Can You Do Coffee?

a life of COMPARISONS…

I am preparing to speak tomorrow to a class of seminary students. As I wind down for the night and think of sharing my story, I am forever grateful that each time I share my story, IT is not exactly the same as before. I don’t have a “My Story” document or presentation that lays [...]

[withholding] LOVE

We have all done this at some point. We have all had this done to us at some point. It is a natural response to hurt or anger. You hurt me, I’m not going to talk to you for a few hours, days, weeks. I am going to enjoy watching you try to call me [...]

the ART of reLaTIoNsHIpS…

Once I understood codependency a bit and was able to see how much I based anything that I did on the relationship aspect of it, I really started trying to understand what it was that I loved doing “just because”. That was a hard one. I loved being with those that I loved and having [...]

You NEED ME!!!

We are powerless over others. Oh that is easy at first read- of course we are- we aren’t them how could we control them. Oh but for me and for many women we walk recovery with, we see that in very helpful and unknowingly hurtful ways we often don’t let go…at a level we feel [...]

la la la WOW- be interrupted

When I was a teenager and my parents and grandparents were talking about death and where they would be buried, anything related to saying goodbye to them here on earth I would cover my ears and sing LA LA LA LA LA LA LA as loud as I needed to to interrupt their conversation and [...]

My Mouth Said Yes, My Heart Said No

Are there times that my mouth is saying YES and my heart is saying NO? Ummmmmmm YES…just not as much as I used to! And when I do now I follow it up much differently than before. So today let’s have a little before and after chat… SOME BEFORE… Scenario 1… O: “Teresa, where do [...]

Worn Out on the Performance Treadmill

I’m half asleep standing at the copying machine. It’s six in the morning and Tray and I are in the middle of our regular Sunday morning ritual at the Randolph County Baptist Association about an hour and a half from our home in Birmingham. After being a part of one of the fastest growing churches in [...]

He Did What?

Welcome to Can You Do Coffee and the first episode of our video blog. We are constantly meeting with ladies who have just discovered their husband’s sexual addiction and wanted to address some of the questions that often arise in those first few meetings. Please use the comments section for any additional questions or comments [...]