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Anxiety, depression and stress: Are you unwittingly making things worse?

Welmoet Bok — Wed, 01 Oct 2014 10:08:06 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Talking Points in Psychology and Psychotherapy,Managing stress,Talking Points in Psychology and Psychotherapy,New Research and Ideas

In my psychology practice, anxiety, depression and stress are the three major problems that cause many of my clients acute distress so I am always interested to read about research in these areas. A recent article in Psyblog mentioned three behavioural styles that are common in individuals who suffer from depression. These include rumination (preoccupation […]

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Couples and relationships: Married (but divorcing) with Children?

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 12:19:11 +0000

Posted in Mediation,Psychology in practice

Resolve to protect your children's current and future psychological well-being by opting for mediation rather than litigation! In my practice as a psychologist and family mediator I see many couples who are either contemplation a divorce, in the throws of going through the process of getting divorced or who have gone through a separation or […]

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Do you expect too much (or too little) in life? Don’t underestimate the importance of your expectations!

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 09 Sep 2014 09:30:18 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Psychology in practice

Time and time again in my psychology practice I am told by my clients that one of the most useful things they have got out of coming for psychotherapy or counselling is my highlighting the role that our expectations play in our lives. Why are our expectations so important? I have found that faulty and […]

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Couples take note! If you want to tie the knot…

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 26 Aug 2014 15:45:30 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships

There are certain things that predict a long and happy marriage. Recent research cited in a blog post in Psyblog has identified four factors that are associated with long and happy marriages. These are: 1. Fewer sexual partners before marriage, especially for women. Why? It is suggested that the more sexual experience one has, the […]

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Couples and Relationships: Continually sniping at your partner?

Welmoet Bok — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 09:53:48 +0000

Posted in Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Recognise the danger signs! When unhappy couples arrive at my couples counselling and mediation psychology practice, they are often in the danger zone where things have become pretty bad between them so they have finally resorted to getting some help. When I ask them about the history of their relationship, couples often mention that they […]

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Couples: Beware of Self-diagnosis in your Relationship!

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 15 Jul 2014 09:08:58 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships

When individuals and couples come to see me for counselling, they often already have a come up with a label to explain their problem. Sometimes it's a diagnosis in respect of their partner, for example "I think our problems in our relationship are the result of his/her narcissistic personality disorder". Diagnosing one's own ailments with […]

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Couples and Relationships: In Break-ups and Divorces…

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 01 Jul 2014 11:25:09 +0000

Posted in Life in General

If there are children involved – don't forget to think about, and consider, their feelings! Relationship breakdown is one of most emotionally challenging processes anyone can go through, as most people know only too well as most of us have experienced this first hand, often on a number of occasions in our lives! The emotional […]

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Couples and relationships: Love and Money (continued).

Welmoet Bok — Fri, 23 May 2014 09:54:15 +0000

Posted in Life in General

What can you do to stop arguments about money from ruining your relationship? As I mentioned in a previous post, money is one of the major sources of conflict in relationships, as I have found in my psychology practice. Both in individual and in couples counselling money and financial issues come up again and again. […]

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Couples and Relationships: Love or Money?

Welmoet Bok — Mon, 28 Apr 2014 15:56:07 +0000

Posted in Life in General

What role does money play in your relationship? As I mentioned in my last post, I have found in my couple counselling practice that money is one of the "big four" issues for unhappy couples. Why is money often such a major source of conflict? My experience with my clients has really brought home […]

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Couples and Relationships: The “Big Four” Relationship Problems.

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 12:47:36 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Psychology in practice

And how to go about dealing with them! In my experiece as a clinical psychologist who specializes in couples counselling and relationship problems, the main issues that bring couples into counselling and therapy are: 1. Poor communication 2. Money issues 3. Children and parenting problems 4. Conflict with in-laws and extended family Poor communication […]

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