tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91142413636498288192024-03-27T02:21:29.040-07:00LindsSaysLindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.comBlogger591125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-90431554785830411012024-03-11T13:04:00.000-07:002024-03-11T13:04:04.347-07:002024.3.11 Sunday Reading List<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyDuMY5X6ocRJOiachncj8MHMq-_dDq3XQo96lla1q3TF0H7vSsEodlvfhny9hd3Yxdpm-xM2pQq6OYPNfgr4XzpmqEbh2TFHeOsxWdsvj-4Zb8-GDajYaxTsGINacbzzWusTMmaJ611znk0disctlbH4HVuFZ8ZFlZyLCx7GLakR6OuN4K_nwz4CHJ1I/s1085/Screenshot_20240311-154728.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1085" data-original-width="1066" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyDuMY5X6ocRJOiachncj8MHMq-_dDq3XQo96lla1q3TF0H7vSsEodlvfhny9hd3Yxdpm-xM2pQq6OYPNfgr4XzpmqEbh2TFHeOsxWdsvj-4Zb8-GDajYaxTsGINacbzzWusTMmaJ611znk0disctlbH4HVuFZ8ZFlZyLCx7GLakR6OuN4K_nwz4CHJ1I/w393-h400/Screenshot_20240311-154728.png" width="393" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/femalequotient?igsh=MWYwNmluNXIxeXdudw==">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><p>My brain has finally regained enough focus to read (er, skim) an entire article so I'm back to reading! Here's what caught my attention this week. Also, sending solidarity đ to the toddler parents out there who survived another round of daily savings time aka being held hostage in your own home by tiny tired tyrants.</p><p><a href=" https://www.cnn.com/2024/02/21/health/maternal-mental-health-mortality/index.html">Maternal mental health drives climbing death rate</a> (<i>CNN)</i>: Another ripple affect of the continued regulation and removal of women's healthcare and living in a country run by insurance companies. With clinics and healthcare facilities forced to close down, millions of American women now live in healthcare deserts without access to prenatal and postpartum healthcare. </p><p><a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/petergreene/2024/02/10/research-shows-what-state-standardized-tests-actually-measure/?sh=1202532275e5">Research shows what state standardized tests actually measure</a> (<i>Forbes)</i>: This extensive study brings to light something those of us who spent time in public education know - context matters in reading comprehension (fun fact: if you don't know 90% of the words in a sentence, you won't comprehend it). Since standardized tests are designed by and for wealthy white people, the examples used in both reading and math problems involve topics that people from different background will struggle to grasp (think golf, baseball, etc).</p><p>Y'all know I despise the weight we put on standardized tests. Hoping studies like this continue to shed light on the topic.</p><p><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/22/us/instagram-child-influencers.html?unlocked_article_code=1.Xk0.mUc6.h5zvgB1R5dxh&smid=url-share">A marketplace of girl influencers managed by mom and stalked by men </a>(<i>NYT - gift link, no subscription required): </i>This was really really hard to read but important to understand as parents who have kids entering the social media age. I also learned a lot reading the comments - I hadn't considered the POV that the parents may be groomed by predators as well.</p><p><i><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2024/01/18/ozempic-weight-loss-fatphobia-orthodontia/">Is Ozempic the new orthodontia? </a>(WaPo - gift link, no subscription required)</i>: </p><p></p><blockquote><p>Imagine if â to protect their children from the stigma of being fat â parents begin to fall for the lures not of orthodontics (teeth correcting) but of orthomorphics (shape correcting).</p><p>Imagine if the moment a child is deemed âchubbyâ or âhusky,â parents rush to their local orthomorphist for a prescription to âfixâ them.</p></blockquote><p><br /></p><p> </p><p></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-24032150304623607212023-11-20T10:21:00.000-08:002023-11-20T10:21:10.150-08:00a guide to the week: black friday, small business saturday, giving tuesday<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivt0wBBScFU6Y3j7WIVAxRQvpwS3_edUCZjtqZHepzNs7QWBs1I-0VQ6flZWQxM3vC3VryncLgcInCDsUpAb220BdbiYkQ-MMofH-NxWhir1O37tDf6zwhGZQMREoGNcZpustaV6GZHuuT5wGh6Ztty-1kN6RoH-HSIy-rMeUGnKUEq-317Rj5LxNh5Uw/s1080/Untitled%20design%20(8).png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivt0wBBScFU6Y3j7WIVAxRQvpwS3_edUCZjtqZHepzNs7QWBs1I-0VQ6flZWQxM3vC3VryncLgcInCDsUpAb220BdbiYkQ-MMofH-NxWhir1O37tDf6zwhGZQMREoGNcZpustaV6GZHuuT5wGh6Ztty-1kN6RoH-HSIy-rMeUGnKUEq-317Rj5LxNh5Uw/s320/Untitled%20design%20(8).png" width="320" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><p>We've got a big week coming up and I like to have a plan so I don't miss out on anything or end up overspending. This is how I'm planning to spend money on Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, and Giving Tuesday.</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">Black Friday</span></h3><p>I am keeping my eye on a few products hoping for price drops on Black Friday, some sales have already started (woo hoo!):</p><p>NOTE: I have used the <a href="http://www.rakuten.com/r/LINDSA8840?eeid=28187">Rakuten</a> extension to get cash back on online purchases and to find additional discounts and coupons (at checkout it scans every possible discount code and applies for me) for years. I thought it seemed scammy but it has consistently worked for me. (this is a referral link but I would share with or without the referral because it is very, very legit and stacks on savings for an already good day for us). </p><p><b><span style="color: #e06666;">Beyond Yoga 30 - 75% Off [today] (+2% cash back with Rakuten):</span></b> My <a href="https://rstyle.me/+tgW0zokJrB0E76GIgVZh3Q">favorite maternity jumpsuit</a> is $45 off for Beyond Yoga's Black Friday sale, and the <a href="https://rstyle.me/+vdTtvmxqkiLEpx6_EivhLA">non-maternity version (affectionately known as the hot auntie version)</a> is $42 off in some colors and even more heavily discounted in <a href="https://rstyle.me/+tRok19s7dmIOwbSqigukCg">other colors</a>. The <a href="https://rstyle.me/+Y7GAHYhy__95h6Fx9erm9g">Icon Midi dress</a> that I wore all through pregnancy and will resume this summer is $50 off as well.</p><p><b><span style="color: #e06666;">Good American 30% Off [today] (+2% cash back with Rakuten):</span></b> I've been getting targeted with Good American Always Fits jeans that claim to fit four sizes...sounds like what I need as my body changes postpartum. I purchased the <a href="https://rstyle.me/+7nAy7CxDlHMmYmXOu2bD0Q">Straight Leg</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+5KJs4ZFiHFx9edTHdcl3oA">Flare</a> to try (*I won't let myself keep both* *I won't let myself keep both* -- I repeat to myself as I wait for them to arrive).</p><p><b><span style="color: #e06666;">Tommy John 30% Off [today] (+2.5% cash back with Rakuten):</span></b> I have the Women's Downtime Joggger set (<a href="https://rstyle.me/+elJyTY3eM9CCatQfGbWXUg">jogger</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+3y_SLN3D0rGC8w8JqVWQYQ">henley</a>) and am ordering an additional set because it is all I own that is light but warm enough to sleep in [hi winter night sweats] AND works for night time nursing. Super, super soft. I also really like <a href="https://rstyle.me/+_u7VVcu2tD5Y5Eb_pDJUFQ">their undies</a>, and the waistband was soft enough to wear right after my c-section.</p><p><b><span style="color: #e06666;">Magnetic Me Sale TBD (+ 2% cash back with Rakuten): </span></b>These are my absolute favorite <a href="https://magneticme.com/collections/nb-3-months">onesies</a>, we are reusing all with baby #2 so they last. They're pricey but I'm hoping for a good Black Friday discount to stock up for gifts. If there's a decent enough discount I'm also adding the <a href="https://magneticme.com/collections/womens-pajamas-loungewear/products/mf13mp57bx_brdux">women's nursing PJs </a>to my cart.</p><p><br /></p><h3><span style="color: #e06666;">Small Business Saturday</span></h3><div>The<a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2020/11/2020-black-owned-holiday-shopping-guide.html"> crowd sourced Black Owned Business Guide </a>has been updated with y'alls additions, let's support some Black owned businesses! Please email or message me on social media if you have additional businesses to add!</div><div><br /></div><h3><span style="color: #e06666;">Giving Tuesday</span></h3><div>Similar to Black Friday, Giving Tuesday is the final fundraising push for non-profits to get into the black. I went on a <a href="https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3OTk1MDY5NjM0MzQ0NTg1?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">rant on Instagram</a> about the way we think about non-profit funding and the false narrative around "overhead" and you can find a very legit Ted Talk about it <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_pallotta_the_way_we_think_about_charity_is_dead_wrong?autoplay=true&muted=true&language=en">here</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div>The TL;DR is that a lot of people divert funds away from nonprofits who use donations for overhead, but overhead is absolutely critical to carrying out missions (staffing, marketing, supplies, etc). Ironically, the only way for us to know how much money goes to overhead is via an accountant which is in fact, overhead. Here is a list of non-profits y'all shared with some of my favorites as well - remember even $5 makes a difference. </div><div><br /></div><div>This is also a good day to help<a href="https://www.thingsiboughtandliked.com/holiday-teacher-wishlists/#comments"> clear teacher wishlists </a>which have heartbreaking items like tissues and pencils. </div><div><br /></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="https://www.boggycreek.org/giving-opportunities">Camp Buggy Creek</a>: a place where children can reach beyond their illnesses and enjoy the simple pleasures of childhood.</li><li><a href="https://support.cityyear.org/give/463596/?_ga=2.30104761.705904897.1700504152-1176036266.1700504152#!/donation/checkout">City Year</a>: An education nonprofit dedicated to students' and schools' success.</li><li><a href="https://comfortzonecamp.kindful.com/">Comfort Zone Camp</a>: transforms the lives of children who have experienced the death of a parent, sibling, primary caregiver</li><li><a href="https://dcdreamcenter.com/donate/">DC Dream Center:</a> inspires youth and adults to dare to dream, equipping them to reach their God-given potential.</li><li><a href="https://www.theequitylab.org/support">Equity Lab:</a> takes on the nation's biggest challenges of individual, institutional, and systemic inequity.</li><li>Food Banks: please look up your local food banks, they are really struggling right now due to an influx of need, and the community depends on them for food.</li><li><a href="https://www.fosterthefamilydc.org/donations">Foster the Family:</a> exists to support and encourage foster and adoptive families, mobilize and equip the community and church for foster care and adoption.</li><li><a href="https://marthastable.org/ways-to-give/">Martha's Table</a>: Community Kitchen is designed to promote upward economic mobility.DC Diaper Bank </li><li><a href="https://www.npr.org/donations/support">NPR</a>: Nonprofit journalism with a mission. </li><li><a href="https://rmhc.org/donate?c_src=paid&c_src2=23YERPMsearch_google&utm_campaign=skag&utm_medium=google&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAgeeqBhBAEiwAoDDhnw2E1GKGszGzpIDV0JaHderTQ_A5pxaRyno63BMdNAkdmQjOwsyKhBoCL6cQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds">Ronald McDonald House</a> (google your local chapters): Eases the hardship of children's illness on families.</li><li><a href="https://www.wastenotsalvaging.org/">Waste Not Want Not</a>: provides a waste prevention service for the community and provides economically disadvantaged individuals with products and services they need for relief.</li></ul></div><div><i>*this post contains some referral links meaning I earn a slight commission on some items if you purchase through the links. I do not recommend anything that I either have not tried or do not intend to try, and I am always upfront about what I have not tried but am recommending. No pressure to use my links, just ant to make sure y'all are aware.</i></div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-44213125376985501562023-11-16T13:26:00.000-08:002023-11-16T13:26:58.700-08:00Thanksgiving outfits - the best oversized sweaters and tops<p>What a relief that oversized tops are IN this year - just in time for Thanksgiving. These are the tops I have purchased during late night feedings (anyone else have an issue with late night online shopping with a newborn..?). </p><p>I'm not ready for hard pants yet but when I am ready I'll be wearing these with my favorite <a href="https://rstyle.me/+edUW65F0RzG9x5vzyydO2w">jeans</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+1yEjjRckMSFTg3cRyKJ1XA">sneaker</a> or <a href="https://rstyle.me/+oDpkmxjXF1LFl-MPzQFTTA">boot</a>. I wear a <a href="https://rstyle.me/+-6jjtGUasQ8fPYxlHn9qpw">nursing tank </a>(linked is my preferred tank because it has padding) under my sweaters to give me tummy coverage when I lift my sweater to feed. <a href="https://www.extrapetite.com/2021/10/how-to-tuck-a-chunky-knit-sweater-video-tutorial.html">This post</a> is a good resource on how to tuck sweaters.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPiVdJ4pjeu70C_q-sF4zELk7lHJPElV4d0NqvZ56stQn5GVZfuUHPmcqBxsaOEQlol597zoS_-i4OT5mmDNimLLWXuIvdc64NNKqEWFut9G3TADKRdDn3TeJ05nXWn4k5mCw5cH0HvyueHYJj8RPrH8T2v3NlRLj7RHAjxnDAzHwik4HvP7nukic8bBc/s1477/1.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1391" data-original-width="1477" height="602" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPiVdJ4pjeu70C_q-sF4zELk7lHJPElV4d0NqvZ56stQn5GVZfuUHPmcqBxsaOEQlol597zoS_-i4OT5mmDNimLLWXuIvdc64NNKqEWFut9G3TADKRdDn3TeJ05nXWn4k5mCw5cH0HvyueHYJj8RPrH8T2v3NlRLj7RHAjxnDAzHwik4HvP7nukic8bBc/w640-h602/1.png" width="640" /></a></div><br /><h2 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">The Amazons</span></b></h2><p><b>1. </b>I was shocked by the quality of these Amazon sweaters! <a href="https://amzn.to/46aVyn2">Crewneck Batwing sweater</a> (I sized down to a small, color is Red Apricot) + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+bCWa_8ScY3NE2wX5nXqWZw">Real Me leggings</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+tjrCN2N7BFHWhfGLUF0Bzg">socks</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+1yEjjRckMSFTg3cRyKJ1XA">shoes</a></p><p><b>2. </b>Amazon sweater #2 FTW. Stuck with my regular size medium here. <a href="https://amzn.to/3FSGYWP">Oversize Crew Neck Sweater</a> (wearing my regular size medium, could have sized down to small, if in between sizes go down) + <a href="https://amzn.to/3Qy3ol4">Pocket Leggings</a> (Lulu Align dupes - I'm in my regular size medium, 25" Sage Grey) + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+ATwdhugGfQ9P7KrfwnbNJg">shoes</a></p><p><b>3. </b><a href="https://amzn.to/3MDphyg">Top</a> (in my regular size medium) + <a href="https://amzn.to/3Qy3ol4">pocket leggings</a> (Lulu Align dupes - I'm in my regular size medium, 25" Sage Grey) + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+o-M6RGucEibtw-JSVXkfBQ">shoes</a></p><h2><span style="color: #ea9999;">Other Favs</span></h2><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfx6oUpsg7t11g6WdhP8Kg5npVo3sNOBIfhO2gXRHBWdCKWiiY08MzECdFDC77pGynDRQLKTzEao0G_v5yOXMlc1-GVzCnwmOXIn1DBEt99pr0kSU9BHh3VzuzlVMZSu582LTMGhAOl-9eJITcNnpE1KHo19exNmm8rnSQPjqiIgFWGK02hgJsVEkphyY/s1498/2.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1422" data-original-width="1498" height="608" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfx6oUpsg7t11g6WdhP8Kg5npVo3sNOBIfhO2gXRHBWdCKWiiY08MzECdFDC77pGynDRQLKTzEao0G_v5yOXMlc1-GVzCnwmOXIn1DBEt99pr0kSU9BHh3VzuzlVMZSu582LTMGhAOl-9eJITcNnpE1KHo19exNmm8rnSQPjqiIgFWGK02hgJsVEkphyY/w640-h608/2.png" width="640" /></a></div><br /><span style="color: #ea9999;"><b style="color: black;">4. </b><span style="color: black;">This one is more casual in person than it looks in pictures because it has some distressing. <a href="https://rstyle.me/+oPdtuJ8_OjYDzXSwhJq9TQ">The Chill Crew Sweatshirt</a> (40% off today. Fit is oversized, I sized down to small) + </span></span><a href="https://rstyle.me/+bCWa_8ScY3NE2wX5nXqWZw">Real Me leggings</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+1yEjjRckMSFTg3cRyKJ1XA">shoes</a>.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>5. </b>I've seen this <a href="https://rstyle.me/+CAQj95x__OZIcLMp0_ivBQ">Lumber Jane Shirt </a>(fit is oversized - I sized down to small) everywhere and can confirm it's worth the hype - super comfy. + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+bCWa_8ScY3NE2wX5nXqWZw">Real Me leggings</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+1yEjjRckMSFTg3cRyKJ1XA">shoes</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>6. </b>This is the softest sweater I own and I have it in two colors. I recommend sizing down. <a href="https://rstyle.me/+KlBQSOmsxsudKiPgTSHKfQ">Coaster Luxe Recover Sweatshirt</a> + <a href="https://amzn.to/3Qy3ol4">Pocket Leggings</a> + <a href="https://rstyle.me/+fYbdPSSxZbWAbiULdchovA">shoes</a> + <a href="https://citymouseny.com/collections/the-bag">mini diaper bag </a>(actually holds everything you need for leaving the house with one kid, woman-owned business, I love it). </div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-47739130309490276222023-11-07T11:25:00.006-08:002023-11-07T11:26:33.015-08:00my adult skincare and makeup routine<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/11/my-adult-skincare-and-makeup-routine.html" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="718" data-original-width="750" height="383" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmSJymNQh8r-HP5RtwckqaN4OEcT9WZCxFCPSczzOQuOYAEqoQRELi-OspOUFutkdwquiCGqsMn_BZwVEHXmWHnCSIgxZ1HTA4ocsbiloqEmj3yqUam6fUV_ctp74vPxP2PBmD_nIlV9eTKs8pFiGPFd1-RHo4Gkao-mecadNm2u-gDZdZ1QqPPVX8npw/w400-h383/Screenshot%202023-11-07%20at%202.24.27%20PM.