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<p><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/carlosdavidbrent.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/carlosdavidbrent-thumb.jpg" height="285" align="left" width="324" style="float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/group4.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/group4-thumb.jpg" height="285" align="left" width="379" style="float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a><br />Good times&#8230;</p>
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<p>Any guys out there experience this one?</p>
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		<title>Something BIG is coming soon…</title>
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		<title>Carlos Xuma on Relationships</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER&#8230;<br /></strong><br />I think Carlos is a great guy and he really knows what he is talking about. I&#8217;ve read &#8230; his books, and the material has really helped. However, none of these dating gurus ever discuss the concept of &#8220;love&#8221; or what to do once you are actually in a relationship. It would help a lot if they would expand their material into this realm&#8230;especially someone like Carlos, who is one of the best out there.<br />______________________<br /><strong>CARLOS XUMA RESPONDS:<br /></strong><br />Why thank you, my good man. Always nice to know that you appreciate my material.</p>
<p>One of the reasons I&#8217;ve never delved into relationships is primarily because there are <strong>SO</strong> many books out there on the subject. I mean, it&#8217;s almost unreal. But there were never any books on exactly what to do to get things started. </p>
<p>After all, if you didn&#8217;t learn this stuff from your dad, you usually wound up learning from your clueless friends. </p>
<p>But in recent months I&#8217;ve noticed that a lot of guys are asking for this kind of information. </p>
<p>So I&#8217;ve taken the first step in doing what you mention &#8211; tackling relationships.</p>
<p>What I&#8217;m doing is discussing the kind of Alpha Man you need to be to make a relationship work long-term. How you keep being the confident man after you&#8217;ve hooked her &#8211; so you don&#8217;t lose her!</p>
<p>If you guys like this material, who knows? I might actually get around to a more in-depth discussion of how to manage things with a woman you&#8217;re staying with for the long term.</p>
<p>Stay tuned&#8230; </p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER&#8230;<br /></strong><br />I think Carlos is a great guy and he really knows what he is talking about. I&#8217;ve read &#8230; his books, and the material has really helped. However, none of these dating gurus ever discuss the concept of &#8220;love&#8221; or what to do once you are actually in a relationship. It would help a lot if they would expand their material into this realm&#8230;especially someone like Carlos, who is one of the best out there.<br />______________________<br /><strong>CARLOS XUMA RESPONDS:<br /></strong><br />Why thank you, my good man. Always nice to know that you appreciate my material.</p>
<p>One of the reasons I&#8217;ve never delved into relationships is primarily because there are <strong>SO</strong> many books out there on the subject. I mean, it&#8217;s almost unreal. But there were never any books on exactly what to do to get things started. </p>
<p>After all, if you didn&#8217;t learn this stuff from your dad, you usually wound up learning from your clueless friends. </p>
<p>But in recent months I&#8217;ve noticed that a lot of guys are asking for this kind of information. </p>
<p>So I&#8217;ve taken the first step in doing what you mention &#8211; tackling relationships.</p>
<p>What I&#8217;m doing is discussing the kind of Alpha Man you need to be to make a relationship work long-term. How you keep being the confident man after you&#8217;ve hooked her &#8211; so you don&#8217;t lose her!</p>
<p>If you guys like this material, who knows? I might actually get around to a more in-depth discussion of how to manage things with a woman you&#8217;re staying with for the long term.</p>
<p>Stay tuned&#8230; </p>
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		<title>Neil Strauss lists Carlos Xuma as his mentor…</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both">I just got this email sent over to me from a friend yesterday. Apparently Neil Strauss is listing me as one of his mentors in his latest program&#8230; Cool, huh?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Here&#8217;s the text for you. I left it unedited, so you&#8217;ll see me listed about 5 guys in&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">- CX</p>
<p style="clear: both">______________________<br />For years now people have been asking Neil how he<br />got so good, so fast. The answer is that he had<br />the best material from the original teachers who<br />INVENTED this stuff &#8211; and here&#8217;s your surprise&#8230;</p>
<p>If you ever want to be in Neil&#8217;s shoes, this is<br />your chance! Because we pulled together 8 amazing<br />teachers from his book &#8220;The Game&#8221; to whisper into<br />your ears what they taught Neil.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a set of 8 CDs PLUS a 400 page book with the<br />classical styles of approaching, building<br />attraction and rapport, and finally giving a girl<br />the night of her dreams. There is NO part of the<br />game that this collection does not cover.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the link:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.stylelife.com');">www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus</a></p>
<p>Here&#8217;s more details about what you&#8217;ll learn:</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br />Some specifics you’ll be learning from the gurus<br />&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM STYLE</p>
<p>* How to deal with physical limiting beliefs -<br /> stutters, height, weight</p>
<p>* How one guy went from being too scared to<br /> approach an old woman to easily opening groups of<br /> 7 or more beautiful women.</p>
