Last year I had a hysterectomy due to fibroid tumors and for those who have fibroid tumors, we know about hormones being out of whack. So to all my “hyster-sisters” , peri-menopausal, and menopausal sisters listen up.

The hormonal imbalance for me led to waking up many nights drenched in sweat. I had to purchase a water resistant mattress cover and I also went out looking for a nightgown that was moisture wicking. I looked every where but couldn’t’ find one.

I was tired of waking up changing covers, grabbing a towel, or even sleeping on the other side of the bed. I was engaged at the time and I didn’t want to imagine my now husband seeing me in this embarrassing situation. So I decided to design this gown myself. It has been a lifesaver to me and now I’m sharing it with you! I haven’t had to change any sheets or nightgowns since I’ve had. Yes I have still had night sweats but they were no where near as intense or drama filled.

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A week ago I was fired from my new job. I was as happy as I was shocked. I was there exactly one month and I can truly say I was working for some of the most venomous people I have ever encountered. To be a company that has been around for many years they didn’t have any structure in place. They told me that when I was hired and ensured me I would have an opportunity to come in and make the changes that were necessary. They didn’t tell me they wanted me to be a micro-manager and a “Boss-zilla”. That is not my style. On top of that they were very disrespectful in communicating with us, and that isn’t something I can tolerate. So after careful consideration and a few heated discussions during my probationary period they decided to let me go.

Flashback to the day I went Skydiving. I remember not being nervous as I boarded the plane and how I felt a complete trust in God.  I thought to myself, “If I fall flat to the ground I win, and I if I float down I win”. This is exactly how I felt after I was told I was being let go from the job. I had total peace. What in the world, right? Shouldn’t I be nervous? What’s wrong with me? I have bills and a son in college. However, I trust God with my life. If I fall flat, He’s with me, if I grow wings and fly, He gets glory for that too! When He closes or opens a door no man can shut it. He must have closed the door on that job aka foolishness. I thank Him for it.

I couldn’t even get mad. I kept thinking, they don’t have the ability to make or break me. They don’t control the rise and fall of Rosie Williams. I belong to God. I’m under His authority. This is how I got fired…up! Fired up to keep moving and give everything that I have given other companies to the gifts God has placed in me. Can I say #lit? Ha!

That morning before I went in to work, some unexpected money was deposited in my account and I’d lost two pounds without trying. I said God if you have me on these little things, I know you have me on the big things. So when they fired me, I couldn’t change my tune. He has me on everything. According to His word, He is always causing me to triumph. He has shown me that over and over in the the last 40 something years. He’s faithful to deliver on His promises.

A couple of days later I remembered a conversation I’d had with some colleagues a little while back where we asked each other what we would do if money didn’t matter. I chimed in saying, I would do more missions work, coaching, and speaking engagements full time. I want to help people. So in lieu of the present situation I am afforded the opportunity to do just that. Purpose brings fulfillment where complacency brings despondency.

I started calling friends and family asking them what they thought. I will admit I was embarrassed to tell some of them I wanted to own my own business. Sharing your dreams is a major unveiling of our souls. It’s out there for all to see and although some people think I’m as awesome as peach pie, they still think I need to be working on getting a job. To be transparent, I still keep working on both. I’m applying for jobs and working on my business plan. Not because I’m scared, but because that is all I’ve ever done is worked for other people.

Although I feel naked, I also feel empowered. The more I envision myself coaching, going into nursing homes, prisons, and other countries, the more fired up I get. The more people say, “Rosie you have purpose”, the more I see it.

One of my friends told me today to surround myself with people who are doing what I want to do. I really believe that is necessary when you are stepping out on faith. I’m going to do just that and you will be hearing from me with updates and results. I pray my story can encourage others who find themselves in a place of “what’s next?” A place where you are wondering if you heard from God, if He’s teaching you a lesson, is it a test, and etc. Just trust Him with the outcome and remember how He has always had you.

Please lift me up in prayer, support me financially, and physically (go with me) so I can do the work that I feel I’m called to. I’m thankful to everyone who has already said to me, “Anything you need I’m here for you.” I solicit your feedback, success stories, and even stories of failure.  I want to get it right.

Getting fired isn’t the end, it’s the beginning of me getting going. Let’s go together!

Please purchase my new book my personal story of forgiveness, “Letting Go”.

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My plan is to first: Start locally with going into nursing homes with some of the extras that they aren’t normally given like socks, lip balm, and lotions. I’m contacting Activity Coordinators at some of the poorer nursing homes to set up dates.

