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<title>Candice Schutter :: RSS Feed</title><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/index.html</link><description>Candice Schutter&#x27;s Coaching Blog</description><dc:language>en</dc:language><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><dc:rights>Copyright 2012 Candice Schutter</dc:rights><dc:date>2017-01-21T09:27:36-08:00</dc:date><admin:generatorAgent rdf:resource="http://www.realmacsoftware.com/" />
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<lastBuildDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2017 12:09:22 -0800</lastBuildDate><item><title>Fierce Love: Why I March</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>politics</category><category>fierce love</category><category>femininity</category><dc:date>2017-01-21T09:27:36-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/fierce-love-why-i-march.html#unique-entry-id-104</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/fierce-love-why-i-march.html#unique-entry-id-104</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I see it all: pleas for unity, Republicans high-fiving, resistance flags waving, and way way WAY too many instances of nasty sorts of name-calling (on all sides). 

...I am not a Trump supporter (and it's not because of his politics).


...& Yet THAT is precisely WHY I will not engage in the emotional repugnancy I stand against.


Feel free to cheer/jeer-sit/stand-react/respond-retreat/fight in whatever way feels authentic to you. 

...But I am here to advocate for those of us who feel frustration at the fact that there are too many examples of them-mockery and you-fuckery, and not enough of us saying enough-with-the-ugly.


...In a few short hours, I will march with my sisters... not against anyone, but FOR a LOVE that is fierce&nbsp;in its insistence on the rights of every human being on this mother-loving planet.   Because I for one don't think we have to drag anyone down in order to rise up (together).


...THIS is the essence of&nbsp;divorcing&nbsp;the patriarchy for good - demonstrating that there IS another way to turn love into action.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Ask Yourself: Do I Need Coaching?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>what is coaching?</category><dc:date>2017-01-08T18:36:14-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/do-i-need-coaching.html#unique-entry-id-103</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/do-i-need-coaching.html#unique-entry-id-103</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Is some part of your life in transition (or would you like for it to be)?


...Integrity is at the center of our work; therefore, there are no formulas to follow or hoops for you to jump through. ...  Together we will author a plan with your needs at the center, where goals are structured around not what-you-should-do but who-you-really-are. 

...Some of life&rsquo;s directives are darker than others, and all of them require courage and a willingness to dig deeper than ever before. ...  Take the time you need to sift through the emotional debris of the past, in order to make your deepest desires actionable in the now. 

...Now it's time to ACTualize that knowledge and recreate the narrative at the center of your life.   The only way out is through - a willingness to risk reinvention and reclaim authority over your one precious life.   Coaching will infuse you with the courage to make your move, speak your truth, and make your many insights come alive in your everyday experience through action.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Without Flinching: Radical Listening To Save The World</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>story</category><category>politics</category><category>memoir</category><dc:date>2016-12-27T08:40:04-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/without-flinching-radical-listening-save-the-world.html#unique-entry-id-102</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/without-flinching-radical-listening-save-the-world.html#unique-entry-id-102</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[She told me that it cost her an-arm-and-a-leg and I&rsquo;d only get one ever, so when I have friends over I keep an eye on them to make sure they don&rsquo;t color sideways with Cornflower or break Burnt Sienna in two.


...Sometimes Gary sleeps over, which turns out to be a good thing because one night before the sun is out he wakes us up to tell us that he caught a nigger crawling in the kitchen window.   I&rsquo;m not sure what a nigger is, but when Gary calls the police they start scribbling in their notepads so I guess it&rsquo;s no good to have them crawling in your windows at night.


...As much as I am personally disgusted and outraged by pretty much all the president-elect himself seems to stand for, I am not so naive as to think that the people who voted for him - the people on the so-called other side of history - are looking through my same lens.


...And, as cliche as it might sound, when it&nbsp;is present for at least one of us,&nbsp;we both become&nbsp;strong enough to be vulnerable and real regardless of the narrative unfolding around us.


...And if you want to succeed in your aim to unify and educate, at times you will have to approach people at the level of feelings - examining not just the facts, but the needs that drive people to completely ignore them.


...If you want to help disavow a culture of ignorance, bigotry, and xenophobia, then you have to be willing to walk with others through some messy narratives (their's and your own) without looks of irony or indignation.


And you must say fuck-all&nbsp;to what-you-should-think long enough to speak candidly about the ways in which you-yourself might be sidestepping shame, projecting your own political over-corrections onto the people around you.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Love &#x26; Limits: An Open Heart Has Edges</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>sovereignty</category><category>relationships</category><dc:date>2016-03-20T15:03:49-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-open-heart-has-edges.html#unique-entry-id-101</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-open-heart-has-edges.html#unique-entry-id-101</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Just as the students in class turned to look, her personal trainer - a young man at the other end of her rope - came into view. 

...While a certain degree of tension is to be expected in relationship, there may be times when we find ourselves pulling more than our share of the weight. 

...While it may seem like a loving act to continually pull people where you think they need to go, in reality you&rsquo;re not doing yourself or anyone any favors. 

...We become unwilling to draw a line - to own or express our truth - because that isn&rsquo;t what love would do.&nbsp;


...Bypassing personal limits for the sake of love may be necessary from time to time; however, it is absolutely essential to our well-being that we don&rsquo;t make a habit of it.


...A better question is: What will you do to honestly express your love AND your limits given the current conditions?&nbsp;


...We must treat our emotional heart-space as we would any other muscle - allowing it to contract with regularity so it might develop the strength and elasticity to expand to its fullest potential.&nbsp;


...Together we can divorce the my-way-or-the-highway models we&rsquo;ve long been fed and recreate a world where reciprocated vulnerability is&nbsp; a shared cultural value.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>When All You&#x27;re Left With Is Righteousness</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>politics</category><category>sovereignty</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2016-02-11T12:06:58-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/left-with-righteousness.html#unique-entry-id-100</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/left-with-righteousness.html#unique-entry-id-100</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[At times I take the bait... rallying with others "together in favor" of this-and-that... and rising up "opposed to him or her". 


And yet more and more I'm realizing that when we roll our eyes or condemn or grow frustrated with another human for not speaking or behaving in the manner that we would expect, we are missing the point entirely.   Maybe it's not our politics or our beliefs that define how effective we are... perhaps it's the character with which we show up and navigate the realities of a shared humanity.


...If you are like me, and you don't believe in fighting wars, then check yourself as to how you approach everyday conflicts in your life.


...Left or right, when we point fingers, label others, and allow our ideology to keep us from being curious and willing... we are no different than him. 

...Has rolling your eyes and/or shaming someone for their beliefs EVER worked to open a heart and ignite the love you hope to inspire?


...In a divided world, there is a desperate need for safe spaces where we can openly speak what is in our minds and hearts without fear of condemnation. 

...There are many ways to stand up for what you believe in... and I wholeheartedly believe that the world will become a peaceful place when we really get that "the-good-fight" isn't really a fight at all. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>All Isn&#x27;t Lost</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2015-08-20T14:09:20-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/all-isnt-lost.html#unique-entry-id-99</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/all-isnt-lost.html#unique-entry-id-99</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I only write publicly when the genuine urge arises, and it's been awhile since I've felt the itch.   Today the desire to share emerged and, after nearly two hours drafting an article, I inadvertently hit the wrong key on my screen.&nbsp;


...Of course this isn't the first time I've experience this. ...  A little voice inside tried coaxing me back to center (Just let it go, C), and I pushed back against it. ...  After one more heavy sigh of irritation, I opened this page: a blank document without an agenda.


...To sum it up: At the ripe age of forty, I've come to realize that my work ethic (a do-or-die survival strategy toward action) is no longer serving me and that I'm ready to build a life around who-I-actually-am versus the almighty All That I Can Do.&nbsp;


So yes, please feel free to laugh along with me that "all my hard work" unexpectedly disappeared into the ethers in an instant... forcing me to ask the question at the heart of the message I had spent all morning laboring over:&nbsp;Who will I be if everything that I "do" is stripped from me?&nbsp;


...Happiness isn't something I have to work for and the joy of expression isn't found or expressed through some pre-formulated agenda, the week's ah-hahs, or the social metrics of what other people seem to want of me. &nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>The Dark Side of Passion</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>passion</category><category>self-expression</category><category>shadow</category><dc:date>2015-03-31T10:37:26-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the-dark-side-of-passion.html#unique-entry-id-98</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the-dark-side-of-passion.html#unique-entry-id-98</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[When I feel lost to a yearning, my wounds and/or latent desires can unwind me from reason and lead me to project a zealous fixation onto someone or something outside of me. 

...I've come to believe that, even when we find ourselves bat-shit-crazy, passion is present because something within us has come alive. ...  We are  "out there" aching passionately for HIM/HER or IT or THAT because we are starved for an expression and/or change that is coming alive within and through us.


...What began for me as an echoing of the confidence she demonstrated, soon turned into my own brand of sexy-self possession.   Once I embodied the potential she had helped to unearth in me, once I began to express it on my own, her presence no longer influenced me in the same way and her unavailability and disinterest in me no longer pained me the way it had early on.   My passion found it's sovereign and rightful expression and the experience taught me a shit-ton about the how&why of SO many former infatuations in my life, both in friendship and in matters of the heart.


...And when I am courageous and vulnerable enough to become responsive (vs. reactive), I'm emboldened by passion's dark and elusive callings as well as its more brilliant inspirations. 


I've found that ALL shades of passion contain within them the potential to feed my creative advancement when coupled with sovereignty and the willingness to take my power back. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Why? </title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>death</category><category>depression</category><dc:date>2015-03-23T15:55:59-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/why.html#unique-entry-id-96</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/why.html#unique-entry-id-96</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Earlier this morning, I had tea with a dear friend who is struggling, justifiably so as she feels suspended between the life she longs to be living and more immediate emotional and financial burdens. ...  I wanted more than anything to soothe her, to somehow save her from the pain that weighed so heavy against her.


...Hell, I may have even insisted upon some bullshit promise about her future - one that I have absolutely no business making.


But as it turns out, today is the fifth anniversary of my brother's sudden and tragic death... and when he left this world he inadvertently took something of mine with him - namely, my sense of anything and everything I held as certain in the world. 

...Experience has taught me that "why's" of the existential variety are attempts to understand a vantage point that is totally and utterly incomprehensible to our human sensibilities. ...  While this may or may not be true on a grandiose scale (I'll leave your spirituality to you), there is no denying that justice doesn't always prevail on the surface of things.


...What I DO know is that when we are caught in despair, distracting ourselves with unanswerable queries only fuels the pain. 

...Despair, hopelessness, judgement, anger, and the absolute pinnacle of pain - that I-just-don't-give-a-fuck-anymore moment when an old canvas is finally torched and a your new life is born.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Near Miss: Waking up in Istanbul</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>travel</category><category>wake up calls</category><category>sovereignty</category><dc:date>2015-02-04T10:27:32-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/near-miss-waking-up-in-istanbul.html#unique-entry-id-95</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/near-miss-waking-up-in-istanbul.html#unique-entry-id-95</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I rallied toward the morning's mission for the sake of all we'd invested in time and money; yet even when I'm at my best extreme winter weather has the tendency to derail my enthusiasm. 

...Weather and sound assaulted my weary body, and I couldn't wait to retreat indoors... so I led the way with dogged determination, power-walking with my hood up and my head down to the wind.&nbsp;...  I had just moved up off of the street onto what I can only presume was meant to be a sidewalk - a claustrophobic brick embankment no more than two feet wide jutting away from the building that loomed four-stories high on my right. 

...Once safety settled in, I had no choice but to ask myself: How I could have been so distracted and out of my body as to step in front of a moving vehicle totally unaware?&nbsp;


...It wasn't the first time I had fallen out of step with me, placing the rhythm of someone I love (in this case, my partner) before my own.   But it WAS the first time it had almost cost me my life or god-only-knows-how-many weeks in a Turkish hospital.&nbsp;


...The looming presence of that truck weighed against the left side of my body for the next few days along with the beautiful and haunting realization that I had been spared from injury. 