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p>The <a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/11/2023-sephora-sale-items.html">Sephora Sale </a>always brings up conversations around skincare and how our routines evolve - y'all may remember a few years ago when I was hellbent on using all "clean" products, and then a few followers who are <i>literal scientists and chemists </i>(with PhDs, not just people who google a lot like me) gently suggested resources to understand the actual [minimal] dangers in our skincare products, and how big companies have taken these not-data-based-fears to convince us to spend lots and lots of money on "clean" skincare. </p><p>So, while I am not a medical professional or a scientist who understands things, I have entered a new phase of skincare and makeup. Below are some things that have helped me out:</p><div><span style="color: #ea9999;"><b>Skincare</b></span></div><p>After I had Hall my postpartum skin was out of control and my Sephora products weren't cutting it, so I consulted a dermatologist (if you're in the DMV I have had great experiences with <a href="https://www.integrateddermatology.co/">Integrated Dermatology</a> - they take insurance and do cosmetic services in office). My appointment was less than 10 minutes long and included a full skin cancer screen followed by an acne/aging skin consult. My dermatologist got me on this routine:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Morning</span></b>: facewash with <a href="https://rstyle.me/+eSt1MmKLQ_JrByeDW69x-w">Cetaphil</a> >> a tiny amount of Vitamin C Serum (she recommends <a href="https://rstyle.me/+thD4YUObWuxpMeSaNyziMA">this</a> serum) >> by <a href="https://rstyle.me/+ZygGW8pG-EE04JcMREPd5g">CeraVe</a> moisturizer >> <a href="https://rstyle.me/+hbfMUQ7_O4YTWOsi6MxdPg">sunscreen</a>.</li><li><b style="color: #ea9999;">Evening</b>: facewash with <a href="https://rstyle.me/+eSt1MmKLQ_JrByeDW69x-w">Cetaphil</a> >> prescription Retinol >> <a href="https://rstyle.me/+ZygGW8pG-EE04JcMREPd5g">CeraVe</a> moisturizer </li><ul><li>Once/week: exfoliate</li></ul></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">A few notes: </span></b></div><div>The<a href="https://rstyle.me/+thD4YUObWuxpMeSaNyziMA"> Vitamin C serum </a>is pricey but it lasts for awhile. I am waiting to reorder for Derm Store's Black Friday sale starting November 17th in hopes that it goes on sale.</div><div><br />I stock up on Cerave at Costco and share it with my kids (it great for my sensitive skinned babies).</div><div><br /></div><div>My derm calls the Retinol into a mail in pharmacy that takes my insurance, making the Retinol cost $15.</div><div><br /></div><div>Yes, I been punching the air about how much money I've sunk into "clean" facewashes and toners and serums. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div><span style="color: #ea9999;"><b>Makeup</b></span></div><p>I haven't updated how I do my makeup since the demo at the mall's Clinique counter (I just wanted my Clinique Happy perfume!!), and I have spent the last few years applying makeup with my fingers because life is busy and my toddler loves makeup brushes and it's just not worth the fight to get them back. </p><p>HOWEVER I found<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ericataylor2347"> Erica Taylor on Tik Tok</a> (also on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ericataylor2347/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwUG82Z94P_kuiq0e5pSxBg">Youtube</a>) who shows accessible tutorials on how to update our routine for aging skin. Some of my favorites:</p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8SkjNWj/">Easy Daily Makeup Tutorial </a>(it's actually easy I can do it)</p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ericataylor2347/video/7235670219547544875">Dated Eyeshadow</a> (I feel old)</p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@ericataylor2347/video/7124477699585838379">Dos and Don'ts</a> (makeup stuff we were taught to do that now makes us look old)</p><p>Here is the actual makeup I'm using (most recommended by Erica and/or actual friends):</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+7e1IJQLHmebQiFE8rAYixw">Contour for people scared of contour</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+sTykU_Rr6kjiBc2BCZSqsQ">Concealer + Foundation Stick</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+EHPkZk-II05VJ3Vfd-Idpw">Blush</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+fQaxyvxEC7ai1-aPzFLNGQ">Mascara</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+PT2PDPUDR7FMwAtwLGr2Rw">Eyeliner</a></li></ul><p></p></div><p></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-45989763251760970332023-11-03T07:27:00.001-07:002023-11-03T07:27:28.413-07:002023 Sephora Sale Items<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgl1p4a2xeWWgtb5-fGstLpVXtvu9xVGUEb9lbJGqMMctPsVVstMDenuTh3AYTqc8IsUvcZSI6elOxu-16fnovXj_Op3Hhm3pgZwvtAZxIKqyi05q1gfe5gpV9TAJk3bQrZmIH7BCDtOqJnfde9BhVjjzyCODojzoIm0399ax6N9Esgd8ApPONgKc7pzt0" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="601" data-original-width="980" height="392" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgl1p4a2xeWWgtb5-fGstLpVXtvu9xVGUEb9lbJGqMMctPsVVstMDenuTh3AYTqc8IsUvcZSI6elOxu-16fnovXj_Op3Hhm3pgZwvtAZxIKqyi05q1gfe5gpV9TAJk3bQrZmIH7BCDtOqJnfde9BhVjjzyCODojzoIm0399ax6N9Esgd8ApPONgKc7pzt0=w640-h392" width="640" /></a></div><br /> If you follow along on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lhtempleton/">IG</a> you know I saw my dermatologist after Hall's birth to deal with my postpartum skin issues and my derm rocked my world when she got me off all my pricey skincare products and on <a href="https://www.dermstore.com/eltamd-uv-clear-broad-spectrum-spf46/11370303.html">sunscreen</a>, <a href="https://rstyle.me/+eSt1MmKLQ_JrByeDW69x-w">Cetaphil</a>, <a href="https://rstyle.me/+63KhaBprkAoEJ0-yOsdlCg">Cerave</a>, <a href="https://rstyle.me/+qSSU7t0DY4okC2Ia_sj2tg">Vitamin C serum</a>, and prescription [$15!!!] Retinol. So while I'm not spending like I used to at the Sephora sale, there's still fun to be had. <p></p><p>Here's what I ordered for the sale that ends on 11/6 (because I know we're all sitting here with full carts scared to pull the trigger):</p><p>My hair stylist turned me on to this <a href="https://rstyle.me/+IZgj0J-uFyp5P9KlgoflLg">shampoo</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+2DlAHNyU8Z6lVecFMg5k5A">conditioner</a> to treat my dry, flaky scalp and it has been a god send. </p><p>Erica Taylor is a 90's makeup artist who is doing the Lord's work and teaching those of us who haven't updated their makeup routine since that Clinique showcase in 7th grade <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8SkjNWj/">how to do makeup for our aging skin. </a> I ordered the <a href="https://rstyle.me/+7e1IJQLHmebQiFE8rAYixw">Merit Bronze Balm</a> she uses for her "Grilled Cheese" makeup tutorial. I'm terrified of contouring due to an incident years ago with a makeup artist that left me walking down the aisle for my friend's wedding looking like I'm on my way to my guest spot on a Jersey Shore club night out, but MANY people in my DMs reassured me that this is contour for people scare of contour. </p><p>When I posted the balm on IG, everyone and their mom got in my DMs telling me how much you love it and that I need to try <a href="https://rstyle.me/+sTykU_Rr6kjiBc2BCZSqsQ">Merit's Concealer and Foundation stick</a> as well so I threw that in my cart. </p><p>Also straight from Erica's tutorial I ordered this <a href="https://rstyle.me/+RFu4zj-3QiI172lViX9EbQ">minimal blush</a>.</p><p>And added my <a href="https://rstyle.me/+fQaxyvxEC7ai1-aPzFLNGQ">favorite mascara that never runs</a>, no matter how many times per day pregnancy/post partum hormones have me crying. </p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-84356878135426760672023-10-25T08:50:00.000-07:002023-10-25T08:50:01.321-07:00first 2 weeks home with a newborn: the budget friendly newborn baby products we use the most<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAkr9RFBiy7hlXxSypCmubG12iAfMG2zRbVjFzOKq7R-A_eHCS6oA1Z-LiRq1eTgwwQeMFDW11Jpc4S2Op6MffWYKUF8CTBRSGSqbYIZbRB_k5Ihi0u0Tuia4xc22H9yLM_xRGuaSVZdzuijw7NyWb-77R81UDYvqe8nHV-g-sNXJ5gLahZPWuHqAyKEQ/s770/Screenshot%202023-10-25%20at%2011.06.39%20AM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="744" data-original-width="770" height="386" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhAkr9RFBiy7hlXxSypCmubG12iAfMG2zRbVjFzOKq7R-A_eHCS6oA1Z-LiRq1eTgwwQeMFDW11Jpc4S2Op6MffWYKUF8CTBRSGSqbYIZbRB_k5Ihi0u0Tuia4xc22H9yLM_xRGuaSVZdzuijw7NyWb-77R81UDYvqe8nHV-g-sNXJ5gLahZPWuHqAyKEQ/w400-h386/Screenshot%202023-10-25%20at%2011.06.39%20AM.png" width="400" /></a></div><div><p></p><p>We have officially been home for two weeks with the new baby, and these are the products we have used approximately 1 million times. Most of these products are second purchases for us as we are still using them for our 20 month old, meaning they LAST even though these are the budget friendlier versions of the products.</p><p>1. <a href="https://rstyle.me/+azPtuuxvanI411wvRXCSXw">Portable Bassinet</a> ($59): This folds up and is lightweight and easy to move from room to room and set on the couch, counter, wherever we are hanging out, for the baby to sleep (because newborns sleep A LOT).</p></div><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0 0 0 40px; padding: 0px;"><div><p style="text-align: left;"><i>$136 savings vs. Dock a Tot</i></p></div></blockquote><div><p>2. <a href="https://www.target.com/p/baby-delight-alpine-deluxe-portable-bouncer/-/A-83374662">Baby Bouncer</a> ($79): Adjustable, washable, collapsible (so easy to transport) and for all intents and purposes seems exactly the same as the Baby Bjorn bouncer. This goes everywhere in the house with us and is a great seat for her while I'm showering or using the bathroom too. </p><p><i><span> </span>$130 savings vs. Baby Bjorn</i></p></div><div><p>3. <a href="https://rstyle.me/+IofEjNVXxciBUElyhjCZbA">Basic diaper brand</a>: We use Pampers and I have the app that lets me use my phone to scan diaper packs for rewards. The key with diapers is that when we start experiencing blowouts or leaks, it is time to size up and NOT to switch to the most expensive brand that promises no leaks. **Remember to run your fingers along the edge of the diapers so the ruffles are out- this also prevents leaks and blowouts!**</p></div><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0 0 0 40px; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left;"><i>$46 per box savings over the leading fancy diaper brand </i></p></blockquote><div><p>4. <a href="https://rstyle.me/+FHPpd9ezFlJq8nVUk1yDnw">Changing pad</a> ($31): We use this basic ass changing pad with a waterproof surface you can wipe anything off of, a buckle for the rollers, and grips that allow you to set it on any surface. Lightweight and easy to move from room to room.</p></div><blockquote style="border: none; margin: 0 0 0 40px; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left;"><i>$120 savings over the Keekaroo Peanut changing pad</i></p></blockquote><div><p>5. <a href="https://www.guavafamily.com/products/lotus-bassinet?variant=470467017">Guava Lotus Bassinet + Travel Crib Bundle</a> ($349): I love that this bassinet is part of the pack and play travel crib, so once we're done with it we can still use the parts for years. The bassinet rocks and collapses making it easy to travel with. Sidenote: the Guava Lotus Pack and Play is ELITE! Y'all may remember a few months ago when I was pregnant (with terrible nausea) and flew alone with my toddler + our suitcase + stroller + pack and play and it was zero issue because the p&p was so lightweight and easy to carry. I am easily frustrated by putting together anything (I outsource Ikea furniture assembly..) and it takes me less than 20 seconds to set this up. I'm not being paid for this, I just want everyone else to experience the ease that comes with a great baby product.</p><p><i><span> </span>$1,345 savings over the Snoo</i></p><p>6. <a href="https://amzn.to/46AJ1uh">Bassinet Sheets</a> ($13): I completely forgot these were a separate thing we needed with our first and had to Shipt a pricey set from Target when we got home lol oops. </p><p>7. <a href="https://amzn.to/473saA9">Wipe Dispenser</a> ($22): There are some not so obvious necessities when it comes to a wipe dispenser and this one has them. Need to have a weight inside that ensures you only pull out one wipe at a time (nothing more frustrating than moving as fast as you can with a baby releasing every possible body function simultaneously at 3 am and continuing to pull out a CVS receipt roll of wipe), tap to open, foolproof seal to close. We opt out of the wipe warmer because a warmer is not portable and they don't have it at daycare so our baby's gotta get used to a cold booty - sorry!</p><p><i><span> </span>$20 savings vs. wipe warming dispenser</i></p><p>8. <a href="https://magneticme.com/collections/footies-coveralls/products/mf33mf01ta_talon">Magnetic Onesies</a> ($40): Ok these are a splurge so they make a good registry item but the magnets make chaotic changes easier and ease is something I'm willing to pay for. If not these I am also fine with the double zip onesies. Under NO circumstances do I EVER use a sleeper with snaps. I have a 3 snap maximum. </p><p>Hope this is helpful!</p><p><br /></p><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">ICYMI</span></h4><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/lists/lindsay-s-reads-reviews">Book list with reviews</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7287940076250631466?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">My Birth Story</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7291286424564059438?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">What they don't tell you about scheduled c-sections</a></p></div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-26343399466427732622023-09-27T14:57:00.009-07:002023-10-25T08:51:20.624-07:00Things I actually used in my hospital bag last time + what i wish i'd had (aka what i'm packing this time)<p>Somehow it's already time to pack the "bug out bag" as my husband calls it, or the hospital bag as I call it, just in case things don't go according to schedule. This is what we're bringing and what we learned we don't need to bring this time around. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNVd1Tf2bbt9WwqMxHFGKFf_TOZekM4rxlhJ5UkWkgUTTXrbvJHCuwld32Oa0-RKAyQS43NOno2Hd6PQrqX4K_pCOn6IF_0JSw_RrPZf_mYxrcu9rEjupsxorymK5Vm4TfqKj9-AsXqBRxQPWz80uQIQWMt50scWy_Yzd3iN9la0HFxRtW0GEWDvEdZPQ/s1196/Screenshot%202023-10-25%20at%2011.50.47%20AM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1196" data-original-width="946" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNVd1Tf2bbt9WwqMxHFGKFf_TOZekM4rxlhJ5UkWkgUTTXrbvJHCuwld32Oa0-RKAyQS43NOno2Hd6PQrqX4K_pCOn6IF_0JSw_RrPZf_mYxrcu9rEjupsxorymK5Vm4TfqKj9-AsXqBRxQPWz80uQIQWMt50scWy_Yzd3iN9la0HFxRtW0GEWDvEdZPQ/w316-h400/Screenshot%202023-10-25%20at%2011.50.47%20AM.png" width="316" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><b><div style="text-align: center;"><b><a href="https://rstyle.me/+_Qod8htkqW8hJBavlDBb3Q">1</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+jutZRqu4qfLDhijMuyLNCQ">2</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+bfeSuMRxHm3KY4CpgWpTRw">3</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+Il4WkNJbT-4CpWdcNwIGGw">4</a> | <a href="https://www.hydroflask.com/32-oz-wide-mouth-w-straw-lid?color=rain#color=Pacific">5</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+-QG5zBrFrATpYDd5qDCvnA">6</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+RkBC8fZm50C7-KFArcAplg">7</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+-JgoznHNEh3Zli7XzLIDBg">8</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+tz_T_2z-6lfQ8_ADf_jdHA">9</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+KyFfCq56YBkZ8gYgr-h4Mg">10</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+b62MHyrkHqULbICVMeGBCg">11</a> </b></div></b><p style="text-align: center;"><br /></p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">My weekender bag: </span></b></h3><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>4 pair of comfy leggings/sweats (my MVPs for pregnancy and postpartum are <a href="https://rstyle.me/+RkBC8fZm50C7-KFArcAplg">Lululemon Aligns</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+FNN7QuQjb4r9NYS05vd6DA">Aerie Offline Real Me</a>. Also packing maternity pants/shorts)</li><li>4 nursing friendly maternity tops (I brought non-maternity tops last time, did not use. Takes the tummy a bit to go down). I loved an oversize <a href="https://rstyle.me/+tz_T_2z-6lfQ8_ADf_jdHA">henley</a> too.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+_Qod8htkqW8hJBavlDBb3Q">Nursing bras</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+jutZRqu4qfLDhijMuyLNCQ">Pumping bra</a>: I didn't have this last time, and due to Hall's unexpected NICU stay I needed to pump immediately. Holding a pump in place with an IV in my arm set off alarms every time and let me tell you - raging hormones + any extra stress = disaster. Please pack a pumping bra just in case - for your sanity.