<p>* How to learn to attract women using a step by<br /> step method of learning.</p>
<p>* Learn which openers are the best openers to use<br /> for any situation.</p>
<p>* Learn why &#8220;canned&#8221; or &#8220;scripted&#8221; openers are the<br /> first type of opener that anyone should learn and<br /> how they set the pace for your social education.</p>
<p>* Learn the process that all women need to be led<br /> through in order to attract them.</p>
<p>* How a single issue of &#8220;Cosmopolitan&#8221; can teach<br /> you an entirely unique personal routine stack.</p>
<p>* Learn the three things all women want to know<br /> when you approach them.</p>
<p>* How to build a story using the skills of a<br /> stand-up comic that will ensure that you keep the<br /> attrition of entire groups of women.</p>
<p>* Find out how outcome dependence can ruin your<br /> game, and then learn how to overcome it.</p>
<p>* A bonus secret technique that Style personally<br /> used to overcome many of his fears.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM ROSS JEFFRIES</p>
<p>* Learn about &#8220;the brilliant model&#8221; for learning<br /> seduction and attraction that Ross Jeffries<br /> recently found.</p>
<p>* Learn the new inner game techniques that Ross<br /> Jeffries has been working on for over 5 years.</p>
<p>* Simple ways to overcome the frustrations that<br /> almost all guys who are learning to build<br /> attraction have.</p>
<p>* Find out which technique Ross Jeffries uses to<br /> always have a positive frame around even the most<br /> beautiful women.</p>
<p>* Reasons that internal noise can destroy your<br /> game.</p>
<p>* The one key skill that is completely missing<br /> from the pick-up community.</p>
<p>* One sentence that most guys say that can ruin<br /> your game without them knowing it!</p>
<p>* How to pinpoint and extract the pieces of your<br /> personality that can take your game to the next<br /> level.</p>
<p>* Ross&#8217;s 5 elements for quieting your mind that<br /> can rocket you up the learning curve.</p>
<p>* How internal chatter will pollute your mind and<br /> create limitless sticking points.</p>
<p>* One shocking truth about women and sexuality<br /> that both Style and Ross Jeffries agree on.</p>
<p>* The power of beliefs and how to learn from them.</p>
<p>* How to untangle emotions so you can easily<br /> overcome sticking points.</p>
<p>* One problem that has been asked to Style,<br /> Mystery, and Ross Jeffries time and time again,<br /> and how to overcome them.</p>
<p>* An epiphany that Style had about getting women<br /> back to his place.</p>
<p>* One thing to focus on before going for the<br /> threesome.</p>
<p>* The right way to respond to negative emotions.</p>
<p>* Learn about &#8220;high wattage charisma&#8221; and &#8220;low<br /> wattage charisma&#8221;</p>
<p>* One question you can ask yourself to overcome<br /> sexual issues.</p>
<p>* The core reason women can feel uncomfortable<br /> before sex and how to alleviate this discomfort.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM HYPNOTICA</p>
<p>* Learn the rarely heard origin of Hypnotica.</p>
<p>* The three disciplines that Hypnotica recommends<br /> in addition to Neuro Linguistic Programming.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica explains the difference between<br /> &#8220;doing&#8221; and &#8220;being.&#8221;</p>
<p>* The one &#8220;guru&#8221; mentality that halts your<br /> learning process.</p>
<p>* Why night clubs make the perfect social<br /> laboratories.</p>
<p>* How to not get bogged down with information.</p>
<p>* Learn Hypnotica&#8217;s technique for pushing yourself<br /> when the going gets tough.</p>
<p>* Hear about Hypnotica&#8217;s extreme outer game<br /> experience.</p>
<p>* Techniques to judge where you are in your game.</p>
<p>* A method for making your spontaneous openers<br /> more relevant and entertaining.</p>
<p>* Four ways to &#8220;level up&#8221; your inner game.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica&#8217;s &#8220;time line&#8221; inner game technique.</p>
<p>* How to use a double blind to easily get a kiss.</p>
<p>* A technique for giving a woman an orgasm<br /> with only your voice.</p>
<p>* Learn Hypnotica&#8217;s techniques for attracting<br /> exotic dancers.</p>
<p>* How to perform the &#8220;Scrooge Routine.&#8221;</p>
<p>* The one technique that will separate you from<br /> your average guy in a strip club.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica&#8217;s method for dealing with low points<br /> in your romantic life.</p>
<p>* A special mind blowing inner game technique for<br /> moving through your limiting beliefs</p>
<p>* Style and Hypnotica teach a lesson together<br /> about overcoming Self-Sabotaging behavior.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM JUGGLER</p>
<p>* Hear the advice that Style was given by Juggler<br /> that changed his game forever.</p>
<p>* Learn to play the game &#8220;in your court&#8221; not hers.</p>
<p>* Juggler teaches you to be the wolf, and not the<br /> sheep &#8211; a technique for showing sexual interest.</p>
<p>* How showing a woman your &#8220;greediness&#8221; can be<br /> extremely attractive.</p>
<p>* Learn what two beautiful women think of being<br /> hit on by men at work, club game, and making<br /> friends.</p>
<p>* Learn the right way to buy a girl a drink and<br /> continue to build attraction.</p>
<p>* How to tell a story that will convey your<br /> personality and build attraction.</p>
<p>* Two questions that all men ask women that turn<br /> them off, and how you can ask these questions the<br /> right way.</p>
<p>* Juggler&#8217;s frame changing technique that will<br /> change the way everyone looks at you.</p>
<p>* How to become a character that everyone wants to<br /> relate to in conversation.</p>
<p>* Juggler reveals the best places to learn<br /> conversational skills.</p>
<p>* One trait that all women need to find in men in<br /> order to become attracted.</p>
<p>* Discover how to convey your charm in<br /> imperfection.</p>
<p>* The key to reaching the hook point when you open<br /> poorly.</p>
<p>* How to use fear to overcome approach anxiety.</p>
<p>* The number one way that Juggler conveys value.</p>