Secondly, I’m planning to visit Tanzania by the end of the year to assist Pastor Mramba with his Women’s Ministry,  helping local children attend school, and have the opportunity to play with toys! The last time I was there some of them never had a toy of their own. I want to give them that this year.

With these projects in mind my goal is $10,000. Will you help me financially by donating through:

Cash App: $RosieWms

Paypal: roxy.wms@gmail.com

Thank you for your support!

As the end of the year approaches we have some unfinished goals that we can still act on. We still have time to start. That’s my take on it for sure.

Now on to my latest, greatest inspiration. Recently I watched a video of Bishop Makes promoting his new book. He spoke of the gravitational pull that happens when you are taking a leap. There is a pull downward and backward to the familiar.

Try an exercise for me. From where you are now just jump up. Now return to your original position and rock your self three times into the jump, now jump up. For the sake of asking, which jump was easier? The one where momentum was built right? This is something we mastered as children but lost in the infinite knowledge that comes with adulthood. I remember running and jumping a lot when I was a child.

I’m also reminded of when I went skydiving. We did a 1,2,3 rock and off the plane we jumped. Looking back the momentum is what helped me jump out of the plane. If I would have stood at the door and calculated my decision more carefully I would have never jumped. I believe we have not acted on some of our dreams because we have calculated opportunities and threats plus add in fear of failure. We have stood at the door of our proverbial crop duster and flown over many opportunities, ground breaking ideas, and witty inventions counting the risks of the fall. We have somehow been convinced that we can’t loop back around and jump in after them. The infrequent blogger, aka me says to you and to myself, “Yes, you can!”

You may be asking how to build your momentum and to that I say,

“Charge toward it like the 8 year old you!”

Treat it like it has to happen.

Figure out how it must be done. Research it and get help from those who have done it.

Block naysayers, and remove distractions.

Enjoy the sheer thrill of operating at peak performance.

Count yourself down..1,2,3 now go!

I believe in you!

For those of you have been waiting on my wedding update, I will marry some day..not now. After 8 weeks of counseling, really by the sixth week I knew what I had to do. I called off my engagement. For those who hoped for a wedding, keep hope alive and know marriage isn’t something you jump into.

In love and service,

Rosie Williams

To those who know me I’ve been single a long time! I identify with Singles. Single moms, single ladies, and so on. Now that I’m engaged I’m having to embrace the fact that I won’t be doing things as a single woman any more.

The cool thing about being single is when you accomplish something like finishing college, buying a home, a new car, or raising a child on your own that is inspiring, motivational, and downright noteworthy! Being married I will have to share my glory.  When I accomplish something now it will be, “That’s great for the two of you.” “Behind every good woman is great man”, Etc. Right? I know this sounds petty, but follow me here.

I lived in the foggy city of Marital-tropolis for 6 years. Most of the time I lived there I was miserable. I longed for Singles Island. The Island where every drink had an umbrella in it and a guy with an oiled up muscular body serving the drinks! Palm trees and yacht parties every day of the week.  No matter how much you ate, you didn’t gain a pound. (sssshh it’s a mystical place)

Marital-tropolis, a place where parties and sex are reserved for holidays. The only bodies with oil were those of newborn babies. Smog and foggy days are what this place is known for. Most of the focus is on the wedding, engagements, bachelor and bridal parties, but not much celebration of the day to day work that goes into a successful marriage. For me, once I made my escape I vowed to never go back. But here I am.  Headed back there. How do I pack the sunshine and keep the sounds of the ocean with me when I go back?

I find myself terrified some days when I think of it. How can I not take advantage of being loved by such an awesome man though? Many women and praying and wishing for a mate and I have one. I said yes, and I plan to say I do. In the meantime, I have to change the way I view marriage. Marriage can be sunny with the right mate. Life can be a party with someone to share it with. Let’s not forget purpose. I believe in pursuing purpose, how fulfilling is life when you have someone with a similar purpose to walk it out with? I have admitted I have commitment phobias, trust issues, and even fears of not being compatible. However, I also fear losing the love I have been given. Missing out on the greatest opportunity and adventure of my life is not my idea of a life well lived.

When I think of Marital-tropolis now, I envision a place where you know someone has your back. There’s always at least one person in your corner. You are missed when you don’t make it home on time, or have to travel for work.  When your day has been rough at work, you have a listening ear. When you lose someone you love, you have someone to cherish the memories with. You have a constant prayer partner. When the world is falling down around you, you have someone to steady you, grab your hand and heart and hold it tight. When you want to go do something fun, you have a companion to do it with. Life isn’t a lonely one lane road where you are always having to find a party to be around someone with like interests. Your mate and you can make an instant party, bring your own umbrellas for the drinks!