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+b62MHyrkHqULbICVMeGBCg">Robe</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+-JgoznHNEh3Zli7XzLIDBg">Slides</a>: Good for quick walks and showers. We're not bending over to put on shoes in the beginning.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+KyFfCq56YBkZ8gYgr-h4Mg">Post partum recovery supplies</a>: the Frida Mom supplies were superior to what my hospital had.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+bfeSuMRxHm3KY4CpgWpTRw">Frida upside down peri bottle:</a> the hospital gave me what resembled a dish soap bottle which was not helpful for washing down there (can't use toilet paper in the beginning). Even the nurse was like "wow they should give these to all new moms!"</li><li>Toiletries: Shampoo, conditioner, bodywash, toothbrush, toothpaste, face wash, moisturizer, all of it. Also, first shower is magical, do it asap.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+Il4WkNJbT-4CpWdcNwIGGw">Delivery gown</a>: this one from Kindred Bravely was great. The material is soft and breathable, the velcro gives you some dignity, and the openings in the front and back allow everyone all the access they need. Again, the nurses were like "wow this is so much better than the hospital gowns they should give these to all moms".</li><li><a href="https://www.hydroflask.com/32-oz-wide-mouth-w-straw-lid?color=rain#color=Pacific">Big insulated bottle</a>: the hospital provided us water cups but I was desperate for ice and this kept our ice cold overnight</li><li>Chapstick</li><li>Snacks: you never know what time you'll actually deliver, and if the kitchen will be open. Pack protein bars, drinks, snacks. </li><li>4 pair of socks</li><li>Baby pod: I had a packing pod with a <a href="https://magneticme.com/products/mf13mf30sg_seagl">going home outfit</a> (swear by these magnetic onesies, especially because I had a whole audience of NICU nurses watching me dress a baby for the first time and was so grateful for how easy this was to get on), hat, <a href="https://rstyle.me/+NQFCqhhT7VWfae6EpMKFKg">blanket</a>, <a href="https://rstyle.me/+LUlfdQ8T3vrDvkhYaAh7TA">swaddle</a>, and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+FRHSVBlVx8vfk0GM94HkEw">pacifier</a>.</li></ul><p></p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Harrison's rolling suitcase:</span></h3><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Pillows</li><li>Blankets</li><li>Towels</li></ul><p></p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Harrison's weekender bag:</span></h3><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>His clothes and whatever else he needs for a few nights stay (note from an L&D nurse friend to partners: please remember to pack sleeping pants or shorts, even if you usually sleep in your undies).</li><li>All our chargers with extra long cords</li><li>Tablet preloaded with mindless tv </li><li>Bluetooth speaker</li></ul><p></p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Things I didn't need: </span></h3><p style="text-align: left;"></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Pump (they have great ones at the hospital)</li><li>Bottles (they provided these at the hospital)</li><li>Formula (they provided at the hospital)</li><li>Books (thought I would read, idk if it was hormones or what but I just needed mindless TV or sleep. Heard this from other reading moms too)</li><li>Diapers/wipes (hospital provided)</li></ul><p></p><p><b>The carseat:</b> make sure you have this installed ahead of time and that you know how to tighten and loosen the straps. PRACTICE BEFOREHAND! Bringing a gigantic baby home in a snowstorm is not the time to learn the straps (speaking from experience). You will not bring the carseat carrier in until the baby is ready to come home.</p><p><br /></p><p>Printable checklist:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMTmpY4UuH-C7C_bJCNYDgQbj-nCaQs_LHansllA3CO-XHWhlERFGHaEIHkCK97KkPRnorc5W4CH1huATIqfsfOHRR-fCjhMHuMRIBefY6_0XeHZbRfbKk--WaYaxe2pz7aBN0Ac481bx-1-EpNFMxdgIsxdK5it6VdcUeqUf9DK18QHTyBtRHO78fivk/s1350/Pajamas%20for%20hot%20sleepers%20(7).png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1350" data-original-width="1080" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMTmpY4UuH-C7C_bJCNYDgQbj-nCaQs_LHansllA3CO-XHWhlERFGHaEIHkCK97KkPRnorc5W4CH1huATIqfsfOHRR-fCjhMHuMRIBefY6_0XeHZbRfbKk--WaYaxe2pz7aBN0Ac481bx-1-EpNFMxdgIsxdK5it6VdcUeqUf9DK18QHTyBtRHO78fivk/w512-h640/Pajamas%20for%20hot%20sleepers%20(7).png" width="512" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><br /><p><br /></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-47238832686207919812023-09-18T14:55:00.001-07:002023-09-18T14:55:00.140-07:00Recent Books and reviews<p>Sharing the books I've read with my reviews - you can find the full list of my 2022 favorites plus everything I've read in 2023 <a href="https://bookshop.org/lists/lindsay-s-reads-reviews">here</a>. </p><p>Pro tip: I check out most books from the library via the Libby app, and in order to avoid massive waitlists I try to find books from previous years' "Best of" lists (i.e. Oprah's Favorite books of 2021, Barack Obama's 2022 reading lists, Reese Witherspoon's 2022 reading lists, etc - usually less wait for the older hits!).</p><p>Also just want to point out the benefits of reading fiction as outlined in <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-effect/202203/the-mental-health-benefits-reading#:~:text=Reading%20Builds%20Bridges%20to%20Understanding%20Ourselves%20and%20Others&text=One%20seminal%20study%20found%20that,correlated%20with%20higher%20empathy%20scores.">this article</a> in case you are also suddenly feeling pressure to read more self help, business, and non-fiction books:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Enhances sense of wellbeing</li><li>Provides space for mental contemplation</li><li>Reduction in symptoms of depression</li><li>Reduction in mortality rate for those who read</li><li>Fosters greater empathy and social cognition</li></ul><p></p><p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="798" data-original-width="534" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg92iX1EJV3PuPC2Gw8XD4H7jYkUNlhHycIE56DfteesMxH-LzdaKZKPBn4lDlAAzfjBGMl7m89v7IpkBPvlYua8fYgS3upNnzPPXIHQSQ8rQCk9RGV2Yj6Fg_M7Yn8RBygtLuNC5_p5wgWnlhcunLfBetg7Z9TbDk37i2IXX9FsV2uqATe-WSJyy-_hrY/w268-h400/Screenshot%202023-09-07%20at%203.53.19%20PM.png" width="268" /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span><i style="color: #ea9999;"><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9781982188719">You Made a Fool of Death with Your Beauty </a></i>by Akwaeke Emezi</span></div><div style="text-align: left;">My rating: 3.5/5. Beautiful writing and descriptions of grief and dual emotions. However, romantic scenes make me cringe and this is heavy on the romance. If you're a romance reader this is for you! I am definitely going to explore other books by this author because they cover other genres and I really did enjoy the writing.</div><p><br /></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgH4L3O6cqdrZ5TrPcQdqumyFPINWFVQ7lqK1McjKI4bxR7J9Omfkbx3KeaISwDdt_9ZMtB4VvR1QvfyUbdBtBtERnBvGBefhBaWL6pEnY8e0MMLeLba_wz4JQIClCGKRhVVr94OpZjEAPmSe2Yxhvcb0y2uCHg3f-AlryK4K88MX6XWPA7dNXwv59WIKQ" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="324" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgH4L3O6cqdrZ5TrPcQdqumyFPINWFVQ7lqK1McjKI4bxR7J9Omfkbx3KeaISwDdt_9ZMtB4VvR1QvfyUbdBtBtERnBvGBefhBaWL6pEnY8e0MMLeLba_wz4JQIClCGKRhVVr94OpZjEAPmSe2Yxhvcb0y2uCHg3f-AlryK4K88MX6XWPA7dNXwv59WIKQ=w260-h400" width="260" /></a></div><p><i style="font-style: italic;"><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780593313008">Beautiful Country</a></i> by Qian Julie Wang</p><p></p><p>My rating: 5/5. This started a little slow but once it picked up I was SO invested in the characters. I realized the Chinese immigrant experience is one I know little about so this was a really educational read for me.</p><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiUhHiXFd4k4LoepYcL4mEM8ChvXk1eSk-qqAY0pgy2inkXK5cqJ0t_h9z0jX49kW_pXODV32EJg51VQWT_9csqqEz_C0I8VsChhCJfaqZ2pIAO6Lx12hvCvU8GS10aF9L0JWjJ-aJKUCjSPGGzjYw00c_gqxCfkWK329ZOxFMDy5-B81qOz6XBU3eZUXI" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="256" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiUhHiXFd4k4LoepYcL4mEM8ChvXk1eSk-qqAY0pgy2inkXK5cqJ0t_h9z0jX49kW_pXODV32EJg51VQWT_9csqqEz_C0I8VsChhCJfaqZ2pIAO6Lx12hvCvU8GS10aF9L0JWjJ-aJKUCjSPGGzjYw00c_gqxCfkWK329ZOxFMDy5-B81qOz6XBU3eZUXI=w257-h400" width="257" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780525540687">Long Bright River</a> </i>by Liz Moore</div><div>My rating: 5/5. Could not put this down, and I appreciated the compassionate storyline around tough issues like addiction. It's giving <i>The Wire</i> as told by a woman. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgIav8S-WUQ9Vbscqy3rN4gEA_1IrYfAvOZY8itYiU-6xXteQ9PIimCDTbHIv5lA5J-QfhCJYt4JoRPDQxQaF7WqlgL03l6kxJ8cTJe9guhmlZMJidUGW7nDroKZu8YEs83u_-4NbjLQkveH__8GpN29f6n6Apota3BnOWriSRaXz_g-br14ewreklLnuM" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="326" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgIav8S-WUQ9Vbscqy3rN4gEA_1IrYfAvOZY8itYiU-6xXteQ9PIimCDTbHIv5lA5J-QfhCJYt4JoRPDQxQaF7WqlgL03l6kxJ8cTJe9guhmlZMJidUGW7nDroKZu8YEs83u_-4NbjLQkveH__8GpN29f6n6Apota3BnOWriSRaXz_g-br14ewreklLnuM=w260-h400" width="260" /></a></div><br /><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9781250790750">The Plot</a></i> by Jean Hanff Korelitz. </div><div>My Rating: 2.5/5. I got through it quickly but it didn't really capture me at any point. I think I read/watch too much crime because I predicted the twist from the beginning. It was dull enough to help me sleep during pregnancy insomnia though.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgrhETRIUWTIkvF9aCBsTth9l0hA-tTyelan8wmVr33Fa2kQLVZpQSfXg7BU17rVV_v-jCx39qUWrrl04raBPe45vrlkauLtVttPKkTWpROx8srN7otodHx09Nr6jgsLrKajBh5aDTJ8Q1R_qvYVv-WNNq2629olNPcaBFnMAp96_tjaFYjecm_am_h9m4" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="324" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEgrhETRIUWTIkvF9aCBsTth9l0hA-tTyelan8wmVr33Fa2kQLVZpQSfXg7BU17rVV_v-jCx39qUWrrl04raBPe45vrlkauLtVttPKkTWpROx8srN7otodHx09Nr6jgsLrKajBh5aDTJ8Q1R_qvYVv-WNNq2629olNPcaBFnMAp96_tjaFYjecm_am_h9m4=w260-h400" width="260" /></a></div><br /><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780593337714">Take My Hand</a></i> by Dolen Perkins-Valdez</div><div>My rating: 5/5</div><div>Y'all if you read nothing else off this list, make it this book - mandatory for white readers. Winner of the 2023 NAACP Image Award for Outstanding Literary Work-Fiction, the 2023 Prize for Fiction from the Black Caucus of the American Library Association, and the Silver Gavel Award from the American Bar Association, this historical fiction book inspired by true events blew my mind. It's the story of forced sterilization on poor, teenage Black teens not that long ago, and weaves in a lot of cultural aspects and lessons. Please read it.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh51Ph35dXreA-9zyqJ0HuX1m7TS9nJGXQE2ojgJDcQdImRbBlHV9jGZhGePmMXyJ45qLKGqDgGsJm8UAYubdihARVaVC-cAP70vsrETqpydv6G3orE0euRSzZzDLpgXkQSDg9liwJqSMAP-z9vD4qgMEXRu9RxkgXkoTI-v9v4lhESbh8g90kBHZrPBsQ" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="328" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh51Ph35dXreA-9zyqJ0HuX1m7TS9nJGXQE2ojgJDcQdImRbBlHV9jGZhGePmMXyJ45qLKGqDgGsJm8UAYubdihARVaVC-cAP70vsrETqpydv6G3orE0euRSzZzDLpgXkQSDg9liwJqSMAP-z9vD4qgMEXRu9RxkgXkoTI-v9v4lhESbh8g90kBHZrPBsQ=w262-h400" width="262" /></a></div><br /><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9781982156138"><i>The School for Good Mothers</i> </a>by Jessamine Chan</div><div>My rating: 3.5/5</div><div>This was really thought provoking and got me fired up and maybe hit too close to where it feels like society is headed for comfort. It's dark and dystopian, I'm glad I read it.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEg2Qxof6xAUtTE1tYi2CVNdI6p5ERzuWD_XNoImLot8thbg_8t5u0jDlTvEBbAD-nd3Z0pd8EdDX0T1gQcBeAPcNv7lhurhFMLsw01fnu6ysruzqnxKUbq_mWClddoBLeGPTc6_VySPdLK9C4qqybbb-fHbYHyVI9gMBoQUN4bOnCXJwDWtPF7MFo0dYjM" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="328" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEg2Qxof6xAUtTE1tYi2CVNdI6p5ERzuWD_XNoImLot8thbg_8t5u0jDlTvEBbAD-nd3Z0pd8EdDX0T1gQcBeAPcNv7lhurhFMLsw01fnu6ysruzqnxKUbq_mWClddoBLeGPTc6_VySPdLK9C4qqybbb-fHbYHyVI9gMBoQUN4bOnCXJwDWtPF7MFo0dYjM=w262-h400" width="262" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9781538702338"><i>What's Mine and Yours</i> </a>by Naima Coster</div><div>My rating: 5/5</div><div>This is a book I still think about regularly - it was so good. It shows how race impacts everything, and gets into family legacy. As a parent it had me thinking about intention vs. impact, and what that will mean for my kids and the future generations of my family. The story is told with such a compassionate lens towards all of the characters, many of whom I would despise outside of this writing.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh89Kg3oVonpZDu-LfGoHpl1e7gv0geOQWM884SaHVexr9sA5iQqCOXXVfkVBYSwtVzbeFQtSVTnA_TESB1aOilPykVClAEj-g-UQjNCHrGB0kPSCd50dZnB82_0xnlaUtsYUCsiQ8nyWVAVEvqan2eFdmLtwH5gWEINc3cOcJHJs2J9dKBdvODNPeShF4" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="333" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEh89Kg3oVonpZDu-LfGoHpl1e7gv0geOQWM884SaHVexr9sA5iQqCOXXVfkVBYSwtVzbeFQtSVTnA_TESB1aOilPykVClAEj-g-UQjNCHrGB0kPSCd50dZnB82_0xnlaUtsYUCsiQ8nyWVAVEvqan2eFdmLtwH5gWEINc3cOcJHJs2J9dKBdvODNPeShF4=w267-h400" width="267" /></a></div><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780593295861">Girl A</a> </i>by Abigail Dean</div><div>My rating: 3/5</div><div>This psychological thriller is a fascinating story that I flew threw but child abuse is the main theme, and like I said earlier I must read/watch too much crime because I predicted the plot twist from the jump.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhxa7B8FpRcREfX0n7cBIXGSbcK66l2UuGk1KGVoP7rw_DEQTlZdmxu4MalXkW-2teEDvJRhGPikjo1Z6_AidrAaEDcdAOR8SjlAx5mm8LgkLV5aBm1_6PTY9kZrCalU0yBqMPrs8IIuVQOlmSro_LMe7eCIYpA-mamHdTdxEq5N2Eh0nKdJm6ZCZNDcwA" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="499" data-original-width="331" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhxa7B8FpRcREfX0n7cBIXGSbcK66l2UuGk1KGVoP7rw_DEQTlZdmxu4MalXkW-2teEDvJRhGPikjo1Z6_AidrAaEDcdAOR8SjlAx5mm8LgkLV5aBm1_6PTY9kZrCalU0yBqMPrs8IIuVQOlmSro_LMe7eCIYpA-mamHdTdxEq5N2Eh0nKdJm6ZCZNDcwA=w265-h400" width="265" /></a></div><br /><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780063084254">Wahala</a></i> by Nikki May<br />My rating: 4/5</div><div>Took me a bit to get into it but once I was in I was LOCKED IN. Love/hated the characters, love a story about women's friendships, and this was an overall enjoyable light-ish read. BBC has optioned it for a series so hopefully we get a good show out of it - I will definitely watch. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhisx-edTidzFzVg7t640EQa_uiF5FlKJ4A7zKbOuDr5B9C49iLMKU5cgqaiR6IRpEpD4GK8YBTGB0YEtrp0SG1yu2BN8gAPcXvyU-OJ0dg9_FB1UQB8ENFfOXUFvEXmYKDl6k0H1cWvFcR_YHJIcxjceeegeGTVUeMenDarBO1IU_JfM9Hx_A0kW29wz4" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="331" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEhisx-edTidzFzVg7t640EQa_uiF5FlKJ4A7zKbOuDr5B9C49iLMKU5cgqaiR6IRpEpD4GK8YBTGB0YEtrp0SG1yu2BN8gAPcXvyU-OJ0dg9_FB1UQB8ENFfOXUFvEXmYKDl6k0H1cWvFcR_YHJIcxjceeegeGTVUeMenDarBO1IU_JfM9Hx_A0kW29wz4=w265-h400" width="265" /></a></div><i><a href="https://bookshop.org/a/96843/9780063250833">Yellowface</a> </i>by R.F. Kuang<br />My rating: 5/5</div><div>Book tok told me to read this one and I couldn't put it down. I loved the insight into the publishing industry and the narrative on people who think they get it, everyone's favorite topic - reverse racism, and cultural appropriation. Touches on a lot of hot topics with a gripping storyline. I will say I didn't love how the end played out but otherwise this was a wonderful read. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://bookshop.org/lists/lindsay-s-reads-reviews">This is a living list </a>of my books and reviews, and I always post when I finish a book on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lhtempleton/">Instagram</a> and save to the books highlight. </div>
Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-37398564675446737282023-09-17T18:12:00.003-07:002023-09-17T18:12:31.760-07:002023.09.17 sunday reading list <p> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_LmwoKhjqPADF7EsQJIEHPpsEruWsITraf4oNvglA2rMZZw25FNOmPYT7sI7XGSfbnXxrwZKhKhM1NqzE1OBMOcL4SLGQJKEBinqbryS7ID5RmryBlusoxsoHqqCOirOKHJIRg-SD7IlquZiM8xqgBblBG87bxbmqMQSOdqY0smIAF0ZE5pT5iuVhE9s/s1064/Screenshot_20230917-205108.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1064" data-original-width="1061" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj_LmwoKhjqPADF7EsQJIEHPpsEruWsITraf4oNvglA2rMZZw25FNOmPYT7sI7XGSfbnXxrwZKhKhM1NqzE1OBMOcL4SLGQJKEBinqbryS7ID5RmryBlusoxsoHqqCOirOKHJIRg-SD7IlquZiM8xqgBblBG87bxbmqMQSOdqY0smIAF0ZE5pT5iuVhE9s/w399-h400/Screenshot_20230917-205108.png" width="399" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Cw7wKz4tI1j/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p><p><i>Some people have reached out for copies or text of articles since not everyone has subscriptions to the publications I post or have run out of free articles. I'm using gift links where they're available (i.e. you can read the articles without subscriptions/counting against your free articles). I note them with the đ icon so you know it's a safe click (I know how it is saving up the articles).</i></p><p>đ <a href="https://wapo.st/3PGswGT">Millennial moms are tired of trying to be perfect</a> (<i>WaPo): </i>Raise your hand if you feel this headline.</p><p></p><blockquote><p>Polls of millennial moms show the effects of this inescapable messaging: that they have internalized the importance of being a âperfect momâ; that they are extremely stressed and adept at hiding that stress from even their own families. They confess that they are exhausted by this perpetual, ambient pressure, and are eager to escape it.</p><div></div></blockquote><div><a href="https://www.axios.com/2023/09/01/covid-pandemic-mental-heallth-crisis-public-freakouts">Public freakouts, adult tantrums, and bullying are here to stay</a> (<i>Axios)</i>: Reassuring to know that it isn't in my head that people are increasingly...worse. I want a deeper dive though to understand why some people went this direction and others didn't. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/hard-cold-research/202309/what-kind-of-love-lasts-longest">What kind of love lasts longest?</a> (<i>Psychology Today)</i>: This article talks about how our relationship with our partner impacts our lives (outside the relationship) and how we can convert our relationships to a healthy long lasting love.</div><div><br /></div><div>đ <a href="https://wapo.st/3Rqxjh4">Why food allergies are on the rise</a> (<i>WaPo): </i>Other allergy parents and I have this conversation all the time (my 19 month old has severe egg and dairy allergies), and this article gives a lot more scientific breakdown than our theories. Plus interesting data on who is impacted. </div><div>**If you're an allergy parent, I save a lot about our food allergy experience and how we feed HL in my <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stories/highlights/18067444252353196/">IG highlights.</a></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/09/nfl-discrimination-owners-trotter-lawsuit/675344/">How the NFL talks behind closed doors </a>(<i>The Atlantic)</i>: If you follow me on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lhtempleton/">Instagram</a> you know I've been leaning into sports (and I'm over it). If anything my sports era has convinced me the NFL is even more trash than I originally thought, and this article details some of the reasons.</div><div><br /></div><h4 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">ICYMI</span></h4><div><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/08/flying-with-baby-andor-toddler.html">Everything you need to know before flying withe babies and toddlers</a></div><div><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/p/shop-my-ig.html">All the links shared here and on IG</a></div><div><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7276515473217391915?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">A risk of big headed babies</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7277672526749240619?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">recovering from birthing big headed babies</a></div><div><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7279113261650365738?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">The final 2.5 week stretch </a></div><div><br /></div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-60378635552860336432023-08-28T17:02:00.000-07:002023-08-28T17:02:08.232-07:002023.08.27 Sunday Reading List<p><br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnhTdf-lCXw4OnoyjNjqg1aFLQIm2UcucCyLp_drp336bywq7hOR6AxtILzMss1dQkdUGxRNExGXk93p5rdEM_KkpUvrLuActkzm3Ck0C9Hr9Yn-eBy64i6c8xIDYrQxsaI_r8CzloDf_bBHNLK8m17MUmfaNIVDRad8X8jiQezpRAs_ocAY5_P1Ciq8M/s1798/Screenshot_20230828-193353.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1798" data-original-width="1417" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnhTdf-lCXw4OnoyjNjqg1aFLQIm2UcucCyLp_drp336bywq7hOR6AxtILzMss1dQkdUGxRNExGXk93p5rdEM_KkpUvrLuActkzm3Ck0C9Hr9Yn-eBy64i6c8xIDYrQxsaI_r8CzloDf_bBHNLK8m17MUmfaNIVDRad8X8jiQezpRAs_ocAY5_P1Ciq8M/w315-h400/Screenshot_20230828-193353.png" width="315" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CwNVzZwMorS/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p><p>Sunday Reading List is late this week because pregnancy has destroyed my brain and I can't focus long enough to read a whole article. Here's what caught my attention this week:</p><p><a href="https://www.vox.com/culture/23831903/girl-dinner-tiktok-trends-hot-girl-walk?tpcc=NL_Marketing">Girl Trends and the repackaging of womanhood</a> (<i>Vox)</i>: If you're on tik tok, Girl Math and Girl Dinner and Girl Walks have probably popped up on your FYP. Why do these take off and why do we have to say "girl"?</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2023/08/09/masculinity-journeymen-josh-hawley-trump/?utm_campaign=wp_lily_lines&utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter&wpisrc=nl_lily">Men's groups are embracing an alternative to American masculinity</a> (<i>WaPo)</i>: This looks at how a men's group in DC is addressing loneliness, violence, and its approach to masculinity. </p><p><a href="https://plus.thebulwark.com/p/guns-for-tots-what-could-go-wrong?utm_source=TMP-Newsletter&utm_campaign=f830333b8e-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2023_08_17_11_17&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5e02cdad9d-f830333b8e-%5BLIST_EMAIL_ID%5D">Guns for tots: what could go wrong?</a> (<i>Substack)</i>: Gun marketing to kids... wow.</p><p><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/aug/22/sorority-consultants-greek-life-college">The consultants who get teens into elite sororities</a> (<i>The Guardian): </i>A look into the jobs of the consultants getting paid $2,000 to consult girls going through sorority rush. </p><p><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/intellectual-difference-diversity-happiness/675095/?utm_campaign=later-linkinbio-theatlantic&utm_content=later-37427471&utm_medium=social&utm_source=linkin.bio">How to get the most happiness out of your social life</a> (<i>The Atlantic)</i>: Even though we prefer to hang out with people who are similar to us, more diverse relationships have been proven to improve well-being, improve certain types of performance, and enhance social adeptness. Studies show that even kids benefit from diverse relationships! This article also give action steps to build more diverse relationships in life.</p><p><br /></p><p><b>ICYMI: </b></p><p><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/p/shop-my-ig.html">Recent outfits and products we talked about on IG</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7270989942631845166?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">What I eat to get 30 grams of protein for breakfast</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7266136358324899118?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">Our best parenting decision </a></p><p><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/08/tough-on-crime-why-it-doesnt-work-and.html">Why "tough on crime" doesn't work, and what does</a></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-35759891080295648672023-08-22T18:06:00.003-07:002023-08-22T18:21:08.309-07:00my toddler son's curly hair routine<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZvjjSh-pvG2np0WRsTYUx3ydB4-lfS1h1nU-smFFd36IGQKyX5Ak2SMX0dY_Q4Yti98ujs5VoKI86P7iZGYT7-T5CyYbbxoRYCqtKJbAjhb1uY8oZ_uE-_px_ezVP_RytVHG8QV_3VyJ0bFwGjmWGp-TW5dY423Uq0RBeZxJNh_XR8J26bXIdctAKTJA/s2343/Screenshot_20230822-211431.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2343" data-original-width="1434" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgZvjjSh-pvG2np0WRsTYUx3ydB4-lfS1h1nU-smFFd36IGQKyX5Ak2SMX0dY_Q4Yti98ujs5VoKI86P7iZGYT7-T5CyYbbxoRYCqtKJbAjhb1uY8oZ_uE-_px_ezVP_RytVHG8QV_3VyJ0bFwGjmWGp-TW5dY423Uq0RBeZxJNh_XR8J26bXIdctAKTJA/w392-h640/Screenshot_20230822-211431.png" width="392" /></a></div><br /><p></p><p>Y'all my toddler son has the most beautiful curls in the world and he has no idea. We have had a lot of trial and error to find what works for him, both with his routine and products. </p><p>For context, his dad is Black and I am white with naturally curly hair and he has three distinct curl patterns in his hair. As someone who grew up hating their curls, it's important to me that my kids feel confident about their hair and know how to care for it. Here is our routine:</p>
<blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7267270248137755950" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7267270248137755950" style="max-width: 605px; min-width: 325px;"> <section> <span style="font-weight: normal;"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="@lhtempleton">@lhtempleton</a> sharing my toddler's curly hair care routine - it's taken some trial and error but this is what works for us. remember the key is to keep it moisturized! we love @Mixed Chicks Hair and @SheaMoisture products for him. <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/ftm?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="ftm">#ftm</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/curlyhair?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="curlyhair">#curlyhair</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/curlyhairtutorial?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="curlyhairtutorial">#curlyhairtutorial</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/curlscheck?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="curlscheck">#curlscheck</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/toddlerhair?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="toddlerhair">#toddlerhair</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/toddlerhairtutorials?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="toddlerhairtutorials">#toddlerhairtutorials</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/biracialhaircare?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="biracialhaircare">#biracialhaircare</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/fyp?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="fyp">#fyp</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/mixedkidshair?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="mixedkidshair">#mixedkidshair</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/curlyhairtips?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="curlyhairtips">#curlyhairtips</a> <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/original-sound-7267270294271068971?refer=embed" target="_blank" title="⏠original sound - Lindsay Templeton">⏠original sound - Lindsay Templeton</a></span> </section> </blockquote> <script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script>
<h2 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Wash Day</span></b>
</h2><p>While he takes a bath every night, we wash his hair once a week. Minimizing washes is important to not dry out his curls. He HATES getting his hair washed in the tub, and this suggestion from a friend to lay him out on the counter and wash his hair in the sink while Ms. Rachel distracts him on the phone has been a game changer. </p><p>First we shampoo with a sulfate free shampoo. We use this <a href="https://rstyle.me/+D2dxr8VZwA77F9pW7_O4Gw">Shea Moisture </a>shampoo. </p><p>After I thoroughly rinse out the shampoo, I apply <a href="https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/condition-detangle/detangling-and-treating-dry-hair-8oz-deep-conditioner/">this Deep Conditioner from Mixed Chicks</a>, comb his hair, let it set for a few minutes, then rinse it out. </p><p>Next I squeeze excess water from his hair and apply a small amount of this<a href="https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/kids-haircare/leave-in-conditioner-for-kids/"> Mixed Chicks Leave-in conditioner</a> (sample size <a href="https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/kids-haircare/leave-conditioner-kids-2oz/">here</a>) comb, and let his hair air dry.</p><p>All in this takes less than 10 minutes and my son spends the entire time enchanted by Ms. Rachel. </p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Non Wash Days</span></h2><p>As part of his morning routine I wet his hair with a spray bottle (when he's in a bad mood about it I let him spray my hair first, he also enjoys spraying himself in the face đ¤ˇââď¸). </p><p>Once his hair is wet I spray this <a href="https://mixedchicks.net/products/hair-products/kids-haircare/kids-tangle-tamer-8oz/">Mixed Chicks Detangler </a>all over, then apply this<a href="https://www.target.com/p/cantu-shea-butter-leave-in-conditioning-repair-hair-cream-12oz/-/A-21407488?preselect=21407488#lnk=sametab"> Cantu leave-in conditioner</a> to the drier textured spots in his hair. Then I comb through his hair and let it air dry. </p><p>Realistically we get to this 3 days/week. Mornings can get chaotic, toddlers have tantrums, and in this season of life nothing is going to be 100%. </p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">About the products </span></h2><p>I prefer using a <a href="https://rstyle.me/+b2cmzKDtCCqW8ljC9MmVeA">wide tooth comb</a> because it's easier and less painful on tangles.</p><p>While you can buy Mixed Chicks products from Target and Wal-Mart, I prefer buying directly from the <a href="https://mixedchicks.net/">Mixed Chicks site</a> because they offer sample sizes of everything which is CRUCIAL when trial-and-erroring multiple textures in a kid's hair, and every order comes with a bag of free samples (bonus is that some products that don't work for my son do work for me). Shipping is fast and they have a points system that gets you discounts.</p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Dos and Don'ts</span></h2><p>Curly hair takes trial and error, and it takes time to figure it out. I always get the smallest possible sizes to try, and think of the process as data collection. </p><p>It's ok to feel frustrated, but we need to watch how we express this around our kids because it's not ok for them to feel bad about their hair because we are frustrated.</p><p>If you see kids whose hair is similar in texture to your child's, ASK the parents what they use! We're all in this together and happy to help!</p><p>Our goal is to retain moisture- that's what makes the curls so shiny and bouncy and prevents itchy/flaky scalps. </p><div>NEVER brush your child's hair dry.</div><div><br /></div><div>For tangles make sure their hair is nice and wet with plenty of detangler/cream and start with a small section of hair. Hold it at the base of the scalp, and comb starting at the very end of the section. Keep a grip on the base of their hair to keep from pulling on their scalp - curly headed kids can have tender scalps.</div><div><br /></div><div>If they say it hurts, you don't need to power through. Take a break. Try smaller sections of hair. Let them know you believe them (avoid "it's not that bad"). </div><div><br /></div><div>Use distractions: toys, screen time, books, whatever you need.</div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-67188478327461219822023-08-13T17:45:00.001-07:002023-08-13T17:45:02.224-07:002023.8.13 Sunday Reading List<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiX-P9jofH-UTxAHMaGWgQYzihqGhIlq1UBTUx4X8eYngO3eFka7JOwdGt2dOjY1cKvvkbkpLLMCxClfCIPRTOUIxLngsz70XyKMJZzxQRdnXVyiHMu_F8IZl3EIiIlF6ss2n0j6UqVv7p7A6tKs5getsWmNp5M7dDjbyh1EFyi3pRlXyToGi5S01c1voY/s1447/Screenshot_20230813-202706.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1447" data-original-width="1420" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiX-P9jofH-UTxAHMaGWgQYzihqGhIlq1UBTUx4X8eYngO3eFka7JOwdGt2dOjY1cKvvkbkpLLMCxClfCIPRTOUIxLngsz70XyKMJZzxQRdnXVyiHMu_F8IZl3EIiIlF6ss2n0j6UqVv7p7A6tKs5getsWmNp5M7dDjbyh1EFyi3pRlXyToGi5S01c1voY/w393-h400/Screenshot_20230813-202706.png" width="393" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVk1ad1JzA8/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><a href="https://techcrunch.com/2023/08/10/fearless-fund-responds-to-racial-discrimination-lawsuit/">Fearless Fund responds to racial discrimination lawsuit </a>(<i>TechCrunch):</i> ICYMI, as predicted the same dude behind the race based admissions lawsuits that went to the Supreme Court is now attempting to take down DEI and funding initiatives, and he's starting with a Black woman owned venture fund that awards grants to Black Woman owned businesses. Via <a href="https://afrotech.com/black-venture-capital-firm-fearless-fund-has-been-sued">AfroTech</a>:</p><p></p><blockquote><p>He also shared that the current lawsuit against the Fearless Fund is the first of many that he hopes to pursue through his American Alliance for Equal Rights organization against private corporations.</p><div></div></blockquote><div><a href="https://www.vogue.com/article/iuds-dont-have-to-be-so-painful?tpcc=NL_Marketing">IUD insertion doesn't have to be so painful </a>(<i>Vogue)</i>: This article enlightened me of a 20 year cycle research data goes through that is causing a known treatment to IUD insertion pain (raise your hand if you went into cervical shock from your's and were told maybe you should have eaten more before you came) to not be used by doctors. PS MEN COULD NEVER!</div><div><br /></div><div>The making of Real Housewives (<i>Bustle)</i>: I don't even watch Real Housewives but this BTS info was a fascinating read. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/202308/body-language-cues-that-lead-to-instant-likability">Body language cues that lead to instant likability </a> (<i>Psychology Today)</i>: As someone who struggles to mute their facial expressions, this was a relief to read.