Meditation is a technique which relaxes the body and quickly calms the mind. It brings the body back into a state of balance and leads to a clear focussed and self aware quality of mind. It is based on focussing and not getting caught up in our thoughts. In my meditations I focus on the breath and different parts of the body.

What is Mindfulness?

I like Jon Kabat-Zinn’s definition of mindfulness. “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; On purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.”
You can develop mindfulness with meditation, martial arts, yoga riding a bike or any activity where you centre yourself in your breath and your body while watching any thoughts with detachment. Over time the quantity of thoughts slows down and you simply watch the thoughts instead of engaging them.

What is an Embodied Mind?

According to Rezults Coaching, an embodied mind is when you are centred in your somatic mind in the body and open through the body into the world, thus connecting the cognitive conscious mind in your head with a larger intelligence. It involves letting go of the conscious mind for a greater confidence, deeper understanding, mindfulness and increased capacity at many levels. It increases one’s ability to deal with stress, pressure and criticism through an intuitive knowing.

How can all of this help you?

By practising meditation and other techniques such as grounding, aligning and centering we can slowly bring the body back into balance and become less reactive to everything going on in our lives. By becoming relaxed and centred we allow a grounded energy of intelligence in the form of creativity, intuition and strength to flow through our bodies instead of becoming stuck and unresourceful in thoughts of past undesirable outcomes.

Results:

• Develop mindfulness and improve every part of your life
• Have more focus, clarity, calmness and creativity
• Relax the body, calm the mind and find balance
• Stay relaxed and centred during the day
• Become naturally in touch with your life’s purpose and meaning
• Find flow and synchronicity in life
• Sleep better at night

Listen to Centering
Meditation for an
Embodied Mind

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NLP can be applied to:

• Counseling, coaching and therapy to accelerate changes with clients by looking at the processes that underlie a particular pattern, emotion or habit
• Education and training to promote and accelerate learning and memory. NLP is also a valuable tool when it comes to training and teaching.
• Personal development to remove negative emotions and patterns and promote confidence and self esteem. NLP also has tremendous applications in goal setting
• Business to promote good communication and negotiation strategies including sales and management skills.
• Sport to enhance performance
• Parenting, learning how to foster good, clear communication with your children right from the start.
• Communication, to aquire excellent communication skills

What Is Generative NLP?

Generative NLP uses the capacity to be aware of seeming opposite realities without one having to be “right” and the other “wrong”. When we can hold different perspectives with curiosity, new and surprising solutions can often emerge. The combination of beginner’s mind (not knowing), curiosity and persistence is at the core of generative NLP.
Holding emotions involves non-reactivity, unconditional acceptance, trust, kindness and curiosity about the emotion without wanting to change it.
Generative NLP involves balancing and aligning between three minds in order to produce a deeper and more multi-dimensional intelligence. The three minds are:

• A cognitive mind that emerges from the brain
• A somatic mind centered in the body
• A “field” mind that comes from our connection and relationships with larger systems around us

The techniques of Generative NLP have to do with centering in our somatic core, sponsoring the development of greater wholeness with people and connecting to the wisdom and guidance within the larger systems (collective consciousness) around us.

What is Hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy, also referred to as hypnosis or hypnotic suggestion, is a trance-like state in which you have heightened focus and concentration. Hypnosis is usually done with the help of a therapist using verbal repetition and mental images. When you’re under hypnosis, you usually feel calm and relaxed, and are more open to suggestions.
Hypnosis can be used to help you gain control over undesired behaviours or to help you cope better with anxiety or pain. It’s important to know that although you’re more open to suggestion during hypnosis, you don’t lose control over your behaviour.

The Conscious and Unconscious Minds

The conscious mind is the part responsible for logic and reasoning. It is everything that is in present moment awareness. It controls all the actions you do on intention eg moving your arm or leg. The underlying purpose of the conscious mind is survival and it often thinks of the worst outcome scenarios, making up little stories.
The unconscious however is where our creativity, inspiration and intuition reside. It contains thoughts, feelings, resources and possibilities that you’re not paying attention to at that time. It can communicate with all the cells in the body and thinks in pictures, sounds, feelings, smells and tastes. It is where all your beliefs and memories are stored.
The conscious mind is like the rider of a horse, steering and guiding, setting outcomes and deciding directions. The unconscious is like the horse that actually does the work in getting the rider where they need to go. It’s not a good idea to let the horse dictate the direction and likewise it’s not advisable for the rider to tell the horse exactly where to step each foot. There is an optimum balance.