Yes I’ve been single, sooo long. But now it’s time to say.. So Long, Single! Adios

*I’m thankful for my friends who understand it’s a big transition from being single for 15 years to being married.  I will keep you updated as I journey forward to the altar. I welcome advice from those who have already made the transition.*

I was in a brainstorming meeting a church, preparing for a Worship Conference in Tulsa. While we were in the meeting a guy walks in asking us to pray for something big that was happening in his life. He was behind me so I couldn’t see him, but there was something about his voice that resonated with my heart. I looked at him and thought I need to find out more about this guy. I’ve never wanted to know anyone based on their voice. Once I realized he attended the same church as I, I’d find ways to chat it up with him and get a laugh out of him here and there. He had his own life stuff to deal with at the time so he wasn’t really being receptive to my subtle flirting.  I can’t remember now how I got his number, probably through Facebook, but we started talking on the phone. We had a date set to meet up for coffee and he Canceled it! What’s wrong with this dude? How dare he cancel on me can’t he see we were meant to be together? I was so mad at him for having the audacity to cancel on me. I blocked him on Facebook and wouldn’t talk to him for a while. I know, I’m bossy, but it didn’t get me anywhere.

Maybe a year later we started talking again and he asked me if I would add him back on FB and I did. We ended up going to a movie and at the end of the movie, he gave me a hug, something about being in his arms brought tears to my eyes. There was a sense of being home there. But still he didn’t see it. He asked me, “Why me? What do you want with me?” During this time, I’d moved to Texas. Although I thought he was the one, he wasn’t convinced so I went on with life, going to school, on missions trips, and pursuing purpose. Over the years, we would talk, he would come to Dallas or I’d visit Tulsa and we’d have dinner and catch up. I would call him with my ideas, he would have read a book about the subject or had some knowledge of practically anything I could come up with. He encouraged me and pushed me naturally. When I was sick he’d pray for me. He was my go to for everything.

One day he caught himself sharing with me and realized I was his friend too. For over 4 years of going back and forth, wondering what if, maybe not, dating other people and thinking maybe there are no soul mates..finally he called me last year and said he couldn’t live without me. I thought, well you have a funny way of showing it. I was offended that he couldn’t see this all the times when I was telling him, but now I’m supposed to just drop everything and ride off with him in to the sunset. Nope, I don’t think you are the one for me, I was wrong…What was I saying? This was the moment I’d been waiting for. I’d clearly lost my mind and my way. He was devastated by my response and said he was turning me over to God. I have to admit that scared me. Yikes! If God says it that’s final.

Even though I told him he wasn’t the one, I would still call him on my ride from work and tell him about my day, and get his advice on things. Until one day, he said no I’m not going to be your buddy. If we aren’t going to be more then we won’t be anything. Now I was devastated. How was I supposed to get through my day to day? It was a very hard few weeks before I came to my senses and ran back into the arms of my soul mate. There’s something about those arms, I feel like if I was asleep for 7 years his kiss could wake me. I feel like I would know his touch from any other if I were blind folded. Now he doesn’t ascribe to all this soul mate stuff, but I sure do. My life is better with him in it. I’m thankful to have a friend and confidante in him. He’s pushes me to be the best version of Rosie, and that’s what Soul Mates do!

What do you think about soul mates? Is there just one, or can you have more than one? Are they for different seasons in your life?  Tell me your thoughts. Who brings out the best in you? Who do you push to greatness? Who can’t you live without?

#soulmatesaturday

I reflected on past relationships that were sour and my current relationship that makes me feel empowered.  Years ago, I was in a relationship that had me feeling so unattractive and useless I didn’t even want to leave my home. It was a relationship based on my need… need to have a man, need to be taken care of because I couldn’t take care of myself, and my need to have the approval of others who thought I should be married and settle down although I had not met the right one.

Being in a need based relationship led to emotional abuse, which led to self-doubt, and self-esteem issues. I came from a big family who loved and spoiled me and found myself with a man who was jealous of me and thought tearing me down would make me always stay with him.

After 6 grueling years and literally forgetting who I once was, I finally left. Only after someone said to me, “If you had your education you would have been gone!”  I realized I needed to empower myself. My first stop was college after leaving that toxic relationship 15 years ago.  It has been a long journey of finding me again but the key to finding the love I have now, was falling in love with me.

Ask yourself the following questions to get started.