</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://hbr.org/2020/03/the-key-to-inclusive-leadership">The key to inclusive leadership</a> (<i>HBR)</i>: I was actually surprised to read the results of this study and appreciated the tangible action items we can take as leaders to improve in these areas. </div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-25316076740932458372023-08-09T18:29:00.004-07:002023-08-09T18:30:21.464-07:00tough on crime: why it doesn't work and what DOES work (aka why bringing the national guard to dc is dumb)<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/08/tough-on-crime-why-it-doesnt-work-and.html" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="516" data-original-width="885" height="234" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgMujIxm-d8Q7RjlRmmQzEhTc_VJN8xNJBYmG1psN7jV2mOLtCThdC1XeTJct-kqSoTubLQ9YFh7dJ_VwL36ey7iDz5I6xWg_AQOz347Q1QXViLINJ24QPNOwtWixd04PGFKQ_kcIVXWTKIKIlY73Lk02LEHX-VNH4cbHzjjB8oVFlOIjyG5bsXdzENGPI/w400-h234/virus_outbreak_washington_73809_c0-320-3820-2547_s885x516.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2023/aug/8/trayon-white-dc-council-member-wants-national-guar/">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><p>D.C.'s ward 8 council member has <a href="https://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2023/aug/8/trayon-white-dc-council-member-wants-national-guar/">called on the mayor to join him</a> in requesting the national guard come help fight crime. This is an interesting (đĽ´) solution considering the [lack of] data supporting "tough on crime" solutions like this. So let's talk about it.</p><p>For context: crime in D.C. has gotten bad. Like up 25% since last year bad. And the offenders are increasingly younger - police have arrested kids as young as 11 (ELEVEN) for violent car jackings. Anyone in education knew there would be an uptick in youth crime as a result of COVID school closures with zero planning for kids living in poverty without access to internet (in D.C.'s poorest wards only <a href="https://greaterdc.urban.org/blog/new-data-reveal-digital-divides-across-dc-neighborhoods">45% of families</a> have access to broadband), food, or safe spaces. And to be clear this isn't on teachers or school administrators who spent the pandemic doing the best they could with no resources. Teachers and administrators are not responsible for policy or funding allocation, this is all on the highly paid district and government officials.</p><p>Let's talk about this in three parts:</p><p><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Part 1: why is it dumb and a complete waste of resources to even TALK about bringing in the national guard to fight crime?</span></b></p><p>Besides the fact that they wouldn't even show up for the January 6 insurrection so good luck getting them to show up for this, study after study after study show that despite the US spending $1 trillion on tough-on-crime measures, increased number of police does not deter crime. Our own <a href="https://www.ojp.gov/ncjrs/virtual-library/abstracts/relationship-between-police-presence-and-crime-deterrence">Department of Justice says</a></p><p></p><blockquote><p>Looking at number of police per 1,000 population; crime rate; and crime rate ranking for 26 major cities fails to reveal consistent relationships among these variables.</p></blockquote><p><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Part 2: what are they going to do? Put more people in prison? Make more arrests? Once again ALL the data say threat of punishment does not deter crime. </span></b></p><p>The US has a 70% recidivism rate, meaning 70% of people return to prison within a few years of release - and these are just the people who get caught a second (or third or fourth) time. So why doesn't the threat of punishment and harsher sentences work? </p><p>According to the BBC:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180514-do-long-prison-sentences-deter-crime">Studies</a> have shown that criminals tend to value their futures less, making harsher sentences arbitrary</li><li><a href="https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180514-do-long-prison-sentences-deter-crime">Studies have also shown </a>that people with lower education levels are less deterred by harsh sentences</li><li><a href="https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180514-do-long-prison-sentences-deter-crime">Experts say </a>criminals believe they will not be caught - even after being caught once they do not expect to be caught again. This expectation means they do not expect to serve prison sentences.</li></ul><div>Crime as a result of a <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/crime-and-punishment/201804/why-punishment-doesnt-reduce-crime">public health crisis</a>:</div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>60% of incarcerated people have at least one diagnosed mental illness</li><li>50-60% of offenders have a traumatic brain injury</li><li>80% of offenders suffer from substance abuse disorder</li><li>There is a strong and heavily researched relationship between poverty and neurodevelopment</li></ul></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Part 3: what can we do about crime?</span></b></div><div><br /></div><div>The key to reducing crime is preventing it, not punishing it. We need consistent, well-funded, long term strategies (meaning when we don't see results right away we can't just drop it - systemic change takes time). <a href="https://www.brookings.edu/articles/a-new-community-safety-blueprint-how-the-federal-government-can-address-violence-and-harm-through-a-public-health-approach/">This research paper </a>has an intensive list with supporting data, case studies, and examples. Here is a brief, very summarized list:</div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Access to health care and treatment</li><li>Community violence intervention: trained professionals to intervene and de-escalate violent conflicts, and provides wraparound services to those who have a high risk of violence.</li><li>Civilian crisis response: 20% of 911 calls are related to mental illness or substance abuse which police are not equipped to handle. Trained non police (social workers etc)</li><li>Economic opportunity and housing security: loans, housing programs, job placement and upskilling programs.</li><li>youth employment and skill building programs</li><li>Youth programming: Programs to support studentsâ social and emotional well-being have been found to reduce total arrests by as much as<u> 35%, violent crime arrests by as much as 50%, and youth recidivism by 21%</u></li><li>High-quality education and school-based violence prevention</li><li>Investment in environment and community spaces </li></ul><div>You know what comes next. Local elections matter so much in this area - please research your local elections, reach out to your local candidates for their stance on these issues, and vote for the ones who will help prevent crime. And have these conversations with your people, make sure they understand the power of their votes and of these policies. </div></div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-85782777134965438492023-08-02T16:56:00.003-07:002023-08-09T18:31:19.577-07:00Flying with a baby and/or toddler<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPoQpOYC1Debiv8dT27Wf0J0_8ZFpeR9cF7KUwxHsz5U6eMrudEJytCwZ-XE5ZmFbK1Iab5kiKHethqx_RT4vnjzcHwa7NcTTDW3uhfEMWzLlJ38dUfuC0sIHdUBsZNoQIW_nmqoAblvNYDajBMl9JFaCUJQ2dBr7Vev0czyQAptF5Mbl0DKV0bxIIcmw/s400/Pajamas%20for%20hot%20sleepers%20(3)%20(1).png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="320" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPoQpOYC1Debiv8dT27Wf0J0_8ZFpeR9cF7KUwxHsz5U6eMrudEJytCwZ-XE5ZmFbK1Iab5kiKHethqx_RT4vnjzcHwa7NcTTDW3uhfEMWzLlJ38dUfuC0sIHdUBsZNoQIW_nmqoAblvNYDajBMl9JFaCUJQ2dBr7Vev0czyQAptF5Mbl0DKV0bxIIcmw/w320-h400/Pajamas%20for%20hot%20sleepers%20(3)%20(1).png" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://rstyle.me/+Q7qxtU6oGtBfE6E9cUdVWg">Travel stroller</a> | <a href="https://amzn.to/43494Y5">carseat strap</a> | <a href="https://amzn.to/3QmXXH7">window toys</a> | <a href="https://rstyle.me/+HkRLUVg9Gp8EgwW4t07Hvg">carseat</a> | <a href="https://amzn.to/3OGLP2B ">pouches</a> | <a href="https://amzn.to/47ggQBx ">magnetic tiles</a></div><div><br /></div><br /><div><br /></div><div>We have successfully taken multiple flights (solo parent, both parents, international..) with our son who is now 18 months old and have learned a LOT. Did my best to operationalize this and share below! Buckle in - it's a long one, I tried to include the things that I needed to understand before getting on a plane!</div><div><br /></div><div>Below you'll find:</div><div><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>Ticket options for babies/toddlers</li><li>Documentation for flying with babies</li><li>What to bring to the airport</li><li>Flying with baby: the process from start to finish</li></ol></div><div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">What are my ticket options for flying with a baby?</span></h3><div>There are a 2 options for babies under 2, there are pros and cons to both and you should do what works best for your family:</div><div><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Travel as a lap infant</span></b>: There is an option to add your baby as a lap child to your ticket when purchasing. An important note if you're traveling with more than 1 lap child is that each row on the plane has one additional oxygen mask (i.e. if the row is three across, there are 4 oxygen masks), so you and your companion will need to split up seats.</li><li><span style="color: #ea9999; font-weight: bold;">Separate ticket: </span><span>This is costlier but is how we have opted to travel with our son because we can bring his carseat and he knows what to expect/how to behave in his carseat. Also, hi have you met my anxiety - this feels safer to my anxiety haha.</span></li></ol></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">What Documentation do I need to travel with a baby?</span></b></h3><div>We always travel with a copy of his birth certificate just in case but have never been asked for it. The only time we have been asked for his ID was his passport when traveling internationally.</div><div><br /></div><div>We followed<a href="https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/need-passport/under-16.html" target="_blank"> these instructions</a> for his passport and it was actually very straightforward and easy. </div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">What do I need to bring to the airport when flying with a baby?</span></h3><div>Here is what we bring for the flights:</div><div><br /></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Carseat stuff</span></b></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+ZW46pTuh9zGotEJbPUK6Rg">Travel carseat:</a> for kids up to 40 lbs, this is super lightweight (like less than 10 lbs) and incredibly easy to install in cars and airplanes (I can do it in 30 seconds). <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkcgvOLvKY8" target="_blank">Here's an installation tutorial </a>for nervous preppers like me. We bring the carseat on the plane but if you opt to check the carseat (free to check or can gate check), people love these carseat backpacks.</li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/43494Y5" target="_blank">Carseat Strap:</a> We use this to strap the carseat to the rolling carry-on so it's easy to cart around the airport. When I travel solo, I check all bags and just carry the carseat while pushing the stroller, but keep this in the diaper bag for when I get my luggage.</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Navigating the airport:</span></b></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b>Travel Stroller</b>: We both like<a href="https://rstyle.me/+Q7qxtU6oGtBfE6E9cUdVWg"> this stroller</a> for how lightweight and compact it is, one-handed steering and one-handed folding, maneuverability, the extended sunshade, the footrest, and my husband is 6'1 and doesn't kick it when walking. This one fits in the overhead bin, but if your's doesn't you can gate check it.</li><li><b>A baby wearing option:</b> I preferred to wear my son through security before he could walk. However I ALWAYS brought the stroller because of reasons mentioned above.</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Food and bottles:</span></b></div></div></div><div>*There are no limits to bottles and formula you can carry on, however I always allow extra time because sometimes they test the milk at security.</div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Bottles (babies): I always bring enough for 3-4 extra bottles because delays. I like the <a href="https://rstyle.me/+y9EqN6YjmfTj8xXPYtASYA">Kiinde system</a> because you only need one bottle contraption + nipples and the bags are really easy to travel with. I pack the milk bags in an insulated bag and get ice from the restaurants inside the gate to make sure the milk stays cold. I always keep one handy for takeoff and one for landing because it helps their ears with the pressure.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+TlBz_iXAzPWW6HPaBbWlsg">Travel dish soap</a> (babies and toddlers): In case I need to wash bottle parts or anything in the airport bathroom.</li><li>More snacks than you think (toddlers)</li><li>Sippy Straw cup (toddlers): fill it up once you're in the gate and don't forget to keep the straw open during takeoff -- otherwise the pressure builds up and when you open it you get a nice shower (speaking from personal experience)</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Diapering:</span></b></div><div>*I always find the family bathrooms at the airport, and the planes have changing tables too (just ask the flight attendant which bathroom to use)</div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Diapers: I size up one for the plane ride just to be safe. </li><li>Wipes</li><li>Diaper cream</li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/3OGLP2B">Pouch</a> to keep all the diaper stuff in so it's easy to grab</li><li>Change of clothes for baby and parent (just in case)</li><li>We dress him in easy clothes for changing (zipper onesie or pants and shirt)</li></ul></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Toys for the plane:</span></b></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Books: when he was smaller I just brought a few of his favorite peek-a-boo books (<i>Llama Llama Hide and Seek</i> was read 10x per flight). Otherwise he loved playing with the barf bags, safety guide, and magazines on the flight.</li><li>Pacifiers: good for relieving ear pressure</li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/3QmXXH7">Sucky spinny things</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/47ggQBx">Magnetic tiles </a></li><li>Sensory toys</li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mess-Free-Educational-Improving-Imagination-Perception/dp/B0BWMWD9JC/ref=sr_1_25?crid=2DKMRCBK3I6GB&keywords=clean+coloring+for+toddlers&qid=1690941067&sprefix=clean+coloring+for+toddler%2Caps%2C98&sr=8-25">Water color books</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/3rLvHDK ">Over ears headphones</a> and tablet (if it's your thing!)</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Pouches</span></b></div></div><div>Everything the baby needs on the plane goes into <a href="https://amzn.to/3OGLP2B">pouches</a> in my backpack. I keep a toy pouch, snack pouch, and diaper supply pouch. Makes everything very easy to find.</div><div><br /></div><h3 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Flying with a baby: the process from start to finish</span></h3><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">1. The Drop-off: </span></b></div><div>If possible, get dropped off at the curb. You will feel like a packmule and that is normal. </div><div><br /></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">2. Checking bags</span></b></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>When traveling together we check one bag and carry on one rolling bag and each have a back pack. When solo I check everything except the stroller, carseat, and my backpack.</li><li>If a pack and play is not available at our destination we check this.</li></ul></div><div><span style="color: #ea9999;"><b>3. Security</b>: </span></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>If you have TSA precheck and/or CLEAR your kids can come through with you (I use both). Some airports have family lanes that are expedited lines. </li><li>If you're concerned about anyone you're traveling with getting through security because of disabilities, sensory issues, anxiety, mobility issues, etc you can use <a href="https://www.tsa.gov/contact-center/form/cares">TSA Cares</a></li><li>Before he could walk, I strapped him onto me before the security line and folded up his stroller right at the line. Once he could walk I stroller him all the way to the security line, fold his stroller at the last possible minute, and walk through security with him.</li><li>Remember to empty sippy cups/water bottles before you get to the line</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">4. Before boarding the plane</span></b></div></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Purchase any snacks or drinks needed</li><li>Fill up sippy cups and get enough water for any formula bottles</li><li>Check diaper in the family restroom</li><li>Get energy out!! A lot of airports have play areas, or just let them run around</li></ul></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">5. Boarding the plane with a baby or toddler</span></b></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>There is early boarding for families with kids. When possible one of us boards with that group to get everything situated and the carseat installed, and someone stays behind with the kid and boards with the last group to minimize his time on the plane.</li><li>Gate check the stroller if needed</li><li>If you have any issues installing the carseat flight attendants can help!