Make it a priority to get rid of all of the clutter and sharpen up your environment

There Will Be Blood - Movie Clip, Summary, Trailer and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:30:38 PDT

Heres' a clip, trailer and my own summary and review of one of my favorite movies of all time about a man's ruthless rise to power in the oil industry in the early 1900's, starring Daniel Day Lewis (who won the academy award for best actor in this movie) and released in 2007. The acting in this film is truly superb, and if this film teaches nothing else, then it teaches persistence, drive, focus, dedication, self motivation, determination, long term goal setting and vision. Enjoy.

Here's the original theatrical trailer:

The story of this film follows the rise to power of Daniel Plainview, a ruthless oilman who works, along with his adopted son H.W., to expand his oil empire into the small town of Little Boston, California. Tipped off as to the presence of oil in the small town from a twin brother named Paul Sunday, Daniel travels to the Sunday ranch in Little Boston where he manipulates the people of this small town into allowing him to buy up land and draw up up and sell the oil lying below. He soon begins to crush his competition and alienate the townsfolk, his friends, and even his adopted son H.W. in his drive to accumulate wealth. Based on the book "Oil!" by Upton Sinclair.

Chicago - Will You Still Love Me

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 12:10:37 PDT

Here's one of my favorite songs of all time, I hope you enjoy it!

The Count of Monte Cristo - Summary, Review and Trailer

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:09:49 PDT

Another of my favorite movies of all time, a tale of true love, betrayal, despair, revenge, honor, and the courage that comes from having hope and cultivating one's character to the highest level. From IMDB: 'The Count of Monte Cristo' is a remake of the Alexander Dumas tale by the same name. Dantes, a sailor who is falsely accused of treason by his best friend Fernand, who wants Dantes' girlfriend Mercedes for himself. Dantes is imprisoned on the island prison of Chateau d'If for 13 years, where he plots revenge against those who betrayed him. With the help of another prisoner, he escapes the island and proceeds to transform himself into the wealthy Count of Monte Cristo as part of his plan to exact revenge. Enjoy.

Maximum Influence by Kurt W. Mortensen - The Law of Obligation Summary and Review

BroderickBoyd@gmail.com (Broderick Boyd) — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 20:26:58 PDT

The following is my summary and review of the Law of Obligation from the book "Maximum Influence" by Kurt W. Mortensen. This chapter of the book also has a parallel with the chapter "Reciprocity" from Robert Cialdini's persuasion classic "Influence". There are plenty of juicy examples and great tips for using this powerful law in this chapter, and much to be learned and used by almost anyone. I hope that the concepts I listed can be easily understood, tested and implemented by you as soon as possible and that they help you to become a person of extreme influence. So without further ado, here is: The Law of Obligation. Enjoy!

"Nothing is more costly than something given free of charge." -Japanese Saying

The Soldier in WWI Who Couldn't Resist the Law of Obligation

A German soldier during WWI once caught an enemy soldier off guard, eating his lunch alone in a trench, and he was easily captured. Not knowing what else to do, the soldier tore off a piece of bread and gave it to his captor. The German soldier was so surprised by the friendly gesture that he couldn't follow through with his assignment. Turning away from the soldier, he headed back in to neutral territory and on to face the wrath of his superiors.

Definition of the Law of Obligation

When you do something for someone else, they will feel a strong need, even a push, to return the favor.

If you give something to someone or do them a favor, in some cases, they will feel the need to repay your gift so overwhelmingly, that they will even end up dramatically exceeding the value of your original favor.

2 Keys to the Law:

The law of obligation works whether or not the favor or gift you gave was desired by your receiver.
The law of obligation can backfire if you shower a person with favors but don't give them a chance to repay you.

The pressure to reciprocate is strong enough that when people don't return a gift or favor, they are viewed with contempt and disgust. Accepting gifts or favors without attempting to return them is universally viewed as selfish, greedy, and heartless.