<p>* A game you can play that can tremendously<br /> improve your openers and provide you with<br /> limitless material.</p>
<p>* The right way to use canned openers for<br /> training.</p>
<p>* Juggler&#8217;s &#8220;I and you&#8221; technique for opening.</p>
<p>* How to transition from openers to a place that<br /> furthers the interaction.</p>
<p>* Juggler explains his &#8220;three levels of an<br /> interaction.&#8221;</p>
<p>* How to balance keeping a relationship and<br /> improving your social skills.</p>
<p>* The best way to use an SOI (statement of<br /> Intent).</p>
<p>* How not to revert back to AFC behavior while<br /> you&#8217;re around the most beautiful women.</p>
<p><strong>LESSONS FROM CARLOS XUMA<br /></strong><br />* Learn the meaning of R.E.A.L. Game</p>
<p>* How to be Relaxed and Resourceful in the field,</p>
<p>* Learn to keep your interactions Effective and<br /> Energized.</p>
<p>* How to be both an alpha male and authentic man<br /> whenever you communicate with women.</p>
<p>* Carlos explains how to keep a lifestyle that<br /> keeps women in your life.</p>
<p>* Carlos reveals the three pieces that make up all<br /> game.</p>
<p>* A method for building a tool called an &#8220;Alpha<br /> Reminder Card.&#8221;</p>
<p>* A surefire way to get you into the field and out<br /> of your house.</p>
<p>* Learn what your knee jerk social reactions when<br /> you&#8217;re in field.</p>
<p>* Discover your &#8220;Primary Motivator&#8221; and get<br /> yourself in field and making approaches.</p>
<p>* Learn how to read and use micro-expressions</p>
<p>* A special mirroring exercise that will change<br /> your rapport building techniques forever.</p>
<p>* One approach that most men do that consistently<br /> fails and how not to do it.</p>
<p>* Learn the roots of approach anxiety in order to<br /> understand and overcome it.</p>
<p>* A technique for using that &#8220;uncomfortable<br /> silence&#8221; that everyone has felt, to your<br /> advantage.</p>
<p>* Carlos Xuma&#8217;s secret &#8220;waterfall technique,&#8221; for<br /> changing your frame while dating multiple women.</p>
<p>* 3 steps to improving your kino escalation<br /> skills.</p>
<p>* How to overcome the &#8220;limitations&#8221; of having no<br /> money or no car.</p>
<p>* A ground breaking technique for anyone who over<br /> analyzes their interactions.</p>
<p>* A new method for turning an old friend into a<br /> lover.</p>
<p>* The purpose of being a sophisticated and alpha<br /> man.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM DAVID SHADE</p>
<p>* The origin of David Shade and how he learned to<br /> build emotional connections over the phone.</p>
<p>* How leading a sexual relationship can amp the<br /> excitement and help her to have an orgasm or<br /> multiple orgasms.</p>
<p>* David explains why being respectful can increase<br /> a woman&#8217;s sexual drive.</p>
<p>* Why dirty talking is something that should be<br /> used in the bedroom to help women explore their<br /> sexuality.</p>
<p>* How to get a woman to talk dirty in the bedroom<br /> and how to talk dirty to a woman.</p>
<p>* Learn a secret technique for getting women to<br /> tell you their fantasies.</p>
<p>* How to use fantasies to kick your sexual<br /> relationship up to the next level.</p>
<p>* A mind-blowing method for having threesomes with<br /> your long term girlfriend.</p>
<p>* How to get your girlfriend to help you pick up<br /> women for a threesome.</p>
<p>* How to maintain a sexual relationship with<br /> someone who lives at a long distance.</p>
<p>* A method for helping a woman reach orgasm &#8211; even<br /> if she&#8217;s never had one before.</p>
<p>* The first two things you should do whenever you<br /> get a girl into the bedroom.</p>
<p>* The importance of mastering the mental aspect of<br /> sex.</p>
<p>* Learn how to increase a woman&#8217;s commitment to<br /> you by giving her orgasms.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM TWOTIMER &#038; BRENT</p>
<p>* Find out the real identity of Twotimer from the<br /> book, The Game.</p>
<p>* The single affirmation that changed the game for<br /> Twotimer.</p>
<p>* How to convey and image that will guarantee that<br /> a woman you meet will call you back.</p>
<p>* One sentence you can memorize that will show a<br /> woman how amazing your life has been.</p>
<p>* The absolute right way to use humor to build<br /> attraction.</p>
<p>* Twotimer tells a story about an airplane sarge<br /> that contains all the principles of non-neediness<br /> and validation.</p>
<p>* How not to become a &#8220;tool&#8221; for the most<br /> beautiful women you meet.</p>
<p>* What to do right after you get the phone number.</p>
<p>* How to overcome the fear of moving in for the<br /> kiss.</p>
<p>* What to do if you go in for the kiss and she<br /> turns her head.</p>
<p>* One common theme or topic that attractive women<br /> will fall back on when they are attracted to you.</p>
<p>* How to tell the difference between real interest<br /> and fake interest.</p>
<p>* How to turn fake interest into real interest.</p>
<p>* Learn the importance of her &#8220;end value.&#8221;</p>
<p>* How to use indifference to build attraction.</p>
<p>* How to create arousal using what Twotimer calls,<br /> &#8220;secret patterns.&#8221;</p>
<p>* Why it is important to maintain the balance<br /> between comfort and seduction.</p>
<p>* Small changes in your facial expressions that<br /> can give extremely attractive mixed messages.</p>
<p>* Two important qualities you need to have when<br /> you&#8217;re trying to get Day 2&#8217;s.</p>
<p>* How to build a brand new high value social<br /> circle.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM ZAN</p>
<p>* The secret origin of Zan.</p>
<p>* Why asking &#8220;why not?&#8221; is one of the most<br /> important questions a social artist can ask.</p>
<p>* How to deal with women who are taken.</p>
<p>* Find out what women don&#8217;t want you to apologize<br /> for.</p>
<p>* Learn Zan&#8217;s direct number close.</p>
<p>* Learn the mindsets that you should be creating<br /> in order to rid yourself of approach anxiety and<br /> the fear of rejection.</p>
<p>* Why your goal for the night should not be<br /> getting a phone number and what your goal should<br /> really be.</p>