1.  Are you dateable?

Are you over your ex? Divorced? Separated? All ties severed?

Do you have what you look for in your mate? What are you looking for? Do you possess these qualities?

2.  Do you feel worthy of love? Are you in love with you?

When is the last time you loved on you?

Do you compliment you? Have you sweet talked yourself lately?

3.  Are you happy?

What cheers you up/makes you happy?

Are you doing that for yourself or waiting for someone to do it for you?

4.  Romance yourself -What do you imagine when you think of romance?

What’s your favorite flower? Buy yourself some. Your favorite color? Wear it.

Give yourself a bubble bath, light some candles! Make yourself breakfast in bed!

Save some money up for you to spend on whatever you like! Take yourself on a trip or hot date!

5. What do you bring to the table?

What are you doing when they say, “Do you Boo Boo!”?

Are you fun to be around, helpful, insightful, and tenacious? What do you have that someone wouldn’t want to live without?

6. Are you approachable?

Are you smiling or mean mugging when you walk or drive by?

Are you intimidating?

7. Challenge yourself to trust your creator!

He said, “Be still and know that I am God.” Is it in your hands or His?

He said he would give us the desires of our hearts.

He also said, “A man who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing.”

8.  Are you where you can be found?

Are you involved in church or community?

Are you on the couch watching Scandal and Real Housewives?

9. Are you knowledgeable to where your mate can take you anywhere? Boardroom, bedroom, or the White House?

What’s the last thing you’ve read?

Are you up on current events, spirituality, dance moves, sport scores, and etc?

10. Will you catch his/her eye? Is your body banging?

For most of us the first attraction is physical.

How are you looking? Do you have on a scarf and flip flops, or spanks and high heels? Are you maintaining a healthy lifestyle? Work out, eat right, care about you first.

Do you have on confidence? Confidence is SEXY!

To sum things up, the best way to find a date, is to find you.  So when he does finds you, you will be so happy he won’t have to make you happy, he can just share in your happiness.  You will be so in love and in tune with yourself who could help themselves? Now that you know what makes you smile, you will be able to show him/her. You will be so about your business, he/she will want to get in your business.  Be someone he/she can’t live without. Happy Growing and Loving!

In Love and Service,

Rosie

Last year I was having chest pains and problems breathing. I was admitted to the hospital . When I first arrived the x-ray showed a nodule on my lung. So they ran a few tests and decided to keep me over night. Everyone kept saying, “you need to rest, your body is trying to tell you something.” My family was praying and keeping hope alive on FB throughout my 24 hour stay. My great-niece and nephew came and prayed for me. I remember my 5-year old great-nephew, Kyrin, praying that I would be whole. What a sweetheart!
Who looks this great in the hospital?

The next morning I had to take a stress test. I hadn’t had a chance to brush my teeth or anything. I remember the hospital aides rolling me around through the hospital on a bed. I was thinking, I’m fine, I can walk, there’s nothing wrong with my legs.   

I had to run on a treadmill until I literally passed out. I remember sweating and being so weak . They all said I did great and the guy who gave me the test had the nerve to ask me out. I told him I never wanted to see him again!

All tests came back negative I was free to go home. The only thing that hurt at this point was the doctor bill. OUCH!

Fast forward about a month ago, I’m sitting in church and I hear “Single is not a condition.” Immediately I think of all the people who have touched my hand in pity and offered to pray for my future spouse. I recall some of the guys who were single but asked what was wrong with me for being single . I remember not wanting to go to certain functions at my son’s school because the couples would look like they had it so together until I felt incomplete.  

In looking at how I perceived others were treating me , I had to be honest about how I was treating myself. Many times I’ve wondered why I can’t seem to figure out the relationship thing. I’ve second guessed my looks, ability to give and receive love. I’ve questioned myself saying, “Maybe I’ve been single too long, and now I’m set in my ways? I’ve wondered if I’m too aggressive or intimidating.  What’s wrong with me?

Nothing is wrong, yes it may hurt in the chest sometimes, and your body may be trying to tell you something. It will often ache for companionship. But when it comes to being flawed, the tests come back negative. It’s ok to have someone pray for you that you will be whole and find true love.  But you don’t need meds, or pity, nor a stress test. Your family can keep hope alive by being supportive. But for you, just enjoy the air you are breathing, you still have your legs, keep walking out this gift that is life. If/when the right one comes along, he/she will accept you in “the condition” that you are in.

Happy Living Single Friends!