</li><li>I pull out my three pods and put them in the seat in front of me and open the sippy cup straws so the pressure doesn't cause a fountain after takeoff.</li></ul><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">6. The flight</span></b></div></div></div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Lower expectations. Survival is the goal. They might sleep and they might not - do what you have to.</li><li>Pull out one toy or book at a time throughout the flight (NOT all of them at once)</li><li>Use bottles, sippy cups, or pacis during takeoff and landing to reduce pressure</li><li>Flight attendants have been really </li></ul><div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">7. Deplaning</span></b></div><div><ul><li>I leave baby strapped in his carseat while I get my stuff together/get organized</li><li>Once everything is set up and ready for me to grab I unstrap the baby and either strap him to me or let him stand up, unbuckle the carseat, and just make a run for it. It's chaotic and it's fine. </li></ul></div></div></div></div>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-26940655900345625272023-07-30T19:35:00.005-07:002023-07-30T19:59:02.256-07:002023.7.30 Sunday Reading List<p></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/2023730-sunday-reading-list.html" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1646" data-original-width="1429" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDqgCUnCaw5gtaNmxRhSp6XMPVUOORCpNRMfLqfU3s7Dwyb7E94HevoBHlZyVHCHFrAWQ5esFA4Le_-PTu95SAMIBSYwdE6ei_J09JKooOlUR-LYd3_rsm0abyUHEOe-kM7Sr0cq2pDIdYbILjMfFbENoyxSx4xQZYFjVxUJQoRUBCKERNuehwtIu0UNY/w348-h400/Screenshot_20230730-221501.png" width="348" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CVItabqpGDE/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">Via</a><br /><br /><br /></td></tr></tbody></table>Articles that held my attention this week (hard to do with this third trimester brain fog). Things you will not read about: Barbie, Oppenheimer, Ariana Grande. There's too much to sort through on those topics.<p></p><p><b> TW: mass shootings, domestic violence</b>.<a href="https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2023/07/supreme-court-rahimi-domestic-abuse-guns.html?utm_source=digg">SCOTUS is considering if domestic abusers should have guns</a> (<i>Slate)</i>: Besides the obvious danger to victims, there is a really important ripple effect I hadn't thought of.</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2023/07/12/grooming-racist-why-adults-are-waging-war-childrens-picture-books-or-inside-adult-war-childrens-picture-books/?utm_campaign=wp_lily_lines&utm_medium=email&utm_source=newsletter&wpisrc=nl_lily&carta-url=https%3A%2F%2Fs2.washingtonpost.com%2Fcar-ln-tr%2F3a8dbe0%2F64afd9634eb009638ee8fb61%2F5977354fae7e8a6816e2c1f2%2F14%2F44%2F64afd9634eb009638ee8fb61">Why parents are trying to ban so many picture books</a> (<i>WaPo)</i>: This is a part of <i>Washington Post's </i>series on book bans in which they analyzed TONS of data - data nerds, social justice warriors, and parents - this is mandatory reading. I wrote a high level post on book bans 101 what we can do about them <a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/understanding-book-bans-how-they-happen.html">here</a>.</p><p><a href="https://medium.com/@drlianehy/our-joy-their-disturbance-e83679f45494">Our joy, their disturbance</a> (<i>Medium): </i>Important perspective that made me realize what a privilege it is to have hosted so many dinners, after party gatherings, post wedding meals, etc at airbnbs without ever having to worry about my safety. </p><p></p><blockquote><p>I am writing this reflection on the events that happened because I canât stop feeling that no matter what I accomplish, no matter how much older I become, or how many life goals I achieve- white people still have the capacity to make me feel less than them. The power of privilege, whiteness, and anti-Black racism is that it hides in plain sight through rules that are unfairly and conveniently enforced.</p><div></div></blockquote><div><a href="https://chief.com/articles/americans-spend-nearly-30-of-their-income-on-childcare-heres-why-thats-a-problem-for-the-economy-and-workforce?utm_source=hitha.beehiiv.com&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_campaign=5sr-july-18-2023">Americans spend 30% of their income on childcare and it's a problem for businesses</a> (<i>Chief)</i>: Helpful stats and data points that show the childcare cliff we are in danger of hitting soon. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.seriouseats.com/super-simple-friday-night-meatballs-recipe">Friday Night Meatballs: how to change your life with pasta</a> (<i>Serious Eats)</i>: I am actually going to try this and to take to heart the author's second "secret to success":</div><div></div><blockquote><div>The second secret is even simpler: Stop giving a shit. Really. Your family and friends want to see you, relax, and eat meatballs. They do not care if your apartment is small or if there is dust on the mantlepiece. They might not even see the dust: That's what the candlelight's for! And if they do, screw 'em.</div><div></div></blockquote><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.gq.com/story/oliver-franklin-wallis-wasteland-excerpt?utm_source=digg&fbclid=PAAaYVGbZ2DLNT49UYN4ShSQEvs95NK_kizs3kSSu0azRsvMWPd-NReIPHdGk">What really happens to clothes after we donate them?</a> (<i>GQ)</i>: Is this a good time to plug how much I'm enjoying Nuuly for maternity clothes? đĽ´</div><div><br /></div><div><i>I hope everyone has a great week and as always please share the good reads keeping your attention this week!</i></div><div><br /></div><div><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">ICYMI:</span></b></div><div><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7256940800058215722?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">Rating Parenthood</a></div><div><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7259072526175751470?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">Things I wish I knew: newborn edition</a></div><div><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/understanding-book-bans-how-they-happen.html">Understanding book bans and what we can do about them</a></div><div><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/im-temperature-hot-person-who-just.html">Recommendations for hot sleepers</a></div><div><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/p/shop-my-ig.html">The clothes I wore and products we talked about this week</a></div><div><br /></div><p><br /></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-46381072896145818352023-07-25T21:00:00.001-07:002023-07-25T21:00:00.144-07:00I'm a [temperature] hot person who just wants a good sleepI run very, very hot - especially at night, especially when pregnant, and ESPECIALLY postpartum. I have been around the block with products and remedies for this, and at this point these are the products that have helped me get some sleep:<h3 style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Bedding</span></h3><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbaHrkKlFAMeLFoogvksKiuXgqidFmHaQGaTat7DZu01XbzF9ybcQmG-SsH330_Tbh-3Y6SPc63idiwnAbLOuB5jbDsqIcgZTNju9yPb10ZALQq2L8Jc9wvXPCCwNYnOUDWApFoZ-5k8Gy2TsdtA5u1g00u4kfLGaRp5AVM5SpStytiVlWkjrl7S0Nmns/s688/Screenshot%202023-07-23%20at%201.28.02%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="476" data-original-width="688" height="276" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbaHrkKlFAMeLFoogvksKiuXgqidFmHaQGaTat7DZu01XbzF9ybcQmG-SsH330_Tbh-3Y6SPc63idiwnAbLOuB5jbDsqIcgZTNju9yPb10ZALQq2L8Jc9wvXPCCwNYnOUDWApFoZ-5k8Gy2TsdtA5u1g00u4kfLGaRp5AVM5SpStytiVlWkjrl7S0Nmns/w400-h276/Screenshot%202023-07-23%20at%201.28.02%20PM.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">First is my bedding. I tried the bamboo, I wanted to try the linen but it was pricey for something I didn't get any firsthand recs for. Enter: tencel, the magical fiber that is somehow soft and breathable and allows me to sleep at night. My husband has an obsession with finding the softest of everything while my priority is not being hot, and these meet both of our needs. West Elm's <a href="https://rstyle.me/+t0CCywg_EHJCPv3tpBLWpA">Tencel Comforter</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+UGcS12g-vCEPMoJQ5y3KGw">Tencel Sheet Set</a> are it for us.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />They are pricey but worth it for me to get some sleep. West Elm has a lot of sales throughout the year: most bank holidays, black friday, cyber monday, and Friends and Family sale that usually hits late March and early September.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I snagged a <a href="https://amzn.to/46RtPtn">down-alternative cooling mattress topper</a> on Prime Day. "Cooling" is a stretch, but it does add another level of comfort to our mattress and it doesn't make me hot. I appreciate the box quilting that keeps the filling in place and the corner straps that prevent it from moving around.</div><h3 style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ea9999;">Pajamas</span></h3><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtTnK01SVg6SOKulIDbB39lnTrK4PYCmNC4tFs1sAIx4I7PJkRwufq5HVNNw4cZPhvdvkE1SjmFqUk5Q2WwxmtEoLZ1A3KYDdA7cBpcEqXYsrm633RofJq4-YrnyeSMMxvIe_oaMd1TYewWfTRi6frOQOLhRqSs4irdpMw3ucsI2-sPvU70mF85qJGSQc/s1273/Pajamas.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1273" data-original-width="743" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtTnK01SVg6SOKulIDbB39lnTrK4PYCmNC4tFs1sAIx4I7PJkRwufq5HVNNw4cZPhvdvkE1SjmFqUk5Q2WwxmtEoLZ1A3KYDdA7cBpcEqXYsrm633RofJq4-YrnyeSMMxvIe_oaMd1TYewWfTRi6frOQOLhRqSs4irdpMw3ucsI2-sPvU70mF85qJGSQc/w234-h400/Pajamas.png" width="234" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Soma's Cool Nights line is now my go-to, I can sleep in nothing else. When I was having postpartum night sweats (more like floods), these were sweat wicking and cooling at the same time. I kept an extra pair next to my bed so I could change when I woke up too soaked to go back to sleep. These are my favorites that I own (I usually pick up items on Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and other sales throughout the year). They always run out and restock periodically so it's worth keeping an eye on the site:</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+kI2pzJ5-AbmMtMG_n8ojNQ">Joggers</a></li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+St68jMnyvFHi9_aHXCswMA">Cool Nights Sleep Shorts</a>: loose enough waistband to wear throughout all of pregnancy, so lightweight and soft, also fit my butt. </li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+5goLJSUOvjNSdEWAjBAoWw">Tank Top Sleep Shirt:</a> Great for pregnancy because it's baggy. Basically a very breathable sleeveless nightgown.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+C5weJvFmx9hChe3YNDjhhQ">Short Sleeve Sleep Shirt</a>: good for cooler nights when it's too cold for the tank. I wear this with the pants or shorts or on its own.</li><li><a href="https://rstyle.me/+JhlZ6xxL1xiOskhkEHZYPQ">Short Sleeve Pajama T</a>: Good if you don't like the baggier/larger options like the sleep shirts above.</li></ul></div><br />Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-52841923866923638692023-07-20T18:18:00.001-07:002023-07-20T18:18:56.553-07:00understanding book bans: how they happen, why they matter and what we can do <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAk8NyN7156q2uPYLoTRrkbjGbP63F5O9W9mO02gkAOTEpzbyMbYg33HqmBNoyHOaT3qQcMEs6L2LyJlWndPE4o0cSo7M-vYYL72vJJ2mJhi1YVAhcRA5J2CWtx2KMMiDd0_OrXEB_M4GvAPN-Xyi_Ureth3vFhdHrofdIrMUOLx-el0iekWTmZW9kOoQ/s1930/Screenshot%202023-07-20%20at%209.14.25%20PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="708" data-original-width="1930" height="146" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAk8NyN7156q2uPYLoTRrkbjGbP63F5O9W9mO02gkAOTEpzbyMbYg33HqmBNoyHOaT3qQcMEs6L2LyJlWndPE4o0cSo7M-vYYL72vJJ2mJhi1YVAhcRA5J2CWtx2KMMiDd0_OrXEB_M4GvAPN-Xyi_Ureth3vFhdHrofdIrMUOLx-el0iekWTmZW9kOoQ/w400-h146/Screenshot%202023-07-20%20at%209.14.25%20PM.png" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://pen.org/banned-books-list-fall-2022/">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><p>If it seems like you're hearing more about book bans, it's because they are happening at a record rate. In 2022 th<a href="https://pbs.org/newshour/arts/book-ban-attempts-reach-record-high-in-2022-american-library-association-report-says#:~:text=Caldwell-Stone%20says%20that%20some,with%20LGBTIQA%2B%20or%20racial%20themes.">e US had a record number of book bans </a>which was double the previous record set in 2021. 75% of book bans were a result of organized advocacy efforts and/or government official pressure.</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">What is a book ban? </span></b></h3><p>A book ban means a specific book has been pulled from either classrooms (i.e. it was a part of a lesson plan and is no longer allowed) and/or the school library. School boards, state or local governments, parent groups, community groups, or administrators can "challenge" books based on content, which often leads to pressure from lawmakers to ban books. </p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">How do book bans happen?</span></b></h3><p>Despite the fact that <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/04/05/book-bans-how-to-fight/">56% - 70% of Americans</a> don't support book bans (the results are non-partisan), organized efforts to ban books have increased. <a href="https://pen.org/report/banned-in-the-usa-state-laws-supercharge-book-suppression-in-schools/">State legislature</a>s have passed laws dictating what kinds of books can be included in school libraries, policies for reviewing current collections, and processes to add new books. In addition, parent led groups have turned up pressure to remove books. Libraries, school districts, and teachers have been instructed to exercise over-caution. </p><p>In fact, a lot of y'all have told me personal stories of being required to remove <i>all books</i> from your classrooms, remove magazines, and getting reported by parents for displaying <i>National Geographic </i>magazines in your rooms. ?!?!?!?!</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Why does it matter? </span></b></h3><p>First and foremost, teachers and school librarians have Master's degrees and often doctor level degrees in education, childhood development, library studies, etc and have had extensive supervised fieldwork to get their jobs. Their curriculum and books are selected based on research and years of education/experience. Do you know who doesn't have a degree in this area? Parents. School boards. State legislators. And those are the people making decisions on banned books.</p><p>As important, over a <a href="https://pen.org/report/banned-in-the-usa-state-laws-supercharge-book-suppression-in-schools/">six-month period,</a> 30% of banned books cover race, racism, or feature characters of color. 26% of banned books have LGBTQ+ characters or themes. This is a clearly targeted effort to remove representation and censor history.</p><h3 style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">What can we do? </span></b></h3><p><b>1)</b> VOTE in local elections - school boards often get overlooked in local elections but this is somewhere we can really make a difference in book bans! Google your next school board election, email the candidates for their stance on book bans, share results with your community, and VOTE. Same goes for city officials (city councils, county commissioners) and state level elections.</p><p><b>2)</b> See what's <a href="https://www.pbs.org/newshour/arts/how-many-book-bans-were-attempted-in-your-state-use-this-map-to-find-out">happening in your state </a>re: book bans.</p><p><b>3)</b> Show up to local school board meeting and city council meetings where bans are being discussed. There is power in numbers and showing up matters.</p><p><b>4)</b> Learn how to<a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/04/05/book-bans-how-to-fight/"> tailor your message to your crowd</a>. Understand that explaining how Black and LGBTQIA+ people are disproportionately impacted unfortunately does not resonate with a lot of people. Instead focus messaging like:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><u>The cost of book bans</u><b>: </b>lawsuits, town halls, tax payer dollar funded staff hours to review and remove books and edit policies.</li><li><u>Parent choice</u> works both ways, and banning books removes parents' ability to choose and their power.</li></ul><p></p><p><b>5)</b> Support your teachers and school librarians. Send gift cards, thank you notes, <a href="https://amzn.to/44vYWcc ">flair pens</a>. Ask how you can support them. They are doing the best they can in a really really trying environment.</p><p><b>6)</b> Check out and buy banned books.</p><p><br /></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-71038904926495478212023-07-16T18:18:00.003-07:002023-07-16T18:18:36.696-07:002023.7.16 Sunday Reading List<p><br /></p><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CtmTfTJA41k/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1453" data-original-width="1435" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjAvD3t5WZeHsB9GtteknwDQf0MV8lQypOXGNXOvb5VwhKzUSFB6PM2HJEA7PlqHhIGD-0A9S-uAxZWBo_NMfYRZx9ve1Mq26XaRsIsEBEwapiGhcI3bndaeLnrsa8OWuvRouG3uMYuMtHb2alGttLVY_nk1cONpekSR7QYDTV77RA915_QD64WFOWi-X0/w395-h400/Screenshot_20230716-204905.png" width="395" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CtmTfTJA41k/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table><p>This week's reads that stuck with me:</p><p><a href="https://www.themarshallproject.org/2023/06/30/post-roe-abortion-prison-jail-reproductive-justice">Reproductive healthcare behind bars was dismal even before Roe ended</a> (<i>The Marshal Project): </i>A doula friend of mine who serves a prison population recently opened my eyes to the impacts of Dobbs on a population we rarely talk about- incarcerated women. Please take a few minutes to read <a href="https://www.themarshallproject.org/tag/life-inside">The Life Inside series</a> - each essay is under 5 min read. </p><p><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/07/helicopter-parenting-child-autonomy-standards/674618/">When so many people think hovering is what good parents do, how do you stop?