<p>* Zan solves the three issues that most guys have<br /> when they get into the game.</p>
<p>* Learn unique ways to frame an interaction for<br /> maximum attraction.</p>
<p>* Zan&#8217;s &#8220;touch and go&#8221; under the radar kino<br /> technique.</p>
<p>* How telling a girl that you &#8220;can&#8217;t get it up&#8221;<br /> can actually build attraction.</p>
<p>* When to let your girlfriend know that you want<br /> multiple relationships.</p>
<p>* Unique and exciting ways to show disinterest.</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br />Supplies are limited so be sure to act fast!<br />&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</p>
<p>Between all these great gurus the entire art of<br />attraction is explored. No stone is left unturned.<br />To learn it all and make this collection yours,<br />Follow this link right now:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.stylelife.com');">www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus</a></p>
<p>Best,</p>
<p>The Sneak</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both">I just got this email sent over to me from a friend yesterday. Apparently Neil Strauss is listing me as one of his mentors in his latest program&#8230; Cool, huh?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Here&#8217;s the text for you. I left it unedited, so you&#8217;ll see me listed about 5 guys in&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">- CX</p>
<p style="clear: both">______________________<br />For years now people have been asking Neil how he<br />got so good, so fast. The answer is that he had<br />the best material from the original teachers who<br />INVENTED this stuff &#8211; and here&#8217;s your surprise&#8230;</p>
<p>If you ever want to be in Neil&#8217;s shoes, this is<br />your chance! Because we pulled together 8 amazing<br />teachers from his book &#8220;The Game&#8221; to whisper into<br />your ears what they taught Neil.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a set of 8 CDs PLUS a 400 page book with the<br />classical styles of approaching, building<br />attraction and rapport, and finally giving a girl<br />the night of her dreams. There is NO part of the<br />game that this collection does not cover.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the link:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.stylelife.com');">www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus</a></p>
<p>Here&#8217;s more details about what you&#8217;ll learn:</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br />Some specifics you’ll be learning from the gurus<br />&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM STYLE</p>
<p>* How to deal with physical limiting beliefs -<br /> stutters, height, weight</p>
<p>* How one guy went from being too scared to<br /> approach an old woman to easily opening groups of<br /> 7 or more beautiful women.</p>
<p>* How to learn to attract women using a step by<br /> step method of learning.</p>
<p>* Learn which openers are the best openers to use<br /> for any situation.</p>
<p>* Learn why &#8220;canned&#8221; or &#8220;scripted&#8221; openers are the<br /> first type of opener that anyone should learn and<br /> how they set the pace for your social education.</p>
<p>* Learn the process that all women need to be led<br /> through in order to attract them.</p>
<p>* How a single issue of &#8220;Cosmopolitan&#8221; can teach<br /> you an entirely unique personal routine stack.</p>
<p>* Learn the three things all women want to know<br /> when you approach them.</p>
<p>* How to build a story using the skills of a<br /> stand-up comic that will ensure that you keep the<br /> attrition of entire groups of women.</p>
<p>* Find out how outcome dependence can ruin your<br /> game, and then learn how to overcome it.</p>
<p>* A bonus secret technique that Style personally<br /> used to overcome many of his fears.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM ROSS JEFFRIES</p>
<p>* Learn about &#8220;the brilliant model&#8221; for learning<br /> seduction and attraction that Ross Jeffries<br /> recently found.</p>
<p>* Learn the new inner game techniques that Ross<br /> Jeffries has been working on for over 5 years.</p>
<p>* Simple ways to overcome the frustrations that<br /> almost all guys who are learning to build<br /> attraction have.</p>
<p>* Find out which technique Ross Jeffries uses to<br /> always have a positive frame around even the most<br /> beautiful women.</p>
<p>* Reasons that internal noise can destroy your<br /> game.</p>
<p>* The one key skill that is completely missing<br /> from the pick-up community.</p>
<p>* One sentence that most guys say that can ruin<br /> your game without them knowing it!</p>
<p>* How to pinpoint and extract the pieces of your<br /> personality that can take your game to the next<br /> level.</p>
<p>* Ross&#8217;s 5 elements for quieting your mind that<br /> can rocket you up the learning curve.</p>
<p>* How internal chatter will pollute your mind and<br /> create limitless sticking points.</p>
<p>* One shocking truth about women and sexuality<br /> that both Style and Ross Jeffries agree on.</p>
<p>* The power of beliefs and how to learn from them.</p>
<p>* How to untangle emotions so you can easily<br /> overcome sticking points.</p>
<p>* One problem that has been asked to Style,<br /> Mystery, and Ross Jeffries time and time again,<br /> and how to overcome them.</p>
<p>* An epiphany that Style had about getting women<br /> back to his place.</p>
<p>* One thing to focus on before going for the<br /> threesome.</p>
<p>* The right way to respond to negative emotions.</p>
<p>* Learn about &#8220;high wattage charisma&#8221; and &#8220;low<br /> wattage charisma&#8221;</p>
<p>* One question you can ask yourself to overcome<br /> sexual issues.</p>
<p>* The core reason women can feel uncomfortable<br /> before sex and how to alleviate this discomfort.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM HYPNOTICA</p>
<p>* Learn the rarely heard origin of Hypnotica.</p>
<p>* The three disciplines that Hypnotica recommends<br /> in addition to Neuro Linguistic Programming.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica explains the difference between<br /> &#8220;doing&#8221; and &#8220;being.&#8221;</p>