Examples:

The Man Who Lent His Car to a Teenager

A man ran out of gas once and a young man pulled over and took him to get gas at a nearby gas station. He then brought the man back to his car. Three weeks later, the young man asked if he could borrow the man's expensive car and the man said yes. He actually lent his EXPENSIVE CAR to a TEENAGER (who ended up recking his car) all because of the Law of Obligation.

The Nice Man and the Rude Man Selling Raffle Tickets

In one study, one man made a conscientious effort to befriend his targets before attempting to sell any raffle tickets to them, the other man was rude to his targets but bought them drinks before trying to sell them tickets. The rude man sold twice as much tickets as the nice man. The Law of Obligation beat niceness and friendliness.

Free Film in the Mail

A film-developing company used to send potential customers a roll of film in the mail along with a letter explaining that it was a free gift. Most of the receivers ended up processing their film through the company that sent them the film even though a number of local stores also could have processed the film for probably even lower prices.

The Law of Obligation and Marketing

Pre-giving is effective because it makes your target feel like they have to return the favor.

Some people feel discomfort at being indebted to someone else because it threatens their independence. The more indebted they feel, the more motivated they are to eliminate that debt.

The American Veterans Organization revealed that their usual 18% donation response rate nearly doubled when theor mailings included a small, free gift.

More Examples:

Free samples at grocery stores
Someone taking a potential client out to dinner or to play golf
Offering free tire pressure check at tire centers
Someone washing your car window at a stoplight whether you want them to or not
People generating money at "free" car washes by asking for a donation after the service is rendered
A carpet cleaner offering to clean your couch for free
Door-to-door salespeople offering free brushes, free encyclopedias and free estimates
People throwing parties in their homes, serving refreshments and giving away free Tupperware or other products

Fundraising and the Law of Obligation

The Hare Krisha's

To raise money for their organization, the Hare Krishna's would go to crowded, public places such as airports and give aways flowers to passersby. They would then, under no circumstances take the flower back but instead ask for a donation. Some of the people would throw away the flowers even after they donated to the Krishna's and some of the Krishna's would then patrol the trash cans and pick out more flowers so that they could give them away again.

Applying the Law of Obligation

Create a need or obligation in the mind of the other person.

What could you do, give or say that would create a sense of indebtedness in the mind of the other person?

Things you could give:

A service of some sort
Information or concessions
Secrets
Favors
Gestures
Compliments
Smiles
Gifts
Invitations
Attention
Your time

Make sure that your gift or favor is perceived as altruistic and not as manipulative.

Take caution with the Law of Obligation, the use of it will backfire if your target sees your actions as a bribe. Feeling tricked, they will not be pressured to comply or reciprocate.

Honestly give value to others and they will be more under your influence.

Reciprocal Concessions

If you let someone persuade you in one area, they will be more likely to let you persuade them in another area.

Give a Favor, Expect a Favor in Return

Before a negotiation it is wise to offer some sort of gift. Make sure you offer the gift before and not during the negotiation, otherwise your gift will come across as bribery.

Make sure that your motives come across as a sincere effort to help the recipient rather than yourself.

Secrets Create Obligation: The Secret of Secrets

When you share something personal or private with another person, you create an instant bond and sense of obligation and trust with them.

Secrets create a sense of intimacy and make them feel important. They will feel compelled to share a secret with you.

Examples:

"Off the record, I think you should know..."

"I shouldn't be telling you this, but..."

Be sincere by showing that you really care and truly have their best interest at heart.

Caution

If you use the law of obligation to manipulate, you will lose your ability to persuade. People will catch on to your tactics, quickly declining any gifts you might offer or even refuse to be around you. Your gifts will be perceived as set-ups. People will know that it's only a matter of time before you come back around asking for that favor to be reciprocated.

Conclusion

Try giving to people. Give freely and give often. Give value wherever you can, and you will begin to build up equity. People will begin to give back to you in various and suprising ways. Try giving something to someone before you ask for something in return, no matter how big or small your request is and your success rate will increase dramatically.