...She had not only survived the crash without major injury, she had walked barefoot in total darkness for over a kilometer in a rural area, somehow venturing in the one direction in which she had any hope of finding help. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>What Is This Life? (WiTL)</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>travel</category><category>grace</category><dc:date>2015-01-22T17:54:39-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/what-is-this-life.html#unique-entry-id-94</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/what-is-this-life.html#unique-entry-id-94</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[The fact that my partner and I are childless, able-bodied, and blessed enough to have been able to voyage in this way... this is a gift that I am doing my best to shamelessly receive. ...  And yet, it's also worth noting that travel is a largely romanticized notion, reveled in by outside observers... idealized through glossy photos and carefully-crafted captions.&nbsp;

...Irresistible moments: such as the silence of a pastel sunrise&nbsp;over the canals of Venice, the otherworldly beauty of Pammukkale's breathtaking white landscapes, or a Turkish New Year's Eve celebration (it's unrivaled... much like the marinara sauce at&nbsp;L'Antica&nbsp;Pizzeria&nbsp;da Michele in Naples. ...  Spend your first couple of hours abroad hurling in the perfume-laden airport water closet (aka: bathroom) due to a bumpy 10 hour flight and some bad cheese (let's just say Paris wasn't my favorite stop... city of love and lights my ass. 

...Four words that unexpectedly spilled from my lips as I took in a sunset along Positano's majestic cliffside; she left me gasping and gaping at her beauty. 

...Four words that captured both awe-inspiring gratitude and perpetual befuddlement... thus offering me a way to maintain good humor and conjure the humility and grace&nbsp;required to accept all the unexpected gifts being thrown my way. ...  These four words, like the bells at&nbsp;Campanile di Giotto in Florence&nbsp;still ring in my ears... reminding me to be thankful and to fully inhabit the full spectrum of my experience. 

...I am beyond fortunate to have been blessed by such an adventure... rest assured, that is not lost on me. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Life Without Facebook :: My 30-Day Social Media Fast</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>detox</category><dc:date>2014-11-16T15:51:04-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/life-without-facebook.html#unique-entry-id-93</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/life-without-facebook.html#unique-entry-id-93</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[This first realization was the most immediate and palpable - a reminder of something I learned in my first business course over a decade ago: what's&nbsp;urgent is rarely what's important.&nbsp;

...I won't pretend that this is true for everyone but in MY line of work, popularity doesn't pay the bills or align me with those whom I most want to serve. ...  That's how lasting relationships with loyal readers and clients have developed over the years; and it hasn't really changed much, even in the new age of social media.&nbsp;


...I had been "buying" into the idea that online marketing and visibility was key... but the truth is, it had never translated into dollars and/or&nbsp;the quality of engagement that delivers meaningful results.   I was gaining more "likes" and "engagement" but how is that productive when: 1) it doesn't create meaningful or lasting connections and 2) it continually keeps me from doing what I am designed to do.&nbsp;

...For a month now I've been doing what I feel genuinely called to do versus circumnavigating the maddening insistence of what so much outside influence would have me attend to. 

...It is rapid progression toward an engagement-reward model where "being seen" on Facebook is reserved for like/share-happy addicts, corporate entities with marketing teams, and/or pay-per-click advertisers. 

...Question the fallacies that drive social media addiction: a false sense of urgency, fixation on metric validation, trading connection for intimacy, and unconsciously giving your attention-as-currency to what is rapidly becoming a digital money machine.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Growing Smaller</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>grace</category><dc:date>2014-10-10T11:36:23-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/growing-smaller.html#unique-entry-id-91</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/growing-smaller.html#unique-entry-id-91</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[When the dream began, he spoke words to me... but in less than a minute's time he became infantile, shrinking in the folds of his blanketed bassinet. ...  Yet even as I pumped his small chest with my index finger to resuscitate his tiny heart, it grew smaller and smaller.   Then I watched as his bright blue spirit rose up and out of a now fetus-like shell.&nbsp;


...I shed with her far more psychic weight than any so-called "new year" ever warrants.   What exactly this next clearing will invite to die and bloom forth I won't pretend to know.   Yet I feel myself slowing down... shaking my head no... backing away from the spotlight and the need to perform.&nbsp;


...Be it an economy, a womb, or a long-term relationship... all things move through seasons of fear-laden tensing and tightening in order to generate the strength to push through with more integrity and greater power than ever before.   This year I won't fight against autumn's love for me, nor she will have to wrestle me to the ground as she's done in so many years past.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Pity Party&#x2c; Anyone?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>perspective</category><dc:date>2014-08-20T11:44:01-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/pity-party-anyone.html#unique-entry-id-90</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/pity-party-anyone.html#unique-entry-id-90</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Every now and then (like earlier today), out of nowhere life throws me yet another curveball and I feel the urge to fall into a why-me-self-pity-party-puddle.&nbsp;  Yet lately, whenever I start to go there - IF I stay mindful and I don't get tangled in the lair of circumstance - a reality check zooms across my radar right around the same time and I'm instantly reminded that my "problems" are pretty benign compared to what so many face (profound injustice, heartbreaking losses, health crises, and so on).   I'm deeply humbled and inspired to regularly see people who are exponentially more challenged than I am showing up with so much gratitude, humor, and grace.&nbsp;


Seriously, y'all... lately I have more heroes than I can count.   In fact, some of you may even be reading this now.


The point is this: No matter the challenge we face, there's always someone out there who would trade places with us in a heartbeat.


Keepin' it real AND in perspective... that's where it's at.&nbsp;


So now my overall take on today (and every day) is this...
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>&#x22;Like&#x22; It Or Not</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>business</category><dc:date>2014-08-19T11:23:41-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/like-it-or-not.html#unique-entry-id-89</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/like-it-or-not.html#unique-entry-id-89</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[For example, an ill-fitting notion I once allowed to drive me (incessant actioning fueled by the belief that success as a writer/coach equates with becoming an online persona) has become largely counterproductive to my overall well-being. 

...So more and more I'm allowing the soothing hum of my lusciously free-spirit to drown out the deafening roar of ambition (a steam engine train that once ensured my survival).   I'm allowing for more  S P A C E  to live a life that offers reverence to my glorious inconsistencies and the more natural rhythms of my humanity.


...And yet, truth be told, I've gotta break out of an addictive pattern and consciously turn my attention away from the social media rat race that stares me down on a daily basis. ...  Witnessing a client come alive, editing pages for my book, laughing with friends, tending to my home... all of these carry a depth and magnitude of connection that a "share" button could never replicate. 


...And I sincerely admire the courage it takes to be noticed in a world where visibility all-too-often equates with celebrity status and the continual onslaught of projection contained therein. ...  Those that can't be contained in a scrolling newsfeed: nurturing a loved one, speaking a difficult truth, laughter with friends, gazing into the eyes of an animal, or taking in the humble majesty a forest.


...It is then that social media no longer serves us; it becomes a distraction from the impact we are designed to have in real life. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Self Serving It Up</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>purpose</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2014-07-31T19:17:40-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/self-serving-it-up.html#unique-entry-id-87</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/self-serving-it-up.html#unique-entry-id-87</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[My best friend recently uncovered her authentic calling; it's been right under her nose all along quite literally looking her square in the eye.   Caring for and communicating with animals has always been her personal salvation, it never occurred to her there was market value in it. 


...I could feel him come alive, inspiration surging through the earpiece as he spoke of a secret passionate edge he's yet to fully explore.


Last week when I was visiting my mom in Kansas, she mentioned that she had discovered a few boxes of my things in storage.   Plenty of goodies awaited: my first jewelry box, a dusty letter jacket that I was both shocked and delighted to discover still fit me, and loads of photos and writings from my youth. ...  I was a bit dumbstruck realizing just how far back it goes; I've been comforting myself through the written word for near as long as I've been eating and breathing.&nbsp;


As Elizabeth Gilbert reveals in her most recent must-watch TedTalk:&nbsp;"If you're wondering what your home is,&nbsp;here's a hint:&nbsp;Your home is whatever in this world you love&nbsp;more than you love yourself."&nbsp;...  Knowing how you might serve is uncovered through everyday experiences and the many ways in which you naturally express yourself when there is no agenda other than love.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Transmute vs. Transcend</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>darkness</category><category>grace</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2014-07-14T18:48:39-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/transmute-versus-transcend.html#unique-entry-id-86</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/transmute-versus-transcend.html#unique-entry-id-86</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[For me, creatively birthing anything means riding waves... passing through phases of brilliant clarity and inspiration followed by contractions, labor pains pushing me into the next expression yet-unknown.&nbsp;


Darkness, self doubt, uncertainty, they are all with me today.&nbsp;


And I am grateful because I've come to learn that the dark is nothing to fear; it's nothing to frantically rise above, deny, or apologize for.   It is instead a resting place for a tender and vulnerable wisdom that can be gently and kindly coaxed the surface.&nbsp;


Darkness can be just as sacred and glorifying as the light, if you are willing to bask in it.


...Perhaps you don't have to seek escape from it; instead kindly pay homage by giving it a voice or vehicle of some kind.   I suggest sharing your vulnerable truth in a trusted container and/or creating something that honors its place in your life.&nbsp;


Case in point, today when I sat down to work on my book & I was up against a WALL.&nbsp; ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Money. Is it a reason not to?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>money</category><category>personal power</category><dc:date>2014-07-07T10:47:43-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/money-is-it-a-reason-not-to.html#unique-entry-id-85</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/money-is-it-a-reason-not-to.html#unique-entry-id-85</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[They say that getting what we want is up to us; that it's a function of pragmatics and priorities. 

...As someone who has experienced negative net-worth more than once in my life, I'd argue that both arguments are grossly oversimplified. ...  For many of us, there are seasons in life that place basic needs at the forefront - transitions that require we tighten our belts a bit.   Sometimes we simply don't have access to the support we desire and - look out new-age generalists - perhaps we aren't to blame for that. 

...I sincerely wish that Personal Development could be a viable line item in everyone's budget, but it's simply not the case.   There are many times in our lives when we desperately need support, and we can't responsibly justify the expense (especially with necessary regularity). 

...Each month I will be opening a handful of pay-what-you-can dates and times.   Book one of these limited-availability time slots and you'll be able to name your price (whatever that might be) for one full hour of 1:1 coaching. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>When The Masks Come Off</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>health</category><category>detox</category><category>shadow</category><dc:date>2014-06-03T23:08:22-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/when-the-mask-comes-off.html#unique-entry-id-84</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/when-the-mask-comes-off.html#unique-entry-id-84</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Today's a shit storm of emotion for me... my keep-your-shit-together dam is bursting at the seams.   I'm on day two of a detox and for those of you who've never been through one, take it from me... it's not for the faint of heart.   MY idea of a cleanse does not involve starving; only abstinence from substances that provide solace outside the realm of nutrition. 


And so... all of the ugly I've been masking, all the feelings I've been stuffing, every deeper craving I've disowned in the past year is coming up like a surging fountain spilling at my feet. 

...This choice (what some might consider self-denial) is becoming my annual spiritual departure from just that... the daily denial of self. 

...Over the course of the next month, I know from experience that I will continue waking up to myself in ways that I have been avoiding.   However uncomfortable it might be, burning through these early days of discomfort will do more than clear my body of toxins, it will clear the same from my heart and mind. 


...Disclaimer: This post is not meant to be in advocacy of cleansing as a right of passage, per se. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>The Cleansing of Conformity</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>health</category><category>detox</category><category>self-reliance</category><dc:date>2014-06-12T11:51:18-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/cleansing-conformity.html#unique-entry-id-83</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/cleansing-conformity.html#unique-entry-id-83</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[It's Day 11 of my 30-day cleanse, and I'm noticing how many people associate the term "cleansing" with fasting and/or extreme dieting. ...  There are oh-so-many ways to clear the body of toxins and countless detox plans out there... many of which require pretty hard core deprivation. 

...Thus far we've abstained from all carbs, grains, soy, gluten, dairy, caffeine, alcohol, and most sugars (disclaimer: we're allowing a bit of honey and raw cacao here and there - rebels that we are). ...  Next week we will kick things into hyperdrive a little, letting go of meats and doing a short stint of raw juicing... but only as long as our bodies respond willingly. 