Our Identity Journey

In his book Hero With a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell talks about the three life paths we can take: the village, the wasteland and the journey.
The village represents the life path that has been mapped out for us by our culture and society: We are born, go to school, graduate, get a job, get married, have children, work until we retire and finally we die. This path has a lot of security and safety and doesn’t “rock the boat” very much. We do as we are expected. It is essentially the path of the ego. For many people this is a satisfactory way to live their lives.
For others it is not so simple. For some reason, either they do not fit in or they are compelled to do something more. The village to them is “a life of quiet desperation”. Rather than thrive in the village, they feel caged, suffocated or repressed. For these people, according to Campbell, there are two other possible paths.
The wasteland represents the path of the rebel, outlaw or outcast. It is a life on the fringe of what is considered appropriate and normal. It is an attempt to flourish by rejecting and escaping the village into sex, drugs and rock n roll etc. It may end in something like an addiction to alcohol or drugs, perhaps some criminal activity or maybe just a life of isolation.
The other path is the journey. On the journey we follow our heart, vision and calling to find our own way and discover something new. This is the path of all great leaders, entrepreneurs and pioneers. Through the challenges and discoveries along the way we acquire courage, insight, wisdom, resiliency and a greater awareness of ourselves and the world. When we return to the village we are able to make our own unique contribution to others and become recognised and acknowledged for who we really are.

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• Flexibility – The ability to fulfill different group roles – leader, supporter, inquisitor etc. in order to keep the group process fluid and maximise potential

• Confidence – Instilling confidence in the group by being purposeful and in control, therefore subduing group insecurities

• Authenticity – Being consistent in approach to the task, not moving the goal posts, becoming trustworthy to the group

• Patience/Perseverance – Appreciating the difficulties of group work and have the determination to see a task finished

• Leadership Presence – Respecting the group to become the surrogate leader if and when required

• Integrity – Being an example to the group of how to conduct oneself at work

• Initiating – The ability to start the group working on the task or when a problem is discovered/developed to find an alternative way around it

• Respectable – Having the admiration of the group as being a person whom they can trust

• Perceptive – Having the capability to recognise undertones in the group; using the positive ones to the group’s advantage and countering the negative ones to diminish them.

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We acknowledge that partnering with us you have entrusted us with your most valuable asset – YOU.  We will therefore, tap into every one of our skills, strengths, experiences, and especially, our intuition and insights that all help bring about the changes you want to make. Inquire about our Small business Advice now.

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Are any of the following situations familiar?

You are in a meeting and:

• You cannot help thinking ‘this is a waste of time and money’

• One person has dominated the whole meeting, another has said nothing and the rest have switched off – it’s going nowhere!

• There is an incredible depth and array of skills and experience which is not being used – a lost opportunity

• There are complex issues, competing interests and priorities 

• You wish you could tap into the creativity of those affected by the decision and engender a sense of ownership

Then we will benefit from working together.

Find a life coach Melbourne to Coach or Mentor you, which will enable you to:

• Develop creative solutions that have the necessary support and ownership to ensure implementation and success

• Hold meetings that get great results – results often beyond your expectations

• Conduct meetings that participants want to attend, contribute, feel creative and connected and that they have used the time and their skills to the fullest

• Improve the quality of communications and relationships between staff – developing strong and cohesive work teams

• Create a team and organisation where people want to work, knowing that their growth and potential are supported

• Develop skills in participants so that they become more effective, not only in meetings but in the ways that they relate to others

• Save money and time

• Ensure that participants feel supported to explore and resolve contentious and emotive issues

We also strongly recommend a Health Coach to keep your body and mind working together.

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• Gain skills in giving performance feedback
• improve my relationships with clients
• communicate better with management or my team
• create better interactions between teams within my organization
• have better interactions with colleagues and peers

Such communication goals often derive from problems that an individual may not even know exist.  For example, a leader may be highly skilled technically but have difficulty engaging their team. Often in these circumstances, it may simply mean that communication has broken down.  In acute situations, ineffective communication between leaders can place an organisation’s performance at risk. And rather than replacing, rehiring or changing HR structures, a coach can assist leaders, in these circumstances, to realise the impact of their practices and adopt new, more effective communication skills.

Communication goals also come into play when a leader wants to improve their skills to achieve more in their role.  They want to be more visible in their organisation, promote themselves better, or be more at ease with senior management.

Either way, coaching for success will firstly focus the individual’s attention on the outcome of new communication skills.   We will assist the leader to see the bigger picture, the impact the adoption or non-adoption of the new communication skills may have on their job, career or life. Through skilful coaching, the leader comes to their own conclusions.

Coaching for success assists the leader to see the link between this and the achievement of their bigger, professional goals.  We then help the leader adopt new communication techniques and strategies by facilitating an awareness that the individual did not possess previously.

In each session, you choose the focus of conversation, while your coach listens and contributes observations and questions. This interaction creates clarity and moves you into action.