<p>* The one &#8220;guru&#8221; mentality that halts your<br /> learning process.</p>
<p>* Why night clubs make the perfect social<br /> laboratories.</p>
<p>* How to not get bogged down with information.</p>
<p>* Learn Hypnotica&#8217;s technique for pushing yourself<br /> when the going gets tough.</p>
<p>* Hear about Hypnotica&#8217;s extreme outer game<br /> experience.</p>
<p>* Techniques to judge where you are in your game.</p>
<p>* A method for making your spontaneous openers<br /> more relevant and entertaining.</p>
<p>* Four ways to &#8220;level up&#8221; your inner game.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica&#8217;s &#8220;time line&#8221; inner game technique.</p>
<p>* How to use a double blind to easily get a kiss.</p>
<p>* A technique for giving a woman an orgasm<br /> with only your voice.</p>
<p>* Learn Hypnotica&#8217;s techniques for attracting<br /> exotic dancers.</p>
<p>* How to perform the &#8220;Scrooge Routine.&#8221;</p>
<p>* The one technique that will separate you from<br /> your average guy in a strip club.</p>
<p>* Hypnotica&#8217;s method for dealing with low points<br /> in your romantic life.</p>
<p>* A special mind blowing inner game technique for<br /> moving through your limiting beliefs</p>
<p>* Style and Hypnotica teach a lesson together<br /> about overcoming Self-Sabotaging behavior.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM JUGGLER</p>
<p>* Hear the advice that Style was given by Juggler<br /> that changed his game forever.</p>
<p>* Learn to play the game &#8220;in your court&#8221; not hers.</p>
<p>* Juggler teaches you to be the wolf, and not the<br /> sheep &#8211; a technique for showing sexual interest.</p>
<p>* How showing a woman your &#8220;greediness&#8221; can be<br /> extremely attractive.</p>
<p>* Learn what two beautiful women think of being<br /> hit on by men at work, club game, and making<br /> friends.</p>
<p>* Learn the right way to buy a girl a drink and<br /> continue to build attraction.</p>
<p>* How to tell a story that will convey your<br /> personality and build attraction.</p>
<p>* Two questions that all men ask women that turn<br /> them off, and how you can ask these questions the<br /> right way.</p>
<p>* Juggler&#8217;s frame changing technique that will<br /> change the way everyone looks at you.</p>
<p>* How to become a character that everyone wants to<br /> relate to in conversation.</p>
<p>* Juggler reveals the best places to learn<br /> conversational skills.</p>
<p>* One trait that all women need to find in men in<br /> order to become attracted.</p>
<p>* Discover how to convey your charm in<br /> imperfection.</p>
<p>* The key to reaching the hook point when you open<br /> poorly.</p>
<p>* How to use fear to overcome approach anxiety.</p>
<p>* The number one way that Juggler conveys value.</p>
<p>* A game you can play that can tremendously<br /> improve your openers and provide you with<br /> limitless material.</p>
<p>* The right way to use canned openers for<br /> training.</p>
<p>* Juggler&#8217;s &#8220;I and you&#8221; technique for opening.</p>
<p>* How to transition from openers to a place that<br /> furthers the interaction.</p>
<p>* Juggler explains his &#8220;three levels of an<br /> interaction.&#8221;</p>
<p>* How to balance keeping a relationship and<br /> improving your social skills.</p>
<p>* The best way to use an SOI (statement of<br /> Intent).</p>
<p>* How not to revert back to AFC behavior while<br /> you&#8217;re around the most beautiful women.</p>
<p><strong>LESSONS FROM CARLOS XUMA<br /></strong><br />* Learn the meaning of R.E.A.L. Game</p>
<p>* How to be Relaxed and Resourceful in the field,</p>
<p>* Learn to keep your interactions Effective and<br /> Energized.</p>
<p>* How to be both an alpha male and authentic man<br /> whenever you communicate with women.</p>
<p>* Carlos explains how to keep a lifestyle that<br /> keeps women in your life.</p>
<p>* Carlos reveals the three pieces that make up all<br /> game.</p>
<p>* A method for building a tool called an &#8220;Alpha<br /> Reminder Card.&#8221;</p>
<p>* A surefire way to get you into the field and out<br /> of your house.</p>
<p>* Learn what your knee jerk social reactions when<br /> you&#8217;re in field.</p>
<p>* Discover your &#8220;Primary Motivator&#8221; and get<br /> yourself in field and making approaches.</p>
<p>* Learn how to read and use micro-expressions</p>
<p>* A special mirroring exercise that will change<br /> your rapport building techniques forever.</p>
<p>* One approach that most men do that consistently<br /> fails and how not to do it.</p>
<p>* Learn the roots of approach anxiety in order to<br /> understand and overcome it.</p>
<p>* A technique for using that &#8220;uncomfortable<br /> silence&#8221; that everyone has felt, to your<br /> advantage.</p>
<p>* Carlos Xuma&#8217;s secret &#8220;waterfall technique,&#8221; for<br /> changing your frame while dating multiple women.</p>
<p>* 3 steps to improving your kino escalation<br /> skills.</p>
<p>* How to overcome the &#8220;limitations&#8221; of having no<br /> money or no car.</p>
<p>* A ground breaking technique for anyone who over<br /> analyzes their interactions.</p>
<p>* A new method for turning an old friend into a<br /> lover.</p>
<p>* The purpose of being a sophisticated and alpha<br /> man.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM DAVID SHADE</p>
<p>* The origin of David Shade and how he learned to<br /> build emotional connections over the phone.</p>
<p>* How leading a sexual relationship can amp the<br /> excitement and help her to have an orgasm or<br /> multiple orgasms.</p>
<p>* David explains why being respectful can increase<br /> a woman&#8217;s sexual drive.</p>
<p>* Why dirty talking is something that should be<br /> used in the bedroom to help women explore their<br /> sexuality.</p>
<p>* How to get a woman to talk dirty in the bedroom<br /> and how to talk dirty to a woman.</p>
<p>* Learn a secret technique for getting women to<br /> tell you their fantasies.</p>
<p>* How to use fantasies to kick your sexual<br /> relationship up to the next level.</p>
<p>* A mind-blowing method for having threesomes with<br /> your long term girlfriend.</p>
<p>* How to get your girlfriend to help you pick up<br /> women for a threesome.</p>