</a> (<i>The Atlantic)</i>: A regular topic of conversation is how different expectations are from when we were kids and this quote from the article sums it up:</p><p></p><blockquote><p>The resulting encroachment of childhood freedom has had a snowball effect. As kids do less on their own, many of us have come to think of them as less capable of managing on their own, Brussoni said. And with each generation, it becomes harder to imagine that kids can do the sort of things they might have a century ago, because fewer and fewer parents have any memory of having done those things themselves. Thatâs resulted in a pervasive belief that children require constant supervision into at least their tweens.</p></blockquote><div><a href="https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a37696261/leaving-recovering-from-q-anon/">Thousands of people are trying to leave QAnon but it's almost impossible</a> (<i>Cosmo)</i>: I am fascinated by QAnon followers, and developed a new level of compassion for people who fall into this after I gave birth and found more support from Facebook groups than from the failing systems that are supposed to support moms.</div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://time.com/6291241/affirmative-action-infamous-96-ucla-supreme-court/">The âInfamous 96â Know Firsthand What Happens When Affirmative Action Is Banned</a> (<i>Time)</i>: What happened in the UC system when they banned affirmative action (96/5,0000 freshman students were Black, and 37% of incoming freshman class was under-represented minorities compared to the 56% that graduated HS in the state). I also like how this article breaks down what affirmative action enabled :</div><blockquote><div>The concept is called holistic admissions. It requires or calls on schools to consider more than a studentâs grades and ACT and SAT scores. Research has shown that these standardized tests do not accurately predict college performance but closely reflect the education and wealth of a studentâs parents and a studentâs access to test-prep tools. And an admissions system that depends on them alone disadvantages Black and Latino students, those who come from poor families, and those who are among the first in their families to go to college or trying to navigate the higher-ed system without some kind of experience or guide. Holistic admissions require a school to consider academic performance but also who a student is, what they have tried to learn or do inside and outside of school, what they have had to manage or opted to take on, the context in which they grew up, what interests and hobbies they have developed, how they have contributed to their communities and what all of this together suggests about a studentâs potential to contribute to campus life and to the communities where they live after graduation. </div></blockquote><div><a href="https://hbr.org/2023/07/6-science-backed-ways-to-improve-your-well-being-at-work">6 Science-backed ways to improve your emotional well-being at work</a> (<i>HBR)</i>: An interesting take on "emotional fitness".</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>ICYMI:</b></div><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7254345704586349870?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">An Actual Useful Men's Pants Review</a></p><p><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/shorts-for-people-with-butts-thighs-and.html">Shorts for People with Butts, Thighs, Hips</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lhtempleton/video/7252366907372834091?_r=1&_t=8dGxpKJtsfi">Using AI to find the best breast pump (and get it covered by insurance)</a></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-88821791087968396322023-07-05T02:00:00.002-07:002023-07-16T18:20:14.221-07:00Shorts for people with butts, thighs, and hips<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/2023/07/shorts-for-people-with-butts-thighs-and.html" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="320" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmgzJqewFQIxJNaeORDwl25x_BpKVWEziQT6pUY_WNFLCL6DhHgJHsRyHSZ4pxJ6AMVtqhbrWTT173zr-IXz4frVBqadc-lN8yKiJhfU7CRGazjJ6v6lwUAMMzlnSw8IVz0d-eFzHJ_9kZV30IzT3KKcZpzimikzTG_UAXQt9N38e51ib-uxyT0Q3PCuU/w320-h400/Pajamas%20for%20hot%20sleepers%20(2)%20(1).png" width="320" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p>I posted about biker shorts on Monday and didn't expect so much feedback! So here is a post completely dedicated to people with @$$, hips, and thighs -- with many blessings comes many challenges and I am here to help navigate the challenge of finding shorts as a grown adult with blessed body parts. These are all shorts I own and wear regularly.</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+u3wBcBapYDXX9hZtgCtSkg">Quince 100% European Linen Shorts</a> ($29.90): Available in size XS - XL and seven colors. I own the white pair and can't wear black undies but you can't see my dark orange bodysuit through them. So they are only somewhat see-through? I have worn these throughout pregnancy and they have good deep pockets. I wear size medium.</p><p><a href="https://amzn.to/3PK7g3x">Blooming Jelly high waisted running shorts</a> ($26.99): Available in size XS - 3XL and 30+ colors. These are incredibly comfortable, even the liner is fine with me, and they have a zipper pocket (not big enough for phone but still functional for keys and stuff). I ordered a size large but could have stuck with my regular medium. I have worn these throughout pregnancy as well.</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+6mn2DK3ewqUt7KoNz9h6fA">Old Navy Maternity Full Panel Linen Blend Shorts</a> ($32, on sale for $12): Available in size XS - XXL in three colors. These are maternity which just means sort of high waisted so I will wear these after pregnancy as well. The linen blend makes them breathable and cool. </p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+cNkNG9YxdKvZBvgXqeCdzQ">AE Curvy Denim Shorts </a>($42): Available in size 000 - 20, multiple options. I wear size 10. I haven't been able to wear these while pregnant because buttons and zipper are just no. These fit just right which is so hard to find in denim shorts so I have <a href="https://rstyle.me/+oz17RvTN9Lh5Ck9sSu28PA">this</a> and <a href="https://rstyle.me/+7eo96HCUK2jFwSUXOiOn0w">this</a> style as well.</p><p> <a href="https://rstyle.me/+1n0ObHFWsygxrhx1H9MTYw">Beyond Yoga Spacedye Biker Short</a> ($72): Available in sizeXXS - 4X in 5 colors. Spacedye is comparable to Lululemon Align except it doesn't pill as badly in my experience which makes me a convert. My gateway to spacedye is <a href="https://rstyle.me/+mHBU2cw-6zhaBITqhCOJNg">this maternity jumpsuit</a> that I have worn almost every day of pregnancy. When it comes to biker shorts I stick with 7 - 8" inseam because I like the longer look. </p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-3649338164698030372023-07-02T10:42:00.003-07:002023-07-02T10:42:24.263-07:00Sunday Reading List 2023.6.30<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgumSkOpKlmUCt87WL_x8WuAlud3rH8uOHMLLQSgSVXLp_orhN_eo732Xo3TpmNTyNwhMq2sKRl4QXamlH0sNrAnq2KcAhS9Cqb9lY-wEMPggKkyBVsn9ZDKJT4Eh-Md1wOXSMKx7Xys8qc0fB6cse1e5UZwZozXAukV59v5B3TFMWtM9K2HF2kk1vQFXg/s1403/Screenshot_20230702-133932.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1403" data-original-width="1392" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgumSkOpKlmUCt87WL_x8WuAlud3rH8uOHMLLQSgSVXLp_orhN_eo732Xo3TpmNTyNwhMq2sKRl4QXamlH0sNrAnq2KcAhS9Cqb9lY-wEMPggKkyBVsn9ZDKJT4Eh-Md1wOXSMKx7Xys8qc0fB6cse1e5UZwZozXAukV59v5B3TFMWtM9K2HF2kk1vQFXg/w396-h400/Screenshot_20230702-133932.png" width="396" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CRPz2Yqs_Jp/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==">via @badasscrossstitch</a></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.shondaland.com/live/family/a43946374/art-of-friendship-how-to-befriend-neighbors/" target="_blank"> How to Befriend Neighbors</a> (<i>Shondaland</i>):<i> </i>The conversation topic of "how do we make friends as adults???" is a dominant conversation topic in my friend groups that are spread across the country. This article talks about the importance of neighborhood relationships and how to build them.</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2023/06/15/inside-conservative-confab-young-women-where-feminism-is-lie/" target="_blank">Inside a conservative confab for young women, where feminism is a lie</a> (<i>WaPo): </i>I grew up in an Evangelical Bible Belt church and am very familiar with Turning Point events. I think it's really important to understand the other side, and this is kind of terrifying.</p><p></p><blockquote>[Being a conservative young woman] means posing for selfies in a mirror made to look like a magazine cover with a headline that reads, âBirth control is so last year.â It means having it all â but having kids and a husband before trying to get the rest. It means buying tampons and beauty products and other items from companies that market themselves as pro-Christian or anti-âwoke.â It means embracing a particular kind of American nostalgia, one where womenâs liberation means being free from the complexities of modern gender politics.</blockquote><p><a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2023/06/esther-perel-amateur-therapy-speak?tpcc=NL_Marketing" target="_blank">Esther Perel Thinks All This Amateur Therapy-Speak Is Just Making Us Lonelier</a> (<i>Vanity Fair): </i>Every interview, talk, podcast, book, essay Esther comes out with is a gift. I can't wait for her new season of the <i>Where Should We Begin</i> podcast and this interview has some gems.</p><p><a href="https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20230620-why-many-women-prioritise-their-partners-jobs" target="_blank">Why Many Women Prioritize Their Partners' Jobs</a> (<i>BBC)</i>: <a href="https://caphillstyle.com/" target="_blank">The Work Edit </a>shared this article this week and it's been on my mind since. </p><p><a href="https://www.science.org/content/article/study-marathon-runners-reveals-hard-limit-human-endurance" target="_blank">Study of marathon runners reveals a âhard limit' on human endurance</a> (<i>Science)</i>: A new study finds pregnancy is as taxing as an ultramarathon. LFG. </p><div><br /></div><div> </div><p></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-77943399312508489482023-06-29T19:07:00.008-07:002023-07-02T10:44:45.432-07:00Going to the Pool (and beach and resort) with a Toddler <div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://brokeandbougie.blogspot.com/p/shop-my-ig.html" imageanchor="1"><img border="0" data-original-height="1220" data-original-width="1062" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjE-4XHXPS1eQzuzMfwwQgBcgLSyIYvGNc4ysGQJ_bxRB-l3n2HmVhWjl4ZOd3BkCCdTNwNfHERvbXWSAhT67KYIeRqxlxRLEpQtsRUALzl7Y70uFAC7W3J5tIRRULA0BIfAKF1-Sy-C_j3tVNJrKfeSpuxS6SWutM8XlGRKZfMxKWr-RWx8SfNafuw8GU/w349-h400/pool%20.png" width="349" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p></p><p style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"></p><p></p><p style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;">Y'all recommended a lot of helpful products and considerations for our first family beach resort vacation with an 18-month old. These were the items we used the most with our toddler at the beach and pool (thank you everyone for your recs!).</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+Rch3pVstUM2heRBVyFZPew" target="_blank">Rashguard</a>: HL wore this or the <a href="https://rstyle.me/+bRSPvWNpafG99d6cdW9r5A" target="_blank">short sleeve version</a> to protect his skin every day of vacation. He's on the bigger side of 18 month olds and the 2Ts fit perfectly.</p><p><a href="https://amzn.to/3r9M2BL" target="_blank">Sunglasses</a>: These rarely stayed on but aren't they so cute? He loved putting them on when he saw us put on our sunglasses and wearing them for 2-3 mins each. These fit his head and make great gifts.</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+4BmryadTmjqvQMq8uVd2Jg" target="_blank">Slip-on Sandals</a>: He LIVED in these, they're so easy to slip on and off - he can almost do it himself. The back strap is adjustable.</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+lf_eTZUE-pfSZqAk7UWXCQ" target="_blank">Hat with neck cover</a>: To my surprise, he had no issue wearing this in the pool. He usually refuses hats, but I think it being wet (cooling) and giving him shade helped.</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+ieUVEyeUp10tO9b0p2GTWg" target="_blank">Swim trunks</a>: Target has a lot of size/pattern options for under $10, although I did struggle to find trunks in his size that are not blue (a safety tip from a lot of parents was to have them in bright colors so they're easy to find in the water).</p><p><a href="https://rstyle.me/+sVFIyfYwls9O87PjmUx6fw">Swim diapers</a>: I was confused by the concept of swim diapers and learned a lot on this trip (the hard way). I brought a reusable swim diaper and boy was I glad to have the disposables (sorry, environment!) - I'm not sure where I could have washed a poopy swim diaper at the pool or beach, and putting it back on him while wet would have been a huge pain. We learned that these diapers really do the job while IN the water, they don't provide a lot of protection while walking around/hanging out, so whenever he got out of the water we switched him back to a regular diaper. We had 0 leaks in the pool which was what really mattered. </p><p><a href="https://amzn.to/3pqSLqB " target="_blank">Float</a>: This might be the best thing we took with us. He could sit upright in it in the water and he was very relaxed in it. Of course, we were with him at all times while he was floating in it but it is nice to have hands free. It folds up compactly to fit in the bottom of the suitcase and requires minimal inflation/set up.</p><p><a href="https://amzn.to/44kXZD5 ">Swim Vest</a>: He wore this at all times when he was around the water, unless he was in the float. It keeps them upright in the water which surprised him when he was playing around, but this was great to have with us. We practiced wearing it at home so he was used to it by the time he got to the pool and again to my surprise he got excited to put it on any time I pulled it out. </p><p><b>The Beach Bag</b></p><p>We carried a tote bag (just a regular one because it packed easier than a full on beach bag) around with us that had extra swim diapers, a dry change of clothes, wipes, regular diapers, toys for meal times (a few <a href="https://amzn.to/3PzlFzC ">magnetic tiles</a> and the <a href="https://amzn.to/3NquFo1 ">spinny suction things</a> were the biggest hits), snacks, a <a href="https://rstyle.me/+A-OFzX6TaonmvWg8xC34fg">sunscreen stick</a> (I found this the easiest way to apply sunscreen), and his EpiPen. </p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-46329355339064875712023-06-27T19:05:00.004-07:002023-06-28T02:51:14.919-07:00SCOTUS Primer (all about the Supreme Court and upcoming decisions)<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i>Note: I'm back in action for the time being!</i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; font-weight: bold; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiu8je8QOYtJTOG-wLJdKV_8vitp1oU7pLp3WtK1llmSe_awXdBjTTzYcb4PpaM-jtyGWB-8E5BEcs4DTUVAFwHHY3YdTp88xKSYyZaIBQCUiklCsPylrTbQN_Gkb0YC9MD9NfARcrrH6GOxAXm4u3n-eWMWSRjLdr4i_3zVmu2eVAhpECdUOS9TOo45rg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="" data-original-height="114" data-original-width="350" height="130" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/a/AVvXsEiu8je8QOYtJTOG-wLJdKV_8vitp1oU7pLp3WtK1llmSe_awXdBjTTzYcb4PpaM-jtyGWB-8E5BEcs4DTUVAFwHHY3YdTp88xKSYyZaIBQCUiklCsPylrTbQN_Gkb0YC9MD9NfARcrrH6GOxAXm4u3n-eWMWSRjLdr4i_3zVmu2eVAhpECdUOS9TOo45rg=w400-h130" width="400" /></a></div><br />We are all on pins and needles in this current hellscape of SCOTUS decisions. Today let's do a lil refresher on what we all forgot from high school civics about how the Supreme Court works and who these people are (remember, I am not an expert, just an avid googler).<p></p><p><b>What IS the Supreme Court?</b></p><p>The Supreme Court is the nation's highest court. It is considered an appellate court, meaning it rules on opinions already made by lower courts.</p><p><b>Who are the justices?</b></p><p>Justices are appointed by the President and confirmed by the Senate. </p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">John G. Roberts</span></b> (Chief Justice): Nominated by W in 2005.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Samuel Alito</span></b>: Nominated by W in 2006.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Clarence Thomas</span></b>: Nominated by HW in 1991 (tune into this season of <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/2ON0PNRRNs9zWEAy2YPeAc?si=3f7df42d87de4dc3">Slow Burn</a> to learn more about this dude).</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Elena Kagan</span></b>: Nominated by Obama in 2010.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Sonia Sotomayor:</span></b> Nominated by Obama in 2009.