...And my physical energy is buzz-buzz-buzzing at a natural high from the time I wake up until my head hits the pillow at night. 


...This post isn't only a shameless share of self-celebration (which I encourage us all to do from time to time!)... it's also a reminder and call to action for any of you out there who've been wanting to cleanse or clear - literally or metaphorically - but aren't sure you can do it.   May this post be a reminder that in ANY arena of your life you'll be much more likely to take the leap and reach your goal if you take authority and personally author the steps along the way. 


...Yet if outside perspective has you in a holding pattern, you might need to give them both the finger and chart your own course.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Intuition. Braving the Unthinkable.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>indecision</category><category>intuition</category><category>change</category><dc:date>2014-05-20T09:55:20-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/intuition-braving-the-unthinkable.html#unique-entry-id-82</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/intuition-braving-the-unthinkable.html#unique-entry-id-82</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[In a recent session with a client (let's call her Sarah), inquiry and examination kept circling us back to heart-heavy sighs and four dreaded words: I just. don't. know.


...How in the hell is she supposed to know what to do next when she doesn't have any clue where it is she is headed?


...It suddenly became apparent that she doesn't "know" what to do because she deeply yearns to trust and tune into the intelligence and clarity that emerges when there's no clear and linear path in sight.


...In such moments, a focus on certainty and know-how can keep us reeling in a sort of rational madness; frustration reigns as that which we seek remains unknowable. 

...We remain stuck and feel perpetually out-of-sorts because we aren't willing to trust the honest urges that attempt to move us forward through an uncertain future.&nbsp;


Gut sensations, instinctual hunches, and the endless ways in which "not-that experiences" nudge us to move in new directions... these are all intuition at work. 

...This requires tremendous courage as you take continual action in the face of irrationality and fear... openly owning deep vulnerabilities and&nbsp;inexplicable truths... and bravely being willing to risk expression in the face of confusion or seemingly insurmountable odds.


...When we rely solely on intuition, and refuse to yield to what-is-knowable or when we fight against the natural parameters of our physical reality, expression can become etheric and untethered to the world. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Sensitive Much?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>empathy</category><category>sovereignty</category><dc:date>2014-05-14T08:29:29-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/sensitive-much.html#unique-entry-id-81</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/sensitive-much.html#unique-entry-id-81</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[In fact, one reason why the more sensitive among us do not live our lives more boldly is because of our empathic connection to others.   Spilling the truth can feel torturous when you feel into others to such a great degree.   Feedback is too deeply internalized and so, on the surface, it just seems easier to live life without rocking the boat... therefore, we hold our truth hostage.


...With sovereignty we learn that empathy isn&rsquo;t something that happens to us; it is an energetic allowance.   Though at times it may feel like an inevitability, with practice it can become a conscious choice in the moment. 

...Rather than reluctantly riding our sensitivity into every interaction, we can become more discerning about when to infuse an interaction with empathy and its wisdom.   Rather than forcing ourselves to connect, we learn to reach out without compromising our needs and edges.   Similarly, we are able to stay present and open-hearted to deeper truths, even those that threaten to make a mess of our lives, without compromising our integrity. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Be Authentic. Learn to Respond vs. React.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2014-05-07T08:26:08-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/learn-to-respond-vs-react.html#unique-entry-id-80</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/learn-to-respond-vs-react.html#unique-entry-id-80</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Just as your fingerprint is yours and yours alone, your most authentic expression is an imprint one-of-kind and unique to who you are. ...  We follow others, trying to &ldquo;make a good impression&rdquo; on the world... sliding into other people&rsquo;s grooves instead of carving out spaces of our own. 

...It asks that we willingly express what&rsquo;s brewing within (on the deepest level we can access) while also honoring and responding to the world around us.   What we do in response to our fear is what defines our future. -&nbsp;Excerpt from&nbsp;MC1 Courage, The Spill Your Truth Program


Earlier this year ten extraordinarily brave women helped me co-create a powerful heart-centered assertiveness training program called Spill Your Truth Without The Mess.   As of today, you can tap into our journey and the wisdom contained therein for a fraction of the cost.&nbsp;...  It's for women who are sincere about up-leveling their expression... who are courageous enough to be honestly vulnerable... who long to express themselves more authentically, more boldly, and more compassionately in all their beautiful-ugly glory.


...If the journal questions contained in the free workbook speak to you, this program could be a total game-changer.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Gurus &#x26; Gimlets</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>livelihood</category><category>integrity</category><category>transparency</category><dc:date>2014-03-16T15:06:04-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/gurus-and-gimlets.html#unique-entry-id-79</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/gurus-and-gimlets.html#unique-entry-id-79</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[While I have come a long way around this: allowing my authentic voice to emerge, valuing my time and energy, learning to express my no, etc... today it occurred to me that I'm still for the most part living a double life.


...How many of you out there know that I work part-time as a cocktail waitress?


...As a coach, I have been greatly influenced by my peers - the countless empires of "experts" and self-help gurus that seem to emerge daily. ...  I suppose that I have inadvertently internalized the implication that, in order to be seen as coach-credible, I must continually project an air of financial abundance.


But the truth is this: after writing all day yesterday, I donned my trusty black apron and ran my ass off, slinging drinks until 1am. 

...AND yet, like every Sunday morning, I'm freakin' exhausted... not because of the "shameful" fact that my livelihood is complex and multi-faceted... but because I haven't been humble enough to own the tremendous significance of the big picture.   Living with one foot in each world has led me to overcommit (likely in an unconscious effort to compensate for my shame) and repeatedly I fall out of integrity with the deadlines I set in my business.&nbsp;


...This is yet another opportunity to demonstrate what I stand for: the right to live transparently and express a life as you see fit.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Go... Ready. Set.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>movement</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2014-02-26T12:54:12-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/go-ready-set.html#unique-entry-id-78</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/go-ready-set.html#unique-entry-id-78</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Is there something you want to create or experience that feels perpetually unfinished?    Perhaps your mental or physical preparation is keeping you from the real action.&nbsp;


...I've set aside today for writing my next eBook... and what do I have to show for it?  ...  Because I've been so busy preparing, I haven't yet begun.&nbsp;


...We wait for the gunshot to go off.  

...The quickest way to get inspired is to start creating.   The fastest way to get clear on what you want to say is to start talking.   And the best way to determine where you want to go next is to start moving.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>An Unpopular Sentiment</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>relationships</category><dc:date>2014-02-14T08:43:15-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-unpopular-sentiment.html#unique-entry-id-77</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-unpopular-sentiment.html#unique-entry-id-77</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I've always loved VDay because I honestly can't think of anything more worth celebrating than the expression of love. 


...In a way, I feel that this holiday reveals my tribe to me... it poses the deciding question: 


...Cynics will see the downside of this day... all the lonely hearts, commercialism, and false sentimentality.   But I am an artist and lover to my very core... to me, seeing the opportunity and beauty in this day is a matter of perspective. 


...Instead, why not let this be a day to more boldly express the gratitude in your heart to ALL the people that you care for. ...  Your willingness to show up for them reflects a willingness to show up for YOU.


VDay can be about so much more than partnership and ooey gooey sentiments... it's an opportunity to practice more genuinely opening your heart to life itself. 


...I  you and this day, and there's no talking me out of it. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>The Edge of an Open Heart</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>sovereignty</category><dc:date>2014-02-10T09:23:35-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the-edge-of-an-open-heart.html#unique-entry-id-76</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the-edge-of-an-open-heart.html#unique-entry-id-76</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[More and more I catch myself when I'm attempting to morph my values and expectations to mesh with those who I'm innately out of sync with. 

...It's particularly easy to compromise your edges for someone whom you meshed perfectly with at one time, but with whom your needs no longer align. ...  Honoring lack of alignment doesn't add up to failure; at times it's an honest discernment that saves everyone energy in the end. 

...Many people will come in and out of your life in order to help you define where to place the edges around your heart.   Yet the way in which you choose to hold yourself is deeply personal, and it's ultimately up to you.&nbsp;


...Say you interact with someone who is interested in openly engaging your heart and/or physical space... and that someone holds edges that are naturally a bit more porous than your own; you may feel yourself withdrawal or recoil from them. 

...Dominion is unique to the individual; thus, it is essential that you are communicating your values and preferences to the people closest to you every step of the way. 

...Often the so-called "high road" is the one that plucks you out of the drama and puts you face to face the most difficult truth.&nbsp;]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Illness&#x2c; elasticity&#x2c; &#x26; why I just fired myself.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2014-01-09T12:52:40-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/illness-elasticity-why-i-fired-myself.html#unique-entry-id-75</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/illness-elasticity-why-i-fired-myself.html#unique-entry-id-75</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I can hardly imagine how much this rings true with those of you who have been up against debilitating, chronic, or life threatening ailments. 

...I've been sick on and off for six weeks now, the last of which was brutally unyielding, and I gotta tell you... only what truly matters shows up when you're lying face down in your couch cushions, oozing muck out of your every orifice. ...  My&nbsp;body puts me face to face with myself and wakes me the eff up like no therapist, religion, or vision quest could ever do. 

...For years now I've been willing to break my back in order to deliver to others (both personally and professionally).   As a teacher and writer, I've taken so many inspired creations and attached deadlines to them... lacing something that could be truly great with the exhaustive and counterproductive energy of anxiety. ...  I'm seeing now that I've been a real bully and a hard-ass, two qualities I find quite off-putting when working for others. 

...What lines are you holding yourself to that you could &nbsp;s t r e t c h &nbsp;in order to better suit your sensibilities?    Who do you have to communicate with in order to request the spaciousness (or boundaries) that you desire?  ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Christmas Confession</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-12-25T14:00:29-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/christmas-confession.html#unique-entry-id-74</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/christmas-confession.html#unique-entry-id-74</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[In fact, every year I chastise myself for not being so great at "doing the holidays" (having a house decorated to the nines, gifts wrapped, thoughtful cards mailed to all).   I'm simply not timely when it comes to festive demonstrations of love... and premeditated holiday prep just ain't my thing.   This year I'm doing as best I can to release the shame and should'ing around it all for good. 


Thus, I'd like to advocate on behalf of those of us who just don't "do" the holiday... may we lean into the BEing-ness of the season. 

...Be totally and fully present to the people that you love... it IS truly the most beautifully sacred gift you can offer.   Be generously lavish and wisely discerning with this gift of your time and energy (and that of those around you!), for it is more precious than anything money can buy. 


I love you in spite of all the gifts you forgot to buy.


...I'm off to deliver my PRESENCE as best I can now... just felt compelled to share this gentle reminder (one I so desperately desired to share with those who might need it too). 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Watershed Moment</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2013-12-12T20:31:36-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/watershed-moment.html#unique-entry-id-73</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/watershed-moment.html#unique-entry-id-73</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Tonight I sit with a heavy heart, reading and reflecting upon the final email exchange that he and I had before his passing in the spring 2010... one in which he encouraged me around my ever-changing passions. 

...Thus at this dark hour of the night in the shadow of his passing, I feel a familiar tug in my gut... urging me to express, promising the relief that awaits just on the other side of baring it all. &nbsp;


...It seems my path (and how I naturally reflect for those around me) has everything to do with honoring continual adjustments in life; allowing each external change of course to result in greater self-calibration. 

...It's been somewhat of a buzz kill (not&nbsp;because I have any issue with the making of money)... for me packaging sucks because selling my most heartfelt labors of love and tying my creative expression to "a promise" diminishes potential for the real return. ...  It truly pains me that only a handful of people will benefit from all that I pour into the next three months. 

...Creating programs (and even sharing with you all here) is more or less an excuse to write, an avenue for my greatest passion. 

...I feel blessed that so many people seem to find value in my musings... and I plan to allow my faith in my writer self (and in the bigger picture) to propel future creations. 