Today, I hopped out of bed, showered,  went to work where I spent time really working.  I prepared my food and clothes last night for the full week.  I was happy that I didn’t spend any money or eat anything that isn’t on the Daniel’s fast food list.  I came home,  changed,  and immediately went to an abs class at the gym (which was brutal). I returned home,  showered, read from two books I’m reading, and realized my mind was racing, thinking of all I should be doing. All of a sudden, I thought to myself,  “Stop, do nothing for a moment.  Give yourself a break.”

I asked myself how I was feeling.  I noticed my feet were cold, so I took time to put on socks. I found my diary from 5th grade in my drawer, read some of it and literally laughed out loud. It felt so good to go back to 1986 where I didn’t have resolutions, life goals, and other grown up stuff.

I still want to read several books, get fit, save money, and etc in 2016. I also want to remember to have moments where I do nothing but check on my wellbeing.

Do you have a moment to do nothing?  If not, create one. You have worked hard, you deserve it!

Do nothing my friends!

Whenever I think about my relationship with my son, I think about my relationship with God. When He created me the possibilities were limitless. And they still are! When I think back on this year, I can’t help but smile. It’s been a great year. When I look at my vision board, I’ve accomplished at least 89% of the goals I set out to accomplish. I couldn’t have done that if my creator didn’t allow it. If He hadn’t given me the strength, fortitude, creativity, and confidence, it would not have happened.

This year stretched me in a lot of areas too. I dealt with anxiety while promoting my book on peace. I felt so disqualified at times. However, God reminded me that I was prequalified, so there’s no way to be discredited. I was reminded that my trials only make me more relatable to the people who need my message.

I was born to win. That’s His promise to me. He made me more than a conqueror, a victor, a winner. Guess what! You were born to win too!

Every year we think of ways to change for the better. How can this year be different? Do you go into it thinking of how you haven’t been able to keep your resolutions before? Or do you go into it like you win at everything you do? When you face life knowing you win, you can’t lose. As you go into 2016, whatever you resolve to do, you have the ability to win. Keep in mind, “When He created you, the possibilities were limitless”. They still are. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! I believe in your ability and as always, I’m here to help!

Contact me for help with vision boards and coaching. Let’s make this your most victorious year yet!

Happy New Year Friends!

Change Agent Rose
Roxy.wms@gmail.com

As the end of the year approaches, I look back on the year 2015 and I have to say, this was a good year. There’s more that I’m proud of than not. I have some things I wish I’d done differently, but I’m not going to let them outshine the great moments.

If you are hard on yourself like I tend to be, it’s easy to let the bad outweigh the good. So I’m here to help!

I sat down and made a list of the things that I planned to accomplish this year and actually did. I compared it to the things I wish I’d done differently, and to my surprise..I rock! It’s okay to be reflective, but don’t be too hard on yourself. I pray you are in a much better place than you were at this time last year. I know I am.

Reflect on the people you have helped, the projects you’ve finished, the changes you have made for the better this year. Did you save more? Did you give more?

If you are unhappy with your decisions, thank God you have another chance to get it right. Make plans to reach your mark next year.

Release

Release yourself from any guilt, bondage, negative energy, and thoughts of despair. God is in control. You are right where He wants you. Everything you hated, that made you angry, made you tired, and made you give up, these things brought you to where you are today. If it hadn’t made you angry or tired you would still be doing it. Sometimes He gives us the push we need to let go of things that aren’t good for us.

The other night, I was set free from a job I was going to apply for. Everyone was telling me to apply for the job, they thought I would do great at it, and so I was going to go for it. But guess what, that’s not in any of my goals for myself! I don’t want that job. When I thought it through, and released myself from it, I felt so free.

I’m sharing that to say this, “Release yourself!” I don’t care if the POTUS thinks you should be doing it. What do you feel? Does it line up with your goals and God’s plan for you? If not, release it. Release what others may perceive as you failing. Release words that were spoken over you that have you second guessing yourself. Release, release, release….How does that feel? Great, I know!

Reset

Write down your plans for next year. What do you want to accomplish, give to your family, your community, and YOURSELF? You have a clean slate to work with. You get to decide what you take into 2016. Cut off things that aren’t growing. I read somewhere if you aren’t growing, you are dying. There’s no in between.

GO!

Focus on your goals, and go! Go into this year with true focus and zeal to make this your best year yet.

I’m here to help. If you have never had a life coach, it’s one of the best things you can do for yourself. Because I have more than one in my life, I’m on track to reach my goals.

For private, semi-private, and small group coaching please email me at roxy.wms@gmail.com. I would love to help.

Please leave your thoughts and comments below.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Rosie Williams, MA, CPC