<p>* How to maintain a sexual relationship with<br /> someone who lives at a long distance.</p>
<p>* A method for helping a woman reach orgasm &#8211; even<br /> if she&#8217;s never had one before.</p>
<p>* The first two things you should do whenever you<br /> get a girl into the bedroom.</p>
<p>* The importance of mastering the mental aspect of<br /> sex.</p>
<p>* Learn how to increase a woman&#8217;s commitment to<br /> you by giving her orgasms.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM TWOTIMER &#038; BRENT</p>
<p>* Find out the real identity of Twotimer from the<br /> book, The Game.</p>
<p>* The single affirmation that changed the game for<br /> Twotimer.</p>
<p>* How to convey and image that will guarantee that<br /> a woman you meet will call you back.</p>
<p>* One sentence you can memorize that will show a<br /> woman how amazing your life has been.</p>
<p>* The absolute right way to use humor to build<br /> attraction.</p>
<p>* Twotimer tells a story about an airplane sarge<br /> that contains all the principles of non-neediness<br /> and validation.</p>
<p>* How not to become a &#8220;tool&#8221; for the most<br /> beautiful women you meet.</p>
<p>* What to do right after you get the phone number.</p>
<p>* How to overcome the fear of moving in for the<br /> kiss.</p>
<p>* What to do if you go in for the kiss and she<br /> turns her head.</p>
<p>* One common theme or topic that attractive women<br /> will fall back on when they are attracted to you.</p>
<p>* How to tell the difference between real interest<br /> and fake interest.</p>
<p>* How to turn fake interest into real interest.</p>
<p>* Learn the importance of her &#8220;end value.&#8221;</p>
<p>* How to use indifference to build attraction.</p>
<p>* How to create arousal using what Twotimer calls,<br /> &#8220;secret patterns.&#8221;</p>
<p>* Why it is important to maintain the balance<br /> between comfort and seduction.</p>
<p>* Small changes in your facial expressions that<br /> can give extremely attractive mixed messages.</p>
<p>* Two important qualities you need to have when<br /> you&#8217;re trying to get Day 2&#8217;s.</p>
<p>* How to build a brand new high value social<br /> circle.</p>
<p>LESSONS FROM ZAN</p>
<p>* The secret origin of Zan.</p>
<p>* Why asking &#8220;why not?&#8221; is one of the most<br /> important questions a social artist can ask.</p>
<p>* How to deal with women who are taken.</p>
<p>* Find out what women don&#8217;t want you to apologize<br /> for.</p>
<p>* Learn Zan&#8217;s direct number close.</p>
<p>* Learn the mindsets that you should be creating<br /> in order to rid yourself of approach anxiety and<br /> the fear of rejection.</p>
<p>* Why your goal for the night should not be<br /> getting a phone number and what your goal should<br /> really be.</p>
<p>* Zan solves the three issues that most guys have<br /> when they get into the game.</p>
<p>* Learn unique ways to frame an interaction for<br /> maximum attraction.</p>
<p>* Zan&#8217;s &#8220;touch and go&#8221; under the radar kino<br /> technique.</p>
<p>* How telling a girl that you &#8220;can&#8217;t get it up&#8221;<br /> can actually build attraction.</p>
<p>* When to let your girlfriend know that you want<br /> multiple relationships.</p>
<p>* Unique and exciting ways to show disinterest.</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br />Supplies are limited so be sure to act fast!<br />&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</p>
<p>Between all these great gurus the entire art of<br />attraction is explored. No stone is left unturned.<br />To learn it all and make this collection yours,<br />Follow this link right now:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.stylelife.com');">www.stylelife.com/pickupgurus</a></p>
<p>Best,</p>
<p>The Sneak</p>
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		<title>Facebook – What if you're ignored?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both"><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER ON FACEBOOK:<br /></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">Love all the emails about the techniques with women Carlos, its help me get rid of my old wuss ways no end, though its something i find you have to keep working at as its easy to slip back to the dark side.</p>
<p>One question about a personal issue i have with bad mannered people. In the past i used to let people get away with bad manners but my new alpha male wont allow it. </p>
<p>Whats your take on old male friends (schooldays) who add you on Facebook, so i send a courteous message asking how there getting on and don&#8217;t even reply. A women I&#8217;d delete no hesitation, do you think the same rules apply with men. </p>
<p style="clear: both">By the way i dont want to date men lol, its just a respect/good mannered thing I have. Whats your take?</p>
<p>Keep up the good work</p>
<p>Regards<br />A.N.<br />______________________<br /><strong>CARLOS XUMA RESPONDS:<br /></strong><br />Don&#8217;t take &#8220;no response&#8221; too seriously, my friend.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Old friends are typically trying to reconnect, but have little time to do so if they have their own families. It&#8217;s not really &#8220;rude&#8221; even if WE interpret it this way. It&#8217;s not rude to them because they don&#8217;t see themselves as doing anything wrong.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Don&#8217;t work too hard to interpret people&#8217;s INACTION as something against you.</p>
<p>People have a tendency to interpret ignoring as a deliberate act against us, which it really isn&#8217;t. </p>
<p style="clear: both">I wouldn&#8217;t even bother &#8220;removing&#8221; someone as a friend. It doesn&#8217;t get noticed, and it doesn&#8217;t really make much of a difference. It also can seem a bit petty. Better to leave them and reconnect later on.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Just add them, initiate, and expect nothing in return. </p>