Small business Consultant Coaching accelerates your progress by providing greater focus and awareness of choice.

Marketing Consultant Coaching concentrates on where you are today and what you are willing to do to get where you want to be tomorrow.

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The model revolves around three things:

Assessment, Challenge & Support

Assessment  – The initial phase of the coaching engagement is an assessment – a baseline picture of your current situation and your level of skills.   This information allows the coaching process to accurately focus on the areas that will make the most difference in your effectiveness. Assessments are often based upon 360-degree instruments, personality or psychological assessments.  The coach is putting together a complete picture of you including:

• How you see your self
• How others see you
• Who your advocates are
• Who your detractors are
• The dynamics and politics of your organization
• Personal strengths that can be leveraged
• Personal shortcomings that can be improved

Your perspective is another essential part of the picture.  It is important to be honest with our coach and share relevant information about yourself and your world so that the coach understands your situation.

Challenge – One of your coach’s jobs is to help your identify challenges and develop plans to overcome them.  Challenges can be external obstacles, like limited resources or conflicting directions from within your organization, or internal factors, like your own resistance or an insufficient set of skills.

Being a Business mentor in Melbourne I have learned this from years of practice.

Working with your coach, you’ll identify objectives and strategies for overcoming challenges.  These action plans are like homework assignments – single objectives you work to meet by the time of your next coaching session.  They often involve a ‘stretch’ that forces you out of your comfort zone. Understand that this is the coach’s role and that your coach will push you in a way that will help you learn and grow.

Support – Your coach gives you support in several ways as you carry out your plans, including:

• Listening – sometimes you need a sounding board for your ideas or your frustrations. You may need to think out loud, to explore a number of possibilities and scenarios, to review events and to draw conclusions. By listening and reflecting back what the coach has heard you say, your coach gives you the chance to develop a deeper understanding of the challenges you face and how you might address them.
• Accountability – your coach will hold you accountable for performing your action plans. This commitment helps you to stay motivated and focused.
• Encouragement – from time to time you may feel discouraged about your progress. You may feel stuck or even think that you’ve taken a step backward. Such plateaus are part of any kind of personal change. Your coach will know how to keep you motivated and focused on your tasks and your ultimate goal.
• Consultation – If you discover that your behaviour isn’t working well or is producing unexpected and unwanted consequences, check in with your coach. Your coach can work with you to create other options and help put things in perspective.
• Celebration – when you have a breakthrough in your performance it’s important to recognize that achievement. By talking with your coach about your successes, you will be encouraged to continue on your development path.

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Every sensory input we have is stored somewhere in the neural makeup of the brain and some suggest that emotional memories are also stored in the body as well (like a physical reaction at the memory of a particularly emotional event like your heart pounding). The more we access a neural pathway, the stronger that pathway gets, to the point where the brain creates a myelin sheath around the neural pathway to strengthen it and speed it up. Stop using a particular pathway and, like sought after real estate, other neurons will take over.

When you are making a choice, let’s say what to eat for dinner, you might ask yourself what do I want for dinner? Your unconscious mind will then do several things, it may recall your favourite foods or it may remind you what you have in the cupboard or it could remind you that you had chicken last night and you don’t want that again.  In fact what it drops into your conscious mind is an endless combination of choices dependant on your life experiences.  Sometimes those experiences are useful and help us to make good choices.  At other times the memories and beliefs we have may lead to bad decisions or choices.

Another quirk here is the law of consistency.  When we have a belief we look for supporting evidence that our belief is true, even if that belief was created from some obscure event from our childhood that we no longer consciously remember.  So let’s put this into an example.  Sarah aged 4 won’t eat her peas, her father yells at her and tells her she is a very naughty girl.  Sarah believes her father (although she could have decided not to believe him in that moment and had a very different outcome).  Because of the law of consistency, Sarah now notices every time she does something wrong and gets told she is naughty.  She does not notice when her mother tells her she is a good girl.  Because of this belief she starts doing more naughty things until she becomes a problem teenager.

So we are all running around making decisions based on beliefs about ourselves made generally before the age of 5.  Some of these will be positive and useful beliefs, others will not.  To gauge if your unconscious beliefs are working for or against you, have a look at the results you are getting in your life and business.  If things are not working out the way you want, call and make an appointment to identify where your past beliefs are holding you back and change them for good.  In this way you can start creating the results you want made from adult decision making processes.

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Why is it that we look to buy things to make us happy? How often do we think ‘I really need that plasma TV, or handbag, or dress’? Then we stress over finding the money or go into debt, thinking that it will make us happy! Problem is, we then feel the same sense of emptiness shortly after……

This is placing the responsibility of happiness on outside sources. However, if you place this responsibility internally you would remove much of this angst (not to mention the savings to be made). Gratitude for what we do have is a key player in changing this perspective. Every morning when I get out of bed I ask myself ‘what I am grateful for today’ . I dare you to try it for a week and see how differently you feel at the end.