...And I'm immediately adjusting the&nbsp;upcoming program to honor this shift... clearing away the coach-speak, technological fluff, and getting down to the REAL business of modeling expression. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Zoom Out to Tune In</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>tribenectar</category><dc:date>2013-12-05T10:24:34-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/zoom-out-to-tune-in.html#unique-entry-id-72</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/zoom-out-to-tune-in.html#unique-entry-id-72</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Because we are rarely upset about what-is-happening around us; it's more often than not about what-is-stirring at greater depths. 

...I mean November has been an up-leveling of grand proportions. 16 days ago I moved in with my beloved... a huge move for a single woman of 38.   My independence has defined me for so long, it's an adjustment to allow the risk and the vulnerability of partnership, weaving my life together with another.&nbsp;


...Daily I vacillate between exhilaration and anxiety (btw, the only difference between the two is all in whether or not I choose to BREATHE). ...  that's what I mean to say!... come face-to-face with doubt: oh holy shit, can I really pull this off?!...&nbsp;and mostly do my best to occupy the space in between.


...The ability to ZOOM OUT while while deeply triggered was a gift... it enabled me to know what I am really up against internally. 

...Does the idea of actually feeling the weight of it all make you want to curl up or lash out? 

...It was this basic process that enabled me to move from meltdown:&nbsp;I can't do this! ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>An Exercise in Gratitude</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-love</category><dc:date>2013-11-28T09:43:43-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-exercise-in-gratitude.html#unique-entry-id-71</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/an-exercise-in-gratitude.html#unique-entry-id-71</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I've been a bit tortured by my ambitious spirit over the past few days.   Feeling loads of anxiety around not doing enough of this or that... navigating insecurity around how in the hell to show up. 

...Today I'd like to express gratitude for the *unique imprint* that you make on the world by just being *you*.   I'm not talking about the things you do or have because you try, work hard, learned how, made it happen... but the things you simply can't help but offer.   Your way of being that takes little-to-no effort. 


...Please take a moment and feel gratitude for the grace of being just as you are. 

...Self acceptance is the quickest way to open your heart... and spread love all around. 


Do your inner work, first... then go love somebody real good.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Truth vs. Tantruming</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>tribenectar</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2013-11-27T08:13:15-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/truth-vs-tantruming.html#unique-entry-id-70</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/truth-vs-tantruming.html#unique-entry-id-70</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Deeply compassionate souls aren't really all that&nbsp;interested in contributing to and/or&nbsp;wading through all that muck... so they suck it up and keeping their truth tucked safely inside.


...While I believe&nbsp;there is certainly&nbsp;something to that notion, more often than not&nbsp;this is&nbsp;used&nbsp;as a convenient excuse following ineffectual delivery.&nbsp;


What if we were to take more&nbsp;responsibility for how our expression is being received by the world?... for the results that we are getting? 

...Nevertheless how the world repeatedly responds to us has more to do with what we are&nbsp;bringing than we are often&nbsp;willing to take ownership of.&nbsp;


...Our best intentions to own and&nbsp;express our vulnerability miss the mark because most of us don't have healthy models of how to do this. 

...It means&nbsp;owning protections and&nbsp;projections more fully... speaking directly about what it is you&nbsp;are most&nbsp;afraid to own.&nbsp;


Save yourself the struggle and get to the heart of what it is you want to express to those you love.   Let go of the storyline (ever-open to interpretation), stop pointing fingers (defense kills connection, ownership feeds it), and speak to the inarguable truths deep within (your own&nbsp;feelings, needs, and desires).
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Nectar 101</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>tribenectar</category><dc:date>2013-11-12T09:56:03-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/nectar-101.html#unique-entry-id-69</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/nectar-101.html#unique-entry-id-69</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Nectar&nbsp;is what call the distilled, refined essence of what it is you most want to express in life.   It is what's being overlooked when you seek to offer your most genuine self, but the impact just isn&rsquo;t there.


...It's how you squeeze every ounce of juice from life that you can... guiding so much more than your words, your deepest true ultimately determines how you show up in life.


...Your ability (or inability) to consciously tap into your deepest true is what determines how well you are received and what you get back from the people and circumstances in your life. 


When you discover how to tap into your nectar and habitually distill expression to its core essence, when you deliver truth and make choices from that place, it saves you valuable time and energy. 

...TribeNectar and The Spill Your Truth curriculum is about clear communication; yet it is really about so much more than that. 

...I can urge you to stand up for something vs. fighting against what-is... but that won't untangle you from the drama's seduction.&nbsp;


Guiding you toward your most vulnerable truth and demonstrating how to tap into that and express yourself more authentically from that place... this is a tangible freedom that has the power to change your life.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Aloha... Soaking Up Mama Kauai</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>travel</category><category>tribenectar</category><dc:date>2013-11-06T09:59:56-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/aloha-soaking-up-mama-kauai.html#unique-entry-id-68</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/aloha-soaking-up-mama-kauai.html#unique-entry-id-68</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[One of my dearest friends is hosting a transformational seven-day retreat, and I feel blessed to be a part of it.&nbsp;...  It's so powerfully nurturing to be surrounded by other like-hearted souls who are likewise possibility-oriented... all willingly reach past what-is into what-may-be, actively keeping our hearts open to life at every turn.


It's extraordinary to stand tall and hold eye contact with the beautiful-ugly truth... through practice, developing the confidence to have an unflinching dialogue with the raw spaces inside. ...  Given the right tools, we can up-level our lives&nbsp;without&nbsp;all the drama... putting our empathic gifts to work&nbsp;within&nbsp;enables us to evolve without terrorizing ourselves or the people around us.


My vision in the creation of&nbsp;TribeNectar&nbsp;is to offer women from all over the world access to the richness of what I am experiencing here, everyday.   It's essential to practice showing up for one another at our best, while being willing to own our worst... together learning that it's safe and essential to expose what's true.&nbsp;  While I prescribe to the merits of&nbsp;privacy,&nbsp;I feel we often take things too far, over-isolating ourselves from life's most natural medicine... vulnerability through conscious self-exposure.&nbsp;


...It's a 99-day experience that will transform the way you express yourself in every arena of your life.&nbsp;]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Being Seen. What Does It Mean?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>impact</category><category>significance</category><dc:date>2013-10-15T10:50:39-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/being-seen.html#unique-entry-id-67</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/being-seen.html#unique-entry-id-67</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[In the past couple of years, I have spent time and money up-leveling my entrepreneurial skill set... and it's led to huge leaps in my business and in my life. 

...Some part of me was buying heavily into this notion of needing to be an authority in my given field, while my inner artist wants to bare my soul only when I feel authentically-called.&nbsp;


...Now this was a watershed moment for me... because suddenly it dawned on me that I wasn't ashamed of the need to be seen itself, I was held hostage by the way in which I was conceptualizing it.&nbsp;


...When I listen with my heart and respond from my gut, only to then see a light that was once hidden ignite in a client's eyes.   When the music tells my body what to do, and I offer its echoes directly to someone who falls in love with her luscious hips for the first time.   When I risk and share the truth of my experience, and it's relevant to someone in the moment they need it most. 

...Perhaps being seen is different for each one of us, and whether or not an audience is required depends up your unique way of touching the world and/or what it is you're after. ...  I'd like to offer that how deeply you connect with and influence the people in your immediate world is far more satisfying than how many friends/followers you have in a virtual one.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>What are you fighting for?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>drama</category><category>power</category><dc:date>2013-09-26T10:34:35-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/what-are-you-fighting-for.html#unique-entry-id-66</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/what-are-you-fighting-for.html#unique-entry-id-66</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[If some part of your life rivals a daytime mini-drama - or even if it's got you bored to tears -&nbsp;you've gotta be willing to look at that.   Now I divorced my new-age alter ego a few years back, so I'm not at all implying that every challenge you face is entirely your doing... that you called it all in, blah dee blah herein-lies-the-keys-to-the-universe. ...  I've found that life is more than anything else an untamed occurrence, and that it's why's are perhaps the most beautiful ugly mystery around. 

...Being a coach and teacher for the past decade has blessed me with literally thousands of mirrors, and I have come to see (in myself and others) that our suffering is tied to our attachment to our storylines... our fighting against what-is... our need to defend our brokenness... our opposition to change... the oh-so-compelling dramas of life... all these keep us steeped in recurrent cycles of pain.&nbsp;


...It's what keeps you from flexing your power in a way that will break the mold, set you free, and line you up with more joy than you've ever known. 

...Although more often our idea of surrender looks more like settling.... and settling in life can be the biggest drama there is. 

...When you love you enough to stand for what you want (instead of fighting against what you have)... happiness is truly discovered through the journey.&nbsp;


...If however, you are intrigued by this idea, please consider putting down your weapons of resentment, stop fighting the eternal what-is... and become an advocate for the life you want. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Yesterday&#x27;s Rant. Inside My Crazy.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>shadow</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2013-09-11T12:02:39-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/yesterdays-rant.html#unique-entry-id-65</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/yesterdays-rant.html#unique-entry-id-65</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I start working on a new project, only to half-ass it... my mojo drains so fast I hardly have time to push the save button. 

...A couple of days ago, I made a commitment... it's a reach in a very positive direction, AND it is one that I'm crazy anxious about pulling off. 

...Can I really create a life that doesn't require me to work nonstop in order to live it as I see fit? 

...And oh holy hell, here it comes... the white wash of shame descends upon me, providing me with a detailed catalog of my faults, past mistakes, and deluded notions. 

...What if expression doesn't need be pretty (or figured-out) in order to have value?  

...Negativity can be a total mind-fuck OR it can show me what keeps me from my desires. ...  I accept my crazy notions, and strive to build a live where they no longer have room to roam.&nbsp;


Here's hoping that yesterday's emotional shit-storm (and the inevitable de-construction of an outdated-me) isn't for naught... it's a story worth sharing.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>3 Fears That Keep Us Stuck</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>fear</category><category>movement</category><dc:date>2013-08-30T13:16:26-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/3-fears-that-keep-us-stuck.html#unique-entry-id-64</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/3-fears-that-keep-us-stuck.html#unique-entry-id-64</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Over the years, my work has shown me that there are three questions that can quickly reveal how to get a life moving again.&nbsp;


...It could be a role you've been playing, a relationship, a job, or simply a state of mind that no longer serves your greatest good. 

...Letting go of something good because of a genuine call toward something great&nbsp;is no step backwards, even if you can't yet see where you are going.


...While you may not be clear as to how this expression will come to be, some part of you yearns to feel your uniqueness manifested in form.   Expression can show up in a conversation, artistic creation, vocation, relational role, or simply in expressing your innate freedom to do none of these things.&nbsp;


...That dull nameless ache in your gut that keeps you from appreciating all the blessings you see around you?... it's pointing you toward something. 

...Perhaps you are operating under the assumption that your dreams are out of reach to you because of the way you've always seen it done.   There is no guidebook for what it is that you want to express, for it's never been done before. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Trust. It&#x27;s An Inside Job.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>trust</category><category>relationships</category><category>self-reliance</category><dc:date>2013-08-15T12:08:01-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/trust-its-an-inside-job.html#unique-entry-id-63</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/trust-its-an-inside-job.html#unique-entry-id-63</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[One might even go so far as to say that, in trusting someone, we rely on them to navigate life in a way that promises not to unsettle us. 

...Some say I'll trust you if you&nbsp;never lie, others consider trust a reward for the overriding of sexual urges...&nbsp;others allow greater freedom as long as they experience&nbsp;loyalty and someone who stays when the going gets rough. 

...Little by little, trust is compromised, not solely because of the cold hard facts of life's many influxes, but also due to the ways our wounds lash out upon hearing the beautiful-ugly truth we were so sure we could handle. 

...Please don't get me wrong, I'm not at all saying we shouldn't hold people accountable for their emotional indiscretions or misrepresentations of fact.   I'm just inviting you to take a closer look... strongly advocating that someone be trustworthy might also just be another way that you defer to others, escaping the real work of facing your vulnerability and owning it as power.&nbsp;


...Because no matter how much we line up with others, we are always and will evermore be sovereign creatures with unique desires and ways of moving in the world. 

...And this is true however it goes down: through overt deception - conscious misrepresentations or lies of omission... and/or via a change of heart - what happens when the soul is called to alter its course and loved ones experience the fallout. 