<p style="clear: both">Then go on finding their hot friends you can connect with and date&#8230; <img src='http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p style="clear: both">- Carlos Xuma</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both"><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER ON FACEBOOK:<br /></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">Love all the emails about the techniques with women Carlos, its help me get rid of my old wuss ways no end, though its something i find you have to keep working at as its easy to slip back to the dark side.</p>
<p>One question about a personal issue i have with bad mannered people. In the past i used to let people get away with bad manners but my new alpha male wont allow it. </p>
<p>Whats your take on old male friends (schooldays) who add you on Facebook, so i send a courteous message asking how there getting on and don&#8217;t even reply. A women I&#8217;d delete no hesitation, do you think the same rules apply with men. </p>
<p style="clear: both">By the way i dont want to date men lol, its just a respect/good mannered thing I have. Whats your take?</p>
<p>Keep up the good work</p>
<p>Regards<br />A.N.<br />______________________<br /><strong>CARLOS XUMA RESPONDS:<br /></strong><br />Don&#8217;t take &#8220;no response&#8221; too seriously, my friend.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Old friends are typically trying to reconnect, but have little time to do so if they have their own families. It&#8217;s not really &#8220;rude&#8221; even if WE interpret it this way. It&#8217;s not rude to them because they don&#8217;t see themselves as doing anything wrong.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Don&#8217;t work too hard to interpret people&#8217;s INACTION as something against you.</p>
<p>People have a tendency to interpret ignoring as a deliberate act against us, which it really isn&#8217;t. </p>
<p style="clear: both">I wouldn&#8217;t even bother &#8220;removing&#8221; someone as a friend. It doesn&#8217;t get noticed, and it doesn&#8217;t really make much of a difference. It also can seem a bit petty. Better to leave them and reconnect later on.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Just add them, initiate, and expect nothing in return. </p>
<p style="clear: both">Then go on finding their hot friends you can connect with and date&#8230; <img src='http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p style="clear: both">- Carlos Xuma</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both">The birthday bash for Sean Stephenson&#8217;s 30th was a blast&#8230; We had a great time, and a lot of great visitors and guests.</p>
<p style="clear: both">You might recognize a couple from these pictures:</p>
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<p style="clear: both"><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/img-1742.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/img-1742-thumb.jpg" height="285" align="left" width="271" style=" display: inline; float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a><br style="clear: both" />More coming soon&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">And some surprise announcements coming this week&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">- Carlos</p>
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<p style="clear: both"><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/img-1742.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/img-1742-thumb.jpg" height="285" align="left" width="271" style=" display: inline; float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a><br style="clear: both" />More coming soon&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">And some surprise announcements coming this week&#8230;</p>
<p style="clear: both">- Carlos</p>
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		<title>Who do you believe? This one is GOOD…</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both"><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/tdy-stone-peewee-040402300w1.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/tdy-stone-peewee-040402-thumb300w1.jpg" height="222" align="left" width="296" style=" display: inline; float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER:<br /></strong><br />I hope you can help me out here. I used some of your techniques on approaching women. I have to tell you they work great. </p>
<p style="clear: both">So who do I believe the girl that says they are just friends or the guy that says they are together?</p>
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<p style="clear: both">- <em>Marcus</em></p>
<p style="clear: both">______________________</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong>CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<br /></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">I have to confess that there was about 20 more paragraphs to that email, but this is the only sentence that really matters.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Why?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Because I&#8217;ll bet you a fair amount of cash that you&#8217;ve run into this one before.</p>
<p style="clear: both">I have a TON of times.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Who do you believe?</p>
<p style="clear: both">NEITHER of them!</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s going on from HER perspective:<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">He&#8217;s probably needy &#038; clingy and doesn&#8217;t really man-up enough to get her excited and sexually attracted. That&#8217;s why she says they&#8217;re just &#8220;friends.&#8221; She hasn&#8217;t worked up enough nerve to tell him to hit the freakin&#8217; road yet. (That, or she&#8217;s still getting the occasional dinner from him and doesn&#8217;t want to kill the Golden Goose.)</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s going on from HIS perspective:<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">He&#8217;s invested a lot of money in buying this girl drinks and taking her out, and she still hasn&#8217;t put out. He&#8217;s only getting a little kissing action at the end of the dates, but not much action. He&#8217;s getting frustrated, but he&#8217;s also convinced he&#8217;s got some ownership privilege here based on his financial investment.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Am I being cynical?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Maybe a little bit. </p>