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Neil Gorsuch</span></b>: Nominated by Trump in 2017.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Brett Kavanaugh:</span></b> Nominated by Trump in 2018.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Amy Coney Barrett: </span></b>Nominated by Trump in 2020. </li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Ketanji Brown Jackson:</span></b> Nominated by Biden in 2022.</li></ul><p></p><p><b>Why are all the decisions coming out at once?</b></p><p>SCOTUS sessions run from the first Monday of October until late June or early July. This week is the last week we can expect decisions from SCOTUS so they're all rollllin on out now.</p><p><b>How do decisions get to Supreme Court?</b></p><p></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>SCOTUS is asked to review 7,000 cases each year, of these they select 100 - 150. They are more likely to take cases where the lower courts had disagreements.</li><li>Each justice has 3-4 law clerks who review a portion of the 7,000 cases, create memos, and make recommendations.</li><li>The justices meet to decide cases to hear and 4 out of 9 must vote "yes" for a case to move forward. </li></ol><p></p><p><b>What is the decision process?</b></p><p>Each case has a "petitioner" (the party appealing the lower court's decision) and a "respondent" (the party upholding the lower court's decision)</p><p>Once a case is accepted ("added to the docket"), the petitioner and respondent file <50 page summaries (briefs) of their arguments. Sometimes other parties can file briefs too, like the federal government.</p><p>SCOTUS reviews the briefs.</p><p>From October to April: </p><p></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>Lawyers for each side are given 30 minutes to orally argue their case. Usually this is an intro followed by clarifying questions from the SCOTUS justices. </li><li>The justices have private conferences (ONLY justices no one else) twice/week to discuss their votes ("affirm" or "reverse" lower court decisions).</li><li>A majority (five of nine) judges equals a decision</li><li>Opinions are drafted and circulated internally. Sometimes preliminary votes switch up during this time -- "votes" are not final until the opinions are made public.</li><li>Opinions are made public</li></ol><div><b>Who gets picked to write opinions and why are there multiple per decision?</b></div><p></p><p>SCOTUS releases an opinion for every decision. These are documents that detail the decision, the reasoning, the facts, and convey the weight of the decision. The Chief Justice assigns opinions and makes sure everyone has the same amount of opportunities to write majority opinions. There are different types of opinions:</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Majority Opinion:</span></b> Details the winning side.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Dissenting Opinion:</span></b> The justice(s) who vote with the minority can write dissenting opinions about why they disagree with the majority.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Concurring Opinion</span></b>: A justice writes this when they vote with the majority but don't fully agree with the legal reasoning in the Majority Opinion.</li></ul><p></p><p><br /></p><p><b>Syllabus:</b></p><p><a href="https://ballotpedia.org/Supreme_Court_of_the_United_States" target="_blank">Ballotpedia</a></p><p><a href="http://supremecourt.gov">supremecourt.gov</a></p><p><a href="http://senate.gov">senate.gov</a></p><p><a href="https://www.history.com/news/supreme-court-decision-cases" target="_blank">The Steps Supreme Court Takes to Make a Decision (History.com)</a></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-10317465818328767842022-10-31T08:38:00.002-07:002022-10-31T08:38:55.370-07:002022.10.30 Sunday Reading List<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi99xE1C8ABb3IXyDyCZgkBWGpe3sc9GxNOxad7o-U3cVG9efpuZLBPt7L7mWzzOHmt8_S4GC9Hex7Rvpb0KgN6QRi-DotmSktCp922fCzFYWMSLiZ1suaTsX4vJguldt2fBCjiHpKZE5yEv-LY3jgwF1U1ZJmYdrl0NfPHnfoPaa9rxSHD_8UxzM0A/s1801/Screenshot_20221031-111521.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1801" data-original-width="1440" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi99xE1C8ABb3IXyDyCZgkBWGpe3sc9GxNOxad7o-U3cVG9efpuZLBPt7L7mWzzOHmt8_S4GC9Hex7Rvpb0KgN6QRi-DotmSktCp922fCzFYWMSLiZ1suaTsX4vJguldt2fBCjiHpKZE5yEv-LY3jgwF1U1ZJmYdrl0NfPHnfoPaa9rxSHD_8UxzM0A/w320-h400/Screenshot_20221031-111521.png" width="320" /></a></div>Hello from the in-between where I am really working on being a little more comfortable...<p></p><p><br /></p><p><a href="https://www.npr.org/2022/09/26/1124082878/how-social-emotional-learning-became-a-frontline-in-the-battle-against-crt">How Social Emotional Learning became the frontline in the battle against CRT</a> (<i>NPR</i>): As a former educator, I am begging everyone to make sure you understand what social emotional learning (SEL) is and how important the research based methods (implemented in 100% of schools) are. This should not be political. </p><p><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2022/10/us-child-care-market-broken-expensive/671603/">Why US childcare is so broken</a> (<i>The Atlantic)</i>: This article is helpful for me to understand the problems and solutions in regards to childcare. A friend also recommended the podcast <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/10oREUZB70yCKmagEPgkh2?si=12bb10b4b2864a6f">Where's My Village</a> to learn more.</p><p><a href="https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2022/10/27/could-irans-regime-fall">Could Iran's Regime Fall?</a> (<i>The Economist): </i>I know embarrassingly little about Iran and the politics - this article offers an overview of the issues and what is happening right now - and how a possible revolution led by women could change everything.</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/supreme-court-will-end-the-era-of-college-diversity/2022/10/16/4716c656-4d53-11ed-ada8-04e6e6bf8b19_story.html">The Supreme Court will end college diversity</a> (<i>WaPo)</i>: The Supreme Court starts today on a case that could end affirmative action nationally. Early data from universities who have already had to drop affirmative action indicate the proportion of Black and Latinx students could drop by as much as half.</p><p><a href="https://hbr.org/2022/10/how-to-encourage-your-team-to-give-you-honest-feedback">How to encourage your team to give you honest feedback</a> (<i>HBR</i>): We may think we've opened the door to our teams to give us feedback, but it's likely they still aren't giving it openly. This has scripts and actions we can take to actually get that feedback.</p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-74641789218245239582022-09-18T19:08:00.004-07:002022-09-18T19:08:34.452-07:002022.9.18 Sunday Reading List<p> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMl6PnnTVQc57fa-Oz1ZVjmYSzcPZXPQhTQEEQAOfXzxmNKztXggAGvP8304ZtgnSuEt6z06U2uIFt-0EyfTAsfnxDUynzf_Udc3ZGcw8MU-OIyuN59V0-CTKPq6ViQJU-CBED4OJ_M2Cuk3zHY_YFDChUN6KsaUwHvVs_N_i9tz_qdP9aSvOzmmFe/s1422/Screenshot_20220918-215640.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1380" data-original-width="1422" height="389" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMl6PnnTVQc57fa-Oz1ZVjmYSzcPZXPQhTQEEQAOfXzxmNKztXggAGvP8304ZtgnSuEt6z06U2uIFt-0EyfTAsfnxDUynzf_Udc3ZGcw8MU-OIyuN59V0-CTKPq6ViQJU-CBED4OJ_M2Cuk3zHY_YFDChUN6KsaUwHvVs_N_i9tz_qdP9aSvOzmmFe/w400-h389/Screenshot_20220918-215640.png" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CigedySqM2H/?igshid=YzA2ZDJiZGQ=">via</a></td></tr></tbody></table>The above is a reminder I have needed this week. Constant change has left me feeling insecure and less confident in speaking my mind. Hope everyone remembers their super powers this week and crushes it. We deserve it.</p><p><a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2022/07/11039548/reversible-plastic-surgery-procedures">Why are plastic surgery reversals on the rise?</a> (<i>Refinery 29): </i>What happens when a BBL goes out of style, how it gets reversed, and why. (TW: I read somewhere that the BBL is out because low rise pants are in, and for those of us who have to jump into our jeans...we know low rise isn't for us).</p><p><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202209/how-talk-kids-about-scary-things-they-see-the-news">How to talk to kids about scary things they seen in the news </a>(<i>Psychology Today)</i>: Five rules for the generation who was left out of these conversations when we were kids.</p><p><a href="https://hbr.org/2022/09/high-performing-teams-dont-leave-relationships-to-chance">High performing teams don't leave work relationships up to chance</a> (<i>HBR)</i>: People with friendships at work are more productive and more likely to retain. How we can build friendships on our teams. s/o to my work wife turned best friend <3.</p><p><a href="https://abcnews.go.com/US/latinx-latino-hispanic-linguistics-expert-explains-confusion/story?id=82273936">A linguistics expert explains the Latino/Latinx confusion</a> (<i>ABC News)</i>: The data and the history behind the words.</p><p><a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2022/09/12/ask-elaine-welteroth-happiness-pregnancy-scared/">The part of pregnancy no one talks about</a> (<i>WaPo)</i>: The aforementioned work wife sent me this column with a screenshot of this quote , the whole thing resonated with me so much and I wish I had read before I was pregnant. Also <a href="https://instagram.com/elainewelteroth?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=">Elaine</a> is a great IG follow. </p><p></p><blockquote>I donât have all the answers, but what I can say is this: Just as your body expands and contracts to accommodate the big changes to come, so does your life. Sometimes the contractions are the most painful part â and I donât mean the labor pains we hear about all the time. There will be parts of your world that will necessarily shrink, filtering out what is no longer helpful, healthy or sustainable when growing new life inside. But it will expand again, with a newfound perspective.</blockquote><p><a href="https://fortune.com/2022/09/17/china-generation-dink-double-income-no-kids-economic-stability/">China's Generation DINK is fueling a demographic time bomb </a>(<i>Fortune</i>): The irreversible impact of the one child policy on China's perception of fertility + cut throat school/professional culture + consumerism = even government incentives can't encourage Dual Income No Kids populations to have kids. And it's a major threat to the economy.</p><p></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9114241363649828819.post-91334301895266906252022-09-14T20:30:00.002-07:002023-06-18T08:05:40.529-07:00College Tuition Part 1: why college is so freaking expensive<p>Loan forgiveness is having a moment, and while I think the most recent move is a positive step it does not address the root of the problem and is the equivalent of putting a bandaid on a severed limb. Debt, primarily student debt, is a leading cause of the racial wealth gap and if we want to see real change we have to address the root - reattach the limb if we want to stick with my metaphor.</p><p>In order to understand the solution, we have to really understand how we got here. Today we're going to talk about how college got so freaking expensive in America? Some facts:</p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">How we compare</span></h2><p>Americans spend <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2018/09/why-is-college-so-expensive-in-america/569884/">2x the amount on college tuition </a>compared other developed countries. BUT a third of these countries cover the cost of college for students (aka keep it free for students), while one third keep the cost at or below $2,400 for students. Meaning, <i>it doesn't have to be this bad!!</i></p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">How colleges are funded</span></h2><p>America has three types of colleges that are funded in different ways:</p><p>1. Public (i.e. state universities): 3/4 of students attend public universities. They are funded by a mix of state and local funding, tuition dollars paid by students, and federal aid. </p><p>2. Private non-profit: Rely on endowment funds and student paid tuition for funding (not state/local funding). </p><p>3. For-profit colleges: We don't have time for this but these are the Strayers and DeVrys of the world.</p><p><br /></p><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">How did college tuition go up so fast?</span></h2><p>Tuition costs have <a href="https://www.brookings.edu/blog/the-avenue/2022/08/25/bidens-student-debt-cancellation-doesnt-solve-the-root-problems-facing-borrowers-but-its-a-start/">increased three-fold</a> in the last 30 years - aka it wasn't always this bad. Over the past 30 years, faced with rising healthcare costs and requirements to balance budgets, states and local governments have been <a href="https://www.cbpp.org/research/state-budget-and-tax/funding-down-tuition-up#:~:text=State%20and%20local%20tax%20revenue,on%20state%20and%20local%20appropriations">redirecting</a> funds from education to other areas- <b>aka defunding education </b>(yes, when lawmakers were out here acting brand new to the idea of defunding the police they'd been doing for literal decades with education)<b>. </b></p><p>As their main funding source dropped, public universities did two things:</p><p></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li>Shifted costs to the students (i.e. increased tuition)</li><li>Targeted out-of-state and international students who paid full tuition. </li></ol><p></p><p>In order to attract the wealthiest out-of-state and international students the colleges needed either 1) high rankings or 2) to pull some stunts. Both are extremely costly, let's break it down:</p><p><a href="https://www.usnews.com/education/best-colleges/articles/how-us-news-calculated-the-rankings#:~:text=Forty%20percent%20of%20a%20school's,from%20employers%20and%20graduate%20schools.">Rankings are helped by</a> some costly factors:</p><p></p><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">Low student:faculty ratios</span></b> (very little research supports benefits of small college class sizes and this requirement is unique to American colleges) which means to be competitive colleges need more faculty members. </li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">High amount of faculty-published research </span></b>which means faculty need to focus more time on research so even more faculty are required to support the above requirement. And colleges pay a higher dollar for the all-star researchers.</li><li><b><span style="color: #ea9999;">"Campus life" like extracurriculars and support for students</span> </b>which creates a whole other set of non-academic costs like directors, program managers, deans, and service providers.</li></ol><div>Pulling stunts are costly too - these are things like national ranking sports teams (think all-star coaching staff, player facilities to attract the best athletes) and campus amenities (state of the art dining halls, fancy dorms). </div><div><br /></div><div>Each year as more colleges get more competitive, the ante gets upped and it gets a little costlier to keep up, adding expenses that are not covered by a system that continues defunding the colleges, and so the cost is transferred to the students. </div><div><br /></div><div>Defunding education is uniquely American, as is entrepreneurializing (I made that word up) education, and hence we have the most expensive secondary education in the world.</div><div><br /></div><h2 style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #e06666;">The impact of rising tuition costs on the racial wealth gap</span></h2><div>1. Lack of generational wealth and/or lack of liquid resources = Black households take out more student loans = Black households carry more student debt = Black households have lower credit = a whole host of issues contributing to the wealth gap (ex: challenges/inability to purchase a home - <a href="https://www.brookings.edu/research/student-loans-the-racial-wealth-divide-and-why-we-need-full-student-debt-cancellation/">Black college grads are less likely to own a home than white high school dropouts</a>). </div><div><br /></div><div>2. <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2021/04/09/student-loans-black-wealth-gap/">60% of Black college students do not graduate</a>, and while there are a host of factors that contribute to this, when researchers correct for students receiving financial support the Black graduation rate matches the white graduation rate. But again, lack of generational wealth and lack of liquidity and other systemic issues make it so Black families are less likely to be able to provide financial support at the same level as white families.</div><div><br /></div><div>3. The majority of high achieving, low income students (in the top 4% of students) <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2018/09/why-is-college-so-expensive-in-america/569884/">opt not to apply to highly selective colleges due to costs.</a> This unfortunately often puts them into more debt than if they had gone to financial-aid heavy selective colleges, but this guidance is rarely available to low income students.</div><div><br /></div><p></p><p>4. A $1,000 increase in undergrad tuition is associated with a <a href="https://www.cbpp.org/research/state-budget-and-tax/state-higher-education-funding-cuts-have-pushed-costs-to-students">6% drop in campus diversity</a>.</p><p>5. The cost of college deters many low income students from even applying to college.</p><p><br /></p>Lindsay T.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17056413137081968547noreply@blogger.com0