...We can hope for and call upon the very best in people, yet we are ALL equipped with a shadow capable of unleashing hell, especially upon those who love us most.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>birthday suit</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>poetry</category><dc:date>2013-08-06T23:41:07-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/birthday-suit.html#unique-entry-id-62</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/birthday-suit.html#unique-entry-id-62</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[much like I did to this world


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]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Sharing. How Much Is Too Much?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>transparency</category><dc:date>2013-07-30T10:39:37-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/how-much-is-too-much.html#unique-entry-id-61</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/how-much-is-too-much.html#unique-entry-id-61</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[If cultivating a willingness for shameless self-disclosure is a bit nutty... it's nutty in the same way as skydiving, painting a 20-foot canvas, or traveling to every country on the globe.   Unfiltered expression for the sake of itself may indeed be my artistic madness; commit me if you must, just make sure I have a pen and paper.&nbsp;


...When any of us openly express ourselves and our unique take on the world, we indirectly advocate for the silent among our tribe.   I have come to believe that taking&nbsp;ownership over your own unique brand of crazy is how you can most effectively touch lives and affect change.&nbsp;


Yes, you may feel vulnerable and sometimes pained when critics cock their heads, perplexed by the way you walk (and talk) in the world.   But it's way worth it when you discover that your exposed truth had the power to make another person feel less alien.&nbsp;

...It is then you must ask: Does the path to their understanding require that I shrink or alter my truth in any way? 

...In fact, far too much expressive energy is wasted trying to convince others... when in reality, the need beneath the need is to simply be seen and honored in a viewpoint.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>This Is IT&#x21;... or is it?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>purpose</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2013-07-24T08:15:35-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/this-is-it.html#unique-entry-id-60</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/this-is-it.html#unique-entry-id-60</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[A few days ago, I spoke with a client who expressed growing concern that she hasn't yet discovered her purpose (aka: the one thing&nbsp;she is meant to create and share with the world).&nbsp;


She is hardly alone in this torturous search; many hold fast to the idea that we are destined for one vocation and/or creative outlet that will sustain us for a lifetime.


...moments; and each time, I would quite-naturally pour my everything into becoming masterful in the one thing&nbsp;I was sure I'd always love doing.   Now as you know, loving something and being good at it are two different things - initially I'd kinda suck at my newfound passion... yet with devoted time and practice I'd develop a signature style of my own, a confidence, an ease.


...I figured I had some serious issues with commitment - that I was just a fickle poser who couldn't get her shit together enough to just stick to one thing.&nbsp;


...In fact, your purpose may just simply be to become&nbsp;more you... more genuinely {{firstname}}-like, if you will....&nbsp;versus some vocational persona you hang your hat on until you earn your last buck.


...Maybe it's not that you're indecisive or unsure... perhaps your purpose is meant to evolve as you do... through an evolution that is only loosely tied to your day job, if at all.&nbsp;


...Try this on: If you were granted the power to embody and feel something strongly enough that it would magically re-shape the entire world in an instant (all without being able to&nbsp;do&nbsp;a thing) what would you choose to put out there? ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Express to Get Clear</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>clarity</category><category>self-expression</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-07-19T08:49:55-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/express-to-get-clear.html#unique-entry-id-59</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/express-to-get-clear.html#unique-entry-id-59</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Earlier this week, I had a session with a gifted client who is yearning to more boldly liberate her voice in both her business and personal life.   She admitted that she doesn't feel free to fully express herself to others when her message isn't quite clear or figured-out-enough.&nbsp;


...It's not about withholding expression until you find the answers... in fact, it's just the opposite.&nbsp;


When we feel stuck - in need of motivation, clarity, or direction - that is precisely when showing up is most essential.   In the same way that ritualized&nbsp;movement naturally realigns the body and restores wellness... ritualized&nbsp;expression naturally realigns us with our voice, revealing clarity.&nbsp;


...Expressing what's most-real in the moment (even if it's a muddled admission of sheer confusion) will many times serve your path to clarity far more than hiding out and/or presenting the false pretense of having it all figured out.


If you want to offer an idea or sentiment (be it to a loved one, coworker, or prospective buyer), you'll be far more heard... and far more credible in the long term... if you tell the whole truth vs. a version of the story that gives them only what you think they want in the now.&nbsp;


Enduring relationships of any kind require the strength to speak to the truth of the moment, especially when vulnerability and insecurity is up. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Unfinished Business</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>fear</category><category>self-expression</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-07-10T13:13:55-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/unfinished-business.html#unique-entry-id-58</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/unfinished-business.html#unique-entry-id-58</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Yet past attempts to author a distinction all my own felt pretentious and/or always ended up sounding like some sort of new-age mumbo jumbo - and that ain't me either.&nbsp;


...I don't have all the answers or the right moves, I have only my experiences and an innate ability to hear, see, and reflect light... even in the darkest spaces.


...Thus, the PHP course is more than anything else a collection of reflections on my own path of self-revelation... along with shortcuts and detours that have helped others avoid making the same mistakes that I have.&nbsp;


...Yet, for most of us, it is scary as hell to do. ...  Because what is most real has the most power to activate us and the people around us - for better or for worse.&nbsp;


...I see things and stir them up with my words, it's a reality I've been avoiding for most of my life.   And so, even today, I find myself breathing through the anxiety of being so seen... coupled with an insatiable call to write that's been with me every day as far back as I can remember.


With ANY expression comes the inevitability of mixed reviews, not to mention the fact that a new and more crystal-clear insight is always just around the bend to challenge all we've ever said before.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Shadow Sister</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>poetry</category><category>personal power</category><category>shadow</category><dc:date>2013-07-07T20:19:57-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/shadow-sister.html#unique-entry-id-57</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/shadow-sister.html#unique-entry-id-57</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[she's a righteous nag who wags her finger at your wild truth


...you (with)hold it in


...secrecy&nbsp;smothers the breath out of life


...a revolutionary cast behind the bars of pretense


what if you could 


...could be held in a share of her story?


...the very wounds that hold us hostage


...you don&rsquo;t have to squeeze yourself into a life
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Making Sense of The Dark</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>shadow</category><category>change</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-07-01T09:48:12-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/making-sense-of-the-dark.html#unique-entry-id-56</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/making-sense-of-the-dark.html#unique-entry-id-56</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Mostly I've learned that if I want to be happy in life,&nbsp;I've gotta summon the power to ride the waves rather than resent them. 

...I've given my power over to bullies, bosses, gurus, and convincing critics, drowning&nbsp;out my own voice to avoid disapproving tones or the spotlight of my discontent.&nbsp;

...I've learned not to make assumptions about what motivates others and that jealousy is just a way we keep ourselves small.&nbsp;

...I live a mostly untethered life, which means that I disappoint people from time to time - taking a&nbsp;road less traveled for the sake of a larger sanity.   I know what it feels like to be judged for not conforming&hellip; to be labeled na&iuml;ve and immature for believing that we each have a right to live our lives without compromising our unique preferences. 

...I know what it&rsquo;s like to sacrifice stability for the sake of integrity&hellip; to not know where the rent is coming from&hellip; to ache in wonder of what's next?...&nbsp;or...&nbsp;how in the hell am I gonna pull this off? 

...Fear and I have wrestled as frenemies for years; yet, I've recently come to love her for how her shamanic sourcery summons my courage to surface when I am willing to push back.&nbsp;


I am most at home in the gray areas of life&hellip; where one person&rsquo;s savior is another&rsquo;s worst enemy&hellip; when the wrong thing is the right thing at the time&hellip; and where the person who does the guiding is the one most needing to take a humble detour along the way.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Seek Alliance vs. Answers</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>sovereignty</category><category>programs</category><category>alliance</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-06-25T11:52:01-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/alliance-versus-answers.html#unique-entry-id-55</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/alliance-versus-answers.html#unique-entry-id-55</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Being an advocate for others more often means that you are willing to continually ask the right questions.


...An advocate and ally is the best you can hope for - someone willing to walk alongside you, reflecting back what you already know.   Better yet if they have walked a day or more in your shoes... that much more do they have to offer as a mirror along your path.&nbsp;


...I reach out to you as a demonstration of how unfiltered expression can free us from self-made confines that disconnect us from one another.


...Besides, nestled within the sting of so-called rejection is a call to look within for validation and comfort. 

...I am a mirror for passionate, creative women who feel stuck or are settling for less than their hearts' desire. ...  That's why I'm relaunching my online course&nbsp;(which may as well be called: How I Found My Power & Learned to Love Life 101). 

...I won't give you the answers... but I can turn the light on in a room you forgot even existed.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Death &#x26; Detox</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>self-love</category><category>personal power</category><category>health</category><category>integrity</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-06-19T12:34:38-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/deathanddetox.html#unique-entry-id-54</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/deathanddetox.html#unique-entry-id-54</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[The first 3 days were a real bitch, but I've been astounded since then by how easy it has been to override cravings that seem to pass through me like lightning if I give them very little space in my mind. 

...I woke to a message from my mom sobbing; no matter how old I get the sound of my mom crying tears me to pieces.   I won't go into the countless layers of emotion surrounding his death for me, but suffice to say it's complex... since then it's been roughly 24 hours of on/off self-torturous inner dialogue.


As it typically is with emotional surges, deep cravings rose to meet them on cue - techniques of self-soothing I have used most of my life to medicate through emotional pain. 

...I'm not at all interested in being some sort of nutritional martyr - self-righteous denial has nothing to do with my choices here.


I won't give into my cravings because I made a promise to myself... 30 days, no matter what.   Every single day that I wake up in integrity with any vow I make to me I gain - not just greater health (that's just the icing) - I gain confidence that I have the power to design my life as I see it.   Not to mention I gain access to yet another beautiful-ugly blessing; this time I deal with my emotions by looking at them versus drowning them in denial. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Less Is More</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><category>sovereignty</category><dc:date>2013-06-16T13:16:40-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/lessismore.html#unique-entry-id-53</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/lessismore.html#unique-entry-id-53</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[If your inbox is anything like mine, it's overflowing with more than your life can rightly hold.   I recently unsubscribed from nearly a dozen lists, simply because I couldn't take it all in.   But you know who I couldn't let go of?... those rare bloggers who pack value into 3-5 sentences. ...  Zero fluff, he gets to the point right away, and I'm able to fully absorb his juice with little more than a blink and a scroll.&nbsp;


From here on out I will write to you with the thoughtful-yet-reckless abandon that I speak in.   Too many years as a copy editor have kept my fearless-writer-vixen pacing in her cage.   I now aim to write with the flow-etic intensity that I bring to dance... 

...Yes, you'll be hearing from me more often; however, I promise to be concise and pointed... ripping the bandaid off quick... sharing coaching ah-hah's along with my own personal ugh's... &nbsp;spilling my beautiful ugly out to you in order to be wholeheartedly me... and hopefully, inspiring you to do the same.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Love Thyself</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>self-love</category><category>humility</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-02-14T09:52:37-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/love-thyself.html#unique-entry-id-51</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/love-thyself.html#unique-entry-id-51</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Secretly, you may be terrified that others might somehow learn how needy you actually are, so you put on a good face... you give rather than take... you fight to win favor through your smile and the &lsquo;incessant yes&rsquo;, pretending it doesn&rsquo;t piss you off when you overlook your desires yet again. ...  When you repeatedly leave yourself behind, drama eventually knocks at your door to remind you where you are... shivering apart from others out in the cold. 

...You defend your limitations, trumpeting your so-called truth - why you can&rsquo;t leave that job... take that trip... work on that project... or be free of that pain. 

...In fact, in this age of diagnosis we are all clinically ape-shit crazy with fear half the time, yet you assume that everyone else couldn&rsquo;t possibly be as screwed in the head as you are. ...  You deny what is real... and you devour anything that might negate your discontent, reaching for food, lovers, or accolades to support identification with your shadowy dysfunctions.   On the surface, you present a facade of togetherness... working hard at denial, taking a *spiritual bypass around that which you&rsquo;d rather not face in order to feel you&rsquo;re making a credible effort. 