In reality, happiness is a state that we choose from moment to moment, just like any other state – fear, anger, sadness, joy etc. While it is great to recognise what emotions we are feeling it is also great to recognise that we can choose to stay in that state, or move to another one. Think about a time when you were feeling down and a friend said something to make you laugh. In an instant you changed your state.

“This too shall pass”

It is unrealistic to think that once you have found happiness, you will stay in that state eternally. We need to feel our emotions and we need to learn when to move past them onto something else. I don’t believe you have to be happy all the time, nor do I believe it is healthy. Grieving for a loved one is the perfect example of needing to allow yourself to feel the emotion. Bottling away the grief will only lead to much larger problems down the track.

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Trusting in God or the Universe or whomever you believe in is a good starting point. Remember we get what we focus on so believe that your perfect partner will find you.

Give the universe a helping hand – get connected with life. Join a group that interests you where your opposite might also be e.g. a Rotary club attracts both men and women. Find something that would be attractive to the opposite sex as well, there isn’t much point going to a craft show to find a man for example. If you have an interest in common then you are off to a flying start and also have something down the track for when the relationship shifts into comfortable mode.

Don’t be afraid of Internet dating. It does not have the social stigma it used to have; in fact I would say it’s a norm now. You can screen whom you choose to meet and unlike the pub, your choices are not made with beer goggles on!

How do you get Internet dating really working for you? Once you have done everything above, you will know who you are and who you are looking for. So find a site that you are comfortable with and write in your profile exactly that – who you are and who you are looking for. You will get fewer hits but the ones you do get will be more likely to be worthy of your time. This process will screen out the time wasters and those just looking for ‘a good time!’
Don’t spend months chatting to people. Use the site to meet potentials; to clarify that they may meet your list and that you are interested, chat no more than three times and suggest meeting for coffee. Tell them you are not into talking online and would rather meet in person to see if there is any connection. As a woman I have found that men are really happy when you suggest this, as they may feel uncomfortable asking you to meet. Make it very clear that this is just to meet and not to expect anything else.

Never give them any more information than your first name, mobile and possibly an email address for your safety and take all the precautions you can when meeting them for the first time. I especially recommend for younger girls that they suggest meeting in a group situation for the first time rather than alone, because people can pretend to be anything online and your safety should always come first.

I suggest meeting quickly because you never really know if you will connect with someone until you meet them and there is no point spending months chatting and when you finally meet there is no spark whatsoever. We also have a tendency to imagine what they are like and start dreaming. This is definitely not useful and they will not have any chance of living up to our romanticizing ways. We generally categorise prospects into three categories within about 60 seconds of meeting them:

Definitely not
Maybe
Wow want to know more
Coffee is great because you can meet in a very public place (for safety) and if they are a ‘definitely not’ then you can get away quick. If they are a maybe or a wow, coffee can extend into eating and chatting for another couple of hours.

Learn how to say ‘thank you for your time, but this isn’t right for me’, either at the end of the date or by text, dating site or phone once you get home. Don’t get hooked into something you know is not right for you because you’re too soft to say no.

Be true to yourself, have some fun and be amazed at what will open up for you.

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This is often referred to as our internal map and if you compare a street map to the actual street, you will know that it is very different. You can really think of the internal map as being in code for the real situation. So when we are using NLP, we are looking to see what is on the map, what has been filtered out and what changes can be made to filter in other realities. This is what it means to create your own reality. You are not necessarily changing the actual event, but you can change the information used to understand the event or perceive it in a different way.

Let me give you an example of a child being smacked by a parent. That is the reality; the child was definitely smacked. One child however may filter in that that parent did not love them; while another child may have told itself they were naughty and deserved it. A third could have told themselves that they hated the parent for smacking them and on it goes. There are countless different maps, creating countless ‘realities’ for each child. That memory then becomes available the next time the child is in a similar situation and is likely to be attached to their response, even if the cause of the smack is very different. We tend to spend the rest of our lives proving that the belief we attached to the first event is accurate and continue to filter in ‘bits of information’ that support our belief. What’s worse is that we are unaware that we are doing it. So, most of us are walking around proving beliefs we adopted before the age of seven.

By using timeline therapies and other techniques we are able to go back to the first time we attached a belief to a situation and look at it through adult eyes. From there we can change the perspective and alter the event forever. Once you have made a neurological change to the belief, you can’t go back therefore you have changed your reality of the past and in doing so you can also change your future.

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