<p style="clear: both">But the reality is that when you have two people giving this kind of conflicting story, you know there&#8217;s more than meets they eye.</p>
<p style="clear: both">If you&#8217;re in this situation, you have to realize that a woman often may be dating a guy because he&#8217;s a BTN.</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Better Than Nothing.<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">It&#8217;s not evil or manipulative. After all, guys do it, too.</p>
<p style="clear: both">What it means is that she&#8217;s a serial dater. She doesn&#8217;t leave the guy she&#8217;s with until she&#8217;s got her next prey lined up.</p>
<p style="clear: both">You should call this girl and take her out. I really don&#8217;t think the other guy realizes he&#8217;s being a tool. And since you&#8217;re using superior battlefield strategy, you&#8217;re going to get the girl.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Again, I usually don&#8217;t condone &#8220;boyfriend destroying&#8221; or any of that <strong>NONSENSE</strong> that a lot of so-called gurus teach out there. </p>
<p style="clear: both">But this guy <em>isn&#8217;t even a boyfriend</em>, and the saddest part is that he <em>isn&#8217;t even aware of it</em>. You can&#8217;t be responsible for someone else&#8217;s delusions, right?</p>
<p style="clear: both">And if you&#8217;re reading this right now and you want to learn these killer techniques (for good and not for evil, of course), you need to go <a href="http://www.datingdynamics.com/get-a-girlfriend/dating-tips-for-men.php" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.datingdynamics.com');">learn how to get a girlfriend &#8211; fast&#8230;</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="clear: both"><a href="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/tdy-stone-peewee-040402300w1.jpg" class="image-link"><img class="linked-to-original" src="http://www.carlosxuma.com/dating-tips-for-guys-blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/tdy-stone-peewee-040402-thumb300w1.jpg" height="222" align="left" width="296" style=" display: inline; float: left; margin: 0 10px 10px 0;" /></a><strong>QUESTION FROM A READER:<br /></strong><br />I hope you can help me out here. I used some of your techniques on approaching women. I have to tell you they work great. </p>
<p style="clear: both">So who do I believe the girl that says they are just friends or the guy that says they are together?</p>
<p style="clear: both">
<p style="clear: both">- <em>Marcus</em></p>
<p style="clear: both">______________________</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong>CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:<br /></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">I have to confess that there was about 20 more paragraphs to that email, but this is the only sentence that really matters.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Why?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Because I&#8217;ll bet you a fair amount of cash that you&#8217;ve run into this one before.</p>
<p style="clear: both">I have a TON of times.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Who do you believe?</p>
<p style="clear: both">NEITHER of them!</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s going on from HER perspective:<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">He&#8217;s probably needy &#038; clingy and doesn&#8217;t really man-up enough to get her excited and sexually attracted. That&#8217;s why she says they&#8217;re just &#8220;friends.&#8221; She hasn&#8217;t worked up enough nerve to tell him to hit the freakin&#8217; road yet. (That, or she&#8217;s still getting the occasional dinner from him and doesn&#8217;t want to kill the Golden Goose.)</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Here&#8217;s what&#8217;s going on from HIS perspective:<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">He&#8217;s invested a lot of money in buying this girl drinks and taking her out, and she still hasn&#8217;t put out. He&#8217;s only getting a little kissing action at the end of the dates, but not much action. He&#8217;s getting frustrated, but he&#8217;s also convinced he&#8217;s got some ownership privilege here based on his financial investment.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Am I being cynical?</p>
<p style="clear: both">Maybe a little bit. </p>
<p style="clear: both">But the reality is that when you have two people giving this kind of conflicting story, you know there&#8217;s more than meets they eye.</p>
<p style="clear: both">If you&#8217;re in this situation, you have to realize that a woman often may be dating a guy because he&#8217;s a BTN.</p>
<p style="clear: both"><strong><em>Better Than Nothing.<br /></em></strong></p>
<p style="clear: both">It&#8217;s not evil or manipulative. After all, guys do it, too.</p>
<p style="clear: both">What it means is that she&#8217;s a serial dater. She doesn&#8217;t leave the guy she&#8217;s with until she&#8217;s got her next prey lined up.</p>
<p style="clear: both">You should call this girl and take her out. I really don&#8217;t think the other guy realizes he&#8217;s being a tool. And since you&#8217;re using superior battlefield strategy, you&#8217;re going to get the girl.</p>
<p style="clear: both">Again, I usually don&#8217;t condone &#8220;boyfriend destroying&#8221; or any of that <strong>NONSENSE</strong> that a lot of so-called gurus teach out there. </p>
<p style="clear: both">But this guy <em>isn&#8217;t even a boyfriend</em>, and the saddest part is that he <em>isn&#8217;t even aware of it</em>. You can&#8217;t be responsible for someone else&#8217;s delusions, right?</p>
<p style="clear: both">And if you&#8217;re reading this right now and you want to learn these killer techniques (for good and not for evil, of course), you need to go <a href="http://www.datingdynamics.com/get-a-girlfriend/dating-tips-for-men.php" target="_blank" onclick="javascript:pageTracker._trackPageview ('/outbound/www.datingdynamics.com');">learn how to get a girlfriend &#8211; fast&#8230;</a></p>
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