...You stand before the mirror, obsessively comparing yourself to airbrushed personas, crying out in frustration at your failed attempts at such-and-such. 


...You can develop new habits and ways of being that will change your life forever... giving you more power than you could ever imagine. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>A (Tough) Love Letter</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>self-love</category><category>shadow</category><category>humility</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2013-02-13T20:14:40-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/tough-love-letter.html#unique-entry-id-50</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/tough-love-letter.html#unique-entry-id-50</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I welcome the raw and rowdy shit-storm that would erupt were you to explode your ugliest truth, the angry pent-up power buried beneath the story.   I dare you to show me YOU in all your dancing naked singing karaoke at the top of your lungs no holds barred glory. 

...For regardless of your orientation in body and heart, when you come out, you eventually fall in love with who you were meant to be in this world. 

...Take an emotional romp in an unmade bed, touching upon your heart&rsquo;s forbidden places so that you might cry out in the ecstasy of releasing fully to what is real. ...  May your self-seduction stir you into silent contemplation of the beauty and the beast within - the universal ugly that you share with each one of us. 

...It is our self-abandonment and presumption that we can offer ourselves unconditionally and fully to another that gets us into trouble. ...  And spiritual bybass is a convenient excuse to avoid being vulnerable; it&rsquo;s time we call ourselves on that shit. 


...If so, I think we have a chance to change this crazy world where secret selves cry out by inflicting pain on one another. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Bless This Mess - Humility&#x27;s Gift</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>shadow</category><category>self-expression</category><category>humility</category><category>vulnerability</category><category>sovereignty</category><category>moxie</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-12-28T14:38:25-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bless-this-mess.html#unique-entry-id-49</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bless-this-mess.html#unique-entry-id-49</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I have since learned that in order to lift the veils of protection, you have to be willing to take a hit from time to time. 

...Tremendous growth can also happen when we are vulnerable enough to reveal something of ourselves that hasn&rsquo;t yet seen the light of day; and sometimes that shadow truth shows up as a white hot mess. 

...Accountability as an internal process contains within it the opportunity for needs to be revealed and a more honest expression of self to emerge... 

...When life knocks me on my ass, I may bitch and moan for a time... but I no longer stew in it for long because humility reminds me that pain has its purpose. ...  Focusing on how to take the reach being offered is a far more worthwhile pursuit, as the mystery of growth reveals itself to us sooner when we are less resistant. 


...Join me as we dance this dance together... allow your pain points to show you how to navigate the world around you more consciously while healing your tender heart.   Be humble to your own evolution, however bumpy the ride, and open to a larger vantage point beyond what you can see. 

...If in doing so, you still make a mess of things, lean into the knowing that every dark explosion contains within it the potential for rebirth. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Power through Reach - what are you waiting for?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>change</category><category>indecision</category><category>surrender</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-10-08T11:00:00-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/power-thru-reach.html#unique-entry-id-47</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/power-thru-reach.html#unique-entry-id-47</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[When you continually want something and you refuse to rise and claim it, you&rsquo;re not waiting for anything or anyone. . . hesitation has you in a holding pattern.


...They are dog-tired and perplexed at the way life seems to be delivering blow after blow... they can&rsquo;t seem to put their finger on why &ldquo;x&rdquo; keeps happening to them... they feel like an emotional wreck. 

...The flow of their life is calling them forward... urging them to trust and GO... and yet they hesitate anxiously... anchoring themselves to a reality (or pattern of indecision) that no longer serves them. 


At times, something (or someone) refuses to move with them, and they use it as an excuse to stay put. ...  Most often it&rsquo;s a simple shift of perspective that will set them free and get their life moving again.   Regardless, they cling to the sidelines as life lovingly fights to free them from inertia... flowing forth like a river, faster and faster and faster... at first offering a gentle invitation, but eventually beating them with a force that aches. 


...Boats pass by again and again... vessels offering passage to freedom... yet still, they cling to the rocks in white-knuckled terror... so damned scared to make the wrong move... terrified of getting into the &ldquo;wrong boat.&rdquo; 

...If we don&rsquo;t back down and yield to our own desires, it offers a knockout punch... one that pushes us to yield to the ultimate power - surrender. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Who&#x27;s Your Hero? Why Isn&#x27;t It YOU?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>self-expression</category><category>programs</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-09-20T16:05:14-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/whos-your-hero.html#unique-entry-id-46</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/whos-your-hero.html#unique-entry-id-46</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I prefer my creative containers be unique to my nature, elastic vessels that swell and eventually shatter under the pressure of my new growth.&nbsp;


...We lash out violently at the elements above and around us for relief from a pressure and pain that lies deep beneath the surface.&nbsp;


...You don't have to leave it all behind; you bring with you the fertile compost of experience, designed by nature to ignite your new life.   While it may be shocking to be unearthed from who you think yourself to be, it's beyond worth it once nestled deep within the expanse of new possibilities.   Upon entering new ground, I always have to remind myself to breathe... as feelings of fear and exhilaration naturally surge at the wonder of&nbsp;just how far&nbsp;my roots are now able to stretch. &nbsp;w h o a... &nbsp;

...I have just unleashed a labor of love that is so near and dear to my heart, it causes my pulse to quicken every time I think about it.   This offering is&nbsp;not for everyone... it's designed for the countless women who - like me - have struggled with the expression of their truest voice and most authentic power in the world. 

...This program will give you endless resources and insights to leverage your gorgeous and perfectly-designed imperfections for massive power to DO whatever the hell YOU want with your one precious life.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>That&#x27;s How I Art</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>change</category><category>self-expression</category><category>honesty</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-08-16T13:34:00-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/thats-how-I-art.html#unique-entry-id-42</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/thats-how-I-art.html#unique-entry-id-42</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[But it can also be actively created by getting out of the damned way and simply living for your expression and your cause. 

...But there are some of you out there that seem to love it... so I&rsquo;m taking on more exposure.   If you want to free yourself from the B.S. and dare yourself to live a life on your totally-kickass terms... you might be inspired by some of my recent realizations:


...I&rsquo;d much rather juggle three balls at once... while skipping up a mountain... with a koala bear on my back... singing You Are My Sunshine at the top of our lungs. (yes, the koala beer can sing.... and you get the picture ;). 


...Some are. (mad love to all the ADHD peeps out there... may your restless leg find a drum pedal and/or a wise ally who sees the inherent magic in your medicine).


...In the same way, I don&rsquo;t want to get pretty when I write to you.   I&rsquo;m not interested in perfectly polished blog posts that ooze with flashy promises, because that&rsquo;s not what my work is about. 

...One example of a really simple piece of advice that had me tied up in knots for weeks: &ldquo;create an editorial calendar and stick to it.&rdquo; ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>People Taking Advantage of You? Think Again.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>self-expression</category><category>relationships</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-07-31T11:39:44-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/think-again.html#unique-entry-id-41</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/think-again.html#unique-entry-id-41</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[A female member wearing a body harness and dripping with sweat was moving across the floor like molasses, using her full physical strength to propel herself forward. 

...Of course, there are a number of reasons why we choose to tie ourselves to relationships leave us panting for air (that&rsquo;s another post). 

...While a certain degree of tension is to be expected in our relationships, all too often we are pulling around more than our share of the weight and/or participating in a co-dependent tango with co-workers, friends, partners, and family members. 


...You aren&rsquo;t straining against them... you are actively fighting against yourself and your innate desire to act as an independent entity. ...  While you might be getting stronger, sacrificing your power to a force that opposes the direction you want to go in inevitably breeds resentment.


...I tried to get out of it, but she just wouldn&rsquo;t take no for an answer.


...People can only take advantage of you if you believe that they have more power over your life than you do. 

...As much as I would love to make it to your party, it&rsquo;s just not a good night for me. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Stop Hiding&#x2c; Lil&#x27; Devil</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>shadow</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-07-25T15:40:50-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/stop-hiding.html#unique-entry-id-40</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/stop-hiding.html#unique-entry-id-40</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[You can put a freakin' rainbow on my workbook and tell me to breathe deeper, but it still hasn't stopped me from eating potato chips or snapping at my kids...


...That cheerleading angel perched on your shoulder can sometimes feel like a nag... buzzing around your brain with affirmations and positive psycho-babble. 

...You see that sarcastic&nbsp;lil' devil in that smart suit or red dress cut way too low?.. pouty lips, indifferent stance, eyes rolling? 

...You are buzzing with discomfort because you are not allowing the full expression of what is real for you.&nbsp;

...The more you consciously exorcise your true voice and full power - however undesirable or divergent it may be - the less anxious you will feel. ...  For best results, I suggest deconstructing your lil' devil in order to reveal it's saucy medicine.&nbsp;  That's my favorite part... showing you how your own unique brand of crazy (what you are likely hiding from the world) is just what you are here to share.&nbsp;


...You are WAY too ahead of the game... way too conscious... way to savvy... and way too smart for that shit.&nbsp;
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Doing What You Love (vs. What is Expected)</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>personal power</category><category>right livelihood</category><category>business</category><category>book recommendations</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-07-20T11:25:28-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/doingwhatyoulove.html#unique-entry-id-39</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/doingwhatyoulove.html#unique-entry-id-39</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Of course in the beginning I spent a period of time sorta sucking, then time paying my dues as a copy-cat rookie teacher, a few years honing my voice, and then (eventually) I found a groove that works for exactly who it is I am as a teacher. 

...While my body has made it clear that it is time to move on (reality check and details on that here), that&rsquo;s really a bit of a cop out. 

...And he specifically talks about how easy it is for successful people to get stuck in what he calls the Zone of Excellence. ...  There is literally nothing that jazzes me up more than sitting with a client and seeing new awareness form in her eyes... watching as she accepts the fact that she can have more... witnessing her as she step into her power and makes serious shit happen. 

...I used to gaze intrigued and perplexed at Oscar winners when I they would say things like that: &ldquo;Thank you for allowing me the privilege of doing the work I was born to do.&rdquo; 

...Release my current path of success, and have the courage to invest more in what I really love doing with every ounce of my being. ...  When you are doing the work that you are REALLY meant to do, it is so damned easy, it&rsquo;ll make you giggle til you pee. 

...That&rsquo;s how I feel about creating this newly envisioned business that provides massive value to people who are ready to step in to more power, more grace, and more authenticity than they ever imagined.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Wake Up Call&#x21; Message to my Zumba Peeps</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>health</category><category>movement</category><category>change</category><category>dance</category><category>personal power</category><dc:date>2012-07-18T11:00:59-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/wakeupcall.html#unique-entry-id-37</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/wakeupcall.html#unique-entry-id-37</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[And you can step down from your pedestals mind-body practitioners... even modalities that promise both (ie. yoga, Nia, hoopdance) can be overdone in spades due to our incessant desire to push it to further limits. 

...I know some of you will be disappointed at the changes, but I can promise that the space afforded will expand into into bigger projects that will inspire you on every level. 


...I have received a tremendous amount of love and support in that space, and I am a better woman for having known and danced with you all. 


...Don&rsquo;t get me wrong, ladies... feel free to like what you like, speak your mind when you don&rsquo;t get what you want... but please, let us remember not to alienate ourselves from connection by attaching ourselves to one way of doing something. ...  Please don&rsquo;t miss all that good stuff oozing forth right in front of you by wanting him or her to be someone else. 

...It took a tremendous amount of personal power and courage for me to step up in front of a room full of people who expected me to deliver at the highest standard possible; to stand in and hold a candle to the experts. 

...The point is, if you want to see ANY teacher at her best, flash her your most winning smile... cheer her on and mean it... take charge of your own joy... lift the energy in the room. 

...It is a wonderful feeling to be appreciated by you all... yet my most heartfelt desire (far beyond fame or accolades of any kind) is to inspire you to live and walk fully in your power. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>WTF is GRACE anyway?&#x21;</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>change</category><category>grace</category><category>movement</category><category>persistence</category><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2012-07-12T15:12:19-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/wtfisgrace.html#unique-entry-id-32</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/wtfisgrace.html#unique-entry-id-32</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Four short days before I was to move, I was sipping a latte at Starbucks when I got a call from my new roommate. 

...An inexplicable sense of acceptance rolled over me, and what was that (relief?... ?!), followed by a sense that something was so RIGHT about everything in that f'ed up mess of a moment.


...And just as I was about to give up (mind you, only 20 minutes into this little adventure), I decided to drive to the end of the road. 

...My friend and her roommate felt so bad that they had left me hanging, I had all the man and muscle power that they could call upon. 

...Living there was a pivotal time in my life... things wouldn&rsquo;t have been the same if I had ended up anywhere else. 


...Now I haven&rsquo;t had that much grace in response to every crisis in my life (that&rsquo;s for damned sure!)... but I do know that when I persist without forcing... when I keep driving in life... when I make the calls... when I become available to the impossible... and when I am willing to do my part to make it so, I almost always get what I want.


...Sure... maybe I need to tone it down from time to time (when I become impatient or focus on the wrong things), but when it comes to insisting on a life that I love, persistence works for me. 


...So when the rug is pulled out from under you, curse only for a moment, get your ass up, and get moving. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Indecision. What Do I Do?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>Coaching Q&#x26;As</category><category>movement</category><category>indecision</category><dc:date>2012-06-24T04:59:30-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/indecision.html#unique-entry-id-28</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/indecision.html#unique-entry-id-28</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[There is no perfect answer to serve all occasions, but I can offer you a few tried-and-true strategies that will help you to find your answer every time!


...What matters more that IF it could work is whether or not a course of action lights you up or dims you down. 

...A part of us yearns to do something driven by our passion around a cause... while our mind frantically tries to keep up with us while weighing the pros and cons. 

...Get your bearings first... and then go back to the place where the heart and mind are tossing this choice you are about to make. ...  There can be a fine line between the two, but with practice you will learn to discern between Lionheart Fear (that calls upon courage) and the Inner Sage (that tells us when to hold out for something better). 


If you&rsquo;re still not sure whether or not to trust your gut... then ask your most observant and trusted friend to do a body read for you. ...  Tell them that you want to talk it out, and you just want them to focus SOLELY on your body language, not the content of your argument. 

...I often offer my clients The River Metaphor as a way of understanding how essential it is to keep moving in life (more on that soon). ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>So What? You&#x27;re Scared.</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>Coaching Q&#x26;As</category><category>fear</category><category>action</category><category>movement</category><category>freedom</category><dc:date>2012-06-13T14:24:16-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/sowhatyourescared.html#unique-entry-id-24</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/sowhatyourescared.html#unique-entry-id-24</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I am a compulsive list-maker... and it&rsquo;s seemingly good cause to feel productive when not much of anything is actually going on. 

...Clients that can&rsquo;t keep themselves from crossing their arms and rolling their eyes when I mention the thing they&rsquo;d most love to do with their lives.   Friends who are wickedly skilled in a great variety of things that light them up, putting off the baby steps in exchange for happy hour or a Facebook session. ...  In fact I have found that almost anyone, if you probe long enough, has a latent passion they&rsquo;ve dreamt of stepping into for as long as they can remember.


...But let&rsquo;s be clear, it&rsquo;s not the fear that stops you from doing what your heart yearns for. ...  It&rsquo;s not fear that is the problem, it is what you do in the face of that fear that defines how the moment will unfold....


...Giving vehicle to your authentic desires... acting in the face of fear... this will conjure up more power than you could ever imagine. 


...It is what I was born to do... and therefore, it scares the shit out of me how naked I become when I do it. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Be Judged or Be Ignored</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>personal power</category><category>choice</category><category>breakthrough</category><dc:date>2012-05-23T12:09:25-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bejudgedorignored.html#unique-entry-id-23</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bejudgedorignored.html#unique-entry-id-23</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I know what I am capable of, and it is so much more than I am currently living. 

...That stubborn little voice within taunts me... reminding me of all the many ways in which I am likely to fail (or be judged). ...  It tells me to wait just a little bit longer... wait until I am more equipped, less vulnerable, more developed in this and that. 

...I know it&rsquo;s just Fear rummaging through my closets... dressing up in all my clothes, pretending to know me better than I know myself. 

...I am afraid of being seen for who I am, afraid of being called out as what I am not... and most afraid of being condemned for either.   I am scared of being loved, hated, criticized, or elevated... deified or demonized... laughed at or serenaded... all of it, I am afraid of it all. 

...And that, my friends, is the fear at the heart of it all.   Can I bare it all, be cast fully into the light, and accept the consequences of living out loud? ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Subject: To Change</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>change</category><category>self-expression</category><category>honesty</category><dc:date>2012-04-22T15:42:02-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/subjecttochange.html#unique-entry-id-21</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/subjecttochange.html#unique-entry-id-21</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[When you finally let go, the life you&rsquo;ve outgrown is allowed to drop and shatter at your feet. ...  Some of you have witnessed me for years and it is safe to say, I am not the same woman who wrote to you then, or even a year ago. 

...But when you stop drinking the kool-aid and finally release the bars around your shadow self... the result is a blend of stark sobriety and wild exhilaration bound to shake life up a bit! 

...Capitalize on what is constant about you... and be willing to LET GO of the rest... because you will be asked to let it go at some point. 

...Because, though you may not know it, that&rsquo;s how I really am most of the time. 

...Nearly every instance of discomfort, dis-ease, and disarray in my life has been a function of holding back my natural aptitude for change, movement and self-expression. 

...It doesn&rsquo;t mean that you act/speak without regard to others and consequence... it means that you are honest about who you are and what you bring. 

...You and I are aligned in our expression if you are open to embracing CHANGE as a welcome ally for growth... if you would like to experience true and honest EXPRESSION as an unfiltered affair... and if you look around you and can grow to accept nature&rsquo;s promise: that MOVEMENT is as essential to our hearts and minds as it is to our bodies. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>The 5 Myths of Self-Expression</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2012-02-10T21:21:00-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the5myths.html#unique-entry-id-20</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/the5myths.html#unique-entry-id-20</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Your life is constantly expressing itself, and you are continually demonstrating who you are through your choices in every arena: lifestyle, adornment, relationships, vocation, family life, etc.   Your expression either affirms who you are at your best or who you are at your worst; therefore, you may as well become conscious of your choices. 

...Your personal brand of brilliance may be overtly expressive (through so-called &ldquo;artistic&rdquo; pursuits) or it may be a powerful form of expression through a medium that is cloaked in the mundane (ie: acting as a wife, mother, silent partner, or friend). ...  Case in point: when we become lost in our expression - confusing it for who we are, or using it to win favor - it exhausts us.


...While our experiences and the people in our life are in no way disposal, all situations and/or relationships are mutable and our external realities must shift and grow alongside our interior world. 

...Logic would have us believe that we need to become masterful at a certain something in order to claim it, and only then might it help to define who we are. ...  I have found that the most profound shifts... the most potent successes... have come from people who are willing to take on something NOW that seems completely out of reach. 

...However, it is impossible to measure one life&rsquo;s value over another for the value of any expression is measured in the growth it yields. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Move Toward What Moves You :: Explained</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>movement</category><category>self-expression</category><dc:date>2012-02-10T18:43:00-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/movetowardwhatmovesyou.html#unique-entry-id-17</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/movetowardwhatmovesyou.html#unique-entry-id-17</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Your discomfort and disconnection with what you once felt to be enough is a natural part of your evolution.


...A physical outlet is the body&rsquo;s natural way of literally or metaphorically moving through tensions without need for identification or processing.   Whether you appreciate it or not, you are a living and emotive being that requires some movement in order to release and shed stagnancy. 

...Where exactly, we aren&rsquo;t always certain... but if we just get that one job, that one partner, that one opportunity, everything will fall into place. ...  Because we are wired to desire, and the wanting for more is at the core of our evolution as a species. 

...Too often we substitute addictions for the more profound changes that are being asked of us because we are terrified of this natural compulsion to move forward.   We are wired to desire experiences that bring about an expression of ourselves that is more than we ever thought we could be. ...  We must continually move toward that which brings about sensations of aliveness, exhilaration, and the thrill of new life!
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Omega Redemption :: Expressing Personal Power</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>personal power</category><dc:date>2012-02-11T16:58:58-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/omegaredemption.html#unique-entry-id-14</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/omegaredemption.html#unique-entry-id-14</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[It is a relational expression that results in codependent dynamics resulting in feelings of powerlessness and frustration as we unknowingly (and sometimes knowingly) allow the people in our lives to dictate our own expression.


...While therapy (sourcing the wound) is a process that can prove constructive as a foundation for change (and is essential in order to move forward in some cases) experience has taught me that often even a basic understanding of what is at the root can be enough of a foundation to tackling this growth opportunity. 

...I call this archetype &ldquo;omega&rdquo; because those who wrestle with this pattern are in one or more area of their lives serving as a scapegoat or emotional outlet for a more dominant personality, much like the omega in a wolf pack community. ...  Whether it be a family member, spouse, employer, or best friend, one or more primary intimacy in their life is marked by a distinct dynamic whereby they are consistently forfeiting their power to another. 

...While there are certainly exceptions, it is most times a learned response due to childhood conditioning; therefore, it can show up only every now and then given the right set of circumstances. 

...For example, the mom that allows herself to be passively bullied by her boss day in and day out at work may also be the alpha at home - barking orders at the family in an effort to affirm that her voice has its place in the world. 

...And it seemed that no matter how fed up I got, no matter how many times I walked away (or ran in some cases) from the agent of my suffering, another would be waiting in the wings to lead me back into that space of emotional paralysis. 

...CLAIMING personal power by trusting in the power of your own will, to stand your ground and no longer allow the opinions and emotional assault of others to dictate and define your responses to life. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Embracing Self Love</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>self-love</category><dc:date>2008-02-29T08:50:59-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/embracingselflove.html#unique-entry-id-12</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/embracingselflove.html#unique-entry-id-12</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I have come to notice that, quite often, in coaching sessions I am the messenger administering the medicine to us both via intuition and unexpected verbal elixirs.


...Honor your body as a sacred temple, your mind as fertile ground for divine awareness, and your heart as a blessed antennae steadfast in rhythmic dance with all of life.


...If the light of self-love is dimly lit, you may see yourself as a victim of circumstances. 

...If, however, you have access to the abundance of light inside...if you see yourself as an essential aspect of the light of goodness, suddenly the world around you looks much different.   You will see that each and every response to circumstance is built upon the choice that you make in the moment. 

...Investing in mini-acts of self-love is the greatest gift that you can give to those around you.   Over time you see that your inner light needs to be fed with awareness in order for you to give the best of you to others.   So take that walk in the park in the middle of the day, feed yourself healthy perpectives, and surely it can't hurt to give yourself a hug from time-to-time. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>How To Be a Woman</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>femininity</category><dc:date>2008-05-30T09:50:19-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/beawoman.html#unique-entry-id-11</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/beawoman.html#unique-entry-id-11</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Intuition: the way that life speaks to and through her through Instinct (felt sensation) as a foundation


...And Instinct - spoken through the physical body world - has become a vehicle in which to meet desired ends, rather than a sacred space to embody as the foundation of life.


...Instead she hears what is being said beneath the surface of things, using her body as a fine-tuned instrument of presence and discernment so that she may re-create harmony.


...She feels no need to criticize, gossip, or complain... for she understands all impulses rippling in and around her are mirrors through which to see herself more clearly.  ...  Through self-nurturing, she re-aligns herself with the voice of her instincts (and the environment responds with harmony in accordance with her self-love). 

...Therefore, the Yin Warrior is firmly anchored in the body world so that she may be a conduit for knowledge of another kind.


...When instinct (physical radiance) and intuition (heart radiance) are attended to, a woman is at one with her world. 

...The Yin Warrior knows that the union of Her Most Sacred Heart with the Beloved He comes first. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Respond to the Now&#x2c; Release the How</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>choice</category><dc:date>2008-06-30T10:49:35-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/powerofchoice.html#unique-entry-id-10</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/powerofchoice.html#unique-entry-id-10</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Be it venturing out on a new career path, taking a relationship to the next level, or rising from a season of depression, people come looking for a container of grace in which all facets of a situation can be seen more clearly.


...When teaching exercises in conscious communication, I suggest we flag certain words in order to shift the flow of energy in our minds and hearts.   This creates a reset function in our minds and can be the key ingredient to shift a mental construct for good.


...I invite us to honor the now of our reality, rather than focusing on the how (which is a function of the future, taking us out of the moment).   Sometimes when we feel pressure to make decisions (knowing how), rather than choices (knowing now), we inadvertently disempower ourselves.   We make assumptions about the future and add unnecessary weight to our choices - assuming we know where each will lead us over time. ...  And, most of all, we rob ourselves of the freedom to experience the miracle that is a change of heart.


...Choice is a privledge meant to evolve us towards more responsible expressions of who we are in the world. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>From Breakdown to Breakthrough</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>breakthrough</category><dc:date>2008-12-30T11:49:18-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/breakdown.html#unique-entry-id-9</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/breakdown.html#unique-entry-id-9</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Sometimes a breakdown can be the beginning of a kind of breakthrough, a way of living in advance through a trauma that prepares you for a future of radical transformation.


...Each time, life is leading us to a new emergence (greater light) so that we might experience more brilliance - of insight, of connection, of purpose. 

...The time spent in the midst of breakdown is a time of contraction requiring strength and endurance, and can be especially difficult if the light of breakthrough cannot be readily seen in the distance. ...  We have become dependent on habits that we have outgrown, and we are being forced to take our life to the next level. 


...In essence, we ask the same questions that we did not have words for as we emerged from the womb - where oh where could these contractions be taking us?!


...In this way, we consciously engage with each contraction, willingly and openly breathing through the waves of challenge in the hope of greater insight. 


...In the end - and only you will know when it is time - you must be prepared to engage the yang within...to push your way out.   Contractions get closer together; discomfort forces you into action...and you facilitate your own rebirth by taking courageous steps that align you with the potential you are stepping into.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Forging Alliance with Your Body</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>body image</category><dc:date>2009-01-01T06:48:51-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bodylove.html#unique-entry-id-8</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/bodylove.html#unique-entry-id-8</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[And that perhaps the most painful aspect of the stigma of "fat" in all age groups - what set this stigma apart from other demographics - was that even people of the same size and shape were reportedly prejudiced toward one another. 

...Crandall's initial findings, I can honestly say that I don't know one woman - of any shape or size - who is immune from the terrifying stigma of "fat" on some level. ...  It's the same story in variant forms...25-year old women "feeling fat" while wearing everything from size two to size twenty, 35-45 year old women confused that they are no longer shaped like a teen model, and women 50+ years young who quite literally ban themselves from the pleasure of a bathing suit for life due to the pain of body-loathing. 

...Now as I step into another transformative season of life, I peel back the layers on more negative beliefs and self-judgments as my body is changing. 

...Yet I have discovered time and time again that intentions driven by the desperation of body-loathing are not a healthy prescription for change. 

...In 2009, like the women pictured above, let's create an alliance to accept one another in the ways in which we would like to be accepted. ...  Let's stop turning our back on one another and let's find fitness, pleasure, and self-acceptance somewhere other than in our reflections and dress sizes.


...	&bull; I will do my best to accept and find beauty in my body, as it is - giving myself at least one physical complement per day. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>You Were Meant to Feel Good</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>happiness</category><dc:date>2009-03-01T06:48:18-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/feelinggood.html#unique-entry-id-7</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/feelinggood.html#unique-entry-id-7</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I so enjoyed being on the receiving end of a message that clarifies with such simplicity the essence of that which I share in every SHiNE offering. 

...Dis-empowerment is self-inflicted as we stray from our path in order to become what we perceive is expected of us or become stuck in being who we once were. 

...Let us all be reminded that the need to please others - and/or to fit into a way of being that is contrary to the essence of who we are - leads to suffering. ...  It is nature's way of saying: Deny who it is you have become and I will remind you to make a shift. ...  It is always reminding us...in order to feel good, you must be true to the essence of who you really are - and who you are continually becoming. 

...Our inner guidance is providing us with feedback - in this case, negative emotion - that let's us know we are out of alignment with direction in which we are evolving. 

...Relief can come from shifting your attention from a topic that "brings you down" to a topic that is neutral and/or of a higher frequency for you.   At other times, it is a matter of re-framing your experience so that you see the gift - the opportunity to develop into more of who you have become - through each and every choice you make. 
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Feeling Stuck?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>transitions</category><dc:date>2009-05-01T07:47:57-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/feelingstuck.html#unique-entry-id-6</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/feelingstuck.html#unique-entry-id-6</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us... the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.


...As a depth coach, my job is to poke around in the dark to help realign you with the light source beckoning to you from within - reflecting itself through your life experience. 


...Yet, when you turn away from potential - often towards the directional light of what you think others might want of you - you feel lost and disconnected from joy. ...  It lets you know that you have developed into the new you, and that now is a time to shift your vantage point and direction. 


...When you are in alignment with your soul - your values, passions, purpose, who you are becoming - you know it by how good you feel. 

...In the end, living authentically is never about rebellion - fighting against what others think of you only strengthens your fixation on them as your gauge.&nbsp;  Nor is authentic living about isolation - to live in alignment with who you are does not require abandoning the desires of (and your commitment to) those you love. 

...As a final thought: when you are feeling powerless, it is important to note that your soul light only gets stronger and stronger in your search for it. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Inspired Action</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2009-07-01T08:47:31-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/inspiredaction.html#unique-entry-id-5</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/inspiredaction.html#unique-entry-id-5</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[Rather than approaching the situation with immediate action, I find it to be far more efficient to focus on clarifying desires.   When we do this, we address the feeling space directly, and then let the to-do list emerge from the space of inspiration. 

...For the most part, I tend to follow my bliss where it takes me - which means shedding old skin (ie. labels and livelihoods) often. ...  When that statement no longer applies - and I have learned this the hard way - it is time to make a change. ...  Thus, in response to what should I do?, the primary and immediate action that is required is to stop doing that which I feel I am no longer a match with.


...When you are feeding life with what sends your heart soaring, it rewards you with life force energy and opportunity beyond measure!


...When you are reaching for something in your life, action is futile without right alignment. ...  Yet, the cliff-diving leaps of creation become easier over time as you learn that what moves you to jump has the power to send you soaring.
]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Desire: Friend or Foe?</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2009-11-01T09:47:08-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/desirefriendorfoe.html#unique-entry-id-4</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/desirefriendorfoe.html#unique-entry-id-4</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[With roots in both eastern and western religious traditions, renunciation of desire has penetrated the collective psyche as a noble aim in an ever-expanding material world.   We are taught - through an onslaught of psychological, sociological, and spiritual influences - that desire is selfish and fleeting...and that the ego (desire's vehicle) must be defeated in order to experience true happiness. 

...Desire is a force hard to deny; thus, when renunciation of the material world wages a war within, we turn to consumption. 

...We spend time and resources casting spell after spell in hopes to manifest the IT that will deliver us the sensation we so long for. 

...I have come to understand that each and every desire (without exception) point us in the direction of a universally-desired sensation.   Thus, at the heart of our desire is alignment with a potential that is seeking to be born through our life experience.


...Or, perhaps more commonly in our western culture, suffering is ignoring oneself and never fulfilling the potential buried beneath surface longing.


...They say that if we sit still long enough...if we dive deep enough...and if we resist the dream of the physical world around us, we will be rewarded with limitless joy. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Why Debauchery Hurts So Good</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>debauchery</category><dc:date>2009-11-01T10:46:47-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/debauchery.html#unique-entry-id-3</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/debauchery.html#unique-entry-id-3</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[It is the medicine that every generation brings to the one that proceeds it as it challenges all that is considered true in order to evolve humanity forth. ...  When you embrace the gifts of debauchery, it holds the potential to launch all aspects of who you are becoming into orbit. 

...I let it confine me to elitist thinking and/or artificial ways of being that felt misaligned with my own evolving inner guidance.


...In embracing my body in this new way, I was introduced to an unexpected ally:&nbsp; She is bold, wild, sexy, and physically passionate...a creature who thrives on freedom. 

...And let me tell you, if joy is an indicator (which I believe it to be), I am on the right track. 

...In the spirit of said intention, I am liberating my voice with you as a witness. 

...Attend an upcoming class or retreat and I promise to more consciously create space for all shades of shadow and shine. 


...It is my hope that this act of courage will inspire a comparable unveiling of some latent potential in YOU. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Why You Gotta Learn to Love Darkness</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><dc:date>2010-05-01T11:46:13-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/divinginthedark.html#unique-entry-id-2</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/divinginthedark.html#unique-entry-id-2</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[I have been changed by these seasons more than I can express in words; yet, today I am determined to begin cracking through my shell. 


...I have seen the power of a positive paradigm time and time again, as it is often our vantage point that keeps us stuck in disempowering dynamics. 

...Nevertheless, the soul's journey is paradoxical; it reveals more of who you are through the contrast that life offers. 

...New ways of being are inevitably calling to us and, no matter how we resist, we are continually renewed through our life experiences. ...  Thus, opportunities are resented as 'difficulties' to overcome... ever-evolving desires manifest in 'bad habits' we long to be rid of... or a person meant to birth a new level of awareness in us becomes a 'thorn in our side.' 

...If we can relax into the knowing that darkness always offers its counterpart, we become humbly available to the brilliance that is destined for us. 

...And how can I consciously embrace all the shadowy stuff that is stirred to the surface as an opportunity to mature in my understanding of life?   When the wild impulses within are no longer denied - when they become integrated and accepted for the medicine they offer - they become functional contributors to your life experience. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>Radically Raw &#x26; Real</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><category>&#x2a;ALL COACHING ARTICLES&#x2a;</category><category>honesty</category><dc:date>2011-04-01T12:45:54-07:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/radicallyraw.html#unique-entry-id-1</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/radicallyraw.html#unique-entry-id-1</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[In the past, I would simply wait for experiences to ripen into insight, then find a way to place it in a larger context that others might be able to relate to. 

...While I did my best to encourage self-reliance, I began hearing a new brand of self-deprecating statements from clients who felt shame and frustration at their seeming lack of 'success' with the so-called laws of growth and transformation. 

...What if I actually allowed myself to do everything I claimed I didn't want to do anymore... things like watching whatever I wanted on TV... exploring my sexuality more openly... drinking alcohol or even smoking a cigarette simply for the pleasureful buzz?! ...  While I don&rsquo;t encourage a mindlessly reckless existence, I can tell you that a courageous season of debauchery can be extraordinarily therapeutic for the perpetually pious. 


Just to be clear, piety is an adherence to virtue in order to win favor - be it the favor of the gods (conventional religion), the positive consequence of spiritual laws believed to govern existence (new agism), or a more general tendency towards conformity in order to avoid the judgment of the masses. 

...I found myself attracted to the polar opposite of my status quo, gravitating towards people and experiences that existed without filters I didn&rsquo;t even know I had.   I began living my life without the dictates of someone else's formula and became immune to what had suddenly become spiritual mumbo jumbo to me. 

...In my effort to find meaning, I clung to ideas... married myself to practices... and even idolized others in an effort to avoid the powerlessness I felt within. ]]></content:encoded></item><item><title>2012 :: Welcome to the Next Chapter</title><dc:creator>info@candiceschutter.com</dc:creator><dc:subject>HOME</dc:subject><dc:date>2012-01-01T23:29:02-08:00</dc:date><link>http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/2012welcome.html#unique-entry-id-0</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.candiceschutter.com/recklessnectar/blog/coaching_files/2012welcome.html#unique-entry-id-0</guid><content:encoded><![CDATA[As you will see, my coaching blog includes articles dating back to 2008.   Beginning in 2012, I will be posting more regularly on topics related to life coaching, dance-fitness, and other related topics.   Subscribe via RSS feed to stay in the loop!... or follow me on Facebook.   To view my personal musings, visit RecklessNectar.com.
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